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2024.05.21 22:00 Flimsy-Amphibian-903 Need to vent
My boyfriend (22m) and I (20f) have been LC/NC with MIL since last July. I blocked her on Facebook in May after sending her a nasty message her for missing her son’s 21st birthday party. (Shallow, yes I know. I was just angry.) She had 2 months notice about the party and made excuse after excuse about why she couldn’t come, ultimately it ended up being because we didn’t want her alcoholic husband to be there and she refused to go without him. She never even sent him a birthday card.
My bfs birthday is at the beginning of May and this year MILs husband sent him a message asking what he wanted for his bday during the second week of April. My bf does not like him, wants nothing to do with him and has explained this to his mom. So the message was never read because he has his notifications blocked. I saw it about a week and half after it was sent while looking on his phone and told my bf. He was annoyed but texted MILs husband back, we didn’t hear anything for over a week and then MIL invited us up to dinner at her house but they wanted to wait until we all had a day off. We gave them our availability and she said they were waiting to get Sundays off together and that day would be best. They live about an hour away so we said sure whenever is fine after the 6th because my dad was coming to stay with us for a week. This upset MIL and she said she wanted to do it the weekend after his birthday, we said that’s fine then. It didn’t end up happening and we were gonna let her tell us when they were ready.
Now it’s 3 weeks later and my schedule just changed so I’m working Sundays. I asked my boyfriend to let his mom know and she said that she is trying to find a new job because they cut her hours at work. MIL and her husband always work at the same place and her hours always get cut…
I just need to vent because this is not how my family is, birthdays are special and to be celebrated with all of your favorites because you need to enjoy life. I wish this women would even take a second of her own time to spend with her son, even on the phone without her husband talking too. She didn’t send him a card or anything this year either. We live and hour away and she commuted to a job an hour and 15 mins away for over a year!!!! I want to believe she cares about her son but everything she’s ever done and how she treats him tells me she doesn’t.
Disclaimer: Yes I understand everyone’s family’s are different but she goes over the moon for his siblings and even grandparents birthdays. Her oldest doesn’t even get a second glance.
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My bfs birthday is at the beginning of May and this year MILs husband sent him a message asking what he wanted for his bday during the second week of April. My bf does not like him, wants nothing to do with him and has explained this to his mom. So the message was never read because he has his notifications blocked. I saw it about a week and half after it was sent while looking on his phone and told my bf. He was annoyed but texted MILs husband back, we didn’t hear anything for over a week and then MIL invited us up to dinner at her house but they wanted to wait until we all had a day off. We gave them our availability and she said they were waiting to get Sundays off together and that day would be best. They live about an hour away so we said sure whenever is fine after the 6th because my dad was coming to stay with us for a week. This upset MIL and she said she wanted to do it the weekend after his birthday, we said that’s fine then. It didn’t end up happening and we were gonna let her tell us when they were ready.
Now it’s 3 weeks later and my schedule just changed so I’m working Sundays. I asked my boyfriend to let his mom know and she said that she is trying to find a new job because they cut her hours at work. MIL and her husband always work at the same place and her hours always get cut…
I just need to vent because this is not how my family is, birthdays are special and to be celebrated with all of your favorites because you need to enjoy life. I wish this women would even take a second of her own time to spend with her son, even on the phone without her husband talking too. She didn’t send him a card or anything this year either. We live and hour away and she commuted to a job an hour and 15 mins away for over a year!!!! I want to believe she cares about her son but everything she’s ever done and how she treats him tells me she doesn’t.
Disclaimer: Yes I understand everyone’s family’s are different but she goes over the moon for his siblings and even grandparents birthdays. Her oldest doesn’t even get a second glance.
2024.05.21 21:58 Worth-Piano6103 Would I (29F) be in the wrong to ask my sister (35F) not to bring her toddler to my Las Vegas elopement? How can I best communicate this to her without hurting her feelings?
Hi all!
I am planning to elope with my fiancé next year. It's not a traditional elopement - we intend on bringing our parents, and I've extended the invite to my sister and her husband as well. We really want a small, no-fuss, fun, easy trip that will be a funny memory to share. The trip will be about 4 days long.
For context, we're doing a dinner party in our hometown the week before that will be the 'reception'. It is more of a traditional reception. We're expecting 150 people, renting out a restaurant and providing the food, etc. It's really for my in-laws - my fiancé has a big family that really wanted to do a celebration, so we figured why not.
I made it clear to my sister from the get go that although I wanted her to come to Vegas, there was NO pressure for her to come. The real 'party' will be the week before in any event with the whole family. I made a point of emphasizing this because I know that it's an expensive trip (just flights and hotels will be about $2k a couple), they just bought a house, and they aren't super well off. I find it tacky to ask for this much money from family, and for that reason I feel very fortunate to be able to pay for my parents' trip, but I unfortunately can't afford to extend that offer to my sister. She's aware of this. I could maybe help out with her flight costs, but wouldn't be able to pay for her husband, so I haven't even brought it up because I felt like it was an unfair offer.
Now... we were talking about this recently and she started mentioning that she was picturing bringing her baby to the elopement. She was saying it will be a shame that the baby can't fly for free (baby will be 2 by the time we go on the trip), that baby would be well behaved, we wouldn't have to worry about it, etc. I glossed over it in the moment, because honestly, I never thought that was on the table. I figured she would never want to bring a toddler to Vegas, and if she came, she would be leaving the kid at home with her husband. I was shocked that we were on different pages there, but it's on me for not having communicated appropriately.
I've been thinking it over, and I firmly do not want the toddler there. This isn't a kid-friendly trip - we'll be going out to dinners, bars, casinos, maybe even a gun range (hey, it's Vegas). I just want to get married and have a fun trip and be spontaneous. I don't want to deal with the logistics of a toddler. We'll be such a small group that I think it will really change the dynamics. When there's a toddler involved, of course you need to accommodate them - and frankly, I don't want to. I also don't want my sister paying for this trip and then sitting in her hotel room with the toddler. My sister has options here - she can leave the toddler with her husband (I don't think the husband has offered this. Or she doesn't trust him. Which is a whole other thing...), ask her in-laws to take care, or simply not come!
Rant aside - what is the best way to deliver this message to her? Am I totally missing that I'm being a jerk here? How should I best communicate that I don't want the baby there, without starting WW3??
TL;DR: my sister wants to bring her toddler to Vegas for my elopement/mini wedding. I don't want the toddler there, and want advice on whether I'm being a jerk - and if not, how best to talk to her about this.
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I am planning to elope with my fiancé next year. It's not a traditional elopement - we intend on bringing our parents, and I've extended the invite to my sister and her husband as well. We really want a small, no-fuss, fun, easy trip that will be a funny memory to share. The trip will be about 4 days long.
For context, we're doing a dinner party in our hometown the week before that will be the 'reception'. It is more of a traditional reception. We're expecting 150 people, renting out a restaurant and providing the food, etc. It's really for my in-laws - my fiancé has a big family that really wanted to do a celebration, so we figured why not.
I made it clear to my sister from the get go that although I wanted her to come to Vegas, there was NO pressure for her to come. The real 'party' will be the week before in any event with the whole family. I made a point of emphasizing this because I know that it's an expensive trip (just flights and hotels will be about $2k a couple), they just bought a house, and they aren't super well off. I find it tacky to ask for this much money from family, and for that reason I feel very fortunate to be able to pay for my parents' trip, but I unfortunately can't afford to extend that offer to my sister. She's aware of this. I could maybe help out with her flight costs, but wouldn't be able to pay for her husband, so I haven't even brought it up because I felt like it was an unfair offer.
Now... we were talking about this recently and she started mentioning that she was picturing bringing her baby to the elopement. She was saying it will be a shame that the baby can't fly for free (baby will be 2 by the time we go on the trip), that baby would be well behaved, we wouldn't have to worry about it, etc. I glossed over it in the moment, because honestly, I never thought that was on the table. I figured she would never want to bring a toddler to Vegas, and if she came, she would be leaving the kid at home with her husband. I was shocked that we were on different pages there, but it's on me for not having communicated appropriately.
I've been thinking it over, and I firmly do not want the toddler there. This isn't a kid-friendly trip - we'll be going out to dinners, bars, casinos, maybe even a gun range (hey, it's Vegas). I just want to get married and have a fun trip and be spontaneous. I don't want to deal with the logistics of a toddler. We'll be such a small group that I think it will really change the dynamics. When there's a toddler involved, of course you need to accommodate them - and frankly, I don't want to. I also don't want my sister paying for this trip and then sitting in her hotel room with the toddler. My sister has options here - she can leave the toddler with her husband (I don't think the husband has offered this. Or she doesn't trust him. Which is a whole other thing...), ask her in-laws to take care, or simply not come!
Rant aside - what is the best way to deliver this message to her? Am I totally missing that I'm being a jerk here? How should I best communicate that I don't want the baby there, without starting WW3??
TL;DR: my sister wants to bring her toddler to Vegas for my elopement/mini wedding. I don't want the toddler there, and want advice on whether I'm being a jerk - and if not, how best to talk to her about this.
2024.05.21 21:56 Sweet-Count2557 Ventanas Restaurant & Bar Restaurant in Pasadena,CA,United States
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2024.05.21 21:49 Off_again0530 I(23 M) want to tell my friend(24 F) that I like her but am feeling the nerves
Hello everyone,
Maybe I (23M) just have the nerves and am looking for some words of advice/encouragement with this post. I don't really have anyone who I can consult with on this in my real life so maybe that's just what I was looking for on here.
I have recently been trying to put myself out there more to be more social and have more interesting hobbies/interests. I speak Japanese, so as part of this, I joined a weekly group for Japanese speakers to practice conversation skills and meet others who also speak the language. Joining this has been a really fun experience and I've been very fortunate to make a lot of friends so far.
We have a group of about 6 or 7 of us from the club who have all become mutual friends. We have hung out outside of the club, and have attended volunteer activities and social events together.
There is a girl(24 F) from this group, who I thought was cute since I met everyone at the club. I hadn't said anything in that sense to her, but we would talk occasionally at the club. A few weeks go we learned that we both did volleyball as a hobby. After the club, I messaged her and asked for some tips on volleyball. We ended up having a pretty long discussion about it and at the end she suggested we attend a pick-up game sometime. I agreed and we continued to talk 1-on-1 in messages.
We have done a few other group things, like go to a concert with our friends and have a board game night. That was fun. We eventually ended up going to volleyball and then went out to dinner afterwards. I thought it was a really nice time. We got along well alone, and she told me she thought my interest in trains was "cute." At the end we agreed we should do this again.
A few days later I asked if she was free soon, and if she would like to go to a museum with me and get dinner again afterwards. I intentionally wanted to do something not volleyball, to see if she would still be down to go out. She said she was free this weekend and we will be going this Saturday. I've been thinking about it a lot and I really want to tell her I like her at the end of Saturday, and ask if she would be interested in making the next one of these a date.
I guess I'm just nervous for a number of reasons. I don't have any experience that wasn't through OLD, where it is abundantly clear what you are both on there for. Secondly, we are part of a larger friend group, and I really hope to not make anything weird about this if I get rejected. I fully intend to take that with grace and immediately accept it and move on, I just hope it doesn't sour anything.
But, the voice in my head is telling me I should really do it. We are part of a larger group of mutual friends, and I feel like if this was strictly platonic, she would have suggested we invite them to come along with us as well, but she hasn't at all. She always responds to me within a day of messaging her, and if she doesn't she'll apologize for the late response. She wanted to sit next to me at the concert we went to with our friends, and when she was dropping us off afterwards I told her she could just drop me with our other friend and I'd walk the rest of the way, but she insisted on driving me home. I have very little experience with IRL dating/meeting people romantically and I think I feel like I am seeing signs of interest but just also feel like I might just be overanalyzing this situation.
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Maybe I (23M) just have the nerves and am looking for some words of advice/encouragement with this post. I don't really have anyone who I can consult with on this in my real life so maybe that's just what I was looking for on here.
I have recently been trying to put myself out there more to be more social and have more interesting hobbies/interests. I speak Japanese, so as part of this, I joined a weekly group for Japanese speakers to practice conversation skills and meet others who also speak the language. Joining this has been a really fun experience and I've been very fortunate to make a lot of friends so far.
We have a group of about 6 or 7 of us from the club who have all become mutual friends. We have hung out outside of the club, and have attended volunteer activities and social events together.
There is a girl(24 F) from this group, who I thought was cute since I met everyone at the club. I hadn't said anything in that sense to her, but we would talk occasionally at the club. A few weeks go we learned that we both did volleyball as a hobby. After the club, I messaged her and asked for some tips on volleyball. We ended up having a pretty long discussion about it and at the end she suggested we attend a pick-up game sometime. I agreed and we continued to talk 1-on-1 in messages.
We have done a few other group things, like go to a concert with our friends and have a board game night. That was fun. We eventually ended up going to volleyball and then went out to dinner afterwards. I thought it was a really nice time. We got along well alone, and she told me she thought my interest in trains was "cute." At the end we agreed we should do this again.
A few days later I asked if she was free soon, and if she would like to go to a museum with me and get dinner again afterwards. I intentionally wanted to do something not volleyball, to see if she would still be down to go out. She said she was free this weekend and we will be going this Saturday. I've been thinking about it a lot and I really want to tell her I like her at the end of Saturday, and ask if she would be interested in making the next one of these a date.
I guess I'm just nervous for a number of reasons. I don't have any experience that wasn't through OLD, where it is abundantly clear what you are both on there for. Secondly, we are part of a larger friend group, and I really hope to not make anything weird about this if I get rejected. I fully intend to take that with grace and immediately accept it and move on, I just hope it doesn't sour anything.
But, the voice in my head is telling me I should really do it. We are part of a larger group of mutual friends, and I feel like if this was strictly platonic, she would have suggested we invite them to come along with us as well, but she hasn't at all. She always responds to me within a day of messaging her, and if she doesn't she'll apologize for the late response. She wanted to sit next to me at the concert we went to with our friends, and when she was dropping us off afterwards I told her she could just drop me with our other friend and I'd walk the rest of the way, but she insisted on driving me home. I have very little experience with IRL dating/meeting people romantically and I think I feel like I am seeing signs of interest but just also feel like I might just be overanalyzing this situation.
2024.05.21 21:32 Worried-Paper-3787 AITHA for continuing to hang out with my ex sister-in law?
Hang in there, this is a long one: I (50F) have been with my husband (57M) for almost 16 years, married for 12 years. He has 3 brothers and 1 sister. One of his brothers, we will call “Roy” has just went through a divorce with his 5th wife,”Sara” after being together 9 years. She is the third wife that I have known him to be married to since my husband (his brother ) and I have been together. He was married to the first two long before we met. Anyway, over the time we were married she and I became very close. Like actual sisters. We have a lot in common and we can tell each other anything. We are the same religion, love horror movies and the paranormal. We take trips together. Go to concerts and conventions. My relationship with her is always how I felt a “sister” relationship should be. I do have a sister but we barely talk and I may only see her once a year. Sara is the sister I chose. She feels the same way about me. Sara and Roy separated in September of last year. His treatment of her was abhorrent. I am not just saying that because we are so close. He’s a narcissist. He had to be the center of her world and yet he would call her a “Fuckin Liar” or a “fucking piece of shit” he would constantly accuse her of cheating and go through her phone trying to find evidence but never did. He even texted me from her phone once pretending to be her to see what I would say. I had a weird feeling when I received the text because Sara and I didn’t usually text about him when she with him due to his nosiness …the text said “what should I do” so I responded vaguely with something that I would say to either one of them. He then started texting me from his phone going off on me. I told him I didn’t say anything to her that I wouldn’t say to his face. It got to the point where everyone had issues being around him, especially if he was drinking. Here come the holidays. Thanksgiving my husband and I hosted the dinner. All of his siblings, their kids, and grandchildren were invited. On my side it was my mom, my kids and grandchildren. I didn’t invite Sara (although I would’ve rather her been there) due to the separation and pending divorce. I heard a couple of my husband’s nieces talking about seeing each other the next month for Christmas. At that time no one in the family had brought up hosting Christmas, so I volunteered. I set the Christmas dinner date for the family the Saturday before Christmas. Everyone that was there for Thanksgiving was invited. We use a group chat on messenger. every Christmas since I was a child, we would go to church at midnight on Christmas Eve then come home and open presents. When my older sister got married and moved out, we just started celebrating on Christmas Eve so she could have Christmas Day with her new family…the tradition never changed even when my husband and I started dating. I would have my kids Christmas Eve, they would go with their dad Christmas Day. A few years ago, my husband’s sister “Karen” lost her husband to cancer a few weeks before Christmas so we started inviting her to our Christmas Eve celebrations so she wouldn’t be alone. I told my husband since we are inviting Karen we should also invite Roy and Sara. We did that for a few years. Now the blow up….. Since my husband and I planned the extended family Christmas the weekend before Christmas, I told him I would like to invite Sara Christmas Eve so she, my mom and I could go to the Christmas Eve service after dinner. My husband was ok with this. He likes Sara too. I also invited Karen as we have been the past few years. My husband called Karen a few days later and she just blew up on him saying it was bullshit that we were inviting Sara and not Roy….he said Roy was invited to the extended family Christmas with everyone else. She said Christmas is for family and it’s just wrong that Sara and I were still hanging out. Roy didn’t like it either. In fact he still doesn’t. I brought up to Karen that me still hanging with Sara is no different than her being BFF’s with Roy’s first wife and she said she had nothing to do with this and she didn’t want her brother being alone on the holidays (he has four grown daughters he could spend the holidays with) so she decided to host Christmas Eve dinner also…at the same time as ours. My husband and I decided the drama was too much so we canceled the extended family Christmas dinner (not very many RSVP’d anyway). Karen and a few of Roy’s daughters even got upset with my stepson for not attending their Christmas Eve dinner. Basically wanting him to choose between his own dad and them. My husband and Roy still talk and hang out but he has not seen or spoken to Karen since then. My husband expects an apology from her before he will speak to her and she is too stubborn to do so. His sister and brother still talk about me behind my back about how they can’t believe I still hang out with and in fact if they see her in public they will not speak to her. She and I still hang out and have a trip planned together in a couple months. So, AITHA for being 50 years old and choosing to spend my time with a woman who is like a sister to me and a really good person even though she divorced my husband’s brother?
