Yesterday I couldn’t stop myself from falling asleep and what felt like two minutes later I woke up and tried to sit up as soon as I did a wave of sleepiness hit me and I went back to sleep and what felt like another few minutes I sat back up and the wave a sleepiness hit me again and I fell back onto the bed to sleep this continued for about 8 more times. But I don’t know for sure if it was a few minutes because I ofc couldn’t check the time. Each time I fell asleep someone from my family (who lives in another state) appeared over me just staring at me I couldn’t move or say anything when they stood there I wanted to ask what are you doing but couldn’t say anything but when I woke up they were gone. (I haven’t spoke to my family in over a year) the first time it was one of my sisters the 2nd time it was my twin brother the 3rd time it was another sister and so on each time it was someone different It was weird and scary and just so confusing. The final time it happened I told myself I’m going to get up fully and so as soon as I sat up I immediately forced myself to stand up which was way to fast I felt so dizzy my body badly wanted to lay back down so I just immediately walked outside hoping fresh air would help it didn’t it made my head hurt so much more and the rest of the day I tried to keep myself busy my head worsened during the day until I fell back to sleep. But my question is
Is it common to wake and fall back to sleep like that over and over.

Just started collecting again, I have a simple question. Some cards have a blue neon outline inside the border and some have silver, what does this signify? I've looked up the codes but both blue and silver have the same code. I've looked up hundreds of websites and videos but somehow this is a mind blowing question no one is either asking or able to answer. Also, why do they have the same 3 digits at the end of the 9 digit code if they are different? And why does topps claim the code is 10 digits when it's clearly only 9 digits?

Wanted to share my experience doing the 144 hour transit visa 3 times. All 3 times were from Bangkok to Guangzhou.
First time I booked a train ticket out to HK. The airline verified and told me that I’m not allowed to take a train to HK, I can only book a flight, they said the rules have changed. So I booked a flight out there, entered and zero issues.
Second time I booked a flight out to Manila. I asked if I can just book a train ticket and once again they said you can’t, you can only fly out. I ended up changing my flight to HK, this caused me to be questioned as I was leaving.
The third time I decided to book a dummy ticket, got in ok, went to the exit and entry bureau, and they confirmed that I can take a train to HK.
I booked a train ticket, and went to HK with absolutely zero issues, even with the change, it didn’t matter they also told me at passport control that there’s a lot of misinformation going around but you can in fact leave Guangdong into HK on train with a 144 hour visa. Airlines are saying you can’t hoping you book a flight out with their airline.
I hope this helps someone

For starters, me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 months. During these 5 months I haven’t seen him going out with his own friends. He would always go out with me and my friends or stay home and play video games.
Lately, I started questioning it because I know his friends and I know he can clearly go out with them if he wants to. I’m not the type of girlfriend who believes that the boyfriend should only hang out with them. I have friends and he has friends. He should go and see them.
These past days I have been studying really hard for my exams coming up so I told him that maybe we shouldn’t go out that much since I want to study. He understood of course. But, he told me "So you finally let me go out with my friends?" I stayed silent and confused and asked what he meant. "My friends always go out on Sundays but I always go out with you and I don’t see them."
It is true. We can only see each other on the weekends but that clearly doesn’t mean he can’t just say "Hey I want to go out with my friends so no hang out for us today."
I started telling him that if he wanted to go out with them he is more than welcome to do so. But he said "No I want to go out with you." I just don’t understand him.

