Turkish dramas are irresistible because of their diverse stories, and characters, and even the actors will keep you hooked to your TV screens because of their impeccable performances. The shows have a crisp storyline, the characters, and their lives are explored in depth, and the scenic locations of Turkey are like a cherry on the top! If you want to watch some of the best Turkish dramas on Hotstar, here are some of the names for you.
1. Price Of Passion
A romance drama series that got a lot of attention from viewers in Turkey as well as globally and even got an 8 IMDb rating! It is about a woman who is a devoted doctor helping her patients and children heal their wounds and hearts. She crosses paths with a mysterious man who turns out to be a cold-blooded murderer. And, even after trying hard to stay away, she falls for this man. Two strangers with opposite motives in life- what will happen to their future?
2. Life Of Secrets
Life of Secrets is a family drama series with a 7.1 IMDb rating, it is beautiful because of the pure love story between two innocent lovers- Burak and Seher. While, the show is heart-breaking because of many secrets that come out in the open- regarding different family members of the Kuzgan family. A show that has an intense storyline as secrets will keep spilling one after the other- shocking you throughout. The aftermath of those shocks, the family relations, the love stories, and heartbreaks- everything about this show is wonderful.
3. New Life
A drama series that was released in 2020, is about a special force officer, Adam- he loves his job and has an adorable family. His life is perfect until he gets injured and has to leave his profession and find an alternative. He finds a new job as a bodyguard for a beautiful and rich woman named Yasemin, who is also the second wife of a rich businessman named Timur. What Adam does not know is that Yasemin has many deep secrets and a hidden past, and the whole family setup he is entering, is nothing less than a minefield.
Also Read: The Peripheral
4. Sisterhood
A gripping drama show about three sisters who have grown up without knowing each other’s existence. One fine day, they receive an anonymous letter revealing them about their connections as siblings. They are even invited by an anonymous person to meet each other at one of the sister’s weddings. They are happy and shocked to come face-to-face on the night of the wedding, but something more happens that day and changes their whole life. They now can no longer leave that place and have to live together.
5. Hiding Our Mother
It is an interesting story about a woman named Handan whose life takes a one-eighty-degree turn when she meets a mysterious couple. Now, she wants to have a husband and lead a better life- but this single mother of three is not such an interesting partner, why? Because of her three children! So, what happens to her three children, did the couple adopt them? And will she ever get married again? All these are answered in the show.
If you are just starting to explore the Turkish drama world- the above-mentioned Turkish Dramas on Hotstar are the best options. Once you have entered that world- you will find so many other great Turkish shows on YouTube as well.

My wife’s best friend who I will call Sarah moved in with us about 1 month ago after her husband had her arrested for getting physical with him and scratching his face. I have been a mutual friend with both Sarah and her husband that I will John. Our kids are friends and we would often get the families together. We have been put in the middle of the feud. John has a restraining order out on Sarah and the only way she gets to see the kids is supervised visitation. John listed my wife as the person that has to be present while her kids visit in 3 hour time blocks. I thought it was weird that John only listed my wife on there considering I am the only one (between my wife and I) that directly communicates with him (text and calls). John and my wife were always cordial to one another but between all 4 of us, they are the only two that had no real friendship. My wife is prettier than Sarah, and I have caught John staring at my wife’s chest and ass in the past. It never bothered me. During one of John and Sarah’s last fights, he said that Sarah’s face looked much older than my wife’s (both are very into skincare and anti-aging, so this really pissed Sarah off). John is an incredibly controlling husband that treated Sarah very poorly and my wife has always said that he is such an asshole and that she can’t stand him.
This is where things began to get weird…
After Sarah moved in, John continued to call me to discuss his wife. My wife told me that I was being too kind to him after the way he has treated her so poorly over the years, and having her arrested. My wife told me that it was time to choose a side (Sarah’s) and to stop talking with John. She told me I was two faced for continuing to speak with him. She called him Satan because he was already running around with a few different women and their kids, all while taunting her in various ways and trying to destroy her life. Suddenly John starts reaching out to my wife to schedule visitations with their kids based on my wife’s schedule. He could’ve listed both of us on the supervision list but he only put my wife. I suspect that he felt like it would lead to an open line of communication between the two of them(previously my wife didn’t even have his number in her phone) My wife acted very annoyed that she was put in that position because he never asked beforehand.. basically if Sarah wanted to see her kids, my wife would need to be involved. Here is where things got weird…
We had a birthday party for one of our daughters and we invited his kids to her party. He brought the kids and oddly stayed in the area with his youngest and waited around, but didn’t join the party. Later that day I sent him a text thanking him for the gifts they got. The next morning(Mother’s Day), one of the first things my wife does is send him a thank you text that I felt was a “gushing” thank you. It was weird to me that he was not only the first thank you text that she sent, but she only sent 3 out of the 8-9 parents that were there.
Is this thank you a bit much?
“We had the gifts mixed up but Sarah later clarified the gifts with the flower wrapping paper were from y'all! But as you can see, she loved them. Thank you very much for going out of your way to get them and for bringing the kids out to celebrate with Tara(our daughter) and waiting so patiently with jane(his youngest daughter). It meant so much to us!”
Here was my thank you the night before …
“Thanks a lot for all the stuff for Tara. She loved it all. You got much more than you should’ve”
John’s reply to my wife’s thank you text and then wishing her happy Mother’s Day.
“You are so welcome, a bit sad we were not able to be there as a complete family. Praying next year is different.”
“Happy Mothers Day, the kids and Dave are so blessed to have you.” (Clearly a compliment to her and a dig at his wife)
My wife’s reply…
Sunday 1:56 PM Thank you! I am sorry for leaving you hanging about today. Would you like to plan for around 430-730? We are getting a slow start and I just hoped to go to the beach for a little bit.
(She just says thank you? I would’ve thought she would’ve also said that their kids are blessed to have her best friend as a mom as well)
-John’s reply- That sounds perfect. See you then. Sunday 2:58 PM
(Sarah then sent a screenshot of the family app that they are legally allowed to communicate on. She told him that he was intruding on my wife’s Mother’s Day, and it was stressing my wife out, which was true. After seeing what Sarah told John, my wife felt compelled to reach back out to John with the following…
“Hey John. I'm not stressed. It just took forever to get the kids ready and out”
Keep in mind that he has repeatedly verbally abused her friend, has been hanging out with other woman, kicked her out of her house without her belongings, reported her to the state licensing board for her “arrest” and caused her license to be suspended, told her that he hope she died during an upcoming surgery she was supposed to have, and insulted her by implying that she was a harm to her kids and her best friend needed supervision during the time she spent with her kids… I was called “two faced” and told I was betraying Sarah, simply because I would answer John’s calls and texts.
We get home and John brings his kids over with a Mother’s Day plant and card (same ones, for my wife and Sarah). I thought this was weird and another way of slighting at Sarah, putting the two of them on the same level. The next day, my wife (who doesn’t garden) was watering the plants and walking around with the plants looking for a place to plant them. (I mentioned to Sarah that my wife watered the plants and she seems very surprised and upset that she did that, considering it was intended to be a slight to her.). I was very surprised considering our 9-year-old got her a plant from Lowe’s a year or two ago and she simply let it dry out and die on the counter (never watering it) which really hurt our daughters feelings….
Two days later I looked at my wife’s messages with John and was very surprised. My wife knew I had looked at her phone and sent me a nasty text to stay off of it. I told her that I was surprised that she was being so chummy with John considering how he has been treating Sarah, and had previously called me “two faced” for continuing to talk to John. I told her that her thank you to John was “gushing” and clearly made him feel good as he gave her a compliment about how blessed we were to have her immediately after that. I told her I was also surprised that she didn’t just have me tell him thank you considering she knows we talk and are friends. My wife got really mad and said she did nothing wrong and called me a jealous psycho. She said she would show the thread to Sarah because she had nothing to hide and did nothing wrong. I told her that I would strongly advise against it because I think it would hurt Sarah’s feelings and cause her to be upset with my wife. My wife continued to call me a lot of mean names and told me I needed professional mental help. She then changed the password on her phone. She then told Sarah that it would prob be best for her and John to coordinate through the app because I was acting very bothered by her talking to John (implying jealousy).
My wife and I began talking about the situation again yesterday and I told her that I wasn’t dwelling on it but wish she would acknowledge the inappropriateness of the conversation, considering the circumstances. She refused and again began calling me a psycho that is destroying her life. I told her that if she felt like it was a completely appropriate conversation, then she should show Sarah. She refused. She then sends me the following :
“I deleted his thread and his contact information. Accidentally called his number while I was trying to figure out how and immediately hung up. I’m sure you’ll say I called him on purpose. I have a screenshot of the thread so you won’t accuse me of trying to get rid of evidence.”
As it turned out, she didn’t have a screenshot of the thread. I found it very odd that she deleted the conversation (she did it during this last argument we were having about the appropriateness of it and telling her to show Sarah..
The other things that bothered me was that I wrote a kind Mother’s Day message on her Facebook, which she saw but never acknowledged on Facebook or said anything to me, and she completely ignored my happy birthday post to our daughter on Facebook. She was so quick to acknowledge the person she called “Satan” but not to her husband. I am considering the possibility that I am overly sensitive these days. My wife just went through a real bad case of postpartum rage where she was verbally abusive toward me and I genuinely felt like she hated me. It has left me with what she believes to be ptsd and says she feels very badly about it. It was the worst thing I have ever experienced and it nearly ended our family. Am I over-reacting or was my wife out of line?
Why did she delete the thread when I pressed her to show Sarah?
Was her thank you “gushing” and a bit much, considering the circumstances?
Is my wife really the one that’s two faced?
What should I make of John’s actions with my wife? Should it rub me the wrong way!?
Was telling my wife that we were so lucky to have her flirtatious and should she have replied that they were blessed to have Sarah!?
Would Sarah be hurt by my wife’s conversation with her husband?
Why did my wife feel so anxious to be the one to thank him for the gifts directly and praise him for coming and telling him it meant so much that he brought the kids and waited around?
Thanks in advance

