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My relationship with my best friend is going downhill. Not sure what to do.
2024.05.19 07:06 ThePrettyNova My relationship with my best friend is going downhill. Not sure what to do.
TLDR: I (36/F) have been “roommates” with my best friend (34/F) Janine for almost 5 years. Originally, I had been renting a 3br house in 2018. Janine & her long term boyfriend broke up around the start of the pandemic— December 2019. I offered my office for her to stay until she gets back on her feet. The other bedroom belongs to my then 7 year old daughter. She turns 13 this year.
Janine is also my daughter’s Godmother, so my daughter is happy to have her around. Janine has made questionable decisions when it comes to men, questionable decisions about her life, and has unresolved trauma that she doesn’t want to see a therapist for. She does her best to fake it in front of my child. She comes in & they greet each other happily, but as soon as she sees me, that smile fades and she may not even speak to me. When I brought this up to her, she said that my girl doesn’t deserve her sadness and that I as her friend should understand that some times she doesn’t want to talk. But to not speak or acknowledge me at all? What’s up with that?
Janine is also very secretive. Things happen to her and she chooses not to tell me until either the situation has passed / been solved or she’s so deep in trouble that she can’t get herself out of it. When the situation has been solved, she has probably jumped through so many hoops to solve it and it probably could’ve gotten it solved faster had she told ANYBODY. She mainly doesn’t tell me things because I’m a “fixer”. You tell me something is wrong and I’m immediately offering advice on how to solve it. I found out that’s a bad practice and I should learn to just listen. I’m sure Janine feels like I treat her like a child with my fixing nature, but like I said earlier, she makes bad decisions.
Late last year, my job allowed me to work from home majority of the week because our business is getting larger & they need room for extra workers. I no longer have an office, so I figured we should move in a bigger house. At the time, I thought Janine was a staple in our house, but since January, Janine has been more dramatic than usual. We’ve been saving money for the moment we find something that fits our needs. I found something perfect and I texted her about it. Everyone in the house that’s over 18 has to put in an application. Application has a fee of $75. Janine said she couldn’t handle the $75 until next week but the application was time sensitive. I told Janine I can cover her app fee and she said she rather I not do that. I didn’t understand because we cover for each other and pay each other back all of the time, so what’s different now?
Because of the way she flaked on me for this nicer place, I began to wonder should I just start looking for a place for just me and my daughter? Janine told me she’s in a good place financially, so should I suggest that we save money individually and go our separate ways as far as our living arrangements are concerned? I don’t want to lose my friend, but after 5 years of living together & the original plan was for to stay until she got herself together after a 9 year breakup, shouldn’t we move on? I’m conflicted. I don’t know what to do.
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Janine is also my daughter’s Godmother, so my daughter is happy to have her around. Janine has made questionable decisions when it comes to men, questionable decisions about her life, and has unresolved trauma that she doesn’t want to see a therapist for. She does her best to fake it in front of my child. She comes in & they greet each other happily, but as soon as she sees me, that smile fades and she may not even speak to me. When I brought this up to her, she said that my girl doesn’t deserve her sadness and that I as her friend should understand that some times she doesn’t want to talk. But to not speak or acknowledge me at all? What’s up with that?
Janine is also very secretive. Things happen to her and she chooses not to tell me until either the situation has passed / been solved or she’s so deep in trouble that she can’t get herself out of it. When the situation has been solved, she has probably jumped through so many hoops to solve it and it probably could’ve gotten it solved faster had she told ANYBODY. She mainly doesn’t tell me things because I’m a “fixer”. You tell me something is wrong and I’m immediately offering advice on how to solve it. I found out that’s a bad practice and I should learn to just listen. I’m sure Janine feels like I treat her like a child with my fixing nature, but like I said earlier, she makes bad decisions.
Late last year, my job allowed me to work from home majority of the week because our business is getting larger & they need room for extra workers. I no longer have an office, so I figured we should move in a bigger house. At the time, I thought Janine was a staple in our house, but since January, Janine has been more dramatic than usual. We’ve been saving money for the moment we find something that fits our needs. I found something perfect and I texted her about it. Everyone in the house that’s over 18 has to put in an application. Application has a fee of $75. Janine said she couldn’t handle the $75 until next week but the application was time sensitive. I told Janine I can cover her app fee and she said she rather I not do that. I didn’t understand because we cover for each other and pay each other back all of the time, so what’s different now?
Because of the way she flaked on me for this nicer place, I began to wonder should I just start looking for a place for just me and my daughter? Janine told me she’s in a good place financially, so should I suggest that we save money individually and go our separate ways as far as our living arrangements are concerned? I don’t want to lose my friend, but after 5 years of living together & the original plan was for to stay until she got herself together after a 9 year breakup, shouldn’t we move on? I’m conflicted. I don’t know what to do.
2024.05.19 07:03 WildPineapple52 Having 1 or 2 orders removed from a batch
I’m new to this practice. I have been doing IC for almost 4 years, but have always just completed what I accepted. Twice recently, I have had an order removed from a batch because it just didn’t make sense why IC would even bundle these orders. Aside from the fact that they were both good sized orders and both contained perishable items, like ice cream and popsicles, the deliveries were both in different directions and very far apart. Luckily I chose the right order to remove in both cases. Both times were about 2 weeks apart, with the last one being a week ago.
My question are these. How often do you all remove an order or two from a batch? How many or how often would it be considered repetitious and could possible get my account into that grey area where I might get deactivated??
I don’t plan on making this a habit, but I just wanted to ask for future reference.
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My question are these. How often do you all remove an order or two from a batch? How many or how often would it be considered repetitious and could possible get my account into that grey area where I might get deactivated??
I don’t plan on making this a habit, but I just wanted to ask for future reference.
2024.05.19 07:02 WaitingForTheBus_ Really bad experience with chihuahua breeder
Long post, sorry.
Be patient with me- My previous dog, I found wandering around a parking lot, so this is my first time purchasing a dog, and I’m afraid I might have encountered a backyard breeder (although it’s hard for me to tell, I’m not good at determining a good breeder from a bad one).
She had her dogs listed on puppies.com, and I wasn’t planning on even getting a dog. I honestly was just scrolling because my old dog passed away this year and I’ve been extremely depressed without him, so looking at pictures of other dogs sometimes cheers me up a little.
Then I stumbled across a puppy that stopped me in my tracks because he looked so similar to my old dog. I contacted the breeder and asked about him. She told me he’s 16 weeks and she really wants to sell him with his brother, but would be willing to to sell just one.
I didn’t know anything about littermate syndrome and thought separating two dogs she said were bonded would cause them anxiety, so I told her I’d get both and put a $500 deposit. She texted me that they are up to date on their shots.
Then, I started doing research on how to potty train two dogs at once, and every single article I read said not to get two puppies from the same litter.
I called back the breeder and expressed my concerns, and told her because of my research, I will only be getting one dog. She got extremely mad and told me she already posted on social media that both have found a home. She then told me that chihuahuas are dogs that need to be with other dogs in the house, and people who have only got one dog from her call her back all the time telling her they wished they had listened and gotten 2. She was throwing so much information at me, telling me how she has sold 2 all the time and not one dog has ever developed littermate syndrome. I told her I’d call her back in the morning with my decision, even though I’d already made up my mind on getting just one. I just wanted to ease the tension.
The next day, I called her back and said I’d only be getting one, and that I was not willing to debate the issue any further because the research was clear. Then, despite me already putting the deposit down, she told me she’s going to call someone else first to see if they’ll take both dogs before she’d give just the one to me.
Later she texted and said the person was not willing, so I could have just the one. To me, this proved she was motivated solely by profit, because if she truly believed that they need to be together, she would’ve never backed off in the span on 24 hours. I proceeded to tell her that I felt disrespected by the way she spoke to me, and threw her logic right back at her, saying that I could l not in good conscience take just the one if all that she said yesterday was true.
Note: I have a speech impediment. It’s very noticeable. And she noticed, and interpreted I guess as me being autistic. She texted me that she could tell I’m on the spectrum (which I’m not at all), and told me “I’m not your enemy. I’m not trying to belittle you. You’re in flight or fight mode.”
Other red flags about this breeder. She has numerous litters. She has puppies that are 15 weeks, 4 weeks, and 3 weeks. She has blue merle chihuahuas. She told me that dogs on medications only live 8-9 years, that heartworm prevention meds kill their livers and kidneys and to not let my vet push any more vaccines on then then the ones they’ve received. She also heavily pushed back when I told her I plan to crate train.
Looking back, I feel bad about myself that I even contacted her to begin with. It was absolutely against my better judgment and a decision made purely on the emotion of missing my old dog. Not going to lie though, I do feel really hurt by the whole thing and it’s made me nervous about ever getting another dog.
Note to add: I check my shelter on a regular basis. Unfortunately 95% of the dogs in the shelter near me are pit bulls or shepherds. Nothing against those breeds, but I’m scared of all big dogs after an attack when I was young and love chihuahuas. I’ve always heard chis and chi mixes are popular at shelters, but I’ve never seen one in mine, and that’s the breed I want
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Be patient with me- My previous dog, I found wandering around a parking lot, so this is my first time purchasing a dog, and I’m afraid I might have encountered a backyard breeder (although it’s hard for me to tell, I’m not good at determining a good breeder from a bad one).
She had her dogs listed on puppies.com, and I wasn’t planning on even getting a dog. I honestly was just scrolling because my old dog passed away this year and I’ve been extremely depressed without him, so looking at pictures of other dogs sometimes cheers me up a little.
Then I stumbled across a puppy that stopped me in my tracks because he looked so similar to my old dog. I contacted the breeder and asked about him. She told me he’s 16 weeks and she really wants to sell him with his brother, but would be willing to to sell just one.
I didn’t know anything about littermate syndrome and thought separating two dogs she said were bonded would cause them anxiety, so I told her I’d get both and put a $500 deposit. She texted me that they are up to date on their shots.
Then, I started doing research on how to potty train two dogs at once, and every single article I read said not to get two puppies from the same litter.
I called back the breeder and expressed my concerns, and told her because of my research, I will only be getting one dog. She got extremely mad and told me she already posted on social media that both have found a home. She then told me that chihuahuas are dogs that need to be with other dogs in the house, and people who have only got one dog from her call her back all the time telling her they wished they had listened and gotten 2. She was throwing so much information at me, telling me how she has sold 2 all the time and not one dog has ever developed littermate syndrome. I told her I’d call her back in the morning with my decision, even though I’d already made up my mind on getting just one. I just wanted to ease the tension.
The next day, I called her back and said I’d only be getting one, and that I was not willing to debate the issue any further because the research was clear. Then, despite me already putting the deposit down, she told me she’s going to call someone else first to see if they’ll take both dogs before she’d give just the one to me.
Later she texted and said the person was not willing, so I could have just the one. To me, this proved she was motivated solely by profit, because if she truly believed that they need to be together, she would’ve never backed off in the span on 24 hours. I proceeded to tell her that I felt disrespected by the way she spoke to me, and threw her logic right back at her, saying that I could l not in good conscience take just the one if all that she said yesterday was true.
Note: I have a speech impediment. It’s very noticeable. And she noticed, and interpreted I guess as me being autistic. She texted me that she could tell I’m on the spectrum (which I’m not at all), and told me “I’m not your enemy. I’m not trying to belittle you. You’re in flight or fight mode.”
Other red flags about this breeder. She has numerous litters. She has puppies that are 15 weeks, 4 weeks, and 3 weeks. She has blue merle chihuahuas. She told me that dogs on medications only live 8-9 years, that heartworm prevention meds kill their livers and kidneys and to not let my vet push any more vaccines on then then the ones they’ve received. She also heavily pushed back when I told her I plan to crate train.
Looking back, I feel bad about myself that I even contacted her to begin with. It was absolutely against my better judgment and a decision made purely on the emotion of missing my old dog. Not going to lie though, I do feel really hurt by the whole thing and it’s made me nervous about ever getting another dog.
Note to add: I check my shelter on a regular basis. Unfortunately 95% of the dogs in the shelter near me are pit bulls or shepherds. Nothing against those breeds, but I’m scared of all big dogs after an attack when I was young and love chihuahuas. I’ve always heard chis and chi mixes are popular at shelters, but I’ve never seen one in mine, and that’s the breed I want
2024.05.19 07:00 dreamed2life Relocation Guidance for Stock Market Investment Improved Success
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Your relocated chart can reveal astrological factors that are conducive to success in the stock market:
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Natal Chart Considerations for Stock Market Investors
Your natal chart lays the groundwork for your potential in financial investment:
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Utilizing Your Relocated Chart for Stock Market Investing
Your relocated chart can reveal astrological factors that are conducive to success in the stock market:
Significant House Positions for Investment:
- 2nd House (Personal Finances and Assets): A strong 2nd house can indicate an innate ability for managing personal finances and making profitable investments.
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By integrating insights from your relocated chart with astrocartography, you can identify the best places to maximize your potential as a stock market investor. For instance, a strong 2nd or 8th house in your relocated chart, coupled with a Jupiter line in astrocartography, might indicate a prime location for successful financial investments.
Natal Chart Considerations for Stock Market Investors
Your natal chart lays the groundwork for your potential in financial investment:
- Natal 2nd, 8th, and 10th Houses: These houses can reveal inherent abilities in financial management, investment strategies, and career potential.
- Natal Mercury, Jupiter, and Saturn: Their placements can provide insights into your natural propensity for analytical thinking, financial growth, and disciplined investing.
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2024.05.19 07:00 DryCarob8493 Help Needed: Choosing Between Home Study and Hostel Life for NEET Preparation
Hey everyone,
I recently took the NEET exam for the first time and it looks like I scored around 400 marks according to the answer keys. I've been studying online from home, but now I'm in a bit of a dilemma.
During my drop year, I'm planning to take some online classes and join the NEETprep offline test series. But here's the catch: the nearest test center for the series is a whopping 120 kilometers away from my place. My home is pretty chill for studying – it's quiet and I have all the amenities I need – but the downside is, I don't have anyone around me who's also prepping for NEET or JEE. Yeah, it's kinda rural where I live.
So, I'm considering heading to Ranchi, which is the closest place where the test series is available. But here's the kicker: the hostels there are way too pricey (9000), and I'm not sure if my family can afford it without feeling the pinch, we are not well off.