Hi. I need help/opinions/ideas etc, because currently I have no idea what to do with my GPU. Will try to describe shortly.
Recently I've switched from RX 6600 to RTX 4080 S (MSI). At first I forgot to even delete previous AMD video drivers, but then I googled a bit and found that only switching from NVidia to AMD may cause some problems if previous drivers were not deleted. Anyway, at first I, of course, tested my GPU in gaming and it was quite good (Full HD monitor). Then in first week I wanted to watch video from local HDD and it quite confused me (that is the start of all issue) as the quality was weird, what I mean all movements in video was like it's 20 fps in game, meaning not smooth movements (character, or camera move and you see a building/window/car that does not move, but camera turns). Unfortunately I couldn't test it much due to work and I didn't even noticed how 14 days ended (had a right to return GPU if wanted).
Now I literally can't normally watch any video or movie either it's local file/video-streaming platforms or Netflix. Like I can watch (and do currently.. what else can I do) but the quality doesn't feel right. Then I thought, may be because it's not a high resolution monitor, I've connected 4k too. But it's same on FHD and 4k.
Also about gaming. I've tried 3 on high settings: RDR2, Hogwarts Legacy and Avatar: Frontiers Of Pandora. RDR2 quality looks great on ultra even 4K (DLSS), but Hogwarts Legacy... and Avatar.. I have issues with those games. I've seen in YouTube how ppl with rtx 4080 or rtx4080s play 4k AFOP and quality is so smooth, but personally I can't see that quality in my case.
F.E Hogwarts Legasy on ultra (different settings) 4k or 2k when I'm moving camera is not smooth.. looks more.. jerky. It bothers and frankly not what you expect from that GPU. AFOP in 4k runs smooth only on DLSS Performance. Is that even okay? Like disabled DLSS is unplayable.. my eyes even hurts to watch moves of camera. Also DLSS quality and ultra quality (especially ultra quality) fps drops significantly (30-50 in different locations). If I want to switch to ultra quality upscaling then it's nice only to watch. Running and moving camera makes picture/objects to jerk (see example how it looks at this video (https://youtu.be/iCCW9AaMNTU?si=fpwHP3NSo35SCWyQ&t=16) Sometimes it's more like 15 fps from example video. Literally very disappointed. But unfortunately it's my first better GPU and I have no friends to compare. I don't even know if that's okay for a GPU perform like that in those games. Please note that I didn't do any overclocking or additional settings. Like I'm simple user who bought, plugged it, connected and use. Mind I also installed MSI Afterburner (only to see GPU info in games), and NVidia GeForce Experience. About GeForce Experience. I've tried to delete it because some people say that all problem with bad performance was in NGE but it didn't work for whatsoever.
Oh and I also did deleted all video drivers using DDU, reinstalled drivers but nothing worked either.
But the biggest ever concern for me is that ANY video playback (either local video file, or copied from phone, CD, or in browser, or in video streaming platforms, or YouTube or Netflix) is same - jerky 20 fps kinda like. It's so annoying, literally see it everywhere at any moves and can't be ignored. I have no idea what to do and 14 days of customer protection has ended. I also asked help MSI support and they couldn't help me either, suggested me at the end to contact reseller to have my unit repaired, replaced, or refunded. But I highly doubt the reseller will refund of replace.. What is there to repair I don't see either.
Oh and one more! Fans on GPU are always spinning, like always, in gaming or silent mode - always spinning even when I just turned on PC and no programs are opened, no game, no video. It's not okay.
MY PC specs:
Motherboard: MSI MPG Z590 Gaming Edge WiFi
CPU: Inter Core i9 10900KF
AIO: Corsair iCUE H170i Elite LCD Display
RAM: Kingston Fury DDR4-3200 (32 GB)
SSD (Windows 10 x64 OS) Kingston SSDNow A400 240GB
Storage: 1) HDD: Western Digital Purple 5400 rpm
2) MSI Spatium M390 2TB NVMe M.2 PCIe 3.0 (Where AFOP is installed)
3) Seagate Exos 7E10 7200rpm
Power Supply: Corsair HX1200
Display:
1) Samsung 32" LS32BG700 (LS32BG702EIXUA)
2) Dell FHD (old)
I hope somebody can help me or have an idea if my GPU is okay but my settings, or I've got a defected GPU. Ask any additional questions if you need.

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Hi I have a weird question for pwBPD. My gf has an FP friend who is not me ( I am a partner of 5yrs both early 20s) There has not been any cheating, so please don’t jump to assume. They hang out occasionally and when they do she stays extremely late. Aka 4-5am late and goes home. Now she has done this with her other friends occasionally (but definitely not as often as FP) and I am not bothered but with her FP it makes me uncomfortable. Is it reasonable to ask that she doesn’t come home so late or is that verging on controlling? I find hanging out that late completely unnecessary and mildly intimate but she doesn’t think so at all and just enjoys her time with her friend. She’s on this sub and we both wanted a 3rd opinion. Thanks

I went in for my behavioral exam for a PTSD claim related to a bombing that happened on my deployment back in 2021. Being an Army National Guardsman, I spoke about how difficult it was to readjust back to my home life and my daily struggles with weight gain and relationship with my wife. During the interview, he asked about my knee brace and what happened there. I told him how I blew out my quad during my two weeks training for the Army and my daily struggles with. At the end of the session, he told me that my depression from the injury is stronger than my PTSD claim from 3 years ago. He told me that I should instead try to start a new claim since majority of the things I told him the session had correlation to the injury. I appreciate the feedback but having to go back to the drawing board is upsetting.

