I matched with a girl on Hinge in late 2023. We went on a date where we hung out for 3-4 hours and I felt it was an amazing date. But the next day after 2-3 messages, she ghosted me. I did not ping her anything after she didn't reply. In early 2024, I was moving out of state for few months and messaged her if she wanted to hangout. She did, and we went on 2 dates which were super fun. I am finally back in state and asked her if she wanted to go out and she said Yes!
I enjoy talking to her and would want to see how it goes. But I don't know how to bring this up?
We don't text each other at all apart from making plans to meet up. I did try initiating conversations but it was clear she didn't want to text. Also, I might be moving again out of state too.
Would really appreciate any advice!

She's been upset with us the past couple months because most people have been studying at home rather than going to school (24 people out of 100 present today)
No student teacher football match, no end of year quizzes and shiii.
She only sent a text message about this today, so most people are going in tomorrow to see whats up.
Has this happened to any of ye?

This woman…. Is literally the definition of the girl who got away. She basically said ruined other girls for me ever since being with her, and I fucked it up.
We dated for about half a year when I was 21 years old. I was genuinely in love with her, but her being my first girlfriend, I was an idiot and kind of an asshole. Still to this day, 4 years later I think about her all the time. I saw her on tinder and couldn’t take it anymore. I had to text her. I sent her a message saying that I was sorry for how our relationship went the last time, and if she wanted to, I’d love to take her out on a date sometime…..
She said no…. I just simply cannot get over this woman. She was the most beautiful, kind, smart, and funny person I’ve been with.
I don’t know what to do

This woman…. Is literally the definition of the girl who got away. She basically said ruined other girls for me ever since being with her, and I fucked it up.
We dated for about half a year when I was 21 years old. I was genuinely in love with her, but her being my first girlfriend, I was an idiot and kind of an asshole. Still to this day, 4 years later I think about her all the time. I saw her on tinder and couldn’t take it anymore. I had to text her. I sent her a message saying that I was sorry for how our relationship went the last time, and if she wanted to, I’d love to take her out on a date sometime…..
She said no…. I just simply cannot get over this woman. She was the most beautiful, kind, smart, and funny person I’ve been with.
I don’t know what to do

This woman…. Is literally the definition of the girl who got away. She basically said ruined other girls for me ever since being with her, and I fucked it up.
We dated for about half a year when I was 21 years old. I was genuinely in love with her, but her being my first girlfriend, I was an idiot and kind of an asshole. Still to this day, 4 years later I think about her all the time. I saw her on tinder and couldn’t take it anymore. I had to text her. I sent her a message saying that I was sorry for how our relationship went the last time, and if she wanted to, I’d love to take her out on a date sometime…..
She said no…. I just simply cannot get over this woman. She was the most beautiful, kind, smart, and funny person I’ve been with.
I don’t know what to do

I want this boy to pursue me! Let me explain - I was the one to text him first, we fell apart and now I want him to contact me. When we first spoke, we hit it off really well. We messaged and called each other almost every day for about a month and half. We never met but he was totally into me and something happened and we stopped talking. Even the calls stopped. Initially, it was very hard to adjust to life as I wasn’t getting them anymore. I was too used to his calls and messages. I was just convincing myself that he will definitely text me soon. I remembered our last conversation and tried to revise the situation through Revision, did visualisation and SATS, but nothing happened. However it’s been 8 months now and still no contact from him. The past few weeks I have sort of stopped expecting him to respond and it makes me feel a lot better. I felt like I have moved on. I keep thinking that I can manifest someone new and better. But…. I’m extremely attracted to him physically and it kinda makes me feel that I won’t find anyone as attractive as him which makes it hard for me to manifest someone new because I feel it is causing a mental blockage. The past week I have been thinking about him lot more and again tried to visualise him texting me.. The other night I woke up at 3AM wanting him so badly. I miss him but I don’t enjoy this feeling of wanting him because I want to forget and move on. I cannot decide and also sorta disappointed that my manifestation hasn’t worked so far.. which also makes me question will my new manifestation work.. I appreciate some inputs/opinions/advice. Thanku

This woman…. Is literally the definition of the girl who got away. She basically said ruined other girls for me ever since being with her, and I fucked it up.
We dated for about half a year when I was 21 years old. I was genuinely in love with her, but her being my first girlfriend, I was an idiot and kind of an asshole. Still to this day, 4 years later I think about her all the time. I saw her on tinder and couldn’t take it anymore. I had to text her. I sent her a message saying that I was sorry for how our relationship went the last time, and if she wanted to, I’d love to take her out on a date sometime…..
She said no…. I just simply cannot get over this woman. She was the most beautiful, kind, smart, and funny person I’ve been with.
I don’t know what to do

Everytime i message a normal emoji in a server vencord says its a fakenitro emoji and will give me a warning that it will be shown as text, any solutions?

