Hi guys, I am not a memebr of this sub, so please excuse me if I make any faux pas.
I have a map made by the Royal Engineers, Field Survey Company part of the army of Great Britain working out of Cairo during WWII. In fact it is from this collection: https://nla.gov.au/nla.obj-3007222957/view
If I wished to georeference it, how would I go about that in Google Earth? I am asking because I have waypoints marked on a map drawn in the 1980s, based on the Chora Sfakion sheet of this collection and I would like to find these points on the surface.
I use Ozi Exporer, and could probably georeference it by matching the trig points or mountain peaks, but I don't know what geodesic model of the earth I should be matching to. Obviously the map is not WGS 84, and I am not even sure if it is UTM. Would anyone know?

Hey,
(full disclosure I am pro-Israel but all opinions are welcome)
I know you cannot be objective but truly no other sub or person can on this case.
I'm tuned into the ICJ proceedings too, and I find myself nodding along with the Israeli representative. But like you, I'm not a legal eagle.
If anyone out there has dived deep into the world of laws, I'd love to hear your take.
From what I gather, the Israeli stance seems to be more about, "Here are the facts, this is the law, and while it might not be ideal, we're following it
On the flip side, South Africa seems to be taking a more nuanced approach, citing specific statements from Israeli officials and trying to discern intentions. It's like they're saying, "Sure, they might not be breaking laws outright, but their motives raise some serious questions."
Now, I'm not wearing blinders here. It feels like the ICJ might have made up its mind before the opening statements, regardless of which side they lean toward.
But can anyone give me a legal tunnel vision in layman's terms of how he thinks each side presented itself?

Since I began contributing to this sub, I've noticed that almost all sheets, even the ones with a lot of data and complexity, aren't very readable. This is not unexpected, though … most people working with sheets are not graphic designers or user experience experts.
Though I too am neither of these things, I have worked on front ends on several projects and worked with some world-class UX folks, so I've picked up some tips along the way. I thought it would be helpful to describe my approach to formatting sheets to give an example of the kind of things that can help make data more easily readable. The idea is not that everyone should format sheets the exact way I do, but rather focus on the more general principles that don't even occur to most people.
Here's a new sheet with some fake data and minimal formatting.
Default formatting
The only formatting that's been done here is bolding the header row, applying default number format to the GPA column, and some column width tweaks. Not so great.
Before I start focusing on eye candy, the first thing I would do to a sheet like this is normalize the data itself. I would put different data in different columns. Specifically, I would split first and last names into different columns. An easy way to do this is select the column and go to Data > Split text to columns. Then, the last names need to be changed from upper case. To do this, insert a column right, then use the formula in C2: =PROPER(B2) and copy it down the column, select those properly formatted values and copy, paste special, values only over B2:B, and then delete the C column with the formulas.
The next thing is to make the column headers as terse as possible. It's preferable to use an abbreviation and move the full explanation into a note attached to that column heading. Also, I would not use initial caps on every word, it's not a title, it's just a heading. Finally, set the significant digits on numerical data. For the GPA, we're only tracking to one decimal point, so get rid of the second one.
Here's where we're at so far after fitting column widths to data:
After normalizing data
Now we can start on the eye candy.
I follow the Tufte school of table design, which means less is more.
First step is to get rid of all lines, colors, and text formatting (bold, italics, etc), and only add back formatting that actually makes the data more readable. This means turn off gridlines, no bolded headers. To make the data easier to follow, increase the font size one or two steps of the headers, and add back faint horizontal lines.
Next step is to align headers with data. Since numerical data is right-aligned, the headers for those cols should match. Also, all data on the sheet should be top-aligned except for headers, which are bottom-aligned. Also, let long headers wrap.
Give the tab a meaningful name. Keep it terse, there's no need for words like "info", "data", etc. Just say what's on that tab.
Finally, freeze header row and name columns (this makes the table easier to navigate on small screens, like mobile). Get rid of excess rows and cols. It can make sense to keep a handful of spare rows at the bottom, but once you have the basic sheet laid out there's not really a good reason to keep any excess cols to the right. When new columns are needed, you'll almost always be inserting them based on a current column's format anyway, so you won't generally want to just use a spare one off to the right. (if you didn't know, inserting a col left or right inserts it with the formatting of the col it's based on.)
Here's where we're at (I renamed the EC col and dropped its note):
Cleaner format
Now it's a good idea to go through the cols and apply explicit formatting. Set text cols to text, numbers to numbers, etc.
Add more formatting on the data. Change places to smart chips instead of just using state codes. Use people smart chips if possible as well. Change cols with limited values to dropdowns (Gender, Class). Do data validation on cols (GPA must be between 0 and 4 and Class rank must be greater than or equal to 1).
If there's a way to limit the values in extracurriculars, bring in another tab with all legal values and limit the values in that col as well. This will help normalize all of the data so that you won't see different ways of representing the same data ("Track & field", "Track and Field", etc.).
Finally, here's where we end up:
Final formatted sheet
This is a far more readable and information-rich sheet than where we started, and the data it contains is far more constrained so that any inconsistencies or irregularities will be marked with an error. This can now serve as a solid base on which to start building more advanced functionality. For instance, we could add a col at the far right and get the Google Maps URL for the home state if we wanted to by putting in I2: =H2.url. If these students had accounts in the same Google Workspace domain and they were representable using People smart chips, we may be able to extract a lot of information in the other cols that way.
Again, this isn't the end-all be-all for formatting, if you read Tufte's advice on representing richer data sets you'll find a lot more advice for formatting much more complex data and keeping it readable. But I hope this convinces some folks that even fairly simple sheets can benefit a lot by avoiding approaches that draw more attention to formatting than the data itself.

We have this post on weekly basis. It could be this is actually a daily post.
I feel you, I have met even Londoners (born and bred here) complaining that after Uni their friend’s circle got weird and they also struggle to meet people.
I have also seen posts offering resources (like /LondonSocialClub).
Here is a different perspective on what has worked for me as an immigrant (with a very visible ethnicity) living here for 5+ years, that somehow has overcame the loneliness feeling.
To get in touch with any city, but specifically London, you need to understand its demography and its map. London is cleverly designed and divided on Boroughs. Each Borough has its very unique vibe and resources.
Depending on what type of building you live in, you will also have a “State” or the usual neighbours on left/right/backyard sides of your place. This may seem a very silly comment but you should start with the basics.
Start with the basics.
Do you know your neighbours? Not by name, but have you said hi? Do you know is there is an old lady or a disabled individual that may benefit from your help? Perhaps a single mum?
Do you know who administers your state? Where is your council’s town hall? Have you checked if they have activities?
Something very unique about London (my opinion of course) is how each Borough / Building is a micro cosmos itself and if you do not make efforts to understand it, you are out.
My very first exercise to improve this was opening Google Maps and literally walking 10 mins around my block and checking each specific business, even if I would never purchase from them.
Then, if you like coffee - just as an example - go support your local shop. Your local pub. Your local grocery shop. Yes you can grab Starbucks or Tescos too, but that corner shop around your block? Go there. Start a chat. They will recognise your face at some point and ask questions, where are you from? why are you in London?
The quick chats with your local shop owners will add well-being to your mental health, I swear.
This - dear /London, is how you start to feel in connection of your little community and then - to make friends. To feel like you belong somewhere.
Other key places to meet your local community.
1) Churches - London opened arms to many faiths, go reconnect with it even if you stopped going for years, they will always be happy to receive you back
2) Public libraries - they have reliable Wifi, books, DVDs and sometimes local events, check for book clubs.
3) Town Halls and local Museums - usually Boroughs have activities for all ages and some old buildings restored as museums with workshops / exhibits. Sign up for their newsletters.
4) Volunteer work - incredible way to meet people and helping.
5) Pubs with shows and quiz nights. I swear you can go there and have 1 pint only (pro tip, order Lucky Saint if you don’t like alcohol) and stay there for hours. Don’t go to random pubs. Search the ones that offer live shows or quizzes about things you like. Example- if you like drag queens, go to a drag queen quiz night. Many groups will be delighted to make space for an additional player.
6) This requires budget but - memberships of any sort. Gym, museums, Barbican, social clubs. If you go frequently to a place, it is the same logic over and over, people recognise you or of you recognise someone, saying “hello” is 100% socially acceptable.
All of the advice above requires effort. Of course. But how would you expect to fit in without any efforts?!
Adulthood is tricky because now you cannot rely on school to make friends and suddenly the “work culture” (that was always dodgy) got worse than ever after the pandemic.
London has so much to offer if you are keen on understanding its dynamics. There is no recipe for success here but hope the advice above helps someone!

