I'm currently 14 years old, I live in Italy. I have started noFap on november and I was doing great till one month ago. My best streak was 8 days and I kept going forward but then I had two weeks of school vacations. I was by myself most of the day and I couldn't stop relapsing. Now I am trying to get back on track, to get back to my prime but I can't. I've been struggling more than ever. At one point, I just gave up. Now I'am again on vacation after relapsing once every two day for the last 2 weeks and I am trying to get back on track. I started 10 days ago and my best streak is 3 days. Today I relapsed. I will try writting daily to keep myself busy.
Thank you for listenning to my story Frans

Hello Redditors,
This is an incredible success story of how we helped a client achieve incredible results in just four months, generating an $80,000 return on investment (ROI) with a combination of SEO and Facebook Ads. We have completed many successful projects and there's a certain satisfaction in seeing our strategies translate to such tangible growth. I have tried to keep this post extremely detailed so that it can be beneficial for experienced marketers and newcomers alike.
The Client: Hair Extension E-commerce Brand
Revenue Split Between SEO and Fb ads: 3:2
Average Order Value: $350
Total Revenue(6 months): $140,000
Expenses(6 months): Product Cost + Delivery cost + Team + Agency Fees + Ads Cost+ Website Optimization + Packaging: $60000
Basic Company Background:
The brand was being run by a Mother-Daughter duo for the past 3 months. They had a shopify website with average structure and were struggling with facebook ads themselves. Although they made few physical sales due to friends and relatives but were unable to utilize the digital potential of their business as such. After trying facebook ads for some time they wanted a reliable digital marketing team to work with and they were recommended to us by one of our other customers who has a service based business. Initially we connected majorly for facebook ads but after the initial discussion when were doing research from our side, we found that there is huge potential in SEO for this niche so we suggested that we should prepare a proper website on wordpress and focus on both SEO and Ads parallelly as, although Ads will give an initial boost to the business but SEO will bring some stability and help in building a sustainable business.
Facebook Ads Campaign Structure:

• Our campaign housed multiple ad sets targeting users who are interested in fashion products and we also targeted audiences of some big and costly fashion companies. We were mostly targeting females aged 25-45 with good income source to have optimal conversions in the beginning, with our Seo efforts we planned to target a slightly younger audience as well which is going steadily as of now.
• We ran occasional promotions like "Buy x get x free" to boost AOV.
• Due to the high AOV and especially the product niche sometimes it is necessary to build trust so we used retargeting to build trust and showcase benefits, not just push for immediate conversions. Ads focused on comparison(Before & Afters), Customer Reviews, Hassle free product application and natural look, stylish look.

Ads Creatives and Brand Positioning:
It's important to note that after deep research we could find that a major share our hair extensions customers are females aged between 21-45 so we did not actively position our brand as solving problems of low hair volume, but instead we focused on how the products ads style, gives a much better look and you can try new hairstyles and hair colors daily. Also since almost all the demographics in this age group are working, we tested a professional look angle as well which gave us decent results. In ad creatives as well as on the website we made the daughter as the face of the product as we want to slowly grow her instagram as well which can add another organic and sustainable stream of revenue. She shoots before and after transition videos, general product application videos and other videos for ads according to the target audience and brand positioning strategy we discussed earlier. Instead of making long videos focused on product details a lot, we made short but captivating videos which can appeal to the young audience’s fashion sense.
Key Takeaways from FB Ads:
Mostly Meta Ads or Any other marketing tactic is just a traffic source but conversion will basically happen by how well you are able to communicate your product to the audience through your website. Its is necessary to have a smooth user journey, attractive offers, crisp information and right brand positioning on the website.
It is extremely important to make data driven decisions and track customer journeys meticulously. Always rely on your own tracking or google analytics to avoid the potential unreliability of Facebook Ads Manager.
Seo Strategy
If you don’t already know this, SEO is all about how effectively you can strategize your content and technical efforts keeping a bigger picture in mind. After our initial keyword research we could find that the average Kd of the important keywords was low when it comes to commercial keywords which were directly related to the business.
It's important to note that since the website was being built after our onboarding only so it was easy for us to structure the website according to the SEO strategy that we prepared.
At every stage we had meetings with the developer to ensure that there are no technical issues that will hinder the SEO growth and future and also we structured the website to be SEO friendly. We built separate pages for all the product categories and after through keyword research we added content to those pages so that the pages itself can rank for commercial keywords.
After the website was ready we audited it for technical issues(Like mobile friendliness, H1 tags, canonical tags, etc) we started focusing on the content. We wanted to establish our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions and hair care industry in general.
Since the website was completely new, initially we created blogs(2-3 times per week) around informational keywords with low KD purely for increasing our website authority and bringing the initial traffic on the website. We have seen that usually people start stressing about approaching big websites for guest postings since the first day itself but if your keyword research and content is solid, that is not required in the beginning. Initially we focused on profile creations, image submissions, pdf submissions, internal linking in the content, web 2.0 backlinks etc and this was more than enough for us to rank for low difficulty keywords and increase our DA to a decent level so that our category pages can rank for low difficulty keywords.
Here I would like to include a tip, many times people are worried that what if the backlink that they have created doesn't get indexed. In the initial phase we work really hard when it comes to what we call as maturing our backlinks as this is the major factor for ranking on low difficulty keywords. So basically what we do is, we make backlinks of our web 2.0 backlinks itself which helps the primary backlink in getting indexed which ultimately helps with our website DA.
Also many people have been asking us in our previous posts how we structure our blog since I talk a lot about content quality, see it's not as hard and it doesn't involve a lot of research at least in the initial phase when you just have to rank on low difficulty keywords. In this phase usually what we do is study the top 5 ranking blogs on the particular keyword and make sure that we include more content and more subheadings then them. Also we try to find opportunities to include tables or charts wherever possible, we include good quality images(original if possible) and at this stage internal linking is very very important so we focus on that as well. In later stages although the basic strategy for framing the blogs remains same, overall content strategy varies a lot from business to business and requires a lot of strategizing depending on the brand positioning goals.
So after we were able to rank for low difficulty informational keywords and our Website DA reached a decent level due to our backlinking efforts, we started writing content around the fashion advice and common problems which people face related to hair in general. But as discussed earlier, we wanted to keep our brand positioning fashion centric, so even while writing about common problems we applied a positive and solution centric approach. We strategically placed internal links to our product pages in the content and tested popups with offers as well. Apart from this, we started guest posting as well at this stage. For finding websites for guest posting we used SEMrush’s backlink gap analysis tool and created a segregated list of blogs that we can reach out to based on their content quality and DA. By this time the store started generating decent revenue from ads and SEO so the client was completely onboard with reaching out to blogs for guest posting. Guest posting and overall strategic SEO application started generating a good amount of traffic for us and in 3-4 months the revenue generated due to SEO surpassed our Ads revenue as well.
Advantages of Combining SEO and Paid Ads
While Facebook Ads played a crucial role in launching the brand and driving initial traffic, SEO has emerged as the primary driver of sustainable growth. This approach allowed us to:

• Reduce Reliance on Paid Advertising: As our SEO efforts matured, we were able to gradually decrease our Facebook ad spend, resulting in cost savings and improved return on investment.
• Build Brand Authority: Our SEO strategy has positioned our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions industry. This fosters brand recognition and trust, leading to organic customer acquisition.
• Scale Traffic and Revenue: Organic traffic growth has been exponential, leading to a significant and sustainable increase in website revenue generated through SEO.