Actually he is my uncle but he has been the father figure since I was around 10. I'm 23 now.
So I did something (cooked some onion) and he commented about how "that's not how it's done". I thought it was (mistakenly so) so I said "it is done like this". He repeats himself and so do I two or three times, after which he was getting visibly angry. Just his face, he was actually containing it, which was apparent.
But this was enough to trigger me (if you wish to know why this was triggering there's a recent post about it on my profile, trigger warning for physical violence and humiliation). He started to leave after doing some explaining and when he was walking away I said smt like "you're already getting crazy!" (Which in our language sounds kinda worse but idk how to translate) Meaning the visible anger on his face that triggered me was overreacting to me just contradicting him. Supposedly, me just bluntly replying "yes it's done like this" is provocative.
Anyways after hearing that he comes back and gets in my face. He wasn't going to hit me, that's "in the past", but he feinted and I turned my head, expecting a hit. Somehow we ended up talking for like two hours, there were many points we both wanted to get across to the other and I doubt there was much mutual understanding , but what's relevant to this post is that he made it known that things would be "worse" if I ever spoke to him like that. That he would beat me if I called him an idiot.
He showed me how he has been containing himself all this time, and that even know after saying you're going crazy he didn't hit me. That's true.
He said he really hates being offended. He told me that one time when he asked a worker that was doing stuff in our house for something, the dude just turned his back to him and my dad screamed so loudly the dude was startled. Like did a little jump.
I'm like: you think that's good for your health? You've been containing your temper lately, you think it's good? Repressing it even further will only make it worse in the long run and you will stop being so effective at restraining yourself when you want to. He seems to think he knows a thing or two about psychology so he replied with condescension at my suggestion that he needs to fix the anger issues instead of just controlling himself when they arise. Whatever.
It sucks. What's even worse is that most lf the time he is normal. Like 999/1000 times. Our baseline is good terms right now. But my subconscious still remembers, I haven't unpacked all those things yet. I don't like knowing that my father would beat me up for offending him. I don't like not saying something to him (even if it is calling him stupid) only because of fear of physical responses.
I told him many things, like how it sucks fearing my own father and he said "don't provoque me then".I painted a hypothetical situation in which I called him an idiot to ask him what would happen if he didn't react in an aggressive/violent manner, he replied and finished with "but better never call me that". I was like "wouldn't you stop to think why would your son call you that? Why would anybody call their dad that way if everything was good? Or why I said you were getting crazy?" And whatever the fuck his reply was to that it probably boiled down to "you have no business saying those things". Sure, calling someone an idiot isn't good. Focus on that. .
My repressed emotions to his attitude all this years were there in the conversation. I kept stopping because the knot in my throat wouldn't let me talk, tears on my eyes. This didn't seem to communicate anything to him.
I wonder what I'll do when I get stronger than him. I'd be so tempted to start something just to show him he can't overpower me anymore. I wouldn't even hit him, just restrain him and faking a hit just so he sees what it feels like. Even then, I don't think it compares to an adult doing that to a kid or teenager. He has heart issues though, and as much as I wish for payback, I feel like his rage would be so much worse after being restrained that his heart could worsen (also I understand revenge makes no real sense, forgive them Father for they not what they do, if he could understand he would).
Anyway. We hadn't had an altercation like this in a while, and it's the first time I actually said something like that to him. He won't hit me if I don't insult him. But his intimidating nature is still present at times, for example when I don't listen to him and stubbornly oppose him (it happens sometimes but I only with him, surprised?) And knowing he can get like violent or just verbally aggressive doesn't make the "good times" worth it. He is a "good charismatic person" basically all the time except when these things happen. But I'm at odds with the fact that if I ever fail to contain my subconscious resentment to him and call him something (motherfucker, idiot, stupid high-iq but low-eq controlling dumbfuck) I'll get beat up. I understand that healing is on me to stop walking on eggshells when he is around, but I'm starting to dislike him on a more conscious level now. Which is confusing too because everytime I've brought this up to my mother, she seemed to understand part of how I was feeling, but ultimately it boiled down to "he's family and will catch a bullet for you, will always drop anything he is doing when we need help". WHICH IS TRUE BUT I DON'T CARE
AITAH for wanting to keep interactions with him at the bare minimum?
EDIT: I'd love to move out. I live with my mom, grandma and grandpa. He lives in the city and comes by 1/2/3 times a week, frequently spending the night or two. I still love them, and especially my mom and her parents, but being able to fuck off whenever I need to without resorting to going some place or park would be great. But I can't. I'd put an extremely tough burden on my mom, she'd have no live left: she works a lot, grandpa is getting very old but main thing is taking care of my grandma, there are some things like lifting her that only I can do because grandpa is too old and uncle can't due to some tendon issues on his arms. Besides the option to start earning a metric shitload of money to retire her and be able to afford 24/7 elderly care personnel, do you have any ideas about how to approach this?
EDIT: at some point he brought up the "how much love we gave you" situation. Now here is what disturbs me. It's true, I've been given tons of love, patience, opoortunities, the works, not only from the rest of the family but from him as well. So I imagine myself as a parent that loves their kid so much, and then I imagine myself intimidating him because he called me crazy, or hitting him because he didn't listen and did something different from what we had agreed on, behind my back, for the millionth time. It feels wrong, it feels ignorant. I'd be wondering why the fuck does my son agree to do a certain thing and when it comes time to it, he does a different one. I'd start thinking about why he keeps lying about school grades, failing to pass the year even when he sees how bad it stresses his mother out... Instead of hitting him in the face with a closed fist (but hey, it wasn't full force!!) because he keeps lying and driving his mom crazy.
But hey, that's me. I'm "not the one to teach him about psychology"

