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ok so this idea came into my head because i am a huge tobirama fan and there is not enough quality crossover fanfics with him, he is basically batman with water bending powers and teleportation powers, a genius at weaponizing science and pace with his sealing art and speed.
so what if in the days of intense attacks during the civil war days of marvel when reed richards and sue storm's marriage was going through rough patch, some of the recent attacks on them makes them worried about the safety of their children so they request s.h.i.e.l.d to send them a personal bodyguard for when they are not around their kids, shield send tobirama ,the oldest rookie in shield's history and yet their most promising rookie agent, not knowing all his secrets(that he is not from this reality, or his abilities, all they know is he is a mutant(he has wood style/moukoton which is a mutation due to his dimention displacement) and he can walk on watewalls), initially sue does not like him because bodyguard was reed's idea, and the rest of the family does not trust him because of his insistence of maintaining a professional distance from everyone but as he saves their kids multiple times even besting dr doom in the process sue and ben start trusting him more, as he gets closer to them especially the children as he becomes more of a father figure then reed and through multiple trials of combat with the rouge gallery of fantastic four, it becomes evident that while he is not as brilliant at science as reed or even sue, he proves himself to be better at weaponizing science with his sealing arts in combat, his intelligence, his strength, his insistence on fairness and his kindness(even though tobirama does not view himself as a kind person) and his protectiveness for her children makes susan storm attracted to him and this puts even more strain in her marriage and complicates the relationship that she has with the rest of fantastic four
i would like his place in marvel comic verse to be realistic, i don't want him one shoting the hulk or duking it out with phoenix, i would want him to operate like a glass cannon/ assassin who knows that he is a glass cannon so he operates like a support switch blade in team settings where he will use his flying raijin shenanigans and his expanding paper bombs to be his bread and butter, i don't want him to be weak either, even if you low ball him he easily beats all members of F4 except for sue storm
i would want the family drama and the love triangle between tobi/sue/reed to be one of the prominent points of the fic but the the primary focus, that should be action, specifically his new rivalry with dr doom(another thing that reed can read as tobi took from him)
if anyone is interested in writing something like this, please contact me for i have more ideas to make this good that i can share
cheers!

Good morning, I hate that I'm typing this shaking and afraid in a dark room. I'm currently down the ALS rabbit hole, researching anything and everything about it, showering the sub-reddits of symptoms that match mine etc. This has made me an absolute mess and really put a damper on things.
I'm 25m and have had health anxiety for a long long time. This all started 2 weeks ago with a muscle twitch in my right thumb. It was twitching on and off for a week, at first I was worried of Parkinson's, calling my dad for reassurance when he said "don't google anything, there's much worse." Welp that set off the alarm in my brain to start googling.
Once my twitch went away it turned into a tremor where it'd shake it certain positions. When I googled ALS symptoms I saw weakness, twitching, cramping all of this stuff. I thought to myself "oh good I have none of these" atleast I thought so until my anxiety ramped to full speed. I now am feeling weakness in my right index finger, wrist, forearm, bicep and legs.
I genuinely am afraid that what if this isn't my anxiety creating these issues and I am starting ALS. I can still pick things up and do things with my right hand but I noticed that it shakes when I do so, my index finger primarily. I have small twitches all over my body now that only last a second and brain fog.
My biggest concern is how shaky my index finger is and if I'm just losing my strength in my hand/fingers or something. Could someone please try to reassure me that I'm not dying of a horrible disease? I have a neurologist appointment next month to just ease my mind but, until then, I'm an absolute mess.

1. Gaping Dragon: I can’t argue this isn’t here because of 1) nostalgia and 2) because of its unique aesthetic. I’d go as far as to say Gaping Dragon is one of the most slept on bosses in base game Dark Souls. I just wish it were a bit more challenging, it’s for sure too easy.
   
2. Lichdragon Fortissax: aesthetically similar to Placidusax but I feel considerably easier. The first time I encountered Fortissax I was worried my game might crash from the insane amount of red lightning spam on the screen. I wish I had more to say about this one but it’s just a fun and balanced challenge with some of the best visual flair in Elden Ring. Big style points.
   
3. Black Dragon Kalameet: okay this one’s a bit of nostalgia BUT, I still think it’s an immensely cool dragon regardless… even if DS1 is admittedly a bit clunkier in hindsight. I love that it has telekinetic abilities l, which I’m pretty sure was never replicated again in the series. This boss is also enjoyable because it’s kind of a glass cannon: maybe the lowest hp of any Fs dragon but it can dish out huge damage.
   
4. Darkeater Midir: probably the fan favourite and for good reason. When looking at Fromsoft’s dragons, Midir is a perfect meditation on what worked so well in the past vs what didn’t. This boss could have been terrible if the aoe attacks and hitboxes weren’t fine tuned to near perfection. Midir is the definition of a skill check and debatably the true final boss of The Ringed City (okay maybe that’s some hyperbole because Gael is basically perfect, but still!). In fact I’d say he’s the hardest dragon on this list by a pretty wide margin.
   
5. Dragonlord Placidusax: this placement isn’t due to recency bias, I swear. I had a chance to go through every Fs game again prior to making this list and Placidusax is the undisputed GOAT. From the music and sheer spectacle, to the plethora of cool moves, all the way down to the lore. Everything about this fight works for me, and it doesn’t feature a bloated health bar nor any blatantly cheapass aoe kills. Everything is well telegraphed enough without compromising the challenge. The worst thing about this fight is the developers thought it was a great idea not to put a stake of Marika outside the boss room, but that’s about the only negative I can think of.
   

Bottom 3 Fromsoft Dragons:

1. Every Demon’s Souls dragon: alright I’m technically cheating here by adding multiple in one entry but icr, they’re all equally garbage and the definition of tedium. None of these are remotely challenging, but the solution for killing them requires a LOT of patience and just anti-fun gameplay. Honestly not even worth killing. They’re cool enough for world building but that’s all.
   
2. Dragon God: I don’t have anything to say about this one, you all know how atrocious it is. Debatably worse than Bed of Chaos, which is a staggering feat.
   
3. Ancient Dragon: the fact that this is below the Demon’s Souls dragons and Dragon God should be a scathing indictment of what a piece of shit this boss is. Possibly the worst hitboxes of any boss I’ve ever seen, multiple bs one shot kills, a tediously huge health bar (even if you get all the giant’s souls), a long af run back. This boss is a masterclass in bad game design. It has practically no moveset either, but every move it has is annoying. And sure, it may not be super hard if you play it safe, but what you’re left with is a tedious poke-and-run boss fight that’s just time wasting for the sake of it.
   

Good morning, I hate that I'm typing this shaking and afraid in a dark room. I'm currently down the ALS rabbit hole, researching anything and everything about it, showering the sub-reddits of symptoms that match mine etc. This has made me an absolute mess and really put a damper on things.
I'm 25m and have had health anxiety for a long long time. This all started 2 weeks ago with a muscle twitch in my right thumb. It was twitching on and off for a week, at first I was worried of Parkinson's, calling my dad for reassurance when he said "don't google anything, there's much worse." Welp that set off the alarm in my brain to start googling.
Once my twitch went away it turned into a tremor where it'd shake it certain positions. When I googled ALS symptoms I saw weakness, twitching, cramping all of this stuff. I thought to myself "oh good I have none of these" atleast I thought so until my anxiety ramped to full speed. I now am feeling weakness in my right index finger, wrist, forearm, bicep and legs.
I genuinely am afraid that what if this isn't my anxiety creating these issues and I am starting ALS. I can still pick things up and do things with my right hand but I noticed that it shakes when I do so, my index finger primarily. I have small twitches all over my body now that only last a second and brain fog.
My biggest concern is how shaky my index finger is and if I'm just losing my strength in my hand/fingers or something. Could someone please try to reassure me that I'm not dying of a horrible disease? I have a neurologist appointment next month to just ease my mind but, until then, I'm an absolute mess.