Hello all.
I originally posted this on another sub yesterday and was told I would maybe get a better selection of helpful answers on this sub
I recently found out my wife was cheating on me since February of this year.
Long story short a cardiac episode by me a few years ago and subsequent blood thinners and BP meds sapped my sex drive. I tried talking to her about it a few times over the years but she kept assuring me things were good. Then over the past couple years her parents both passed. This year the anniversary of those events triggered what she called a breakdown and midlife crisis. She convinced herself the lack of sex was not medical and was me seeing someone else so she started going to male review shows and then started seeing someone else.
I had suspicions but she assured me things were good and she would never cheat. Then I found out she did. We argued, then talked. She said she did love me and didn’t want the marriage to end. I told her she had to message this guy and end it. Tell him that it’s over, what they did was wrong and she loves her husband and doesn’t want to hurt him. Then she needs to block the number and delete the contact. She did all this in front of me. I also told her we need to do couples therapy. Which she agreed to
We’ve been more physically intimate and have been reconnecting. We talk more openly like we used to. We talked and she unloaded on me all stuff she had never shared about how she had been treated in past relationships and there’s a lot of unresolved trauma she never dealt with.
We had our first therapy session and we are going to have weekly appointments.
She is trying. And I appreciate that.
But my questions are for those who have been cheated on and stayed together….
How did you rebuild the trust? Every time she is texting someone or working late or weekends (which her job does require from time to time) how do you get past that feeling of doubt. That nagging voice going “is she really working? She told you she was working before when she was really having sex with another guy”
How do you get over the fear that, as she works through her trauma that she will come to realize her shutting everyone out caused her to fall out of love with you. And that feeling isn’t just waiting to be uncovered, but she killed it and buried it and it won’t come back.
Do those feelings ever go away? How did you work through them. I am sure therapy will help but right now all I feel is anger and fear.
Anger, not at the act of cheating ironically, but that had she just been open and honest rather than cloak herself in grief and anger, this could have all been avoided.
And the fear as I described. That when it’s all said and done she killed her feelings for me because that was easier for her than dealing with her pain and trauma. And fear of not getting the ability to trust back, that it will happen again. She rationalized it once and lied about it already
I know I’m in the first steps of this. But any advice would be helpful.

Tldr: husband punched me, he was half sleeping and in a terrible mental state due to drama on his side of a family, and I don't know how do we repair things or even should we?
Let's call my husband Ben.
Yesterday Ben's uncle Robert died. Their side of a family is full of crap and drama. Everyone hate each other.
Uncle's wife Jessica hates her mother in law (Ben's grandma Lauren), she don't wanna let her to the funeral, won't tell her where her son is gonna be buried, only wants inheritance. Grandma Lauren is not an angel too, but she's kind to Ben, and he's the only person who has a relationship with her. So it was him who had to tell her that her son died and that Jessica won't let anyone to the funeral. And grandma Lauren is 85 and has cancer.
Robert and Jessica have a 14 yo son Sammy, who she only had, to sign herself in a family's property. She raised him in absolute dependency of her, won't let him hang out with us (Ben made several attempts), won't let him play outside, deprived him of a healthy childhood, and Ben's heart aches for Sammy, and there's nothing anyone can do. Now he lost his father and his life is ruined. Uncle Robert was a shitty man, but still...
So, Ben came home from grandma's and asked me to let him have a good sleep tonight. We have 2 sons, 3 years old and 7 months old, sleeping in our bedroom, their beds are at our bed's sides. Well, that was the night when they took turns in screaming. Oldest had a bad dream, I calmed him down. Then the baby had God knows what and wouldn't even latch on a boob, just high pitch scream.
And just when he showed first signs of calming down, Ben had enough of being waken up and started yelling something like "I asked one thing, please give me some sleep", etc. I understand, I do. But the baby doesn't. And I asked him to be quiet, that I almost got this, and yelling will only reset the baby's screaming, it will make things worse. Ben won't listen, and I was kinda desperate, so I pressed my hand over his mouth. It pissed him, he shaked my arm with one hand, and instantly punched it with his other hand, with a fist. And then immediately fell asleep.
I'm shaken with this. I would never imagine he could do anything like this. He apologized, but he says he doesn't remember punching me, he remembers wanting to say something that he thought was important, and that I shut him up, and that he got my hand off of him and that's it. He wasn't fully awake I guess. And I understand his feelings, but it doesn't erase mine.
my world turned upside down, I'm terrified of how easy he did it, how he didn't hesitate. So, he had it in him? I was 1000% certain that he could never hit me. Now I don't feel save. This was so unpredictable. I lost a giant part of my trust. I cried all morning. And he asks me for support after all this family crap with Sammy and grandma. And I just cry and can't shake it off.
From all I've read, abuse starts with the first punch and grows gradually, and it's always always recommended to leave the moment it happens. But given the situation? And that we have 2 little kids? And that Ben was nothing but wonderful to us so far? Is this a start or a one time thing? I'm so lost, I can't distance myself from it

Hopefully this is the right forum for this question.. my husbands ex wife and new husband are currently hosting a 14 year old female exchange student, which has raised major concerns as I am aware the ex wife's husband has a huge criminal record..part of which contains that he broke into his ex wife's house to try and commit suicide in front of his own children to spite his own ex wife (his record was subpoenaed as part of a family law case). We also recently went through issues with our step daughter (13) regarding innapropriate photos that her step dad was taking of her for her tiktok (I.e in a bikini). I do not believe this family is fit to hold my stepkids let alone an exchange child who will likely be left alone with this man while we have custody of his children and his wife is at work. I am aware from the years of family law court that the police will do very little to intervene, I am wondering who else there is to contact? It does not appear this was arranged through their high school either. We are located in NSW FYI.