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My qualifications are B.Sc in Chemistry. I'm not excellent in the subject but I completed the course successfully. Now I don't know what to do since I'm not even that good in this course.
I know this question is laughable and I sound beyond stupid. Yes, you're right. I'm stupid. I didn't have any plan after 12th. I don't have any passion or dream. I just want to survive. I thought I would have an idea by the time I complete the course. But nope.
I don't feel like I'm good enough to pursue Master's degree. So what can I do to survive? I don't any laptop or computer, yes, I sound unbelievably stupid. Just give me something to go off. Sorry, I don't have anyone to guide me.
Maybe I'm ranting. I'm so anxious that I can't ask this or tell this to anyone. So I posted this here. Sorry if this is not the right subreddit for it.
Maybe this post doesn't belong here. Sorry if that's the case.

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My sister(16) started dating this boy(14 almost 15) well the boyfriend has been spending more time around our family along with his sister. In the last couple of weeks, I have found out that the kids are not enrolled in school and have not been for a while. When the kids ask about it they say their parents say they are enrolled in a program and that they will get them the right curriculum. The kids say they have no assignments or anything. Their dad is a disabled veteran and they live in his income alone with 7 of them in the house(the boyfriend is the youngest) These kids are incredibly isolated. They live in the middle of nowhere in a barely livable trailer with one vehicle. We adore the two kids and they really are great kids but they are suffering and I know that if child services get involved they will know 100% that it was our family. My heart is so broken over these kids not getting an education. My sister is doing online school next year and we offered to help set theirs up when we set hers up and they said no. Do I continue to just be a support and be there for these kids and start to tutor them on my own? Their parents let them come to church with us and I was thinking of starting to bring them to youth group where they can maybe talk to someone who is a mandated reporter. I don't want to break the trust that I have built with them.

I just got approved for the VR&E by the grace of God. And I am happy with it. My question is? Can I request a new rep? She fought me about my school being accredited; she asked her boss and was told My school was not a part of the Chapter 31 program . I had to get the info and send it to her. she said I don't ask for back pay. You are not getting it. I said okay. But I read you can request it. What is my best step here, please?