It was the start of a new year, and with that Seouls 4 major school saw a large increase of new students. Everyone was talking about the gang who used to rule over Seoul suddenly disappearing, and nobody was taking ownership of it. (read the Extra info at the bottom, it will help a lot, and it'll explain how things work for new people)
---------------------------North Seoul High--------------------------- A tall, blonde, guy was making jokes with a few of his classmates, most of them where about the Soviet union and WW2. Ivan Alexander (u/Away_excitement3116)
In the corner of class a tall, silver haired boy was training without his shirt on, a few watched while some tried to look away from his muscular build. Klein (u/ProfessionalLuck268)
Simply sitting at his desk doing his schoolwork was one boy, most would says he's normal. But then again, being to only normal guy makes you kind of special. Yuseong (u/Outer-god369)
A tall black dude was talking with his friend, trying to improve his language skills as h had only recently come to Korea. His shirt hiding his very muscular build. (u/TheGloryBe_throwaway)
There was a large group of students talking, making jokes, laughingand just having a good time, in the center of attention was the short curly haired- Ren Yuzaki (u/LeoIsAngry)
There was a boy sleeping on his desk, standing next to him was another boy dressed just like a body guard. He would scare off anyone who got close. The boy sleeping was Kai Edward Tristan (u/KaiAugustInsi)
Some skinny guy was watching the popular newtube channel (How To Fight), he was inspired by Hobin due to the fact they both got bullied a lot. He now wats to be just like him. Kim Suho (u/federal_tip9311)
--------------------------South Seoul High----------------------------
The class watched as an boy with Orange hair, and black leather gloves was polishing his newest Trophy. It's seemed like that was the only thing interesting him at all. Dexter (u/Greensvenner1234)
A short and skinny boy is playing with his Lego bricks. While most see it as immature he's doing it to get a better understanding on a buildings stability and weak points. As he loves working on construction sites. Seok Mujuk (u/domengoenfuego)
Sitting in some expensive designer clothes, was a boy who normally couldn't afford it. But after beating up some bullies who harrased others, and then them offering him their money he gladly took it. Kai Wang (u/wesjsndsjsnss)
"Come and hit me!" a Dude screamed while his Classmates punched and kicked him, yet he was still standing as if nothing had happened at all to him. Lam Lee (u/Dull-tax-4713)
Sitting away from all the noice, enjoying his favorite manga was Kim Jin (u/random_guy_Q)
Amongst the people who tried to punch Lam Lee was one boy who actually manged to hurt him a bit, he didn't notice was Lam was hiding it but his attacks where effective. Adam (u/Theman2326)
---------------------------East Seoul High------------------------------ A boy with gum in his hair was playing games on multiple phones, yet he obviously didn't enjoy it. That's because he was forced to farm stuff for bullies. Su-Jin Park (u/RainProfessional8105)
People stared as there was some guy who brought a few stray cats and dogs with him to class. Some people enjoyed the animals, others saw it as weird. Zanegs (u/Warrenchae)
Some nerds ran up to an average sized boy with white hair, calling him sir and giving him some money, he told them that they are safe as long as the money keeps flowing Hyuk Hwang (u/Rutsch3r)
There was someone silently talking to himself, but not silent enough. Other people could hear h but they didn't understand what he was saying. Myul (u/Longjumping-date-367)
He was not a student of this school, yet he would still come here everyday. He fought someone drunk dude from this school who he now follows around. Ran Yong-Su (u/Any-Lingonberry-3589)
Some drunk dude, he got I trouble a lot for drinking while on school grounds. Beat up some guy once while drunk, who's now following him around. Chao Ming (u/Even-Caramel-9309)
Staying way from other, watching movies about martial arts while simultaneously reading a martial arts magazine was Forgettable (u/Forgettabletiger)
--------------------------West Seoul High-----------------------------
A football (it's called football not soccer) just ended in a 30-0 win. His teammates where all gathered around him praising him for his amazing shots and dribbling. Hyoma Kurona (u/Fungiloo)
Skipping school so he could work in his parents teashop, was a boy who was fascinated by his Chinese roots. Vincent Lee (u/Base_loose)
A boy was going around with a group of scary looking guys. He would try to beat up people and then have them join him. He war cruel to them yet made them yet on rare occasions asked if they are hurt. Jintaro Suzuki (u/SlashDaOne)
Talking to his teacher as if they where best friends was one boy who didn't care about social rankings and as everyone as a friend. Hae Minsu (u/Real_Abrocoma_9377)
After unsuccessfully flirting with a few girls, this boy decided that training his body again was the best way to get their attention. Jin Na (u/Causality_A)
This boy gets along with many people, yet he gets nervous when you ask him about his glove and weirdly large pinky fingers. Ryuk Eun-Soo (u/Elegant-Ad-2431)
---------------------------------Extra Info----------------------------------
Here are a few rules and things you should keep in mind.

1. How does anything work? Just make a comment saying what your characters is doing or what he wants to do. I will respond with a scenario. Onec your scenario is finished I'll tell you, you can act again in the next part.

If you fight another OC, it will be put into the next part as these are special fights.

1. You're allowed to do anything, you want as long as ng as it's in character.
   
2. You can be permanently crippled, lose limbs and die.
   
3. Random encounters are a thing. They have different rarities, common ones are like you meeting some thugs, while more rare encounters could result in you meeting people like Gun.
   
4. After an successful encounter you're rewarded with all kinds of thing, stat buffs, special items, Uniqe Abilities. The more rare the encounter is, the better the rewards. You can also fail the encounter.
   
5. Stats are important even outside of fighting. You can raise every single stat by training or from rewards.
   

Strength: how strong your hits are, how much you can lift/Carry around. And other physical tasks. Speed: how fast you attack, move and think. Potential: is basically how fast you grow from training, Someone with higher potential will gain more than someone with low potential from the same amount of training. Intelligence: your battle IQ as well as your overall IQ. If your int is low your plans will almost always fail even if your plan is really good and detaild. And someone with high int will almost always be successful even if their plan is bad. Endurance: Your Defense, and how much energy you have.
Stats are also hidden, this is so you have to be careful around every person you don't know. High Intelligence character might find out your stats. And some cards also let you view stats.

1. If you want to do something in secret DM me. This way only you and I will know about it. This could be a betrayal or maybe a secret plan.

7.1 Fight other OCs is something risky, the winner can decide what to do with you. They can to the things mentioned in (2) but they can also try to recruit you.
7.2 Beating an OC will give Special rewards. So it's encouraged by keep in mind that you can suffer a lot if you fail.
If you don't remember something about your OC just DM me

ok so this idea came into my head because i am a huge tobirama fan and there is not enough quality crossover fanfics with him, he is basically batman with water bending powers and teleportation powers, a genius at weaponizing science and pace with his sealing art and speed.
so what if in the days of intense attacks during the civil war days of marvel when reed richards and sue storm's marriage was going through rough patch, some of the recent attacks on them makes them worried about the safety of their children so they request s.h.i.e.l.d to send them a personal bodyguard for when they are not around their kids, shield send tobirama ,the oldest rookie in shield's history and yet their most promising rookie agent, not knowing all his secrets(that he is not from this reality, or his abilities, all they know is he is a mutant(he has wood style/moukoton which is a mutation due to his dimention displacement) and he can walk on watewalls), initially sue does not like him because bodyguard was reed's idea, and the rest of the family does not trust him because of his insistence of maintaining a professional distance from everyone but as he saves their kids multiple times even besting dr doom in the process sue and ben start trusting him more, as he gets closer to them especially the children as he becomes more of a father figure then reed and through multiple trials of combat with the rouge gallery of fantastic four, it becomes evident that while he is not as brilliant at science as reed or even sue, he proves himself to be better at weaponizing science with his sealing arts in combat, his intelligence, his strength, his insistence on fairness and his kindness(even though tobirama does not view himself as a kind person) and his protectiveness for her children makes susan storm attracted to him and this puts even more strain in her marriage and complicates the relationship that she has with the rest of fantastic four
i would like his place in marvel comic verse to be realistic, i don't want him one shoting the hulk or duking it out with phoenix, i would want him to operate like a glass cannon/ assassin who knows that he is a glass cannon so he operates like a support switch blade in team settings where he will use his flying raijin shenanigans and his expanding paper bombs to be his bread and butter, i don't want him to be weak either, even if you low ball him he easily beats all members of F4 except for sue storm
i would want the family drama and the love triangle between tobi/sue/reed to be one of the prominent points of the fic but the the primary focus, that shuld be action, specifically his new rivalry with dr doom(another thing that reed can read as tobi took from him)
if anyone is interested in writing something like this, please contact me for i have more ideas to make this good
cheers!