Tldr: husband punched me, he was half sleeping and in a terrible mental state due to drama on his side of a family, and I don't know how do we repair things or even should we?
Let's call my husband Ben.
Yesterday Ben's uncle Robert died. Their side of a family is full of crap and drama. Everyone hate each other.
Uncle's wife Jessica hates her mother in law (Ben's grandma Lauren), she don't wanna let her to the funeral, won't tell her where her son is gonna be buried, only wants inheritance. Grandma Lauren is not an angel too, but she's kind to Ben, and he's the only person who has a relationship with her. So it was him who had to tell her that her son died and that Jessica won't let anyone to the funeral. And grandma Lauren is 85 and has cancer.
Robert and Jessica have a 14 yo son Sammy, who she only had, to sign herself in a family's property. She raised him in absolute dependency of her, won't let him hang out with us (Ben made several attempts), won't let him play outside, deprived him of a healthy childhood, and Ben's heart aches for Sammy, and there's nothing anyone can do. Now he lost his father and his life is ruined. Uncle Robert was a shitty man, but still...
So, Ben came home from grandma's and asked me to let him have a good sleep tonight. We have 2 sons, 3 years old and 7 months old, sleeping in our bedroom, their beds are at our bed's sides. Well, that was the night when they took turns in screaming. Oldest had a bad dream, I calmed him down. Then the baby had God knows what and wouldn't even latch on a boob, just high pitch scream.
And just when he showed first signs of calming down, Ben had enough of being waken up and started yelling something like "I asked one thing, please give me some sleep", etc. I understand, I do. But the baby doesn't. And I asked him to be quiet, that I almost got this, and yelling will only reset the baby's screaming, it will make things worse. Ben won't listen, and I was kinda desperate, so I pressed my hand over his mouth. It pissed him, he shaked my arm with one hand, and instantly punched it with his other hand, with a fist. And then immediately fell asleep.
I'm shaken with this. I would never imagine he could do anything like this. He apologized, but he says he doesn't remember punching me, he remembers wanting to say something that he thought was important, and that I shut him up, and that he got my hand off of him and that's it. He wasn't fully awake I guess. And I understand his feelings, but it doesn't erase mine.
my world turned upside down, I'm terrified of how easy he did it, how he didn't hesitate. So, he had it in him? I was 1000% certain that he could never hit me. Now I don't feel save. This was so unpredictable. I lost a giant part of my trust. I cried all morning. And he asks me for support after all this family crap with Sammy and grandma. And I just cry and can't shake it off.
From all I've read, abuse starts with the first punch and grows gradually, and it's always always recommended to leave the moment it happens. But given the situation? And that we have 2 little kids? And that Ben was nothing but wonderful to us so far? Is this a start or a one time thing? I'm so lost, I can't distance myself from it

Hi Gentlemen & Ladies,
I(28M) got married to my wife(33F) last year who is 5 years elder to me.I I am gradually loosing my self esteem and suffering from low confidence & inadequecy. I am somewhat introvert and secretly resent her for her actions. I am confused about her action if it is normal or abnormal. She says it is normal in every relationship.
Following actions (Is these normal in marraige?):-

• She complain about me to one of her close friend and speak loudly so that I can hear as well. E.g How I don't give her enough money to shop etc. When I ask her she says her friend also complain about her husband and is normal among girls to do.
• She complains to her mother and brothers during conference about me unnecessarily like how I don't give her this & that.
• She starts telling my insecurities during the fight which I have shared with her earlier. She only initiate fight and always have reason to fight and blames me that due to my some action/inactions she did that.
• She is not earning and I have been paying for house maid and washerwomen since last 2 years but when I ask if she will pay if I stop earning (hypothetical ), she says she will take care of her and her child(Don't have one yet) and not me.
• We stay in other town and when I ask her to visit to my parents my home only one time in a year, she strart highlighting how my parents are poor and not cultured and she can't tolerate them. Mind it she stayed for only 2 days at my ancestral home after marraige and then we left.
• She highlights that I am useless and not worthy, how I lack this & that during the fight even though I am paying for everything her clother, study, food, travel etc but in normal days she act normal.
• She used to compare me to her brother , how they treat their wife with gifts and jwellery while I don't? How her brother is so smart & capable.(Her brother is of my age).
• She complain about my mother & sister even though they have never said anything bad about her behind her back. She has not met my sister after marraige and does not talk to my sister but she keep telling me how they(mom&sis) must be plotting against her.
• I don't have any say over her and when I try to stop her from doing something which is making me uncomfortable, she starts spewing hate against me & my family.
• She become cold whenever someone visit from her extended family and priortise them. She try to avoid me. (e.g during dinner food serve she asked everyone(3-4 guest member) but not me about my requirment)
• I tries to tell about my discomfort but she laughs on it and says I am taking things seriously and suggest me to grow up.
• After the first night of marraige, she shared to me that she want to control me. (It's our love marraige)
• She discard my opinion and claims how she knows the better way.
• She even complain about me to my mother and when I ask why you are doing? She says to act cute before my mother. (I have already told my mother how she lies)

So couple who fights, please tell me is this normal in fight. How do you people fight, like conversation and contents in fight?
P.S - Asked by my married friend.
tl;dr - I(28M) male, my wife(34F) female , has been married since one year and was in live-in relationship since 1 year. She becomes personal during fight and mocks me, also highlights my flaws and insecurities. She disprepsect me and my family during fight. Is this normal among couples fight? When I tell to avoid saying these, she tell me its normal amoung couple and I am being emotional. Please suggest is this normal? How you people fight and do you all hurt and disrespect your spouse?. Thanks!!

Hi Gentlemen & Ladies,
I(28) got married to my wife(33) last year who is 5 years elder to me.I I am gradually loosing my self esteem and suffering from low confidence & inadequecy. I am somewhat introvert and secretly resent her for her actions. I am confused about her action if it is normal or abnormal. She says it is normal in every relationship.
Following actions (Is these normal in marraige?):-

• She complain about me to one of her close friend and speak loudly so that I can hear as well. E.g How I don't give her enough money to shop etc. When I ask her she says her friend also complain about her husband and is normal among girls to do.
• She complains to her mother and brothers during conference about me unnecessarily like how I don't give her this & that.
• She starts telling my insecurities during the fight which I have shared with her earlier. She only initiate fight and always have reason to fight and blames me that due to my some action/inactions she did that.
• She is not earning and I have been paying for house maid and washerwomen since last 2 years but when I ask if she will pay if I stop earning (hypothetical ), she says she will take care of her and her child(Don't have one yet) and not me.
• We stay in other town and when I ask her to visit to my parents my home only one time in a year, she strart highlighting how my parents are poor and not cultured and she can't tolerate them. Mind it she stayed for only 2 days at my ancestral home after marraige and then we left.
• She highlights that I am useless and not worthy, how I lack this & that during the fight even though I am paying for everything her clother, study, food, travel etc but in normal days she act normal.
• She used to compare me to her brother , how they treat their wife with gifts and jwellery while I don't? How her brother is so smart & capable.(Her brother is of my age).
• She complain about my mother & sister even though they have never said anything bad about her behind her back. She has not met my sister after marraige and does not talk to my sister but she keep telling me how they(mom&sis) must be plotting against her.
• I don't have any say over her and when I try to stop her from doing something which is making me uncomfortable, she starts spewing hate against me & my family.
• She become cold whenever someone visit from her extended family and priortise them. She try to avoid me. (e.g during dinner food serve she asked everyone(3-4 guest member) but not me about my requirment)
• I tries to tell about my discomfort but she laughs on it and says I am taking things seriously and suggest me to grow up.
• After the first night of marraige, she shared to me that she want to control me. (It's our love marraige)
• She discard my opinion and claims how she knows the better way.
• She even complain about me to my mother and when I ask why you are doing? She says to act cute before my mother. (I have already told my mother how she lies)

So couple who fights, please tell me, is this normal in fight? How do you people fight, like conversation and contents in fight? Am I an emotionl person if these tings make me uncomfortable
P.S - Asked by my one of married friend.
tl;dr - I(28) male, my wife(33) female , has been married since one year and was in live-in relationship since 1 year. She becomes personal during fight and mocks me, also highlights my flaws and insecurities. She disprepsect me and my family during fight. Is this normal among couples fight? When I tell to avoid saying these, she tell me its normal amoung couple and I am being emotional. Please suggest is this normal? How you people fight and do you all hurt and disrespect your spouse?. Thanks!!

