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2024.05.22 02:19 usernameistaken_500 Best friend is visiting for her bday- help!
Girls, my best friend is visiting for her birthday this weekend. So far, I’m taking her to a jazz club and nice dinner in the WV Friday night and we are attending a daytime party on Saturday with another nice dinner.
This girl is beautiful and high maintenance. I want to give her an awesome birthday weekend here. What recommendations do you have? I should mention - it’s her first visit to NYC.
I don’t want to do touristic stuff. What’s a good rooftop to take her to? I was thinking a spa Sunday. What would you do Monday? I’d love some recommendations! Budget is not a concern.
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This girl is beautiful and high maintenance. I want to give her an awesome birthday weekend here. What recommendations do you have? I should mention - it’s her first visit to NYC.
I don’t want to do touristic stuff. What’s a good rooftop to take her to? I was thinking a spa Sunday. What would you do Monday? I’d love some recommendations! Budget is not a concern.
2024.05.22 02:18 Dense_Spirit_5517 An update we need
I recently heard animal crossing has seized updates, is that true? If so I don’t understand why? There’s so many ways they can improve the game that have been stated multiple times I assume. I wanted to come and list some features that I never understood why they weren’t in the game in hopes that one day they’ll come back and fix them 🥹
Bonus: I wish you could find random villagers visiting in the coffee shop at any time. I think it would be super cute if you could see villagers interacting with each other and sitting around in there.
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- Turning off the music!!! I know this is a big complaint across the board, but that’s precisely why I’m bringing it up again. If so many people complain and have asked for the change, then why have they not done it 😭 Please I’m begging ya’ll to make a feature where we can turn the music off. I want to enjoy the nature ambiance or actually be able to hear shooting stars 🙏🏻 I was going to state after the 600 hours I have in this game it gets very annoying, but I got annoyed by my 5th hour.
- Crafting or purchasing in bulk. This one is self explanatory. The worst is crafting fish bait one by one. 🥲
- Unique voice lines and personalities for some villagers. I understand there’s a ton of villagers and it would be hard to make them all unique, but at least for the very popular ones like Raymond, Marshall, etc; it would be nice if they acted different and said different things. Not a big complaint, but it’s my wish 🥹
- This one is kind of nitpicking, but it would be nice if we could climb onto land from the rocks instead of just the sand. We seem quite strong since we’re able to uproot tree stumps and break rocks with shovels, so we definitely could pull ourselves up. Please!
- A way to see where villagers are. Maybe just seeing them on the map or if they wanted to keep it like you’re hunting for them, then an option to ask another villager “have you seen ‘this villager’?” To which they can then give an area where they last saw them.
Bonus: I wish you could find random villagers visiting in the coffee shop at any time. I think it would be super cute if you could see villagers interacting with each other and sitting around in there.
2024.05.22 02:18 CasualTheGreat I made the mask! It’s hard for a girl with glasses!!!
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2024.05.22 02:17 FrenchStephy Kamen Rider 555 20th: Paradise Regained interviews part 2: Shinichiro Shirakura (Producer) and Ryuuta Tasaki (Director)
 | Part 1: Kento Handa (Takumi Inui) and Yuria Haga (Mari Sonoda) submitted by FrenchStephy to KamenRider [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/fafa1xy6bv1d1.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=7a66307c652ce75d4cbf4e46dfae53e0b7ea4ee9 First of all, could you tell us about the background behind the planning of Kamen Rider 555? Shirakura: Until the previous work, Kamen Rider Ryuki, I didn't think that the Kamen Rider series would continue as it has now. Following Moero!! Robocon, we aired Kamen Rider Kuuga and Kamen Rider Agito, but that time slot was originally the broadcast time slot for Metal Heroes. So at the time, I was thinking "we'll continue Kamen Rider for at least one more series, and then go back to Metal Heroes or Kabutack-type series". However, Ryuki became a hit, and I thought "maybe we should continue the Kamen Rider series in the future", so we created 555. So, with a focus on going back to basics, we set up a modern enemy organization called Smart Brain to replace Shocker, and the Kamen Rider side also became centered around "a very strong single protagonist". Tasaki: It's true that at the time, I had a feeling that "this series will probably continue", something I hadn't felt up until Ryuki. I think 555 had many aspects that set the standard for subsequent works, such as the close-up action direction of the item's gimmick. Tasaki: 555 feels like a further evolution of Ryuki's directing of (focusing the camera on) setting the card and unleashing the special move. Shirakura: It feels good to see the process of replacing the Mission Memory every time. I think that's a clever piece of direction. How did you come up with the idea of creating a drama that transcends the good and evil with the three Kamen Riders and the three Orphnochs? Shirakura: During a discussion with (Toshiki) Inoue-dai-sensei about "returning to basics", he said it was common knowledge that "the original first Kamen Rider was originally one of the Shocker monsters, but that isn't really portrayed in the series". He felt that the relationship between the many Shocker monsters and Kamen Rider, who's a grasshopper man, should've been depicted more in the drama. However, when Dai-sensei said "I'm going to write three Orphnochs as the other main characters", I thought "Are you sure you can do that?" (laughs) Tasaki: Agito and Ryuki didn't really depict the story of kaijin, they were simply treated as monsters. Therefore, 555, which depicts the story of the monster side, was breaking new ground, and I personally looked forward to each script written by Inoue-san. In the second half of 555, it was revealed that Takumi Inui was also an Orphnoch. Tasaki: The first time we revealed this was in Kamen Rider 555: Paradise Lost, but the scene where Takumi transforms into the Wolf Orphnoch elicited actual screams of surprise from the audience. Even though the first Kamen Rider was also a cyborg of Shocker. I felt that the basics of Kamen Rider were forgotten because of the illusion that "justice is right and evil is wrong". Shirakura: It was decided from the beginning that Takumi would be an Orphnoch, and hints were shown many times in the series from around the time Keitarou appeared. We made basic settings such as "only Orphnochs can use the (Faiz) transformation belt", and from my point of view, I was thinking "is it okay to spoil things like this?". But the people watching at the time didn't seem to notice much. Even in an interview back then, when I said "it was decided from the start", people didn't believe me and were asking me "Are you sure?" (laughs) Tasaki: We were actually surprised that people were so surprised (laughs). A large number of fans also participated as extras in Paradise Lost. Shirakura: We decided that with 10,000 people, we could fill Saitama Super Arena, so we recruited extras from the general public. Before 555, we had to send round-trip postcards to apply for extras, but if we had to collect such a large number of extras, it would have taken a huge amount of money to send back the replies. But around the time of 555, I realized that I could use the Internet for recruitment. However, at that time there were no cloud servers like there are today, so we built our own powerful server within Toei. Tasaki: The server often went down every time the broadcast ended, so I thought it would be difficult if there were a flood of applications. Shirakura: We received over 90,000 applications and 11,000 people participated, despite the harsh condition of "9-hour endurance filming". Since that many people would gather at Saitama Super Arena, we went around to the nearby shops and other places to say hello in advance. We even asked JR (Japan Railways Group) if they could increase the number of trains, but they turned down the extra service (laughs). Wasn't it difficult to shoot with such a large number of people? Shirakura: We shot scenes that required a large number of people in the morning, assuming that some people might not be able to endure the long filming or might get bored and leave halfway through the shoot. However, most of them stayed until the end. Tasaki: I think the announcement that there would be a greeting from the cast at the end was also effective. During filming, we had two cameramen enter the audience seats and take documentary-style shots of the extras' expressions. The result was an uplifting video reminiscent of the documentary film Festival of Nations about the Berlin Olympics. The final episode of the TV series ended with the King of Orphnoch not completely destroyed, and a development that hinted at Takumi's death. Was this flow decided from the beginning? Shirakura: It was decided from the beginning that Takumi would be an Orphnoch, so I didn't think of an ending where he would "wipe out the Orphnochs and everyone is happy". I think that in Dai-sensei's mind, the moment the character Keitarou Kikuchi was born, he was determined to make him the goal (of the story). Keitarou is an ordinary person among the Kamen Rider heroes, the heroine Mari, and the three Orphnochs. Depicting the story of "the most ordinary person being the greatest" with such depth that it's like completely devoid of mediocrity is Dai-sensei's aesthetic, and what makes him amazing. In this issue, we also spoke to Kento Handa and Yuria Haga. What were your impressions of them back then? Shirakura: Handa-kun was only 18 years old at the time, but he already was very dignified. Before filming started, he was still living in Kobe, so he came to Shinjuku and we met. As we walked through the streets of Shinjuku, he explained to me "That's the ○○ Building, and that's the XX Building, and it has such a history". When I asked him "You know a lot, have you already been here many times?", he replied "this is my first time in Shinjuku", which surprised me (laughs). Even back then, I was a huge building fanatic. Tasaki: Yuria-chan has a huge fear of heights, and she was also afraid of going up to places even a little high. I remember it very well because I have never seen anyone else so afraid of heights. Both of them said "Back then, Director Tasaki didn't get mad at us". Tasaki: I certainly don't remember being angry at them. But the reason they don't think they've been scolded is because that time Go Ayano (Aki Sawada/Spider Orphnoch) was scolded by director (Hidenori) Ishida has become so famous that they probably were simply thinking "we're not getting scolded that much" (laughs). Shirakura: In order to train his actors, Ishida-san is acting like he is "flying into a rage" in a very easy-to-understand way. But Director Tasaki doesn't get angry easily, so maybe they just didn't notice (laughs). In fact, when Director Tasaki's language becomes more polite on set, it's proof that he's angry. Something like "the director is ending his sentences with -desu! He's infuriated!!!" (laughs). Tasaki: They were still teenagers at the time, so there was no point in getting angry at them. But I often got angry at (Mitsuru) Karahashi (Naoya Kaido). He's the type of person who wants to be scolded (laughs). Toshiki Inoue also appeared in the final episode as a construction site supervisor. Tasaki: He had an aura that ordinary people don't have, and he was good at acting. But we've had to do several retakes. When he appeared on Avatarou Sentai Donbrothers, he talked about his memories of appearing on 555. Shirakura: He said "It's tough being an actor because you have to wait a long time" (laughs). He also said "Directors are on set longer than that, so you'd get even more bored, right?", so if he hadn't had that experience on set back then, he might have said "I want to be a director, too!" one day (laughs). Now, let me ask you about the new work Kamen Rider 555 20th: Paradise Regained. What was the background behind this project? Shirakura: It all started when I heard that Handa-kun, Haga-san, and (Kouhei) Murakami-kun wanted to do it. If they wanted to do it, there was no doubt that they would appear. What's more, Director Tasaki and Dai-sensei were both working on Donbrothers, so I didn't have to gather all the staff (laughs). After Donbrothers ended, I directly said (to Dai Sensei) "Next is 555!" However, I was worried about what would happen if he still had a Donbrothers feel in him, and that Takumi Inui became like Tarou Momoi (laughs). However, he flipped the switch perfectly and wrote a story that was truly 555-like. In fact, I might have had more of Donbrothers left in me (laughs). Tasaki: No, this work was made possible because Shirakura-san had 555 in him. Personally, I went into Paradise Regained following the