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2024.05.19 14:42 CanIgetasodabitch I (18F) just had my first break up and I don't know how to move on.

So, we started dating a month ago. It started online, so we never met.
Idk how I ended up obsessed with him. He liked me a lot at first and we reciprocated feelings, but both were scared of LDR, so decided to stay platonic, but later ended up with the bf/gf tags. Idk how, but later he suddenly started backing off. Like we shared everything so he told me he don't feel like talking to me anymore when I complained about his ignorance towards me.
At first we thought it was cause he isn't a text person, cause he said he love calls with me. I tried calling as much as I could (I have a pretty strict family, so had to be careful).
Things went well, but we started having problems again. We thought that being casual is better so went that route (I always wanted something serious, but idk I went with this cause all I wanted was a way to keep him)
Five days ago when we were on call, he told me he want it serious. I asked him if he's going to be back at "I don't want this, it's difficult", he replied that he will be fine this time.
But his actions said otherwise, ignoring me, less calls and everything less from his side. He talked a lot before, initiated conversation more and well it was fun.
Now it felt like only me in the relationship, so I asked him to break up finally. He agreed, and I guess we really can't do LDR. I don't blame him cause it's not his fault for losing feelings, but I am pretty obsessed. I really did love him ig, like I just told him that I have moved on and "we were just teens that gave in lust and were never in love" (lust cause we sexted, a lot. I thought it was serious so I did. Now I feel like I lost something special for someone who will actually love me).
Idk what to do now, we decided that we are gonna stay friends cause we got too close and told each other a lot of things we could never open up about. I don't wanna stop talking to him and stay friends but move on too. I am super stuck in this.
I don't feel like crying over him, but I physically feel drained. It's like I am blank. Ik it's a stupid teen love and it's not a big deal, everyone have their teenage heart break (This was my first relationship), but Idk how to move on, like I always knew how I will love someone, how I will want to give everything, but I never thought of a possibility of break up. I was living in delusions of 'first and forever'. I did thought we will stay like that, cause we were perfect before, but all the ignorance and him being troubled keeping up is something I don't want. He do not deserve to not enjoy the relationship and just keep up with this. If I didn't mention 'break up' today, he might have kept going with the relationship.
It was always me who complained about 'less attention' and he did feel sorry. He felt sorry for tagging me along when he stopped feeling things. I somehow have not stopped feeling love for him. Whenever we decided to get back to friends, we somehow ended up being together and it never went well.
We talk a lot when we are not a couple, but as soon as we get back together, we start having problems. We can't always blame LDR right?? That's a lame excuse.
Idk how to move on now, he surely did, cause he had nothing to move on from (Again, I don't blame him for not reciprocating feelings, I guess I bought it on myself for falling like crazy)
So, dear redditors, please help me got off my first relationship. I am sorry for writing a lot, but yeah, help me out with this one.
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2024.05.19 14:41 dper94 I (M/29) was contacted by a very special friend (F/30) from highschool, she is in Argentina and I am in the US, apparently, she is starting to fall in love with me, what should I do?

I don't know if this is a weird case, but, I love her since highschool, we could not be together for different reasons, I was so sad that decided to stay away from her, to heal. Last time i saw her was in graduation, that was in 2011. A couple weeks ago, I was working, it was a normal day and I got a message from her, she wanted to be my friend 13 years after. We started talking, doing calls, videocall, a lot of texting, sending photos to each other and she is impressed by my physical appeareance, now she likes me a lot. I have changed so much since highschool. I never tought she was going to start feeling love for me because we are far away and she has a BF since 8 years ago, so, we started to flirt, talk stupid romantic and hypothetical stuff. This is scalating very quickly so we decided to not talk again, I dont wanna mess up her relationship. We decided to go that way because she told me a few days ago that now her relationship is in danger, i felt responsible for that and i told her multiple times to stop flirting, lets have a normal "friend like" conversation, lets avoid romantical stuff because its not gonna happend (I cant afford bring her here to the US in my current financial situacion, she would have to work hard, like me, so we can have a good life, but she is not used to hard work). I did not text her anymore, but she did last night, she told me she cant resist not having me in her life and she wanna run away. She insists telling me she does not want to live here in the US but at the same time she is making comments where she imagine herself here, with me. I'm worried, a lot, if she ends up her relationship she will be in a very bad position back in Argentina, I wont be able to bring her here, at least for now. That without saying that this would be our very first try, what if everything goes wrong? I told her, block me from your life, do it, but she does not wanna do it, me neither. She has family in Denver, the only thing that cross my mind is that she can move with then i can go there on vacation to try a little and see how it goes. I dont know what to do, last night we agreed not to talk to each other anymore, but probably she is gonna text again, i fear one of this days she will tell me she broke with her BF.
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2024.05.19 14:41 SubstantialCreme7748 Howie Carr in Canton Townies and the Karen Read Case