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2024.05.21 21:32 Critical_Argument976 AITA For holding a grudge against my mother?
I (25F) am the oldest child of my family. My mom (45F) and step dad (41M) have another child together (11F). Growing up I was the only child, only grandchild and only niece of the family. I won’t deny that I was spoiled but that was mainly from my grandparents. My mom was a single mom up until I was 13 when she married my step dad. Unfortunately, because of that I was raised primarily by my grandparents. I have nothing negative to say about them. They have been there for every milestone in my life and raised me to be a successful person. My mother, on the other hand, is the opposite. She’s absent for majority of my milestones due to work or some event with my sister. This is all just for some background to the actual situation.
For my birthday this year I wanted a small and quiet dinner with my family. I had made reservations for a restaurant at 5pm. My bf (23m) and my best friend (25f) were also in attendance along with my family. Initially, because of my strained relationship with my parents, I was just going to have dinner with my grandparents but my grandma suggested inviting them as a way to maintain a civil relationship. She went ahead and called them and told them the time and date of the dinner. Initially they said to push it back because my sister had a sport practice that night so I rescheduled for 6pm. The night of the dinner I show up at 6 along with my bf, grandparents and best friend. We ordered drinks and appetizers and waited for my parents and sister to come. When they finally got there it was 40 minutes after the initial reservation. I kept my mouth closed and didn’t say anything in order to maintain peace. Since it was my birthday my grandparents and best friend had brought their gifts for me to dinner. Personally, I’m a sentimental person and enjoy cards with personalized notes and don’t really ask for any presents. My family is aware of my preference and always bring up how they never know what to get me usually in a joking matter. When my step dad and mom asked what I wanted for my birthday at the table I told them I had been looking at a vacuum online if that’s something they’d like to get me as a practical gift. My step dad then reached into his wallet and threw money at me across the table and told me to buy it with that. The table was silent after and I just said thanks and the evening continued on as nothing happened. This was about 4 weeks ago and have yet to speak to my mother or step father about what happened. There’s an event coming up for my sister soon and my grandparents asked me to attend and show her support. I love my sister but I want by no means to see my mother or step father. My grandparents are aware of this and are asking me to let things go and maintain the peace. Wibta if I held my grudge and refused to associate with my parents?
To add some additional context, my grandparents paid for the dinner for everyone that evening. I also received a text from both of them for my birthday but that was the only contact I had with them on the day of.
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For my birthday this year I wanted a small and quiet dinner with my family. I had made reservations for a restaurant at 5pm. My bf (23m) and my best friend (25f) were also in attendance along with my family. Initially, because of my strained relationship with my parents, I was just going to have dinner with my grandparents but my grandma suggested inviting them as a way to maintain a civil relationship. She went ahead and called them and told them the time and date of the dinner. Initially they said to push it back because my sister had a sport practice that night so I rescheduled for 6pm. The night of the dinner I show up at 6 along with my bf, grandparents and best friend. We ordered drinks and appetizers and waited for my parents and sister to come. When they finally got there it was 40 minutes after the initial reservation. I kept my mouth closed and didn’t say anything in order to maintain peace. Since it was my birthday my grandparents and best friend had brought their gifts for me to dinner. Personally, I’m a sentimental person and enjoy cards with personalized notes and don’t really ask for any presents. My family is aware of my preference and always bring up how they never know what to get me usually in a joking matter. When my step dad and mom asked what I wanted for my birthday at the table I told them I had been looking at a vacuum online if that’s something they’d like to get me as a practical gift. My step dad then reached into his wallet and threw money at me across the table and told me to buy it with that. The table was silent after and I just said thanks and the evening continued on as nothing happened. This was about 4 weeks ago and have yet to speak to my mother or step father about what happened. There’s an event coming up for my sister soon and my grandparents asked me to attend and show her support. I love my sister but I want by no means to see my mother or step father. My grandparents are aware of this and are asking me to let things go and maintain the peace. Wibta if I held my grudge and refused to associate with my parents?
To add some additional context, my grandparents paid for the dinner for everyone that evening. I also received a text from both of them for my birthday but that was the only contact I had with them on the day of.
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2024.05.21 21:30 Odd_Sea_861 Unique plot reccs?
Can y’all give me rly rly one in a million unique manhwa/ga/hua bls? Like I’m talking abt smth that u wouldn’t come by that often. There’s a lot of office bls, but some r just one in a million, plot wise. Pls give me some real gems! Like Murderer Llewellyn’s Enchanting Dinner Invitation, The Beast Must Die, Aporia… When it comes to the genre, idm what it is, but if it’s like hellaaaaaaa toxic, then let me know pls.
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2024.05.21 21:17 FrequentFunn Should i bother?
I've (30) been dating this girl (34) for a couple of weeks, and we've met three times. We always had a good time—nothing extraordinary—but we did kiss each time. On our last date, we were both drunk, were making out like crazy, but at the end I felt this strange energy from her side that she wasn't into it anymore. Again, we were both very drunk.
From the beginning, she was a dry texter, but she would occasionally initiate conversations. After our last date, I invited her to dinner, but she said she was out of town (which she really was) and told me when she'd be back. I said it was no problem and suggested we go on Tuesday. On Monday evening, I asked if she was still up for dinner (I needed to make a reservation), and she replied, "Sorry, can't do tomorrow, but I will probably be free on the weekend."
I was getting frustrated with her dry texting and just replied with, "Okay." Neither of us initiated any further conversation, and the weekend passed without any communication.
Today marks seven days since the last text, and I'm wondering if I should try to initiate the conversation again or just let it go.
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From the beginning, she was a dry texter, but she would occasionally initiate conversations. After our last date, I invited her to dinner, but she said she was out of town (which she really was) and told me when she'd be back. I said it was no problem and suggested we go on Tuesday. On Monday evening, I asked if she was still up for dinner (I needed to make a reservation), and she replied, "Sorry, can't do tomorrow, but I will probably be free on the weekend."
I was getting frustrated with her dry texting and just replied with, "Okay." Neither of us initiated any further conversation, and the weekend passed without any communication.
Today marks seven days since the last text, and I'm wondering if I should try to initiate the conversation again or just let it go.
2024.05.21 21:09 ailara86 Foster Pup with pus discharge
Breed: Lab x German shepherd Age: 4.5 months, unspayed female Weight: 24lbs Location: Tacoma area, WA
History: I am a volunteer foster with a local rescue group. We picked up a litter from a rural animal hoarding situation. Puppies were confined in a crate in unhygienic conditions in a barn for first 5 weeks before we got them. Luna is the smallest of the litter. Flea/worm treatment and parvo vacc given.
She had urinary urgency (constantly squatting with no urine, or little drops at a time, often with no control ie just sitting there and would pee on herself, or would pee and then walk away like she was done but was still draining urine). She has pus-like discharge, green -yellow thick and creamy. It would be down the insides of her legs, large amounts draining constantly. A couple times a day the urine would be thick, gel-like and discolored. Sometimes she would just pee a gloop of straight pus.
Vet check: she was given a 10 day course of clavamox. Started on forti-flora and another puppy probiotic, I was giving her plain Greek yoghurt and bone broth to encourage hydration on top of Blue Buffalo Puppy food.
After 10 days of antibiotics she continued to have discharge and urinary symptoms. Vet did a Ultrasound a week after completion of course of antibiotics and said she'd never seen a bladder so full of pus. Apparently looked like a "snow globe" . She drew a syringe of urine for sample via U/sound and sent for culture. Result came back clear. Told that it will probably clear up.
A month has passed, she continues with the same symptoms. Was sitting on my feet while I was making dinner a few days ago and just peed all over us both. Her littermates potty trained beautifully. I've had a lot of experience with large breed pups and this seems unusual. I continue to find drops of pus and thick urine around the house daily. She continues to be crusty with pus inside her legs every morning (cleaning with sterile water wipes).
Third vet visit today (different vet) said he thinks vaginitis, will clear on its own. Thought follow up U/sound was unnecessary and that blood work would show nothing. He said that this is common in young females who have not been in heat yet.
The rescue is wanting to adopt her out ASAP and are proceeding with applications after today's "all clear". It isn't sitting right with me and would hate for a family take on a pup that might not be ready yet.
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History: I am a volunteer foster with a local rescue group. We picked up a litter from a rural animal hoarding situation. Puppies were confined in a crate in unhygienic conditions in a barn for first 5 weeks before we got them. Luna is the smallest of the litter. Flea/worm treatment and parvo vacc given.
She had urinary urgency (constantly squatting with no urine, or little drops at a time, often with no control ie just sitting there and would pee on herself, or would pee and then walk away like she was done but was still draining urine). She has pus-like discharge, green -yellow thick and creamy. It would be down the insides of her legs, large amounts draining constantly. A couple times a day the urine would be thick, gel-like and discolored. Sometimes she would just pee a gloop of straight pus.
Vet check: she was given a 10 day course of clavamox. Started on forti-flora and another puppy probiotic, I was giving her plain Greek yoghurt and bone broth to encourage hydration on top of Blue Buffalo Puppy food.
After 10 days of antibiotics she continued to have discharge and urinary symptoms. Vet did a Ultrasound a week after completion of course of antibiotics and said she'd never seen a bladder so full of pus. Apparently looked like a "snow globe" . She drew a syringe of urine for sample via U/sound and sent for culture. Result came back clear. Told that it will probably clear up.
A month has passed, she continues with the same symptoms. Was sitting on my feet while I was making dinner a few days ago and just peed all over us both. Her littermates potty trained beautifully. I've had a lot of experience with large breed pups and this seems unusual. I continue to find drops of pus and thick urine around the house daily. She continues to be crusty with pus inside her legs every morning (cleaning with sterile water wipes).
Third vet visit today (different vet) said he thinks vaginitis, will clear on its own. Thought follow up U/sound was unnecessary and that blood work would show nothing. He said that this is common in young females who have not been in heat yet.
The rescue is wanting to adopt her out ASAP and are proceeding with applications after today's "all clear". It isn't sitting right with me and would hate for a family take on a pup that might not be ready yet.
2024.05.21 21:09 throwaway3680972 My dad tried to control my wedding. Now he's angry with me and I'm afraid he will stop me from seeing my brother now
I'm afraid of my dad forbidding me from seeing my brother. I know I was right but the last thing I want to do is argue with him. After my wfe and I [37 m] got engaged my dad and his wife offered to pay for the wedding. We thought this was a really generous thing to offer but my dad insisted. He said there were no strings attached but he was lying. After we started planning he told me I wasn't allowed to invite my mum's husband (who she met 3 years and married 6 months ago) or allow mum to have any kind of role in the wedding. He didn't even want her sitting in the front rows with the rest of my family. He wanted her seated near the back.
My parents got a divorce 7 years ago. My dad left my mum for someone else. They married as soon as the divorce came through and they could legally marry. I admit I was angry at him for a long time. I admit it feels strange to have a stepmother who is younger than I am, and to have a brother who is younger than my own kids. But for the sake of my brother and for not wanting to have any regrets later on I have tried to rebuild the relationship with my dad.
It was a bridge too far me to try and ban my mum's husband (who my dad has never met) and say mum couldn't have any part in the wedding or sit in the front like the rest of the family. Her husband is decent and we get along. My dad wouldn't budge so we gave him back the money. We decided to get married at the registry office and have dinner at a nice restaurant afterwards. We were not having a large wedding before because my dad is not well off financially at all, but for this we only invited my wife's parents, my mum and her husband, my dad and his wife and my younger brother, my wife's 2 sisters and their husbands and both of my kids. 13 people total. We hired a photographer to take some photos at the registry office and obviously paid for everyone's dinner. I wasn't going to invite my dad, his wife and my brother at all but my mum counselled me to be the better person and not let this overshadow my wedding. My dad, his wife and my brother did not come to the wedding because mum's husband was invited.
The wedding was last week. I tried not to think about my dad being angry with me. He still is though. He says I chose my mum and her husband over him and his wife. My wife has suggested I see a counselor to deal with my feelings about my dad. But I'm afraid if I have less contact or no contact with my dad I won't be able to see my brother. I wouldn't put it past dad to forbid me from seeing him.
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My parents got a divorce 7 years ago. My dad left my mum for someone else. They married as soon as the divorce came through and they could legally marry. I admit I was angry at him for a long time. I admit it feels strange to have a stepmother who is younger than I am, and to have a brother who is younger than my own kids. But for the sake of my brother and for not wanting to have any regrets later on I have tried to rebuild the relationship with my dad.
It was a bridge too far me to try and ban my mum's husband (who my dad has never met) and say mum couldn't have any part in the wedding or sit in the front like the rest of the family. Her husband is decent and we get along. My dad wouldn't budge so we gave him back the money. We decided to get married at the registry office and have dinner at a nice restaurant afterwards. We were not having a large wedding before because my dad is not well off financially at all, but for this we only invited my wife's parents, my mum and her husband, my dad and his wife and my younger brother, my wife's 2 sisters and their husbands and both of my kids. 13 people total. We hired a photographer to take some photos at the registry office and obviously paid for everyone's dinner. I wasn't going to invite my dad, his wife and my brother at all but my mum counselled me to be the better person and not let this overshadow my wedding. My dad, his wife and my brother did not come to the wedding because mum's husband was invited.
The wedding was last week. I tried not to think about my dad being angry with me. He still is though. He says I chose my mum and her husband over him and his wife. My wife has suggested I see a counselor to deal with my feelings about my dad. But I'm afraid if I have less contact or no contact with my dad I won't be able to see my brother. I wouldn't put it past dad to forbid me from seeing him.
2024.05.21 21:06 Asianati Hoping to Answer Common OCS Questions (Requirements, Advice, Additional Items to Get, What to Expect)
Hi Ya'll,
I recently graduated OCS and I have been bombarded myself in real life over what to expect with OCS. For context I went from basic training straight to OCS, and even graduated with honors. From the time of writing this post, it has officially been a month since I graduated. So here is a list of common questions I get and I hope I can settle some anxiety for all of you future 2nd LTs.
Warning: The cadre at OCS do read these reddit posts, so I won't be able to post answers to tests or events.
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I recently graduated OCS and I have been bombarded myself in real life over what to expect with OCS. For context I went from basic training straight to OCS, and even graduated with honors. From the time of writing this post, it has officially been a month since I graduated. So here is a list of common questions I get and I hope I can settle some anxiety for all of you future 2nd LTs.
Warning: The cadre at OCS do read these reddit posts, so I won't be able to post answers to tests or events.
- I haven't received a welcome letter, or a packing list. Where can I find it?
- Fort Moore Officer Candidate School (army.mil) I would download and print the packing list and the ISAP. The ISAP acts more or less like a syllabus from college. It will give a rough understanding of the rules, regulations, and requirements for you to pass.
- Is everything on the packing list required?
- Yes. Try your best to follow the packing list to the letter. It is almost entirely dependent on the cadre and of course weather does play a part in their decision making. Some things you'll find you didn't really need or use throughout your cycle. For example, my cycle didn't use 550 Cord almost at all, but I used it to build a hooch, and secure sensitive items.
- What if I don't have of the required equipment on the packing list?
- When it comes to military equipment, try your best and bring what you can. I was never issued an IFAK before OCS or after. The cadre understand they have some coming from basic and those in-service. So if you have it, bring it. If not, bring it up to your cadre and they'll schedule time to get it issued to you.
- Anything not on the packing list you recommend?
