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2019.07.30 01:03 successful_nothing AbusiveLPT: Life Pro Tips that make you feel bad

Life Pro Tips, idiot.
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2013.12.04 23:01 Silky__Smooth Buy, sell, swap, or give away LEGO!

Reddit's LEGO Marketplace. Advertise your LEGO products for sale, search for desired LEGO products, or make a LEGO swap with other Redditors!
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2024.05.17 03:53 tyrannosaurusrizz Tax free lifestyle for US citzien nomads

This is how to not pay any income taxes legally as a remote US based, US citizen employee
Pre requisites: - You do not make more than the FEIE max income. This is around $120,000 per year in 2023. If you made more than $120k for 2023, it would be taxed - You have a clean criminal record - You have a valid US passport - The company you work for is not established/does not conduct buisness in the country you plan to go to - Read and follow https://www.irs.gov/individuals/international-taxpayers/foreign-earned-income-exclusion
  1. Establish residency in a state that does not have income tax. This can be Washington, Texas, Nevada, New Hampshire, South Dakota, Florida, etc. You should get a state ID there, and be registered to vote there before leaving. Stay there for at least 6 months. Get a PO Box for IRS and other mail. Once your 6 month lease is almost up, request a criminal backround check certificate / pdf from the state and FBI.
  2. Apply for digital nomad type visas. I would not attempt to travel outside the USA for long periods of time before this step, as you may get denied entry or restricted entry to a country for any reason without a visa.
Countries that will not tax you and have digital nomad type of visas:
Note these visas may require a minimum income amount, or company revenue amount and the company not do biz in that country. Some digital nomad visas are cheap and some are expensive.
Iceland and Canada dont tax nomads but has a max stay of 6 months, so you will have to reside in another country listed above for the other periods of time
Completing these steps will save you $2-3k a month in taxes, depending upon where you used to live in the states. You can put that on rent in any of the countries listed above and still make more money than before.
Good luck, and safe travels!
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2024.05.16 04:58 Walker510 Need help finding a comic

I cant find a comic, I remember that there were a Storch, Star, Eule, and Kolibri in it. The Storch is saying to Star that she should have locked the door and Star responds by saying that Storch should have kept their defective Kolibri in check. In the background Eule is thinking to herself 'Storch and Kolibri, am I going to die?', there is also a kolibri in the backround too, she says to the Star that she (Star) could have killed her.
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2024.05.13 17:49 TheLostBiker TIFU by sending badly trimmed self-tape as a casting-submission

This happened two days ago, but I (24, M) just realised what have I done.
So, little backround: I'm a professionally trained drama actor, finished school last year and I'm currently experiencing how it is to be young person on the market. Basically - it's a consant uphill battle, but I'm still in the better position than most actors my age. I'm always doing something and try to move forward with my goals, but being dependant on someone is always challenging for me. I often avoid doing things I should, just because it would put me in a position where help is needed. That's why I'm post-poning making a new demo for a few months now, cause I want it to be great, but I lack certain skills and equipment to do so completely by myself. And this leads me to avoiding making a submission to one of better acting agencies, which is troubling, cause the one I'm currently a part of is not the best. Usually it's not that bad, but until last Friday there were no casting propositions from them for several weeks. Anyway, this all leads us to this story.
So, I finally got invited to a casting in a long time, first stage is self-tapes. I'm supposed to record five different videos for it: two scenes, one of them in three different takes and one new "about-me" (I'm suppose to introduce myself and talk about several hobby and work-related things, etc, but they also have more specific demands). So I record everything I'm supposed to, send them, done, I'm quite happy with some of my results.
But today I realised I had trimmed "about-me" video wrong. First time it happens, I'm usually very careful about it, but... it's not the end of the world, right? Just one short bad take before I immediately start a good one, right? Well yes, but also no. Why is it bad? Well, during recording I got an auto-message about my doctor's appointment and got distracted because of it. But it is not a reason for my TIFU.
Fun fact about me: Although I try to be as laid-back as possible and even during big fights, when other parties scream, I rarely raise my voice at people and try to solve conflits without betraying what I stand for, I can be extremely short-tempered when it comes to small things (like tripping for example). Especially when I'm by myself - when someone is near I usually say "F-ck" and I'm over it, but when I'm in my solitude I can get quite verbally-abusive towards object/item/company that aggrieved me.
And that's what happened this time. Seconds after I got a message and butched that take, I screamed at my phone: "F YOU, >NAME OF A MEDICAL CENTRE<, F-KING F YOU!", got over it, fixed my hair and started from the begininng. It all (botched introduction, losing my cool, preparing for the next take) lasted no more than 15 seconds. I was already recording for several minutes by then (there were all good takes, but I wasn't happy enough with them), so when I was suppose to trim, I just... haven't noticed that it includes that one bad take. I didn't watch full video after editing it (which is what I was alway doing until that day) and send it as a part of my submission.
Today I decided to check, if I still like that video and to my horror, embarassment and amusement, realised my big f-k-up. As far as I know, they've watched it yesterday. They basically got to see a cheery laid-back dude going ballistic for a few seconds and then starting from a beginning (and while I improvise most of things I say, the first sentence was always the same). So they probably think I'm a psycho now. Safe to say I won't get a recall, lol.
TL;DR: Send a badly trimmed video to the casting director with a first bad take where I scream "F YOU" at my phone and right after start a new, good one.
Also sorry for any grammar mistakes, I'm not a native English speaker.
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2024.05.13 04:50 themasterpodcaster Sound and Vibration shielding.