So welcome to me making the worst mistake of my whole professional sports career...
Suffered some serious losses this year, and have developed a growing itch to let off some serious steam and scratch this itch i have to be sexually humiliated and used. I can't stop thinking about stripping and showing everything on camera for some strangers/tennis fans even now when things are going well...
Thanks to your taxes, I've been training since I was a young girl and I have an athletic body that men have always wanted. Suppose its time to let those who made it possible have access to it, right?
So... if you've ever wanted to put a famous girl in her place, are from the UK and a tennis fan: message me. You must have skype and be able to be vocal. Maybe I'll even get a group together to watch me take my sponsored Nike panties off.
In your first message tell me your age, gender, where youre from and if you follow tennis...
No nice guys. I have my bf for that. (P.S if youre into cucking, my bf is also a sports star - so you'd be cucking an international golden boy who waited six months while were dating to see me naked...)
P.P.S When I'm really struggling, my coach and S&C team call my "champ", since I'm struggling right now... maybe you should call me that too...

TLDR: This are my first impressions of the Peak Design backpack 30l, chosen for its dual use as a camera and travel bag. I sought a modular solution after using the Thule DSLR backpack 32l. Positive aspects include a sleek design, modular packing, easy-sliding zippers, comfort with 7-8 kg weight, and good capacity with compression zippers. Negatives are the dangling zipper pull, uncertainty about zipper appearance in its uncompress state and sternum straps' effectiveness, the bag's height, and a weak bottom magnetic pocket. I will further explore the top access pocket and internal mesh pockets, which have been criticized for being too small and camera-centric.
If you have any questions or things you want me to check out, please leave a comment. Also: I am not affiliated with Peak Design. I just want to give back to this community I have learned so much from since I stumbled in here six years ago.
Why did I get it?
As many have pointed out on this sub, this backpack is quite heavy, tall and expensive. If that is a dealbreaker for you, then this backpack is probably not for you.
But who is it for, and why did I choose this?
I came from the Thule DSRL backpack 32l, a bag I felt it had too many compartments and pockets and were too tall when packing the rolltop out. It was a nice and sturdy backpack, but the side access did not work very well when sliding the back to the side in order to get your camera out. I sold The Thule DSRL backpack 32l and my Thule Subterra 40L and got the peak design 30l. I wanted a dedicated cameraback, that also could be used as a travel backpack only, that also could be used wi hybrid mode with the small camera cube.
That beeing said, getting a cameracube for your current backpack could be more than enough if you plan to only bring a camera every now and then, and a lot cheaper than getting a peak design bag. I see my purchase as an investment for prossional work, traveling. I am recently doing more traveling at conferences and meetings for work that requires a more sleek looking backpack.
So all in all this versitily and ecosystem seemed like a good fit for traveling, and for film and photagraåhy gigs as a dedicated camerabag as well as fitting into more formal settings.
What I think this bag gets a bit to much critisism for compared to the 45l is the lack of side access zippers. The large zippers easily slides to the sides witch can double as side access pockets if you pack your bag strategically. I like this now, but it will be interesting to see if it will feel cumbersome in the long term.
I think the criticism of the shoulder straps are individual and something you would have to try out your self. When I packed it up to a total weight of 8kg (7.3kg plus a 0.7 desiliter water bottle) and did a 11 km test walk, it never felt heavy on the shoulders with the sternum straps attached. Some of the pressure from the weight also distributes into the back, giving a three point pressure on the chest, shoulders and the back. But the straps are thin though, and I wish they would have made them a bit wider like on my subterra 34 that is equally thin, but wider.
What I like so far:

• Sleek looking
• Keeps its shape even when empty
• Minimalist and modular packing philosophy - I like less pockets rather than a lot of them.
• Every zippers easily slides compared to every other backpack I've used.
• The main compartment zippers doubles as side access pockets of you move it onto the sides, du to how easily the zippers slide.
• Comfortable to carry over longer distances (in my short term experience) with 7-8 kgs of weight - the variable being a water bottle.
• Packs a lot more than I thought it would.
• The expansion zippers can be used to compress the entire bag down - if you haven't fully packed it out in 33 liter mode. Be careful doing this as it is not advertized and I do not know if the zippers will endure it in the long term or if you stuff it in 33 liter expanded mode and try to compress it down.
• Grab handles on all sides are very nice for putting the bag into over head bins.
• Very nice top grab handle.
• Very easy to tuck away the shoulder straps.
• The fact that you can get a hip belt as an accessory for carrying heavier loads.

What I dislike

• The zipper pullfrom the compression zipper dangles arround on either side either if compressed or uncompressed - solved by not zipping it all the way down.
• I am not sure what I think about the look of the zippers in its uncompressed state.
• The sternum straps seems like a good idea on paper, but not sure if it is a nice long term solution
• The backpack is a bit tall for my frame - but an OK compromise to use the same packing cubes and camera cubes as the 45l
• As others have pointed out, the bottom magnetic pocket really seems like a missed opportunity. It would have been nice to have stronger magnets or even a zipper in order to put in stuff like a rain jacket, rain cover etc for quick access. Now it seems so unsafe for storing stuff it is more or less a useless pocket.
• The dangling straps from the shoulder straps - many other backpacks av straps holders for this very purpose.
• Heavy compared to non camera-bags
• Tall compared to other bags

What I will further explore in order to make an informed opinion.

• The top access pocket
• The mesh pockets inside the main compartments
• The lack of large tech pocket compared to the 45l
• The lack of bundled hipbelt.

These pockets have been criticized for being too small, too camera gear centric, and unaccessible. I will try find a use case for them over the course of the next weeks and months and get some real world experience using them.
I do not think a hibbelt is a necessity for all users, but for camera gigs with longer walks I will need it.

So I’m a little torn. My ex (33M), who I share a 7 year old daughter with, and his ex-girlfriend have been on and off again for about 3 years. Him and his ex break up, they make up, he moves in with her, she gets mad and kicks him out and he has to move. He has moved in and out with her 4 times. She also has 2 kids. My daughter does love her kids (she doesn’t say much about the ex), and I feel like this is way too much to put on a 7 year old but idk how to say it. I’ve told him multiple times that they need to figure it out and stop doing that to the kids, he just says I know and that’s it. He wants to take her to see her kids because he wants “them to stay friends forever”, but I don’t think that’s a good idea. It became a very heated argument because I disagreed with him telling me I’m not thinking of the our 7 yo and her feelings & I feel like he’s using her as a pawn to see the ex. I feel like if they’re going to be broken up; they need to stay away to make it easier on the kids or if they fix things, wait for a few months to make sure it will actually work. However, ex-gf lives close to us and we had to pass the house and his truck was there. Which brought up questions from my daughter as to why his truck was there. He gets her every other weekend (consistently for the most part except for here and there) and maybe once during the week for dinner (IF he asks to see her, I always say yes). We were never married and never went through the courts which came back to bite me bc he doesn’t pay support and when I ask about money he says to let him see her more but that’s not how it works & he doesn’t try to see her more unless I say I would like help. She has his last name, but has no rights to her where I’m from since we were never married. I am pretty unconfrontational, but I’m frustrated and don’t want him to take her back over there just for them to breakup again and cause more added stress on my daughter & me since I have her full time. She loves her dad and I don’t want her to hate me if she doesn’t see him, but idk what to do. Sorry for the rambling- Any advice on how to handle?
ETA- realized I misspelled “again” in the title 🥲