flow from Donbrothers, and I was able to get into the process smoothly because I was able to speak frankly with Inoue-san. What were you conscious of as it was a sequel to a TV series? Shirakura: Our goal is to create a work that satisfies those who have been fans since the beginning, while also being worth watching for those who have only recently discovered 555. Handa-kun and other cast members, as well as the people who watched the show on TV at the time, have aged 20 years. I also wanted to give meaning to that time. As long as it's a filmed work, there's no point in simply having a reunion. "xx years anniversary" or "the cast wants to do it" might be triggers, but they alone are not reasons to move forward with a project. In this case, it also has a meaning as a one-off work called Paradise Regained. Tasaki: I thought about whether to make it an "encore after the final chapter", or an "entrance to a new chapter" like Kamen Rider OOO 10th: Resurrection Core Medal. Having said that, it's also boring to make people who watch it get it too early. I tried to make sure that the story unfolded in a certain way so that by the time you watched it to the end, you would know in which category this story falls into. Shirakura: 555 is originally a story about boys and girls whose future as humans was cut off and who become Orphnochs, and boys and girls who continue to live through life without becoming Orphnochs. But now, 20 years later, they are no longer boys and girls. That's why this sequel to 555 wasn't just a rehash, but became a story about adults. Tasaki: The "story of boys and girls" depicted in 555 is played by Rena (Kuruma) and the other new characters. Though writing them in was also to declare that "Takumi and co. are no longer boys and girls", thanks to them, the 555 identity was maintained. The Faiz Phone and Faiz Driver have also been updated to match the times. Shirakura: I've been told by various people, including Bandai, that if I were to make 555 now, the transformation item would be a smartphone. In that case, I felt like I had do a new 555 work before a brand-new Kamen Rider who transforms with a smartphone came out on Sundays (laughs). Did Shirakura-san give any specific orders? Shirakura: I left the story to Dai-sensei, so my orders were for the structure of the story. How to depict the 20 years. And I don't mean how many years after the story is set, but how to incorporate the fact that the actors and audience are 20 years older compared to back then. How do you feel about the cast compared to 20 years ago? Tasaki: As expected, everyone has grown, and each character has matured inside them like wine. That Handa-kun and co. took the initiative and said they wanted to do it means that they must have allowed Takumi, Mari, and Masato to live with them for the past 20 years. So when it came to preparing their roles, we didn't have much to ask them, and they were able to play the aged Takumi, Mari, and Masato in their own unique way. Karahashi also did some strange things behind the scenes, like making the T-shirts and aprons for the costumes himself (laughs). Were any of the young cast members who appeared in this work fans of 555 back then? Shirakura: Rui Yanagawa, who plays Hisao, has been watching the show since he was a child. He said that Delta was his favorite Kamen Rider. Tasaki: You have to really like 555 to be a Delta fan (laughs). Shirakura: Also, he wasn't a cast member, but there happened to be another drama being filmed nearby at the time of filming, and the actor who played the lead role in that drama came to watch. When I asked him about it, he said he was a big fan of 555 and was thrilled to see the real Takumi and Mari (laughs). Why do you think 555 continues to be so popular? Tasaki: I don't know why, because each work is like my own child to me. Shirakura: I think the character of Takumi Inui, played by Kento Handa, was very appealing. And every character in the show was acting weird, either intentionally or unconsciously. In the first place, it's weird to write 555 and read it as Faiz (laughs). Despite these strange aspects, Bandai created extremely stylish toy packaging, made a special light-emitting suit made for filming, and was extremely particular about the opening video. I don't think this work would have been made under normal circumstances (laughs). There was a moment when I suddenly calmed down and thought "is this really going to be okay?" But when I saw the scene in the opening where Takumi started walking away after getting his hair cut by Mari, I felt the extraordinary aura of the main character. That's when I became confident that "this is going to work!!!" Lastly, please give a message to the fans who are waiting for the new movie. Tasaki: In addition to the cast and staff from the TV series, Action Director Sanshirou Wada and Kota Nakamura, who was in charge of filming extras for Paradise Lost as a camera assistant at the time, were in charge of cinematography. New powers have also been added. This is a work filmed by such members, so please look forward to it. Shirakura: Rather than "please go watch", I want to say "you have to go watch". And the more you love 555, the more you may be unable to see the screen due to tears. I too lost the ability to see halfway through watching it. However, it was made so that you can enjoy it even if you don't know 555. I would be happy if you could watch the TV series or Paradise Lost after watching this movie. |
2024.05.22 02:17 feuledbyram3n Breaking up for college
My bf and I are graduating highschool in a week. We’ve been together since we were sophomores and our relationship has always been great. It came to a shock to me this year when he told me he wanted to break up for college because things had been going so well. I get it though, it’s a new chapter and we’re going different places. Be it, he’s going to my dream school that I couldn’t go to for money reasons. He told me if we both ended up there we could stay together, but I couldn’t bc of money which made it feel like I didn’t have enough money to date him (he’s very rich, trust fund n everything). It took me a long while to process that and now I’m committed to a place where I got a full ride so I’m excited.
Whenever him and I talk about this, I call it a break up but he always says, it’s not a breakup, it’s just a separation for college and then we’ll see. But, I feel like that’s basically him saying I’ll be with you only when ur convenient. And it sucks bc him and I do have a good thing going
But, I’m conflicted, since there’s an expiration date on this relationship, do I call it quits now, and have the summer to process and have a “hot girl summer” so to speak. Or do I just have to summer with him and then split for college.
I’m seriously dreading that last time we hug or cuddle because I will know then that that’s the outcome of dedicating 3 years of your life to someone for it to be irrelevant.
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Whenever him and I talk about this, I call it a break up but he always says, it’s not a breakup, it’s just a separation for college and then we’ll see. But, I feel like that’s basically him saying I’ll be with you only when ur convenient. And it sucks bc him and I do have a good thing going
But, I’m conflicted, since there’s an expiration date on this relationship, do I call it quits now, and have the summer to process and have a “hot girl summer” so to speak. Or do I just have to summer with him and then split for college.
I’m seriously dreading that last time we hug or cuddle because I will know then that that’s the outcome of dedicating 3 years of your life to someone for it to be irrelevant.
2024.05.22 02:17 Puzzleheaded-Copy582 *2nd try with correct pic. When Susan gets under Alex’s skin. If you’re not watching the live this girl, Susan, clearly got to Alex. She said something before she said this then Alex retaliated. She tried to be professional for a nanosecond, and just couldn’t do it. She was so smug.
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2024.05.22 02:16 Yahoo-to-Gmail M28 myself crying for some reason for 24F. Please help me. What should I do to stop her getting thoughts like I am not earning enough in future.
Hello everyone, I was in a good relationship for 6 years, but we eventually had to part ways, and she got married to someone else. For the past 3 years, I haven't spoken to any girls and have given up bad habits like noFap and alcohol. Recently, I connected with a new girl, and we ve met three times in the last three months, despite living in different states. We both have strong feelings for each other. Now she craves for me the same I do.
Here's my dilemma: I started crying for no reason because I am good at nothing. My age is 28. It’s not like I don’t want to work at all. I am saying that I can only earn a quarter % to her earning later. She's good in her academics and fully confident on her career and gives me hope and make me calm saying she'll look after me for the whole life and she mean it. Why am I crying idk; is it for her presence or my job or for the thing that I can't look after her. We are on VC all the day, I still miss her and cry for her even if she's on vc and crying heavily for her presence but not sure for that particular reason. Please help me
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Here's my dilemma: I started crying for no reason because I am good at nothing. My age is 28. It’s not like I don’t want to work at all. I am saying that I can only earn a quarter % to her earning later. She's good in her academics and fully confident on her career and gives me hope and make me calm saying she'll look after me for the whole life and she mean it. Why am I crying idk; is it for her presence or my job or for the thing that I can't look after her. We are on VC all the day, I still miss her and cry for her even if she's on vc and crying heavily for her presence but not sure for that particular reason. Please help me
2024.05.22 02:15 ElegantHovercraft116 I 23M stupidly texted Ex 22F and Parents saying stupid ish to both of them
TLDR: Irrationally texted my ex parents after a breakup saying mean shit about her no threats just emotional dumb shit. Regret how childish I came off and feel like part of my healing even to move on fully is apologizing to grow. But I don’t want to bother as other redditors have exclaimed I should be lucky no restraining orders have been put out or I’m not in jail. I admit I said ugly shit but nothing that comes to threats or harm. Lmk please
Ex texted a bestfriend behind my back ending of last year ruining the friendship. Broke up with her, during that time I rekindled with someone else while occasionally texting my ex still not back together. Felt like I missed the warmth of my ex and dropped the new girl going back to my ex fully beginning of this year. Missed the support and love from my ex that I never truly got. Girl told me ex about our dirty laundry, causing trust issues in the whole relationship. Trust me when I tell you I felt more than guilty. I balled my eyes out with her and not even for getting caught for the reaction she had and how fragile she always was to me. I mention what she had does because stupidly I should have left when I had the chance. Even other instances where she had initiated things, I knew it might have not been the healthiest but she showed other signs of real true love. Tried fixing them by removing girls, sharing location, etc. I felt scared my ex is gonna get revenge and started being distant at the end which pushed her away as well. I thought we would get back together as always, found out she’s been adding guys she removed a long time ago. I got upset and texted her ugly nasty shit, and texted her dad saying his daughter is nasty etc. I thought by doing this I’d move on quicker by burning bridges, he told me to leave them alone I’m being childish. I understand I fucked up and fully agree. She’s done things and I know I shouldn’t have let be, but staying and getting revenge wasn’t the way. I’m realizing that as the hours even go by everyday I think about it. I want to apologize to the parents for the lack of character I had because I never ONCE disrespected them in their house, to their face. I called them Mr and Mrs always and always asked if they needed anything. I talked to a close female friend who said this stuff needs time and I can apologize if I’d like and if it makes me feel better, or write a letter and burn it. My parents said that’s not my character and said apologize if you feel necessary as I wasn’t raised like that. I feel like it’s too late to backtrack on the stupid shit I said. Am I being selfish by sending a text? I just want this weight off my chest of being the shitty person at the end at least to her parents who didn’t need any of that.
Is it smart to reach back out to the parents to show respect as an adult or just let them be? I know this was a lot but it’s on my heart and brain everyday since. I know I was emotional for no reason as I had done hurt to her in the past too. Seeing her move on so fast is what bothered me but I see she wanted me to feel what she felt. I just feel bad sitting on the thought that I left her parents with such a bad image of myself even thought it doesn’t matter anymore just doesn’t sit with me. Help?
