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What are we cooking tonight?
2014.12.02 22:02 brtw What are we cooking tonight?
Never know what to make for dinner? Neither do we. Let's all make the same thing for dinner and see how it comes out. We're under some renovations right now, but new things are on the way!
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2014.03.12 12:36 CrayonsForBrains Corrupting children's coloring books.
Get some crayons and a coloring book to turn adorable pictures into twisted and or hilarious corruptions of their former selves.
2024.05.19 18:11 Matty_Cooper Can anybody help interpret my dream? I have a doozy.
So last night I had this extremely vivid dream. It started with me being back at my jobs old location, (in real life I still work for the same company but at a different location) and I was in a bathroom with the door open and in the lobby it was full of people coming in and out of the building, in the bathroom I was adjusting my tie or almost like I was getting ready for some kind of fancy event when all of a sudden this girl comes in and asks me if she can use my phone to take pictures of her tattoos because she wanted to show me, I thought that was odd because she could have just showed me, well I have tattoos of my own and it was just in the bathroom but with the door still open and we are showing each other our tattoos, I had pulled my pants down to show her tattoos on my legs (very weird for a stranger interaction) and all of a sudden there were a few girls from my high school there in the bathroom with us and they just kept saying “ew ew” when I was showing my tattoos, but this stranger girl that was there with me was like in awe and loved my tattoos. This stranger girl had brown hair, slightly longer than her shoulders, she had on dark blue pants and I can’t remember her tops because they kept changing throughout the dream but I know she had sleeve tattoos. I know she didn’t have glasses but I can’t describe the features of her face. I do remember her telling me she was from Ovid, NY. But, after that bathroom interaction the dream suddenly changed and I was jumping into a pond back first but when I did I got sucked down into a different futuristic world where everything was very high tech, it was almost like I was in a subway system but it was so silver everywhere with like touch screen panels on the walls all around me and everybody was in some VR head sets and some were sharing experiences and some weren’t. And others were just walking around and talking. There’s a haze of things that were happening around me that I can’t quite remember but then all of a sudden the stranger girl was there and she remembered me almost as if we had met a few days prior or something. She was soooo excitable and happy to see me. I asked her if she was single and she was. We chatted but I can’t remember what about. She was gone again, I found myself in this room that looked like something out of a sci-fi movie. Very silvery and blue and I had a bar code on my wrist, I saw that I could scan it on the wall so I did and I didn’t know what it did. But then as I walked out of the room I walk by very fancy people that were all sitting in 4s facing each other (like you would on a train) and they all had something on their heads like maybe a VR set or something to connect them to this world I was in, but I remember I could still see everyone’s eyes so I want sure if it was VR, but as I walked by there was this black girl in a yellow dress and short curly hair sitting in this group, and she made a comment when I walked by saying something like “oh, well fuck” and I turned and jokingly said “whoa that’s a swear word” and everyone just started laughing, including me. But I left up some stairs and suddenly again I was in a room with two older men, one I recognized and one I didn’t, and when I looked around I realized I was in a rather small viewing room in a hospital. I looked through the window on the wall and saw a women in a hospital bed hooked to tubes and wires. And just then the stranger girl burst into the room and hugged me and said “I can’t believe you paid for my mom’s treatment “ and she was crying. I didn’t know what she meant and she pointed at that barcode on my wrist and she asked me how I could have possibly been able to afford it and I didn’t know the answer. She kept thanking me profusely and then introduced me to those two men and said one was her dad and one was her step dad and they both just shook my hand and gave me a nod. Still crying the stranger girl hugged me and said “you’re gonna make a great boyfriend some day”. Then I walk out of this door almost like the “train” or subway stopped and the doors opened and I walked out into a bright blinding light and then I woke up from my dream. For some reason I remember feeling extreme happiness and comfort anytime the stranger girl was around me. And for context. I’m a 29 year old single white dude and the only major life change recently was having to put down one of my dogs earlier this week. I would really love some insight into this.
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2024.05.19 18:08 Dear_Confusion7773 How do I go about this? Need relationship advice for 26F and 28M
Hello all,
I currently need some advice on how to go about this.
I’ve been dating this guy who I met on Hinge for a little more than a month and a half now. Things were going pretty well until his ex girlfriend was brought up. He had plans from a few months ago to see her for his birthday next week. He canceled the trip since he met me however, I came across her Twitter. She told me that they were still together when he was on Hinge back in March. She also told me that he’s been keeping in contact with him and even knew where he was this past weekend which was at his parents house. She told me he shared his location with her. When I asked him about it he said they ended months ago and told me he began sharing his location with her over a year ago and forgot to turn it off. She also knew about the dates we’ve gone on and said he posted a picture of us on his Instagram story one time. However, he told me he had deleted Instagram and no longer used it. I searched his account up and found it. But it’s on private. When I brought this up to him he told me that what she said wasn’t true and she probably knew where he was cause again, he was still sharing his location with her. If you read through her tweets, all she talks about how he’s still begging for her to stay in his life. He claims everything she’s saying is a lie, she’s psycho, and bitter. He also claims that he doesn’t talk to her anymore and has her blocked on everything but for some reason, I don’t believe him. I refuse to believe she still tweets about him this much for no reason without them still being in contact. He tells me that this is her way of “sabotaging ” his new relationships or whatever. I feel like ever since this has been brought up, he’s been acting different towards me. He claims that he only has eyes for me and blah, blah, blah but this just makes it difficult to believe that. I’m not sure what to do at this point, but if you were in my position what would you do? Believe her and leave him? Or believe him and look past this?
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I currently need some advice on how to go about this.
I’ve been dating this guy who I met on Hinge for a little more than a month and a half now. Things were going pretty well until his ex girlfriend was brought up. He had plans from a few months ago to see her for his birthday next week. He canceled the trip since he met me however, I came across her Twitter. She told me that they were still together when he was on Hinge back in March. She also told me that he’s been keeping in contact with him and even knew where he was this past weekend which was at his parents house. She told me he shared his location with her. When I asked him about it he said they ended months ago and told me he began sharing his location with her over a year ago and forgot to turn it off. She also knew about the dates we’ve gone on and said he posted a picture of us on his Instagram story one time. However, he told me he had deleted Instagram and no longer used it. I searched his account up and found it. But it’s on private. When I brought this up to him he told me that what she said wasn’t true and she probably knew where he was cause again, he was still sharing his location with her. If you read through her tweets, all she talks about how he’s still begging for her to stay in his life. He claims everything she’s saying is a lie, she’s psycho, and bitter. He also claims that he doesn’t talk to her anymore and has her blocked on everything but for some reason, I don’t believe him. I refuse to believe she still tweets about him this much for no reason without them still being in contact. He tells me that this is her way of “sabotaging ” his new relationships or whatever. I feel like ever since this has been brought up, he’s been acting different towards me. He claims that he only has eyes for me and blah, blah, blah but this just makes it difficult to believe that. I’m not sure what to do at this point, but if you were in my position what would you do? Believe her and leave him? Or believe him and look past this?