SEO efforts are always ongoing but we are really satisfied with the base that we have built and we are really looking forward to working with keywords with higher KD and generating more revenue with SEO In the upcoming months. Although we will keep running ads in future as well mostly for awareness purposes but the major revenue will be generated from our SEO efforts. Apart from this, as we mentioned earlier, we are looking to actively start the Social Media efforts as well from the next month itself. We will be looking to target Instagram and Tiktok in the initial phase and we believe in 2-3 months social media will contribute towards 25% of our revenue which will grow rapidly.
Thankyou For Reading!

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now (most of it being LDR), and honestly, our relationship was perfect. I genuinely thought he was the one; he was so sweet and respectful, until he just wasn’t.
To preface this, we did start off casual. We both were drunk at a party, hooked up, and decided to keep it that way until, eventually, one of us caught feelings and the other followed suit. However, he was graduating college and I was only a sophomore, so the idea of this actually working was absurd. But as one thing led to another, we both realized we wanted to make this work, so we gave LDR a shot.
The long distance itself wasn't too bad (initially, at least). We didn't text all the time; in fact, there were days where barely anything was said, but neither of us minded as we understood we have busy schedules. Problems, however, began when my trust was somewhat breached, and I just couldn't deal with things anymore.
So, my boyfriend is a sweet guy, kinda shy and non-confrontational. He has a girl best friend who is a total bitch and has been weird with me time and time again. The first time I met her, my boyfriend and I were only hooking up. It was for breakfast after a night of drinking. We were being a bit affectionate, and she, out of nowhere, exclaimed, "BF name, please behave, stop embarrassing yourself in public." Strange, but I paid it no mind. Of course, that wasn't enough. We were all just sitting, eating, not saying much because she just radiated malice. I didn't want to engage because I would snap and I wanted to leave a good impression. But she continued to pose hypothetical scenarios to my boyfriend about what his ex would think about him being in this situation, overall giving weird vibes. At the time, my hookup (boyfriend) didn't say anything, and I didn't want to assert myself in the situation, so I stayed silent.
Fast forward a few months later, we are at an event in the car. We are all tripping on ecstasy except for his beloved girl best friend, who the whole time is sitting in the back making snide comments about me to her friend, "oh, she's crazy," blah blah. STILL, my boyfriend claims to have not heard and said nothing. STILL, I ignore that.
Fine? Now, this is almost 6 months later. My boyfriend and I are at a party when a girl who was very overtly interested in my boyfriend comes up to him, and they start talking. (The first time meeting post-grad, they both are drunk, so I let it go.) They are sitting on the side. She is holding his hand, and I'm just observing from afar because I don't want to put myself in that situation when my boyfriend calls me (he claims it was to include me). This girl says, "OMG, you're lucky I backed off; you can have him, he's all yours," to which my boyfriend, sitting right there, says nothing (claimed he didn't hear). I avert the topic, ask her about work, etc., but the whole time I am fuming. I bring it up to my boyfriend, and his same response: "I never heard. I love you. Can you stop being dramatic?"
Now I'm a bit suspicious of him. Anyway, it's summer break. I am on vacation, and he's back home. At 4 am, he texts me, saying, "Hey babe, I want to meet a friend of mine. We dated back in school. It was a kiddy relationship. Can I meet her? If it's okay with you, we will just smoke a joint or whatever." I didn't want to be controlling, and if they dated in school, who was I to stop him? So I was like, sure. Months later, I find out it's the first girl he had sex with. Are you seeing a pattern?
In isolation, these micro-breaches could just be looked over, but the build-up is just not giving. Anyways, fast forward some more months. My friend shows me a close friend's post of this girl my boyfriend follows where she's practically naked, and he's liked it. Keep in mind, this is months into our relationship. I screenshot it and bring it up to him. It's the same: "I didn't know, I just like everything on my feed. It's before we had such convos about boundaries." (I have always expressed how icky and embarrassing it is to see your man under some hoe's post.)
So obviously, with all these little instances, I get angrier and angrier. I trust him less, I ask more, and I get angry real quick. Now our relationship has reached the point where we can't go without fighting for more than 2 days (if I'm being generous). I second-guess his every move, I am perpetually suspicious, and I kind of resent him. When we are together, it’s great; there aren't any major problems per se, but in LDR, I just can't. Not only is he an awful texter, but he also makes so many promises that he can't fulfill. An example: he said he’d post our pics. It's been months now, and he hasn't, but if it was some concert of his or a friend's, that post is up and running ASAP.
All his friends are also so man-coded; they act like boys. His own best friend has a shit relationship, but my boyfriend looks at his relationship as the pinnacle because apparently they live together and that's so perfect. He wants to get married and have me uproot my whole life to accommodate his plans because apparently we have to go for masters together, but that can only be when it works for him (so I can't go post-grad as planned). I am also expected to get married as soon as I graduate and move to a super conservative country because his job pays so well, and I "should find work there."
Keep in mind while we do LDR, he barely texts when he is out. I go out; I take out time regardless, and I understand people are different, but his communication is so shit. I understand quality over quantity, and I am okay with that, but the quality of our conversation is also so deplorable. Most times, if I talk to him on the phone for too long, something will make me angry, and things blow up into an argument.
I want to be with him, but I don't know how to fix these problems or if they are even worth fixing. We also talk about breaking up every week, and there are days I literally want to punch a wall.

