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8 Signs You Are Already a Minimalist
2024.05.18 12:56 DailyMinimalism 8 Signs You Are Already a Minimalist
Minimalism isn't just about having fewer things; it's a lifestyle choice that emphasizes simplicity and intentionality. It's about making room for what truly matters by eliminating the excess. In today's fast-paced world, where we're constantly bombarded with ads and social pressures to acquire more, minimalism offers a refreshing contrast. But how do you know if you're already on the minimalist path? Here are eight signs that you might be more of a minimalist than you realize.
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Sign 1: You Prioritize Experiences Over Things
Do you find more joy in attending a concert, traveling to a new place, or spending time with loved ones than in acquiring the latest gadget or fashion item? Prioritizing experiences over material possessions is a hallmark of minimalism. Experiences often provide lasting memories and satisfaction that far outshine the temporary pleasure of a new purchase. By valuing experiences, you focus on what truly enriches your life.Sign 2: You Have a Clutter-Free Home
Take a look around your living space. Is it free from unnecessary clutter? A clutter-free home is a strong indicator of a minimalist lifestyle. The benefits of decluttering are immense—it reduces stress, enhances focus, and creates a peaceful environment. To maintain a clutter-free space, regularly assess your belongings and let go of items that no longer serve a purpose or bring joy.Sign 3: You Practice Mindful Consumption
Mindful consumption means being intentional about what you bring into your life. Do you question your purchases and consider their long-term value before buying? This practice helps reduce waste and ensures that you only surround yourself with items that truly add value to your life. Implementing mindful buying can be as simple as pausing to reflect on whether a new item is a need or just a passing desire.Sign 4: You Value Quality Over Quantity
In a world where more is often seen as better, valuing quality over quantity is a minimalist trait. You prefer to have a few well-made items rather than many cheap, low-quality ones. This approach not only leads to longer-lasting possessions but also promotes a more sustainable lifestyle. Thoughtful purchases that prioritize quality over quantity can be more satisfying and often save money in the long run.Sign 5: You Have a Simple Wardrobe
A simple, streamlined wardrobe, often referred to as a capsule wardrobe, is another sign of minimalism. You choose versatile, timeless pieces that can be mixed and matched, reducing decision fatigue and saving time. The benefits of a minimalist wardrobe include easier outfit choices, less stress, and a more organized closet.Sign 6: You Enjoy Simple Pleasures
Do you find joy in the little things—like a walk in the park, reading a good book, or a quiet evening at home? Enjoying simple pleasures is a core aspect of minimalism. It's about finding happiness in everyday moments rather than constantly seeking grand experiences. This mindset can lead to a more content and fulfilling life.Sign 7: You Focus on Health and Well-being
Minimalism isn't just about physical belongings; it extends to all areas of life, including health and well-being. You might prioritize a balanced diet, regular exercise, and mental health practices like meditation. By focusing on your well-being, you ensure that your lifestyle supports a healthy and sustainable way of living.Sign 8: You Are Intentional with Your Time
How you spend your time is a clear indicator of minimalism. Are you intentional with your schedule, prioritizing activities that align with your values and bring joy? Effective time management and a focus on meaningful activities reflect a minimalist approach. This often means saying no to unnecessary commitments and distractions.https://preview.redd.it/nl4cvmcn161d1.png?width=800&format=png&auto=webp&s=b4c39b947d548f3dfff575576d4a4ce72d104c4f
2024.05.18 12:42 tristanfinn Old Genocide Joe Has Got to Go! – by Philip Giraldi – 17 May 2024
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Embracing Netanyahu does not constitute a foreign policy
It is extremely difficult to discern what might be the thinking behind the clueless President Joe Biden and his Blinken-Austin-Mayorkas foreign-policy-plus national security team. Or rather, the problem is that there does not appear to be any thinking about it at all if one measures it by what benefits it brings to the American people. It all actually seems to derive from a desire to construct a narrative that will win the presidential election coming up in November, which will fortunately be run against a deeply flawed GOP candidate named Donald J. Trump. But look at what is on the Biden record: the country’s southern border with Mexico is a porous as a Swiss cheese, allowing literally millions of illegal immigrants into the USA since Biden took office; Washington is both de facto and de jure simultaneously fighting and losing two unnecessary wars involving nuclear powers which has cost a nearly bankrupt Treasury well into the hundreds of billions of dollars; and the White House is needlessly sanctioning non-hostile competitors like China while also making illegal popular social media sites like TikTok which have committed the sin of reporting and disseminating accurate narratives about good old “best friend and closest ally” Israel. Predictably, neither of the assertions about the value of the Jewish state is true, nor is it a democracy, but who cares when you’re having fun shooting people and spending someone else’s money?
Oh, and just try to exercise your first amendment free speech rights by demonstrating against Israel’s slaughter of upwards of 40,000 Palestinian civilians using US provided weapons and you will be hit on the head by a cop, possibly arrested, and even expelled from college! If you want to see where this is all going, check out reports of the recent FBI detention and interrogation of distinguished Israeli historian Ilan Pappe seeking to enter the US through the Detroit International Airport. Pappe is a critic of the Netanyahu government and of US policy so he was held, questioned in detailed about his contacts, and had his phone copied before being allowed to proceed. Meanwhile, a group of top federal judges have signed a letter stating that they will strike back against the demonstrating students by refusing to hire any graduates of Columbia University Law School as law clerks. And there even is a bill currently before Congress that would empower the government to label the foreign protesters “antisemites and terrorism supporters” and deport them, with some going to Gaza with the expectation that they would be killed, possibly by the mighty Israel Defense Forces (IDF)! It would be a startling new development to punish those whose crime consists mostly of trespass even given the rather loose ethical boundaries established by the war on terror and the Antisemitism Awareness Act! Or indeed one might follow the Senatorial route led by a chirping Lindsey Graham who recommends dropping a nuclear bomb on Gaza to kill everyone who has survived the Israeli onslaught. The area then might be developed after the radiation dies down for those splendid seaside villas for Jews only suggested by the esteemed Trump son-in-law Jared Kushner.
To be sure, Joe sometimes mumbles something that might just be viewed positively, like his recent blocking on humanitarian grounds of a consignment of bunker buster bombs on their way to Israel due to Benjamin Netanyahu’s insistence that, no matter what, he would invade Rafah to completely destroy Hamas and whoever else might happen to get in his way. Joe predictably reversed that decision last Tuesday, approving a $1 billion supply of munitions after he came under pressure from the Israelis and their many friends in the US, to include a host of Israel-loving GOP congressmen who have carried their fight on behalf of the Jewish state to The Hague, where the International Criminal Court (ICC) is being directly threatened with American wrath lest it try to punish Israeli leaders for their genocide in Gaza. As Bill Astore put it “Last week, President Biden appeared to have strapped on a temporary spine in delaying shipments of ‘offensive’ weaponry to Israel for its murderous invasion of Rafah in Gaza. That spine had a short duration as Biden announced [Tuesday] renewed shipments of tank and mortar rounds to Israel.” Congress has also gotten into the game with the GOP controlled House of Representatives having passed a bill that would compel the White House to continue all arms shipments to Israel. Joe might also be thinking of political contributions, as American Jews donate the majority of Democratic Party funding, as well guaranteeing a friendly media in his campaign as they dominate both the news and the entertainment industries. See, Joe can figure some things out all by himself every once in a while!
Here’s the problem with Joe, apart from the roughly $12 million in gift-donations from Jewish/Israeli sources that he has obtained in his political career. His tactical thinking does not extend beyond his personal interests, to include his corrupt children, a trait very much like that which is possessed by his good buddy Netanyahu who is facing corruption charges of his own in Israel. Joe believes he is much cleverer than he actually is and thinks that an occasional mild verbal criticism of the Israeli behavior will convince his target audience of voters that he really is concerned about the continuing death toll in Gaza, where the Israelis have already been taking initial steps in their attack on Rafah by using their tanks to penetrate into the targeted zone to destroy and kill.
And as for the reported completion and initial functioning of the floating pier connected to Gaza constructed by US military engineers, it will not dramatically change reality on the ground even though Biden is claiming that it will enable the entry of much needed food and medical aid. Israel will still “security” control what is allowed to enter into Gaza proper while Netanyahu is seeing the pier as a bridge to nowhere, usable primarily to export excess Palestinians to foreign lands that are either willing or unwilling to accept them. And its existence creates some interesting possibilities. As it presumably will be logistically supported on the pier itself by US-based personnel, Netanyahu might well be tempted to stage a false flag attack blamed on Hamas to kill a few Americans and lock Biden into Israel’s right-wing Gaza policies from now on. Bear in mind that, in reality, Biden could care less if all the Palestinians might be “disappeared” just as he would like to see any and all critics of Israel be subjected to the harshest punishments, including prison and denial of basic rights as well as being stripped of government benefits. He has called the protesters “lawbreakers” and spreaders of “chaos” and congress is currently investigating the alleged “subversive organizers” of the “anti-Israel terrorists.”
Biden and company, as well as Trump, who is advising the Israeli government to “finish the job” with the Palestinians, clearly have no actual red lines that must not be crossed when it comes to Israel. The war of extermination of the Gazans has been accompanied by a more hidden war being conducted by the Jewish settlers on the West Bank, which has been largely under Israeli occupation since 1967. The frequently armed settlers have been attacking unarmed Palestinians, destroying their homes and businesses, ruining their crops and vineyards, and even killing them on occasion. Israeli police and army standing by do nothing to stop the fun and even frequently participate themselves by arresting and beating Palestinians who are guilty only of being Palestinian. Hundreds of Palestinians have been arrested without charges apart from “preventive detention” since the troubles began in October and the jails are overflowing. The clear intention, verbalized without any shame by senior Israeli government officials like Security Minister Itamar Ben-Gvir, is to produce a Greater Israel cleansed of Arabs. And Biden, who pretends to favor a two-state solution to the unrest, helps the process along by vetoing UN resolutions that would help create separate sovereignty for Palestine.
Some of the most outrageous recent developments have been the settlers’ interfering with shipments of food and medicines entering into Gaza, a point that a faux-sympathetic Biden stresses repeatedly when pontificating regarding bringing aid to the starving people who are trapped with nowhere to go inside the enclave. The Israel clampdown even includes the Mediterranean Sea being blocked off by the Israeli navy which shoots any desperate Gazans who try to go close to the water so they can fish for food. In the most recent incidents, observed by the standing-by but inert Israeli army and police, truckloads of food were blocked, the drivers and aid workers removed and beaten, and the food was destroyed and burned before the trucks were treated likewise. In another incident settlers dumped huge boulders on one of the access roads to a checkpoint leading into Gaza, rendering it impassible and blocking any aid. Journalists and aid workers are meanwhile being killed by the army to prevent any reporting of what is going on while the US State Department refuses to condemn the activity. Biden called the interference with assistance convoys “outrageous” but has done nothing whatsoever about it, nor has he followed up on pledges to sanction Israelis who attack Palestinians or their property on the West Bank.
The whole problem is that Israel is a monster, an apartheid state that somehow feels it is empowered by God and the United States to kill all its neighbors and rob the American taxpayer to pay for and equip the slaughter. Israel is backed by an all-powerful US domestic lobby that includes unlimited Jewish money and activist Zionist groups like the Anti-Defamation League (ADL) led by the hideous Jonathan Greenblatt and the venerable American Israel Political Affairs Committee (AIPAC), both of which are now busy raising money to defeat all congress critters who have ever criticized the Jewish state. ADL and AIPAC are also linked to “that old time religion” knucklehead Christian Zionists concentrated in the Republican Party who have their Scofield Bibles firmly embedded between their ears where their brains are supposed be. A partial solution would be to make the Jewish-Zionist groups register as foreign government agents directed by Israel under the the terms of the Foreign Agents Registration Act (FARA), which is exactly what they are, but that will never happen. President John F. Kennedy tried to register the predecessor group to AIPAC and many believe he paid the ultimate price for that affront as well as for his bid to stop Israel’s nuclear weapons program.
So, my fellow Americans, what should we do? Well, we should do whatever we can, which includes speaking out about how we have been sold out by our leaders and opinion makers, and we should continue to do that even knowing that they will try to silence us by destroying free speech in this country. It is all we have left and we should continue to oppose what is happening. The first step however, is to get rid of politicians like Joe and Donald, who have been completely corrupted by more than fifty years in the “system” and are totally sold out and irresponsible in their behavior. There are honest politicians and journalists out there and we just have to find them, support them and get them elected and in positions where they will be able to bring about change in how things are done in Washington! One might call it the New American Revolution to restore our rights and free us from foreign oppression!
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Embracing Netanyahu does not constitute a foreign policy
It is extremely difficult to discern what might be the thinking behind the clueless President Joe Biden and his Blinken-Austin-Mayorkas foreign-policy-plus national security team. Or rather, the problem is that there does not appear to be any thinking about it at all if one measures it by what benefits it brings to the American people. It all actually seems to derive from a desire to construct a narrative that will win the presidential election coming up in November, which will fortunately be run against a deeply flawed GOP candidate named Donald J. Trump. But look at what is on the Biden record: the country’s southern border with Mexico is a porous as a Swiss cheese, allowing literally millions of illegal immigrants into the USA since Biden took office; Washington is both de facto and de jure simultaneously fighting and losing two unnecessary wars involving nuclear powers which has cost a nearly bankrupt Treasury well into the hundreds of billions of dollars; and the White House is needlessly sanctioning non-hostile competitors like China while also making illegal popular social media sites like TikTok which have committed the sin of reporting and disseminating accurate narratives about good old “best friend and closest ally” Israel. Predictably, neither of the assertions about the value of the Jewish state is true, nor is it a democracy, but who cares when you’re having fun shooting people and spending someone else’s money?
Oh, and just try to exercise your first amendment free speech rights by demonstrating against Israel’s slaughter of upwards of 40,000 Palestinian civilians using US provided weapons and you will be hit on the head by a cop, possibly arrested, and even expelled from college! If you want to see where this is all going, check out reports of the recent FBI detention and interrogation of distinguished Israeli historian Ilan Pappe seeking to enter the US through the Detroit International Airport. Pappe is a critic of the Netanyahu government and of US policy so he was held, questioned in detailed about his contacts, and had his phone copied before being allowed to proceed. Meanwhile, a group of top federal judges have signed a letter stating that they will strike back against the demonstrating students by refusing to hire any graduates of Columbia University Law School as law clerks. And there even is a bill currently before Congress that would empower the government to label the foreign protesters “antisemites and terrorism supporters” and deport them, with some going to Gaza with the expectation that they would be killed, possibly by the mighty Israel Defense Forces (IDF)! It would be a startling new development to punish those whose crime consists mostly of trespass even given the rather loose ethical boundaries established by the war on terror and the Antisemitism Awareness Act! Or indeed one might follow the Senatorial route led by a chirping Lindsey Graham who recommends dropping a nuclear bomb on Gaza to kill everyone who has survived the Israeli onslaught. The area then might be developed after the radiation dies down for those splendid seaside villas for Jews only suggested by the esteemed Trump son-in-law Jared Kushner.
To be sure, Joe sometimes mumbles something that might just be viewed positively, like his recent blocking on humanitarian grounds of a consignment of bunker buster bombs on their way to Israel due to Benjamin Netanyahu’s insistence that, no matter what, he would invade Rafah to completely destroy Hamas and whoever else might happen to get in his way. Joe predictably reversed that decision last Tuesday, approving a $1 billion supply of munitions after he came under pressure from the Israelis and their many friends in the US, to include a host of Israel-loving GOP congressmen who have carried their fight on behalf of the Jewish state to The Hague, where the International Criminal Court (ICC) is being directly threatened with American wrath lest it try to punish Israeli leaders for their genocide in Gaza. As Bill Astore put it “Last week, President Biden appeared to have strapped on a temporary spine in delaying shipments of ‘offensive’ weaponry to Israel for its murderous invasion of Rafah in Gaza. That spine had a short duration as Biden announced [Tuesday] renewed shipments of tank and mortar rounds to Israel.” Congress has also gotten into the game with the GOP controlled House of Representatives having passed a bill that would compel the White House to continue all arms shipments to Israel. Joe might also be thinking of political contributions, as American Jews donate the majority of Democratic Party funding, as well guaranteeing a friendly media in his campaign as they dominate both the news and the entertainment industries. See, Joe can figure some things out all by himself every once in a while!
Here’s the problem with Joe, apart from the roughly $12 million in gift-donations from Jewish/Israeli sources that he has obtained in his political career. His tactical thinking does not extend beyond his personal interests, to include his corrupt children, a trait very much like that which is possessed by his good buddy Netanyahu who is facing corruption charges of his own in Israel. Joe believes he is much cleverer than he actually is and thinks that an occasional mild verbal criticism of the Israeli behavior will convince his target audience of voters that he really is concerned about the continuing death toll in Gaza, where the Israelis have already been taking initial steps in their attack on Rafah by using their tanks to penetrate into the targeted zone to destroy and kill.
And as for the reported completion and initial functioning of the floating pier connected to Gaza constructed by US military engineers, it will not dramatically change reality on the ground even though Biden is claiming that it will enable the entry of much needed food and medical aid. Israel will still “security” control what is allowed to enter into Gaza proper while Netanyahu is seeing the pier as a bridge to nowhere, usable primarily to export excess Palestinians to foreign lands that are either willing or unwilling to accept them. And its existence creates some interesting possibilities. As it presumably will be logistically supported on the pier itself by US-based personnel, Netanyahu might well be tempted to stage a false flag attack blamed on Hamas to kill a few Americans and lock Biden into Israel’s right-wing Gaza policies from now on. Bear in mind that, in reality, Biden could care less if all the Palestinians might be “disappeared” just as he would like to see any and all critics of Israel be subjected to the harshest punishments, including prison and denial of basic rights as well as being stripped of government benefits. He has called the protesters “lawbreakers” and spreaders of “chaos” and congress is currently investigating the alleged “subversive organizers” of the “anti-Israel terrorists.”
Biden and company, as well as Trump, who is advising the Israeli government to “finish the job” with the Palestinians, clearly have no actual red lines that must not be crossed when it comes to Israel. The war of extermination of the Gazans has been accompanied by a more hidden war being conducted by the Jewish settlers on the West Bank, which has been largely under Israeli occupation since 1967. The frequently armed settlers have been attacking unarmed Palestinians, destroying their homes and businesses, ruining their crops and vineyards, and even killing them on occasion. Israeli police and army standing by do nothing to stop the fun and even frequently participate themselves by arresting and beating Palestinians who are guilty only of being Palestinian. Hundreds of Palestinians have been arrested without charges apart from “preventive detention” since the troubles began in October and the jails are overflowing. The clear intention, verbalized without any shame by senior Israeli government officials like Security Minister Itamar Ben-Gvir, is to produce a Greater Israel cleansed of Arabs. And Biden, who pretends to favor a two-state solution to the unrest, helps the process along by vetoing UN resolutions that would help create separate sovereignty for Palestine.
Some of the most outrageous recent developments have been the settlers’ interfering with shipments of food and medicines entering into Gaza, a point that a faux-sympathetic Biden stresses repeatedly when pontificating regarding bringing aid to the starving people who are trapped with nowhere to go inside the enclave. The Israel clampdown even includes the Mediterranean Sea being blocked off by the Israeli navy which shoots any desperate Gazans who try to go close to the water so they can fish for food. In the most recent incidents, observed by the standing-by but inert Israeli army and police, truckloads of food were blocked, the drivers and aid workers removed and beaten, and the food was destroyed and burned before the trucks were treated likewise. In another incident settlers dumped huge boulders on one of the access roads to a checkpoint leading into Gaza, rendering it impassible and blocking any aid. Journalists and aid workers are meanwhile being killed by the army to prevent any reporting of what is going on while the US State Department refuses to condemn the activity. Biden called the interference with assistance convoys “outrageous” but has done nothing whatsoever about it, nor has he followed up on pledges to sanction Israelis who attack Palestinians or their property on the West Bank.
The whole problem is that Israel is a monster, an apartheid state that somehow feels it is empowered by God and the United States to kill all its neighbors and rob the American taxpayer to pay for and equip the slaughter. Israel is backed by an all-powerful US domestic lobby that includes unlimited Jewish money and activist Zionist groups like the Anti-Defamation League (ADL) led by the hideous Jonathan Greenblatt and the venerable American Israel Political Affairs Committee (AIPAC), both of which are now busy raising money to defeat all congress critters who have ever criticized the Jewish state. ADL and AIPAC are also linked to “that old time religion” knucklehead Christian Zionists concentrated in the Republican Party who have their Scofield Bibles firmly embedded between their ears where their brains are supposed be. A partial solution would be to make the Jewish-Zionist groups register as foreign government agents directed by Israel under the the terms of the Foreign Agents Registration Act (FARA), which is exactly what they are, but that will never happen. President John F. Kennedy tried to register the predecessor group to AIPAC and many believe he paid the ultimate price for that affront as well as for his bid to stop Israel’s nuclear weapons program.
So, my fellow Americans, what should we do? Well, we should do whatever we can, which includes speaking out about how we have been sold out by our leaders and opinion makers, and we should continue to do that even knowing that they will try to silence us by destroying free speech in this country. It is all we have left and we should continue to oppose what is happening. The first step however, is to get rid of politicians like Joe and Donald, who have been completely corrupted by more than fifty years in the “system” and are totally sold out and irresponsible in their behavior. There are honest politicians and journalists out there and we just have to find them, support them and get them elected and in positions where they will be able to bring about change in how things are done in Washington! One might call it the New American Revolution to restore our rights and free us from foreign oppression!
2024.05.18 12:02 cinnamon--sugar AITAH for leaving a custody situation early?
TW for s/h mentions, self end mentions, and abuse mentions
Obligatory clarification that this was a few months ago, I just regularly feel guilty about it and wanted to see if I'm right in feeling that guilt. Also, apologies in advance since I think this is going to be a long post.
I(20ftm) was abused in multiple ways by my stepfather(46m). I filed a case against him two years ago, which finally got picked up after my younger sister(16f) ran away from the house. During these two years, no one in the family talked to me, as he convinced everyone that I was a liar, a manipulator, and was doing everything as an act of revenge on him for "treating me with the respect I deserved". He was sentenced last October to 15 years in prison, and then they began to investigate my mother(38f) because she knew about the physical/verbal/mental abuse of all of us kids(there were five of us, ages will be given as children are mentioned), and about the s/xual abuse toward me. I live out in Arizona, however when my mother lost custody of our siblings, my older sister(25f), who well call Molly, reached out to me asking if I would be willing to come back up to Ohio, my home state, to help her take temporary custody of the children. The plan was that I would come back up to Ohio, live with my old roommates, get a job, and watch the children in the morning to get them on the bus and afternoon until Molly got home from work. This was something that was agreed upon by everyone, and it was decided that due to a job opportunity I would be going back to Arizona in three months. I immediately explained to everyone involved that I would not flake out on these plans unless my mental health got to a point where I was actively considering self ending. Molly requested that she get "some sort of notice" before something like that we're to happen, and I told her that the best I could do was actively pointing out signs of mental health decline as they happened so she would know where I was in my headspace, to which she agreed.