2024.05.19 18:08 Matty_Cooper Can I get a dream interpretation? I have a doozy.
So last night I had this extremely vivid dream. It started with me being back at my jobs old location, (in real life I still work for the same company but at a different location) and I was in a bathroom with the door open and in the lobby it was full of people coming in and out of the building, in the bathroom I was adjusting my tie or almost like I was getting ready for some kind of fancy event when all of a sudden this girl comes in and asks me if she can use my phone to take pictures of her tattoos because she wanted to show me, I thought that was odd because she could have just showed me, well I have tattoos of my own and it was just in the bathroom but with the door still open and we are showing each other our tattoos, I had pulled my pants down to show her tattoos on my legs (very weird for a stranger interaction) and all of a sudden there were a few girls from my high school there in the bathroom with us and they just kept saying “ew ew” when I was showing my tattoos, but this stranger girl that was there with me was like in awe and loved my tattoos. This stranger girl had brown hair, slightly longer than her shoulders, she had on dark blue pants and I can’t remember her tops because they kept changing throughout the dream but I know she had sleeve tattoos. I know she didn’t have glasses but I can’t describe the features of her face. I do remember her telling me she was from Ovid, NY. But, after that bathroom interaction the dream suddenly changed and I was jumping into a pond back first but when I did I got sucked down into a different futuristic world where everything was very high tech, it was almost like I was in a subway system but it was so silver everywhere with like touch screen panels on the walls all around me and everybody was in some VR head sets and some were sharing experiences and some weren’t. And others were just walking around and talking. There’s a haze of things that were happening around me that I can’t quite remember but then all of a sudden the stranger girl was there and she remembered me almost as if we had met a few days prior or something. She was soooo excitable and happy to see me. I asked her if she was single and she was. We chatted but I can’t remember what about. She was gone again, I found myself in this room that looked like something out of a sci-fi movie. Very silvery and blue and I had a bar code on my wrist, I saw that I could scan it on the wall so I did and I didn’t know what it did. But then as I walked out of the room I walk by very fancy people that were all sitting in 4s facing each other (like you would on a train) and they all had something on their heads like maybe a VR set or something to connect them to this world I was in, but I remember I could still see everyone’s eyes so I want sure if it was VR, but as I walked by there was this black girl in a yellow dress and short curly hair sitting in this group, and she made a comment when I walked by saying something like “oh, well fuck” and I turned and jokingly said “whoa that’s a swear word” and everyone just started laughing, including me. But I left up some stairs and suddenly again I was in a room with two older men, one I recognized and one I didn’t, and when I looked around I realized I was in a rather small viewing room in a hospital. I looked through the window on the wall and saw a women in a hospital bed hooked to tubes and wires. And just then the stranger girl burst into the room and hugged me and said “I can’t believe you paid for my mom’s treatment “ and she was crying. I didn’t know what she meant and she pointed at that barcode on my wrist and she asked me how I could have possibly been able to afford it and I didn’t know the answer. She kept thanking me profusely and then introduced me to those two men and said one was her dad and one was her step dad and they both just shook my hand and gave me a nod. Still crying the stranger girl hugged me and said “you’re gonna make a great boyfriend some day”. Then I walk out of this door almost like the “train” or subway stopped and the doors opened and I walked out into a bright blinding light and then I woke up from my dream. For some reason I remember feeling extreme happiness and comfort anytime the stranger girl was around me. And for context. I’m a 29 year old single white dude and the only major life change recently was having to put down one of my dogs earlier this week. I would really love some insight into this.
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2024.05.19 18:07 Wise-Hall2292 Pride and Prejudice film v.s. series
Movie pros:
Movie pros-cons ratio: 5:5
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- Excellent freaking soundtrack by Dario Marianelli
- Portrays Lizzie Bennet as louder, messier, & more confident which is a more modern and unique take on the character.
- Pretty damn impressive visuals and cinematography (particularly the Lizzie on top of the cliff scene…breathtaking shot)
- Darcy and Bennet have soooo much tension and chemistry. Especially in the ballroom scenes or the proposal. Just way more believable as a relationship. Especially since compared to book Darcy, Macfadyen’s is pretty tame & more likable.
- Relationship with Lizzie and her father is so lovely and portrayed really nicely in this movie.
- Rushes thru the entire story of Wickham & makes him a bland and nothing character by just talking about what he did “wrong” & not showing how he basically tried to groom Georgiana & other girls. (Yeah I guess they showed him & Lydia coming back to visit but…it just felt so cheap & rushed considering they barely show why Darcy hates Wickham so much).
- Doesn’t do the greatest job of showing why Darcy has to change by making him so fumbly and awkward the entire movie. He’s just kind of standoffish…& antisocial? Really doesn’t come off as super pompous or full of himself like he was in the book or Colin Firth tbh. And yeah in the proposal scene he starts insulting Jane’s fam & whatever but it’s all talk. For most of the movie he has not shown that attitude towards them AT ALL. He doesn’t come off as rude or snobby more just shy. They just kinda tell us he broke up Jane & Bingley but fail to show the impact of it as well as the series did.
- Doesn’t fully address many flaws if at all of Lizzie Bennet & makes her a perfect superhuman who is wronged by everyone else. Like the whole point of the book is that she and Darcy are both wrong and misguided just to different degrees. She also acts really unrealistically extroverted and unrestrained for a woman of her time even tho she’s a progressive, feminist character anyways. I love Keira Knightley but her as Lizzie was a bit too modernized imho.
- Makes the Bennet family dynamic kind of watered down bc in the book the whole conflict about their family is that they’re seen as silly and embarrassing (especially Lizzie’s younger sisters). There’s barely any scenes about this & Darcy just kind of mentions it without us seeing more about Lizzie’s conflicted feelings with her fam. Really doesn’t do much justice to the whole social commentary of Austen’s book by barely showing how people perceive Lizzie’s family. Also Jane & Lizzie have little to no chemistry as sisters and have like 2 good scenes together.
- Jane and Bingley’s relationship really isn’t done much justice. There’s maybe two big scenes with them and that’s it. Super boring in the movie when it’s meant to be such a huge plot point.
Series pros: - Really good casting for Lizzie and Jane Bennet, their bond as sisters is really believable and book-accurate. I especially love the scene where Lizzie and Jane are in the garden together and each is equally trying to console the other.