Now I'm stuck between two options: should I try to convince my family to cough up the cash for hostel expenses, or should I just stick to studying from home and make the long trip whenever there's a test? At the beginning, the tests are only once a month, so maybe it won't be too much of a hassle. But then again, I'm worried I won't have that competitive vibe that keeps me motivated throughout the year.
Any advice or suggestions would be super helpful!
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I recently took the NEET exam for the first time and it looks like I scored around 400 marks according to the answer keys. I've been studying online from home, but now I'm in a bit of a dilemma.
During my drop year, I'm planning to take some online classes and join the NEETprep offline test series. But here's the catch: the nearest test center for the series is a whopping 120 kilometers away from my place. My home is pretty chill for studying – it's quiet and I have all the amenities I need – but the downside is, I don't have anyone around me who's also prepping for NEET or JEE. Yeah, it's kinda rural where I live.
So, I'm considering heading to Ranchi, which is the closest place where the test series is available. But here's the kicker: the hostels there are way too pricey (9000), and I'm not sure if my family can afford it without feeling the pinch, we are not well off.
Now I'm stuck between two options: should I try to convince my family to cough up the cash for hostel expenses, or should I just stick to studying from home and make the long trip whenever there's a test? At the beginning, the tests are only once a month, so maybe it won't be too much of a hassle. But then again, I'm worried I won't have that competitive vibe that keeps me motivated throughout the year.
Any advice or suggestions would be super helpful!
2024.05.19 06:59 Fluid-Educator-7766 Break up or is my relationship fixable?
Hi Reddit,
I can’t believe I’m writing this post, but this has been on my mind for the past few months and I really need some external input. I need help to figure out if I’m in a toxic relationship, if there’s something I can do to fix it, if I’m over sensitive, or is it time for me to end this?
Context: I (M26) and my girlfriend (F25) have been together for 2.5 years, and known each other for 8 years. We both live in the U.S. but I’m from Europe and she’s from Central America, met in college. Issues started 2 years ago but when things are good she’s amazing (funny/beautiful/caring/makes me feel unconditionally loved/etc) and I always thought the issues were friction we could iron out together. With time I have grown increasingly skeptical of that. This is my first relationship (longer than 3 months) so at the same time I’m worried that maybe I am overly skeptical, that I only see my perspective and fail to see hers. I want to be fair to her, because I love her and care deeply for her as a person, I am just starting to resent the relationship.
History of issues: To me the issues are all centered in my girlfriends anxiety. Frequently, rather than being vulnerable, she projects her anxiety on me and accusing me of all kinds of things. I have both tried to shake off those moments, to recognize that this isn’t her but her anxiety talking, but it still affects me deeply. Not only when it occurs, but when I am doing something and she seems fine I still worry that maybe I will do something wrong and she will snap and this moment will turn to a life or death situation. I have also obviously communicated my concern over this behavior repeatedly, and every time after she takes things too far she apologizes and takes ownership and we come up with a strategy to avoid the issue from repeating. This all sounds very healthy, I think, but the problem is that we’ve had these issues and conversations 25+ times and here we still are. Some things have gotten better for sure but it still feels unbearable to me. Let me provide three examples to illustrate our issues (from my perspective).
Example 1 - 1.5 years ago: My best friend and I were victims of attempted robbery from people affiliated with organized crime, the event went to court, and after the trial we wanted to get away from everything. My girlfriend and I had planned to go to a Caribbean island shortly after, so I invited my friend to come a week before my girlfriend and leave the day she arrived. We were both pretty shaken up and just wanted to talk things out and enjoy a tropical paradise. The first night my friend and I arrive (girlfriend still in the US) she starts texting fervently that my friend and I shouldn’t see any of the sights so she and I can see them together for the first time. I get where she’s coming from but this is also a challenging time for me and my best friend so I am not willing to completely sacrifice his week with me to appease my girlfriend. Things escalate and she demands my attention all the time. When my friend and I is out she is calling me 50+ times in a row, texting me that if I love her I would respond and that I am ruing hers and mine vacation and though I’m trying to deescalate I don’t see how to. I end up turning off my phone, although she begs me not to, but I’m still in my head unable to enjoy the night. When I turn my phone back on next day there’s a picture of herself with a cut (very shallow but still) saying I made her do this. This event is the low point of our relationship, and I told her if she ever hurts herself or threatens to hurt herself I’m out, and to be fair to her she has not once since hurt herself. Nonetheless, the calls continue after this (50+ a day) and I spent 3-4h a day on the phone with her and neglecting the trip with my best friend. Damn writing this out really makes me ashamed for not standing my ground back then. Anyways, this really colored the trip with my childhood friend and I think I still resent myself and her for making that happen.
Example 2 - 0.5 years ago: I visited a close childhood friend in South America for 2.5 weeks. Because of the events that transpired in example 1, my girlfriend was nervous for my trip. She expressed worry that she would act out in the same way as my last trip. I really appreciated this self-awareness. We therefore talked extensively about how to avoid issues. The first few days were alright, with her being anxious but being vulnerable about it and we managed well, calling once a day and texting 15-20 messages a day (more than I’d want, but that’s a compromise I’m okay with). At this point I make a mistake, but her reactions to it is (in my head at least) not proportional. I told her I was going out with my friend and his friend that weekend, and she expressed that this would make her anxious that I would cheat on her. So I asked what can I do, and we decided I’d send her a text once I left the pre-game, once I left the club, and call her once I got back to my friends place. A little bit much I thought, but I love her so a fair compromise for now. Unfortunately, I got caught up in the moment at the pre-game, and forgot to text my girlfriend. I realized as I was walking home from the club with 25+ missed calls and a bunch of emotional messages about how I forgot because I was around beautiful women and how I don’t love her. Here I understand her pain. She was vulnerable, I agreed to a compromise and I didn’t fulfill my end. 25+ calls is never productive but hey I had some blame here. The following day I call her for 1.5 hours apologizing and we talk things out, and it feels like though she is feeling anxious that she accepts my apology and we have now managed to resolve my mistake. The same night my friend and his friends are going to someone else’s house for a BBQ (which I told my girlfriend about days before). An hour before we are about to leave my girlfriend starts telling me to talk to her on the phone, because I hurt her so bad and when I say I can’t because we are 10 people having a beer before we head out she says she doesn’t care and that I hurt her and now she “wants to make my life miserable”. I tell her “hey I understand you’re upset but I never want to hear those words from the person I love. I know I hurt you but never intentionally”. She says she doesn’t care and keeps calling me non-stop for 40 minutes and I’m worried that if I don’t pick up she will start to call my friend. I try to deescalate and beg her to take a step back and that she is pushing me away by doing this. The whole thing culminates by me getting out of the Uber towards the barbecue and telling my friends that I think my girlfriend and I are breaking up and I need to deal with it. I am crying as I say this and feel so damn embarrassed. Even writing it now I can’t believe this actually happened. Damn. Anyways, as soon as I tell her that I am no longer going to the bbq and I left my friends car she becomes a different person (the person I love) and tells me she is so sorry and realize she took it too far and begs me to order an Uber to the BBQ. She says she’ll pay for it and begs me to go. At that point I’m just so embarrassed at the whole thing and tell her something along the lines of “why the fuck did you push me this far then. I told you you are pushing me away”. I head home, and wonder how someone who loves me so much can intentionally cause me so much harm and I seriously begin to doubt if her and I will ever work. I tell her I don’t think I want to be in the relationship, but that I recognize I’m emotional so I need 7 days without contact to process my thoughts. I won’t block her, but if she reaches out I will. She does reach out (albeit with a nice message) but I still block her.
I probably should have left the relationship here, but damn I love her, we live together, and at this point she was depending on me for her visa to stay in the country. I don’t want to rip all that apart from her. So I say I don’t know if we’ll ever feel okay, but I’m willing to give this one last chance.
To her defense, she take a lot of new steps at this point. She tells her mom and sister everything that happened (including her trust issues and jealousy), she starts with anxiety medication and starts being more vulnerable with her therapist. I am still skeptical that things will actually be okay, but I recognize the effort she puts in and I really appreciate it. The frequency of our arguments decrease, and more disputes now end before they become arguments.
Example 3 - Yesterday: My GF flew to Vegas with three of her girlfriends (I know two of them very well) and I know it’s a high risk trip for someone in a relationship but I honestly have complete trust in my GF. I decided to do a dinner with 3 of my friends (who my GF knows equally well, we’re all in a group chat together and do things regularly together) and they invited a 4th person who was part of our sports team (my girlfriend met her 2-3 times, just like me).
She texts me from Vegas asking who’s coming to the dinner and once she finds out this 4th person is coming she asks nicely if we cannot be in someone else’s apartment. When I say hey I’m sorry but I already said we could be at my place she asks at least don’t smoke weed together (my friends are stoners so 100% chance they’ll bring weed), and I say “I’m sorry but I won’t tell them not to and I’ll join In too if they bring it but you have nothing to worry about. I love you and I’ll call you as soon as they leave?” My girlfriend then goes into panic mode and calls me nonstop throughout dinner. I go to the bathroom and begs her to stop, tells her she is ruining this for me, and ask her to trust me. She still calls nonstop until they leave. I try to keep a brave face but again it really ruins the dinner for me.
At this point I have told her how actions like these makes me feel uneasy and prevents me from enjoying life. I told her I need her to trust me. I told her that I won’t have it anymore. And if anything the idea that she doesn’t trust me around 3 people she knows well with a 4th stranger while she’s at a pool party in bikini in Vegas just seems so hypocritical it makes me ever more frustrated.
In her defense: - Her dad cheated multiple times while she was growing up. I understand this makes it excruciatingly difficult to trust a partner. - She started seeing a therapist ~8 months ago. - She now takes medication for her anxiety. - She now has told her mom and sister about her trust issues for the first time in her life. - She began attending codependency meetings regularly. - She says she doesn’t want me to limit my life just for me to communicate better what I’m doing (I think it’s really possible that I’m bad at communicating, because to me this request feels like it comes from a lack of trust).
She is putting in immense effort, but I just feel like I can’t do this anymore. Even when things are good I’m worried that she’s going to explode and that prevents me from enjoying the good times too. I love her and she’s amazing in many ways, but I don’t like feeling responsible for her suffering. I know that by trying to end things she’s going to suffer so much and she’ll beg me to give her another chance. I don’t want to but in those moments I feel like she’s the rational version of herself and that maybe she’ll never explode again. Can I solve my relationship with her? Is it time to leave? Is it fair to leave when she is putting in so much effort? How do I find the courage to go through with it?
Thanks so much in advance, and I’m sorry for such a lengthy post.
TL;DR: I’m I overly sensitive, can this relationship be fixed, or is it time to breakup? Is it fair to breakup if the other person is putting so much effort in?
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I can’t believe I’m writing this post, but this has been on my mind for the past few months and I really need some external input. I need help to figure out if I’m in a toxic relationship, if there’s something I can do to fix it, if I’m over sensitive, or is it time for me to end this?
Context: I (M26) and my girlfriend (F25) have been together for 2.5 years, and known each other for 8 years. We both live in the U.S. but I’m from Europe and she’s from Central America, met in college. Issues started 2 years ago but when things are good she’s amazing (funny/beautiful/caring/makes me feel unconditionally loved/etc) and I always thought the issues were friction we could iron out together. With time I have grown increasingly skeptical of that. This is my first relationship (longer than 3 months) so at the same time I’m worried that maybe I am overly skeptical, that I only see my perspective and fail to see hers. I want to be fair to her, because I love her and care deeply for her as a person, I am just starting to resent the relationship.
History of issues: To me the issues are all centered in my girlfriends anxiety. Frequently, rather than being vulnerable, she projects her anxiety on me and accusing me of all kinds of things. I have both tried to shake off those moments, to recognize that this isn’t her but her anxiety talking, but it still affects me deeply. Not only when it occurs, but when I am doing something and she seems fine I still worry that maybe I will do something wrong and she will snap and this moment will turn to a life or death situation. I have also obviously communicated my concern over this behavior repeatedly, and every time after she takes things too far she apologizes and takes ownership and we come up with a strategy to avoid the issue from repeating. This all sounds very healthy, I think, but the problem is that we’ve had these issues and conversations 25+ times and here we still are. Some things have gotten better for sure but it still feels unbearable to me. Let me provide three examples to illustrate our issues (from my perspective).
Example 1 - 1.5 years ago: My best friend and I were victims of attempted robbery from people affiliated with organized crime, the event went to court, and after the trial we wanted to get away from everything. My girlfriend and I had planned to go to a Caribbean island shortly after, so I invited my friend to come a week before my girlfriend and leave the day she arrived. We were both pretty shaken up and just wanted to talk things out and enjoy a tropical paradise. The first night my friend and I arrive (girlfriend still in the US) she starts texting fervently that my friend and I shouldn’t see any of the sights so she and I can see them together for the first time. I get where she’s coming from but this is also a challenging time for me and my best friend so I am not willing to completely sacrifice his week with me to appease my girlfriend. Things escalate and she demands my attention all the time. When my friend and I is out she is calling me 50+ times in a row, texting me that if I love her I would respond and that I am ruing hers and mine vacation and though I’m trying to deescalate I don’t see how to. I end up turning off my phone, although she begs me not to, but I’m still in my head unable to enjoy the night. When I turn my phone back on next day there’s a picture of herself with a cut (very shallow but still) saying I made her do this. This event is the low point of our relationship, and I told her if she ever hurts herself or threatens to hurt herself I’m out, and to be fair to her she has not once since hurt herself. Nonetheless, the calls continue after this (50+ a day) and I spent 3-4h a day on the phone with her and neglecting the trip with my best friend. Damn writing this out really makes me ashamed for not standing my ground back then. Anyways, this really colored the trip with my childhood friend and I think I still resent myself and her for making that happen.
