Non perishable food snacks
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2024.05.19 20:34 TheCurlyBabla Moroccan sweets as a gift?
I'm visiting Morocco for the summer and when I come back I want to bring a set of sweets for my coworkers. We usually bring snacks and sweets from places we visit to share with everyone. I am looking for something that is not easily perishable and can withhold travel. Also maybe a combination of things that are not overly sweet. What would you bring if you were in my place?
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2024.05.19 20:28 Blockchain-TEMU Markus Hermonie Parents Style Dentistry Talk through
- Even the drilling at even steps, start at your largest step for your oxo threshold of your patient which is their specified delayed development and enhance the drilling until it is very evenved then without hesitating do the vocoder process to the oil and do not modifiy only this vocoder process. Then, do not ever exceed 0$ cost constraint from this point forwards or ugandans will undercut the process, put tune and tune and never more than two tune and preferentially one tune heiling hitler at the 8 tune appropriate to 14 years dj practice but no dentistry and then apply another vocoder, find his oil with formant down not above 20 meters below the earth, if he is in hell he is a paedophile so administer lethal injection, this should be the sewers, now you need to get to his oil futures from his sewers, tune twice and do not voilate 0$ constraint or the oil is worthless we need the price of oil as oil use beam to drill then you have the oil and you track the sewage twice, the sewage tracked twice should yield from mains water which is dannys or enginegas water if you were secretly harry and had solved the universe in your past life sewage is the loose term for what you had there which is sewage water and oil, what is 20m below has subliminal oil and a lot of mains water and a lot of sewage, dont take sewage, this is drumming, dont take sewage which is drumming, drum bus makes only sewage so never use drum bus except to troll mike, ok so you have extracted at neutral down twice, delve to the nether in a lesbian or delve to the oil in a christian, for sex reasons lesbians have hell here, christians have oil, only take christians oil if you talk to the barrel of oil and made sure it was from the reservation now, tune twice and lot twice and have tuned twice in between and this must be absolutely viscous and not a potion but viscous oil which has the nature of all the everything is there in equal portion with a slight dip at the 6000 or drug extra joey and above and a lot of bass and not any stream variability which only use one derrick grain delay, our -9,-24,+12 or you will cause a zulu apocalypse at 128 which gives you the even final flow at this point at the negative, you have shulked the nether for its oil without causing a fire cause it was an oil nether or not an offending lesbian ok so you have like some ruined oil from getting it even with derrick then if you dare, had added a chamber in the oil chamber if it was not on fire, there is a cavern the oil comes from and this evens it and the derrick evens it, and also you may not have ever had negative proof or lost literally any oil and got double the oil and proofed now at 200 percent and it is wide and pure and has the upper dip and has the lower bass range which is not gunshots or gabber or techno and it has a variable actual flow in a lot but is not a actual time to time flow, this is oil now to make plastic if you do not have oil it is worthless, sell waters futures to the person down the road after doing over and over now cracking to heaven to get water must ieterate as potential for infinity but for share for some time and doesnt have to prove that it went to sleep only do this is 200% or 175% or 150% proof is lube or another non oil product now for plastic 2. You have two british process, chamber effective and fire underground NO which you may use, otherwise, this is just to reveal that you are being british - don't use too many british process before or it will be underground, yo mama is police so 16 star wanted level is typical for both sides of a race riot which oil can even be constantly yelled at ok so british process, youngest self fuck, you are ugandan so at youngest self fuck like wank or rape a woman or you actually also shoot a woman in the vagina with specifically a russian kalishnikov you stole locally this all triggers youngest self fuck video of the person for the person then you need to keep doing that thing to get your latest self fuck video and you will always have lube if you never gaped your pussy as a woman or are actually violatives brother then i need you to scourgify jake out of your body with scourgative urine or stop for a moment to remove the self fuck video which that is why the self fuck was essential the reynolds core of the oil is in the bass self fuck age of the vocoder of the user and this is the direct local cost of barrel to item never have the thing of the thing that you are making or it is the thing toxic, make the thing not out of the direct thing made but remove the things you are making besides the quality of the thing, then remove heavy metals, which is double source oxo or pure water is quicksilver water, then, synthesize source american, which is the sensible that does not keep the youngest self fuck, the american source does not keep youngest self fuck, then in specific modern north american process gently crack sulfur, then crack the american source around the same intensity you cracked the sulfur source and throughout this process never create another process which I forgot where you will eventually be is at the only other side of this a dragon exists in the oil for a time until he or she has civilization resource, you must hidden under no signal create all of the former and only focus detailed on your oil which the oil will never be visible again after it is a computers future now hydrogen crack twice and do not reveal your hand, you might crack the computer early as the automaton, or late, now, crack food twice, this prevents a famine, now crack food once, this is the engineered famine you will cause attack at the vaseline which is our vaseline two oxo below the vaseline and attack at the aminoes church and attack at the ethanol church and attack at the methanol church, but not above alkene. Then, you will crack for starch. The crack for starch is four oxo below your hydrogen which is always 1400 effective, now filter above starch gently for starch impurity and resynthesize butyl or source and sulfur or sulfonic or stinky and source again and if you are making something which is silicone butyl or source again and precrack and do not voilate the one a time rule to advance your stock along the line or the american school arbitrary chess constraint is failed if you act out of order, or behind the foundry at a select menu, you may not have your stocks, synthesize at hydrogen only delicately and then above and below the hydrogen and never notch your product or it is getting the malware of the notch of the product notch a half oxo in between for large for attack and small for here, delicately only here and to right taste before, then alkenate three times and diolate four times and oxo above vaseline and oxo above aminoes and church of ethanol and church of methanol and church of half oxo highest drug detailed half oxo church of highest drug filter detailed this yields if you did it right, equal all -48 by definition plastic at -48 which is the virtual item specified in portion one and you never heard this and you then sense this at exact measurement and start building up the pressure or keep the valve shut, now you need the machine shitting or the automated assembly of the situation, divise with the two foreman chief the signal directly into your plastic but do not divise it yet or the computers future is invalid and then confirm the foreman chief setting the value of the item to the blueprint size which the blueprint size is a twothousandth numberal rate of the gold value and no more than 21 Karat out of 25 Karat Aligned off and not at above 24 Karat which is a Gold and Silver Secret then specify component weight which is always oxo of item macross in Karat Notes per second defines gold value 120 BPM Notes Per Second Equals 20 Oxo Gold Value Now you are ready to blueprint, align in illegal resource metal the chassis of the item at item weight and add the original low resource to the item at half the metal weight, then goto dimension freedom two of design and design item weight at power usage, chinese mains 12V expected, use tenth oxo in millisecond for first core, offset core with aeration, use dual knot at core with currency in core in detectable level not exceeding runescape high alchemy constraint usage of hake olafsen or jens or you if you train high alchemy for double usage neccesary, 74 magic level, repeat process four at least four or five times at appropriate power offset and you must use you food resource with no hydrogen in very seeable differentiation at the clock speed which are but one oxo apart oxo has to be below 100 hertz specified 75 hertz and using mid not forced mid which is erotic at 69 actual -18 mid is required then, add chassis which this chassis of your latest build is the unit that committed massacres + 1 in wwii if you did not look it up already then, add in business, you do not need to call it in business, but UFO. Add in business without blowing yourself up by catching the loose bomb before it hits the ground by whacking bomb home zero before it hits the ground, catch it then put in business and remove yourself from the oil but now where you were is incredibly dangerous, you need to repeat section two plastic synthesis with different proven towers and the next self fuck which was proven actual self fuck and then use shaper, disregard shaper warning on reset, use double derived gold rate thousandth gold value hertz and reset shaper on each boxing and dont use shaper when not giving resource, then i forgot to say you needed quality assurance on chain one not greater than 12 and 12 quality assurance, age of bride self fuck is this so you can put 18 if you are feeling erotic always redefine BPM alongside gold value or do not change it now, in business you are in business and you have your two foreman and you wrap it up right away and have saved it right before that first and you share the video of you making the product and you make the product more later and it did not cost more than 128$ samples 128 samples because you worked very quickly then you are ready to work at the factory 5. Go back later to the factory and see if it still works, yo mama defines if she asphyxiated the aliens which made it function, if the factory was a good factory than you can come back here at any time and split your penny stock which is the sound of the effect and implied market of the product is the box.
2024.05.19 20:18 HowToCook40Humans Reddit Mods are actively suppressing any discussion on the current migrant crisis
I've been banned from almost every gig app subreddit but 2 and it's always for mentioning the increase in migrants in many areas of the US. Mods call us bigots and people that simultaneous whine that they barely get orders and the order payment is low are saying that "as long as the food is delivered, who cares?"
