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2024.05.19 12:16 Idkwhatmyuserisrn AITA for unintentionally causing drama in my group
I (16 f) had a girls night at my house recently. I invited my whole friend group which all up was around 15 people. I had planned snacks, movies, dinner etc. I paid for the expenses and the cost turned out to be around $200. I was fine with it and knew I was going to have to pay some fee to have a good time with my friends.
I should also mention since the girls night was big and involved alot of people, my parents said I could host it however I wouldn’t have a birthday party later that year as they tend to struggle when accomodating people, feeling like they can’t let anything bad or anyone get hurt otherwise it’s their fault. I understand and honestly fair enough.
Anyways I had all of these things planned and fast forward to the night I had spent ages decorating, tidying, setting up and making everything look nice. Everyone showed up and at the start it was really fun. We played twister and talked about school and whatever. We eventually headed into the lounge room and started talking.
One of the girls in my group (let’s call her Marissa) has always had an issue with me. We have had arguments and disagreements before with me always ending up having to be the bigger person. One time she was talking shit about me behind my back and then when I confronted her she said that it wasn’t her fault and we just weren’t similar enough. I even ended up apologising for prying. To say the least we haven’t always been on good terms yet we finally were normal and I didn’t want to not invite her because ik that would cause a stir in the group.
We were all talking and she asks me which of my friends that are guys, don’t like her. I said I wasn’t comfortable saying that, that I thought she would go and contact them afterwards and also the wool group was there and no one needed to know nor did she have a reason. She kept begging me and calling me a gate keeping bitch so I reluctantly agreed to tell her privately in another room and if she promised to not go to them or anyone else afterwards.
She agreed and I told her. I instantly regretted my actions but said nothing as we both headed back to the lounge room. Without a second of hesitation she jumped on her phone and started texting someone.
I asked her if she was texting someone who I had told her and she said no.
I checked my phone a few minutes later and 2 of my guy friends had contacted me furious that I had said what I did. I apologised profusely because I know what I did was wrong. I then revived messages from other people in my class about what I had said (not people I had said to Marissa) and it sounded like she had completely exaggerated and twisted everything around. I was so upset. I went to go back to the lounge room and act like nothing had happened when I heard her talking shit about me. In my own home.
I stayed in my bedroom for most the night with a few girls staying with me unsure of what had happened.
School started two weeks later and Marisa was acting as if nothing had happened. I had tried to let the incident go over the break but when she started acting normal(except for giving me the cold shoulder) I was furious.
I contacted her that night demanding to know why she would break the promise she made to me and then proceed to talk about me. She left me on read so I kept sending her texts saying I wanted to work things out and if she was going to ignore me on text she couldn’t at school.
I showed up at school the next day to see her mom at the front office. I was concerned but tried not to think much of it. I was called to the deputy office later that day. The deputy told me that Marissa was saying I was harassing her and bullying her. Her evidence was screen shot of my texts that yes did involve swearing as I was angry but nothing violent. She showed them to her mum who apparently was asked by Marisa to take it up with the deputy .
I told the deputy my side of the story and luckily she believed me. Otherwise I would have been suspended or worse. I later found that those were her intentions.
This completely divided our group with majority of them siding with her as she told them I was bullying her but continently never showed them the messages. The news spread fast and now I have a bunch of people talking about me and rumours are spreading about what a horrible person I am. Sorry this was so long but AITA?
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I should also mention since the girls night was big and involved alot of people, my parents said I could host it however I wouldn’t have a birthday party later that year as they tend to struggle when accomodating people, feeling like they can’t let anything bad or anyone get hurt otherwise it’s their fault. I understand and honestly fair enough.
Anyways I had all of these things planned and fast forward to the night I had spent ages decorating, tidying, setting up and making everything look nice. Everyone showed up and at the start it was really fun. We played twister and talked about school and whatever. We eventually headed into the lounge room and started talking.
One of the girls in my group (let’s call her Marissa) has always had an issue with me. We have had arguments and disagreements before with me always ending up having to be the bigger person. One time she was talking shit about me behind my back and then when I confronted her she said that it wasn’t her fault and we just weren’t similar enough. I even ended up apologising for prying. To say the least we haven’t always been on good terms yet we finally were normal and I didn’t want to not invite her because ik that would cause a stir in the group.
We were all talking and she asks me which of my friends that are guys, don’t like her. I said I wasn’t comfortable saying that, that I thought she would go and contact them afterwards and also the wool group was there and no one needed to know nor did she have a reason. She kept begging me and calling me a gate keeping bitch so I reluctantly agreed to tell her privately in another room and if she promised to not go to them or anyone else afterwards.
She agreed and I told her. I instantly regretted my actions but said nothing as we both headed back to the lounge room. Without a second of hesitation she jumped on her phone and started texting someone.
I asked her if she was texting someone who I had told her and she said no.
I checked my phone a few minutes later and 2 of my guy friends had contacted me furious that I had said what I did. I apologised profusely because I know what I did was wrong. I then revived messages from other people in my class about what I had said (not people I had said to Marissa) and it sounded like she had completely exaggerated and twisted everything around. I was so upset. I went to go back to the lounge room and act like nothing had happened when I heard her talking shit about me. In my own home.
I stayed in my bedroom for most the night with a few girls staying with me unsure of what had happened.
School started two weeks later and Marisa was acting as if nothing had happened. I had tried to let the incident go over the break but when she started acting normal(except for giving me the cold shoulder) I was furious.
I contacted her that night demanding to know why she would break the promise she made to me and then proceed to talk about me. She left me on read so I kept sending her texts saying I wanted to work things out and if she was going to ignore me on text she couldn’t at school.
I showed up at school the next day to see her mom at the front office. I was concerned but tried not to think much of it. I was called to the deputy office later that day. The deputy told me that Marissa was saying I was harassing her and bullying her. Her evidence was screen shot of my texts that yes did involve swearing as I was angry but nothing violent. She showed them to her mum who apparently was asked by Marisa to take it up with the deputy .
I told the deputy my side of the story and luckily she believed me. Otherwise I would have been suspended or worse. I later found that those were her intentions.
This completely divided our group with majority of them siding with her as she told them I was bullying her but continently never showed them the messages. The news spread fast and now I have a bunch of people talking about me and rumours are spreading about what a horrible person I am. Sorry this was so long but AITA?
2024.05.19 12:15 CursedCroissantYo 21 [M4F] just giving this a shot
Thought I’d give this another go, Reddit isn’t exactly the most ideal place to find love lol but couldn’t hurt to throw something out there.
I’m a 21 year old guy from Texas, although I’d like to move someday possibly to another country. My hobbies include writing songs & poetry, working out, skateboarding, basketball, MMA, & watching true crime stuff & stuff about real life mysteries.
What I want in a girlfriend is someone who is loyal, I believe cheaters never deserve a second chance. Also honesty, be your true self so the love is real. But also just someone I feel a connection with, who I can have deep conversations with, be stupid with & just have fun, someone that I can support all their dreams & goals as they do the same for me.
Please don’t message me if you just want sex or get bored after a day. I’m not here for a fling, I date with the intention of being together forever
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I’m a 21 year old guy from Texas, although I’d like to move someday possibly to another country. My hobbies include writing songs & poetry, working out, skateboarding, basketball, MMA, & watching true crime stuff & stuff about real life mysteries.
What I want in a girlfriend is someone who is loyal, I believe cheaters never deserve a second chance. Also honesty, be your true self so the love is real. But also just someone I feel a connection with, who I can have deep conversations with, be stupid with & just have fun, someone that I can support all their dreams & goals as they do the same for me.
Please don’t message me if you just want sex or get bored after a day. I’m not here for a fling, I date with the intention of being together forever
2024.05.19 12:15 LemonoSharky19 Personal thoughts on the whole Yasuke situation coming from half Japanese and Chinese...
I saw someone posting their opinion a few hours ago and it did not sit well with many. I respect their thoughts but I'm going make my own in response having gathered the general feeling over here.
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- Many of my friends in Japan, even wider East Asia, don't really care whether he's a real samurai or not, but if Ubisoft is gonna be out there lying about their historical accuracy, then sorry, but Yasuke was not trained in martial arts and does not have any combat experience even if he was considered a samurai. For the clarification, being samurai does not automatically make you a bushi, a warrior. No one's mad that Ubisoft is being ahistorical. Everyone's mad that Ubisoft is claiming ahistorical things as historical.
- It's not about representation. Frankly, we don't give two shits about it in Japan. Sure the game is gonna be 99.9% Japanese, but the person who should be taking the spotlight alongside Naoe should be Japanese like Hattori Hanzo, or if we're talking a retainer, maybe Akechi Mitsuhide if they wanna stick with a historical character. If they are adamant on having a foreign character, why not a Han Chinese or a Portuguese because these culture groups have had an impact on the era at least.
- Again, we've never given any shit about boycotts or whether a company makes money or not because we have no part in that money. It's not like it's gonna directly affect us. We just shit on any company we feel deserves to be shat on so that more people are aware of the cretin that is Ubisoft.
2024.05.19 12:15 jackie_downtheline What should I do? My bf M25 and I F22 are taking a break…
I 22F and my bf 25M are currently on a break for the week. I’m doing my uni finals at the moment, and I have been a bit stressed. I noticed my bf wasn’t really talking to me the way he normally would and I asked him what’s up. He sent me a really long text detailing now he thinks we are never on the same page (1), he keeps thinking about how I read his diary (2), I called him my ex’s name by acccident (3), and he is stressed because I am frustrated about my exams (4). I’ll detail these more now.
Also, at the start of our relationship he was really anxious about us, and I helped him through it. He was also stressed about jobs, and I had helped him prep and make a new cv as I’m good at that stuff and he got job offers. In fact at one point he said to me that he thought I was with him for money. I had more in savings than him at that point and paid for things/went 50/50. I am also lined up for a higher earning job than him when I’m out of uni.
We are on a break atm until my exams are over (20may). I genuinely don’t think these are things to waste 1 year over especially when I’m gonna be out of that stressed environment soon. He replied one night to my goodnight I love you saying “love you” but only replied x last night. Am I the problem? Am I overreacting for feeling like an awful person?
My parents say he’s not treating me nicely or fairly, and my friends say that the only thing I did wrong was read his diary. I just feel like an awful person.
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- He wants kids. I met him online and told him in my profile I was strictly against kids. Recently, I have come around about that, but I am still unsure. I’m not against them but I have explained I would need to do what I want and live my life a bit and have a house and job before I could decide that. I am also a child of divorce and saw how that really affected my mum, and I explained to him how that also put me on the fence. He said he doesn’t want to be with someone for years and it feel like a “waste” if it doesn’t work out kids wise and he doesn’t wanna start dating in his 30s. Another thing is travel. I had told him I would perhaps like to travel after uni, but I am forgoing that. I said it would be nice to go away on holiday like his other friend couples do maybe once a year, but he thought that I was insinuating we MUST go this year. I explained that I wasn’t expecting him to, because he wants to save for a house (rent), and he can’t get any hols anyway. He was really silent after that as if we had “argued” and in his eyes that was an argument he brought up this week. I didn’t raise my voice at him or argue, rather said that wasn’t what I meant and explained further.
- This one is bad, I know. I was in a really bad place mentally, and I thought that something was wrong with him since he sometimes suffered from anxiety and dealing with the future. I had only read the last entry he put in and immediately after I read it I told him as I felt so guilty betraying him. I’ve apologised profusely and I’ve been going to counselling to help my own anxiety and depression. I wanna note that I’m not like that around him, it’s mainly when I’m by myself so he doesn’t really see that side of me. In the moment I was genuinely worried for him. I know it still makes what I did bad.
- This one really tears me up every day. We were playing around, and instead of saying his name in a playful annoyed way I said my exes. He immediately shut down and wouldn’t talk to me or hear me out. In fact, he kicked me out of his house. I get that what I said was not nice to hear, and upon talking to my counsellor she said it was a common thing to do, and doesn’t mean I was thinking about my ex. I wanna say that I DO NOT think about them and have blocked and deleted them from my life. In doing that however, I did begin to spend more time with my gay bestie who happens to have the same name as my ex and I happened to talk to on that day. I really believe it was a mistake and I thought he was trying to move past it but he keeps bringing it up.
- He doesn’t like to be around me when I’m stressed. When I’m frustrated, I’m not angry at him or raise my voice at him or be passive aggressive, it’s more so internalised at myself. He was offering me advice this year and feels like because I didn’t stick to a schedule to complete my uni tasks, I was ignoring him. I work last minute, it’s how I have always worked and I get great result. Not to mention, in his final uni year he was the same as me. I dont really get this argument to be honest.
Also, at the start of our relationship he was really anxious about us, and I helped him through it. He was also stressed about jobs, and I had helped him prep and make a new cv as I’m good at that stuff and he got job offers. In fact at one point he said to me that he thought I was with him for money. I had more in savings than him at that point and paid for things/went 50/50. I am also lined up for a higher earning job than him when I’m out of uni.
We are on a break atm until my exams are over (20may). I genuinely don’t think these are things to waste 1 year over especially when I’m gonna be out of that stressed environment soon. He replied one night to my goodnight I love you saying “love you” but only replied x last night. Am I the problem? Am I overreacting for feeling like an awful person?
My parents say he’s not treating me nicely or fairly, and my friends say that the only thing I did wrong was read his diary. I just feel like an awful person.
2024.05.19 12:15 TheGreatestGonzalez My "best friend" backed out of living with me after I paid a massive deposit
I have been planning on moving back to my home city after being away for around 6 years, and have still maintained an amazing friendship with someone I met in elementary school. We text every day and hang out all of the time when I am visiting home. I decided I wanted to put my roots down there so I am buying a condo.
Since I don't have any other friends in the city, who better to get accustomed to it than my best friend? I asked him if he would be interested in living with me for a cheap price given that I got a 2 bedroom condo, and he said no as he thought it could ruin our friendship. I didn't press it and went ahead with the process for buying a 1 bedroom condo.
About 1 month into the process of me going down and visiting places multiple times a week, he texted me saying he changed my mind and that he was interested. Given he said he wasn't interested before, I told him that he has to swear that he is serious, and if he was I would switch my plans back to buying a 2 bedroom place.
Eventually, about another month later, I ended up signing on a 2 bedroom place that we both liked and I put down the earnest money deposit which was multiple thousands of dollars. We hung out multiple times that week, and a few days after the last time, he texted me saying that he was no longer interested in living with me. I was extremely confused and angry as I uprooted all of my plans for this and had already put down the deposit. When I asked him why, he said it was because "the last few times we have hung out have just felt off". This made me livid as we have hung out hundreds of times and he was willing to screw me over just because of the last few times.
Granted, the last time we hung out I had gotten extremely drunk and was making idiotic Zoomer internet jokes, so I think I know what he was talking about. It's not like I had ever done this before though, and there was nothing too abrasive being said... just saying bullshit like "skibidi toilet" as I had seen it on Youtube the other day.
After I went off on him, he agreed to pay me the deposit I had already forked over, which was around half of a year's rent that I was going to charge him (which is a lot lower than he would've paid anywhere else in the city). I was grateful for this, as now the only thing I had lost was the time and effort I had put into searching for places for the past 3 months. After arguing, we have apologized and are on OK terms at the moment.
The kicker for me though is that someone who has said I was their best friend dozens of times since elementary school would have rather paid half of an entire year of rent than live with me. I valued his friendship more than any other bond I have in the world, but I don't know if I can even be more than acquaintances with someone who is making those kinds of statements with their actions.
