Happy birthday rip

First of all congrats to all 2024 graduates.
This is a long one so yea. My dad has always been a pretty much absent father. Especially financially, with my mom buying us everything we’ve needed , we being my sister and I. I have vivid memories of my dad calling and saying he’s come pick us up for us to spend time with him, only for him to arrive at 10 PM to give us a $10 bill and kiss good bye. we saw him occasionally. We’ve maybe been with a total of 10-20 times throughout the entirety our lives. But as we got older we realized that we weren’t a priority of his.
Right around when COVID hit though my dad began to come around a lot more. But not in the way u may be thinking. See my dad got into hard drugs, with his then gf. Lost my baby brother to CPS, and was basically homeless. So he invited himself to our home, sleeping in my moms car at night and sometimes my mom being the god send that she is was nice enough to let him come in and eat when it got colder out. This was the worst time of my life concerning my father . I saw him in a completely different light and thought very little of him. It just completely stunned me that the only way my dad would come to see his kids is if he had nowhere else to go. He , as most drug addicts was in and out of jail, until one time when he had to stay for a few months longer , and then spent a few months in a halfway house. All throughout this and before my mom never really spoke ill of my father , unless she was arguing with him about some bull shit he was doing while being a druggy and hanging around our house, like doing drugs in our basement. But she always encouraged or even forced us to communicate with him, and try to forgive/ build a relationship with him. Aswell as countless times of my mom helping this man. Giving him money, rides, clothes, and wtv else he asked for.
Well after my dad went to jail that last time and was in the halfway house, he came out a new man. He kicked his drug habit, got his CDL license and was doing great. My sister and I were very proud of him and wanted to give him another chance. We spent 4th of July with him, and hung out with him a couple more times just driving around in his car. And just in general we’re a little closer and more communicative.
Fast forward to the 2 main incidents that led to him not being invited to my graduation . So as I was heading over to a friends house one day my car cut out. My mom was at work with a client (she’s a hairdresser) so I naively thought I could call my dad. He showed up took a look under my hood and realized that id need to get it towed. So I took the initiative to start calling tow companies and try to find the cheapest one. I luckily manage to find a guy that would do it for only $65 . Which if you’re an adult you know how much of an insanely good deal that is. Whilst I’m calling tow companies my dad has spent this time complaining about my moms choice in cars , and basically blaming her for my car cutting out. And also trying to call his sister so he could borrow a tool she had to just hitch my car to her truck and tow it himself. He can’t get ahold of her so I bring up the $65 tow guy. This man starts complaining saying he can do it for free and just wait for his sister to pick it up. Anothe 30 minutes go by and nothing. So i call my mom, and ask her can she cashapp me. Of course she says yes. So I call the tow man myself to get my car towed. The entire time this man is complaining about paying $65 fucking dollars, complaining about my mom buying the car , and complaining saying I hope she doesn’t expect me to pay for this. Mind you he has a CDL license, so he’s making good money and can more then afford to pay it . He paid $30,000 for his car cash and was able to save this money up for it in only a few months, so u do that math for how much he makes. At first I was ignoring him letting him talk shit. But he just kept going on and on and on, and I finally snapped and told him to stop talking about my mom and began defending her. We got into a heated argument that ended with him saying don’t ask him for anything, and me assuring him that I won’t. I had started crying because of how frustrated I was at the situation . I was asking something so little of him and this is how he acted? And he made fun of that saying “I’m not going to cry about it either” this was the last straw and I vowed to never reach out to him again.
I kept that vow despite my moms continuous efforts to get me to talk to him/ unblock him/ forgive him , but I was done. My 18th birthday roles around a few months later. And I decided to be nice and invite him, my thought process was I’m going to college soon , and won’t see him for probably the 4 yrs that id be gone away to school. So why not just try. I didn’t ask this man for anything and just told him where the place of my party was. The time comes and my mom and I are a little late to my party about 10-15 minutes late to getting to the place. He begins texting me asking where we are , and I say we’re a few minutes late, but otw and just resend the address . He starts making excuses saying oh he has work he has to go and wtv else. I say ok that’s fine . He says oh I have a gift I wanted to give you. I say oh you could bring it later when ur off or we could meet somewhere for me to get it tmrw. The next day roles around and I ask him if he worked today and when I could meet him to get the gift. Then he starts talking bs saying, oh I already gave it to ur mom, with the child support card. I’m thinkin oh maybe he can put more money on it and did that for me , for my bday. But no he was referring to the money he is mandated to pay by the state , which he just began paying for the last year or he so he’d been driving trucks. So once I realized this I decided to tell him how bad of a father he was, and yes I did disrespect him and curse him out and I didn’t care. This was really the final straw and I wanted to give him a piece of my mind. And that I did. This is where he really fucked up though. He texted my mom saying to give me the childsupprt card for my bday. My mom uses the $400/ month he pays for our utilities and has them on autopay. And idrc what anyone thinks about that I think it’s a very appropriate use of it. Especially since she pays for wtv else we need and want with no complaints . So she tells him it’s sad that has nothing to give his daughter on her 18th birthday and not to text her phone with the bs telling her what to do with the money. Ig this upsets him because he brings up something’s of my moms past , during a time that was really hard for her. And that was it for my mom. She cut him off too, and though she has not hate for him, she says she’s done allowing people in her life that do nothing but take advantage of and disrespect her. I was relieved to finally have my mother stop pressuring me to spend time with my father, and happy to be done with the stress and pain that he usually causes when he’s around.
Fast forward to now , my Graduation was last week. I only had 8 tickets . And I had already decided to give tickets to my grandma , her 5 kids (my mom , aunts , and uncles) my sister and my favorite cousin. A few days before the graduation whilst at school, a teacher pulls me aside and asks me did Ik my dad tried to come up to my school to get a graduation ticket . I laughed this off. The day of my graduation comes and I find out he was at the place of the graduation trying to find me. I was relieved that we didn’t bump into one another because I truthfully don’t want to see him. But later I felt a little bad when thinking about how he tried to come to the school then still came to the graduation despite not being let in obviously for the lack of a ticket. I don’t know why but my mom is in the same boat feeling guilty that he wasn’t let in on such a big moment. And has began some of her old antics of saying oh can he come to ur graduation party (not the ceremony but a family celebration) my guilt however doesn’t extend this far, and I just can’t give this man yet another opportunity to disappoint me. So what do you think Reddit , am I the asshole?