My (I/ENFP) boyfriend (INTP/J) and I broke up after five long years of a long-distance relationship. Some people think it's impossible to fall in love with someone you've never seen in person, but that wasn't the case for me. My INTP and I met online. I got an SMS from an unknown number that said, "Dear stranger, do you believe in second chances?" I was very intrigued at the moment and thought it was someone from my past who wanted to reconnect. Later on, I found out that he was indeed a stranger. I don't usually entertain messages from strangers, but there was something about him that made me want to keep replying. He sounded really depressed, like he was about to end his life. The Mother Teresa in me felt like I needed to save him.
So we talked and talked, but I was still mean to him because, you know, he was technically still a stranger. But we'd talk about all our problems, things we couldn't talk about with our family and friends, our deepest darkest secrets, etc. In my head, he didn't know me anyway. He prolly thought the same. We found comfort in each other.
After months of talking, we fell hard for each other. Really hard (at least for me). He was the best thing that ever happened to me. Yes, he was mostly very grumpy, but I found it cute! He was also the sweetest guy I’d ever met. He always wrote me love letters or dedicated songs to me. He was really vague, though! If there were things he couldn’t say directly to me, he’d find another way to send the message. As an ENFP, I am a very literal person, and unless you say it in exact words, even if I sense it already, I won't assume. It felt like I always needed to decode or solve a puzzle with him. I liked it, but not when dealing with serious issues. Still, he was the love of my life. But life gets in the way... We had the most beautiful, tragic love affair.
Anyway!!!
My INTP ex-boyfriend was a very private person. He didn’t have any social media (which I couldn't comprehend at first) and we only communicated through Skype or Telegram. I feel like I’ve never met an INTP in person or just couldn't spot one.
Where do INTPs hang out when they are not at home? I’m really curious. I think INTPs are awesome and I’d like to have more INTPs in my life.

i don’t know what to do, i am a 19 Y/O female who has been with my boyfriend, who is a 25 Y/O male, since January of this year. for context of this story, my boyfriend is divorced with two kids with his ex-wife. last night when i was over at his place, i had gone through his phone because i was having one of those, “something is up” intuitions. i went through his messages with his ex-wife thinking that what was what was wrong, but nothing. i then went through his deleted messages and found an unsaved number with multiple deleted texts and recovered them all. him and this number were talking about problems with his ex-wife, his kids and about me. i started slowly packing up my things to leave and when he noticed he questioned me, i showed him the messages and he confirmed it was an ex of his. he called her and she confirmed that she was an ex, but that she was engaged and had her own loving family and that her and my boyfriend weren’t anything. my boyfriend told me that he just needed someone to talk to who had also been divorced and had kids because i was inexperienced in that sort of thing. in the messages he talked proudly about me, but still tried to hide this from me, we had had a talk when we were first getting to know each other that talking to exes was a huge no, so he knew what he was doing was something i wouldn’t approve of. he apologized and told me it was stupid of him to do and to hide from me, what should i do? the texts weren’t sexual and were about me, but he hid it from me so my trust is kind of broken, please help.

