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Tdlr at the bottom I'm new here and need some info. I'm 20, a recently disabled Army vet, and my best friend, who's in the Navy, is stationed in Kings Bay. We're planning to get married, and I'm excited because I've wanted to be with him for eight years. It's my first time moving by myself, so I'm looking for advice on living in Kings Bay and how BHA works. My best friend has changed since joining the Navy, and I want to know if there's something to be alarmed by. What are the psychological and emotional risks of marrying someone in the Navy, and what should I be aware of and for seasoned Sailors that are married, what things that your wife has done this help you through your time and service
Tdlr I’m getting married and receiving BHA at Kings Bay. I wanna know more about Kings Bay. I also wanna know what are the risk of marrying a sailor as well as (mentally on both ends) and advice from seasoned sailors on how their wife has helped them through service

I’ve got a non-fruiting mulberry tree that I just did some heavy pruning on. I have a ton of branches that I need to get rid of, and I was planning on shaving the leaves off and binding the branches into trellis structures. The tree appears healthy and not diseased.
Is this an ok idea, or is it something I should avoid doing due to potential pests, disease, etc? The trellis would be for squash, pepper, and tomato plants. Thanks

PC Reddit Account: TheOnlyShipsMan Discord Tag: josephstalin1518 Name and House: Ronnel Peake Age: 45 Cultural Group: Reachman Appearance: Trait: Insidious Skill(s): Devious, Espionage (e), Rumormonger (e) Talent(s): Deceit, reading, record keeping Negative Trait(s): N/A Starting Title(s): Lord of Starpike, Lord of Dunstonbury, Lord of Whitegrove Starting Location: Opening Hunt
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Name and House: Roland Peake Age: 20 Cultural Group: Reachmen Appearance: Trait: Steward Skill(s): Administrator (e), Investor Talent(s): Drinking, Hunting, Intimidation Negative Trait(s): N/A Starting Title(s): Ser, Heir to Starpike, Dunstonbury and Whitegrove Starting Location: Opening Hunt
Timeline:
20 BC - Ronnel Peake is born to Lord Armen Peake and Lady Lynesse Tarly. The third son of the couple, his future prospects seem low.
5 BC - Ronnel is betrothed to Lady Vivian of House Graceford.
3 BC - Ronnel is knighted upon his seventeenth nameday.
2 BC - Lord Armen Peake and his second son Lucas are killed in the Field of Fire, and in the chaos of the route, Ronnel uses the opportunity to slay his eldest brother Luthor, though to all others it appears that he too was killed in the battle by the forces of King Aegon.
Returning to Starpike, he proceeds to lace the drinks of Luthor’s heavily pregnant wife Malora with moon tea, killing the babe in the womb, with the mother succomming soon after. With all those ahead of him in the line of succession dead, Ronnel Peake becomes the Lord of Starpike, Dunstonbury and Whitegrove.
1 BC - While many lords in the Reach had bitterly complained about the “upjumped stewards” now holding dominion over the Reach, Lord Ronnel quickly seeks to grow close to his new liege lord. In truth he cares no more for the Tyrells than he did for the Gardeners but does not see any gain in opposing them so long as House Targayen stands behind them.
His betrothal to Lady Vivian Graceford is broken off soon after his ascension, the daughter of one of his bannermen no longer seeming to be a suitable spouse in Ronnel’s mind. However he still keeps her at his court as a mistress.
1 AC - Due to his oft expressed loyalty to Lord Harlan Tyrell, Ronnel is granted the position of spymaster of the Reach.