Hello Redditors,
This is an incredible success story of how we helped a client achieve incredible results in just four months, generating an $80,000 return on investment (ROI) with a combination of SEO and Facebook Ads. We have completed many successful projects and there's a certain satisfaction in seeing our strategies translate to such tangible growth. I have tried to keep this post extremely detailed so that it can be beneficial for experienced marketers and newcomers alike.
The Client: Hair Extension E-commerce Brand
Revenue Split Between SEO and Fb ads: 3:2
Average Order Value: $350
Total Revenue(6 months): $140,000
Expenses(6 months): Product Cost + Delivery cost + Team + Agency Fees + Ads Cost+ Website Optimization + Packaging: $60000
Basic Company Background:
The brand was being run by a Mother-Daughter duo for the past 3 months. They had a shopify website with average structure and were struggling with facebook ads themselves. Although they made few physical sales due to friends and relatives but were unable to utilize the digital potential of their business as such. After trying facebook ads for some time they wanted a reliable digital marketing team to work with and they were recommended to us by one of our other customers who has a service based business. Initially we connected majorly for facebook ads but after the initial discussion when were doing research from our side, we found that there is huge potential in SEO for this niche so we suggested that we should prepare a proper website on wordpress and focus on both SEO and Ads parallelly as, although Ads will give an initial boost to the business but SEO will bring some stability and help in building a sustainable business.
Facebook Ads Campaign Structure:

• Our campaign housed multiple ad sets targeting users who are interested in fashion products and we also targeted audiences of some big and costly fashion companies. We were mostly targeting females aged 25-45 with good income source to have optimal conversions in the beginning, with our Seo efforts we planned to target a slightly younger audience as well which is going steadily as of now.
• We ran occasional promotions like "Buy x get x free" to boost AOV.
• Due to the high AOV and especially the product niche sometimes it is necessary to build trust so we used retargeting to build trust and showcase benefits, not just push for immediate conversions. Ads focused on comparison(Before & Afters), Customer Reviews, Hassle free product application and natural look, stylish look.

Ads Creatives and Brand Positioning:
It's important to note that after deep research we could find that a major share our hair extensions customers are females aged between 21-45 so we did not actively position our brand as solving problems of low hair volume, but instead we focused on how the products ads style, gives a much better look and you can try new hairstyles and hair colors daily. Also since almost all the demographics in this age group are working, we tested a professional look angle as well which gave us decent results. In ad creatives as well as on the website we made the daughter as the face of the product as we want to slowly grow her instagram as well which can add another organic and sustainable stream of revenue. She shoots before and after transition videos, general product application videos and other videos for ads according to the target audience and brand positioning strategy we discussed earlier. Instead of making long videos focused on product details a lot, we made short but captivating videos which can appeal to the young audience’s fashion sense.
Key Takeaways from FB Ads:
Mostly Meta Ads or Any other marketing tactic is just a traffic source but conversion will basically happen by how well you are able to communicate your product to the audience through your website. Its is necessary to have a smooth user journey, attractive offers, crisp information and right brand positioning on the website.
It is extremely important to make data driven decisions and track customer journeys meticulously. Always rely on your own tracking or google analytics to avoid the potential unreliability of Facebook Ads Manager.
Seo Strategy
If you don’t already know this, SEO is all about how effectively you can strategize your content and technical efforts keeping a bigger picture in mind. After our initial keyword research we could find that the average Kd of the important keywords was low when it comes to commercial keywords which were directly related to the business.
It's important to note that since the website was being built after our onboarding only so it was easy for us to structure the website according to the SEO strategy that we prepared.
At every stage we had meetings with the developer to ensure that there are no technical issues that will hinder the SEO growth and future and also we structured the website to be SEO friendly. We built separate pages for all the product categories and after through keyword research we added content to those pages so that the pages itself can rank for commercial keywords.
After the website was ready we audited it for technical issues(Like mobile friendliness, H1 tags, canonical tags, etc) we started focusing on the content. We wanted to establish our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions and hair care industry in general.
Since the website was completely new, initially we created blogs(2-3 times per week) around informational keywords with low KD purely for increasing our website authority and bringing the initial traffic on the website. We have seen that usually people start stressing about approaching big websites for guest postings since the first day itself but if your keyword research and content is solid, that is not required in the beginning. Initially we focused on profile creations, image submissions, pdf submissions, internal linking in the content, web 2.0 backlinks etc and this was more than enough for us to rank for low difficulty keywords and increase our DA to a decent level so that our category pages can rank for low difficulty keywords.
Here I would like to include a tip, many times people are worried that what if the backlink that they have created doesn't get indexed. In the initial phase we work really hard when it comes to what we call as maturing our backlinks as this is the major factor for ranking on low difficulty keywords. So basically what we do is, we make backlinks of our web 2.0 backlinks itself which helps the primary backlink in getting indexed which ultimately helps with our website DA.
Also many people have been asking us in our previous posts how we structure our blog since I talk a lot about content quality, see it's not as hard and it doesn't involve a lot of research at least in the initial phase when you just have to rank on low difficulty keywords. In this phase usually what we do is study the top 5 ranking blogs on the particular keyword and make sure that we include more content and more subheadings then them. Also we try to find opportunities to include tables or charts wherever possible, we include good quality images(original if possible) and at this stage internal linking is very very important so we focus on that as well. In later stages although the basic strategy for framing the blogs remains same, overall content strategy varies a lot from business to business and requires a lot of strategizing depending on the brand positioning goals.
So after we were able to rank for low difficulty informational keywords and our Website DA reached a decent level due to our backlinking efforts, we started writing content around the fashion advice and common problems which people face related to hair in general. But as discussed earlier, we wanted to keep our brand positioning fashion centric, so even while writing about common problems we applied a positive and solution centric approach. We strategically placed internal links to our product pages in the content and tested popups with offers as well. Apart from this, we started guest posting as well at this stage. For finding websites for guest posting we used SEMrush’s backlink gap analysis tool and created a segregated list of blogs that we can reach out to based on their content quality and DA. By this time the store started generating decent revenue from ads and SEO so the client was completely onboard with reaching out to blogs for guest posting. Guest posting and overall strategic SEO application started generating a good amount of traffic for us and in 3-4 months the revenue generated due to SEO surpassed our Ads revenue as well.
Advantages of Combining SEO and Paid Ads
While Facebook Ads played a crucial role in launching the brand and driving initial traffic, SEO has emerged as the primary driver of sustainable growth. This approach allowed us to:

• Reduce Reliance on Paid Advertising: As our SEO efforts matured, we were able to gradually decrease our Facebook ad spend, resulting in cost savings and improved return on investment.
• Build Brand Authority: Our SEO strategy has positioned our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions industry. This fosters brand recognition and trust, leading to organic customer acquisition.
• Scale Traffic and Revenue: Organic traffic growth has been exponential, leading to a significant and sustainable increase in website revenue generated through SEO.

SEO efforts are always ongoing but we are really satisfied with the base that we have built and we are really looking forward to working with keywords with higher KD and generating more revenue with SEO In the upcoming months. Although we will keep running ads in future as well mostly for awareness purposes but the major revenue will be generated from our SEO efforts. Apart from this, as we mentioned earlier, we are looking to actively start the Social Media efforts as well from the next month itself. We will be looking to target Instagram and Tiktok in the initial phase and we believe in 2-3 months social media will contribute towards 25% of our revenue which will grow rapidly.
Thankyou For Reading!