This is valuable information. However when i transfered in form my chat to my posts it took out the spaces. Would anywone be willing to put good spaces back in to fix the spelling or to provide links to the different things I mentioned. I want to see if there are TIs who have initiative I can work with and see the value of my work. I can help you with most problems TIs have but I need a lot of help in response. I can help you from a distanc e or give you cam test my shielding structure or you can even live on my land in on of my shielding structures and we can start a real resistance even this late. I have what it takes except for good help. I must have support I must have assitance or TIs will loose all the things that I can do for them and I will probably lose my life.
havnt had that problem. You could record it with a body cam or try and block the sound.The QC 25 bose and 35 QC35 bose earphones are very good at noise canceling and extremely comfortable. There $60 and $100 on ebay the last time I checked. QC 25 has only wired adn QC35 has wired or bluetooth. You can put on earplugs or noise isolating earbudds underneath. Noise isolating are like earmuff and actuallly block the sound. Noise canceling give you the perception of far less sound butt hey dont protect your ears. Putting on noise isolating earbuds underneath would let you crank the volume on the bose earphones. Put brown noise on the earphones and if you want to play video or whatever play that on the earbbudds. It might be more comfortable to use noise caneling earbuds or noise isolating earbuds with electronic earmuffs which are earmuffs that can play sound.themasterpodcaster9:21 PMPossibly it would be more comfortable to use noise canceling earbbuds with noise canceling headphones. Especially if your using earpluggs or noise isolating eabuds you can also play brown noise with speakers and the earplugs will still protect your ears. If there harrasing you with infra sound you can try using the Pure Tone Generator by sevangey or whatever. Follow the instructions for protectding your ears and put it on 40 to 80 hertz to partially drown out the near infra sound. They sometimes vibrate your body with electtro magnetic energy but TIs think its real kinetic vibrations incorrectly. If they are hitting you with real vibrations then you cam also use a app on your phone to create vibrations for massage or sex for women. It works pretty well. You can also order a $10 or $20 dollar little masssageer of amazon I expect.You can take mineral wool panels and put them in your windows easily . You could also buy sheet rock which is very cheap and is dense and screw one or two layers over the window and the mineral wool. Its good to have an absorbing layer which is the mineral wool and then the a solid layer which is the sheetrock as far as I know. You can get% mineral wool for $1 or $2 per sq ft a 2 x4 ft window is only $8 to $16.Look on amazon or ebay for the active bookshelf speakers not passive that are particulary deep and loud. Thats mostly loud enough. $80 last time i checkled on amazon. To really amp the sound you can use a acctive subwover for $100 more or something but wont work for other purposes but the deep brown noise and the pure tone generatore Im thinking.themasterpodcaster9:35 PMLook up deep brown noise on youtube. There are some much better ones then others. Look up green noise and start treck enterprise engine noise and the romulan ship engine noise.It can work well to mix in backround music or noise in with the brown noise. Have one tab open for each. You can also increase the volume of the brown nosie a lot by having two tabs open playig it. Brain entrainment works as a moderate but very clean drug. Its a ton often with backround noise. They have it for many differnt things including sleep anxiety d and focus and endorphines. Also Idosing might be more powerful than that. Hypersleep 11 is great on youtube for sleep or anxiety.When your playing videos or backround noise all day it can be it can damage your hearing much more easily then you would think. The volume thats comfortable enough for only 1 hour doesnt mean its safe to put on all day.Mineral wool is good sound shielding especially for lower frequencies such as cars. Its way better then sound shielding foam especially for low frequencies I think.If you plan to wear it all day and night then the most important thing that will detrerineine if its comfortable enough is the amount of pressure it puts on you. Iv have $3 earmuffs and b because of the low amount of pressure there much more comfortable to wear long term then ones with high pressure an gel pads. In order to make the most tolerable earmuffs look up a gel pad for a bike seat or silicoone or sorbothane.themasterpodcaster9:49 PMUsing a fan leaning against your bed exxposes you to a lot of electromagnetic vibrations which could possibly cause ALS a lethal and fast disease. Use a phone or a mini massage device to do it with a insiginificamt exposer compared to a fan I think. If you have metal fan blades you can bend them on half the fan in order to unbalence it and create much more vibratios for the same power. This would let you turn the speed down for the same vibrations. Also real low frequency noise can be strenghened by a fan in my experience. The fan magnifies the acctual soumd of it kind of.themasterpodcaster10:39 PMI would guess that sorbothane or other vibration absorbers would redduce the vibration. Put under the legs of your bed. Make sure to get the right type. The right number of DO or whatever the system is works better for low frequencies. Theres 30 to 70 on amazon. Put absorbers on that mach the amount of weight there supposed to as well. For a chair you can put down a piece of plwyood and then sorbothane aborbers adn then a second piece of plylwood. you could do could put down 2 or 3 layers of absorbers perhaps to further reduce the vibration.I have the unclear perception that the infra sound needs mass in order to transfer its energy and vibrations. So if you use air mattress or an air cushion insitead of a normal mattress it might absorb and transfer the vibrartions less well from the floor and bedframe. A steel bedframe Would be far lighter than wood so that could help to although they can use the steel to enhance the power of there electromagnetic attacks. Low frequency noise can activate a fear response from your brain. It can be a lot more than PTSD or you being senitized and responding. I think I might have read that you can distract your brain by putting on frequencies 300 to 1500 hertz. Look it up that mighrt be totallly the wrong numbers. I kimd of found that just playing 40 to 80 hertz masked it better.
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2024.05.11 16:17 Big_Prior8080 my snakes head got stuck to tape, will it be okay with the solvent i used?