As the title said, I want to snap at my dad at graduation if he appears/ approaches me.
A little back story, I'm a 17 year old. And I'm done with my dad's bs. Some back story I've never been close to him even when he was married to my mom. He was that dad that would only be there for all the fun stuff, but never home and if he was he would always do yard work. Always putting a wall between everyone in the house just saying. He would always put the pressure on house work/ rasing us to my mom, and wonder why we didn't have the same connection as when I was younger. Before and after the divorce my mom has told me who he actually was and everything clicked. He would cheat and lie, things I've had to deal with in other drama I've been in and it's a hard line no one should pass since that's a line to be cut off. And didn't want to have a connection with him at all. I would since he's my "dad" but the way he has acted towards me isn't the best from what I want to do, the college location. And how he acted when I got in. I got the call from my college when he was moving out, I went up to him when I got into my dream college and rolled his eyes at me. A different day he wore the college t shirt get got out to dinner with me but that was one thing that broke the connection. He also shown his sico self when I was in the back of his car and wanted to find my mom to sign papers, my sibling thought she was at a restaurant but she was at home. But my dad went up and down every row to find her car. There's been others but can say all. I haven't been treated right from his family either, so when it was thanksgiving I walked out because I was being ignored for the 6th year in a row (my mom was the only person that would talk to me). And that was the end of the contact with him, he would text me how it used to be and how things have changed. So I blocked him 2 weeks ago after 5 months of ignoring his messages, he's blind to I don't want to talk to him, my mom has told him and me not answering him. He still doesn't understand. He doesn't have any accountability, always blames my mom for what happens, never his own. Only thinks of himself. Because of this he still cries, why, don't I want to talk to him/ keeps causing my mom more problems/ drama she doesn't want.
But with that anger I feel like I might be the asshole because I cause more drama/ make a scene, imbarrese my mom, and air out family drama Infront of my dad's "new girlfriend".
So if he appears/ approachs me and annoys me at my graduation AITA for maybe Snapping.

Hi, my name is Luis.
I’ve built landing pages for SaaS companies that convert 20%+ of cold ad traffic into paying customers. In my agency we charge up to $10k for a single landing page (based on initial fee + performance fee).
Here’s some advice on how to increase your landing page conversion rate.
At the end of the day, paid ads are the best acquisition channel for a startup (it is scalable, predictable and automated), but it has become fu***ng expensive.
You can’t make ads cheaper, but you can turn a 2% CR landing page into a 20% CR landing page to make your ads profitable (and you already know what profitable ads mean: More customers, more revenue, more profit, more investors, more cash, etc.).
Based on what I've seen, high-converting lading pages follow three rules. But, first of all, if I've been able to build 10%, 25% and even 40% conversion rate landing pages is because I understand what drives conversion. Let me explain.
Do you know why they say that the money is in the follow-up? Because the difference between someone who doesn’t know about your product and a buyer is FREQUENCY.
Frequency drives conversion.
Why are retargeting ads so powerful? Because what they really are is a frequency campaign. Constant exposure to THE SAME ONE THING again and again and again.

Conversion rule #1: One big idea or message.

How you communicate your product is crucial. Communicating your product goes way beyond features and benefits. You need a big idea or message.
Sales pages with a conversion rate of 10%+ convey ONE (and only ONE) big idea. And they do it repeatedly—again and again and again and again and again and again.
My headlines refer to my idea, the body text talks about my big idea, my visuals depict my idea, my Q&A centers around my idea, the testimonials I include are the ones that mention my big idea, etc.
A big idea / big message is easy to remember and gets stuck more easily in our brain through repetition.
Which one is easier to remember?
"Focusing without distraction on a cognitively demanding task for an extended period…"
Or...
"deep work.”

Conversion rule #2: No options, no distractions.

That means no pricing plans, no bar menu, no about us page, no links, no “join our email list,” etc. Only one page, where the only way of getting out is by clicking a CTA button that takes you to the sign-up or a demo call.
When it comes to your offer, there are numerous variables to consider: Free trial or no free trial? 7-day or 30-day trial? Pricing? Plans? Features? Cc required or not required? Etc.
I would really love to advise you on exactly what to offer, but I don’t know your product, your industry, your competitors, etc. I can only say that each option has its pros and cons.
For example, free trials without a credit card requirement tend to convert better, but they also attract less committed users (most of those people won’t even try your product).
I’m not stating that one is definitively better than the other. What I’m trying to convey is that you need to test different variables. What works for another company might not work for you, and vice versa.
Remember: Options kill conversion.
So forget about pricing plans. Create ONE compelling offer designed for customer acquisition.

Conversion rule #3: Easy to read.