I'm a 24(f) and I've been in a relationship with my bf 23(m) for 3 years now.He is not usually active on social media and is very reserved . Last month ,he publicly wished and posted a girl on his page for her birthday, in all our 3 years of being together I've never seen him posting anyone, not even himself. So naturally I asked who the girl was and he said the girl was his cousin and I had no problem with it ,it just really seemed obscure. I told him that it just seems really odd and he got so upset and said how crazy and jealous I am to react that way about a post of his relative and he broke up with me .Naturally I was devastated and I genuinely apologised to him because I felt like I maybe was being an asshole by seemingly making that a problem ...it was weird how he was excessively affectionate after I apologised and we just continued on . So then a few days ago, I randomly come across my boyfriend's "cousin" account on X and first thing I saw on her profile was that her birthday is on November.
I'm so confused cause did he just make up all that to get a reaction from me so that he could break up with me then make me feel guilty ? We weren't having serious problems before he did that and we were just happy and okay ,so I really don't understand why ..just randomly...out of nowhere. I haven't talked to him about it yet .
Since I found her account, I've been constantly stalking her and how my bf engages with her content(likes and replies ). I don't want to do it at all as I often feel bad and sad whenever I do and its also toxic .She is extremely attractive and I feel jealous of her because I feel like my boyfriend might like her and also that her account is fast growing (I don't want to be known or famous I'm pretty introverted, I'm just jealous cause she's achieving that)
I don't want to be envious or jealous of this individual because even though I may not know her ,she seems like a good person ,and also it's making me feel miserable .How do I get over this ?