https://www.bostonherald.com/2024/05/18/howie-carr-karen-read-trial-is-a-corrupt-canton-townie-sideshow/
POSTED: Howie Carr: Karen Read trial is a corrupt Canton townie sideshow
PUBLISHED: May 18, 2024 at 4:25 p.m. UPDATED: May 18, 2024 at 4:27 p.m.
Paul Revere used to summer every year in Canton, but he wouldn’t recognize the place today.
One thing, though, hasn’t changed since the 18th of April in ’75 — the locals still love their midnight rides, but with one big difference.
Paul Revere wasn’t hammered out of his mind when he was on horseback, spreading the alarm to every Middlesex village and farm.
Through the first 14 days of the Karen Read murder trial in Dedham, we have learned much about life in the Town of Canton, post-Paul Revere.
As you know, Read is accused of murdering her boyfriend, BPD cop John O’Keefe, by drunkenly running him over in a snowstorm in January 2022.
His body was found outside the home of another BPD officer, who has since sold the house, gotten rid of his phone and dog and abruptly retired from the job, not that there’s anything wrong with that.
How screwed up is this case? Well, the feds are all over it like white on rice.
Read’s defense attorneys have said the G-men’s accident-reconstruction experts have concluded that O’Keefe couldn’t possibly have been killed by a car.
Then there are all those texts that haven’t been “mistakenly” deleted…
The state’s lead investigator is thisclose to the Hibernian hillbillies who are up to their eyeballs in this mess.
According to opening statements, State Trooper Michael Proctor’s first thought when he was assigned the case was to text his Canton high-school buddies. He told them he was already searching online for nude photos of Karen Read.
Proctor is now under investigation by MSP Internal Affairs — if only because it’s the feds who discovered his texts, rather than the corrupt Staties themselves.
How will Proctor do on cross-examination? Do you remember an LAPD detective by the name of Mark Fuhrman?
Back on the stand Tuesday will be Jen McCabe. She’s the one who’s missing one of her front teeth.
Don’t confuse Toothy McCabe with Julie Albert. Julie is the one who chews gum while testifying. Her father’s name is/was Jack Daniels — coincidence?
Julie is married to Chris Albert. He did a six-month state bit in 1995 after killing a Hungarian exchange student in a hit-and-run accident.
His public defender was one John Prescott, whose sister is the judge in the case — Beverly Cannone. She’s a lifelong payroll patriot from Quincy, like the rotund district attorney, Meatball Mike Morrissey.
If you want to hide something real good, just stick it in one of Judge Cannone’s law books.
From her courtroom rulings, Cannone seems to believe that the synonym for “exculpatory” is “excluded,” as in, if the evidence is exculpatory for Karen Read, it’s excluded.
Chris Albert, by the way, is a Canton selectman. As the only jailbird in the fight, he was elected in a landslide. Forget it Jake — it’s Canton.
Even if you haven’t been paying close attention, there are easy ways to figure out who’s who. The townies — which is everyone except the defendant — all pronounce their hometown not as “Canton” but as “Can-UHN.”
Here’s how the examination begins after each witness is sworn in.
Where do you live? Can-UHN. Where were you born? Can-UHN. Where did you go to high school? Can-UHN High.
Have you ever been anywhere else? Yes, once I drove to a packy… in Stough-UHN.
Selectman Albert owns the local pizza parlor. On the night John O’Keefe died outside his brother’s house, he closed his shop, then walked across the street to a local dive where he ordered “appetizers.” That’s how good his own restaurant is.
Then, meeting up with the rest of the Can-UHN townies, the selectman ordered the usual — a round of Fireballs. How Canton is it?
After last call, he offered to take the crapulous crew back to his pizzeria for some free eats. Everybody said… nah.
Almost all these people live, or did live, in the same houses they grew up in, bought by their parents 50 years ago as they fled Boston after the start of busing.
Lucky for them they inherited these tear-downs, because otherwise most of them would have already fled back to their natural habitat — trailer parks.
See, Canton’s on the commuter-rail line, so housing prices have been going up, up and away. It’s only a matter of time until all these low-rent losers are priced out.
So resentment is simmering among the old Can-UHN crowd. They don’t like what’s happening — just last year, their favorite hang-out, Big D’s Neponset Grill, went out of business.
It was the last place in town where you could get a fried-baloney sandwich. Now that was some really fine Can-UHN cuisine.
What must the U.S. attorney be thinking as he watches this legal lynching unfold in deepest, darkest Dedham? The defense has said in open court that the feds already have a proffer — a deal — with the only witness who didn’t go to Can-UHN High.
The hack prosecutor did not dispute the statement.
Judge Cannone has instructed all the parties not to mention that federal grand jury, where at least three cops have apparently told conflicting stories from what they testified before Meatball’s state grand jury.
But the other day, one of the younger witnesses was asked who’s questioned him about O’Keefe’s death.
“The feds,” he blurted out in front of the jury.
Well, what could you expect? He went to Can-UHN High.
This trial is drawing a huge audience. Unlike Trump’s kangaroo-court case in New York, there are cameras in the Dedham courtroom. Live streaming coverage.
And Karen Read is not guilty. Tensions are running high. There have been fights and restraining orders — and that’s just among the reporters.
Aidan “Turtleboy” Kearney is the blogger who’s made the case into a national story. He’s been barred from the courtroom for certain witnesses — the “McAlberts,” as he calls the Alberts and the McCabes.
The McAlbert witnesses begin weeping when they talk about Turtleboy. He makes them want to spit out their chewing gum and order another round of Fireballs.
How dare he call their hero Jailbird Chris Albert “Chicken Parm Charlie?”
I have Turtleboy on my radio show most afternoons. On Friday, he said Jen McCabe has a worse set of teeth than George Washington did.
The most appealing thing about this case is that you can watch it and feel better about your own hometown. In Holbrook, they listen to Chicken Parm Charlie and realize that he makes their ex-selectman Daniel Lee look like Daniel Webster.
In Methuen, they see Canton’s Keystone Cops and think, you know, maybe Chief Solomon wasn’t that bad after all…
If Paul Revere could only see what’s become of Canton, he’d put the spurs to Brown Beauty and keep riding. Only instead of “The British are coming!” he’d be yelling something different. “The white trash are coming!”
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2024.05.19 14:40 More_Oil_7210 Tenant not Responding + rent unpaid

Hello all. It’s been almost two months, the tenant has not paid rent for these two months (Rent is due on the first). He’s been late before and paid in parts, we hadn’t agreed on this arrangement but I did not trouble him regarding this.
After he missed April, I tried phoning and texting him maybe three times a week, he did not respond. I checked another unit on the property at mid-end of April and knocked on his door as well, he did not answer (it was a weekend). The tenants in the other unit also said they did not hear from him, and also said that they no longer hear any noises like TV etc from his unit either.
After he missed May, I sent him an eviction notice by email. He did not respond. The weekend after he was to move out or fill back pay, I checked on his unit again. He did not answer, but his things were still there and there were also some new things on his rack outside his unit from when I checked the property in mid-end April. Also, in the April visit, the items outside his unit were scattered and a mess, now they are arranged on the rack.
What do I do now? Can I come into his unit with my key to check if he’s there?
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2024.05.19 14:39 juliacar I’ve gotten “I’m not ready for a relationship” after my last three first dates. Bad luck or is it me?