I've always been the definition of "Lose Lane, Win Game". I just copy T1, what can I say.
With the new patch, at 2 or 3 items, I feel useful. Still all the weaknesses of ADC (Oneshot/Positioning/Peel/etc), but like I'm relevant to the game, not a minion until full build.
The issue is that I can't fucking win lane.
I was always, I dunno, sub-50% lane winrate, but ~50% +/-1% game winrate; but as of this split, I don't think I've won a single lane yet. I don't get it.
I used to occasionally leave lane super fed, mostly even, or sometimes hard lost. Now, it's always "Kinda behind or Good god that bot canyon", and if my team can hold, we win at 35-40 minutes.
Is it just new split smurfs, or rank resets? Like I get smashed every lane, and if the game goes on long enough and I'm useful, then we win.
I've been seeing past-season ranks of potentially Emerald or even Diamond (I peaked P2 last season, and P3 last split), so alongside all the "I'll just go on my other smurf that's higher than all your mains", I'm starting to think to might just be new-split problems.
A friend I sometimes duo with said I was all macro, or more specifically "Improve your mechanics; you're good with Itemisation, waves, rotates, map awareness etc.".
Dunno. Think just might just be shit.

Shhhhh, calm down, stop extrapolating. It's okay. I'm still here for you - the moment I know the real you wants me to be.
I feel it might not just be myself, facing storms. I've been tracking my demon, that shell-of-a-man you helped me discover lay within me. I'm starting to corner him, have him understood, figured out. (Thank you again for helping me to see him, and helping to remember Me. One way or another, you always do that. Knowing you is always a Light for me; even when it's just knowing of you, like I said with the Stones. =3)
Yet I'm wondering about Her, too. Your possible demon, the one who tells you I don't care. Can you feel her, do you hear her? "Protecting" you, yet isolating you.
She snidely scoffs, weaves you a shell by telling you you're superior, better off - yet she keeps you cut off, keeps you to herself; traps you in her own web of Words, their resonance shelling you, hiding you even from the warm salve of comfort and reassurance that might've helped soothe core wounds. (If you don't trust me, ask me about the digital village of healers I've come across.)
Your demon tells you not to connect with people - that we're all only going to hurt you, when the truth is many of us have scars on our hearts and souls too. Even if you hate me, if you never speak to me again - that joy I felt thinking you hadn't given up on us, on people in general, had me relieved. I don't know if I'd've ever forgiven myself if what I was to you was that last chance you gave us. Maybe you were right; you needed someone Secure (or earned-Secure). I hadn't been, yet. Still am not, though a lot of times I feel it.
You don't have to if you don't want to. I won't presume to tell you what your happiness would look like, anymore. That was my prize mistake; we can never decide happiness for each other, nor assume ours map to others'. I'm sure I'll make it again with others someday - I keep getting excited when I think I'v'e it figured out; but the truth is I rarely if ever do. I make mistakes, repeat, iterate. I'm sure it's when I'd assert something patently false that you'd've seen me, maybe accepted me with a chuckle (or an inevitably adorable eyeroll) had you stuck around.
What you want, what you decide - that is up to you, but remember you don't have to leave it up to your Demon, either. You decide what your happiness is, not me, not her. The real you who decides to agree it's worth it to reach out to people; not the one who'd sooner leave herself up in the tower, itself a cage of her own design. I'm sorry I couldn't be the one you felt comfortable letting your guard down around; I'm so, so sorry I didn't take the time to hear you, listen to you, realize how important that moment was to you.
The fact that I hurt you so much hurts me, because the person you are, I love so much too. You did what I thought impossible; made me fall in love with lights, yours shining brighter than any fiber-optic signals. In this beautiful era, this age of the 'net, having found each other through such a wonderful revolutionary iconic technology - I'd still have wanted to revisit the others through the ages with you. Telegraph and ham radio. :3 (Oooo! The lab could have Nixie tubes! =D)
...But yes, part of me will always love you, though you may doubt me - I know the person you are. You showed me, in perhaps the most beautiful, vulnerable display; that deluge of honesty a welcome reprieve in a sea of superficial people barely able to muster ten words to describe themselves. You were just you, and the you-you-are is
I'd give anything to hear your true voice again, as I feel I hear when you're talking to The Void, when you think no one's listening. I'd be silent for days, weeks, just to let her talk. And someday, I'll figure out what she needed - a keyword of silence, a Void to talk into, home field language advantage - for her storms and mine to finally harmonize, and layer together.
You decided back then to just be yourself, your full self, and damn the consequences. (Even if the consequences were an inexperienced blue blob who scampers too loudly to listen, only learns mistakes after he's broken the vase, can't read caution tape...) And that you - that honest, vulnerable, caring, loving, warm, cold, ruthless, pragmatic, silly, caring woman? Ask me how I feel about her in person sometime; after you've convinced yourself I couldn't possibly have known you, loved you; and maybe then you'll believe me when I hold her close, and tell her how long I knew.
And I might never get to do that; but no matter what happens, Bee... I wish you all the happiness in the world.
I won't mark this "Strangers" [nb: I was gonna post to the UL sub] - I know you feel safer there, I know you know my established handles, way of speaking - but I don't think I could ever feel that way about you again.
Hopefully someday you feel we could at least be friends - I know any moment I spent around you I'd enjoy, even if it's just talking about silly fun mangas.
But to show you, I can be strangers too... If that's what you really want. :winks:
:eyes you, then Her, then you again pointedly:
I can't defeat your Demon for you; just as you couldn't've mine. The most I can do is give you the Weapons, my words and actions, to use against her when she starts telling you I don't care. But don't let her control you. It's okay. I'm here for you.
I don't care how many other people exist between me and you. That thing I built when we thought we'd lost each other? I'd build it again, and again, as many times as it takes. For as long as I believe you might still be that loving, caring, warm soul who dared to hope against herself that I care about you, don't worry. I'm here for you, and as long as I think I might know that about you I always will be.
You're safe. We found each other. As long as we care about each other, can be honest with each other, can be ourselves with each other someday. As long as I can remember to simmer down, to hear you. (I was hoping as long as you realize being yourself won't make me leave, just attract me more... :3)
And if you're the person I think you are, I think you might like me too. My well of optimism, my own cold ruthless Logician (whom you might've underestimated? =3 :scribbles proofs:) protecc'ing my own happy-dumb core. And so someday, if you need help fighting her, I'll reach out again too. Help you show her what I know and you want to believe.
...
:looks up:
We're a couple of silly ducks, aren't we. 😅
Miss you, as always. You should know that by now - but I know, you probably still think you don't really know me. (I'm the guy hoping the Data Points I'm shouting into the void are making it to the heart-seismograph in the locked room. Lol)
Miss y- (oh, loop! 😂 Though, that'd be a fun loop to be in. ❤️)