3 AC - Lord Ronnel is one of the first to take upon Lord Harlan’s plans to intermarry his bannermen with the Dornish. His close ties to House Tyrell and his own personal power allows Lord Ronnel to arrange one of the most illustrious marriages among the Reachmen for himself, and takes to wife the Princess Ashara of House Martell, younger sister of Princess Deria.
By the end of the year she bore him his first child, a daughter who he named Cassandra, though his mistress Lady Vivian too had fallen pregnant by the final moon.
4 AC - Lady Vivian gives birth to Ronnel’s bastard son, who she names Jasper.
Wishing to quiet the complaints of his wife over his open adultery, Vivian and her son are sent away from Starpike to Dunstonbury.
To quell the anger of House Graceford over the broken betrothal, and the soiling of Lady Vivian, Ronnel arraigned a marriage between his younger brother Ser Hubert and Lady Elissa Graceford, the younger sister of Lady Vivian. Hubert is then named the Castellan of Whitegrove.
5 AC - Ronnel and Ashara’s son and heir Roland Peake is born.
7 AC - A second daughter is born to Ronnel and Ashara, who they name Valaena in honor of the mother of the conqueror.
8 AC - Vivian gives birth to another bastard fathered by Ronnel, a daughter she names Marianne. At the same time, Ronnel’s youngest brother Leo is named the castellan of the castle.
14 AC - Lady Vivian and Marianne Flowers are murdered in Dunstonbury by unknown assailants. Lord Ronnel suspects his wife was behind the murders but pays little mind to it, and instructs Leo to not look into it.
15 AC - During the Kingswood Catastrophe, his bastard Jasper Flowers as well as his brother Leo Peake are taken captive, and while Jasper is eventually rescued, Leo is not.
To further increase his ties with the Dornish, Ronnel negotiates a betrothal between Cassandra and the heir of Skyreach, Olyvar Fowler.
21 AC - Ronnel sends Cassandra to serve as a lady in waiting for Queen Rhaenys at Summerhall.
With Cassandra having come of age, Ronnel begins preparations for her upcoming marriage to Olyvar Fowler, now the Lord of Skyreach due to the recent death of his father, but the wedding is postponed by Olyvar.
24 AC - Having grown tired of Lord Olyvars continued stalling, Ronnel sends his bastard son to convince the man to go through with the marriage. The scheme works as planned, and Cassandra is soon after wed, becoming the Lady of Skyreach.
Jasper is sent along with her to serve as Cassandra’s sworn sword, and the two are tasked with killing Lord Olyvar so Cassandra can assume full control as regent, once she has borne enough children to ensure Peake blood would remain in control of Skyreach.
25 AC - Cassandra bears a son, named Ellion Fowler, making Ronnel a grandfather.Irritated by the tales of Jasper’s relationship with Lord Olyvar, his daughter's affair with a knight of House Yronwood, and due to his knowledge of even darker perversions enjoyed by his children, Ronnel seeks to separate them, believing that Jasper's presence at Skyreach is no longer necessary after Ellion’s birth.
At his wife's bequests, he writes to Queen Rhaenys, offering his youngest daughter Valaena as a lady in waiting for her now that she has come of age, and using a new vacancy in the kingsguard as an opportunity, he suggests Jasper be given a white cloak as well in the same letter. Both offers are accepted, and House Peake further places itself firmly in the camp of Queen Rhaenys.
Ronnel is surprised and irritated when news reaches him of the death of Lord Olyvar Fowler. While it is reportedly an accident, he knows the truth and is angered that his children murdered the man before their hold over Skyreach could be more firmly secured with the birth of a few spares.
Ronnel now journeys to King’s Landing alongside his liege lord to join the festivities, hoping to further increase his influence at such a large gathering of nobility.
Family Tree:
Supporting Characters:
Hubert Peake - Magnate Glendon Peake - Magnate