A defense of Aldarion is more difficult, and thus will take longer than In 'Defense' of Erendis, which is recommended to read first. We know much less of Aldarion's tale as 'The Mariner’s Wife' is told primarily from Erendis’ side in Númenor, and at the same time, there is a much longer tale in Aldarion’s life during his voyages that we only get a peak of in Gil-galad’s letter that would greatly change our perception of events in ‘The Mariner’s Wife’, particularly during the crucial 877 voyage after Ancalimë is born, which was argued as a fault of Aldarion.
Within the context of the story, Lady Uinen, Maia of the Sea, and Lord Oromë, Vala of the Forest, could be read as central characters, and a defense of Aldarion is best shown as a tale between these two beings.

Meneldur and Aldarion's Early Years

From an early age, Meneldur likely stressed to his son Aldarion the importance of his duty as the Heir of the Sceptre. Meneldur did not share in his son’s passions, but certainly had his own:

(Meneldur) loved dearly the land of Númenor and all things in it, but he gave no heed to the Sea that lay all about it; for his mind looked further than Middle-earth: he was enamoured of the stars and the heavens.

From what little we can glean of Meneldur’s early life, the pursuit of his passions were cut too early for his liking:

When Meneldur received the Sceptre he removed, as he must, from the Forostar, and dwelt in the great house of the Kings in Armenelos. He proved a good and wise king, though he never ceased to yearn for days in which he might enrich his knowledge of the heavens.

Meneldur may have been constraining Aldarion’s passions the same way his own had been. In doing this, he tried to impart on Aldarion that a King’s duty was first to the public.
We can gather from the texts that Meneldur started to constrain his son’s voyages sometime within the period of 750 when Aldarion created the Guild of Venterurs and 800 when Aldarion was named Heir to the Sceptre. Aldarion was still quite young during this time especially by the standard of the Line of Elros, and Aldarion was within his right to pursue his passions.

Tar-Meneldur looked coldly on the enterprises of his son, and cared not to hear the tale of his journeys, believing that he sowed the seeds of restlessness and the desire of other lands to hold.
Tar-Meneldur ever opposed his son, and he set a curb on the felling of trees in Númenor for the building of vessels; and it came therefore into Aldarion’s mind that he would find timber in Middle-earth, and seek there for a haven for the repair of his ships.

As Meneldur began increasing preassures on Aldarion to constrain his voyages, this conflict would likely the the foundation of Aldarion’s land weariness, further driving him into the arms of Lady Uinen. By 816, he would be described as associating ‘life on land’ negatively:

Life on land was irksome to him, for aboard his ship he was subject to no other will, and the Venturers who accompanied him knew only love and admiration for the Great Captain.

Erendis gives Aldarion the Bough of Return

Before Aldarion would depart again in 816, Meneldur would act even more severely with his son’s Sea-longing and would deny Aldarion’s voyage the ‘Bough of Return’:

When a ship departed from Númenor over the Great Sea to Middle-earth a woman, most often of the captain’s kin, should set upon the vessel’s prow the Green Bough of Return; and that was cut from the tree oiolairë, that signifies ‘Ever-summer’, which the Eldar gave to the Númenóreans, saying that they set it upon their own ships in token of friendship with Ossë and Uinen.

This would likely be a hurtful act and a condemnation of Aldarion's passions by his father, but Erendis would enter Aldarion’s life at this critical moment:

Erendis came to Aldarion in Rómenna while he was preparing for departure, bearing the Bough of Return for Aldarion’s journey:
Erendis came there, little though she loved the noise and bustle of the great harbour and the crying of the gulls.
Aldarion greeted her with amazement and joy; and she said: ‘I have brought you the Bough of Return, lord: from the Queen.’
‘From the Queen?’ said Aldarion, in a changed manner.
‘Yes, lord,’ said she; ‘but I asked for her leave to do so. Others beside your own kin will rejoice at your return, as soon as may be.’
At that time Aldarion first looked on Erendis with love; and he stood long in the stern looking back as the Palarran passed out to sea.

Erendis would affirm Aldarion’s love of the Sea and Lady Uinen when his father was cold. When Aldarion came back from his voyage in 820, he uncharacteristically came back sooner than he intended, and with a generous gift for Erendis. And soon he would spend his longest known stay on Númenor for Erendis.
Bringing Aldarion the Bough of Return would have further significance to Aldarion in the context of Númenor at this time. When Aldarion was born in 700, the people of Númenor were a fairly reclusive society whose main point of contact with the outside world were Aman. Aldarion was a pioneer and had ventured where no other Númenórean had in Middle-earth, which was widely regarded as the land of the “Men of Darkness”.
Beside Aldarion’s own companions, most in Númenor likely sympathized with Meneldur, making Aldarion feel estranged from his own country.

Lady Uinen and Lord Oromë

In a sense, Aldarion and Erendis’ true partners were the Lady Uinen of the Sea and the Lord Oromë of the Forests, for Aldarion’s love of the Sea and Erendis’ love of trees. This becomes clear to them during Aldarion’s longest stay land after he arrives back in Númenor in 843 and seeks out Erendis:

‘I will not share my husband with the Lady Uinen,’ said Erendis.
‘That is a twisted saying,’ said Aldarion. ‘As well might I say that I would not share my wife with the Lord Oromë of Forests, because she loves trees that grow wild.’

A twisted saying indeed for Aldarion, for he also loved trees. His own name is likely to mean “Son of Trees” in Quenya, with the compound of aldar ("trees") and the suffix -ion ("-son"). Lord Oromë, who loves all trees, is known also as Aldaron. Aldarion cuts many trees for his vessels but is also shown to be a good steward of the forests, and it is not suggested that as a mariner he cut more than he planted.
Aldarion’s happiest days were planting trees with Erendis. As she brought him the Bough of Return, he in turn affirmed her love of Lord Oromë:

But Aldarion wooed Erendis in earnest, and wherever she went he would go; he neglected the havens and the shipyards and all the concerns of the Guild of Venturers, felling no trees but setting himself to their planting only, and he found more contentment in those days than in any others of his life, though he did not know it until he looked back long after when old age was upon him.

Aldarion and Erendis could certainly bond over a shared love of trees, though Erendis values them in a different way than Aldarion. Aldarion values them more for their use, while Erendis for their aesthetic value.
While Aldarion came to live with and embrace Erendis’ love of Lord Oromë, himself a lover of trees, Erendis realized during this time that she could never embrace the Lady Uinen:

(Erendis) determined that she must utterly defeat the Sea and the ships, or else be herself defeated utterly.

Erendis conceals her dislike of the Sea

But before their marriage in 871, Erendis makes efforts to conceal this motivation to defeat the Sea in front of Aldarion. From their very first encounter, Erendis conceals her dislike of the atmosphere of the harbor of Rómenna to deliver him the Bough of Return.
Then in 850, for the centennial of the founation of the Guild of Venturers, Erendis goes on a small voyage with Aldarion to Andunië:

At length he sought to persuade Erendis to sail with him on a voyage about the Island in the ship Eämbar; for one hundred years had now passed since Aldarion founded the Guild of Venturers, and feasts were to be held in all the havens of Númenor. To this Erendis consented, concealing her distaste and fear; and they departed from Rómenna and came to Andúnië in the west of the Isle.