Hello all! My friend and I are looking very seriously into starting a company detailing boats. It’s something we both have years of experience in as we used to work for the biggest boat detailer in the area. He skipped town about a year or two ago and left a void in the boat community sense his departure, one that we look to fill. I wanted to ask what the general pricings are for wax and coating.
What’s the difference price difference between a two step wax and a three step?
What’s the difference between a two and three step ceramic coating job?
Do you charge extra to wet sand, rotor, polish and then wax/coat the interior or is that included in price per foot?
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Actually he is my uncle but he has been the father figure since I was around 10. I'm 23 now.
So I did something (cooked some onion) and he commented about how "that's not how it's done". I thought it was (mistakenly so) so I said "it is done like this". He repeats himself and so do I two or three times, after which he was getting visibly angry. Just his face, he was actually containing it, which was apparent.
But this was enough to trigger me (if you wish to know why this was triggering there's a recent post about it on my profile, trigger warning for physical violence and humiliation). He started to leave after doing some explaining and when he was walking away I said smt like "you're already getting crazy!" (Which in our language sounds kinda worse but idk how to translate) Meaning the visible anger on his face that triggered me was overreacting to me just contradicting him. Supposedly, me just bluntly replying "yes it's done like this" is provocative.
Anyways after hearing that he comes back and gets in my face. He wasn't going to hit me, that's "in the past", but he feinted and I turned my head, expecting a hit. Somehow we ended up talking for like two hours, there were many points we both wanted to get across to the other and I doubt there was much mutual understanding , but what's relevant to this post is that he made it known that things would be "worse" if I ever spoke to him like that. That he would beat me if I called him an idiot.
He showed me how he has been containing himself all this time, and that even know after saying you're going crazy he didn't hit me. That's true.
He said he really hates being offended. He told me that one time when he asked a worker that was doing stuff in our house for something, the dude just turned his back to him and my dad screamed so loudly the dude was startled. Like did a little jump.
I'm like: you think that's good for your health? You've been containing your temper lately, you think it's good? Repressing it even further will only make it worse in the long run and you will stop being so effective at restraining yourself when you want to. He seems to think he knows a thing or two about psychology so he replied with condescension at my suggestion that he needs to fix the anger issues instead of just controlling himself when they arise. Whatever.
It sucks. What's even worse is that most lf the time he is normal. Like 999/1000 times. Our baseline is good terms right now. But my subconscious still remembers, I haven't unpacked all those things yet. I don't like knowing that my father would beat me up for offending him. I don't like not saying something to him (even if it is calling him stupid) only because of fear of physical responses.
I told him many things, like how it sucks fearing my own father and he said "don't provoque me then".I painted a hypothetical situation in which I called him an idiot to ask him what would happen if he didn't react in an aggressive/violent manner, he replied and finished with "but better never call me that". I was like "wouldn't you stop to think why would your son call you that? Why would anybody call their dad that way if everything was good? Or why I said you were getting crazy?" And whatever the fuck his reply was to that it probably boiled down to "you have no business saying those things". Sure, calling someone an idiot isn't good. Focus on that. .
My repressed emotions to his attitude all this years were there in the conversation. I kept stopping because the knot in my throat wouldn't let me talk, tears on my eyes. This didn't seem to communicate anything to him.
I wonder what I'll do when I get stronger than him. I'd be so tempted to start something just to show him he can't overpower me anymore. I wouldn't even hit him, just restrain him and faking a hit just so he sees what it feels like. Even then, I don't think it compares to an adult doing that to a kid or teenager. He has heart issues though, and as much as I wish for payback, I feel like his rage would be so much worse after being restrained that his heart could worsen (also I understand revenge makes no real sense, forgive them Father for they not what they do, if he could understand he would).
Anyway. We hadn't had an altercation like this in a while, and it's the first time I actually said something like that to him. He won't hit me if I don't insult him. But his intimidating nature is still present at times, for example when I don't listen to him and stubbornly oppose him (it happens sometimes but I only with him, surprised?) And knowing he can get like violent or just verbally aggressive doesn't make the "good times" worth it. He is a "good charismatic person" basically all the time except when these things happen. But I'm at odds with the fact that if I ever fail to contain my subconscious resentment to him and call him something (motherfucker, idiot, stupid high-iq but low-eq controlling dumbfuck) I'll get beat up. I understand that healing is on me to stop walking on eggshells when he is around, but I'm starting to dislike him on a more conscious level now. Which is confusing too because everytime I've brought this up to my mother, she seemed to understand part of how I was feeling, but ultimately it boiled down to "he's family and will catch a bullet for you, will always drop anything he is doing when we need help". WHICH IS TRUE BUT I DON'T CARE
AITAH for wanting to keep interactions with him at the bare minimum?
EDIT: I'd love to move out. I live with my mom, grandma and grandpa. He lives in the city and comes by 1/2/3 times a week, frequently spending the night or two. I still love them, and especially my mom and her parents, but being able to fuck off whenever I need to without resorting to going some place or park would be great. But I can't. I'd put an extremely tough burden on my mom, she'd have no live left: she works a lot, grandpa is getting very old but main thing is taking care of my grandma, there are some things like lifting her that only I can do because grandpa is too old and uncle can't due to some tendon issues on his arms. Besides the option to start earning a metric shitload of money to retire her and be able to afford 24/7 elderly care personnel, do you have any ideas about how to approach this?
EDIT: at some point he brought up the "how much love we gave you" situation. Now here is what disturbs me. It's true, I've been given tons of love, patience, opoortunities, the works, not only from the rest of the family but from him as well. So I imagine myself as a parent that loves their kid so much, and then I imagine myself intimidating him because he called me crazy, or hitting him because he didn't listen and did something different from what we had agreed on, behind my back, for the millionth time. It feels wrong, it feels ignorant. I'd be wondering why the fuck does my son agree to do a certain thing and when it comes time to it, he does a different one. I'd start thinking about why he keeps lying about school grades, failing to pass the year even when he sees how bad it stresses his mother out... Instead of hitting him in the face with a closed fist (but hey, it wasn't full force!!) because he keeps lying and driving his mom crazy.
But hey, that's me. I'm "not the one to teach him about psychology"

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For a moment I am shocked. If I had expected anyone to be here, aside from the Librarian herself, it would be Ricardo! But I guess the world is trying to surprise me today? Then again, considering the rumors, miss Pelafina wasn’t that much of an outrage either.