Hello Redditors,
This is an incredible success story of how we helped a client achieve incredible results in just four months, generating an $80,000 return on investment (ROI) with a combination of SEO and Facebook Ads. We have completed many successful projects and there's a certain satisfaction in seeing our strategies translate to such tangible growth. I have tried to keep this post extremely detailed so that it can be beneficial for experienced marketers and newcomers alike.
The Client: Hair Extension E-commerce Brand
Revenue Split Between SEO and Fb ads: 3:2
Average Order Value: $350
Total Revenue(6 months): $140,000
Expenses(6 months): Product Cost + Delivery cost + Team + Agency Fees + Ads Cost+ Website Optimization + Packaging: $60000
Basic Company Background:
The brand was being run by a Mother-Daughter duo for the past 3 months. They had a shopify website with average structure and were struggling with facebook ads themselves. Although they made few physical sales due to friends and relatives but were unable to utilize the digital potential of their business as such. After trying facebook ads for some time they wanted a reliable digital marketing team to work with and they were recommended to us by one of our other customers who has a service based business. Initially we connected majorly for facebook ads but after the initial discussion when were doing research from our side, we found that there is huge potential in SEO for this niche so we suggested that we should prepare a proper website on wordpress and focus on both SEO and Ads parallelly as, although Ads will give an initial boost to the business but SEO will bring some stability and help in building a sustainable business.
Facebook Ads Campaign Structure:

• Our campaign housed multiple ad sets targeting users who are interested in fashion products and we also targeted audiences of some big and costly fashion companies. We were mostly targeting females aged 25-45 with good income source to have optimal conversions in the beginning, with our Seo efforts we planned to target a slightly younger audience as well which is going steadily as of now.
• We ran occasional promotions like "Buy x get x free" to boost AOV.
• Due to the high AOV and especially the product niche sometimes it is necessary to build trust so we used retargeting to build trust and showcase benefits, not just push for immediate conversions. Ads focused on comparison(Before & Afters), Customer Reviews, Hassle free product application and natural look, stylish look.

Ads Creatives and Brand Positioning:
It's important to note that after deep research we could find that a major share our hair extensions customers are females aged between 21-45 so we did not actively position our brand as solving problems of low hair volume, but instead we focused on how the products ads style, gives a much better look and you can try new hairstyles and hair colors daily. Also since almost all the demographics in this age group are working, we tested a professional look angle as well which gave us decent results. In ad creatives as well as on the website we made the daughter as the face of the product as we want to slowly grow her instagram as well which can add another organic and sustainable stream of revenue. She shoots before and after transition videos, general product application videos and other videos for ads according to the target audience and brand positioning strategy we discussed earlier. Instead of making long videos focused on product details a lot, we made short but captivating videos which can appeal to the young audience’s fashion sense.
Key Takeaways from FB Ads:
Mostly Meta Ads or Any other marketing tactic is just a traffic source but conversion will basically happen by how well you are able to communicate your product to the audience through your website. Its is necessary to have a smooth user journey, attractive offers, crisp information and right brand positioning on the website.
It is extremely important to make data driven decisions and track customer journeys meticulously. Always rely on your own tracking or google analytics to avoid the potential unreliability of Facebook Ads Manager.
Seo Strategy
If you don’t already know this, SEO is all about how effectively you can strategize your content and technical efforts keeping a bigger picture in mind. After our initial keyword research we could find that the average Kd of the important keywords was low when it comes to commercial keywords which were directly related to the business.
It's important to note that since the website was being built after our onboarding only so it was easy for us to structure the website according to the SEO strategy that we prepared.
At every stage we had meetings with the developer to ensure that there are no technical issues that will hinder the SEO growth and future and also we structured the website to be SEO friendly. We built separate pages for all the product categories and after through keyword research we added content to those pages so that the pages itself can rank for commercial keywords.
After the website was ready we audited it for technical issues(Like mobile friendliness, H1 tags, canonical tags, etc) we started focusing on the content. We wanted to establish our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions and hair care industry in general.
Since the website was completely new, initially we created blogs(2-3 times per week) around informational keywords with low KD purely for increasing our website authority and bringing the initial traffic on the website. We have seen that usually people start stressing about approaching big websites for guest postings since the first day itself but if your keyword research and content is solid, that is not required in the beginning. Initially we focused on profile creations, image submissions, pdf submissions, internal linking in the content, web 2.0 backlinks etc and this was more than enough for us to rank for low difficulty keywords and increase our DA to a decent level so that our category pages can rank for low difficulty keywords.
Here I would like to include a tip, many times people are worried that what if the backlink that they have created doesn't get indexed. In the initial phase we work really hard when it comes to what we call as maturing our backlinks as this is the major factor for ranking on low difficulty keywords. So basically what we do is, we make backlinks of our web 2.0 backlinks itself which helps the primary backlink in getting indexed which ultimately helps with our website DA.
Also many people have been asking us in our previous posts how we structure our blog since I talk a lot about content quality, see it's not as hard and it doesn't involve a lot of research at least in the initial phase when you just have to rank on low difficulty keywords. In this phase usually what we do is study the top 5 ranking blogs on the particular keyword and make sure that we include more content and more subheadings then them. Also we try to find opportunities to include tables or charts wherever possible, we include good quality images(original if possible) and at this stage internal linking is very very important so we focus on that as well. In later stages although the basic strategy for framing the blogs remains same, overall content strategy varies a lot from business to business and requires a lot of strategizing depending on the brand positioning goals.
So after we were able to rank for low difficulty informational keywords and our Website DA reached a decent level due to our backlinking efforts, we started writing content around the fashion advice and common problems which people face related to hair in general. But as discussed earlier, we wanted to keep our brand positioning fashion centric, so even while writing about common problems we applied a positive and solution centric approach. We strategically placed internal links to our product pages in the content and tested popups with offers as well. Apart from this, we started guest posting as well at this stage. For finding websites for guest posting we used SEMrush’s backlink gap analysis tool and created a segregated list of blogs that we can reach out to based on their content quality and DA. By this time the store started generating decent revenue from ads and SEO so the client was completely onboard with reaching out to blogs for guest posting. Guest posting and overall strategic SEO application started generating a good amount of traffic for us and in 3-4 months the revenue generated due to SEO surpassed our Ads revenue as well.
Advantages of Combining SEO and Paid Ads
While Facebook Ads played a crucial role in launching the brand and driving initial traffic, SEO has emerged as the primary driver of sustainable growth. This approach allowed us to:

• Reduce Reliance on Paid Advertising: As our SEO efforts matured, we were able to gradually decrease our Facebook ad spend, resulting in cost savings and improved return on investment.
• Build Brand Authority: Our SEO strategy has positioned our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions industry. This fosters brand recognition and trust, leading to organic customer acquisition.
• Scale Traffic and Revenue: Organic traffic growth has been exponential, leading to a significant and sustainable increase in website revenue generated through SEO.