I'm really torn up about it, and wanted to know how this would make other people feel and if they could get over it? I wish we could go back to how things were, and that's what he wants too. I don't know if I can ever see him as more than an acquaintance at this point though.
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Since I don't have any other friends in the city, who better to get accustomed to it than my best friend? I asked him if he would be interested in living with me for a cheap price given that I got a 2 bedroom condo, and he said no as he thought it could ruin our friendship. I didn't press it and went ahead with the process for buying a 1 bedroom condo.
About 1 month into the process of me going down and visiting places multiple times a week, he texted me saying he changed my mind and that he was interested. Given he said he wasn't interested before, I told him that he has to swear that he is serious, and if he was I would switch my plans back to buying a 2 bedroom place.
Eventually, about another month later, I ended up signing on a 2 bedroom place that we both liked and I put down the earnest money deposit which was multiple thousands of dollars. We hung out multiple times that week, and a few days after the last time, he texted me saying that he was no longer interested in living with me. I was extremely confused and angry as I uprooted all of my plans for this and had already put down the deposit. When I asked him why, he said it was because "the last few times we have hung out have just felt off". This made me livid as we have hung out hundreds of times and he was willing to screw me over just because of the last few times.
Granted, the last time we hung out I had gotten extremely drunk and was making idiotic Zoomer internet jokes, so I think I know what he was talking about. It's not like I had ever done this before though, and there was nothing too abrasive being said... just saying bullshit like "skibidi toilet" as I had seen it on Youtube the other day.
After I went off on him, he agreed to pay me the deposit I had already forked over, which was around half of a year's rent that I was going to charge him (which is a lot lower than he would've paid anywhere else in the city). I was grateful for this, as now the only thing I had lost was the time and effort I had put into searching for places for the past 3 months. After arguing, we have apologized and are on OK terms at the moment.
The kicker for me though is that someone who has said I was their best friend dozens of times since elementary school would have rather paid half of an entire year of rent than live with me. I valued his friendship more than any other bond I have in the world, but I don't know if I can even be more than acquaintances with someone who is making those kinds of statements with their actions.
I'm really torn up about it, and wanted to know how this would make other people feel and if they could get over it? I wish we could go back to how things were, and that's what he wants too. I don't know if I can ever see him as more than an acquaintance at this point though.
2024.05.19 12:14 funlol3 How I Keep My Car Insurance Rates as Low as Possible
What's up Panda's?
As someone who's always looking to save a buck wherever possible, I've spent quite a bit of time figuring out how to keep my car insurance rates low. I thought I’d share my strategies with you all, so here's everything I do to make sure I’m not overpaying for car insurance:
What are your tips for keeping car insurance costs down? Let’s share and help each other out!
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As someone who's always looking to save a buck wherever possible, I've spent quite a bit of time figuring out how to keep my car insurance rates low. I thought I’d share my strategies with you all, so here's everything I do to make sure I’m not overpaying for car insurance:
- Shop Around Annually: Insurance rates vary widely between companies. Each year, I take some time to compare rates from different insurers to ensure I'm getting the best deal. It's surprising how much you can save by just shopping around!
- Bundle Policies: I've bundled my car insurance with my homeowner’s insurance. Most insurers offer a significant discount for multiple policies. It simplifies my payments too!
- Maintain a Good Credit Score: Many people don't realize that your credit score can affect your insurance rates. I keep my credit score high by paying bills on time and keeping my credit utilization low.
- Drive Safely: This one might be obvious, but avoiding accidents and traffic violations keeps my insurance rates down. Insurers often offer discounts for good drivers, so it pays to drive cautiously.
- Use a Higher Deductible: Opting for a higher deductible can significantly lower your premiums. I make sure I have enough saved to cover the deductible in case of an accident.
- Take Advantage of Discounts: I always ask about discounts. Many companies offer reductions for things like anti-theft devices, being a good student, or even for driving a low number of miles each year.
- Drive a Less Expensive Car: High-end cars are more expensive to insure. I stick to models that are cheaper to repair and aren’t targeted as often by thieves.
- Review My Coverage: I regularly review my coverage to make sure it's not more than I need. For example, older cars might not need comprehensive coverage if they're not worth much.
- Attend Defensive Driving Courses: Some insurers offer a discount if you complete an approved defensive driving course. Plus, it’s a great way to brush up on safe driving techniques.
- Stay Informed: I keep myself updated on any changes in the insurance industry that might affect my rates, such as new laws or changes in technology.
What are your tips for keeping car insurance costs down? Let’s share and help each other out!
2024.05.19 12:14 Alexandher_6969 Griefer Warning (PS)
 | Good evening, I’m not one to post at all about stuff like this, or to Reddit in general, but since Bethesda does not care enough about their players at all in regards to griefing in game breaking ways; I am here to warn everyone of these four people. Today while I was playing with my lady, I came back to my camp getting bombarded by another player who put his camp as humanely possible close to my camp. His camp was just a structure loaded with missile turrets, and his friends would aggro those turrets, and hide in my house while they blew it sky high. While I was away doing a public event, my lady informed me of what happened, and I messaged “ShadowWalker6611”, and asked why did he do it. All he said was that they are apart of HMA, and that my house did not hold up to the standards. Mind you, after my home was done, they went around doing the same thing to everyone else in the lobby. I even followed them to see what they were doing. Luckily my lady hid her camp by despawning by activating a blank 2nd camp. Another thing they did that I am warning of; is that they were shooting me and others with a syringer that was killing us after about 30 seconds passed or so. This sucks, and I know it has been an ongoing problem thanks to Bethesda’s neglect when it comes to fixing bugs that allow for things like this to happen. Even when someone has pacifist mode enabled. If anyone sees these pathetic people, please be wary, and take cautionary measures. Mind you, I never even interacted with this group of griefers at all, even while doing public events. As soon as they hit all the camps they could, they left. I’m sorry for my rant, and I’m sorry for posting this. This makes me really upset, and I wish I had the ability to dox them, or retaliate some how. May everyone have a swell day/evening. submitted by Alexandher_6969 to Fallout [link] [comments] |
2024.05.19 12:13 heyyyitsjess_ my experience with streamers of all sizes, as a streamer~ an inspired rant from seeing a friends tweet: "When people show you who they are PLEASE BELIEVE THEM."
There will probs be more posts like this in time. Only bc I refuse to be silenced by "Cancel Culture" or "Blacklisting"
Streaming has shown me a completely different kind of evil people and almost all of them preach kindness and inclusivity while “protecting their communities” publicly but privately is a whole different animal.Once, as a baby streamer I went to one of those preachy kinda streamers who I thought was actually a pretty good friend cuz she said she loved me so much she called me her sister. I thought I was safe to confess the sensitive information that I had been excessively cyberstalked and sexually harassed by someone in the community, not that I wanted them to do anything about it but i wanted them to know why that person may be yelling his version of events to anyone that will listen when I inevitably have to ban him. At the time i did not know this person was a frienemy but when the time was right for them, they used that sensitive info to hurt me and made the man who sexually harassed me & cyber stalked me their mod, even tho they knew he went as far as threatening to kill me if I wasn’t his friend. Others on twitter came forward shortly after saying he’s done this before. AND on top of that, that same frienemy added their other streamer buddy who was more well connected with other streamers AND MODS as her mod too and he was actually the first out of everyone to victim blame me for being harassed, stalked, and threatened w\o asking for proof. When he found out I had proof, he lied to others saying I bullied the poor guy I banned and accused. He then confidently smear campaigned me (failed) on Twitter back then just because I wanted a public apology. This streamemod combo conman later became a very loud mod to the guy who publicly announced my cancellation and without a doubt in my opinion was one of the ones pushing him to do it.
THEN there's the kinds of “safe space acceptance of all” assholes that team up with the above assholes
These guys within themselves have a tight inner circle of people all groomed to be loyal (people that owe the leader something out of admiration for being helped through a life event-for example needing money for Christmas for your kids, money to stop a house being foreclosed on, money for whatever. OR false promises of success and support on twitch through various means) These kind of people love raising money for private causes and not actual charities to play hero to suffering individuals they raised the money for-so people feel indebted to them. These same streamers also have no problem only coming back to streaming to ask for personal donations to help them in their time of "need" literal days before a huge St Judes Community fundraiser event. Ponder that as you will.
They use their loyal gophers to stalk, bully & blacklists anyone thats makes them feel disobeyed, threatened, envious, or bitter. They even go against their own, people there aren’t allowed to have differing opinions because anything different than the leaders is “disrespectful” and personal slight towards them. Those people usually slowly get pushed unless they redeem themselves or give up dirt on someone on the watch list.
& to the people who courageously leave bc it becomes creepy finding out how fucked the inner workings really are, People like me, become public enemy #1. You all know what happened there and if you dont, comment and ill tell you about "The Great Cancelation of HeyyyitJess" fucking cringe bro im really not that important lmao
ANYWAY These kinda streamers use their loyals to pressure other creators or threaten to take their numbers away if they refuse to obey or stop being friends with someone they want deplatformed. Yes, I said Deplatformed. They do this so they don’t catch the fall when the truth comes out how fucked up this behavior is. They have an almost onion layered shield around them taking the full brunt of it all. If called out they could say something like "Those were my mods who conspired with those other people to plan a scandal, not me, but im sorry this is happening to you. Mistakes were made." or "I was not threatening to take your viewership, support, relevancy or friends away, that was my mods who i have no control over. Mistakes were made" \)keeps all mods and rewards them*
ALLEGEDLY 😂 these are my personal experience of what ive witnessed or others who have come forward but i could be a big fat liar guys its up to you who knows i might think im jesus too and think i can become the irl sailor moon or little mermaid lol its not funny but bc its so ridiculous its hard not to laugh.**
I DIGRESS-But u know who does end up getting the fall? The streamer who they convinced enough to make a declaration LIVE ON STREAM March 21st 2024 for the first 45 minutes of stream (vod is still up and ill link it-if its taken down i have it recorded and saved per legal advice Paskaroni's March 21st 2024 VOD Rule #1 Stream. • QotD) **(assuming he is talking about me bc ik he was and so does everyone else) that im-**in not exact words but close-a bully, toxic, and he declared me and my 3 friends a danger to the whole community so in his words we were and are now “DEAD” in the community...In my POV, He said that not once but twice giggling with glee basically as he told the community to flame me out bc I apparently don’t deserve to be on Twitch, have success, friends, or a platform etc and that he knows the community is strong enough to make this happen. He then seemingly encouraged people to DM him to find out who he was talking about because he had no problem sharing all the names in order to get rid of the filth of the community. Also went on bragging that at CONs they all talk about us bad people and share notes with everyone to protect the whole website from us bullies (ooooo im so scary with my truth and autistic personality that seeks justice)
I want to draw more attention to the fact that the streamer said this ALL WITHOUT PROOF. & admitted on his own accord and free will ALL BY HIMSELF there was no proof, that there were alot of screenshots from the haters that didnt say much but that he wanted to give HIS 12 hater friends the benefit of the doubt even though he always saw me as a wonderfully positive part of the community. I guess I suddenly wasnt considered a friend which is oh so convenient. Not even considered enough so to get the same benefit of the doubt let alone a conversation in general. I wouldve happily handed over the link to the 5GB file of VODS, others testimonies via calls and VALID screenshots as well as a list of other peoples info who are willing to be CREDIBLE references that witnessed events as well but NOOOOO im too scary for that. Sorry tho guys I guess im not as evil as you all think i am especially not enough to go through with suing most of their asses like my lawyer wanted. And im poor as fuck so that should mean alot.
So back at it, now, who did him wrong? In my experience the kinda cult communities that do this bullshit is easy to spot once you know what this looks like. They manipulate people, and they dont discriminate, their prey could even be the most well meaning streamers- like the one who fell victim this time. (I'm very heartbroken that that streamer i linked did that to me live and essentially had hundreds of people leaving me hate dms, threatening me, threatening my friends, friends of friends, and stream leaders, but i still am mature enough to know he is a victim too in a way).
The problematic predatory streamers or communities like the ones responsible for this dumpster fire are usually the ones preaching and over amplifying positive vibes, safe space, inclusiveness, encouragement, acceptance, enabling etc bc they are a “close knit gamers of chosen family” or even the infamous kinda things some people say unironically “were totally not a cult-those people are cults OMG do you see how toxic...THAT STREAMER IS FAKE AF she is alllllll makeup look at and her simps. She's not even a good streamer or gamer she just has her simps play for her” seeing people saying that publicly on any platform seriously is......BIG RED FLAG oh and unfotunately get used to all the toxic men getting away with everything. sad but true. then you have me over here who gets cancelled for breathing wrong. Its apart of life and i hate it. SO HERE WE ARE
BASICALLY notice if you join one of these kind of communities see how fast you can pick up on mean girl behavior. itll be obvious. (Ive seen both cult themes vary in a dark silly way but the worst I have seen is a cult theme disguised as a form of DnD themed video game religion-both sinister af imo) like these people straight up have calculated religious church or temple themed community roles like The Archpriest, Highest Priestess, Acolytes, Initiates, "so in so's" whipping boy etc.
But yeah those total MotherMarys & JesusTheHealer's that own those kinda communities totally would NEVER abuse their connections or false appearance of power to start a witch hunt of cruel lies towards an ex inner circle member who walked away. Nah it couldn’t be that they would only do that just bc they were paranoid and guilty of what little ol me or whoever knows like...idk....their unmasked personal life behaviors and actions. Nah. Couldnt be them.
All in all....Ill never understand what the point of witch hunting and manipulating creators to shield you or get them to do your dirty work is, bc it will always come to light. None of it logically makes sense on a healthy level and people will realize that it sure does seem like peeps have alot to hide or cover up EHH? 🫎
Or maybe not. Walking away peacefully and minding your own business apparently now justifies a witch hunt cyberbully party based on lies no one even attempted to confront me about. So that being said youre fucked either way. BE CAREFUL ON TWITCH lol
Id be surprised if i dont get attack comments on this. <-says this cuz now they won’t but a few passive aggressive ones won’t resist the urge for sure. Its always the ones that seem the kindest but also the loudest about how kind they are. Just something to consider.
2024.05.19 12:12 makeitcool My dumb happiness about FNV (warning: wall of text)
https://imgur.com/a/XjF1lju Potato quality because phone cam on a steam deck.
(Let me know if this doesn't fit the sub. I'll get rid of it.)
I know this will sound so dumb but here goes.
Being a gamer has been a big part of my identity. I don't mean like "serious/tryhard/completionist" kind of way but literally someone who enjoys video games and spends hours and hours playing them.
I had a very serious breakup in 2019 and the person worked in the gaming industry. Along with that, an unrelated breakdown, and chronic clinical depression, something made me stop playing video games. The game I used to get so excited about, I couldn't play anymore because it reminded me of him. The rest, I played on and off but became exhausting. I only played certain games but they were very repetitive and pretty much required zero thinking. I did it so I could do something without feeling depressed. Playing games generally became a chore. This used to be unthinkable. Again I know this sounds strange and dumb: the fact that I no longer enjoyed playing video games upset me a lot. It was who I am. I was like, is this it? I'm old now so gaming isn't fun anymore?
A couple of weeks ago, I began playing Fallout New Vegas because my fiancee really wanted me to try it and also because I've always liked the poster of the Lonesome Road dlc. I'm in love. I know Fallout is in no way a niche game, but I never thought I'd get behind a post apocalyptic setting, and I'm loving it. I love looking up wikis to understand the history, lore, weapon stats... And fanart and memes. This is one game I want to delve into endlessly to leave nothing behind.
Big shoutout to my fiancee for convincing me to play the game. But he really needs to cool it with "TIME TO PLAY f3 NOW" because I'm not done with FNV yet.