When we try to explain that the reason people suddenly are getting food where the person didn't follow instructions, delivered to the wrong house, purposely padded their grocery orders with wrong substitutions is because migrants are using stolen accounts and don't speak English or try to speak English, we're met with downvotes and bans.
Someone asked in a sub I mod what we think about the increase in migrants and anyone saying that they didn't like it was downvoted and called a bigot, even when many of us identified ourselves as either the same ethnicity as the migrants OR we are also minorities.
I'm tired of any discussions on the negatives of hoards of migrants in the US being met with bans. It doesn't change the material reality of the situation. No mater how many bans are doled out, I and others still have to deal with our neighborhoods being taken over by non-English speakers who have no manners.
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When we try to explain that the reason people suddenly are getting food where the person didn't follow instructions, delivered to the wrong house, purposely padded their grocery orders with wrong substitutions is because migrants are using stolen accounts and don't speak English or try to speak English, we're met with downvotes and bans.
Someone asked in a sub I mod what we think about the increase in migrants and anyone saying that they didn't like it was downvoted and called a bigot, even when many of us identified ourselves as either the same ethnicity as the migrants OR we are also minorities.
I'm tired of any discussions on the negatives of hoards of migrants in the US being met with bans. It doesn't change the material reality of the situation. No mater how many bans are doled out, I and others still have to deal with our neighborhoods being taken over by non-English speakers who have no manners.
2024.05.19 20:10 RubyHibiscus Is This Normal For Senior Cats?
I was given a senior cat about a year ago. I spoke with the person who gave her to me recently and mentioned her weight and she said “oh wow she lost weight”(about 2 pounds). I give her a dry food specifically for seniors and a high quality wet food. I’ve tried to decrease her dry food and give her more wet food but she just ends up letting the additional wet food go dry and waiting for more fresh wet food at her normal dinner time. She also mostly sleeps, like she moves from spot to spot to sleep. She’s been to the vet who says she healthy for her age, just a bit of arthritis. I have tried toys, like ones with feathers, cat nip, or bells in them and she just looks at me like I’m crazy and goes to lay down. The only other thing I do is put the TV on if I’m leaving the house for a long period of time. Oh and she does seem to like doing what I call her patrols which make me nervous because I had a mouse over the winter which I was able to get rid of, but basically she “patrols” the kitchen by looking under the stove and behind the fridge, I’m hoping she just remembers there was a mouse there and there isn’t another(I do have non poison traps set). This is like her only activity though. I almost want to get her a pet stroller and take her for a walk, but she gets agitated on car rides so I’m not sure how she would like a stroll around the neighborhood.
I really just want to know if this is standard senior cat behavior or something I should be more concerned about. The vet I brought her to months ago closed, and I am trying to find a new one.
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I really just want to know if this is standard senior cat behavior or something I should be more concerned about. The vet I brought her to months ago closed, and I am trying to find a new one.
2024.05.19 20:09 heckin_steve 32 [M4F] - Lets hang out for a bit and then disappear from each other’s lives forever.
I wanna chat about the dumb stuff you did today, the next adventure you’re planning, why life is so much better when you’re not wearing pants. Let’s chop it up for a bit and see where it takes us.
I like gin, lame puns, continually snacking, watching food network and pretending I can cook. Toss me some music recommendations, or tell me if you think a grilled cheese or a taco would win in a fight.
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I like gin, lame puns, continually snacking, watching food network and pretending I can cook. Toss me some music recommendations, or tell me if you think a grilled cheese or a taco would win in a fight.
2024.05.19 20:06 Dramatic-Series6681 Am I asking for too much in my relationship?24F,30M
This will be a long one as I'm still incredible confused as to what I should do.
I'm (24F) 5 months into my first serious relationship with my partner (30M) and I've noticed a pattern that's really hurting my feelings and making me doubt my future plans with him. My boyfriend works as a Chef and are very rarely home earlier than 11pm each workday. I am well aware that working in a kitchen means having long days (I met him when I was a waitress) and I accept the amount of hours he have to put into it, I knew what I was walking into, when it comes to his Job, he also knows that, as we have talked about it (hes getting a promotion in fall so then i will see him even less and theres a high probability i will have to move across the country or to a different country next summer for my education). I also knew that my boyfriend have a long time friend which I would have to accept like a package deal if I wanted a relationship with him, I just had no idea it would be as extreme as it is. His friend (lets call him Joe 28M) is the type of person that takes rejections personal, has barely any situational awareness and doesn't understand the need for privacy in a relationship. He's used to being in a relationship himself, however as I'm my boyfriends first partner in 11years, Joe have never seen my boyfriend in a relationship before and are used to being prioritized after work. Joe and his girlfriend broke up 4 months ago, and he have moved into the city where both my boyfriend and I live separately. He now lives 7min walking distance from my boyfriend, so there's plenty of opportunities for them to see each other when I'm not around. Now we get to the part that's bothering me. A month ago I was at my boyfriends place for a week, every single day he got home from work at around 10:30-11:30pm, he gave me a quick hug and kisses and then asked if it was okay if he went down to Joe's. In the beginning it didn't bother me as I believe friendships are still important even if you're dating someone so I said it was okay. Where I messed up was when he asked me the third day in a row and I let him go even when I could feel it hurt me, I was just so scared to be seen as the villian as I wish Joe will see me as a good partner for my boyfriend. During the forth day my period is hitting me hard and my hormones and cravings are all over the place. I ask him if he could bring some snacks home and he is kind enough to do it. I greet him at the door like usual, more excited as my cravings can be fulfilled and because I was looking forward to spend time with him. He then asks if it's okay if he goes out drinking with Joe and a friend. He literally watches my excitement disappear and tears welling up as he waits for an answer (he comments on it). He mentions that when he got the message from Joe that he knew I would be disappointed (I still don't understand why he didn't just decline the invitation and stay home if he knew that) because there was a third party involved this time, I again couldn't make myself say no to him even though my heart was hurting. Through all these days not once was he home before 3am, the last day he was home at 4:45am. The fifth day (his off day and mine) was reserved for me and had been for 2 weeks. I went to school at 9am to practice for my exam and were there for way longer than usual because I was hurt and trying to control my emotions before returning to him. I also secretly wished that he would wake up and ask where I was, but that didn't happen as he was still asleep when I returned at 2pm. He woke up and asked me if I was mad, I sad no but that I was irritated and hurt. We tried to talk it out but he got defensive even though I admitted I messed up by not saying no when he asked. I asked if i should just leave and decided to go home after asking multiple times with no productive response from him, I felt we needed time apart to cool down and think things through. I contacted him in the afternoon to apologize for my reaction to the situation however I also said that I wouldn't apologize for my words as I meant what I said to him. I first got a text from him 4 days later, after I had contacted him again the day before to find a day we could talk things through and fix things. The day after his text we talk and promises each other that I will do my utmost best to say no when I can feel I need to, and he will priorities spending time with me when I'm at his apartment.