SEO efforts are always ongoing but we are really satisfied with the base that we have built and we are really looking forward to working with keywords with higher KD and generating more revenue with SEO In the upcoming months. Although we will keep running ads in future as well mostly for awareness purposes but the major revenue will be generated from our SEO efforts. Apart from this, as we mentioned earlier, we are looking to actively start the Social Media efforts as well from the next month itself. We will be looking to target Instagram and Tiktok in the initial phase and we believe in 2-3 months social media will contribute towards 25% of our revenue which will grow rapidly.
Thankyou For Reading!

Hey everyone. I have topology course in a few semesters. I haven't done analysis yet formally although I have done some aspects of it. I thought of going through topology on my own and have downloaded munkres and dugundji. Dugundji is a more fast paced text and munkres is very elaborate but, well it is a lot to read. I have few months on me for summer vacations and am free mostly. Please give any and all suggestions for a smooth experience. I am also under the partial supervision of a professor so he might be able to help me once or twice in two weeks.

As bizarre as it gets, I had got a UPS envelope with documents sent internationally to New Jersey and the third day it just driving around and not delivering with the following tracking status:
On the Way
Preparing for Delivery
UPS on Facebook and Twitter stated that they will deliver it yesterday on the 16th of May yet the tracking does not show delivery made on the 17th. UPS is driving it back and forth Edison, NJ to Secaucus, NJ and back again and again without delivering it. What kind of game is UPS playing with customer documents and why?

Back in April, I was onboarded for an unpaid SMM job. I'm a newbie and had no experience working for clients yet, and so I accepted the offer of working unpaid at first then eventually to work with pay. There was no contract.
Honestly, I learned quite a lot from the experience so I'm not THAT mad at it. I also learned na I really like this niche so I really want to seriously pursue it! However, just about two weeks before my supposed unpaid month passed, I quit because the tasks were becoming unreasonable for me. I'm a college student so I operate on a strict schedule to properly manage my academics and extracurriculars. Meaning I only set particular hours in a day for the job (sa gabi, para US time and I can communicate with them pag kailangan) since they said it was flexible, but the client for this business and his assistant, while nice people, are bad at scheduling meetings and assigning tasks.
I was "hired" under the pretense of it having a flexible schedule, but the client or her assistant would sometimes randomly pop up in our group chat and send a meeting link because we need to have a meeting. It really didn't work for me 😭 Because sometimes the meetings would go for two hours, tapos magsisimula siya around the end of my supposed work hours.
But that's not even the worst part! The client would just add more tasks! As an SMM, sobrang thankful ako for scheduling apps and I rely on them to lighten my workload. Tapos after a week or so, I look at insights to edit stuff here and there. Honestly I'm not the best at reading insights yet, but I'm really trying my very best to learn. When I was onboarded, I was only given a week to work on the calendar tapos pubs. Then I pitched it agad sa kanila tapos start na agad ng posting 😬 Akala ko normal lang na ganon as a newbie, pero after reading sa SMM communities here and on Facebook, hindi naman pala ako incompetent for thinking na I needed more time to formulate a proper strategy 😭
When I was hired, I was told na Facebook lang ang hahawakan ko that's why pumayag din ako na unpaid because I thought, it's just one page right? Kaya naman 'yun ng isang buwan. Tapos pagdating ng pitch namin, I was told to handle IG na rin. I said sure, because I figured it wouldn't hurt since connected naman 'yung FB at IG and I can reuse some materials na lang. Mas may added work but I charged it up to experience because I was gaining some practical knowledge from it naman.
Tapos! After a week and a half, nadagdagan ng isa pang page 'yung hahawakan ko along with the other SMM that was hired with me. That's when it all started to fall apart because wala talaga 'yun sa usapan. Bukod pa diyan, may "ad hoc tasks" pa wherein pinapagawa kami ng somewhat-related task sa pages na handle namin pero hindi napag-usapan during the pitching of the content calendar. So I have to move things around and edit and shit like that. Sobrang na-gfrustrate ako and decided to quit 😕
Iniisip ko nga if incompetent lang ba ako at di kayang mag-survive sa industry na 'to. Or bad luck lang ba? Where do I go from here? I'm lost kasi parang ang hirap maghanap ng opportunities as a newbie kahit may lil portfolio naman ako.

I'm interested in hearing from parents who choae to seperate, or chose to stay together, when the relationship was not awful, nothing abusive and minimal arguing in front of the kids, but both of you were moderately unhappy, unfulfilled, and you kept hurting each other's feelings- and it definitely felt like patterns were forming that WOULD be toxic for kids to be around in a few years if you continued status quo.
Also interested in hearing from mums where an uneven responsibility for the mental load/parenting and household tasks, and/or a partner who often chose to spend time on their phone, gaming, excerising, taking naps, etc, rather than spending quality time together as a couple or doing family activities, were factors in you considering separation, and how it's going now either staying together or having called it quits.
Also interested in opinions on best custody arrangements for a young toddler.
Mulling some things over at the moment and appreciate anything you can advise.

Im supposed to start my new and first job in mid June but I haven’t signed my contract yet.
I’m planning to go on holiday in september for 2 weeks and this has been planned a year ago.
I’m recently graduated and this will be my first real job. I’m very happy with the position and very enthusiastic about my new job so I don’t want my employer to think badly about me for going on holiday 2 months after starting a new job.
I do feel bad about going on vacation so soon after starting there. But it’s not like I go often on holidays an this one I had already planned over a year ago

I have no idea where to start let’s just try
I’ve always admired the femboy/trap lifestyle and the community’s a big part for me when got Facebook and I was allowed on it by my parents I’ve been a low-key part of a lot of the epic Memes and funny gay shit that’s come of it and I love it
I’m not a contributor, but I grew up enjoying it and when I turned 17, I officially started doing something and to be honest, I haven’t looked back but my process was growing out my hair I just didn’t feel comfortable and when I had my Facebook account hacked and I lost it, I kind of recoiled and became even more shy from doing a lot of stuff i did
I ended up moving house and focusing on a relationship and my job which took a good 6 years and when I finally came back, a lot of stuff has changed which is understandable…
but it so hard to find where I left off and I would like to find the traditional femboys my age that I grew up admiring so I can feel like I’m not old I’m not out of place and I can move forward with my own kind I’m moving to America soon and a lot of this stuff happens there so Id really like to have irl friends one day
I’m going to try and just start posting what I used to do again so if you’re reading this and you’re 26 and can relate to this somehow be cool hear from you
I know I’m talking to myself right now, but I’m too shy to post this anywhere else so I guess here is better than no where
Reddits scary for me but I’m not trying to be anonymous. I’m just trying to be honest…