SHORT VERSION: On June 1, my fiancée (44F) and I (47M) were supposed to get married. This is roughly 2 weeks away, right? Well, last Saturday, she suddenly left the house and ghosted me. No contact, scattered texts, no explanation. She doesn't tell me she's not coming back, either. Doesn't apologize for anything. I've had to discover this for myself, as well as start moving out because she couldn't pay 1/2 rent (which she hasn't done ever...)
I really need some advice, context, insight, comfort and whatever else this sub might be able to provide. She didn't This doesn't hurt so much as blow my mind. Details are below.
My question: How do I process this?
LONG VERSION: - I'm almost 47M and she's 44F. We're both white and boring (I thought in a good way).

• We've both been married before. I have 3 kids; she has 3 kids.
  
• She and I have lived together for roughly 18 months. We've been together for about 3 years. We've known one another for over 10 years.
  
• I'm an author and screenwriter; she's a mental health therapist.
  
• I ask frequently how things are going between us and she's always quick to tell me things are great. We've never discussed an issue between us, ever.
  
• We've never fought. Not really. We're a good team. A heated argument here or there over a world topic, but nothing big.
  
• In the last year, I've had a lot of money screwed up by identity theft.
  
• I'm admittedly high-strung at times due to stress. But I routinely apologize and check in a lot. Still, my memory isn't great because I'm always wheeling from 1 gig to another. Right now, I have 11 active things I'm working on.
  
• In recent months, I've had to patchwork-quilt my finances here and there, and I constantly forget to send $ back because of our living situation (more on that in a second). Hell, I even fell for an elaborate scam and accepted a fake job, if that tells you anything about my brain.
  

So...
Basically, there's too much going on and our wedding day is coming fast. I'm the one in charge of the invitations, save the dates, etc., securing the venue, honeymoon, etc. I'm told I should delegate, but I cannot because no one else has the graphic design knowledge and I'm strapped for cash.
We're two months out and almost no one knows the wedding is still on, but a few things...

• We haven't really spoken about the wedding, not in detail, for a good half-year.
• Last Friday afternoon/Saturday morning, she still didn't have a dress (due to her finances), but she said she was still excited and happy.
• We almost always talk about money stresses, but we never talk about specifics or strategies, etc. That's because she wants to keep our finances separate. I respect this 100%, but I also find this ironic because she's frustrated by having no line of sight into my money...

And then, two things happen:

• there's a potential problem with the venue - we're a month behind on paying rent (not our fault)

But I suddenly find myself becoming angrier and angrier at her. This is new.
We now had to come up with $2440 suddenly, which is literally another month's rent we never planned on. I warn her that our landlord, if we don't pay this by the 10th, will not renew our lease. She repeatedly shrugs and says, "Well, what can we do?" and goes to bed. This is fine for the first night she says it, but not the next day when she doesn't have clients.
For days and nights, I'm calling around and texting to see how to pay this because my money is locked due to fraud for a few days. I'm also up all hours of the night (literally) working on marketing for her new practice, which feels like I'm doing a hell of a lot more than she's doing at all.
Two final details:

• I've paid the rent in full for nearly a year, plus family-sized internet, renters' insurance, a few new appliances, etc. on top of life's other charming charges. Also, I've come through even when I was unemployed.
  
• She rents an office space that has held nothing more than a few plants since 1st of the year. Seriously. It's never been used and there's no end in sight for this. She pays utilities and groceries.
  

I find out that we're losing our place and then she starts paying attention. But I'm angry and tell her so via text. There's a great deal of misunderstanding going on here, too. She thinks I'm saying she needs to get out and move; I'm saying she's going to have to start looking for a place for us to live. The long and short of it is this: I paid for half of this month's rent; she needs to come up with the other half.
Next thing I know, she's up and gone. All of her stuff is still here. Cats and fish, too. Zero explanation. Seriously. She goes to her mom's and says she'll be back on Monday. Doesn't even say she needs space because she's not replying at all. This goes on for days. In fact, IT STILL IS.
When I finally do get ahold of her at midnight, after days of not knowing why she'd bolted, she says she left because "it's not okay how I was talking to her." So we compare iMessage screens and guess what? She didn't receive 4 messages. Problem solved right? Nope. I say that she could help with rent if she wasn't paying for a potted plant to have an office; I also say that I know she has savings, which she admits is true.
She goes on to say that I'm mad at her because she's not behaving the way I expect her to behave.
At first, I say that's not true -- but it is true: I expect my fiancée to talk to me and communicate issues, not suddenly up and run to her parents'. It's a huge leap from earlier that morning going, "I love you" and looking for wedding venues to later that afternoon to not. I send dozens of texts into the void -- some panicked, some sad, some furious, some indignant. But I don't know anything and she knows this. During this time, I surmise that she's not coming back home, which she casually confirms like an afterthought.
I then literally have to break up with her via text.
I get a thumbs-up reaction to that text.
She later goes on to say that it wasn't her plan to leave and that it was because of "everything that ensued" that she's not. I seriously don't know what this even means. Well, turns out -- thanks to phone calls -- that she was calling around to fact-check the status of an injury settlement of mine and other things with friends and my mom (of all people). She calls her twice, in fact. She spends the next 12 hours asking my mom and others things she's never asked me, ever. This is a verboten subject with her, so it's ironic. And why would my mom ever know the status of a malpractice settlement? But she's calling people and sobbing on the phone but tellingly, never once revealing to them why she's actually leaving. It's only questions about my financial situation. She also swears them all to secrecy about calling them...
So.
She leaves after a misunderstanding that could've been cleared up with a quick call. She doesn't like my opinion about her leisurely paced startup/rent. She refuses to pick up the phone, but she's calling all around to people about my money. She owes rent but doesn't pay it, and lets us get booted. She refuses to text, chiding me for my walls of words because I'm talking to myself...
It's almost one full week and she hasn't returned home. I've had to explain to my kids that, no, I don't know why she left. Honestly, I still don't. I'm packing up my belongings and selling things on Facebook Marketplace, etc. and finding a new place in days.
I can't believe someone has a toggle switch like that, let alone an inability to talk to me. Seriously, there was NOTHING said anywhere that warranted her "you can't speak to me like this" and sobbing with my friends and family.
Thank you, Reddit. Sorry for the novel. If you're the one person who made it this far, I am deeply grateful.