Then it hits me. What does she mean ‘took you long enough’, huh!?

“She was waiting for y—”

Yes I get that part! Was this whole deal a game for her?

I take my first steps towards her, a little indignant and I feel it is justified, but then I notice something in the corner of my eye. Movement. I immediately turn on my heels to face it: there’s shades of black in the darkness, at least in one spot. Soon, a figure steps up from the corner of the room, dressed in a long black cloak, dressing pants and elegant shoes. The hood covers their head and some magical darkness obscurs their eyes, but I can see a few locks of green hair slip from underneath the shadow.

The figure lifts a hand, they are even wearing black gloves! That’s some commitment to the bit.

“Yo. The name is Lucía. Sorry for skulking around but it is kind of my job; I assume you already know Overseer Pelafina?” She smirks. “She gets around! She said she was waiting for a Bastard to arrive but, Hell, we thought it was just an excuse of hers to skip work!”

“I am very responsible, excuse you.” Pelafina frowns, shaking her head softly. “Ignore Lucy, dear. She’s just my assigned guard, here to keep me safe!”

Her assigned guard? So she IS with the Cloaks after all! I mean, if the cloak she’s wearing wasn’t indication enough. I don’t like her, not one bit. She’s smiling too much, just balancing on her heels and toes while I stand there. I don’t wanna say I hate her, we’ve barely exchanged words… but I don’t like her. Not one bit.

I decide to take Pelafina’s words to heart and ignore her, when another thing hits me.

“Overseer Pelafina!? But you’re just the lady from the bookstore!” I think my eyes are going to jump right out of my skull like in one of those old cartoons.

“A girl has to move up in this world if she wants to survive.” The old lady chuckled, just a little bit. “You know my name, but I never truly caught yours though. How do we call you, dear?”

Fuck, here we go with names again… but hey, maybe this is a great chance to build a new identity for myself!

“People call me Tav.” I say, trying to puff up my chest a bit.

“That was not what she asked though!” Lucía intervenes with a singsongy voice.

“Oh let her have her own nom de guerre, Lucy. It’s adorable!” Having these two messing with me is really going to be bad for my health. I’ll have to endure it though. “Alright then, Tav. If you’re here, I assume you managed to read through the book at least a bit?”

I flinch. Just how much does this woman know? Did she know the contents of the book from the start? Is this a weird ‘Hero’s journey’ situation? A mysterious adventure she has sent me into so I grow as a person?

Or is she just fucking with me.

“Well? Don’t keep me waiting! It’s been days!” Pelafina insists with a twinkle shining in her eyes.

“... I have a few words translated.” I managed to say.

“Oh great! So Humiko left you hints. That’s great.”

“Miss Pelafina–”

“Please, just call me P.”

“Uhm. Miss P.” I gulp. “Just how much do you know of the book, exactly?”

“Well, Humiko asked me personally to keep it safe, so that’s one thing.” The overseer counts with her fingers. “I know it is written in Magic Runes, which… shouldn’t be possible, and yet, there it is! I trust Humiko enough to know it has to be real.”

“Wait.” I blink. “What do you mean ‘shouldn’t be possible’?”

“Magic is not a language, or at least it hasn’t been understood as one until… well, right now.” The old lady smiles a bit wider. “If you manage to make more sense of it than a few phrases, you’d be making history, boy!”

Again with the damn gendering… I frown a little bit but, try not to make it too visible. I gotta focus.

“Yeah, get it together. This is not the time for your ridiculous whining.”

Sigh.

“So you know what the book is, but you don’t know what it says.”

“To be honest, I am not really sure what it is either.” Pelafina admits with an embarrassed grin. “All I know is that it is a project Humiko had for a long time already, and according to her express instructions, the hints could only be read by a sleeper.”

I haven’t really checked if I can no longer check Humiko’s note in the book, so there’s homework for when I return.

“I am sorry we put this on you with deceit and all, but would you have really believed me if I said ‘You have to study magic’ just like that?” The old lady shrugs. “It was necessary, and if Ricardo could see the potential in you, then this was surely the correct choice.”

