Naughty things to say to my boyfriend

I feel old trying to learn a new app, but I like to chat and ramble and everyone asks for discord so I got it. So let's chat and ramble or yap as my kids say, but they also say things like skinny toilets so I'm not sure how well their education is going!

So I'm completely new to the world of banking and finances. I'm only 17 and just got my first job (kind of late to get a first job where i live), and i know absolutely nothing about making a bank account. My bank account was made by my father while I was in the room with him.
He asked for an account under both his and my name to it, and I asked if that meant we would be spending the same money and he said no, so I agreed to it, but now I really regret it. Every time I spend money on something he harasses me about my purchases.
For example, I had an upcoming school event that I needed to supply some things for, so I spent 20$ for a stock of plastic cups on my way back from work. This is money I'd be getting back from the school once the event started earning. My dad immediately msgs me a photo with my purchases and calls me to scold me for spending the money I earned.
Now he's talking about taking a part of my salary, saying he will take 40% from each of my paycheques.
Is there anything I can do about this? It's worth noting I live in Canada and my bank is BMO

Hi everyone!
I’m searching for a videographer for a wedding in Newmarket.
The tricky thing is that all the videos I’m finding are highly edited, with voiceovers and music, slow-motion shots, and drone footage.
I’m searching for the most basic wedding video footage possible. No bells and whistles, no dramatic shots of anyone posing. Just capturing the memory of the day no matter how chaotic it may be.
This isn’t to say that the style that I’m seeing isn’t nice, it just isn’t my style. Any recommendations would be amazing! Thank you in advance.

Hey! I figured why not do as the title says. I always message people but my profile is a bit barren soo…..
I’m 26 years old, Pansexual top man from Southern Ontario, Canada. I’m 6’2”, have Size 14 US feet, large hands.
Kinks/Likes: - Shiny shorts. Anything like basketball shorts, soccer shorts, mesh shorts, gym shorts. I love a good cock print and ass in them. If you ever want to send pics throw a pair on and get me going 😈 - Breeding. I shoot thick massive loads. Seriously huge. And when I’m super turned on and raging it’s like a firehose. Pumping a pussy or ass full of my seed is so hot. - Kissing. I’m dominant and all but making out sensually as I tease the bottom is hot. Take my tongue in your mouth as I feel you up and make you lose your breath.
(I’ll add more as I think of them)
Dislikes: - Bad manners. Don’t be a bitch and say you’re naughty/a brat. There’s a huge difference. - Bathroom stuff. Not my cup of tea -Bigger folks. I know i’m big myself and I feel like a hypocrite but I’m just not attracted to heavier people. - Excessive body hair. If I’m giving oral I don’t need a bush in my face
These are about me. If you don’t like, don’t interact with me. I’m allowed to have my own opinions and likes.

And I'm tired of pretending it's not. I remember when that video was first released, and you can't convince me that the poisoned, hypocritical discourse surrounding this game didn't originate from him. He was one of the pioneers of the "long-form video game analysis" format that so many have made their careers with, and for whom so many have carried on his tradition of only viewing DS2 through the lens of what he interprets as mistakes and misdirections of what the "souls series" perfected with DeS and DS1. It also wouldn't surprise me if this bizarre sentiment of "DS2 is a bad game but it's still better than most games" also comes from this video, as he expresses a similar sentiment less than 3 minutes in.
He laments that it's a "major problem" that the game doesn't unceremoniously throw you into a character creation menu immediately upon selecting New Game. He calls the opening cutscene, "utterly pointless" with no further exploration of what might be being communicated to him. He also refers to it as "tonally out of place with the Souls series" without acknowleding that DS2 has a distinct tone in itself and doesn't necessarily need to ape whatever he thinks should be mainstays of the "souls series" (which was still in its infancy when this video released mind you). He says that the opening character being male is a mistake, and that his identity is being "poorly hidden" by the developers to maintain the illusion that you're playing as the player character.
I mean, this is clearly not what's being communicated to the player. I think there are multiple valid interpretations of the events of the opening cutscene and arrival in Things Betwixt (that's probably the point of the vague storytelling) - who the man is, why he finds himself in a cursed land, and what it means for him to change into a wholly new person upon being given the human effigy. But rejecting all this as just a collection of mistakes is akin to a toddler throwing away a new toy because they don't immediately understand its function.
Could it be that who this man was before doesn't matter? That perhaps certain forces at play in a land ravaged by an unrelenting curse erodes one's humanity and allows it to be reborn or reshaped like the countless kingdoms that have fell and risen anew? It's not like we don't have multiple other instances of this theme being expressed in the game. From most NPC's forgetting why they came to Drangleic and who they even are, to a coffin that literally allows you change your sex at will. Perhaps personal identity and history being fluid in the land of the everlasting curse is part of the theming and not just stupid developers making mistakes? Again, this is just my interpretation, but I think it's wholly more valuable than just calling the opening pointless. My point is there's a surprising lack of actual analysis in this critique so celebrated by the vocal minority of DS2 haters.
He interprets the old firekeepeers warning you of the fate of the accursed as the developers taunting you with a meaninglessly difficult experience to come. Seeing as you can revisit these ladies and learn more about their place in the world, this is also a surprisingly shallow interpretation of their inclusion.
He claims difficulty being a focus of DS2's design was a "misunderstanding" of Miyazaki's intent in designing DeS and DS1. This is just baffling and utterly baseless. In what other series known for its difficulty, would the inclusion of challenge be widely dismissed as a "misunderstanding"? Personally, I don't find it valuable to speculate why DS2 is difficult anymore than I speculate why Mario can jump. Ultimately it's a video game, and it's level of challenge should be critiqued based on its quality and implementation, not that it's philosophically misguided or some such sophistry.
I'd be here all day if I wanted to dissect all of the bizarre and surface-level analysis he provides, so I'm going to list a few more wild takes of his:

• Royal Rat Authority is somehow a "retread" of Sif with "random enemies" thrown in. His only reasoning here is because RRA resembles a dog, even though their respective fights are different in literally every other way. He claims it's a "crapshoot" if you can take out the small rats if you aren't a pyromancer (like, what?), even though he shows footage of himself doing exactly that with a bow. And that the fight is "practically over" afterwards, even though he shows footage of himself struggling to land a hit on RRA by itself. No further analysis.
  
• He claims most of the boss fights in DS2 that involve more than one single enemy "feel as lazily designed as the Capra Demon". I'm sure I don't have to explain why this is complete nonsense. Capra Demon's problem wasn't solely that it was more than one enemy. You couldn't even get your bearings before being immediately wailed on in a tight corridor with few means of escape. And absolutely no fight in DS2, including Royal Rat, has this problem.
  
• He claims the "mechanics of the souls series" are built for one-on-one engagement. No analysis of the multitude of tools and resources DS2 provides you to deal with multi-enemy encounters. From a wide variety of weapons with differing movesets, to environmental hazards, to AoE spells, to actually effective throwables and ranged weapons. Nope, the Gods of the "souls series" have decreed to him that if every single encounter wasn't made to cater to a locked-on sword and shield playstyle, that it's a mistake not in keeping with the rest of the series. WHY this game's design needs to be so concerned with these supposed laws of the series also goes unexplained.
  
• He says attack tracking is "unnecessary" and not an improvement from the previous entries in the series. What goes unspoken and apparently unrecognized is just how dominant circle-strafing and backstabbing is in these previous games. And while still an effective strategy in DS2, is understandably punished in predictable ways that the player can and will absolutely adapt to. It sometimes looks a little goofy, sure. But it's not misguided design that you can't rely on crutch tactics as reliably as in the previous games.
  

I'm going to stop here, because honestly an experienced player could (and should) rebut every single one of his simplistic "critiques", but a consistent theme of his video is that every single design decision is random, haphazard, misguided, mistaken, poorly thought out, meaningless etc. And he'll provide a counter-example of how DeS or DS1 does things in a way that's apparently better. But he offers no discussion or analysis about how these mechanics fit into the context of DS2's design, only how they are not in keeping with "the souls series". This says far more about how he engages (or rather doesn't engage) with video games as distinct pieces of art and entertainment, than it does about Dark Souls 2.
And if you've been following the long-form game analysis scene like I have, you'll find no shortage of content creators essentially parroting MM's perspective. There's a youtuber called Creetosis that made somewhat of a spiritual successor to MM's DS1 commentary, but with a full playthrough if DS2. And similarly to MM, everything he sees is pointless, annoying, stupid, and mistaken.
Other fandoms don't tolerate stupid critique from tourists and we shouldn't either. I've been a fan of MM and the scene he inspired since his first few videos, but I'm not going to pretend that this stupid trend of being ignorantly critical of DS2 didn't come from him at least in part.

I’ll start off by saying I know little to nothing about computers but I somewhat recently got a gaming pc with: (and this all could be wrong but I’m trying my best) CPU: ryzen 7700 RAM: GSkill flare x5 ddr5 MBoard: msi 650b pro GPU: 4070
I took it into a pc repair shop because it stopped booting entirely after about a month of intermittent issues booting. The guy told me it was most likely the motherboard but could anything from cpu to ram to motherboard to all 3. He also said this combo of cpu, ram, MBoard has had a whole bunch of issues from what he’s read online. Not looking to throw parts at it hoping one will stick so I’m looking at getting rid of it. I’ll probably be taking the GPU out of it since he said there’s nothing wrong with that and sell everything else at a reduced price, but he couldn’t give me a price suggestion (probably didn’t wanna hurt my feelings since it’ll probably be way lower than what I got it for). Posting this as a one last effort to get this thing running but will probably end up selling if nothing works. Any and all suggestions would be amazing!