I have SNO on t470p laptop. Bare minimum, without any additional operators. Only "openshift hello world" app (httpd) installed.
Upgrades path:

• 4.9.17 -> 4.9.59 - ok
• 4.9.59 -> 4.10.67 - ok
• 4.10.67 -> 4.11.59 - ok (with small problem related to my DNS setup)
• 4.11.59 -> 4.12.56 - stuck

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$ oc get co NAME VERSION AVAILABLE PROGRESSING DEGRADED SINCE MESSAGE authentication 4.12.56 True False False 20h baremetal 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h cloud-controller-manager 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h cloud-credential 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h cluster-autoscaler 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h config-operator 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h console 4.12.56 True False True 20h SyncLoopRefreshDegraded: the server is currently unable to handle the request (get routes.route.openshift.io console) control-plane-machine-set 4.12.56 True False False 20h csi-snapshot-controller 4.12.56 True False False 20h dns 4.11.59 True False False 21h etcd 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h image-registry 4.12.56 True False False 20h ingress 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h insights 4.12.56 True False False 22h kube-apiserver 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h kube-controller-manager 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h kube-scheduler 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h kube-storage-version-migrator 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h machine-api 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h machine-approver 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h machine-config 4.11.59 True False False 21h marketplace 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h monitoring 4.12.56 True False False 20h network 4.11.59 True False False 6d18h node-tuning 4.12.56 True False False 20h openshift-apiserver 4.12.56 True False False 20h openshift-controller-manager 4.12.56 True False False 20h openshift-samples 4.12.56 True False False 20h operator-lifecycle-manager 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h operator-lifecycle-manager-catalog 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h operator-lifecycle-manager-packageserver 4.12.56 True False False 21h service-ca 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h storage 4.12.56 True False False 6d18h 

I found this solution but it doesn't work. Values keep coming back after deleting the pods.
https://access.redhat.com/solutions/6999944
This doesn't return values

$ oc get console.operator.openshift.io cluster -o json jq -r '.status.conditions[] select(.type test("^(DefaultCustom)RouteSync"))' $ 

This does

$ oc get console.operator.openshift.io cluster -o json jq -r '.status.conditions[] select(.type test(".*(DownloadsConsole)(DefaultCustom)RouteSync"))' { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T13:39:08Z", "status": "False", "type": "ConsoleCustomRouteSyncDegraded" } { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T13:39:08Z", "status": "False", "type": "ConsoleCustomRouteSyncProgressing" } { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T13:39:08Z", "status": "True", "type": "ConsoleCustomRouteSyncUpgradeable" } { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T13:39:08Z", "status": "False", "type": "ConsoleDefaultRouteSyncDegraded" } { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T13:39:08Z", "status": "False", "type": "ConsoleDefaultRouteSyncProgressing" } { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T13:39:08Z", "status": "True", "type": "ConsoleDefaultRouteSyncUpgradeable" } ... 