Example 2 - 0.5 years ago: I visited a close childhood friend in South America for 2.5 weeks. Because of the events that transpired in example 1, my girlfriend was nervous for my trip. She expressed worry that she would act out in the same way as my last trip. I really appreciated this self-awareness. We therefore talked extensively about how to avoid issues. The first few days were alright, with her being anxious but being vulnerable about it and we managed well, calling once a day and texting 15-20 messages a day (more than I’d want, but that’s a compromise I’m okay with). At this point I make a mistake, but her reactions to it is (in my head at least) not proportional. I told her I was going out with my friend and his friend that weekend, and she expressed that this would make her anxious that I would cheat on her. So I asked what can I do, and we decided I’d send her a text once I left the pre-game, once I left the club, and call her once I got back to my friends place. A little bit much I thought, but I love her so a fair compromise for now. Unfortunately, I got caught up in the moment at the pre-game, and forgot to text my girlfriend. I realized as I was walking home from the club with 25+ missed calls and a bunch of emotional messages about how I forgot because I was around beautiful women and how I don’t love her. Here I understand her pain. She was vulnerable, I agreed to a compromise and I didn’t fulfill my end. 25+ calls is never productive but hey I had some blame here. The following day I call her for 1.5 hours apologizing and we talk things out, and it feels like though she is feeling anxious that she accepts my apology and we have now managed to resolve my mistake. The same night my friend and his friends are going to someone else’s house for a BBQ (which I told my girlfriend about days before). An hour before we are about to leave my girlfriend starts telling me to talk to her on the phone, because I hurt her so bad and when I say I can’t because we are 10 people having a beer before we head out she says she doesn’t care and that I hurt her and now she “wants to make my life miserable”. I tell her “hey I understand you’re upset but I never want to hear those words from the person I love. I know I hurt you but never intentionally”. She says she doesn’t care and keeps calling me non-stop for 40 minutes and I’m worried that if I don’t pick up she will start to call my friend. I try to deescalate and beg her to take a step back and that she is pushing me away by doing this. The whole thing culminates by me getting out of the Uber towards the barbecue and telling my friends that I think my girlfriend and I are breaking up and I need to deal with it. I am crying as I say this and feel so damn embarrassed. Even writing it now I can’t believe this actually happened. Damn. Anyways, as soon as I tell her that I am no longer going to the bbq and I left my friends car she becomes a different person (the person I love) and tells me she is so sorry and realize she took it too far and begs me to order an Uber to the BBQ. She says she’ll pay for it and begs me to go. At that point I’m just so embarrassed at the whole thing and tell her something along the lines of “why the fuck did you push me this far then. I told you you are pushing me away”. I head home, and wonder how someone who loves me so much can intentionally cause me so much harm and I seriously begin to doubt if her and I will ever work. I tell her I don’t think I want to be in the relationship, but that I recognize I’m emotional so I need 7 days without contact to process my thoughts. I won’t block her, but if she reaches out I will. She does reach out (albeit with a nice message) but I still block her.
I probably should have left the relationship here, but damn I love her, we live together, and at this point she was depending on me for her visa to stay in the country. I don’t want to rip all that apart from her. So I say I don’t know if we’ll ever feel okay, but I’m willing to give this one last chance.
To her defense, she take a lot of new steps at this point. She tells her mom and sister everything that happened (including her trust issues and jealousy), she starts with anxiety medication and starts being more vulnerable with her therapist. I am still skeptical that things will actually be okay, but I recognize the effort she puts in and I really appreciate it. The frequency of our arguments decrease, and more disputes now end before they become arguments.
Example 3 - Yesterday: My GF flew to Vegas with three of her girlfriends (I know two of them very well) and I know it’s a high risk trip for someone in a relationship but I honestly have complete trust in my GF. I decided to do a dinner with 3 of my friends (who my GF knows equally well, we’re all in a group chat together and do things regularly together) and they invited a 4th person who was part of our sports team (my girlfriend met her 2-3 times, just like me).
She texts me from Vegas asking who’s coming to the dinner and once she finds out this 4th person is coming she asks nicely if we cannot be in someone else’s apartment. When I say hey I’m sorry but I already said we could be at my place she asks at least don’t smoke weed together (my friends are stoners so 100% chance they’ll bring weed), and I say “I’m sorry but I won’t tell them not to and I’ll join In too if they bring it but you have nothing to worry about. I love you and I’ll call you as soon as they leave?” My girlfriend then goes into panic mode and calls me nonstop throughout dinner. I go to the bathroom and begs her to stop, tells her she is ruining this for me, and ask her to trust me. She still calls nonstop until they leave. I try to keep a brave face but again it really ruins the dinner for me.
At this point I have told her how actions like these makes me feel uneasy and prevents me from enjoying life. I told her I need her to trust me. I told her that I won’t have it anymore. And if anything the idea that she doesn’t trust me around 3 people she knows well with a 4th stranger while she’s at a pool party in bikini in Vegas just seems so hypocritical it makes me ever more frustrated.
In her defense: - Her dad cheated multiple times while she was growing up. I understand this makes it excruciatingly difficult to trust a partner. - She started seeing a therapist ~8 months ago. - She now takes medication for her anxiety. - She now has told her mom and sister about her trust issues for the first time in her life. - She began attending codependency meetings regularly. - She says she doesn’t want me to limit my life just for me to communicate better what I’m doing (I think it’s really possible that I’m bad at communicating, because to me this request feels like it comes from a lack of trust).
She is putting in immense effort, but I just feel like I can’t do this anymore. Even when things are good I’m worried that she’s going to explode and that prevents me from enjoying the good times too. I love her and she’s amazing in many ways, but I don’t like feeling responsible for her suffering. I know that by trying to end things she’s going to suffer so much and she’ll beg me to give her another chance. I don’t want to but in those moments I feel like she’s the rational version of herself and that maybe she’ll never explode again. Can I solve my relationship with her? Is it time to leave? Is it fair to leave when she is putting in so much effort? How do I find the courage to go through with it?
Thanks so much in advance, and I’m sorry for such a lengthy post.
TL;DR: I’m I overly sensitive, can this relationship be fixed, or is it time to breakup? Is it fair to breakup if the other person is putting so much effort in?
2024.05.19 06:58 ermargahd Bathroom & Bedroom Ceiling - Is this mold?
 | For context, the house was built 19 years ago. This particular room with bathroom was last used 10 years ago and I'm currently using it. Not sure if this is due to its old age or if this is mold? submitted by ermargahd to CleaningTips [link] [comments] Planning on painting over it, but should I clean it first? What should I use to clean it with? 2nd photo is my bedroom ceiling. Would appreciate the help. Thank you 😁 |
2024.05.19 06:57 agent-assbutt How a craving for school pizza made me angry about being a glass child
(note: this is an extremely self-absorbed and long-winded post centered on comparing my upbringing to my husband's upbringing and it contains mentions of eating disorders and lots of whining. This is word vomit, is not of value, and I will probably delete this soon).
Sometimes it's the little things that make me realize how... slightly different my upbringing was... in comparison to people who grew up with healthy siblings. For me, it was nostalgic school pizza.
I ate school lunch every day. Packing? Lol, no. My husband? He told me tonight that he never, like as in never ever, ate school lunch. His mom packed for him every single day - he got special sandwiches and casseroles and even sushi once or twice. Therefore, he has no nostalgia for school pizza, whereas I do, and I am about to spend $50 on some brand of pizza that apparently tastes just like it.
My husband was raised differently than me. He was raised by upper middle class parents, including his mom being SAHM for his entire life, and he and his sibling were both healthy their entire lives. My parents both worked in law enforcement/social work adjacent jobs, both working nights sometimes, and they had city and nonprofit pay, aka we were probably lower middle class. I also had an extremely ill sibling for the duration of middle school and the first year of high school.
As a child, my husband was never left alone. He didn't stay home alone until he was 14. He never had to stay alone for days and weeks like I did. We lived in a rural area too, so I was far from town and couldn't go anywhere. While my sibling was hospitalized two hours away or at various appointments, they'd come home late at night most days. There were weeks in the summer where they were home maybe 6 hours a week and I was alone with neighbors and my aunt checking in every other day. Sometimes they sent me to day camp in the summer and I'd be the last one picked up. I always went to day camp because I suspect overnight camp cost too much - my sibling's illness was expensive. If I wasn't at day camp, I was alone all the time during summer and after school. This lasted four years.
Honestly, it wasn't that bad at the time. I felt like it was my house and I walked the dogs and stayed up late and ate frozen foods and went swimming in our above ground pool. I had two close friends in the neighborhood and I'd spend time with them when I could. I got a job when I was 15 and my friend's mom picked me up and drove me back and forth from work until I got my license. I was online A LOT and was in chat rooms and meeting randos on message boards as young as 12. I even got into web design and taught myself a few basic programming languages. Honestly, I was kind of raised by the Internet
I also ate school lunch every day. I know how to poke a milk bag perfectly. I am constantly nostalgic for the nuggets, pizza, and Bosco sticks of my middle and high school cafeterias. My parents would give me money at the beginning of the week and I'd map my school lunch plan out. Lunch was the highlight of my day for awhile. I ate a lot of Bosco sticks. My school also had a vending machine, so I drank lots of Dr. Pepper too. I honestly got pretty fat. Until I wasn't, because somehow (the Internet), I calculated the calories of everything at my school cafeteria, and then only nutrigrain bars and an apple were safe. I ate Bosco sticks at least weekly though - I craved them even when I was starving myself. I just didn't usually keep them down and I'll leave it at that.
School pizza though. School pizza isn't tainted like Bosco sticks. It was different pizza every week in high school so I never knew the calories. Thus I didn't eat it after first semester of high school. Even after I was "recovering" and my sibling got better, meaning suddenly I wasn't being raised by the Internet anymore, I avoided school pizza. The memories I have are from 2000 and pizza day at my elementary school stands as a consistently pleasant memory. I make pizzas now. Good pizzas. I love pizza. I've made it for my husband, parents, and sibling.
Never school pizza though.
I want to try $50 nostalgic pizza.
My husband says it's probably gross and not worth $50.
He never had to do meal planning when he was 12 and alone for weeks at a time though.
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Sometimes it's the little things that make me realize how... slightly different my upbringing was... in comparison to people who grew up with healthy siblings. For me, it was nostalgic school pizza.
I ate school lunch every day. Packing? Lol, no. My husband? He told me tonight that he never, like as in never ever, ate school lunch. His mom packed for him every single day - he got special sandwiches and casseroles and even sushi once or twice. Therefore, he has no nostalgia for school pizza, whereas I do, and I am about to spend $50 on some brand of pizza that apparently tastes just like it.
My husband was raised differently than me. He was raised by upper middle class parents, including his mom being SAHM for his entire life, and he and his sibling were both healthy their entire lives. My parents both worked in law enforcement/social work adjacent jobs, both working nights sometimes, and they had city and nonprofit pay, aka we were probably lower middle class. I also had an extremely ill sibling for the duration of middle school and the first year of high school.
As a child, my husband was never left alone. He didn't stay home alone until he was 14. He never had to stay alone for days and weeks like I did. We lived in a rural area too, so I was far from town and couldn't go anywhere. While my sibling was hospitalized two hours away or at various appointments, they'd come home late at night most days. There were weeks in the summer where they were home maybe 6 hours a week and I was alone with neighbors and my aunt checking in every other day. Sometimes they sent me to day camp in the summer and I'd be the last one picked up. I always went to day camp because I suspect overnight camp cost too much - my sibling's illness was expensive. If I wasn't at day camp, I was alone all the time during summer and after school. This lasted four years.
Honestly, it wasn't that bad at the time. I felt like it was my house and I walked the dogs and stayed up late and ate frozen foods and went swimming in our above ground pool. I had two close friends in the neighborhood and I'd spend time with them when I could. I got a job when I was 15 and my friend's mom picked me up and drove me back and forth from work until I got my license. I was online A LOT and was in chat rooms and meeting randos on message boards as young as 12. I even got into web design and taught myself a few basic programming languages. Honestly, I was kind of raised by the Internet
I also ate school lunch every day. I know how to poke a milk bag perfectly. I am constantly nostalgic for the nuggets, pizza, and Bosco sticks of my middle and high school cafeterias. My parents would give me money at the beginning of the week and I'd map my school lunch plan out. Lunch was the highlight of my day for awhile. I ate a lot of Bosco sticks. My school also had a vending machine, so I drank lots of Dr. Pepper too. I honestly got pretty fat. Until I wasn't, because somehow (the Internet), I calculated the calories of everything at my school cafeteria, and then only nutrigrain bars and an apple were safe. I ate Bosco sticks at least weekly though - I craved them even when I was starving myself. I just didn't usually keep them down and I'll leave it at that.
School pizza though. School pizza isn't tainted like Bosco sticks. It was different pizza every week in high school so I never knew the calories. Thus I didn't eat it after first semester of high school. Even after I was "recovering" and my sibling got better, meaning suddenly I wasn't being raised by the Internet anymore, I avoided school pizza. The memories I have are from 2000 and pizza day at my elementary school stands as a consistently pleasant memory. I make pizzas now. Good pizzas. I love pizza. I've made it for my husband, parents, and sibling.
Never school pizza though.
I want to try $50 nostalgic pizza.
My husband says it's probably gross and not worth $50.
He never had to do meal planning when he was 12 and alone for weeks at a time though.
2024.05.19 06:57 Hanftee ADHD and household planning
This question is mostly directed at my fellow A(u)DHDers, but people with other flavours of neurospice are welcome to join in!
I live in a household with another person (my wonderful partner, who also has ADHD) and two cats. I am, frankly, a bit tired of things needing to pile up for days to weeks before we get our asses in gear and clean up. We manage to be somewhat consistent with dishes and garbage but other than that it's a struggle (and I feel like the decorative skull I have on my desk next to the potholder, random pens, lighter, measuring tape and empty water bottles agrees).
Anyway, I wanted to try remidying this by making a household plan and putting a copy on a wall in each room. By household plan I mean a (flexible?) schedule of what gets cleaned when. Naturally, it's never as easy as "use a planner" or "make a schedule" for us, so I was wondering if any of you also use a household plan and have some insights to share that help actually sticking to it. Thank you in advance!
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I live in a household with another person (my wonderful partner, who also has ADHD) and two cats. I am, frankly, a bit tired of things needing to pile up for days to weeks before we get our asses in gear and clean up. We manage to be somewhat consistent with dishes and garbage but other than that it's a struggle (and I feel like the decorative skull I have on my desk next to the potholder, random pens, lighter, measuring tape and empty water bottles agrees).