Headlines, headlines, headlines...
The rest of the copy doesn’t really matter. Convey your big idea through your headlines. Literally.
I should be able to understand your product solely by reading your headlines. The rest of the copy should sell your big idea again and again and again. People are lazy and will scan your page (via headlines) for 10 seconds, before deciding if they understand what your product is about. If they like it, they will keep reading.
So, don’t use typical, vague marketing headlines.
Headlines you don’t want:
“Powered by AI”
Headlines you want (specific):
“Save 300 hours per month thanks to our customizable AI.”

Easy to read. Easy to remember. Full frequency. No distractions.

Those are the building blocks of a great sales page.

Now, I know what you are thinking…

“Everything here resonates with me except ‘no pricing plans’. Can you clarify what you mean?“
My response…

1. Build a second landing page: A dedicated landing page where you’ll be driving ad traffic to and which is designed for conversion.
   
2. This page should target one specific group of people.
   
3. Put together ONE single offer: One price point, one set of features and an incentive to sign up TODAY.
   
4. Want to target another group of people with another messaging/price point/set of features? Go ahead. But, don’t offer 3 plans that will generate friction and create confusion when your CTA is a free trial, bc people will choose the most basic plan in 99% of the cases.
   

“Would you be ok with sharing landing pages that are at 20% or more? I’m a visual learner so would be cool to see something tangible.”
Yes, click here?node-id=0%3A1&t=2RNjGZslsPF1E3TG-1) (Figma file with 3 pages built by me and my team).
“Where do all these ideas come from? I’m curious to see your entire approach. ”
Here you'll find a $35 guide that I’m selling profitably through ads. I want to give it to this community for free. Inside, you’ll find my entire approach and philosophy to make paid ads profitable.

Last but not least

If you've read all this and come this far, you can comment your landing page, and I'll do my best to review it for free :)
I only hope this post was helpful. Let’s make paid ads for SaaS startups great again!
Thanks, Luis.
My LinkedIn in case you want to know more about me or even connect.

Just a little backstory, this EX was her first everything but he was also supremely emotionally abusive. He would spread rumors about her, and essentially ruined her social life in high school. They only spent 8-10 months together total before he turned on her. It has always been a source of trauma for her.
Recently, he came messaging her on FB. He kept trying to apologize and kept messaging her every few months. Finally she answered back and they started talking. I told her I supported facing him to get any closure and help heal any wounds she's carrying. I never once had an issue with her talking to this Ex or any Ex. I've never been the jealous type, I trust her completely even though I don't trust this dude for one second with his strange intentions of reaching out to her 20 years later.
Anyway, fast forward 2 weeks, I notice her texting non-stop for hours one evening. I knew immediately is wasn't just a friend, I knew it was him. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to be "that guy". But my stomach was in a knot seeing her so engaged with her Ex.
A few days later she said she wanted to let me know that they spoke on the phone and are now texting, and that he's really changed. That she unpacked this all with her therapist and they both think it would be good to forgive and move on and have this connection. They are now meeting for dinner and a movie to meet in person for the first time in 20+ years to unpack everything. She subtlety mentioned he warned him she doesn't look the same as she did in high school, and that he re-assured her she will always be beautiful and that of all the people he dated she treated him the best. I asked if that was her goal, to get this male attention from someone else from her past. And she admitted that it felt good to hear it from someone else besides me. All things I understand. I totally do. Being together with the same person for that long I'm sure brings on its monotony. But I've always strived to make her feel wanted, desired, appreciated, loved, cared for. And now I question what I'm not providing her.
I asked her if I was lacking anything that she is seeking in someone else, and she said no that we are fine and that this is something different. And to her credit she has not acted different with me at all, we are still close, there's no awkwardness or distance other than me getting stress cramps and trying to hide how all this affects me. At the end of the day it still feels like it's an "emotional affair". But I'm scared of even bringing that up because I don't want to come across as some immature "jealous" husband. He is now on her FB, "hearting/loving" every post of hers, yes even the ones with me in them. She then asked me why I was checking who likes her posts. I told her I didnt, that when I go to like a post of hers I just see right there he's already there with a "heart" on it.
I know it sounds childlike and immature, and I've seen similar posts here with this same situation. But the fact that my wife is enjoying the attention but assures me that she has zero feelings for him and that they just talk about movies and music still doesn't make me feel any better. I can't sleep most nights now, this knot in my stomach won't go away. Last night I smoked 4 joints and downed 2 glasses of scotch to try and knock myself out but it was like my body was immune to the effects, I spent the whole night wondering why she's doing this even though she's explained it from her POV several times now. I trust her 100%, but my the stress and anxiety just won't go away and now I need to hide it because I fear of making her think I'm some controlling person that wants to dictate who she can or cannot speak to. I don't want that, that's not who I am. I honestly told her I'd be fine if this was some random guy friend, or even a stranger from Reddit or something. But the fact that this guy not only has been with her, but also treated her poorly, just makes it all weird to me.
I don't know what I can possibly do without making her resent me. I don't want a world where she cuts off this guy fully and then resents me for making her feel like she needs to do that. But from the very beginning this whole thing was supposed to be about getting closure, and the surprise of it turning into texting and now meeting up took me by surprise. She's been very open about it, she isn't hiding anything. But part of me feels like he's making moves on her, hitting on her, or just being flirty with her. I haven't seen any of the texts, and I would never look unless my wife willingly showed me (I havent asked to see them because I really do trust her, I dont want to go down that road).
Anyway, it's been throwing me for a loop, and I miss being able to sleep without a painful knot in my chest and stomach. As someone who's been passed over many times before meeting my wife, those experiences naturally pop up in my head. But I know she'd never do anything since this dude is a mess. He may have a GF but he's unemployed, went to jail and has a criminal record, and never got an education. I just don't know what to make of this, is this an emotional affair? Am I being a weak selfish person wanting this dude to just go back to living in the shadows? I just feel all out of sorts over it and don't know how I can even approach this without being the bad guy.