Tried this couple times

$ oc get console.operator.openshift.io cluster -o json jq -r '. del(.status.conditions[] select(.type test(".*(DownloadsConsole)(DefaultCustom)RouteSync")))' > consoles.json $ curl -H "Content-Type: application/json" -v -X PUT --data-binary @consoles.json http://127.0.0.1:8011/apis/operator.openshift.io/v1/consoles/clustestatus * Trying 127.0.0.1... * TCP_NODELAY set * Connected to 127.0.0.1 (127.0.0.1) port 8011 (#0) > PUT /apis/operator.openshift.io/v1/consoles/clustestatus HTTP/1.1 > Host: 127.0.0.1:8011 > User-Agent: curl/7.61.1 > Accept: */* > Content-Type: application/json > Content-Length: 7430 > Expect: 100-continue > < HTTP/1.1 100 Continue * We are completely uploaded and fine < HTTP/1.1 200 OK < Audit-Id: 1db7e2ab-2e79-4b2f-8ccf-39ebcf4164ce < Cache-Control: no-cache, private < Content-Type: application/json < Date: Fri, 17 May 2024 07:50:04 GMT < Strict-Transport-Security: max-age=31536000; includeSubDomains; preload < X-Kubernetes-Pf-Flowschema-Uid: 47cb076a-7aa9-473e-b1c0-4647d923cf18 < X-Kubernetes-Pf-Prioritylevel-Uid: 207ff776-5410-42ce-aa3e-d57b5d24bace < Transfer-Encoding: chunked < { "apiVersion": "operator.openshift.io/v1", "kind": "Console", "metadata": { "annotations": { "include.release.openshift.io/ibm-cloud-managed": "true", "include.release.openshift.io/self-managed-high-availability": "true", "include.release.openshift.io/single-node-developer": "true", "release.openshift.io/create-only": "true" }, "creationTimestamp": "2024-05-10T12:58:48Z", "generation": 1, "managedFields": [ { "apiVersion": "operator.openshift.io/v1", "fieldsType": "FieldsV1", "fieldsV1": { "f:metadata": { "f:annotations": { ".": {}, "f:include.release.openshift.io/ibm-cloud-managed": {}, "f:include.release.openshift.io/self-managed-high-availability": {}, "f:include.release.openshift.io/single-node-developer": {}, "f:release.openshift.io/create-only": {} }, "f:ownerReferences": { ".": {}, "k:{\"uid\":\"e2c645b2-fe2d-490d-b051-0925d7249baa\"}": {} } }, "f:spec": { ".": {}, "f:logLevel": {}, "f:managementState": {}, "f:operatorLogLevel": {} } }, "manager": "cluster-version-operator", "operation": "Update", "time": "2024-05-10T12:58:48Z" }, { "apiVersion": "operator.openshift.io/v1", "fieldsType": "FieldsV1", "fieldsV1": { "f:status": { "f:readyReplicas": {} } }, "manager": "Go-http-client", "operation": "Update", "subresource": "status", "time": "2024-05-16T11:14:15Z" }, { "apiVersion": "operator.openshift.io/v1", "fieldsType": "FieldsV1", "fieldsV1": { "f:status": { ".": {}, "f:generations": {}, "f:observedGeneration": {} } }, "manager": "console", "operation": "Update", "subresource": "status", "time": "2024-05-16T13:39:09Z" }, { "apiVersion": "operator.openshift.io/v1", "fieldsType": "FieldsV1", "fieldsV1": { "f:status": { "f:conditions": {} } }, "manager": "curl", "operation": "Update", "subresource": "status", "time": "2024-05-17T07:50:04Z" } ], "name": "cluster", "ownerReferences": [ { "apiVersion": "config.openshift.io/v1", "kind": "ClusterVersion", "name": "version", "uid": "e2c645b2-fe2d-490d-b051-0925d7249baa" } ], "resourceVersion": "830802", "uid": "295c5e1b-d34c-414a-b146-422033025c1b" }, "spec": { "logLevel": "Normal", "managementState": "Managed", "operatorLogLevel": "Normal" }, "status": { "conditions": [ { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:28Z", "reason": "NoUnsupportedConfigOverrides", "status": "True", "type": "UnsupportedConfigOverridesUpgradeable" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-13T13:15:40Z", "status": "False", "type": "ResourceSyncControllerDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:34Z", "status": "False", "type": "ManagementStateDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:43Z", "status": "False", "type": "ServiceSyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:43Z", "status": "False", "type": "ServiceSyncProgressing" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:43Z", "status": "False", "type": "RedirectServiceSyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:43Z", "status": "False", "type": "RedirectServiceSyncProgressing" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T11:16:36Z", "status": "False", "type": "RouteHealthDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:45Z", "status": "False", "type": "RouteHealthProgressing" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T11:16:36Z", "status": "True", "type": "RouteHealthAvailable" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:46Z", "status": "False", "type": "OCDownloadsSyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:46Z", "status": "False", "type": "ODODownloadsSyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:48Z", "status": "False", "type": "DownloadsDeploymentSyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:48Z", "status": "False", "type": "DownloadsDeploymentSyncProgressing" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T11:14:01Z", "message": "the server is currently unable to handle the request (get routes.route.openshift.io console)", "reason": "FailedGet", "status": "True", "type": "SyncLoopRefreshDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T10:14:34Z", "status": "False", "type": "SyncLoopRefreshProgressing" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T09:48:06Z", "status": "False", "type": "ConfigMapSyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:51Z", "status": "False", "type": "ConfigMapSyncProgressing" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:51Z", "status": "False", "type": "ServiceCASyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:51Z", "status": "False", "type": "ServiceCASyncProgressing" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:51Z", "status": "False", "type": "TrustedCASyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:51Z", "status": "False", "type": "TrustedCASyncProgressing" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:51Z", "status": "False", "type": "CustomLogoSyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:51Z", 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"type": "DeploymentAvailable" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:51Z", "status": "False", "type": "ConsoleConfigDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-10T12:59:51Z", "status": "False", "type": "ConsolePublicConfigMapDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-13T14:34:40Z", "status": "False", "type": "ManagedClusterConfigSyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-13T14:34:40Z", "status": "False", "type": "ManagedClusterConfigSyncProgressing" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T09:45:45Z", "status": "False", "type": "PDBSyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T09:45:45Z", "status": "False", "type": "PDBSyncProgressing" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T11:15:47Z", "status": "False", "type": "ConsoleNotificationSyncDegraded" }, { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-16T11:15:47Z", "status": "False", "type": "ConsoleNotificationSyncProgressing" } ], "generations": [ { "group": "apps", "hash": "", "lastGeneration": 5, "name": "downloads", "namespace": "openshift-console", "resource": "deployments" }, { "group": "apps", "hash": "", "lastGeneration": 7, "name": "console", "namespace": "openshift-console", "resource": "deployments" } ], "observedGeneration": 1, "readyReplicas": 1 } * Connection #0 to host 127.0.0.1 left intact $ oc delete pod -n openshift-console-operator --all pod "console-operator-b7f784c4d-d74br" deleted ## it keeps coming back ... $ oc get console.operator.openshift.io cluster -o json jq -r '.status.conditions[] select(.type test(".*(DownloadsConsole)(DefaultCustom)RouteSync"))' { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-17T07:50:04Z", "status": "False", "type": "DownloadsCustomRouteSyncDegraded" } { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-17T07:50:04Z", "status": "False", "type": "DownloadsCustomRouteSyncProgressing" } { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-17T07:50:04Z", "status": "True", "type": "DownloadsCustomRouteSyncUpgradeable" } { "lastTransitionTime": "2024-05-17T07:50:04Z", "status": "False", "type": "DownloadsDefaultRouteSyncDegraded" } ... 

The 2024 Summer Olympics in Paris, set to take place from July 26 to August 11, will be televised by numerous broadcasters worldwide. As in previous years, Olympic Broadcasting Services will produce the world feed that local broadcasters can use in their coverage. In most regions, the broadcast rights to the 2024 Olympics were packaged together with the rights to the 2022 Winter Olympics in Beijing. However, some broadcasters have also secured the rights to cover additional Olympic Games beyond 2024.

Territory	Rights holder
Algeria	EPTV
Armenia	APMTV
Asia	Dentsu
Australia	Nine Network
Austria	ORF
Azerbaijan	İTV
Belgium	RTBF, VRT
Brazil	Grupo Globo, CazéTV
Bulgaria	BNT
Canada	CBC/Radio-Canada, TSN, Sportsnet, RDS
Caribbean	SportsMax
Chile	Chilevisión
China	CMG
Chinese Taipei	ELTA TV
Costa Rica	Repretel
Croatia	HRT
Colombia	Caracol Televisión, RCN Televisión
Cyprus	CyBC
Czech Republic	CT
Denmark	DR, TV 2
Ecuador	RTS, TVC
Estonia	Postimees Group
Europe	Eurosport
Finland	Yle
France	France Télévisions
Georgia	GPB
Germany	ARD, ZDF
Ghana	Sporty TV
Greece	ERT
Hong Kong	RTHK, HOY TV, PCCW, TVB
Hungary	MTVA
Iceland	RÚV
Indian subcontinent	Viacom18
Ireland	RTÉ
Israel	Sports Channel
Italy	RAI
Japan	Japan Consortium
Kosovo	RTK
Latin America	América Móvil
Latvia	LTV
Lithuania	TV3
MENA	beIN Sports
Mexico	TelevisaUnivision, Imagen Televisión
Moldova	TVR
Netherlands	NOS
New Zealand	Sky Television
Nigeria	Sporty TV
North Korea	SBS
Nepal	Nepal Network TV NNTV
Norway	NRK
Pacific Islands	Sky Television
Panama	TVMax
Peru	Grupo ATV
Philippines	Cignal TV
Poland	TVP
Portugal	RTP
Romania	TVR
Serbia	RTS
Slovakia	RTVS
Slovenia	RTV
South Africa	SABC, SuperSport
South Korea	SBS
Spain	RTVE
Sub-Saharan Africa	Infront Sports & Media, SuperSport
Switzerland	SRG SSR
United Kingdom	BBC
Trinidad and Tobago	TTT
Turkey	TRT
United States	NBCUniversal

Many major networks, such as NBC in the United States, BBC in the United Kingdom, and CBC in Canada, are expected to provide extensive coverage of the Paris Olympics across multiple platforms, including television, online streaming, and mobile apps. These broadcasters will likely offer a mix of live events, highlights, interviews, and features to give viewers a comprehensive Olympic experience.
As the 2024 Summer Olympics approach, anticipation is building for what promises to be a spectacular showcase of athletic talent and global unity in the beautiful city of Paris. Sports fans around the world are eagerly awaiting the opportunity to watch their favorite athletes compete on the biggest stage in sports, and broadcasters are gearing up to deliver the most immersive and engaging Olympic coverage to date.