Fast forward to the day I'm to fly up, and I get a call from Molly. She explains that our grandmother is giving her her old house in exchange for the childcare until my mother got out of jail should the worst case scenario happen, and she wanted to know if I could live in full time with her. In exchange she would pay my way through driving school and get me a car off Facebook marketplace, which would roughly equal out to three months of paid labor. She explained that I wouldn't have to do any chores(though it would be nice) and she would support me financially so that I didn't need to get a job(though I also could if I wanted to) and I could put my full time and care toward the children. This seemed like a fair deal to me, so I agreed. We talked about a few other minor details, such as my room(I wouldn't have one, and would be sleeping in the corner of the living room) and food(I requested that she get healthy food because eating excessive amounts of junk food triggers my ED, which she agreed to but more on that later).
I fly up and reconnect with all of my siblings(I hadn't talked to any of them in person since the incident two years ago), and talk with a close friend of mine, who I'll call Buddy. Buddy expressed that he didn't think that me moving in full time with Molly was a good idea, and tried to imply that she might try and take advantage of me while I was there and overstep boundaries. I told him that I trusted her not to do so, and she and I had agreed that I would be spending weekends with him at his place to decompress and regularly assess my mental health. This was almost immediately backtracked by Molly, saying she didn't expect me to actually take the whole weekend and she requested Saturdays to be her "day off", which I agreed to. About a week and a half after I arrived and was settled in, we started having violence issues with the youngest(10m), and they were mostly directed toward me. We assumed that this was because my stepfather had fed the kids a story about how I had left because I didn't care about them, and he was too young to understand the truth of the situation. Molly was very attentive to my needs at first, making sure to buy fruits and vegetables as well as having the children upstairs by 9 pm so that I could have some private time to relax each night. All was good other than the violent outbursts from the youngest(who I'll nickname Chris).
After about a month, we had to give Chris to an aunt due to the violent outbursts becoming more frequent and the police having to be called several times just to get him to stop attacking me. I explained to Molly that it was affecting me pretty badly, and she and I sat down and talked it out, deciding I wasn't at a point that I needed to leave yet, however if we kept him I would be. So we let Chris go up to my aunts, who we'll call Aunt Hayley. After that things calmed down in the household, with there only being two major fights between the remaining three children. During this time, Molly began to talk about how stressed she was about finances, as well as she signed up for a college course and got a boyfriend. I didn't see this as a big deal at the time, but it compiled with everything else. Molly began coming home at 6-7 and immediately going to her room, and I would end up keeping watch of the children for the remainder of the night. This didn't bother me too much at the time, as I saw it as helping her, however I could. Before this, she and I had pretty evenly split chores, with both of us doing dishes, laundry, and trash periodically. Once she began this college course, I took up the entirety of the dishes, laundry for all of the children, and majority of trash. Molly tended to her room and mandated when the children cleaned their rooms and their upstairs bathroom, but other than that was in her room either doing classwork or hanging out with her boyfriend. During this time she also stopped getting the healthier foods, despite me helping with grocery lists and requesting healthier foods, opting instead for snacks or frozen foods such as pizzas, hot pockets, bagel bites, etc. This upset me seeing as I had already explained to her my issues with said foods, but I didn't feel I had a right to make comment seeing as she was still financially supporting me.
During this time, my no contact order with my mother was lifted, and I agreed to speak with her again, seeing as she had eventually denounced her borderline worship of my stepfather and told the police everything, and was now in therapy and parenting classes. To be clear, from the moment I had arrived in Ohio, I had wanted nothing to do with her, and the only reason I had agreed to talk to her was to give her one last opportunity to man up and explain everything properly. She did, and as I had suspected, he had been severely abusing her in every way as well. I still didn't trust her, but I decided to give her a second chance at a relationship on the condition that she not bring any more men into my siblings lives until they were all 18 or older(which she agreed to). I began to visit her semi-regularly, and Molly and I agreed that I would go to her house Saturday nights for dinner, seeing as I was already going to Buddy's around 7 pm Saturday nights anyway, which meant it wouldn't really change any of Molly's plans. At this time I began having a friend over, who we'll call Max. Max is a close friend of mine since middle school, and Molly approved him to be around any time, however I only really had him around on Tuesdays due to his work schedule. As soon as Max met Molly, he said he didn't really like the way she talked to me, and when I didn't understand(I have autism) he explained that a lot of how she speaks to me sounds like she's talking down to/making fun of me, and that when I say something she doesn't seem to take me seriously. I brushed this off, thinking that it was just him not being used to her somewhat abrasive personality.
Molly continued to complain about finances, and I continued searching for a job as I had been since I got there, and then came the first weird incident during this. One day Molly said that our mother had offered her a motorcycle, but that she had a feeling that she wouldn't actually give it to her, and so she was going to go buy her own. I didn't mention how counter intuitive this was to her finance problem, though I should have in hindsight. She also went out that weekend to get her nails and hair professionally done(which she had told me at one point all together was around $200), as well as I believe the next weekend to get a $180 tattoo shaded. Seeing as Molly had gone out and bought a motorcycle, my mother instead offered me the bike, which I accepted. Molly then began making comments about how she knew my mother was going to give me the bike, and that was why she had gone out and gotten her own(despite the fact that I had asked for the bike before I knew it was supposed to be given to Molly, and was told only if she didn't want it because she got first dibs).
During the last month, my mental health began to hit the decline I had warned Molly about. I informed her of when it became hard to get out of bed, when I was having guilt or s/h urges, and then eventually I reached a point where I requested she take back up at least some responsibility of dishes and laundry because my mental health couldn't handle it. She got somewhat indignant about this, saying that because I was living there rent free I should be doing the majority of the chores. By this time, I had very much seen what Max had been saying about her talking down to me, however I wasn't in the mental state to go against her, so I just reiterated that I really wasn't doing well. She said that her classwork, job, and social life wouldn't allow her to have time for it, and since I had none of those I didn't have any reason to feel the way I was. At this point, Buddy and my two old roommates(who we'll call Rat and Iroh) started insisting that I should go back to the original plan and only go down in mornings and until she got home from work, however I felt obligated to help her so I stayed. They repeatedly reminded me that she still hadn't followed through on any of her promises regarding driving school, car, or respecting my triggers. I continued to stay, partially to help her and partially because I knew at this point that it would backfire on the children as well if I left.
Two weeks before I was supposed to leave, Molly pulled me aside and told me that due to financial concerns, she would be letting the children go to a foster home in two weeks, once I left. This confused me seeing as a) I hadn't been bringing in any financials, and b) she insisted on keeping the 16 year old(who I'll call Fiona) but refused to keep the other two, because (in her own words) "Fiona is the easiest to handle". I felt as if I was to blame for this because the way Molly had presented it to me made it seem like the only reason she was letting the children go was because I was leaving, and a few days earlier she had been trying to push "if you could only stay another month". This plummeted my mental health, and about a week later(a week before my stay was supposed to end) I hit the point of actively wanting to self end. I informed her of this, and she got cold with me, saying she wished I had told her sooner. I reminded her that I had vocalized every step for things going down hill, and she insisted that it wasnt enough and I should have given her more notice, as well as claiming she could have done this whole thing without me and that I was more trouble than I was worth at points. She then started saying that I had only come back to get close to our mother and that I didn't actually care about her or the children(as I said, I hated my mother when I arrived). I told her that I would stay till that Friday night as it was Thursday and I didn't want to force her to try to find last minute childcare so late at night. At some point in this conversation we got a call from the middle(14nb, whom we'll call Sora) child's school saying that Sora had assaulted another student. This student had been making fun of Sora for months, claiming that they deserved the abuse they went through and that she hoped my stepfather got out of jail so that he could hurt Sora worse. I requested Molly not be too intense on the punishment, seeing as this had been an ongoing issue that had been brought to both the principal and Molly's attention, and been brushed off by both. Molly started beating me about how disgusting it was that I was condoning violence, and I clarified that while I didn't condone it, this situation had been hard enough on Sora. At this point in time, I had had enough and told her that if she didn't want my input and wanted to belittle me and "put me in my place", then she could put her money where her mouth was about being able to do this without me and I would leave that night. She said fine, but that she knew I wasn't actually wanting to end myself and was just using it as a convenient out of the situation. I began to pack. As soon as she got home she said that I had been taking her tone wrong, and that she hadn't meant to attack me. She then started saying that I wasn't screwing her over in this, I was screwing the children over. This was while the children were out of the house, and I did raise my voice, telling her that I wasn't trying to screw anyone over, I was following exactly the boundaries I had set, as I should have from the beginning. Buddy came and picked me up, and I went and spent the night with my mother.
The next day I was informed that Molly had told our caseworker that I had bailed, and that the children were to be picked up the next day(all except Fiona, who would stay in Molly's care and eventually the possibility of Molly adopting her was discussed). That Friday was the court case which was to decide what was to happen with my mother. Molly had expressed throughout this entire process that she didn't want my mother to go to jail, and that she would do almost anything to keep her out. The prosecutors had also expressed that they didn't want her to get a full 3 year sentence. During the court proceedings, Molly was the only one in the room requesting the maximum sentence for my mother, and during her speech was consistently deadnaming and misgendering me, which no one else in the court room was doing. My mother walked out with a 60 day sentence, which wasn't terrible, but the damage was done to mine and Molly's relationship, seeing as it was already strained before I found out she had been lying to me for months about her stances on this. She and I had had several conversations about this, while I hated my mother and whole I was healing my relationship with her, and her stance of wanting her to stay out of jail had never wavered. I unfollowed her on most medias, but kept her unblocked on everything. Three days before I was supposed to leave, I realized that my leather jacket and my keys to my boyfriend's collar were still at her house, and I tried to contact her to ask for them back. I texted her twice, neither of which she responded to, and then Buddy called her. She claimed she hadn't seen them, but refused to let us come over to look for them, despite the fact that the last time I had seen either one was in the house because I had been too depressed to leave the house. She continuously refused to let me come check, or even let someone else come check, claiming that she didn't trust me to put things back the way they were, despite me never showing any inclination of touching anything that wasn't mine. I went to text her again on the matter and found that she had blocked me on all platforms. Shortly after this Fiona would start claiming the same things about me not actually wanting to end myself and just using it as an excuse, showing that she had been talking to Molly about this, and her views on pretty much everything shifted to Molly's views. This caused a rift to the point that while I have strong contact with my other siblings, I don't have much contact with Fiona.
I feel as though it was wrong to leave the children in the situation they were in, and I desperately wish I could have done more to help, but I knew that once I hit that mental state I was no longer safe to be around them and only ran the risk of traumatizing them further if I had stayed.
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Obligatory clarification that this was a few months ago, I just regularly feel guilty about it and wanted to see if I'm right in feeling that guilt. Also, apologies in advance since I think this is going to be a long post.
I(20ftm) was abused in multiple ways by my stepfather(46m). I filed a case against him two years ago, which finally got picked up after my younger sister(16f) ran away from the house. During these two years, no one in the family talked to me, as he convinced everyone that I was a liar, a manipulator, and was doing everything as an act of revenge on him for "treating me with the respect I deserved". He was sentenced last October to 15 years in prison, and then they began to investigate my mother(38f) because she knew about the physical/verbal/mental abuse of all of us kids(there were five of us, ages will be given as children are mentioned), and about the s/xual abuse toward me. I live out in Arizona, however when my mother lost custody of our siblings, my older sister(25f), who well call Molly, reached out to me asking if I would be willing to come back up to Ohio, my home state, to help her take temporary custody of the children. The plan was that I would come back up to Ohio, live with my old roommates, get a job, and watch the children in the morning to get them on the bus and afternoon until Molly got home from work. This was something that was agreed upon by everyone, and it was decided that due to a job opportunity I would be going back to Arizona in three months. I immediately explained to everyone involved that I would not flake out on these plans unless my mental health got to a point where I was actively considering self ending. Molly requested that she get "some sort of notice" before something like that we're to happen, and I told her that the best I could do was actively pointing out signs of mental health decline as they happened so she would know where I was in my headspace, to which she agreed.
Fast forward to the day I'm to fly up, and I get a call from Molly. She explains that our grandmother is giving her her old house in exchange for the childcare until my mother got out of jail should the worst case scenario happen, and she wanted to know if I could live in full time with her. In exchange she would pay my way through driving school and get me a car off Facebook marketplace, which would roughly equal out to three months of paid labor. She explained that I wouldn't have to do any chores(though it would be nice) and she would support me financially so that I didn't need to get a job(though I also could if I wanted to) and I could put my full time and care toward the children. This seemed like a fair deal to me, so I agreed. We talked about a few other minor details, such as my room(I wouldn't have one, and would be sleeping in the corner of the living room) and food(I requested that she get healthy food because eating excessive amounts of junk food triggers my ED, which she agreed to but more on that later).
I fly up and reconnect with all of my siblings(I hadn't talked to any of them in person since the incident two years ago), and talk with a close friend of mine, who I'll call Buddy. Buddy expressed that he didn't think that me moving in full time with Molly was a good idea, and tried to imply that she might try and take advantage of me while I was there and overstep boundaries. I told him that I trusted her not to do so, and she and I had agreed that I would be spending weekends with him at his place to decompress and regularly assess my mental health. This was almost immediately backtracked by Molly, saying she didn't expect me to actually take the whole weekend and she requested Saturdays to be her "day off", which I agreed to. About a week and a half after I arrived and was settled in, we started having violence issues with the youngest(10m), and they were mostly directed toward me. We assumed that this was because my stepfather had fed the kids a story about how I had left because I didn't care about them, and he was too young to understand the truth of the situation. Molly was very attentive to my needs at first, making sure to buy fruits and vegetables as well as having the children upstairs by 9 pm so that I could have some private time to relax each night. All was good other than the violent outbursts from the youngest(who I'll nickname Chris).
After about a month, we had to give Chris to an aunt due to the violent outbursts becoming more frequent and the police having to be called several times just to get him to stop attacking me. I explained to Molly that it was affecting me pretty badly, and she and I sat down and talked it out, deciding I wasn't at a point that I needed to leave yet, however if we kept him I would be. So we let Chris go up to my aunts, who we'll call Aunt Hayley. After that things calmed down in the household, with there only being two major fights between the remaining three children. During this time, Molly began to talk about how stressed she was about finances, as well as she signed up for a college course and got a boyfriend. I didn't see this as a big deal at the time, but it compiled with everything else. Molly began coming home at 6-7 and immediately going to her room, and I would end up keeping watch of the children for the remainder of the night. This didn't bother me too much at the time, as I saw it as helping her, however I could. Before this, she and I had pretty evenly split chores, with both of us doing dishes, laundry, and trash periodically. Once she began this college course, I took up the entirety of the dishes, laundry for all of the children, and majority of trash. Molly tended to her room and mandated when the children cleaned their rooms and their upstairs bathroom, but other than that was in her room either doing classwork or hanging out with her boyfriend. During this time she also stopped getting the healthier foods, despite me helping with grocery lists and requesting healthier foods, opting instead for snacks or frozen foods such as pizzas, hot pockets, bagel bites, etc. This upset me seeing as I had already explained to her my issues with said foods, but I didn't feel I had a right to make comment seeing as she was still financially supporting me.
During this time, my no contact order with my mother was lifted, and I agreed to speak with her again, seeing as she had eventually denounced her borderline worship of my stepfather and told the police everything, and was now in therapy and parenting classes. To be clear, from the moment I had arrived in Ohio, I had wanted nothing to do with her, and the only reason I had agreed to talk to her was to give her one last opportunity to man up and explain everything properly. She did, and as I had suspected, he had been severely abusing her in every way as well. I still didn't trust her, but I decided to give her a second chance at a relationship on the condition that she not bring any more men into my siblings lives until they were all 18 or older(which she agreed to). I began to visit her semi-regularly, and Molly and I agreed that I would go to her house Saturday nights for dinner, seeing as I was already going to Buddy's around 7 pm Saturday nights anyway, which meant it wouldn't really change any of Molly's plans. At this time I began having a friend over, who we'll call Max. Max is a close friend of mine since middle school, and Molly approved him to be around any time, however I only really had him around on Tuesdays due to his work schedule. As soon as Max met Molly, he said he didn't really like the way she talked to me, and when I didn't understand(I have autism) he explained that a lot of how she speaks to me sounds like she's talking down to/making fun of me, and that when I say something she doesn't seem to take me seriously. I brushed this off, thinking that it was just him not being used to her somewhat abrasive personality.
Molly continued to complain about finances, and I continued searching for a job as I had been since I got there, and then came the first weird incident during this. One day Molly said that our mother had offered her a motorcycle, but that she had a feeling that she wouldn't actually give it to her, and so she was going to go buy her own. I didn't mention how counter intuitive this was to her finance problem, though I should have in hindsight. She also went out that weekend to get her nails and hair professionally done(which she had told me at one point all together was around $200), as well as I believe the next weekend to get a $180 tattoo shaded. Seeing as Molly had gone out and bought a motorcycle, my mother instead offered me the bike, which I accepted. Molly then began making comments about how she knew my mother was going to give me the bike, and that was why she had gone out and gotten her own(despite the fact that I had asked for the bike before I knew it was supposed to be given to Molly, and was told only if she didn't want it because she got first dibs).
During the last month, my mental health began to hit the decline I had warned Molly about. I informed her of when it became hard to get out of bed, when I was having guilt or s/h urges, and then eventually I reached a point where I requested she take back up at least some responsibility of dishes and laundry because my mental health couldn't handle it. She got somewhat indignant about this, saying that because I was living there rent free I should be doing the majority of the chores. By this time, I had very much seen what Max had been saying about her talking down to me, however I wasn't in the mental state to go against her, so I just reiterated that I really wasn't doing well. She said that her classwork, job, and social life wouldn't allow her to have time for it, and since I had none of those I didn't have any reason to feel the way I was. At this point, Buddy and my two old roommates(who we'll call Rat and Iroh) started insisting that I should go back to the original plan and only go down in mornings and until she got home from work, however I felt obligated to help her so I stayed. They repeatedly reminded me that she still hadn't followed through on any of her promises regarding driving school, car, or respecting my triggers. I continued to stay, partially to help her and partially because I knew at this point that it would backfire on the children as well if I left.
Two weeks before I was supposed to leave, Molly pulled me aside and told me that due to financial concerns, she would be letting the children go to a foster home in two weeks, once I left. This confused me seeing as a) I hadn't been bringing in any financials, and b) she insisted on keeping the 16 year old(who I'll call Fiona) but refused to keep the other two, because (in her own words) "Fiona is the easiest to handle". I felt as if I was to blame for this because the way Molly had presented it to me made it seem like the only reason she was letting the children go was because I was leaving, and a few days earlier she had been trying to push "if you could only stay another month". This plummeted my mental health, and about a week later(a week before my stay was supposed to end) I hit the point of actively wanting to self end. I informed her of this, and she got cold with me, saying she wished I had told her sooner. I reminded her that I had vocalized every step for things going down hill, and she insisted that it wasnt enough and I should have given her more notice, as well as claiming she could have done this whole thing without me and that I was more trouble than I was worth at points. She then started saying that I had only come back to get close to our mother and that I didn't actually care about her or the children(as I said, I hated my mother when I arrived). I told her that I would stay till that Friday night as it was Thursday and I didn't want to force her to try to find last minute childcare so late at night. At some point in this conversation we got a call from the middle(14nb, whom we'll call Sora) child's school saying that Sora had assaulted another student. This student had been making fun of Sora for months, claiming that they deserved the abuse they went through and that she hoped my stepfather got out of jail so that he could hurt Sora worse. I requested Molly not be too intense on the punishment, seeing as this had been an ongoing issue that had been brought to both the principal and Molly's attention, and been brushed off by both. Molly started beating me about how disgusting it was that I was condoning violence, and I clarified that while I didn't condone it, this situation had been hard enough on Sora. At this point in time, I had had enough and told her that if she didn't want my input and wanted to belittle me and "put me in my place", then she could put her money where her mouth was about being able to do this without me and I would leave that night. She said fine, but that she knew I wasn't actually wanting to end myself and was just using it as a convenient out of the situation. I began to pack. As soon as she got home she said that I had been taking her tone wrong, and that she hadn't meant to attack me. She then started saying that I wasn't screwing her over in this, I was screwing the children over. This was while the children were out of the house, and I did raise my voice, telling her that I wasn't trying to screw anyone over, I was following exactly the boundaries I had set, as I should have from the beginning. Buddy came and picked me up, and I went and spent the night with my mother.
The next day I was informed that Molly had told our caseworker that I had bailed, and that the children were to be picked up the next day(all except Fiona, who would stay in Molly's care and eventually the possibility of Molly adopting her was discussed). That Friday was the court case which was to decide what was to happen with my mother. Molly had expressed throughout this entire process that she didn't want my mother to go to jail, and that she would do almost anything to keep her out. The prosecutors had also expressed that they didn't want her to get a full 3 year sentence. During the court proceedings, Molly was the only one in the room requesting the maximum sentence for my mother, and during her speech was consistently deadnaming and misgendering me, which no one else in the court room was doing. My mother walked out with a 60 day sentence, which wasn't terrible, but the damage was done to mine and Molly's relationship, seeing as it was already strained before I found out she had been lying to me for months about her stances on this. She and I had had several conversations about this, while I hated my mother and whole I was healing my relationship with her, and her stance of wanting her to stay out of jail had never wavered. I unfollowed her on most medias, but kept her unblocked on everything. Three days before I was supposed to leave, I realized that my leather jacket and my keys to my boyfriend's collar were still at her house, and I tried to contact her to ask for them back. I texted her twice, neither of which she responded to, and then Buddy called her. She claimed she hadn't seen them, but refused to let us come over to look for them, despite the fact that the last time I had seen either one was in the house because I had been too depressed to leave the house. She continuously refused to let me come check, or even let someone else come check, claiming that she didn't trust me to put things back the way they were, despite me never showing any inclination of touching anything that wasn't mine. I went to text her again on the matter and found that she had blocked me on all platforms. Shortly after this Fiona would start claiming the same things about me not actually wanting to end myself and just using it as an excuse, showing that she had been talking to Molly about this, and her views on pretty much everything shifted to Molly's views. This caused a rift to the point that while I have strong contact with my other siblings, I don't have much contact with Fiona.
I feel as though it was wrong to leave the children in the situation they were in, and I desperately wish I could have done more to help, but I knew that once I hit that mental state I was no longer safe to be around them and only ran the risk of traumatizing them further if I had stayed.