Fast forward to this week, it happened again. I'm the type to always ask permission to sleep over as it's not my home, my boyfriend said there was no need to as he always expects me to sleepover. Friday the 10th we were out shopping when his mom calls (so we could finally meet each other) and they start planning after his schedule without even considering if I have other plans, luckily enough they chose Monday instead of Friday the 17th. The day after the shopping trip Joe was hospitalized for appendicitis and needed a ride home and wasn't allowed to be alone for the first 24 hours. He also needed his medicine through a needle for 7 days which he needed someone else to do to him as he couldnt make himself, that's fair enough.. My boyfriend had to sleep at Joe's and that was the right thing to do as it was an emergency, I also expected him to sleep over the second day as I take no chances when it comes to people's health. Third day My boyfriend and I are meeting his mom so Joe have to find another to poke him, he found someone with experience to do it. Tuesday he contacts me to give him his medicine as my boyfriend is working and he doesn't trust the two friends at his apartment to do it. Alright I go and do it, we end up talking about my boyfriend and i mention that i want a a little alone time with the man i love...his response "We can do things together, thats what we did when I was in a relationship" apparently he didnt understand me and i didnt want to start an argument when his 2 friends was still there...my boyfriend joins us later and we go home at around 1am. Wednesday my Boyfriend goes to give the medicine after work, that's okay but he is first home at 3am. Thursday I join them as I'm tired of not having time with my boyfriend. Joe gets the medicine and suddenly have this idea that he and my boyfriend needs to drive out of city to visit a friend and deliver some things in the middle of the night and it can't wait (Joe aren't allowed to drive when his medicated). When we get to the car I ask if it's something that will take a long time as I'm contemplating joining them or going to my boyfriends place, Boyfriend says it's probably best I just go home to his. Again he's first home around 3am as both he and Joe fell asleep at Joe's.... Friday the 17th, Boyfriend finally has a day off and so do I, we have plans to have dinner with my mom in the evening which he agreed to 3 days prior. There's no food in the fridge so he goes grocery shopping, when he comes back Joe is with him, I didn't even get a warning so I could decide if I wanted to be there or not, I get that it's his apartment however I find it disrespectful that I don't even get a text or something. Boyfriend makes the food and while we eat he suddenly invites Joe to a concert where chill and romantic music gets played, which he also invited me to months prior, like a date...Joe suddenly asks when we think we will be home from my mom's (mind you I have told my boyfriend two times both this day and Thursday, that Joe needs to find another to poke him that day) I answer and say I don't know the earliest will probably be 10pm. My boyfriend answers and says " Oh no problem! If it's 10pm we have plenty of time to get home so I can do it, you make it sound like we will be there late."....like..I don't...seriously?! I feel like he doesn't want to priorities our relationship. When we're done eating I do the dishes as he made the food and they just leave, I finish up and go to a friend's as I am incredible hurt and needs someone to listen to as I'm again in the midst of my period and don't know if I'm being irrational or if I need to be concerned. I told my boyfriend that we leave at 5pm at the latest, he calls me at 4:15 to hear where I am, I tell him and he says that he expected me to be home when he got there. I of course seem off when I get to his place and he asks me if we need to talk. I simply reply that it's not a conversation we should take today. Whole car ride is silent, when we get to my mom's, everything seems fine and we are acting lovingly towards each other as we don't wan't to worry my family. At 11:20pm on the way home he asks if I wanna talk about it now, I again decline and tells him that it's not a conversation I wanna have while I'm on my period as my hormones are all over the place, I'm sensitive and take things personal and that -in my opinion- doesn't make a good fundamental platform to have a productive conversation. He continuesly asks and I give him the same answer again and again even telling him that I need time to think things through as I want to make sure I'm not being irrational. I pack my bags when we get to his (I'm visiting my dad so I need the stuff) and he drives me home. When we're in front of my door he gives me a lecture about how communication is important and if I won't tell him what's bothering me our relationship won't last, he even said that he thinks my friends have said something to make me like this, I told him I needed to see them and he said "thats okay, I'm with Joe"...I know that's the problem, we never just have time for ourselves....I was SO close to giving him a passive aggressive answer however I also know that won't help the situation.
The fact that both Joe and my boyfriend are together every day for hours on end when they are well aware that I'm home alone in my boyfriend's apartment, I find incredible disrespectful towards me and my free time. If I wanted to be alone I would be in my own apartment, I told him that when when we had or first argument a month ago. I feel like I'm being taken for granted, the fact that he just expects me to be at his place whenever he decides to be there, or makes plans without consulting me - especially if I'm involved in the plans- are disrespectful and unkind. He often tells me that he loves me and I'm sure he does...just not the way I need him to. I need quality time just him and I, no friends, no family just us for my love tank to be refilled..I've had none of that during this week I even told him that I needed more love and attention because of my period and its like he didn't listen and take it seriously. Yes he takes me out to dinner and makes homemade food, I appreciate it and to help him out I sometimes cleans his apartment and does the laundry as he barely have any off days to do it. However I find it hard to appreciate when we're eating out as Joe is often thirdwheeling...I've even asked my boyfriend what I need to do to make him feel appreciated and loved as I've told him my love language but I don't know his, I didn't really get an answer.. All the frustrations about this week I will talk to him about this Tuesday, if he can't be with me physically for a week I need him to at least write me each 48 hours as I'm tired of always being the one initiating conversations. I of course will also set boundaries and tell him how much quality time I need to feel loved and safe. If this is how things are gonna go every time I'm at his for a week or more, I don't feel comfortable by the thought of moving in together, we've talked about marriage and kids for the future but if these weeks are any indication for how it will be like living with him, it won't happen...I love him, I truly do and thats why this situation hurt me so much, thats why i try so hard to make him feel loved and to fix things...but I also have too much self respect to accept this behavior from him and his friend. If he don't want to priorities our relationship after his Job, we won't have a healthy relationship where both parties are happy. We both have traumas from past relationships and parents, which of course doesn't make things easier, however in my opinion it is no excuse to neglect each other's needs.
I'm sorry for the rambling, and I appreciate if you've read this far. I could use an outside perspective on our situation as friends and family often times have a biased opinion.
Thanks for reading
TLDR I feel underappriciated in my relationship and wonder if I'm asking for too much from him
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I'm (24F) 5 months into my first serious relationship with my partner (30M) and I've noticed a pattern that's really hurting my feelings and making me doubt my future plans with him. My boyfriend works as a Chef and are very rarely home earlier than 11pm each workday. I am well aware that working in a kitchen means having long days (I met him when I was a waitress) and I accept the amount of hours he have to put into it, I knew what I was walking into, when it comes to his Job, he also knows that, as we have talked about it (hes getting a promotion in fall so then i will see him even less and theres a high probability i will have to move across the country or to a different country next summer for my education). I also knew that my boyfriend have a long time friend which I would have to accept like a package deal if I wanted a relationship with him, I just had no idea it would be as extreme as it is. His friend (lets call him Joe 28M) is the type of person that takes rejections personal, has barely any situational awareness and doesn't understand the need for privacy in a relationship. He's used to being in a relationship himself, however as I'm my boyfriends first partner in 11years, Joe have never seen my boyfriend in a relationship before and are used to being prioritized after work. Joe and his girlfriend broke up 4 months ago, and he have moved into the city where both my boyfriend and I live separately. He now lives 7min walking distance from my boyfriend, so there's plenty of opportunities for them to see each other when I'm not around. Now we get to the part that's bothering me. A month ago I was at my boyfriends place for a week, every single day he got home from work at around 10:30-11:30pm, he gave me a quick hug and kisses and then asked if it was okay if he went down to Joe's. In the beginning it didn't bother me as I believe friendships are still important even if you're dating someone so I said it was okay. Where I messed up was when he asked me the third day in a row and I let him go even when I could feel it hurt me, I was just so scared to be seen as the villian as I wish Joe will see me as a good partner for my boyfriend. During the forth day my period is hitting me hard and my hormones and cravings are all over the place. I ask him if he could bring some snacks home and he is kind enough to do it. I greet him at the door like usual, more excited as my cravings can be fulfilled and because I was looking forward to spend time with him. He then asks if it's okay if he goes out drinking with Joe and a friend. He literally watches my excitement disappear and tears welling up as he waits for an answer (he comments on it). He mentions that when he got the message from Joe that he knew I would be disappointed (I still don't understand why he didn't just decline the invitation and stay home if he knew that) because there was a third party involved this time, I again couldn't make myself say no to him even though my heart was hurting. Through all these days not once was he home before 3am, the last day he was home at 4:45am. The fifth day (his off day and mine) was reserved for me and had been for 2 weeks. I went to school at 9am to practice for my exam and were there for way longer than usual because I was hurt and trying to control my emotions before returning to him. I also secretly wished that he would wake up and ask where I was, but that didn't happen as he was still asleep when I returned at 2pm. He woke up and asked me if I was mad, I sad no but that I was irritated and hurt. We tried to talk it out but he got defensive even though I admitted I messed up by not saying no when he asked. I asked if i should just leave and decided to go home after asking multiple times with no productive response from him, I felt we needed time apart to cool down and think things through. I contacted him in the afternoon to apologize for my reaction to the situation however I also said that I wouldn't apologize for my words as I meant what I said to him. I first got a text from him 4 days later, after I had contacted him again the day before to find a day we could talk things through and fix things. The day after his text we talk and promises each other that I will do my utmost best to say no when I can feel I need to, and he will priorities spending time with me when I'm at his apartment.