- I would recommend the following: hand soap, bathroom spray, travel vacuum, wet-wipes, clipboard with compartment, pillow, very bright headlamp, multitool, and laminator. Hand soap because for some reason OCS had a hard time procuring it. Travel vacuum because you'll likely have 2 or 3 vacuums available to your platoon and having your own saves time. Wet-wipes to dust everything down. Clipboard with compartment for Land Nav as you'll be running with maps, marker, protractor, and your points so its best to have something safe and secure. Laminator for your papers because its Georgia and your papers can get wet. The pillows at OCS have this weird plastic cover on so if you want a better night sleep, get a better pillow. The headlamp is just in case, some classes inform the lumen limit while others don't, Land Nav is DARK so if you can find a lighthouse out there, do it. The multitool is just useful to have especially if you are out in the field.
- Where can I find somethings on the packing list I am missing?
- Luckily there is a company called Commandos who helped us out the entire time. They have an OCS purchasing list you can take advantage of. They even deliver that weekend at the footprint.
- Visit: https://commando-military-supply-9d5038.printavo.com/merch/ocs-packing-list/
- I saw you can bring your laptops? Is it required for classes? Can I opted in for a tablet or iPad?
- You can bring a personal laptop primarily for recreational use after the duty hours. OCS will provide you with a government laptop that you'll need to use your CAC to access. Tablets and iPads are not considered laptops and will be confiscated like a phone. If the majority of your class as issues with the laptops, then the cadre may allow the use of your personal laptops.
- What is your day-to-day look like?
- Mostly on a non-physical or FTX event coming up you'll follow the following schedule: 0500 - wake up. First formation is at 0600, then you conduct PT until breakfast. After breakfast you will head to the classroom and stay there until lunch, return and stay there until dinner. After dinner, it will be the end of the duty hours and you'll roughly have 2 hours for personal time.
- What are the most important categories/test to focus on?
- Treat everything important. Every test you do not pass can put you at risk of being recycled, and it is up to you to catch up. For example while everyone is studying for tactics, you'll be studying tactics and history if you failed history. So save yourself the hassle and take every test seriously. The big 3 recycle event have been historically, Army History (70% to pass), Land Nav (4 points or more to pass (day and night)), and the 4-mile run (need to run in under 36 minutes regardless of gender).
- How many retests or chances do you get?
- You get 2 tries at everything before recycle. You get 2 tries again at the same test then you can be dismissed. For example: You are part of Alpha company. You failed history twice. You get recycled into Bravo company. You failed history twice again. You can be dismissed.
- If you happen to pass history but fail Land Nav twice, then you'll be recycled into Charlie. If you fail Land Nav twice then you can be dismissed.
- What is a recycle? What does it look like in OCS? Can you get dismissed?
- A recycle is when you failed something twice and you get "recycled" into the next class. A recycle can occur for other reasons such as illness or injury. You can also be recycled for improper behavior or being "peered out". Every class starts up in a like a month (I heard they are changing that for even further out). So even though the cycle takes about 12 weeks to complete, if you get recycled you can expect more like 16 weeks or more. We had someone at OCS you has been with it for a year. You get recycled for repeat offenses, or do something majorly bad such as breaking the law, then you can be dismissed.
- What is being peered out mean?
- Throughout the cycle you are put into a platoon and then a squad. Your squadmates eventually all sit down and fill out a form to give the cadre who is the weakest link in the squad. Usually squads kick out the person they do not like. We had to kick out one person because they didn't mesh well within the squad and wasn't very kind. He would then get replaced with someone else who got peered out. Luckily after that one person got kicked out, the squad improved and we tried our hardest to keep it together. We still needed to peer someone out, but we kept tabs with them and invited them to a lot of our squad functions nonetheless as my squads grew to love and respect each other as a family.
- If you do get peered out, unfortunately you get a spot report, moved to a different squad, and are at risk of being recycled if peered out again. Stay humble and help out whenever you can. I got the most respect from my squadmates as I stayed up late with them to help them with their STX lanes.
- What is personal time like?
- You essentially use personal time to workout if the PT wasn't enough, clean yourself, and prepare for bed. Yes if you have time, you can contact family and friends (when you get your phones), and if you have the time, play games. I don't recommend playing games as it distracts you from the mission of graduating.
- What are the different phases like?
- You are separated into 3 phases. Black, Blue, and White. You immediately enter black phase upon arrival with a traditional called "Gold to Black". Which is more or less a physical smoking session. During Black you are expected to run everywhere, not be able to drink coffee, have your phone confiscated (and given back on Sunday), and have less personnel time. Blue you get the ability to drink coffee again, and you have your phones returned and used only during personal time. During blue you get the ability to visit and explore the base (Fort Moore) and shop around. During white phase you get the ability to explore off-base (Columbus) and you get to wear civilian clothes. White phase if you leave off-post, you need to be in uniform, and on-base you can be in civilians.
- Can you use your personal vehicle?
- Yes, but you can only drive it during White Phase
- How can I keep in contact with my family during black phase?
- I recommend that you download WhatsApp or some other social media on your laptop and have your family members on it.
- Can I visit the gym on base?
- Yes during blue phase you can visit the gym. Rule regulates that you leave the footprint in uniform and change into appropriate PT uniform once at the gym and conducting PT.
- What is the DFAC like?
- The DFAC is better than basic training and offers snacks like cookies, granola bars, ice cream, and soda. They have a salad bar and the usual cycle of foods. They do have a "short-order" line which serves fries, burgers, hot dogs, etc. To stay in physical shape, I recommend eating your fruits and a side salad every meal. Drink juice, Gatorade, or water only. I only drank soda and the burger after an intense physical requirement like a long-run or a ruck march to regain my glucose and caloric levels.
- Does Amazon deliver there?
- Yes you can have other things delivered to the footprint. However, the Cadre are going to inspect it for food and other contraband. Just ask the cadre for the delivery address. It may take like 2 weeks for them to deliver it.
- Any final advice?
- Be helpful and noticeable amongst your squad but try not to bring attention to yourself from the cadre. Take everything seriously and give yourself proper rest and proper nutrition. OCS is not hard, but it can be if you let it get to you. OCS is designed to test your competency, commitment, and character. I luckily had an amazing squad, and I had a blast with them.
2024.05.21 20:55 gbeans_ How do I give others the cue to invite me out more?
I just turned 29. Never had friends, only acquaintances throughout my whole life. Every single friend I’ve ever had ends up drifting apart or on bad terms. I always initiate hang outs when I can like dinner or going out but then nothing ever escalates after that. I am very shy and introverted when I get to know someone but after a few encounters I can have full on conversations with them and really be my goofy self.
I always think I am the problem because to me, I am a very boring person and I like to do boring things like brunch, day trip to a nice place, or just go to farmer’s market/shopping. It takes me a while to get comfortable with people which I think turns people off because they are very extroverted. I get super sad because I really want a big group of girl friends. I was in a trio and it ended really bad. The friend always make fun or have something negative to say about me. Like “Oh you would never stand up for me if I was to get into a fight” or “Why would you spend that much money on stuff like that?”.
I try to invite people out but they’re always busy or already have things to do. When they make plans, I always get left behind or never came across their minds to be invited out. I used to not be able to carry on a conversation but I’m starting to try to engage in conversations and start saying hi to people I’ve only met once if I see them again. I say jokes to lighten the mood but no one laughs 💔 I ask them about things I previously heard them talking about and they always give me a look like how do you know I did that or was into that stuff. What am I doing wrong?
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I always think I am the problem because to me, I am a very boring person and I like to do boring things like brunch, day trip to a nice place, or just go to farmer’s market/shopping. It takes me a while to get comfortable with people which I think turns people off because they are very extroverted. I get super sad because I really want a big group of girl friends. I was in a trio and it ended really bad. The friend always make fun or have something negative to say about me. Like “Oh you would never stand up for me if I was to get into a fight” or “Why would you spend that much money on stuff like that?”.
I try to invite people out but they’re always busy or already have things to do. When they make plans, I always get left behind or never came across their minds to be invited out. I used to not be able to carry on a conversation but I’m starting to try to engage in conversations and start saying hi to people I’ve only met once if I see them again. I say jokes to lighten the mood but no one laughs 💔 I ask them about things I previously heard them talking about and they always give me a look like how do you know I did that or was into that stuff. What am I doing wrong?
2024.05.21 20:40 AdventurousApple5023 Two faced “friends” stab me in the back / boyfriend drama
Hi so I’m not sure where to start I am 18 and in my last year of Highschool. I have been talking to a guy, let’s call him Thomas also 18, since last August. We started texting every day, hours at a time, I personally thought that we got very close since we shared quite a lot of personal stuff from family dynamics to our deepest thoughts. Because a big part of this time was during our prelim and exam phase we didn’t see each other in person. In the start of November he suddenly stopped texting and I didn’t hear anything from him anymore. I was actually really worried that something happens since he was on a farm during that time. Turns out he just ignored me that stung. I am a person that does everything very head on so I absolutely confronted him end of November after exams and right before the holidays. He looked and me like he wasn’t sure what to say and answered with I’m so sorry my mama didn’t raise me like this I’m so sorry but it’s some personal reasons. Personally I thought that that’s a stupid response but fair enough. During the holidays I visited a friend overseas. We had fun going to parties having fun with guys, some of her friends, spend doing fun stuff like skiing and spending time together she really helped me get over Thomas. So fast forward to march. A friend invited me to her birthday and we somehow got on the topic of crushes/ boyfriends. We are 6 girls and since we all are in about the same classes we knew each other quite well. Let’s cal one of the girls Mary, Mary was right before the birthday party on a date with a friend of mine let’s call him Matt. Matt just joined us during this school year and I kinda included in my friend group( 4 guys plus me) and since he was a nerd and most of my friends where it fit amazing. I talked a lot with Matt and we got close but just as friends. So Mary tells the whole table that she knows who my crush is. I thought she is talking about Thomas and was like was I that obvious. She responded with is it Matt. I answer with a hell no. She is taken aback and no everyone is looking at me like who is it. Since I still have a crush on Thomas even after last year I say well it’s Thomas. Immediately everyone is like aww you would be such a sweet couple and are you talking. I share the general details as in this post and with that I thought it was done. Nope. Mary’s best friend Theresa even pushed me to start talking to him again as well as Mary throughout the whole evening. This was on a Friday, that same weekend I get absolutely drunk and drunk call Thomas. He picks up “hi are you ok I’m at a family dinner is everything ok or can I call you back later” me even surprised that he picked up explained him that I was drunk and that I’m so sorry. He’s absolutely fine with it and since then we have been texting every day and again for hours. So during the time from march till now every time i got close to Matt ( just as friend) Mary has been asking me how things with Thomas are if I’ve been texting with him telling me that I should just go with him for coffee, you get the point. Fast forward to yesterday. Another friend at that parity let’s call her Daphne came to me and asked me what i knew about Theresa. I was like “ nothing why” turns out that Theresa has been texting Thomas since start of January, meanwhile telling me to be brave and put myself out there. Daphne told me because she was close friends with Theresa till on Monday when Daphne texted Thomas( as friends) and Theresa saw the name and took the phone out of her hands. Apparently there was a whole argument between them and Daphne realised what had happened and what Theresa did. Daphne when to me and spilled the beans. There is a little bit more drama involving Thomas Theresa me and another girl regarding prom but that is less important. I’m sorry it got so long. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I feel like I’m in a game of cat and mouse, and I’m the mouse. I was completely shocked when I found out and can’t honestly wrap my head around. I hope someone has advice for me who I should confront or what I should do in general.
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2024.05.21 20:26 Sweet-Count2557 Ciccio Mio Restaurant in Chicago,IL,United States
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2024.05.21 20:18 djames2992 My wife (32F) hates my (33M) mother (67F), causing huge issues between us. Is there a fix or is this unfixable?
Hello all -- first time poster here. Sorry for the really long post, I guess part of this is therapeutic for me just to write out.
I've really been struggling recently, as my wife has come to absolutely despise by 67 year old mother, and I'm not sure if there's anything that can fix it.
A little bit of my history. I've always been very close with my family. I grew up in a south Asian household (although I always felt we integrated nicely with a lot of American culture -- both me and my sibling have lived in a large US city our entire lives and consider ourselves American both in culture as well as nationality). However, as in many Asian cultures, respect for elders is extremely important. I always had a parent-child relationship with my parents (meaning that they were in charge, and not interested in being my friend, but rather my mentors and provided invaluable guidance over the years). Both of my parents sacrificed a lot for me and mysibling, but especially my mom who chose to forgo advancing her own career, and to work part time in order to raise my sibling and I. I've always had a good relationship with my mom, although we've had our share of fights over the years (we're both pretty stubborn), but they typically last no more than a 3-5 days on average and then things are completely back to normal. I would say this happens an average of 1-2 times per year at most. I do feel very close with my mom (& my dad as well, but my wife doesn't seem to have any issues with my dad so I'm not focussing on that part). I do believe that much of the success I have achieved in life is directly attributable to the sacrifices my mom made as well as the time she spent raising and teaching me. I have always respected my parents, which is typical of Asian culture. By respect, I mean things like not talking back, valuing their opinions, and trying to make their life easier or happier in small ways (visiting them on weekends, going out to dinner together -- we live roughly 40 minutes apart).
A bit of my wife's history -- she grew up with her parents being divorced from a young age. Both of her parents are wonderful people who I really adore, but they were extremely lenient with her growing up (they were not on top of her with regards to schoolwork, she would talk back to them at times without getting in much trouble, she was able to sneak out of her house as a teen, etc.). These are by no means egregious offenses, and I suspect many kids do the same at that age. However, there was a clear difference in her relationship with her parents -- there was no real enforcement of rules or punishment for breaking rules. Through my lens, it seems that this has manifested as a lack of respect for her own parents, as well as her elders. She mostly has a good relationship with both of her parents, but when she does disagree with them, she talks to them in ways I could never imagine speaking to my own parents (talks back, hangs up on them, etc.). She says that she needs to "put them in their place" at times, which I also find rude. Overall, I would say she grew up much less "family-oriented" than I did, for what it's worth.
My wife is also somewhat of a nomad (mostly not by choice). She moved a few times growing up (within the same state, but different areas), and then went out of state for college, only to leave after 1.5 years and finish at a local state school (in a different state) where her mother lived at the time. Because of this, she has very few close friends, and the ones that she does have are spread out all across the country on different coasts. This is in stark contrast to me. I've been lucky to maintain the same group of friends that I've had since we were 8 or 9 years old. On top of that, most of them have stayed in the same area that we grew up in (where my wife and I now live). I think the lack of a social circle has affected my wife since she moved to my city, but I'm not sure what solution there is for that since there is no city we could live in where she would have a group of close friends or family (her parents live in different states and split time between different states, her 3 closest friends live in 3 different states).
I've known my wife for 8 years and we've been married for 2.5. I love her. She is a great person; she is kind, compassionate, loving, and at her core truly does care deeply about others (though I feel that this does not always come across in the way she talks to her own parents). She's funny, adventurous, and up until recently, I was always happier around her. We were recently blessed with the birth of our son, who is now 11 months old. Our son is the best thing that has ever happened to us, but his arrival seems to have simultaneously strained our relationship in ways I did not anticipate. I knew that the sleep deprivation would be hard, and our lives would change drastically. What I did not envision was a deepening hatred that my wife has developed for my mom.
Prior to the birth of our son, my wife did not have much of an issue with my mom other than thinking she was "needy" for wanting to see myself and my sibling once a week, even if it was just for a dinner (again, we live roughly 40 minutes apart, and my parents are typically willing to drive to us, meet us at a restaurant, or have us over). My mom does tend to be picky with where we eat out (she doesn't eat most meat, and prefers vegetarian options), but that never really bothered me, though it seems to bother my wife that my mom is "getting her way", even though this was at most 1 meal in the week.
I know that my mom can certainly be stubborn and hard to deal with at times, but I know her very well, and I always felt that she was inclusive of my wife, and never did anything that warranted being strongly disliked. The one exception to this was during our son's baby shower. We had planned a large party with a lot of family and friends that my parents hosted (their house is large enough to accomodate a party of that size). During the baby shower, my mom helped arrange catering of food, ordering tables, chairs, tablecloths, and hiring a bartender (my parents also paid for all of this). My wife did not like my mom's taste with regards to tablecloths and chair decorations and she was irritated that my mom wanted to help and be involved in the planning (though to her credit, my wife did not outwardly show this discontent to my mom, though it was certainly made known to me). My wife handled the floral arrangements and other decorative pieces such as a backdrop, and spent a lot of time and effort getting them exactly how she wanted. I kind of sensed that my mom felt that she was being taken for granted and underappreciated by my wife (she did take care and pay for a lot), and my wife felt that my mom was being overbearing with planning, and also felt that my mom was purposefully spiteful (my wife claims that every other member of my family commented on how nice the floral arrangements were, but my mom never did). This culminated in a "fight" where my wife wanted a decorative piece in one part of the yard and my mom wanted it in another part. There was some exchange of words at the time, though I did not witness this. This left my mom feeling that my wife was "disrespectful" and left my wife hating my mom for not honoring her decision about where to place the decorative piece, since this was her baby shower. This led to a very upsetting experience for my wife and I as we really did not enjoy the baby shower at all (although this was not evident to our guests or other family members, as we were able to "fake it"). My wife was particularly upset after the baby shower when we drove home since she felt that it was supposed to be a special day for her, and my mom ruined it, which I mostly agreed with. To her credit, my mom did apologize to both my wife and me the following day, and told us that she had been under a lot of stress with many family members staying at their house, taking care of meals, sleeping arrangements, etc., and her stress got the better of her. I was willing to accept her apology and move on, but my wife has always held a grudge since that time, and feels that the apology wasn't genuine. Again, I've known my mom for a long time and she would rather not apologize at all than do so disingenuously. My wife however insists that she can read my mom better than me, since I'm biased. Nonetheless, we moved forward.