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2024.05.18 11:39 tristanfinn Old Genocide Joe Has Got to Go! – by Philip Giraldi – 17 May 2024
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Embracing Netanyahu does not constitute a foreign policy
It is extremely difficult to discern what might be the thinking behind the clueless President Joe Biden and his Blinken-Austin-Mayorkas foreign-policy-plus national security team. Or rather, the problem is that there does not appear to be any thinking about it at all if one measures it by what benefits it brings to the American people. It all actually seems to derive from a desire to construct a narrative that will win the presidential election coming up in November, which will fortunately be run against a deeply flawed GOP candidate named Donald J. Trump. But look at what is on the Biden record: the country’s southern border with Mexico is a porous as a Swiss cheese, allowing literally millions of illegal immigrants into the USA since Biden took office; Washington is both de facto and de jure simultaneously fighting and losing two unnecessary wars involving nuclear powers which has cost a nearly bankrupt Treasury well into the hundreds of billions of dollars; and the White House is needlessly sanctioning non-hostile competitors like China while also making illegal popular social media sites like TikTok which have committed the sin of reporting and disseminating accurate narratives about good old “best friend and closest ally” Israel. Predictably, neither of the assertions about the value of the Jewish state is true, nor is it a democracy, but who cares when you’re having fun shooting people and spending someone else’s money?
Oh, and just try to exercise your first amendment free speech rights by demonstrating against Israel’s slaughter of upwards of 40,000 Palestinian civilians using US provided weapons and you will be hit on the head by a cop, possibly arrested, and even expelled from college! If you want to see where this is all going, check out reports of the recent FBI detention and interrogation of distinguished Israeli historian Ilan Pappe seeking to enter the US through the Detroit International Airport. Pappe is a critic of the Netanyahu government and of US policy so he was held, questioned in detailed about his contacts, and had his phone copied before being allowed to proceed. Meanwhile, a group of top federal judges have signed a letter stating that they will strike back against the demonstrating students by refusing to hire any graduates of Columbia University Law School as law clerks. And there even is a bill currently before Congress that would empower the government to label the foreign protesters “antisemites and terrorism supporters” and deport them, with some going to Gaza with the expectation that they would be killed, possibly by the mighty Israel Defense Forces (IDF)! It would be a startling new development to punish those whose crime consists mostly of trespass even given the rather loose ethical boundaries established by the war on terror and the Antisemitism Awareness Act! Or indeed one might follow the Senatorial route led by a chirping Lindsey Graham who recommends dropping a nuclear bomb on Gaza to kill everyone who has survived the Israeli onslaught. The area then might be developed after the radiation dies down for those splendid seaside villas for Jews only suggested by the esteemed Trump son-in-law Jared Kushner.
To be sure, Joe sometimes mumbles something that might just be viewed positively, like his recent blocking on humanitarian grounds of a consignment of bunker buster bombs on their way to Israel due to Benjamin Netanyahu’s insistence that, no matter what, he would invade Rafah to completely destroy Hamas and whoever else might happen to get in his way. Joe predictably reversed that decision last Tuesday, approving a $1 billion supply of munitions after he came under pressure from the Israelis and their many friends in the US, to include a host of Israel-loving GOP congressmen who have carried their fight on behalf of the Jewish state to The Hague, where the International Criminal Court (ICC) is being directly threatened with American wrath lest it try to punish Israeli leaders for their genocide in Gaza. As Bill Astore put it “Last week, President Biden appeared to have strapped on a temporary spine in delaying shipments of ‘offensive’ weaponry to Israel for its murderous invasion of Rafah in Gaza. That spine had a short duration as Biden announced [Tuesday] renewed shipments of tank and mortar rounds to Israel.” Congress has also gotten into the game with the GOP controlled House of Representatives having passed a bill that would compel the White House to continue all arms shipments to Israel. Joe might also be thinking of political contributions, as American Jews donate the majority of Democratic Party funding, as well guaranteeing a friendly media in his campaign as they dominate both the news and the entertainment industries. See, Joe can figure some things out all by himself every once in a while!
Here’s the problem with Joe, apart from the roughly $12 million in gift-donations from Jewish/Israeli sources that he has obtained in his political career. His tactical thinking does not extend beyond his personal interests, to include his corrupt children, a trait very much like that which is possessed by his good buddy Netanyahu who is facing corruption charges of his own in Israel. Joe believes he is much cleverer than he actually is and thinks that an occasional mild verbal criticism of the Israeli behavior will convince his target audience of voters that he really is concerned about the continuing death toll in Gaza, where the Israelis have already been taking initial steps in their attack on Rafah by using their tanks to penetrate into the targeted zone to destroy and kill.
And as for the reported completion and initial functioning of the floating pier connected to Gaza constructed by US military engineers, it will not dramatically change reality on the ground even though Biden is claiming that it will enable the entry of much needed food and medical aid. Israel will still “security” control what is allowed to enter into Gaza proper while Netanyahu is seeing the pier as a bridge to nowhere, usable primarily to export excess Palestinians to foreign lands that are either willing or unwilling to accept them. And its existence creates some interesting possibilities. As it presumably will be logistically supported on the pier itself by US-based personnel, Netanyahu might well be tempted to stage a false flag attack blamed on Hamas to kill a few Americans and lock Biden into Israel’s right-wing Gaza policies from now on. Bear in mind that, in reality, Biden could care less if all the Palestinians might be “disappeared” just as he would like to see any and all critics of Israel be subjected to the harshest punishments, including prison and denial of basic rights as well as being stripped of government benefits. He has called the protesters “lawbreakers” and spreaders of “chaos” and congress is currently investigating the alleged “subversive organizers” of the “anti-Israel terrorists.”
Biden and company, as well as Trump, who is advising the Israeli government to “finish the job” with the Palestinians, clearly have no actual red lines that must not be crossed when it comes to Israel. The war of extermination of the Gazans has been accompanied by a more hidden war being conducted by the Jewish settlers on the West Bank, which has been largely under Israeli occupation since 1967. The frequently armed settlers have been attacking unarmed Palestinians, destroying their homes and businesses, ruining their crops and vineyards, and even killing them on occasion. Israeli police and army standing by do nothing to stop the fun and even frequently participate themselves by arresting and beating Palestinians who are guilty only of being Palestinian. Hundreds of Palestinians have been arrested without charges apart from “preventive detention” since the troubles began in October and the jails are overflowing. The clear intention, verbalized without any shame by senior Israeli government officials like Security Minister Itamar Ben-Gvir, is to produce a Greater Israel cleansed of Arabs. And Biden, who pretends to favor a two-state solution to the unrest, helps the process along by vetoing UN resolutions that would help create separate sovereignty for Palestine.
Some of the most outrageous recent developments have been the settlers’ interfering with shipments of food and medicines entering into Gaza, a point that a faux-sympathetic Biden stresses repeatedly when pontificating regarding bringing aid to the starving people who are trapped with nowhere to go inside the enclave. The Israel clampdown even includes the Mediterranean Sea being blocked off by the Israeli navy which shoots any desperate Gazans who try to go close to the water so they can fish for food. In the most recent incidents, observed by the standing-by but inert Israeli army and police, truckloads of food were blocked, the drivers and aid workers removed and beaten, and the food was destroyed and burned before the trucks were treated likewise. In another incident settlers dumped huge boulders on one of the access roads to a checkpoint leading into Gaza, rendering it impassible and blocking any aid. Journalists and aid workers are meanwhile being killed by the army to prevent any reporting of what is going on while the US State Department refuses to condemn the activity. Biden called the interference with assistance convoys “outrageous” but has done nothing whatsoever about it, nor has he followed up on pledges to sanction Israelis who attack Palestinians or their property on the West Bank.
The whole problem is that Israel is a monster, an apartheid state that somehow feels it is empowered by God and the United States to kill all its neighbors and rob the American taxpayer to pay for and equip the slaughter. Israel is backed by an all-powerful US domestic lobby that includes unlimited Jewish money and activist Zionist groups like the Anti-Defamation League (ADL) led by the hideous Jonathan Greenblatt and the venerable American Israel Political Affairs Committee (AIPAC), both of which are now busy raising money to defeat all congress critters who have ever criticized the Jewish state. ADL and AIPAC are also linked to “that old time religion” knucklehead Christian Zionists concentrated in the Republican Party who have their Scofield Bibles firmly embedded between their ears where their brains are supposed be. A partial solution would be to make the Jewish-Zionist groups register as foreign government agents directed by Israel under the the terms of the Foreign Agents Registration Act (FARA), which is exactly what they are, but that will never happen. President John F. Kennedy tried to register the predecessor group to AIPAC and many believe he paid the ultimate price for that affront as well as for his bid to stop Israel’s nuclear weapons program.
So, my fellow Americans, what should we do? Well, we should do whatever we can, which includes speaking out about how we have been sold out by our leaders and opinion makers, and we should continue to do that even knowing that they will try to silence us by destroying free speech in this country. It is all we have left and we should continue to oppose what is happening. The first step however, is to get rid of politicians like Joe and Donald, who have been completely corrupted by more than fifty years in the “system” and are totally sold out and irresponsible in their behavior. There are honest politicians and journalists out there and we just have to find them, support them and get them elected and in positions where they will be able to bring about change in how things are done in Washington! One might call it the New American Revolution to restore our rights and free us from foreign oppression!
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Embracing Netanyahu does not constitute a foreign policy
It is extremely difficult to discern what might be the thinking behind the clueless President Joe Biden and his Blinken-Austin-Mayorkas foreign-policy-plus national security team. Or rather, the problem is that there does not appear to be any thinking about it at all if one measures it by what benefits it brings to the American people. It all actually seems to derive from a desire to construct a narrative that will win the presidential election coming up in November, which will fortunately be run against a deeply flawed GOP candidate named Donald J. Trump. But look at what is on the Biden record: the country’s southern border with Mexico is a porous as a Swiss cheese, allowing literally millions of illegal immigrants into the USA since Biden took office; Washington is both de facto and de jure simultaneously fighting and losing two unnecessary wars involving nuclear powers which has cost a nearly bankrupt Treasury well into the hundreds of billions of dollars; and the White House is needlessly sanctioning non-hostile competitors like China while also making illegal popular social media sites like TikTok which have committed the sin of reporting and disseminating accurate narratives about good old “best friend and closest ally” Israel. Predictably, neither of the assertions about the value of the Jewish state is true, nor is it a democracy, but who cares when you’re having fun shooting people and spending someone else’s money?
Oh, and just try to exercise your first amendment free speech rights by demonstrating against Israel’s slaughter of upwards of 40,000 Palestinian civilians using US provided weapons and you will be hit on the head by a cop, possibly arrested, and even expelled from college! If you want to see where this is all going, check out reports of the recent FBI detention and interrogation of distinguished Israeli historian Ilan Pappe seeking to enter the US through the Detroit International Airport. Pappe is a critic of the Netanyahu government and of US policy so he was held, questioned in detailed about his contacts, and had his phone copied before being allowed to proceed. Meanwhile, a group of top federal judges have signed a letter stating that they will strike back against the demonstrating students by refusing to hire any graduates of Columbia University Law School as law clerks. And there even is a bill currently before Congress that would empower the government to label the foreign protesters “antisemites and terrorism supporters” and deport them, with some going to Gaza with the expectation that they would be killed, possibly by the mighty Israel Defense Forces (IDF)! It would be a startling new development to punish those whose crime consists mostly of trespass even given the rather loose ethical boundaries established by the war on terror and the Antisemitism Awareness Act! Or indeed one might follow the Senatorial route led by a chirping Lindsey Graham who recommends dropping a nuclear bomb on Gaza to kill everyone who has survived the Israeli onslaught. The area then might be developed after the radiation dies down for those splendid seaside villas for Jews only suggested by the esteemed Trump son-in-law Jared Kushner.
To be sure, Joe sometimes mumbles something that might just be viewed positively, like his recent blocking on humanitarian grounds of a consignment of bunker buster bombs on their way to Israel due to Benjamin Netanyahu’s insistence that, no matter what, he would invade Rafah to completely destroy Hamas and whoever else might happen to get in his way. Joe predictably reversed that decision last Tuesday, approving a $1 billion supply of munitions after he came under pressure from the Israelis and their many friends in the US, to include a host of Israel-loving GOP congressmen who have carried their fight on behalf of the Jewish state to The Hague, where the International Criminal Court (ICC) is being directly threatened with American wrath lest it try to punish Israeli leaders for their genocide in Gaza. As Bill Astore put it “Last week, President Biden appeared to have strapped on a temporary spine in delaying shipments of ‘offensive’ weaponry to Israel for its murderous invasion of Rafah in Gaza. That spine had a short duration as Biden announced [Tuesday] renewed shipments of tank and mortar rounds to Israel.” Congress has also gotten into the game with the GOP controlled House of Representatives having passed a bill that would compel the White House to continue all arms shipments to Israel. Joe might also be thinking of political contributions, as American Jews donate the majority of Democratic Party funding, as well guaranteeing a friendly media in his campaign as they dominate both the news and the entertainment industries. See, Joe can figure some things out all by himself every once in a while!
Here’s the problem with Joe, apart from the roughly $12 million in gift-donations from Jewish/Israeli sources that he has obtained in his political career. His tactical thinking does not extend beyond his personal interests, to include his corrupt children, a trait very much like that which is possessed by his good buddy Netanyahu who is facing corruption charges of his own in Israel. Joe believes he is much cleverer than he actually is and thinks that an occasional mild verbal criticism of the Israeli behavior will convince his target audience of voters that he really is concerned about the continuing death toll in Gaza, where the Israelis have already been taking initial steps in their attack on Rafah by using their tanks to penetrate into the targeted zone to destroy and kill.
And as for the reported completion and initial functioning of the floating pier connected to Gaza constructed by US military engineers, it will not dramatically change reality on the ground even though Biden is claiming that it will enable the entry of much needed food and medical aid. Israel will still “security” control what is allowed to enter into Gaza proper while Netanyahu is seeing the pier as a bridge to nowhere, usable primarily to export excess Palestinians to foreign lands that are either willing or unwilling to accept them. And its existence creates some interesting possibilities. As it presumably will be logistically supported on the pier itself by US-based personnel, Netanyahu might well be tempted to stage a false flag attack blamed on Hamas to kill a few Americans and lock Biden into Israel’s right-wing Gaza policies from now on. Bear in mind that, in reality, Biden could care less if all the Palestinians might be “disappeared” just as he would like to see any and all critics of Israel be subjected to the harshest punishments, including prison and denial of basic rights as well as being stripped of government benefits. He has called the protesters “lawbreakers” and spreaders of “chaos” and congress is currently investigating the alleged “subversive organizers” of the “anti-Israel terrorists.”
Biden and company, as well as Trump, who is advising the Israeli government to “finish the job” with the Palestinians, clearly have no actual red lines that must not be crossed when it comes to Israel. The war of extermination of the Gazans has been accompanied by a more hidden war being conducted by the Jewish settlers on the West Bank, which has been largely under Israeli occupation since 1967. The frequently armed settlers have been attacking unarmed Palestinians, destroying their homes and businesses, ruining their crops and vineyards, and even killing them on occasion. Israeli police and army standing by do nothing to stop the fun and even frequently participate themselves by arresting and beating Palestinians who are guilty only of being Palestinian. Hundreds of Palestinians have been arrested without charges apart from “preventive detention” since the troubles began in October and the jails are overflowing. The clear intention, verbalized without any shame by senior Israeli government officials like Security Minister Itamar Ben-Gvir, is to produce a Greater Israel cleansed of Arabs. And Biden, who pretends to favor a two-state solution to the unrest, helps the process along by vetoing UN resolutions that would help create separate sovereignty for Palestine.
Some of the most outrageous recent developments have been the settlers’ interfering with shipments of food and medicines entering into Gaza, a point that a faux-sympathetic Biden stresses repeatedly when pontificating regarding bringing aid to the starving people who are trapped with nowhere to go inside the enclave. The Israel clampdown even includes the Mediterranean Sea being blocked off by the Israeli navy which shoots any desperate Gazans who try to go close to the water so they can fish for food. In the most recent incidents, observed by the standing-by but inert Israeli army and police, truckloads of food were blocked, the drivers and aid workers removed and beaten, and the food was destroyed and burned before the trucks were treated likewise. In another incident settlers dumped huge boulders on one of the access roads to a checkpoint leading into Gaza, rendering it impassible and blocking any aid. Journalists and aid workers are meanwhile being killed by the army to prevent any reporting of what is going on while the US State Department refuses to condemn the activity. Biden called the interference with assistance convoys “outrageous” but has done nothing whatsoever about it, nor has he followed up on pledges to sanction Israelis who attack Palestinians or their property on the West Bank.
The whole problem is that Israel is a monster, an apartheid state that somehow feels it is empowered by God and the United States to kill all its neighbors and rob the American taxpayer to pay for and equip the slaughter. Israel is backed by an all-powerful US domestic lobby that includes unlimited Jewish money and activist Zionist groups like the Anti-Defamation League (ADL) led by the hideous Jonathan Greenblatt and the venerable American Israel Political Affairs Committee (AIPAC), both of which are now busy raising money to defeat all congress critters who have ever criticized the Jewish state. ADL and AIPAC are also linked to “that old time religion” knucklehead Christian Zionists concentrated in the Republican Party who have their Scofield Bibles firmly embedded between their ears where their brains are supposed be. A partial solution would be to make the Jewish-Zionist groups register as foreign government agents directed by Israel under the the terms of the Foreign Agents Registration Act (FARA), which is exactly what they are, but that will never happen. President John F. Kennedy tried to register the predecessor group to AIPAC and many believe he paid the ultimate price for that affront as well as for his bid to stop Israel’s nuclear weapons program.
So, my fellow Americans, what should we do? Well, we should do whatever we can, which includes speaking out about how we have been sold out by our leaders and opinion makers, and we should continue to do that even knowing that they will try to silence us by destroying free speech in this country. It is all we have left and we should continue to oppose what is happening. The first step however, is to get rid of politicians like Joe and Donald, who have been completely corrupted by more than fifty years in the “system” and are totally sold out and irresponsible in their behavior. There are honest politicians and journalists out there and we just have to find them, support them and get them elected and in positions where they will be able to bring about change in how things are done in Washington! One might call it the New American Revolution to restore our rights and free us from foreign oppression!