Fast forward to this week, it happened again. I'm the type to always ask permission to sleep over as it's not my home, my boyfriend said there was no need to as he always expects me to sleepover. Friday the 10th we were out shopping when his mom calls (so we could finally meet each other) and they start planning after his schedule without even considering if I have other plans, luckily enough they chose Monday instead of Friday the 17th. The day after the shopping trip Joe was hospitalized for appendicitis and needed a ride home and wasn't allowed to be alone for the first 24 hours. He also needed his medicine through a needle for 7 days which he needed someone else to do to him as he couldnt make himself, that's fair enough.. My boyfriend had to sleep at Joe's and that was the right thing to do as it was an emergency, I also expected him to sleep over the second day as I take no chances when it comes to people's health. Third day My boyfriend and I are meeting his mom so Joe have to find another to poke him, he found someone with experience to do it. Tuesday he contacts me to give him his medicine as my boyfriend is working and he doesn't trust the two friends at his apartment to do it. Alright I go and do it, we end up talking about my boyfriend and i mention that i want a a little alone time with the man i love...his response "We can do things together, thats what we did when I was in a relationship" apparently he didnt understand me and i didnt want to start an argument when his 2 friends was still there...my boyfriend joins us later and we go home at around 1am. Wednesday my Boyfriend goes to give the medicine after work, that's okay but he is first home at 3am. Thursday I join them as I'm tired of not having time with my boyfriend. Joe gets the medicine and suddenly have this idea that he and my boyfriend needs to drive out of city to visit a friend and deliver some things in the middle of the night and it can't wait (Joe aren't allowed to drive when his medicated). When we get to the car I ask if it's something that will take a long time as I'm contemplating joining them or going to my boyfriends place, Boyfriend says it's probably best I just go home to his. Again he's first home around 3am as both he and Joe fell asleep at Joe's.... Friday the 17th, Boyfriend finally has a day off and so do I, we have plans to have dinner with my mom in the evening which he agreed to 3 days prior. There's no food in the fridge so he goes grocery shopping, when he comes back Joe is with him, I didn't even get a warning so I could decide if I wanted to be there or not, I get that it's his apartment however I find it disrespectful that I don't even get a text or something. Boyfriend makes the food and while we eat he suddenly invites Joe to a concert where chill and romantic music gets played, which he also invited me to months prior, like a date...Joe suddenly asks when we think we will be home from my mom's (mind you I have told my boyfriend two times both this day and Thursday, that Joe needs to find another to poke him that day) I answer and say I don't know the earliest will probably be 10pm. My boyfriend answers and says " Oh no problem! If it's 10pm we have plenty of time to get home so I can do it, you make it sound like we will be there late."....like..I don't...seriously?! I feel like he doesn't want to priorities our relationship. When we're done eating I do the dishes as he made the food and they just leave, I finish up and go to a friend's as I am incredible hurt and needs someone to listen to as I'm again in the midst of my period and don't know if I'm being irrational or if I need to be concerned. I told my boyfriend that we leave at 5pm at the latest, he calls me at 4:15 to hear where I am, I tell him and he says that he expected me to be home when he got there. I of course seem off when I get to his place and he asks me if we need to talk. I simply reply that it's not a conversation we should take today. Whole car ride is silent, when we get to my mom's, everything seems fine and we are acting lovingly towards each other as we don't wan't to worry my family. At 11:20pm on the way home he asks if I wanna talk about it now, I again decline and tells him that it's not a conversation I wanna have while I'm on my period as my hormones are all over the place, I'm sensitive and take things personal and that -in my opinion- doesn't make a good fundamental platform to have a productive conversation. He continuesly asks and I give him the same answer again and again even telling him that I need time to think things through as I want to make sure I'm not being irrational. I pack my bags when we get to his (I'm visiting my dad so I need the stuff) and he drives me home. When we're in front of my door he gives me a lecture about how communication is important and if I won't tell him what's bothering me our relationship won't last, he even said that he thinks my friends have said something to make me like this, I told him I needed to see them and he said "thats okay, I'm with Joe"...I know that's the problem, we never just have time for ourselves....I was SO close to giving him a passive aggressive answer however I also know that won't help the situation.
The fact that both Joe and my boyfriend are together every day for hours on end when they are well aware that I'm home alone in my boyfriend's apartment, I find incredible disrespectful towards me and my free time. If I wanted to be alone I would be in my own apartment, I told him that when when we had or first argument a month ago. I feel like I'm being taken for granted, the fact that he just expects me to be at his place whenever he decides to be there, or makes plans without consulting me - especially if I'm involved in the plans- are disrespectful and unkind. He often tells me that he loves me and I'm sure he does...just not the way I need him to. I need quality time just him and I, no friends, no family just us for my love tank to be refilled..I've had none of that during this week I even told him that I needed more love and attention because of my period and its like he didn't listen and take it seriously. Yes he takes me out to dinner and makes homemade food, I appreciate it and to help him out I sometimes cleans his apartment and does the laundry as he barely have any off days to do it. However I find it hard to appreciate when we're eating out as Joe is often thirdwheeling...I've even asked my boyfriend what I need to do to make him feel appreciated and loved as I've told him my love language but I don't know his, I didn't really get an answer.. All the frustrations about this week I will talk to him about this Tuesday, if he can't be with me physically for a week I need him to at least write me each 48 hours as I'm tired of always being the one initiating conversations. I of course will also set boundaries and tell him how much quality time I need to feel loved and safe. If this is how things are gonna go every time I'm at his for a week or more, I don't feel comfortable by the thought of moving in together, we've talked about marriage and kids for the future but if these weeks are any indication for how it will be like living with him, it won't happen...I love him, I truly do and thats why this situation hurt me so much, thats why i try so hard to make him feel loved and to fix things...but I also have too much self respect to accept this behavior from him and his friend. If he don't want to priorities our relationship after his Job, we won't have a healthy relationship where both parties are happy. We both have traumas from past relationships and parents, which of course doesn't make things easier, however in my opinion it is no excuse to neglect each other's needs.
I'm sorry for the rambling, and I appreciate if you've read this far. I could use an outside perspective on our situation as friends and family often times have a biased opinion.
Thanks for reading
TLDR I feel underappriciated in my relationship and wonder if I'm asking for too much from him
2024.05.19 20:03 Dramatic-Series6681 Am i asking for too much in my relationship?
This will be a long one as I'm still incredible confused as to what I should do.
I'm (24F) 5 months into my first serious relationship with my partner (30M) and I've noticed a pattern that's really hurting my feelings and making me doubt my future plans with him. My boyfriend works as a Chef and are very rarely home earlier than 11pm each workday. I am well aware that working in a kitchen means having long days (I met him when I was a waitress) and I accept the amount of hours he have to put into it, I knew what I was walking into, when it comes to his Job, he also knows that, as we have talked about it (hes getting a promotion in fall so then i will see him even less and theres a high probability i will have to move across the country or to a different country next summer for my education). I also knew that my boyfriend have a long time friend which I would have to accept like a package deal if I wanted a relationship with him, I just had no idea it would be as extreme as it is. His friend (lets call him Joe 28M) is the type of person that takes rejections personal, has barely any situational awareness and doesn't understand the need for privacy in a relationship. He's used to being in a relationship himself, however as I'm my boyfriends first partner in 11years, Joe have never seen my boyfriend in a relationship before and are used to being prioritized after work. Joe and his girlfriend broke up 4 months ago, and he have moved into the city where both my boyfriend and I live separately. He now lives 7min walking distance from my boyfriend, so there's plenty of opportunities for them to see each other when I'm not around. Now we get to the part that's bothering me. A month ago I was at my boyfriends place for a week, every single day he got home from work at around 10:30-11:30pm, he gave me a quick hug and kisses and then asked if it was okay if he went down to Joe's. In the beginning it didn't bother me as I believe friendships are still important even if you're dating someone so I said it was okay. Where I messed up was when he asked me the third day in a row and I let him go even when I could feel it hurt me, I was just so scared to be seen as the villian as I wish Joe will see me as a good partner for my boyfriend. During the forth day my period is hitting me hard and my hormones and cravings are all over the place. I ask him if he could bring some snacks home and he is kind enough to do it. I greet him at the door like usual, more excited as my cravings can be fulfilled and because I was looking forward to spend time with him. He then asks if it's okay if he goes out drinking with Joe and a friend. He literally watches my excitement disappear and tears welling up as he waits for an answer (he comments on it). He mentions that when he got the message from Joe that he knew I would be disappointed (I still don't understand why he didn't just decline the invitation and stay home if he knew that) because there was a third party involved this time, I again couldn't make myself say no to him even though my heart was hurting. Through all these days not once was he home before 3am, the last day he was home at 4:45am. The fifth day (his off day and mine) was reserved for me and had been for 2 weeks. I went to school at 9am to practice for my exam and were there for way longer than usual because I was hurt and trying to control my emotions before returning to him. I also secretly wished that he would wake up and ask where I was, but that didn't happen as he was still asleep when I returned at 2pm. He woke up and asked me if I was mad, I sad no but that I was irritated and hurt. We tried to talk it out but he got defensive even though I admitted I messed up by not saying no when he asked. I asked if i should just leave and decided to go home after asking multiple times with no productive response from him, I felt we needed time apart to cool down and think things through. I contacted him in the afternoon to apologize for my reaction to the situation however I also said that I wouldn't apologize for my words as I meant what I said to him. I first got a text from him 4 days later, after I had contacted him again the day before to find a day we could talk things through and fix things. The day after his text we talk and promises each other that I will do my utmost best to say no when I can feel I need to, and he will priorities spending time with me when I'm at his apartment.