After the birth of our son, my parents and my wife's parents were overjoyed (he is all of their first grandchild). Again, we live near where I grew up so my parents are much closer to us than my wife's parents are. After the birth of our son, my wife's mom rented a place near us for 4 months to help with the baby and chores, etc. I never had any issue with this, even when she would come over multiple times a day, or even unannounced at times (this was not something that bothered me). My parents were (& are) also very eager to spend time with their grandchild, and initially were coming over every other day to see the baby, which then decreased to about twice a week, since he has been 3 months old. My wife has begun having major issues with my parents coming to see our son twice a week now. Perhaps what is most irritating to me is the fact that I anticipated this issue beforehand. I specifically asked my wife when our son was 1 or 2 months old "how often would you be okay with my parents coming to see him?", and her answer was "I would be so happy if it was just twice a week", (which she felt would be a huge improvement over the every other day they were initially coming when our son was a newborn). I assured her that twice a week was very reasonable and she said she'd be happy with that.
Fast forward to now -- my mom comes to visit twice a week for 3-4 hours and my wife says its too much. She says it's suffocating, that she shouldn't have to live her life around my mom seeing our son (which my wife does not, she always tells my mom which days to come, and they are different each week depending on what my wife wants to do), that she feels like she had a kid just for my mom to play with. Again, my mom is never insistent on what days or even times to see our son. She certainly appreciates seeing him regularly, and I always wanted my son to have a close relationship with his grandparents (both sides), as both myself and my wife did growing up. However, my wife's parents do not live near us (and don't come to visit that often). I think this plays a role in terms of her being irritated that my family sees him regularly, but I don't see any solution. Her family is financially able to visit us (very regularly) if they wanted to, but they don't make it a priority. Again, her parents are wonderful people, but they seem to be more interested in their own lives and relationships than they are in forging a deep connection with our son, their grandson (I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it, but it's the opposite of my family who really want to be close with their grandson, even if it's at the expense of time with their own friends).
I should also add that for the past 3 years my wife has not worked. This started prior to us getting married. She left her job because she hated it, and I am lucky to be in a position to financially support us on my own. However, she always told me she would (& wanted to) get a job in a field that she was more interested in, though she has never been able to articulate what that field would be (actually she was adamant that she would have a job before we got married). I tried to encourage her to find fields that appealed to her, even advised her to take risks with entrepreneurship, to see if she could make a career out of something she considers a hobby. I've paid for countless courses, certifications, etc. (90% of which she did not complete -- things like real estate certifications, social media certifications, photography lessons, camera lenses, etc.). Furthermore, I paid for her to see a therapist of her choosing for a few months hoping it would help her gain clarity with regards to what she wants to do career-wise (it did not). All in all, I've probably spent in the neighborhood of 7-8K on online courses, certifications, and she does not have anything to show for it. Once we got pregnant, we agreed that she would take on more of a domestic role (which is what she said she wanted as well, I did not force her into this -- and she was also not doing anything else for work anyway). The point I'm making here is not that I feel she needs to work, it is just that she gets to see our son all the time (it's not like she's going to work and handing our son off to my mom). Also, many times my wife will say "Oh why don't you come on Monday" when we see my mom (which my mom will then do). Then Monday rolls around and my wife is texting me at work all day constantly complaining about how my mom is interacting with our son (she doesn't watch him closely enough, or she doesn't put him in his crib to nap, or she feeds him when she's not supposed to, etc.), how long my mom is staying, how she feels trapped in the house when my mom is there, etc. She basically wants my mom to come over for no more than 2 hours and then leave (again we live about 40 minutes apart).
This issue she has with my mom seeing our son a couple of times a week for a few hours, has started to cause bigger and bigger fights between us. Part of me understands that my wife's lack of her own social circle of close friends, and not having family nearby is contributing to her unhappiness with our current situation. But the other part of me can't help but feel like I've done everything in my power to help, and it feels that she is just complaining about my mom because she's unhappy with where she is in life. I have tried helping her find a career that she would like, I have tried telling her she can remain a stay at home mom if she wants, I have tried getting her a therapist to help her work through her issues, I have tried encouraging her to join mom & baby classes to meet new friends (which she now attends, but hasn't made any real friends during them), I have offered to joint local couples meetups with her to meet new friends if that would make her more comfortable, I have encouraged her to invite the few local friends she does have over for dinner or even go out with them while I watch the baby, I have offered to move to a part of the city that is even further from my parents, and I've even offered to move cities altogether to be closer to her own family (although her family does not reside in just 1 city, they split time between a few). I've also told her to voice her issues to my mom and hash out whatever the issues are, but she says my mom will see it as disrespectful and "make things even more awkward" (which may in fact be true, but in that case I've told her we would just see my mom less, which is what she wants anyway...). Each time I suggest something, I feel that it is met with resistance or some excuse as to why it won't work (for instance when I suggest moving cities, she says no because I'll "use that against her" in the future if we fight). I'm just not sure where I can take it from here. I'm sure couples counseling has to be a part of the solution in some way, but I'm not sure what they are going to be able to offer that I haven't already tried.
I guess I'm just looking for advice. My guess is my wife wants me to just straight up tell my mom she can't come over twice a week anymore (but I could see my wife having a problem even if it was just once a week), for no good reason. My mom has no idea my wife despises her, and me just randomly telling my parents they can't come over anymore for no apparent reason would cause a rift between me & them. I love my parents and they're only getting older. They're not going to live forever, and I would feel awful if I told them they just can't come to see their grandson because my wife doesn't like my mom for no particularly legitimate reason.
Thanks in advance to whoever read through this, and for whatever advice you can provide.
TLDR - I feel like I've bent over backwards to make my wife happy but she still has a major issue with my mom that I don't know how to resolve.
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I've really been struggling recently, as my wife has come to absolutely despise by 67 year old mother, and I'm not sure if there's anything that can fix it.
A little bit of my history. I've always been very close with my family. I grew up in a south Asian household (although I always felt we integrated nicely with a lot of American culture -- both me and my sibling have lived in a large US city our entire lives and consider ourselves American both in culture as well as nationality). However, as in many Asian cultures, respect for elders is extremely important. I always had a parent-child relationship with my parents (meaning that they were in charge, and not interested in being my friend, but rather my mentors and provided invaluable guidance over the years). Both of my parents sacrificed a lot for me and mysibling, but especially my mom who chose to forgo advancing her own career, and to work part time in order to raise my sibling and I. I've always had a good relationship with my mom, although we've had our share of fights over the years (we're both pretty stubborn), but they typically last no more than a 3-5 days on average and then things are completely back to normal. I would say this happens an average of 1-2 times per year at most. I do feel very close with my mom (& my dad as well, but my wife doesn't seem to have any issues with my dad so I'm not focussing on that part). I do believe that much of the success I have achieved in life is directly attributable to the sacrifices my mom made as well as the time she spent raising and teaching me. I have always respected my parents, which is typical of Asian culture. By respect, I mean things like not talking back, valuing their opinions, and trying to make their life easier or happier in small ways (visiting them on weekends, going out to dinner together -- we live roughly 40 minutes apart).
A bit of my wife's history -- she grew up with her parents being divorced from a young age. Both of her parents are wonderful people who I really adore, but they were extremely lenient with her growing up (they were not on top of her with regards to schoolwork, she would talk back to them at times without getting in much trouble, she was able to sneak out of her house as a teen, etc.). These are by no means egregious offenses, and I suspect many kids do the same at that age. However, there was a clear difference in her relationship with her parents -- there was no real enforcement of rules or punishment for breaking rules. Through my lens, it seems that this has manifested as a lack of respect for her own parents, as well as her elders. She mostly has a good relationship with both of her parents, but when she does disagree with them, she talks to them in ways I could never imagine speaking to my own parents (talks back, hangs up on them, etc.). She says that she needs to "put them in their place" at times, which I also find rude. Overall, I would say she grew up much less "family-oriented" than I did, for what it's worth.
My wife is also somewhat of a nomad (mostly not by choice). She moved a few times growing up (within the same state, but different areas), and then went out of state for college, only to leave after 1.5 years and finish at a local state school (in a different state) where her mother lived at the time. Because of this, she has very few close friends, and the ones that she does have are spread out all across the country on different coasts. This is in stark contrast to me. I've been lucky to maintain the same group of friends that I've had since we were 8 or 9 years old. On top of that, most of them have stayed in the same area that we grew up in (where my wife and I now live). I think the lack of a social circle has affected my wife since she moved to my city, but I'm not sure what solution there is for that since there is no city we could live in where she would have a group of close friends or family (her parents live in different states and split time between different states, her 3 closest friends live in 3 different states).
I've known my wife for 8 years and we've been married for 2.5. I love her. She is a great person; she is kind, compassionate, loving, and at her core truly does care deeply about others (though I feel that this does not always come across in the way she talks to her own parents). She's funny, adventurous, and up until recently, I was always happier around her. We were recently blessed with the birth of our son, who is now 11 months old. Our son is the best thing that has ever happened to us, but his arrival seems to have simultaneously strained our relationship in ways I did not anticipate. I knew that the sleep deprivation would be hard, and our lives would change drastically. What I did not envision was a deepening hatred that my wife has developed for my mom.
Prior to the birth of our son, my wife did not have much of an issue with my mom other than thinking she was "needy" for wanting to see myself and my sibling once a week, even if it was just for a dinner (again, we live roughly 40 minutes apart, and my parents are typically willing to drive to us, meet us at a restaurant, or have us over). My mom does tend to be picky with where we eat out (she doesn't eat most meat, and prefers vegetarian options), but that never really bothered me, though it seems to bother my wife that my mom is "getting her way", even though this was at most 1 meal in the week.
I know that my mom can certainly be stubborn and hard to deal with at times, but I know her very well, and I always felt that she was inclusive of my wife, and never did anything that warranted being strongly disliked. The one exception to this was during our son's baby shower. We had planned a large party with a lot of family and friends that my parents hosted (their house is large enough to accomodate a party of that size). During the baby shower, my mom helped arrange catering of food, ordering tables, chairs, tablecloths, and hiring a bartender (my parents also paid for all of this). My wife did not like my mom's taste with regards to tablecloths and chair decorations and she was irritated that my mom wanted to help and be involved in the planning (though to her credit, my wife did not outwardly show this discontent to my mom, though it was certainly made known to me). My wife handled the floral arrangements and other decorative pieces such as a backdrop, and spent a lot of time and effort getting them exactly how she wanted. I kind of sensed that my mom felt that she was being taken for granted and underappreciated by my wife (she did take care and pay for a lot), and my wife felt that my mom was being overbearing with planning, and also felt that my mom was purposefully spiteful (my wife claims that every other member of my family commented on how nice the floral arrangements were, but my mom never did). This culminated in a "fight" where my wife wanted a decorative piece in one part of the yard and my mom wanted it in another part. There was some exchange of words at the time, though I did not witness this. This left my mom feeling that my wife was "disrespectful" and left my wife hating my mom for not honoring her decision about where to place the decorative piece, since this was her baby shower. This led to a very upsetting experience for my wife and I as we really did not enjoy the baby shower at all (although this was not evident to our guests or other family members, as we were able to "fake it"). My wife was particularly upset after the baby shower when we drove home since she felt that it was supposed to be a special day for her, and my mom ruined it, which I mostly agreed with. To her credit, my mom did apologize to both my wife and me the following day, and told us that she had been under a lot of stress with many family members staying at their house, taking care of meals, sleeping arrangements, etc., and her stress got the better of her. I was willing to accept her apology and move on, but my wife has always held a grudge since that time, and feels that the apology wasn't genuine. Again, I've known my mom for a long time and she would rather not apologize at all than do so disingenuously. My wife however insists that she can read my mom better than me, since I'm biased. Nonetheless, we moved forward.
After the birth of our son, my parents and my wife's parents were overjoyed (he is all of their first grandchild). Again, we live near where I grew up so my parents are much closer to us than my wife's parents are. After the birth of our son, my wife's mom rented a place near us for 4 months to help with the baby and chores, etc. I never had any issue with this, even when she would come over multiple times a day, or even unannounced at times (this was not something that bothered me). My parents were (& are) also very eager to spend time with their grandchild, and initially were coming over every other day to see the baby, which then decreased to about twice a week, since he has been 3 months old. My wife has begun having major issues with my parents coming to see our son twice a week now. Perhaps what is most irritating to me is the fact that I anticipated this issue beforehand. I specifically asked my wife when our son was 1 or 2 months old "how often would you be okay with my parents coming to see him?", and her answer was "I would be so happy if it was just twice a week", (which she felt would be a huge improvement over the every other day they were initially coming when our son was a newborn). I assured her that twice a week was very reasonable and she said she'd be happy with that.
Fast forward to now -- my mom comes to visit twice a week for 3-4 hours and my wife says its too much. She says it's suffocating, that she shouldn't have to live her life around my mom seeing our son (which my wife does not, she always tells my mom which days to come, and they are different each week depending on what my wife wants to do), that she feels like she had a kid just for my mom to play with. Again, my mom is never insistent on what days or even times to see our son. She certainly appreciates seeing him regularly, and I always wanted my son to have a close relationship with his grandparents (both sides), as both myself and my wife did growing up. However, my wife's parents do not live near us (and don't come to visit that often). I think this plays a role in terms of her being irritated that my family sees him regularly, but I don't see any solution. Her family is financially able to visit us (very regularly) if they wanted to, but they don't make it a priority. Again, her parents are wonderful people, but they seem to be more interested in their own lives and relationships than they are in forging a deep connection with our son, their grandson (I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it, but it's the opposite of my family who really want to be close with their grandson, even if it's at the expense of time with their own friends).
I should also add that for the past 3 years my wife has not worked. This started prior to us getting married. She left her job because she hated it, and I am lucky to be in a position to financially support us on my own. However, she always told me she would (& wanted to) get a job in a field that she was more interested in, though she has never been able to articulate what that field would be (actually she was adamant that she would have a job before we got married). I tried to encourage her to find fields that appealed to her, even advised her to take risks with entrepreneurship, to see if she could make a career out of something she considers a hobby. I've paid for countless courses, certifications, etc. (90% of which she did not complete -- things like real estate certifications, social media certifications, photography lessons, camera lenses, etc.). Furthermore, I paid for her to see a therapist of her choosing for a few months hoping it would help her gain clarity with regards to what she wants to do career-wise (it did not). All in all, I've probably spent in the neighborhood of 7-8K on online courses, certifications, and she does not have anything to show for it. Once we got pregnant, we agreed that she would take on more of a domestic role (which is what she said she wanted as well, I did not force her into this -- and she was also not doing anything else for work anyway). The point I'm making here is not that I feel she needs to work, it is just that she gets to see our son all the time (it's not like she's going to work and handing our son off to my mom). Also, many times my wife will say "Oh why don't you come on Monday" when we see my mom (which my mom will then do). Then Monday rolls around and my wife is texting me at work all day constantly complaining about how my mom is interacting with our son (she doesn't watch him closely enough, or she doesn't put him in his crib to nap, or she feeds him when she's not supposed to, etc.), how long my mom is staying, how she feels trapped in the house when my mom is there, etc. She basically wants my mom to come over for no more than 2 hours and then leave (again we live about 40 minutes apart).
This issue she has with my mom seeing our son a couple of times a week for a few hours, has started to cause bigger and bigger fights between us. Part of me understands that my wife's lack of her own social circle of close friends, and not having family nearby is contributing to her unhappiness with our current situation. But the other part of me can't help but feel like I've done everything in my power to help, and it feels that she is just complaining about my mom because she's unhappy with where she is in life. I have tried helping her find a career that she would like, I have tried telling her she can remain a stay at home mom if she wants, I have tried getting her a therapist to help her work through her issues, I have tried encouraging her to join mom & baby classes to meet new friends (which she now attends, but hasn't made any real friends during them), I have offered to joint local couples meetups with her to meet new friends if that would make her more comfortable, I have encouraged her to invite the few local friends she does have over for dinner or even go out with them while I watch the baby, I have offered to move to a part of the city that is even further from my parents, and I've even offered to move cities altogether to be closer to her own family (although her family does not reside in just 1 city, they split time between a few). I've also told her to voice her issues to my mom and hash out whatever the issues are, but she says my mom will see it as disrespectful and "make things even more awkward" (which may in fact be true, but in that case I've told her we would just see my mom less, which is what she wants anyway...). Each time I suggest something, I feel that it is met with resistance or some excuse as to why it won't work (for instance when I suggest moving cities, she says no because I'll "use that against her" in the future if we fight). I'm just not sure where I can take it from here. I'm sure couples counseling has to be a part of the solution in some way, but I'm not sure what they are going to be able to offer that I haven't already tried.