2024.05.18 11:38 Best-Video-Ever Alpilean Review: A Comprehensive Look at the Revolutionary Weight Loss Supplement
 | Have you ever struggled to lose weight, trying countless diets and exercise plans without seeing the results you desire? The journey to weight loss can be frustrating and demoralizing, leaving you feeling defeated and hopeless. But what if there was a breakthrough solution that could finally help you achieve your weight loss goals? submitted by Best-Video-Ever to u/Best-Video-Ever [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/2vavmi7gm51d1.png?width=828&format=png&auto=webp&s=9f2417ff6915fbf7b3f8eefb011c9e507458c273 Introducing Alpilean, a revolutionary weight loss supplement that harnesses the power of an alpine ice hack to unlock the true potential of your body. With Alpilean, you can take control of your weight loss journey and experience the transformation you’ve always dreamed of. Like many others, Samantha had tried everything to lose weight. She had struggled with her body image for years, battling insecurities and feeling trapped in a cycle of yo-yo dieting. But when she discovered Alpilean, everything changed. With the help of this innovative supplement, Samantha finally found the key to unlocking her body’s natural fat-burning abilities. As she embarked on her Alpilean journey, Samantha was amazed at how quickly she started seeing results. The pounds began to melt away, and she felt a renewed energy and confidence that she had never experienced before. Gone were the days of deprivation and frustration. Alpilean had become her secret weapon, supporting her every step of the way. Now, it’s your turn. Take the leap and discover the true weight loss effects of Alpilean. Say goodbye to ineffective solutions and embrace a new chapter in your journey towards a healthier, happier you. Key Takeaways:
What is Alpilean?Alpilean is a groundbreaking weight loss supplement designed to help individuals shed pounds and achieve their weight loss goals. This section will provide an overview of the Alpilean supplement, including its key ingredients and their potential weight loss benefits.IngredientsThe Alpilean supplement is formulated with a unique blend of ingredients that have been carefully selected for their weight loss properties. These ingredients work synergistically to promote fat burning, boost metabolism, and support overall wellness.Here are the key ingredients found in Alpilean: Ingredient Potential Weight Loss Benefits Green Tea Extract May increase calorie burning and fat oxidation, leading to weight loss. Black Pepper Extract May enhance metabolism and improve the absorption of other ingredients. Garcinia Cambogia Extract May help suppress appetite and inhibit the production of fat. Capsaicin May boost metabolism and support fat burning. Apple Cider Vinegar May help reduce appetite and support weight loss. These ingredients work together to provide a comprehensive weight loss solution, helping users achieve their desired results. How Alpilean WorksAlpilean works by targeting key aspects of weight loss, including increasing metabolism, suppressing appetite, and promoting fat burning. The combination of ingredients in Alpilean supports these mechanisms, resulting in effective weight loss.The green tea extract in Alpilean can boost metabolism, increasing the number of calories burned throughout the day. This can help individuals achieve a calorie deficit, which is essential for weight loss. Additionally, the Garcinia Cambogia extract in Alpilean may help suppress appetite and reduce cravings, making it easier to adhere to a reduced-calorie diet. By controlling appetite, individuals can better manage their food intake and avoid overeating. The capsaicin and black pepper extract in Alpilean may enhance thermogenesis, the process by which the body generates heat and burns calories. This can further contribute to weight loss by increasing the body’s energy expenditure. Furthermore, the apple cider vinegar in Alpilean has been shown to have potential weight loss benefits, including reducing appetite and improving blood sugar control. By incorporating Alpilean into their weight loss journey, individuals can harness the power of these ingredients to enhance their results and achieve their desired weight loss goals. The Science Behind AlpileanTo understand the effectiveness of Alpilean as a weight loss supplement, it’s important to explore the scientific research and studies that support its claims. By investigating the mechanisms behind Alpilean’s weight loss effects, we can gain insight into how it works to promote fat burning and boost metabolism.One key ingredient in Alpilean is derived from an alpine ice hack, which has been shown to have potential weight loss benefits. Research suggests that this unique component can help activate thermogenesis in the body, leading to increased calorie burning and fat loss. Studies have also indicated that Alpilean may have a positive impact on appetite regulation. By influencing key neurotransmitters in the brain, Alpilean may help reduce cravings and promote feelings of fullness, potentially leading to a decrease in overall calorie intake. Furthermore, Alpilean has been found to potentially enhance energy expenditure and metabolic rate. This means that individuals using Alpilean may experience an increase in energy levels and a greater ability to burn calories, even during periods of rest. When considering Alpilean as a dietary supplement for weight loss purposes, it’s always advisable to consult with a healthcare professional to ensure it aligns with individual needs and goals. Alpilean: Real User ExperiencesDiscover the transformative weight loss journeys of individuals who have incorporated Alpilean into their lives. Hear directly from real users who have experienced the remarkable effects of this innovative supplement.Sarah’s story is just one of many success stories shared by Alpilean users. From shedding stubborn belly fat to achieving significant weight loss milestones, these individuals have experienced incredible transformations. The secret lies in the unique ice hack method used in Alpilean’s formula, which targets fat cells and boosts metabolism. Real ResultsLet’s take a look at some of the notable results achieved by Alpilean users:User Weight Loss Challenges Satisfaction Emily 25 lbs Overcoming emotional eating Highly satisfied Michael 18 lbs Breaking through weight loss plateau Extremely satisfied Jennifer 15 lbs Increasing energy levels Very satisfied As demonstrated in the table above, Alpilean has helped users achieve substantial weight loss results. Despite facing their own unique challenges, they successfully overcame obstacles and reached their goals, experiencing a significant boost in confidence and overall satisfaction. Their experiences speak volumes about the effectiveness of Alpilean in supporting weight loss efforts and improving overall well-being. If you’re ready to embark on your own weight loss journey and want to learn more about the remarkable benefits of Alpilean, continue reading. How to Use Alpilean for Optimal ResultsTo maximize the weight loss effects of Alpilean, it is important to follow the recommended usage instructions. By incorporating Alpilean into a healthy lifestyle, you can enhance its effectiveness and achieve your weight loss goals. Here are some tips and strategies to help you get the most out of your Alpilean experience:
By following these guidelines, you can optimize your use of Alpilean and increase your chances of achieving your weight loss goals. Incorporating Alpilean into a healthy lifestyle can provide the support you need to reach your desired results. The Benefits of AlpileanAlpilean, the weight loss supplement powered by an alpine ice hack, offers a range of potential benefits for individuals striving to shed excess weight and lead a healthier lifestyle. By incorporating Alpilean into your weight loss journey, you can experience a transformation that goes beyond just numbers on a scale.Shed Excess WeightBoost Energy LevelsSuppress AppetiteImprove Overall Well-BeingUnparalleled AdvantagesWhat sets Alpilean apart from other weight loss products on the market is its innovative alpine ice hack. This powerful technique targets fat cells, allowing for accelerated weight loss and noticeable results. Say goodbye to traditional weight loss supplements that offer generic solutions, and embrace the unique advantages that Alpilean has to offer.Are There Any Side Effects?When considering any dietary supplement, it’s essential to understand its safety profile and potential side effects. Alpilean is no exception. While Alpilean is generally well-tolerated by most users, it’s crucial to be aware of any adverse reactions that have been reported.Before incorporating Alpilean into your weight loss journey, it’s recommended to consult with a healthcare professional. They can assess your individual circumstances and help determine if Alpilean is suitable for you. Your healthcare provider can also address any concerns or questions you may have. While side effects associated with Alpilean are rare, a small number of users have reported experiencing mild gastrointestinal discomfort, such as bloating or gas. These effects are generally temporary and subsiding as the body adjusts to the supplement. Although Alpilean is derived from natural ingredients, some individuals may have specific allergies or sensitivities that could potentially lead to adverse reactions. Therefore, it’s crucial to carefully review the ingredients list of Alpilean to ensure you are not allergic or sensitive to any component. It’s important to note that the severity and prevalence of side effects may vary among individuals. If you experience any unusual or concerning symptoms while taking Alpilean, it is recommended to discontinue use and seek medical advice promptly. Remember, every individual’s body is unique, and what works for one person may not work the same way for another. Monitoring your body’s response and consulting with a healthcare professional are essential steps to ensure a safe and effective weight loss journey with Alpilean. Side Effects: Rarity: Mild gastrointestinal discomfort (bloating, gas) Rare Alpilean: Where to Buy and PricingLooking to purchase Alpilean? You’re in the right place! Below, we provide you with all the information you need to know about where to buy Alpilean and the pricing options available. Plus, we’ll also give you the scoop on any promotional offers or discount codes you can use to get the best value for your money.Buying from the Alpilean Official WebsiteTo ensure you’re getting the authentic Alpilean product and taking advantage of any exclusive offers, it’s recommended to purchase directly from the official Alpilean website. You can easily find the official website by searching for “Alpilean official website” on your preferred search engine. Once you’re on the official website, you’ll have access to the latest and genuine Alpilean supplement.Exploring Promotional Offers and Discount CodesWhen purchasing Alpilean from the official website, keep an eye out for any promotional offers or discount codes that may be available. These offers can provide you with cost savings or additional benefits when you buy Alpilean. To find out if there are any current promotions or discount codes, simply visit the official website and look for the “Promotions” or “Offers” section. Don’t miss out on these great deals!Pricing OptionsAlpilean offers various pricing options to suit your needs and budget. The pricing may vary depending on the package size and any additional bonuses included. On the official website, you’ll find detailed information about the different pricing options available for Alpilean. Choose the option that fits your weight loss goals and budget, and start your journey towards a healthier you.Package Pricing Bonuses Starter Package $39.99 Free shipping Intermediate Package $79.99 Free shipping + 1 month supply Ultimate Package $129.99 Free shipping + 2 month supply + Alpilean recipe book Investing in your health and well-being with Alpilean is a wise choice. With the information provided above, you can confidently make your purchase through the official website, take advantage of any promotional offers or discount codes, and select the pricing option that aligns with your needs. Start your weight loss journey with Alpilean today! Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)As the popularity of Alpilean continues to grow, it’s natural to have questions and concerns about this weight loss supplement. In this FAQ section, we will address some of the most common queries to provide you with the information you need to make an informed decision.1. What is the recommended dosage of Alpilean?The recommended dosage of Alpilean is two capsules per day. It is advised to take one capsule in the morning and another in the evening with a full glass of water. To achieve optimal results, it is essential to follow the recommended dosage and not exceed the stated amount.2. Is Alpilean safe to use?Alpilean is formulated using natural ingredients and is generally considered safe for consumption when used as directed. However, it is always advisable to consult with a healthcare professional before starting any new dietary supplement, especially if you have any pre-existing medical conditions or are on medication.3. Are there any potential interactions with other medications?While there are no known interactions between Alpilean and medications, it is always wise to consult with your healthcare provider if you are taking any medications or have any concerns about potential interactions. They can provide personalized advice based on your specific situation.4. How long does it take to see results with Alpilean?The timeframe for seeing results with Alpilean may vary from person to person. Some users may start noticing positive changes within a few weeks, while others may require more time. Consistency in taking the supplement and maintaining a healthy lifestyle are key factors in achieving desired results.5. Can Alpilean be used by both men and women?Yes, Alpilean is suitable for both men and women who are looking to support their weight loss journey. Its natural ingredients are designed to assist individuals of any gender in achieving their weight loss goals.6. What happens if I miss a dose of Alpilean?If you accidentally miss a dose of Alpilean, simply take the next scheduled dose as usual. It is important not to double the dosage to make up for the missed one, as this may lead to potential side effects or complications.We hope this FAQ section has addressed some of your questions about Alpilean. If you have any further inquiries or concerns, it’s always best to consult with the official Alpilean customer support or your healthcare professional for personalized advice. Remember, everyone’s journey is unique, and finding the right solution for you is key. Alpilean vs. Other Weight Loss SupplementsWhen it comes to weight loss supplements, Alpilean stands out from the crowd with its unique alpine ice hack approach. Unlike traditional supplements, Alpilean harnesses the power of the alpine ice hack to help individuals achieve their weight loss goals effectively and naturally.So, what sets Alpilean apart from other weight loss supplements on the market? Let’s dive in and explore the advantages and potential drawbacks of different approaches to weight loss. The Alpine Ice Hack: A Unique Path to Weight LossAlpilean’s alpine ice hack approach takes a distinct route towards weight loss compared to traditional supplements. By leveraging the power of alpine ice, Alpilean aims to boost metabolism, enhance fat burning, and promote weight loss in a natural and sustainable way.The Benefits of Alpilean’s Alpine Ice HackWhile traditional weight loss supplements may offer their own advantages, Alpilean’s alpine ice hack brings unique benefits to the table:
Drawbacks of Traditional Weight Loss SupplementsWhile traditional weight loss supplements can be effective for some individuals, they may have their limitations:
Choosing the Right Path to Weight LossUltimately, when deciding on a weight loss supplement, it’s crucial to consider your personal preferences and goals. If you’re seeking a natural and sustainable approach with enhanced metabolism support, Alpilean and its alpine ice hack may be worth exploring.However, it’s always recommended to consult with a healthcare professional before starting any dietary supplement to ensure it aligns with your individual needs and health conditions. Alpilean’s Money-Back GuaranteeWhen it comes to investing in a weight loss supplement, it’s important to have peace of mind. That’s why Alpilean offers a generous money-back guarantee to its customers. This guarantee reflects the confidence that Alpilean has in its product and its commitment to customer satisfaction.With Alpilean’s money-back guarantee, users can try the supplement risk-free. If, for any reason, you are not satisfied with your purchase, you can contact Alpilean’s customer support within the specified timeframe to initiate a refund. The terms and conditions of the guarantee ensure a fair and straightforward process. Alpilean understands that everyone’s weight loss journey is unique, and results may vary. This money-back guarantee provides the opportunity to give Alpilean a try, knowing that if it doesn’t meet your expectations, you have the option for a refund. By offering this guarantee, Alpilean aims to build trust and foster a positive customer experience. It demonstrates the company’s dedication to delivering a high-quality product backed by confidence and integrity. So why wait? Take advantage of Alpilean’s money-back guarantee today and embark on your weight loss journey with confidence. Alpilean Customer SupportHaving reliable customer support is essential when it comes to using any dietary supplement. Alpilean understands the importance of addressing any questions or concerns that users may have, and they are committed to providing top-notch customer support.If you have any inquiries about Alpilean or need assistance with your order, the Alpilean customer support team is readily available to help. You can reach out to them via the following contact methods:
Why Reaching Out to Alpilean Customer Support is ImportantAlpilean values your satisfaction and wants to ensure that you have a positive experience. Whether you need clarification on dosage instructions, have concerns about potential interactions, or require assistance with your order, the knowledgeable and friendly customer support team is ready to lend a helping hand. ConclusionAfter a comprehensive review, it is clear that Alpilean offers a promising solution for individuals seeking effective weight loss results. With its unique alpine ice hack approach, Alpilean sets itself apart from traditional weight loss supplements. The supplement harnesses the power of natural ingredients to promote fat burning and boost metabolism, helping users shed pounds and achieve their weight loss goals.Throughout this review, we explored the science behind Alpilean’s weight loss effects and uncovered positive real user experiences. Many individuals reported significant weight loss, improved energy levels, and reduced appetite when incorporating Alpilean into their lifestyle. However, it is important to note that individual results may vary. While Alpilean showcases several benefits, it is essential to consider any potential drawbacks. Adverse reactions associated with Alpilean are rare, but it is always advisable to consult with a healthcare professional before starting any new dietary supplement. Additionally, it is crucial to follow the recommended usage instructions and incorporate Alpilean into a healthy lifestyle for optimal results. In conclusion, Alpilean presents a promising option for individuals looking to achieve weight loss. Its innovative approach, backed by scientific research, and positive user experiences make it worth considering. However, before making a decision, it is recommended to thoroughly evaluate individual needs, consult a healthcare professional, and determine whether Alpilean aligns with personal weight loss goals and preferences. FAQWhat is Alpilean?Alpilean is a weight loss supplement that utilizes an alpine ice hack to help individuals achieve their weight loss goals. It is a dietary supplement formulated with specific ingredients that are believed to support fat burning and boost metabolism.How does Alpilean work?Alpilean works by leveraging the power of its key ingredients to promote fat burning and enhance metabolism. The alpine ice hack featured in Alpilean is designed to stimulate the body’s natural fat-burning processes, helping users shed excess weight more effectively.What are the main ingredients in Alpilean?Alpilean contains a proprietary blend of natural ingredients, including Alpine Tree Bark Extract, Iceflower Extract, and Frozen Moss Extract. These ingredients are carefully selected for their potential weight loss benefits and their ability to support overall well-being.Is Alpilean suitable for everyone?While Alpilean is generally safe for most individuals, it is always recommended to consult with a healthcare professional before starting any new dietary supplement. This is particularly important for individuals with pre-existing medical conditions, those taking medication, pregnant or nursing women, and individuals under the age of 18.How should I take Alpilean for optimal results?The recommended dosage of Alpilean is [x] capsules per day, preferably with meals. It is important to follow the instructions provided on the product label or consult with a healthcare professional for personalized guidance. Consistency is key, so it is advised to take Alpilean regularly for the best results.Are there any side effects associated with Alpilean?Alpilean is formulated with natural ingredients and is generally well-tolerated. However, individuals may react differently to dietary supplements, and some may experience mild side effects such as digestive discomfort or allergic reactions. If you experience any adverse reactions, it is recommended to discontinue use and consult with a healthcare professional.Where can I buy Alpilean and how much does it cost?Alpilean can be purchased directly from the official website. Pricing may vary, and it is advisable to check the website for the most up-to-date information. Additionally, there might be promotional offers or discount codes available to provide savings on the purchase of Alpilean.Does Alpilean offer a money-back guarantee?Yes, Alpilean offers a money-back guarantee to provide customer satisfaction. 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This comprehensive Alpilean review delves into the details of this revolutionary product, designed to help individuals burn fat and achieve their weight loss goals. With its unique formula and natural ingredients, Alpilean promises to be a game-changer in the industry. Let’s explore what makes Alpilean stand out and whether it lives up to its claims. Ready to transform your weight management journey? Try Alpilean now and unlock your potential for a healthier you! What is Alpilean?Alpilean is a weight loss supplement that has been crafted to help individuals shed excess body fat and maintain a healthy weight. This supplement is particularly intriguing because it incorporates a unique alpine hack method, leveraging the power of natural ingredients sourced from alpine regions. These ingredients work synergistically to enhance the body’s ability to burn fat and improve metabolism.How Does Alpilean Work?Alpilean’s effectiveness lies in its unique blend of natural ingredients. 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2024.05.18 10:42 GermanyBerlin1945 For how long will gpt-4o be free?
I know that it has limitations but will it always be free or is it only temporary?
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2024.05.18 10:07 spunchy M&B 2024 Lecture 1: The Four Prices of Money
 | For our schedule and links to other discussions, see the Money and Banking 2024 master post. submitted by spunchy to moneyview [link] [comments] This is the discussion thread for Economics of Money and Banking Lecture 1: The Four Prices of Money. This lecture provides context for the course and introduces us to Perry Mehrling's "Money View" framework. We practice using the balance sheet (T-account) as an analytical tool to help us understand the machinery of money, banking, and finance. NOTE: The videos in this lecture have been arranged out of chronological order, so Mehrling sometimes refers back to something he hasn't talked about yet. Part 1: The Big PictureThis course represents a challenge to Fischer Black's assertion we don't need a theory of money separate from the theory of finance. Black abstracts away from liquidity by assuming that perfect liquidity is free and happens automatically. By contrast, Mehrling insists that central banks have a role in managing the liquidity problems that financial markets naturally encounter.Grounded in permanent, uncontroversial features of money, the Money View framework provides an ideologically neutral language and toolkit for discussing and analyzing money. Globalization, technology, and the forces of politics continually reshape the monetary landscape. But the underlying nature of money and banking remains constant. We start with the question of financial globalization. In the decade-plus since he delivered these lectures, Mehrling has further integrated the international monetary system into his Money View. His 2022 book, Money and Empire: Charles P. Kindleberger and the Dollar System tells the story of how the US dollar found itself at the center of that system. Global money has its own terminology. In particular, the term capital flow describes any cross-border flow of money not associated with the purchase or sale of goods and services. Whenever they happen to cross national borders, lending, borrowing, and the purchase and sale of financial assets, all represent capital flows. When I borrow abroad or sell financial assets, money flows toward me. That's a capital inflow. When I lend abroad or buy financial assets, that's a capital outflow. In the lecture, Mehrling shares a list of his intellectual predecessors in the American and UK Banking traditions. Notably, he leaves off John Hicks, whose ideas, especially from his 1989 book "A Market Theory of Money," are central to the intellectual development of the Money View. We will discuss a few chapters from that book in the coming weeks. Part 2: Prerequisites?This course doesn't use much math. And you don't need an economics background to get something out of the material. If you're familiar with other ways of thinking about money and banking (and finance), these lectures will eventually connect up with those perspectives.Instead of using conventional approaches for teaching Money and Banking by first applying theory, Mehrling builds out his Money View framework from an examination of banking practice. What model of the world do bankers need to have in their heads in order to stay in business? Part 3: What is a Bank, a Shadow Bank, A Central Bank?Here is the stylized balance sheet of a prototypical bank.https://preview.redd.it/gt7d8qk8651d1.png?width=281&format=png&auto=webp&s=deadb0e839c3fe7d8617d8216071a21e64ffc1a1 Assets are always on the left side of the balance sheet, and liabilities are always on the right. The difference in value between assets and liabilities is net worth. Unlike other entries on the liability side of the balance sheet, net worth doesn't represent a commitment to pay a specific amount of money. Instead, we can think of net worth as an IOU to the bank owners for what's left over after all the bank's debts have been paid. On the asset side of its balance sheet, the bank keeps a reserve of money available to settle immediate payment obligations. This reserve is monetary liquidity. As long as the bank has reserves it can spend down (0 < Reserves), it can meet its payment obligations. The bank is liquid. Without reserves, the bank would always have to receive money at the exact instant it needs to pay it out. We will often use the terms money and cash to refer to the settlement instrument—that which can be spent directly to settle payment commitments. The settlement instrument will only ever appear on a balance sheet as an asset. The same instrument that serves as money for one entity may appear as a liability on the balance sheet of another entity, the issuer, but it is not money to the issuer. It is credit. The term reserves refers to any reserve of money held as an asset. Above, I have emphasized the bank's reserves by italicizing and bolding the balance-sheet entry. I will follow the convention throughout the course of highlighting money as the settlement instrument. Assets other than cash (money) represent promised or expected cash inflows. Liabilities represent commitments for future cash outflows. The balance-sheet structure alone does not describe the time pattern of these cash flows. Nor does it tell us about market liquidity, funding liquidity, or even the regulatory constraints on reserves. It is hard to see liquidity by looking at a balance sheet alone. A balance sheet is solvent if its net worth—assets less liabilities—is greater than zero. However, there is no single correct way to determine the price of assets. Should we add up the total promised cash flows implied by the assets? Should we discount those cash flows based on how far into the future they occur? Should we weight them based on risk of default? When should we ignore all that and mark to market? That is, when does it make the most sense to value assets based on the price we could sell them for right now? Solvency is often a matter of appearance, whereas liquidity imposes an actual constraint. If you can't make a payment, you're dead. Continued operation depends on liquidity, not solvency. Let's look at two side-by-side balance sheets to see what happens when someone deposits cash in a bank. https://preview.redd.it/nzakihfc651d1.png?width=780&format=png&auto=webp&s=430587d285c5bb0eeae1036e0b706bcc3455d353 On these balance sheets, "cash" refers to coins and notes—the physical currency you might keep in your wallet. For the depositor, both cash and bank deposits are money. For the bank, only the cash is money. We can also show this transaction using payment arrows. https://preview.redd.it/ybyopq6e651d1.png?width=338&format=png&auto=webp&s=c377ad6ccb9a8ec7c0bd897c4fd915dd220eafbd Following Borja Clavero's color-coding convention, I've shaded the creation of deposits green to denote payment by issuance. I've shaded the transfer of cash yellow to denote payment by assignment. In this transaction, the bank issues new deposits to buy cash from the depositor. The cash moves from the depositor to the bank. In terms of quadruple-entry accounting, we call it an asset intermediation because the depositor ends up holding an IOU for cash instead of the cash itself. When the central bank issues new money, it expands its balance sheet on both sides, just like a private commercial bank. https://preview.redd.it/uzljjhth651d1.png?width=795&format=png&auto=webp&s=97ab3698ea4ab6436c8968690f3683ed3eef4d93 The central bank is a bank. It's just not correct to say that the central bank is printing money. It's expanding both sides of the balance sheet at the same time. —LectureOn these balance sheets, the word "reserves" refers to the deposit liabilities of the central bank. We call them reserves because the private banking sector uses these central bank deposits as its settlement reserve. The term "reserves" can mean at least two different things:
But there are a few key differences not captured by the balance sheets:
https://preview.redd.it/u710uojk651d1.png?width=822&format=png&auto=webp&s=87c659964567bcbdfaa22cabb7868bc678946749 The payment of cash to the central bank is shaded red to denote payment by set-off. The reserve issuance is, again, payment by issuance. These two payments, taken together as a transaction, constitute a refinance operation. The commercial bank shifts the form of its money reserve from one central-bank liability to another. https://preview.redd.it/pcf3416m651d1.png?width=338&format=png&auto=webp&s=245d783727a0cb78558fbfcf130cd84bc1d58bb9 A shadow bank is like a bank, but its assets and liabilities are both market-based instruments. It borrows from the market and lends to the market. Shadow banking is money-market funding of capital-market lending. —Perry MehrlingThe money market is the market for very short-term borrowing, often overnight. A borrower can use the money market in two different ways.