Hello guys. The last few days I struggle a bit and I have like a thousand of questions but I dont even know who to ask since my family and I camt really talk that deeply.
So I moved out when I was 19 and started livimg with my boyfriend ,we live alone and we are trying the best we can to make this place a future home. Now I am 22 almost 23 amd recently I was notified that my parents will buy my bother an apartment, they didmt talked to me about this at all and they have been talking for this move for about 2 years now. Now I am sitting here wondering why I am not appreciated that much that they didint even wanted me to know about their step, I dont even have a great relationship with my brother I think he hates me I dont know why tho.. he doednt want to do anything with me, he cant even talk about basic thing with me without getting annoyed. I am really happy for him getting a brand new home but on the other hand like I feel...... I dont know what am I feelimg honestly I just cry and think about everything I did for myself (I work from 13yo)and I just feel i am on my own
I hope they are not bad parents I hope that I will have the brother that I deserved because I will die for him honestly but I dont know why he hates me. When we grew up we were like fighting as a regular siblings and I think the boundaries that my mom amd dad set for us made us very distant as an adults right now, for example I would take from him 2 bucks and then my mom and dad were making me to pay him 4 bucks.... its not about the money I fucking hate money I just want to know why my brother hates me and why my parents were not concedering me when they made the big plan.
Ps if you have any idea how can I make my relationship better with my brother please give me an advise

This doubles as a vent so bare with me. I am a lead teacher in the toddler room. My assistant teacher was the previous lead for that room but chose to step down. She is great with the kids and has experience but her work ethic really stops there. She is constantly “sick” so we have a rotating wheel of random teachers in her spot that makes it very difficult to get things done. She has no regard for sanitary/licensing regulations. Really her main goal is for things to look cute and aesthetically pleasing but I get no help whatsoever with cleaning. She starts hundreds of projects but never finishes them so there are always materials everywhere and unfinished projects littering the classroom. She also never collaborates with me on them which is frustrating because I get no say (even when I offer to help) in how things function. She is only concerned with product art after many conversations with her about the the importance of process art so I have had to exclude her from that portion of our lessons often for the sake of the kids. Her attention to detail is severely lacking and I find myself embarrassed at the messages that go out to parents/admin on my days off(I work 4 days a week). She pushes back on every little decision I make (things as simple as jackets vs. no jackets outside, etc.) and I’m getting very frustrated. Ultimately, I think she is having a hard time letting go of what she views as “her” classroom. These may seem like minor gripes and I do not need total control, I want to be able to work as a team with my assistant but I feel like my ability to lead is being hindered. I am not great with confrontation but I have tried chatting with her about things and it just goes over her head. For weeks now, I have been contemplating asking my director about a change in assistant teachers and possibly moving her to another classroom. Is it worth it? Will it make me seem like a control-freak and someone who is difficult to work with?
Edited to add: Sick is in quotation marks because multiple times she has flat out told me that she is just tired or does not want to be there. We all get burnt out so I tried to be understanding but the frequency is what makes it so frustrating.

I recently started breaking things when I’m having an emotional flashback? If that’s the proper term.
I was diagnosed with cptsd from an abusive childhood and I worked to heal it. I ended up in a relationship with my husband, who has recently been diagnosed with bipolar. He emotionally abused me on a weekly basis. He also physically abused me for approximately 10 times over the period of 4 years. The worst was when he put me in a chokehold and I almost blacked out. I thought I was actually going to die.
The physical abuse has stopped, but the emotional abuse is still going on. It’s on a lesser scale than before, but still not completely gone. He’s in therapy and getting stabilized on medication right now. It’s taking some time to find the right meds and dosages.
Anyhow, I’m not finding myself having really strong flashbacks, where I feel emotionally in the place I was when the abuse happened. For example he tickled me multiple times when we were joking around and I got triggered. I got angry and communicated with him not to ever touch him like that ever again. His response was to laugh at me and tell me I’m overreacting. I kept asking him to stop laughing, but he wouldn’t and I lost control. I broke two plates. This led to him telling me I’m crazy breaking plates over being tickled and he’s not breaking anything. So I brought up how he broke (injured) my wrist.
This progressed to him telling me it was my own fault for starting the fight… and he proceeded to bring up incidents where he hurt me in the past and how I caused them to happen. I kept begging him to stop, but he wouldn’t and wouldn’t. He pointed out that I was the one yelling and not him, even though I kept yelling for him to stop. I tried to cover my ears but he just spoke louder. I ended up losing it. I just threw plates, bowls, cups, on the floor. He then emotionally abused me during his manic episode triggered by this for 3 days to punish me for the way I acted over being tickled. No matter how much I apologized it wouldn’t end.
I’m in therapy and it’s been focused on me not reacting while he gets help for his mental issues. How can I control being triggered to the point of no return? I don’t want to be the abusive one breaking things because I can’t regulate my emotions. Any time something triggers me and I have an emotional reaction it triggers a bipolar episode for him. I need to be okay.
As a side note I have talked to him about ways to respond if my ptsd is triggered, but he’s not willing to be supportive. He says that my ptsd is my issue to deal with and I need to do what’s needed to calm myself down. He’s not the one triggering me on purpose, so I need to look at his intentions and manage my own feelings. If I can’t do that he said I can move out. I’m a stay at home mom of two and I don’t have anywhere to go.