I guess I'm just looking for advice. My guess is my wife wants me to just straight up tell my mom she can't come over twice a week anymore (but I could see my wife having a problem even if it was just once a week), for no good reason. My mom has no idea my wife despises her, and me just randomly telling my parents they can't come over anymore for no apparent reason would cause a rift between me & them. I love my parents and they're only getting older. They're not going to live forever, and I would feel awful if I told them they just can't come to see their grandson because my wife doesn't like my mom for no particularly legitimate reason.
Thanks in advance to whoever read through this, and for whatever advice you can provide.
TLDR - I feel like I've bent over backwards to make my wife happy but she still has a major issue with my mom that I don't know how to resolve.
2024.05.21 20:11 Sweet-Count2557 The Best Barcelona Restaurants In Spain: 2023 Guide
 | The Best Barcelona Restaurants In Spain: 2023 Guide submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] Are you looking for an escape? Barcelona, Spain is the perfect destination to indulge in all your desires while exploring a wonderful and unique culture. From the picturesque city streets to its world-renowned restaurants, this Mediterranean metropolis will satisfy even the most discerning traveler’s appetite. Whether you are visiting for business or pleasure, here’s why Barcelona should be at the top of your list. Barcelona Restaurants In Spain is one of Europe's finest. With a wide variety of restaurants ranging from high-end eateries serving traditional Catalan cuisine to bustling tapas bars with delicious local dishes, there is something for everyone. And don't forget about Spanish wine! Sample some of the best vintages that Spain has to offer as you dine al fresco on a terrace overlooking gorgeous views of the city skyline. No matter what type of experience you're searching for, you can find it in Barcelona's many restaurants. So pack your bags and get ready to explore - freedom awaits! Historic Cuisine Barcelona is renowned for its rich culinary heritage. The city offers a broad range of traditional recipes, many of which have been passed down through generations. This historic cuisine allows visitors to experience the local flavors and regional dishes that have become synonymous with Spanish cuisine. From classic tapas to freshly caught seafood, Barcelona has something to satisfy every palate. With an abundance of restaurants serving up these traditional dishes, it’s no surprise that dining in Barcelona can be quite a memorable experience. As one discovers the unique flavors found throughout this vibrant city, it's easy to see why Barcelona's food culture is so beloved by locals and tourists alike. Transitioning from historic tastes to modern delicacies, let's explore some of the delicious offerings available in Barcelona today. Local Delicacies Barcelona is one of the most popular cities in Spain for its Great culture, beautiful architecture, and unique cuisine. According to a recent survey by the Barcelona Chamber of Commerce, over 60% of tourists visit the city specifically to experience its local delicacies. From sausages made with locally sourced meat to Iberic cheeses and traditional paella dishes, there's something special to try on any given day in Barcelona. One of the most iconic Catalan dishes is 'Botifarra', a type of sausage that can be enjoyed as part of a meal or simply served with some bread and cheese. It is usually made from pork but sometimes includes other meats like beef or veal depending on the recipe. For those looking for something more adventurous, there are also varieties such as 'Botifarra Negra' which has been seasoned with blood! Local cheese plates are also popular in Catalonia, featuring regional favorites such as Manchego and cabrales. Paella is another must-try dish when visiting Barcelona; this classic rice-based dish originated in Valencia but has become an integral part of Spanish cuisine throughout the country. The version served in Barcelona often comes loaded with fresh seafood such as clams, mussels, and squid - all cooked together with vegetables, herbs, and spices. Of course, no meal would be complete without dessert: crema catalana is a custard tart topped with caramelized sugar while fideua pasta combines thin noodles with fish broth for a comforting finish to your meal. Seafood specialties play an important role in many authentic restaurants around town, offering visitors a chance to sample Mediterranean flavors right at their tables. Seafood Specialties Barcelona is renowned for its seafood, and it's easy to understand why. The city offers a wide range of delectable dishes that showcase the abundance of fresh catches from nearby seas. From simple yet flavorsome fish alioli to paella bursting with succulent morsels, there are plenty of delicious options available. Calamari fritters are a popular tapas staple in Barcelona and can be found across many restaurants throughout Spain. These crispy treats come served with a garlic dip and make an ideal sharing dish between friends or family. Alternatively, you could try shrimp Ajillo – prawns cooked in olive oil, garlic, white wine, and parsley. This classic Spanish dish has been enjoyed by generations and is always sure to impress. For something truly unique, you should sample some octopus stew which comes prepared with saffron rice and vegetables. This hearty meal packs quite a punch and is guaranteed to satisfy even the most discerning foodie cravings! Tapas and small plates provide an excellent way to explore all the different flavors of Barcelona's seafood scene - so don't miss out on this unique experience! Tapas And Small Plates Barcelona has a vibrant and unique food scene, especially when it comes to tapas and small plates. These two traditional Spanish dishes are an integral part of the local culture, offering visitors from around the world an opportunity to sample some of the best regional recipes. Here's what you can expect in Barcelona: Tapas features fresh fish, vegetables, and meats cooked with traditional flavors like garlic, chorizo, and olive oil. Small plates prepared with ingredients typical of Catalan cuisines such as jamon serrano (cured ham), patatas bravas (fried potatoes), and pa amb tomàquet (bread with tomato). Culinary tours through Barcelona’s famous markets where you can learn about the art of making these delicious dishes while sampling some of them yourself. Tapas bars provide a great way to explore all facets of Spanish gastronomy without having to commit to any one dish or meal. Whether it is lunchtime or late-night snacks, there is always something special waiting for you at every corner! With so many options available, it can be hard to choose which tapa or plate suits your taste buds. Let’s take a look at some popular dishes worth trying on your next trip to Barcelona. Popular Dishes To Try When dining in Barcelona, there is a wealth of delicious dishes to try. From mouth-watering paella and fideua to savory patatas bravas and calçots, Barcelona offers an array of flavorful options for any appetite. DishDescriptionPopularity LevelPaellaA traditional Valencian rice dish made with saffron, vegetables, and either seafood or chicken.High popularityFideuaSimilar to paella but made with short vermicelli noodles instead of rice. Often served with fish or shellfish.Moderate popularityPatatas BravasCrispy potatoes smothered in a spicy tomato sauce. Perfectly salty and full of flavor!Very high popularityCalçotsGrilled scallions are often served with romesco sauce as an appetizer or side dish.Low to moderate popularityEscalivadaRoasted peppers, eggplant, onions, garlic, and olive oil; usually served cold as a salad or tapaModerate popularity The flavors from this local cuisine reflect the culture of Catalonia - one that is passionate about its unique gastronomy yet open to sharing it with the world. Whether you're looking for something sweet like crema Catalana or savory such as Botifarra amb mongetes (sausage cooked with white beans), you can experience this rich Catalan culture through food when visiting Barcelona. By trying out some popular dishes from around the city, visitors will be able to get a real taste of what eating out in Barcelona is all about - sharing stories while connecting over amazing flavors! Top-Rated Restaurants Barcelona is home to some of the most celebrated restaurants in Spain, and visitors looking for a culinary experience won't be disappointed. From top-rated restaurants that have been awarded Michelin stars to highly-rated local establishments offering inventive cuisine, there are so many options when it comes to finding the best Barcelona restaurants. When visiting Barcelona, foodies should head directly to one of the award-winning restaurants in town. These eateries serve up an array of traditional dishes with modern touches, making them popular among locals and tourists alike. Some offer creative takes on classic Spanish fare while others focus on international flavors from around the world - all served up with exceptional hospitality. No matter what type of restaurant you choose, you can expect quality ingredients and masterful preparation at any of the city's best spots. From haute cuisine to humble bistros, Barcelona has something for everyone who appreciates great food. With such variety available, it's no wonder why this vibrant city draws diners from far and wide. From savoring exquisite Catalan specialties to sampling innovative global dishes, dining out in Barcelona promises a truly unforgettable experience. Now more than ever before, chefs across the city are pushing boundaries as they craft unique menus that draw upon both regional and international flavors – ready to be explored by curious taste buds! Vegetarian And Vegan Options Barcelona offers a wide array of vegan and vegetarian options that are sure to satisfy any palette. Whether you’re looking for an extensive plant-based diet or simply wanting something vegan-friendly, Barcelona is the place to be. The city boasts many fine restaurants dedicated to providing delicious meals without compromising on taste or nutrition. Vegetarian delights such as hummus platters, falafel sandwiches, and fresh salads are all made with locally sourced ingredients - guaranteeing only the best quality dishes. If you’d prefer something more indulgent, there are plenty of vegan desserts available too! From ice cream sundaes to churros filled with chocolate sauce, it's hard not to find something to suit your sweet tooth cravings. For those who want something beyond just great food, Barcelona provides some amazing romantic dining spots where couples can enjoy each other’s company in peace. The warm Mediterranean ambiance will add even more charm to the already delectable delicacies served here – making this experience truly unforgettable. With so much variety available for vegetarians and vegans alike – every meal in Barcelona promises to be nothing short of extraordinary. Taking a break from the hustle and bustle of everyday life has never been easier when there are so many unique culinary experiences waiting around every corner! Ready for romance? Let's explore the next section about romantic dining spots in Barcelona… Family-Friendly Venues Barcelona has plenty of family-friendly venues for a memorable, enjoyable meal. Whether your visit is for business or pleasure with the kids in tow, you’ll find several options to keep everyone happy and full! Kid-Friendly RestaurantsFamily RestaurantsPescaítoLa FondaOne Fish Two FishEl XiringuitoIpanemaCasa JuanchoYayaboCan LluisPetit ComitéEstimat These restaurants offer delicious food that can be enjoyed by all ages, making them ideal places to bring the whole family. From casual seafood spots like Pescaito, where you can get fried fish platters served up on newspaper print tables, to more upscale eateries like La Fonda which features Mediterranean cuisine in an elegant setting - there's something to suit every taste and budget. If you're looking for traditional Spanish fare then El Xiringuito offers delicious tapas dishes such as patatas bravas and croquetas. For some more international flavors head over to Ipanema - their Brazilian menu includes picanha steak and feijoada stew. With so many wonderful family-friendly eateries around Barcelona it's easy to have a great time and fill up without breaking the bank! Plus, each restaurant provides a unique atmosphere perfect for creating lasting memories with your loved ones. So why wait? Go out and explore the city together while enjoying some delectable eats at one of these fantastic family-friendly dining establishments! Street Food Scene In Barcelona As if the world was a playground, Barcelona's streets are lined with mouth-watering aromas of Spain's famous dishes. The city is renowned for its vibrant street food scene and night markets that fill up their narrow cobblestone alleyways. From paella to churros con chocolate, there’s something for all tastes in this bustling metropolis. Some of the most popular spots include La Boqueria market on Las Ramblas, where locals and tourists alike can find freshly grilled seafood, cured meats, and cheeses from across the country. El Born is also a great spot for traditional Spanish tapas such as patatas bravas or croquetas de jamon. For those who want an even more immersive culinary experience, Barcelona has no shortage of small restaurants tucked away in winding side alleys and courtyards serving authentic Catalan cuisine like pan con tomate y jamón serrano—a simple yet delicious combination of tomato rubbed onto toast topped with thinly sliced cured ham. There are also some amazing hidden gems scattered throughout the city offering international flavors like Mexican tacos or Indian curries. No matter what type of cuisine you crave, it won't be too hard to find something satisfying in Barcelona! The endless array of options available makes it easy to plan your own gastronomic tour through this beautiful Mediterranean city. Whether you're looking for quick bites while exploring during the day or late-night snacks after hitting up one of Barcelona's famed clubs, there's always something tantalizingly tasty waiting around every corner. Gastronomic Tours Barcelona's restaurants offer a wide variety of gastronomic experiences for every kind of foodie. Tourists can enjoy an array of culinary tours, tapas tours, cooking classes, and more to get the full flavor of Barcelona. Here are some unique activities that will tantalize your taste buds: Foodie Tours – Visit local markets or go on guided tastings with experts who specialize in Catalan cuisine. Tapas Tours – Sample various traditional tapas while exploring the city’s historical streets and monuments. Culinary Classes – Learn how to prepare authentic Spanish dishes from professional chefs in Barcelona's renowned kitchens. Cooking Experiences - Take a hands-on approach to learning about Catalan culture by preparing typical meals with experienced locals in their homes. These gastronomic tours provide visitors with an unforgettable opportunity to savor all that Barcelona has to offer. With its atmosphere and varied flavors, it is no wonder why this Mediterranean metropolis is one of Europe's top culinary destinations. Visitors can explore the rich history behind the region’s diverse cuisine while discovering new tastes and cultures along the way. From succulent seafood paella to sweet churros con chocolate, there are endless possibilities for creating lasting memories through these delightful dining experiences! Frequently Asked Questions Are Reservations Necessary To Dine In Barcelona Restaurants? Asking the age-old question of whether reservations are necessary to dine in Barcelona restaurants is like trying to solve a Rubik's cube. It can take some skill and finesse but, with patience and practice, the answer can be revealed! To begin with, it generally depends on what kind of restaurant you're planning on visiting. For instance, if you choose to visit a high-end establishment downtown then making a reservation may be essential; however, many smaller restaurants don't require one. In Spain specifically, most local eateries will not insist upon an advanced booking - particularly for lunchtime meals or during off-peak hours. Here are three tips that could help: Look up reviews online – they often indicate if reservations are recommended Check out the restaurant website – this should have more information about their policies Give them a call directly – speaking to staff members might give you the clearest insight into their practices Ultimately though, there’s no need to worry unduly about making bookings since Barcelona has so much delicious food and friendly service readily available! Whether it's tapas bars, seafood cafes or traditional bistros customers just walk right in and enjoy themselves without any hassle. There’s something wonderfully freeing in knowing exactly where your next meal is coming from without having to plan ahead too far in advance. If freedom and spontaneity sound appealing when exploring this vibrant city then luckily there are plenty of options out there which don't require reservations! What Is The Average Cost Per Person For A Meal In Barcelona? When it comes to dining out, one of the first questions we all have is what it will cost. When considering Barcelona restaurants, this question becomes even more pertinent. But how much does a meal in Barcelona typically set you back? The average cost per person for a meal at a restaurant in Barcelona can vary depending on the type of establishment and food chosen. Generally speaking, however, diners can expect to pay anywhere between: €15 - 20 for an economical lunch or dinner €25 - 40 for mid-range meals €50+ for fine dining experiences It's possible to enjoy delicious Catalan cuisine without breaking your budget; many eateries offer good value sets menus that include starter, main course & dessert from around €20/person. For those looking to save even more money but still eat well, there are numerous tapas bars offering small plates at relatively low prices. It's also worth noting that many establishments offer discounts during certain times such as early bird specials and happy hours where drinks may be heavily discounted or buy one get one free offer. So if you're planning a trip to Barcelona and want to experience its amazing culinary culture without spending too much money then make sure you do some research ahead of time so you know exactly what kind of deals are available before heading out into town! Are There Any Restaurants That Serve Traditional Catalan Cuisine? Are there any restaurants that serve traditional Catalan cuisine? The answer is a resounding yes! Anyone looking for an authentic taste of Catalonia's culinary heritage will find plenty of options in Barcelona. From cozy family-run eateries to Michelin-starred establishments, the city offers something for everyone seeking out unique and delicious dishes. Catalan cuisine has evolved over centuries and incorporates influences from all corners of the Mediterranean. Traditionally, it is richly seasoned with olive oil, garlic, onions, peppers, and tomatoes. Common ingredients include fish like anchovies and sardines cooked in different ways; vegetables such as aubergines roasted on charcoal or stewed in sauces; meats including pork sausages and grilled lamb; plus stews thickened with almonds or hazelnuts called 'Suquet'. All this can be accompanied by local wines from Penedès and Priorat regions. In search of these regional specialties, you'll find no shortage of charming restaurants around town offering up some of the best examples of Catalan cooking. Whether it's rustic tapas bars tucked away down cobbled alleys or chic bistros overlooking the port - each one promises you a tantalizing journey through Spain’s most celebrated gastronomic region. So why not embark on your own adventure today – savor the flavors of Catalan culture while exploring its vibrant streets? What Are The Best Places To Find Street Food In Barcelona? Finding the best street food in Barcelona is a great way to experience Spain's culture. From traditional Catalan dishes to classic Spanish flavors, there are plenty of options for anyone seeking an authentic culinary adventure. Whether you're looking for a romantic dinner or just want to try something new and exciting, Barcelona has some of the best street food around! From tapas bars and restaurants serving up delicious paellas to small carts with mouth-watering churros, there is no shortage of incredible places to eat when exploring this vibrant city. One popular option is La Boqueria - one of the oldest markets in Barcelona filled with stalls selling all kinds of tasty treats from fruits and vegetables to cured meats and cheeses. Not only does it offer a variety of local delicacies but also international cuisines like Mexican tacos and Italian pasta. When it comes to trying out Barcelona's famous street food, here's what you should look for: Catalan Street Food: Some examples include Pan Bagnat (a sandwich made with tuna), Calçotada (barbecue onion dish), and Escalivada (roasted peppers). Spanish Street Food: Popular items include Patatas Bravas (fried potatoes topped with spicy sauce), Croquetas de Jamón (ham croquettes), and Tapas de Chorizo (sliced sausage). Best Street Food in Barcelona: A few top picks are Focaccia con Tomate y Queso Manchego (focaccia bread topped with tomato & cheese), Albóndigas en Salsa Verde (meatballs cooked in green sauce) and Crema Catalana (custard dessert). These foods represent the country’s rich history and bring people together from all walks of life. Each bite offers a tantalizing mix of flavors that can be enjoyed any time, day or night. So why not take your taste buds on a journey through Spain’s streets by sampling some of its most iconic dishes? With so many unique eateries offering excellent quality fare at affordable prices, you won't be disappointed! Conclusion It is clear that Barcelona's culinary scene offers something for everyone. Whether you're looking for traditional Catalan cuisine, a romantic evening out, or just some delicious street food, reservations are not always necessary and the average cost per person seems quite reasonable. But what about the theory that there is no better place to find authentic Spanish fare than in Barcelona? After all of this research, I believe it may be true. The variety and quality of dishes available here really can't be found anywhere else in Spain. If you want to truly experience the best of Spanish cooking, then Barcelona restaurants should definitely be at the top of your list. With so many amazing options to choose from, why go anywhere else? |
2024.05.21 20:01 mrssands94 Am I wrong for not wanting to go to my husband’s best friend’s wedding?