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Ex texted a bestfriend behind my back ending of last year ruining the friendship. Broke up with her, during that time I rekindled with someone else while occasionally texting my ex still not back together. Felt like I missed the warmth of my ex and dropped the new girl going back to my ex fully beginning of this year. Missed the support and love from my ex that I never truly got. Girl told me ex about our dirty laundry, causing trust issues in the whole relationship. Trust me when I tell you I felt more than guilty. I balled my eyes out with her and not even for getting caught for the reaction she had and how fragile she always was to me. I mention what she had does because stupidly I should have left when I had the chance. Even other instances where she had initiated things, I knew it might have not been the healthiest but she showed other signs of real true love. Tried fixing them by removing girls, sharing location, etc. I felt scared my ex is gonna get revenge and started being distant at the end which pushed her away as well. I thought we would get back together as always, found out she’s been adding guys she removed a long time ago. I got upset and texted her ugly nasty shit, and texted her dad saying his daughter is nasty etc. I thought by doing this I’d move on quicker by burning bridges, he told me to leave them alone I’m being childish. I understand I fucked up and fully agree. She’s done things and I know I shouldn’t have let be, but staying and getting revenge wasn’t the way. I’m realizing that as the hours even go by everyday I think about it. I want to apologize to the parents for the lack of character I had because I never ONCE disrespected them in their house, to their face. I called them Mr and Mrs always and always asked if they needed anything. I talked to a close female friend who said this stuff needs time and I can apologize if I’d like and if it makes me feel better, or write a letter and burn it. My parents said that’s not my character and said apologize if you feel necessary as I wasn’t raised like that. I feel like it’s too late to backtrack on the stupid shit I said. Am I being selfish by sending a text? I just want this weight off my chest of being the shitty person at the end at least to her parents who didn’t need any of that.
Is it smart to reach back out to the parents to show respect as an adult or just let them be? I know this was a lot but it’s on my heart and brain everyday since. I know I was emotional for no reason as I had done hurt to her in the past too. Seeing her move on so fast is what bothered me but I see she wanted me to feel what she felt. I just feel bad sitting on the thought that I left her parents with such a bad image of myself even thought it doesn’t matter anymore just doesn’t sit with me. Help?
2024.05.22 02:15 Fearless-Scar7086 Do women not like musicians anymore?
It seems before the pandemic I had no trouble impressing women with my music, even drawing some tears (we gotta show off our medals) and they would often still hang out with me after we might date and ask me about any songs that I wrote about them. I thought it was kinda selfish, wanting to be around me just because I could adore them with my talent, but then again I biologically am attracted to women who are also genetically gifted so to me, I take it as a blessing that I could have attracted friends and romance just because I was born a certain way.
But today that sentiment seems to be all but gone- I would bring my ukulele on a bus and sing pre-pandemic and everyone would be hollering and clapping along, feeling as if they were in a real-life tik tok or something, often phones would come out. Even busking I would encounter phones coming out at least once every time I did, and could expect an average of 40$ an hour and plenty of praise. Nowadays? 15 dollars, tops, and while people were eager to give before and often apologized they had no money, 100% of my givers are right-lipped and seem reluctant. I play on the bus now and nobody says a word, not even looking at me and smiling. For an experiment yesterday, I told a girl I was sitting next to that I just was wanting to practice and set a musical ambience and started to play the ukulele and she left almost immediately.
So ladies, would you be impressed by a good street performer or even open mic player who hasn’t figured out how to make it professionally yet, or perhaps never will even but still is passionate? And I mean, with music that personally moves you, and you could see it moving a lot of people personally if there was good collaboration for, say the arrangement. Is music appreciated as a passion even if it might not make full-time money? I think the average male doesn’t have enough money to live independently in the US if I am not mistaken so let’s just say for this scenario, the wage is “average”.
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But today that sentiment seems to be all but gone- I would bring my ukulele on a bus and sing pre-pandemic and everyone would be hollering and clapping along, feeling as if they were in a real-life tik tok or something, often phones would come out. Even busking I would encounter phones coming out at least once every time I did, and could expect an average of 40$ an hour and plenty of praise. Nowadays? 15 dollars, tops, and while people were eager to give before and often apologized they had no money, 100% of my givers are right-lipped and seem reluctant. I play on the bus now and nobody says a word, not even looking at me and smiling. For an experiment yesterday, I told a girl I was sitting next to that I just was wanting to practice and set a musical ambience and started to play the ukulele and she left almost immediately.
So ladies, would you be impressed by a good street performer or even open mic player who hasn’t figured out how to make it professionally yet, or perhaps never will even but still is passionate? And I mean, with music that personally moves you, and you could see it moving a lot of people personally if there was good collaboration for, say the arrangement. Is music appreciated as a passion even if it might not make full-time money? I think the average male doesn’t have enough money to live independently in the US if I am not mistaken so let’s just say for this scenario, the wage is “average”.
2024.05.22 02:14 Lumpy_Grape_8592 Switching from Lex to Prozac and lowering bupropion
Hey yall!
Posted here a week ago about my experience on Wellbutrin 300mg. It was making me incredibly irritable, antsy and somehow exhausted at the same time. I’ve been on Lexapro for 2+ years and only recently added in Wellbutrin to help offset weight gain and help with my worsening depression. (Stayed on Lexapro bc she’s my girl, and I really liked her until she started making me binge and purge) Originally I was prescribed 150mg of Wellbutrin but it didn’t touch my depression. We upped the dose to 300mg about two months ago and that’s around when the less than desirable side effects began.
Well today I saw a new psych. And she took me down from 300mg to 150mg for Wellbutrin, as well as took my Lexapro away and replaced it with Prozac. I’m pretty anxious about the switch. If this doesn’t work for me she wants to explore drug therapy for mood disorders. Anyone have any experience with the combo of Prozac and Wellbutrin? How did it work for you? Brownie points if you also switched from Lexapro.
Thanks guys!
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Posted here a week ago about my experience on Wellbutrin 300mg. It was making me incredibly irritable, antsy and somehow exhausted at the same time. I’ve been on Lexapro for 2+ years and only recently added in Wellbutrin to help offset weight gain and help with my worsening depression. (Stayed on Lexapro bc she’s my girl, and I really liked her until she started making me binge and purge) Originally I was prescribed 150mg of Wellbutrin but it didn’t touch my depression. We upped the dose to 300mg about two months ago and that’s around when the less than desirable side effects began.
Well today I saw a new psych. And she took me down from 300mg to 150mg for Wellbutrin, as well as took my Lexapro away and replaced it with Prozac. I’m pretty anxious about the switch. If this doesn’t work for me she wants to explore drug therapy for mood disorders. Anyone have any experience with the combo of Prozac and Wellbutrin? How did it work for you? Brownie points if you also switched from Lexapro.
Thanks guys!
2024.05.22 02:14 Silver_School_9803 I (24F) been super overwhelmed / mentally out of it this week; am I crazy for wanting a little extra support from my BF (25M)?
I really never know how much context to give these stories to get a well rounded picture lol. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years, 24F & 25M.
He has a white picket fence life. Still lives with parents (we’re getting a place together soon). Has a really great job. Good relationship with siblings and parents, relatively no qualms besides chronic depression. I’ve had a diff up bringing. Broken home, moved out at 20/ have funded everything myself since 16, bumpy relationship with mom/ dad, good job(s), lives alone, blah blah blah. Diagnosed & medicated for bipolar, chronic anxiety and depression, etc., You get the picture.
To start it off, I’ve always struggled with depression/ anxiety but for the most part am super high functioning and medicated. I’ve gained a lot of weight from one of my meds so I’m slowly tapering off of it and I’ve literally just fallen into a deep depression. Go figure.
He’s also struggled with depression/ body image issues. Both of us have really worked to not let our mental interfere with us. Something we’ve really struggled with is his need to be in the gym for like 3 hrs a night 5 days a week religiously. If the schedule goes out of whack he gets down. Reddit users are pretty harsh but this is a pretty reasonable issue and I do empathize with him for it. I can’t imagine missing one thing a day and have my entire week thrown off kinda thing (I mean I can but you get the point). And no he’s not cheating lol. Sometimes I’ll post something related to the whole gym issue on Reddit and everyone’s like he’s gotta have another girl!!! Lol.
So to put it plainly; in addition to my meds issue, I’m moving. I’m so overwhelmed because yanno, mental illness plus something as chaotic as moving is ehhhh. I find solace in peace at home. I’m a very big introvert. And my home is anything but peaceful right now lol. I also have severe and chronic back pain, have since I was like 16 bc scoliosis, then recent weight gain, and my work desk not being ergonomically at the moment— so these back issues makes anything I want to do in life harder and adds to my bleh. Add in the fact I’ve tried many mattresses and finally had to bite the bullet and spend FOUR THOUSAND DOLLARS on one (tempur). Just as I got ahead of my bills too. Fml. I work two jobs (doesn’t help the back pain). And I got rejected from a job I really wanted because of bullshit. I know the other candidate and she’s got no where’s near the experience I did. I can handle job rejection it’s apart of life but this one stung a lot because I was confident and so sure I blew them out of the water (I know someone in the department so that’s why I have all this extra info). So to lose it for virtually no reason besides the systems rigged, is fucking annoying. 3 (of the 8) people on my team at work are on extended medical leave and work has been CRAZY. I work in oncology and the doctors are so far up my ass because we’re behind despite me working OD overtime. Anyways. I went on a rant of all the shitty things rn bc I have a point to make lol.
Idk. I just expected my boyfriend to be a bit more helpful tangibly. Make my life easier. Help me with something. He’s super supportive verbally but like idk I just expect something more than what he’s giving me. Like take a day off of the gym and say hey babe ik you’re under stress let me help you. I’ll do your dishes. I’ll help you pack. Anything really.
He is helping me move and I’m grateful for that, obviously, but I just want to know if I’m taking out my frustrations on him because she’s the closest to me or am I reasonable for wishing he’d drop his life for mine?
Also note he’s taking Thursday- Tuesday to stay with me and help me settle in. I think what sparked this is because today he stopped by to go on a walk with me and despite me being in my pot of misery, he still went to gym. Seemed insensitive. I want to be babied. Ok maybe this is a daddy issue thing?
Pls no advice on compromising. I can think of a million ways to compromise and make both parties happy, I just really want to know if me being upset is valid. I haven’t brought the issue to him yet just because I don’t want to shit on his parade just bc my life rn is <. I really am open to constructive criticism so if I’m being a diva please tell me I need to hear it. My head is not on straight given everything which is why I’m here wondering do I even have a reason to be upset or am I being a lot.
And like we all know Reddit is a cruel harsh world but just try to take it easy on me rn I’m fragile lol.