Hp envy x360 laptop.
Well last night I think I checked my Pc Health Manager app or whatever it's called and saw there was a pending update to the system bios. I clicked on it so it would update, but it didn't do it immediately and I didn't know why (maybe i had to restart the computer?) Either way, I ignore it and later fall asleep. I wake up this morning, turn my laptop on, and there's a screen saying it's updating and verifying the bios files, I'm like, ok, and wait for it to finish. I thought this was because of me choosing to update the system bios yesterday. But after the update it just went to a screen asking for a Bitlocker recovery key. Now I have no idea what to do. As stated this is Windows 10 Home, but the screen clearly says Bitlocker recovery key. This is an Hp envy x360. I didn't remember being prompted for somewhere to save any key. I didn't have a Microsoft account until literally a few days ago when I had to make one for an online class I'm taking. There is no key saved in my microsoft account. I've never logged into a microsoft account on this windows pc. I don't use Office, I prefer Google.
Updating the system bios is the only thing I remember doing yesterday that could have something to do with it. I just thought it was a normal update, like a windows update, never expected to be locked out of my pc... And as I said I'm supposed to be taking an online course right now, I absolutely need my laptop and can't afford a new one. It is much too difficult to try to do my classwork from my phone.
I've googled so much and people keep saying windows 10 home doesn't have bitlocker, yet it's apparently a "well known problem" (which one forum member stated) that Dell and HP laptops will install it automatically, even on windows Home? I have no idea what to do. I can't disable bitlocker with command prompt, system restore is saying i have no backups likely because it cant access the C: since it's locked. Does anybody have ANY last tips or tricks at all before I have to suck it up and just delete all my data and reinstall windows (which i dont even know how to do)?
There is one thing though. During a brief stint in college I was given a school ID to be used to login to Outlook. I wonder if a recovery key could be associated with that email address but i dont go to that school anymore and school accounts and passwords expire after a certain amount of time. Trying to use it on live.com says the email account doesn't exist.

I haven't played much SOT in the past year or so but jumped in about a week ago with a goal to get a guild going with some friends. Last night (maybe our third time with the three of us playing.) We set out with my new guild ship (a brig)to just do some simple quests and get into the swing of things. While we were all goofing off digging treasure on an island and I hear my buddies yelling as a sloop comes into my view on the other side of the island-
"HES ON OUR SHIP. THERE IS SOMEONE ON OUR SHIP" "WHAT DO YOU MEAN" "HE IS ON OUR SHIP LOOK!" And a third voice chimes in "IM FRIENDLY, PLEASE, IM FRIENDLY, I SWEAR" "YOU DONT LOOK VERY FRIENDLY UP IN OUR SHIP LIKE THAT"
Now I don't know about you all but I NEVER trust a friendly pirate right away so I drop and run back to the shop and hear the strange pirate telling his story, in short- two friends were playing on their sloop and allied with another ship, the other ship ran with them until it was time to cash out and tried to sink them. They won the fight but obviously did not appreciate the betrayal so they were going to give us all of their stuff before they got off so we could have a better shot at defending ourselves should they come messing with us.
We chatted for a bit and the one sloop member logged off and the other asked if we wanted to do some of the achievements.( Think the Zipline, blowing people off with the horn etc.) So we did and even ended up making an alliance with them and playing for another few hours doing shipwrecks and skeleton ships. We had 4 skeleton ships in succession WITH a meg. We fought a frisky galleon and won all of them. It was honestly one of the most enjoyable nights I've had playing SOT ever.
I just wanted to say that there are some great pirates out there. Thanks to the random pirates that made our night so much more fun! Don't be afraid to make allies, but first make sure you can fight!