The capital market is the market for trading long-term securities such as stocks and bonds. https://preview.redd.it/stlwdwtp651d1.png?width=553&format=png&auto=webp&s=3a982e14f6c92eea2f657ebe10f31cebd3da7029 Notice that there is no money (cash reserve) on the balance sheet of this stylized shadow bank. In real life, shadow banking occurs on the balance sheets of entities that do have some kind of cash reserve. But for the shadow banking activity itself, liquidity is less about cash reserves and more about the ability to roll over short-term money-market funding. Traditional banking leans more on monetary liquidity (reserve assets), but both types of banking rely heavily on funding liquidity and market liquidity. Part 4: Central Themes?Two key ideas:
Mehrling has a 2015 blog post, Why is money difficult?, that describes some of the motivation for explaining money. It covers some of the same ground as Warsaw Lecture 1. In my teaching, I have come to appreciate a variety of barriers that people bring with them to the study of money, and to appreciate the necessity of bringing these barriers up to consciousness as part of the process of learning. —Perry Mehrling, Why is money difficult?We can summarize the "alchemy of banking" as: All banking is a swap of IOUs. —Perry MehrlingDepending on how we define "banking" and "swap of IOUs," the above statement might be true or not. For example, one might reasonably suggest that simply taking cash deposits is a "banking activity" that does not constitute a "swap of IOUs." Nevertheless, "swap of IOUs" captures something important about banking. Banks predominately lend through a mutual obligation with borrowers. https://preview.redd.it/f9ck1bmu651d1.png?width=338&format=png&auto=webp&s=e5184582513346893e3f243ac2c313f190899d42 Both the bank and the borrower expand their balance sheet on both sides. https://preview.redd.it/sy0mj2by651d1.png?width=783&format=png&auto=webp&s=032ce9676499e27172a209623a5c0ca8e8704757 Each party now owes the other something. And it holds the other's liabilities as assets. The deposit is the bank's debt to the borrower. The loan is the borrower's debt to the bank. The bank's deposit liabilities are special because the borrower can spend them as money. The bank deposits are money to the borrower. The borrower generally can't spend its own debt directly. It must exchange its own liabilities for bank liabilities. Imagine that I want to pay you money to buy some goods. If I have money, it just works. https://preview.redd.it/9ofq8qq1751d1.png?width=338&format=png&auto=webp&s=aeaa2dcae347afa55d8634d8381c0462b5583750 I give you the money. You give me the goods in exchange. We've swapped assets. https://preview.redd.it/b8ahjc83751d1.png?width=647&format=png&auto=webp&s=db34a3ff7a9706a51840fa1f100784217dee728f If I don't have money, but you know me, then maybe you'll accept my IOU as payment. https://preview.redd.it/ce118635751d1.png?width=338&format=png&auto=webp&s=fc8b101216ebc9da0ae64ed463901678955afb18 Here are the balance sheets. https://preview.redd.it/udhhwm77751d1.png?width=714&format=png&auto=webp&s=0108f0215ca48df27dfb1e22dd207a6fea8dfafe My IOU still isn't money, though. It can't be passed around as a general means of payment. Just because you accepted it as payment doesn't mean you can turn around and spend it again. If you refuse my IOU as payment, I must find a way to transform it into something you will accept. A bank can help. https://preview.redd.it/lvrafjaa751d1.png?width=1083&format=png&auto=webp&s=40b50f7cd6a60a6eb236afa00311bfc0abe55f49 Money now exists where none existed before. The bank has "monetized" my IOU. It is perhaps easier to see what's happening with payment arrows. https://preview.redd.it/muq5hc3d751d1.png?width=688&format=png&auto=webp&s=d411a8a5cfac0838cd2ca6261b15ef2dda286464 On the left, lending from the bank creates money for me (1). Then, I spend the money to pay you (2). On the right, you end up holding money, which is a liability of the bank. The bank ends up holding the loan, which is a liability of me—my IOU. The four prices of money:
"One money in terms of another money" does not mean the relative price of two different currencies. That's the exchange rate. Instead, par is the relative price of instruments denominated in the same standard monetary unit. It is normally a fixed one-to-one relationship. We expect a quantity of bank deposits to be redeemable for the same quantity of physical cash, or the same quantity of bank deposits in another bank. By allowing us to move freely between these different instruments, par facilitates the smooth functioning of the payment system. We only tend to notice par when it breaks. A bank's balance sheet seemingly has money both as an asset (cash reserves) and as a liability (deposits). But only the cash reserves are money from the perspective of the bank. The bank is responsible for maintaining par between these two instruments. Interest Rate When two parties swap IOUs, the fact that one party pays the other a fee to enter into the mutual obligation gives us a clue as to which party wants access to the other's liabilities. We call that fee interest. And the interest rate is the price. When I pay interest on a bank loan, I'm paying for a service. The bank's IOU (deposits) is worth something to me. Interest is what I pay to get it. Exchange Rate Today, the main international money is the US dollar. In the late 19th century, it was the pound sterling or gold. In any case, what matters is the relative price between the domestic monetary standard and the international monetary standard. For our purposes, the important feature of an international gold standard isn't the "gold" part so much as it is the "international standard" part. A fixed exchange rate system is largely analogous to a single monetary standard with par relationships between instruments. Flexible exchange rates are more complicated. We will explore flexible exchange rates in the second half of the course. Price Level Notice that when Mehrling justified a role for the central bank, he said nothing about managing inflation. Mehrling emphasizes the price level the least of the four prices of money. This is partly because other economists tend to over-emphasize the price level. Nevertheless, money is meaningless unless it has some actual goods and services to buy. So we don't want to forget the price level entirely. We also know that stabilizing the price level alone isn't enough to ensure stability of the financial system. By setting aside the price level—and assuming an unproblematic monetary standard—we can more easily explore certain features the system built on top of that standard, how they function, and why they break. Part 5: Readings: Allyn YoungWe will discuss this reading on Wednesday, May 22nd.These four chapters represent only a tiny fraction of Young's 36 total encyclopedia articles for the 1924/1929 edition of The Book of Popular Science. You can read the rest—and more—in Money and Growth: Selected papers of Allyn Abbott Young Edited by Perry Mehrling and Roger Sandilands. I have not read the other chapters. Please post any questions and comments below. We will have a one-hour live discussion of Lecture 1 and Lecture 2 on Monday, May 20th, at 2:00pm EDT. |
2024.05.18 09:57 Midaseasylife 600 gbs of apps not showing in the installed apps section. Can’t find them anywhere?
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2024.05.18 08:46 Potential-Lavishness How to make friends, part 1: your physical self
I see a lot of posts of lonely ppl who want friends. As someone who has consciously taught myself social skills, now makes friends easily, and has maintained deep bonds over decades, I feel qualified to share what I’ve learned. I’ll warn you, tough love and even tougher truths are part of this. If you find yourself arguing, but don’t have friends yourself, ask yourself where that resistance comes from. Don’t direct it at me; take some time to journal and sit with it. This is part of the journey.
I have a lot of info so I’m breaking this into parts. I’m naturally pedantic and have a lot to share. I will do my best to keep it as concentrated as possible but be warned: this will be wordy with no TLDR.
The first part of making friends starts with your physical self. Humans are primarily visual creatures(all genders) and how we present ourselves is the first invitation or hurdle to interacting with ppl.
For clothing, any style works. If you have zero idea how to build a wardrobe choose one dark neutral (black, charcoal grey, navy, or chocolate brown), choose one light neutral (white, ivory, light grey, beige), and one medium neutral (olive green, khaki, camel, mid grey, rust, beige). Only choose one of each and preferably ones that look nice on you. From now on only buy clothes in these shades. Focus on getting your basic covered before you choose colors: tshirts, sweaters, sweatshirts jeans, slacks, jacket, coat. There are so many options and it’s a great opportunity to get to know yourself. Do you like graphic Ts or plain? V neck or crew? Do you like sweatshirts that zip? Do you like hoods? For sweaters: turtlenecks, cardigans, pullovers, or quarter zips? Wool coats or puffers? Leather or denim jackets? Enjoy each detail you learn about yourself. Once your basics are covered, choose two colors. Then try to only get stuff in those colors. My pallet when I was blonde was: black, ivory, and beige with red or blush pink. Now that I’m my natural color it’s: navy, grey, ivory with sky blue or forest green. By putting limiting your colors, everything matches and you always look put together. Accessories are where your personality can really shine: loud sneakers, big belt buckles, unique watches, rings, necklaces, hats or caps, scarves, bags. There are so many ways to express yourself. Keep your accessories to your chosen colors at first. Once you have figured out your style and built up a wardrobe that works, you can add more colors and pizazz.
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I have a lot of info so I’m breaking this into parts. I’m naturally pedantic and have a lot to share. I will do my best to keep it as concentrated as possible but be warned: this will be wordy with no TLDR.
The first part of making friends starts with your physical self. Humans are primarily visual creatures(all genders) and how we present ourselves is the first invitation or hurdle to interacting with ppl.
- Hygiene: daily showering is a non-negotiable. You can rot on your own time in your own house. If you are going to be a part of society you need to wrangle your body smells so that ppl aren’t offended by your very presence. This is the first tough truth: no one wants to be friends with a smelly person. Use soap and a washcloth, stay away from those plastic nightmare loofahs. Wash every nook, cranny, divet, and crevices. Wash your booty hole and genitals. Change your washcloth daily (wash a$$ last) or use a separate one for your butt. Wash your sheets, pillowcases, towels, robes, and floor mat once a week. Wear deodorant (no, body sprays aren’t deodorant) daily. Some of us are extra stinky due to “stress sweat” aka apocrine glands and this is a common physical side effect of an overtaxed nervous system. Extra stinky ppl need to touch up their armpits with a disinfectant wipe and reapplication of deodorant; lunch time is great for this. Brush your teeth upon waking, after drinking coffee, and after eating. No, gum and mouthwash are only temporary, they aren’t good enough. You still have bad breath. Drinking coffee wo brushing in the morning leads to that extra stinky breath that smells like death. Don’t be that person. Floss once a day. When washing hair, use shampoo and focus on the scalp more than the hair. If you can’t feel the lather on every centimeter, add more to those spots or you will still stink. Most ppl need to wash it twice if they don’t shampoo everyday. Shorter hair, thinning hair, and fine hair need to be washed more often, sometimes daily. We can smell your scalp from far away. Keep your nails trimmed or neatly filed. I’ve had to school multiple men in my life on how raggedy their nails are. Don’t just grow them out until they break off. Keep them short unless you have the time and desire to file and shape them at least once a week. Wash your hands every time you use the bathroom. I don’t care if you didn’t touch yourself, that’s not the point. Ppl notice. Also wash your hands when you’re alone and at home, seriously it’s not that hard. How are you going to want friendship if you don’t value them enough to keep them safe and sanitary? Trim your toenails and stay abreast of how your feet smell. If you have smelly feet you probably have athletes foot. Sprays are an easy way to treat this. If you still have stinky feet after this, keep a change of socks with you so if you go to a no shoes house, you aren’t making ppl sick. Wash inner clothes like shirts and underwear after every wear. Sweat shirts and jeans can often be worn a few times before needing to be washed but smell the armpits and ass, and check for stains before you put them on.
- Grooming. This about looking neat and together. Humans are visual creatures, we judge others based on their looks. I’m not talking skinny/fat, ugly/pretty. I mean that if you look like your life is rough, ppl aren’t going to want to get involved with that. We have our own issues and struggles, we don’t want to add someone to our lives that looks like they are on the brink of a meltdown. Brush your hair and teeth before you leave the house. This is my bare minimum. Curly hair is different but my wavy hair needs to be brushed the same as straight. Combing is also acceptable. Keep an eye on your dandruff. If you have it, treat it. There are many otc options. At the very least shake it out and don’t wear dark colors until it’s fixed. Make sure you don’t have eye crusties, mouth corner goop, or boogers. If you’re showering these are usually not an issue but check for these a few times a day. I don’t iron my clothes but many ppl associate wrinkles with poor grooming. Consider getting a handheld steamer. I personally fold my clothes kon-marie style or hang them and that’s good enough for me. Keep your shoes clean. Lots of people are taught to judge other by the state of their shoes. Notice how many ppl look at your shoes the first time you meet. Wash the white laces regularly, polish and condition leather. Patent shoes are super hard to keep scuff free so avoid them if you are prone to scuffs or dragging your feet. My shoes come untied so I double knot my laces to avoid looking sloppy. Replace buttons and ask a dry cleaner to repair any holes or tears. Relegate worn out and stained clothes to lounge wear.
- Posture. Your posture says so much about you. A relaxed and tall posture says you’re confident and easy going. The type of person we all want to be friends with. Forward head means life has beaten you down. Rounded shoulders says you’ve been hurt but haven’t healed. Collapsed chest says you’ve given up. Lordosis means your core body and core self are weak. Stand with your feet an inch or two from the wall and stand naturally. Your head and most of your spine should touch. If it doesn’t you have work to do. You can’t just force yourself to stand up straight. Your muscles have stretched and atrophied to accommodate this unnatural stance, you will need to rehab your body over weeks and months to regain proper function. Research and watch videos on strengthening postural muscles. My fave that’s easy to explain: when you’re at the wall checking your posture, bend your knees slowly until you can press your spine and back of head into the wall. Stay there for a moment and feel it. That’s the proper position of your pelvis; posture comes from pelvic position not our chest, shoulders, or back. Now clench your ab muscles, they might be weak or non existent. These are the muscles that need to be strengthened. Hold those muscles tight and try to straighten your knees while maintaining that pelvic position. Breathe and hold for 30 seconds. If you can’t do 30 start with 10. Do this every time you go to the bathroom, not necessarily in the bathroom but by tying it to an inevitable part of your day you have a better chance of being consistent.
- Body language. Like posture, we communicate much more than we realize with our bodies. How we walk, sit, fidget, etc telegraphs nonverbal messages to those around us. Many ppl are very dissociated with their daily movements. Take some time to notice how you walk. Do you drag your feet? How would someone describe your walk? Do you schlep, shuffle, scurry? Or do you glide, prance, or stalk? I love to drag my feet and do this at home in my slippers. But in public I am more conscious of how I walk. This is much harder for me to explain. My main tip is to watch out for small, jerky, fast movments, like fidgeting and scurrying. These are prey movements and relegate us to an undesirable social standing: prey. Think of how a mouse moves: small, jerky quick movements. Now think of a panther. Every movement is intentional and controlled, smooth, slow. Go on walks if you are able bodied and start to notice how you move. Notice how those around you move. Which ones seem confident to you and which ones are off putting. Same with sitting. Do your best to sit up straight rather than completely melting into the chair. Don’t “throw” yourself onto someone’s furniture, use your legs to lower yourself down. When listening do your best to keep movements to a minimum. Breathing slowly and deep helps with this. I use my hands to talk when I’m excited and don’t see this as a problem.
- Eye contact. Eye contact is very important but it also varies by culture. This will be regarding western/American culture. Eye contact used to be difficult for me. I now have an engaged and sometimes intense gaze. It’s more important to maintain eye contact when listening, not as important when talking. You don’t have to laser focus, break your gaze regularly to take in the other person’s movements and body language, look briefly at other parts of their face, lower your gaze, glance at the room. But don’t stray for too long, wandering gaze makes ppl feel like you aren’t listening and ppl don’t want to engage with bad listeners. Don’t look at breasts or genitals. Once you’re comfortable with someone you can look away much more or sometimes even look at other things while you listen. But in the beginning you are building trust.
For clothing, any style works. If you have zero idea how to build a wardrobe choose one dark neutral (black, charcoal grey, navy, or chocolate brown), choose one light neutral (white, ivory, light grey, beige), and one medium neutral (olive green, khaki, camel, mid grey, rust, beige). Only choose one of each and preferably ones that look nice on you. From now on only buy clothes in these shades. Focus on getting your basic covered before you choose colors: tshirts, sweaters, sweatshirts jeans, slacks, jacket, coat. There are so many options and it’s a great opportunity to get to know yourself. Do you like graphic Ts or plain? V neck or crew? Do you like sweatshirts that zip? Do you like hoods? For sweaters: turtlenecks, cardigans, pullovers, or quarter zips? Wool coats or puffers? Leather or denim jackets? Enjoy each detail you learn about yourself. Once your basics are covered, choose two colors. Then try to only get stuff in those colors. My pallet when I was blonde was: black, ivory, and beige with red or blush pink. Now that I’m my natural color it’s: navy, grey, ivory with sky blue or forest green. By putting limiting your colors, everything matches and you always look put together. Accessories are where your personality can really shine: loud sneakers, big belt buckles, unique watches, rings, necklaces, hats or caps, scarves, bags. There are so many ways to express yourself. Keep your accessories to your chosen colors at first. Once you have figured out your style and built up a wardrobe that works, you can add more colors and pizazz.
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2024.05.18 08:31 JollyShooter In search of work!
TLDR: 30yo prior marine CIS grad needs help finding a job. No internship Experience, fulltime dad/student/husband/job Should I work for free to get foot in door or grind away at applications? I have what I think is a good amount of experience.
First of all here is a bit about me. I am a prior US Marine as mos 0411, maintenance management specialist. Depending of the company I was assigned to within my unit my duties varied quite a bit. Some of the duties included maintaining a PEB pre-extended bins for frequently used parts where data was updated and changed via GCSS software by ORACLE. Created and inspected commodities for upkeep of training binders. I also ran queries to organize and report to higher leadership of deadline equipment and readiness. I assisted in writing new orders and directives.
I honorably finished my 4 years of service. After that I spent about 2 years in Colorado. Due to the insane cost of living and trying to make a relationship work I jumped straight into the workforce as a Armed security operator for retail Marijuana Dispensaries and some construction work. I was planning of starting college as soon as I got out of the service but that didn't quite happen.
After a failed relationship there I moved back home to Missouri. I soon fell into love with a HS crush and have now been with her for 6 years and married for 2 years. We have a 4yo son and 1yo TWIN girls so our hands are super full!!
I did however start school in late 2019 and due to having kids and taking some time off for that, my education has been extended a bit. My school faculty is also short staffed so there has been 2-3 semesters of waiting around so to say.
It looks like I will be able to graduate in spring of 2025. I will have my BS in CIS computer information systems. I have had many classes that I hope to aid me in getting hired after graduation. Some of these classes include C# programming 1&2, Data structures, Cryptography, DBMS 1&2, android/ios dev, web admin, and a few others.
Now with being a full time student/dad/husband/job I do not have the time to take an internship. Do you think I could possibly get on somewhere and work for free for a while and try to "earn" a spot? Or should I just grind away at applications for a year? If you know of any opportunities or ideas please let me know. I currently work a weekend shift which is new and has helped me free up alot of time M-Thursday.
Thanks to anyone who made it to the end!
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First of all here is a bit about me. I am a prior US Marine as mos 0411, maintenance management specialist. Depending of the company I was assigned to within my unit my duties varied quite a bit. Some of the duties included maintaining a PEB pre-extended bins for frequently used parts where data was updated and changed via GCSS software by ORACLE. Created and inspected commodities for upkeep of training binders. I also ran queries to organize and report to higher leadership of deadline equipment and readiness. I assisted in writing new orders and directives.
I honorably finished my 4 years of service. After that I spent about 2 years in Colorado. Due to the insane cost of living and trying to make a relationship work I jumped straight into the workforce as a Armed security operator for retail Marijuana Dispensaries and some construction work. I was planning of starting college as soon as I got out of the service but that didn't quite happen.
After a failed relationship there I moved back home to Missouri. I soon fell into love with a HS crush and have now been with her for 6 years and married for 2 years. We have a 4yo son and 1yo TWIN girls so our hands are super full!!
I did however start school in late 2019 and due to having kids and taking some time off for that, my education has been extended a bit. My school faculty is also short staffed so there has been 2-3 semesters of waiting around so to say.
It looks like I will be able to graduate in spring of 2025. I will have my BS in CIS computer information systems. I have had many classes that I hope to aid me in getting hired after graduation. Some of these classes include C# programming 1&2, Data structures, Cryptography, DBMS 1&2, android/ios dev, web admin, and a few others.
Now with being a full time student/dad/husband/job I do not have the time to take an internship. Do you think I could possibly get on somewhere and work for free for a while and try to "earn" a spot? Or should I just grind away at applications for a year? If you know of any opportunities or ideas please let me know. I currently work a weekend shift which is new and has helped me free up alot of time M-Thursday.
Thanks to anyone who made it to the end!
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2024.05.18 06:24 LucyAriaRose New Updates: He (42m) is so jealous of our kids and it’s starting to scare me (35f). Is this family and marriage even savable?
I am still NOT the Original Poster. That is u/ThrowRA-scarecrow. She posted in relationship_advice. Thank you to u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for the original recommendation and to u/ivy5kin for letting me know about the update
Previous BORU here. New Updates (starting with one from a few months ago and ending with one 7 days old) marked with ****\*
Mood Spoiler: utterly terrifying and disturbing
Original Post: March 16, 2024
My husband (42m) and I (35f) tried for so long to have our boys and girl. Due to a health issue my husband suffered he developed fertility issues and we had to get medical assistance to be able to have our children because if we didn’t he’d probably never have kids. So we went through fertility treatment. He desperately wanted his own biological children and we spent a fortune just to bring them into the world and now he’s jealous and distant with them?
He’s constantly in competition with his own infant children. If I hold the children he gets frustrated. Any time they take my attention away he gets completely pissy. He’s always in a foul mood, irritable and just down right nasty. I don’t understand it. Why is he like this? Our children are barely 6 months and they won’t stop crying every time he’s near. I feel like they can sense his negativity. I tried talking to him. Ive suggested he take interest in the kids and spend more time with us as a family. I know it can sometimes take a little longer for parents to bond with their children but this is down right scary to experience. He’s full of jealousy and envy. He sees our children as competition to my time and affections.
A few times now he has made comments about feeling frustrated that I still breast feed our children. The thing is we mix feed so he has had ample opportunity to feed them and he just doesn’t. He also said that this (meaning our life&our marriage after children) wasn’t what he thought it would be like. I mean what did he expect? A singular baby cries and three of them cry a lot.
We’ve been together for 8 years and married for 7 years. He wanted these children. He pushed for them and now this. I never thought this would ever be me. I am scared. I am scared for my children. I have tried talking to him but he just brushes me off. I’ve suggested counseling. He refuses. He tells me it’s all in my head. I want to save this marriage but I am scared I won’t be able to and maybe it’s not worth saving.
He comes home later everyday. He avoids us on the weekends and any time he has off. I’m not ashamed to say that I went through his phone and there are a lot flirtatious text between him and a “Jessica”. I don’t think anything has happened between them but it sure looks like they are building up to it. I haven’t said anything because I’m afraid. Where do I go with three children, with no money and no family that can help me? I haven’t worked in two years and I’ve spent all my savings on having these children. My mind is in a complete meltdown. I can’t sleep I can’t think and I’m always exhausted.
What the hell happened? Is this him now forever?
Edit: Some of you are some real evil bastards ! Stop blaming me for him mistreating me! I do not deserve to be treated this way and neither do my kids! Stop messaging me evil things!
Relevant Comments:
Examples of 'competition':
If I’m with the kids and say I’m feeding them he gets upset I’m focusing on them and not him, or as he likes to say I’m fussing over them. He expects they sleep through the night and gets upset when I’m with them instead of in bed with him. He has even made weird comments about me loving them more than him.
Did he really want kids or did YOU want kids?
Due to my husband’s fertility issues he was the one pushing for us to have kids. He knew early on that he had a health condition and wanted us to have children way earlier but I asked if we could wait but then his condition worsened so we agreed to get treatment before he couldn’t have any kids. He desperately wanted to be a father and they are biologically ours. His desire to be a father was one of the qualities I liked about him when we started dating.
I’ve always worked and the plan was for me to stay home for the first 2/3 years and perhaps work part time until the kids were school aged. But that’s out the window now because I don’t want to ever be this vulnerable! I’ve been brushing off my cv and scouring the internet for a job. I will never allow myself to be this vulnerable again.
Does he help at ALL? Do you have a support system you could go to?
He doesn’t help me at all. I take care of our kids on my own. My parents are long gone and my sister is abroad. She stayed with us for the birth and a month after the children were born. She lives in France but she’s due to return home this summer. So I know I’ll have her help when she’s back. But I’m trying not to bother her as she’s going through a divorce.
I’ve suggested couples counseling and he refuses. He says everything is in my head.
I’m actually even crying writing this but I do have a small to go bag in the trunk of my car. Just incase. I feel like I’m not being rational because he doesn’t hurt me or the kids but I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells. Like what happened to my happy go lucky husband? Who’s this person I’m afraid of?
Are they his biologically? Did you guys go to a support group for infertility treatment?
We didn’t use any sperm or egg donations. The kids are his and mine biologically.
We also went to a support group, two support groups actually. One of them was for couples and the other for men experiencing infertility. He also went to individual therapy to deal with his emotional issues around infertility.