I (33F) and my friend V (33NB) met when we were 9 and have been friends ever since. After university we moved between the city and home as our plans dictated. 8 years ago I moved back to live with my parents while getting my career as a writer going
After I moved away, things changed. I took 7hr coach trips to visit V a few times a year for birthdays, Christmas etc. V never cleaned when I was visiting they also never came to visit me. Even when I had the house to myself
I got my first book published and wrote acknowledgements to V for being so supportive. I was on a visit when the book was delivered and they opened the package and didn't look inside the book just put it aside. I told myself I was ridiculous for caring about this
I noticed that V didn't like my 'publication day' posts, or send me even a message on those days. I had offered them free books but V had said they wanted to 'support me' by buying them. But they admitted that they have not been - not even 99p ebooks
V recently left bf and moved in with a gf. They are getting 'not-married' and V wanted me to do a speech. I didn't know their new gf and V and I were barely communicating. I felt like I didn't know my best friend well enough to do this for them. So we talked about it and agreed to have weekly video calls to reconnect
I felt like the calls were more about getting me to the not-wedding than fixing our friendship. Last call I was ignored for 30mins, while they chatted. After this I decided not to go to the not-wedding and confronted V again
V told me they had 'changed what they were willing to offer as a friend'. I pointed out that they hadn't told me that. I asked if my parents died would they come and see me. They said that 'life might get in the way'. The fact that I didn't know they felt that way and might have needed them badly when I found out what they were 'willing to offer' cut me deeply. They said they wanted to be there for the fun stuff and to celebrate tho.
This was the month of my bday and I told them they didn't have to worry about a present or anything atm. They ignored that in their reply. In the end I sent a message 1wk before my bday, basically saying I couldn’t do this anymore and that they had been imo a bad friend recently so it would be best if we parted ways.
They never responded the messages show as unread on FB. 5 days later, on my bday, I messaged to say that I was sorry I hadn't been able to phrase that more gently, and that they were obviously not going to talk to me, so, thank you for 20yrs and goodbye
I don't understand why they decided not to even say goodbye, and yet didn't unfriend me anywhere just left me to do it/remove them. I feel like they just don't give a crap about me and couldn't even give closure
AITBF for how I handled this?

Hello dearest devs and fellow commanders!
I played the 1.1. and really loved it! I particularly liked the removal of templar shields and the now unlimited combat protocol, among other things. Because of my little children, I finished the run only a week ago and discovered 1.2. is out now! So excited to try it soon!
I tried a commander honestman and was doing totally OK on the tactical side but blew the strategic layer and failed (closely) the first Chosen avenger defense. Yes, I should probably try the setting with the different difficulties on the tactical and strategic level. So I disabled the avatar timer and finished the game after enduring like 5 more chosen avenger defenses. For the record, I only "disabled" honestman for the chosen avenger defenses and even nailed the last one without casualties in honestman mode.
So I collected a bunch of observations and bugs (some possibly already fixed in 1.2.) which I would like to share.
BUGS (or features?): - I was able to start doing covert actions (at least one) without a resistance ring - 2 lvl 1 liberation missions of the same type spawned simultaneously in the same sector - the evac area on the roof of structures was unreachable for mecs (twice). Had to compromise it - in covert extraction missions (and maybe others too) the soldier scoring a kill somehow gets loot out of range (from a previous kill elsewhere) - very common crash at the use of skirmisher grapple - I used the skirmisher grapple, then dashed to a chest in the fog and the fog at the destination stayed! - I got 2 sullys killed and a third one came up for recruitment (I recruited him)? - on multiple occasions, Fuse cost 1 action and then was available again immediately (on the same turn without CD) - after a reload, the sharpshooter could not perform a snap shot on a rocketeer, but could perform a snap shot on a vanguard - the Purifier flamethrower attack does not trigger bladestorm? - I skipped a supply defense mission and the supply resistance operatives were gone (as intended), and all the rest lost all abilities - A "Hack workstation" mission with indefinite duration spawned - very often, the Submenus on the "HR menu" on the avenger (soldiers etc.) disappeared and wouldn't come back unless you save and reload - a Subcoiler costs more than a coil rifle - on many occasions, Arcwave was hitting targets not in the line of attack - the Insanity description says it stuns the target - the Captured soldiers come back fully equipped after being rescued?!? nice, but doesn't make sense - Hyperreactive pupils triggered without a previous missed shot on a purifier - a very funny way of easily beating the first stage of the chosen stronghold without any casualties (not that it is difficult as is): The reaper detects units beyond closed doors. The team blocks the doors with their bodies so that the aliens can't open them. Then the psi op with bastion and null lance starts picking the aliens off one by one. They activate, but since the squad is inaccessible, deactivate again. The only problem came from an archon's blazing pinions or the andromedon's acid bomb (in both cases, squad is immune bc of bastion), which they fittingly launch through the walls as well - without other actions from other enemy units - an escaping enemy unit from a destroyed pod rejoins another pod in the fog, then scatters again on contact when the pod moves into LOS the same enemy turn - a Shield wall granted me 5 armour
QUESTIONS: - Is it possible for faceless disguised as resistance operatives to act as soldiers (e.g. armed and shooting) on missions and later be uncovered (on rendezvous missions)? - Is it possible to get an invasion in the only region you control? if failed or skipped, is this a gameover? - the Assassin can blind the spark? but why, this kind of doesn't make sense?
SUGGESTIONS: - on regular Avenger defense, reinforcements arrive randomly and not by seniority, and since the equipment is never enough, the reinforcements are always with tier 1 stuff, making them kind of useless. this was not a problem in vanilla, where all equipment was upgraded automatically. Is it possible to change this somehow? - on the chosen Avenger defense, there are no reinforcements. this really does not make sense, this being the hardest kind of mission in the game. Like the A team is getting railed and the rest are biting their nails and doing nothing? - can missions with Drone wrecks be made available more commonly in the beginning? In my experience this is the rarest wreck in the game, always preventing me from researching robotics - I really thought the RNG produced a disproportionate amount of missions "free captive resistance ops" which are quite useless after around midgame - I assume the chryssalides "wandering about" programming is designed for maps with civilians. why are they wandering about on maps without civilians or just running away from the squad ? not that I really need more crazy suicidal stun lancer-style chryssalids, but isn't this kind of pointless?
I hope this is still useful. And thank you for your feedback!
Come on, Bluemajere, give it to me!

I posted our 1st semen analysis results here about 3 months ago with 1% morphology, feeling defeated and confused. I immediately started doing research and Coq10 was recommended. We went out and bought a bottle that same day in hopes that it would maybe increase my husband's morphology in 8 weeks for our next analysis. Everything I read said it would take 3 months for anything to happen so we were skeptical.
But we got our results back: 1st analysis results are in ( ) for comparison. Blank means it was the same result.
Characteristics: Volume (ml): 4.5 (5.0) Color: Gray pH: 7.0 (7.2) Round cells (mil/ml): 1 (2) Viscosity: 3 (2) Debris: Low Agglutination: 0 Liquefaction: yes
Sperm Evaluation: Sperm Density (mil/ml): 22 (37) Total sperm count (mil): 99 (185) % Progressive Motility: 48 (46) Total Active Count (mil): 48 (85) Total Motility: 59 (progressive + non-progressive) (65) Motility Grading: %Type 3 (progressive): 48 (46) %Type 2 (non-progressive): 11 (21) %Type 1 (Immotile): 41 (33)
Strict Criteria: Sperm Morphology: 5% Normal (1% Normal) Comments: "Improvement in morphology since last analysis. Results are normal. IUIs may help if having difficulty conceiving." (Low % normal morphology. Recommend repeating analysis in 8 weeks to confirm results.)
I cried when I got the phone call. He changed nothing about his diet or activity so maybe it was just a coincidence? The only things we changed was jeans to cargo pants (thinner and more breathable) and we both started taking 100mg (dosage on the bottle) of Coq10 a day (although I hear a higher dose is recommended). I read it was good for PCOS and egg quality.
I'll be going to the doctor next week for my 2nd Letrozole cycle, which I believe will be monitored this time around. I did ovulate my 1st Letrozole cycle (unmonitored) but I felt like it may have not been a good quality egg because I didn't get pregnant. I'm not sure what to expect, My doctor mumbled about maybe putting me on progesterone, something about trigger shots, coming in around day 20 to confirm ovulation, and some other things I can't remember. Please share your Letrozole stories if you have any.