Fast forward to this week, it happened again. I'm the type to always ask permission to sleep over as it's not my home, my boyfriend said there was no need to as he always expects me to sleepover. Friday the 10th we were out shopping when his mom calls (so we could finally meet each other) and they start planning after his schedule without even considering if I have other plans, luckily enough they chose Monday instead of Friday the 17th. The day after the shopping trip Joe was hospitalized for appendicitis and needed a ride home and wasn't allowed to be alone for the first 24 hours. He also needed his medicine through a needle for 7 days which he needed someone else to do to him as he couldnt make himself, that's fair enough.. My boyfriend had to sleep at Joe's and that was the right thing to do as it was an emergency, I also expected him to sleep over the second day as I take no chances when it comes to people's health. Third day My boyfriend and I are meeting his mom so Joe have to find another to poke him, he found someone with experience to do it. Tuesday he contacts me to give him his medicine as my boyfriend is working and he doesn't trust the two friends at his apartment to do it. Alright I go and do it, we end up talking about my boyfriend and i mention that i want a a little alone time with the man i love...his response "We can do things together, thats what we did when I was in a relationship" apparently he didnt understand me and i didnt want to start an argument when his 2 friends was still there...my boyfriend joins us later and we go home at around 1am. Wednesday my Boyfriend goes to give the medicine after work, that's okay but he is first home at 3am. Thursday I join them as I'm tired of not having time with my boyfriend. Joe gets the medicine and suddenly have this idea that he and my boyfriend needs to drive out of city to visit a friend and deliver some things in the middle of the night and it can't wait (Joe aren't allowed to drive when his medicated). When we get to the car I ask if it's something that will take a long time as I'm contemplating joining them or going to my boyfriends place, Boyfriend says it's probably best I just go home to his. Again he's first home around 3am as both he and Joe fell asleep at Joe's.... Friday the 17th, Boyfriend finally has a day off and so do I, we have plans to have dinner with my mom in the evening which he agreed to 3 days prior. There's no food in the fridge so he goes grocery shopping, when he comes back Joe is with him, I didn't even get a warning so I could decide if I wanted to be there or not, I get that it's his apartment however I find it disrespectful that I don't even get a text or something. Boyfriend makes the food and while we eat he suddenly invites Joe to a concert where chill and romantic music gets played, which he also invited me to months prior, like a date...Joe suddenly asks when we think we will be home from my mom's (mind you I have told my boyfriend two times both this day and Thursday, that Joe needs to find another to poke him that day) I answer and say I don't know the earliest will probably be 10pm. My boyfriend answers and says " Oh no problem! If it's 10pm we have plenty of time to get home so I can do it, you make it sound like we will be there late."....like..I don't...seriously?! I feel like he doesn't want to priorities our relationship. When we're done eating I do the dishes as he made the food and they just leave, I finish up and go to a friend's as I am incredible hurt and needs someone to listen to as I'm again in the midst of my period and don't know if I'm being irrational or if I need to be concerned. I told my boyfriend that we leave at 5pm at the latest, he calls me at 4:15 to hear where I am, I tell him and he says that he expected me to be home when he got there. I of course seem off when I get to his place and he asks me if we need to talk. I simply reply that it's not a conversation we should take today. Whole car ride is silent, when we get to my mom's, everything seems fine and we are acting lovingly towards each other as we don't wan't to worry my family. At 11:20pm on the way home he asks if I wanna talk about it now, I again decline and tells him that it's not a conversation I wanna have while I'm on my period as my hormones are all over the place, I'm sensitive and take things personal and that -in my opinion- doesn't make a good fundamental platform to have a productive conversation. He continuesly asks and I give him the same answer again and again even telling him that I need time to think things through as I want to make sure I'm not being irrational. I pack my bags when we get to his (I'm visiting my dad so I need the stuff) and he drives me home. When we're in front of my door he gives me a lecture about how communication is important and if I won't tell him what's bothering me our relationship won't last, he even said that he thinks my friends have said something to make me like this, I told him I needed to see them and he said "thats okay, I'm with Joe"...I know that's the problem, we never just have time for ourselves....I was SO close to giving him a passive aggressive answer however I also know that won't help the situation.
The fact that both Joe and my boyfriend are together every day for hours on end when they are well aware that I'm home alone in my boyfriend's apartment, I find incredible disrespectful towards me and my free time. If I wanted to be alone I would be in my own apartment, I told him that when when we had or first argument a month ago. I feel like I'm being taken for granted, the fact that he just expects me to be at his place whenever he decides to be there, or makes plans without consulting me - especially if I'm involved in the plans- are disrespectful and unkind. He often tells me that he loves me and I'm sure he does...just not the way I need him to. I need quality time just him and I, no friends, no family just us for my love tank to be refilled..I've had none of that during this week I even told him that I needed more love and attention because of my period and its like he didn't listen and take it seriously. Yes he takes me out to dinner and makes homemade food, I appreciate it and to help him out I sometimes cleans his apartment and does the laundry as he barely have any off days to do it. However I find it hard to appreciate when we're eating out as Joe is often thirdwheeling...I've even asked my boyfriend what I need to do to make him feel appreciated and loved as I've told him my love language but I don't know his, I didn't really get an answer.. All the frustrations about this week I will talk to him about this Tuesday, if he can't be with me physically for a week I need him to at least write me each 48 hours as I'm tired of always being the one initiating conversations. I of course will also set boundaries and tell him how much quality time I need to feel loved and safe. If this is how things are gonna go every time I'm at his for a week or more, I don't feel comfortable by the thought of moving in together, we've talked about marriage and kids for the future but if these weeks are any indication for how it will be like living with him, it won't happen...I love him, I truly do and thats why this situation hurt me so much, thats why i try so hard to make him feel loved and to fix things...but I also have too much self respect to accept this behavior from him and his friend. If he don't want to priorities our relationship after his Job, we won't have a healthy relationship where both parties are happy. We both have traumas from past relationships and parents, which of course doesn't make things easier, however in my opinion it is no excuse to neglect each other's needs.
I'm sorry for the rambling, and I appreciate if you've read this far. I could use an outside perspective on our situation as friends and family often times have a biased opinion.
Thanks for reading
TLDR I feel underappriciated in my relationship and wonder if I'm asking for too much
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I'm (24F) 5 months into my first serious relationship with my partner (30M) and I've noticed a pattern that's really hurting my feelings and making me doubt my future plans with him. My boyfriend works as a Chef and are very rarely home earlier than 11pm each workday. I am well aware that working in a kitchen means having long days (I met him when I was a waitress) and I accept the amount of hours he have to put into it, I knew what I was walking into, when it comes to his Job, he also knows that, as we have talked about it (hes getting a promotion in fall so then i will see him even less and theres a high probability i will have to move across the country or to a different country next summer for my education). I also knew that my boyfriend have a long time friend which I would have to accept like a package deal if I wanted a relationship with him, I just had no idea it would be as extreme as it is. His friend (lets call him Joe 28M) is the type of person that takes rejections personal, has barely any situational awareness and doesn't understand the need for privacy in a relationship. He's used to being in a relationship himself, however as I'm my boyfriends first partner in 11years, Joe have never seen my boyfriend in a relationship before and are used to being prioritized after work. Joe and his girlfriend broke up 4 months ago, and he have moved into the city where both my boyfriend and I live separately. He now lives 7min walking distance from my boyfriend, so there's plenty of opportunities for them to see each other when I'm not around. Now we get to the part that's bothering me. A month ago I was at my boyfriends place for a week, every single day he got home from work at around 10:30-11:30pm, he gave me a quick hug and kisses and then asked if it was okay if he went down to Joe's. In the beginning it didn't bother me as I believe friendships are still important even if you're dating someone so I said it was okay. Where I messed up was when he asked me the third day in a row and I let him go even when I could feel it hurt me, I was just so scared to be seen as the villian as I wish Joe will see me as a good partner for my boyfriend. During the forth day my period is hitting me hard and my hormones and cravings are all over the place. I ask him if he could bring some snacks home and he is kind enough to do it. I greet him at the door like usual, more excited as my cravings can be fulfilled and because I was looking forward to spend time with him. He then asks if it's okay if he goes out drinking with Joe and a friend. He literally watches my excitement disappear and tears welling up as he waits for an answer (he comments on it). He mentions that when he got the message from Joe that he knew I would be disappointed (I still don't understand why he didn't just decline the invitation and stay home if he knew that) because there was a third party involved this time, I again couldn't make myself say no to him even though my heart was hurting. Through all these days not once was he home before 3am, the last day he was home at 4:45am. The fifth day (his off day and mine) was reserved for me and had been for 2 weeks. I went to school at 9am to practice for my exam and were there for way longer than usual because I was hurt and trying to control my emotions before returning to him. I also secretly wished that he would wake up and ask where I was, but that didn't happen as he was still asleep when I returned at 2pm. He woke up and asked me if I was mad, I sad no but that I was irritated and hurt. We tried to talk it out but he got defensive even though I admitted I messed up by not saying no when he asked. I asked if i should just leave and decided to go home after asking multiple times with no productive response from him, I felt we needed time apart to cool down and think things through. I contacted him in the afternoon to apologize for my reaction to the situation however I also said that I wouldn't apologize for my words as I meant what I said to him. I first got a text from him 4 days later, after I had contacted him again the day before to find a day we could talk things through and fix things. The day after his text we talk and promises each other that I will do my utmost best to say no when I can feel I need to, and he will priorities spending time with me when I'm at his apartment.