Update Post: March 19, 2024 (3 days later)
Title: He’s (42m) been pinching my (35f) babies?
Thank you to the person who said I should watch his interactions with my babies more closely and frequently. Not even hours after I posted here asking for advice I caught him pinching my son!
While I was scrolling on here and replying to people I decided to check my baby monitor and I watched my husband enter our children’s room and insult them in a hushed and whispery tone. I couldn’t make out much of what he was saying but he was without a doubt telling them that he hated them and wished them dead. Then he pinched my son and my baby boy didn’t even cry which made me think he’s done this many times before.
It all happened so fast and by the time I could make sense of what was happening on the monitor he was already walking down the hallway and down the stairs. At the same time I had lept off the sofa and pretty much tackled him as he came off the stairs. We got into a physical and verbal altercation, we fought, argued and shouted for hours. I guess the police were called by the neighbors because the next thing I know the police are banging on my door. I explained the situation to the police and the officers said that they could not prove that my baby was harmed since he didn’t have a bruise and my baby monitor was only on live feed and not simultaneously recording. Eventually they got my husband to agree to pack a bag and leave. He left reluctantly.
He has since been blowing up my phone begging for forgiveness, talking about how he’s been depressed and stressed by the babies, and that his anxiety and jealousy got the best of him. I just responded once telling him to go fuck himself. I’ve also been in contact with a lawyer and she’s advised me to leave him unblocked incase he further incriminates himself. I don’t even recognize who this man is! Where did this all come from?
How did this happen? Has any other parent experienced this? How did you handle this?
Before y’all start jumping down my throat I am absolutely getting a divorce and I will do everything in my power to get full custody. I did take my children to our family doctor and they are in good health and there are no other signs of abuse. I’ve filled a report with the police and my lawyer is dealing with it. I’m also about to start the process of divorce.
Relevant Comments:
Commenter: He just wants more and better access to his victims. This is someone who gets off on hurting children. Actual human beings who are stressed and depressed do not sneak around abusing children for their dopamine hits.
I’ve set the monitor up to record now! I’ve also ordered a home security system and will be installing it real soon!
On what OOP is doing to protect them:
I’m doing everything I can to protect them! This all happened a few days ago but I am in the process of getting a temporary restraining order. My lawyer is handling it and I understand it takes some time to actually get one and in the meantime I’ve been advised that I can just deny him visitation until he gets a judgement from the courts that forces me to grant him access to my babies but that takes time. So in the meantime he can’t force me or my babies to see him.
I’ve recorded every call and saved ever text. Literally documenting everything. Thankfully he’s saying and texting a goldmine of incriminating things that I hope would be sufficient information for a judge to give me and my babies a restraining/protective order and for family court to grant me primary and sole custody.
Did you tell him you saw the pinch?
Yes. He at first told me I was imagining things. Then switched to saying he was just frustrated our son wouldn’t go to sleep. Then he started saying that he was angry that our son was interrupting our “personal time” and that he was doing it on purpose because the other babies were asleep so why wasn’t he?
Honestly nothing he says makes sense to me. Like my baby boy was just laying there sleepy and he would’ve fallen back to sleep by himself that bastard actually woke him up with his pinching and insults.
He says he went in their room to check up on them and I call bullshit on that he went in there to torment my children. Who in their right mind whispers death to two sleeping babies and a another half asleep baby?!
Did he tell you that over phone or text?
This was on a call which I’ve recorded!
*****Update Post 2: April 10, 2024 (3 weeks after OG post)****\*
Title: How did it go so wrong? For my (36f) birthday he (42m) broke into the house?
Every conversation with him (42m) feels like I’m (36f) losing my mind. The only thing that has kept me semi-sane and able to track what he has been doing is my audio journal and my posts on here.
Last week it was my thirty sixth birthday. Actually I had forgotten it was my birthday and was reminded by my sister that it was in fact my birthday. I decided I couldn’t mope around the house and I got my kids dressed to go shopping and get groceries. We got back and I put away half of the groceries but my babies were fussy and so to tire them out and ready them for bed we went for a walk. When I got back home he was in the kitchen cooking and putting away some of the groceries I had left out. He greeted me and acted normal. I didn’t react because his entire demeanour was freaking me out so I played along. I went upstairs and got the kids down. I did think of walking out the front door but he was kind of anticipating it and so he was following me around and I thought in the moment that the best thing I could do was to get my kids upstairs and away from him. He said he wanted to talk and clear the air because this has “gone on too long”.
We had a long conversation and it started out reasonable but eventually spiralled out of control. We got into physical confrontation because I refused to let him stay. He tried to physically intimidate me and he, well hurt me. While he was hurting me I was still able to contact the police. It took them a excruciatingly long 20/25 minutes to get there.
So here I am sitting with two completely black and blue eyes, a busted lip, swollen face,massive knots on my head and bruises all over. I don’t know what happened to my life or how I got here but here I am. I can’t even look my neighbors in the eyes. I can’t go outside without seeing the shocked faces of people.
I have never felt so ashamed, so humiliated, so hurt and so utterly stupid. I thought I made all the right choices in life. What did I do wrong? When did it all get so fucked? I mean I think I did everything right? Like I created a stable life for myself then picked a man that at time was a very loving partner, I married that man and waited five years before even going through the process of having children with him and now once I’ve had his children he’s just beating on me and our babies?
Edit: My sister is now aware of what’s been happening and she is supporting me as best as she can. I have plans to move out but since I’m not working right now I need some time to save up.
His family is also aware. His family refused to believe that I saw him hurt our child but they can’t deny this attack now that they’ve seen my bruises. Also yes he was arrested and he was bailed out by his brother. He’s currently staying with his brother.
Relevant Comments:
I’m in contact with a dv organization that my lawyer has put me in contact with. I did have a locksmith come out and I have new locks. I also have a couple of safety locks for my windows, and security cameras around the house and I changed our security code but honestly he doesn’t give a shit.
He despite it all broke in and beat the living shit out of me.
Making the audio journal:
I really didn’t make my audio journal to use as evidence. I literally made it because he makes me feel like I’m insane! I never know which version of him I’ll get at any given time. I also keep my journal to keep track of what he says. Every conversation with him makes me lose grip of my fleeting sanity.
Leaving the house:
The biggest reason I haven’t left my home is because he would without a doubt say I abducted the children! I’m already withholding my children from him since I caught him hurting my six month old son.
On advice of my lawyer I have stayed put. It’s my best option for now and it shows that I’ve been reasonably measured in my actions.
Restraining order?
I am in the process of getting one.
Update Post 3: April 25, 2024 (15 days later, almost 6 weeks from OG post)
Title: It was all for the love of another woman? Who barely knew of his existence? He (42m) hurt my (36f) children to further his own selfish desires
I say all of this without exaggeration. I am certain he was getting ready to kill us. After nearly 8 months of turmoil I’m finally close to understanding.
My soon to be ex husband is in love with a woman he came across on social media and he has been obsessing over her for at least a year. She also happens to be a sex worker and he was paying her for her time and attention. In his mind he believed they could have a future together if only he could get rid of my children and me. Even though this woman gave him no inkling that she even wanted to be with him. He has spent so much of our money on this woman. I am at a loss for words that could accurately describe the situation. I can barely believe half of the things he’s been up to.
I’ve spent the past few weeks playing detective and I finally decided to contact “Jessica”. This is obviously not her name but I need to call her something. I contacted Jessica and at first she was very reluctant to speak to me but I literally begged her to and she was kind enough to get on the phone with me.
She told me that she had been seeing him for awhile but she stopped seeing him because he started to scare her. He was sending her unhinged messages and voicemails. He had been stalking her and trying to convince her to be with him. Jessica eventually stopped seeing him and had him blocked and I guess this is when he started to escalate from emotional abuse to physically abusing my children and myself. He was looking for a way out and in his crazy mind, killing us would free him because the only reason Jessica wouldn’t be with him was because me and my children were in the way.
During our long call I also explained to Jessica what had been happening to me and she was genuinely kind and helpful. She also agreed to speak to my lawyer and to send them the thousands of unhinged texts, voicemails and voice notes he sent her. For a little while after our conversation a part of me genuinely hated Jessica and wanted to blame her for everything but the rational part of me pushed out those unreasonable and dangerous thoughts especially after I read his disturbing texts and heard his voicemail/notes to Jessica. She has also been victimized by him.
Honestly there is nothing like listening to your husband and father of your children talk about how you and your children mean nothing to him and how he wishes you were dead. He could’ve just asked for a divorce or just got up and left. I sent him a few texts asking him why? (this was a one time thing and since then I’ve stopped all contact) Why do all of this? Why torment my babies? Why not just walk away? He responded with a message saying any conversation between us should be through our lawyers. His parents have him lawyered up. They know what he’s been up to and they’ve chosen to protect him. His father came to see me and in a not so direct way suggested he could pay me if I stopped talking about what his son has done and was planning on doing. Ever since he broke into the house and pretty much tried to kill me I’ve told anyone who’d listen what he has done. At this point even his colleagues know.
Relevant Comments:
I have emergency custody of my kids and a protective order. I’m in the process of getting two trained guard dogs haven’t gotten very far though and I have a security system.
I’m also seriously considering a gun. More than seriously actually I’ve applied for a permit. Of course I do plan on taking lessons in gun safety and training.
Be careful with the dogs, he may just kill them:
He probably would but the few seconds to minutes he needs in order to do that is perhaps the chance I need to save my children and myself.
This may seem horrible to you but I rather have them as a buffer then my children getting harmed. I of course don’t want this to happen but I’m in a situation now where I need to do everything I can to protect my children.
His parents:
Oh they really are bastards and refuse to believe their precious son could ever do the things he’s done despite the fact that I installed security cameras after I caught him abusing my babies and despite the fact that my neighbors have signed witness statements attesting to the fact that they saw him break into my house and attack me. They’ve seen the police report. They’ve seen the pictures of my battered face and bruised body. They are feigning ignorance but they know, and I know they know.
You don't want to give him ammunition in the divorce- maybe stop telling people?
Actually me telling people has been the best thing I’ve done so far. It’s what has kept me safe. My neighbors now look out for his car and call the police if they see he’s anywhere near the house.
What was he like before all of this? Were there any signs?
We’ve been married for nearly 8 years. Will actually be 8 years in 2 months. We never had any issues. Sure we had minor squabbles but that was few and far in between. Never did I have any issues that would lead me to think that he’d try to hurt us let alone kill us.
It was during my pregnancy and birth that he became verbally and emotionally abusive, this is also the time period he met Jessica and started fantasizing about running away with her. He was angry and jealous that my attention was more on the pregnancy and the babies and this built resentment towards me and my children. It also pushed him more into his obsession with Jessica and when he was also rejected by her, he spiraled into this insane mindset. At the same time he escalated into verbally and physically abusing our infant children and when I found out he hurt my children, I attacked him. I caught him hurting my son and we physically fought and my neighbors called the police and he was escorted out of the house. Then he came back and broke into the house, he attacked me and beat me into a bloody mess. He was arrested for this. I’ve since attained a lawyer and I’ve been granted emergency custody and a protective order.
Again- why isn't he in jail?
He’s out on bail.
Update Post 3: May 11, 2024 (2+ weeks later)
Editor's note: This post was deleted by reddit. I have transcribed it from this youtube video and this tiktok video
Title: My (36f) husband (42m) has been arrested for stalking and attempting to abduct his former “mistress”.
Last week Thursday at approximately 2:00 AM in the morning, my (36F) husband (42m) of nearly 8 years was arrested outside of Jessica's house, (the sex worker he met online and used to pay to spend time with him until he started to creep her out by his stalking and obsession.)
When he was arrested, they found in his truck small baggies with drug residue and they also found tools of abduction. I honestly do not know what these are exactly.
My soon to be ex FIL called me at around 4:45/4:50 AM to tell me that his son was arrested. My FIL was the one who used the term tools of abduction. When I asked him what the hell that means, he said he didn't have time for my interrogation tactics. He then asked if I could help them find a lawyer for him and to stand by his son throughout all of this. When I said to him "how the hell am I supposed to find a lawyer this early in the morning," he lost his shit and then was just screaming.
My soon to be ex MIL took over the phone, telling me that I'm a goddamn b****, and that all this is my fault. I hung up before she could say anymore.
I never knew this man to take drugs. Sure, he drank occasionally, but hard drugs? I honestly don't know what's happening anymore or how I got here. I mean it does make sense he was on cocaine the past 7/8 months now that I look back at things.
I mean, I don't even know anything about drugs to be able to recognize the behavior pattern, but once I researched it, it seemed clear. The moodiness, the disappearances, the lies, the anger, the sudden outburst and the violence- it all points to drug usage, as well as him being an abusive piece of shit.
His parents and the rest of his family had called and texted me so much abusive shit and they occasionally switched to begging me to go see him or pick up his calls, but I've mainly ignored them. I don't have the time, the energy or the love that is needed to be there for this man and his parents. I've given him eight years of my love and affection, and he spat it back into my face during the hardest and most vulnerable time of my life
Also, why would they think I'd help him after everything he's done? Especially since I think he deserves to be in jail for not only hurting my children, but also for hurting myself and Jessica.
I hope and pray he's jailed for the rest of his natural life. I mean I've tried being a good wife, but he has attacked my children. He has attacked me. He has lied and tormented us, and I'm supposed to help him?
I don't even know how I got here. How did we get here?
I've packed everything up and I'm leaving. I'm disappearing with my kids, and anything else between me and these people can be handled through my lawyer. The only person who knows where I'm moving to is my lawyer and my sister. I mean what else can I do to protect my children? His entire family blames me. And how do I keep my head high when I'm now being treated like I'm an evil and disgusting person by pretty much everyone I once called a family? These people are trying to destroy me inside and out, and I don't know how to survive them. How am I supposed to rebuild my life when they won't stop tormenting me?
In less than a year of their birth, I've managed to fail my children...
TLDR: My soon to be ex-husband was arrested while stalking his former mistress/sex worker and during his arrest they found drug residue and tools for abduction
Relevant Comments:
Change your surname/the kids' surnames:
My kids and I have double-barreled surnames (my surname and their dads) but when I can we will drop his and we’ll all go by just mine.
People blaming OOP:
The sad fucking thing it’s not only his parents. It seems like everyone is blaming me.
OOP's response to a crappy (now deleted) comment:
“ You need to discover the reasons why you failed to notice or do anything about everything that was going on with him. You have to build skills so you can take full ownership over your own life.”
This genuinely has me fucking raging right now! I feel like everyone keeps blaming me!
And I don’t know why everyone keeps blaming me for his shit! We didn’t have any problems in the previous 7 years of our marriage. He started doing drugs during my pregnancy and this is when he started to behave abnormally. I tried to get him help because I thought it was depression or the stress of being a new parent.
When I noticed his irritablity, combativeness and generally shitty behavior was more than just depression or jealousy of me spending more time with my new born children, I kicked him out, I got a lawyer and involved the police because there no way in hell I’d stay with someone who hurt my children or let him get away with it and I also made sure to get emergency custody of my children. This is also around the same time when he spiralled into using more drugs. I don’t know what else I could’ve done but I know I took all the right steps when I noticed his escalation!
I’m so sick of everyone acting like I was making him do drugs and like I’m suppose to know that he’d ruin my life after having had a good marriage before he started taking drugs and going out of his mind.
What has your lawyer said about disappearing?
I currently have emergency custody. My lawyer is the one who suggested to disappear (meaning moving to new house and not letting anyone know) because she says this is a time of great danger and I heartily agree. Since my ex-husband first went to look for me at the house but me and my children went to stay somewhere else for a few days because I was scared he’d come back after he broke into the house previously and attacked me.
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Previous BORU here. New Updates (starting with one from a few months ago and ending with one 7 days old) marked with ****\*
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Trigger Warnings: infant abuse; spousal abuse; drug use; stalking; kidnapping attemptMood Spoiler: utterly terrifying and disturbing
Original Post: March 16, 2024
My husband (42m) and I (35f) tried for so long to have our boys and girl. Due to a health issue my husband suffered he developed fertility issues and we had to get medical assistance to be able to have our children because if we didn’t he’d probably never have kids. So we went through fertility treatment. He desperately wanted his own biological children and we spent a fortune just to bring them into the world and now he’s jealous and distant with them?
He’s constantly in competition with his own infant children. If I hold the children he gets frustrated. Any time they take my attention away he gets completely pissy. He’s always in a foul mood, irritable and just down right nasty. I don’t understand it. Why is he like this? Our children are barely 6 months and they won’t stop crying every time he’s near. I feel like they can sense his negativity. I tried talking to him. Ive suggested he take interest in the kids and spend more time with us as a family. I know it can sometimes take a little longer for parents to bond with their children but this is down right scary to experience. He’s full of jealousy and envy. He sees our children as competition to my time and affections.
A few times now he has made comments about feeling frustrated that I still breast feed our children. The thing is we mix feed so he has had ample opportunity to feed them and he just doesn’t. He also said that this (meaning our life&our marriage after children) wasn’t what he thought it would be like. I mean what did he expect? A singular baby cries and three of them cry a lot.
We’ve been together for 8 years and married for 7 years. He wanted these children. He pushed for them and now this. I never thought this would ever be me. I am scared. I am scared for my children. I have tried talking to him but he just brushes me off. I’ve suggested counseling. He refuses. He tells me it’s all in my head. I want to save this marriage but I am scared I won’t be able to and maybe it’s not worth saving.
He comes home later everyday. He avoids us on the weekends and any time he has off. I’m not ashamed to say that I went through his phone and there are a lot flirtatious text between him and a “Jessica”. I don’t think anything has happened between them but it sure looks like they are building up to it. I haven’t said anything because I’m afraid. Where do I go with three children, with no money and no family that can help me? I haven’t worked in two years and I’ve spent all my savings on having these children. My mind is in a complete meltdown. I can’t sleep I can’t think and I’m always exhausted.
What the hell happened? Is this him now forever?
Edit: Some of you are some real evil bastards ! Stop blaming me for him mistreating me! I do not deserve to be treated this way and neither do my kids! Stop messaging me evil things!
Relevant Comments:
Examples of 'competition':
If I’m with the kids and say I’m feeding them he gets upset I’m focusing on them and not him, or as he likes to say I’m fussing over them. He expects they sleep through the night and gets upset when I’m with them instead of in bed with him. He has even made weird comments about me loving them more than him.
Did he really want kids or did YOU want kids?
Due to my husband’s fertility issues he was the one pushing for us to have kids. He knew early on that he had a health condition and wanted us to have children way earlier but I asked if we could wait but then his condition worsened so we agreed to get treatment before he couldn’t have any kids. He desperately wanted to be a father and they are biologically ours. His desire to be a father was one of the qualities I liked about him when we started dating.
I’ve always worked and the plan was for me to stay home for the first 2/3 years and perhaps work part time until the kids were school aged. But that’s out the window now because I don’t want to ever be this vulnerable! I’ve been brushing off my cv and scouring the internet for a job. I will never allow myself to be this vulnerable again.
Does he help at ALL? Do you have a support system you could go to?
He doesn’t help me at all. I take care of our kids on my own. My parents are long gone and my sister is abroad. She stayed with us for the birth and a month after the children were born. She lives in France but she’s due to return home this summer. So I know I’ll have her help when she’s back. But I’m trying not to bother her as she’s going through a divorce.
I’ve suggested couples counseling and he refuses. He says everything is in my head.
I’m actually even crying writing this but I do have a small to go bag in the trunk of my car. Just incase. I feel like I’m not being rational because he doesn’t hurt me or the kids but I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells. Like what happened to my happy go lucky husband? Who’s this person I’m afraid of?
Are they his biologically? Did you guys go to a support group for infertility treatment?
We didn’t use any sperm or egg donations. The kids are his and mine biologically.
We also went to a support group, two support groups actually. One of them was for couples and the other for men experiencing infertility. He also went to individual therapy to deal with his emotional issues around infertility.
Update Post: March 19, 2024 (3 days later)
Title: He’s (42m) been pinching my (35f) babies?
Thank you to the person who said I should watch his interactions with my babies more closely and frequently. Not even hours after I posted here asking for advice I caught him pinching my son!
While I was scrolling on here and replying to people I decided to check my baby monitor and I watched my husband enter our children’s room and insult them in a hushed and whispery tone. I couldn’t make out much of what he was saying but he was without a doubt telling them that he hated them and wished them dead. Then he pinched my son and my baby boy didn’t even cry which made me think he’s done this many times before.
It all happened so fast and by the time I could make sense of what was happening on the monitor he was already walking down the hallway and down the stairs. At the same time I had lept off the sofa and pretty much tackled him as he came off the stairs. We got into a physical and verbal altercation, we fought, argued and shouted for hours. I guess the police were called by the neighbors because the next thing I know the police are banging on my door. I explained the situation to the police and the officers said that they could not prove that my baby was harmed since he didn’t have a bruise and my baby monitor was only on live feed and not simultaneously recording. Eventually they got my husband to agree to pack a bag and leave. He left reluctantly.
He has since been blowing up my phone begging for forgiveness, talking about how he’s been depressed and stressed by the babies, and that his anxiety and jealousy got the best of him. I just responded once telling him to go fuck himself. I’ve also been in contact with a lawyer and she’s advised me to leave him unblocked incase he further incriminates himself. I don’t even recognize who this man is! Where did this all come from?
How did this happen? Has any other parent experienced this? How did you handle this?
Before y’all start jumping down my throat I am absolutely getting a divorce and I will do everything in my power to get full custody. I did take my children to our family doctor and they are in good health and there are no other signs of abuse. I’ve filled a report with the police and my lawyer is dealing with it. I’m also about to start the process of divorce.
Relevant Comments:
Commenter: He just wants more and better access to his victims. This is someone who gets off on hurting children. Actual human beings who are stressed and depressed do not sneak around abusing children for their dopamine hits.
OOP: Exactly! I’m tired, stressed, depressed and I’m physically still not fully healed from the pregnancy and the cesarean birth but not once have I thought of hurting anyone let alone a baby! I don’t buy his bullshit excuses. He clearly knew what he was doing was wrong otherwise he wouldn’t have been sneaking around and being all hush hush. I do not believe him for one second. He’s a goddamn beastly man.Update the monitor to one that records:
I’ve set the monitor up to record now! I’ve also ordered a home security system and will be installing it real soon!
On what OOP is doing to protect them:
I’m doing everything I can to protect them! This all happened a few days ago but I am in the process of getting a temporary restraining order. My lawyer is handling it and I understand it takes some time to actually get one and in the meantime I’ve been advised that I can just deny him visitation until he gets a judgement from the courts that forces me to grant him access to my babies but that takes time. So in the meantime he can’t force me or my babies to see him.
I’ve recorded every call and saved ever text. Literally documenting everything. Thankfully he’s saying and texting a goldmine of incriminating things that I hope would be sufficient information for a judge to give me and my babies a restraining/protective order and for family court to grant me primary and sole custody.