All of these guys had “long term relationship” in their profile. All of them asked me out. And all of them, the next morning, texted that they “weren’t ready for a relationship”. I know the common wisdom says that means that they aren’t ready for a relationship with me, and I want to just take it in stride and move on, but the pattern is concerning to me. I’m 23F, I understand most people in my age range are not looking for anything long term, and even I would be open to a more casual situation.
I just don’t know if this is a numbers thing or I’m doing something terribly wrong. I talk for a living (presenter, public speaker essentially) so I’m great at chit chat, consider myself quite charismatic, all of my photos are up to date and accurate. All of the convos leading up to the dates were great too. I’m just so frustrated right now.
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2024.05.19 14:36 PanFriedSalmon675 Asking ex out on a "second first date"

Here is a brief timeline of the breaup. Me (M23) and my ex(F23) had been dating for 3 years. She broke up with me in February, a few days before the Valentines( which was also supposed to be our 3rd anniversary, we had started dating a few month before that but we counted valentines as the anniversary)
The breakup was a bit surprising, because we had planned a trip to Germany for April and bought the tickets about 2 weeks prior to breakup, but no that I think about it it was not that surprising.
In any case a month before the breakup both of us had very rough schedule, hardly seeing each other and that pretty much effected pur communication. That was the main reason of breaking up.
Though it hurt a lot the breakup was civil, we did not talk much, she just told me she wanted to break up and that was pretty much it. Talked for a few minutes and I left, speechless in a way, not realizing what was going on.
A few days later I drunk texted her(i know, awful idea, but was not intentional). I was not sober, but not that drunk either, it was a day after the breakup and felt pretty emotional. There were a lot of thing that I wanted to say just coming in my head and I decided I'd just write those things and delete it, but accidentally sent it to her. We had a bit of a conversation over text and that was it for the day.
After a month of breakup she texted me and asked me to meet up and we did, we talked a bit and basically she told me that she though she left me on a "waiting state" and she wanted to spend some time alone to understand what she wanted. I was okay with that, and by that time I had decided to move on, though I still lived her. Anyways, we talked and talked and she asked me if it was okay to hug me, from that things built up, we spent hourse just walking, talking, and being physical and well, we spent the night together. The morning was full of tears and talks and that was it.
We had a few random encounters after that and every time I met her, even if it was for a second, I felt like I was falling for her iver and over again( and that felt wonderful every single time)
Fast forward to a week ago, I met her and asked her for the flaws/problems we had and I had just to make sure I took a look at those things. And we talked a bit of whys and all. The communication breakdown was a key factor(again).
Now here I am, feeling weird. I'm not sad, I'm not feeling lost. I'm just feeling weird. And I have this strange though running through my had for the last couple of days. I want to ask her out on a "second first date", not to get back to the relationship we had(it failed so no point in that), but to see if there are still things that made us fall for each other when we first started. Not sure if I will do that, but that rhough has been living in my head rent free. Even if I do, not sure what kind of response I will get, and to be honest, it does not matter if I get yes, no or just completely get ignored, I feel like any sort of response would make me happy.
So people of reddit, what do you think?
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2024.05.19 14:33 bbrooks88 I'm using Romance Books as a way to process some sexual trauma and it's WORKING

I joined this subreddit when Reddit suggested it from an emotion evoking title and the rest was history. My therapist recommended reading romance books to help address some sexual trauma that I have around opening myself up to my husband fully and just being more comfortable with myself and with him.
I think it's been a year since I've been reading them and I've had 2 huge breakthroughs! Not here to brag at all, but I'm curious if anyone else is using Romance books to heal their own sexual issues vs just reading some smut for "pleasure" ;)
All of this to say, I hope you are all enjoying your romance books. I'll list what I've read(spoiler free) and learned below for those curious.
{Then earth swallowed ocean} by Shiloh Sloane and the sequel, {under a cracked blue sky} Helped me realize that people can speak exactly what they desire and the outcome is almost always positive. Also that when we find our "person", that it's normal to give yourself to them and be vulnerable. Your person will not reject you, they'll embrace you more.
{Butcher and Blackbird} by Brynne Weaver - this is what I'm currently reading and I just got to the sexy part. It helped me realize that our walls can prevent true happiness and when we let them down around our person, great things happen. Great feelings happen. And it's best to talk that out.
Ok now for some TMI- this morning was the B&B revelation and I woke my husband up with a weepy face but ready to keep my walls down. It was amazing to say the least. And I got dizzy from how much I was hyperventilating, haha.
Thanks to this amazing community!
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2024.05.19 14:33 Ok_Steak565 do i get back with my ex?

my boyfriend caught feelings for my friend and once he realized he told her they can’t be getting close anymore, he wasn’t planning on telling me until the girl said she would tell if he didn’t. Before this he snapped other girls, saved pictures of them in chat and complimented them. But this the girl he caught feelings for he told her he was losing feelings for me and wanted to break up with me and called her the prettiest girl he’s met. He said he don’t know why he did that and he wasn’t thinking when he said those type of things. When he told me about it i broke up with him. He’s always been really sweet to me and he seems very genuine. I don’t know how to trust him again because he keeps on talking to girls when things get bad. He bought me stuff and said he would do anything to make this up to me and he seems very genuine, he unadded every girl on snap and deleted a few socials without me asking. He’s my best friend end and i’m his best friend iend so we’ve been texting a lot still and it seems like it never happened other than me making jokes about it to him to cope with it. He’s been calling me love and baby things like that. He begged me to stay with him but i told him i need time and we could maybe try in the future but i don’t know if it’s a good idea. I trusted him with everything and it seemed like he would’ve never cheated on me, he changed my perspective on love since this is the first time i’ve gotten cheated on, he was my first with a lot of things and we clicked really fast. I just don’t know how i’ll find someone as good as him other than the cheating.
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2024.05.19 14:32 Weekly-Rest1033 I don't know if I was wrong in all this..