- The whole Bennet family dynamic is given enough attention and flaws to show why Lizzie has such conflicting feelings about them and how it affects other people’s perceptions of her. (Especially in terms of the mother & younger sisters 😂)
- The Bennet Father has way more of a personality besides stoic & lightly supportive as he was in the film. He legit takes responsibility for his lack of caution and care with Lydia after she runs away and admits to Lizzie and the others that he was wrong.
- The Bingley sisters are straight out of mean girls and are way bitchier to Lizzie and her family which WORKS so much better as social commentary and in turn, motivation for Darcy to improve.
- Charlotte Lucas has way more of a personality that makes sense with Lizzie Bennet as her friend. They’re both very calm, cool, and intelligent which is more fitting. It also gives time for her to explain why she married Mr. Collins and that she’s satisfied with not marrying for love. In the movie she’s just kinda nice, disappears for most of the time, & then shows up again like “yea I just need his money you don’t GET it Lizzie!!”
- The whole conflict with Wickham is really expertly carried out as he seems charming at first but is developed into a careless two-timer. I wanted to punch him which meant the actor did a great job.
- Music is great and plays a noticeable role in the story several times.
- Bingley and Jane’s relationship is given a lot of attention and clearly shows rather than TELLS the emotional damage this has on Jane.
- Scenery switches up a lot and is very accurate to each location the characters go to in the book.
- Lizzie and Darcy have zero chemistry and their relationship feels very wooden and minimal. I’m sorry I love those two in King’s Speech but Firth looked wayyy too stiff and unfeeling as Darcy. And I know that’s the point, but I just couldn’t buy those two were in love.
- The episodes are really slow-paced and long which means more story is represented but also fairly hard to sit through even for former readers. A lot of the pacing is pretty dull at first especially.
- Bingley and Darcy had no chemistry as friends and I couldn’t buy they were close at all. Way better bond in the movie.
Movie pros-cons ratio: 5:5
2024.05.19 18:06 Quiet_Historian1841 Francis Sinclair Mystery: Nothing To Solve
Who is Francis Sinclair? (quick recap):
Francis Sinclair was born in 1898/1906 to parents Tom and Mrs. Sinclair. His father died before he was born, so his mother had to take care of him. When he was younger, he lived in Hawks Eye Cabin outside of Strawberry with his mother. He moved to New York City and lived an affluent life before traveling to the Old West period in the 1920s/1930s.
Francis Sinclair is first met in a cabin outside of Strawberry and tells his story about hunting for rock carvings around the world. He says he will pay a good price for all ten of them, but doesn't say why.
After the player sends him letters pointing out the rock carving locations, Francis invites them back to his cabin, but will be mysteriously absent. In the end of the quest-line, a woman appears in the cabin with a ginger-haired baby named Francis. After the protagonist expresses their confusion about the situation, Francis' mother asks the player for their name, but after finding out that the baby is actually Francis, the astounded protagonist tells her that it's not important and leaves.
Francis Sinclair seems mysterious and talks quickly. He speaks in a strange dialect and uses slang the protagonist doesn't understand.
After finishing the Stranger quest "Geology for Beginners," his notes and drawings are revealed to the player. They suggest that he may be a time traveler. His documents show a figure who jumps between the past, present, and future. Francis was interested in rock carvings that depicted skyscrapers, a big city, an atom, and a nuclear explosion.
How Francis Sinclair is (and isn't) connected to Grand Theft Auto:
Francis Sinclair has a strong accent that was popular in American culture in the 1920s and 1930s. The fact that he was an infant in 1899–1907 suggests this. Sinclair's Business Card has a picture of an hourglass with wings on it that represents time and travel. He wears a belt and trousers with belt loops, supporting the idea that he traveled through time. Before the 1900s, people only used belts to carry things instead of keeping their pants on. Also, pants with belt loops didn't exist until 1922.
Francis is similar to another time traveler, Ernest Keigel, a character who stars in the Grand Theft Auto: Vice City Stories radio program called The Time Ranger. - Both of them speak with a Transatlantic accent. - Both have a decent understanding of science. - Both are fast talkers. - Both use 1920s and 1930s slang and are thought to have lived within the time period.
This is where Rockstar Games mostlikefully got the inspiration for Francis Sinclair, a person from the 1930s time traveling through various time periods.
Francis Sinclair resembles Kraff, one of three false deities worshiped by the Epsilon Program in Grand Theft Auto V. However, the character's portrayal and background contradict every aspect of Epsilonism (red birthmark, prohibited red hair, time travel science (general relativity), contradictory years with Epsilonism's creation and their Young Earth beliefs, setting in an unrelated universe, etc.), making the possibility of being a reference unlikely and simply a coincidence. Nevertheless, his unique birthmark is never employed for any religious reason; rather, it is designed to serve as a plot device for a more significant revelation during his last on-screen encounter, allowing the player to easily identify him in his "second form."
The mural doesn't solve a bigger mystery. It shows different time periods, and there's no hidden message to find. Some things are not puzzles. Francis Sinclair is a geologist who is looking for rock carvings that have already been found. The history book he always has with him demonstrates that he only wants to put them together so he can find the answer faster. Geology is the study of pressure and time, but he clearly is obsessed with this puzzle he doesn't have an answer for because it has to be put together first. Francis is not doing this to help a religious group. He is doing it for himself because that's how science works in the Red Dead Redemption Universe.
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Francis Sinclair was born in 1898/1906 to parents Tom and Mrs. Sinclair. His father died before he was born, so his mother had to take care of him. When he was younger, he lived in Hawks Eye Cabin outside of Strawberry with his mother. He moved to New York City and lived an affluent life before traveling to the Old West period in the 1920s/1930s.
Francis Sinclair is first met in a cabin outside of Strawberry and tells his story about hunting for rock carvings around the world. He says he will pay a good price for all ten of them, but doesn't say why.
After the player sends him letters pointing out the rock carving locations, Francis invites them back to his cabin, but will be mysteriously absent. In the end of the quest-line, a woman appears in the cabin with a ginger-haired baby named Francis. After the protagonist expresses their confusion about the situation, Francis' mother asks the player for their name, but after finding out that the baby is actually Francis, the astounded protagonist tells her that it's not important and leaves.
Francis Sinclair seems mysterious and talks quickly. He speaks in a strange dialect and uses slang the protagonist doesn't understand.
After finishing the Stranger quest "Geology for Beginners," his notes and drawings are revealed to the player. They suggest that he may be a time traveler. His documents show a figure who jumps between the past, present, and future. Francis was interested in rock carvings that depicted skyscrapers, a big city, an atom, and a nuclear explosion.