If you've made it this far, thanks for reading my silly story.
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(Let me know if this doesn't fit the sub. I'll get rid of it.)
I know this will sound so dumb but here goes.
Being a gamer has been a big part of my identity. I don't mean like "serious/tryhard/completionist" kind of way but literally someone who enjoys video games and spends hours and hours playing them.
I had a very serious breakup in 2019 and the person worked in the gaming industry. Along with that, an unrelated breakdown, and chronic clinical depression, something made me stop playing video games. The game I used to get so excited about, I couldn't play anymore because it reminded me of him. The rest, I played on and off but became exhausting. I only played certain games but they were very repetitive and pretty much required zero thinking. I did it so I could do something without feeling depressed. Playing games generally became a chore. This used to be unthinkable. Again I know this sounds strange and dumb: the fact that I no longer enjoyed playing video games upset me a lot. It was who I am. I was like, is this it? I'm old now so gaming isn't fun anymore?
A couple of weeks ago, I began playing Fallout New Vegas because my fiancee really wanted me to try it and also because I've always liked the poster of the Lonesome Road dlc. I'm in love. I know Fallout is in no way a niche game, but I never thought I'd get behind a post apocalyptic setting, and I'm loving it. I love looking up wikis to understand the history, lore, weapon stats... And fanart and memes. This is one game I want to delve into endlessly to leave nothing behind.
Big shoutout to my fiancee for convincing me to play the game. But he really needs to cool it with "TIME TO PLAY f3 NOW" because I'm not done with FNV yet.
If you've made it this far, thanks for reading my silly story.
2024.05.19 12:11 Humpadingle My (34M) GF (32F) can’t decide what she wants, is it over?
I(34m) have been with my partner (31f) for a little over 11 happy years now, 1 year ago we decided to take the plunge and leave our jobs to spend a year travelling South East Asia and Australia.
Perhaps naive to the fact that we would be spending 24/7 together and the implications that could cause over time, we set off and we’ve had an incredible time away and made some truly amazing memories together.
So where did it start to go wrong. 7 months into our adventure, some friends of my partner were in the same country as us, naturally she wanted to spend time with them on her own, so off she went whilst I spent a few days solo. Over the course of the time apart we had no contact. It’s not out of the ordinary for us to not message or call a lot when apart, but we would always check in at least once a day, although this time nothing from her. We’ve been together long enough now for me to have developed a ‘sixth sense’ to when something didn’t feel right between us, and it was sounding the alarms.
When I caught up to her 4 days later we went for lunch together, I asked if there was anything she wanted to talk to me about. To which her responses were ‘I’m not sure I really know who I am anymore’ , ‘I’m not sure if this relationship is what I want’ , ‘I don’t know what I want’ and that a lot of the books she had been reading recently were resonating with her and she wasn’t sure if she wanted to be on her own.
I asked if there was anything I could do to help her, that I understood that there may not be an answer right now, and that this isn’t something that could be ‘analysed’ and the broken part fixed.
For context, leading up to this conversation, I had no idea that she was having doubts, when we went our separate ways a few days previous it was normal day for us.
So for the next 8 weeks I gave her space where I could, and I invested a lot of time working on myself, we were joined by close friends for 8 weeks so we were able to spend time with them and not be on top of each other. I figured that travelling together for so long was starting to take its toll on our relationship, I have an incredibly busy life at home and we would spend 1 day together a week and possibly a couple of evenings. So i tried my best to give her the space I thought she needed.
Things improved dramatically, we were (as far as I could tell) the best we’d been in years, but 5 weeks later, she told me that she still wasn’t happy and still felt exactly the same… this time I asked her if there was someone else, I knew her ex bf was in the country but didn’t say anything to her about it as I was sure that I was making myself paranoid. She told me that wasn’t the case, and that she wanted to go to Australia to see her best friend in the hope that she may then get some space to figure things out. Around an hour after this conversation, I was alone in our hotel room, struggling to process everything and incredibly sad. My partner walked into the room, hugged me, and then initiated us sleeping together, first thing the following morning she did exactly the same thing. So naturally my head was a war zone of mixed signals.
So we went to Oz, I dropped her with her friend and went off to spend a week by myself again, this time though I really didn’t have a good time, I was an anxious mess and wanted to pack the whole trip up and go home. We met up later that week and I expressed my feelings about how we were doing the ‘space’ and that I was considering going home early alone as I would be happier doing it there. She apologised that I had felt that way and told me to not leave.
We are now 2 weeks past that conversation, in Malaysia now and about to head home in 3 days. Last night I decided to bring up to our relationship and how she was feeling. She told me that she STILL wants more space. So we are spending another week apart maybe longer, when we land.
She has yet to make any plans with going back to work, no plans with where she will be staying, and no real intentions of giving me any idea of where I stand anymore.
I want to treat this return home as a fresh start, time to save for a mortgage, time to consider the idea of kids - but I am terrified of bringing anything of this up with her as I have absolutely no idea if she is even committed to being together.
The last 3 months this has been going on has made me quite unwell mentally, have I enjoyed my time travelling during these 3 months, no, not particularly…I spend my time wondering if I should walk away, take the time to work on myself and then put myself back out there and find someone that reciprocates the life ambitions I have.
I feel incredibly confused a great deal of the time, and I would appreciate some advice/opinions.
Thank you
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Perhaps naive to the fact that we would be spending 24/7 together and the implications that could cause over time, we set off and we’ve had an incredible time away and made some truly amazing memories together.
So where did it start to go wrong. 7 months into our adventure, some friends of my partner were in the same country as us, naturally she wanted to spend time with them on her own, so off she went whilst I spent a few days solo. Over the course of the time apart we had no contact. It’s not out of the ordinary for us to not message or call a lot when apart, but we would always check in at least once a day, although this time nothing from her. We’ve been together long enough now for me to have developed a ‘sixth sense’ to when something didn’t feel right between us, and it was sounding the alarms.
When I caught up to her 4 days later we went for lunch together, I asked if there was anything she wanted to talk to me about. To which her responses were ‘I’m not sure I really know who I am anymore’ , ‘I’m not sure if this relationship is what I want’ , ‘I don’t know what I want’ and that a lot of the books she had been reading recently were resonating with her and she wasn’t sure if she wanted to be on her own.
I asked if there was anything I could do to help her, that I understood that there may not be an answer right now, and that this isn’t something that could be ‘analysed’ and the broken part fixed.
For context, leading up to this conversation, I had no idea that she was having doubts, when we went our separate ways a few days previous it was normal day for us.
So for the next 8 weeks I gave her space where I could, and I invested a lot of time working on myself, we were joined by close friends for 8 weeks so we were able to spend time with them and not be on top of each other. I figured that travelling together for so long was starting to take its toll on our relationship, I have an incredibly busy life at home and we would spend 1 day together a week and possibly a couple of evenings. So i tried my best to give her the space I thought she needed.
Things improved dramatically, we were (as far as I could tell) the best we’d been in years, but 5 weeks later, she told me that she still wasn’t happy and still felt exactly the same… this time I asked her if there was someone else, I knew her ex bf was in the country but didn’t say anything to her about it as I was sure that I was making myself paranoid. She told me that wasn’t the case, and that she wanted to go to Australia to see her best friend in the hope that she may then get some space to figure things out. Around an hour after this conversation, I was alone in our hotel room, struggling to process everything and incredibly sad. My partner walked into the room, hugged me, and then initiated us sleeping together, first thing the following morning she did exactly the same thing. So naturally my head was a war zone of mixed signals.
So we went to Oz, I dropped her with her friend and went off to spend a week by myself again, this time though I really didn’t have a good time, I was an anxious mess and wanted to pack the whole trip up and go home. We met up later that week and I expressed my feelings about how we were doing the ‘space’ and that I was considering going home early alone as I would be happier doing it there. She apologised that I had felt that way and told me to not leave.
We are now 2 weeks past that conversation, in Malaysia now and about to head home in 3 days. Last night I decided to bring up to our relationship and how she was feeling. She told me that she STILL wants more space. So we are spending another week apart maybe longer, when we land.
She has yet to make any plans with going back to work, no plans with where she will be staying, and no real intentions of giving me any idea of where I stand anymore.
I want to treat this return home as a fresh start, time to save for a mortgage, time to consider the idea of kids - but I am terrified of bringing anything of this up with her as I have absolutely no idea if she is even committed to being together.
The last 3 months this has been going on has made me quite unwell mentally, have I enjoyed my time travelling during these 3 months, no, not particularly…I spend my time wondering if I should walk away, take the time to work on myself and then put myself back out there and find someone that reciprocates the life ambitions I have.
I feel incredibly confused a great deal of the time, and I would appreciate some advice/opinions.
Thank you
2024.05.19 12:11 thebestdudeonearth I'm balding
Hello. I'm shaking as I'm typing this now. I have no one else to tell, honestly. I'm balding.
I'm 19 and a girl. I've always had 'thin/fine' hair, but I'm pretty sure I'm straight up balding now. People have been commenting on my hair for the past year. I think I just have bad hygiene habits and eat unhealthily, which affects my physical appearance.
I was washing my hair earlier and a lot came out. I'm losing my hair and I don't know what to do. I don't want to tell my parents about it because they'll only make fun of me, and probably make me do some remedy that's gonna lead to nothing. I'm penniless so I also can't go out and buy any product to alleviate it at least a bit. So much hair was falling out that I stopped mid-wash as I'm scared massaging my scalp will cause more hair to fall out.
My thinning hair is so obvious now. I can't go out without a hat. I don't even want to take my hat off inside the house. I'm so devastated right now because I thought maybe today would be a good day... I was planning to go out and walk.
Please don't tell me to talk to my parents or my mom. They're mad at me right now (for other reasons) and are also threathening to kick me out.
I'm 19 and a girl and I'm balding.
Ps. I apparently can't post on most other subs so I'm throwing this out here.
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I'm 19 and a girl. I've always had 'thin/fine' hair, but I'm pretty sure I'm straight up balding now. People have been commenting on my hair for the past year. I think I just have bad hygiene habits and eat unhealthily, which affects my physical appearance.
I was washing my hair earlier and a lot came out. I'm losing my hair and I don't know what to do. I don't want to tell my parents about it because they'll only make fun of me, and probably make me do some remedy that's gonna lead to nothing. I'm penniless so I also can't go out and buy any product to alleviate it at least a bit. So much hair was falling out that I stopped mid-wash as I'm scared massaging my scalp will cause more hair to fall out.
My thinning hair is so obvious now. I can't go out without a hat. I don't even want to take my hat off inside the house. I'm so devastated right now because I thought maybe today would be a good day... I was planning to go out and walk.
Please don't tell me to talk to my parents or my mom. They're mad at me right now (for other reasons) and are also threathening to kick me out.
I'm 19 and a girl and I'm balding.
Ps. I apparently can't post on most other subs so I'm throwing this out here.
2024.05.19 12:11 ConsequenceSure3063 Best Carhartt Work Boots Mens
 | submitted by ConsequenceSure3063 to u/ConsequenceSure3063 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/bw1y7v63yc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e90df6e64dc41304fa5a8e897df4f283c35f3b9e Welcome to our roundup of the best Carhartt Work Boots Mens for the hardworking and dedicated individual. From rugged terrain to long work hours, our selection of Carhartt Work Boots Mens caters to all your needs. Get ready to experience the ultimate combination of durability, comfort, and style that Carhartt Work Boots Mens has to offer. The Top 19 Best Carhartt Work Boots Mens
Reviews🔗Carhartt Ground Force Waterproof Work Boots: Comfort, Protection, and Stylehttps://preview.redd.it/cifkfyv3yc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9b6ef9e2ec091f93ed8076fc4a8182036b534713 I had the chance to try out the Carhartt 6" Ground Force Composite Toe Waterproof Boots in Men's Brown, and I must say, they have been quite an experience. These boots are designed for those working in tough environments, and they definitely live up to that expectation. The first thing I noticed was how comfortable the Insite technology footbed is. I was able to wear these boots for long hours without any foot fatigue. It was great to be able to focus on my job without being bothered by my feet. However, there were a couple of drawbacks that I couldn't quite shake off. The boots felt a bit heavy, and the ankle support could be more effective. Additionally, some reviewers mentioned they had problems with the boots not being waterproof, which is a major concern for those working in wet conditions. Despite the cons, I must say that the Ground Force boots are a game-changer for those looking for comfort and durability in their work boots. They are well-designed, and the features like the FastDry lining and EVA midsole really make a difference. Overall, the Carhartt Ground Force Composite Toe Waterproof Boots are a solid choice for anyone looking for a reliable, comfortable work boot. Just be prepared for a bit of adjustment time as you get used to the fit and feel of these boots. 🔗Stylish Carhartt Work Boots with Wheat-tanned Leather and Rubber Outsoleshttps://preview.redd.it/axigy1f4yc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=68d2c83a51c569ca8f26c8d3fdfc44091969b680 When I wore the Carhartt Wedge Boots for the first time, I immediately noticed the soft, unlined casual upper that felt comfortable from the start. The stylish wheat oil-tanned leather uppers were perfect for both work and casual settings. However, the lack of arch support made my heels feel like they were on fire by the end of the day. Despite the cushioned foam footbed and good-looking design, the footbed didn't offer the best fit for my wide feet. Overall, the slip-resistant Goodyear welt construction and wicking lining made it a suitable choice for construction and landscaping situations, but the comfort level left something to be desired. 🔗Carhartt Men's 6-inch Waterproof Moc Toe Wedge Work Boots Black 10.5Mhttps://preview.redd.it/7fpsd5m4yc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d497360fa19c8554a553499ccb393186aa1c2751 I've been wearing these Carhartt work boots for about a month now, and I must say, they've really made an impact on my daily work routine. The leather is top-notch, and I appreciate the Storm Defender membrane that keeps my feet nice and dry even on those damp workdays. One of the features that stood out to me is the dual-density rubber sole - it's incredibly comfortable, and I find myself walking more confidently on uneven surfaces. The Goodyear welt construction is another highlight, ensuring that these boots will last for a long time, even with the occasional accidental bump. That being said, there were a couple of downsides to these work boots. The break-in period was a bit longer than expected, but once they fit comfortably, it was all worth it. Another minor issue was the size - I usually wear a 10, but I found that these boots ran a bit big, so I had to go for a smaller size. Overall, I'm quite pleased with my Carhartt work boots. They're a durable and comfortable choice for long hours on the job, and I feel more confident wearing them on the construction site. I hope more people can experience the benefits of these boots, just like I have. 🔗High-Performance Carhartt Waterproof Work Boot for Menhttps://preview.redd.it/pb5s4vw4yc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=527c9d624b7eb799cbdcd180770bcfa9e5945a83 I recently got these Carhartt Waterproof Soft Toe Hiker Boots, also known as the FP5070-M ones, and they've been a game-changer in my outdoor activities. One of the features that stood out to me was the Vibram Arctic Grip outsole for superior traction in wet and on ice. As someone who spends a lot of time in slippery environments, this came in handy on a recent hike where I had to cross a narrow bridge over a fast-moving river. The olive nubuck leather and high abrasion resistant 1260D material was also impressive. I couldn't help but notice how resistant these boots have been to scratches and wear, especially after a particularly rough day at work. The waterproof and breathable membrane worked exceptionally well too, keeping my feet dry even when I had to wade through knee-deep water in a swamp. However, there were a couple of cons that I noticed. Firstly, they fit a bit snugly, so it was a bit of a struggle getting them on and off. But overall, the benefits outweighed the minor inconvenience. Secondly, I found them to be a little warm during the summer days. But considering they're waterproof and offer great support, it's a trade-off I'm willing to make. All in all, these boots are a solid investment if you're looking for reliable, comfortable footwear to take on rugged terrains or challenging outdoor activities. The combination of style, durability, and comfort makes these boots perfect for both work and play. 