I honestly don’t even know where to start, I apologize if the timeline is difficult to follow.
My (30F) husband (30M) is currently a nurse. Two years ago, my husband, let’s call him Wayne, enrolled in a one year, accelerated nursing program at a university in our city. This was a super intense program that basically shoved four years of nursing school into one year. (The program is designed for people who already have an undergrad degree and have completed pre-reqs for the program) Wayne quit his job so he could focus all of his energy on the nursing program and pass the NCLEX. I was fully supportive of this and basically told him whatever he needed to do to study and feel prepared, I was game. I think it is important to mention that Wayne and I have been together for 15 years now, we are high school sweethearts.
During the first week of his program, Wayne met two other students and became friends with them. I will call them Bonnie (27F) and Gail (28F). The three of them became fast friends and quickly made a habit of studying together every single day for almost a year. They would take turns going to each other’s houses for study sessions. The majority of the time the three would be at our house because it was somewhat in the middle between their houses and the university. Since I worked during the day, they could study all day if they wanted.
I also really liked Bonnie and Gail. Eventually, we all became friends and Bonnie’s boyfriend, Dan (27M), and Gail’s girlfriend, Tanis (28F) would come over for dinners. Before anyone asks, I had absolutely no issue with Wayne befriending women or spending time with them. Wayne and I are best friends and have a very secure relationship. I trust him completely. Not to mention, Bonnie and Gail were also in relationships, so it was no big deal. Eventually, Wayne and Bonnie even helped Gail work through some of her relationship drama and helped her break up with Tanis. The get-togethers became smaller after that, because Tanis was gone and Dan was working more and couldn’t come.
Fast forward to graduation, Wayne and Bonnie decided that they wanted to work in the Emergency Department and Gail was going to work in a less intense area. Both Wayne and Bonnie got a job at the same ER and their shifts would be similar so they would be co-workers. We all thought this was awesome because that particular ER is in a tough part of town and they see a lot of level one traumas. It’s great that Wayne and Bonnie can “debrief” after shifts and vent to each other. Gail was forced to go on night shift, which was the opposite schedule of Wayne and Bonnie. Over the past year, Wayne and Gail haven’t really spoken. Wayne rationalized that they both got really busy and just lost touch. Bonnie still spoke regularly with Gail.
Around this time, Dan proposed to Bonnie! This was a long time coming and we were all very happy for them. Bonnie said that Wayne and I were definitely invited and it was going to be so much fun! The happy couple eventually told us that the wedding would not be in town, but take place in a state far away. Easily twelve to thirteen hours drive or a flight away. While that would be a lot of money for us, we said that we would do our best to come. Bonnie asked Gail to be a bridesmaid and we were super pumped because it would be like a small reunion! At this time, I found out I was pregnant!! We had been trying for a while and we were so happy. It would work out great because our baby boy would be approximately nine months old at the time of the wedding. Old enough that we could leave him for a day or two with my parents to go to the wedding.
Fast forward to last week. On Tuesday, Bonnie hand delivered Wayne our invitation to their wedding. I was able to request off work and we’ve been slowly saving money to travel for the wedding. On Friday, Bonnie pulled Wayne aside after their shift. Bonnie said that her and Dan had a really bad fight because Bonnie invited Wayne and I to the wedding. Wayne was very confused, why would Dan be upset that we were invited? Bonnie then said:
Since Wayne, Bonnie, and Gail met in nursing school, Gail has been under the delusion that Wayne was in love with her. Apparently, Bonnie and Dan would talk with Gail almost EVERY DAY and tell Gail that there was nothing between her and Wayne. Gail would insist that Wayne was in love with her. Bonnie would tell Gail that she was in the room when such and such happened and there was nothing that happened. As time went on, Gail started to badmouth me to Bonnie and Dan. She would say that I was manipulative and I was mean to Wayne, etc. Gail started saying that she needed to break up with Tanis because Wayne and her were going to be together. Eventually, Gail thought that Wayne was going to leave me to be with her. Bonnie and Dan continued to tell Gail that she was crazy and nothing was happening. When Wayne told them that we were trying for a baby, Gail started a whole other delusion that Wayne and her were going to have kids.
According to Bonnie, during one of our dinners when it was just the four of us, I said something that Gail then passed on to Dan. This was around the time of a school shooting where an AR-15 was used. For context, I was a teacher in an urban school district for five years. During those five years, I was in five lockdowns, one of which had an armed intruder. While I am not anti-gun, I feel very strongly about school safety and gun restrictions. Dan enjoys guns and owns an AR-15. He is also very passionate about gun safety. Gail told Dan that I said something to the effect of “anyone who owns an AR-15 has those children’s blood on their hands”. I can say with 100% certainty that I never said that. I am sure because that is a super unhinged thing to say and it would never come to my mind to say that. If anything, I would have said that AR-15s shouldn’t be so readily available to citizens and there should be restrictions in place so these tragedies don’t happen.
Regardless, Gail told Dan that I allegedly said this. According to Bonnie, Gail talked to Dan without Bonnie present and she was unaware that this conversation had taken place. Dan was very angry and hurt by what Gail said and chose to internalize his anger towards me. Apparently, Dan decided he no longer wanted to see Wayne and I and lied about his work schedule so as to not attend dinners with us. It was not until a couple months after this, that Bonnie invited Dan to dinner at our house and he said, “why would I spend time with those people after what they said?”. Bonnie was confused and then Dan told her what Gail told him. Bonnie told Dan that those words were never spoken and Gail was lying. By this point, Dan had convinced himself that I had said those things and didn’t believe Gail would lie.
When they graduated from nursing school and started working, they stopped hanging out as much because of their schedules. Gail took this as Wayne “ghosting” her and “breaking up” with her. Gail continued to bad mouth me and Wayne.
When Dan found out that Bonnie had given us a wedding invitation, he was livid. He felt that Bonnie went behind his back to invite us even though “we hurt him”.
When Wayne reiterated this to me, I was shocked. We had been completely in the dark about this whole thing FOR TWO YEARS. Bonnie had been acting like nothing was wrong. After almost every shift, Wayne and Bonnie talk on the phone. Not once has she even mentioned anything about this. Gail is still in the wedding party despite this. Dan still hates us.
Bonnie wants Wayne and I to be at her wedding and says, “she can’t get married without her best friend [Wayne] there”.
Firstly, Bonnie has lied by omission for two years. Frankly, I don’t trust Bonnie anymore. I am skeptical that we have all of the information and there isn’t something more at play here.
Secondly, I am offended that Dan would think that I said those things. And I’m shocked he would blindly believe Gail, especially after her delusions about Wayne.
Thirdly, why would I want to go to a wedding where Gail is a bridesmaid? Who is to say she doesn’t start something and cause a scene? Also, why would I want to spend thousands of dollars to travel to a wedding where I am uncomfortable? AND I’m leaving my baby?
While Wayne is as confused as I am, he still wants to go to the wedding. He has trauma-bonded with Bonnie through work and values her as a friend. While I understand this, I can not get over this. Bonnie is trying to talk to Dan and convince him that we are good people and Gail twisted everything. Honestly, after being left in the dark for two years, I don’t want to have to convince anyone that we’re innocent in this. If anything, we should be getting an apology from all parties.
Wayne and I are currently still waiting to hear from Bonnie about her “talk” with Dan and Gail. As of right now, 5/21, Gail is still a bridesmaid and Dan still doesn’t want us at the wedding.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? What would you do?
ETA: The term "trauma bond" is what my husband and Bonnie use all the time. That is how they described their relationship since working in the ER together. It is half said as a joke, half in truth.
Wayne also expressed that he did not want to go to the wedding if Gail was there. The main reason being that we don't want to risk there being a scene and potentially ruining Bonnie's wedding.
Bonnie has also mentioned that she is considering removing Gail from the wedding party. But she is afraid to do that because she doesn't want to "trigger" her or cause her to spiral or hurt herself. Gail has also been going through some mental health crises over the past year which contributes to Bonnie being hesitate to ask her to bow out. I am not defending Bonnie or Gail but understand Bonnie's hesitation.
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My (30F) husband (30M) is currently a nurse. Two years ago, my husband, let’s call him Wayne, enrolled in a one year, accelerated nursing program at a university in our city. This was a super intense program that basically shoved four years of nursing school into one year. (The program is designed for people who already have an undergrad degree and have completed pre-reqs for the program) Wayne quit his job so he could focus all of his energy on the nursing program and pass the NCLEX. I was fully supportive of this and basically told him whatever he needed to do to study and feel prepared, I was game. I think it is important to mention that Wayne and I have been together for 15 years now, we are high school sweethearts.
During the first week of his program, Wayne met two other students and became friends with them. I will call them Bonnie (27F) and Gail (28F). The three of them became fast friends and quickly made a habit of studying together every single day for almost a year. They would take turns going to each other’s houses for study sessions. The majority of the time the three would be at our house because it was somewhat in the middle between their houses and the university. Since I worked during the day, they could study all day if they wanted.
I also really liked Bonnie and Gail. Eventually, we all became friends and Bonnie’s boyfriend, Dan (27M), and Gail’s girlfriend, Tanis (28F) would come over for dinners. Before anyone asks, I had absolutely no issue with Wayne befriending women or spending time with them. Wayne and I are best friends and have a very secure relationship. I trust him completely. Not to mention, Bonnie and Gail were also in relationships, so it was no big deal. Eventually, Wayne and Bonnie even helped Gail work through some of her relationship drama and helped her break up with Tanis. The get-togethers became smaller after that, because Tanis was gone and Dan was working more and couldn’t come.
Fast forward to graduation, Wayne and Bonnie decided that they wanted to work in the Emergency Department and Gail was going to work in a less intense area. Both Wayne and Bonnie got a job at the same ER and their shifts would be similar so they would be co-workers. We all thought this was awesome because that particular ER is in a tough part of town and they see a lot of level one traumas. It’s great that Wayne and Bonnie can “debrief” after shifts and vent to each other. Gail was forced to go on night shift, which was the opposite schedule of Wayne and Bonnie. Over the past year, Wayne and Gail haven’t really spoken. Wayne rationalized that they both got really busy and just lost touch. Bonnie still spoke regularly with Gail.
Around this time, Dan proposed to Bonnie! This was a long time coming and we were all very happy for them. Bonnie said that Wayne and I were definitely invited and it was going to be so much fun! The happy couple eventually told us that the wedding would not be in town, but take place in a state far away. Easily twelve to thirteen hours drive or a flight away. While that would be a lot of money for us, we said that we would do our best to come. Bonnie asked Gail to be a bridesmaid and we were super pumped because it would be like a small reunion! At this time, I found out I was pregnant!! We had been trying for a while and we were so happy. It would work out great because our baby boy would be approximately nine months old at the time of the wedding. Old enough that we could leave him for a day or two with my parents to go to the wedding.
Fast forward to last week. On Tuesday, Bonnie hand delivered Wayne our invitation to their wedding. I was able to request off work and we’ve been slowly saving money to travel for the wedding. On Friday, Bonnie pulled Wayne aside after their shift. Bonnie said that her and Dan had a really bad fight because Bonnie invited Wayne and I to the wedding. Wayne was very confused, why would Dan be upset that we were invited? Bonnie then said:
Since Wayne, Bonnie, and Gail met in nursing school, Gail has been under the delusion that Wayne was in love with her. Apparently, Bonnie and Dan would talk with Gail almost EVERY DAY and tell Gail that there was nothing between her and Wayne. Gail would insist that Wayne was in love with her. Bonnie would tell Gail that she was in the room when such and such happened and there was nothing that happened. As time went on, Gail started to badmouth me to Bonnie and Dan. She would say that I was manipulative and I was mean to Wayne, etc. Gail started saying that she needed to break up with Tanis because Wayne and her were going to be together. Eventually, Gail thought that Wayne was going to leave me to be with her. Bonnie and Dan continued to tell Gail that she was crazy and nothing was happening. When Wayne told them that we were trying for a baby, Gail started a whole other delusion that Wayne and her were going to have kids.
According to Bonnie, during one of our dinners when it was just the four of us, I said something that Gail then passed on to Dan. This was around the time of a school shooting where an AR-15 was used. For context, I was a teacher in an urban school district for five years. During those five years, I was in five lockdowns, one of which had an armed intruder. While I am not anti-gun, I feel very strongly about school safety and gun restrictions. Dan enjoys guns and owns an AR-15. He is also very passionate about gun safety. Gail told Dan that I said something to the effect of “anyone who owns an AR-15 has those children’s blood on their hands”. I can say with 100% certainty that I never said that. I am sure because that is a super unhinged thing to say and it would never come to my mind to say that. If anything, I would have said that AR-15s shouldn’t be so readily available to citizens and there should be restrictions in place so these tragedies don’t happen.
Regardless, Gail told Dan that I allegedly said this. According to Bonnie, Gail talked to Dan without Bonnie present and she was unaware that this conversation had taken place. Dan was very angry and hurt by what Gail said and chose to internalize his anger towards me. Apparently, Dan decided he no longer wanted to see Wayne and I and lied about his work schedule so as to not attend dinners with us. It was not until a couple months after this, that Bonnie invited Dan to dinner at our house and he said, “why would I spend time with those people after what they said?”. Bonnie was confused and then Dan told her what Gail told him. Bonnie told Dan that those words were never spoken and Gail was lying. By this point, Dan had convinced himself that I had said those things and didn’t believe Gail would lie.
When they graduated from nursing school and started working, they stopped hanging out as much because of their schedules. Gail took this as Wayne “ghosting” her and “breaking up” with her. Gail continued to bad mouth me and Wayne.
When Dan found out that Bonnie had given us a wedding invitation, he was livid. He felt that Bonnie went behind his back to invite us even though “we hurt him”.
When Wayne reiterated this to me, I was shocked. We had been completely in the dark about this whole thing FOR TWO YEARS. Bonnie had been acting like nothing was wrong. After almost every shift, Wayne and Bonnie talk on the phone. Not once has she even mentioned anything about this. Gail is still in the wedding party despite this. Dan still hates us.
Bonnie wants Wayne and I to be at her wedding and says, “she can’t get married without her best friend [Wayne] there”.
Firstly, Bonnie has lied by omission for two years. Frankly, I don’t trust Bonnie anymore. I am skeptical that we have all of the information and there isn’t something more at play here.
Secondly, I am offended that Dan would think that I said those things. And I’m shocked he would blindly believe Gail, especially after her delusions about Wayne.
Thirdly, why would I want to go to a wedding where Gail is a bridesmaid? Who is to say she doesn’t start something and cause a scene? Also, why would I want to spend thousands of dollars to travel to a wedding where I am uncomfortable? AND I’m leaving my baby?