Posted this in legaladvice too, just looking to get opinions/support. I’m in Pennsylvania. This story is a lot. After a month and a half of attempting to break up with my (now) ex, I was finally able to break up with him on the 4th try. We dated for about 2 years, the relationship was tumultuous and full of emotional abuse and manipulation that my therapist is helping me accept and work through. He has a history of anger issues and reactive behaviors for which he just began seeing a therapist in early April. After the break up, I left the apartment we shared to allow him time to move out his belongings. While I was gone, he took my Apple Watch and texted people in my contacts pretending to be me. I was able to get back to the apartment later that night after ensuring he was not present and got the watch back as well as some other essentials and important documents. He has sent and continues to send pictures of himself holding the watch to me and a few of my friends and family, even though it’s no longer in his possession. From that time until his official move out date on 5/4, he trashed the apartment, though caused no real property damage. He’s also messaged a number of people in my life either from his own personal phone number or social media or what I suspect is him using fake phone numbers saying horrible things. The day after his official move out date, I saw through the app connected to the electronic lock on our apartment door that he had locked and unlocked the door several times and adjusted the thermostat. I contacted the police as I assumed he had trespassed on the apartment property and was told by the landlord to call the police if he attempts to come back to the apartment after his move out date. When the police had gotten there, my ex was not present. I gave them his phone number, they called, and he had told them he was not present that morning and that he does not intend to return to the apartment or contact me further. Apparently he was manipulating the locks and the thermostat through the app on his phone (which I was told he would no longer be able to do, but it was a weekend, so I’m assuming the landlord just wasn’t present in the office to remove his access). After that, I received a text from an anonymous phone number saying my ex believes he left his GoPro and a clock at the apartment. I searched the apartment and could not find it, so I messaged the number back saying that I couldn’t find it but any further inquiries about the apartment and missing items should be directed to the landlords office. Then yesterday I got a text from a friend that he had messaged her on social media saying some more horrible things about me, and then a got a call from another friend saying he had attempted to follow her on social media assumedly to do the same thing.
Though he has never made any explicit threats, this behavior is horrifying, and I know he owns at least 3 guns. After he moved out, I’m assuming he moved back to his hometown in New Jersey, though I don’t know for certain. Does this behavior qualify for any sort of legal protection?