Fast forward to this week, it happened again. I'm the type to always ask permission to sleep over as it's not my home, my boyfriend said there was no need to as he always expects me to sleepover. Friday the 10th we were out shopping when his mom calls (so we could finally meet each other) and they start planning after his schedule without even considering if I have other plans, luckily enough they chose Monday instead of Friday the 17th. The day after the shopping trip Joe was hospitalized for appendicitis and needed a ride home and wasn't allowed to be alone for the first 24 hours. He also needed his medicine through a needle for 7 days which he needed someone else to do to him as he couldnt make himself, that's fair enough.. My boyfriend had to sleep at Joe's and that was the right thing to do as it was an emergency, I also expected him to sleep over the second day as I take no chances when it comes to people's health. Third day My boyfriend and I are meeting his mom so Joe have to find another to poke him, he found someone with experience to do it. Tuesday he contacts me to give him his medicine as my boyfriend is working and he doesn't trust the two friends at his apartment to do it. Alright I go and do it, we end up talking about my boyfriend and i mention that i want a a little alone time with the man i love...his response "We can do things together, thats what we did when I was in a relationship" apparently he didnt understand me and i didnt want to start an argument when his 2 friends was still there...my boyfriend joins us later and we go home at around 1am. Wednesday my Boyfriend goes to give the medicine after work, that's okay but he is first home at 3am. Thursday I join them as I'm tired of not having time with my boyfriend. Joe gets the medicine and suddenly have this idea that he and my boyfriend needs to drive out of city to visit a friend and deliver some things in the middle of the night and it can't wait (Joe aren't allowed to drive when his medicated). When we get to the car I ask if it's something that will take a long time as I'm contemplating joining them or going to my boyfriends place, Boyfriend says it's probably best I just go home to his. Again he's first home around 3am as both he and Joe fell asleep at Joe's.... Friday the 17th, Boyfriend finally has a day off and so do I, we have plans to have dinner with my mom in the evening which he agreed to 3 days prior. There's no food in the fridge so he goes grocery shopping, when he comes back Joe is with him, I didn't even get a warning so I could decide if I wanted to be there or not, I get that it's his apartment however I find it disrespectful that I don't even get a text or something. Boyfriend makes the food and while we eat he suddenly invites Joe to a concert where chill and romantic music gets played, which he also invited me to months prior, like a date...Joe suddenly asks when we think we will be home from my mom's (mind you I have told my boyfriend two times both this day and Thursday, that Joe needs to find another to poke him that day) I answer and say I don't know the earliest will probably be 10pm. My boyfriend answers and says " Oh no problem! If it's 10pm we have plenty of time to get home so I can do it, you make it sound like we will be there late."....like..I don't...seriously?! I feel like he doesn't want to priorities our relationship. When we're done eating I do the dishes as he made the food and they just leave, I finish up and go to a friend's as I am incredible hurt and needs someone to listen to as I'm again in the midst of my period and don't know if I'm being irrational or if I need to be concerned. I told my boyfriend that we leave at 5pm at the latest, he calls me at 4:15 to hear where I am, I tell him and he says that he expected me to be home when he got there. I of course seem off when I get to his place and he asks me if we need to talk. I simply reply that it's not a conversation we should take today. Whole car ride is silent, when we get to my mom's, everything seems fine and we are acting lovingly towards each other as we don't wan't to worry my family. At 11:20pm on the way home he asks if I wanna talk about it now, I again decline and tells him that it's not a conversation I wanna have while I'm on my period as my hormones are all over the place, I'm sensitive and take things personal and that -in my opinion- doesn't make a good fundamental platform to have a productive conversation. He continuesly asks and I give him the same answer again and again even telling him that I need time to think things through as I want to make sure I'm not being irrational. I pack my bags when we get to his (I'm visiting my dad so I need the stuff) and he drives me home. When we're in front of my door he gives me a lecture about how communication is important and if I won't tell him what's bothering me our relationship won't last, he even said that he thinks my friends have said something to make me like this, I told him I needed to see them and he said "thats okay, I'm with Joe"...I know that's the problem, we never just have time for ourselves....I was SO close to giving him a passive aggressive answer however I also know that won't help the situation.
The fact that both Joe and my boyfriend are together every day for hours on end when they are well aware that I'm home alone in my boyfriend's apartment, I find incredible disrespectful towards me and my free time. If I wanted to be alone I would be in my own apartment, I told him that when when we had or first argument a month ago. I feel like I'm being taken for granted, the fact that he just expects me to be at his place whenever he decides to be there, or makes plans without consulting me - especially if I'm involved in the plans- are disrespectful and unkind. He often tells me that he loves me and I'm sure he does...just not the way I need him to. I need quality time just him and I, no friends, no family just us for my love tank to be refilled..I've had none of that during this week I even told him that I needed more love and attention because of my period and its like he didn't listen and take it seriously. Yes he takes me out to dinner and makes homemade food, I appreciate it and to help him out I sometimes cleans his apartment and does the laundry as he barely have any off days to do it. However I find it hard to appreciate when we're eating out as Joe is often thirdwheeling...I've even asked my boyfriend what I need to do to make him feel appreciated and loved as I've told him my love language but I don't know his, I didn't really get an answer.. All the frustrations about this week I will talk to him about this Tuesday, if he can't be with me physically for a week I need him to at least write me each 48 hours as I'm tired of always being the one initiating conversations. I of course will also set boundaries and tell him how much quality time I need to feel loved and safe. If this is how things are gonna go every time I'm at his for a week or more, I don't feel comfortable by the thought of moving in together, we've talked about marriage and kids for the future but if these weeks are any indication for how it will be like living with him, it won't happen...I love him, I truly do and thats why this situation hurt me so much, thats why i try so hard to make him feel loved and to fix things...but I also have too much self respect to accept this behavior from him and his friend. If he don't want to priorities our relationship after his Job, we won't have a healthy relationship where both parties are happy. We both have traumas from past relationships and parents, which of course doesn't make things easier, however in my opinion it is no excuse to neglect each other's needs.
I'm sorry for the rambling, and I appreciate if you've read this far. I could use an outside perspective on our situation as friends and family often times have a biased opinion.
Thanks for reading
TLDR I feel underappriciated in my relationship and wonder if I'm asking for too much
2024.05.19 20:02 Treebusiness Eating above maintenance every once in a while is.. fine
Yesterday i went to an event directly after work and was out until 2am. I declined on all alcohol, but still drank 3 small sodas and had some snacks and a salad. The goal was to enjoy myself, maybe let a little looser on the reigns but still keeping in check.
However, when i came home my self discipline was 100% on empty and I pretty much devoured an entire thing of hungry howies cheesebread as soon as I laid my eyes on it. Lol!
Woke up to begrudgingly log everything i could today and highballed my calories consumption to be around 2,300 calories altogether yesterday. I expected to be set back quite a ways(still struggling with that all or nothing mentality) until i see that the lose it app's weekly calories shows I'm still 447 calories under my weekly goal!
This really clicked for me how all those times i binged one night and then gave up completely i probably didn't derail much progress at all. That, i can still have big holiday dinners and birthday cake and night outs without it throwing away all my progress.
The difference is i can't let that be my every day like it was. Looking at it now, I kind of feel like i was a food hoarder before if that makes sense. Now I finally have control.
Just had to share!
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However, when i came home my self discipline was 100% on empty and I pretty much devoured an entire thing of hungry howies cheesebread as soon as I laid my eyes on it. Lol!
Woke up to begrudgingly log everything i could today and highballed my calories consumption to be around 2,300 calories altogether yesterday. I expected to be set back quite a ways(still struggling with that all or nothing mentality) until i see that the lose it app's weekly calories shows I'm still 447 calories under my weekly goal!
This really clicked for me how all those times i binged one night and then gave up completely i probably didn't derail much progress at all. That, i can still have big holiday dinners and birthday cake and night outs without it throwing away all my progress.
The difference is i can't let that be my every day like it was. Looking at it now, I kind of feel like i was a food hoarder before if that makes sense. Now I finally have control.
Just had to share!
2024.05.19 20:00 RgMendoza What is your Sema-proof snack food?