Me (24) and my roommate of two years (24) study the same thing at university. Thats how we met. We both struggle with a few private things (money, mental health) which made our academic progress hard. We started in the same year, and when we met, we where at a similar progress state(?).
Now, I am almost finished with my degree while she is still behind.
I tried to help her with giving advice on courses or study techniques which helped me focus. She never really took those advices and did it her own way. I stopped giving those.
Once that happened, I stopped talking about university with her overall, not wanting to rub it under her nose that we are not at the same pace.
However I noticed something. She has a friend, who tries to get into university, who hasn't been in school for a few years and really struggles. She complained a bunch about her friend, even gossiped in really harsh tones how stupid she thinks she is, for thinking she can do it. I thought she probably did that to make herself feel better for not putting work into her own degree. There are similarities in the behavior her friend has and her, yet keep in mind her friend hasn't been in school for years and is used to working:

• She doesn't really study, neither plans anything nor has an overview of the degree
• she blames her not being able to study on external factors
• she self diagnosed herself with ADHD even though she is in therapy for over 3 years and could ask a professional
• she goes on multiple vacations during exam phases

A few things happened where I caught myself accidentally pointing the finger at her in a rather insensitive way:

• She talked about wanting to do an exchange year in her masters, I reacted with "You gotta finish bachelor first before thinking about that."
• She asked me how I got a good grade on a really difficult exam where she did study yet not enough so she had to cheat. I reacted with "Well...I studied." She replied with "Yea but I studied too."
• I asked her why she is going on so many vacations during exam phase and said something along the lines of "You're doing the same as your friend, who you complain about non stop."

So, am I the asshole for letting those bottled up feelings get out in a rude way?
TL;DR: My roommate and me study the same subject and started off the same time. She's lazy in my eyes, not putting in the effort, therefore further behind than me. I gave insensitive comments about it a few times.