While Wayne is as confused as I am, he still wants to go to the wedding. He has trauma-bonded with Bonnie through work and values her as a friend. While I understand this, I can not get over this. Bonnie is trying to talk to Dan and convince him that we are good people and Gail twisted everything. Honestly, after being left in the dark for two years, I don’t want to have to convince anyone that we’re innocent in this. If anything, we should be getting an apology from all parties.
Wayne and I are currently still waiting to hear from Bonnie about her “talk” with Dan and Gail. As of right now, 5/21, Gail is still a bridesmaid and Dan still doesn’t want us at the wedding.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? What would you do?
ETA: The term "trauma bond" is what my husband and Bonnie use all the time. That is how they described their relationship since working in the ER together. It is half said as a joke, half in truth.
Wayne also expressed that he did not want to go to the wedding if Gail was there. The main reason being that we don't want to risk there being a scene and potentially ruining Bonnie's wedding.
Bonnie has also mentioned that she is considering removing Gail from the wedding party. But she is afraid to do that because she doesn't want to "trigger" her or cause her to spiral or hurt herself. Gail has also been going through some mental health crises over the past year which contributes to Bonnie being hesitate to ask her to bow out. I am not defending Bonnie or Gail but understand Bonnie's hesitation.
2024.05.21 19:40 moneyman4u2 Go ask Alice
One pill makes you larger...one pill makes you small..and the ones that mother gives you...don't do anything at all....sang Grace Slick....
Where was he? He wish he knew. He had been playing on on the web. Starting with vanilla porn. Then kink. Bdsm. Femdom. Chastity play and recently, the last 3 months, findom.
He messed around. Lurked. Started dms and ghosted. Done some silent sends. But nothing seemed to get him off more than recently joining a discord server. Being used by multiple dommes. Having them laugh at him as he was passed from domme to domme. Each draining him a little until he was all used up for the day.
It was early...first coffee not even kicking in...when he saw a dm...from one of the dommes. An invitation. Click if you dare. Follow down the rabbit hole.
He liked her. Loved her. Had wished he was hers but she rejected that. He could never say no to her.
Now this. He opened the link. A flashing message greated him
You have now entered the dark web. Rules do not apply here. Enter at your own risk. Blue pill, you wake up in your own bed. Story ends. The red...
He choose the red.
Upon hitting enter, he felt transported. He was in a dark room. Surrounded by 5 dommes. The head of the dommes, the queen so to speak said "welcome, you who have entered. abandon all hope of a leaving without paying our price".
You have entered a special place. One for whom no cell phone or computer is needed. Think send and it happens. From any of your resources. Bank. Investment. Real estate. Shall we begin?
He could only nod yes. His goddess, dressed in a green shift looked on and smirked.
He woke up. In a daze. In his bed. Thirsty. Dehydrated. Dried Cum all over his bed and body. He picked up his phone. 3 days had passed.
Hell, what happened???
Coming out of his fog. Slowely remembering Send send send send send send send Send send send send and send Send.
Account after account drained to zero. Him allowed to cum after each one.
His heart sunk. He desperately hit each account.
All zeros.
$756,789.00 gone.
All gone.
Post script:
It was a.week later. The queen of the dark web kingdom sat at dinner with her husband. Best steak house in Ny.
Hon, i have good news..
Dinner is on me.
I won the lottery with a bunch of friends!
My half is almost $379 000.
We can buy our house now!
Post post script:
They sat at the lawyers office. Signing papers. The perfect house. For way under market value. The "seller" wanting to help a young couple out. Needing just enough to pay off the mortgage.
They would move in today.
Guess who is moving out?
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Where was he? He wish he knew. He had been playing on on the web. Starting with vanilla porn. Then kink. Bdsm. Femdom. Chastity play and recently, the last 3 months, findom.
He messed around. Lurked. Started dms and ghosted. Done some silent sends. But nothing seemed to get him off more than recently joining a discord server. Being used by multiple dommes. Having them laugh at him as he was passed from domme to domme. Each draining him a little until he was all used up for the day.
It was early...first coffee not even kicking in...when he saw a dm...from one of the dommes. An invitation. Click if you dare. Follow down the rabbit hole.
He liked her. Loved her. Had wished he was hers but she rejected that. He could never say no to her.
Now this. He opened the link. A flashing message greated him
You have now entered the dark web. Rules do not apply here. Enter at your own risk. Blue pill, you wake up in your own bed. Story ends. The red...
He choose the red.
Upon hitting enter, he felt transported. He was in a dark room. Surrounded by 5 dommes. The head of the dommes, the queen so to speak said "welcome, you who have entered. abandon all hope of a leaving without paying our price".
You have entered a special place. One for whom no cell phone or computer is needed. Think send and it happens. From any of your resources. Bank. Investment. Real estate. Shall we begin?
He could only nod yes. His goddess, dressed in a green shift looked on and smirked.
He woke up. In a daze. In his bed. Thirsty. Dehydrated. Dried Cum all over his bed and body. He picked up his phone. 3 days had passed.
Hell, what happened???
Coming out of his fog. Slowely remembering Send send send send send send send Send send send send and send Send.
Account after account drained to zero. Him allowed to cum after each one.
His heart sunk. He desperately hit each account.
All zeros.
$756,789.00 gone.
All gone.
Post script:
It was a.week later. The queen of the dark web kingdom sat at dinner with her husband. Best steak house in Ny.
Hon, i have good news..
Dinner is on me.
I won the lottery with a bunch of friends!
My half is almost $379 000.
We can buy our house now!
Post post script:
They sat at the lawyers office. Signing papers. The perfect house. For way under market value. The "seller" wanting to help a young couple out. Needing just enough to pay off the mortgage.
They would move in today.
Guess who is moving out?
2024.05.21 19:38 mrssands94 Am I wrong for not wanting to go to my husband’s best friend’s wedding?
I honestly don’t even know where to start, I apologize if the timeline is difficult to follow.
My (30F) husband (30M) is currently a nurse. Two years ago, my husband, let’s call him Wayne, enrolled in a one year, accelerated nursing program at a university in our city. This was a super intense program that basically shoved four years of nursing school into one year. (The program is designed for people who already have an undergrad degree and have completed pre-reqs for the program) Wayne quit his job so he could focus all of his energy on the nursing program and pass the NCLEX. I was fully supportive of this and basically told him whatever he needed to do to study and feel prepared, I was game. I think it is important to mention that Wayne and I have been together for 15 years now, we are high school sweethearts.
During the first week of his program, Wayne met two other students and became friends with them. I will call them Bonnie (27F) and Gail (28F). The three of them became fast friends and quickly made a habit of studying together every single day for almost a year. They would take turns going to each other’s houses for study sessions. The majority of the time the three would be at our house because it was somewhat in the middle between their houses and the university. Since I worked during the day, they could study all day if they wanted.
I also really liked Bonnie and Gail. Eventually, we all became friends and Bonnie’s boyfriend, Dan (27M), and Gail’s girlfriend, Tanis (28F) would come over for dinners. Before anyone asks, I had absolutely no issue with Wayne befriending women or spending time with them. Wayne and I are best friends and have a very secure relationship. I trust him completely. Not to mention, Bonnie and Gail were also in relationships, so it was no big deal. Eventually, Wayne and Bonnie even helped Gail work through some of her relationship drama and helped her break up with Tanis. The get-togethers became smaller after that, because Tanis was gone and Dan was working more and couldn’t come.
Fast forward to graduation, Wayne and Bonnie decided that they wanted to work in the Emergency Department and Gail was going to work in a less intense area. Both Wayne and Bonnie got a job at the same ER and their shifts would be similar so they would be co-workers. We all thought this was awesome because that particular ER is in a tough part of town and they see a lot of level one traumas. It’s great that Wayne and Bonnie can “debrief” after shifts and vent to each other. Gail was forced to go on night shift, which was the opposite schedule of Wayne and Bonnie. Over the past year, Wayne and Gail haven’t really spoken. Wayne rationalized that they both got really busy and just lost touch. Bonnie still spoke regularly with Gail.
Around this time, Dan proposed to Bonnie! This was a long time coming and we were all very happy for them. Bonnie said that Wayne and I were definitely invited and it was going to be so much fun! The happy couple eventually told us that the wedding would not be in town, but take place in a state far away. Easily twelve to thirteen hours drive or a flight away. While that would be a lot of money for us, we said that we would do our best to come. Bonnie asked Gail to be a bridesmaid and we were super pumped because it would be like a small reunion! At this time, I found out I was pregnant!! We had been trying for a while and we were so happy. It would work out great because our baby boy would be approximately nine months old at the time of the wedding. Old enough that we could leave him for a day or two with my parents to go to the wedding.
Fast forward to last week. On Tuesday, Bonnie hand delivered Wayne our invitation to their wedding. I was able to request off work and we’ve been slowly saving money to travel for the wedding. On Friday, Bonnie pulled Wayne aside after their shift. Bonnie said that her and Dan had a really bad fight because Bonnie invited Wayne and I to the wedding. Wayne was very confused, why would Dan be upset that we were invited? Bonnie then said:
Since Wayne, Bonnie, and Gail met in nursing school, Gail has been under the delusion that Wayne was in love with her. Apparently, Bonnie and Dan would talk with Gail almost EVERY DAY and tell Gail that there was nothing between her and Wayne. Gail would insist that Wayne was in love with her. Bonnie would tell Gail that she was in the room when such and such happened and there was nothing that happened. As time went on, Gail started to badmouth me to Bonnie and Dan. She would say that I was manipulative and I was mean to Wayne, etc. Gail started saying that she needed to break up with Tanis because Wayne and her were going to be together. Eventually, Gail thought that Wayne was going to leave me to be with her. Bonnie and Dan continued to tell Gail that she was crazy and nothing was happening. When Wayne told them that we were trying for a baby, Gail started a whole other delusion that Wayne and her were going to have kids.
According to Bonnie, during one of our dinners when it was just the four of us, I said something that Gail then passed on to Dan. This was around the time of a school shooting where an AR-15 was used. For context, I was a teacher in an urban school district for five years. During those five years, I was in five lockdowns, one of which had an armed intruder. While I am not anti-gun, I feel very strongly about school safety and gun restrictions. Dan enjoys guns and owns an AR-15. He is also very passionate about gun safety. Gail told Dan that I said something to the effect of “anyone who owns an AR-15 has those children’s blood on their hands”. I can say with 100% certainty that I never said that. I am sure because that is a super unhinged thing to say and it would never come to my mind to say that. If anything, I would have said that AR-15s shouldn’t be so readily available to citizens and there should be restrictions in place so these tragedies don’t happen.
Regardless, Gail told Dan that I allegedly said this. According to Bonnie, Gail talked to Dan without Bonnie present and she was unaware that this conversation had taken place. Dan was very angry and hurt by what Gail said and chose to internalize his anger towards me. Apparently, Dan decided he no longer wanted to see Wayne and I and lied about his work schedule so as to not attend dinners with us. It was not until a couple months after this, that Bonnie invited Dan to dinner at our house and he said, “why would I spend time with those people after what they said?”. Bonnie was confused and then Dan told her what Gail told him. Bonnie told Dan that those words were never spoken and Gail was lying. By this point, Dan had convinced himself that I had said those things and didn’t believe Gail would lie.
When they graduated from nursing school and started working, they stopped hanging out as much because of their schedules. Gail took this as Wayne “ghosting” her and “breaking up” with her. Gail continued to bad mouth me and Wayne.
When Dan found out that Bonnie had given us a wedding invitation, he was livid. He felt that Bonnie went behind his back to invite us even though “we hurt him”.
When Wayne reiterated this to me, I was shocked. We had been completely in the dark about this whole thing FOR TWO YEARS. Bonnie had been acting like nothing was wrong. After almost every shift, Wayne and Bonnie talk on the phone. Not once has she even mentioned anything about this. Gail is still in the wedding party despite this. Dan still hates us.
Bonnie wants Wayne and I to be at her wedding and says, “she can’t get married without her best friend [Wayne] there”.
Firstly, Bonnie has lied by omission for two years. Frankly, I don’t trust Bonnie anymore. I am skeptical that we have all of the information and there isn’t something more at play here.
Secondly, I am offended that Dan would think that I said those things. And I’m shocked he would blindly believe Gail, especially after her delusions about Wayne.
Thirdly, why would I want to go to a wedding where Gail is a bridesmaid? Who is to say she doesn’t start something and cause a scene? Also, why would I want to spend thousands of dollars to travel to a wedding where I am uncomfortable? AND I’m leaving my baby?
While Wayne is as confused as I am, he still wants to go to the wedding. He has trauma-bonded with Bonnie through work and values her as a friend. While I understand this, I can not get over this. Bonnie is trying to talk to Dan and convince him that we are good people and Gail twisted everything. Honestly, after being left in the dark for two years, I don’t want to have to convince anyone that we’re innocent in this. If anything, we should be getting an apology from all parties.
Wayne and I are currently still waiting to hear from Bonnie about her “talk” with Dan and Gail. As of right now, 5/21, Gail is still a bridesmaid and Dan still doesn’t want us at the wedding.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? What would you do?
ETA: The term "trauma bond" is what my husband and Bonnie use all the time. That is how they described their relationship since working in the ER together. It is half said as a joke, half in truth.
Wayne also expressed that he did not want to go to the wedding if Gail was there. The main reason being that we don't want to risk there being a scene and potentially ruining Bonnie's wedding.
Bonnie has also mentioned that she is considering removing Gail from the wedding party. But she is afraid to do that because she doesn't want to "trigger" her or cause her to spiral or hurt herself. Gail has also been going through some mental health crises over the past year which contributes to Bonnie being hesitate to ask her to bow out. I am not defending Bonnie or Gail but understand Bonnie's hesitation.
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My (30F) husband (30M) is currently a nurse. Two years ago, my husband, let’s call him Wayne, enrolled in a one year, accelerated nursing program at a university in our city. This was a super intense program that basically shoved four years of nursing school into one year. (The program is designed for people who already have an undergrad degree and have completed pre-reqs for the program) Wayne quit his job so he could focus all of his energy on the nursing program and pass the NCLEX. I was fully supportive of this and basically told him whatever he needed to do to study and feel prepared, I was game. I think it is important to mention that Wayne and I have been together for 15 years now, we are high school sweethearts.
During the first week of his program, Wayne met two other students and became friends with them. I will call them Bonnie (27F) and Gail (28F). The three of them became fast friends and quickly made a habit of studying together every single day for almost a year. They would take turns going to each other’s houses for study sessions. The majority of the time the three would be at our house because it was somewhat in the middle between their houses and the university. Since I worked during the day, they could study all day if they wanted.
I also really liked Bonnie and Gail. Eventually, we all became friends and Bonnie’s boyfriend, Dan (27M), and Gail’s girlfriend, Tanis (28F) would come over for dinners. Before anyone asks, I had absolutely no issue with Wayne befriending women or spending time with them. Wayne and I are best friends and have a very secure relationship. I trust him completely. Not to mention, Bonnie and Gail were also in relationships, so it was no big deal. Eventually, Wayne and Bonnie even helped Gail work through some of her relationship drama and helped her break up with Tanis. The get-togethers became smaller after that, because Tanis was gone and Dan was working more and couldn’t come.
Fast forward to graduation, Wayne and Bonnie decided that they wanted to work in the Emergency Department and Gail was going to work in a less intense area. Both Wayne and Bonnie got a job at the same ER and their shifts would be similar so they would be co-workers. We all thought this was awesome because that particular ER is in a tough part of town and they see a lot of level one traumas. It’s great that Wayne and Bonnie can “debrief” after shifts and vent to each other. Gail was forced to go on night shift, which was the opposite schedule of Wayne and Bonnie. Over the past year, Wayne and Gail haven’t really spoken. Wayne rationalized that they both got really busy and just lost touch. Bonnie still spoke regularly with Gail.
Around this time, Dan proposed to Bonnie! This was a long time coming and we were all very happy for them. Bonnie said that Wayne and I were definitely invited and it was going to be so much fun! The happy couple eventually told us that the wedding would not be in town, but take place in a state far away. Easily twelve to thirteen hours drive or a flight away. While that would be a lot of money for us, we said that we would do our best to come. Bonnie asked Gail to be a bridesmaid and we were super pumped because it would be like a small reunion! At this time, I found out I was pregnant!! We had been trying for a while and we were so happy. It would work out great because our baby boy would be approximately nine months old at the time of the wedding. Old enough that we could leave him for a day or two with my parents to go to the wedding.