🔗Carhartt Men's Brown Waterproof Work Boot with Steel Toe Protectionhttps://preview.redd.it/e5h1ysg5yc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=40409c5a1ee92b84e152b6850d292f2753dbde34 I recently started using the Carhartt Men's 6" Brown Waterproof Work Boots, and I'm quite impressed by their performance so far. The first thing that stood out to me was the leather upper – it seems durable and looks sleek. But the true test came when I encountered wet and damp conditions at work. The Storm Defender waterproof and breathable membrane really kept my feet cozy and dry, which was a huge relief. I also appreciated the FastDry lining, as it wicked away sweat and moisture, keeping me fresh throughout the day. The cushioned insole was a game-changer, providing support, comfort, and reducing foot fatigue. However, there was a downside to the break-in period. The boot initially felt a bit stiff, which made it uncomfortable to wear for long periods. But that's a common issue with work boots, and I expected it. Another thing I noticed was the potential for stitching issues, as one customer had mentioned. I'll keep an eye on that, but so far, so good. Overall, I'm happy with my purchase, and I'm looking forward to putting these boots through their paces in various work conditions. 🔗Carhartt Work Boot - Rugged Design, Durable Protection, ASTM Certifiedhttps://preview.redd.it/2jla0bm5yc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=004ac68c2dded48a0e007b5dd84d1cb04491bcb9 For years, I've been on the hunt for a rugged and comfortable pair of work boots that can withstand the test of time, both on and off the job site. After trying out several pairs, I finally stumbled upon a winner: the Carhartt Men's Rugged Flex Steel Toe Work Boot. The first thing that caught my attention was the brown leather, paired with the Carstrong durable reinforced fabric that protects against wear and tear without being excessively heavy. The boots' FastDry technology lining is a game-changer for me, as I tend to sweat quite a bit in the heels of my footwear. One of the standout features of this pair of boots is the composite toe that protects against both impact and compression hazards, ensuring I am always safe on the job site. The rubber heel bumper provides extra stability and protection, while the EVA midsole with cushioned polyurethane insole offers great support and shock absorbance - something my feet appreciate after long hours on my feet. The Rugged Flex rubber outsole not only offers durable traction but also keeps me feeling flexible, enhancing my overall comfort while I'm at work. However, there have been a couple of cons worth mentioning. For instance, the boots took a bit more time than I would've liked to break in properly, which disrupted my workflow for a few days. Additionally, the FastDry lining didn't seem to work as effectively as it should have, leaving me with sweaty feet at the end of the day. Despite these minor setbacks, I have found the Carhartt Men's Rugged Flex Steel Toe Work Boot to be a reliable and comfortable choice for those seeking top-notch work boots. The pros undeniably outweigh the cons, making these boots a worthy investment for anyone looking for durability, protection, and comfort in their footwear. 🔗Carhartt Men's 6-inch Work Boots: Oil-tanned Leather and Rubber Outsolehttps://preview.redd.it/id49gd36yc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c1a1381e10cf71763a2abd08181be278217c7453 These Carhartt work boots have become a staple in my daily life. The leather upper and rubber outsole make for a durable and reliable footwear option. I was a bit skeptical about the removable insole, but it provides great cushioning and support. The fit is true to size, and the boots have a nice, snug feel around the foot. One issue I did encounter is the tongue stitching. It gets in the way of putting my foot in the boot, which is a bit inconvenient. Also, I've noticed the FastDry lining doesn't do much to control odor, so I have to clean them more often than I'd like. Despite those minor drawbacks, the boots have held up well during my day-to-day activities. The removable insole is a great feature and adds to the overall comfort of the boots. 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It's a versatile and functional boot, perfect for those who want the comfort and flexibility of sneakers, combined with the support and durability you'd expect from a top-notch work boot. 🔗Carhartt Men's Work Boot: Rugged, Waterproof, and Protectivehttps://preview.redd.it/icbitty6yc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=663ca55f6eee0ea91460a4afc93d89e9b447af73 Recently, I had the chance to try out a pair of Carhartt Men's Rugged Flex 6-Inch Waterproof Steel Toe Work Boots in brown. In terms of durability, these boots truly lived up to their promise. The oil-tanned leather and reinforced fabric provided a long-lasting wear that I appreciated as I went about my daily work tasks. The lace closure was a great feature, giving me a more secure and custom fit, which was important to me as I was often on my feet for long periods of time. One of the standout features for me was the FastDry lining, which helped wick away sweat and fight odors. 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As he starts his day, he heads out into his construction project, walking on earthy and rocky surfaces, his boots standing up to the test. However, after some time, he notices his soles are starting to crack and peel - a clear sign that these boots aren't as sturdy or durable as he thought they were. The boots he bought 18 months ago should be in good shape by now, but they're not. He wonders about the boot's durability and if it's worth the investment. He also expresses his dissatisfaction with the customer service. He reached out to the company multiple times but received no response. It seems like the brand isn't as committed to its customers as it claims to be with its products. Overall, he appreciates the comfortable features of the Carhartt Ground Force Men's 6" Waterproof Composite Toe Work Boot. However, the concerns about the boots' durability and the lack of customer support cast a long shadow over his experience with the product. Would he buy these boots again? 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2024.05.19 12:11 MeatJordan Where CAN I protest this?
Let me start with the summary version:
It all began when I first stumbled upon Inside Edition's videos of women - that's WOMEN getting slammed, insulted, and blasted for "showing too much of their body (with kids around)". Then it escalates further when they show a school is photoshopping out women's cleavages to make them look "modest" for their yearbook. I feel this type of treatment towards the female human is all wrong! Like, can't anybody learn to appreciate and look at the female body without censoring it in any way? Can't you let ANYBODY, including kids, get a chance to learn about the differences between the male and female human bodies????
Then comes along... you guessed it. That one video Inside Edition publishes. And after seeing her top blurred, my inner voice in my head: "That's the last straw!" Like, can't some of us get a chance to learn something new that just aroused our curiosity? Such as how the human body changes with time in terms of both genders? Like, now, I can finally visualize myself (my whole body) from little boy to fully grown man. But when Inside Edition published that footage, the new question that took me by storm is: what would a female look like from little girl to fully grown woman?
But with YouTube's broken comment system GHOSTING certain-to-random comments, even on my backup YouTube account, I can't seem to get ANY messages across!
Speaking of which, when I tried to post this on Feminism and AskFeminists, they BOTH perma-banned me for NO REASON and muted me from talking to their mods for 28 days!
Why do I say "no reason"?
"Hello, You have been permanently banned from participating in this subreddit because your post violates this community's rules. You won't be able to post or comment, but you can still view and subscribe to it.
If you have a question regarding your ban, you can contact the moderator team by replying to this message.
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As you can see, there is no specific reason listed in the message above. So this is why I claim or what I mean by "banned from a sub for 'no reason'. - Even for something that was never officially listed on that sub's rule board.
Once more, I, along with these parents of their own daughter proved one major point: if a male can go topless/show their body, then so can a female - regardless of age!
Can't I get a chance to learn something new? Some evolution/development processes for certain things can be a little more complicated then you originally first thought.
Now here's the detailed version:
Ok, before you start reading below, I want you to visit this and read the whole article to better understand my situation: https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/kitchener-waterloo/guelph-parents-angry-after-topless-girl-8-told-to-cover-up-1.3124762
I got banned from Lemmy social site servers for "CSAM" all because of this: the Napalm Girl pic and another thing I saw on Inside Edition's channel in addition to some nude statues - literally artwork of naked people - all because I was trying to protest ~the inconsistencies of censorship towards the female human~ - regardless of their race AND age!
Let me be clear on one thing: I didn't post any "CSAM" on the Lemmy servers! I'm protesting something that I feel is unfair towards the female human.
Please ~actually watch these before jumping to conclusions~ so you can actually understand what I’m really protesting!
Women Who Were Told Their Outfits Were ‘Too Revealing’
Mom Says She Was Kicked Out of Gym For Revealing Tank Top: I Felt Humiliated
Cops Dragged Woman Off Beach After Complaint About Her Bikini
It’s one thing to say a girl’s outfit or body is “too revealing”,
Teens React After Yearbook Photos Are ‘Modesty Edited’
it’s two things to photoshop out a girl’s cleavage to make her look “modest” for a yearbook or a portrait!
9-Year-Old Saves Family From House Fire
But censoring a topless preteen girl who thought up an ingenious strategy to stay cool like her friends in the same stuffy room while at the same time not caring who’s around her? THAT’S REALLY CROSSING THE LINE!
It's all thanks to some videos from Inside Edition's YouTube Channel.All these videos Inside Edition posted are developing a question in my mind that's getting the better of me: why so much hate on the female human - even as children? Like, why do they censor the little girl's chest? Can't anybody learn to appreciate the appearance of the female body? Just like those parents of their own 8 year old daughter, I too am genuinely outraged by this type of treatment towards the female human!
And what's the big deal with nipples? I'm just trying to ensure everyone is treated equally regardless of race, and gender... AND age (after what I just witnessed). And if no one's gonna speak up about this, I might as well step up to the plate. After all, somebody's got to do it!
That little girl in the final video made two non-verbal messages clear: one: if a boy can do it, then so can a girl! And two: no one is too young for anything! As long as you have the knowledge capacity and I.Q level to do it properly and safely, you'll be fine. I was able to refuel my dad's car and cook my own dinner when I was 6 and without setting anything ablaze by accident.
However, when I try to illustrate with that video, even though Inside Edition is an official news channel, the responses I get back are rather bitter! They remove my post or ban me from the sites I post on for "promoting nudity involving a minor"!
~WHERE~
~CAN~
~I~
~ASK~
~OR~
~SHARE~
~THIS~
~SUBJECT?!~
Due to my autism, I only know basic English. So I need to illustrate to get most of my messages through. I thought hard, I tried, and low and behold, they were removed hours later mainly because they "didn't fit the subject of the forum". Even though my multi-subject based thread does have some material relating to this forum's topic. These sites and mods are all really stretching my problem solving skills beyond the breaking point for this one. I'm merely protesting with these pictures and videos as illustration. I'm not that good with words, so I need pictures to get half my messages across as noted above.
Many subreddits or forum sites don’t accept URLs, pictures, specific website URLs, or even a combination! Thereby hindering my ability to fully explain what I’m witnessing! In this case, the sentences “It’s one thing to say a girl’s outfit is ‘too revealing’, it’s two things to photoshop out a girl’s cleavage to make her look ‘modest’ for a yearbook.” actually corresponded to several videos I beared witness to on Inside Edition’s YouTube channel.
I actually tried to post that URL with that blurred 9yo girl in a subreddit in the past and you won’t believe this: I actually lost my reddit account for 2 days for “promoting nudity involving a minor”! Other sites like the adult video forums who accept uncensored nudity-based images I mentioned just delete my thread! Another site I recall banned me for 1 year for “spam” - even though I only made this protest post twice (after they removed it once).
So that meant I had to approach this from a different angle: after that experience, I got a little paranoid from using that said video URL to illustrate. So I tried explaining this protest without the URLs - and this is in conjunction with certain sites restricting my ability to post images, URLs, certain site URLs, or a combination. It seemed to end up making things worse! Because without the visual evidence, it makes it much harder to fully explain what I’m witnessing.
So without the URLs included - that visual illustration, on the sites I tried along with Lemmy World, it actually made things worse! That’s what lead Lemmy.World mods to ban me for life for “CSAM” or made other people think I watched child porn when I clearly didn’t. The lack of visual evidence (due to my past reddit experience combined with the site’s posting restrictions) is what lead to this “pedophile” confusion. So please help me talk some sense into the Lemmings world, Lemmy.ml, and Lemmy.world mods that this was all a major misunderstanding and Lemmy is pretty much the only reddit alternative out here where I can try asking another question. My attempt to appeal has failed on 3 Lemmy social sites - even after I tried notifying the mods on the third Lemmy server site before making the post, so I need your help now!
I felt after Inside Edition uploaded that blurred 9yo girl video… I thought to myself “That’s the last straw!” Someone needs to protest these absurd censorship laws that they apply to the female human!
Why can males show most of their body but females can’t? - In most cases that is? Whatever happened to "Free The Nipple"?
Children should have the same… rights to do things as any adult! It’s about possessing the knowledge capacity and I.Q level to safely execute this action. E.G, on those “Family Day” episodes of The Price is Right and Let’s Make a Deal; those kids made smart choices when picking the correct numbers to items to win a prize.
I’m not joking around here! This type of treatment towards the female human needs to stop - this includes race and age. - It’s like racist people, but in age form.
Does it look like I’m laughing for fun? Of course not! Since no one else is protesting this, and YouTube has a flawed comment moderating system hindering my ability to post on even random videos (I.E, "ghosting"), I have to take more drastic measures to protest by stepping up to the plate and shouting out “Can’t we all be equal in terms of a huge variety of traits?” Yeah, the last thing I need is a vein-bleeding broken-record robot impeding or hindering my ability to seek answers to a question!
We need to learn to appreciate or accept how the female body appears regardless of race and age!
Stop trying to blame it all on me! None of the stuff in the vids posted, is that. If it was, Inside Edition would be the guilty party, and Youtube for not having already deleted them. If it doesn’t violate Youtube’s TOS, it should be fine to post anywhere. If there was even a hint of impropriety to it, at the minimum the vid would have been age restricted.
No one would answer! Not even Inside Edition themselves were willing to offer an answer when I even found their email address, the sites dedicated to helping those in mental, suicidal, or emotional distress (those forum sites even PERMA-banned me for "spam" - that's right, SPAM! (Even though there was absolutely no mention of a permanent ban or rule about "spam" in their forum guidelines!) Is that the definition of "spam" when I make a bad thread only once?! And when I try to appeal the ban, the same message "please contact the administrator if it was done in error" is blocking my ability to click the contact button! Or sometimes it's a blank white page with that message in the top left corner of the window! - Which adds more insult to injury, because I can't click anything as all the buttons have disappeared! That means I can't log out of that site either!), OR the adult video forums that support uncensored nudity images would accept that video link URL let alone the entire topic itself! So I really am at a loss for thoughts and words on what I just experienced! Heck, I even tried the professional therapists of talkingforchange.ca But even they too were too reluctant to talk as they claim my post regarding the censorship of women is not for their platform and they disconnected the chat 2 seconds after their last reply to me. And I highly doubt that ANY site will allow me to illustrate with a picture of the Napalm Girl (Phan Thi Kim Phuc) when she was 9, certain pictures of Pampers diaper boxes (why do you think they (Pampers, Huggies, etc.) even allow a pic of a topless little boy or girl to be plastered on a diaper box we see in grocery stores/supermarkets everyday?), Leela when she was an infant in the episode Leela's Homeworld, or even Belgium's famous kids: Manneken Pis/Jeanneke Pis. That, combined with YouTube having a flawed comment moderating system hindering my ability to post comments on certain-to-random videos (I.E, "ghosting"), I'm forced to take more drastic measures to get my messages across. All this combined, ~I'VE NEVER FELT SO SHUNNED FROM THE INTERNET IN ALL MY LIFE!~
But here's a strange catch: sometimes on some sites, Napalm Girl is censored, other sites she isn't. So I felt that I need to protest this. It seems everyone is too chicken to even start this subject! Don't these numbskulls know not to judge a book by it's cover?! This is where I ask myself "NOW WHAT?!". This can't be one of those "exceptional" cases where they say "suicide never solves anything" doesn't apply to these types of situations. In other words, all hope for resolving these types of situations really is lost. I really do feel left in the dark on both the subject of sound effects and nudity!