How Francis Sinclair is (and isn't) connected to Grand Theft Auto:
Francis Sinclair has a strong accent that was popular in American culture in the 1920s and 1930s. The fact that he was an infant in 1899–1907 suggests this. Sinclair's Business Card has a picture of an hourglass with wings on it that represents time and travel. He wears a belt and trousers with belt loops, supporting the idea that he traveled through time. Before the 1900s, people only used belts to carry things instead of keeping their pants on. Also, pants with belt loops didn't exist until 1922.
Francis is similar to another time traveler, Ernest Keigel, a character who stars in the Grand Theft Auto: Vice City Stories radio program called The Time Ranger. - Both of them speak with a Transatlantic accent. - Both have a decent understanding of science. - Both are fast talkers. - Both use 1920s and 1930s slang and are thought to have lived within the time period.
This is where Rockstar Games mostlikefully got the inspiration for Francis Sinclair, a person from the 1930s time traveling through various time periods.
Francis Sinclair resembles Kraff, one of three false deities worshiped by the Epsilon Program in Grand Theft Auto V. However, the character's portrayal and background contradict every aspect of Epsilonism (red birthmark, prohibited red hair, time travel science (general relativity), contradictory years with Epsilonism's creation and their Young Earth beliefs, setting in an unrelated universe, etc.), making the possibility of being a reference unlikely and simply a coincidence. Nevertheless, his unique birthmark is never employed for any religious reason; rather, it is designed to serve as a plot device for a more significant revelation during his last on-screen encounter, allowing the player to easily identify him in his "second form."
The mural doesn't solve a bigger mystery. It shows different time periods, and there's no hidden message to find. Some things are not puzzles. Francis Sinclair is a geologist who is looking for rock carvings that have already been found. The history book he always has with him demonstrates that he only wants to put them together so he can find the answer faster. Geology is the study of pressure and time, but he clearly is obsessed with this puzzle he doesn't have an answer for because it has to be put together first. Francis is not doing this to help a religious group. He is doing it for himself because that's how science works in the Red Dead Redemption Universe.
2024.05.19 18:03 kkkan2020 Give yourself a point for....
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2024.05.19 18:01 Mysterious_Truth4790 The King Solomon Rule
I’m personally an atheist, but some scripture stories are actually quite useful. So, I wonder if this will help anyone. It has certainly helped me in the past, usually in situations where one partner has wanted me to break up with another. But it works with friends, too.
The story goes that King Solomon, who was incredibly wise, was once faced with two mothers. Both had recently given birth, but one of the babies had died. They both now claimed that the surviving baby was theirs.
King Solomon’s solution was to decree that the remaining baby should be cut in half. At this, one of the women broke down in tears and said, ‘okay it’s not my baby, let the other mother take it, just don’t harm it.’
At which point, Sol knew that this woman was actually the real mother, because she was the one who loved the baby enough to let it go as long as that was what was best for the baby.
So, Solomon changed his decree to say that, paradoxically, the woman who was willing to give up her child should be the one to keep it.
I think of this story every time I’ve been in a situation where I have to choose between two partners, or where I’ve hoped a partner would prioritise me. And I remember that loving someone is not about getting what we want from them, but about wanting what is best for them.
And so if I’m ever forced to choose between two partners/friends/etc, because one partner wants me to leave the other, I always choose the one who is not making me choose. Because actually, they tend to be the one that is worth choosing.
And if I ever feel insecure and wish that a meta would ever just disappear from the picture, then (with the proviso that they aren’t a shitty or abusive person) I try to remind myself that the best way to love my partner is to not make them choose.
It’s worked pretty well so far, I think.
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The story goes that King Solomon, who was incredibly wise, was once faced with two mothers. Both had recently given birth, but one of the babies had died. They both now claimed that the surviving baby was theirs.
King Solomon’s solution was to decree that the remaining baby should be cut in half. At this, one of the women broke down in tears and said, ‘okay it’s not my baby, let the other mother take it, just don’t harm it.’
At which point, Sol knew that this woman was actually the real mother, because she was the one who loved the baby enough to let it go as long as that was what was best for the baby.
So, Solomon changed his decree to say that, paradoxically, the woman who was willing to give up her child should be the one to keep it.
I think of this story every time I’ve been in a situation where I have to choose between two partners, or where I’ve hoped a partner would prioritise me. And I remember that loving someone is not about getting what we want from them, but about wanting what is best for them.
And so if I’m ever forced to choose between two partners/friends/etc, because one partner wants me to leave the other, I always choose the one who is not making me choose. Because actually, they tend to be the one that is worth choosing.
And if I ever feel insecure and wish that a meta would ever just disappear from the picture, then (with the proviso that they aren’t a shitty or abusive person) I try to remind myself that the best way to love my partner is to not make them choose.
It’s worked pretty well so far, I think.
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2024.05.19 18:00 USCGradtoMEMPHIS My problem with 'My Journey to you'
I made to episode 16.. you can skip 90% of the episode and not miss a damned thing. So much of each episode is going over the same thing.. hardly any progression in the plot.
On top of the snail pace. The ML is a damn idiot and needs help to do everything.. which doesn't make sense.. everything we receive about his characters backstory tell us this dude should cold and calculated, but no, he a soft easy to manipulate dumb ass. It's ridiculous, this guy is such a helpless dumby...
And this drama relies HEAVILY on the power writer convenience, especially with the two FL's.
It's super annoying.. especially now that I realize the brothers aren't evil but just chaotic good.. and kinda really fucking agree Ziyu doesn't deserve his position.
And FL, she wears one expression the whole dang drama, can't tell if she actually falling for ml or still acting, she saved him at the inn so I would say she is... But then again, if he had gotten killed there, her ass would be dead too. See what I mean? Hard to tell, she gives ML fake back ground stories and shit... Like bruh what is real and not real att his point. Can't tell with them..
Imma try and finish this but idk, wish ml was written better
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On top of the snail pace. The ML is a damn idiot and needs help to do everything.. which doesn't make sense.. everything we receive about his characters backstory tell us this dude should cold and calculated, but no, he a soft easy to manipulate dumb ass. It's ridiculous, this guy is such a helpless dumby...
And this drama relies HEAVILY on the power writer convenience, especially with the two FL's.
It's super annoying.. especially now that I realize the brothers aren't evil but just chaotic good.. and kinda really fucking agree Ziyu doesn't deserve his position.
And FL, she wears one expression the whole dang drama, can't tell if she actually falling for ml or still acting, she saved him at the inn so I would say she is... But then again, if he had gotten killed there, her ass would be dead too. See what I mean? Hard to tell, she gives ML fake back ground stories and shit... Like bruh what is real and not real att his point. Can't tell with them..
Imma try and finish this but idk, wish ml was written better
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2024.05.19 17:55 valkyze [29/M] UK/Online - On the search for... something...