I have almost 4 month old sons named Ronald Adam and Alistair Elijah. The meanings behind the names: Ronald was my husband's grandfather's name who he was very close with. Adam is from a video game character he likes. Alistair is a video game character I like and I just love the name. Elijah is an honor name for my nana. Well my big sister who is 9 years older than me and who I have always been extremely close to said she had a list of names she didn't want me naming our boys and Ronald was on that list. Even when I explained why that name was chosen, she made a face and put her nose up in the air.
My sister "gives nicknames for everyone". She was calling Ronald "Ari" and Alistair "Eli". I had mentioned probably we would call Alistair "Ali" as he got older. My sister said Ali was too girly.
She kept writing Ari and Eli and it just was driving me crazy. I finally asked her to please start calling them by their given names, I know she doesn't like them but for now we would like her to use their given names at least in our company. This was all said over text. I wasn't rude. She said "okay but I'm just going to say one thing" and I see a wall of text. I didn't read it. I didn't want to fight.
Is this wrong of me? I know they're just nicknames. Maybe it would have been okay if she wasn't so against their given names. But my sister was so against me having boys... "You know this is your husband's fault right? Maybe your twin sister will get pregnant now and give us girls" and even told some lady we just met "Yeah she's having twins, they're boys and we are upset about that" Did I want girls? Absolutely..but I wouldn't have told a random stranger that.
Since getting pregnant, my whole perception of my childhood changed. I thought my mom and my big sister were the best... That they truly loved me. But now my big sister will not talk to me because I asked her to use my son's names correctly. The sad thing is... I don't even miss her.
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2024.05.19 14:28 armanakbari84 What now? Trust issues?

I met a girl almost 5 years ago in a group chat in telegram. I was very lonely those days( still am lol ) and we chatted for a year then we became best friends, she told me she was 21 ( she was 16 actually I found out 2 years later) and after 3 years, out of nowhere I found myself in love with her. And like any other fucked up normal person I DIDN’T tell her. I was in mad love for a year and half ( we didn’t meat each other ) and some how last summer her best friend met a guy that guy had a friend and you know now what Happen. But from summer till end of November I was a helpless guy and in love with her, I didn’t have a license to drove to her( another city ) but I wanted to take a train to her city and meet her but she insisted she’s not in the mood and maybe another time( i was hoping all summer on this train thing). After that she barely texted me and i being the dumbest guy in the world thought yeah she is busy with her studies and all. Every thing will be okay after spring and guess what. I got dumped. She is with that guy( maybe ? ) And I’m a different person now. i healed but now
Here’s the problem, how the fuck can I trust anybody else? Can we like make a code ( the bro bro code ) Like idk when 2 hopeless people met the just say hi
Don’t want to get hurt, I love you, let’s live a happy life together Aka D.i.L code. ? Anybody agree? For example
Hi i‘m Arman, D.i.L How are you?
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2024.05.19 14:25 Scared_Count_8621 21f ,advice over a new guy 25 m (4.5 yrs. Older)

So I met this new guy when I went to my cousin's wedding , two years back when I was 19f and he was 23m ( he is 4.5 years older). He followed me around and tried to talk to me but I did not reply cuz well he commented that my purse was pretty common looking and everyone has it these days (which I thought was rude) but I was willing to overlook it cuz everyone blurts random things sometimes .. Anyways he got my number and he did not text me but he knows I've been looking through his ig account (which is public ) and he posts stuff for my benefit I guess .or idk to impress me ? ( I think he liked me too but I won't count on it since he didn't even text me a hello since after coming back to my place ). After a few months I posted a pic of my childhood male friend's birthday and he in turn posted a bunch of pics and videos of random chicks dancing (he went on a cruise ,this honestly seems like a manipulative tactic to me ) or maybe he was jealous or is an evil person in general.
I am still stuck on him since I felt we had great chemistry and can't seem to get him out of my mind and I need to know if he is a loser who's just doing whatever he is doing cuz he just likes attention from a younger chick. Also , he has no job but has started his business 6 months back based on crypto ( his daddy's money ) and he is a distant family member.
I'm asking you guys if I should talk to him this year on another of my cousin's wedding ( who is the sister of the one I mentioned above), and maybe start things ?
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2024.05.19 14:25 ConsequenceWest2080 27 and still figuring it out

Hi all -
I (27F) have entered my first dating relationship that has gone past a few dates as an adult and I’m unfortunately feeling like a fish out of water. I’m currently on week 6 of getting to know someone after being extremely content to be single for the last 5 years. I am hoping to gain some insight before I make any further decisions on what I want/am looking for.
At the beginning of April, I matched with 27M and after a couple days of chatting we met up for drinks. Since then, we have seen eachother almost everyday with the exception of a few days and a trip that 27M previously had planned with his family.
Here are the details:
•We live 30 minutes apart but he drives to see me at some point throughout the day whether after work or at some point during the weekend and I would say until 2 weeks ago it was mostly him initiating.
•We have spent time hanging out at home, going to the gym, going on a hike, eating out, getting drinks/going to happy hour
•He is very physically affectionate and sweet with his words - compliments are common.
•at the very beginning he paid for everything and now it’s a bit more equitable because I have insisted
•He took a clear nterest in learning things about my life. Whenever I randomly would mention something tough or a bit hard (not to be evasive but not to delve too much personal info too quickly) he would gently ask to know more and be very supportive in his response.
•We don’t text all day but we have communication daily
•He does mention the future often (3+ mos advance) and it is more so ideas “we can do this/we can go here/next time”. He does consistently bring up the same ideas
•He shares details about his family, his days, his friends without me having to ask
•We are intimate but not every time we see each other
•He and his family are immigrants and he has been up front about the pressure they put on him/expectations they put on him to be married/have kids m and he has openly communicated (not in a DTR convo) that he doesn’t want to think about marriage for another 2 years ish
•we have not DTR’d
•we have not met each others friends
Here is where I’m getting stumped:
I am personally not in a rush to be in a marriage-focused relationship. I am very content to continue to get to know eachother in the trajectory we’re moving and let things happen organically, especially because he has gently but consistently pulled the pace during this experience. The problem is that I am constantly inundated (without even having to look!) with the terms like “situationship” and constantly seeing all of these saying rules that people swear by that are making it hard to navigate this relationship without being fearful of all these added things people suggest/swear by etc. I want to disregard them and live my life and but i admittedly have such little relationship experience that part of me wonders if i feel resistance to these things because i am simply unaware.
Ultimately, before i decide on whether to DTR (not necessarily to be bf/gf but to just check in) I want to have a clear picture of what I’m working with with this person and be made aware of any signs that I am not aware of that I should be aware of.
Do you see any red flags? Yellow flags that I can keep an eye on? Green flags? If you’ve been in a similar experience, how would you navigate it? Do you need anymore info?
I am somewhat new to posting on Reddit so my apologies if I have done something wrong!!
*edited for formatting
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2024.05.19 14:24 ThrowRAleathering BPD x “Nonchalant” partner is the worst.