Did you tell him you saw the pinch?
Yes. He at first told me I was imagining things. Then switched to saying he was just frustrated our son wouldn’t go to sleep. Then he started saying that he was angry that our son was interrupting our “personal time” and that he was doing it on purpose because the other babies were asleep so why wasn’t he?
Honestly nothing he says makes sense to me. Like my baby boy was just laying there sleepy and he would’ve fallen back to sleep by himself that bastard actually woke him up with his pinching and insults.
He says he went in their room to check up on them and I call bullshit on that he went in there to torment my children. Who in their right mind whispers death to two sleeping babies and a another half asleep baby?!
Did he tell you that over phone or text?
This was on a call which I’ve recorded!
*****Update Post 2: April 10, 2024 (3 weeks after OG post)****\*
Title: How did it go so wrong? For my (36f) birthday he (42m) broke into the house?
Every conversation with him (42m) feels like I’m (36f) losing my mind. The only thing that has kept me semi-sane and able to track what he has been doing is my audio journal and my posts on here.
Last week it was my thirty sixth birthday. Actually I had forgotten it was my birthday and was reminded by my sister that it was in fact my birthday. I decided I couldn’t mope around the house and I got my kids dressed to go shopping and get groceries. We got back and I put away half of the groceries but my babies were fussy and so to tire them out and ready them for bed we went for a walk. When I got back home he was in the kitchen cooking and putting away some of the groceries I had left out. He greeted me and acted normal. I didn’t react because his entire demeanour was freaking me out so I played along. I went upstairs and got the kids down. I did think of walking out the front door but he was kind of anticipating it and so he was following me around and I thought in the moment that the best thing I could do was to get my kids upstairs and away from him. He said he wanted to talk and clear the air because this has “gone on too long”.
We had a long conversation and it started out reasonable but eventually spiralled out of control. We got into physical confrontation because I refused to let him stay. He tried to physically intimidate me and he, well hurt me. While he was hurting me I was still able to contact the police. It took them a excruciatingly long 20/25 minutes to get there.
So here I am sitting with two completely black and blue eyes, a busted lip, swollen face,massive knots on my head and bruises all over. I don’t know what happened to my life or how I got here but here I am. I can’t even look my neighbors in the eyes. I can’t go outside without seeing the shocked faces of people.
I have never felt so ashamed, so humiliated, so hurt and so utterly stupid. I thought I made all the right choices in life. What did I do wrong? When did it all get so fucked? I mean I think I did everything right? Like I created a stable life for myself then picked a man that at time was a very loving partner, I married that man and waited five years before even going through the process of having children with him and now once I’ve had his children he’s just beating on me and our babies?
Edit: My sister is now aware of what’s been happening and she is supporting me as best as she can. I have plans to move out but since I’m not working right now I need some time to save up.
His family is also aware. His family refused to believe that I saw him hurt our child but they can’t deny this attack now that they’ve seen my bruises. Also yes he was arrested and he was bailed out by his brother. He’s currently staying with his brother.
Relevant Comments:
I’m in contact with a dv organization that my lawyer has put me in contact with. I did have a locksmith come out and I have new locks. I also have a couple of safety locks for my windows, and security cameras around the house and I changed our security code but honestly he doesn’t give a shit.
He despite it all broke in and beat the living shit out of me.
Making the audio journal:
I really didn’t make my audio journal to use as evidence. I literally made it because he makes me feel like I’m insane! I never know which version of him I’ll get at any given time. I also keep my journal to keep track of what he says. Every conversation with him makes me lose grip of my fleeting sanity.
Leaving the house:
The biggest reason I haven’t left my home is because he would without a doubt say I abducted the children! I’m already withholding my children from him since I caught him hurting my six month old son.
On advice of my lawyer I have stayed put. It’s my best option for now and it shows that I’ve been reasonably measured in my actions.
Restraining order?
I am in the process of getting one.
Update Post 3: April 25, 2024 (15 days later, almost 6 weeks from OG post)
Title: It was all for the love of another woman? Who barely knew of his existence? He (42m) hurt my (36f) children to further his own selfish desires
I say all of this without exaggeration. I am certain he was getting ready to kill us. After nearly 8 months of turmoil I’m finally close to understanding.
My soon to be ex husband is in love with a woman he came across on social media and he has been obsessing over her for at least a year. She also happens to be a sex worker and he was paying her for her time and attention. In his mind he believed they could have a future together if only he could get rid of my children and me. Even though this woman gave him no inkling that she even wanted to be with him. He has spent so much of our money on this woman. I am at a loss for words that could accurately describe the situation. I can barely believe half of the things he’s been up to.
I’ve spent the past few weeks playing detective and I finally decided to contact “Jessica”. This is obviously not her name but I need to call her something. I contacted Jessica and at first she was very reluctant to speak to me but I literally begged her to and she was kind enough to get on the phone with me.
She told me that she had been seeing him for awhile but she stopped seeing him because he started to scare her. He was sending her unhinged messages and voicemails. He had been stalking her and trying to convince her to be with him. Jessica eventually stopped seeing him and had him blocked and I guess this is when he started to escalate from emotional abuse to physically abusing my children and myself. He was looking for a way out and in his crazy mind, killing us would free him because the only reason Jessica wouldn’t be with him was because me and my children were in the way.
During our long call I also explained to Jessica what had been happening to me and she was genuinely kind and helpful. She also agreed to speak to my lawyer and to send them the thousands of unhinged texts, voicemails and voice notes he sent her. For a little while after our conversation a part of me genuinely hated Jessica and wanted to blame her for everything but the rational part of me pushed out those unreasonable and dangerous thoughts especially after I read his disturbing texts and heard his voicemail/notes to Jessica. She has also been victimized by him.
Honestly there is nothing like listening to your husband and father of your children talk about how you and your children mean nothing to him and how he wishes you were dead. He could’ve just asked for a divorce or just got up and left. I sent him a few texts asking him why? (this was a one time thing and since then I’ve stopped all contact) Why do all of this? Why torment my babies? Why not just walk away? He responded with a message saying any conversation between us should be through our lawyers. His parents have him lawyered up. They know what he’s been up to and they’ve chosen to protect him. His father came to see me and in a not so direct way suggested he could pay me if I stopped talking about what his son has done and was planning on doing. Ever since he broke into the house and pretty much tried to kill me I’ve told anyone who’d listen what he has done. At this point even his colleagues know.
Relevant Comments:
I have emergency custody of my kids and a protective order. I’m in the process of getting two trained guard dogs haven’t gotten very far though and I have a security system.
I’m also seriously considering a gun. More than seriously actually I’ve applied for a permit. Of course I do plan on taking lessons in gun safety and training.
Be careful with the dogs, he may just kill them:
He probably would but the few seconds to minutes he needs in order to do that is perhaps the chance I need to save my children and myself.
This may seem horrible to you but I rather have them as a buffer then my children getting harmed. I of course don’t want this to happen but I’m in a situation now where I need to do everything I can to protect my children.
His parents:
Oh they really are bastards and refuse to believe their precious son could ever do the things he’s done despite the fact that I installed security cameras after I caught him abusing my babies and despite the fact that my neighbors have signed witness statements attesting to the fact that they saw him break into my house and attack me. They’ve seen the police report. They’ve seen the pictures of my battered face and bruised body. They are feigning ignorance but they know, and I know they know.
You don't want to give him ammunition in the divorce- maybe stop telling people?
Actually me telling people has been the best thing I’ve done so far. It’s what has kept me safe. My neighbors now look out for his car and call the police if they see he’s anywhere near the house.
What was he like before all of this? Were there any signs?
We’ve been married for nearly 8 years. Will actually be 8 years in 2 months. We never had any issues. Sure we had minor squabbles but that was few and far in between. Never did I have any issues that would lead me to think that he’d try to hurt us let alone kill us.
It was during my pregnancy and birth that he became verbally and emotionally abusive, this is also the time period he met Jessica and started fantasizing about running away with her. He was angry and jealous that my attention was more on the pregnancy and the babies and this built resentment towards me and my children. It also pushed him more into his obsession with Jessica and when he was also rejected by her, he spiraled into this insane mindset. At the same time he escalated into verbally and physically abusing our infant children and when I found out he hurt my children, I attacked him. I caught him hurting my son and we physically fought and my neighbors called the police and he was escorted out of the house. Then he came back and broke into the house, he attacked me and beat me into a bloody mess. He was arrested for this. I’ve since attained a lawyer and I’ve been granted emergency custody and a protective order.
Again- why isn't he in jail?
He’s out on bail.
Update Post 3: May 11, 2024 (2+ weeks later)
Editor's note: This post was deleted by reddit. I have transcribed it from this youtube video and this tiktok video
Title: My (36f) husband (42m) has been arrested for stalking and attempting to abduct his former “mistress”.
Last week Thursday at approximately 2:00 AM in the morning, my (36F) husband (42m) of nearly 8 years was arrested outside of Jessica's house, (the sex worker he met online and used to pay to spend time with him until he started to creep her out by his stalking and obsession.)
When he was arrested, they found in his truck small baggies with drug residue and they also found tools of abduction. I honestly do not know what these are exactly.
My soon to be ex FIL called me at around 4:45/4:50 AM to tell me that his son was arrested. My FIL was the one who used the term tools of abduction. When I asked him what the hell that means, he said he didn't have time for my interrogation tactics. He then asked if I could help them find a lawyer for him and to stand by his son throughout all of this. When I said to him "how the hell am I supposed to find a lawyer this early in the morning," he lost his shit and then was just screaming.
My soon to be ex MIL took over the phone, telling me that I'm a goddamn b****, and that all this is my fault. I hung up before she could say anymore.
I never knew this man to take drugs. Sure, he drank occasionally, but hard drugs? I honestly don't know what's happening anymore or how I got here. I mean it does make sense he was on cocaine the past 7/8 months now that I look back at things.
I mean, I don't even know anything about drugs to be able to recognize the behavior pattern, but once I researched it, it seemed clear. The moodiness, the disappearances, the lies, the anger, the sudden outburst and the violence- it all points to drug usage, as well as him being an abusive piece of shit.
His parents and the rest of his family had called and texted me so much abusive shit and they occasionally switched to begging me to go see him or pick up his calls, but I've mainly ignored them. I don't have the time, the energy or the love that is needed to be there for this man and his parents. I've given him eight years of my love and affection, and he spat it back into my face during the hardest and most vulnerable time of my life
Also, why would they think I'd help him after everything he's done? Especially since I think he deserves to be in jail for not only hurting my children, but also for hurting myself and Jessica.
I hope and pray he's jailed for the rest of his natural life. I mean I've tried being a good wife, but he has attacked my children. He has attacked me. He has lied and tormented us, and I'm supposed to help him?
I don't even know how I got here. How did we get here?
I've packed everything up and I'm leaving. I'm disappearing with my kids, and anything else between me and these people can be handled through my lawyer. The only person who knows where I'm moving to is my lawyer and my sister. I mean what else can I do to protect my children? His entire family blames me. And how do I keep my head high when I'm now being treated like I'm an evil and disgusting person by pretty much everyone I once called a family? These people are trying to destroy me inside and out, and I don't know how to survive them. How am I supposed to rebuild my life when they won't stop tormenting me?
In less than a year of their birth, I've managed to fail my children...
TLDR: My soon to be ex-husband was arrested while stalking his former mistress/sex worker and during his arrest they found drug residue and tools for abduction
Relevant Comments:
Change your surname/the kids' surnames:
My kids and I have double-barreled surnames (my surname and their dads) but when I can we will drop his and we’ll all go by just mine.
People blaming OOP:
The sad fucking thing it’s not only his parents. It seems like everyone is blaming me.
OOP's response to a crappy (now deleted) comment:
“ You need to discover the reasons why you failed to notice or do anything about everything that was going on with him. You have to build skills so you can take full ownership over your own life.”
This genuinely has me fucking raging right now! I feel like everyone keeps blaming me!
And I don’t know why everyone keeps blaming me for his shit! We didn’t have any problems in the previous 7 years of our marriage. He started doing drugs during my pregnancy and this is when he started to behave abnormally. I tried to get him help because I thought it was depression or the stress of being a new parent.
When I noticed his irritablity, combativeness and generally shitty behavior was more than just depression or jealousy of me spending more time with my new born children, I kicked him out, I got a lawyer and involved the police because there no way in hell I’d stay with someone who hurt my children or let him get away with it and I also made sure to get emergency custody of my children. This is also around the same time when he spiralled into using more drugs. I don’t know what else I could’ve done but I know I took all the right steps when I noticed his escalation!
I’m so sick of everyone acting like I was making him do drugs and like I’m suppose to know that he’d ruin my life after having had a good marriage before he started taking drugs and going out of his mind.
What has your lawyer said about disappearing?
I currently have emergency custody. My lawyer is the one who suggested to disappear (meaning moving to new house and not letting anyone know) because she says this is a time of great danger and I heartily agree. Since my ex-husband first went to look for me at the house but me and my children went to stay somewhere else for a few days because I was scared he’d come back after he broke into the house previously and attacked me.
2024.05.18 06:13 MeFukina For lDreaml girl
lDreamtlwokeup
God gave us free will. But just because we can think any thought, do any action and create anything...doesn't mean we should. The tree of knowledge included evil/fear. God warned Adam (man) not to eat from it. But because Adam had free will he did anyways. Adam learned about evil and it was so horrific he didn't fall asleep...he fainted and hasn't yet awaken.
Healing from fear is important. But embracing it and "allowing it to come in" is not. That is the logic of a fallen one.
Say I have a fear of having my hand cut off. Do I "let it in" to show it has no meaning? Do I chop off my hand to prove my fear is meaningless and my hand is an illusion? What you advocate is not too dissimilar to this.
There is a consistent theme and pattern in your teachings. Whether you realize it or not, you teach that there are no boundaries (figuratively or literally). This is not a proper spiritual teaching. Spiritual text absolutely establish boundaries. The Course is a good example of this. It tells us to be wary and vigilant of the ego. We are to setup boundaries to keep the ego away and from intruding into our real mind. The Course wants us to practice spiritual discernment. You do not. You have torn down all your mental fences and your ego has escaped to run rampant and ruin your life. You have ignored your guides who have implored you to practice mental discipline and reestablish your will and boundaries. Worse yet, you then teach others how to free their egos to in turn ruin their lives.
Dreaml
🌷 Fukina
****The tree of knowledge included evil/fear. God warned Adam (man) not to eat from it. But because Adam had free will he did anyways. Adam learned about evil and it was so horrific he didn't fall asleep...he fainted and hasn't yet awaken.*****
You know, there are about 5 ideas here that go directly against the course's concepts. And this is not in the course.
Ch. 14, Vii, 2
2 The search for truth is but the honest searching out of everything that interferes with truth. Truth is. It can neither be lost nor sought nor found. It is there, wherever you are, being within you. Yet it can be recognized or unrecognized, real or false to you. If you hide it, it becomes unreal to you because you hid it and surrounded it with fear. Under each cornerstone of fear on which you have erected your insane system of belief, the truth lies hidden. Yet you cannot know this, for by hiding truth in fear, you see no reason to believe that the more you look at fear the less you see it, and the clearer what it conceals becomes.
Fukina 1 yr
This is just a very small thing that I do and it may sound like not it, but it helps me to start to back up from whatever emotion.. I ask, 'what is' really bugging me?' help me jesus. I walk around the house doing whatever 'it', the HS says to do, I can tell by how I feel, I tell myself I have all the time in the world. So I do things, am focused on nothing really. My eyes are just landing on things and I take care of them. I am not focused on the situation but it comes in the anger or insights, I let it ALL come and go through the mind, I let the thoughts finish themselves. Whatever thoughts are there, do not stuff them, allow. Allow yourself room, and to trust God who is in your mind. He has No judgement on you, no punishment He is your Friend and your help. He judges FOR you. Your anger thoughts are meaningless, so there is nothing to feel guilty for... but we want to hear what the egoic mind is telling us, what am I falsely believing?.let it speak. God is in control not your egoic thoughts, they are nothing. God has your 'situation' already solved. Don't grasp for the answer, it will come at exactly the right time. A lot of my answers start with, 'well, maybe...'
Listen. All thoughts.
I also, if I start getting anxious, call on Jesus. In the gaps between thoughts, there is Love 💕
That is the' logic of a fallen one.' really? Wow.
We do not have free will as to whether our Father loves us or not. And we CANNOT separate from Him. Praise God. His loving plan for each of us saves, saved us already. Love is freedom.acim. The egoic self tries to bind us.
Why would you feel the need to cut your hand off to prove Anything? That's a little nutty.
The practice I suggested was a contemplation with Jesus or HS invited to help, I never suggested any physical harm to anyone. What I suggested was to watch and listen and to allow All thoughts. Otherwise you fight with them, When you are the observer you aren't caught in the fear, you may experience some fear but if you allow mind to think it's thoughts, while You watch and 'catch' the thoughts that go along with it and sit with the temporary discomfort, it will 'heal' itself, You find the fear no longer has the meaning you gave it.
It is bringing illusioñ to the truth within.
Yes, Jesus says to practice vigilance. He also says about the ego...don't try to control it, don't get angry at it.... What you resist persists is what I have learned. Vigilance? Would need to be better defined. Imo. Fighting with fear makes illusions If we face our fears, now, it is part of the purificatin process. Sounds like you're afraid of fear.
Amy Torres
The purification process in A Course in Miracles (ACIM) involves letting go of false beliefs, accepting the truth, and stepping into simultaneity. This process allows people to see everything as connected energy instead of time and space. It also involves opening the mind to God's Thought and practicing forgiveness.
The process of purification can help people:
Release guilt
Learn their sanctity
Find the true meaning behind all form
Overlook the dream of separation
Learn that only Love is everywhere
Be led past the clouds of fear to the Light of Love
Be purified of fear
Accept the Love we all are
The ACIM purification process involves:
releasing false beliefs
Accepting the truth
Stepping into simultaneity
Opening the mind to God's Thought
Practicing forgiveness
Recognizing Who you already are
The process can also help people discern between ego and the Holy Spirit, and give attention only to the latter.
Junnies 1 yr.
The 'boundary' of your sister in law is a reflection of the 'boundary' in your own mind, the streak of anger that cuts you off from your loving joyful light flow state. Just as there is still drama between your husband' side, there is still ego-drama in your own mind, some unresolved ego-feelings and thoughts, surfacing for you to love and accept and release!
2 The search for truth is but the honest searching out of everything that interferes with truth. Truth is. It can neither be lost nor sought nor found. It is there, wherever you are, being within you. Yet it can be recognized or unrecognized, real or false to you. If you hide it, it becomes unreal to you because you hid it and surrounded it with fear. Under each cornerstone of fear on which you have erected your insane system of belief, the truth lies hidden. Yet you cannot know this, for by hiding truth in fear, you see no reason to believe that the more you look at fear the less you see it, and the clearer what it conceals becomes.
Lesson 240 Fear is not justified in any form (ACIM, W-240)
Fear is deception.
How foolish are our fears! ²Would You allow Your Son to suffer? ³Give us faith today to recognize Your Son, and set him free. ⁴Let us forgive him in Your Name, that we may understand his holiness, and feel the love for him which is Your Own as well. (ACIM, W-240.1:1;2:1-4)
Lesson 14
God did not make a meaningless world.
The idea for today is, of course, the reason why a meaningless world is impossible. ²What God did not create does not exist. ³And everything that does exist exists as He created it. ⁴The world you see has nothing to do with reality. ⁵It is of your own making, and it does not exist. (ACIM, W-14.1:1-5
Fukina We do not have free will as to whether our Father loves us or not. And we CANNOT separate from Him. Praise God. His loving plan for each of us saves, saved us already. Love is freedom.acim. The egoic self tried to bind us.
Why would you feel the need to cut your hand off to prove anything? The practice I suggested was a contemplation with Jesus or HS invited to help, I never suggested any physical harm to anyone. What I suggested was to watch and listen and to allow All thoughts. Otherwise you fight with them, When you are the observer you aren't caught in the fear, you may experience some fear but if you allow mind to think it's thoughts, while You watch and 'catch' the thoughts that go along with it and sit with the temporary discomfort, it will 'heal' itself, You find the fear no longer has the meaning you gave it.
It is bringing illusioñ to truth.
Yes, Jesus says to practice vigilance. He also says about the egoic thoughts...don't try to control it, don't get angry at it...
Other than being vigilant against the ego, are there any other boundaries he suggests we make?
"God is in control not your egoic thoughts, they are nothing. God has your 'situation' already solved. Don't grasp for the answer, it will come ...-" 1 yr ago
I am not a teacher. I write on reddit for my Self. If anyone benefits, great.
Fukina 1 yr
This is just a very small thing that I do and it may sound like not it, but it helps me to start to back up from whatever emotion.. I ask, 'what is' really bugging me?' help me jesus. I walk around the house doing whatever 'it', the HS says to do, I can tell by how I feel, I tell myself I have all the time in the world. So I do things, am focused on nothing really. My eyes are just landing on things and I take care of them. I am not focused on the situation but it comes in the anger or insights, I let it ALL come and go through the mind, I let the thoughts finish themselves. Whatever thoughts are there, do not stuff them, allow. Allow yourself room, and to trust God who is in your mind. He has No judgement on you, no punishment He is your Friend and your help. He judges FOR you. Your anger thoughts are meaningless, so there is nothing to feel guilty for... but we want to hear what the egoic mind is telling us, what am I falsely believing?.let it speak. God is in control not your egoic thoughts, they are nothing. God has your 'situation' already solved. Don't grasp for the answer, it will come at exactly the right time. A lot of my answers start with, 'well, maybe...'
Listen. All thoughts.
I also, if I start getting anxious, call on Jesus. In the gaps between thoughts, there is Love 💕
Julie Boerst 1yr
It's good that you're feeling the anger. That's the first step in healing.
In my experience, the anger is never caused by the situation that seems to be around it. It definitely seems to be according to the ego's story, memory, and definitions of all the beings I see, but all of that story is made up by ego. My job is to let that story go, thought by thought. The people around us highlight sentences (thoughts) in that story so we can let it go. That's why we owe everyone our gratitude--no exceptions.
One way of looking at it is that they are are light beings enacting a drama just to help us find the thoughts that we need to let go of. When we let go of them, we find our freedom and our happiness.
I don't have to drop the anger. I really do need to feel it because it is a very clear and simple signal that I am believing a lie from ego. The only remedy for anger that I've found is stopping to find out what I believe in that moment. When I find a thought I believe, which is the last thing ego recommends in the middle of a drama, I can bring that thought to the inner light, and I can let it go.
One way of letting the thought go is to focus on your willingness to see things differently. We can't hold onto a thought from ego and focus on our willingness at the same time, so it always works.
Once you have set down that thought from ego, you are ready for a moment of peace and sanity: God goes with me wherever I go.