TL;DR! Am I unreasonable for wanting my boyfriend to be a lot more helpful than he currently is because my life sucks right now?
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He has a white picket fence life. Still lives with parents (we’re getting a place together soon). Has a really great job. Good relationship with siblings and parents, relatively no qualms besides chronic depression. I’ve had a diff up bringing. Broken home, moved out at 20/ have funded everything myself since 16, bumpy relationship with mom/ dad, good job(s), lives alone, blah blah blah. Diagnosed & medicated for bipolar, chronic anxiety and depression, etc., You get the picture.
To start it off, I’ve always struggled with depression/ anxiety but for the most part am super high functioning and medicated. I’ve gained a lot of weight from one of my meds so I’m slowly tapering off of it and I’ve literally just fallen into a deep depression. Go figure.
He’s also struggled with depression/ body image issues. Both of us have really worked to not let our mental interfere with us. Something we’ve really struggled with is his need to be in the gym for like 3 hrs a night 5 days a week religiously. If the schedule goes out of whack he gets down. Reddit users are pretty harsh but this is a pretty reasonable issue and I do empathize with him for it. I can’t imagine missing one thing a day and have my entire week thrown off kinda thing (I mean I can but you get the point). And no he’s not cheating lol. Sometimes I’ll post something related to the whole gym issue on Reddit and everyone’s like he’s gotta have another girl!!! Lol.
So to put it plainly; in addition to my meds issue, I’m moving. I’m so overwhelmed because yanno, mental illness plus something as chaotic as moving is ehhhh. I find solace in peace at home. I’m a very big introvert. And my home is anything but peaceful right now lol. I also have severe and chronic back pain, have since I was like 16 bc scoliosis, then recent weight gain, and my work desk not being ergonomically at the moment— so these back issues makes anything I want to do in life harder and adds to my bleh. Add in the fact I’ve tried many mattresses and finally had to bite the bullet and spend FOUR THOUSAND DOLLARS on one (tempur). Just as I got ahead of my bills too. Fml. I work two jobs (doesn’t help the back pain). And I got rejected from a job I really wanted because of bullshit. I know the other candidate and she’s got no where’s near the experience I did. I can handle job rejection it’s apart of life but this one stung a lot because I was confident and so sure I blew them out of the water (I know someone in the department so that’s why I have all this extra info). So to lose it for virtually no reason besides the systems rigged, is fucking annoying. 3 (of the 8) people on my team at work are on extended medical leave and work has been CRAZY. I work in oncology and the doctors are so far up my ass because we’re behind despite me working OD overtime. Anyways. I went on a rant of all the shitty things rn bc I have a point to make lol.
Idk. I just expected my boyfriend to be a bit more helpful tangibly. Make my life easier. Help me with something. He’s super supportive verbally but like idk I just expect something more than what he’s giving me. Like take a day off of the gym and say hey babe ik you’re under stress let me help you. I’ll do your dishes. I’ll help you pack. Anything really.
He is helping me move and I’m grateful for that, obviously, but I just want to know if I’m taking out my frustrations on him because she’s the closest to me or am I reasonable for wishing he’d drop his life for mine?
Also note he’s taking Thursday- Tuesday to stay with me and help me settle in. I think what sparked this is because today he stopped by to go on a walk with me and despite me being in my pot of misery, he still went to gym. Seemed insensitive. I want to be babied. Ok maybe this is a daddy issue thing?
Pls no advice on compromising. I can think of a million ways to compromise and make both parties happy, I just really want to know if me being upset is valid. I haven’t brought the issue to him yet just because I don’t want to shit on his parade just bc my life rn is <. I really am open to constructive criticism so if I’m being a diva please tell me I need to hear it. My head is not on straight given everything which is why I’m here wondering do I even have a reason to be upset or am I being a lot.
And like we all know Reddit is a cruel harsh world but just try to take it easy on me rn I’m fragile lol.
TL;DR! Am I unreasonable for wanting my boyfriend to be a lot more helpful than he currently is because my life sucks right now?
2024.05.22 02:14 FerkinSmert Yikes…not liking Emma so far
Excuse me because I’m not super far into the series I just got to season 5 but holy hell Emma. She’s so unlikable and fucking annoying with her “I’m just a nice girl” hmmm I don’t think nice people have to say they’re nice. Chrishell is annoying as well but at least she SHOWS she’s consistent and a nice friend to everyone even if they don’t deserve it also her comment, “it’s me or Christine” Christine has done so many fucked up things to the group especially Chrishell but babe you realize you’re on a REALITY show and at that a brand new cast member I don’t think you can call those stakes. I also fucking DIED at Vanessa calling her out in her confessional… “That’s not an empanada” accurate they’re hotpockets at best 😅 idk she just came in wayyyyy to hot. I hope she humbles herself in the later seasons.
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2024.05.22 02:13 longerdistancethrow I hate how horrible the presence of pretty people makes me feel
Thats all.
They look great and are just genetically blessed(face-wise, I know working out helps a lot). Unless they have some form of trauma they get to be confident.
I have a gorgeous friend, she’s nice, friendly, funny and everyone loves her. She gets compliments for breathing. It's to the point where my boyfriend- unprompted said «What's up with that»
I was talking to a friend of mine whom we have in common, and he used to have a crush on her, he started talking about how «all the prettiest people are most insecure» and how this friend is «the most insecure in the friend group.»
This is bs. She is one of my closest friends, and yes, she has insecurities, but still knows that she’s pretty. She’s able to stand up for herself, has self-worth, and is generally confident. She can allow herself good things and feel confident in relationships with very very attractive people.
We have spoken about this honestly and openly, so it's not just me spouting shit.
I have discussed mine and her insecurities multiple times, and hers are shit like «my ankles are fat»
Why is my friend placing pity and weirdly victimizing her when she is quite obviously confident? Why is it suddenly a competition of which of the girls is more insecure??
Half the girls in our friend group have worked through eating disorders, anorexia and bulimia, verbal abuse from guardians regarding our weight, etc. «But oh pretty girl insecure and doesn't know she’s so beautiful.»
the only indication of this is that she doesn't like showing skin. She can wear tight clothes etc. When I asked he said «Oh cause you can wear a bikini» Yeah, cause after years of starving myself and then suddenly gaining 10kg and being miserable I decided that I’d do my best to fucking ignore the fact I'm ugly as shit and have fun doing things with people I like instead. Doesn't mean I’m not crying when I see a picture of me from that day later on cause I hate it that much.
I’m jealous, I know that I’m salty af, and that's something I have to work on, obviously. But it just makes it worse.
Pretty people get to be pretty, beloved, complimented, and pitied, they always win, assumed best, and are confident, and because they're confident they’re often not jealous assholes like me.
Pretty people directly have a negative impact on me, and I know I should build myself up and get stronger and better, but its hard to get any better, when I see that I am always treated like trash compared to people like that.
Advice is welcome, but this is just a rant so…
(Yes, I’m another insecure woman hahah, so funny).
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They look great and are just genetically blessed(face-wise, I know working out helps a lot). Unless they have some form of trauma they get to be confident.
I have a gorgeous friend, she’s nice, friendly, funny and everyone loves her. She gets compliments for breathing. It's to the point where my boyfriend- unprompted said «What's up with that»
I was talking to a friend of mine whom we have in common, and he used to have a crush on her, he started talking about how «all the prettiest people are most insecure» and how this friend is «the most insecure in the friend group.»
This is bs. She is one of my closest friends, and yes, she has insecurities, but still knows that she’s pretty. She’s able to stand up for herself, has self-worth, and is generally confident. She can allow herself good things and feel confident in relationships with very very attractive people.
We have spoken about this honestly and openly, so it's not just me spouting shit.
I have discussed mine and her insecurities multiple times, and hers are shit like «my ankles are fat»
Why is my friend placing pity and weirdly victimizing her when she is quite obviously confident? Why is it suddenly a competition of which of the girls is more insecure??
Half the girls in our friend group have worked through eating disorders, anorexia and bulimia, verbal abuse from guardians regarding our weight, etc. «But oh pretty girl insecure and doesn't know she’s so beautiful.»
the only indication of this is that she doesn't like showing skin. She can wear tight clothes etc. When I asked he said «Oh cause you can wear a bikini» Yeah, cause after years of starving myself and then suddenly gaining 10kg and being miserable I decided that I’d do my best to fucking ignore the fact I'm ugly as shit and have fun doing things with people I like instead. Doesn't mean I’m not crying when I see a picture of me from that day later on cause I hate it that much.
I’m jealous, I know that I’m salty af, and that's something I have to work on, obviously. But it just makes it worse.
Pretty people get to be pretty, beloved, complimented, and pitied, they always win, assumed best, and are confident, and because they're confident they’re often not jealous assholes like me.
Pretty people directly have a negative impact on me, and I know I should build myself up and get stronger and better, but its hard to get any better, when I see that I am always treated like trash compared to people like that.
Advice is welcome, but this is just a rant so…
(Yes, I’m another insecure woman hahah, so funny).
2024.05.22 02:13 doory321 21[M4F] Catholic from England searching for my life partner
Hi, I’m Max! I’m a 21 year old computer science graduate from England. I am white, 5’11”, with brown hair, blue eyes, and fairly skinny.
First and foremost, I’m a Catholic, my faith is the most important thing to me in my life and I try to love God in all that I do.
One of my biggest aspirations would be to meet a wonderful girl who I can love and care for, and with whom, I hope, through God’s loving providence, to start a beautiful and holy family with one day.
I believe that the strongest bonds are formed through common values, and so I think it is important that I seek a partner who shares my faith in Christ. So I’m hoping that through this I might find that special someone, God willing.
As for me I love travelling to new places, mountain hiking, nature walks, photography, reading, learning history, science, theology, philosophy, listening to podcasts, computer programming, video games, composing, and playing the piano.
Would prefer meeting someone around the age 18-21 within Europe who is a fellow Catholic, but I am open to all countries and faiths, just as long as you are open or at least slightly interested to learn about Catholicism, because I will definitely talk about it non-stop at times I’m afraid.
Please feel free to send me a message if interested! And if so a quick summary and picture of yourself would be greatly appreciated too if that's all ok, just so I have a good idea of who you are :)
To all out there I hope you have a wonderful day and God bless!
Pics of me:
https://i.imgur.com/UPlv3Z8.jpeg
https://imgur.com/HiraTQY.jpeg
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First and foremost, I’m a Catholic, my faith is the most important thing to me in my life and I try to love God in all that I do.
One of my biggest aspirations would be to meet a wonderful girl who I can love and care for, and with whom, I hope, through God’s loving providence, to start a beautiful and holy family with one day.
I believe that the strongest bonds are formed through common values, and so I think it is important that I seek a partner who shares my faith in Christ. So I’m hoping that through this I might find that special someone, God willing.