i was diagnosed with gHSV2 a few years ago. i contracted it from my ex-partner who had a budding cold sore on his lip that i was unaware of. when i started getting a fever and feeling the tingly/itchy pain, i was devastated. it was the most painful thing that had ever happened to me. i was convinced i was dirty and unlovable, and that i’d have constant outbreaks for the rest of my life. i thought no one would ever want to have sex with me again. i came to this reddit thread and doomscrolled.
it can be hard when you’re first diagnosed, or when you’re feeling emotional. it’s painful, it’s a learning curve, the butt of jokes in lots of media, and people who have experienced it are ashamed so they don’t talk about it.
but here’s the deal. 75% of adults have HSV of some kind. when not having an outbreak, chance of transmission is extremely low. when you have an outbreak, there are signs that mean you should proceed with caution and protect yourself and your sexual partner(s). or if oral, people you kiss, share drinks with, etc.
if personal anecdotes are comforting, know that every single disclosure i’ve had has gone so well. i’ve shared facts and information based on research i’ve done, explained my personal history, and remained calm and positive. no one has turned down sex with me or made me feel gross. and if they did, i would accept it, encourage them to do more research on herpes in America/the world, and move on.
since i contracted HSV2 in 2021, i’ve had the initial outbreak and three more. i used to take medication but it made me really dizzy so i stopped (and an outbreak once a year is better than headrushes every single time i stand up, imo) they’ve all happened in the spring, almost a year apart. i believe the first one was triggered by stress, as i was moving and had a lot going on in life, and the other two seem to be the time of year when i start spending way more time outside in sunlight in the spring, after the inside months of winter. im not a scientist, but that’s my speculation.
yes, it’s a bummer when i outbreak. i won’t lie and say it doesn’t make me emotional when i first find them. i don’t like being in pain! but they are WAY better now than the first outbreak, way less sores and always go away within a week.
my main takeaway is that we should talk about this more so people know how to approach both genital and oral cold sores—aka be aware and careful when you’re having an outbreak!
if you have a recent diagnosis, things will be okay. do your own research, stay calm, and treat yourself with kindness.

Where to even start with this one. I promise you it’s not even what you think.
My Dad has been ill for many years with a condition that is now finally stable. He’s had a couple of horrible other conditions running alongside the original, one of which was pretty damn gruesome and still gives me PTSD dreams. There were a fair few surprise trips to the emergency room to get that one under wraps but we managed to get it settled down with the correct medication.
He was generally fine day-to-day, but anything serious that needed to be dealt with he struggled with which left me managing all his medical correspondence and financial affairs went through me for the past 5 or 6 years since he couldn’t mentally cope with any of it and there was me who could step in for him other than the nurses who still attend his house once a day even now since he can’t manage his own medication.
We had quite a good relationship, he’d come over for coffee and chats and would watch silly TV with me, show interest in my life and included me in his hobbies. We spoke a lot on the phone and things generally ticked along quite nicely in between medical problems.
Enter: The girlfriend.
I’ll start by saying I’m not in any way opposed to him having a girlfriend or partner at all. I even helped him do online dating for a little bit since he felt he wanted to get back on the scene after recovering. He met his now girlfriend through friends and ever since she’s been around him things have been off between us. She was living with her long term ex partner and was seeing my Dad at the same time, before leaving him and moving in “unofficially” with my Dad.
I expressed concerns about this situation and have been branded the bad guy, and am being seen as “attacking” him and having a problem with her. I’ve never met this woman. How could I dislike someone I’ve never met? I’m morally opposed to cheating and felt it was my right to say I didn’t agree but I have never once said I had anything against his actual girlfriend, only the decisions she’s made. I tried to be tactical and gentle in my approach as well but this was met with defensiveness and aggression.
I’ve spent the last few years trying my best to help him and sometimes making myself ill with stress because I love and care about him. He’s my Dad.
But now he doesn’t call, only tells me selective information about what he’s doing and has basically moved his girlfriend in full time after about 2 months, they’ve also booked various vacations together and he seems to be spending far more money than he has.
I feel like he has explicitly made it clear he no longer wants my help with anything and is no longer interested in my life. He no longer welcomes me into his life.
How do I get my own life back after I’ve spent so many years tending to his? I’ve had to abandon my hobbies since I had to be on call for him and make room in my life to help in his medical emergencies. I live nearby in case he needs my help, but I now find myself in a place where I’ve gone from being “on call” to no longer needed in less than a couple of months.
How do I adjust to this and rediscover who I am outside of all this mess, so so can start living for myself again?
TL;DR: I spent many years caring for my ill father who struggled with medication and treatment. I did my best and we became close and talked a lot. Now he has a new girlfriend who he has moved in after 2 months and he’s pretty much stopped talking to me. How do I adjust to this jarring change in my life?

That was a joke. I know math is not useless, but I’m looking for channels like Arvin ash https://youtu.be/UoLglpqmOr0?si=Yy7HZkk49L_OK8j8
Because:
had he just made that video with pure math, then it would have come off as “schizophrenic nonsense”, equal to when you see a guy scribbling complex sentences in their walls because their minds are working to rapidly.
That’s why I need visuals, to truly understand things. Not just “haha here’s an electron ball and a banana for reference welcome to my science channel guys”
I won’t be debating anyone. If you have nothing productive to say don’t say anything. Show me good YouTube channels with professional animations like scienceclic or that one guy who animated how an electron microscope works.
For me math is like counting each cell in a tree instead of looking at the forest itself. I’m interested in the complex nature of the forest.
Sorry I just can’t visualize mathematics. I can still do it but like. Ugh.