Please understand I’m not looking for sympathy and before people start saying “you’re not stupid” “how can you say that about yourself” I’ve literally been called stupid by friends, classmates, and family since I was 4 years old. I’m in my early 30s now and can say I’ve without doubt done stupid things so I don’t want to hear people say I shouldn’t call myself and idiot when I am. I feel like I’m a functioning person with no common sense whatsoever causing me to get by in life while being a complete idiot along the way.
Now, having said that I managed to get by in school, despite my stupidity and I obtained overall average grades. Afterwards I went university and graduated with a below average marks but admittedly this was due to me doing literally no work when I was in university. I pretty much spent at a push 10% of my time studying. Foolish I know and was doing a challenging degree.
Despite that set back I pursued a career in banking and so far earn above the London average salary. Things on paper don’t actually seem to be bad right? Yet I do stupid things from time to time. In addition to this my memory is bad, particularly my short term memory. It’s caused me humiliation over the years and even as of recent. It makes me so depressed when I think of all the dumb things I’ve done over the years and feel like I’d be the happiest person in the world if not for my stupidity. I feel like I’d be sooo much more confident in myself if not for my stupidity. Below are some examples of the stupid and weird things I’ve done over the years:
1) Bad memory - will do something and forget a couple mins later at times; like forgetting the number of the locker I put my gym clothes in, when I was learning to drive I kept forgetting the basics such as putting the handbrake fully down. There are times where I’d forbid myself to say something only to stupidly say it a few minutes later. - there are more examples I could use but simply put this is my primary issue and it’s gotten a little worse as I’ve gotten older.
2) Sometimes I can’t hear things properly- I’ll hear words but not the right words forming at times - but this maybe happens a handful of times a year if that. Not an everyday thing at all but nonetheless still a problem.
3) Forgetting to open the wine bottle cap before pouring into the glass a few times on dates.
4) Not knowing that paracetamol could be classed as a painkiller. Always just referred to it as medicine.
5) Sometimes I’ll read something then temporarily forget it. E.g. on someone’s Instagram post a woman said she was having a boy. In the subsequent post showing the birth of her baby for some reason I thought it would be a girl just because the pictures looked like it would be one.
6) Only recently classing coffee as a hot drink. For whatever reason i classed hot drinks as hot lemonade or hot versions of any other forms of fruit juice.
7) Didn’t realise “cuppa” meant coffee for some reason. Whilst I was familiar with the phrase cuppa coffee for some reason if someone just said “cuppa” I’d be a little puzzled.
8) As a child I was known for throwing a ball and doing pushups weirdly. - maybe this was an early sign of poor motor skills?
I think you guys get the idea, I’m an idiot. I could list so much more examples but don’t want this turning into a long winded essay.
In addition to the above I’ve always struggled with concentration, distractibility and of course poor memory which makes me think I have ADD or maybe some form of dyspraxia.
As mentioned above I’m not seeking sympathy or attention I just want straightforward answers on how I can get better and whether the above examples could be linked to a form of learning disability. I just want to get better and potentially receive treatment via the NHS.
Thanks

I hope I'm not in the wrong place here, because the story itself has a religious connotation, so I mean that in two ways I suppose, possibly blasphemous to question God, or just breaking subreddit rules because it doesn't fit. Anyway, here goes.

When I was roughly 16, I got into a bad car accident. I was in the back seat, in the middle, no seatbelt on. We were in a head on collision with a local power company truck, 40mph. I woke up in an ambulance, and my mouth was... I have no way to describe it really in any non gruesome fashion. Let's just say that when I woke up in the ambulance, 90% of my teeth had broken, and the ones that didn't were outright ejected from my gums. The best explanation I was given was that I went face first into the shifter knob, or possibly the parking break but I dunno why that would've been raised. The reason we crashed was because my friend, the driver, was looking for something we could use to break up weed on, and was trying to reach for a paper plate on the floor of the passenger side (even though my girlfriend at the time was in the passenger seat). In so doing, he completely ducked his head underneath the glove box. I remember frames of him leaning down, and then smack and I'm in the ambulance. Both of them were fine, the car was totaled but they had airbags. I was the only passenger unprotected by either seatbelt or airbag, and that was due to my own choice of where I was sitting, and not electing to wear a seatbelt (I never forget to put one on anymore, let me tell ya, I don't care if I'm in the trunk, I'll figure something out). I was referred to an oral surgeon shortly after, who, for reasons that to this day are still completely unknown to me, prescribed me with a ludicrous painkiller prescription for a 16-17 year old still in HS. At first he was giving me 90 30mg oxycodone a month, 3 a day. Near the end I was getting those 90, and a supplementary 30 vicodin 10mg for as needed pain. Me being a dumb stoner at the time, and having little to no experience with opiates or anything like that, I took the medication as prescribed, didn't think anything of it really. I noticed how it made me feel, definitely, but for the most part I never really strayed from the prescription directions, 3 a day, with the occasional vicodin to either help me sleep, or for an extra painful day with my teeth. This went on for almost a year.
One month, I went in and found not my doctor, but a nurse practicioner I had never seen before. Long story short, the doctor I was seeing lost his license for sexually assaulting two female patients, one underage. The NP hands me a prescription for 30 5mg oxycodone, and tells me this will be my last prescription as the practice was closing for good. At the time, it didn't really register with me what this meant, as I had never experienced withdrawal before, and because of the lack of communication from my doctor (he didn't speak english in a very discernable way.. he spoke english, but figuring out what he was actually saying was the tricky part). Suffice it to say, I went through those 30 pills in a matter of three or four days, and even that was a big step down from my daily intake prior. Soon after, I experienced withdrawal for the first time. I actually thought I was going to die, I was a stupid kid though, and looking back I should've just toughed it out but that's life. I started to buy pills from people at school, turns out there's no shortage of suburban teenagers who have parents with, or had easily accessible painkillers, but this was also during the "oxycontin epidemic" caused by purdue pharma, not sure if correlation is causation here but it's worth noting. Anyway, since most of this was just a preamble to the event itself, I will summarize the rest as concisely as I can. I went down the opiate addiction rabbit hole, and let me tell you, I wouldn't wish that fate on my worst enemy. It's really hard to describe, but you really become a different person. It really doesn't matter what you have to do, you'll do it to make sure you get your fix and don't have to go through the sickness/WD's, whether thats ripping people off, stealing/boosting, burning every family/friend bridge you ever had, intentionally injuring yourself in the hope that the hospital will prescribe you pain meds, I could go on. Eventually I got to a point where I was in the-darkest frame of mind in my entire life.
This is where the event itself comes into play. One morning I woke up and just layed there in bed, I knew once I got up, I would have to begin the daily journey of making sure I could get my hands on some pain pills, and at that point, heroin if pills were unavailable. I could not think of a valid reason to get out of my bed and subject myself to that again, and was on the verge of a mental breakdown I'm sure, but, for some reason, I decided to pray. When I was a kid, I attended a youth group of sorts called 'Stockade' at a local church, which was a lot of my introduction to religion/christianity. It was an awesome youth group and I look back on those memories and cherish some of those times I had. At the point where I decided to pray, in my bed that morning, God had not been in my life for a decade, I was something like 21 or 22 at the time (so this was YEARS into my addiction). I prayed, I have no idea what compelled me to that moment, but I prayed to God and asked for a sign.. a reason, anything at all to show me that it was worth living. A reason to get out of my bed, and not just give up. At the time, I was sleeping on a bunk bed, top bunk, and at the feet of my bunk was my closet. Door was open, light was on, and it was early enough in the morning that it was still dark. I prayed for a sign, begged for forgiveness for all I had done and what my life had come to, and the MOMENT I said amen, my closet light burned out. When I say the moment, I couldn't be more literal. From amen to lights out, not even half a second had passed, but long enough of a delay that it didn't seem coincidental, like something was answering back. It audibly made a BZZZT noise and burned out, my room went almost completely dark, save for a few dim blue rays of light sneaking through gaps in my blinds. It scared the shit out of me, I'm not gonna lie. I immediately was like shaken to my very core, trembling, I didn't know how to react, it was almost as if I was in shock. I will remember this moment until the day I die, and I still think about it often. I'll be ten years clean from opiates or any other hard drugs next year, I went to rehab in 2015 and never looked back. This wasn't directly after the event, but I can say that the event led me to change things in my life that ultimately led to it.
I'm not going to pretend I instantly became a church going christian, not even close. I accepted Jesus into my heart when I was in stockade, but at the time it was just words I was saying because everyone else was doing it, I didn't feel it in my soul or truly believe it. After the event, I didn't become religious but I definitely became much more spiritual, started looking at life in a more glass half full kind of way at least. Anyway, I guess I just wanted to get someone elses take on the story, I know it's a lot to read but I feel like the parts of my life that lead to it are connected. From addiction beginning to saying the prayer in my bed I mean. Was this truly God answering my individual prayer? Something inside me doubts that, why me? I was just some shithead junkie at the time, there are kids with cancer in St. Jude, I felt so undeserving if it was indeed God. Was it the universe answering back? Was it the simulation trying to tell me it wasn't my time yet? Some other force entirely? Coincidence? I will live the rest of my life debating these things.