Once more, I'm not being a ped, I'm protesting all these absurd censorship rules and regulations that revolve around the female human - regardless of race and age - after what Inside Edition posted. Watch the videos I found again for clarification. In other words, ~the inconsistencies of female human censorship~.
Can you really - you know, hurl insults at Inside Edition or blast them for what they did? It was their idea to publicly publish the footage. Just like how that one photographer made the choice to publicly publish footage of the Napalm Girl when she was 9 and completely nude. Therefore, it should be ok to share this footage anywhere.
But some areas censored Napalm Girl's nipples, but others did not - excluding her groin. Then there's the diaper boxes I found in any supermarket. And finally... Surprise surprise: typical women being scolded by other people for wearing something "inappropriate" or "showing too much of their body". I look around and since no one else is protesting about this, I might as well do it! After all, someone's gotta step up to the plate to hit that ball! I will not sit idling by the sidelines and continue to watch the female human get treated/censored like this! I will stand up, step up, and speak out towards these absurd reactions, rules, and regulations that revolve around the appearance and censorship of the female body! What about the famous Jeanneke Pis in Belgium? Do you think she along with other nude statues are trying to promote pedophilia?
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It all began when I first stumbled upon Inside Edition's videos of women - that's WOMEN getting slammed, insulted, and blasted for "showing too much of their body (with kids around)". Then it escalates further when they show a school is photoshopping out women's cleavages to make them look "modest" for their yearbook. I feel this type of treatment towards the female human is all wrong! Like, can't anybody learn to appreciate and look at the female body without censoring it in any way? Can't you let ANYBODY, including kids, get a chance to learn about the differences between the male and female human bodies????
Then comes along... you guessed it. That one video Inside Edition publishes. And after seeing her top blurred, my inner voice in my head: "That's the last straw!" Like, can't some of us get a chance to learn something new that just aroused our curiosity? Such as how the human body changes with time in terms of both genders? Like, now, I can finally visualize myself (my whole body) from little boy to fully grown man. But when Inside Edition published that footage, the new question that took me by storm is: what would a female look like from little girl to fully grown woman?
But with YouTube's broken comment system GHOSTING certain-to-random comments, even on my backup YouTube account, I can't seem to get ANY messages across!
Speaking of which, when I tried to post this on Feminism and AskFeminists, they BOTH perma-banned me for NO REASON and muted me from talking to their mods for 28 days!
Why do I say "no reason"?
"Hello, You have been permanently banned from participating in this subreddit because your post violates this community's rules. You won't be able to post or comment, but you can still view and subscribe to it.
If you have a question regarding your ban, you can contact the moderator team by replying to this message.
Reminder from the Reddit staff: If you use another account to circumvent this subreddit ban, that will be considered a violation of the Content Policy and can result in your account being suspended from the site as a whole."
As you can see, there is no specific reason listed in the message above. So this is why I claim or what I mean by "banned from a sub for 'no reason'. - Even for something that was never officially listed on that sub's rule board.
Once more, I, along with these parents of their own daughter proved one major point: if a male can go topless/show their body, then so can a female - regardless of age!
Can't I get a chance to learn something new? Some evolution/development processes for certain things can be a little more complicated then you originally first thought.
Now here's the detailed version:
Ok, before you start reading below, I want you to visit this and read the whole article to better understand my situation: https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/kitchener-waterloo/guelph-parents-angry-after-topless-girl-8-told-to-cover-up-1.3124762
I got banned from Lemmy social site servers for "CSAM" all because of this: the Napalm Girl pic and another thing I saw on Inside Edition's channel in addition to some nude statues - literally artwork of naked people - all because I was trying to protest ~the inconsistencies of censorship towards the female human~ - regardless of their race AND age!
Let me be clear on one thing: I didn't post any "CSAM" on the Lemmy servers! I'm protesting something that I feel is unfair towards the female human.
Please ~actually watch these before jumping to conclusions~ so you can actually understand what I’m really protesting!
Women Who Were Told Their Outfits Were ‘Too Revealing’
Mom Says She Was Kicked Out of Gym For Revealing Tank Top: I Felt Humiliated
Cops Dragged Woman Off Beach After Complaint About Her Bikini
It’s one thing to say a girl’s outfit or body is “too revealing”,
Teens React After Yearbook Photos Are ‘Modesty Edited’
it’s two things to photoshop out a girl’s cleavage to make her look “modest” for a yearbook or a portrait!
9-Year-Old Saves Family From House Fire
But censoring a topless preteen girl who thought up an ingenious strategy to stay cool like her friends in the same stuffy room while at the same time not caring who’s around her? THAT’S REALLY CROSSING THE LINE!
It's all thanks to some videos from Inside Edition's YouTube Channel.All these videos Inside Edition posted are developing a question in my mind that's getting the better of me: why so much hate on the female human - even as children? Like, why do they censor the little girl's chest? Can't anybody learn to appreciate the appearance of the female body? Just like those parents of their own 8 year old daughter, I too am genuinely outraged by this type of treatment towards the female human!
And what's the big deal with nipples? I'm just trying to ensure everyone is treated equally regardless of race, and gender... AND age (after what I just witnessed). And if no one's gonna speak up about this, I might as well step up to the plate. After all, somebody's got to do it!
That little girl in the final video made two non-verbal messages clear: one: if a boy can do it, then so can a girl! And two: no one is too young for anything! As long as you have the knowledge capacity and I.Q level to do it properly and safely, you'll be fine. I was able to refuel my dad's car and cook my own dinner when I was 6 and without setting anything ablaze by accident.
However, when I try to illustrate with that video, even though Inside Edition is an official news channel, the responses I get back are rather bitter! They remove my post or ban me from the sites I post on for "promoting nudity involving a minor"!
~WHERE~
~CAN~
~I~
~ASK~
~OR~
~SHARE~
~THIS~
~SUBJECT?!~
Due to my autism, I only know basic English. So I need to illustrate to get most of my messages through. I thought hard, I tried, and low and behold, they were removed hours later mainly because they "didn't fit the subject of the forum". Even though my multi-subject based thread does have some material relating to this forum's topic. These sites and mods are all really stretching my problem solving skills beyond the breaking point for this one. I'm merely protesting with these pictures and videos as illustration. I'm not that good with words, so I need pictures to get half my messages across as noted above.
Many subreddits or forum sites don’t accept URLs, pictures, specific website URLs, or even a combination! Thereby hindering my ability to fully explain what I’m witnessing! In this case, the sentences “It’s one thing to say a girl’s outfit is ‘too revealing’, it’s two things to photoshop out a girl’s cleavage to make her look ‘modest’ for a yearbook.” actually corresponded to several videos I beared witness to on Inside Edition’s YouTube channel.
I actually tried to post that URL with that blurred 9yo girl in a subreddit in the past and you won’t believe this: I actually lost my reddit account for 2 days for “promoting nudity involving a minor”! Other sites like the adult video forums who accept uncensored nudity-based images I mentioned just delete my thread! Another site I recall banned me for 1 year for “spam” - even though I only made this protest post twice (after they removed it once).
So that meant I had to approach this from a different angle: after that experience, I got a little paranoid from using that said video URL to illustrate. So I tried explaining this protest without the URLs - and this is in conjunction with certain sites restricting my ability to post images, URLs, certain site URLs, or a combination. It seemed to end up making things worse! Because without the visual evidence, it makes it much harder to fully explain what I’m witnessing.
So without the URLs included - that visual illustration, on the sites I tried along with Lemmy World, it actually made things worse! That’s what lead Lemmy.World mods to ban me for life for “CSAM” or made other people think I watched child porn when I clearly didn’t. The lack of visual evidence (due to my past reddit experience combined with the site’s posting restrictions) is what lead to this “pedophile” confusion. So please help me talk some sense into the Lemmings world, Lemmy.ml, and Lemmy.world mods that this was all a major misunderstanding and Lemmy is pretty much the only reddit alternative out here where I can try asking another question. My attempt to appeal has failed on 3 Lemmy social sites - even after I tried notifying the mods on the third Lemmy server site before making the post, so I need your help now!
I felt after Inside Edition uploaded that blurred 9yo girl video… I thought to myself “That’s the last straw!” Someone needs to protest these absurd censorship laws that they apply to the female human!
Why can males show most of their body but females can’t? - In most cases that is? Whatever happened to "Free The Nipple"?
Children should have the same… rights to do things as any adult! It’s about possessing the knowledge capacity and I.Q level to safely execute this action. E.G, on those “Family Day” episodes of The Price is Right and Let’s Make a Deal; those kids made smart choices when picking the correct numbers to items to win a prize.
I’m not joking around here! This type of treatment towards the female human needs to stop - this includes race and age. - It’s like racist people, but in age form.
Does it look like I’m laughing for fun? Of course not! Since no one else is protesting this, and YouTube has a flawed comment moderating system hindering my ability to post on even random videos (I.E, "ghosting"), I have to take more drastic measures to protest by stepping up to the plate and shouting out “Can’t we all be equal in terms of a huge variety of traits?” Yeah, the last thing I need is a vein-bleeding broken-record robot impeding or hindering my ability to seek answers to a question!
We need to learn to appreciate or accept how the female body appears regardless of race and age!
Stop trying to blame it all on me! None of the stuff in the vids posted, is that. If it was, Inside Edition would be the guilty party, and Youtube for not having already deleted them. If it doesn’t violate Youtube’s TOS, it should be fine to post anywhere. If there was even a hint of impropriety to it, at the minimum the vid would have been age restricted.
No one would answer! Not even Inside Edition themselves were willing to offer an answer when I even found their email address, the sites dedicated to helping those in mental, suicidal, or emotional distress (those forum sites even PERMA-banned me for "spam" - that's right, SPAM! (Even though there was absolutely no mention of a permanent ban or rule about "spam" in their forum guidelines!) Is that the definition of "spam" when I make a bad thread only once?! And when I try to appeal the ban, the same message "please contact the administrator if it was done in error" is blocking my ability to click the contact button! Or sometimes it's a blank white page with that message in the top left corner of the window! - Which adds more insult to injury, because I can't click anything as all the buttons have disappeared! That means I can't log out of that site either!), OR the adult video forums that support uncensored nudity images would accept that video link URL let alone the entire topic itself! So I really am at a loss for thoughts and words on what I just experienced! Heck, I even tried the professional therapists of talkingforchange.ca But even they too were too reluctant to talk as they claim my post regarding the censorship of women is not for their platform and they disconnected the chat 2 seconds after their last reply to me. And I highly doubt that ANY site will allow me to illustrate with a picture of the Napalm Girl (Phan Thi Kim Phuc) when she was 9, certain pictures of Pampers diaper boxes (why do you think they (Pampers, Huggies, etc.) even allow a pic of a topless little boy or girl to be plastered on a diaper box we see in grocery stores/supermarkets everyday?), Leela when she was an infant in the episode Leela's Homeworld, or even Belgium's famous kids: Manneken Pis/Jeanneke Pis. That, combined with YouTube having a flawed comment moderating system hindering my ability to post comments on certain-to-random videos (I.E, "ghosting"), I'm forced to take more drastic measures to get my messages across. All this combined, ~I'VE NEVER FELT SO SHUNNED FROM THE INTERNET IN ALL MY LIFE!~
But here's a strange catch: sometimes on some sites, Napalm Girl is censored, other sites she isn't. So I felt that I need to protest this. It seems everyone is too chicken to even start this subject! Don't these numbskulls know not to judge a book by it's cover?! This is where I ask myself "NOW WHAT?!". This can't be one of those "exceptional" cases where they say "suicide never solves anything" doesn't apply to these types of situations. In other words, all hope for resolving these types of situations really is lost. I really do feel left in the dark on both the subject of sound effects and nudity!
Once more, I'm not being a ped, I'm protesting all these absurd censorship rules and regulations that revolve around the female human - regardless of race and age - after what Inside Edition posted. Watch the videos I found again for clarification. In other words, ~the inconsistencies of female human censorship~.
Can you really - you know, hurl insults at Inside Edition or blast them for what they did? It was their idea to publicly publish the footage. Just like how that one photographer made the choice to publicly publish footage of the Napalm Girl when she was 9 and completely nude. Therefore, it should be ok to share this footage anywhere.
But some areas censored Napalm Girl's nipples, but others did not - excluding her groin. Then there's the diaper boxes I found in any supermarket. And finally... Surprise surprise: typical women being scolded by other people for wearing something "inappropriate" or "showing too much of their body". I look around and since no one else is protesting about this, I might as well do it! After all, someone's gotta step up to the plate to hit that ball! I will not sit idling by the sidelines and continue to watch the female human get treated/censored like this! I will stand up, step up, and speak out towards these absurd reactions, rules, and regulations that revolve around the appearance and censorship of the female body! What about the famous Jeanneke Pis in Belgium? Do you think she along with other nude statues are trying to promote pedophilia?
2024.05.19 12:11 unmaskingMe Am I reading too much into this
We've been low contact with MIL since I was pregnant with D for a number of reasons. She always plays the victim, and if you challenge her on anything, she acts like she doesn't understand, cries, or lashes out. There’s a history of this type of behavior with MIL where it feels like she is being covertly aggressive but always acts innocent and confused. We are in our hometown visiting for the weekend and are staying with my family which is always an issues with MIL, and she says we favor them, but we don't enjoy being in their house and feel uncomfortable. MIL invited us for dinner at 5 o'clock, the kids had loads of energy so we decided to go to the park first to let the kids run around and get their energy out. I texted MIL around 3:50 to let her know our plan. She immediately replied, asking when we would be there because BIL was anxious to see the kids.
When we arrived, things were okay. MIL was acting weird, wanting to show me various things and all the prizes she won from the casino and offering them as gifts.(she goes the casino every week and people who bet money get prizes for being a gold memory base on how much they spend) She barely tries to talk to her son my HB and instead after I have said, I need to sit down my allergies are really bothering me and I need to close my eyes. She insists on me following her around the house to show me all the things they have. We had supper, and then they MIL asks if she can give our D her gift since they won't be coming for her birthday. Even though we have invited them she says they won't be coming since my mother is going up. So they gave our D her birthday present: a hat, sunglasses, and a t-shirt size 7/8-year-old. We don't expect much from them anymore, they have stopped asking for gift ideas and now just get junky gifts like plastic toys that break shortly after or have nothing to do with the kids interest. I thought it was not a scant for a birthday present for your only granddaughter on her 5th birthday. But what really upset my HB and I is after they started taking all of BIL's toys out of his room and showing them to her. All of a sudden, you could see D look at her gift bag, and sadness washed over her. She said, not in a demanding way but confused, "I want another gift." MIL, clearly not understanding, offered her a cup you put boiled eggs in and then proceeded to walk D around the house, offering her random things. D started crying, and MIL came downstairs while FIL went to check on her. D said, "NO, I WANT MY MOM!" So I went up, and D could barely get the words out before bursting into tears, saying she wanted to go home and she was trembling. I picked her up and motioned to HB, who already felt off and not into the situation, and started taking D to get her shoes on. She just kept crying heavily, saying she wanted to go home. MIL came up to us, asking, "What's wrong, D? I am so sorry I don't have anything else for you." She kept going on, and I put my hand up and said, "MIL, it's not about a gift. It's about realizing someone hasn't thought of you beforehand. Your gift was okay, but then parading a bunch of toys around after you gave her a shirt and hat is insensitive." Then MIL disappeared and came out with a full art set. D was still in tears, pleading to leave. She took it in shock, and then MIL gave her a hug. I was standing there, completely confused. So now I am left feeling like a psychopath for wondering if they got her the art set and took it away out of spite because we didn't come to dinner early enough. When I mentioned this to HB, his immediate response was, "Well, at his birthday they said they didn't have money, didn’t give him a gift, and then got one for his brother and went on a trip right after." To add to the confusion, MIL had taken me upstairs earlier and showed me all the extra stuff she has—pillows, water bottles, mug sets. The art set was not there. So now I am wondering if I am overreacting to the situation.