Here are things that I’ve done differently in the last 4 weeks:
Migraine ice cap - As soon as I wake up and before I go to bed! I do it for about 30 min each time. Even if I don’t have a headache I still do it. If I feel a headache coming I put it on right away.
ICE! -If I start feeling a migraine on a side of my head I put ice on it. I rub the ice around my eye and temple until it melts.
I started taking Vitamin D supplements ( https://www.biotechpharmacal.com/products/d3-50-50-000-iu ) -it says one capsule once a week but I do one twice a week.
I started running! I jog 2 miles 4 days out of the week.
Coffee as soon as I wake up, redbull by noon and 6 bottle of waters a day! Yes I spend most of my time in the bathroom now but it’s worth it.
Eye massager from amazon! - I usually do this like once a week for 1 hour, so far so good. Downside is that I do end up blind for 10 minutes, and it only heats up which sucks because I prefer the cold.
I also bought a nasal spray for headaches, and oxygen flavored canister from Walmart. ( I haven’t tried the nasal spray yet, but the oxygen does help me with my breathing!)
I eat more fruit now usually strawberries and pineapple.
I try to get 7-8 hours of sleep.
I don’t know if this will help any of you but I hope it does, and I hope I continue to be cluster headache free! :)

I live in Tennessee. Yesterday, my uncle and I got into a heater argument about several things that had accumulated over the past couple of days. He was mad that I took his clothes out of the dryer, that I clean the washing machine and dishwasher, that I called him and asshole, and his son overheard it, the list goes on. Multiple times during the argument, he got in my face and was spitting in it while he was talking to me. I could feel his breath on my face. I told him to back off and he said “no I’ll continue spitting in your goddamn face. What are you gonna do about it?” I warned him that I would spit back at him
Sure enough it got to that point. He got my face and spat in it one last time so I spit in his face back and from there he lunged at me, put his hand around my throat, choking me, elbowed me and threw a few punches in the face. I kicked him as hard as I could and slapped him in the face, and the fight ended by me pushing him into the table. He ripped my shirt and left marks on my neck. I also have a minor cut on the back of my right hand, but that was from his glasses. He apologized about my shirt and the scratch.
After telling my family about it, I was encouraged today call the police. I did and I showed them pictures of my injuries and the video I recorded (unbeknownst to my uncle). The officer said that they would talk to the judge and see what the judge would decide to do. The video is mostly just a blank screen and on and off muffled audio. You can see the phone fall down onto the floor and you can see my uncle in a standing position in the video. So because of how it was recorded, the police officer says that the judge may not count that as substantial enough evidence to bring about any charges. But if he does, it’s likely that we both could face charges for domestic assault, because the bottom line is it was we’re family and it happened in a family home, and we both did make physical contact with each other. Domestic violence and domestic assault policies in Tennessee are among the strictest in the country. My uncle and I have never been in any trouble with the law before.
One of the police officers requested that I email him the video and the picture, but I was not able to email him the video because the file size was too big, even though I had edited (shortened) versions of it.
Could this result in jail time for the both of us?

Hey! I’m Vincent. Writing these things isn’t really my strong suit, so I’m not exactly sure what to say here. Anyway, I’m mainly here to find people to chat with and get to know. Whether we talk for a long time or not is all good with me.
I’m up for chatting about anything and everything. You can tell me your best joke, share a picture of your pet, or send me some memes.
A few things about me: - I enjoy 🍃 - I have an undying love for tattoos - I adore dogs, especially my own - Sushi is my favorite food - I’m a big fan of horror
Looking forward to meeting you! (:

Context: I’m planning to leave my relationship, but haven’t yet.
Me and my child’s father are not married, but obviously by my phrasing we have a kid together. I cannot for the life of me remember if we signed a paternity agreement in the hospital after I gave birth or not.
If he didn’t, cool. If he did, that makes leaving even harder because he is the type to call the cops and say I kidnapped his child. (Idek if he can do that tbh but he’s the type to try)
The biggest part of leaving that is so stressful is figuring out how the hell the custody/support thing is going to work out and how I’m gonna get from FL to NJ when I haven’t had a job in over a year. I don’t have any income to pay for childcare, and his paycheck won’t cover it (I have absolutely no idea where his 70k salary goes at all. I’ve tried to budget, talk about finances, I have no clue) so I can’t go for interviews or nursing school or any other classes I’ve wanted to. I mean I can even go to the gas station without bringing my son.
I have absolutely no assets, no money, no credit, nothing to my name. I guess I’m just happy I’m getting away when I’m 21 and not 40 (no hate to anyone here, your time is your time!!). This whole thing is so stressful and it so makes you just want to stay unhappy, rather than go through all the hard to leave. I know I’ll be more successful and less stressed on my own, but that’s terrifying. After years of financial, emotional and even at times light physical abuse, I’m still okay with staying partly if it means I don’t have to go through anything hard. I feel weak, like a failure. I’m just ranting, looking for people who relate or have advice I guess because I am so lost