Hey, I made a pretty gross mistake at work two days ago, well not exactly at work but on social media where some coworkers saw my comment. It didn't name the business directly but in hindsight I was making a sideways comment on something I didn't agree with that was being offered at my work. My work environment has become more of the crunchy almond mom place, moving away from evidence-based practices. Although I don't think I fit within this environment anymore, I really need a job. This job also has coworkers that have been the most inclusive people I've ever met in my life, as someone with autism. I had a meeting with the owner yesterday and it went okay, it ended with her giving me a hug. But I still feel uncomfortable. I kind of laid some other things out there within the meeting saying I don't feel safe sometimes and she said that she had to take that very seriously and now another co-worker who would be in with me today is out. I don't think she is in trouble, but I think she is upset with me. Anyway, everything feels like a whole mess and I don't know what to do. I did send an email apologizing about my comment but they didn't reply.
Meanwhile my friend and goddaughter's mother sent me a text message saying that there's no Common Ground anymore, implying that she doesn't want to be friends anymore. I leave for a trip tomorrow and I just feel like everything's falling apart and I'm not even going to be at home in my safe space. I feel so anxious

Hi all! I (25F) need some help. I have a friend (24M), who I've known for about 5 or 6 years now that I met while working together. Originally I did'nt mind hanging out with him and we were pretty close when I was single and in college, no issues. However, over time I have noticed some behaviors that I don't think I can be around or deal with anymore. This friend has always been a little bit off in regards to reading social cues, not taking hints, doesn't know how to regulate his intake of alcohol/drugs, he still lives with his parents, never had a girlfriend, doesn't know how to do laundry/cooking/ any normal life skills, relies on me as one of his only friends, and I almost have to mother him because it's almost as if he's ignorant to things that almost anyone would think is common sense, etc. Now 2 years ago he got into some legal trouble, long story short he was accused of being verbally/physically inappropriate with an underage co-worker and harrassing her. The charges were dropped and nothing came of it as there wasn't any evidence of anything untoward and he had never phsically been around her outside of work or sent her anything innapropriate. I thought at the time, okay, must have been some misunderstanding, moved on. At the beginning of this year though, something similar happened again. This time with an older co-worker at his new job, she accused him of harrasment and that he would'nt stop messaging her on snapchat then instagram when she blocked him so she reported him to HR. Now I've never felt unsafe in his presence and never gotten a creepy vibe from him. However, now I'm thinking, one could be a miscommunication but 2 times is a pattern. I don't think he necessary does it on purpose but like I said the man does not understand social cues. But in my head, I think did you not learn anything from the first time something like this happened. Other than that kind of red flag, I've also just gotten done talking to him. I'm getting marrieed this year and will start having kids soon, and this is not a friendship that I feel comfortable taking any further in my life. We don't have anything in common anymore, he has no life skills or goals, asks me random inane questions that he could easily google, and I don't want to continue the friendship just out of guilt that he doesn't really have any other friends. Sorry this is so long. But how can I end the friendship while also saying hey you might want to work on these things and you maybe wouldn't be so off-putting to people? I've tried to limit contact but as I guessed, he isn't taking the hint and keeps texting/snapchatting me and my fiance if I take too long to respond. So, I'm gonna have to just outright say I don't want to be friends anymore. But, is there a way I could get that point across while also giving him some idea of why and things he might want to change in the future? I don't think he's a bad person, just oblivious. Sometimes I wonder too, if there is something in his brain that he just doesn't understand normal social boundaries and can't read people. His brother doesn't have any of these issues and is a completely normally functioning person with friends, skills, behavior, everything. I just don't know if he like should have been diagnosed with something at some point but wasn't and so has no skills to cope with it or what. Please help. I really don't want to be mean to him necessarily, just don't want him in my life anymore. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!!!!

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I (27F) have a much older brother who has my niece Laya (18F). He and his wife live in my neighborhood so I see Laya a lot, as she’s living at home while going to CC.
Laya is the type of girl to try out a lot of beauty hacks and fads. She’s done fake freckles, douyin makeup, hair glossing and more. However, recently she’s been on a natural/ holistic kick. Part of it is training her hair to produce less oil, which entails her washing her hair only once a week.
Let me tell you, her hair is so stinky and greasy. It literally looks wet with grease! I know some hair types don’t need to be washed regularly, but she has the same hair as me. Thin, fine, and very straight.
Recently, I was going on a coffee run and took Laya with me. Her hair smelled so bad I literally had to crack the window, and I was worried about the smell seeping into my seats. When we were waiting in the drive thru, I gently asked her if I could tell her something sensitive. She said sure, so I told her that her new hair routine wasn’t working out and was making her hair nasty. I reminded her that I think she’s beautiful and I love how adventurous she is with trying trends, but I’d want someone to let me know if my hair was smelly.
Laya took it well, and she said she’d ask her best friend Ava if she’d smelled any funk coming from her. Ava is a very blunt girl, so I’m sure she’ll tell Laya the same thing. We drank our coffee, I dropped Laya home, and everything was normal.
However, my SIL Ashley somehow got wind of the conversation, and she sent me a nasty text. She accused me of “tearing down Laya’s confidence” and “shaming her natural body functions.” I haven’t replied to the message yet — just got it yesterday — and I will probably talk to my brother before I answer. But I think it’s better to tell someone about an issue so they can address it, and I only talked to Laya because I love her and don’t want her to be embarrassed by someone at school etc.
AITA?