This voyage may have given hope to Aldarion that Erendis could be made to love the Sea eventually. Erendis also displayed an ability to compromise with Lady Uinen. Before Aldarion’s voyage in 863 after their betrothal, she refuses to come with him, but Erendis’ language is still sorrowful and ultimately conciliatory:

‘And, alas! if for love of you I took ship, I should not return. It is beyond my strength to endure; and out of sight of land I should die. The Sea hates me; and now it is revenged that I kept you from it and yet fled from you. Go, my lord! But have pity, and take not so many years as I lost before.’

Even so, Erendis’ dislike of the Sea comes off particularly strong at times, even for a woman of Númenor. In Andunië, after Erendis’ first voyage with Aldarion:

There Valandil, Lord of Andúnië and close kin of Aldarion, held a great feast; and at that feast he drank to Erendis, naming her Uinéniel, Daughter of Uinen, the new Lady of the Sea.
But Erendis, who sat beside the wife of Valandil, said aloud: ‘Call me by no such name! I am no daughter of Uinen: rather is she my foe.’

We get no reaction from Aldarion here, though we are unsure if he even heard this. Other signs of Erendis’ feelings would be harder to deny by Aldarion as they were made in direct conversation with him. One explanation for Aldarion to dismiss these signs would be that it was a common sentiment for a woman of Númenor to be wary of the Sea. Númenorean women seemed to defy conventions in many ways, being nearer to men in stature and strength, and skilled on horseback.

They did not, however, greatly love the Sea. They would journey in need in the coastwise craft from port to port; but they did not like to be long aboard or to pass even one night in a ship.

The Fall of Númenor. The life of Númenoreans: Of sports and pastimes (38-39)
Much like Erendis hoped to teach Aldarion the ways of Lord Oromë, Aldarion might have thought there was hope to teach Erendis the ways of Lady Uinen.

The 877 voyage after Ancalimë’s birth

So after the 6-year voyage from 863-869, we arrive at the marriage of Aldarion and Erendis in 871 and the birth of Ancalimë in 873. Aldarion is certainly at fault for the interruption of their ‘Days of the Children’ (see In ‘Defense’ of Erendis).
So what drove Aldarion to the Sea so soon after their wedding and the birth of Ancalimë in 873? We know Aldarion was capable of spending at least 15 uninterrupted years on land in Númenor, and was happy spending them with Erendis. What could have driven him back on a voyage so soon, even if it was intended to be breif, after the birth of his daughter in defiance of the convention of the Eldar?
The more obvious explanation has to do with the nature of his travels. Gil-galad’s letter to Meneldur is Aldarion’s best defense:

Long I have owed you thanks, for you have so many times sent to me your son Anardil Aldarion: the greatest Elf-friend that now is among Men, as I deem. At this time I ask your pardon, if I have detained him overlong in my service; for I had great need of the knowledge of Men and their tongues which he alone possesses.

Here is a breif account from Aldarion upon return of his travels in 882: But here is a breif account from Aldarion upon return of his travels in 882:

‘But the world is changing again. Outside nigh on a thousand years have passed since the Lords of the West sent their power against Angband; and those days are forgotten, or wrapped in dim legend among Men of Middle-earth. They are troubled again, and fear haunts them. I desire greatly to consult with you, to give account of my deeds, and my thought concerning what should be done.’

Aldarion has a long-standing relationship with Gil-galad and the peoples of Eriador by this point, and we know from the timeline that Sauron would begin to stir in Middle-earth starting around SA 500, well before Aldarion’s set foot on Middle-earth. There were likely conflicts and even wars being fought in Eriador. Aldarion was far from the conflicts increasing in severity of the people he had no doubt come to care for, and the ever-present threat of the Shadow consuming them, would no doubt cause worry for Aldarion. The peace-time demands of Númenor would pale by comparison.

Erendis causing Aldarion’s Sea-longing

Another possible interpretation is that Erendis’ own fear about Aldarion’s love for the Sea would began to reveal to Aldarion her own true feelings about the Sea and his work.
Sometime after Ancalimë’s birth, two things happened. Erendis began to fear the power of the Sea on Aldarion’s heart and Aldarion began to dabble again in ship building. But which came first: Aldarion returning to ship building, or Erendis’ own fear that Aldarion would soon leave again? In the course of the narrative, it would seem Erendis’ fear came first.

For in secret she still feared the Sea and its power upon his heart; and though she strove to hide it, and would talk with him of his old ventures and of his hopes and designs, she watched jealously if he went to his house-ship or was much with the Venturers.

Up until their marriage, there may have been few signs to Aldarion of the depth of Erendis’ dislike of the Sea, or he may have ignored them, instead focusing on their common passions. After their marriage, Erendis’ anxiety about Aldarion’s possible interruption of their ‘Days of the Children’ may have caused her to increasingly reveal a hatred and incompatability with Lady Uinen, in turn strenghtening Aldarion’s Sea-longing. His ship building in this sense could be seen as a retreat into comfort, eventually leading him to succumb into his Sea-longing.
Erendis’ dislike of Lady Uinen could also be seen as a betrayal in Aldarion’s mind of the shared harmony they had from their first encounter when she brought the Bough of Return to Aldarion in 816. Afterwards, they of both of Lady Uinen and Lord Oromë dwealt in harmony for many years from Aldarion’s perspective, with Aldarion happily planting seeds with Erendis, and Erendis taking voyages with Aldarion.
When Erendis revealed that she actually shared more with Meneldur in condemning his love for Lady Uinen, and that their hopes were not in fact compatable, Aldarion was soon driven back into her arms.

Hi Gentlemen & Ladies,
I(28) got married to my wife(33) last year who is 5 years elder to me.I I am gradually loosing my self esteem and suffering from low confidence & inadequecy. I am somewhat introvert and secretly resent her for her actions. I am confused about her action if it is normal or abnormal. She says it is normal in every relationship.
Following actions (Is these normal in marraige?):-

• She complain about me to one of her close friend and speak loudly so that I can hear as well. E.g How I don't give her enough money to shop etc. When I ask her she says her friend also complain about her husband and is normal among girls to do.
• She complains to her mother and brothers during conference about me unnecessarily like how I don't give her this & that.
• She starts telling my insecurities during the fight which I have shared with her earlier. She only initiate fight and always have reason to fight and blames me that due to my some action/inactions she did that.
• She is not earning and I have been paying for house maid and washerwomen since last 2 years but when I ask if she will pay if I stop earning (hypothetical ), she says she will take care of her and her child(Don't have one yet) and not me.
• We stay in other town and when I ask her to visit to my parents my home only one time in a year, she strart highlighting how my parents are poor and not cultured and she can't tolerate them. Mind it she stayed for only 2 days at my ancestral home after marraige and then we left.
• She highlights that I am useless and not worthy, how I lack this & that during the fight even though I am paying for everything her clother, study, food, travel etc but in normal days she act normal.
• She used to compare me to her brother , how they treat their wife with gifts and jwellery while I don't? How her brother is so smart & capable.(Her brother is of my age).
• She complain about my mother & sister even though they have never said anything bad about her behind her back. She has not met my sister after marraige and does not talk to my sister but she keep telling me how they(mom&sis) must be plotting against her.
• I don't have any say over her and when I try to stop her from doing something which is making me uncomfortable, she starts spewing hate against me & my family.
• She become cold whenever someone visit from her extended family and priortise them. She try to avoid me. (e.g during dinner food serve she asked everyone(3-4 guest member) but not me about my requirment)
• I tries to tell about my discomfort but she laughs on it and says I am taking things seriously and suggest me to grow up.
• After the first night of marraige, she shared to me that she want to control me. (It's our love marraige)
• She discard my opinion and claims how she knows the better way.
• She even complain about me to my mother and when I ask why you are doing? She says to act cute before my mother. (I have already told my mother how she lies)

So couple who fights, please tell me is this normal in fight. How do you people fight, like conversation and contents in fight?
P.S - I am relatively weaker family than her in the terms of social status. I have worked hard for everything in my life to be where I am but she makes me feel like I am useless. Am I a emotional person?
tl;dr - I(28) male, my wife(34) female , has been married since one year and was in live-in relationship since 1 year. She becomes personal during fight and mocks me, also highlights my flaws and insecurities. She disprepsect me and my family during fight. Is this normal among couples fight? When I tell to avoid saying these, she tell me its normal amoung couple and I am being emotional. Please suggest is this normal? How you people fight and do you all hurt and disrespect your spouse?. Thanks!!