A number of fans of the Homeworld (HW) Universe have put a lot of thought and effort into their posts and that’s a testament to the passion that HW has brought to a lot of people.
I want to start by stating it pains me to say HW 3, especially the campaign has been a disappointment. Did we know what we were getting? Yes we had clues. Did we know the potential that HW 3 could have been based on the previous games? Oh there was immense potential!
The Homeworld series has been my favourite games (including mods) since the release of HW 1 in 1999 and I was a FIG backer for HW 3. None of the games have been perfect, but the storytelling left a long term impression and naturally the desire to want more from the series and continue to story. This has led to a loyal fan base including myself. I remember reading the HW1 manual and details about the Kushan Kiithid and the ships details numerous times.
Some of the epic storytelling events in the series that have made Homeworld what it is:
· The Kushan Kithid feuding for generations on a desert planet, Kharak, to then discover an ancient starship (Khar-Toba) buried in the desert sands. The genetic study also revealing they were not native to the planet.
· Discovering the Guide Stone in the Khar-Toba with a map pointing out Hiigara “Home”
· Discovering a Hyperspace Core and the Kiithid coming together to build the Mothership with Karan S’Jet integrated as Fleet Command
· Kharak burning – What treaty did the Kharak people break and what was their past? The war with the Taiidan Empire begins to reclaim their home.
· The Garden of Kadesh and realising they were part of the same race.
· The Bentusi and discovering why the people of Hiigara were exiled to the far reaches of the galaxy.
· Defeating the Taiidan Emperor, Riesstiu IV, and taking back Hiigara
· Learning more about the Kiithid in Cataclysm, the Beast, and the Bentusi’s fear – “We shall not be bound”
· Bentus sacrificing itself so the Hiigarans and Karan S’Jet could re-unite the 3 Hyperspace Cores
· Progenitor Relics, ships and guardians
· Balcora Gate and the battle to recovering the third Hyperspace core from Makaan (who believed he was the Sajuuk-Khar) and the Vagyr
· Transferring from the mothership to the long-lost Progenitor starship Sajuuk. Seeing the mothership drift away. It was a memorable moment .
· Saving Hiigara from the Scorched Earth scenario. The fleet fought hard to save Hiigara and their people.
· The Eye of Aaran which Sajuuk and the 3 hyperspace cores unlocking the vast hyperspace gate network. Hiigara opened up a trade/exploration/colonisation network across the galaxy and beyond. Not just for them, but for all civilisations.
Finally the day comes when the HW3 Collector’s Edition arrives after waiting years as a FIG Backer. It was amazing. The artwork was beautiful. The models were great and go well with the HW2 collector’s edition. After so many years, HW3 was finally here!
I finished the HW3 campaign a couple of nights ago. First there was anger, frustration, followed by mourning the loss of such a great opportunity that could have been for the Homeworld Universe. After playing 4 previous HW games for years, it feels like the team that wrote the HW3 script really did not understand the franchise, storyline to date, and its ‘spirit’.
After watching the promotional videos from the team from Blackbird Interactive saying HW3 was for the fans that have been with them along the 25 year journey (Relic Entertainment back then) the disappointment was very real. Sure it’s a visually beautiful game and some of the game features are an improvement which they couldn’t do in HW 1 and 2, but this did not feel like a continuation for the long term fans. This felt like a simpler HW labelled game for a new fan base. Such a missed opportunity! There has been the release of Homeworld Mobile and the VR version so Gearbox are looking to maximise the revenue while they can, and I can’t blame them for that.
My HW3 opinion:
· Aesthetically, HW3 is stunning
· I really like the look of the Khar-Kushan Mothership
· Deserts of Kharak showed the struggle and Kiithid conflict aswell as how difficult life was on a Desert Planet. HW1 was about the Kushan coming together to fight for their true home after Kharak was burned. Cataclysm did a good job expanding the different Kushan (now Hiigaran) Kiithid. HW2 felt like an “unbound” storyline with the three Hyperspace Cores – Karan got her time in the limelight – the three cores and Sajuuk combined was the key to the hyperspace network and “The Age of S’Jet”. HW3 continued with a focus on being ‘unbound’ lacking the substance behind who the Hiigarans are and their history, even before their exile…a missed opportunity.
· Popular fan request – Let us finish collecting resources! Imogen and the fleet were being hunted so I understand the urgency behind the gameplay…….but still, the player should have the option to jump when they want to.
· Besides one interceptor getting stuck on an object on mission 13, I had a pretty smooth gaming experience. The intelligence of the fleet and formations was a bit dodgy which required a lot of micro management.
· Cinematics between missions. The quality varied. Feels like more time and money was spent on the development of each one instead of a decent storyline. Why did it need to be done when you compare to the predecessor games? Likely because this game was more character focussed instead of a Fleet Focus.
· Khar-Kushan colliding with the giant freighter. That would have caused catastrophic damage and serious structural integrity issues. It seemed a bit too much! An evasive manoeuvre which led to the Synth Hyperspace Core housing being damaged as it clipped the freighter would have been enough to temporarily take out, power, propulsion and two out of the three cores.
· Ship designs were bland and generic lacking the HW2 creativity. Hiigarans have discovered quite a bit of Progenitor tech so why are they still stuck with the same types of weapons.
· No Sub Systems compared to HW2
· No targetable ship components e.g. engines, primary weapon etc. compared to HW2
· IMO the fleet ship types and options were far inferior to HW 1 & 2. It felt dumbed down significantly.
· One kind of Corvette……..really???
· Hiigaran Carrier….horrible design and couldn’t keep up with the Khar-Kushan.
· Why no Ship Yard? I can understand the Khar-Kushan had capital ship building capabilities, but it still would have added flexibility in Fleet logistics.
· Fleet control options were not great and missing a few options compared to HW 1 & 2. When you have a fast paced fleet battle going on, you want to minimise the time it takes to search for ship order functions.
· Using classic controls with terrain tunnels sucked. I struggled with the camera view because of the terrain. Too often I was met with blue screen because the camera was inside a structure or terrain.
· The antagonist – The Queen of Incarnate, Tiaa’Ma. An Unbound that has been around for millennia with far superior knowledge and use of hyperspace, can move and destroy planets on a whim, can turn off hypergates or redirect them. With that kind of power, why didn’t she hunt down the cores and search the galaxy for them? A tyrant that has killed millions. The Queen in general as the antagonist and the campaign ending was incredibly bad.
· With the 3 Hyperspace Cores gone, the 15^th fleet are not the only ones stranded. The Hyperspace gate network is down for all civilisations. Far jumping is gone. What detrimental effect will that have on the galaxy at large including the Hiigaran colonies, economy, diplomatic relations with other civilisations etc.?
· Imogen’s choice not to engage with the Incarnate after their Queen was gone was poor form!
· Imogen S’Jet – The hair…dry and wet…WTF
· I personally wanted to learn more about the Progenitor. Instead, I got hive mind Progenitor worshipers and still very little information about them or those who created the cores and the gates etc.
· Sajuuk combined with the three hyperspace cores was the key to opening the Hyperspace Gates. It was a superior ship IMO. So where is Sajuuk now? Were the 3 cores removed and put into a new mothership (Khar-Sajuuk) with the primary weapon looking like a mini Sajuuk sticking out of the centre of the ship. If it is the Sajuuk with the Mothership built around it, the scale is way off. Sajuuk was a mothership size vessel!
So after that rant, HW3 is beautiful but a hard pill to swallow after 25 years of loving the HW Universe. Life goes on! I hope the loyal fan base provides constructive feedback for BBI and Gearbox Software in hope it is listened to and used to bring back epic storytelling.