I'm Lewis, 29M from the UK and I'm on the search for a meaningful long term friendship. Someone who wants to take the time to get to know each other on a deeper level and wants to learn about each other. The kind of friendship that feels clingy in the sense you're always wanting to talk because you enjoy their presence in your life. I'm also looking for someone who wants to message daily and share what's going on in each others life.
I don't have many preferences, all I ask is that you're 21+ as I'm looking for someone around my age who has similar life experiences, 21-37 please. Timezones don't matter to me much as I have a crazy schedule so I'm awake at all hours of the day.
I don't want to put too much here as I'd rather enjoy talking to you and getting to know you that way rather than walls of text. I enjoy being outdoors, playing video games, listening to music, cycling, computer programming and enjoy deep thought provoking conversations. I have a dark sense of humour and can be very blunt at times. I consider myself to be a very loyal person. I've been hurt but if you get on my good side, you're stuck with me. I'm also 420 friendly. I have a pet cat called Levi (bonus points if you guess where the name is from).
Here's a picture of me: https://imgur.com/a/Z17J0qs
Let's break the ice by telling me what's been going on in your life lately, plans for 2024 or what show you're currently watching. Please include a photo of yourself as I like to put a face to things and know who I'm speaking to.
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I don't have many preferences, all I ask is that you're 21+ as I'm looking for someone around my age who has similar life experiences, 21-37 please. Timezones don't matter to me much as I have a crazy schedule so I'm awake at all hours of the day.
I don't want to put too much here as I'd rather enjoy talking to you and getting to know you that way rather than walls of text. I enjoy being outdoors, playing video games, listening to music, cycling, computer programming and enjoy deep thought provoking conversations. I have a dark sense of humour and can be very blunt at times. I consider myself to be a very loyal person. I've been hurt but if you get on my good side, you're stuck with me. I'm also 420 friendly. I have a pet cat called Levi (bonus points if you guess where the name is from).
Here's a picture of me: https://imgur.com/a/Z17J0qs
Let's break the ice by telling me what's been going on in your life lately, plans for 2024 or what show you're currently watching. Please include a photo of yourself as I like to put a face to things and know who I'm speaking to.
2024.05.19 17:52 diablodow [Goodman] AC unit won't turn on, where to start?
![[Goodman] AC unit won't turn on, where to start?](https://b.thumbs.redditmedia.com/Y2TZksrWFoBsy9OIRPO8xJQXELh8yxAZlAlUUb02WzI.jpg "[Goodman] AC unit won't turn on, where to start?") | I started up the AC for the first time this summer and got the clik from my Emerson thermostat that calls for air and nothing happened. I checked the breaker and it's fine, I switched to heat and had no issues with it starting right up. The breaker on the AC unit is a handle you pull out. I didn't see anything immediately wrong with it. Am I safe in assuming that I've reached the point of calling a professional? It worked last summer with no issues so I'm surprised I didn't even get a hum out of the thing. Picture dump below. submitted by diablodow to hvacadvice [link] [comments] Thermostat Interior 1 Interior 2 |
2024.05.19 17:52 Iknowatur Neon orange stains from bleaching out red dye- how should i work around it?
 | Ok firstly sorry for the crap picture aha, its so hard to get a pic of the back of your head! my hair is covered in oils + k18 rn and obviously is looking crazy with the stains submitted by Iknowatur to FancyFollicles [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/vwvjmgv8me1d1.png?width=1729&format=png&auto=webp&s=4fd793de5afe138f494ce65826d92506c089b8c0 For context before this i hadnt bleached my hair in 9 months to give it a break and had been dying all over my hair with manic panic vampire red and adore raspberry. I had let fade out for a while, doing shampoo + vit c all that constantly for 2 months maybe. My bleached ends where a very pale workable red stain and the roots (which are naturally a medium blonde) where still redish, but i could see my natural colour peeking through. So i thought nows the time to try go back blonde and do some fun colours again. I did a colour remover as in the time ive not been bleaching my hair id used some natural coloured toners and just wanted to get a good base to start with. This didnt lift my natural hair colour at all, but got all my bleached ends back to a platinum-yellow blonde (exactly what i wanted), the roots still that faded red but a lot lighter. I decided to just bleach the roots with 12 vol as my hair is light + fine and already dry from the remover and see what happens. Its all lightened to the same level of yellow-blonde but the red has left massive bands of orange staining. I did a bleach bath just for 10 minutes as again my hair was dry, which has faded it a bit more. As you can tell, i do not want to do any bleach or harsh things to my hair, as constant bleach baths where what made my hair snap off and lead to me taking a break in the first place. Right now the grown out root portion of my hair feels pretty ok and i cannot damage them more, ive had hair at all different levels of damage from literally snapping off, ramen noodle hair disaster level to really healthy virgin hair and id say these sections feel like healthy bleached hair atm. The ends are beyond frazzled but its ok for me, i have a long mullet style so theyll get trimmed off soon anyway and im used to dealing with them at this point. My question is- what can i do to even this out aside from the obvious dye your hair copper. I had wanted to go canery yellow so having some orange splotches isnt ideal but it wouldnt be the worst colour combo, im just very anti-orange aha. My other thought was do a hot pink after a purple/blue? Shampoo and hope the splotches maybe go a peachy colour? Im very unsure. I really like to plan my hair colours in advance and work around the colour wheel so i had wanted to go yellow then green then pink so this has put a wrench in my plan, I expected red staining but not so neon ahaha. Part of me wonders how 'orange' the stains actually are, considering my virgin hair lifted yellow and the staining is on top of that level, I will keep washing my hair with head and shoulders over the week and see if the stains fade anyway but any advice would be really appreciated! |
2024.05.19 17:42 UberEpicZach Dragon Development Diary #4: Hatching and Cradling