my snakes head got stuck to tape, will it be okay with the solvent i used?
i used the backround shown in the pic and i put velcro strips around the entire perimeter. the tape was so strong i don't know how my little corn got it to lift up, when i put it on i checked how strong it was on and even i couldn't get it to lift. i woke up this morning and its head was stuck to the tape on the backside of the velcro, i gently tried to remove its head and remembered i have adhesive solvent that i use for my extensions so i grabbed that really fast because i was panicking and rubbed it behind its head which got my snake off quickly. i was running late for work and didnt get to check her scales so my question now is, if she has any damaged scales what do i do? and is this adhesive solvent (also shown in pics) okay for the snake? i didn't even think before grabbing the solvent i was just scared about my snake being hurt but now im at work worried about my snake.
the solvent is like a dry oil, it dries in pretty fast and it smells lightly of citrus. there's no real ingredients listed and im still a fairly new snake owner so i dont know what to do rn
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2024.05.10 22:36 Interesting_Algae989 My playstation randomly stopped working.

I was playing the last of us when my playstation suddenly showed a pop up where it said that the disk was corrupted and i should uninstall the game and restart the console. When i tried to close the application, nothing showed up to my screen. Just the backround. So i tried to restart my playstation. It took about a few minutes when i realized its taking way longer than before. Then i search up on google on how to force shut my ps4. Its turned off right now. Im going to try to boot it up.
EDIT: it's showing me that it's checking the system storage status and the percentage bar is NOT going up.
EDIT: it didn't manage to start and asked me to connect my controller with a USB cord. It's in safe mode and it says "Connect a USB storage device that contains an update file for reinstallation for version 11.50 or later. You can download the update file on playstation.com."
CAN SOMEONE HELP ME? I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHATS GOING ON
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2024.05.10 22:08 Interesting_Algae989 My playstation randomly stopped working.

I was playing the last of us when my playstation suddenly showed a pop up where it said that the disk was corrupted and i should uninstall the game and restart the console. When i tried to close the application, nothing showed up to my screen. Just the backround. So i tried to restart my playstation. It took about a few minutes when i realized its taking way longer than before. Then i search up on google on how to force shut my ps4. Its turned off right now. Im going to try to boot it up.
EDIT: it's showing me that it's checking the system storage status and the percentage bar is NOT going up.
EDIT: it didn't manage to start and asked me to connect my controller with a USB cord. It's in safe mode and it says "Connect a USB storage device that contains an update file for reinstallation for version 11.50 or later. You can download the update file on playstation.com."
CAN SOMEONE HELP ME?
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2024.05.10 15:21 WinbuzzerMaria Microsoft Word: How to Change Background Color or Picture Background

Microsoft Word: How to Change Background Color or Picture Background
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The default white background color for Microsoft Word documents provides the best level of contrast for most people. Unfortunately, it also has the tendency to blind you if you're doing some late-night text editing. In such situations, knowing how to change background color in Word or insert a custom image can be very useful. If you work in marketing or are creating a brochure, a Word background image can do a lot of the heavy lifting visually. Though they can risk looking tacky, a well-thought-out, subtle background image texture can bring a document to the next level. That said, you should bear in mind that when you add a color or background for a Word document it will apply globally. That is, every page will have the same color or design. As a result, you may want to check that it doesn't clash with the position or colors of any of your text before you proceed.
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2024.05.07 17:24 Holiday_Ad5952 I’m (24)Worried about my brother (10)