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I couldn't believe it. I felt confident on maybe 20% of the questions. Was pretty sure I was failing terribly all the way through. But thanks to this sub, I was familiar with similar stories. Once I went past question 100 I thought "welp, glad I got the retake" as I had only 38 mins left. I did two more questions, and it told me to go pick up my results. I didn't even look at it until I got to the car. Then I read "Congratulations..."
 
Most relevant experience: 14 years consecutive enterprise level IT (11 yrs Healthcare field services, 3 yrs Higher Ed applications systems admin);
 
Previous certs:

• A+ (2010)
  
• Security+ (2021)
  
• ServiceNow System Admin (2022)
  
• proprietary IAM system certs (2023)
  

 
Education:

• BS COSC 2017
• MS COSC (target 2025)

 
Study Time: 6 months, couple hrs a week, leisurely pace until last 2 weeks, then 8 – 14 hrs a week.
 
Study Material:

• Mike Chapple’s LinkedIn Learning course “Prepare for the ISC2 Information Systems Security
• Professional (CISSP) Certification Exam (2021)”
• 2 x ISC2 Official Study Guide Practice Questions - 2nd and 3rd Edition

  Last 2 weeks:

• Destination Certification Printable Mind Maps
• CISSP Cyber Training podcast by Shon Gerber
• 50 CISSP Practice Questions. Master the CISSP Mindset on Youtube

 
I am just taking this for professional growth, I was under no timeline or obligation.
 
In hindsight, I wish I would have printed the mind maps and filled them out as I watched the LinkedIn Learning videos. I watched those on double-speed since a good chunk of this stuff is already familiar from Security+ and just my work experience. As I completed sections for each Domain in LiL,I would do the quizzes in the Practice Questions book under that domain 10 – 20 questions a few times a week, and as I progressed I would add in questions from the previous covered domains, tracking it all in Excel. I was working out of the 2nd edition book (2018 - hand-me-down) but I bought the 3rd edition (2021) for the practice tests. There is not a huge difference but I figured I could use any edge I could get.
 
I spent a lot of time analyzing and studying any questions I missed in the quizzes. By the time I did the first practice exam I got 74% correct. I’d study the ones I missed, and do the next test. After I finished the 4 Practice Tests in the 3rd ed (74, 76, 77 and 78%) I scheduled with a month left. I then went back and did the tests from the 2nd editions, studying in between the hazy subjects or missed questions. Scored 74%, 80% and 89% on the ones I did there – but keep in mind, they are basically the same tests I already did with a few questions swapped out.
 
The mind maps were helpful - just a good place to take written notes and keep track of topics and Domains and draw stuff out like Kerberos and IPSec, etc. I didn’t start using those until 2 weeks before the test, I was like “damnit – this would have been so helpful” - some of the more subtle stuff is easier to remember if you group it in under the appropriate section, and I think writing supposedly improves ability to recall information also.
 
The podcast I just turned on a couple days ago but it was helpful to listen to the items as I was driving to and from work, I thought it was well done. I also thought the 50 CISSP Questions YouTube video was helpful to remind me of the mindset we need to have when taking this test. I am definitely someone that gets lost in the details, as you might guess from this wall of text. ;)
 
Glad I did it, glad it’s over. Going to unwind and focus on my home life, degree and work initiatives for rest of year.

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/throwra_inhername
Originally posted to AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC
Previous BoRU
[New Update]: AITA for overreacted to learning about the true fate of my little sister's remains?
Thanks to u/queenlegolas and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for suggesting this BoRU
Trigger Warnings: death of a minor, emotional abuse, gaslighting
RECAP
Original Post: April 18, 2024
My mother and father divorced when I was young. They had an oops baby together after my mom remarried, which rocked that marriage apart. That oops baby was my little sister. She died abruptly in an accident 4 years ago at only 14.
You know how people say the firsts after a death are the hardest? They don’t account for when there's no first to be had. When they should have been getting ready for prom but never will, it's a completely different pain. My mom and I were talking about it, we were both drinking, and she slipped that my bit of ashes I carry that I thought were my sister's were just regular ashes. Burnt wood. She already poured out my sister's ashes without me or my brother in the plot she bought with my stepdad.
She couldn't fathom my rage because to her, the sentiment and emotions are the important aspects, not that it's physically my sister. My anger is prompted by the lies and the fact those sentiments and emotions are attached to some thing NOT MY LITTLE SISTER, and I had no idea she cast her ashes on a plot she wouldn't have cared about. I screamed at her to get out of my house, locking the door behind her and calling up my stepdad to pick her up. I threw the necklace out the window to the front lawn, then regretted it and tore it out of her hands when she picked it up. As she would say it I "made a scene" and embarrassed her. I kept screaming and calling her a liar whenever she tried to explain herself or get back inside. I was threatening to call the cops on her when my stepdad finally showed up and took her away. He called me the next day and left a message saying that he wanted to talk about "what happened" and how he understands why I'm angry and hurt, he just wants to talk, but I need to talk to my mother too about this because she's a grieving mother (emphasis his) and my sister's death was a huge blow to the entire family and everyone is trying to regain our bearings still so some kindness is needed.
All I can think of right now is my mom's heartbroken face as I ripped my necklace with my "sister's ashes" out of her hands, or the way she turned away from me crying as my stepdad ushered her into the car. I called her names, I let my pain and rage take over me. But I can't get over the lies. 4 years of thinking my necklace had my sister, of thinking she was right by my heart, and it all came undone because my mom had too much to drink. How long would she have let me think this? How long would the lie continue?
Relevant Comments
OOP on how she figured out that her mother was lying to her
CenterofChaos: Yea your mother is grieving. But you, her very living child, are too. Having your mother lie to you about something important is going to get an emotional reaction.
What you do is up to you. But I wouldn't let her frame this as embarrassing her or that she's a victim in any way. She lied about it, she got drunk and tattled on herself, these are the consequences of her own actions.

OOP: It was an absolute mistake on her part that she even said it. We were talking about prom season and how hard it can be to be reminded of things that my sister would have loved. Then she started to say "I start crying before I even reach the cemetery sometimes" and she named it by name. I started flipping then and was like "what cemetery? Why that cemetery?" in a sort of why are we talking about cemeteries when we're talking about her way.

I kept pushing her for an explanation and that's when the whole thing came out.
 