Hi Gentlemen & Ladies,
I(28) got married to my wife(33) last year who is 5 years elder to me.I I am gradually loosing my self esteem and suffering from low confidence & inadequecy. I am somewhat introvert and secretly resent her for her actions. I am confused about her action if it is normal or abnormal. She says it is normal in every relationship.
Following actions (Is these normal in marraige?):-

• She complain about me to one of her close friend and speak loudly so that I can hear as well. E.g How I don't give her enough money to shop etc. When I ask her she says her friend also complain about her husband and is normal among girls to do.
• She complains to her mother and brothers during conference about me unnecessarily like how I don't give her this & that.
• She starts telling my insecurities during the fight which I have shared with her earlier. She only initiate fight and always have reason to fight and blames me that due to my some action/inactions she did that.
• She is not earning and I have been paying for house maid and washerwomen since last 2 years but when I ask if she will pay if I stop earning (hypothetical ), she says she will take care of her and her child(Don't have one yet) and not me.
• We stay in other town and when I ask her to visit to my parents my home only one time in a year, she strart highlighting how my parents are poor and not cultured and she can't tolerate them. Mind it she stayed for only 2 days at my ancestral home after marraige and then we left.
• She highlights that I am useless and not worthy, how I lack this & that during the fight even though I am paying for everything her clother, study, food, travel etc but in normal days she act normal.
• She used to compare me to her brother , how they treat their wife with gifts and jwellery while I don't? How her brother is so smart & capable.(Her brother is of my age).
• She complain about my mother & sister even though they have never said anything bad about her behind her back. She has not met my sister after marraige and does not talk to my sister but she keep telling me how they(mom&sis) must be plotting against her.
• I don't have any say over her and when I try to stop her from doing something which is making me uncomfortable, she starts spewing hate against me & my family.
• She become cold whenever someone visit from her extended family and priortise them. She try to avoid me. (e.g during dinner food serve she asked everyone(3-4 guest member) but not me about my requirment)
• I tries to tell about my discomfort but she laughs on it and says I am taking things seriously and suggest me to grow up.
• After the first night of marraige, she shared to me that she want to control me. (It's our love marraige)
• She discard my opinion and claims how she knows the better way.
• She even complain about me to my mother and when I ask why you are doing? She says to act cute before my mother. (I have already told my mother how she lies)

So couple who fights, please tell me is this normal in fight. How do you people fight, like conversation and contents in fight?
P.S - I am relatively weaker family than her in the terms of social status. I have worked hard for everything in my life to be where I am but she makes me feel like I am useless. Am I a emotional person?

M51, F48, My Dday was 17 years ago, nov 2007. A single, non emotional chance encounter nearly destroyed my life. It was my choice, and I make no excuses. We reconciled and moved on.
But, did we?
I look around at what others have. Love, happiness, friendship with their spouses. Reddit and Facebook can be so damaging to your mind sometimes. I imagined i had these things, or at least I thought i did. Various emotional events have happened to me this and last week. I have met people here who have come to mean a lot to me. Maybe too much, and in ways that i did not expect or intend. Those folks forced me to look inward and outward at my life. It's been hard.
The other day, my wife and I were talking, and she made a comment that she figures I cheated more than once, but she never caught me. At that instant, I knew I had failed. Both in R and has a husband. In a flash, in that instant, i recalled that I can't remember the last time my wife said she loves me, although I tell her that same thing often. I thought about all the things I could have done. Or should have done better. I don't blame her. She feels what she feels.
Should I have left all those years ago? Maybe. Was I even up to the task of real reconciliation, then? I really don't know. My guess is no.
I am not the same man that I was when we married in 2002. I am not the same man that I was in 2007 when i cheated. I was 35 then, very much like Emperor Cuzco from the "Emperors New Groove" (my favorite movie). now I am almost 52. Older but wiser. I understand what love is a lot better. Emotions are more intense for me now than ever before. Apart from losing a child, for me anyway, to be in love with someone who does not love us back is the worst possible feeling imaginable. How much worse when the focus of that love betrays us. I can't even imagine that.
Reconciliation is hard. It's so easy to rug sweep. Especially if you have a partner who is loving and forgiving. They can become umwitting participants in that very act. But, rug sweeping only delays the inevitable. Eventually, you become roommates. That is a kind of living death, but we don't see that immediately. Eventually, you have to pull up the rug and vacuum what's underneath.
I am vacuuming my garbage now. Money, possessions, they mean nothing if you don't have love and someone to share your thoughts with. Someone to connect fully with. There is no joy in being the emperor without an empress to share it with. I don't know what to do anymore. You can't turn back time. You can't bring back the dead.
Reconciliation must be total. You must feel it in your core. You can't do it partially. It takes 100 percent effort every day. For how long? Who knows. If you don't have the courage to do this, then walk away. Don't keep your partner as a hostage. Read, read a lot. Then, apply those teachings fully.
This is, and someone else special to me, is what I was thinking about this morning, as the rain slowly falls.

In episode "high anxiety" or known as just simply part 2 Debbie death saga, Sherrif Mumford is called along with other sheriffs of the law obviously retaining to Debbie being found dead in a dumpster. It is also said that Peggie would later be responsible for calling Texas Ranger Lester Payton, Lester would later go on to solve the case. Of course Texas Rangers are known for solving cases of murder, corruption, and grand theft along with other means of investigations, however they are often called in mostly by Municipal Police Departments, and Sheriffs Department, or state prosecutors when collecting and verifying means of evidence.
While a Texas Ranger could've gotten involved if Peggy didn't call, the jurisdiction of the rangers acompasses all of Texas; I would imagine with that big of a territory, there are various cases that simply do not get picked up and are left to local and county law enforcement; a high chance of simply no involvement by the Texas rangers. After all, Sheriffs have county wide jurisdictions; so Sherrif Mumford of Hemlich county remarking of already "Solving the case" by arresting Debbies roommate Gale, would've left the Texas rangers to focus attention to a different case; after all Texas Rangers are usually called in when a case gets cold or unsolved.
With this in mind, Sherrif Mumford was suspicious of Hank but eventually stopped after coming to the realization of Hanks character and more suspicion driven to Gale due to his history of drug usage. Later on Hank would confess professing gales innocence with his Alibi being true of Hank and him were smoking pot together around that time, the Sherrif then drives his suspicion to Buck or Miz Liz; Buck denies this and tries to blame Hank much to the Sherrifs disagreement, then Buck would confess on the basis of the blame taking away from Miz Liz onto himself for which the Sherrif was about to arrest him until interrupted so by Texas Ranger Lester Payton.
If the Texas Ranger wasn't called, he wouldn't have been involved in the case and its doubtful that Sherrif Mumford would've brought a Texas Ranger in on the case. Without him, Buck or Hank likely goes to prison; most likely Buck given the blame was on him by the Sherrif. The case could likely be reviewed and picked up after a sentence is given to presumably buck, although its possible Buck once in Jail could've denied and profess his innocence; its possible that Sherrif could've inserted pressure on Buck to plead guilty or else he (The Sherrif) would assert pressure as Miz Liz being the product of a "Jealous soon to be ex wife, murdered her soon to be ex husbands mistress in order to get revenge for ruining her marriage" Buck would surely plead guilty if it meant to protect her, evidence by him going as far as to frame Hank for murder despite Hank being a longtime Employee. This could also be used in court as well, citing Buck as "interfering with an Official investigation".
The Get in Get out video tape of Debbie could've likely been simply overlooked of Debbie buying snacks at the same time as Buck being at Suger Foots (Thus giving him an Alibi). As it is likely that the Texas Ranger came to that conclusion based on what was found in the dumpster and put two and two together to check the local convenience store across the street for which is easy for a Sherrif to overlook if they already "have a person of interest", its possible for the case to be reinvestigated after some time of Buck being in Prison although difficult to say for certain if the local Mini-Mart would keep video surveillance tapes from the early 2000s instead of simply destroying and reusing the tapes after sometime; after all this is before the days of 24/7 surveillance. As well as, the snack food that was found in the dumpster linking Debbie to the Get In Get Out would've been long gone by then.