Anyway, I wanted to try remidying this by making a household plan and putting a copy on a wall in each room. By household plan I mean a (flexible?) schedule of what gets cleaned when. Naturally, it's never as easy as "use a planner" or "make a schedule" for us, so I was wondering if any of you also use a household plan and have some insights to share that help actually sticking to it. Thank you in advance!
2024.05.19 06:56 GotYoHead Need Bag(s) for Europe Travel, Study abroad, Uni
Following my high school graduation, I will be traveling domestically within the US for a week, and then immediately, (without stopping by home) will be traveling to Europe for a two-week trip with friends. During this trip, I will traveling to three cities within Europe. For this trip, I was planning on getting a 40ish liter backpack like a farpoint 40 or an AER TP3 as well as a smaller packable bag and onebagging it.
I recently discovered that I will be studying abroad in France this upcoming fall as part of my first semester in Uni. I was planning on just using the same bag from the Europe trip and a large checked bag since I will be there for multiple months. However, I thought that since I would be travelling within Europe a lot during my time there I should probably get a smaller bag that I can use on budget airlines. I would probably also use this bag as a school bag (so it would probably need to have a laptop compartment and some organization for miscellaneous items).
This leaves me with two main options for how I can go about this (unless there is a better option I'm missing)
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I recently discovered that I will be studying abroad in France this upcoming fall as part of my first semester in Uni. I was planning on just using the same bag from the Europe trip and a large checked bag since I will be there for multiple months. However, I thought that since I would be travelling within Europe a lot during my time there I should probably get a smaller bag that I can use on budget airlines. I would probably also use this bag as a school bag (so it would probably need to have a laptop compartment and some organization for miscellaneous items).
This leaves me with two main options for how I can go about this (unless there is a better option I'm missing)
- I could stick with my original plan and get a larger onebag and try to find a durable and functional packable bag that could withstand the wear and tear of 6 months in Europe. The issue with this option is that I feel like finding such a packable bag would be expensive.
- Get the larger onebag and also get a smaller 25ish liter backpack for inter-european onebagging that would double as my uni pack. The issue with this option is that it would probably prevent me from bringing the uni backpack on my Europe trip as it likely wouldn't fit the size guidelines for a personal item.
2024.05.19 06:56 weshall_k28 90 Days CAT 2024 study schedule by GPT!
Was messing around chat GPT today so i figured might as well give it some prompt to create a study schedule for me. now give my preferences, i did give GPT some specific restrictions like study time should not exceed 3 hours a day on a weekday (cause I am working and that's all i can devote). anyway, long story short - I am attaching the table which GPT spat out. could any of you who has been prepping for a while or who has already cleared CAT have a quick glance and critique it?
I am seriously planning to stick to it, if it doesn't suck haha!
Link to Excel: https://we.tl/t-HB3oGZ1PzM
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I am seriously planning to stick to it, if it doesn't suck haha!
Link to Excel: https://we.tl/t-HB3oGZ1PzM
2024.05.19 06:55 Nolleo missing my fp
idk i’m really drunk rn. my fp is my ex boyfriend. we broke up 2 months ago bc he said he ‘couldnt be in a relationship rn’ due to his trauma (after 7 months together) but we carried on acting like a couple e.g i’d stay at his house multiple days a week, spend time with his family, sleep skin to skin etc but we went no contact nearly 5 days ago now. the catalyst was i found viagra in his drawer and he said he can’t go without sex forever and i just couldn’t handle being so intimate with him knowing he was planning to sleep with another woman. i’d lay next to him and think about someone else seeing his vulnerable side like i do and it made me feel sick all of the time.
i’m really struggling. i miss him so much. i think about him almost all day every single day. i decided to go no contact for my own mental health and he was very upset. he still has some of my stuff that i left at his house and he promised he’d bring it back but wouldn’t specify when which i feel like he’s just dangling it over me so he has an excuse to see me down the line. we had a very healthy and loving relationship, the healthiest and happiest relationship either of us have ever been in and i feel like that’s why i’m handling it so badly. i’m trying to fill my time with therapy, spending time with friends and family and doing healthy stuff like working out and going for walks and stuff but it’s just hitting me pretty hard tonight.
i just want to see him. i want a hug. i want to sleep next to him again. i miss him so much. i miss talking to him every day. i miss his family. i miss his dog. idk what to do with myself. i’m fighting for my life to make sure i don’t break no contact since i asked for it but i’m just struggling so much. he has a lot of mental health issues and i just want him to be okay. i’ve talked to friends and they’re saying it’s for the better and deep down i know it is too but i just feel like i’m drowning without him. codependency sucks. having an fp sucks
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i’m really struggling. i miss him so much. i think about him almost all day every single day. i decided to go no contact for my own mental health and he was very upset. he still has some of my stuff that i left at his house and he promised he’d bring it back but wouldn’t specify when which i feel like he’s just dangling it over me so he has an excuse to see me down the line. we had a very healthy and loving relationship, the healthiest and happiest relationship either of us have ever been in and i feel like that’s why i’m handling it so badly. i’m trying to fill my time with therapy, spending time with friends and family and doing healthy stuff like working out and going for walks and stuff but it’s just hitting me pretty hard tonight.
i just want to see him. i want a hug. i want to sleep next to him again. i miss him so much. i miss talking to him every day. i miss his family. i miss his dog. idk what to do with myself. i’m fighting for my life to make sure i don’t break no contact since i asked for it but i’m just struggling so much. he has a lot of mental health issues and i just want him to be okay. i’ve talked to friends and they’re saying it’s for the better and deep down i know it is too but i just feel like i’m drowning without him. codependency sucks. having an fp sucks
2024.05.19 06:53 SuccessfulVoice2891 The moment you realize you don’t have to let emet ruin your life is a life changing, beautiful moment
I have a positive story to share. I avoid this sub for the most part unless I’m in a bad place mentally, but I’ve been wanting to share. I will try to keep a very long story short.
I’ve had emetophobia since I was as young as 4. It only cropped up if someone got sick near me or if someone in my house was sick, but for the most part it didn’t bother me on a daily basis.
Shortly after having my daughter, my husband got a series of sb* right in a row. I was already dealing with PPD/PPA, and this sent me over the edge. It got BAD. I barely remember the first two years of my daughter’s life. At my worst, I spent an entire trip in New York in the hotel room because I was convinced I was sick (I wasn’t). My husband actually got sick on another trip, and I left him in another state, booked him a separate flight home, to avoid sitting next to him. Just painting a picture of how bad it was. For a period of time, I was suicidal, I was taking Xanax around the clock just to get through the day, and I got on Zoloft to help manage. I was in a case study to do EMDR for emet, which also helped a lot.
I took up a pretty strict lifestyle where I went to therapy weekly (still do), took an MBSR (mindfulness based stress reduction) course, and took up yoga. Over the course of a year and a half doing that, I was able to get off medication completely and deal with my symptoms as they crop up.
Since my daughter started school, it’s been tough, but I make it through. My husband handles when she does get sick (not often) and I usually go to my mom’s house.
UNTIL. We were recently on a camping trip in our camper. My daughter got sick on the FIRST night we were there, the only night we didn’t have a campsite with hookups. No running water, we discovered we didn’t have bleach, and I had a panic attack and decided I couldn’t do it. I got a hotel room across the street, literally bought a separate hotel room for her to shower in, and I was 100% prepared to get an Uber to the airport and fly home the next morning. There was no way I would be able to stay for a whole week in a confined space like that. What if my husband or I got it next?
The next morning I checked on her and had my finger on the button to call an Uber. She told me she felt bad for ruining the trip. I realized in that moment that if I left, I would be proving her right. My husband was extremely supportive and told me he would not be upset if I left but that he would love if I would stay. So I made the decision to stay. I went to Walmart, bought bleach and Lysol and new sheets, cleaned the camper from top to bottom, and tried to enjoy the day outside.
We actually had the BEST trip. No one else got sick. We made SO MANY MEMORIES that I would’ve missed out on by leaving. I’m so so glad I stayed. It was an emotional week for me, and I was so glad everyone in my life realized what a huge step it was for me.
I’m sharing this because I know there are people here like me who believe they can’t do it and that it will never get better. But it CAN. Since I got back, I haven’t been constantly washing my hands or using Zylast like usual. It hasn’t been on my mind 24/7 like usual. I still get anxious when I hear about it, but it’s not occupying my brain all day long anymore.
Tonight, my husband is out of town. The worst time she could possibly get sick. We’re watching a movie and she tells me she thinks she’s going to get sick. I freaked out for a moment, took a Xanax (I rarely take them now) to calm myself, but was able to calm down and figure out a plan. I got everything ready in case it happened. I called my mom and she came over for a while. I still don’t know if she’s going to be okay, but I’m sitting here NOT wanting to die over it. Knowing that whatever happens, we will be okay. Knowing that I can do it.
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I’ve had emetophobia since I was as young as 4. It only cropped up if someone got sick near me or if someone in my house was sick, but for the most part it didn’t bother me on a daily basis.
Shortly after having my daughter, my husband got a series of sb* right in a row. I was already dealing with PPD/PPA, and this sent me over the edge. It got BAD. I barely remember the first two years of my daughter’s life. At my worst, I spent an entire trip in New York in the hotel room because I was convinced I was sick (I wasn’t). My husband actually got sick on another trip, and I left him in another state, booked him a separate flight home, to avoid sitting next to him. Just painting a picture of how bad it was. For a period of time, I was suicidal, I was taking Xanax around the clock just to get through the day, and I got on Zoloft to help manage. I was in a case study to do EMDR for emet, which also helped a lot.
I took up a pretty strict lifestyle where I went to therapy weekly (still do), took an MBSR (mindfulness based stress reduction) course, and took up yoga. Over the course of a year and a half doing that, I was able to get off medication completely and deal with my symptoms as they crop up.
Since my daughter started school, it’s been tough, but I make it through. My husband handles when she does get sick (not often) and I usually go to my mom’s house.
UNTIL. We were recently on a camping trip in our camper. My daughter got sick on the FIRST night we were there, the only night we didn’t have a campsite with hookups. No running water, we discovered we didn’t have bleach, and I had a panic attack and decided I couldn’t do it. I got a hotel room across the street, literally bought a separate hotel room for her to shower in, and I was 100% prepared to get an Uber to the airport and fly home the next morning. There was no way I would be able to stay for a whole week in a confined space like that. What if my husband or I got it next?
The next morning I checked on her and had my finger on the button to call an Uber. She told me she felt bad for ruining the trip. I realized in that moment that if I left, I would be proving her right. My husband was extremely supportive and told me he would not be upset if I left but that he would love if I would stay. So I made the decision to stay. I went to Walmart, bought bleach and Lysol and new sheets, cleaned the camper from top to bottom, and tried to enjoy the day outside.
We actually had the BEST trip. No one else got sick. We made SO MANY MEMORIES that I would’ve missed out on by leaving. I’m so so glad I stayed. It was an emotional week for me, and I was so glad everyone in my life realized what a huge step it was for me.
I’m sharing this because I know there are people here like me who believe they can’t do it and that it will never get better. But it CAN. Since I got back, I haven’t been constantly washing my hands or using Zylast like usual. It hasn’t been on my mind 24/7 like usual. I still get anxious when I hear about it, but it’s not occupying my brain all day long anymore.
Tonight, my husband is out of town. The worst time she could possibly get sick. We’re watching a movie and she tells me she thinks she’s going to get sick. I freaked out for a moment, took a Xanax (I rarely take them now) to calm myself, but was able to calm down and figure out a plan. I got everything ready in case it happened. I called my mom and she came over for a while. I still don’t know if she’s going to be okay, but I’m sitting here NOT wanting to die over it. Knowing that whatever happens, we will be okay. Knowing that I can do it.
2024.05.19 06:52 LimpPhilosopher7229 Housing costs
Hi, I’m entering UH as a freshman next year and I was planning on staying on campus as I live over miles away. At first I thought housing and food would be around 10k at most, but the more I dove into it, it ends up being more than tuition?! Around 8k for housing, and since I’m getting a meal plan (mandatory 💔) that’s going to be another 8k. (If I get the best one, but I might end up getting the bronze plan). I’m wondering how much was it to live and have a meal plan, because at first I thought the meal plan was for the whole year, but the website and its rates is so misleading. Hell the “cost of attendance” says it’s 9k for housing AND food. I’m just wondering how much (estimate) y’all paid the first year on housing+meal plans. My tuition and housing is covered by aid, (before loans and work study) but I don’t think I can save 8k in 3 months for a meal plan even though I have a full time job. I’m not trying to rely on work study and I REALLY don’t want to take a loan. I’m probably only doing it for the first year, I just don’t think im going to do well as a commuter without having built relationships I could get from living on campus.
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2024.05.19 06:49 HenryDaveThorowaway Disclosed to a friend for the first time. Well, lesson learned.
TW: CSA, SI
TL;DR: Some bitches simply can't be trusted but some formerly bitch families can maybe make some growth? WUT.
I'd (30sf) lived with my roommate (30sf) for a decade and known her for even longer. I disclosed to her 1.5 yrs ago, after integrating EMDR into a VERY long CPTSD healing process early in the pandemic. She was so, so kind and understanding in the beginning. We'd been best friends for so long, that I genuinely feared calling her family, because family has such negative connotations for me, but lately, I was finally saying it more often.
Since the start of this year, my EMDR has primarily focused on the peak of my suicidal ideation and how it's entangled with my sibling-on-sibling CSA. It has been a rough and exhausting effort, but all things considered, I'm actually "doing" quite well, as much as one can under such conditions. I'd started FMLA leave from work because, SUPRISE, trauma causes lifelong physical ailments and chronic illnesses, and my roommate had reassured me we'd be re-signing the lease that we had less than a month left on, so I would at least not have to worry about housing.
I had one bad night. One bad night of zero sleep, fighting off the nightmares for the thousandth time, begging and pleading to just finally rest, and that's all it took. I called her out the next day over leaving her two-day old dish full of thawed chicken water in the microwave, and finally broke. I know I said a lot of delusion shit (that I immediately-and repeatedly-apologized for for days after, after I'd regained my compusure/grip on reality), but we discussed it for days after and scheduled a therapy session for as soon as we could get one to figure out what went wrong in our communication that night.