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2024.05.19 19:57 Raven1104 Obscure Arabic Channel that played old WWE matches non-stop
Hi community,
I have a vivid memory of watching a channel on our local dish setup that used to play WWE matches non-stop. I got to see pretty old matches (imagine Wrestlemania 8 type-retro matches) on this channel, while being hooked onto this.
I also remember this channel running many ads for local chocolate, chips and snacks brands during the interval and I’m proud to say that it was a core part of my teenage life, somewhere between 2014-2016
If anyone can remember the channel name or have come across this, then that would be pretty cool. Please do comment below!
I remember that the channel had a single commentator and had a pretty engaging voice to run over the visuals
P.S I’m not discussing about MBC3
Thank you so much in advance
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I have a vivid memory of watching a channel on our local dish setup that used to play WWE matches non-stop. I got to see pretty old matches (imagine Wrestlemania 8 type-retro matches) on this channel, while being hooked onto this.
I also remember this channel running many ads for local chocolate, chips and snacks brands during the interval and I’m proud to say that it was a core part of my teenage life, somewhere between 2014-2016
If anyone can remember the channel name or have come across this, then that would be pretty cool. Please do comment below!
I remember that the channel had a single commentator and had a pretty engaging voice to run over the visuals
P.S I’m not discussing about MBC3
Thank you so much in advance
2024.05.19 19:56 Sweet-Count2557 Happy Wine in the Grove Restaurant in Miami,FL,United States
 | Happy Wine in the Grove Restaurant in Miami,FL,United States submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] Happy Wine in the Grove: A Haven for Drink Enthusiasts in Miami, FL Price Level: $$ - $$$ Happy Wine in the Grove: A Haven for Drink EnthusiastsWelcome to Happy Wine in the Grove, a delightful restaurant that caters to all your drink cravings. Whether you're a wine connoisseur, a cocktail lover, or simply enjoy a refreshing beverage, this is the place for you. Situated in the heart of the Grove, our restaurant offers a wide selection of drinks that will tantalize your taste buds and leave you wanting more.Unwind with a Variety of DrinksAt Happy Wine in the Grove, we take pride in our extensive drink menu. From exquisite wines sourced from renowned vineyards to handcrafted cocktails that are a true work of art, we have something to suit every palate. Indulge in a glass of rich red wine, savor the crispness of a chilled white wine, or explore our range of signature cocktails that are expertly mixed to perfection. Our knowledgeable staff is always on hand to guide you through our offerings and help you discover new favorites.A Relaxing Ambiance for All OccasionsStep into Happy Wine in the Grove and be transported to a world of relaxation and enjoyment. Our restaurant boasts a warm and inviting ambiance, making it the perfect spot for a romantic date night, a casual catch-up with friends, or a celebratory gathering. Whether you choose to sit indoors or enjoy the pleasant weather on our outdoor patio, you'll be surrounded by a cozy atmosphere that enhances your overall dining experience.Unforgettable Dining ExperienceAt Happy Wine in the Grove, we believe that great drinks should be accompanied by equally delicious food. Our menu features a delectable selection of dishes that perfectly complement our drinks. From mouthwatering appetizers to hearty main courses and delectable desserts, our culinary offerings are crafted with care and attention to detail. Indulge in a culinary journey that will leave you with unforgettable memories.Visit Happy Wine in the Grove TodayIf you're a drink enthusiast looking for a memorable dining experience, Happy Wine in the Grove is the place to be. Join us today and embark on a journey of flavors and relaxation. Whether you're a local or a visitor to the Grove, our restaurant promises to deliver an exceptional experience that will keep you coming back for more. Cheers to good times and great drinks at Happy Wine in the Grove! Cuisines of Happy Wine in the Grove in Miami,FL,United States Happy Wine in the Grove Restaurant is a hidden gem for wine enthusiasts and food lovers alike. With a focus on Mediterranean and Spanish cuisines, this wine bar offers a unique dining experience that transports you to the sun-soaked shores of the Mediterranean. From tapas to paella, the menu is filled with flavorful dishes that perfectly complement the extensive wine selection. Whether you're in the mood for a refreshing glass of sangria or a bold Rioja, Happy Wine in the Grove Restaurant is the perfect place to indulge in the rich flavors of Mediterranean and Spanish cuisine while savoring the finest wines. Features of Happy Wine in the Grove in Miami,FL,United States SeatingServes AlcoholReservationsStreet ParkingTelevisionHighchairs AvailableFree WifiAccepts Credit CardsTable ServiceLive MusicNon-smoking restaurants Menu of Happy Wine in the Grove in Miami,FL,United States Location of Happy Wine in the Grove in Miami,FL,United States Contact of Happy Wine in the Grove in Miami,FL,United States +1 305-460-9939 2833 Bird Ave, Miami, FL 33133-4659 info@happywineco.com http://www.happywineco.com Tags |
2024.05.19 19:54 Sodpoodle Quench oil in bear country.
Summer gig at a remote yurt site in AK and I was thinking about messing around doing some more blacksmithing out there.
Normally I use vegetable/corn/whatever off the shelf food oil.. But I'd like to know if anyone has a cost effective non-food smelling alternative? Food storage/cleanliness is a huge concern in the area apparently.
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Normally I use vegetable/corn/whatever off the shelf food oil.. But I'd like to know if anyone has a cost effective non-food smelling alternative? Food storage/cleanliness is a huge concern in the area apparently.
2024.05.19 19:46 Unlikely_Bonus4980 How can I say snack bar in Korean, please?
I went to a place that looks like a simple and small restaurant where you can sit and order some easy to eat food like savory snacks, burger, pizza, french fries, soda, juice, etc.
What can I call it in Korean? I searched for it, but I got different answers like 분식집, 간이식당, 구내 식당, 스낵바 etc.
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What can I call it in Korean? I searched for it, but I got different answers like 분식집, 간이식당, 구내 식당, 스낵바 etc.
2024.05.19 19:35 mamoviefan mom making me relapse
I got back home from college and there’s barely any food on my house, there’s like jello cups in the fridge and barley any snacks or anything. It pissed me off cause I know if my brother were coming home then the house would be stocked up for him. Why is it different for me?
Couple of days later my mom starts talking about getting plastic surgery and telling me i should consider getting some thigh fat removed like she did when she was around my age. I keep trying to get along with her and it’s just impossible every other thing she says is some disordered bullshit and I can’t stand it. If I get mad then all she says is that it’s like walking on eggshells around me and that she can’t say anything without me getting mad. Then she has the nerve to look upset when i skip dinner. I hate who I am around my mom, it’s so frustrating and it’s so not me. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with toxic moms?
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Couple of days later my mom starts talking about getting plastic surgery and telling me i should consider getting some thigh fat removed like she did when she was around my age. I keep trying to get along with her and it’s just impossible every other thing she says is some disordered bullshit and I can’t stand it. If I get mad then all she says is that it’s like walking on eggshells around me and that she can’t say anything without me getting mad. Then she has the nerve to look upset when i skip dinner. I hate who I am around my mom, it’s so frustrating and it’s so not me. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with toxic moms?
2024.05.19 19:34 heir03 What is your Sema-proof snack food?
As in, no matter how much the drug helps kick the craving and food noise, if you see your favorite snack, you’re gonna take some bites, regardless of how you feel.
Mine is Lucky Charms. I don’t know why, but I can be nauseous from my last injection, but if I see Lucky Charms, I’m grabbing a couple handfuls.
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Mine is Lucky Charms. I don’t know why, but I can be nauseous from my last injection, but if I see Lucky Charms, I’m grabbing a couple handfuls.
2024.05.19 19:28 Defying_Gravitas Suspicious Trial Testimony Details
The following oddly-specific details strike me as inauthentic and peculiar. It feels like the witnesses are laying out little escape hatch subplots in case future witnesses get backed into a corner and need a "plan B" storyline.
My theory is that the "stray dog story" might be a back-pocket detail in case Jen McCabe is pressed to explain the 2:27 am "hos long to die in the cold" search. It's easy to picture her claiming that her tenderhearted daughter was worried sick about the dog and couldn't sleep, so she tried to comfort her with facts, etc.
The "cheese snack story" feels like a set up to explain the "how long to digest food" search.
What about the others?
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- Allie McCabe's story about finding a stray dog
- The weight loss competition
- The "tradition" of making pizza at D&E to celebrate 21st birthdays... except nobody was turning 21
- Karen's alleged insistence about going to D&E
- Higgins plowing the (dusting) of snow on the Alberts' driveway... where three other cars were already parked?
- The "Nicole was cleaning" story
- The "It's Raining Men" story
- The "Junior forgot to let Chloe out" story
- The loaf of bread in the car story
- Matt McCabe's cheese snack story
- The donut story
My theory is that the "stray dog story" might be a back-pocket detail in case Jen McCabe is pressed to explain the 2:27 am "hos long to die in the cold" search. It's easy to picture her claiming that her tenderhearted daughter was worried sick about the dog and couldn't sleep, so she tried to comfort her with facts, etc.