Context: I’m 20nb, partner is 20nb. Yes, i’m aware my emotions can be a lot. I’m aware little things that maybe shouldn’t matter to me, do. I’m aware of my triggers, I can be mindful and logical even during splits, at least enough to keep others safe (mentally or otherwise). YES, I have talked to him about all of this, explained how he can communicate/avoid triggers/show affection in ways that matter to me— trust me, we’ve had many talks, to the point I don’t really think he listens anymore, he just says “Yeah, uhuh, I get it,” until i finally shut up.
But holy fuck is it draining. I’m sure i’m no better. But most days it just feels like he couldn’t care less about me. Doesn’t ever ask me how my day was, how i slept, if ive eaten, doesn’t compliment me unless i compliment them (even then, its rare), doesn’t text me goodmorning or goodnight regardless of how many times i practically beg them to the day prior, doesn’t care to ask really any questions about me anymore, nothing. At all. I’m always initiating everything except sex, and the times we are together physically, its like none of these issues even exist, but the second i go home its like im not even a person to him anymore let alone his partner.
I love him so much, ive communicated and kept myself as level headed as possible during conversations every single time he’s triggered me beyond consolation, and its still a cycle that repeats. I’ve exhausted all options, and the emotional rollercoaster is getting nauseating fast.
I just wish he cared. I wish I could be so nonchalant, I wish I didn’t care as much.
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2024.05.19 14:24 alizqss Does anyone else subtitles in their mind?

Whenever i’m talking out loud or listening to music or basically doing anything that involves words, i picture the word that’s being said in my head as text, like i see the actual spelling of the word in my mind like someone’s typing it as we go. i’m the kind of person who absolutely can’t watch a movie without the subtitles so maybe it’s just a me thing but idk.
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2024.05.19 14:24 FiveFrights CPG × FF × 3D FredWare Studios × ??? - FNaB 5