Im not really educated on the terms, but for some reason theres a show i just really really like to an extreme measure and at this point i think a term from this subreddit might explain it. I know its not because of nostalgia causing this because i only started watching it in 6th grade (im in 8th grade) and its just like, it makes me heart genuinely rush when i watch it or it makes my chest start pounding. It makes me smile so wide and i genuinely need to take breaks to let myself calm down and stand up. I think about it so much and whenever i do i feel so euphoric and my heart beats faster. I never felt this before but i have this unexplainable urge to just always watch it every show i watch now is kind of ruined because i associate this show as my personal peak if that makes sense idk. I need to know every fact about this show, i need to have some type of figure in my room to remind me of it. I really care about my reputation in school and its so hard to not talk about it. Everytime i see the colors red and blue i start geeking because it reminds me of the show. Same with states. I associate american states with my interest. My long distance friends started ignoring me for a period of time because i couldnt stop gushing about it. I rant about it for literal hours and i cant stop. Something about it like draws me in so much i dont know why. It makes me just so happy to the point its affecting me mentally. Im already scatterbrained and this dumb extreme interest of mine is making it so much worst. I spend hours after school watching it and i already said this before its genuine euphoria i get from watching it. I dont know why i like this show so much its so embarrassing. I just dont know what the label is.
Idk if its important but its red vs blue. (Rip roosterteeth)

The day I dreaded is here , my ex’s birthday. After spending the last 3 birthdays with her, today will be the first birthday not spent with her. I’m sticking to my no contact and not saying “happy birthday” or anything. I will remain in my no contact stay strong, and stay as a ghost. It bothers me knowing that me not even saying happy birthday won’t make a difference bc Ik she’s just gonna be focused on her rebound and getting drunk with her friends. I doubt she’ll even care. But I’ll stay strong and keep it pushing,it’s just any other day. I just wish my presence will be felt and after today the tables will start to turn but she has too many distractions around her to even realize. No contact continues….

My oldest daughter got married a week ago. I knew before traveling that I was going to be seeing my mother there. My daughter knows that I do not have any meaningful contact with my mother, and why, but we both acknowledge that for all the ways she screwed up with me, she was a decent grandmother to my oldest daughter. (not so much the youngest, and I wish I'd caught on sooner) So I made my peace with just accepting that my mother is who she is, and getting through the day. My daughter's wedding was a happy day, not a day for me to have feelings about my mother.
So I stuffed it all down for one day for my daughter. I've been working on untangling that overstuffed box in therapy, but for one afternoon I duct taped that box full of feelings more securely than a sibling birthday present. My mother has always been very 'on point' publicly. It is very important to her that she appear to be the perfect mother and grandmother. And honestly? It was really nice for just one afternoon to indulge in what it would be like if she loved me. I gave myself permission to just fully engage in the day, leaving my baggage at home. And it was lovely.
I was honestly very surprised by some of her behavior. She has a long history of monopolizing babies. But she did not step on my toes at all with my granddaughter. It was very off brand for her. It makes me wonder if she's actually meaningfully changing, and I hate that I wonder that because I do not want to have hope. Hope hurts.
I know it wasn't real. I know she's not like that behind closed doors or in private. But probably for the last time in my life, I got to have a mommy for an afternoon. Sure, I'm now dealing with the emotional fallout of that. But I have no regrets. Just sadness that the only thing standing in the way of that every day is her narcissism. I'm sure glad I have a therapy appointment scheduled this week.

Happy 32nd birthday Marshmello! Hope you have an awesome day!!!

Hey all, I was wondering if there were any spaces like parks or some other open-air area with a gazebo or shelter, for a birthday party but with alcohol? I’m thinking like a Happy Hollow type situation but they don’t permit alcohol on the grounds. Not a rager or anything, but a family member is turning 30 and none of us live in places with yards or balconies or common areas that allow for a bbq and booze, so I was wondering if there was anything like that around town? TIA.

Warden is 21 years old today. Now he can legally buy a drink! 😉
Edit: He just posted a picture of him and his boys with an ASAP Rocky song over it, followed by a picture of him and Ellie hunting in the woods. Gotta love him 🤣