Hello everyone, bit of background - I’m (24) worried about my brother (10,4th class). I have 2 brothers aged 10 and 9. My mother got remarried when I was 13 to a lovely man. We’re a very happy family, have a culchie backround, my brothers go to school in the countryside, I live abroad but I’m going home for 5 days on Thursday. Anyways - we’ll call my older brother Sean has always had it a lot tougher then my younger brother paddy. Sean for some reason just went completely off food when he was around 2. Wouldn’t eat meat or vegetables, filled himself up on bread, cereal and sweets, and coming from a farming background where we’d eat everything and would be healthy this was alarming to us. We tried parent child groups for kids who wouldn’t eat properly, books, everything. Paddy would horse everything down absolutely no problem. I suppose in a way we would say “look paddy is eating it why won’t you try it, he’s very good”. Looking back on it now that probably wasn’t the best way to approach it. My grandmother would come over and say to Sean “sure you wouldn’t eat natn only bread” (negative way of going about it).
Now at the age of 10 my brother is skinny, but not underweight. We’ve brought him to the doctors for check ups and all that and they said he’s fine and healthy. He’s tall for his age and lanky. Paddy is nearly taller then him and broader, and he gets told that by people, obviously Sean is self conscious about this, “Sure your brothers nearly bigger then ya, it’s because you don’t eat your meat and veg!’
My mam rang me today and said that she’s after noticing that Sean’s after getting really sensitive, his eyes will fill up with tears if you even correct him on something small, his teacher rang her and said she’s noticed in school he might have a bit of anxiety(could be some part due to Covid), he has a lot of friends and he’s very loved but their at the age now where they all are picking out ‘your my best friend’ and it seems that he doesn’t have one and might feel a bit excluded.
Now here is where I started to get emotional and worried - my mam was walking into the shop with him the other day and he pointed out a poster for darkness into light and said to her ‘is that where people kill themselves?’ And my mam explained that it’s very sad that people think that’s the best option because there will always be better days and everyone has friends and family that love them very much and want them to stay.
Now I told her you better watch him and be vigilant because I see more stories lately of young kids doing that because of bullying or anything else. We monitor his online games for bullying but sure you can never be too careful?
He’s in 4th class now and I’m actually terrified for when he enters secondary school because he’ll be going into town with a load of teenagers who could bully him and make fun of him and I don’t want him to be a target for that, I just feel very helpless at the moment.
I’m going home at the weekend and. Want to have a chat with him without making anything too obvious.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated, if I didn’t explain anything clearly I can address it in the comments.
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2024.05.06 22:24 K0zzy123 ClearStar Vs HireRight Backround checks

I know Hirerights Backround check process and its pretty easy. How is ClearStars backround check? How much info do they want? Do they just want employers phone numbers to call on or do they also ask for w-2's and paystubs up front as well? Have you also done a Credit check with Clearstar? I assume they are only looking at your Personal credit history? Is there a way they can look into your employment credit history if there is such a thing?
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2024.05.06 21:17 Select_Place5432 Hurtful situation with a married couple