Honor Violence: And why nobody should demand respect

Honor violence is a sort of violence committed where the perpetrator's goal is to regain his tribe's honor, his family's honor, and his own honor. In most cases it’s planned by a family, and committed by one or more men of that family, to a woman of the family who has done or suspected to have done something against cultural or religious norms like rejecting an arranged marriage, or adopting a Western lifestyle. What's worse is that the family helps the perpetrators avoid justice by helping them flee the country. It’s a huge problem in Islamic communities[1], among others, and it’s something that doesn’t exist at all in so many other communities.
Now before I talk about the kind of thinking that is causing these behaviors, I want to clarify some things. First of all, Islam, at least according to the Quran, does not advocate honor violence. Second, honor violence is a tradition that existed in the deserts of today's Saudi Arabia long before Islam. Third, Arab Muslims spread Islam along with their traditions (including honor violence) to a huge proportion of the world (although, I don't doubt that other cultures already had the tradition of honor violence).
What kind of thinking causes a person to commit honor violence?
There are three flaws to discuss here. The main flaw is violent intolerance of dissenters -- the idea that it's best for a person to initiate violence on another person because he has dissenting ideas or actions. A second flaw is the idea that a person's social status is important and should be sought after and preserved. And a third flaw is that a person's social status should be, in any way, linked with his family's, and tribe's social status. An important thing to note here is that these flaws are connected. To clarify, I'm not talking about which flaw is more or less to blame for a person committing honor violence. What I'm talking about is that all of these flaws must be there, in order for a person to think it's best for him to commit honor violence (i.e. for him to want to commit honor violence).
The least bad of these flaws can be explained by answering the question, why do some people care about having respect from their peers? What's the point of it? What problem is it intended to solve? One way to approach this problem is to think about why some people get offended. Consider that when somebody perceives that he has been disrespected, he gets offended, and he may respond in a way to regain respect.
Fallibility and first impressions
One problem with thinking in terms of being respected, is that people are often wrong in their interpretations of other people’s actions and intentions. Often people perceive that they’ve been disrespected, when the person had no intention of disrespecting anybody. Most of the time it’s a case of jumping to conclusions. In other words, the person is not thinking terms of innocent until proven guilty. The thing is that we’re all fallible, meaning that it’s possible, and very common, that we are wrong about our ideas. But a lot of people are not familiar with the idea of checking for other possible interpretations and critically questioning them as a means of avoiding jumping to conclusions, as a means of finding the correct interpretation.
One common first interpretation that people make is that someone wants to hurt them, or to make them lose in some way. But this is a bad way to think about people’s actions because some people don’t want to hurt anyone or make anyone lose anything. So assuming that there is always malicious intent is a mistake because it ignores all the cases where there isn’t malicious intent. So it's not giving the person the benefit of the doubt.
This way of thinking, of always assuming that there is malicious intent, sees human interactions as win/lose. But this is a mistake. It’s entirely possible, and desirable, for human interactions to be win/win, for everybody to get what they want and nobody loses anything they want -- there is no law of nature preventing it from happening.[2] This is a special case of the idea that 'all problems are soluble'.[3]
So the better way to think about human interactions is that win/win situations are possible, where the people involved share the same primary goal of everybody winning, of everybody getting what they want. Now it is true that sometimes a person is trying to make you lose something, or otherwise hurt you, so it’s important to try to look out for this as a means of protecting yourself from harm.
One common misinterpretation people make is to treat a criticism of an idea or an action as a personal attack. But this is a mistake because a criticism is an explanation of a flaw in an idea, so criticizing the idea does not make the holder of the idea lose anything. In fact, criticism helps a person go from wrong to right. It helps him change his mind. It helps him find the truth, which is a great thing! So why perceive it as an attack? The person loses nothing. He only stands to gain (the truth!).
So consider a situation where you're presented with a criticism of your idea. If you agree with it, you stand to gain the truth, and if you disagree with it, you stand to lose nothing. So with criticism you have everything to gain and nothing to lose. So giving and receiving criticism is win/win.
Some common responses people make to criticism is to say "that hurts my feelings," "I'm offended by that," and "that's insulting!" These people respond in this way to communicate that the other person is wrong in some way. But that's not a valid argument -- it's not objective. A person's feelings can't be used as a standard for judging the truth. What's needed is an explanation, one that doesn't depend on a person's feelings. And on a related note, if your feelings are hurt by the truth, then what you can do is ignore the truth (not something I advise), or you can change your feelings about the truth. But what you shouldn't be doing is pressuring people to hide the truth.
Now some people mistake personal attacks for criticism. But calling somebody stupid because he believes an idea does not constitute a criticism. It’s not an explanation of a flaw in an idea. Instead it's an attack on the holder of the idea. And it’s designed for only one purpose, to hurt. People who make personal attacks instead of arguments see human interactions as win/lose. And this is where the idea of respect comes in. The personal attacks are about disrespecting the person. But why would anybody want to do that? What’s the point? What problem does it solve?
Truth-seeking vs Status-seeking
Something closely connected to the win/lose attitude is the status-seeking attitude. People with this attitude think in terms of people having social status, and getting more of it, or keeping the amount they currently have, is something they want. So if a person with the status-seeking attitude tries to disrespect another person, they perceive it as raising their own status while necessarily lowering the other person’s status, hence win/lose. The rest of us, who see human interaction as win/win, see the world in terms of truth. We are truth-seekers instead of status-seekers. We seek cooperative interactions instead of adversarial ones.
To get a better understanding of the difference between truth-seeking and status-seeking, let's consider how they differ in the way they work. Status-based thinking means judging ideas by figuring out how much status the ideas have. In contrast, truth-based thinking means judging ideas by their merit. As I explained in _Atheism: The faith of intellectuals?_, judging ideas by status means believing ideas by looking for confirmation, while judging by merit means believing ideas only after they have survived all known criticism.
As an example, imagine a guy hearing that somebody said something that he perceived as an insult to his parent, and he felt hurt by it. This means he's thinking with the status-seeking attitude instead of the truth-seeking attitude. So he is caring about having social status, and one extra flaw is that he thinks his social status is connected to the status of his parents. And so if he perceives that somebody has insulted his parent, he perceives this as a lowering of his parent’s status, which he also perceives as his own status being lowered. So he is hurt (feels disrespected) by this. He thinks that the "insulter" intentionally did it to try to hurt him, or otherwise make him lose something. But it's a mistake to make such an assumption because the "insulter" may have had no such intention -- maybe he was a truth-seeker not a status-seeker. The truth-seeking attitude does not cause this problem. A truth-seeker thinks like this: "Hmm. Somebody has said something bad about my mom. I wonder if the thing he said is truthful, or not. If it’s truthful, then my mom is bad, and I should talk to her about fixing her error so that she can improve, so I'm glad that he said it because it revealed an opportunity to improve, YAY!! And if it’s not truthful, then maybe this guy is a fool and I don't care what fools think, or maybe he's just mistaken so there's no reason to mind it because mistakes are common." So the truth-seeking attitude doesn’t produce the feeling of being insulted/disrespected. Only the status-seeking attitude does that.
The status-based attitude is one that is shared by many cultures. In gang culture, individuals each have an amount of status that they intend to keep. For this reason, if a gang member perceives that somebody has disrespected him, he sees this as his status being lowered while the other guy’s status being raised. And in an effort to regain his status, he may retaliate with physical violence. So here the gang member is committing two flaws -- demanding respect, and violent intolerance of dissenters.
There are lots of other examples of this. In tribal cultures, an individual’s status is partly determined by how much status his tribe has. For this reason, if a tribesman perceives that somebody has disrespected a member of his tribe, he sees this as his own status being lowered because he sees his tribe’s status being lowered. Now imagine a situation where somebody perceives that the king of his tribe (like Prophet Mohamed) has been disrespected. He would be very offended by this. And if he also has the violent-intolerant attitude too, and if the circumstances were opportune, then he would initiate violence in his misguided attempt to regain respect for his family, and by association, for himself.
Another example is honor violence within a family, or community. If a man thinks that his status is lowered if his daughter does something against his community’s religious norms, and if he also has the violent-intolerant attitude, then he may initiate violence if she commits such an act, as a means to preserve his family's status in the community, and by association, his own status. I should clarify that what usually happens is the family plans this together, where one person does the murder, and then the family helps him avoid the police, say by helping him leave the country.
What's interesting about the status-based idea is that it denies that respect should be earned. A person thinking like this may be in the wrong, and know it, and still demand to be treated as though he is in the right. Street thugs do it when they violently demand respect. Authoritative parents do it when they say 'Don't argue with me' to their kids. Some husbands do it when they expect their wives to side with them in social situations even when they are in the wrong. And some Muslim men do it when they commit honor violence.
The status-based attitude rears it’s ugly head in people’s politics too. These people align themselves politically by their tribal origin (status), rather than by their ideas (merit). It’s ugly because it’s not based on the truth, and because it means the person is unwilling to consider changing his mind about his politics -- because you can’t change your tribal origin. Judging ideas by status means that if you find out that you’re wrong, you’re going to deny it and claim that you’re right, and demand respect too. This way of thinking means no possibility of changing your political affiliation even if you were given devastating criticism of your political ideas. In contrast, judging ideas by merit means that you're willing to change your mind if you find out that you’re wrong. And this way of thinking means the possibility of changing your political affiliation.
Another way to describe the truth-seeking and status-seeking attitudes is like this. Truth-seeking means approaching problems as though the person does not yet have the truth, which is why he is seeking the truth. Status-seeking means approaching problems as though the person already has the truth, which is why he isn't seeking the truth, and instead he is seeking confirmation of what he already believes to be true. Note how the truth-seeking attitude accounts for the fact that it's possible one's ideas are in error, while the status-seeking attitude does not account for that fact. So somebody who is applying the status-seeking attitude is acting like he is infallible/omniscient. He's acting like he thinks he's God.
Rational people vs irrational people
Another way to describe the truth-seeking attitude is to describe the people who have it, rational people. As Elliot Temple explained [4]:

So a rational person sees criticism as win/win because it's part of his truth-seeking attitude. So when he gets criticism of his ideas, actions, or feelings, he doesn't interpret it as a personal attack (win/lose) and instead he tries to judge the criticism in order to try to extract value from it. He sees criticism as a good thing because he knows that criticism leads to further evolution of his knowledge. He sees criticism as necessary to improve himself, so he willingly seeks it out and enjoys thinking about it.
As I mentioned before, a common mistake people make is in how they interpret criticism of ideas. They see it as their person being criticized, rather than the idea alone being criticized. They misinterpret this because they consider some of their ideas to be static -- they are attached to them. They consider these ideas to be part of their identity -- something they refuse to even consider changing. And if you criticize one of these ideas they are attached to, since they consider that idea as part of their identify, they interpret your actions as an attack on their person. And in retaliation, they may call you out to be arrogant and condescending, or cuss you out, or initiate violence, as an attack back at you, in their misguided attempt at self-defense.
So the status-based attitude is what causes people to care about honor (i.e. social status). They have an intense desire for status, and it can pervade practically all of their thinking. Now in tribal cultures, another flaw they have aside from this status-seeking attitude, is that a person's social status should be linked to his family and tribe. And in some tribal cultures, especially the ones where Islam is dominant, they have a strong tradition linking their status with the women of their tribe. Now, combine this status-seeking attitude and these other flaws, together with the attitude that it's morally right to initiate violence in response to a dissenter, and what you have is somebody willing to commit honor violence (including honor killings) against his daughters, sisters, and other female members of his community, and on anybody who he perceives to be lowering his status/respect/honor.
On a final note, I should clarify something about the relationship between the individual and the community. It is true that a man who commits honor violence is being pressured by his family to commit the violence as a means of preserving their social status, but whether or not he acts on that pressure, or even feels that pressure, depends on his ideas. Will he care what his family and community thinks? Well, in those communities a lot of the opportunities for a man, like getting married or having a good job, depends on the status of his family and his tribe. So if a woman taints his family's status, and if he doesn't remove that taint by killing her, then he'll lose those opportunities. But so what? He could forego all of those "opportunities" by fleeing the country with his daughter. If he doesn't do that, it's because of his evil ideas. Pressure from society is not a defense! Individuals are responsible for their actions regardless of the "pressures" from their communities.
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[1] _Honor Killings Go Beyond Mere Homocide_, by Ayaan Hirsi Ali. Also see The AHA Foundation on Honor Violence.
[2] See _The Beginning of Infinity_, Chapter 9: Optimism, by David Deutsch.
[3] See _All problems are soluble_, by Elliot Temple. Also see [2].
[4] _Rational People_, by Elliot Temple.
^{Originally published in 2014}