“Is Ricardo an Overseer too?” I feel like that is a sensible question.

“Oh heavens no, he’s a Sleeper. Not a word of this to him, you hear me?” P’s gesture grows severe for a moment. “I don’t want him involved in such things at his age. He had enough adventures already.”

I guess the rumors of Ricardo being a world-trotting adventurer are also true. Huh.

“So. Tell me, what did you learn?”

She’s very eager… I can notice Lucía’s gaze on me, too. They are both very, very eager.

“This doesn’t make sense.”

Right? It’s all wrong.

The book’s first warning was to avoid the cloaks, and yet here’s P! Just hanging out with this one, talking about the book like it’s nothing!

Well, if it’s true that she doesn’t know the contents, I can lie through my teeth!

“Well… I’ve learned a few characters. Do you have somewhere to write?” My body suddenly relaxes, my demeanor tightens. I may be bad at many things, but lying? I was born lying in this world and I can keep it up no matter what.

“Ah, sure. Lucy!”

The guard walks up to me casually, offering me a fancy black leather notebook decorated with a golden apple and a silver arrow piercing it. She even opens the yellow pages for me, and provides a cheap plastic pen.

I nod, and quickly begin scribbling.

I scribble ‘Tlo’i’, ‘Golthoi’ and ‘Thako’ with their respective symbols.

“There. These are the ones I’ve learned.”

Lucía looks at me dead in the eye for a moment. I can feel the sharpness of her wit, she’s trying to read me… but it will be useless. I am in a dissertation now, bitch. I’ve been doing these for years, it’s my one skill.

“Interesting.” Lucía nods.

“So, what do these mean?” Pelafina approaches us to check on the symbols. “Terrible calligraphy, by the way.”

“Yeah, I know.” The confidence abandons me for a moment, before I puff up my chest again and begin talking. “The first one is the word for ‘Butterfly’. The second one is a word for the action of turning something on, the third one… I am not sure yet.”

“When used on a spell, it makes the effect happen upon touching the glyph.” Lucía knows. “It’s a very common one.”

“Glyph?” I tilt my head.

“She means a combination of Runes, dear.” P smiles warmly. “Alright, so ‘Butterfly’, ‘Ignite’ and ‘Touch’, then?”

I never said ‘Ignite’ for Golthoi, but I guess that is a interpretation of it?

… Interesting. That these things have different meanings in different contexts, would that affect casting?

“Ah, I also found this.” I draw ‘Jo’ in the book. “Does this mean anything?”

“That one is used to counteract spells. If you draw this in a Glyph, it cancels its effect.” Lucía seems happy to provide the knowledge I lack.

I actually appreciate it, for it immediately made something click in my brain.

“It means ‘No’.” A voice whispers in my head, my own voice.

Yes. It’s a negative. That’s why it isn’t so common on its own. When added to another symbol, it negates it. ‘No-Light’ must be a way to say ‘Darkness’ or such… or… backwards, ‘No-Darkness’ equals ‘Light’.

Would this be dependent on the culture?

I smile a little bit to myself. This knowledge I will keep up my sleeve for now.

“What’s that smile for? Did you see something new?” Lucía is way too sharp to keep that smile from. I have to make something up quick.

“I realized I now know how to counter spells. That’s so cool…” I whisper to myself, channeling some of that wonder into my lie.

She seems to buy it, for she immediately focuses on correcting me.

“Knowing the Counterspell Rune is not enough, there are other factors to consider, so don’t go around trying to counter every spell so quickly.” She give me a smile I really dislike.

“Hmmm… well, that’s plenty for now,if that is all.” Pelafina shrugs softly. “It is quite late already… go back home for now, Tav.”

“B-But. I have so many questions!” I immediately pout. Saints damn it, so close to learn actually useful stuff!

“Yes, but sadly I cannot teach you. As the Overseer, I am bound by oath to remain neutral and not show favoritism for anyone.” The woman shrugged. “So, I can’t really teach you much. But, if you identify more words, I can definitely give you a few more pointers!”

“Fine…” A defeated sigh escapes my lips. So I’ll have to buy knowledge with knowledge, hmm? I look at Lucía for a second.

“Nope. I am too young to teach.” She immediately denies me.

“Tsk.” I look down… but then, an idea comes to me. Just a confirmation I need to get. “Can I check more stuff online? Maybe there’s resources out there…”

Pelafina frowns, looking at Lucía and waiting for her to explain. She eventually does, with a sigh.