I am not sure what I am here for. I somehow want to share my story and get some perspectives, maybe advice.
Please excuse my english, it's not my first language. Even though I say in the following text I am the "experienced" one, I still consider myself unexperienced in being polyamorous.
Ok here it goes.
A good friend of mine told me a year ago that he and his wife decided to open their marriage. He told me this because he knew I was somewhat "into" that kinda shit and asked for advice/exchange about it. My last relationship was open but we rarely made use of that arrangement and also ended our relationship soon after that - but not because of the openness. Still I had read a lot about opening up and polyamory and talked a lot with my exboyfriend during our relationship about it and thought about it for myself. Plus my two ONS that I had during our relationships - thats how experienced I am...
I told my friend all the things I experienced about being open and what I feel about it, what he should check in with his wife and so on. I also told him that I liked the experience but casual sex without commitment would not work for me anymore. I did NOT tell him that polyamory would be the better thing for me. In the end this exchange was about his situation, not mine. Still I had a feeling that he was somewhat checking in if I would be up for more. Sneaky me told him that he and his wife should also speak about what ppl they are fine with dating: e.g. mutual friends (me). Since I wasn't sure what my feelings were about that I preferred not to directly ask him if he had some intentions towards me by bringing this up. I thought: If he makes a move than I'll have to figure it out, if he doesn't I still should figure it out in case he someday does.
I took some time to think about it and we went on for almost a year sneaking around each other. At some point I decided not to bring it up because my conclusion was: I am definitely interested in him but I also have a clear interest in keeping him as a close friend and I am frightened by what I could lose when I am still not sure if I really like him that way or if he just triggers old feelings in me for a man I was crossed in love with. I might add some backround information here. About 10 years ago I fell in love with a married man. It ended like it usually ends when you don't communicate openly. Lots of hurt feelings and in the end I got to experience what it's like to be "the other woman" - even though I really adored his wife and never wanted to have her hurt. It was then that I first got the idea of being open and welcoming to more than one person in a relationship - and open about communicating such. Still with that memory in mind I was somewhat biased about falling again for a married man (with them not having any experience in being open if not poly). I decided my fears and the uncertanties weight more than my curiosity. Still I made up my mind on what to tell him if he asks me.
Than the day came. He did not ask but he said a thing like: "well since you are not interested in me". And it just struck me. I told him that he never asked and to jump to this conclusion is unfair. I said some things about that old story of mine and how bad that ended (I told him the whole story as a friend before) and he nodded as if THIS was now a clear "no". He left somewhat uncomfortable after that. The next day I sat down and wrote him a letter telling him all my thoughts. I made clear that I am interested. That I have fears and doubts and are afraid of losing him as a friend but also are amazed by the idea of becoming even closer. I told him that the only way this would work for me was if we were allowed to be a real thing. A couple with deep feelings for each other if this is what will grow out of this. In the end you never know. I also told him that he absolutely would need to make sure his wife was up on this. She needed to know about it being me and also about being in a real relationship. And I also added that I would not be satisfied by just him telling me "she agreed" but would also want to see and talk to her myself about it. This was not about not trusting him but somewhat doubting their knowledge about this and what it really "means" making this decision. The thing about her knowing it was ME was important since we knew each other. I was at their house 3-4 times a year for a night of boardgames or such and I've known them for 6-7 years. I liked her very much and thought she's a very reasonable and reflected person. Otherwise I would have never started to think about this.
He wrote the sweetest letter back and a few days later we met again and talked about the details and if we really wanted this - we decided: yes. The next night he talked to his wife. She agreed on it. Tbh I did not see that coming and not that fast - I thought he would be more shy about it and I somehow was sure she would not agree or at least have doubts. The fact that he was so confident about it and the things he told me about their conversation gave me a really good feeling about their relationship and about us. Maybe too good. Stupid me did also not force on the "I need to talk to her myself"...
So we went on our first date. It was totally innocent (we didn't even kiss) but very intense feelingwise - we had the most wonderful and intimate hug for one hour straight. It was clear for us that this would be a great thing and we wanted to deep dive into this. The next day he texted me that she was not up for it anymore and that he is devastated and did not see that coming. I tried my best to cope and get through the day. I asked him if he could talk to her and make sure if this was an absolute thing because I wanted to be able to grieve this completely. He did and it turned out she was upset by the fact that we went to the cinema for a date. Which they didn't do for a very long time (they have 2 little children). As he told me that I somewhat calmed down. I could totally understand that feeling and thought it was understandable - though I did not agree on the abrupt decisions being made instead of communicating about their feelings first. In the end they are not experienced in this kind of thing so I asked them for talking such things more over before communicating with me. They also both agreed on spending more quality time together, going on dates and such. In fact that was a thing I also told him in my letter that I am not interested in being a hinderance for their relationship. That I would even tell him my worries if I would get the feeling that he spends "too much" time with me over his wife and that he should have quality time with her as well. God, I was even up for taking the kids or sth like that to have them spend time alone.
So I was kinda happy with this coming up now - not later and since she agreed on us dating again we went forward. But I noticed some more complicated feelings for myself when spending time with him from that time on. I felt not as safe anymore. I trusted him very much, but I felt like she could crush us at any time. It was than that I started to express through him that I would like to talk to her. She declined. I somewhat convinced myself that she is a grown up person and I should trust in her ability to know herself (I have an issue with having trust in other ppls abilities). After our third date and having slept with each other for the first time I came to the decision that I really would need that talk. It was now clear for me that I wanted to get a better feeling for my relationship with her. Even if the result of this talk would be "we don't talk". I felt that we started this off wrong (I very much blamed myself for that since I was the one with more experience on hand) and I wanted to make it up right as soon as I could.
She kept declining. According to her "we" (him and me) and our feelings for each other were just our thing, she had nothing to do with this. This was a big red flag for me. I wanted to talk about her and me, not him and me. For me everyone in this construct has a relationship with each other and denying that doesn't make it less true. He and I had the same thoughts about this. We both said this is a thing we are all in together and we should be looking for each other. I was looking for myself, for him AND for her. So was he. But she not so much. I wanted to talk to her about this and if she would not agree on that than I would have to make a decision whether I feel comfortable in such a relationship or not. To be honest - today I have the suspicion that she never considered it that way, that I might be the one not wanting this and therefore needing more information on the situation I am in.