Hp Envy x360 laptop.
Well last night I think I checked my Pc Health Manager app or whatever it's called and saw there was a pending update to the system bios. I clicked on it so it would update, but it didn't do it immediately and I didn't know why (maybe i had to restart the computer?) Either way, I ignore it and later fall asleep. I wake up this morning, turn my laptop on, and there's a screen saying it's updating and verifying the bios files, I'm like, ok, and wait for it to finish. I thought this was because of me choosing to update the system bios yesterday. But after the update it just went to a screen asking for a Bitlocker recovery key. Now I have no idea what to do. As stated this is Windows 10 Home, but the screen clearly says Bitlocker recovery key. This is an Hp envy x360. I didn't remember being prompted for somewhere to save any key. I didn't have a Microsoft account until literally a few days ago when I had to make one for an online class I'm taking. There is no key saved in my microsoft account. I've never logged into a microsoft account on this windows pc. I don't use Office, I prefer Google.
Updating the system bios is the only thing I remember doing yesterday that could have something to do with it. I just thought it was a normal update, like a windows update, never expected to be locked out of my pc... And as I said I'm supposed to be taking an online course right now, I absolutely need my laptop and can't afford a new one. It is much too difficult to try to do my classwork from my phone.
I've googled so much and people keep saying windows 10 home doesn't have bitlocker, yet it's apparently a "well known problem" (which one forum member stated) that Dell and HP laptops will install it automatically, even on windows Home? I have no idea what to do. I can't disable bitlocker with command prompt, system restore is saying i have no backups likely because it cant access the C: since it's locked. Does anybody have ANY last tips or tricks at all before I have to suck it up and just delete all my data and reinstall windows (which i dont even know how to do)?
There is one thing though. During a brief stint in college I was given a school ID to be used to login to Outlook. I wonder if a recovery key could be associated with that email address but i dont go to that school anymore and school accounts and passwords expire after a certain amount of time. Trying to use it on live.com says the email account doesn't exist.

A little over a year ago, I decided I wanted to read Guy Gavriel Kay for the first time. I don’t know why I knew it was the right time, I just did. I had been aware of Kay’s work basically since I began reading Fantasy, probably at least a dozen years ago now, and I had always planned to read him eventually.
For some reason, however, it just felt like it was time. I’m so glad I did.
So, after reading fifteen novels in about 13 months, here are my spoiler-free (some small spoilers will be covered) thoughts on each one. If you are a GGK fan, I would love to hear your thoughts and favorites as well.
And if you’ve never read him before, I hope you will take the leap!