As for me I love travelling to new places, mountain hiking, nature walks, photography, reading, learning history, science, theology, philosophy, listening to podcasts, computer programming, video games, composing, and playing the piano.
Would prefer meeting someone around the age 18-21 within Europe who is a fellow Catholic, but I am open to all countries and faiths, just as long as you are open or at least slightly interested to learn about Catholicism, because I will definitely talk about it non-stop at times I’m afraid.
Please feel free to send me a message if interested! And if so a quick summary and picture of yourself would be greatly appreciated too if that's all ok, just so I have a good idea of who you are :)
To all out there I hope you have a wonderful day and God bless!
Pics of me:
https://i.imgur.com/UPlv3Z8.jpeg
https://imgur.com/HiraTQY.jpeg
2024.05.22 02:11 More-Network-4303 I now understand why everyone quits this job position
This is a throw away.
Tw: Racism, maybe?
For context, I am POC.
I (21 F) work in an office where communication goes to die. You could send an email three days prior, and it will still not be read. You could talk to someone and be met with constant “I don’t understand” or being talked down to while simultaneously not getting an answer. Half of the times, I give up on verbal communication because we are just talking in circles.
Since being hired, I have quickly realized I am one in a long line of people in my position. My predecessor worked this position for about six months before they moved her. The girl before? Two before she left. The reason? We work with the actual devil (~ 65 F).
This woman is the most vindictive person I have ever met, but according to our boss, she has never been malicious in all the time he’s known her. Let me tell you right now, he must have the world’s most colorful rose-tinted glasses.
According to the other people in the office, she actively seeks to humiliate and hold power over people in my position. Mind you, this isn’t how our work structure is supposed to be framed. Oh, and she definitely makes racially insensitive comments towards anyone she deems below her.
She has asked people if English is a foreign language to them and where they “come from originally”. And apparently, when an African American woman was in my job position, the two of them would fight constantly. She has also thrown papers at people and tried to square up with them in the copy room.
And now that I am in this job position, I have been asked where I come from and if I grew up “here”, meaning the United States. Generally, these aren’t necessarily offensive. But at the time, I had known her for maybe two weeks. When I told my bosses, one took the matter seriously (1) while the other droned on about how she’s the sweetest person he knows (2).
Since the incident, she refused to speak to or even look at me. Everything was via email. Not wanting to stir the pot, I met her where she was and communicated mostly through email. This is where I messed up.
Recently, I sent an email asking that this coworker send me more clear information regarding a request she had. I request information for the office, so it is important to give me the correct info, and as much info as possible.
I double checked with 1, and he said that yes, everyone should be giving me as much info as they can when giving me requests, and that it was okay to send everyone a reminder. I send a reminder to everyone (not just the one person) about this.
Later, she sent me an email with barely any info (like people’s names instead of facilities or offices, some addresses, and no dates for what she needs), and I tell her I need more clear info to be able to process her request.
Well, she showed this email to 2, and he has a “talk” with me. Which is basically just me saying “I’m sorry I misunderstood how the process works” and him saying I was being inappropriate for “telling her how to do her job”.
Apparently I should have taken that info and searched the files myself. He called the info “easily accessible”, and believe me, it was not. I will have to keep digging for it tomorrow and possibly into the next day.
In case you haven’t caught on, that is almost the complete opposite of what 1 told me.
2 also told me I should reach out and try talking to her. I explained she won’t even look at me and he implied it was because I brought up her insensitive comments. I tried to tell him over and over that she would not talk to me. I think I would’ve gotten farther explaining to the wall.
After this meeting, I basically start crying out of frustration. One of my coworkers told me apparently, she does this to everyone in my position and likes making them frustrated and cry.
No wonder everyone quits.
Tl;dr: My maybe-malicious coworker makes everyone quit or gets them fired.
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Tw: Racism, maybe?
For context, I am POC.
I (21 F) work in an office where communication goes to die. You could send an email three days prior, and it will still not be read. You could talk to someone and be met with constant “I don’t understand” or being talked down to while simultaneously not getting an answer. Half of the times, I give up on verbal communication because we are just talking in circles.
Since being hired, I have quickly realized I am one in a long line of people in my position. My predecessor worked this position for about six months before they moved her. The girl before? Two before she left. The reason? We work with the actual devil (~ 65 F).
This woman is the most vindictive person I have ever met, but according to our boss, she has never been malicious in all the time he’s known her. Let me tell you right now, he must have the world’s most colorful rose-tinted glasses.
According to the other people in the office, she actively seeks to humiliate and hold power over people in my position. Mind you, this isn’t how our work structure is supposed to be framed. Oh, and she definitely makes racially insensitive comments towards anyone she deems below her.
She has asked people if English is a foreign language to them and where they “come from originally”. And apparently, when an African American woman was in my job position, the two of them would fight constantly. She has also thrown papers at people and tried to square up with them in the copy room.
And now that I am in this job position, I have been asked where I come from and if I grew up “here”, meaning the United States. Generally, these aren’t necessarily offensive. But at the time, I had known her for maybe two weeks. When I told my bosses, one took the matter seriously (1) while the other droned on about how she’s the sweetest person he knows (2).
Since the incident, she refused to speak to or even look at me. Everything was via email. Not wanting to stir the pot, I met her where she was and communicated mostly through email. This is where I messed up.
Recently, I sent an email asking that this coworker send me more clear information regarding a request she had. I request information for the office, so it is important to give me the correct info, and as much info as possible.
I double checked with 1, and he said that yes, everyone should be giving me as much info as they can when giving me requests, and that it was okay to send everyone a reminder. I send a reminder to everyone (not just the one person) about this.
Later, she sent me an email with barely any info (like people’s names instead of facilities or offices, some addresses, and no dates for what she needs), and I tell her I need more clear info to be able to process her request.
Well, she showed this email to 2, and he has a “talk” with me. Which is basically just me saying “I’m sorry I misunderstood how the process works” and him saying I was being inappropriate for “telling her how to do her job”.
Apparently I should have taken that info and searched the files myself. He called the info “easily accessible”, and believe me, it was not. I will have to keep digging for it tomorrow and possibly into the next day.
In case you haven’t caught on, that is almost the complete opposite of what 1 told me.
2 also told me I should reach out and try talking to her. I explained she won’t even look at me and he implied it was because I brought up her insensitive comments. I tried to tell him over and over that she would not talk to me. I think I would’ve gotten farther explaining to the wall.
After this meeting, I basically start crying out of frustration. One of my coworkers told me apparently, she does this to everyone in my position and likes making them frustrated and cry.
No wonder everyone quits.
Tl;dr: My maybe-malicious coworker makes everyone quit or gets them fired.
2024.05.22 02:10 Betht1998 Young girl whose mum dies and she lives alone for a while
This book is from the 00s probably - that when I remember reading it.
It’s about a girl who’s alone after losing her mother. She mostly eats cheese and crackers from what I remember. Her grandmother realises that she’s alone and then takes her to her house.
I can’t remember much else sorry! I would love to reread this!
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It’s about a girl who’s alone after losing her mother. She mostly eats cheese and crackers from what I remember. Her grandmother realises that she’s alone and then takes her to her house.
I can’t remember much else sorry! I would love to reread this!
2024.05.22 02:10 dippity_dip26 Friends to Lovers - A Polin Guide
Hi so I feel like a lot of the discourse about people not liking this season is also in part people not really understanding what friends to lovers is, specifically the relationship between Colin and Penelope, so I thought I might share my thoughts :)
Now I haven’t read the books - this is all based on what I gleaned from the show on multiple rewatches and as someone who has been the Penelope in a friendship for a longggg long time. Hopefully this makes sense.
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Romance tropes are so often boiled down to their immediate, basic truths. The popular enemies to lovers, for example: Enemy 1 + Enemy 2 + sexual tension = Lover 1 and Lover 2. Not to say enemies to lovers can’t be complex, but generally the starting point for enemies is an essential lack of trust between the parties and moments of connection (via fights) fueled by intense feelings of hatred/rage/whatever which can, in turn, translate to sexual tension. Due to the lack of trust, when they do get together it’s an explosion of that intense energy, highlighted even more-so by the knowledge that they don’t truly trust each other but they need each other which makes the heart race all the more and the passion all that more explosive.
Let’s look at Kate and Anthony as this trope. When they meet there is an immediate spark, fueled by a race in which they’re in competition. Once she hears him at the ball she decides she will do everything in her power to stop him from marrying her sister, and since he is determined to marry Edwina every interaction they have from that point on, until they have their happily ever after in the last episode, can be considered a fight. Moments like the bane of my existence and you vex me are such high intensity because it’s two people fueled by anger and sexual/romantic tension. They need each other like air but will do everything to fight it because of the anger, making the onscreen affections super intense for the viewer (especially as viewers who have just been introduced to Kate and are getting to know her through the lens of Anthony).
Now friends to lovers is, if I may say, quite a bit more complicated. All friendships are different - if you’re new friends your pipeline to lovers is likely entirely different to old friends to lovers. If one party is in love with the other that changes the dynamic entirely; are they long distance or close? Were they childhood friends? Are they both likeable and popular or is one more nerdy and quiet or both? All of these and more create new dynamics and emotions that can lead to love in different ways. My point is that friends to lovers is not as easy to pin down as something like enemies to lovers. So that’s why a couple like Polin may seem like they don’t have as much chemistry on screen - because their intensity shines in a different way than what we’re used to.
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Going into season three we know that Penelope has been in love with Colin for a long time, but during that time the two also formed a close friendship. When Colin proposed to Marina, yes Penelope whistledowned about the pregnancy to stop him from marrying her for love reasons, but also because he is her friend and she didn’t want to see him trapped in a loveless marriage. We also know that when Colin traveled between seasons one and two Penelope most often responded to his letters. Even during a scene in season two Pen specifically asks to hear more about his travels, even though everyone else in Colin’s life had asked him to stop talking about it. Pen’s crush and friendship don’t cancel each other out, they exist side by side as two parts of Penelope that often overlap but are most importantly separate entities. And she knows that.
Colin does not. In season three when Colin is talking about when they first met, Penelope looks away with anxiety when Colin suggests he knows why Penelope was so forward in making fun of him for falling off his horse and starting their friendship. She knows it’s because she had a crush on him. He states that it was because they were kids. This means it’s canon that Penelope had a crush on him since the moment they met. As a result, Colin has never experienced a friendship with Pen that doesn’t also have an underlying crush. He doesn’t know that Pen doesn’t respond to everyone’s letters all the time, or hangs onto their every word, or goes out of her way to talk to them. How Pen acts around him is how he assumes she acts around everyone - that’s why he doesn’t pick up on her crush.