This collaboration project between CommonPresent Games, Five Frights, 3D FredWare Studios, and an anonymous music producer have all collaborated to make the ultimate conclusion to the Five Nights at Bingo's games.
Explore the abandoned Bar & Grill that was said to be nothing but an urban legend... 55 years after it's closing.
Your name is Cory. You go to explore the ruins, inviting your friends Clyde and Jack to come along with you.
A large sinkhole has formed underneath the building in the show stage, leaving the place in ruins and mostly caving in, especially in the middle of it.
INTRODUCTION CINEMATIC
You arrive there at 11:30 PM, and you text Clyde and Jack to come. They say that they will be there by 12:00 AM. You then walk in, and you explore the place, and then you enter the security office at 11:59 AM. You then get a text from Clyde saying that he is almost there, and that he gave Jack a ride, as well.
NIGHT 1 - It is now officially 12:00 AM. The building has entered it's lockdown state, not letting anyone or anything get in.. or out. You run to look at your phone, and then you very quickly connect it to the barely functioning security cameras in the building, and once you go onto the Show Stage camera, you will see Moltenstein emerge from the old sinkhole, who is a melted together fusion of the extremely rotted Bingo and Blossom animatronics.
DIALOGUE: What even was that thing?! I have to get out of here! This bulletin board right here says that lockdowns can take 14-21 days to end?! 14-21 DAYS?! It's okay.. I can do this. I brought my portable wireless charger for my phone. I just need to get that.. thing... away from me.
Moltenstein will sometimes appear at one of your doorways. You have a left doorway, a right doorway, and an opened ceiling vent. Turn off your phone's flashlight if you see it, in order to get it not to kill you, and activate a nearby camera's flashlight in order to attract it towards that camera's location.
There are only 6 functioning cameras. They are all the Show Stage, New Lobby, Left Hall Entrance, Right Hall Corner, and the Dining Area.
The Show Stage is where Moltenstein will emerge from. It will then make it's way towards the New Lobby, Left Hall Entrance, or the Dining Area.
The Dining Area's camera is broken, forcing it to face the right side hallway, where there is a vent entrance nearby.
All of the cameras have an internal flashlight that was applied during the investigation of the premises right before it's closing. These internal flashlights all work surprisingly well on the still functional cameras, and they are good for attracting light sensitive animatronics nearby. Moltenstein is very, very sensitive to bright lights.
Your phone's flashlight will always be on by default. Hold down CTRL in order to shut off your phone's flashlight, making it incredibly hard to see, but stopling Moltenstein from killing you, and sometimes even making it leave.
Your phone will lose 1% battery power every 2 seconds (you instead will lose 1% of your phone's battery power every 5 seconds whenever your flashlight is turned off..). Using a camera's internal flashlight will make it lose an extra 3% of it's battery power.. immediately. You can recharge it to get an extra 35% but this takes roughly 5 seconds to do......
NIGHT 2 - Ugh.. I need to get out of here! I am starting to see things. I can't do this anymore, come on!! Why me??? It's whatever.. Clyde and Jack called me this morning, and they said that they were worried. I told them about my situation, and they said that they have notified the authorities, but they didn't believe them. Those people really think that this place is fake. How funny of them...
Memory Citrus and Memory Lizzy can now be seen. These are just hallucinations, however. If you ever see the original Citrus flying through the Dining Area, put down your phone quickly, or Memory Citrus will jumpscare you, causing for you to throw your phone onto the ground in panic, attracting Moltenstein towards the light, giving him a 20% chance to kill you after somewhere in betweenn 7.26310-8.54790 secondssss.
If you ever see the original Lizzy standing in the middle of the lobby, put your phone down quickly, otherwise Memory Lizzy will appear floating in front of both of your doorways, and all of your cameras, making you unable to see them, all while you lose 1% of your power every 0.552 seconds. This effects lasts.. just about..... 10 seconds. And yes, this does cause your phone's flashlight to glitch out as well, luring Moltenstein to your location.
NIGHT 3 - This has to be the last night.. Surely the police have realized that I have very suddenly gone missing... Right? Please, just let this end. No more!
Memory Buttercup can now sometimes appear in one of your doorways. Shine your phone's flashlight at her in order to make her go away, or else, she will jumpscare you very suddenly, causing for you to have a heart attack.. and... well, die.
Memory Caesar and Memory Chuck seek to both be always found together now, and they can now sometimes appear in one of your doorways. Pull out your phone and look at it in order to deter them away from the security office that you are hiding inside of.
NIGHT 4 - Hey, hey! It's me, Jack! I just wanted to tell you that Clyde called the police... yet again.. and now they are starting to take us WAY more seriously! They said that they are attempting to locate your phone.. But it needs to stay charged up to at least 50% from now (12 AM) up until 6 AM, or we will not able to locate you, AND YOU WILL DIE. You gave us the wrong directions for what reason, anyway, you idiot?!
If your phone's battery drops down below 50%, you will be immediately just.. killed by Moltenstein.
NIGHT 5 - Hey, hey! It's me, Jack! We got your location! The police are headed there, now... Let's go, man! You're gonna make it home, by tonight!!! But.. You need to stop yourself from using the camera's built-in internal flashlights. Apparently, the cameras share a union power generator system, hence why they still work, and they only have about.. 8 charges left. It is pretty crazy, actually, right??? So just.. be careful, dude. Bye, now!!!,,,
If you use the camera flashlights 8 times, they will be disabled, and Moltenstein will be immediately teleported to your door, and he will kill you after approximately 2.5-3.5 seconds.
NIGHT 6 - Listen, man. I'm sorry, okay? But you entering that establishment has awakened and set free the mess in there, and I cannot afford to be chased down by that thing... You see, my grandpa was at that place for a re-evaluation of it's safety.. for... an incident. And that was not even his first time there! I'm sorry.. But you will not be making it out of there alive. I have released an overwhelming amount of a special secret gas recipe into the building, causing your hallucations to feel the most real possible, meaning that they have a 50-50 chance of giving you a heart attack and.. well, kill you. I also adjusted the union power usage to only allow for 6 camera flashes, and.. now, you must also always keep your phone charged. You can NOT recharge it. Have fun, Cory.
(This night ends at 4 AM, as the police and Clyde will break into the building and save you at that time.. exactly.)
ALL ENDINGS
Good Ending - During Nights 1-5, keep your phone's battery above 30%, and do not ever use any more then 6 camera flashes in each night. This will give you access to the Old Lobby, where you will find Buttercup, Citrus, Lizzy, Caesar, Chuck, and an unused Endoskeleton during the Night 6 Escape Scene. You will then get the option to scrap or take with you each and every single one of them as you walk up to them, letting them rest now as nothing but legends if you scrap them all. You will then see a scene of Jack getting trapped inside of the building, right as you guys escape...
Bad Ending - Follow Jack's instructions, and leave with Clyde and the police on Night 6 without making any discoveries. You will then see a scene of Jack escaping the building, right as you guys escape...
Happy Ending (Canon) - During Nights 1-5, keep your phone's battery above 30%, and do not ever use any more then 6 camera flashes in each night. This will give you access to the Old Lobby, where you will find Buttercup, Citrus, Lizzy, Caesar, Chuck, and an unused Endoskeleton during the Night 6 Escape Scene. You will then get the option to scrap or take with you each and every single one of them as you walk up to them, but if you take them all with you, you will then see the location rebuilt with the recovered and repaired Bingo, Blossom, Citrus, Buttercup, Lizzy, Caesar, Chuck, and the brand new Tropico The Toucan animatronics. Tropico The Toucan is an amazing newly built counterpart friend for the now happy Citrus The Toucan animatronic character.
We will be collaborating on FNaB 6, just as we did with this game, to introduce the continuation to the game series, and it's amazing and wonderfully unique storyline. We have amazing plans for this next entry of the series, and they will all be shared on here.. very, very soon.
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2024.05.19 14:23 Dalilscrappyman I work in the trades and…