Thanks for reading.

(Ftm) I gave birth on may 5th. It was honestly funny because I was scheduled for an induction at 8 in the morning but my water broke around 4am. I was getting up from bed to go to the restroom and hadn't even gotten up from the edge and my water broke all over the bed and when I got up it was still dripping out. We went to the hospital a bit after 2 hours. They told me I was around 2-2.5cm. I got some painkillers but they didn't help. I got more painkillers given by a needle which helped alot for an hour or two. When I was 3-4cm I got to go to the birthing room. It was alot more comfortable with more space and I got to try the tub for pain relief. The midwife helped me get in it and I layed in the tub for a while breathing through my contractions. I waited for her to be back to help me out and I dried myself and layed back on the hospital bed. She asked about getting an epidural when it was getting too painful for me and I said maybe. She called the doctor into the room to do it. She also put a kanyl to my hand and drops to keep increasing the contractions because they were decreasing. After the epidural was done I was not in any pain at all and slept multiple hours. I was 6cm dilated at this point. The rest of the birth didn't take long. I remember that at the end I felt alot of pressure on my butt. I wasn't really sure if I would give birth then. It started getting more painful so we called them into the room and she said I was 10 cm dilated. I was surprised because it was only 6cm last time. She asked if I wanted to start pushing and I said yes. She called another person into the room to take the time of birth. She felt on my stomach for the contractions and told me when I need to push. I pushed for 13 mins. The midwife put her on top of me after she was born. My stomach hurt alot from that. I was exhausted. The night was bad because she was crying alot and they asked if we wanted them to take care of her and we said yes. Its been great after that though! First days were just exhausting. (I got also my pee emptied out twice during the labor because they said it might help the process.), (also used laughing gas for pain relief and stress relief).

I have almost 4 month old sons named Ronald Adam and Alistair Elijah. The meanings behind the names: Ronald was my husband's grandfather's name who he was very close with. Adam is from a video game character he likes. Alistair is a video game character I like and I just love the name. Elijah is an honor name for my nana. Well my big sister who is 9 years older than me and who I have always been extremely close to said she had a list of names she didn't want me naming our boys and Ronald was on that list. Even when I explained why that name was chosen, she made a face and put her nose up in the air.
My sister "gives nicknames for everyone". She was calling Ronald "Ari" and Alistair "Eli". I had mentioned probably we would call Alistair "Ali" as he got older. My sister said Ali was too girly.
She kept writing Ari and Eli and it just was driving me crazy. I finally asked her to please start calling them by their given names, I know she doesn't like them but for now we would like her to use their given names at least in our company. This was all said over text. I wasn't rude. She said "okay but I'm just going to say one thing" and I see a wall of text. I didn't read it. I didn't want to fight.
Is this wrong of me? I know they're just nicknames. Maybe it would have been okay if she wasn't so against their given names. But my sister was so against me having boys... "You know this is your husband's fault right? Maybe your twin sister will get pregnant now and give us girls" and even told some lady we just met "Yeah she's having twins, they're boys and we are upset about that" Did I want girls? Absolutely..but I wouldn't have told a random stranger that.
Since getting pregnant, my whole perception of my childhood changed. I thought my mom and my big sister were the best... That they truly loved me. But now my big sister will not talk to me because I asked her to use my son's names correctly. The sad thing is... I don't even miss her.

Hello. I'm not non - binary but i am a gay male and today i went to have a nice Sunday lunch with my uncle and my aunt. My uncle is my father's brother and since i was little i always viewed him as a second father. I loved him since i can remember. He always loved me like his own kid too. My whole family is extremely religious (greek orthodox) and very traditional and don't approve of everything lgbtq. When my parents found out that i like men a few years ago we had issues for a long time. Then i moved away in the country capital and everything was better. My only relatives close to me here are my uncle and my aunt where i go for a family meal every one or two weeks.
So yeah i went to my uncle, we were cooking and drinking coffee. I always kept personal things to me just because i knew my uncle wouldn't understand and when we discussed about everything else, he was very open and informative. Keep in mind that i always adored him like a superhero. Then i asked a simple question "Did you watch Eurovision?". He immediately said that it was great that he didn't because there was this "demon witch with the pentagram". I understand that a pentagram can scare an orthodox but i never expected what came next:

• Ok i understand, but the winner song was amazing. Such an amazing voice.
• No, it was disgusting. They try to provoke us and pass this "neutral gender thing" as a fashion and they hurt the children of the next generation.
• But they don't try to force it on anybody, they just try to express themselves. I have even met people like them and you have no idea what they struggle with. Some even "end themselves" and that's sad.
• Well, they better end themselves than show us these things. They try to force all these anomalies. All these people are followers of Satan etc etc etc

I understand that he may not understand or like the LGBT, he doesn't have to, but people, the momment he talked about how they should end themselves, i started panicking. I myself struggled with these thoughts and had many difficulties for many years. I have received a lot of support from friends, boyfriends and my sister. But hearing all these mean, inhumane things from a "christian orthodox that preaches love" was devastating to me. Funny thing is he "didn't want to hear a single word about it" but he kept talking to himself over and over as long as the words weren't coming from me. I went out to the balcony alone to try and relax. I was shaking. It was not that i was sad for me as an lgbt who previously wanted to end his life. I was sad that my childhood hero said mean things like these to people who just tried to find themselves. I found it unfair how Nemo grabbed the mic and preached for love and unity as a "satan follower" and the "god follower" wished death upon people. That moment i decided that even if it would hurt my uncle, i would pack and go back home for the day. My uncle said he wanted to talk but i was already packing. I know that maybe i should have stayed and talked but i was scared, sad and didn't have the courage to sit and eat or talk with him. When i was leaving he told me that "i was making him sad and that what i was doing was not right". I replied "you shouldn't go to sacrament (i had to google that) next Sunday in church". I left. I was shaking and crying all the way back.
The internet is a dark place. I know that here i might get some amazing tips about what to do next, a few discussions but also some mean things. Some people will hate the fact that a gay man tried to defend a non binary person. I mean, if people want to be mean to me they will find a way. Still, i felt the need to defend you people, even if it means ruining the relationship with my family members. I hope that i did the right thing. Even if i don't manage to get any more tips about what i should do next, the fact that i took all these thoughts out of my chest and expressed myself makes me feel relieved already. Thank you for reading my story.
P.S: Please don't show a lot of hate to my uncle :)

I apologize in advance, as english is not my first language. Pretty much everything here I've translated on google. Two weeks ago, my wife (F26) and I (M30) were at a party, her father's birthday party. It was going well, then her parents ntroduced us to an old couple of friends of theirs, from when they were around our age, and their daughter (F29) too, who I recognized as an old friend from high school. Let's call her Andrea (fictional name). For context, me and my wife are not the jealous type, as our relationship is based on trust, and has always been. So, when Andrea and I sat together on a table and started talking, my wife didn't mind it, and stayed with her family. I remember Andrea as being the fun kid when we were in highschool, and she was still just as funny. We're laughing and having a good time, and she started getting a bit "touchy", but nothing worth worrying about, I thought. I was wrong. She was definitely getting touchy, feeling my arms and asking if I started working out and this type of stuff. That's when I fucked up, because I didn't stop her. In fact, I held her hips at some point, and then my wife came in. She was obviously jealous and angry, but didn't make a scene. She started asking Andrea if she's married, or has a boyfriend, that type of territorial stuff, and at some point, Andrea got uncomfortable and excused herself. I told my wife she was being rude, and she started accusing me or flirting with Andrea. Of course I told her I wasn't, that she was overreacting and Andrea was just an old friend, but my wife insisted that I was flirting and cheating. Then I got mad. Cheating? I snapped at her and said she was being childish and insecure, overreacting. What then if I was enjoying the attention? It is definitely not the same as cheating, is it? She then said something that made me go silent, something along the lines of "cheating starts in thought, you don't need to have sex with someone else to cheat". I insisted I didn't cheat on her, and that I never would, but she just gave up on arguing and tried to enjoy the party with her family. When we got home, later that night, my wife was silent. I didn't say anything either, just assumed that we were over it, since she didn't bring it up. For the next couple weeks, she still didn't mention anything, and neither did I. We didn't talk much, and she was also never in the mood for any intimacy. I thought it was okay, and that everything would be back to normal in a week or two. It didn't, and now I know I made all the wrong decisions. Last night when I got home, my wife was in our bedroom, staring at herself in the mirror with a grimace. I asked if she was alright, and she just shake her head. I kept asking what was wrong, and she broke down in tears saying she looked hideous. For context, my wife is far from hideous. To me, she's the complete opposite, and so to everyone else. I'm not exaggerating when I say she can't even go out for groceries without people ciming to compliment her beauty and her nice hair. So, to hear she say that, it broke me. Of course I told her she's beautiful, but she kept on sobbing and saying she never felt so ugly before. I didn't know what to do or say, I just held her and kept telling her just how pretty she is, but she had that apathetic and gloomy expression on her face, and kept crying herself to sleep. I'm writing this as she sleeps besides me. My heart is completely broken, and I just wish I could go back in time and never hurt her in the first place. My wife mean everything to me, and I don't know how to fix things. Has anyone here ever been through something like this? How do I make my wife feel pretty and special again?