Under the surface of the characters called wife, husband, and sister, there is a peace and a sanity that is joined. It is not separate. When we learn to gaze at this actual and joined peace and sanity beneath the surface of every drama (and we learn through repetitive practice in situations like this), we learn to focus on the source of all solutions. Situations shift. Solutions appear. Conflicts disappear.
All of this is training in taking our focus off what is unreal and focusing on what is Real. The situations are for our training, and they are no longer wrong. We are all together in this. All things work together for good.
As many times as I need to, I stop and find a thought. I take my gaze off what is unreal. I focus on what is Real. This is the only way that everything becomes clear so I can proceed without judgment.
🙏🩵
A fallen one? Oh shit, now I'm the fallen one - I'd like it if you went to your post above and replace all 'yous' with 'I'.
Peace to you 🧦🦄💌. Gf
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The more you look at fear, the less power it has because you see that since God is love, He did not create fear, we made it up, you did. You imagined it up. 'Fear' can't be real In light of what course teaches, fear is never justified bc God is love, and God is everywhere, always.This is not only incorrect but it is dangerous advice.
God gave us free will. But just because we can think any thought, do any action and create anything...doesn't mean we should. The tree of knowledge included evil/fear. God warned Adam (man) not to eat from it. But because Adam had free will he did anyways. Adam learned about evil and it was so horrific he didn't fall asleep...he fainted and hasn't yet awaken.
Healing from fear is important. But embracing it and "allowing it to come in" is not. That is the logic of a fallen one.
Say I have a fear of having my hand cut off. Do I "let it in" to show it has no meaning? Do I chop off my hand to prove my fear is meaningless and my hand is an illusion? What you advocate is not too dissimilar to this.
There is a consistent theme and pattern in your teachings. Whether you realize it or not, you teach that there are no boundaries (figuratively or literally). This is not a proper spiritual teaching. Spiritual text absolutely establish boundaries. The Course is a good example of this. It tells us to be wary and vigilant of the ego. We are to setup boundaries to keep the ego away and from intruding into our real mind. The Course wants us to practice spiritual discernment. You do not. You have torn down all your mental fences and your ego has escaped to run rampant and ruin your life. You have ignored your guides who have implored you to practice mental discipline and reestablish your will and boundaries. Worse yet, you then teach others how to free their egos to in turn ruin their lives.
Dreaml
🌷 Fukina
****The tree of knowledge included evil/fear. God warned Adam (man) not to eat from it. But because Adam had free will he did anyways. Adam learned about evil and it was so horrific he didn't fall asleep...he fainted and hasn't yet awaken.*****
You know, there are about 5 ideas here that go directly against the course's concepts. And this is not in the course.
Ch. 14, Vii, 2
2 The search for truth is but the honest searching out of everything that interferes with truth. Truth is. It can neither be lost nor sought nor found. It is there, wherever you are, being within you. Yet it can be recognized or unrecognized, real or false to you. If you hide it, it becomes unreal to you because you hid it and surrounded it with fear. Under each cornerstone of fear on which you have erected your insane system of belief, the truth lies hidden. Yet you cannot know this, for by hiding truth in fear, you see no reason to believe that the more you look at fear the less you see it, and the clearer what it conceals becomes.
Fukina 1 yr
This is just a very small thing that I do and it may sound like not it, but it helps me to start to back up from whatever emotion.. I ask, 'what is' really bugging me?' help me jesus. I walk around the house doing whatever 'it', the HS says to do, I can tell by how I feel, I tell myself I have all the time in the world. So I do things, am focused on nothing really. My eyes are just landing on things and I take care of them. I am not focused on the situation but it comes in the anger or insights, I let it ALL come and go through the mind, I let the thoughts finish themselves. Whatever thoughts are there, do not stuff them, allow. Allow yourself room, and to trust God who is in your mind. He has No judgement on you, no punishment He is your Friend and your help. He judges FOR you. Your anger thoughts are meaningless, so there is nothing to feel guilty for... but we want to hear what the egoic mind is telling us, what am I falsely believing?.let it speak. God is in control not your egoic thoughts, they are nothing. God has your 'situation' already solved. Don't grasp for the answer, it will come at exactly the right time. A lot of my answers start with, 'well, maybe...'
Listen. All thoughts.
I also, if I start getting anxious, call on Jesus. In the gaps between thoughts, there is Love 💕
That is the' logic of a fallen one.' really? Wow.
We do not have free will as to whether our Father loves us or not. And we CANNOT separate from Him. Praise God. His loving plan for each of us saves, saved us already. Love is freedom.acim. The egoic self tries to bind us.
Why would you feel the need to cut your hand off to prove Anything? That's a little nutty.
The practice I suggested was a contemplation with Jesus or HS invited to help, I never suggested any physical harm to anyone. What I suggested was to watch and listen and to allow All thoughts. Otherwise you fight with them, When you are the observer you aren't caught in the fear, you may experience some fear but if you allow mind to think it's thoughts, while You watch and 'catch' the thoughts that go along with it and sit with the temporary discomfort, it will 'heal' itself, You find the fear no longer has the meaning you gave it.
It is bringing illusioñ to the truth within.
Yes, Jesus says to practice vigilance. He also says about the ego...don't try to control it, don't get angry at it.... What you resist persists is what I have learned. Vigilance? Would need to be better defined. Imo. Fighting with fear makes illusions If we face our fears, now, it is part of the purificatin process. Sounds like you're afraid of fear.
Amy Torres
The purification process in A Course in Miracles (ACIM) involves letting go of false beliefs, accepting the truth, and stepping into simultaneity. This process allows people to see everything as connected energy instead of time and space. It also involves opening the mind to God's Thought and practicing forgiveness.
The process of purification can help people:
Release guilt
Learn their sanctity
Find the true meaning behind all form
Overlook the dream of separation
Learn that only Love is everywhere
Be led past the clouds of fear to the Light of Love
Be purified of fear
Accept the Love we all are
The ACIM purification process involves:
releasing false beliefs
Accepting the truth
Stepping into simultaneity
Opening the mind to God's Thought
Practicing forgiveness
Recognizing Who you already are
The process can also help people discern between ego and the Holy Spirit, and give attention only to the latter.
Junnies 1 yr.
The 'boundary' of your sister in law is a reflection of the 'boundary' in your own mind, the streak of anger that cuts you off from your loving joyful light flow state. Just as there is still drama between your husband' side, there is still ego-drama in your own mind, some unresolved ego-feelings and thoughts, surfacing for you to love and accept and release!
2 The search for truth is but the honest searching out of everything that interferes with truth. Truth is. It can neither be lost nor sought nor found. It is there, wherever you are, being within you. Yet it can be recognized or unrecognized, real or false to you. If you hide it, it becomes unreal to you because you hid it and surrounded it with fear. Under each cornerstone of fear on which you have erected your insane system of belief, the truth lies hidden. Yet you cannot know this, for by hiding truth in fear, you see no reason to believe that the more you look at fear the less you see it, and the clearer what it conceals becomes.
Lesson 240 Fear is not justified in any form (ACIM, W-240)
Fear is deception.
How foolish are our fears! ²Would You allow Your Son to suffer? ³Give us faith today to recognize Your Son, and set him free. ⁴Let us forgive him in Your Name, that we may understand his holiness, and feel the love for him which is Your Own as well. (ACIM, W-240.1:1;2:1-4)
Lesson 14
God did not make a meaningless world.
The idea for today is, of course, the reason why a meaningless world is impossible. ²What God did not create does not exist. ³And everything that does exist exists as He created it. ⁴The world you see has nothing to do with reality. ⁵It is of your own making, and it does not exist. (ACIM, W-14.1:1-5
Fukina We do not have free will as to whether our Father loves us or not. And we CANNOT separate from Him. Praise God. His loving plan for each of us saves, saved us already. Love is freedom.acim. The egoic self tried to bind us.
Why would you feel the need to cut your hand off to prove anything? The practice I suggested was a contemplation with Jesus or HS invited to help, I never suggested any physical harm to anyone. What I suggested was to watch and listen and to allow All thoughts. Otherwise you fight with them, When you are the observer you aren't caught in the fear, you may experience some fear but if you allow mind to think it's thoughts, while You watch and 'catch' the thoughts that go along with it and sit with the temporary discomfort, it will 'heal' itself, You find the fear no longer has the meaning you gave it.
It is bringing illusioñ to truth.
Yes, Jesus says to practice vigilance. He also says about the egoic thoughts...don't try to control it, don't get angry at it...
Other than being vigilant against the ego, are there any other boundaries he suggests we make?
"God is in control not your egoic thoughts, they are nothing. God has your 'situation' already solved. Don't grasp for the answer, it will come ...-" 1 yr ago
I am not a teacher. I write on reddit for my Self. If anyone benefits, great.
Fukina 1 yr
This is just a very small thing that I do and it may sound like not it, but it helps me to start to back up from whatever emotion.. I ask, 'what is' really bugging me?' help me jesus. I walk around the house doing whatever 'it', the HS says to do, I can tell by how I feel, I tell myself I have all the time in the world. So I do things, am focused on nothing really. My eyes are just landing on things and I take care of them. I am not focused on the situation but it comes in the anger or insights, I let it ALL come and go through the mind, I let the thoughts finish themselves. Whatever thoughts are there, do not stuff them, allow. Allow yourself room, and to trust God who is in your mind. He has No judgement on you, no punishment He is your Friend and your help. He judges FOR you. Your anger thoughts are meaningless, so there is nothing to feel guilty for... but we want to hear what the egoic mind is telling us, what am I falsely believing?.let it speak. God is in control not your egoic thoughts, they are nothing. God has your 'situation' already solved. Don't grasp for the answer, it will come at exactly the right time. A lot of my answers start with, 'well, maybe...'
Listen. All thoughts.
I also, if I start getting anxious, call on Jesus. In the gaps between thoughts, there is Love 💕
Julie Boerst 1yr
It's good that you're feeling the anger. That's the first step in healing.
In my experience, the anger is never caused by the situation that seems to be around it. It definitely seems to be according to the ego's story, memory, and definitions of all the beings I see, but all of that story is made up by ego. My job is to let that story go, thought by thought. The people around us highlight sentences (thoughts) in that story so we can let it go. That's why we owe everyone our gratitude--no exceptions.
One way of looking at it is that they are are light beings enacting a drama just to help us find the thoughts that we need to let go of. When we let go of them, we find our freedom and our happiness.
I don't have to drop the anger. I really do need to feel it because it is a very clear and simple signal that I am believing a lie from ego. The only remedy for anger that I've found is stopping to find out what I believe in that moment. When I find a thought I believe, which is the last thing ego recommends in the middle of a drama, I can bring that thought to the inner light, and I can let it go.
One way of letting the thought go is to focus on your willingness to see things differently. We can't hold onto a thought from ego and focus on our willingness at the same time, so it always works.
Once you have set down that thought from ego, you are ready for a moment of peace and sanity: God goes with me wherever I go.
Under the surface of the characters called wife, husband, and sister, there is a peace and a sanity that is joined. It is not separate. When we learn to gaze at this actual and joined peace and sanity beneath the surface of every drama (and we learn through repetitive practice in situations like this), we learn to focus on the source of all solutions. Situations shift. Solutions appear. Conflicts disappear.
All of this is training in taking our focus off what is unreal and focusing on what is Real. The situations are for our training, and they are no longer wrong. We are all together in this. All things work together for good.
As many times as I need to, I stop and find a thought. I take my gaze off what is unreal. I focus on what is Real. This is the only way that everything becomes clear so I can proceed without judgment.
🙏🩵
A fallen one? Oh shit, now I'm the fallen one - I'd like it if you went to your post above and replace all 'yous' with 'I'.
Peace to you 🧦🦄💌. Gf
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The closer to Texas you are the better but I’m open to long distance if we are both on the same page that it will be temporary.
My long term goal is to be in a committed, monogamous, long term relationship but I am not in a rush.
I’m not looking for hook ups, friends with benefits, one night stands or pen pals.
Please feel free to send me a chat request! :)
2024.05.18 05:23 RaspRail Opportunity to Live for Free
So I received a job opportunity rather far away from where I used to live (across the country). And I have been struggling with some funding on moving and having to find an apartment to live in.
Basically my boss has several properties on his land and it's a really nice area. There is a lot of land (I'm guessing about 30,000-40,000 sqft) and I'm currently residing in one of his vacant houses entireley for free (besides helping fix up the residence until i can afford my own place). It still needs a decent amount of work done to it in terms of decluttering and turning it into viable housing for rent.
I help out where I can and I'm not upset on assisting his renovations into making it a decent place to live.
As for my boss, he's in his 60's, happily married, has had kids, and made a decent life for himself. He also extended this opportunity to other people that have experienced the same issue in relocating, but they lived much closer to the office and were able to apartment/house hunt much easier than I could.
I know that it's generally not something that happens in the corporate world, and I know this is a temporary situation. But it still kind of feels weird when I'm living right next to my boss. If you were in my position would you even take up the opportunity? Would you be sketched out? Would you be grateful? I really don't know how to react to it but I'm sure as hell glad I have a roof over my head I don't have to pay for in the mean time.
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Basically my boss has several properties on his land and it's a really nice area. There is a lot of land (I'm guessing about 30,000-40,000 sqft) and I'm currently residing in one of his vacant houses entireley for free (besides helping fix up the residence until i can afford my own place). It still needs a decent amount of work done to it in terms of decluttering and turning it into viable housing for rent.
I help out where I can and I'm not upset on assisting his renovations into making it a decent place to live.
As for my boss, he's in his 60's, happily married, has had kids, and made a decent life for himself. He also extended this opportunity to other people that have experienced the same issue in relocating, but they lived much closer to the office and were able to apartment/house hunt much easier than I could.
I know that it's generally not something that happens in the corporate world, and I know this is a temporary situation. But it still kind of feels weird when I'm living right next to my boss. If you were in my position would you even take up the opportunity? Would you be sketched out? Would you be grateful? I really don't know how to react to it but I'm sure as hell glad I have a roof over my head I don't have to pay for in the mean time.
2024.05.18 05:22 Mothermayhem13 AITA??
I (40/F) and my Husband (45/M) have been together 10.5 years, married for 9. We met where I worked at the time as a waitress at a popular local bar. He had already been married and divorced once without children and I myself had a 3yo daughter from a previous relationship. He pursued me and I wanted NOTHING to do with him. I had split from my daughter’s Father and I was smack dabbed in the middle of going to court for Child Support as well as some kind of custody agreement. I was also focused on moving us out of my Parents home and into our first apartment. Well he was relentless and he wore me down. I eventually caved and went out with him and he grew on me. He had already met my daughter from her coming to work to see me and thinking of how her own Father wasn’t even showing up to our court appearances and looking back I now know this stage to be called “Lovebombing”. I mean he was a completely different person up until our second child was born in 2016. Since then it has been a literal nightmare living with him. Before having kids we discussed that the day would come when I would have to stay home Full Time with the kids and he understood that. He knew we couldn’t afford childcare and my Parents health was declining so we no longer had our free childcare…his parents never helped. He told me “stay home, it will be fine it won’t be forever” at that time he also decided to go back to a previous job he had …he told me it was only temporary as the schedule was terrible and he would never be home. Everything would be put on me..it was a job where there was no quit time he leaves home at 4am and sometimes doesn’t return until 11pm at night and he does it 6 days a week! When things got more serious and more stressful is when he started to crack and he suddenly was very very angry and I mean he would and will get soo angry over something so miniscule it was really ridiculous. He was always in a bad mood he was always yelling and cursing at me all the time telling me I was “stupid” and I couldn’t do anything right he even yelled at me for how long I took a shower. He overreacts and is extremely irrational and very hostile towards myself and our kids. He’s treated us like we ruined his life and he has even told me so on many occasions. He loves to always call me an “anchor” and tells me I hold him back. He calls me names all the time and says the most terrible things about me and in front of my kids he has done it their entire lives on top of throwing stuff in our house and breaking it when he gets mad…he’s one of those kind of people. He can’t ever communicate anything with me he wouldn’t even call to tell me when he would be home for dinner or if he would be home for dinner. Then I started noticing lies he would lie to me all the time make decisions that should have been made together, on his own. He controlled all the money and still does I have to tell him where every dime goes and I can’t even get a job myself because of his schedule because of yeah that’s right I forgot to mention..that job that he said he would be at temporarily well he decided to stay on permanently…without ever even mentioning it to me. Fast forward and our boys are now 7 &9 and they can be so sweet at times but their behavior is terrible and I believe it is because of him and him alone! With him I don’t have a partner or support everything is on me and when he helps he gets so mad at them so quickly like they asked to be born and like they were born knowing everything. When they were newborns he never once ever got up with them I did he always used his job as an excuse. They don’t listen to me at all the boys..and I feel so bad because I see that they don’t want to behave this way but they don’t know any other way this is what they have grown up witnessing from their own Father. They are 7 & 9 and they curse at me and call me a dumb ugly bitch tell me to shut the fuck up. And the one, the 9 yo is hitting me and throwing things at me, he’s hurt me pretty good a couple times now. My Husband has lied to my face over and over and over again especially about other women because he never shows me any love or wants to be intimate with me he will flat out just reject me all the time but then he will go on OF or IG or Tik Tok and follow only half naked girls with sneaky links I’ve caught him doing that and paying for some of these girls I told him how hurtful it was and that it was definitely not cool at all with me, ..it feels like cheating to me. He went right back to it I’ve caught him at least 8 more times doing the very same things he said he wouldn’t anymore and I can’t have any boundaries at all with him I can’t tell him that his behavior is hurtful because then he just starts yelling at me I’ve asked him to leave on multiple occasions because of him yelling and cursing, breaking stuff, and saying the most vile things to me. He gets in my face puts his forehead to mine and puffs up real big and talks to me like I’m a dude, I’ve had to slap him in the face when he was calling me a whore among other choice words, because he was again in my face acting like I was a dude who wanted to fight him and he was scaring me and he wouldn’t get out of my face so I had to slap him to get him to stop…I did and then he choke slammed me to our kitchen floor..I could not believe it! He was scaring our kids and he will not leave he would rather torment his own children then to just leave and let them have peace. He told me the other day when I brought up the boys behavior that ..”it doesn’t help that you let them walk all over you!” —-HE has walked all over me for their entire lives they have learned it from him. He says to me then “whose with them all day!? Whose with them all day!?” Like because I’m with them more that their behavior is because of me and I feel like I’m going crazy because he tells me all the time, whenever I bring anything up he tells me to stop bringing it up but the thing is it is only brought up again because he is still doing it. AITA?? Is their behavior because of me??? I just don’t understand how someone could seriously act the way they have resentful as hell of his own family the very thing he said he wanted , and treat me this way for years then he thinks their behavior is because of me?!
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2024.05.18 05:11 RaspRail Living on bosses property.
So I received a job opportunity rather far away from where I used to live (across the country). And I have been struggling with some funding on moving and having to find an apartment to live in.
Basically my boss has several properties on his land and it's a really nice area. There is a lot of land (I'm guessing about 30,000-40,000 sqft) and I'm currently residing in one of his vacant houses entireley for free (besides helping fix up the residence until i can afford my own place). It still needs a decent amount of work done to it in terms of decluttering and turning it into viable housing for rent.
I help out where I can and I'm not upset on assisting his renovations into making it a decent place to live.
As for my boss, he's in his 60's, happily married, has had kids, and made a decent life for himself. He also extended this opportunity to other people that have experienced the same issue in relocating, but they lived much closer to the office and were able to apartment/house hunt much easier than I could.
I know that it's generally not something that happens in the corporate world, and I know this is a temporary situation. But it still kind of feels weird when I'm living right next to my boss. If you were in my position would you even take up the opportunity? Would you be sketched out? Would you be grateful? I really don't know how to react to it but I'm sure as hell glad I have a roof over my head I don't have to pay for in the mean time.
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Basically my boss has several properties on his land and it's a really nice area. There is a lot of land (I'm guessing about 30,000-40,000 sqft) and I'm currently residing in one of his vacant houses entireley for free (besides helping fix up the residence until i can afford my own place). It still needs a decent amount of work done to it in terms of decluttering and turning it into viable housing for rent.
I help out where I can and I'm not upset on assisting his renovations into making it a decent place to live.
As for my boss, he's in his 60's, happily married, has had kids, and made a decent life for himself. He also extended this opportunity to other people that have experienced the same issue in relocating, but they lived much closer to the office and were able to apartment/house hunt much easier than I could.
I know that it's generally not something that happens in the corporate world, and I know this is a temporary situation. But it still kind of feels weird when I'm living right next to my boss. If you were in my position would you even take up the opportunity? Would you be sketched out? Would you be grateful? I really don't know how to react to it but I'm sure as hell glad I have a roof over my head I don't have to pay for in the mean time.
2024.05.18 04:59 BerryTube BerryTube Drinking Game #659 starting when this post has been up for an hour!
What is it?
BerryTube is an internet bar with synchronized video sharing that hosts a drinking game every weekend. We play the episodes and brony music, you guys bring your own drink of choice (alcohol optional), and somehow magic happens.When does it start?
Friday games officially start at midnight US Eastern time, but you can use this page to figure out what that is in your time zone.We also host an Early drinking game that starts at 3:00PM US Eastern for those of you across the pond, or people who would prefer going to sleep early. You can use this other page to figure out what time that for you.
Finally, if you can't do Friday at any time, we host a Bonus Saturday Game at 11:00PM Eastern, or your local equivalent.
Sounds good! How do I join?
Point your browser at http://berrytube.tv and type in a temporary nickname or go ahead and register it if you want to use it permanently. If it's your first time here, you might want to read our aptly-named First-time Visitor's GuideAnything else?
Yup! Just a few extra things:- We urge anyone drinking in our games to plan ahead so they don't end up driving anywhere inebriated.
- If you want to get an idea of how the drinking game works, we have a page up showing game rules and per-episode totals.
2024.05.18 04:59 BerryTube BerryTube Drinking Game #659 starting when this post has been up for an hour!
What is it?
BerryTube is an internet bar with synchronized video sharing that hosts a drinking game every weekend. We play the episodes and brony music, you guys bring your own drink of choice (alcohol optional), and somehow magic happens.When does it start?
Friday games officially start at midnight US Eastern time, but you can use this page to figure out what that is in your time zone.We also host an Early drinking game that starts at 3:00PM US Eastern for those of you across the pond, or people who would prefer going to sleep early. You can use this other page to figure out what time that for you.
Finally, if you can't do Friday at any time, we host a Bonus Saturday Game at 11:00PM Eastern, or your local equivalent.
Sounds good! How do I join?
Point your browser at http://berrytube.tv and type in a temporary nickname or go ahead and register it if you want to use it permanently. If it's your first time here, you might want to read our aptly-named First-time Visitor's GuideAnything else?
Yup! Just a few extra things:- We urge anyone drinking in our games to plan ahead so they don't end up driving anywhere inebriated.
- If you want to get an idea of how the drinking game works, we have a page up showing game rules and per-episode totals.