She couldn't even wait that long. After a week of the silent treatment (partially because she got mad at me for asking her to mask up while I was on medical leave--while she had active COVID, for the 4th time--and was still going out because she "had plans"), she started a fight with me out of nowhere, broke me down into a fully blown flashback, and then literally ran away from my weeping (which I have done--outside of a therapeutic setting--exactly 3x since my diagnosis). Then she came back the next afternoon (while I was literally in the process of hanging pictures we'd bought ages ago) saying she wouldn't be re-signing the lease. It wasn't even a discussion. She just decided and that was that, no matter how stunned I looked, how much I sobbed and shook, or the fact that I am unpaid right now, see some new specialist t every other day for this shattered brain or broken body, of the fact that we live in HCOL city where, even if I was working, I wouldn't be able to afford somewhere solo.
But the worst part? During her monologue, she tried to claim I had somehow blamed her for my CSA during my trauma tantrum from a couple weeks earlier.. Now I know in general, my shortterm memory has been fucked by the EMDR crossing-the-timelines mindfuckery, but I know myself damn well enough to know I did not and would never place the the blame on her, because why even in the actual hell would I? Folks, this woman used to be a public prosecutor assigned to the children's sexual abuse unit. You can't make this shit up.
And if that weren't all bad enough, in my immediate panic, I had nowehere left to turn, so I had to call my family for help, and because I had to explain why I wasn't working and undergoing all sorts of medical procedures, and after YEARS of So. Much. Fucking. "HEALING." I just gave it all up. Told my parents for the first time. Told my brother, my primary abuser, for the first time. (He'd admitted many times over our adult years that he blacked a lot of his/our childhood out, and I have always believed him, because he was likely abused himself by someone else first.) He apologized. Profusely. And even agreed to start therapy. My parents apologized, in their own way, by promising to help with rent. Of all the things. Of all the fucking things...I wasn't expecting that. While part/a lot of me is cautious to accept any sort of help from them (because obvie), I am genuinely impressed, and grateful, that they are at least pulling through on this one.
It's been a confusing few weeks and people are complex.
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TL;DR: Some bitches simply can't be trusted but some formerly bitch families can maybe make some growth? WUT.
I'd (30sf) lived with my roommate (30sf) for a decade and known her for even longer. I disclosed to her 1.5 yrs ago, after integrating EMDR into a VERY long CPTSD healing process early in the pandemic. She was so, so kind and understanding in the beginning. We'd been best friends for so long, that I genuinely feared calling her family, because family has such negative connotations for me, but lately, I was finally saying it more often.
Since the start of this year, my EMDR has primarily focused on the peak of my suicidal ideation and how it's entangled with my sibling-on-sibling CSA. It has been a rough and exhausting effort, but all things considered, I'm actually "doing" quite well, as much as one can under such conditions. I'd started FMLA leave from work because, SUPRISE, trauma causes lifelong physical ailments and chronic illnesses, and my roommate had reassured me we'd be re-signing the lease that we had less than a month left on, so I would at least not have to worry about housing.
I had one bad night. One bad night of zero sleep, fighting off the nightmares for the thousandth time, begging and pleading to just finally rest, and that's all it took. I called her out the next day over leaving her two-day old dish full of thawed chicken water in the microwave, and finally broke. I know I said a lot of delusion shit (that I immediately-and repeatedly-apologized for for days after, after I'd regained my compusure/grip on reality), but we discussed it for days after and scheduled a therapy session for as soon as we could get one to figure out what went wrong in our communication that night.
She couldn't even wait that long. After a week of the silent treatment (partially because she got mad at me for asking her to mask up while I was on medical leave--while she had active COVID, for the 4th time--and was still going out because she "had plans"), she started a fight with me out of nowhere, broke me down into a fully blown flashback, and then literally ran away from my weeping (which I have done--outside of a therapeutic setting--exactly 3x since my diagnosis). Then she came back the next afternoon (while I was literally in the process of hanging pictures we'd bought ages ago) saying she wouldn't be re-signing the lease. It wasn't even a discussion. She just decided and that was that, no matter how stunned I looked, how much I sobbed and shook, or the fact that I am unpaid right now, see some new specialist t every other day for this shattered brain or broken body, of the fact that we live in HCOL city where, even if I was working, I wouldn't be able to afford somewhere solo.
But the worst part? During her monologue, she tried to claim I had somehow blamed her for my CSA during my trauma tantrum from a couple weeks earlier.. Now I know in general, my shortterm memory has been fucked by the EMDR crossing-the-timelines mindfuckery, but I know myself damn well enough to know I did not and would never place the the blame on her, because why even in the actual hell would I? Folks, this woman used to be a public prosecutor assigned to the children's sexual abuse unit. You can't make this shit up.
And if that weren't all bad enough, in my immediate panic, I had nowehere left to turn, so I had to call my family for help, and because I had to explain why I wasn't working and undergoing all sorts of medical procedures, and after YEARS of So. Much. Fucking. "HEALING." I just gave it all up. Told my parents for the first time. Told my brother, my primary abuser, for the first time. (He'd admitted many times over our adult years that he blacked a lot of his/our childhood out, and I have always believed him, because he was likely abused himself by someone else first.) He apologized. Profusely. And even agreed to start therapy. My parents apologized, in their own way, by promising to help with rent. Of all the things. Of all the fucking things...I wasn't expecting that. While part/a lot of me is cautious to accept any sort of help from them (because obvie), I am genuinely impressed, and grateful, that they are at least pulling through on this one.
It's been a confusing few weeks and people are complex.
2024.05.19 06:48 Live_Elderberry8823 Getting over someone who is not good for you?
I ‘37F’ left my boyfriend ‘41M’ over a year ago. It was needed. He had zero respect for me after have our child and would lash out and blame everything that went wrong on me. I had been with him 14 years and realized everything was getting worse.
Don’t get me wrong. I had some red flags about two years into the relationship. But I was dumb and thought love could be enough.
Years later we went through a bad spot but got replaced what most women see as someone in pursuit of a goal. Then things leveled out and it was ok but not exactly where I wanted to be.
We hit some hard times before I got pregnant. It was an accident, not planned because I was thinking of leaving before then. Even started house hunting. Then found out I was pregnant and decided to try once more.
He literally had zero respect for me at that time and I was not ok continuing that role. No amount of trying to talk would lead to a discussion but more just him giving me the silent treatment. More my health and metal health I had to get away.
Now he is dating, honestly I thought that would be better for me. A push for me to actually move on with my life. But I feel paralyzed. Sure in the end he was absolutely horrible to me. But it is hard to shake 14 years. Harder still for me to see him with another genuinely good woman. Like does he even deserve that.
In the end I am upset and feel oh so played. How did I get so bamboozled. How do I even trust a guy is who they say they are after this. It took so damn long to see the true colors. I need to get over this person but it doesn’t help that I have to work with them for my son.
How do I get over this person. I hate that I have to keep communication up but that’s just facts.
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Don’t get me wrong. I had some red flags about two years into the relationship. But I was dumb and thought love could be enough.
Years later we went through a bad spot but got replaced what most women see as someone in pursuit of a goal. Then things leveled out and it was ok but not exactly where I wanted to be.
We hit some hard times before I got pregnant. It was an accident, not planned because I was thinking of leaving before then. Even started house hunting. Then found out I was pregnant and decided to try once more.
He literally had zero respect for me at that time and I was not ok continuing that role. No amount of trying to talk would lead to a discussion but more just him giving me the silent treatment. More my health and metal health I had to get away.
Now he is dating, honestly I thought that would be better for me. A push for me to actually move on with my life. But I feel paralyzed. Sure in the end he was absolutely horrible to me. But it is hard to shake 14 years. Harder still for me to see him with another genuinely good woman. Like does he even deserve that.
In the end I am upset and feel oh so played. How did I get so bamboozled. How do I even trust a guy is who they say they are after this. It took so damn long to see the true colors. I need to get over this person but it doesn’t help that I have to work with them for my son.
How do I get over this person. I hate that I have to keep communication up but that’s just facts.
2024.05.19 06:48 Mokonaaa Is it unprofessional to ask for extended WFH for personal reasons?
Hi girls
My sister is in the country after a long time. She's her for two weeks and but I only asked my boss for one week of WFH. I really want to spend that extra week with her but she changed her plans after I asked my boss. I don't know when I'll see her next, so I would really like to stay another week.
At my company, we only go to the office half the week. I told my boss I would compensate by going to the office more days when I came back to compensate.
But I'm afraid it might look unprofessional and set a precedent where my boss thinks that I never stick to my word when I go on leave. Should I ask her to give me another day WFH or is it too risky?
I'm getting anxious about this whole situation 😭
submitted by Mokonaaa to TwoXIndia [link] [comments]
My sister is in the country after a long time. She's her for two weeks and but I only asked my boss for one week of WFH. I really want to spend that extra week with her but she changed her plans after I asked my boss. I don't know when I'll see her next, so I would really like to stay another week.
At my company, we only go to the office half the week. I told my boss I would compensate by going to the office more days when I came back to compensate.
But I'm afraid it might look unprofessional and set a precedent where my boss thinks that I never stick to my word when I go on leave. Should I ask her to give me another day WFH or is it too risky?
I'm getting anxious about this whole situation 😭
2024.05.19 06:47 GuiltlessMaple Best Canon Underwater Camera Case
 | submitted by GuiltlessMaple to u/GuiltlessMaple [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/n8ppu0plcb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b7417dcb4b79a208a94ccfe236a5a112ac9fa7c9 Canon Underwater Camera Cases are perfect for capturing those unforgettable underwater moments. Our article presents a comprehensive roundup of the best models, highlighting their features, durability, and ease of use. Whether you're an amateur or a professional photographer, this review will help you choose the right Canon Underwater Camera Case to protect your camera and enhance your underwater photography experience. In this article, we'll delve into the top Canon Underwater Camera Case models in the market, discussing their unique selling points and how they cater to different photography needs. Our comparison will provide you with all the information you need to make an informed decision and ensure your camera remains safe on your next underwater adventure. The Top 6 Best Canon Underwater Camera Case
Reviews🔗Canon WP-DC40 Underwater Camera Casehttps://preview.redd.it/ipp2neylcb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1c4696570283ff02b843456f353aea45e45ff8b7 I recently took my Canon camera on a snorkeling trip to Hawaii, and it was nothing short of amazing. With the Canon Waterproof Underwater Case WP-DC40 (S60/70), I didn't have to worry about water damage and could take stunning photos at depths up to 130 feet. The case's intuitive controls allowed me to capture every breathtaking underwater moment with ease. One of the standout features was the accessibility of all camera buttons and knobs. This made it incredibly user-friendly, even for someone like me who isn't a professional photographer. The seal also proved to be reliable, with no leaks even during my 102-foot dives. On the downside, the sunlight through the water occasionally made it difficult to see the screen, but it wasn't a deal-breaker. Overall, the Canon Waterproof Underwater Case was a fantastic addition to my camera gear, and I can't imagine traveling without it now. 🔗Underwater Case for Canon PowerShot SD700 IShttps://preview.redd.it/16fwlqfmcb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2115cf11c0fdd7b2ee66827f503942253091c91d As a photography enthusiast, I recently discovered the Canon WP-DC5 Waterproof Case. I've been taking my Canon PowerShot SD700 IS digital camera everywhere, and this underwater case has been a lifesaver. The case is designed to protect my camera from sea water and sand, which means I don't have to worry about damaging it while exploring the underwater world. Its reliability and ease of use are truly impressive. Using it underwater was a breeze, and it opened up new shooting possibilities that I never thought were possible with a regular camera case. With its help, I've been able to capture stunning underwater photos at depths of up to 130 feet, even on my first dive. The highlights of this product are its ability to protect your camera from harsh underwater environments and its ease of use. However, it's essential to take care of the lens port and keep the camera open when not in use to maintain the seals. Additionally, some users might experience issues with water droplets on the port affecting their shots. Overall, the Canon WP-DC5 Waterproof Case has been a game-changer for me. It has allowed me to explore the underwater world without worrying about damaging my camera. Its reliability, ease of use, and ability to capture high-quality underwater photos make it a must-have for any adventurous photographer. 🔗Waterproof Case for Canon Digital Camerashttps://preview.redd.it/ge8252vmcb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=505b12b5add8e1ca5fc24f692485d07e192b87ff I recently had the chance to use Canon's WP-DC27 Waterproof Case for my underwater photography explorations. As an avid scuba diver and photographer, finding a reliable case to protect my camera was crucial. The Canon WP-DC27 didn't disappoint. It provides excellent protection against water, sand, and dust, making it accessible for photographers who want to capture dynamic shots in various environments. The ease of use was one of the highlights of this product. Its compact design and secure seals made the camera easy to load and unload, even with my hands covered in scuba diving gloves. The clear front panel allowed for easy access to the camera's controls, such as adjusting white balance and toggling shooting modes. On the downside, I did find that the lens port wasn't threaded to accept additional lenses like macro or wide-angle options. While this isn't a deal-breaker for basic scuba diving and snorkeling, it may be disappointing for photographers looking for more flexibility in their shots. In conclusion, Canon's WP-DC27 Waterproof Case is a reliable and user-friendly option for photographers on-the-go and exploring different terrains. Its durability and ease of use make it a worthwhile investment for those looking to capture their adventures to the fullest without worrying about their camera's wellbeing. 🔗Ikelite Underwater Housing for Canon PowerShot G9/G9 Mark IIhttps://preview.redd.it/udytcu6ncb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3d676d4ebca17661e72c11c73701613601770014 I recently got my hands on the Ikelite Underwater Action Housing for my Canon PowerShot G9 X camera, and let me tell you, it has been a game-changer for my underwater photography adventures! With its ability to capture high-quality video and still images at depths up to 200 feet beneath the surface, this compact, lightweight housing has made exploring the depths of oceans and lakes a whole new experience. One of the standout features of this action housing is its scratch-resistant glass lens port. This ensures full use of the camera's zoom range without any vignetting, giving me super-clear shots even in the most challenging underwater environments. Additionally, the front of the port accepts press-on color-correcting filters and is 67mm threaded for attaching optional accessories, which further enhances the versatility of my underwater photography setup. Another feature I absolutely love is the custom ABS-PC blend housing with acetyl controls. This material provides strength, UV protection, and fundamentally corrosion-free performance, making it perfect for withstanding the harsh underwater conditions. Plus, its light gray/white color on the front, sides, top, and bottom contrasts with the clear back, making it easy for me to monitor the O-ring seal and rear camera controls at a glance. The built-in, flat, optical glass lens port with a 3-inch diameter is another highlight. It allows attachment of optional, accessory wide-angle and macro conversion lenses as well as color-correction filters, giving me the flexibility to capture the perfect shot in any underwater environment. However, there is one downside to this action housing – it lacks a strobe connector and access to the camera's flash. While quality photos are still possible with an optional constant light source at any depth or with available sunlight down to about 60 feet, I would have appreciated more connectivity options for even greater creative control. In summary, the Ikelite Underwater Action Housing has made exploring the depths of oceans and lakes an unforgettable experience. Its scratch-resistant glass lens port, custom ABS-PC blend housing, and compatibility with various accessories make it a top choice for avid underwater photographers. While it may not have the most advanced features and lacks a strobe connector, the overall quality and performance are worth considering for anyone looking to take their underwater photography skills to the next level. 🔗Ikelite Underwater Housing for Canon EOS M10 (200 ft Depth Rating)https://preview.redd.it/xfhi7alncb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a65c50db977323c6d7cfbc0941dccf4d2ba590cf Ikelite's Underwater Housing for Canon EOS M10 is like a trusty, waterproof companion for my beloved camera. It's more than capable of keeping up with my adventurous spirit, offering a depth rating of 200 ft (60m). The controls on this housing are impressive, allowing me to access all my camera's functions except for the Mobile Device Connection button. A slight negative buoyancy in fresh water means I don't have to worry about it floating away. But it's not all perfect. The actual buoyancy can vary depending on the lens and port I choose, which can be a bit of a pain. Also, the 1/4-20 thread tray mounting with 3-inch (76mm) spacing is a bit limiting if you're looking for more versatile mounting options. All in all, Ikelite's housing has been a game-changer for my underwater photography adventures. It's made capturing those magical moments much easier and more enjoyable. 🔗Nauticam Canon EOS R5 Underwater Housinghttps://preview.redd.it/50jo9pzncb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=02d3c552bf4f6ac647e4791434169055702b8906 I recently had the opportunity to use the Nauticam Underwater Housing for my Canon EOS R5. This housing follows Nauticam's innovative approach, offering compatibility with both EOS R lenses and native RF optics using an adapter. The dimensions of the housing are 357mm x 200mm x 161mm (W x H x D), and it has a depth rating of 100m. It weighs 3.5kg in air, but becomes slightly lighter at -0.5kg in water when including the camera body and battery. The port area is of the N120 type. One of the standout features for me was its portability. Even with my Canon EOS R5 securely tucked inside, the housing felt sturdy and reliable. It's evident that a lot of thought has gone into the design, making it incredibly user-friendly. However, there were a few cons to consider. While the housing is generally well-built, the included torque screws for the port attachment feel a bit delicate. Additionally, the integrated vacuum system, though a useful feature, can be a bit sensitive to pressure changes and occasionally needs resetting. Overall, the Nauticam Underwater Housing for the Canon EOS R5 provided excellent protection and control for my camera while underwater. Despite some minor drawbacks, I would recommend this product to any Canon users looking to take their photography skills below the surface. Buyer's GuideChoosing the right Canon underwater camera case can be essential, whether for professional photography or casual photography while exploring the depths. 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2024.05.19 06:46 ByMyDecree Reviewing and Ranking Every Battle: Donald Trump vs. Hillary Clinton
Tier List: https://imgur.com/a/SPm0Fjl
This one hits different. Right from the start, with those ominous vocals giving the whole thing a feeling of foreboding and momentousness. Donald Trump lurking around the stage for his titlecard, even staying onscreen as his titlecard goes away is hilarious and a great visual touch. Then we get Hillary sitting in her debate chair; this battle committing so hard to a location both rappers are present in is pretty unique.