I can't recall what exactly was the trigger but not long after our third date she backed down again. I was not so much surprised anymore but still hurt.
She said she noticed that she was not as "OK" with this as she thought she'd be and she wanted to get a councelling/therapy to find out what she needed. She also asked us to "pause" until she found out. I was somewhat ok with that since at least she was looking for a solution instead of just saying "no" and I thought asking a fourth party for help was a mature way to approach this. It also fit my side since I was about to pause this as well until she and I could talk. So I was glad she was looking for help but at the same time sad about her still refusing to talk to me (and ofc about not being able to see him anymore). My intention for such talk with her was to show her my support and offering my perspectives. Making her feel save from every direction as far as I could, but still telling her about my needs (I am a real person with real feelings and not a mistress, please treat me as such and take this into consideration when making decisions). I also wanted to draw a more clear picture for her of what I was expecting from this to give her a better ability to decide whether this felt ok for her or not. As this was the same I wanted for me: full information.
So she went on councelling alone and soon after that they went together. I don't know exactly what was going on there (it's not exactly my business) but he told me some sidenotes which made me almost throw up. The one thing that really stood out to me was she saying that she said "yes" to opening the relationship but not thinking he would really do it. Knowing that she reassured this "yes" which was actually a "no" by agreeing with us dating and the fact that she at that time even knew there was a third person involved (a person she even knows and likes) NOT taking his or my feelings in account left me in shock. As he told me this I cried in despair and felt so much betrayed. For him it was even worse, understandably. He said he was not sure how to trust in anything she says anymore.
From that point I struggled very much on being open for a talk with her. I felt much anger and disappointment and that was not the way I wanted to have such a conversation. I somewhat withdrew myself and tried to give them room to figure this out. At the same time he very much turned towards me and was seeking for connection and reassurance. He said the short time we've dated made it clear for him that this was the right way for him to live. That living poly was him, that it just felt right. For me that was great news since that was one of my fears in the beginning, that he was just "up for the ride" but not really for the whole journey. For him this was horrible though, since his wife was atm not seeing herself in an open relationship anymore or anytime from now. He started to think about what this would mean for his life. That he maybe would have to have a divorce. That he would have to leave this life that he has and to some point enjoys with his wife and his children or at least leave the family-construct they are at this time. I was very much torn in this situation. I found myself bouncing between being friends with him and being that person for each other you have feelings for. This situation also started to take control over my whole life. I had problems falling asleep, kept thinking about this the whole day, thus lacking concentration at work and since we agreed on starting this off slowly, meaning not telling anyone else at first, I wasn't able to talk about this with my friends. (I have by now) I might add I am in therapy on an eating disorder and dysthymia for quite some time now. So it really was a good thing for me to have the back-up of talking with my therapist at least. After three month of them having back and forth and me standing aside, supporting, being sometimes angry and hurt (all through phone calls with him) I finally made the decision and asked him to have a total break. I said I needed to get back to myself and also thought it might help them if we would stop talking to each other for a while. We agreed on a 2 month break and get in touch after that to see how it feels and where we stand than. From my side this was very hurtful but either way this was going from this point I knew I had to somewhat reset my relationship with him to restart whatever we would be after that.
So here we are now. One month into this break and yesterday we started texting again. I was the "weak one" but he said he was about to text my also. We agreed to have a call soon to check in if a break is still the right thing to do. To me the break pretty much helped. I regained control over my life but still found myself thinking about him all day, waiting for the break to end to see if he is alright. He also said it helped to calm down the situation and feelings but he would like us to start talk to each other again - even though he says this might just be him missing me and being afraid of losing me or drifting too far away. I'm not sure where they are at atm since we did not text that much.
Looking back at this last months and reading this text I feel like I dug my own grave. I still feel the concept of polyamory is the right thing for me and I know this can work but I doubt it will in this constellation.
Edit: I've never posted on reddit before, just a reader. But I don't get why my post and all my comments are getting downvoted. I appreciate all given answers to my post and find them as valid, kind and good advice. My Post and answers are just being honest and talking about a real thing happening to me. Why is that something you would downvote? I wouldn't mind being not voted at all since I just wanted feedback, but being downvoted for my story hurts.
UPDATE: We had our call and it was good in my opinion. I felt connected to myself again and when he talked about what happened the last month I could clearly feel and articulate what I want and need. This was what I was lacking more and more before the break.
So. They are still talking things over. They are reading a lot about attachment theory and polyamory. Going to therapy alone and together. He told me, she mitigated the "I said yes, but thought you wouldn't do it". It was partly true but not that conscious. Mostly it was her underestimating if she could handle it. It seems she is thinking very hard about this, but needs a lot of time, which I can totally understand. She also seems interested in the idea of finding someone else for herself as well. Good for her.
Well. Where are we now? We decided to not continue the break and not cut each other out of our lives. BUT: I made clear that him telling me about the "yes, but I thought you wouldn't do it" was another example of him dragging me too close into their relationship. Which was not only on him because I wanted to know this stuff and kept asking as well. We now agreed that he won't tell me details of their process anymore - only if it results in changes for me. I rephrased my need of an exchange with her but also said that I will wait. I also said that if I would never get that talk but she would at the same time agree on us dating again this would mean her not having a veto anymore and going totally parallel. Otherwise I couldn't handle this and would decline. Surprisingly he said he came to the same conclusion for himself, he doesn't want to have her a veto, no matter what.
Well. We are on close friends terms now (closer than before dating, less closer than before break). I'm confident about it but listening closely to myself if anything changes. Oh and I started looking for other poly ppl in my area, seeing one next week. I want to shift my focus away from him/them and get more ppl into my life I can talk about stuff like this.
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2024.05.06 09:53 MidoriGurinTheSalad What's a dissociative episode been like for you if your okay talking about it?