“The process of getting on the internet as a mage is hard. You need a special router and everything, it’s honestly not worth it.” The guard shakes her head. “If you want, we can provide you one next time. But really, there aren’t many resources online for this… mages are isolationists, usually.”

Ah hah! So they don’t know of the forum! Alright then, that’s another point to my advantage.

“I don’t think I’ll need that, I have enough with mundane internet thank you very much.” I chuckle a little bit.

“I never got the so called ‘interwebs’ to be honest.” P grins. “Now, off to bed you go. Shoo, shoo. Remember coming back here at night, alright? That’s when it is nice and empty.”

Honestly, a nice and empty place to try and translate sounds fine to me. But I can just do that at home…

Besides. These people are dripfeeding me the information I need, so they are probably not trustworthy in the slightest.

I feel a little bad for not trusting Pelafina immediately, but…

“She threw you into this mess without consent.”

“Yeah, fuck her.”

Right.

“Alright then, I am going. Thank you again for everything, miss P!” I fail to hold back a yawn as I turn around and stand on the stairs. They… are still going up. “Uh.”

“The other stairs dear, there’s a magic escalator down.” Lucía tries not to laugh at my face, and fails.

“A-Ah, thank you.”

With a heavy sigh, I take the right escalator this time and disappear down the stairs. Looking at my clock, it’s already three in the morning…time to sleep for sure.

With some luck, the pillow will make this all make much more sense.


As Tav finally disappeared from the Elysium, and the sound of a closing door echoed through the room, Pelafina let out a little sigh, shaking her head.

“This isn’t going to work.” She commented, crossing her arms. “This girl is no good.”

“She seems smart enough. The type to keep notes….” Lucía suggested, her smile growing slowly.

“What are you suggesting?”

“Well. If we give her a few months and turns out she doesn’t make any breakthroughs, we can always… you know.”

“I don’t.”

“We can take her stuff.” Lucía finally said. “Just erase her memory and take the book and the notes back! With some luck, she probably took notes of the hints.”

“...Lucy, you’re diabolical.” The old crone chuckled loudly. “Ohhh, I guess we will get our chips back no matter how this gamble goes, then!”

“Of course! But I still don’t know why we can’t just go to a family of Mages and put this on their sleeper child!”

“That bitch Humiko probably thought of something like that.” A grumble escaped from the old lady. “This is our safest bet.”

“Well, I am just saying. If this experiment of yours doesn’t pay up, I may have to talk about this with the rest of the Coven…~” Lucía’s eyes were, for a moment, fully visible under that hood, brightly green. “And you know the captain wouldn’t like you skulking around with unapproved knowledge.~”

“Oh shush, you won’t.” Pelafina seemed quite confident of this. “Not after coming this close to finally finding that bitch…”

The overseer sighed, looking up to the fake stars for a moment while rubbing her hands together. What was this she felt? Anxiety?

“... It has to work, Lucía.” She finally said. “It has to.”

“What if it doesn’t though?” The guard tilted her head.

“It has to… it is our only way to free our King from his cell.”

“Welp, let’s hope this girl works fast!”

“I know. After all, King Hamil isn’t a patient man.”

Hi reddit, I(f) started to hang out with a guy classmate in 2022 ish not because he moved to our school in that year, but I just started hanging out with him. I didn't want to hang out with him in the first grades because he was controlling and broke my arm and then blamed it on another person. Fast-forward to this year, we got closer and hung out every day after school, and he developed a crush on me.... I didn't notice, my best friend (a girl) told me. On Valentine's Day, he got me flowers. One time, we were hanging out and asked me to be his best friend, I didn't really want to be best friends with him, but I accepted because I didn't want to be "mean." Fast-forward to two months ago, he started licking me ( licked his hand and putting it on me), it was very annoying and disgusting. And he gets mad at me for everything I don't do for him. One morning, I was discussing with my teacher about a drawing competition but it was very loud in the classroom and I was trying to understand what she was saying an he comes up to me and says good morning and I think I said "off" or "okay" in a annoyed kind of voice, and he got mad at me for this. Fast-forward to last Friday a friend of mine bringed a packet of cat stickers and gave to some classmates and Jake (fake name for the guy friend) he wanted more stickers and asked her and she said no and that she will not give anymore stickers. He stole one sticker, and I saw him and told her that Jake stole a sticker. He looked at me with like hate. idk what to call it. After school ended, I went to the place we hung out, and he was there, but he didn't let me sit with him. I entered that spot and saw it was full and I didn't stay there and I started to go to a nearby store to buy something to eat. He went after me and said "okay let's be friends again* I accepted because I didn't want him to beg me.
What should I do to end this friendship, or should I end it