 | Hey Everyone! Uber here again with the fourth of our Dragon Development Diaries! submitted by UberEpicZach to CK3AGOT [link] [comments] We now know the Dragons' Vision, the Anatomy of a Dragons Portrait, and even all of what makes a dragon unique in type and personality. Today, we are going to dive into everything about Hatching, cradling, egg laying and 'Dragon Blood'. I'll be joined by one of our scripters, Typical. Heyo, I’m Typical, one of the Advanced Scripters on the team. You may remember me as the guy who created the Faegon Invasions and or as a general onion fanatic on the main server - as Uber mentioned, we are going to go over hatching and more, which is a lot of what I had worked on for this update, so without further ado, let’s get to it. Bringing them back and Dragon LoreFor nearly a hundred years, as seen in the main series of books and our current bookmarks, dragons have been believed to be extinct. All that remains are dragon bones, eggs, and numerous written accounts. From the eyes of your average ruler, you must read over these accounts and use your best judgment. To bring dragons back, one must undergo the dangerous ritual known as the Hatching Ceremony.The Hatching Ceremony is a new activity in development. Through the choices the character makes and the pursuit of luck, you might hatch a dragon. This activity is very much based upon the attempts of numerous Targaryens in our histories, specifically, the rumours surrounding the Tragedy at Summerhall and our interpretations of that event in our Nine-Penny Kings Bookmark. To start your adventure into Hatching, you must select an egg and than choose where you want to hatch the dragon egg. (Note all following images are WIP; and art is underway progress) https://preview.redd.it/rk4czf9cfe1d1.png?width=943&format=png&auto=webp&s=015ec8f4b33e3ab6f484ccb08cf884497d0f7272 https://preview.redd.it/4onh3phdfe1d1.png?width=2048&format=png&auto=webp&s=675a8c1b3230fab1bb88b858ac1bfba1f58c453d But even before doing that, I would recommend gaining as much dragon lore as possible, or else you shall meet the same fate Aegon the Unlikely did. To learn Dragon lore, you must explore places with significant dragon history, learn about the history of the place, and gain a broader picture of what a dragon really is. You may plan ahead and travel to some of these sites as part of a grander trip, twisting your travel plans to go out and hit these Points of Interest. https://preview.redd.it/yohi8hzufe1d1.png?width=1377&format=png&auto=webp&s=43b6807caacfce1440d3f317c9c62af26ae6643f https://preview.redd.it/mxos0uvwfe1d1.png?width=2048&format=png&auto=webp&s=ffb3317a4eb7f5a3a1bf0ecbaec952e1d1c5ac6a Hatching PreparationsOnce you've chosen the egg you want to hatch, you face the most challenging part of the Hatching Ceremony: selecting the proper method. There are two main types of the Hatching Ceremony: Knowledge Hatching and Esoteric Hatching. As the names suggest, Knowledge Hatching involves using willing maesters and other wise men to hatch the dragon through ‘Maester facts’ and logic. In contrast, Esoteric Hatching relies on a character's belief in faith, using both ritual and help from the faithful to bring the dragon to life.https://preview.redd.it/62efeoc1ge1d1.png?width=2048&format=png&auto=webp&s=e091b379c688b685d4547cd9c70e85486d9016f1 Next, you need to select who will be participating with you; options are the following:
Soon after your choice, the ceremony will commence, https://preview.redd.it/0blc2m1ege1d1.png?width=1831&format=png&auto=webp&s=7207cbb4ad68352d6e30a094e1a8aba4f65180ee The CeremonyWhen the ceremony starts, you can either continue or fold and end the ritual. This choice remains available until the very moment of hatching. You never know if you have unleashed dragons anew in the next moment, or uh….. It's a complicated risk overall.https://preview.redd.it/zqa09kzhge1d1.png?width=820&format=png&auto=webp&s=978cecdbf7a93d3793ab130d80ff8994591ac168 In the next event, you'll be given several options for hatching the egg. While the chance of success is random, it's weighted by your actions and attributes. For instance, someone with extensive dragon lore and Valyrian blood will have a higher chance of success than an onion farmer with no dragon lore or Valyrian blood. https://preview.redd.it/4x8exihoge1d1.png?width=1788&format=png&auto=webp&s=5d8ea0bfab220bbccd95ba1b140003fdff7c60e0 Should you Succeed, the newborn dragon shall be born, and the dragons shall return to this world; if you fail, the consequences will be dire for both you and all participants in a botched attempt unless that is if you wanted that. Yes you heard me right, the activity has 2 intents, suicide by hatching and hatching a dragon. The funny thing is that if you fail in your suicide and actually hatch a dragon, you will get a nice 2 levels of stress for that. https://preview.redd.it/djkqc5uuge1d1.png?width=1806&format=png&auto=webp&s=6008d58c022cec26d95884273af0dbb6c80c9ff0 https://preview.redd.it/x73w5ufxge1d1.png?width=522&format=png&auto=webp&s=68ac63b08423e915ecc11b151f64fbdc83f7ad42 Or the Alternative…. https://preview.redd.it/96rw8ap3he1d1.png?width=592&format=png&auto=webp&s=a6582ad9fc137be58207c1ceeefcdd773d61cf71 The Hatching Ceremony is still possible to do once the dragon is back in the world of the living since not every egg will hatch a natural way, and there is also the fact that non-Valyrians will need to take part in this dangerous procedure to be able to cradle eggs in the future. On the subject of cradling eggs, Cradling EggsOnce dragons have returned to the world. In the chance you get an egg you will be able to hatch it naturally via the new cradling mechanic. Cradling and Hatching are similar in the sense that they can end up with a hatching dragon, but cradling is, first and foremost, a much safer and lengthy procedure. While you may hatch an egg via a Hatching Ceremony over the course of a month, hatching an egg via cradling might take years; As to Cradle an Egg to hatch, one needs first to build a bond with the egg.To start cradling an egg, as with hatching an egg via ceremony, you must select the egg via character interaction. On that note, you can also gift an egg to one of your family members and tell them to start cradling an egg or give an egg to one of your courtiers and order them to start cradling, with the caveat that they need to have dragon blood. What is dragon blood? Don’t worry about it. I will explain it just past the cradling segment. https://preview.redd.it/vrulxacdhe1d1.png?width=780&format=png&auto=webp&s=afdd08ab56565c583f81f39b632f422a8b3a77c5 https://preview.redd.it/4eltxm7fhe1d1.png?width=1065&format=png&auto=webp&s=f947f109a70ac06be0655a29275a7f70bf2202bb After selecting one of the mentioned interactions, the whole process starts. After this, Players and Ruler AI can get a chance to increase their bond with an egg by selecting the new “Spend time with Egg” decision & random events. Non-ruler AI characters can increase their bond within the same range once at the beginning of each new year for performance reasons. https://preview.redd.it/jkntgxguhe1d1.png?width=1160&format=png&auto=webp&s=4ba077d5a28e719161a2ed4f4428a78c3dddf296 https://preview.redd.it/ymvicfewhe1d1.png?width=1448&format=png&auto=webp&s=3561fe5022cedbdd38cf587490d966125c7dffe1 Every year, there is a growing chance that, based on your bond with the egg, it will hatch. There is also a chance that after 10 years of not hatching, the egg will end up being a dud, forcing you to hatch the egg via ceremony. That is basically all in regards to Cradling. https://preview.redd.it/b5618qlyhe1d1.png?width=834&format=png&auto=webp&s=3b5a84a6fb5b010c90acdf94f10370a610f98d99 Dragon BloodDragon Blood is a mechanic that defines who can cradle an egg; By default, only Valyrian Cultures (High, Essosi, Westerosi Valyrian, Tolosi and Mantaryan - and derivatives) can cradle an egg. Houses such as House Targaryen, or any house that successfully becomes a dragon-riding house with the Hatching Ceremony - will be valid to Hatch, Tame and Cradle Dragons. Lastly, anyone with a blood connection up to three generations to someone with Dragon Blood is also considered valid. That is to say, be careful how you marry and grow your family, let alone sleep around; you wouldn’t want too many bastards running around 😉. This mechanic also has a set of game-rules to switch