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When we arrived, things were okay. MIL was acting weird, wanting to show me various things and all the prizes she won from the casino and offering them as gifts.(she goes the casino every week and people who bet money get prizes for being a gold memory base on how much they spend) She barely tries to talk to her son my HB and instead after I have said, I need to sit down my allergies are really bothering me and I need to close my eyes. She insists on me following her around the house to show me all the things they have. We had supper, and then they MIL asks if she can give our D her gift since they won't be coming for her birthday. Even though we have invited them she says they won't be coming since my mother is going up. So they gave our D her birthday present: a hat, sunglasses, and a t-shirt size 7/8-year-old. We don't expect much from them anymore, they have stopped asking for gift ideas and now just get junky gifts like plastic toys that break shortly after or have nothing to do with the kids interest. I thought it was not a scant for a birthday present for your only granddaughter on her 5th birthday. But what really upset my HB and I is after they started taking all of BIL's toys out of his room and showing them to her. All of a sudden, you could see D look at her gift bag, and sadness washed over her. She said, not in a demanding way but confused, "I want another gift." MIL, clearly not understanding, offered her a cup you put boiled eggs in and then proceeded to walk D around the house, offering her random things. D started crying, and MIL came downstairs while FIL went to check on her. D said, "NO, I WANT MY MOM!" So I went up, and D could barely get the words out before bursting into tears, saying she wanted to go home and she was trembling. I picked her up and motioned to HB, who already felt off and not into the situation, and started taking D to get her shoes on. She just kept crying heavily, saying she wanted to go home. MIL came up to us, asking, "What's wrong, D? I am so sorry I don't have anything else for you." She kept going on, and I put my hand up and said, "MIL, it's not about a gift. It's about realizing someone hasn't thought of you beforehand. Your gift was okay, but then parading a bunch of toys around after you gave her a shirt and hat is insensitive." Then MIL disappeared and came out with a full art set. D was still in tears, pleading to leave. She took it in shock, and then MIL gave her a hug. I was standing there, completely confused. So now I am left feeling like a psychopath for wondering if they got her the art set and took it away out of spite because we didn't come to dinner early enough. When I mentioned this to HB, his immediate response was, "Well, at his birthday they said they didn't have money, didn’t give him a gift, and then got one for his brother and went on a trip right after." To add to the confusion, MIL had taken me upstairs earlier and showed me all the extra stuff she has—pillows, water bottles, mug sets. The art set was not there. So now I am wondering if I am overreacting to the situation.
2024.05.19 12:10 MathematicianFit8682 AITAH for telling cops about a man who sa me and dropping a friend who let it happen
I S Hi I’m new to this reddit thing so sorry if I make any mistakes.Basically this all happened a few months ago me(f 16) and my friend(f 14) I’ll call her meep we’re having a sleepover,she was on her phone most of the time which I didn’t think to much of when she then said to me hey can a few of our other friends(both f 14) come which I said sure because we where all friends now when they first came we did basic things girls do at sleepovers like doing eachother a hair and stuff until one of my friends takes something out of her bag I didn’t really cat eat first thinking it was something like clothes or make up until I get a good look at it and realised she had bull a bottle of beer out.Meep seeing this was like omg you actually managed to get it in your bag with my other friend I’ll cal her Lew said ya and bragged about how easy it was at first I wasn’t to keen on it since it being in my house but out of pressure drank it.A while later me and my friends start planning the day ahead of us now jump to the next day me and my friends start walking which all of them weren’t to keen on since it was a 1 and a half hour walk but sucked it up to our town (btw we live in a small town in a small country) anyway we where walking to a park originally but we all got hungry so we walked to supermarket but my friend (I’ll call this one royal)went to her house to pick up stuff and a bit later lew had to get something so it was just me and meep just sitting around eating on a platform when royal came back us three we’re walking around when we saw royals boyfriend(m 14) and his older brother(m 19) royal then started running after them yelling out to them and so then a bit later royal was flirting with her bf and me meep and the brother were just sitting around then we finally meet up with lew we then decided to go to the park together which ended badly in a fight where police where called but that’s not important anyway a bit later my friend called her bf and made sure he was ok and he said why don’t we try hanging out again tomorrow w which she without asking said yes so now me and my other friends had to go out again without being asked if it was ok with us but we also didn’t really care since most of us did wanna get out of the house so another jump to the next day me and my friends meet up with them we did give to walk to their houses bc they needed to get ready but after that we had a bit of fun the bf claimed a roof followed by royal lew and meep who tried but chickened out they told me to clime up but I said hell no I ain’t stupid they also tried getting the brother to but he told them to piss of he then sat of a rubbish bin which o tried to as-well but couldn’t jump high enough until he showed me how.Once we where done we went to the park well except for meep royal and her bf who went to her house to pick up something so me lew and the brother where on our way to the park when we got there we sat in this tunnel looking thing and just started talking to each other me and lew where sitting next to each other when he decided to sit in the middle of us which I thought was weird at the time but said nothing bc I didn’t wanna try make it weird bc again he was 19 but anyway my friends came back and we sat in this tree house looking thing I was mostly sitting with lew when hake moved away for a bit and then the brother sat down next to me I though it was weird bc there was room other places then he put his hand around my shoulder I looked up and royal was just winking at him and me I tried to signal to her that I was uncomfortable but she was still acting like it was nothing I then signalled to meep and unlike royal got the hint right away and thankfully said Alr guys let’s go it’s getting late and said we had to go I then got up and walked with meep royal complaining about leaving said fine and asked them to walk us home which they agreed until after a bit lew told them to go bc she didn’t want them knowing where I lived which I was really thankful for after that royal and her bf kissed goodbye and left which I was gonna do until I felt someone behind me grab my waist and kissed my cheek and gave me paper with his Snapchat I was gonna throw it in a puddle when lew asked what was in my hand so I explained what it was and she said oh how cute and asked if I was gonna add him dis it’s wanting to say no and wanting to tell her what happened I honestly can’t explain it but I just couldn’t but I have her the paper which she added him and made a gc with me him her and royal which was then when they made plans to sneak out with them and go on a night walk they asked me and meep to come which meep said no bc she thought the brother was a creep and I tried to say no but once again with pure pressure said yes royal and lew where to busy getting ready to even thing about meep in which I said hey why don’t I just stay here with meep and keep her company which they laughed and said cmon let’s go,it was 10:30 at night when we snuck out them excited to see them and me paranoid on my mum getting mad about me disappearing when we meet up with them me lew and the brother walking ahead I was holding hands with lew originally but the brother grabbed my hand and so we where all just walking I was ok with it but the thing that threw me off was what royal was saying she was just making very sexual jokes about me and this 19 yr old man which I was uncomfortable with but was to shy to say anything about once we got to the place which was under a bridge we just sat down and talked about stuff lew then went some place else which was then followed by royal and the bf I tried running off but royal told me to stay back so I did now it was just me and the bf brother idk why I didn’t think this would happen but he sat really close to me and that’s when he did it at first he just grabbed my face made out with me which I tried to say no or stop but I was to scared to say thing and then he just started touching me places and I tried with all my might to get him to stop but couldn’t then I heard yells from royal saying she couldn’t find lew me using this as a reason to get away yelled I’ll look for her and tan off I wasn’t actually looking for her though I was on a bathroom trying with all my might to not let out any tears which was really hard then I heard yells so I looked out and realised it was meep who had secretly been following us so I used her as a opportunity to get away and then said hey you guys look for her I’ll leave with meep signalling to her I wanna leave which again she understood and acted tired and said ya I wanna go now so we did which I then turned around and saw the brother just following us I let him follow us idk why but once we where around the block I said to him my house was close and he could go which I waited until he had actually left to start walking home and obviously I wasn’t near my house there was still a twenty minute walk which I just started braking down my friend was just hugging me and said it’s ok and saying what did he do to you which say I don’t know why but I just couldn’t say anything once got home I threw up I could still feel him everywhere in my mouth on my thighs and on my waist and other places I wanted scream all I could think about was how I was such a slut and couldn’t even say anything or stop it I wanted to die I wanted just anything to get the memory and taste out of me I then started telling my self about how worthless I was and how I my mother really did raise a stupid and pathetic person after a bit I fell asleep with my dog next to me (he’s a American bully)so I thought that I could at least have some sort of protection after a bit my friends came back and fell asleep I knew this bc they really don’t come back some quiet and woke me up now this was the last day they where at my house so they all went back to their houses and i really do wish I I could say this was the end I really really do but sadly this was not after going back to school and acting as if everything was fine and nothing was wrong I realised that royal and lew haven’t been to school for a while and the next day lew came to school and I found out that sadly the brother 🍇ed her when I found this out I feel apart I was sick shocked and just didn’t know what to do my friends told her to tell our health teacher she’s the teacher who deals with situations like this so she did the teacher said she could miss a few classes and stay in there with me and meep that was when I told them what happened to me they where both mortified that was then when lew reveille the brother wanted to grape me aswell and even told her he was gonna and how he would ask to hang out and to it at the same place he did to her I was honestly shocked and paralysed with fear remembering how he actually asked to hang out a the other day anyway I then asked her what she wanted to do bc our teacher suggested telling the cops tbh I really didn’t want to bc I was trying to keep this whole thing away from my mum but knew I had to so I walked to the police station with a few other friends and told them everything after that I knew I had to drop royal she literally let everything happen even with lew I’ll explain later with lew but we dropped her now obviously that east’s she was just making up excuses and even said that the brother was forcing her to say and do things and then started yapping about how he forced her to do those things but I saw right threw her lies so did keep but idk why but lew actually believed her until she also finally saw right threw her lies oh also brother actually has a gf who is his age ik real shocked expected her to be 8 anyway recently the cops did find him and I’ve got a meeting with one of them oh another big thing turns out we ARNT the first people he’s sa wanna know the first person he did? Get ready 🥁🥁his fucking brother ya that’s right he literally graped his brother and it gets worse he did it when the boyfriend was fucking 8 anyway I might not update for I bit but I promise there will be one
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2024.05.19 12:10 ConnorRatonhnhaketon First Macbook advise
Hi, So I am looking for a new laptop, and I am kinda sure it will be the new M3 MacBook. This will be my first macbook.
Now I have a 16 gb ram gaming laptop for school (I don’t game on it). I used to use some heavy programs. But not anymore. I need some advise and answers to my questions and i hope someone can help me.
Cheers!
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Now I have a 16 gb ram gaming laptop for school (I don’t game on it). I used to use some heavy programs. But not anymore. I need some advise and answers to my questions and i hope someone can help me.
- Now I don’t want to really ‘downgrade’ in specs. So I thought about a minimum of 16 gb memory or the 24 gb memory. I know that the 24 will be too much, but will I see a difference nonetheless? And will the lifespan of the MacBook be longer if i choose a higher RAM?
- Is there a downside of choosing the 15 inch (air)
- I can’t really decide if the 14 inch pro will be better. I really like the better led display. Is the difference very noticeable. And what do you guys think. I am not a editor, artist, ect. Will mainly use it for personal usage, school, movies, ect.
Cheers!
2024.05.19 12:10 SharkEva AITAH for wanting to leave my volunteer position because they gave the paid job to their best friends child
I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/Illustrious_Young430 posting in AITAH
Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Short
Original - 13th May 2024
Update - 17th May 2024
AITAH for wanting to leave my volunteer position because they gave the paid job to their best friends child
I’ve been volunteering in a charity shop since about August last year, I initially started to get myself back into a routine and work ready for being out of work for so long. I really enjoyed it and it’s given me so much confidence. Unfortunately the manager had to take sick leave because she needs an operation, the assistant manager handed in her keys and quit because no one from the other stores would come in and help or cover a day for her, so she was basically doing everything.
The shop had to close for awhile till they found someone else. When they did I came straight back because I had started to fall backwards in myself and needed the routine again. The new (floating manager) let’s call Mary, is 19 and had no idea how to run the shop, her mum is the companies customs manager for this area, she is also best friends with another lady who runs one of the other shops (she has two daughters) one is running another shop. This is not a family run business.
At first it was very unwelcoming and they changed how we worked, I gave it time because obviously she’s new to this and doesn’t really talk to anyone, eventually over time we became friendly, work well together and have a laugh. A new assistant manager had been hired who is absolutely amazing and we get on very well, he has recently gone to another one of the stores to run it as manager.
His job became available so I asked about applying, Mary got really excited and wanted me to apply, she helped me with interview questions, gave me the opportunity to run the shop for a few days completely on my own, which went very well. At first she wasn’t doing the interviews, it was her mum and someone else.
When it came closer I got informed that her and her mum was interviewing me, I got excited because I thought I was a shoo in as Mary had expressed if she could pick then it would be me. A day before, I found out that the ladies other daughter was applying too, I knew from then on it didn’t matter what I said or did I wouldn’t be getting it because they are all very close.
Mary’s mum rang me to say I didn’t get it the other girl did, making out it was some random women, even though I know it’s the daughter, but that I did very well and they wanted to make me lead volunteer, I have been there for months, run it on my own, cashed up, opened up, everything, I know how to run it better than mary does.
I want to leave because I feel like I’ve been screwed over, I’m going to complain to the higher up because i feel it’s unfair to basically say I have the job, but then give it to your best friends daughter.
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Rare-Selection2348
Don't bother complaining. Don't bother going in again. NTA
Old_Web8071
Complaining probably won't do any good. Best bet is to walk away & find a job that pays. Or some other charity until you do.
And don't give a notice. At the end of a day, just say, "I'm not coming back to work here" & leave. Preferably when you know they will be short-handed because other people are already taking off.
It's up to you if you want to give them a notice or reason you're leaving. Me? I'd just say I'm not coming back.
Foolish-Pleasure99
Yes, don't complain, leave. Any notice up to you. They will quickly learn nepotism is not a management strategy, will suffer, and will cover that all up or chalk it up to "learning on the job".
I do not see anyone reaching out to admit they made a mistake and if you stay you're just a doormat and will have to run the place without pay or recognition.
**Judgement - NTA*\*
Update - 4 days later
Thank you for all your messages I didn’t expect anyone to reply. I left, I went in and it was really awkward, so when I finished for the day I told Mary this is my last day, she was shocked and didn’t really know what to say. I walked out knowing that most of the other volunteers will probably leave soon too.
Either for paying jobs or because they are getting annoyed with how it’s run. I’m also going to tell the higher ups about it because I don’t want them to get away with it, it’s not the first time and someone in the comments pointed out that corporate might not know what is going on and it’s not fair to anyone.
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kobresia9
Mary must be really dense if she's shocked
ankle-biter-42
You’d be surprised at how stupid people like this can be. Either that or she thinks she’s manipulating OP
Stephenallen1977
Honesty this was the best course of action for you.
If you are in the UK it does not sound like there was a fair recruitment process given that there was favouritism to someone who did not have experience.
UtahCyan
Nepo hires. Happens everywhere. They usually end up in disaster, but you have to wait for the disaster for anything you change.