I've bought some Tapo motion sensors (T100), cameras (C420) and a doorbell assuming they worked with our TPlink PoE and router. I've just learned about Sub-Ghz and now I'm not sure if I should open the boxes.
My Mum lives in a brick and mortar double storey home. Brick walls. The plan was to have the Hub upstairs where the router is. All the thinge it needs to connect to are mostly directly downstairs, with a concrete slab in between. How does Sub-Ghz cope with that?
We were also planning to put a sensor in the garage which is about 65 feet away with 2 or 3 brick walls in between. Is that completely hopeless without additional hubs?
The hub has to be upstairs because that's where the bedrooms are and it's important to be able to hear the chimes and alarms up there.
I would appreciate any experience you may have.

Don't be that guy. They are pulling almost everyone into customs going through yvr so if you're planning on stashing something, don't.

What's your lifestyle like and how do you make sure you save enough and not splurge?
Been living in Au for almost 2 years now and I've had my fun splurging money by eating out, shopping and gala. Pero I want to save more na and been cooking and staying home a lot. Most of my expenses now ay groceries and laging nadampot ng snacks 🫢😆
Planning to do meal plan and just spend $200-250 for my food monthly. Kayo? Magkano budget niyo for food and what do you usually cook?

There's this guy in my coaching who happens to live near my house and hence, he drops me off home everytime. We are quite close and I have a crush on him and I think he does too.
We don't have classes for two days but our physics teacher takes extra classes on off days so I was asking him if he was sure that there were no extra classes, because if that was the case then I'll make plans to hang out. ("Agar classes nahi hongi so main toh ghumne ka plan banaungi.") So he asked where do I wanna go ("Accha batao kahan chalna hai?") but at first, I didn't read his text and went off saying my own thing that my dad and I are planning to go on a road trip but then again it might not be possible as he's busy with his university's work (my dad's a professor). And then when I did read and UNDERSTOOD his text, I did try to ask him to hang out by saying stuff like all my friends are kinda busy so i don't know if I'll be able to hang out.. but he was only like "Dukh Dard Peedha" ("Pain Agony Misery"). Actually I know he kinda feels awkward to initiate things again after I've ruined things because of my dumbness... But he also hesitates a bit...
One day he sent me a snap of him hanging out with his friends and actually one of his friends took his phone and pretended to be him and texted me that let's all hang out together after next mock test. And then he clarified the next day that whatever conversation I had, it was with his friend(🤡). And his friend was also there, and he said that "this guy was saying I wanna come here with (the nickname he calls me) so I thought it was my responsibility as a sincere friends to make things easy for me but I guess he would have liked it for only the both of you and not a group".
We both know that we like each other but none of us has made any moves to take things onto the next step.
I want to use this opportunity to make a move but I also don't want to sound desperate.
Hence, I need some advices on this situation.
Thanks for reading.
Tldr: My crush asked me out but I'm dumb. So now I'm caught up in a mess and need some advices.

For this summer I wanted to try to grow a wisteria on a cherry blossom tree with my mom since she likes gardening and pants in general. So I wanted to know if i should really worry about it getting choked to death and if I could get any tips for growing them together. The 2 species i plan on growing are Cherry Blossom (Prunus serrulata 'Okame') and Wisteria (Wisteria floribunda 'Blue Moon') because they bloom around the same time