"I've been in this game too long; I'm a public servant! Have been since I met MLK in person!" Serviceable opening on paper, but the guest actor, Kimmy Gatewood, makes it stick out with her performance. Love the intensity of her voice and facial expressions. "I'm a woman of the people; that's for certain. You're a man of the people who don't like turbans!" This is a great line, very accurate, and I love the look on Hillary's face. "I was living in the West Wing while you were professional wrestling. Got skin like Russian dressing from too much Russian investing!" Good lines, in particular I really dig the Russian dressing/Russian investing parallel. Also, while I don't think Kimmy bears a super strong resemblance to Hillary Clinton(the guest actress from Clinton v. Henry VIII was much more on-point) she does look a lot like her as she does the Russian dance in the background. Something about her wide-open smile. "You been going bankrupt since the 90s; if I was in Iran you couldn't find me." Very true on both counts, very solid line. I don't know what more there is to say. Is it gonna be controversial to acknowledge the reality that Trump's gone bankrupt lots of times and probably couldn't point to Iran on a map, even now that he's been president? "You don't care about the job, Trump, you just think the desk is shiny." I think it's accurate that Trump really only cares about the prestige, but this still seems like a pretty weak attack. Hell, you could argue the vast majority of presidential candidates care more about the prestige than actually doing anything. "I said that I respect your children but that wasn't quite right, yo! Looking like some extras on American Psycho!" This line is pretty fucking great. I didn't get it when this battle first released, but I've seen American Psycho more recently, and comparing the Trump kids to the useless trust fund posers surrounding Patrick Bateman is hilarious. The hyper-aggressive hip thrusting Hillary's doing is also a great visual. For the most part this portrayal doesn't resemble Hillary much, but I think there's some truth in how she's portrayed as being very try-hard here. "First name is Hillary, middle name Rodham, last name is Clinton, and lyrics I got 'em! You fire celebrities on The Apprentice, motha fucka I fire Bin Laden! (Crack!) cough" Being tryhard again. The lines are pretty good, the flow is pretty good. The reference to her coughing is a fun touch. "How do I say this? You're racist! Ooh, you must get so pissed that your hands are too small to stop and frisk!" The asking/answering of that question at the beginning is really funny, and I like the way they worked Trump's small hands into this attack on him for being racist. "So you use your fingers to touch chicks. (She's only 12 years old.) That's enough, shit! (But she's married, sir.) Just gotta get pushy. (That's your daughter.) Well, grab her by the pussy!" One of the highlights of the battle, love the way they worked in the secret service agent here. Pointing out Trump being a creep at child beauty pageants and towards Ivanka are great lines of attack. "That's assault, brotha! Don't tell me the victim's at fault, sucka! You don't know shit about steaks! Yucka! But the ones on the 8th are great! Motha fucka!" Really fun delivery, good attacks, I like that they threw the Trump Steaks jab in between the more serious sentiments. I don't know what the fuck is going on with the background in this section, though they're really going hard on the tryhardness of Hillary. "Better save the date; I'm gonna rock the vote! Bad bitch on the scene like Murder, She Wrote!" Hillary trying to compare herself to that character is pretty cringe, as is highlighted by her attempting to dab with the biggest "look, aren't I cool, kids?!" look on her face. Real "Pokemon Go to the polls" moment. "So go ahead, Donald, let me see you flow. I brought Michelle's speech; borrow some quotes!" It's a pretty great line, though this line is moreso an attack at Melania than Trump himself; she should have ended with a more Trump-focused attack.
"Let me just say I respect all females. But your rhymes are trash; put 'em next to your emails." The first line is funny in how flagrantly untrue it is, the second line is just plain funny. Good opener. "Our country's in crisis. Who wants to vote for the mother of ISIS? That might not be exactly true, but I don't do politeness." Trump talks out of his ass and lies a lot, yes. "(Believe me!) You wanna talk about misogyny? Your Bill's worse than Cosby! He left a mess on that dress like you left in Benghazi!" The comparison of the rapist Bills is a great line, and I'm not sure whether the whole Benghazi thing was actually something that was Hillary's fault or just a Fox News talking head talking point, but it's a good line regardless. Also by this point it's clear that Lloid's Trump impression is on-point, much better than Peter's. "(Terrible!) You wanna break the glass ceiling, Hillary, I sense it. But the only crack you'll find is my ass pressed against it." The gesturing Lloid is doing during the "I sense it" line is fucking hilarious. The second line is also pretty funny, and did turn out to be true. "The numbers are in and I'm right on your tail. You don't have the stamina, baby, you're frail! This will be just like '08 when you fail! But Trump will appoint you to jail!" Fun parallel to Hillary's "First name is Hillary" segment from before going on here. The lines themselves are fine, nothing amazing. The second-to-last one turned out to be true, the last one did not. "How do I say this? You're a 2. And you almost lost the primary to a socialist Jew!" It's pretty funny how Trump mimics Hillary's "How do I say this?" bit, and "you're a 2" is such a simple but funny jab. He's got a point that Hillary was so weak a candidate that Bernie Sanders came outta nowhere and was able to put up a serious competition in a race that was supposed to have no real competition for her. "What do the American people gotta yankee doodle doo, to get it through your fat face, that they're just not that into you?!" The use of 'yankee doodle doo' is funny and he's got a real point that Hillary needs to accept she's very unpopular, though that 'fat face' line is such a pot calling the kettle black moment. No doubt intended as such. "They want a strong male leader who can stand up to China! Not a crooked, little, wishy-washy bleeding heart vagina!" These lines, of course, exist purely to point out that Trump is a giant sexist. The "China, China, China... bloody vagina!" in the background is a very funny touch. Little bits like that just add so much to this battle. "I'm gonna run these streets like I run my casinos; more police and less Latinos!" These lines, of course, exist purely to point out that Trump is a giant racist. "While you bury us in debt buying poor people socks, I'll create jobs, tearing down mosques!" Trump is against programs that help the impoverished and hates Muslims. "Then I'll use all the best rocks from the site to build a wall, dip it in gold and make Mexico pay for it all!" The thing Lloid does with his eyes as he smiles when he says "build a wall" is just... SO Trumpian. This really is one of the greatest Trump impressions I've ever seen, Lloid did an amazing job. As for the line... Trump says he's gonna build a wall. He built a partial wall. A partial, really unimpressive wall. "I'll make this country great again! We'll all be living large! And I'll tell Congress you're fired, and put Charles in charge!" Trump's slogan is MAGA and Charles in Charge was a TV show whose main actor is a Trump supporter. Also apparently there was a Supreme Court judge named Charles Trump once wanted nominated. Alright. "'Cause this whole system's rigged! And we all know the riggers! For the last eight years this country's been run by- (CAW!)" The point of this line is that Trump is a giant racist. I like the touch that the crowd is cheering wildly for Trump while Hillary looks disturbed in the background.
Then Lincoln comes soaring in on an eagle, as he did in Obama v. Romney. "Are you fucking kidding me with this blah blah blah? I've half a mind to feed you both to my oversized - (CAW!)" The use of 'CAW!' as a censor is amusing. "I've heard more thoughtful discussion up in TMZ! You two got brother blocking brother on their Facebook feed!" This isn't fun anymore, it's just real. "I'm so sick and tired of this ridiculous shit! If this is the best my party gets, then my party should quit!" The Republican Party is a nightmare and Lincoln would be ashamed of it today, is what is being said. "I'm sorry, did I say something that you found funny? Wipe that creepy-ass smile off your face and beat this dummy!" Clinton is a shitty politician who didn't take Trump seriously enough, and she comes across as cold and inhuman. And in case you somehow failed to pick up on it before, ERB makes clear here their endorsement for which candidate to vote for. "And if she does win the White House, be a man and hold the door. Don't get your fans stirred up in some sorta Twitter civil war!" Too real, especially after January 6th. "Here's an equal opportunity smack down in the sequel! That's of the people, by the people, for the people, eagle!" Some people have debated whether Lincoln slapped Trump twice in place of slapping Clinton at all because he's a gentleman and wouldn't hit a woman, or because ERB favors Clinton over Trump. The latter is definitely true, but the former is also probably true. So... both! Then Lincoln yells "Eagle!" and fucks off.
Let's talk about bias. There's two camps of people I've seen in discussions about certain ERB battles, especially this one, and they both irk me. So let's address both of them.
First off: YES, ERB is biased against Trump. And are biased against Republicans generally, and much more sympathetic to the Democrats. They've made that completely obvious from the beginning. And you know what? That's totally fine! They're right to be biased against them! But for some reason, some people in the fanbase can't just admit that. For some reason, there's a lot of people in the fanbase who will bend over backwards trying to explain how it's actually totally unbiased(false) and they attack both sides equally(false) and people complaining are being salty(true). But if you think ERB is unbiased, then society has failed you, because you are a woeful media illiterate. They're screaming Vote for Hillary, Don't Let Trump Win! at you and somehow you haven't managed to decipher what they're saying. I hope for your sake you're, like, twelve years old if you actually think they're unbiased. Here's an important lesson for you to learn as you grow up: 'biased' does not equate to 'bad'! For example, you SHOULD be 'biased' against Hitler! If you look at someone like Hitler and compare him to someone like MLK and treat them as equally valid figures whose ideas are both worthy of consideration, then you're at best a useful idiot and at worst a Nazi apologist! Stop feeling like you have to defend ERB's honor by feverishly denying any claims of bias!
But even worse than those jokers are the fuckers who love to bitch about how ERB has gotten "too political" or "too woke" nowadays. NEWSFLASH, DUMBASS: the very FIRST battle was John Lennon vs Bill O'Reilly, and Bill O'Reilly literally says "Because I'm evil! Heart blacker than Don Cheadle!" Their very foundation as a series is shitting on Republicans! They didn't suddenly 'go woke' just because they stopped doing gay jokes and shat on Trump even more explicitly than they already did to Romney.
Anyway, I've got mixed feelings about this battle. The 'mixed' part of those feelings come from how heavy it is; I have to be in a certain mood to want to listen to this, and most times I see this pop up in my playlist I just skip on to the next one. It's uncomfortable. It's real. Maybe a little too real. But then again, maybe they were right to take it so seriously. It's still a great battle, even if it can be a little hard to come back to. The only big issue I have with it is that Lincoln coming in at the end is kind of a drag. It was funny the first time; this doesn't recapture the magic. He doesn't really have any great lines either. I tend to stop listening by the time he comes in. But besides that, this battle has an amazing instrumental track, great visuals, peak performances from both Lloid and Kimmy, and good, sometimes great, writing.