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
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Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Short
Original - 13th May 2024
Update - 17th May 2024
AITAH for wanting to leave my volunteer position because they gave the paid job to their best friends child
I’ve been volunteering in a charity shop since about August last year, I initially started to get myself back into a routine and work ready for being out of work for so long. I really enjoyed it and it’s given me so much confidence. Unfortunately the manager had to take sick leave because she needs an operation, the assistant manager handed in her keys and quit because no one from the other stores would come in and help or cover a day for her, so she was basically doing everything.
The shop had to close for awhile till they found someone else. When they did I came straight back because I had started to fall backwards in myself and needed the routine again. The new (floating manager) let’s call Mary, is 19 and had no idea how to run the shop, her mum is the companies customs manager for this area, she is also best friends with another lady who runs one of the other shops (she has two daughters) one is running another shop. This is not a family run business.
At first it was very unwelcoming and they changed how we worked, I gave it time because obviously she’s new to this and doesn’t really talk to anyone, eventually over time we became friendly, work well together and have a laugh. A new assistant manager had been hired who is absolutely amazing and we get on very well, he has recently gone to another one of the stores to run it as manager.
His job became available so I asked about applying, Mary got really excited and wanted me to apply, she helped me with interview questions, gave me the opportunity to run the shop for a few days completely on my own, which went very well. At first she wasn’t doing the interviews, it was her mum and someone else.
When it came closer I got informed that her and her mum was interviewing me, I got excited because I thought I was a shoo in as Mary had expressed if she could pick then it would be me. A day before, I found out that the ladies other daughter was applying too, I knew from then on it didn’t matter what I said or did I wouldn’t be getting it because they are all very close.
Mary’s mum rang me to say I didn’t get it the other girl did, making out it was some random women, even though I know it’s the daughter, but that I did very well and they wanted to make me lead volunteer, I have been there for months, run it on my own, cashed up, opened up, everything, I know how to run it better than mary does.
I want to leave because I feel like I’ve been screwed over, I’m going to complain to the higher up because i feel it’s unfair to basically say I have the job, but then give it to your best friends daughter.
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Rare-Selection2348
Don't bother complaining. Don't bother going in again. NTA
Old_Web8071
Complaining probably won't do any good. Best bet is to walk away & find a job that pays. Or some other charity until you do.
And don't give a notice. At the end of a day, just say, "I'm not coming back to work here" & leave. Preferably when you know they will be short-handed because other people are already taking off.
It's up to you if you want to give them a notice or reason you're leaving. Me? I'd just say I'm not coming back.
Foolish-Pleasure99
Yes, don't complain, leave. Any notice up to you. They will quickly learn nepotism is not a management strategy, will suffer, and will cover that all up or chalk it up to "learning on the job".
I do not see anyone reaching out to admit they made a mistake and if you stay you're just a doormat and will have to run the place without pay or recognition.
**Judgement - NTA*\*
Update - 4 days later
Thank you for all your messages I didn’t expect anyone to reply. I left, I went in and it was really awkward, so when I finished for the day I told Mary this is my last day, she was shocked and didn’t really know what to say. I walked out knowing that most of the other volunteers will probably leave soon too.
Either for paying jobs or because they are getting annoyed with how it’s run. I’m also going to tell the higher ups about it because I don’t want them to get away with it, it’s not the first time and someone in the comments pointed out that corporate might not know what is going on and it’s not fair to anyone.
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kobresia9
Mary must be really dense if she's shocked
ankle-biter-42
You’d be surprised at how stupid people like this can be. Either that or she thinks she’s manipulating OP
Stephenallen1977
Honesty this was the best course of action for you.
If you are in the UK it does not sound like there was a fair recruitment process given that there was favouritism to someone who did not have experience.
UtahCyan
Nepo hires. Happens everywhere. They usually end up in disaster, but you have to wait for the disaster for anything you change.
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
2024.05.19 12:09 Suitable-Ad2717 Handed my notice in and work is now hell (and it was awful before)
Handed my notice in and now my work life is hell (and it was awful before)
I handed my notice in at my workplace last week. My boss asked me to not speak about my new job to anyone during work as they “don’t want anyone else to be encouraged to leave”. They did say I could talk about it outside of work but to not “big it up” to anyone. When they told my colleagues I was leaving they told them all to not speak to me about it and again only outside of work… A couple of employees asked my new working hours and I told them it was a 8 hour day with an hours lunch break, starting at either 8am or 9am. One of the colleagues said “nice! so you could have a lie in sometimes?!” And I replied “love a cheeky lie in”. I also then said that “we’re not supposed to talk about the job in the workplace so can’t really say any more”. I currently work 10 hour days with a 45 min lunch break. The following day I was pulled into the office with two bosses who said it had got back to them that I was telling my colleagues I’m on “loads more money” and that I’m bragging about my new work hours and getting “cheeky lie ins”. Id also like to add that the women in the workplace are very young and have consistently lied and made up rumours about me since I started working here 3 years ago. As an older woman, I’ve made no friends here and this has been one of the main reasons I’ve wanted to leave as well as having a career change. I was completely taken aback by this conversation with my bosses, and I reiterated that it was a casual conversation and again the girls were adding in lies and blowing my words out of proportion. My actual words were “they’re bitching about me again, I’ve completely had enough of these girls, I don’t get a break from it all”. My bosses then asked “were you bullied at school ? because you’re being so sensitive”. I began to cry and told them I couldn’t express my anger about all of this and that this is really the straw that has broke the camels back now- and that no, I was not bullied at school. My bosses then said that if I want to leave the business that’s fine but to “not take down the whole staff team with you”- as if I’ve been bad mouthing the company and encouraging people to leave?! My new job will be contacting my current employer soon for a reference and I am terrified they might give me a bad one! My boss said “you need to stop making silly jokes about cheeky lie ins cos that is what’s getting you in trouble” and STUPIDLY and IRONICALLY I replied “well don’t mention that when you get called for a reference” to which my boss replied “well let’s hope they don’t ask”. My bosses then said “we take it very personally when people hand their notices in” to which I replied “Why? It’s a personal choice for me and my future? It’s not a personal attack on you as people!”
I added “do you know how difficult is it when not a single person in my actual team acknowledges my resignation, and isn’t allowed to talk to me about it? No one has congratulated me? I’ve had two colleagues (who barely know me) ask my new work hours and that’s it!” And they said “no one will congratulate you- you’re leaving them in the shit by leaving”. I’d also like to add that since I’ve been there NO ONE ever wishes any one good luck when they leave. I always get someone a card and a bottle of wine- just to be kind, even though no one really talks to me.
The one friend I did have at work has now left and I asked her if her conversations were being censored when she handed in her notice- and she was leaving to go to a competitor! She said that she couldn’t say the competitors name but she was allowed to speak about her new job! I’m not even going to a competitor! I feel like this is so personal against me!
My bosses pulled me in the office six months ago because they saw my CV on indeed and questioned me about if I wanted to leave. I said that I was open to new opportunities because I felt like I was being excluded from my team, that I was constantly being left out of the loop, and that numerous personal lies had been made up about me from my colleagues- all things I had brought up to them in the past and done nothing to resolve.
My bosses said they were happy I’d been honest about thinking about leaving and to let them know if I was going to interviews- which I did. At the works xmas party a colleague asked me if what my long term goals were and if I wanted apply for a higher position within the company or be open to look elsewhere. I casually replied that I’m being very open to opportunities and I’d seen a couple job ads that took my interest but might not even apply. This colleague then told my boss at the party that I was HAD GOT A NEW JOB AT ANOTHER COMPANY. My boss then confronted me in front of all my colleagues saying I’d disrespected the whole company and that I was being unprofessional, shouting at me. I told my boss I wanted to go home and she said “No you can stick out the rest of the party to make sure your colleagues know that nothing is wrong”. That next week at work I was brought into the office twice, where I was told my behaviour was “disgusting, unprofessional and out of line” and that I could “not discuss my future career prospects with anyone at work”. They also said “we wanted to give you a promotion but now we’d have to train you for a month on professionalism before you took that role”. I again would reiterate the girls had taken this to the next level, that I hadn’t even applied for anything I was keeping my options open?!
My bosses have NEVER ever made criticisms on my actual work because there is nothing to fault. I’m great at my job, but it’s like they don’t like who I am? I’m always kind, always bubbly and smiling. Even though I’ve got no pals at work or speak to anyone outside of it. The anxiety of all of this made me vomit the next day at work and I’ve been experiencing migraines for the first time.
Can anyone give their thoughts on this situation? Have I been out of line or am I being gaslight into making me think I have been? I’m so incredibly low and I’m just counting down the days before I leave. I feel sick about even going back to work the rest of my notice
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I handed my notice in at my workplace last week. My boss asked me to not speak about my new job to anyone during work as they “don’t want anyone else to be encouraged to leave”. They did say I could talk about it outside of work but to not “big it up” to anyone. When they told my colleagues I was leaving they told them all to not speak to me about it and again only outside of work… A couple of employees asked my new working hours and I told them it was a 8 hour day with an hours lunch break, starting at either 8am or 9am. One of the colleagues said “nice! so you could have a lie in sometimes?!” And I replied “love a cheeky lie in”. I also then said that “we’re not supposed to talk about the job in the workplace so can’t really say any more”. I currently work 10 hour days with a 45 min lunch break. The following day I was pulled into the office with two bosses who said it had got back to them that I was telling my colleagues I’m on “loads more money” and that I’m bragging about my new work hours and getting “cheeky lie ins”. Id also like to add that the women in the workplace are very young and have consistently lied and made up rumours about me since I started working here 3 years ago. As an older woman, I’ve made no friends here and this has been one of the main reasons I’ve wanted to leave as well as having a career change. I was completely taken aback by this conversation with my bosses, and I reiterated that it was a casual conversation and again the girls were adding in lies and blowing my words out of proportion. My actual words were “they’re bitching about me again, I’ve completely had enough of these girls, I don’t get a break from it all”. My bosses then asked “were you bullied at school ? because you’re being so sensitive”. I began to cry and told them I couldn’t express my anger about all of this and that this is really the straw that has broke the camels back now- and that no, I was not bullied at school. My bosses then said that if I want to leave the business that’s fine but to “not take down the whole staff team with you”- as if I’ve been bad mouthing the company and encouraging people to leave?! My new job will be contacting my current employer soon for a reference and I am terrified they might give me a bad one! My boss said “you need to stop making silly jokes about cheeky lie ins cos that is what’s getting you in trouble” and STUPIDLY and IRONICALLY I replied “well don’t mention that when you get called for a reference” to which my boss replied “well let’s hope they don’t ask”. My bosses then said “we take it very personally when people hand their notices in” to which I replied “Why? It’s a personal choice for me and my future? It’s not a personal attack on you as people!”
I added “do you know how difficult is it when not a single person in my actual team acknowledges my resignation, and isn’t allowed to talk to me about it? No one has congratulated me? I’ve had two colleagues (who barely know me) ask my new work hours and that’s it!” And they said “no one will congratulate you- you’re leaving them in the shit by leaving”. I’d also like to add that since I’ve been there NO ONE ever wishes any one good luck when they leave. I always get someone a card and a bottle of wine- just to be kind, even though no one really talks to me.
The one friend I did have at work has now left and I asked her if her conversations were being censored when she handed in her notice- and she was leaving to go to a competitor! She said that she couldn’t say the competitors name but she was allowed to speak about her new job! I’m not even going to a competitor! I feel like this is so personal against me!
My bosses pulled me in the office six months ago because they saw my CV on indeed and questioned me about if I wanted to leave. I said that I was open to new opportunities because I felt like I was being excluded from my team, that I was constantly being left out of the loop, and that numerous personal lies had been made up about me from my colleagues- all things I had brought up to them in the past and done nothing to resolve.
My bosses said they were happy I’d been honest about thinking about leaving and to let them know if I was going to interviews- which I did. At the works xmas party a colleague asked me if what my long term goals were and if I wanted apply for a higher position within the company or be open to look elsewhere. I casually replied that I’m being very open to opportunities and I’d seen a couple job ads that took my interest but might not even apply. This colleague then told my boss at the party that I was HAD GOT A NEW JOB AT ANOTHER COMPANY. My boss then confronted me in front of all my colleagues saying I’d disrespected the whole company and that I was being unprofessional, shouting at me. I told my boss I wanted to go home and she said “No you can stick out the rest of the party to make sure your colleagues know that nothing is wrong”. That next week at work I was brought into the office twice, where I was told my behaviour was “disgusting, unprofessional and out of line” and that I could “not discuss my future career prospects with anyone at work”. They also said “we wanted to give you a promotion but now we’d have to train you for a month on professionalism before you took that role”. I again would reiterate the girls had taken this to the next level, that I hadn’t even applied for anything I was keeping my options open?!
My bosses have NEVER ever made criticisms on my actual work because there is nothing to fault. I’m great at my job, but it’s like they don’t like who I am? I’m always kind, always bubbly and smiling. Even though I’ve got no pals at work or speak to anyone outside of it. The anxiety of all of this made me vomit the next day at work and I’ve been experiencing migraines for the first time.
Can anyone give their thoughts on this situation? Have I been out of line or am I being gaslight into making me think I have been? I’m so incredibly low and I’m just counting down the days before I leave. I feel sick about even going back to work the rest of my notice
2024.05.19 12:09 more_guess2 (Bi-gay) Male escort touring alone for the first time in Europe: any advice, please? Any cities I should prioritize? Cheap hostel vs. airbnb? Best websites to advertise? How long in each city? Anything else you would like to advise me/warn me about? Thanks a lot!
Hey, I'm a 30m guy, bisexual (but mainly doing gay escorting), and I've been living in Belgium for the past 3 years while studying and then working (office job + escorting once in a while). However, I just quit my main job since I deeply hated it, and until I get a new one, which entails submitting hundreds of online applications, I have decided to travel across Europe in order to visit new countries, keep sending applications, and escorting in the meantime to fund my trips.
I still have no idea if I'll just travel for 1 week and visit 2 countries, or if I'll end up traveling for months while visiting +10 countries and +25 cities; I guess it will depend on when someone hires me for my new office job in Belgium, or basically whenever I'm too tired or I ran out of money.
In that regard, I'd love to get as many suggestions as possible...I know for sure I'll go to London, Vienna, and Koln, since those are cities that I like and I never been before. Besides them, any other European places that would be good for escorting? I have only used Hunqz,, and I'm not sure if you could maybe share with me other good websites to advertise myself as well? Then, I don't know if I should stay at the cheapest 16-bed hostel room I could find in the city center and only move to work, or if it'd be better to rent an airbnb to host my clients? Furthermore, how many days would you stay in each city? From what I have heard, Germany is a good place to work, so I'd maybe spend some time between Koln, Munich, Frankfurt and Berlin. What about countries such as Slovenia, Slovakia, Albania, Bosnia,etc. Do they have a market for gay escorts that pays well? Thanks a lot!
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I still have no idea if I'll just travel for 1 week and visit 2 countries, or if I'll end up traveling for months while visiting +10 countries and +25 cities; I guess it will depend on when someone hires me for my new office job in Belgium, or basically whenever I'm too tired or I ran out of money.
In that regard, I'd love to get as many suggestions as possible...I know for sure I'll go to London, Vienna, and Koln, since those are cities that I like and I never been before. Besides them, any other European places that would be good for escorting? I have only used Hunqz,, and I'm not sure if you could maybe share with me other good websites to advertise myself as well? Then, I don't know if I should stay at the cheapest 16-bed hostel room I could find in the city center and only move to work, or if it'd be better to rent an airbnb to host my clients? Furthermore, how many days would you stay in each city? From what I have heard, Germany is a good place to work, so I'd maybe spend some time between Koln, Munich, Frankfurt and Berlin. What about countries such as Slovenia, Slovakia, Albania, Bosnia,etc. Do they have a market for gay escorts that pays well? Thanks a lot!