I work in the trades and met this chick that works at a supply house. Lot of IOIs, synchronicity, so after the second time I happen to go there, I call back the next day, I said “hey this pipe you sold me is a bitch to work with I was wondering if you’re a bitch to work with? What’s your number let me take you out sometime?” Maybe I said PAIN instead of bitch. Regardless, she was loving it and laughing the whole time over the phone. She thought I called with some honest complaint or something.
I later planned the date, we got dinner, walked around the area a bit, and THEN she went home. (I got this idea from another Corey Wayne post, ie put yourself in their shoes, YOU do the screening!) I hit her up the next week to plan the next little outing. We went on a hike, not too far from where we ate, to try and see the sunset. That SEEMED to go well and ended well with a nice kiss at the end. After the kiss I thought uh oh she seems like a tiger… I could tell we both seemed happier after the kiss. And to clarify, yes I am completely aware how things can go well in my eyes but not someone elses. And I was still kinda doing that same philosophy, I understood the logistics of this date wouldn’t end in sex, unless we did it on the peak of that small mountain/hill. Which is possible!
So, I hit her up the next week to plan the 3rd date. She comes up my way, at least 40-50 miles. We go on an even longer hike, (I forgot how long it was until I got there, I actually took a chick there before, and that could have been obvious to her, the way I talked about it. YIKES? Could have caused a little less attraction) Anyway, it seemed to go well. (But again, I know my eyes are a lot different than hers). So we get back to my place, it’s probably close to 930. She’s pulling up maps to telling me how far her ride home is. I looked at her, trying to look like james bond you know, and said something like “Oh you don’t want to stay here? I thought..” and you know how that went. EASY. Maybe almost too playerish, I never actually invited or asked her to stay. But either way she stayed the night. I’ll just say condoms suck. And I know the sex obviously matters. I felt like she was good but I was bad. Making me think why even bother? She’s probably lost interest. It’s also HOW she left, how she walked to car and drove off, I feel like I’ve seen that so many times.
Anyway though, that was Tuesday night, it’s now Sunday morning. She hasn’t reached out. And I know the same thoughts might be going through her head, “Why hasn’t he reached out to me?” Or she moved that night! This is a time where I kind of get hung up. I mean, the mere fact that I’m making this post shows that I’m not really acting like the indifferent individual that I need to be. I’m not being that strong rock I need to be. I’m also curious on how you guys would proceed here or normally proceed after a third date?
I will admit, it naturally feels good to have this space. It allows me some time to think too. I don’t want to be a robot, I want to act natural. If she thinks this as well and still likes me, then that’s even better. And isn’t this what the book is about? Vetting the women that are interested in you. Right? And ie if this drives her crazy then I’m dodging a bullet. Likewise, if it drives me crazy, and drives us men to make reddit posts, then yea maybe we still have stuff to work on. What do you gents think is the right move here? If I do reach out, I don’t want to send one of those texts that really sounds more like “hey are you still interested in meee? Will you please accept me back into your life??? Please!!”
So what would be a good way to lead out? And reach out with that fun bus energy? Or should I not even bother? My gut is kind of telling me don’t even bother. Because like I said, it’s the way she walked to her car that morning. Eyes and body language do not lie! Besides all that, it seemed like we were hitting it off on all three dates. (Again, I know I may be seeing things differently than her!) Regardless, this is another good learning experience. I swear I learn more about myself than others WHEN MEETING OTHERS. It’s still a good WIN as long as I remain indifferent. It’s crazy how you can start focusing on someone you met three times and not your mission! Focus on your mission today folks! Because the women will flock to you!
I’m 30, she’s mid 20s. Any typos I will try and fix. I'm trying to keep that attitude of "Yea sure I'll give her another shot..." And to be honest, that's kind of how I feel about it, trying to be indifferent to the outcome. It's not so hard when you remind yourself to be. And to clarify, I did not reach out to her afterwards, didn't send a text the next day or anything like that.
So again, what would be a good way to lead out? And reach out with that fun bus energy?
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2024.05.19 14:23 Automatic_Science_68 Is my relationship over?

I have been trying to be supportive and patient but i don’t know how much longer i can do it.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for not too long now. And from the start we just clicked. We have friends that said it was like we’d known each other for our whole lives when we’d only known each other for a very short amount of time before we started dating. Everything was going great up until this last week.
Backstory: My bf joined the marines after his dad died last year. He’s from oregon but was stationed out in my state. Recently some news has come up regarding his father’s autopsy report in the last week and my bf has been a silent warrior since.
I have barely spoken to him in the last week with the last 4 days being the hardest. He’s been busy with work but only works 7am-4:30/5pm. He hasn’t been texting or calling like he used to everyday. Thursday morning he sent me a text after not talking to me for almost 24 hours saying he wanted to break up. I decided that if he was going to do that then I needed to give him his things back so I went to see him that night. That night he told me after trying to speak to him about what’s been going on he said he still wanted to be with me. and was saying things like “i’m scared i’m going to fk up” and “i just don’t want to end up like my dad” as well as giving me news he was being shipped off to california (we’re in NC currently) possibly at the end of next week (aka this week we just entered). so it was my understanding that we were still together but i was going to give him a little more space. It is now sunday morning and i have only spoken to him during a 5 min phone call yesterday around 4:30pm. He hasn’t read a single message I’ve sent him since thursday night.
Is my relationship over?
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2024.05.19 14:22 Pretty-Plan9352 Tips on texting my crush I like him???

I am abt to text my crush that I like him. But the thing is, I don’t like him anymore. it’s just my feelings came back and I think I should tell him so I don’t focus on him. I’m at the peak of my life, I have all the free time in the world and I would rather spend time doing Smth else. Yet I still find myself wishing for him to like me as well. We are childhood friends but we have grown quite distant, still meet a lot but the flow has changed in a room between. He has grown quite a lot and there may be some sort of tension between us.(or I’m delulu)He now has matured to the point where he makes sure I have a place to sit that is not so far from him andddd he doesn’t close his door anymore. What should I text? >_<
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2024.05.19 14:20 Lifel0ver_666 is this a shitty thing to do?

ok so basically i met this guy online after he dm me on my story saying "he wanted me since the first time i posted myself" and after that we were talking for about a month. He literally fucking used me the whole time like after week one i dont remember having a real convo w him. the most we would talk is when we were sexting (i knew he was using me from the start but i js lied to myself nd said "idc he lives accross the world anyway") nd btw ik no one takes long distance/e relationships fr but using someone is actually js fucked. Anyways he left me on delivered for a day which i didn't rlly care cus of time zones nd ppl have lives wtvr. nd then he sends me a snap of him making out w someone laying in bed. nd after that i left him on opened. he started typing but said nothing i sent a couple snaps tryna confront him about it but then i deleted them nd js said hi cus there was no point of trying to talk about that. like bro wtf did he even say to that tbh like if u want someone else u could have js texted me like why tell me like that LMAO. nd then he blocked me on everything after that, i sent him a text on a seperate account but del it again cus idk. im not too bothered cus who tf takes e-dating seriously?? but i js wanna know if anyone else thinks this was a dickhead thing to do. Plus he has my nudes saved in chat on snap nd i didnt get to ask him to unsave them. I'm not sure if snapchat still keeps them but i fucking hope not cus if so kms. was this shitty?
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2024.05.19 14:20 Packsnackbackpack Can I take Sinemet-free weekends?