through.https://preview.redd.it/xkblxvz2ie1d1.png?width=569&format=png&auto=webp&s=8114d7355e1e35b6e108df43a1b013a12649554f Egg LayingYour dragon can lay eggs, and every year, there is a random chance they will lay one or more eggs, with a slight preference for laying one egg over multiple ones. However, what's important is that dragons age differently and thus have different times when they are more or less fertile. Depending on their age, you might get more or fewer eggs. If your dragon lays multiple eggs, the amount is weighted randomly based on factors such as your bond with the dragon, whether they have a mate, traits, and age. There is also a significant chance (base 30%) that your dragon has left at least two eggs before their passing, in which case you will get the eggs they left behind.https://preview.redd.it/892wlymake1d1.png?width=2212&format=png&auto=webp&s=dfc239b5daa4ef94564acfd7d77c3cd552db6337 That is it for today's diary, I hope everyone has enjoyed reading it all! Join our Discord if you haven't already! https://discord.gg/ckagot And stay tuned for more and more dev diaries! Previous Dragon Dev Diaries: Dragon Development Diary #1: The Vision Dragon Development Diary #2: The Anatomy of the Dragon Portrait Dragon Development Diary #3: A Dragon's Character |
2024.05.19 17:42 Inevitable_Power3683 PVCs, dry skin
For whatever reason, my body hates any form of medication with t4 (levothyroxine) in it. 4 times a day I take 20mcg of T3. I've noticed a huge increase in PVCs lately, to the point that last night, they were every other beat. Also, dry skin. My energy levels are down. I've added a picture of my hand to show the dry skin. Is it more likely that these things come from too much or too little medication?
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2024.05.19 17:38 SoFridayNight Blue top with seagulls (Taylor swift, 1989)
 | Hey! submitted by SoFridayNight to findfashion [link] [comments] Since an influencer posted this top, I have been looking for it, but I just cannot find it or anything similar. At this point, I would think that it’s custom made, but seeing presumably the same item twice in the picture, makes me question this. I also don’t recognise the tag or logo on the plastic bag. I assume the influencer got tons of requests, but did not post another story until the one with this top was gone again. So she won’t be of any help I guess. 😅 Maybe someone here can help me find this piece or something similar to it. Or you can recommend a shop that would customise something similar (located in the EU or better even Germany). Thanks! ✨ |
2024.05.19 17:38 DinahDrakeLance RoW hit so much harder on a reread!
I just reread RoW for the first time since it came out, and oh my God it hit so much better this time around. I didn't realize how much stress I was going through in 2020 when it came out, as well as being hammered by postpartum hormones (and PPD). I forgot dang near everything that happened except for only the most major plot points. I swear my brain told me I didn't like the book that much, but after going through the series again this one definitely gave me the most feels and got me the closest to crying.
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2024.05.19 17:38 jongscx 'Iterating' through Pandas Dataframe
I'm trying to convert the following into Pandas. I'm used to list iteration, but I'm having trouble wrapping my brain around how this can be done if your operations are done on the whole dataframe all at once.
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list1 = [1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,...] list2 = [values] list3 = [] lastval = 0 for idx,each in enumerate(list2): if list1[idx] == 1: if (idx <> 0) and list1[idx-1]==0: lastval = lastval - list2[idx] list3.append(lastval+list2[idx]) else: if (idx <> 0) and list1[idx-1] == 1: lastval = list3[-1] list3.append(lastval)Basically, it plots list2 values into list 3 only if list1 conditions is True(1). But, when list 1 is False, it 'holds' the value until list1 is True again, then starts plotting list 2 from that point.
2024.05.19 17:37 InvestmentBoth9220 For wanting to move on in and end my marriage
Just a little bit of a back story. I have been sick for the past year and half. My blood levels have been low and the drs don’t know what the cause is, is it it an iron deficiency or something worse. So they began doing a series of infusion treatments on me to see if my blood levels would rise. While this has been going on I was still working but thankfully my employer was understanding and said whenever I needed to go rest just make up the time where I could. I am a contingent employee under contract so I have no pto or sick time. So I cant necessarily miss because I need the money to help support my spouse and children. I also home school one of my children.
During this time because I have not been performing in the bedroom with my spouse because I have been sick and exhausted. It is not like I didn’t want I just physical could not. This past Christmas while I was working I sent a Text to my husband just telling him thanks for taking to me the dr the other day. He responds with I want a divorce. He then proceeds to tell me I am soul eater that I am drag him down and now that he has lost weight he wants to explore more options with his body that couldn’t before and I am not giving him sex everyday like I use to. He asked me for an open relationship. I said this is not a conversation to have via text come home. At that point I was worked up at my desk while working and not feeling the best.
He comes home and completely avoids me. I tried engaging in conversation everything but he went straight to his computer ignoring me. The next morning I woke up and tried engaging in conversation again he ignored me until later that evening. during the conversation he began a by saying he wants to leave because he doesn’t believe I respect him or appreciation him and he doesn’t feel in control of the relationship further more me being sick is exhausting and the children we adopted do not respect him either.
I sat their in a daze because something was not sitting right with me. I asked if there was someone else he initially said no but then I said you’re lying and he confessed he was talking with his ex and that they had been sexting. He said it wasn’t affair because it was not physical however in our first year of marriage he sexted someone and I sat the boundary that it was not ok! Fast forward 10 years he did it again.
On Christmas he decided to leave.. imagine having to tell the 2 kids you just adopted on Christmas it wasn’t their fault because they were blaming themselves due to the comment he made as he was leaving he stated “don’t let your mom get in your head like my mom did when she divorced my dad…” what why would say that! I explained to the kids that we were just in a rough spot and no matter what happens we love them unconditionally and nothing is their fault because our younger son was saying if him and his brother didn’t come in the picture none of this would happen. Worse day of my life especially. The next day he messaged and asked if we were going to his moms to celebrate Christmas and that k got what I wanted he had to sleep in a parking lot. I told him not to sleep in a parking lot and for the sake of the kids come home. But if he were to come home this thing with ex had to stop. The only reason it began because I wasn’t given him attention and she is going through a divorce and gave him everything he needed that she was better than me in all aspects. I sat there and cried. He the canceled my health insurance.