i am in a year long contract with private landlord
hello,
i moved into my home on february 24 2024. i moved in with a roommate we paid $2800 in a security deposit and i paid and additional $700 for the prorated rent. we paid all of this through one transaction through venmo. we never received the security deposit written confirmation (which i have a question about later).
i am two month behind in rent due to issues with money transfer app and ach block on my checking (i have bank statements and screenshots proving i attempted multiple time to remedy). all communication about this issue has been through text with my landlords assistance. last week i received a text from my landlord demanding certified funds for rent. which i complied and informed i would be able to do this monday. during this time my landlord sent me several texts being unprofessional, aggressive, insulting and accusatory. although i had never had a text exchange with this man prior he made it clear that if i didn’t take care of this “we would have a problem”. monday comes i am attempting to get to my bank to get certified funds and again he is texting me 20-30 times. during this outting i drop my phone and am unable to receive messages. i purchase a new phone that evening and had several messages from him accusing me of being on drugs (this man has never met me) and i recieve a text saying he met with his lawyer and that i must be out by the weeks end. i know my rights as a tenant and i know this isn’t legal. however he is naive to eviction laws and files a detainer warrant on wednesday. i can see the warrant has been filled online. he didn’t not follow proper procedures and failed to provide me with 14 day written notice informing me of the eviction, which i know has to be delivered and is a legal document. what can i do about this is what he is doing illegal? is he breaching my legal contract by not following legal procedure.
because we weren’t given the required written confirmation of the security deposit. am i able to request that my half be used to cover the balance since i am planning to move out anyways.

Hi everyone
I am a 21 year old student who was in a 3 year relationship with my gf 20 that ended abruptly two days ago.
Our relationship began in highschool and got off to a rocky start when everyone around me started gossiping about her cheating on her ex. I grew up in a household with a single mom who had been cheated on every single relationship. So I was deathly afraid of this happening to me. After months we came up with this agreement that we’d update eachother on snapchat whenever we were apart. And because we missed eachother we would also call at night when we slept.
After all those years this turned into what I think was my crutch to keep my fears away. The snapchats turned away from occasional talking to full day surveillance. The calling turned into a necessity, all day if we were apart, during showers etc. Whenever I saw something that set alight my paranoia I got extremely combative. For example if she hadnt sent a snap in an hour from the other, i would become afraid and fully believe that there was something going on. This then turned into me saying things like “if you treat me like this I wont be able to continue our relationship”. I now look at this and see that it is a threat of me leaving unless she did what i said. I saw it as me enforcing my boundaries and it seemed normal.
She also expected calls from me and would also get upset if I didnt update well, so I thought that this was just how we did things, every relationship had something weird or unhealthy they had to work on in my eyes. When I went to work she recorded herself so i could surveil what she did, and I was somehow so blind to how fucked up that is. And i sought therapy in those two years but had extreme difficulties in finding a psychologist. So these issues remained.
A couple of days ago, while she had a hard week with college, she broke down about everything to a friends mom. Who then informed her parents. While we were discussing the distribution of chores around our appartement, we were living together for 2 years now, her parents stormed in and scolded me for being a controlling manipulator. The dad got very verbal and the mother said something akin to “i dont know how i havent seen that my daughter was so unhappy here”. It blew me away, i never thought she was unhappy as we were having fun just the evening beforehand.
Now they keep her away from me and are blocking my number, telling her that my controlling behaviour outweighed any of the good i did. Like helping her out of cutting herself and abusing alcohol. They check her phone to see if she doesnt message me.
After they left I looked up if I was an abuser, and i can certainly see that i did things on the lists being unaware of what I was doing. I called helplines and spoke to as many people i could to help me and figured that i needed instant care. I will now have a team of psychiatrists and psychologists visit 3 times a week and will be admitted to a facility sometime in the future.
I do not want to be an abuser, and she wants to stay in contact but work on ourselves separately, i agree and i want to be better for myself. But i dont know how i feel with them keeping her locked down like this. its healthy for them to keep her away. But no contact entirely when I really want to change, i cannot fight to redeem myself it seems to me.
Am I a lost cause? Did I lose the best person in my life? I will be admitted to the most intensive therapy we have in our country and I wish to update her on progress and ask how she is doing. To this she is receptive as she has already texted me without her parents knowing, stating the same. But I am afraid that she will want to contact but won't be allowed to.
TL:DR: I made my girlfriend snapchat update me throughout the day as many times as she could and whenever she could. We called whenever we could, this meant also during showers or whatever private moment. I thought that us agreeing to this meant that was a ‘relationship rule’ that we both enforced. I thought that her also showing a same need for me to be available for a call when I showered or that I also update when I left that it was okay. Somehow I only see how fucked up this was now and feel extremely guilty and clueless as to how the darkest parts of me got me to lose her. Her parents found out and now she has been taken away.