Looking to chat with couples where the husband/bf would like me to cuck him by chatting with her wife/gf/fiance and telling how I would use and fill her holes whilst her cuck partner watches and does nothing all the time!
This could be set up with a groupchat consisting the three of us. Whilst I haven't thought through how'd I wanna approach this, I was however thinking of a scenario where you add me and I instantly start flirting with your wife/gf/fiance right in front of you and basically ignore you untill I'm telling your wife how I wanna use her in front of her husband.
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My wife and I struggled with infertility, due to having her fallopian tubes removed (unbeknownst to me) before we tied the knot. This has led to many arguments and even more trust issues.
She had been pressuring me to do IVF. I want children with every ounce of my being, but I’m not willing to go outside of the Church’s teachings to accomplish that. I told her that once our relationship was in a better place, I would be open to adoption. I told her Monday that there was no wiggle room on this.
Two days later she packs me a suitcase, hangs up photos of her ex husband, and makes a statement to the courts that I am abusing her. Due to the nature of the allegations, and the nature of my work, I am not permitted to go home, have contact with her, or go to work.
I’ve been taking that time to throw myself into prayer, and taking spiritual direction from my priest. One thing that was brought up to me by my support team is that I stood up for my religious convictions, and now I'm being wrongfully charged because of it. While I wouldn't consider myself as enduring martyrdom by any means, that definitely helped shift my perspective. I'm putting it all in His hands, and I can't do any more than pray.

I’ve been married for almost 4 years. Things have always been rocky. I married quick because there was pressure from my family and realized soon after marriage that my husband M (32) and I F (27) don’t have much in common. We were raised in very different households, the women in his family are very dependent and don’t hold many opinions while growing up it was the complete opposite for me. His family is a lot more simple in many aspects such as how they celebrate, clothing, how they use their money and even vacations. My husbands father lived abroad for work so the environment in their house has always been different from a typical family. I see how greatly this has impacted my husband, to give context their family never sits and has food together everyone would eat at the same time but in their rooms watching something on their laptops. Whereas in my family we would sit together and eat. This impacted my husband because getting him to eat without watching something is close to impossible and sometimes even asking him to come eat with me is a difficult task. In no way am I trying to say my family is better than his it’s just very different. My husband being the only man in the house became very dominant at a young age, his mom always puts men on a higher pedestal and she practically gave him this power . He uses this dominance on me all the time, sometimes I feel he is more my father than my husband. Our personalities are also very different, he is obsessed with watching TV. So much so that it comes in between our relationship, he doesn’t like to talk much and is not an emotional person. I feel we are just living our roles and there is nothing more. At times he is very rude to me as well and I feel he has some narcissistic personality traits. Something or the other always ticks him off. Before we got married he portrayed a completely different picture of himself. I am in a very difficult situation as we have a 2 year old daughter. Another thing to mention is that my MIL is becoming more and more of a problem. My husband is her star child and I think she is scared that I’m “stealing” him, she always uses guilt to get him to do what she wants. One of the main reasons that’s holding me back is I see the innocence in him, he is innocent in the fact that he is not doing these things to hurt me it is just how he was raised and I do see the good in him. Being a people pleaser I gave alot of my power up in the beginning of our relationship. I feel like I actually gave up my entire personality so I can fit the type of wife he needs. I have a very carefree/ loud personality and my husband is very nit picky and quiet. He has privately told me many times not to talk so loud or not act a certain way. I feel this is another big reason why my husband is able to be dominant over me, I want advice on how to gain this power and respect back in our marriage as I think this will solve alot of problems.

I’ve (35f) been in contact with my biological father for about 8 years. In that time we’ve developed a nice relationship. He and his wife and their child visit us once or twice a year and I usually visit them once a year too.
Problem is that their child (Nina, 19f) very clearly doesn’t like me, and for sure doesn’t like my three toddlers. Nina has autism, which is the excuse she and her parents use when she’s rude to me and my kids.
Every time we get together Nina finds a way to ruin it. Some examples of this over the years are: she refused to sit at the table at an (outdoor, beach from fish shack) restaurant with my newborn because she wasn’t wearing shoes and she flipped the table when she was asked to calm down. She made her mom and dad change tables and left me and my kids alone during a Christmas meal because my kids had food on their face. She screamed at my in-laws family to GETVTHE FUCK AWAY FROM HER at my sons birthday party in my back yard even though I set up a quiet, private space for her inside. She pushed my husband hard in the chest when he sneezed loudly. She forced my dad to leave his trip early because she didn’t like the smell of my flowers in my yard… it goes on and on. While I recognize that she is neurodiverse, it’s clear to all of the outsiders looking in that it’s manipulation at its finest. She has lived in dorms for two year without a single issue but can’t handle flowers growing OUTSIDE my house? Suspicious.
The latest development which has me questioning my relationship with his entire family is that my dad and his wife were set to come up here for my oldest son’s 4th birthday party this weekend. My son was so excited. It’s been 11 months since we saw them last, and they were driving and going to be here for one night. Nina was home from college, and meant to stay back with their dog. So on Sunday, (6 days before their trip) I get a call that they will have to cancel as Nina has threatened to kill herself if they visit me. My dad said that the transition from college is “just too much” for Nina even though this isn’t the first summer, and she comes home without issue every weekend and every holiday all year round. This proves to me that Nina’s issue is with me, not with the transition.
My father can’t or doesn’t want to see the obvious manipulation. As soon as he canceled his trip Nina’s “transition” went back to being totally fine. I asked daily for updates and he reported she was doing great, things are calm, everyone’s happy…..
Everyone except me and my kids, who are actually really upset, disappointed and mad. My dad let me know that he’s still taking time off this weekend but not to visit his grandkids, instead to take Nina to an amusement park she wanted to try out.
This pissed me off even worse. I love having my bio dad in my life and my kids love him too, but when he clearly chooses Nina over them time and time and time again, (trust me, it happens often and these were just a few examples) and it goes from disappointing just me to disappointing my toddlers, it makes me wonder if I even want to continue a relationship with him at all…….
What would you do?