It’s also why, I argue, he doesn’t realize that he loves her until the kiss in season three. He truly and genuinely takes her affections, her friendship, for granted because he doesn’t understand that someone so loyal and loving like that is rare. He doesn’t appear to have much else in the way of friends; outside of his family we don’t really see him interact with other men, and in season three the “friends” he does spend time with make comments to suggest they only started hanging out with him after his personality change to be more like his brothers - a rake who doesn’t care much for real affections. It’s why he said he would never court Penelope Featherington, or why he said “You are Pen, you do not count” when asked why he was still talking to her if he swore off women. He was super young when his dad died, so the only male role models he has for what love means are Anthony and Benedict. So, as he understands it, a man courting a woman is about sleeping around until the man finds a suitable match that pleases the family regardless of the man’s happiness. Even though he saw that Anthony fell in love by the time Colin said he would never court Pen, he didn’t see Anthony’s journey to understanding that love is not something to run from but something to cherish like we, the viewers, did. Anthony’s arc was just background noise for Colin, so it wasn’t like that would change his outlook on what Anthony’s actions in season one and beginning of season two loudly called out: choosing love over meaningless sex is idiotic and weak. Colin is genuinely distressed when Penelope walks away from him at the garden party in the first episode of season three, and he went after her to explain that he missed her when she stopped writing to him on his travels. He loves his relationship with her, not understanding that what he feels is actually love for her because he has never been aware that true love feels the way it does when he is with Pen. In fact it is explained in a letter that the reason he decided to try being like his brothers is BECAUSE Penelope stopped responding to him during his travels between seasons two and three. He decided to start guarding his heart, throwing on the rakish armor we see him dawn in the first half of season three, because he didn’t have that relationship that made him feel stable and loved anymore. He sees Penelope as his best friendship, rather than the love of his life, because he literally can’t see it any other way based on how everything in his life played out to that point.
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Okay this is way longer than I intended this to be already, but to finally make it to my main point! The Friends to Lovers trope as it plays out in Season Three Part One: Polin Do Be Polining.
What does all this mean for how Polin’s intensity shines? Due to the way their friendship has played out things like Colin taking Pen to the dance floor (not small social feat btw) in season one when Cressida bullies her, seeking each other out at social events, Pen asking about his travels - all of these are part of their romance! It’s all part of the slow burn; it’s just less slap-you-in-the-face noticeable, to a viewer of a show about romance, as Kate and Anthony and even Simon and Daphne because acting like friends is an implicit part of Polin’s love story. Because they are best friends as well as lovers!!
This is in full display in Season three, though put more on blast since it’s their season to get together. Colin saying he’ll teach Penelope how to get a husband isn’t a pity thing, it’s a real moment of genuine care that Colin is extending towards her.
—— “Pen wants to get a husband to be happy? Great! I’ll help her get a husband to make her happy because her happiness means everything to me.” - top ten photos taken ten seconds before disaster. ——
And it works! They start spending all this time together, and Pen has always looked gorgeous but is finally wearing clothes that she feels gorgeous in and you can see it in the way she acts, and suddenly Colin’s heart starts doing all these weird jumps around her like when she’s in the drawing room and when she wraps his hand because he has always loved her, so he doesn’t understand what these feelings that are coming up during these scenes are because they are not new feelings, just more intense ones of what he believes is pure friendship.
Penelope, during all of this, has had her brain decide to give up on Colin Bridgerton (even though her heart hasn’t). As someone who’s been there, being in unrequited love with your friend is brutal but you can never really let go. No matter how many people they date, or the hours you spend together talking about their new crush, or the life moments share together where they do everything but love you there is always that small spark of hope in your chest that you can’t let go of lest they ever possibly realize they love you back. That chance is too precious to give up - that’s why Penelope can’t give Debling a real answer when he asks her if she would like to be with Colin in episode four. Logically she knows she should give it up but her heart just can’t. She is a hopeless romantic and her life has been spinning around Colin Bridgerton since she was 16 like the earth around the Sun. There is no other way to live, for her, if she isn’t in love with Colin. And that’s what breaks her heart the most.
It’s also why, I believe, she asks him to kiss her in that garden. She had just written about herself in Whistledown that she did the upmost embarrassing act of taking Colin’s assistance on the marriage market, and her mother dressed her down about being a spinster for the rest of her life. All of Pen’s plans, of marrying and getting out and even finding what could turn into love, are utterly gone for her in that moment when she goes out to the garden. She doesn’t have her prospects. She doesn’t have Eloise. She doesn’t have safety in her own home. The only thing she has left is Colin. That’s why she asks him to kiss her, because he might grant her this one kindness of making her feel alive for just this one moment before the rest of her life ends. That moment is the culmination of all of her feelings up to that point in the show. She’s given up on Colin - she wouldn’t have asked him to kiss her had she any hope left. This was her last ditch attempt to just be a girl and be kissed regardless of what he actually meant to her. It wasn’t out of desperation, it was staring down the barrel of the gun with societies’s finger on the trigger.
When she asks him Colin is taken aback. Not because he doesn’t want to kiss her but because he has never considered it before. Kissing was reserved for women you are looking to sleep with at a bar, for prostitutes in alleyways, not for his caring Pen. I’ve seen some upset over not including more of Colin’s writing in the show, as he becomes quite the writer in the books apparently, and the writing we do see is just about sex but given the way they paced the show they provided the most important piece of context for Colin’s understanding of intimacy in the writing they did use. He wonders how one can feel, despite sleeping with every kind of woman across Europe, such intimacy in physical closeness and yet such distance emotionally. It’s some level of satisfying for him to sleep around, but it doesn’t fulfill him in the way it seemed to fulfill his brothers. He cannot equate the idea of kissing to Penelope because he feels such emotional closeness to her. But when she brings it up, suddenly everything clicks into place for him. All the emotions he feels towards her, what he thought was just friendship, is so much more. Yes she is his friend, but by god he wants to kiss his friend.
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Their kiss is sweet, and soft. Unlike Daphne and Anthony’s first kisses with their respective partners it isn’t this immense clashing of bodies and teeth. It’s two friends who love each other finally meeting each other as sparks fly and shivers run down their spines.
Colin is left speechless, and confused. The kiss was amazing to him because he finally unlocked that part of him that made him realize he was in love with Penelope. The kiss was amazing to Penelope because she has been in love with him for so long, but it was also tinged with her own doubts and feelings of hopelessness. That’s why she runs away, and thanks him, because this was her last stand and he was just her friend helping her out as she believes.
But as always, a night of sleep helps clarify things. The next time Pen goes into society she is awkward but still well intentioned about getting a husband because that kiss was a long day’s worth of self pity followed by, in her terms, a moment of weakness. But it clarified things for her too. Now she can’t die without ever having been kissed, so that ultimatum she set up in her own mind was gone and everything seems much more manageable from that point on. Colin, as we know, is a wreck who is absolutely bamboozled at these feelings and we love to watch him flounder!!!
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Now the tables have been turned. To those of who are think Penelope should have chosen Debling, this part is for you. This is when Debling really starts to court Penelope as she goes after him. She literally fights Cressida for him, because he seems like the most amenable husband for her to be able to continue Whistledown and be provided security. She isn’t looking for love in Debling because she already has love in Colin (love she believes will always remain unrequited, but that kiss can be a memory she cherishes for the rest of her life and that be that); she basically did was Anthony did at the beginning of season two. Find a suitable match that makes the most sense for her and leave love out of it. She likes Debling, for sure, and he’s a rly nice guy!! He cares about her in a way that a suitor might, and I’m certain had they gotten married he wouldn’t have been mean to her or anything. But she would’ve been lonely. As remembered she is a romantic, someone who craves the love she reads about in her romance books. She’s spent most of her conscious life in love - marrying Debling would stop that in its tracks. In his own words, Debling tells Pen that he could try to maybe love her but that it was far too unlikely to find any room in his heart her for over his passions (aroace Debling stand rise). He specifically mentions that he is choosing her to marry because she has her own passions, separate from his, that can keep her company while he is gone both physically and emotionally from her. She doesn’t realize this until it’s too late, when her focus on the chase is over, and Debling asks her mother for her hand. It’s only then that she thinks that maybe she could hold out for love, and that power is strong enough to make her actively not want to ensure her security through Debling.
Love is treacherous, and yet we yearn for it like a sailor who cannot help but smile at the beauty of the raging sea at it comes crashing down upon him. Penelope would rather a thousand lifetimes of the chance to be in love with Colin over one lifetime married to Debling in safety.
That is why Debling breaks it off with her. Because she loves Colin, Debling knows she would choose Colin over him, and he sees Colin’s interest in her even if she does not. Like Colin literally found out she was going to get engaged, ran to the ball, interrupted the dance wherein Debling was going to ask Pen to marry him, ran after her carriage just to know if she was engaged because he couldn’t fathom letting her get away in a loveless marriage, and when finding out she was not engaged telling her he loved her even if she did not love him back because he simply had to express to her how much he loved her as he owed her that as his friend. Colin got in his knees in that carriage because he was genuinely splaying out his heart to her for her to dissect as she chose. He put himself at her mercy because that is where he believes his place to be - just hers, and no one else’s.
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The carriage scene is, of course, the moment of highest intensity from the viewer standpoint of what we think love should appear to be. Other scenes could be Colin’s dream, and the moment in the sweets tent, etc. But those moments aren’t all of Polin’s love story. They may be the most visceral to witness, but they are just as important as the two of them laughing together in the corner of a ball. Their romantic trope is defined as Friends to Lovers, but that isn’t quite right - they are both. There is no big “or” between the two. Colin and Penelope are friends and lovers, and all of it is a beauty to witness.
And that’s all! If you’ve made it this far thanks for sticking around to listen to my obsessive thoughts. I wish you a very happy Bridgerton rewatch :)
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Now I haven’t read the books - this is all based on what I gleaned from the show on multiple rewatches and as someone who has been the Penelope in a friendship for a longggg long time. Hopefully this makes sense.
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Romance tropes are so often boiled down to their immediate, basic truths. The popular enemies to lovers, for example: Enemy 1 + Enemy 2 + sexual tension = Lover 1 and Lover 2. Not to say enemies to lovers can’t be complex, but generally the starting point for enemies is an essential lack of trust between the parties and moments of connection (via fights) fueled by intense feelings of hatred/rage/whatever which can, in turn, translate to sexual tension. Due to the lack of trust, when they do get together it’s an explosion of that intense energy, highlighted even more-so by the knowledge that they don’t truly trust each other but they need each other which makes the heart race all the more and the passion all that more explosive.
Let’s look at Kate and Anthony as this trope. When they meet there is an immediate spark, fueled by a race in which they’re in competition. Once she hears him at the ball she decides she will do everything in her power to stop him from marrying her sister, and since he is determined to marry Edwina every interaction they have from that point on, until they have their happily ever after in the last episode, can be considered a fight. Moments like the bane of my existence and you vex me are such high intensity because it’s two people fueled by anger and sexual/romantic tension. They need each other like air but will do everything to fight it because of the anger, making the onscreen affections super intense for the viewer (especially as viewers who have just been introduced to Kate and are getting to know her through the lens of Anthony).