Update: Overreacted to the true fate of my little sister's remains: April 26, 2024
Link here for original post.
I gave my mother an ultimatum of either telling my brother and father, or I will. She refused to, because "you reacted so horribly." And she told me not to tell because "You're doing this to hurt me and you're just going to hurt them."
So I told them. I sat my dad and brother down and explained that the necklaces didn't have the right ashes in them. I've never seen my dad break like that, and I've never heard my brother scream at me like that. He was angry that I knew before him and didn't immediately tell because "this is shit you tell me, you needed to tell me, we tell each other everything!", but he started crying and apologizing to me, admitting he's just so mad about what Mom did and he can't handle it.
So I guess that's clearly something else me and my brother share, we get overwhelmed initially before cooler heads prevail.
My dad looked gutted but he was clearly trying to piece himself back together. He said a lot of the same other people had said to me on my other post: "we can get some of the dirt from the plot where she was scattered, the necklace has the meaning we attribute to it and she's still with us even if her body hasn’t been physically with us."
I feel bad because some of it my mom said (ie the bit about the necklace being important even without her ashes in it) but I was able to accept that much easier from him. Maybe because he didn't lie to me for four years and drop a bomb on me out of nowhere because I pulled apart a lie. He held my brother and I as we cried, and he apologized for the pain, and he said it wasn't fair that I had to be the adult when my mother should have told all of us a lot sooner.
Dad's going to try to talk to my step-father to find the plot because my mom has been refusing to talk to us anymore, not answering messages or picking up the phone. Her social media has even gone dark. He's going to find out where the plot is and go to the site. I don't know if I could if it were up to me. It just feels like the final bit of proof that this fucked up nightmare is real and my sister is mixed with dirt and rocks and grass of an unmaintained and unvisited plot.
My mom and I always had some issues, but that's normal. This is worse than anything, and we had a rough patch when I came out that we didn't even talk, but we mended fences after. I can't see ever forgiving her, not with how she dropped this on me, blamed me for my reaction, and left me to do what she should have done. To top it off, she won't even show the decency to explain why or even talk to me. When we were discussing cremation, it was agreed we would all get a necklace with the ashes.
My mind keeps going over things that just didn’t add up fully, times she almost slipped or things that make complete sense now. She almost left behind her necklace on a trip and didn't freak out like I would have, because she knew where my sister was the whole time. She volunteered to be the one to separate the ashes and gave dad "the rest". I assume those ashes are the same as ours, fake.
God this whole thing just makes me want to curl up in a hole and never see the light of day again. I've been on and off crying all week without being able to stop, or just so angry I could scream. In the middle of my damn workday and suddenly I'm rushing to the bathroom to hide the fact I'm breaking all over again because I can't stop my thoughts. I quit smoking after my sister died but I picked it right back up again. My dad has been calling me every day to check in on me and remind me of how much he loves me and how much my brother loves me. I think he's afraid. My brother has come over each day since the talk with his girlfriend to make sure I eat something.
I don't know how to end this post. I feel lost and like I don't know anything anymore. I feel like a burden because my dad and brother are both dealing with the revelation too but they're clearly thinking of me and checking in on me. I'm going to look into grief counseling but the therapist I saw after my sister died isn't practicing anymore and my insurance isn't accepted by a lot of therapists. I try to remind myself that my little sister wouldn't have minded so much becoming woven into a tapestry of grass and flowers, and that I can visit her once we know where she was cast and make sure her site is always beautiful.
Thank you to everyone that helped me and shared their own perspectives and stories. I really appreciate it.
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OOP on checking with the cemetery and if she could confirm that her sister has a plot there

OOP: It's my mother and step-father's plot. If trying through my step father fails, I'll try that. I didn't think I could just call up and say "is there an empty plot sectioned for the so and so family" but it's worth trying.

 

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Update #2: May 10, 2024
This has probably been the worst month of my life in years. Sorry to the mod for so many posts.
I'm going to start with the minor stuff that's been happening or whatever because my head just feels like a brick. I got a promotion I'd been aiming for before everything. My boss did tell me I had already got it before this all happened and it was held off on announcing so I could have time to process before I had to adjust to the new job requirements. I couldn't even feel proud. I know a month ago I would have but I feel numb. I'm working a lot more hours now than normal, usually about 6am to 7pm, give or take. Paycheck looks nice I guess. My dad keeps telling me I need to work less, so does my brother, but my job is one that engages my mind enough that I'm nearly brain dead by the time I’m home which is nice.
I'm non-binary and prefer they/them pronouns but she/her are not offensive. Realized belatedly that people were calling me that.
I started drinking more than usual. After blacking out one night I let my dad take it all and I haven’t bought more. I don’t think I've ever gotten blackout before so it's terrifying to hear about the night but have barely any recollection of it.
About my sister: My mother finally responded to my brother, and according to him she was a wreck. All tears. All apologies. All "You have to understand!"
There must be something wrong with me because I look at her and I want to hurt her. I want to break her heart, I want to make a spectacle of her disgusting behavior, I want to ruin her life. I think part of me recognizes that's why I'm not so overly cautious about details, but at the same time I can't do it. The rational part of my mind kicks in and I realize that it wouldn't do anything but make it worse. I'd just feel guilty and sick after the brief moment of satisfaction. But then I think to myself, "So how and why could you do that to us? For years?"
Her and my brother had a much better relationship than her and I ever did. She still did that to him. Like yeah, Dad and her never got better after the divorce, and after the affair they struggled with even coparenting for a multitude of reasons. Her and I have had our issues. But the bond between her and my brother has always been strong, or at least used to be, and she did it to HIM of all people.
She tried telling my brother that she did it impulsively, in a fit of pique, but when he pressured her about why she was the one to volunteer to handle filling the necklaces, she said that it was because she was okay with it at first but then when she saw the ashes, she didn’t want to "destroy" her further. Her word, there. Destroyed. Like the relationship between her living children? Like our trust in her? Like the memorial we agreed upon for my sister? I don't know how to feel. If I even trust her story. But her wording makes me feel like it was planned. God yet again it becomes an accidental revelation, where she tried to uphold a lie but got caught and that's how the truth came to light.
I managed to talk to the funeral director. My sister's fingerprints are part of their records. I'm going to get her touch tattooed, but I found a means of getting that on a necklace so my brother and dad can have that if they don't want a tattoo. Still struggling to get in contact with the owners of the cemetery. A lot of unanswered emails and voicemails. I've also been looking for therapists and counselors in my area, or ones doing telehealth. I have an appointment upcoming but I'm nervous.
My stepfather has stepped back. He set a boundary that he won't talk to us until we agree to discuss this without "blaming anyone" and anytime the conversation starts going toward asking about motive or who knew what and when, he says the conversation needs to end. He's even hung up on us before and threatened the cops on me, even implying it'd be deserved after I did the same to my mother.
EDIT: I tried Findagrave and she's not there, same for my mother and step dad.
Editor’s Note: findagrave is a website for the world’s largest gravesite collection which allows people to find their loved ones’ burial sites all over the world.
Top Comments
Responsible-End7361: Suggest you tell stepdad "OK, fine. But my mother better not try to contact me in any way for anything else until the ashes issue is fully resolved, so tell her she is now down 2 kids, maybe 3."
Magerimoje: Regarding contacting the cemetery -
Leave a voicemail saying you want to purchase a plot. If anyone listens to the voicemail, they'll usually call back ASAP for a sale. When they call back, tell them you want to purchase a plot near your parents and give your mom & step dad's names and ask what their plot numbers are. Once you have the plot numbers,hang up and block their number so they can't keep calling trying to sell you shit you definitely do not want. But that might get the info faster. This is how I found the location of my infant cousin.
Also, some cemeteries have plot numbers and location maps online now. Worth checking.
 