Fast forward to last week. On Tuesday, Bonnie hand delivered Wayne our invitation to their wedding. I was able to request off work and we’ve been slowly saving money to travel for the wedding. On Friday, Bonnie pulled Wayne aside after their shift. Bonnie said that her and Dan had a really bad fight because Bonnie invited Wayne and I to the wedding. Wayne was very confused, why would Dan be upset that we were invited? Bonnie then said:
Since Wayne, Bonnie, and Gail met in nursing school, Gail has been under the delusion that Wayne was in love with her. Apparently, Bonnie and Dan would talk with Gail almost EVERY DAY and tell Gail that there was nothing between her and Wayne. Gail would insist that Wayne was in love with her. Bonnie would tell Gail that she was in the room when such and such happened and there was nothing that happened. As time went on, Gail started to badmouth me to Bonnie and Dan. She would say that I was manipulative and I was mean to Wayne, etc. Gail started saying that she needed to break up with Tanis because Wayne and her were going to be together. Eventually, Gail thought that Wayne was going to leave me to be with her. Bonnie and Dan continued to tell Gail that she was crazy and nothing was happening. When Wayne told them that we were trying for a baby, Gail started a whole other delusion that Wayne and her were going to have kids.
According to Bonnie, during one of our dinners when it was just the four of us, I said something that Gail then passed on to Dan. This was around the time of a school shooting where an AR-15 was used. For context, I was a teacher in an urban school district for five years. During those five years, I was in five lockdowns, one of which had an armed intruder. While I am not anti-gun, I feel very strongly about school safety and gun restrictions. Dan enjoys guns and owns an AR-15. He is also very passionate about gun safety. Gail told Dan that I said something to the effect of “anyone who owns an AR-15 has those children’s blood on their hands”. I can say with 100% certainty that I never said that. I am sure because that is a super unhinged thing to say and it would never come to my mind to say that. If anything, I would have said that AR-15s shouldn’t be so readily available to citizens and there should be restrictions in place so these tragedies don’t happen.
Regardless, Gail told Dan that I allegedly said this. According to Bonnie, Gail talked to Dan without Bonnie present and she was unaware that this conversation had taken place. Dan was very angry and hurt by what Gail said and chose to internalize his anger towards me. Apparently, Dan decided he no longer wanted to see Wayne and I and lied about his work schedule so as to not attend dinners with us. It was not until a couple months after this, that Bonnie invited Dan to dinner at our house and he said, “why would I spend time with those people after what they said?”. Bonnie was confused and then Dan told her what Gail told him. Bonnie told Dan that those words were never spoken and Gail was lying. By this point, Dan had convinced himself that I had said those things and didn’t believe Gail would lie.
When they graduated from nursing school and started working, they stopped hanging out as much because of their schedules. Gail took this as Wayne “ghosting” her and “breaking up” with her. Gail continued to bad mouth me and Wayne.
When Dan found out that Bonnie had given us a wedding invitation, he was livid. He felt that Bonnie went behind his back to invite us even though “we hurt him”.
When Wayne reiterated this to me, I was shocked. We had been completely in the dark about this whole thing FOR TWO YEARS. Bonnie had been acting like nothing was wrong. After almost every shift, Wayne and Bonnie talk on the phone. Not once has she even mentioned anything about this. Gail is still in the wedding party despite this. Dan still hates us.
Bonnie wants Wayne and I to be at her wedding and says, “she can’t get married without her best friend [Wayne] there”.
Firstly, Bonnie has lied by omission for two years. Frankly, I don’t trust Bonnie anymore. I am skeptical that we have all of the information and there isn’t something more at play here.
Secondly, I am offended that Dan would think that I said those things. And I’m shocked he would blindly believe Gail, especially after her delusions about Wayne.
Thirdly, why would I want to go to a wedding where Gail is a bridesmaid? Who is to say she doesn’t start something and cause a scene? Also, why would I want to spend thousands of dollars to travel to a wedding where I am uncomfortable? AND I’m leaving my baby?
While Wayne is as confused as I am, he still wants to go to the wedding. He has trauma-bonded with Bonnie through work and values her as a friend. While I understand this, I can not get over this. Bonnie is trying to talk to Dan and convince him that we are good people and Gail twisted everything. Honestly, after being left in the dark for two years, I don’t want to have to convince anyone that we’re innocent in this. If anything, we should be getting an apology from all parties.
Wayne and I are currently still waiting to hear from Bonnie about her “talk” with Dan and Gail. As of right now, 5/21, Gail is still a bridesmaid and Dan still doesn’t want us at the wedding.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? What would you do?
ETA: The term "trauma bond" is what my husband and Bonnie use all the time. That is how they described their relationship since working in the ER together. It is half said as a joke, half in truth.
Wayne also expressed that he did not want to go to the wedding if Gail was there. The main reason being that we don't want to risk there being a scene and potentially ruining Bonnie's wedding.
Bonnie has also mentioned that she is considering removing Gail from the wedding party. But she is afraid to do that because she doesn't want to "trigger" her or cause her to spiral or hurt herself. Gail has also been going through some mental health crises over the past year which contributes to Bonnie being hesitate to ask her to bow out. I am not defending Bonnie or Gail but understand Bonnie's hesitation.
2024.05.21 19:31 Valha28 EWW: The Bros
 | Hello and welcome to episode 98 in a series inspired by u/kamikazeb0y and CinemaSins, where I'll be sinning each and every episode of Gumball. submitted by Valha28 to gumball [link] [comments] Quick Disclaimer: I know this is just a children's cartoon and isn't meant to be taken seriously. This, like the show itself, is not at all meant to be taken seriously or considered an actual critique of the show. It is all in good fun. With that out of the way I present you, Everything Wrong With: The Burden! Gumball: Cossack dance, but there's a problem with it. Darwin: What? [Gumball gets off of his seat, and dances. He repeatedly kicks himself in the face as he does so] I'm...surprised Gumball actually knows the name of this dance. Seems unlike him to care enough to have actually researched the actual name of it. Would have been way more like him to just call it something like "the dance where you fold your arms and kick your legs" or something. But kudos to him for actually going out of his way to learn about something for once, I guess! -1 [Darwin makes an old man face. They laugh again. The bus stops, and Penny gets off] Penny: Thanks! [Gumball sees Penny, and they stare at each other affectionately] Darwin: [Off-screen] And what's your best party trick? [Gumball sticks his finger into a nostril and it comes out through his ear. He wiggles it around, flapping his ear in the process. Penny giggles and walks off] Awwwww, i love that they re-used a snippet of the soundtrack from the iconic scene in The Shell here. I guess that makes that track the official theme of Gumball and Penny's relationship? Hell yeah! -5 Gumball: So, who would you invite? Darwin: Never you mind! Gumball: Oh, come on! Tell me! Darwin: [Blushes] No, you first! Gumball: Oh, fine. [Sing-song voice] But you gotta say yours at the same time. On three. One. Two. Three. Gumball: Penny! Darwin: You! That...was nowhere near the same time +1 [They are both surprised. Darwin is angry and Gumball is shocked] Gumball and Darwin: What?! [The bus stops, and the brothers get off] Darwin: I AM NOT MAKING A SCENE! Gumball: Okay. Darwin: AND I'M NOT JEALOUS OF PENNY! Gumball: Dude, don't freak out. There's enough space in my life for the both of you. [Many Darwins appear around Gumball, crowding him] Darwin: She's crowding us! Darwin: She's suffocating us! Darwin: She's oppressing us! Darwin: She's smothering us! [They all speak at once, disappearing as Gumball interjects] Gumball: Okay, enough! I wanted your opinion on something important, but if it's gonna be like this, then just go home! I need to go to the store anyway. [Walks off] [Darwin's anger turns into sadness, and he begins to sob. Suddenly, he becomes angry again] Darwin: BACK OFF, PENNY FITZGERALD! HE'S MY BROTHER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER! Alright...firstly, was Darwin seriously expecting Gumball to say anyone else than Penny? I mean, he made it extremely obvious that he was imagining this as a romantic get-together, so of course he was gonna pick her +1 Also, what happened to Darwin talking to 'Chris Morris' and working out his issues with Gumball and Penny last episode? Like, he realized he was just overeacting and projecting his own insecurities onto Gumball and that he had nothing to be concerned about. Yet now he's discarded all of that and has gone back to being not only acting like he was before, but even worse. Which begs the question...why include that scene in the last ep if you were just gonna completely ignore it the very next episode? +10 [Darwin stretches his eyes and navigates them around Penny. They watch her from above. Penny soon notices them] Penny: Oh hi, Darwin. Hahahahaha, I love how totally unphased Penny is by this -1 [Later, Penny and Carmen enter the cheerleaders' dressing room, talking] Penny: ...made these funny faces at me through the window of the bus and— Oh, hi Darwin. [All the girls except Penny and Carmen gasp at Darwin, who is up in the ceiling, holding onto two beams. He falls down, runs to an open locker, and applies makeup on his face in an attempt to disguise himself as a girl. Certain that it is not working, he grabs a bottle of powder from Carrie and throws it to the ground, where it explodes into a cloud. As the girls cough, he escapes] Penny: [Coughing] Bye, Darwin. [Even later, Sussie and Penny are sitting on a bench in the schoolyard. From behind a dumpster, Darwin uses a listening device to eavesdrop on Penny] Penny: Here, Sussie. I know how much you love chicken skin, so I saved some from last night's dinner. Sussie: SUSSIE LOVES CHICKEN SKIN! [She grabs some and rubs it all over her head, screaming and laughing loudly. The noise makes Darwin shatter to pieces. Penny and Sussie notice him and walk over] Penny: Hi, Darwin. [The pieces of Darwin scream, sprout legs, and flee] Penny: Aaaand... bye, Darwin. Sussie: CHICKEN! [Penny yelps, startled] [The bell rings. In class, Penny writes on a piece of paper while humming. She grabs her bag to put a book in it. Opening it, she gets startled to find Darwin inside, reading her diary] Darwin: Hi, Penny. Nice, um... diary. Penny: Hey, how about you come to lunch with me and Gumball, seems like maybe you wanna talk, right? [Closes bag with him still inside] Right. [Walks off] Okay, trying to peak into her locker was one thing, but now Darwin is just outright stalking the poor guy. Even with abandonment issues, this is not a normal reaction or response. At all. Darwin needs professional help/therapy now, because he clearly has a lot of pent up emotions and fears he needs to talk to someone about. +20 [In the cafeteria, Gumball has arranged a table for Penny and himself. He takes out a small box, which inside holds a ring. He plans to propose to Penny, but is still deciding on how] How on earth did he affort this ring? It must have cost at least a hundred dollars or more! +1 Penny: So, uh, Darwin, I hope you don't feel... threatened by me, do you? Darwin: [Laughs loudly and sarcastically] No. Penny: Okay, good. Enjoy your food.[They all begin eating. Gumball and Penny share a plate of spaghetti and begin eating the same strand. Romantic music is playing, and a kiss is imminent. The moment is cut short when it is revealed Darwin has started eating the middle of the strand, preventing the couple from kissing. They tug on the spaghetti strand trying to shake Darwin off, but it only causes all three of them to headbutt eachother. They all fall to the floor] Gumball: [Shouting] Dude, what is wrong with you?! Darwin is clearly emotionally distressed at the moment, yet neither Gumball or Penny really do much about it except ask if he's okay or in Gumball's case yell at him. I get that Gumball is excited and happy with Penny at the moment and so his focus would be on her, but it feels out of character for him to disregard his brother so clearly having, essentially, a breakdown right in front of him +5 [In the gym, Coach tries and fails to whistle with her fingers] Coach Russo: Okay, now pick your teams! [Gumball and Tobias start picking, with Gumball choosing first] Wait, wait, wait...Gumball has a pair of gym shoes? He's had a pair of shoes that he could have worn this entire time, but he still chooses to go barefoot? Why!? +1 [Darwin tries to get Gumball to pick him by blowing a vuvuzela and waving around two lit flares, all while jumping up and down] How the fuck was Darwin allowed to bring lit flares into the gym!? Not only is that a safety hazard, but I'm pretty sure it's illegal for him to even be in possession of them. +1 Also, how did he even get the flares in the first place? Again, pretty sure it's illegal for him to buy or own them +1 Gumball: DARWIN, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?! Darwin: [Throws the ball at Gumball] Playing ball!Gumball: She's on our team, man! You're out! Seriously, Gumball responding to Darwin's actions by shouting and berating him, and constantly taking Penny's side, is only pushing Darwin more and more. Whewre's the kind, caring, understanding Gumball we know and love? The one that would be worried and concerned seeing his brother act this way? +1 [In the library, Gumball once again tries to propose to Penny. He emerges from behind a bookcase and walks up to her] Gumball: Penny, there's something I need to ask you. Penny: Actually, there's something I wanted to say as well. Gumball: I know. I totally feel what you feel. Let's say it at the same time. One. Two- Penny: We need some space. [Gumball gasps and makes a shocked face] Penny: It's just... until you guys work it out, I kinda feel bad ruining your relationship. You two have something special, you know. The fact Penny is willing to do this really shows just how caring and understanding she really is. She finally has the one thing shw's wanted for who knows how longer, and couldn't bne happier, but upon seeing that it's damaging Gumball and Darwin's relationship is willing to put it on hold until they sort things out. She's willing to put her own happiness aside for her boyfriend and his brother, and that level of sacrifice just goes to show what a great friend and girlfriend she really is. No wonder Gumball loves her so much -10 Gumball: Ugh. What are you doing? Darwin: Whatever it takes for you to still love me. Is it working? Gumball: If by working, you mean making me nauseous then- [Gags, then cries] But it doesn't matter anyway. Penny's left me! She didn't want to come between us, and it's all your fault! [Faceplants and sobs] No, 'we need space' and 'we're over' and two very different things. She didn't leave you she's just...taking a short vacation from you whilst you sort things out with Darwin +1 Darwin: Uh...I didn't mean to come between you two. I-I-I just wanted to spend more time with you. I'm so sorry. Come here- I mean, you kindaaaaa did. Maybe not consciously, sure, but deep down this is exactly what you wanted and you know it +1 Gumball: Is it weird that I bought a ring and I want to ask her to marry me? Darwin: Well, yeah. That's-that's completely weird. ...no it isn't? It's just Gumball wanting to express his love and desire to be with Penny in the biggest way he can think of. If anything it's adorable +1 Darwin: No, it's not. What if I could give you the perfect setting, the perfect moment? Gumball: What do you mean? [Darwin begins dancing and imitating R&B music] Gumball: Stop it. That...that's weird. Darwin: Mm mm. Come on. Gumball: [Snickers] All right. [Joins in dancing with him] How are you gonna get a log cabin though? Or a lake? Or a chocolate fountain? And how are you gonna get her to come over? Aww, the fact Gumball forgives Darwin so easily for almost ending his and Penny's relationship really shows just how forgiving and caring he is. Like, the fact he isn't even remotely mad anymore in just beyond insane. I don't know anyone else in the world except maybe Alan who is this forgiving -5 [Penny leans down in front of a puddle of antifreeze in front of the shed, sniffing it] Penny: Are your parents aware there's a lake of antifreeze in their backyard? This stuff's really flammable, you know Obvious foreshadowing is obvious +1 Gumball: "Romantic deep male voice. [Speaks in the voice] Welcome to the best night of your life." [Squeaks] [Penny suppresses her laughter] Awwwwww -1 Gumball: [Whispering] Okay. [Inhales] Will you mmmmm... will you mmmm... [Punches himself in the face, frustrated] Urgh! Will you mmm... Darwin: [Outside] Come on man, just say it! Dude, he's nervous as fuck at the moment. You would be too if it were you asking this to Carrie. Give him a fucking chance +1 [Penny drinks her soda and chokes on the ring, changing forms as she coughs] Penny somehow didn't notice Gumball very obviously dropping the ring into her drink earlier +1 [Gumball now has his eyes closed, and so is unaware that she is choking.] I get that he can't see her choking, but how can her not hear it? She's right next to him and pretty loudly choking right. And he's a cat with super sensitive hearing. The only way he wouldn't be able to hear her at the moment is if he was completely deaf +1 [Darwin barges into the shed only to be greeted by Penny in her Gorgon form. He quickly closes the door] Dude, she's fucking choking why on earth would you just leave!? HELP HER. +1 Penny: [Coughing] What did you say back there? Gumball: [Picks up the ring and beams, with flowers surrounding his face] Marry me! And suddenly Gumball now has the confidence to ask her this despite being entirely unable to do so before +1 Gumball: [Teary-eyed] Age doesn't matter when it comes to love. https://i.redd.it/epm6oyymet1d1.gif +1 Penny: ...and Gumball. Do you, in the name of the bro-code, bromise to always love and take care of your bro in sickness and in health, brosperity and broverty? Gumball: I do. [Puts ring on Darwin's fin] Penny: You may now high-five the bro. Gumball and Darwin: [High five] Yeah! Okay, this is cute and all and definetely helps reassure and caslm down Darwin, but...your still gonna sit down and talk to him about his issues right? Maybe get him a therapist, that isn't Harold, to talk to about his issues? ...right? ...no? You're...just gonna never speak of this again and leave him to continue suffering silently with these severe abandonment issues all on his own? Okay then. +50 Total Sins: 79 Most Sinned Episode So Far: The Hero (1,490,894) Least Sinned Episode: The Shell (-999, 958) Previous Episode: https://www.reddit.com/gumball/comments/1co8fu7/eww_the_burden/ |