Now friends to lovers is, if I may say, quite a bit more complicated. All friendships are different - if you’re new friends your pipeline to lovers is likely entirely different to old friends to lovers. If one party is in love with the other that changes the dynamic entirely; are they long distance or close? Were they childhood friends? Are they both likeable and popular or is one more nerdy and quiet or both? All of these and more create new dynamics and emotions that can lead to love in different ways. My point is that friends to lovers is not as easy to pin down as something like enemies to lovers. So that’s why a couple like Polin may seem like they don’t have as much chemistry on screen - because their intensity shines in a different way than what we’re used to.
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Going into season three we know that Penelope has been in love with Colin for a long time, but during that time the two also formed a close friendship. When Colin proposed to Marina, yes Penelope whistledowned about the pregnancy to stop him from marrying her for love reasons, but also because he is her friend and she didn’t want to see him trapped in a loveless marriage. We also know that when Colin traveled between seasons one and two Penelope most often responded to his letters. Even during a scene in season two Pen specifically asks to hear more about his travels, even though everyone else in Colin’s life had asked him to stop talking about it. Pen’s crush and friendship don’t cancel each other out, they exist side by side as two parts of Penelope that often overlap but are most importantly separate entities. And she knows that.
Colin does not. In season three when Colin is talking about when they first met, Penelope looks away with anxiety when Colin suggests he knows why Penelope was so forward in making fun of him for falling off his horse and starting their friendship. She knows it’s because she had a crush on him. He states that it was because they were kids. This means it’s canon that Penelope had a crush on him since the moment they met. As a result, Colin has never experienced a friendship with Pen that doesn’t also have an underlying crush. He doesn’t know that Pen doesn’t respond to everyone’s letters all the time, or hangs onto their every word, or goes out of her way to talk to them. How Pen acts around him is how he assumes she acts around everyone - that’s why he doesn’t pick up on her crush.
It’s also why, I argue, he doesn’t realize that he loves her until the kiss in season three. He truly and genuinely takes her affections, her friendship, for granted because he doesn’t understand that someone so loyal and loving like that is rare. He doesn’t appear to have much else in the way of friends; outside of his family we don’t really see him interact with other men, and in season three the “friends” he does spend time with make comments to suggest they only started hanging out with him after his personality change to be more like his brothers - a rake who doesn’t care much for real affections. It’s why he said he would never court Penelope Featherington, or why he said “You are Pen, you do not count” when asked why he was still talking to her if he swore off women. He was super young when his dad died, so the only male role models he has for what love means are Anthony and Benedict. So, as he understands it, a man courting a woman is about sleeping around until the man finds a suitable match that pleases the family regardless of the man’s happiness. Even though he saw that Anthony fell in love by the time Colin said he would never court Pen, he didn’t see Anthony’s journey to understanding that love is not something to run from but something to cherish like we, the viewers, did. Anthony’s arc was just background noise for Colin, so it wasn’t like that would change his outlook on what Anthony’s actions in season one and beginning of season two loudly called out: choosing love over meaningless sex is idiotic and weak. Colin is genuinely distressed when Penelope walks away from him at the garden party in the first episode of season three, and he went after her to explain that he missed her when she stopped writing to him on his travels. He loves his relationship with her, not understanding that what he feels is actually love for her because he has never been aware that true love feels the way it does when he is with Pen. In fact it is explained in a letter that the reason he decided to try being like his brothers is BECAUSE Penelope stopped responding to him during his travels between seasons two and three. He decided to start guarding his heart, throwing on the rakish armor we see him dawn in the first half of season three, because he didn’t have that relationship that made him feel stable and loved anymore. He sees Penelope as his best friendship, rather than the love of his life, because he literally can’t see it any other way based on how everything in his life played out to that point.
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Okay this is way longer than I intended this to be already, but to finally make it to my main point! The Friends to Lovers trope as it plays out in Season Three Part One: Polin Do Be Polining.
What does all this mean for how Polin’s intensity shines? Due to the way their friendship has played out things like Colin taking Pen to the dance floor (not small social feat btw) in season one when Cressida bullies her, seeking each other out at social events, Pen asking about his travels - all of these are part of their romance! It’s all part of the slow burn; it’s just less slap-you-in-the-face noticeable, to a viewer of a show about romance, as Kate and Anthony and even Simon and Daphne because acting like friends is an implicit part of Polin’s love story. Because they are best friends as well as lovers!!
This is in full display in Season three, though put more on blast since it’s their season to get together. Colin saying he’ll teach Penelope how to get a husband isn’t a pity thing, it’s a real moment of genuine care that Colin is extending towards her.
—— “Pen wants to get a husband to be happy? Great! I’ll help her get a husband to make her happy because her happiness means everything to me.” - top ten photos taken ten seconds before disaster. ——
And it works! They start spending all this time together, and Pen has always looked gorgeous but is finally wearing clothes that she feels gorgeous in and you can see it in the way she acts, and suddenly Colin’s heart starts doing all these weird jumps around her like when she’s in the drawing room and when she wraps his hand because he has always loved her, so he doesn’t understand what these feelings that are coming up during these scenes are because they are not new feelings, just more intense ones of what he believes is pure friendship.
Penelope, during all of this, has had her brain decide to give up on Colin Bridgerton (even though her heart hasn’t). As someone who’s been there, being in unrequited love with your friend is brutal but you can never really let go. No matter how many people they date, or the hours you spend together talking about their new crush, or the life moments share together where they do everything but love you there is always that small spark of hope in your chest that you can’t let go of lest they ever possibly realize they love you back. That chance is too precious to give up - that’s why Penelope can’t give Debling a real answer when he asks her if she would like to be with Colin in episode four. Logically she knows she should give it up but her heart just can’t. She is a hopeless romantic and her life has been spinning around Colin Bridgerton since she was 16 like the earth around the Sun. There is no other way to live, for her, if she isn’t in love with Colin. And that’s what breaks her heart the most.
It’s also why, I believe, she asks him to kiss her in that garden. She had just written about herself in Whistledown that she did the upmost embarrassing act of taking Colin’s assistance on the marriage market, and her mother dressed her down about being a spinster for the rest of her life. All of Pen’s plans, of marrying and getting out and even finding what could turn into love, are utterly gone for her in that moment when she goes out to the garden. She doesn’t have her prospects. She doesn’t have Eloise. She doesn’t have safety in her own home. The only thing she has left is Colin. That’s why she asks him to kiss her, because he might grant her this one kindness of making her feel alive for just this one moment before the rest of her life ends. That moment is the culmination of all of her feelings up to that point in the show. She’s given up on Colin - she wouldn’t have asked him to kiss her had she any hope left. This was her last ditch attempt to just be a girl and be kissed regardless of what he actually meant to her. It wasn’t out of desperation, it was staring down the barrel of the gun with societies’s finger on the trigger.
When she asks him Colin is taken aback. Not because he doesn’t want to kiss her but because he has never considered it before. Kissing was reserved for women you are looking to sleep with at a bar, for prostitutes in alleyways, not for his caring Pen. I’ve seen some upset over not including more of Colin’s writing in the show, as he becomes quite the writer in the books apparently, and the writing we do see is just about sex but given the way they paced the show they provided the most important piece of context for Colin’s understanding of intimacy in the writing they did use. He wonders how one can feel, despite sleeping with every kind of woman across Europe, such intimacy in physical closeness and yet such distance emotionally. It’s some level of satisfying for him to sleep around, but it doesn’t fulfill him in the way it seemed to fulfill his brothers. He cannot equate the idea of kissing to Penelope because he feels such emotional closeness to her. But when she brings it up, suddenly everything clicks into place for him. All the emotions he feels towards her, what he thought was just friendship, is so much more. Yes she is his friend, but by god he wants to kiss his friend.
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Their kiss is sweet, and soft. Unlike Daphne and Anthony’s first kisses with their respective partners it isn’t this immense clashing of bodies and teeth. It’s two friends who love each other finally meeting each other as sparks fly and shivers run down their spines.
Colin is left speechless, and confused. The kiss was amazing to him because he finally unlocked that part of him that made him realize he was in love with Penelope. The kiss was amazing to Penelope because she has been in love with him for so long, but it was also tinged with her own doubts and feelings of hopelessness. That’s why she runs away, and thanks him, because this was her last stand and he was just her friend helping her out as she believes.
But as always, a night of sleep helps clarify things. The next time Pen goes into society she is awkward but still well intentioned about getting a husband because that kiss was a long day’s worth of self pity followed by, in her terms, a moment of weakness. But it clarified things for her too. Now she can’t die without ever having been kissed, so that ultimatum she set up in her own mind was gone and everything seems much more manageable from that point on. Colin, as we know, is a wreck who is absolutely bamboozled at these feelings and we love to watch him flounder!!!
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Now the tables have been turned. To those of who are think Penelope should have chosen Debling, this part is for you. This is when Debling really starts to court Penelope as she goes after him. She literally fights Cressida for him, because he seems like the most amenable husband for her to be able to continue Whistledown and be provided security. She isn’t looking for love in Debling because she already has love in Colin (love she believes will always remain unrequited, but that kiss can be a memory she cherishes for the rest of her life and that be that); she basically did was Anthony did at the beginning of season two. Find a suitable match that makes the most sense for her and leave love out of it. She likes Debling, for sure, and he’s a rly nice guy!! He cares about her in a way that a suitor might, and I’m certain had they gotten married he wouldn’t have been mean to her or anything. But she would’ve been lonely. As remembered she is a romantic, someone who craves the love she reads about in her romance books. She’s spent most of her conscious life in love - marrying Debling would stop that in its tracks. In his own words, Debling tells Pen that he could try to maybe love her but that it was far too unlikely to find any room in his heart her for over his passions (aroace Debling stand rise). He specifically mentions that he is choosing her to marry because she has her own passions, separate from his, that can keep her company while he is gone both physically and emotionally from her. She doesn’t realize this until it’s too late, when her focus on the chase is over, and Debling asks her mother for her hand. It’s only then that she thinks that maybe she could hold out for love, and that power is strong enough to make her actively not want to ensure her security through Debling.
Love is treacherous, and yet we yearn for it like a sailor who cannot help but smile at the beauty of the raging sea at it comes crashing down upon him. Penelope would rather a thousand lifetimes of the chance to be in love with Colin over one lifetime married to Debling in safety.