I’m wondering if anyone only takes Sinemet as needed, and just deals with PD without it when they can.
My MDS doesn’t understand why I’d want to not take it constantly, as he saw my scores go down when I was on 1.5 pills of c/l 3x a day for a month. When I went in for the appointment, I thought he was going to tell me they weren’t working. Yes I could type a little better but I don’t feel on/off periods. I just notice “hey I am a little less shaky when I unload the dishes” or “hey my shoulder is slightly less painful today” There’s never a great surge of relief, I never get my handwriting back, and tbh a stress free day and a good night sleep seems to do the same thing for my PD stiffness. So really, if the results aren’t impactful to me, I don’t see why I should take it all the time?
I went 24 hours without C/L last weekend and didn’t notice any difference. I don’t type on the weekends. So this work week I waited until noon each day when my hand started sucking and took a dose with a little bit of impact to finish up the work day. Seemed fine. Yesterday, I had lunch in the sun with an old friend if not seen in awhile, browsed shops with no agenda alone, and painted when I got home. Felt great.
So like, if it’s a stress free day or I don’t need my fine motor skills, why take it?
MDS said I could stop C/L cold turkey, but when I googled I found warnings saying not to. I’m not thrilled with him in general/there’s no trust there (getting a new one this winter). Anyway, curious if anyone takes as needed or if you’ve heard it’s dangerous to do so.
Specifics re: my general symptoms if needed: I have rigid dominant YOPD with action tremor that’s worse with cold/big feelings. My main issues are tremor when texting/unloading the dishes, slow typing, and reduced mobility and moderate pain in my affected hand/arm/shouldeneck (right/dominant). Toe taps are slow and fatigue makes me feel the PD in my leg but no gait issues yet. Possibly related to something else, or possible that the disease is moving along a little quickly: both hands always have sore joints and feel swollen, and I have nerve pain down the backs of both legs/feet. Yes I had an abnormal DATscan.
Thanks!
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2024.05.19 14:20 ducklorf No Hot Water For A Week, What Are Our Options?

Hi All,
We've (30's couple) been renting at our current property for six years, however landlord has always been cheap with many issues not being resolved despite complaints over multiple years. Last week the boiler broke and we've not had hot water since.
Our Landlord sent a plumber over who said the entire thing probably needs to be replaced as it's very old and finding replacement parts is difficult. (a pump component was changed earlier this year and he said the single component was more expensive than some brand new boilers.) The plumber said we could likely get a new unit in within 24 hours, if our landlord doesn't try to be cheap and just replace the broken component which is a band aid solution.
We received a text from our Landlord saying he'd decided not to replace the boiler and instead replace the single component. He's had to order it so it'll take a few days to get here. We asked for rent relief and he asked for us to wait until the unit arrived. a few days later he's texted to say the component will now be delivered roughly a further 4 days later (unless there's any more delays), We should just pay for a cheap gym and shower there.
I explained that was not workable for us partially as the local puregym is quite far away, is not well maintained and the showers are often locked (we went there before the pandemic and cancelled our membership within the month). We would need to use a hotel or something equivelent and we would need rent relief until this situation is fixed. He's been dodging our calls since then.
Everything we've found online has said that no hot water is a reportable offence if not fixed within 24 hours or a reasonable time, and we're frankly upset he's decided to take the cheaper option because it doesn't affect him personally.
We want ask if anyone has any advice? Can we use our break clause? is there any formal process we can use to get rent relief? does anyone have any similar stories? Is there anying we should be asking or doing right now?
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2024.05.19 14:19 Accomplished-Bend898 LPT: Don't let dating apps ruin dating for you

A lot of people constantly complain that dating apps suck, yet pretty much every single person I know is still on them. Why is that?
They’re not exactly optimized to meet quality people. Even the “good” apps. They are meant to keep you on the app as much as possible. And then try to sell you the paid version with fake promises of more matches and better dates, etc. And they get a lot of vulnerable people on that.
A couple years ago I got out of a four year long relationship at 21 years old. I had no idea how to “date” in the real world, so naturally I turned to dating apps. They were incredibly addictive. Every day, I was shown a bunch of random girls, and need to make a split second decision on whether to swipe or not. It gave me so much anxiety. And the tens of conversations in your dms that go nowhere. And the small percentage of women I actually met up with, there was never a spark.
I realized this just isn’t how humans are meant to connect with people. It is so inhuman and frankly dystopian. I deleted all the dating apps. And pretty soon my dating life actually became great. I was meeting people organically way more - and I realized that’s because I HAD to. With dating apps, there was always a reason not to go up to a new person, because you could just meet someone on an app. Not anymore, this is the only way!
And the quality of people I met went way up too. Makes sense when you can actually sense someone’s vibe in person, rather than just see their photos and quirky bio. And I eventually met my girlfriend who I’ve been with for over a year. Everything changed when I got off the apps.
But I’m not a total hater. Dating apps can be great AS LONG as you have a healthy relationship with them. Just like social media, they can be extremely addicting. Here are my best tips to use dating apps in a positive way:
  1. Be selective with matches. Don’t swipe on someone unless you genuinely want to talk to them. Stop swiping willy nilly.
  2. Time-box your usage. Again, these things are very addicting. You should NOT be checking them compulsively all day. Just like people use screen time limits to reduce their social media use, you should do the same for dating apps. But built in screen time limits never worked for me because they're way too easy to ignore (why would you trust the company that gave you the phone addiction to give you the cure…) There are much better independent screen time apps out there, like BePresent for example, that have more features and can gamify reducing your screen time in a way that’s actually motivating. Try out different screen time apps and find one that works for you.. It’s super effective and should help with time-boxing dating apps, as well as other doomscrolling apps.
  3. Move the conversation to text ASAP. Don’t live in the app. Move it to text soon, or stop talking.
  4. Make a plan to meet ASAP. Same basic tip as the last one. Move the thing to real life, don’t be juggling a bunch of endless boring conversations.
  5. Put yourself out there IRL. I think one of the biggest problems with the apps is that they disincentivize meeting people in real life. You now have more reasons not to approach that guy / girl in the bar, because you can just get a date on an app anyway. Don’t be like this! Meeting people the old fashioned way is still the best way to meet, in my opinion.
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