I used to think Trump won this battle despite always having been anti-Trump. Revisiting it now, I'm not sure why I thought that. Maybe it was because his part was just so entertaining, even moreso than Hillary's. Maybe it's because I, like many others, harbor a strong resentment and bitterness towards Hillary Clinton(muh Bernie) that would lead me to not be entirely honest about her performance here. Maybe it's just because that hardly anybody said Clinton won back in the day; Trump had either a majority or a clear plural majority of votes in polls, then Lincoln with a fair amount, then Clinton with a small fraction. Now I see that that is utter bullshit. The only reason anybody votes for Lincoln is either because of the Last Word Effect or because they want to be centrists about it and not side with either candidate; even if you could argue he was the best part of Obama v. Romney, here his verse falls well short of both Clinton and Trump's. On the question of Clinton v. Trump... I can kind of see how someone might think Trump won on account of how hilarious he was, but a ton of his stuff just makes himself look bad, and if we're being honest I think Clinton had better burns and more substantive lines of attack. I say Clinton>Trump>Lincoln.
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This one hits different. Right from the start, with those ominous vocals giving the whole thing a feeling of foreboding and momentousness. Donald Trump lurking around the stage for his titlecard, even staying onscreen as his titlecard goes away is hilarious and a great visual touch. Then we get Hillary sitting in her debate chair; this battle committing so hard to a location both rappers are present in is pretty unique.
"I've been in this game too long; I'm a public servant! Have been since I met MLK in person!" Serviceable opening on paper, but the guest actor, Kimmy Gatewood, makes it stick out with her performance. Love the intensity of her voice and facial expressions. "I'm a woman of the people; that's for certain. You're a man of the people who don't like turbans!" This is a great line, very accurate, and I love the look on Hillary's face. "I was living in the West Wing while you were professional wrestling. Got skin like Russian dressing from too much Russian investing!" Good lines, in particular I really dig the Russian dressing/Russian investing parallel. Also, while I don't think Kimmy bears a super strong resemblance to Hillary Clinton(the guest actress from Clinton v. Henry VIII was much more on-point) she does look a lot like her as she does the Russian dance in the background. Something about her wide-open smile. "You been going bankrupt since the 90s; if I was in Iran you couldn't find me." Very true on both counts, very solid line. I don't know what more there is to say. Is it gonna be controversial to acknowledge the reality that Trump's gone bankrupt lots of times and probably couldn't point to Iran on a map, even now that he's been president? "You don't care about the job, Trump, you just think the desk is shiny." I think it's accurate that Trump really only cares about the prestige, but this still seems like a pretty weak attack. Hell, you could argue the vast majority of presidential candidates care more about the prestige than actually doing anything. "I said that I respect your children but that wasn't quite right, yo! Looking like some extras on American Psycho!" This line is pretty fucking great. I didn't get it when this battle first released, but I've seen American Psycho more recently, and comparing the Trump kids to the useless trust fund posers surrounding Patrick Bateman is hilarious. The hyper-aggressive hip thrusting Hillary's doing is also a great visual. For the most part this portrayal doesn't resemble Hillary much, but I think there's some truth in how she's portrayed as being very try-hard here. "First name is Hillary, middle name Rodham, last name is Clinton, and lyrics I got 'em! You fire celebrities on The Apprentice, motha fucka I fire Bin Laden! (Crack!) cough" Being tryhard again. The lines are pretty good, the flow is pretty good. The reference to her coughing is a fun touch. "How do I say this? You're racist! Ooh, you must get so pissed that your hands are too small to stop and frisk!" The asking/answering of that question at the beginning is really funny, and I like the way they worked Trump's small hands into this attack on him for being racist. "So you use your fingers to touch chicks. (She's only 12 years old.) That's enough, shit! (But she's married, sir.) Just gotta get pushy. (That's your daughter.) Well, grab her by the pussy!" One of the highlights of the battle, love the way they worked in the secret service agent here. Pointing out Trump being a creep at child beauty pageants and towards Ivanka are great lines of attack. "That's assault, brotha! Don't tell me the victim's at fault, sucka! You don't know shit about steaks! Yucka! But the ones on the 8th are great! Motha fucka!" Really fun delivery, good attacks, I like that they threw the Trump Steaks jab in between the more serious sentiments. I don't know what the fuck is going on with the background in this section, though they're really going hard on the tryhardness of Hillary. "Better save the date; I'm gonna rock the vote! Bad bitch on the scene like Murder, She Wrote!" Hillary trying to compare herself to that character is pretty cringe, as is highlighted by her attempting to dab with the biggest "look, aren't I cool, kids?!" look on her face. Real "Pokemon Go to the polls" moment. "So go ahead, Donald, let me see you flow. I brought Michelle's speech; borrow some quotes!" It's a pretty great line, though this line is moreso an attack at Melania than Trump himself; she should have ended with a more Trump-focused attack.
"Let me just say I respect all females. But your rhymes are trash; put 'em next to your emails." The first line is funny in how flagrantly untrue it is, the second line is just plain funny. Good opener. "Our country's in crisis. Who wants to vote for the mother of ISIS? That might not be exactly true, but I don't do politeness." Trump talks out of his ass and lies a lot, yes. "(Believe me!) You wanna talk about misogyny? Your Bill's worse than Cosby! He left a mess on that dress like you left in Benghazi!" The comparison of the rapist Bills is a great line, and I'm not sure whether the whole Benghazi thing was actually something that was Hillary's fault or just a Fox News talking head talking point, but it's a good line regardless. Also by this point it's clear that Lloid's Trump impression is on-point, much better than Peter's. "(Terrible!) You wanna break the glass ceiling, Hillary, I sense it. But the only crack you'll find is my ass pressed against it." The gesturing Lloid is doing during the "I sense it" line is fucking hilarious. The second line is also pretty funny, and did turn out to be true. "The numbers are in and I'm right on your tail. You don't have the stamina, baby, you're frail! This will be just like '08 when you fail! But Trump will appoint you to jail!" Fun parallel to Hillary's "First name is Hillary" segment from before going on here. The lines themselves are fine, nothing amazing. The second-to-last one turned out to be true, the last one did not. "How do I say this? You're a 2. And you almost lost the primary to a socialist Jew!" It's pretty funny how Trump mimics Hillary's "How do I say this?" bit, and "you're a 2" is such a simple but funny jab. He's got a point that Hillary was so weak a candidate that Bernie Sanders came outta nowhere and was able to put up a serious competition in a race that was supposed to have no real competition for her. "What do the American people gotta yankee doodle doo, to get it through your fat face, that they're just not that into you?!" The use of 'yankee doodle doo' is funny and he's got a real point that Hillary needs to accept she's very unpopular, though that 'fat face' line is such a pot calling the kettle black moment. No doubt intended as such. "They want a strong male leader who can stand up to China! Not a crooked, little, wishy-washy bleeding heart vagina!" These lines, of course, exist purely to point out that Trump is a giant sexist. The "China, China, China... bloody vagina!" in the background is a very funny touch. Little bits like that just add so much to this battle. "I'm gonna run these streets like I run my casinos; more police and less Latinos!" These lines, of course, exist purely to point out that Trump is a giant racist. "While you bury us in debt buying poor people socks, I'll create jobs, tearing down mosques!" Trump is against programs that help the impoverished and hates Muslims. "Then I'll use all the best rocks from the site to build a wall, dip it in gold and make Mexico pay for it all!" The thing Lloid does with his eyes as he smiles when he says "build a wall" is just... SO Trumpian. This really is one of the greatest Trump impressions I've ever seen, Lloid did an amazing job. As for the line... Trump says he's gonna build a wall. He built a partial wall. A partial, really unimpressive wall. "I'll make this country great again! We'll all be living large! And I'll tell Congress you're fired, and put Charles in charge!" Trump's slogan is MAGA and Charles in Charge was a TV show whose main actor is a Trump supporter. Also apparently there was a Supreme Court judge named Charles Trump once wanted nominated. Alright. "'Cause this whole system's rigged! And we all know the riggers! For the last eight years this country's been run by- (CAW!)" The point of this line is that Trump is a giant racist. I like the touch that the crowd is cheering wildly for Trump while Hillary looks disturbed in the background.
Then Lincoln comes soaring in on an eagle, as he did in Obama v. Romney. "Are you fucking kidding me with this blah blah blah? I've half a mind to feed you both to my oversized - (CAW!)" The use of 'CAW!' as a censor is amusing. "I've heard more thoughtful discussion up in TMZ! You two got brother blocking brother on their Facebook feed!" This isn't fun anymore, it's just real. "I'm so sick and tired of this ridiculous shit! If this is the best my party gets, then my party should quit!" The Republican Party is a nightmare and Lincoln would be ashamed of it today, is what is being said. "I'm sorry, did I say something that you found funny? Wipe that creepy-ass smile off your face and beat this dummy!" Clinton is a shitty politician who didn't take Trump seriously enough, and she comes across as cold and inhuman. And in case you somehow failed to pick up on it before, ERB makes clear here their endorsement for which candidate to vote for. "And if she does win the White House, be a man and hold the door. Don't get your fans stirred up in some sorta Twitter civil war!" Too real, especially after January 6th. "Here's an equal opportunity smack down in the sequel! That's of the people, by the people, for the people, eagle!" Some people have debated whether Lincoln slapped Trump twice in place of slapping Clinton at all because he's a gentleman and wouldn't hit a woman, or because ERB favors Clinton over Trump. The latter is definitely true, but the former is also probably true. So... both! Then Lincoln yells "Eagle!" and fucks off.
Let's talk about bias. There's two camps of people I've seen in discussions about certain ERB battles, especially this one, and they both irk me. So let's address both of them.
First off: YES, ERB is biased against Trump. And are biased against Republicans generally, and much more sympathetic to the Democrats. They've made that completely obvious from the beginning. And you know what? That's totally fine! They're right to be biased against them! But for some reason, some people in the fanbase can't just admit that. For some reason, there's a lot of people in the fanbase who will bend over backwards trying to explain how it's actually totally unbiased(false) and they attack both sides equally(false) and people complaining are being salty(true). But if you think ERB is unbiased, then society has failed you, because you are a woeful media illiterate. They're screaming Vote for Hillary, Don't Let Trump Win! at you and somehow you haven't managed to decipher what they're saying. I hope for your sake you're, like, twelve years old if you actually think they're unbiased. Here's an important lesson for you to learn as you grow up: 'biased' does not equate to 'bad'! For example, you SHOULD be 'biased' against Hitler! If you look at someone like Hitler and compare him to someone like MLK and treat them as equally valid figures whose ideas are both worthy of consideration, then you're at best a useful idiot and at worst a Nazi apologist! Stop feeling like you have to defend ERB's honor by feverishly denying any claims of bias!
But even worse than those jokers are the fuckers who love to bitch about how ERB has gotten "too political" or "too woke" nowadays. NEWSFLASH, DUMBASS: the very FIRST battle was John Lennon vs Bill O'Reilly, and Bill O'Reilly literally says "Because I'm evil! Heart blacker than Don Cheadle!" Their very foundation as a series is shitting on Republicans! They didn't suddenly 'go woke' just because they stopped doing gay jokes and shat on Trump even more explicitly than they already did to Romney.
Anyway, I've got mixed feelings about this battle. The 'mixed' part of those feelings come from how heavy it is; I have to be in a certain mood to want to listen to this, and most times I see this pop up in my playlist I just skip on to the next one. It's uncomfortable. It's real. Maybe a little too real. But then again, maybe they were right to take it so seriously. It's still a great battle, even if it can be a little hard to come back to. The only big issue I have with it is that Lincoln coming in at the end is kind of a drag. It was funny the first time; this doesn't recapture the magic. He doesn't really have any great lines either. I tend to stop listening by the time he comes in. But besides that, this battle has an amazing instrumental track, great visuals, peak performances from both Lloid and Kimmy, and good, sometimes great, writing.
I used to think Trump won this battle despite always having been anti-Trump. Revisiting it now, I'm not sure why I thought that. Maybe it was because his part was just so entertaining, even moreso than Hillary's. Maybe it's because I, like many others, harbor a strong resentment and bitterness towards Hillary Clinton(muh Bernie) that would lead me to not be entirely honest about her performance here. Maybe it's just because that hardly anybody said Clinton won back in the day; Trump had either a majority or a clear plural majority of votes in polls, then Lincoln with a fair amount, then Clinton with a small fraction. Now I see that that is utter bullshit. The only reason anybody votes for Lincoln is either because of the Last Word Effect or because they want to be centrists about it and not side with either candidate; even if you could argue he was the best part of Obama v. Romney, here his verse falls well short of both Clinton and Trump's. On the question of Clinton v. Trump... I can kind of see how someone might think Trump won on account of how hilarious he was, but a ton of his stuff just makes himself look bad, and if we're being honest I think Clinton had better burns and more substantive lines of attack. I say Clinton>Trump>Lincoln.
inb4 someone says I got "too political" in my presidential election battle analysis
2024.05.19 06:45 Rosywolf99 my family makes me feel like a waste of the air i breathe
i F16 am the youngest of my family and currently the last one in high school. i feel that my parents favor my older sibling over me and i have many reasons to believe so. my older sister and brother both were given brand new at the time 2020 flat-screen tvs while i was a tv that was made in the early 2000s. they bought my sibling gifts and expensive shoes while I've had to buy my clothes and shoes with my birthday and Christmas money and that is the only time i get money and it my relatives that send me money my parents have never given me a single dime unless they had too. everything in my room are hand-me-downs from my siblings nothing new and nothing lasts. my parents don't remember my age, birthday, or month i was born in, nor how to spell the name they chose for me. im also currently typing this on a used pc that I've had for 7 years and is the only access i have to my friends and the internet they wont buy me a phone not even one for emergencies and i bought this pc with my own money i saved. my father used to be sexually abusive to me when i started growing into my body and he acts as if it never happened and leaving me with horrible trauma and the fear of men. my mother is neglective i only remember her showing up two times for any school related thing and she only stayed long enough to watch me for only one of the two. i dont remember having a childhood not even a happy one yes i do love my sibling dearly and they have done no wrong to me nor even tried to but my parents whenever i try to talk to them about something important for me argue and say that im too young for it and the real world will eat me alive. i don't feel love for my parents mostly my father i don't love him at all but im not sure about my mom im not sure about her. my life before i turned 16 was horrible i was even planning to run away to a different state after my 16th birthday it was that bad it was also to the point where i was thinking about ending my life even though i had never come to that conclusion before. i feel like im a failure, not even worth anything i feel empty and all ive been able to do these past days was cry. im getting back to the point of rethinking about ending it all again its hard and i hate just having to bear everything alone the only people i can tell are strangers who ill never know. im scared and all i can do is cry and cry and cry. i feel all alone in this world like everything i do is worthless. i hate myself i wish i could tell my friends and have everything be ok for once. i want to be free with no one making the decisions for me i just want to breathe air that isn't filled with contempt for myself i just want to breathe and feel human as if im finally living for once in my life just being alive and nothing else. i hate being where i am i hate the noises of the fans in the ceilings i hate the birds chirping in the morning i hate waking up to find no food left for me i hate waking up and finding myself alone. nothing to call people to one to reach nothing to do but wait and cry. i hate being alone but its all i wish for in this house its the only time i can breathe just breathe. i know i wont do harm to myself as i hate even the smallest amounts of pain or even the thought of doing anything to myself so dont worry about that im trying to better myself even though its barely helping. i just need a way out of this family somewhere that's not here anywhere but "home".