So, this is a long one:
The story begins about 4 months ago, as me M33 and GF 32 were preparing the christening of our baby boy, of almost a year old(We'd postponed due to me being away working a military contract for 6 months).
In the weeks leading up to the event, my GF started hearing from her younger half brother, 15. Her parents divorced when my GF was young. Dad had another child with his new wife. Despite my GF being 18 years older, shes is very close to her brother.
Which was a bit out of the ordinary, as that family are basically recluses, and dont reach out for anything. My GF will almost have to force the issue of a visit whenever we travel down to their parts.
We could tell he was building up to something. but stopped each time before actually telling her whats up. The week before the christening his mother called my GF amd told her that her brother had expressed a sincere desire to end his own life, The following week, a whole bunch of family, including my GF's dad, his wife and my GF's half brother traveled to our part of the country to attend our sons event. and this is where things really kicked off.
The Dads wife, who I will refer to as NB from here on out had gone completely off the rails. She would pester my gf, me. and anyone who'd listen in the immediate vicinity about her son.
What's the issue with that? you may be thinking, shes distraught about her son? two issues:

1. She'd do it while her son was in earshot.
   
2. I always suspected her to be a narcissist, and not in the way bitter chicks describe everyone of their exes, I do mean a full blown narcissist. This was more or less confirmed in the WAY she was speaking about the issue.
   

She would only talk about how this affected HER, how good of a mom she had been, and it couldnt possibly be anything she'd done. This got worse over the next days and weeks. She started this days before they came up, over the phone to my GF.
During the days right before and after, we had little bro live with us at our apartment, so he could have a break from his parents, and talk to some other adults about what was going on. We had long talks with him, both together and me and him seperately(man to man). It turns out he's been bullied severely over quite some time, and there is something else that in addition happened to him which he refused to tell, and is stil l refusing to. He also had no friends remaining, and has been more or less isolated at school. Grades slipping, and at home he has a mother who refused to aknowledge that her son is struggling, let alone lift a finger to help him. His dad is just whipped into submission and cant or wont do or say anything.
Now, and important part of the story, is that my GF work for the government specifically dealing with childrens rights, specifically in the school system. Her org has the final say on whether or not any given school has allocated enough resources to a struggling child or not. They also have the power to force the issue if the school board/management is dragging their feet, or have exuses as she likes to put it.
This is the reason why NB contacted my GF on this issue, as she has considerable expertise in the area.
TLDR so far: GF's brother needs help, My GF can help due to her job, We decide to:
The day after our sons christening, we met with little bro's parents and extended family. Both me and my GF took leaves of absence from work, booked flights and traveled down to her mom and stayed there for weeks.
We had little bro stay with us there for the first week. During this my GF involved her self with the school, her brothers specialists and got the necessary balls and offices rolling. Basically taken over the entire process of getting her brother help with the school, getting more resources allocated to helo him. Had him see a team of psychologists that specializes on kids in his situation on a weekly basis. This was all necessary due to the fact that the parents had done nothing. I would take the kid out to the gym, hiking, climbing and talk to him. All in an effort to give him an arena of mastery and personal control.
The second week, we stayed at NB's house in order to be closer to his shcool as my GF where attending some meetings with both management and the bureaucratic level above(her colleges from that the country). I stayed at home, and really got a good look at the family dynamics that house. We've visited before for a day or two before on several occasions and witnessed some controlling and down right bizarre behavior from NB in the past, but always chaulked it up to her being a bit of an eccentric and about as smart as a boiled pea. However, what we witnessed this time was someone gone completely off the rails, shed scream at her husband in front of me and my son, hurl accusations of him being unfaithful and even him SAing his son, me and the GF supposedly plotting with family members on her side, who we've never actually met, tot ale her son from her, and a whole lot other nonsense. Dad being whipped into oblivion, stood there and took it, saying nothing.
We left the house, took little bro with us, and stayed with GFs mom the next 11 days. We drafted a message to childrens services in conjunction with other members of extended family who had witnessed NBs behavior during the christening.
During this entire process my GF was stressed out with concern with her brother, and having to talk to that sociopath dayly didn't help either, as she was subtly and gradually being eaten up NB. We talked many times about it. I reminded her time and time again not to take anything NB said at face value. My MIL did the same, every day. We reminded her that she'd done all she could for her brother and now she needed to drop it and let the experts sort it out. Shortly after we went back home,.but my GF was still trapped in her own head with thoughts about her brother,.NB and her brothers supposed SA. It got worse and worse, despite me, close friends and colleagues talking with her, she refused to listen and let the experts handle it. I talked to childrens services a few weeks later and confirmed that they'd started an investigation. I relayed this to GF and payed for another session with a shrink for her. She would come out of the session feeling better, more calm and accepting, only to dive head long into her brothers case as soon as she came home.
I finally told her that enough is enough, you are neglecting your own son. You have been told hundreds of times at this point to take a step back and let the professionals handle this. Your son is crying at your feet while you are on your computer or phone with this thing.
She looked down at her crying son, and I thought se finally realized what she was doing. We had a talk about it and things seemed to better for a week or so, then I had to leave for a military exercise for about 4 days. I thought she was good, and none of her friends or colleges gad reach olled out to me and told me anything about her involving herself again (as they and me had agreed to).
When I got home the following week, I came home to a house in a state of chaos, dishes overflowing, clothes everywhere, laundry hamper full and a son who hadn't bathed in 3 days.
I again sent her to a shrink, and a few close friends helped by talking to her about her priorities, reminding her about her son, and that the professionals where handling little bros situation. She seem to accept this again, except I found her several times sitting on her phone or computer in the middle of the night. The following days she stopped eating, she stopped sleeping, and started showing signs of manic behavior, such as staying in our bedroom in the middle of the day, masturbating 14 times(all in a bid to try to satisfy a growing need for control of just something)And the following Sunday I had no choice to have her admitted.
She is at the facility now, she's going to be there for a long time, and I can't visit her without her relapsing back into trying to talk about, or having me do something about her brother. She doesn't even notice her boy when she's like that.
Now here I am, alone in our apartment with my boy, having lost my security clearance over this thing, my contract is up for renewal, but without the clearance they pulled three offers. I am now unemployed, can't continue my side business due to the hours as a single father without daycare options at the moment. I am officially on sick leave due to this, Wich should keep us a float in the short term.
But I have essentially lost my family, two careers and almost my sanity over my significant others complete inability to just fucking listen for once. She was told hundreds of times to lay off, she was warnes hundreds of times to not let NB eat her up. She was told hundreds of times to remember her own family in this. She was warned dosuins of times of the likely consequences for both our careers, and our son's future if she let herself slip over the edge.
Despite this, she constructed a reality for herself in which her, and only her could save her brother. She neglected her own child, her own well being and her own career in this fantasy of hers, despite being warned to not do exactly that, by no less than 6 different people, and two professionals.
I'm devastated, my son doesent understand why mom isn't here, and is crying himself to sleep every other night. And I can't help but feel resentful towards my GF.
What the fuck do I do now?

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I’m so exhausted with the slut shaming by Christian men. Men can sleep with whoever they want and then turn around and shame you for being wild? It’s truly truly exhausting. They can be as wild as they want, but you’re “unworthy” or not “wife material” if you are. It’s infuriating. I’m also exhausted trying to “fit in” or be a “proper Christian” in order to get a date. Like unless your politics/theology etc perfect line up with the church you are at (if you’re a critical thinker you likely will NEVER fully align somewhere because life/thought/worldview comes with nuance), then most of the men don’t want you. I’m getting older (29f). Have I just wasted my 20s hoping these Christian men will want me? Christians AND non Christians please advise. #sexism #christian men
Oh also, here’s where I’m coming from with how bad the sexism is in some of these young adult groups 1) the pastor said that if your husband wants you to make him a sandwich you ought to (not in jest, he was talking about submission) 2) a man told me that I didn’t win a game bc I obviously don’t think strategically and that it happened by chance. When I pushed back, he said, maybe you do, but my girlfriend would NEVER think strategically 3) athletic women are CONSTANTLY put down. I was training one of my guy friends in soccer because I played all my life. And they said “why the heck would you have HER train you”
It’s just…. It’s so exhausting. I know not all church groups are this bad, but I’ve been bouncing around to different ones for YEARS now…. Christians and non Christians please advise.