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Thursday, May 16 Good morning! A 1.2% gain for the S&P 500 sent it to a new record high as meme stock momentum faltered. S&P 5,308: The S&P 500 closed Wednesday at a record high of 5,308, its first time over the 5,300 mark. The Nasdaq and Dow also hit record highs, with the latter moving ever closer to 40,000, which would be its first time reaching a new 10,000-point increment since 2020. ‌ Welcome inflation news: April's Consumer Price Index report served as the stock market's main catalyst Wednesday as consumer prices rose less than expected and grew at the slowest pace in three months. Investors see this as a step in the right direction for the Fed's inflation fight and, taken with slowing retail sales, as a sign the central bank will not only cut rates in 2024 but potentially do so more than once. ‌
Walmart reports: The retail titan reports quarterly results Thursday and investors will be looking for confirmation of both the Commerce Department's flat sales numbers and the consumer slowdown Home Depot's quarterly report suggested. But with the retailer serving the dual role as retail bellwether and value-friendly trade-down option from more expensive stores, that confirmation may be tricky to find. ‌
Everyone is losing with car insurance: The biggest price jump seen in April's CPI report, by far, was in car insurance. Prices are up 22.6% over the past year — yet, perhaps counterintuitively, car insurance companies aren't gouging consumers. Instead, they're on their fourth consecutive year of considerable losses. ‌ GameStop and AMC in the red: GameStop and AMC finished Wednesday back in the red after a hot start to the week. AMC was able to raise $250 million, capitalizing on the meme stock moment, but GameStop's window is closing. One of the reasons? Doing so would have spoiled its favorable balance sheet, which AMC did not have. Still, GameStop stock is up 117% from Friday. Plenty of time to hit the bid. What we're watching Morning Brief is written and edited by Ethan Wolff-Mann. For the web version, click here. Follow all the action throughout the day on Yahoo Finance and on the Yahoo Finance app.
Buffett's Berkshire reveals $6.7 billion stake in insurer Chubb. ‌ AT&T strikes space broadband deal in challenge to Musk's SpaceX. ‌ GameStop tanks as meme rally fades on day three. ‌ FDIC chief rebuffs calls to resign during heated House hearing. ‌ Cisco shares jump on upbeat forecast. ‌ Netflix ad tier reaches 40 million monthly active users. ‌ Chicken is the new beef — and becoming the crown jewel of fast food menus.‌ Google is reinventing itself for the AI age. ‌ Used car prices fall again in April, down nearly 17% from pandemic highs. What we're reading
‌ Wall Street’s biggest bull wishes he'd been even more bullish. But he's making up for it now. ‌ “It has become clear to us that we underestimated the strength of the market momentum,” Brian Belski, BMO Capital Markets chief investment strategist, wrote Wednesday morning in a note revising his 2024 year-end forecast to a Street high of 5,600. ‌ Buoyed by Wednesday's moderating inflation numbers, stocks closed at 5,308, making Belski's target 5.5% away. ‌ Underestimation is not what Belksi is known for. Last November, the strategist’s team had the high-water mark for 2024 predictions with 5,100, one of the few daring to go past the 5,000 mark. ‌ At the time the index stood at 4,550, over 5% off its January 2022 peak of 4,796. ‌ Belksi’s call proved to be prescient. ‌ And before the calendar flipped, Goldman Sachs, Deutsche Bank, and Citi had joined BMO at 5,100, with Oppenheimer and Fundstrat taking pole position at 5,200. And as the S&P 500 blew past the entire Street’s predictions in March, multiple firms adjusted their forecasts. ‌ BMO didn’t, a move that — again — would seem prescient as the index dipped as low as 4,967 in April.
Wall Street’s biggest bull wishes he'd been a bigger bull “In late February we decided to draw a line in the sand with respect to our 2024 S&P 500 price target of 5,100 since we believed market performance had run a little too far, too fast,” Belski wrote, referencing the stock market’s rocket-like trajectory that ran well over 20% in just a few months after its October low. ‌ But this prudence was, in fact, a mistake, the strategist said. ‌ In the three months since, the stock market’s dip and recovery to a new all-time high (pick your index, they’re all peaking) was thanks in large part to an alignment in investor expectations and Fed guidance, which Wednesday's retail sales and CPI keeps in the right direction. ‌
“We are comfortable with this because we believe the market is behaving in a similar fashion to 2021 and 2023 — years where we did not give enough credit to the strength of market momentum, something we are trying to avoid this time around,” Belski added. ‌ BMO's team found that the first two years of this new bull market are lagging the average performance seen during the first two years of new bull runs. So, with little change in terms of fundamentals or general economic conditions, the revised forecast is underpinned by sentiment, expectations, and the more nebulous aspects of the stock market. ‌ Although BMO’s fresh forecast maps out a great destination for bulls, it does contain a notable warning about possible turbulence. ‌ “We are still skeptical that the 5.5% drawdown that occurred during March-April will be the worst for the S&P 500 this year given historical data that shows an average drawdown of 9.4% for the second year of bull markets historically,” Belski wrote. ‌ A 5,600 year-end with a bigger than 5.5% drop between now and then? ‌ That almost feels more bullish than a simple 5,600 target.
The S&P 500 hit a record high on Wednesday, closing above 5,300 for the first time ever as investors cheered softer inflation data and grew more optimistic about the prospect of Federal Reserve interest rate cuts this year. ‌ And while we've been highlighting a rotation in markets to areas like Utilities (XLU) during the latest leg of the rally, the S&P 500's first record since March didn't come without a rise in perhaps the most notable sub-sector of the market over the past year. ‌ The Roundhill Magnificent Seven ETF (MAGS), launched in April 2023, tracks the "Magnificent Seven" stocks: Apple (AAPL), Alphabet (GOOGL, GOOG), Microsoft (MSFT), Amazon (AMZN), Meta (META), Tesla (TSLA), and Nvidia (NVDA). It's up about 5.6% in the past month, outpacing the S&P 500's 4.9% gain and now sitting at its own all-time high. ‌ As seen in the chart below, the Magnificent Seven's rise, coinciding with an increase in the broader market, has been a feature of the market rally over the past year. Chart of the day But what sticks out this time around is another shift in what's driving the Magnificent Seven trade. On Feb. 28, we wrote that Nvidia, Meta, and Amazon were leading, with the other four tech stocks slowly falling off. ‌ This has changed yet again in the past month. Nvidia is still a top gainer, adding 10% in the last month. But Alphabet has been the best performer in the group, gaining more than 11%, while Apple has added north of 10% as well. Even Tesla, which many argued should've been removed from the group long ago, is up more than 7% in the past month. ‌ — Josh Schafer, Markets Reporter
Yahoo Finance's Executive Editor Brian Sozzi got the rare invitation to the White House for an exclusive interview with President Joe Biden minutes before the president announced a fresh wave of tariffs on China. ‌ The breaking news came out, the interview aired, but Sozzi was left with a lot of feelings and thoughts — and many questions from the audience. As Sozzi writes, "Agree or disagree with the president's policies, the office commands the utmost respect." Talking to the most powerful person in the world is a big deal. ‌ You can read his personal reflection in full here, which also includes an FAQ section that answers some of the questions Sozzi's fielded from social media over the past couple of days. Sozzi reflects on his exclusive Biden interview — and gives answers
Thursday ‌ ‌ ‌ Friday ‌ ‌ Earnings and economic calendar Economic data: Initial jobless claims, week ending May 11 (233,000 previously); Housing starts month-over-month, April (8.6% expected, -14.7% prior); Building permits month-over-month, April (+1.6% expected, -3.7% prior); Philadelphia Business Outlook, May (8.7 expected, 15.5 prior); Import prices, month-over-month, April (+0.2% expected, +0.4% previously); Export prices, month-over-month, April (+0.2% expected, +0.3% previously); Industrial production, month-over-month, April (+0.2% expected, +0.4% previously) Earnings: Walmart (WMT), Applied Materials (AMAT), Baidu (BIDU), JD.com (JD), John Deere (DE), Take-Two Interactive (TTWO), Under Armour (UAA) Economic data: Leading index, April (-0.2% expected, -0.3% previously) Earnings: No notable earnings.