Mine was dissociation and derealization that went ongoing once every week,I've had two or three and they always come on weekends idk why but my episodes I had these delusions and hallucinations that there was something after me (I don't use drugs btw) but yeah, I thought my family wasn't real, I wasn't real and my trauma wasn't real. I had these weird hallucinations that there were these bugs after me, couldn't feel them but they were more black spotting in my vision + I was dealing with some kind of roch phobia. After my episode I got given this schizophrenic and bipolar medicine called Quetiapine but the doctor reassured me I don't have schizophrenia. Don't have bpd but I show a lot of symptoms, my dad's absent all the time and hes emotionally neglected me for years and told me it's in my head.my mom on the other hand almost got given a BPD diagnosis, she's depressed her parents aka my nan and pop re alcoholics and she stresses alot. Anyways enough backround checking but after my episode and the Quetiapine that I replaced for clonidine my moods are getting bad again and I'm getting pissed alot,along with splitting. I also have a phobia of all bugs now. That's all for now would you call it a dissociative episode or something else?
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2024.05.05 20:42 Saatana101 GSXR 750 2004 Restriction to 78kW/108hp??

Gonna go check out a 750 near me and wanted to check the backround info of the bike. Turns out it's registered to have only 78kW of power. How and why? Is there a way to remove that restriction?
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2024.05.03 22:29 111d11111 Am I missing something? I don’t think the game has clicked yet for me

I’m about 20 hours into this game, and just beat the Rom spider, now I am at Paarl, for a backround check, I’ve beaten every souls game on pc till now, most of them had really good bosses with strategies for each one, here I only fought big stuff that have attacks that take 50% of my health, every boss I’ve beaten I feel I’ve beaten by luck and not by skill, all I did was dodge and I don’t think I’ve used the parry mechanic once, and it’s a shame cause of how good it is, I am at Paarl and it’s another big beast with a big health pool that just runs around and hits me with his big hitbox, will there be any good boss soon? something that I can actually parry, all I did until now was quick step, quick step, quick step, I’m just getting tired of beating big beasts, I know it’s the lore and stuff, but I want to have actual fun, and the big tall beasts are not doing it for me.
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- The Peculiar Trial - How They Pulled It Off
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And how defense attorney Gerald Boyle even recommends disposing of key biological evidence months before the so-called trial even begins, in breach of Wisconsin law.
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The Peculiar Trial - How They Pulled It Off

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This is a shocking revelation that completely undercuts the entire narrative. How can anyone be expected to give up their constitutional rights based on documents that don't even exist? These guilty pleas were the very foundation of the case, & they're revealed to be fictitious..
The Signed Guilty Pleas Do Not Exist

- 15 Missing Social Security Death Index Records
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Upon further investigation, we've even uncovered "victims" who died as far back as 1960 and as recently as 1999 - years before and after the timeframe we were told. Plus, there are alleged "victims" who are still very much alive today.
15 Missing Social Security Death Index Records

- The Confession Contains Another Man's Social Security Number (SSN) Throughout
We have traced the identity of this other man, who kept the same SSN from 1975 to 2000. Yet he had no problem living with an alleged serial murder conviction against his SSN. Why? Because they were not real convictions. We explore the implications of this.
The Confession Contains Another Man's Social Security Number Throughout

- The Confession Was Not Taped Or Video Recorded
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The testimony of Detective Murphy has uncovered a troubling lack of proper documentation in this case.
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The Confession Was Not Taped Or Video Recorded

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Jeff Dahmer Was ACTING In His 1993 Inside Edition Show

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Verified Backround Checks Show 1 Conviction Only

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Dumpster Diving Reveals Lionel, Shari, and Joyce Dahmer Were Implicated in What Happened to Steven Hicks in 1978

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Jeff Dahmer Had Polymyositis - A Debilitating Autoimmune Condition

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2024.05.03 17:16 TheLowEndGamer Laptop dGPU suddenly disconnects

So i was just playing ETS2 as always, my game flashed while i was driving, i couldn't alt+tab nor ctrl+alt+del out of it, suddenly every app running in the backround was shut (including steam, discord and the game itself) it brought me back to the desktop after the windows peripheral connected sound it made, I check everywhere around for the NVIDIA control panel it says that my laptop isn't using the dGPU, any perma solution to this?
Specs are: Ryzen 5 4600H - GTX 1650ti 4GB - 16GB RAM (It's a Lenovo IdeaPad gaming 3 laptop)
Temporary solution: I've tried restarting my laptop and it works just fine until this problem randomly occurs
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2024.05.03 01:05 PeenooseThaThicc How do you approach asking for a raise, when your the only person who wasn't offered one?