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I'll start by saying we've been married for approximately 13 years, and most of that time has been great!
When I met my wife, she was already working as a flight attendant, and we always knew kids were in our future. A couple of years into our marriage, we decided to start trying and now have two amazing kids.
Fast forward, and she’s been back to flying for about three years now.
She works 50% of the time, flying anywhere from 4-7 days per month, mainly back to the US. She also has another part-time home office job where she works 20 hours a week. The hours are flexible, and she can split them up however she wants, working more some weeks and less when she's flying.
Our kids are 6 and 8 and are very active, including participating in competitive sports at a national level. We recently built a house and have a lot of friends with various activities planned each day/week.
Now, enough background and on to the point of the post.
We live in Germany, where there are robust employee protection rights, allowing one to call in sick up to 20 days for personal illness and 10 days per child. Recently, I’ve noticed she’s overwhelmed and stressed, often calling in sick to her flight attendant job mainly to avoid missing the kids' activities (especially the competitive sports).
My salary is OK but not great, considering the total hours worked (flight attendants only get paid when the plane is moving, not for the briefings conducted 4 hours before takeoff). However, her additional income helps with future retirement planning and other expenses.
I recently suggested she evaluate if she still enjoys flying. If not, I proposed she consider quitting and increasing her hours at her other job to about 30 hours a week. This way, she could handle more of our personal lives and the kids' needs (one of our kids has severe ADHD and requires regular attention). This change could provide a more stable environment for our kids and be financially beneficial since the salary is better at her side job. I also pointed out how often the kids say they miss her and ask why she has to fly. To be clear, I always support her by explaining to the kids that this is her job and some moms have jobs that require travel.
This is where she lost it.
She accused me of "trying to take away her happiness" and said that I "married her as a flight attendant." She said, "this is her dream job, and she's not quitting for anyone," basically accusing me of trying to take away her happiness. She also mentioned that "not everyone has to hate their job like you do." To clarify, I don’t hate my job; it fulfills me, but it’s definitely not my dream job.
I tried to explain that people evolve, situations change, and what was practical 10 years ago may not be practical now.
I reminded her that I was a bartender when she met me, living a completely different lifestyle. I decided to get an office job with better pay and more stable hours in anticipation of our family life.
I explained that I really loved bartending, tending to guests, and building social relationships with people.
She then suggested I "go back to doing what I love." I tried explaining how it’s not financially feasible (since the salary is approximately 70% lower) and that we wouldn’t be able to afford our house and current lifestyle.
This is where happiness became conditional. She listed all the things we wouldn’t be able to do if I took a pay cut and ended by saying, "but you can if you want to."
She knows my decision to take a happier role would cause financial discomfort for the entire family, leading to everyone’s unhappiness.
My question is, AITA for asking her to consider trading in her dream job for one that's more compatible with our high-demand lifestyle (where she could potentially earn more)?

Disclaimer: I am not the DM but a player recruiting on the DM's behalf and with their express permission.
This campaign, called Jade Chronicles, takes place in the continent of Durra, a land that has spent millennia covered in a deadly Miasma, long enough for most histories to be lost and rewritten anew a mix the struggle to survive, Over time, those living there have learn to adapt, using a combination of jade and myrrh to ward villages, towns and cities from the Miasma and having little interest to leave the safety and relative normality of settlements. Despite( or due to) a reluctance to leave the safety of settlements, trade and commerce, both legal and illegal, is in great demand. This has led to the advent of individuals known as Wanderers, adventurers with a willingness, or lack of alternatives, to travel through the Miasma in caravans, a fact that has them looked down upon by townsfolk, who assume the worst of most Wanderers and treat them as a tolerated part of life in Durra. You'll be playing as a Wanderer, traveling the roads for any variety of reasons.
Jade Chronicles is a homebrew campaign taking place in an homebrew version of Golarion featuring a number of house rules, official optional systems and setting relevant changes. The most relevant are:

• We'll be using a bell-curve in place of flat probability distribution I.e. any time you would roll 1d20, instead just use the total result of 3d6. In the long run, this tends to produce a "grittier", more realistic style of story because there are fewer fantastical coincidences. It's also because, with the average result being so much more likely, this favors the stronger side in combats. Although that's very often the PCs, it means that the choice to avoid combat is more valid – and that a villain's superiority over masses of weaker foes is more emphatic. And as an aside, it also means the GM can more safely design challenges without quite as much risk of a comical, coincidental disaster derailing the story.
• Spellcasting will be greatly altered with every spellcaster having a base pool of Mana based on class and level instead of spell slots.
• The Ability Scores spellcasting characters use to govern and manage their spellcasting are now distributed across their three mental attributes, with the save DC of your spells is based on your Intelligence score, your bonus Mana points for having a high ability score is calculated based on your Wisdom, and the amount of Mana you recover per night of sleep is equal to your Caster Level in that class plus your Charisma modifier. There is also no longer a minimum ability score required to be able to cast a spell of a given spell level for your class.
• There are a number of classes which are not appropriate to use for this story for one reason or another meaning Gunslinger, Summoner, Vigilante, Vampire Hunter and all the Occult Adventures classes are banned. Firearm technology just isn't commonplace, we won't be staying in one city fighting crime, we will be vagabond pariahs, and this is a story indeed about the relationships between travelers on an epic journey - not about the eldritch powers of the mind and mysterious aliens.

A wiki containing all house rules, necessary lore, changes and explanations for some decisions can be found on this wiki https://jadechronicles.obsidianportal.com/wikis/main-page .
The campaign is set to run on Mondays in the evenings at 5 pm PDT. We plan to meet on the May 20nd to have Session 3, we'll be doing a non-cannon dungeon crawl to give everyone a chance to get to know each other and to playtest the rules we'll be playing by before we start the proper campaign. The intended group size is 5, so currently we have 4 players. Though subject to change, we currently have a fighter, oracle, wizard and inquisitor.
Anyone interested or having questions, message me here on reddit, direct message or chat is fine. I'm typically available in the evenings so please be patient if I don't reply immediate.

Hi. My friends and I are planning a trip oct 7-13. Main goal is to see the northern lights as we are not lucky enough to see it last week as we are in the wrong part of the world lol. We are debating whether to go to Tromso, rovaniemi or iceland. Any suggestions or recommendations on which place is the best would be appreciated. Also the best to do other activities. I am a little apprehensive with iceland due to recent volcanic activities.

Ive been with my husband for 18 years. He cheated on me dec 2022. Not making excuses but at the time his mental health was in question and he wasnt able to legally make decisions himself so i was legally his decision maker and q so called friend started it and he was mentally out if it so it's technically rape but lets not open that up. First time hes physically ever done it. For our whole 18 year relationship. Yes my fault for not leaving at those points. He's cheated emotionally other ways. Photos, messages to girls. Its always online. Never in person. Multiple people. Some have known about me and some dont hes told some that ive treated him bad or I controlled him. While I was working full time making money for our family and supporting his arse while he does next to nothing. All due to his mental health issues. Yes his team of mental health professionals are amazing. He had a job for 7 years and then was made redundant. Not his fault. He was absolutely amazing at his job. But now I'm back to being our only source of income for our family. He's still struggling with mental health issues. Feelings of unliving himself. Hurting himself and so on. Those with mental health issues understand. Those fear daily while I'm at work scares me. So many what ifs.
I do try to talk to him about everything and find out where we stand and how hes feeling etc . But he shuts downs. Tells me he loves me but that's as far as i get and I've taken that for the past 2 and a bit years. Plans for his the future always include us together. Doing shit. Exploring the world etc I do want us together do all those things.18 years and 4 kids. Our lives are long entwined together that it's to hard to untwist it. Trust me I did try when he told me that he cheated. I do greatly love him. He's my best friend, baby daddy, my everything. But with his mental health and physical health issues. I get no loving physical touch. boobs & butt always get touched btw and im happy for those. But I would like Cuddles and kisses too. Simple things. You forget how much you miss them when you don't get them. I'm not going to force him into anything he doesn't want to do. I don't push him into anything. Hes in complete control of our sex life etc As I don't wanna send him down a spiral path but it feels like I'm walking constantly on egg shells in that regard. I did have little to no sex drive due to mental health and stage 4 endometriosis but now i always want it. And being married to someone who's always struggled with his mental health I truly get that its a struggle. As I myself struggle as well just not to his severity. I feel like I'm just more venting to strangers as I can say this shit to anyone I know personally. Yep I'm weird as fuck. I'm well aware.
Babe if you read this I fucking love you and you know that. You know I want the absolute best for you. You know that. I just want you to remember and realise that I need love too. Simple things like cuddles and kisses that you start not me. I know that you don't think of these things but plus try to remember I'm more than t&a. As much as I enjoy those things I need my snuggles And kisses. I'm a simple women. I need things that are small. Like kisses and cuddles plus the extra fun shit ♡