That is why Debling breaks it off with her. Because she loves Colin, Debling knows she would choose Colin over him, and he sees Colin’s interest in her even if she does not. Like Colin literally found out she was going to get engaged, ran to the ball, interrupted the dance wherein Debling was going to ask Pen to marry him, ran after her carriage just to know if she was engaged because he couldn’t fathom letting her get away in a loveless marriage, and when finding out she was not engaged telling her he loved her even if she did not love him back because he simply had to express to her how much he loved her as he owed her that as his friend. Colin got in his knees in that carriage because he was genuinely splaying out his heart to her for her to dissect as she chose. He put himself at her mercy because that is where he believes his place to be - just hers, and no one else’s.
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The carriage scene is, of course, the moment of highest intensity from the viewer standpoint of what we think love should appear to be. Other scenes could be Colin’s dream, and the moment in the sweets tent, etc. But those moments aren’t all of Polin’s love story. They may be the most visceral to witness, but they are just as important as the two of them laughing together in the corner of a ball. Their romantic trope is defined as Friends to Lovers, but that isn’t quite right - they are both. There is no big “or” between the two. Colin and Penelope are friends and lovers, and all of it is a beauty to witness.
And that’s all! If you’ve made it this far thanks for sticking around to listen to my obsessive thoughts. I wish you a very happy Bridgerton rewatch :)
2024.05.22 02:10 Naive-Palpitation-93 just so confused
My girlfriend of years and I broke up in the last month. We lived together so the breakup involved me moving out (B/U was my decision). We agreed no contact and all that originally but it’s been iffy. Now here’s where I’m at…
Originally the break up was on amicable, we still loved each other we were just in such different places mentally and needed time to work on ourselves. We said we’d take time and see where we’re at in a few months & see if we want to get back together. I personally have never been thru a breakup that has affected me like this. I loved (still do) her so much and really did plan on spending the rest of my life with her & had hope we could maybe get back together.
Since no contact, she called me the other night breaking down about some PTSD stuff, mentioned that i’m still her safe person etc and asked me to come over. I went (i still care about her deeply & am not the best at keeping boundaries). While I was there I found out that not only had she been flaked on by a new person that same night, but that they had been talking since before I had even moved out. My move out process took about a week post break up.
I am so extremely hurt by this as I had wanted to fr marry this girl (and thought she had too) but I just cant understand how she was able to talk to someone sexually/romantically within a week of us breaking up if that were true. I know everyone copes differently but a month in and I can’t even think about being or even talking with another girl in any way yet.
I don’t know what my goal is in terms of responses from yall but I guess just if anyone has had any similar experiences and how that played out it could help give me any clarity at all. Thanks.
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Originally the break up was on amicable, we still loved each other we were just in such different places mentally and needed time to work on ourselves. We said we’d take time and see where we’re at in a few months & see if we want to get back together. I personally have never been thru a breakup that has affected me like this. I loved (still do) her so much and really did plan on spending the rest of my life with her & had hope we could maybe get back together.
Since no contact, she called me the other night breaking down about some PTSD stuff, mentioned that i’m still her safe person etc and asked me to come over. I went (i still care about her deeply & am not the best at keeping boundaries). While I was there I found out that not only had she been flaked on by a new person that same night, but that they had been talking since before I had even moved out. My move out process took about a week post break up.
I am so extremely hurt by this as I had wanted to fr marry this girl (and thought she had too) but I just cant understand how she was able to talk to someone sexually/romantically within a week of us breaking up if that were true. I know everyone copes differently but a month in and I can’t even think about being or even talking with another girl in any way yet.
I don’t know what my goal is in terms of responses from yall but I guess just if anyone has had any similar experiences and how that played out it could help give me any clarity at all. Thanks.
2024.05.22 02:10 doory321 21[M4F] Catholic from England searching for my life partner
Hi, I’m Max! I’m a 21 year old computer science graduate from England. I am white, 5’11”, with brown hair, blue eyes, and fairly skinny.
First and foremost, I’m a Catholic, my faith is the most important thing to me in my life and I try to love God in all that I do.
One of my biggest aspirations would be to meet a wonderful girl who I can love and care for, and with whom, I hope, through God’s loving providence, to start a beautiful and holy family with one day.
I believe that the strongest bonds are formed through common values, and so I think it is important that I seek a partner who shares my faith in Christ. So I’m hoping that through this I might find that special someone, God willing.
As for me I love travelling to new places, mountain hiking, nature walks, photography, reading, learning history, science, theology, philosophy, listening to podcasts, computer programming, video games, composing, and playing the piano.
Would prefer meeting someone around the age 18-21 within Europe who is a fellow Catholic, but I am open to all countries and faiths, just as long as you are open or at least slightly interested to learn about Catholicism, because I will definitely talk about it non-stop at times I’m afraid.
Please feel free to send me a message if interested! And if so a quick summary and picture of yourself would be greatly appreciated too if that's all ok, just so I have a good idea of who you are :)
To all out there I hope you have a wonderful day and God bless!
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First and foremost, I’m a Catholic, my faith is the most important thing to me in my life and I try to love God in all that I do.
One of my biggest aspirations would be to meet a wonderful girl who I can love and care for, and with whom, I hope, through God’s loving providence, to start a beautiful and holy family with one day.
I believe that the strongest bonds are formed through common values, and so I think it is important that I seek a partner who shares my faith in Christ. So I’m hoping that through this I might find that special someone, God willing.
As for me I love travelling to new places, mountain hiking, nature walks, photography, reading, learning history, science, theology, philosophy, listening to podcasts, computer programming, video games, composing, and playing the piano.
Would prefer meeting someone around the age 18-21 within Europe who is a fellow Catholic, but I am open to all countries and faiths, just as long as you are open or at least slightly interested to learn about Catholicism, because I will definitely talk about it non-stop at times I’m afraid.
Please feel free to send me a message if interested! And if so a quick summary and picture of yourself would be greatly appreciated too if that's all ok, just so I have a good idea of who you are :)
To all out there I hope you have a wonderful day and God bless!
Pic of me
Pic of me
2024.05.22 02:10 ConflictHoliday7847 Appt in 2 days, need setup advice
 | Here is my current setup. First lobes are going on 30 years old, second lobes and helix are from January. Second lobes are pretty well healed and tolerating the hoops (pierced with titanium labrets), helix is original and hasn’t been downsized yet on advice of my piercer. Ok so here’s the question. I have some pretty birthstone ends (green and purple) that I’d like to add and have an appointment in 2 days. Would like them to be near each other because they are for my two girls. Because I wear earbuds frequently I can’t do conch and even forward helix might be problematic with my buds. So ideas for where to put them- either both below the existing helix, one on each side, or as third and fourth lobes? Together in the mid helix area? I think I would like to wear a hoop in the existing helix at some point. Thank you for reading! submitted by ConflictHoliday7847 to piercing [link] [comments] TLDR, where to put two new birthstone ends |
2024.05.22 02:09 selfloathinginlv I’m hoping to catch the attention of someone I went in a date with in September on the Bumble.
Let me preface by saying I know this is long and very immature, and I realize that I could just do the big girl thing and ‘like’ his profile again but I’m still hesitant. To the guys of Reddit, I have a question for you.
I’m going to break this down in number format because I have a tendency to go on tangents: 1. Matched with guy, met at bar, talked for a couple of hours and went on a stroll around the block to talk. Woman is more talkative than guy but his profile stated he’s introverted so the air was fine. Kiss at end of date (woman thinks kiss was bland but was hoping for more experience another time). 2. Guy mentions even before exchanging numbers he will be out of town, and encourages date to happen before so meet because he’s enthused. Woman knows this and agrees. 3. Guy isn’t a big texter-also says in profile, and woman knows this. Guy goes out of town and woman doesn’t hear back from him for a week so she decides to text a friendly, “how is the festival going?” Guy never responds. Woman retreats and chalks this up to a not interested and tries to move on. 4. Guy comes back almost three weeks later and says hi. Woman has done some work on herself due to a ghosting that occurred a couple months prior and doesn’t want to just accept this and tells him she figured he wasn’t interested anymore. Guy says, well I said I’d be gone. Long story short, guy says he felt a connection and wanted to continue to see woman and eventually see where physical intimacy could go (bold move, bud). Woman declines nicely but also kind of cat-ily. 5. Woman feels good about decision but months later realizes she may have overreacted. She sees him on her Bumblebee account and is careful not to swipe left (lol). She doesn’t know if he’s very active on it but is hoping he notices her. She doesn’t know if he thinks she’s immature for what she said and is avoiding her because of it.
What would you do as the guy in this situation? Actively avoid someone who said she wasn’t interested anymore or shoot the shot one more time? I’m just lonely out here and I think that’s is clouding my better judgement…
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I’m going to break this down in number format because I have a tendency to go on tangents: 1. Matched with guy, met at bar, talked for a couple of hours and went on a stroll around the block to talk. Woman is more talkative than guy but his profile stated he’s introverted so the air was fine. Kiss at end of date (woman thinks kiss was bland but was hoping for more experience another time). 2. Guy mentions even before exchanging numbers he will be out of town, and encourages date to happen before so meet because he’s enthused. Woman knows this and agrees. 3. Guy isn’t a big texter-also says in profile, and woman knows this. Guy goes out of town and woman doesn’t hear back from him for a week so she decides to text a friendly, “how is the festival going?” Guy never responds. Woman retreats and chalks this up to a not interested and tries to move on. 4. Guy comes back almost three weeks later and says hi. Woman has done some work on herself due to a ghosting that occurred a couple months prior and doesn’t want to just accept this and tells him she figured he wasn’t interested anymore. Guy says, well I said I’d be gone. Long story short, guy says he felt a connection and wanted to continue to see woman and eventually see where physical intimacy could go (bold move, bud). Woman declines nicely but also kind of cat-ily. 5. Woman feels good about decision but months later realizes she may have overreacted. She sees him on her Bumblebee account and is careful not to swipe left (lol). She doesn’t know if he’s very active on it but is hoping he notices her. She doesn’t know if he thinks she’s immature for what she said and is avoiding her because of it.
What would you do as the guy in this situation? Actively avoid someone who said she wasn’t interested anymore or shoot the shot one more time? I’m just lonely out here and I think that’s is clouding my better judgement…
2024.05.22 02:09 PreferablySilver Children’s/YA book series that I read in the 00’s about a teenager girl whose mum had left them when she was young, and she was in love with her older sisters best friend.
I don’t remember much of the story lines of the books but the main character had two older sisters and a younger brother and they lived with just their dad. Their mum had left them not long after her little brother was born. She had two best friends, a girl from her school and a boy (possibly named Billy, but I could be pulling that name out of thin air?) who didn’t get on to start with but end up together. The main direction of the first few books is the fact she’s in love with her oldest sisters best friend (who’s a guy) but later on in the series the middle sister ends up with him. Also later on in the series her mum comes back and it turns out she had another child no one knew about and had left because of postnatal depression. I believe it’s a British book as it’s all set in England (London I believe because I’m sure they go to Camden market a lot). Thanks.
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