Some more backround here as my case is abit unique , I work one of the largest law firms in my state as a paralegal/legal assistant (two similar jobs but hey, that's my title) I was hired close to 9 months ago now. I was talking to some of the other people hired around the same time as me, and I found out they all were given raises at their 6 month mark. I was told by management that my performance review for a raise was at the 1 year mark when I started. This was a lie
I was also in a car accident on Christmas eve and didn't return to work until February 1st, they gave me my "review" when I got back almost immediately. To be honest it wasn't even a "review" but a temp check to see my feeling on the company and take my feedback for training future employees. It wasn't until I got together with some of my other coworkers that I found out they also were given a chance to negotiate a raise. I know for a fact they used my car accident as grounds to not offer me a raise (I was rear ended by some drunk driver who fell asleep while I was at a red light)
Admittedly I am pissed off beyond all belief, I know I do great work, my attorneys trust me with drafting their documents in totality for them by scratch to include entire demands, whereas others will copy and paste into a firm template which the attorneys ultimately rewrite. I feel like my issue is I am not a metrics chaser, I produce results (That's the military backround in me). Also, because I can be trusted with more intensive time consuming tasks - I tend to have to work overtime to get my other work done as well (not uncommon at my job)
How do I approach this issue as I am new to this corporate juice drinking game, any and all advice is welcome. I don't want to jump ship just yet, but I feel wronged.
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2024.05.02 22:55 eatme622 I ate put a edible in my mouth 3 weeks ago ever since I've been having panic attacks.

Good afternoon all, 3 weeks ago me and my friends decided to buy some edibles. Me I had decided I would never take edibles in my life again since I've taken them before and had a major panic attack.
As a joke I decided to put one of these 50mg edibles in my mouth and left it in my mouth for around 8 minutes. (As a joke not wanting to take the edible and just spit it out) 3 hours went by and when I went to the walgreens I had the most terrifying night of my life. Even called a ambulance to check on me.
That same night I somehow summoned the courage the go to sleep again and I did.
Second day I wake up and feel totally normal and was thanking God and begged for forgiveness for what I've done.
A few hours pass that same day and the high hits me again (I started freaking out again)
Now after this a few days went by i felt totally fine a little dizzy here and there but felt fine. 3 weeks go by and now almost every day I have panic attacks, and the reason I have these panic attacks is cause I think I'm crazy.
A little more backround about myself, I've always been paranoid my entire life, I though hemmoroids was cancer and believed that for a long time and always have been paranoid prior.
So I've always been prone to paranoia.
That being said, I'm also a very frightful person. I just need some comforting has anyone been through this? Could I have ruined something?
God bless you guys.
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2024.05.02 10:37 iPatrickSwayze Please tell me you see what I see

Please tell me you see what I see
I was scrolling through this app with second hand clothes, and… At a first glance, I was like “oh the red-orange gradient ones are on a transparent background.” I had to double check to actually realize it’s not a png backround, but a carpet. 🤦🏻‍♀️ What about you, fellow graphic designers?
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2024.05.02 01:16 gopackgo123456 Applied for job and I’m confused…

Applied for part time unloading position for daytime, filled out the backround check, tax stuff etc. soon as i finish and submit asks me to pick a orientation date, now I’m confused because i thought that would be after an interview? Last step i just have an email to fill out an I-9 document with another person and says confirm hire date after that. So thats why I’m here asking lol, the orientation date is for may 13
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2024.05.02 01:07 RangeOk7728 Will a minor ticket affect me from getting hired for a backround check.

I got a ticket for improper use of a cell phone(40 dollar ticket). Will a dealership not hire me for that?
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2024.05.01 17:24 Dante_censored UAE Online scammer, this can happen to YOU too.

I bought tickets to an event through online. When I searched for that event, his website was the first to pop up and after checking it thoroughly, everything looked legit.
Bought 5 tickets from this website 2-3 months ago, still haven’t received my tickets. The event is after a month. The website said ”your tickets will be sent to you in couple of hours” After sending them email they replied ”the tickets will be sent to you no later than 2 days before the event”… doesn’t get fishier than this.
Website says the company is based in UAE. The whatsapp number is also UAE number but no response from them since 2 weeks ago.
I know it’s my fault and probably never seeing my money nor tickets again. But the thing that pisses me off is that THAT WEBSITE is still active and probably scamming hundreds of people by telling them ”you will receive your tickets 1 day before event don’t worry” and when the event is closing in they will shutdown everything and leave with the money.
Is there ANY way I can put a name or adress to this UAE phone number? If I can link their online shop or number to someone in UAE, I could stop these scammers somehow. I know police won’t give a F about this and something this complex would be way over their head.
I checked the IP of the website and it’s somewhere in russia. Their shop says ”UAE company ltd” but my programmer friend did a backround check and told me they are operating from Russia, but still they would need to have someone in UAE to provide them help.
What should I do? Any help is good
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