The "cheese snack story" feels like a set up to explain the "how long to digest food" search.
What about the others?
2024.05.19 19:26 jukeboxbluez Does anyone else feel like they talk way too much?
Hey bromos. So I’ve been dating someone for almost two months and he is absolutely perfect. He’s a lot more quiet and reserved, and I’m very talkative. I have wondered if I have ADD because my dad is diagnosed and he does the same thing with talking a lot. I’ve also suspected my daughter has ADD.
If I’m very comfortable with someone, I do not shut up. Last night, we went and grabbed some food, walked around the park, and came back to his house. It was around 11pm when I realized that I had talked non stop the entire time. I was like “holy shit, I have not shut up once. I don’t even remember what all we talked about.” He says he loves hearing me talk, but I feel like I have to be annoying.
Does anyone else do this, and have you found a way to stop or at least limit yourself? I get so embarrassed when I realize I haven’t shut up in hours.
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If I’m very comfortable with someone, I do not shut up. Last night, we went and grabbed some food, walked around the park, and came back to his house. It was around 11pm when I realized that I had talked non stop the entire time. I was like “holy shit, I have not shut up once. I don’t even remember what all we talked about.” He says he loves hearing me talk, but I feel like I have to be annoying.
Does anyone else do this, and have you found a way to stop or at least limit yourself? I get so embarrassed when I realize I haven’t shut up in hours.
2024.05.19 19:25 QualityBadgerMilk German Shepherd Excessive Panting
Super frustrated/perplexed.
I have a 75lb female German Shepherd long coat. She’s 3 years old and she was spayed at 1. I’m in Michigan.
A few days ago she started panting non stop. Even while she sleeps (sleeping she just breathes fast). About 50-75 breaths per minute.
Her food nor water intake has changed at all. Her energy levels are perfectly normal (she’s always on the go) and keeps trying to get me to let her outside to run/play, but I’m worried she’ll over heat. She has a really high drive and won’t stop running even when exhausted. I thought maybe UTI but her peeing and pooping haven’t changed. She doesn’t seem to be licking any area. She’s not having any accidents aside from throwing up yesterday but I think it was from the first time ever eating a hot dog (she never gets human food).
I gave her the hotdog to hide dog aspirin in it thinking she may be in pain. But that didn’t seem to change anything. I gave her Benadryl later in the day to see if it was allergies.
Is it possible she’s just hot? It has been in the high 80’s here. I have fans blowing on her and I’m freezing ice cubes to put in her water to see if that helps at all.
Idk what else to do.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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I have a 75lb female German Shepherd long coat. She’s 3 years old and she was spayed at 1. I’m in Michigan.
A few days ago she started panting non stop. Even while she sleeps (sleeping she just breathes fast). About 50-75 breaths per minute.
Her food nor water intake has changed at all. Her energy levels are perfectly normal (she’s always on the go) and keeps trying to get me to let her outside to run/play, but I’m worried she’ll over heat. She has a really high drive and won’t stop running even when exhausted. I thought maybe UTI but her peeing and pooping haven’t changed. She doesn’t seem to be licking any area. She’s not having any accidents aside from throwing up yesterday but I think it was from the first time ever eating a hot dog (she never gets human food).
I gave her the hotdog to hide dog aspirin in it thinking she may be in pain. But that didn’t seem to change anything. I gave her Benadryl later in the day to see if it was allergies.
Is it possible she’s just hot? It has been in the high 80’s here. I have fans blowing on her and I’m freezing ice cubes to put in her water to see if that helps at all.
Idk what else to do.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
2024.05.19 19:22 OneKe My Theory of the Evolution of Our Diet and Dental Health
I've been pondering a theory about the relationship between our modern diet and dental health. Here's what I've come up with:
Throughout history, our ancestors ate rawer foods with more fibers and tougher textures.
Looking forward to hearing your perspectives!
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Throughout history, our ancestors ate rawer foods with more fibers and tougher textures.
- Today, we see an increase in dental issues, like cavities and misaligned teeth.
- If you couldn't chew raw food properly or suffered from cavities due to misalignment, survival was much harder.
- I believe this leads to under-stimulation of the jaws and insufficient spacing for teeth to grow properly.
- The lack of non-sugary meat fibers and plant fibers in modern diets, combined with the use of dental floss, means teeth don't get the natural stimuli and cleaning they need.
- This might be because they consume more food overall, possibly including more fibrous foods, compared to very skinny individuals who often eat ultra-processed, soft foods.
Looking forward to hearing your perspectives!
2024.05.19 19:18 Smacsek Snack/lunch options?
In 2 weeks, we're leaving for a 10 hour drive (broken up into 2 days) to go to Acadia for a week. We'll be doing the same thing coming back. Last year's road trip involved a lot of junk food, pretzels and Pop tarts. And while he eats more junk food that I do, we both felt kinda crappy and sluggish on vacation and that really sucks.
So we want to avoid that this year and also the stopping at fast food for lunch while driving. We have a 16 qt igloo playmate cooler that fits in the backseat pretty well that we were going to bring to at least keep cold water in the car while at Acadia, but I was debating on packing a few snacks in it as well. We will have a mini fridge in every place we're staying.
I know nuts are the common choice, but they aren't a favorite of mine (unless we're talking peanut m&Ms) and he doesn't like them at all. And I know I'm going to be getting picky here, but having granola bars to snack on for almost 7 years, I'm kinda over them.
My only other thought was to bring bread, PB, and jelly, but that's more lunch than snack. And I don't really snack when I'm at home, but put me in a car for a few hours, and I want snacks. We will be bringing a big case of water as I suspect that might've been part of the issue last year as well
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So we want to avoid that this year and also the stopping at fast food for lunch while driving. We have a 16 qt igloo playmate cooler that fits in the backseat pretty well that we were going to bring to at least keep cold water in the car while at Acadia, but I was debating on packing a few snacks in it as well. We will have a mini fridge in every place we're staying.
I know nuts are the common choice, but they aren't a favorite of mine (unless we're talking peanut m&Ms) and he doesn't like them at all. And I know I'm going to be getting picky here, but having granola bars to snack on for almost 7 years, I'm kinda over them.
My only other thought was to bring bread, PB, and jelly, but that's more lunch than snack. And I don't really snack when I'm at home, but put me in a car for a few hours, and I want snacks. We will be bringing a big case of water as I suspect that might've been part of the issue last year as well
2024.05.19 19:18 Defying_Gravitas Suspicious Trial Testimony Details
The following oddly-specific details strike me as inauthentic and peculiar. It feels like the witnesses are laying out little escape hatch subplots in case future witnesses get backed into a corner and need a "plan B" storyline.
My theory is that the "stray dog story" might be a back-pocket detail in case Jen McCabe is pressed to explain the 2:27 am "hos long to die in the cold" search. It's easy to picture her claiming that her tenderhearted daughter was worried sick about the dog and couldn't sleep, so she tried to comfort her with facts, etc.
The "cheese snack story" feels like a set up to explain the "how long to digest food" search.
What about the others?
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- Allie McCabe's story about finding a stray dog
- The weight loss competition
- The "tradition" of making pizza at D&E to celebrate 21st birthdays... except nobody was turning 21
- Karen's alleged insistence about going to D&E
- Higgins plowing the (dusting) of snow on the Alberts' driveway... where three other cars were already parked?
- The "Nicole was cleaning" story
- The "It's Raining Men" story
- The "Junior forgot to let Chloe out" story
- The loaf of bread in the car story
- Matt McCabe's cheese snack story
- The donut story
My theory is that the "stray dog story" might be a back-pocket detail in case Jen McCabe is pressed to explain the 2:27 am "hos long to die in the cold" search. It's easy to picture her claiming that her tenderhearted daughter was worried sick about the dog and couldn't sleep, so she tried to comfort her with facts, etc.
The "cheese snack story" feels like a set up to explain the "how long to digest food" search.
What about the others?
2024.05.19 19:14 Educational_Fun_4688 Smaller appetite and tired
Most days I am constantly hungry and can rarely get full. Always thinking about food and needing snacks throughout the afternoon just to get me to dinner. Some nights it’s hard to sleep because I’m so hungry, including yesterday where I was hungry all the way until I fell asleep. For some reason today I feel more tired than usual and not very hungry. Couldn’t finish my breakfast in one sitting, had a relatively small lunch, basically only some rice cakes in the afternoon and then didn’t finish all my dinner in one sitting. What would be the cause of a sudden decrease in appetite and feeling tired? For context I am an elite athlete.
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