• The Fionavar Tapestry (1984-1986): The first thing to know about these three novels (The Summer Tree, The Wandering Fire, and The Darkest Road) is that they are not very representative of the rest of Kay’s work, which is mostly Historical Fantasy. Fionavar, however, is 100% High Portal Fantasy. It tells the story of five Canadian graduate students who are transported into a fantasy world and tasked with saving it. Many readers like to compare the series to Tolkien (largely because a young GGK famously interned with Christopher Tolkien) but I disagree. It is much more 'Narnia meets A Song of Ice and Fire'. Beautifully written, but also containing quite a lot of adult content, politics, and a heavy dose of mythology. I enjoyed it quite a bit, but if you don’t like it that does not mean you won’t like other Kay books.
• Tigana (1990): Perhaps Kay’s most famous and well-regarded novel, and also the first time he began tinkering with his now well-known style of writing a history-adjacent story. Tigana is set in a place very reminiscent of medieval Italy, where two sorcerers are battling over both the land and the hearts of the people who live there. While the writing is a step up from Fionavar, I did find it a touch over-dramatic at times, with characters that are not all as fleshed out as I would like. Where the book excels, however, is in its themes - Memory, Loss, Colonialism vs Patriotism, and more. It's fascinating and well worth your time.
• A Song for Arbonne (1992): Shifting from Kay’s most well-known novel, we now have probably his most underrated and under-discussed. A Song for Arbonne is set in a fictional version of Provence, France during the high Middle Ages and follows a feud between two dukes and two very different ways of life. This is a beautifully feminist novel (especially for 1992) and also made me love troubadours, which is not something I ever thought I would say. Highly recommended, especially in audiobook.
• The Lions of Al-Rassan (1995): My favorite Kay novel, and one I will unabashedly gush about for the rest of my life. Set in a fictional version of Spain during the Crusades, we follow three characters – a Kindath (Jewish) woman doctor, a Jaddite (Christian) military leader, and an Asharite (Muslim) Poet/Diplomat. These three very different people from very different backgrounds are thrust together amid absolute turmoil and form a bond that defies and transcends cultures. It absolutely broke my heart when I read it, but somehow also made me as hopeful as any book I had ever read before. This book is perfect. Read it.
• The Sarantine Mosaic (1998-2000): This two-part story is set in the same world as The Lions of Al-Rassan, but many centuries earlier and hundreds of miles to the east. We follow a young mosaicist named Crispin who is unexpectedly pulled from his obscure country life and tasked with traveling to Sarantium, the greatest city on Earth, to build a new cathedral for the Emperor. Along the way, he meets many incredible side characters and witnesses the empire experience huge amounts of change. This is another favorite, and is far and away Kay’s most epic story. If you like Gladiator or Spartacus, you’ll love this. Plus it has chariot races!
• The Last Light of the Sun (2004): A Viking novel set in the same world as the last two. Shares many of the same themes and ideas of the previous novels as well – people from different cultures coming face to face with modernity and changing times. It’s a very good novel, especially if you enjoy Vikings, but a step down for me.
• Ysabel (2007): Probably far and away Kay's most unique book. It’s a modern, YA novel set in Provence. We follow a young teenage Canadian boy who goes on a work trip with his photographer father and gets swept up into a mystery involving some of the artifacts and other historical sites there. This book is also loosely connected to Fionavar. I enjoyed this one more than I thought I would, but it was still a bizarre experience compared to literally everything else Kay has written.
• Under Heaven (2010): Kay now turned his sights to ancient Chinese history, specifically 8th Century Tang Dynasty. Like his other stuff, though, this is not actually historical fiction - it's set in another world with different names, etc. The son of a renowned general is given 250 prized horses as a gift for his work burying the dead from both sides of a large battle. This outlandish gift forces the young man to become embroiled in the politics of the empire and allows him to witness a startling change to his people's way of life. Lots of people LOVE this book - many even list it as their favorite of Kay's. It did not resonate with me the same way. It's very good! But not my favorite.
• River of Stars (2012): A pseudo-sequel to Under Heaven, set about 500 years later in an era largely defined by the events of that previous novel. Whereas in Under Heaven Kitai (Kay's version of China) was an up-and-coming military power, in River of Stars it has become a wealthy, arrogant cultural hub that is seemingly unaware of its instability. We follow quite a few different characters from multiple backgrounds in this one and, like so many Kay stories, get to see large events take place through the eyes of these 'small' characters. I imagine that whatever your feelings were/are for Under Heaven, you will feel mostly the same about River of Stars.
• Children of Earth and Sky (2016): Kay returned to his 'Jaddite' world for the first time since 2004 for this novel, and (for this reader at least), it was a joy! It takes place about 1,000 years after the Sarantine Mosaic, in a world where the great city of Sarantium has fallen to the Asharites and the surrounding world is trying to pick up the pieces. It's a time of a lot of upheaval and turmoil. This novel follows quite a few very diverse POV characters, which (while sometimes confusing) gives it an 'epic' feel. We have artists, traders, military leaders, sea captains, pirates, and more. While I would not necessarily suggest this as your first GGK novel, if you are a fan of the Sarantine Mosaic (and to a lesser extent, The Lions of Al-Rassan), you will find MUCH to love here.
• A Brightness Long Ago (2019): Taking place about 25 years before the events of Children of Earth and Sky, A Brightness Long Ago perfects one of Kay's most notable themes: The effect that small, 'unimportant' people can have on huge, global events. We follow a young man named Guidanio, the son of a common tailor, who is swept up into a local feud between two legendary mercenary captains. In the process, he falls in love, faces unspeakable tragedy, and eventually witnesses the fall of the greatest city on earth. What sets this book apart from other Kay novels is that it is mostly told in 1st Person POV by a much older Guidanio in the form of his life story. It is one of Kay's most intimate and best-paced books, and although I still don't think it matches Kay's peak, A Brightness Long Ago is certainly Kay's best novel of the 20th Century and proof that he is still a master of his craft. Highly recommended!
• All the Seas of the World (2022): Kay's most recent novel is both a sequel to A Brightness Long Ago, and a prequel to Children of Earth and Sky. As such, I will not go into a ton of detail but suffice it to say that if you enjoyed those two novels you will love this one. It's a separate story, but there is enough overlap and easter eggs to keep your attention. While I would not rate it higher than A Brightness Long Ago, it was once again a great read and certainly worth your time.

So there we have it! Fifteen novels in just over a year. I'm not sure binging his work is the best way to enjoy Kay, but I still had a great time and plan to reread many (if not all) of these books again someday.
Guy Gavriel Kay is a master, and his work should be cherished. I'm a fan for life!

I'm scared that I have thyroid cancer. About a few years ago in 2020, I noticed 2 lumps on the left side of my neck, which are probably lymph nodes. I also have a small, hard pea-sized lump just under my chin a few centimeters above my adam's apple, and another hard and pea sized to the left of my neck under my tonsils. They've just been there around the same time, I'd say 2021-2022 latest, and never grown in size which is the only good thing. Apart from that, they're hard and pea sized and have been there for years. Last year around Jan 2023 I noticed problems with my memory and concentration, and I feel like there's been a constant brain fog ever since. After searching and asking around I think I have thyroid cancer and I'm really scared. What if it's too late?
I'm 5'7, 63kg, white, no medications, no drinking, smoking or anything of the sort, live in the UK.
I'm really scared, please help.