He came home and I went to the bedroom to sleep he texted me and said o you can’t come out here now that I came home. I go outside the room to talk to him and he told me I needed to speak to a therapist that I am crazy and a narcissist. That he is going to stay.
I began speaking with a therapist paying out of pocket and told her everything that occurred and what he had said and done and what I have said and done and that I was really nervous about being a narcissist and if I were a narcissist. After speaking with her for a moments she told me I wasn’t a narcissist but I do suffer narcissistic victim syndrome and that I live with my narcissist. I told her I was having a hard time with forgiveness with the other girl because if she was going through a divorce because her spouse cheated why would she do that to another person. The therapist was to ask her.
So I took her advice and I sent the message. She responded. We had a completely adult conversation she stated she begged my husband not to cheat but he led her to believe we were in an open marriage. She reassured me going for she would not be a bother anymore and I thanked her.
Fast forward a couple of days I get a follow on my instagram from a girl I use to work with. I have spoken with this person in years but i remembered her because she was so nice. So I sent her a private message that literally just said hello how are you? She responded as if I was trying to get intel out of her regarding my spouse and was so nasty. I sat there crying not understanding why this person was so mean and spouse what is it. I said this girl we worked followed me and I sent her message saying hello and she goes off about you what the hell are you telling me people. He said nothing I am not telling anybody anything.
So I messaged her back to shut the conversation down and showed the screen shot of where she followed me and I wasn’t even following her. I told her not to make up lies about my husband then she sends me a screenshot of her and my husband convo he had villianized me to her. I thanked her for the message and blocked her. I fwd a screen shot of the message to his phone and set in silence. He responded “Yeah? And? Be sure to bring that up to your therapist too. Way to send us a whole step backwards because you can't talk to me like an adult. I lied about not knowing because I wanted to see how far you would take it.”
The goodness out of all this is I am no longer a contingent and next month will have health insurance again to start back my infusions treatments to determine why my blood levels are low fingers crossed it is an iron deficiency.
Am I the asshole for wanting a divorce?
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During this time because I have not been performing in the bedroom with my spouse because I have been sick and exhausted. It is not like I didn’t want I just physical could not. This past Christmas while I was working I sent a Text to my husband just telling him thanks for taking to me the dr the other day. He responds with I want a divorce. He then proceeds to tell me I am soul eater that I am drag him down and now that he has lost weight he wants to explore more options with his body that couldn’t before and I am not giving him sex everyday like I use to. He asked me for an open relationship. I said this is not a conversation to have via text come home. At that point I was worked up at my desk while working and not feeling the best.
He comes home and completely avoids me. I tried engaging in conversation everything but he went straight to his computer ignoring me. The next morning I woke up and tried engaging in conversation again he ignored me until later that evening. during the conversation he began a by saying he wants to leave because he doesn’t believe I respect him or appreciation him and he doesn’t feel in control of the relationship further more me being sick is exhausting and the children we adopted do not respect him either.
I sat their in a daze because something was not sitting right with me. I asked if there was someone else he initially said no but then I said you’re lying and he confessed he was talking with his ex and that they had been sexting. He said it wasn’t affair because it was not physical however in our first year of marriage he sexted someone and I sat the boundary that it was not ok! Fast forward 10 years he did it again.
On Christmas he decided to leave.. imagine having to tell the 2 kids you just adopted on Christmas it wasn’t their fault because they were blaming themselves due to the comment he made as he was leaving he stated “don’t let your mom get in your head like my mom did when she divorced my dad…” what why would say that! I explained to the kids that we were just in a rough spot and no matter what happens we love them unconditionally and nothing is their fault because our younger son was saying if him and his brother didn’t come in the picture none of this would happen. Worse day of my life especially. The next day he messaged and asked if we were going to his moms to celebrate Christmas and that k got what I wanted he had to sleep in a parking lot. I told him not to sleep in a parking lot and for the sake of the kids come home. But if he were to come home this thing with ex had to stop. The only reason it began because I wasn’t given him attention and she is going through a divorce and gave him everything he needed that she was better than me in all aspects. I sat there and cried. He the canceled my health insurance.
He came home and I went to the bedroom to sleep he texted me and said o you can’t come out here now that I came home. I go outside the room to talk to him and he told me I needed to speak to a therapist that I am crazy and a narcissist. That he is going to stay.
I began speaking with a therapist paying out of pocket and told her everything that occurred and what he had said and done and what I have said and done and that I was really nervous about being a narcissist and if I were a narcissist. After speaking with her for a moments she told me I wasn’t a narcissist but I do suffer narcissistic victim syndrome and that I live with my narcissist. I told her I was having a hard time with forgiveness with the other girl because if she was going through a divorce because her spouse cheated why would she do that to another person. The therapist was to ask her.
So I took her advice and I sent the message. She responded. We had a completely adult conversation she stated she begged my husband not to cheat but he led her to believe we were in an open marriage. She reassured me going for she would not be a bother anymore and I thanked her.
Fast forward a couple of days I get a follow on my instagram from a girl I use to work with. I have spoken with this person in years but i remembered her because she was so nice. So I sent her a private message that literally just said hello how are you? She responded as if I was trying to get intel out of her regarding my spouse and was so nasty. I sat there crying not understanding why this person was so mean and spouse what is it. I said this girl we worked followed me and I sent her message saying hello and she goes off about you what the hell are you telling me people. He said nothing I am not telling anybody anything.
So I messaged her back to shut the conversation down and showed the screen shot of where she followed me and I wasn’t even following her. I told her not to make up lies about my husband then she sends me a screenshot of her and my husband convo he had villianized me to her. I thanked her for the message and blocked her. I fwd a screen shot of the message to his phone and set in silence. He responded “Yeah? And? Be sure to bring that up to your therapist too. Way to send us a whole step backwards because you can't talk to me like an adult. I lied about not knowing because I wanted to see how far you would take it.”
The goodness out of all this is I am no longer a contingent and next month will have health insurance again to start back my infusions treatments to determine why my blood levels are low fingers crossed it is an iron deficiency.
Am I the asshole for wanting a divorce?
2024.05.19 17:36 Mlk_Bred Need help with a Creative Writing assignment
So I have a creative writing assignment where the teacher has given us some pretty stringent rules (stringent to me because I do more intuitive writing) for the short story. The rules are as follow:
I'm unsure if I should post my story here as its quite long already, but if someone would be wiling to read over my work, I would be forever greatful!
I'll make a google doc to share it if anyone is interested in helping :)
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- a clear plot.
- a twist founded on conflict.
I'm unsure if I should post my story here as its quite long already, but if someone would be wiling to read over my work, I would be forever greatful!
I'll make a google doc to share it if anyone is interested in helping :)