I am a guy in my early 30's. I'm an International Student in the country where I live. I got a match on CatholicMatch with a girl just 6 months older than me who lives 158.3 km away in the same country, it would take me 4.5 hours to get there by train. She was beautiful. Not a supermodel, but she has a pretty face and gorgeous eyes. She is 6 months older than me, from a similar culture, and we speak the same language. We both accepted the match in November 2022.
We started chatting and the conversation was pleasant. She told me that she lived with her older brother, she worked as a babysitter and that she didn't have a visa. The conversations were a bit slow, because we both took our time responding, but it was pleasant. I often mentioned that she was busy studying and doing my homework. Actually, by looking at old messages, I could see that it was me the one who took longer took longer to respond. Sometimes, because I didn't know what to say and others times because I didn't notice her replies. I suggested her that when I had some free time, we could we could go and explore a town together. I thought we could meet in the capital because there should be lots of fun things to do and it's kind of in the middle for both of us. She seemed happy, but when I suggested a date, she didn't respond in time. In early February 2023, I gathered some courage, found her on Facebook, and sent her a friend request. She accepted it. I looked at her photos and realized that she came from a lovely family and that in 2015 she wanted to be a nun and she went through the Discernment period for five years (2 years with vows). I felt more attracted to her after that. We started chatting and she said she was glad that I found her there. I suggested going to see a cultural site. She responded that her immigration and financial situation was not the best and that it would not be wise for her to get out of town for a date. She said that she would like to meet me, but that to do so she would have to travel to where she was.
Maybe I sabotaged myself because I responded that I would like to be friends with her and chat on Facebook and that I could go there, but that she would take me a little longer. I She responded that getting to a woman's heart requires some sacrifice and that she wasn't doing it on purpose to test me. I said she understood. What I meant was that I would like to start as friends and that I would be willing to go whenever I have free time. She doesn't know it, but I was dealing with a serious procrastination and anxiety problem. I tried to message her again after that, but she seemed a little distant. I even wished her a happy Valentine's Day and she responded with just a smiley face but no words. The last time I texted her was in August for her birthday. But there wasn't much conversation. Months passed and communication cooled down, it went through some academic research challenges as well, but I kept hoping to resume communication at some point after I graduated. I just didn't know how to do it.
In December of last year, she posted a photo on Facebook with her new boyfriend. I felt sad, but I tried to understand it. Because I was curious, I checked her boyfriend's profile and found out he is from her hometown but lives in this country, and his a dad. She also posted a picture with him again one momth ago and this time it did affect me. It doesn’t make sense that something I already knew could affect me so much. Just in case you are wondering I taking therapy, and I also have ASD, so it’s hard for me to let things go.
I know this is not serious love, because we never got to meet each other, and it's not good to idealize people or 'building castles in midair', but I still feel like I was a jerk and not a real gentleman to her. I'm just writing this as a form of catharsis. but I feel better now after writing this and talking to my therapist.