Hey guys so I went to Toothsome this past Friday, left for home yesterday so I’m not in Orlando anymore. I get an email about 7 minutes ago saying “did you leave a 56% tip”. My order was 35, I left 10, and I even wrote it down on my receipt as well that I left 10. Well the email says I left 20. The thing is tho I went with a friend and when the waitress brought the receipt she did his in a way that she like closed it out and he didn’t have a slip to leave a tip for her. I gave him 10 cash to put down (which he Venmoed me back) since she couldn’t even put it in afterward even if he just wrote it on the slip. But she doesn’t add that to mine and say I left 20 because that would make it 30 no?
Now I know that calling a city walk restaurant brings you to the universal robot thing but is there any way I can get ahold of toothsome directly? If not I’m not gonna lose my mind over 10 bucks but also as someone who also works for tips I’d never do that. The waitress was really nice and she said she’s been there for a long time when she first introduced so I feel like she would know to not do this? Unless I’m thinking of it wrong and maybe they have to add the cash tips to the card but why would she charge it to mine?

Congrats on choosing and making it into NUS Business School! I previously wrote here: https://www.reddit.com/SGExams/comments/118r7cg/all_about_studying_business_in_nussmuntu/ on what are some factors when considering between NUS, SMU and NTU business school. For better or worse, you'll be stuck here for the next 4 years so here's some broad advice on making the best out of it.
1. Put in effort to draft out your own Study Plan; Future you will thank you
What is a study plan? Essentially, it's an outline on what modules you'll be taking throughout your 4 years in University. Especially for a business student, a study plan should go beyond "what majospecialization/double majominor". Yes, figuring what major (or majors) that you want to eventually take is the first step. The next step is also considering whether you intend to take a gap semester (i.e. leave-of-absence) to do internships (which is becoming increasingly more common place; maybe not 1 gap sem but possibly even 2!). The unfortunate truth is that many biz student realize late in Year 2/3 that they might not be as competitive as their peers and usually then seek out LOA internships and end up delaying their graduation (whether its a good or bad thing is debatable). Besides gap semesters for internships, there are student who do credit bearing internships (which counts for some credits/MCs) or even do a part-time internship during the semester while studying (Do modules on Mon and Tues, FT work of Wed, Thurs, Fri). Not every student get's their desired summer internships, and often student then have to compensate by applying for Off-Cycle LOA internships.
In your study plan, you would also have to take into consideration possibly going on overseas semester exchange or even the 6M to 1 Year long NOC program if you're interested! Overloading more modules earlier in your Uni (Y1 and Y2) gives you more flexibility to adapt to changes in the future. Of course, you need to gauge yourself whether you're able to cope with the workload. (Overloading in earlier sems, mean being more free in later sems to do internships/explore other modules or minors).
Additionally, most higher-level modules have pre-requisites (mostly ACC1701). If you delay taking these pre-requisite modules, your whole study plan can be delayed by a semester. My advice is to take ACC1701 (and consequently FIN2704) earlier rather than later, because these two mods open up the other majors/specializations available to you. You'll also figure out whether you'll want to to take the finance major after taking these two modules.

1. CCAs

There's a ton of CCAs available NUS-wide or Business School related. I strongly encourage you to take multiple CCAs (importantly taking into consideration what you can manage and your workload) so that you're able to meet new people and learn new skillsets. NUSC/RCs/Hall activities also count here. The unfortunately truth is that portfolio does matter in business school, and simply being good in academics (which can be competitive in itself) isn't enough. You GPA/CAP allows you to have your foot in the door; your portfolio and experience allows you to enter it. Consulting CCAs in general are great an improving your eye of aesthetic and detail which I recommend. You'll be surprised that many biz kids are outright bad and atrocious at making PowerPoint slides even at Year 4... I would say that the CCAs you join do shape your uni experience in a large way.

1. Group Mates

Find good friends and group mates! Those in NUSC/RCs/Halls have an easier time for this. For most of your basic core 1k modules, you group is usually randomized and you have no say on who you're working with. It is during these randomized group that you'll figure out the pain of having poor group mates, and things get worse if you're taking higher level and tougher modules alone. On this note, try to find friends that will do various modules together with you! Having friends doing the module together with you is a huge advantage, from extra resources, dead line reminders, doing quizzes/tests together etc. 5 brains working on a problem set is always better than 1 brain by itself, these 5 ppl will often get a better grade than the one hardworking individual working alone. Implicitly, those who stay on campus have a huge edge over those who don't.

1. Business is ultimately not a technical degree

Controversial to some, but business school at the end of the day doesn't really teach you much, we cant code, cant stats and no domain knowledge outside of finance). The only thing that it does teach is showmanship (and even then sometimes not taught well enough). Business School arguably teaches you how to carry yourself well, make fancy PowerPoints, use some excel, working with people (?) etc. Many of the more relevant things you learn, you learn them in your internship and your own experiences outside of the classroom e.g. CCAs. To me, doing well in Biz School is focusing on everything outside of academics (ensuring that you have some baseline CAP/GPA).
5. Figure out early whether you prefer Excel or Power Point.
The corporate world only runs on two applications, Excel and Power Point. Dabble in both, figure out early which application you prefer more and find a relevant internship/role/job that you enjoy decently that uses one over the other. Truly, Excel and PPT are the only takeaways when you leave the university. Great consultants are adept at handling PPT, navigating through them quickly with many templates in their desktops. Finance peeps do a little more excel work and have to do them well, fast and creatively. Even at the end of uni, there are still many students who can't use excel proficiently at a high level.
6. Internship Hell is real for those who care
Internship application period in itself can be a full-time commitment (for those that care). When internship applications open, you can will going through your own interview prep, doing several recorded interviews, applying to new internships etc. Many moving parts to juggle and a lot of ground work to be done. From preparing for interview questions, writing cover letters, tailoring your CV etc alot of the hell you experience in Biz school actually comes outside of academics contrary to popular belief (as Jean-Paul puts it, "hell is other people", bad group mates im looking at you). For those applying to more technical roles, you might also need to prep extra for technical questions e.g. IB 400 questions, consulting cases, market sizing brain teasers etc.
7. Not so much of an advice, but rather a plea from me to you
I really hope business students can be more code literate and savvy i.e. being able to read (and to a lesser extent implement) coding e.g. python or SQL. ~90% of the biz population are code illiterate (having only taken just 1 "coding module"). In a normal corporate workplace, you'll never have to code. But being able to think computationally, knowing the steps you can take to automate your task, time and workflow brings you more benefits than you can imagine when most corporate work that people do and typically repetitive and administrative.
In conclusion, do your best in biz school. I think effort correlates strongly to how well you do here. You don't need to be smart (it makes life easier) but with enough forward thinking and future planning, you'll be able to grow through the next 4 years (and hopefully be worth it).
Feel free to ask any question in the comments, or for any seniors to elaborate and share their own experience! Left out a lot of controversial views not wanting to trigger anyone or NUS. Edit: I'm a graduating student from Biz, later they dont let me grad
Some extra links:

1. An event calendar regularly updated by NUS Careers, usually has lots of interesting and relevant events, competitions, webinars (if that's your thing): https://nus.edu.sg/cfg/events
2. Grading rubrics to apply for SEP, there is an actual rubrics to secure an SEP, please refer for those wanting to go: https://bba.nus.edu.sg/wp-content/uploads/sites/37/2019/07/SEP-Place-Allocation-Grading-System-2018-10.pdf

This did not happen recently but a few months back.
I was looking for a job (double digit years in experience) and a HR from Nagarro reached out on LinkedIn. I sent her my details, did a proctored online test and was selected for a 2nd round face to face. Since the interviewer was in US, the slot I had was Sunday at 9:45 PM IST [I was given a choice of slots but they were either 7 in the morning or 9-10 in the night, only weekends].
I joined the Teams meeting at 9:40 PM on a Sunday, turned on my camera, and waited 5 minutes for the interviewer. As soon as it became 9:45, I heard the Teams chime that I was let in, but before the sound ended, a voice started speaking. "Alright, so what things you take care?"
I looked up to see this Indian guy wearing a red hat (not THAT red hat) indoors, looking at me. I said, "Sorry, what?" And he said exasperatedly, "Your work. What. Is. It. that. You. Do." in clipped tones, as if I was not a mentally sound person.
My hand automatically moved my mouse over to the disconnect button and I almost clicked but stopped myself at the last moment. I decided to see how the interview went. I had not given an interview in a long time and wanted to get an experience.
I composed myself and started to explain my resume. In the middle of it, he stopped me and said, "Are you using dual screens?" I said yes. He scolded me for using dual screens for an interview and made me turn one off. I was on camera the whole time and it was a face to face interview so not really sure what the concern was but I still did it. The funny part was, during the interview I could hear pings from his side and see him turn to his own second screen to reply to some chat/IM messages. Anyways, I asked, "should I continue explaining my resume" and he said, "no that's alright."
"Tell me about any recent deliverable you have worked on", he asked next. I had recently worked on implementing a customized DR system so I started to explain how it was implemented and the architectural changes done. He was distracted the whole time, replying to some ping, constantly muting and unmuting his audio and saying, "That's fine. Keep going." I completed my explanation and waited. He realized I had stopped talking and said, "All that is good but I do not see the architecture change you have done." I summarized the server re-organization, the load balancers, the customized back-up and archival, even some code level changes we had to do, but he said, "I still do not see the architecture design change." I said, "I can draw an architecture diagram to show it clearly", and he said, "no that's alright. Let's move on."
I come from a .NET background, so he asked me, "do you have experience with .NET core?" I said, I did. And this is where the most weird part of the interview starts. He spent 20 minutes on a single question and you will see why, in a minute.
He asked me, "Do you know the three types of dependency injection?" I answered the three - singleton, scoped and transient.
He said, "good, now tell me how do you decide which one to use." This is a standard interview question, I gave the standard answer. It was not good enough.
He did a "tch" sound of exasperation. "All that is good, but how do you decide?" I explained again, adding more details.
He did that "tch" sound again. "All that is good, but how do YOU decide?", stressing on the word "YOU". I explained again, this time with examples of when I would make which choice and why.
He did that "tch" sound again. "All that is good, but those are textbook examples. Tell me about an example that you have implemented in your system"
I explained how we had used a singleton for application level settings. He did that "tch" sound again. "All that is good, but what made you decide that the application settings need to be in singleton?"
I was confused at this point. What was he looking for! "The settings need to be the same throughout the application and so a singleton is a logical choice", I said.
He shook his head, this time not making the "tch" sound. "No, you are not getting it. I want to understand what made you decide to make the application settings class a singleton? Was it because of the name of the class or because somebody told you or because you got a feeling?"
I was angry at this point, so I repeated the same answer as before. He said, "Maybe I am making it complex. Why don't I give you an example and you can explain your choice." I said OK.
"Alright, so suppose that I created a class called "" and asked you how should I use it. What will you say?"
I stared at him for a moment, wondering if this was real. I asked him what was the functionality of the class, and he launched into the most unnecessarily complex (and to me, wildly unrelated) functionality regarding uploading documents from an API to an azure storage account involving Virtual Networks, Key Vault, different Blob types and an Azure SQL database to store blob metadata. I asked him, how the class is supposed to be used. He said, "I don't know. I am the author of the class. I have given it to other people to use. Ask me questions you would ask the author of the class."
My mind was hurting at this point so I repeated, in the most bored voice, the very first standard answer I had given. He must have realized my disinterest, for he said, "Alright, I get it. Let's move on. Do you have experience writing SQL?"
I said Yes. So he asked me to share my screen and gave me a written scenario for which to write a query.
While I was working on the query, he said, "I have your resume so let's take a look at that." He opened the resume, I could see that he actually did open it then, by the screen brightness reflected on his face change. And as I worked on the query, he kept going through my resume and making what I can only describe as "Passive-Aggressive comments" in a low voice in the background. E.g. "worked at So-and-so (one of the Big 4 companies)... In ", "worked with XYZ technology... for ", "SME for ABC technologies... for DEF use case"
I was done at this point so I drafted out a query with as low effort as I could and then explained it quickly. It was wrong for sure, and not fulfilling the use case completely but I had stopped caring. He also realized it because he said, "Alright, I think that is it. Do you have any questions for me?", in a very smug voice.
I said, "No, thanks for the experience", and disconnected the call.
So, that was it. The most WTF interview of my life. So far. I am not really sure what was wrong with that dude or maybe I have been out of touch for a long time and this is how it is now, but damn, man. I sat in shock for a few minutes after the call. I did check out the interviewer's profile on LinkedIn, wondering if we had crossed paths before. But he was been with his company for a long, long time, first company since college and never switched. So I don't really know.
Anyways, so, yeah. Hope you are having a better experience than me.

There’s 2 major points of context I need to share to help you understand where I’m coming from.
The first is that my dad and I have never had a great relationship. When I was young I never felt like I was “man enough” for him. He always worked manual labor and would build things around the house. I was a really passive kid who clung to my mom and came to rely on her as my role model for how a person should act. And I relied on her even more when my dad started traveling for work. We’d see him maybe 5-6 times a month when he wouldn’t really engage with us and there would be constant screaming matches with my mom, and later my sisters. And before you think to ask yes, there were multiple affairs. At least 5 my mom found out about and most likely a lot more. I saw how that impacted my mom and it made a huge impact on me and my feelings towards relationships. They got divorced eventually and my mom, like the saint she is, had the lawyer file it as an ‘amicable’ divorce. No blame was placed on anyone, no fault was assigned, no custody battle was waged. She had them split the assets and the debts 50/50 and walk away completely free and clear. It was benevolence that my dad frankly didn’t deserve.
As I got older, and he got older, things started to improve between us. He wasn’t really good at guiding and teaching a child but he was great at meeting me as an equal. He readily saw me as an adult, a responsible man. Someone he could converse with honestly and openly. We were working on getting on better terms. (He’s a stubborn 1960s kid with some more conservative views than me but nothing bigoted.)
Which leads to the second context point and the real linchpin of my issue. My mom passed away just over a year ago. She’d been battling cancer a long time so it wasn’t out of the blue but it just left me broken for months. Her estate is beginning to settle (aka payout to her debtors, allow transfer of ownership of her house, etc.) and I found out that my dad put a claim against her estate. A claim for his half of the credit card debt he and my mom amicably spilt in the divorce and he has since paid off.
This absolutely fucking incensed me like nothing else I have ever experienced. The amount of money is relatively small and not the issue at hand. What I cannot stand is the idea that he thinks he is owed this money from her estate (literally her cold, dead hands) when she isn’t here to fight him anymore. He was given such a clean break from the marriage when my mom could have saddled him with all the credit card debt, all the mortgage debt, all the car payments, all the student debt, demanded alimony, she could have buried him if she wasn’t such a better person than him. And even now, with her dead and gone, he just has to pick at her a little more, make himself out to be the victim in all this who was so unfairly saddled with this credit card bill. A credit card that paid for me and my siblings to take dance classes, and buy soccer cleats, and cheerleading outfits none of which he ever bothered to be around for!
Obviously when I’m mad it’s easy to think “yeah fuck him” but at the end of the day it is just money. My family tree has gotten so thin in the last few years I don’t want to lose both my parents before I’m 30. I just don’t know if this is even a reasonable response and I think some unbiased 3rd parties might be needed.
Thank you for reading all this, just typing it out helps.