So recently I had my account hacked into. The hacker took 1700 straight from my checking account which was attached and I assume they sent themselves the coin. Anyways I contacted support because I was notified with an email that they’re going to send me to collections since I disputed the charge with my bank since I couldn’t even log into the kraken account anymore. After telling support the situation they told me this:
“At this time, we are reviewing the status of your missing account funds. We kindly ask for your patience, as this will require a little more time. During our review, we will put this ticket on hold, and notify you accordingly once we have an update”
I tried to login again but now the account is completely deleted. Anyways I tried to reach out to customer support again and have been unsuccessful because I still don’t know if they’re going to send the account into collections or not on the 21st. Has anyone ran into anything similar?

I'm on a TrueNas Mini XL and screwed up my network settings, badly.
I will pay a $100+ bounty (BTC/ETH/your preferred crypto) whoever can help me get this working.
I have 3 interfaces: (ix0, ix1, and lo0).
The ix0 and ix1 are built into the mobo and became inoperable after an ethernet power surge last year. My solution was to get a X540-T1 (the lo0 interface). I plugged it in, and for whatever reason the only way I found it to work was using a spare router I had.
When I left for vacation, I unplugged it, forgot how I had it working, and when I came back I tried plugging it into the newer router or my switch, to no avail.
So, I went into the ikvm and started playing around with the "Configure Network Interfaces" option and started screwing everything up.
Here is where I am now:
It tells me the web UI is located at http://192.168.1.56
Across 3 different PC's and my phone, this address just times out (no firewall issues). Further, if I had the NAS connected to router 1, router 2, or my switch -- it is not recognized (I believe because DHCP Is not enabled on the NAS, or something?)
When I started playing around, the "Configure Network Interface" option showed my X540 interface as the third option. But when I went to "Remove current settings?", poof. Now, just the two old interfaces show up in the Configure Network Interface option.
If I go into the Shell and type "ifconfig", the third interface does show up, but does not have a netip. I can set it to something unique, but it doesn't really do anything. I can't access it.
I don't know where to go from here.
If someone can assist me to get this working I will pay $100 even if it's a quick fix.
Thank you
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Why I’m afraid of posting or tweeting in front of my friends and followers ? Been like this for a very long time, I debated many times to delete friends off all social media, like I did with facebook but then I made new friends and its happened again on IG and Twitter, but I’m scared even tho we don’t speak anymore.
I’m scared to be myself online, I had to perfect everything like grammar, scared to tweet too much, I had to find perfect retweet posts in the order, like as if i am perfectionist, for them to enjoy so they would think I’m cool and funny but I can’t even hold conversations and poor vocabulary because people never asks about myself or talk about anything first, I always do everything for them like be their therapist and would drop everything for them because i thought that’s what friends are for, but they never invite me for anything so I cut off many friends but I have few friends left that admitted that we aren’t close or friends, but still staying in touch anyways since they haven’t done anything wrong to me and was nice to me but still I know nothing about them because they don’t like to talk about it, but they knew everything about me. I made a biggest mistake of being vulnerable in front of them once like crying, and they listened to me this day like getting alll tea but then they was disappeared for days saying they are going on a trip and will get back to me but never did, they came back and then working, it it turned into two years, because they was busy working or going on trips, so I stopped bringing it up.
Im scared if I delete all of them off social media and I see them in person again…

Burner account
My (32F) brother's fiance, Chelsea (32 also), does not fit in well with our family. She's very loud and has never had a full-time job. Both my parents are in their mid-60s and continue to work full-time, with no ability to retire. I know her family has struggled even more financially. My parents have always been very kind to Chelsea, though blow-ups have happened with my Dad related to her chronic cannabis use and financial decision making
She and my brother announced their engagement around 2-3 years ago. This led to some intense planning and spending, despite their lack of money. Shortly after, they announce she is pregnant. They end up cancelling the reception, but only after losing the deposit. The baby has since been born.
Because we want people to have somewhere to go after their ceremony, my Dad offers to host a barbecue for them. Chelsea is initially hesitant, but eventually gets on board and creates a Facebook group with everyone she wants invited (including our extended family). She insists we not refer to the event as the "reception" because she still believes they will have the reception they intended at some point. She makes it clear in the group that we are planning the event. My parents and I get together and clarify roles. The budget is coming out at a couple thousand when you include food, chair rentals, etc. I make a website where people can RSVP.
I post the RSVP link to the Facebook group. Very shortly after, she starts peppering me with questions about food, etc. She seems pleased with my responses.
Then she asks, "is it gonna be a BOYB kinda thing or if were gonna be providing the alcohol?"
It's 7:00 in the morning. I inform her that we aren't providing alcohol and that my Dad prefers to not have alcohol because of liability concerns.
She absolutely explodes and sends me a slew of messages. Here are the highlights: - a dry "reception" is stupid - no one will come if the event is dry - if people can't drink they will smoke tonnes of cannabis - my family is judgemental - it's not what she had envisioned for her day ("MY day")
I weather the comments, telling her to talk it over with my brother and bring up her concerns with my Dad.
She then says that if there is no alcohol there is no barbecue. She proceeds to delete my RSVP request off the Facebook group, and adds a post that says the event is cancelled "on account of no alcohol." This is mortifying to me - 20 people had already RSVP'd.
I'm livid, to the point that it affected me at work all week. I think she's ungrateful and entitled, and she has behaved atrociously towards the family she is joining. I sent her an angry message saying that she had disrepected my parents and that she had thrown my work in my face. To which she responded, "Nothings getting thrown in your face, it's cancelled unless we can make alcohol happen. Not a big deal."
She continues to insist that my parents and I are in the wrong.
AITA?