2024.05.19 12:08 borishorses mutual friend (pwBPD) trying to break up partnership/friendships?
hello all,
i will give more context later in the post, but for people who don't want to read all of that mess: what do you do about a pwBPD trying to break up your relationships/friendships because you "don't pay attention enough to them anymore"? my partner already recognizes the abuse so there's not really a risk of me getting broken up with, but i'm worried about the pwBPD reaching out to our mutual friends. i'm mostly afraid that our mutual friends are going to think i'm trying to control the narrative or cover something up or anything weird like that? which is kind of ironic because it's what she's doing already, i just don't want to be forced to get on her level lol. at this point im so done with this pwBPD i don't care what they think of me, just would really like to keep my other friends.
i'm thinking about just asking my friends something like: "hey if this friend (pwBPD) messages you trying to talk badly about me or my partner, can you let me know so i can talk to her some more? it's something we're trying to handle privately between us 3 but unfortunately we found out she's already talking about us behind our backs to other people so we would really appreciate it if you ignored it for now if it comes up. i'm so sorry about any stress this might cause you, please let me know if you want to talk more about it" or something along those lines. i don't want to give them too much information or anything out of respect of everyone's time and privacy but i wonder if giving more details would help? is this a good start or would you guys recommend saying something else?
more details, you don't really have to read past this point but it helps for background information & gets into detail of the abusive behaviors:
it's just such a huge mess i just wish i never met this person. she's trying to get my partner kicked out of their housing situation already, and turning their other school friends against them to the point where my partner might have to move back in with their parents. she was originally introduced to me by my partner and they had been best friends for a really long while so they cry to my partner every day like "how can you be dating someone that hates your best friend", demanding my partner come home from doing stuff with me to 'help' her with the stupidest stuff like going to a routine doctor visit (??) or fixing her laptop, etc. and she will throw fits and say stuff like "friends sometimes just have to do things they don't want to help their friends or even just make them happy for a little while" when all this person does is scream at my partner at this point. and then when i try to talk to her too so she leaves my partner alone (we were never really too close to start with) she just brings up our relationship and says stupid things like "so how's *that* working out for you" or asking really weird invasive sexual questions? it's part of the reason i'm scared to talk about it with friends - i'm worried if they ask me for proof of what this person is doing i'll have to show them all the awkward texts of her being weirdly sexual and i don't want my friends thinking about what me and my partner do in private haha 😅 it's almost like she o*nly *spews sexual-related abuse over text and then keeps the rest in-person or over the phone so we don't have any proof against her that wouldn't be extremely awkward. it's really sickening to me how quickly she turned on us when she has been stable / on medication / in therapy for so long. i almost wonder if she was interested in one or both of us romantically/sexually or something and us deciding to date put her over the edge... she seems really fixated on me specifically despite never making any real effort to talk to me 🤷♂️ besides occasionally sending me tiktoks, but she sends them to me on the tiktok app... which she knows i have had uninstalled for almost a year now? really confusing and frustrating person, she will also try to bait people into talking to her through vague facebook statuses and typical passive aggressive stuff like that, but never outright ask anyone besides my partner (her 'best friend') to hang out with her because she thinks everyone else hates her 🙄 i didn't hate her at first, but now it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy for her
my partner originally tried to reassure me that she wouldn't do anything like this but she's clearly already started, so we're trying to figure out what to do and i figured it would be best to ask here. thank you guys (sorry for formatting / english too, and how this got a little rant-y)
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i will give more context later in the post, but for people who don't want to read all of that mess: what do you do about a pwBPD trying to break up your relationships/friendships because you "don't pay attention enough to them anymore"? my partner already recognizes the abuse so there's not really a risk of me getting broken up with, but i'm worried about the pwBPD reaching out to our mutual friends. i'm mostly afraid that our mutual friends are going to think i'm trying to control the narrative or cover something up or anything weird like that? which is kind of ironic because it's what she's doing already, i just don't want to be forced to get on her level lol. at this point im so done with this pwBPD i don't care what they think of me, just would really like to keep my other friends.
i'm thinking about just asking my friends something like: "hey if this friend (pwBPD) messages you trying to talk badly about me or my partner, can you let me know so i can talk to her some more? it's something we're trying to handle privately between us 3 but unfortunately we found out she's already talking about us behind our backs to other people so we would really appreciate it if you ignored it for now if it comes up. i'm so sorry about any stress this might cause you, please let me know if you want to talk more about it" or something along those lines. i don't want to give them too much information or anything out of respect of everyone's time and privacy but i wonder if giving more details would help? is this a good start or would you guys recommend saying something else?
more details, you don't really have to read past this point but it helps for background information & gets into detail of the abusive behaviors:
it's just such a huge mess i just wish i never met this person. she's trying to get my partner kicked out of their housing situation already, and turning their other school friends against them to the point where my partner might have to move back in with their parents. she was originally introduced to me by my partner and they had been best friends for a really long while so they cry to my partner every day like "how can you be dating someone that hates your best friend", demanding my partner come home from doing stuff with me to 'help' her with the stupidest stuff like going to a routine doctor visit (??) or fixing her laptop, etc. and she will throw fits and say stuff like "friends sometimes just have to do things they don't want to help their friends or even just make them happy for a little while" when all this person does is scream at my partner at this point. and then when i try to talk to her too so she leaves my partner alone (we were never really too close to start with) she just brings up our relationship and says stupid things like "so how's *that* working out for you" or asking really weird invasive sexual questions? it's part of the reason i'm scared to talk about it with friends - i'm worried if they ask me for proof of what this person is doing i'll have to show them all the awkward texts of her being weirdly sexual and i don't want my friends thinking about what me and my partner do in private haha 😅 it's almost like she o*nly *spews sexual-related abuse over text and then keeps the rest in-person or over the phone so we don't have any proof against her that wouldn't be extremely awkward. it's really sickening to me how quickly she turned on us when she has been stable / on medication / in therapy for so long. i almost wonder if she was interested in one or both of us romantically/sexually or something and us deciding to date put her over the edge... she seems really fixated on me specifically despite never making any real effort to talk to me 🤷♂️ besides occasionally sending me tiktoks, but she sends them to me on the tiktok app... which she knows i have had uninstalled for almost a year now? really confusing and frustrating person, she will also try to bait people into talking to her through vague facebook statuses and typical passive aggressive stuff like that, but never outright ask anyone besides my partner (her 'best friend') to hang out with her because she thinks everyone else hates her 🙄 i didn't hate her at first, but now it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy for her
my partner originally tried to reassure me that she wouldn't do anything like this but she's clearly already started, so we're trying to figure out what to do and i figured it would be best to ask here. thank you guys (sorry for formatting / english too, and how this got a little rant-y)
2024.05.19 12:07 gogo1231230 RANKING SCREAM FRANCHISE (SCREAM 3 AND SCREAM 6 HATE?!)
I’ve been seeing so many people say that Scream 3 and 6 are their least favorite movies from the franchise and I’m just curious what the reasons are!
My ranking of each film goes in this order:
I’m curious to see everyone’s rankings and understand why 3 & 6 get so much hate! I love all the movies btw just some more than others!
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My ranking of each film goes in this order:
- Scream 1 and Scream 3 (Tied)
- Scream 6
- Scream 2
- Scream 4
- Scream 5
I’m curious to see everyone’s rankings and understand why 3 & 6 get so much hate! I love all the movies btw just some more than others!
2024.05.19 12:07 MagicalEloquence 27 [M4F] India/Bangalore/Online - Sweet Friendship, Support and Heartful Conversations
I want to be hopeful and optimistic but the vast number of online disappointments make it difficult. Here are some things I don't want. Please don't contact me if you are not interested in reading the post. or do not want to talk long term and would be planning on ghosting me or disappearing within 1-2 days.
I am someone who is quite a sweet and effortful person. I would love an online connection with someone similar to me and have good, intellectual conversations and also share some laughter and affection. Affection can light us up and make us happy. (Even platonic connection is fine.) I like giving and receiving affection in the form of cute, little nicknames for each other, checking up on each other, asking about each other.
I hope my words sail to some worthwhile eyes on the winds of destiny.
I have grown wary of superficial connections, no effort replies and even abrupt ghosts.
I would like someone with whom I can exchange sweet words with. I am quite a romantic person and I was more so as earlier. A lot of responsibilities were thrust upon me with time, but I have rediscovered that side of myself. I would love to have a pretend romance with an online companion - where we pretend like we are long lost soul mates and trade fiery words of sweet passion for each other.
But, that is completely optional. I am fine with a wholesome, platonic connection as well.
If you've reached this far, it's because of some happy confluence of my words, the Reddit algorithm and fickle fortune.
Our meeting seemed to dangle so much on fate, it's only fair we pay our dues. Give it our best shot. Do justice to the matchmakers of heaven - The directors of this romance.
I'm on the quest for a sweet companion. Someone with a good heart. Kind and empathetic - Like my own. The good person at the end of the romcom when the attractive antagonists lose their allure.
I love bonding with someone through heart to heart conversation. Through exchanging genuine care and concern. Through passionate exchange of our interests and hobbies. Through clockwork logging of our daily lives. Through mindful curiosity in each other's interests. Through mutual preference for glitter over gold, depth over deception, charm over carelessness and symphonies over superficiality.
The conversation starts out with pleasantaries and outward introduction of our demographic information - the most rudimentary. The most formal. Gradually, the outer layers crack and a mild joke cuts across the mask and we're another layer deep. Common or different tastes in art are the usual social custom for making new acquaintances.
Soon, our conversation flows like a roaring river eliciting deep intellectual and emotional responses from both of us.
We're discussing prized memories and cherished fantasies of the future. Chalking out hypotheticals and admiring the other's world views. Pretty soon, we're suddenly bare and feeling a strong bond by virtue of what we've shared.
Small silences punctuated the conversation. These silences were not awkward. It was a comforting waterfall of connection. It was the silence that followed from both of us knowing and enjoying the bond created by our hearts.
I loved the feeling of ending a conversation with a stranger on the first day with the feeling you've known them for years. I harboured romantic beliefs that such a connection must be the byproduct of a relationship in a previous life !
Here are a few things about me -
Here's what I would like from us
Also would be nice if we can just share photos so we can visualise what we look like as I like sharing photos when I go somewhere. I just like getting this out of the way. It doesn't matter to me what you look like, but I do like to know whom I'm talking to.
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I am someone who is quite a sweet and effortful person. I would love an online connection with someone similar to me and have good, intellectual conversations and also share some laughter and affection. Affection can light us up and make us happy. (Even platonic connection is fine.) I like giving and receiving affection in the form of cute, little nicknames for each other, checking up on each other, asking about each other.
I hope my words sail to some worthwhile eyes on the winds of destiny.
I have grown wary of superficial connections, no effort replies and even abrupt ghosts.
I would like someone with whom I can exchange sweet words with. I am quite a romantic person and I was more so as earlier. A lot of responsibilities were thrust upon me with time, but I have rediscovered that side of myself. I would love to have a pretend romance with an online companion - where we pretend like we are long lost soul mates and trade fiery words of sweet passion for each other.
But, that is completely optional. I am fine with a wholesome, platonic connection as well.
If you've reached this far, it's because of some happy confluence of my words, the Reddit algorithm and fickle fortune.
Our meeting seemed to dangle so much on fate, it's only fair we pay our dues. Give it our best shot. Do justice to the matchmakers of heaven - The directors of this romance.
I'm on the quest for a sweet companion. Someone with a good heart. Kind and empathetic - Like my own. The good person at the end of the romcom when the attractive antagonists lose their allure.
I love bonding with someone through heart to heart conversation. Through exchanging genuine care and concern. Through passionate exchange of our interests and hobbies. Through clockwork logging of our daily lives. Through mindful curiosity in each other's interests. Through mutual preference for glitter over gold, depth over deception, charm over carelessness and symphonies over superficiality.
The conversation starts out with pleasantaries and outward introduction of our demographic information - the most rudimentary. The most formal. Gradually, the outer layers crack and a mild joke cuts across the mask and we're another layer deep. Common or different tastes in art are the usual social custom for making new acquaintances.
Soon, our conversation flows like a roaring river eliciting deep intellectual and emotional responses from both of us.
We're discussing prized memories and cherished fantasies of the future. Chalking out hypotheticals and admiring the other's world views. Pretty soon, we're suddenly bare and feeling a strong bond by virtue of what we've shared.
Small silences punctuated the conversation. These silences were not awkward. It was a comforting waterfall of connection. It was the silence that followed from both of us knowing and enjoying the bond created by our hearts.
I loved the feeling of ending a conversation with a stranger on the first day with the feeling you've known them for years. I harboured romantic beliefs that such a connection must be the byproduct of a relationship in a previous life !
Here are a few things about me -
- I love staying at home.
- I do not drink or smoke and don't like going to noisy pubs. Although there are times when friends or office parties are conducted there, it's something I just tolerate.
- I love reading. I am interested in programming, Mathematics, Chess, Science, Psychology, Geopolitics, Space, Literature (fantasy particularly or late but I like all kinds) and Self Help (Productivity and Positive Psychology) - and a lot more ! I'm generally intellectually curious and a lifelong learner.
- I love following updates on things I'm passionate about and sharing them regularly. I love following podcasts and blogs and videos on them and sharing and discussing them. I also love explaining a new thing I have learnt as it helps me understand it better.
- I tend to be positive and look at the brighter side of life usually. But I also like sharing the problems I am going through and like listening to your's.
- I love animals. I have a lot of pets. I am also quite close to my family and am surrounded by my loving pets (5 dogs and 4 cats). I recovered from dengue last month and they were always around me all the time. It felt very good.
- I love putting in effort into messages and writing effortful messages and generally use complete words and not much abbreviations. I love crafting a symphony of text.
- I am usually quite calm and supportive and remember things that are told to me in conversation. I like getting emotional and expressive and am soft hearted and sensitive. I am also quite mature and enjoy talking to similarly mature people.
Here's what I would like from us
- Genuine interest, care and empathy for each other - Making each other a priority though we are strangers at first. That's part of the excitement in jumping head first into this ! That does not mean we do not respect each other's busy schedules or commitments. I'm looking for something really genuine.
- Regular effortful messages, and remembering things the other says
- I love sharing or explaining anything new I learn, whether it is a blog post, podcast, video, book or a general thought that came through my mind. It would be great if you love listening to good explanations and are interested in such things. I'd also love it if you too like sharing blogs or podcasts on topics that you are interested in but it's not necessary.
- I also love self improvement and sharing progress or motivation as we are doing things towards our goals and dreams.
- I love voice calls as I love the sound of voice. I would love it if you are someone who is excited at having regular voice calls (2-3 times a week) or at least exchanging voice messages at times !
- We don't need to have similar taste in art (music, TV shows, movies). I am open to learning about new kinds of interests and new subcultures !
- Openly sharing our thoughts on the bigger ideas and arcs of life and also venting about the smaller frustrations
- Being excited at receiving messages from the other person every time we light each other's phones up.
- [Optional] Some online romance where we sometimes say things to each other that make us blush like our first crush. A little romance to brighten each other up. Though this is completely optional. Sometimes sharing sweet, romantic messages with each other and maybe even doing this on voice calls too.
Also would be nice if we can just share photos so we can visualise what we look like as I like sharing photos when I go somewhere. I just like getting this out of the way. It doesn't matter to me what you look like, but I do like to know whom I'm talking to.