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2024.05.19 06:45 rdr029 Investment advise for 32M
32M who wants to retire by 45. Married with no kids and no plans to have them too. My parents live with me and my wife.
Present after tax income as follows. Net salary: 2.85L per month. Net bonuses: 12L. RSU: 12L(don't want to sell them)
Savings: SBI ULIP: 12L. PF: 12L. RSU vested: 15L(don't want to sell them). NPS: 2L. PPF: 2L.
Loans: and EMIs: I bought a home couple of years back for 1cr which is currently valuabled at 1.6cr. I have 60L loan outstanding on this. House EMI: 65K PM Car EMI: 19L (principal outstanding 10L)
Last two years I could not invest much due to house purchase and to clear some personal loan I took during house purchase and vacations.
Currently my only expenses are 85K EMI and 40K monthly expenses. Need advice on how to go about investing in the current market. I feel I missed the Indian market ralley in the last two years. So what are my best options with about 1.6L monthly income?
Thanks in advance.
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Present after tax income as follows. Net salary: 2.85L per month. Net bonuses: 12L. RSU: 12L(don't want to sell them)
Savings: SBI ULIP: 12L. PF: 12L. RSU vested: 15L(don't want to sell them). NPS: 2L. PPF: 2L.
Loans: and EMIs: I bought a home couple of years back for 1cr which is currently valuabled at 1.6cr. I have 60L loan outstanding on this. House EMI: 65K PM Car EMI: 19L (principal outstanding 10L)
Last two years I could not invest much due to house purchase and to clear some personal loan I took during house purchase and vacations.
Currently my only expenses are 85K EMI and 40K monthly expenses. Need advice on how to go about investing in the current market. I feel I missed the Indian market ralley in the last two years. So what are my best options with about 1.6L monthly income?
Thanks in advance.
2024.05.19 06:43 Stage-Piercing727 Best Canon Rebel T7 Camera Cases
 | submitted by Stage-Piercing727 to u/Stage-Piercing727 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/djpzqekvbb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8a984f2238a042dc8a8ea39af9f3b619da6f083a Are you on the hunt for the perfect Canon Rebel T7 camera case? Well, you're in luck! We have compiled a roundup of the best camera cases that perfectly fit your beloved T7. Whether you're an avid traveler or a professional photographer, our article offers a variety of options to suit your needs. Stay tuned to find the ideal case that will keep your camera safe and stylish at all times! The Top 6 Best Canon Rebel T7 Camera Cases
Reviews🔗Durable DSLR Camera Case with Neoprene Exteriorhttps://preview.redd.it/9v8bn3yvbb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b619155fa4cd2f0e9fc7779991a2b97dc3a396cc I recently purchased the USA Gear QTL Portable DSLR Camera Case Bag, Southwest and I must say, it's been a game-changer for me. I love the vibrant southwest pattern that not only looks great but also doesn't give away the fact that there's an expensive camera inside my bag. The dimensions are perfect at 7.25 inches x 6 inches x 5.5 inches, making it a great option when I'm on the go. One of the standout features of this case is its durable neoprene exterior. It's rugged and weather-resistant, ensuring my camera stays safe and secure no matter the conditions. The cover zippers and metal hardware provide extra protection, while the reinforced belt loop offers stability and flexibility in how I carry it. The adjustable shoulder strap and padded hand strap make it comfortable and easy to use, whether I'm carrying it on my shoulder or hand. However, I find that the bag can feel a bit weighty when I'm carrying a DSLR with a lens attached, making it better suited for shorter outings. The USA Gear QTL Camera Case Bag has exceeded my expectations in terms of visual appeal, sturdiness, design comfort, size, and weight. The southwest pattern adds a touch of style, while the reinforced metal buckles ensure durability and longevity. The scratch-resistant interior and padded dividers provide extra protection for my camera and lenses. Overall, this case is a perfect blend of style and functionality. While I appreciate the beautiful design and comfortable carrying options, I wish the interior had a bit more space to accommodate additional camera accessories. Additionally, the rain cover can be challenging to use at first, but once you're familiar with it, it gets easier. Despite these minor drawbacks, I believe the USA Gear QTL Portable DSLR Camera Case Bag, Southwest is a fantastic option for photographers looking for a stylish and durable camera case. 🔗Acuvar Padded Backpack for DSLR Camerashttps://preview.redd.it/ju2do2ewbb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=767d918756f94af7758890f50394f8ac8c25ea4f I can confidently say that the Acuvar BPACK03 Padded Backpack is my go-to camera bag. Its sleek design and sturdy construction make it a reliable companion for all my photography adventures. The inside pocket with a hook and loop system, along with the 7 customizable padding dividers, ensures that my camera equipment stays snug and secure. I particularly love the padded shoulder straps as they provide immense comfort even when the bag is fully loaded. The side pockets are incredibly useful, with one being a net pocket and the other having a zipper. The webbed side pocket is perfect for my water bottle, while the hook and loop strap above it can easily hold a small tripod. However, the highlight of this bag is undoubtedly its capacity. It comfortably fits all my camera gear without making the bag bulky or unwieldy. The size is just right, making it easy to carry around on long photo shoots. And did I mention how visually appealing it is? Its simple yet stylish design truly stands out. Overall, I'm extremely satisfied with the Acuvar BPACK03 Padded Backpack. It's well made, has ample pocket utility, and boasts excellent sturdiness. Highly recommended! 🔗Durable DSLR Camera Case for Canon Rebel T7https://preview.redd.it/wanvzepwbb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e878a121cef4898f1295640d39edcde433ec5dbd As a photographer, I've always struggled with finding the right case to protect my gear while I'm out in the field. That was until I came across the USA Gear DSLR Quick Access case. The first thing that caught my eye was its sleek design, made from lightweight yet robust EVA hardshell with a padded interior. One of the features that have been a real game-changer for me is the three carrying modes - belt loop, strap, and handle. This has greatly enhanced my shooting experience, whether I'm walking around town or out in the wilderness. The zipper and hook & loop closure provide easy access to my camera without compromising on safety. The added feature of built-in memory card pocket ensures that I never miss a shot while fumbling through different compartments. However, one small issue is that it doesn't have a dedicated slot for attaching my camera strap, which requires a bit of improvisation. Despite this minor inconvenience, the overall performance of this case has been stellar. Its versatility, durability, and ease of use make it a must-have accessory in my photography kit. 🔗MegaGear Ever Ready PU Leather Case for Canon EOS Rebel T7 & 2000D + 18-55mmhttps://preview.redd.it/bdummp3xbb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=25976eedde6610fe87b3b5eeb8bf13e540bb1150 As an avid photographer, I've recently been using the MegaGear Ever Ready PU Leather Case with a Strap for my Canon EOS Rebel T7. It's not only stylish in black but it also provides excellent protection against dirt, scratches, and bumps. The two-piece design, consisting of a top and a bottom, is brilliant as it offers flexibility – you can use the bottom half independently as a half case and attach it to the built-in tripod mounting screw. This screw also allows for easy tripod usage without having to remove the case, which is a major convenience. The top piece seamlessly completes the all-around protection, attaching with snaps. I also appreciated the bottom opening feature, which grants easy access to the battery compartment. Another highlight is the stitching that adds a touch of class reminiscent of old-world craftsmanship. However, it's not entirely perfect. The case, while well-padded, doesn't provide much room for additional accessories beyond the camera and lens. Also, it could benefit from a rain cover for those times when you get caught in unexpected showers. Overall, the MegaGear Ever Ready PU Leather Case is a well-made, stylish, and functional case for my Canon EOS Rebel T7. It's worth every penny for the added protection and convenience it provides. 🔗K&F Concept Waterproof Camera Backpackhttps://preview.redd.it/87x80eexbb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=58c8c2f447a7b5f593c84d6e92db46b025d83088 I recently purchased the K&F Concept Waterproof Camera Backpack, and I couldn't be happier with my decision. As an avid traveler and photography enthusiast, I needed a reliable and secure way to transport my camera gear, and this backpack has exceeded my expectations. The first thing that stood out to me was the two separate compartments, which allowed me to organize my belongings with ease. The upper compartment is perfect for storing personal items like my wallet, phone, and even a change of clothes, while the lower compartment is specifically designed to house my camera, lenses, and other accessories. One of my favorite features is the quick-access side opening, which enables me to grab my camera and accessories without having to take the entire backpack off. This has been incredibly helpful when trying to capture that perfect shot in a hurry. Another aspect that I appreciate is the theft-proof design, as the main compartment's opening is located at the back of the backpack. This provides me with peace of mind, knowing that my valuable camera equipment is securely protected. The backpack also features a padded, upper compartment that can accommodate a 15.6-inch laptop, making it incredibly versatile for both travel and daily use. Additionally, there is a special side compartment with a strap and buckle designed to safely transport a tripod, further adding to the convenience and functionality of this backpack. Overall, I am extremely satisfied with the K&F Concept Waterproof Camera Backpack. Its blend of practicality, organization, and security make it an indispensable addition to my photography gear, and I highly recommend it to other photographers and travelers alike. 🔗Leather Canon EOS 77D Camera Case with Battery Accesshttps://preview.redd.it/ryakprwxbb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ffb96a79537ae7359fcfc826a83fe1c3d16f546a I've been using the MegaGear Ever Ready Leather Case and Strap with my Canon EOS Rebel T7i for a few weeks now, and I must say, it's been a game-changer. The high-quality PU leather not only looks incredibly stylish but also provides top-notch protection against scratches and bumps. Plus, the internal fabric is soft and padded, protecting my camera from dust, damage, and shock. One of my favorite features is the easy-to-clean and maintain design. It's so simple to wipe down and keep in pristine condition, even after a long day of shooting. And speaking of shooting, the Ever Ready Design allows me to install a tripod and access the battery compartment in seconds - no fumbling around with straps or belts. The only downside I've encountered is that the case is a bit bulky, which might be slightly inconvenient for those who prefer a more minimalistic approach to camera gear. But overall, the MegaGear Ever Ready Leather Case offers excellent protection and convenience for my Canon Rebel T7i, making it a worthwhile investment. Buyer's GuideImportant Features to Considerhttps://preview.redd.it/af55z77ybb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8aa0c1652059874add74f98fe40d9e4d576b516f When shopping for a Canon Rebel T7 Camera Case, there are several important features to consider:
Considerations for Different UsesYour specific needs will depend on how you plan to use your camera. For instance:
General Advice for Choosing a Canon Rebel T7 Camera CaseTo ensure you make the best choice, consider the following:
https://preview.redd.it/6tcbrhpybb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6bec0037559b652f9c05508fe9e750760f870d54 FAQWhat types of camera cases are available for the Canon Rebel T7?There are various types of camera cases available for the Canon Rebel T7, including shoulder bags, holsters, and hard cases. Each type offers different levels of protection, accessibility, and convenience.How do I choose the best camera case for my needs?https://preview.redd.it/c7uxr8zybb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=22380592614c353250ccefa7e7a0fe3580125b6c Consider factors such as protection, accessibility, size, and weight when choosing a camera case for your Canon Rebel T7. Think about how you plan to use your camera and where you'll be carrying it, as well as any additional equipment you may need to store. Are there waterproof camera cases for the Canon Rebel T7?Yes, there are waterproof camera cases available for the Canon Rebel T7. These cases typically feature a heavy-duty, water-resistant exterior, ensuring your camera remains dry and protected in damp or rainy conditions.What is the difference between a shoulder bag and a holster case?A shoulder bag offers more storage space and is typically larger, allowing you to carry additional equipment such as lenses, batteries, and memory cards. A holster case is smaller and more compact, providing quick access to your camera while keeping it secure and protected. https://preview.redd.it/52i89ifzbb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bacebd9d83098c80d79c9ba388897516c9415484 How much do camera cases for the Canon Rebel T7 cost?The cost of camera cases for the Canon Rebel T7 can vary depending on the brand, materials, and features. Prices can range from around $20 for a basic case to over $100 for premium, waterproof cases.Do camera cases come with a warranty?Many camera case manufacturers offer a warranty on their products. Warranty periods and coverage may vary, so be sure to check the specific terms and conditions of the case you are interested in purchasing.What is a dual-layer camera case?A dual-layer camera case features an outer layer made of durable material such as nylon, polyester, or leather, and an inner layer made of soft, cushioned material like foam or neoprene. This combination provides excellent protection for your camera against impacts and scratches.How do I properly store my Canon Rebel T7 in a camera case?
How do I clean and maintain my camera case?Use a soft, damp cloth to gently clean the exterior of your camera case, being careful not to apply excessive pressure or use abrasive materials. Regularly inspect the case for signs of wear and tear, and replace any damaged parts or components promptly to maintain its effectiveness and protect your camera equipment.Can I use the same camera case for other camera models?It depends on the specific case and the dimensions of your other camera models. Some camera cases may have adjustable dividers or customizable compartments that can accommodate different camera sizes, while others are designed specifically for a particular model and may not fit other cameras.What is a padded camera case?A padded camera case is designed with a layer of soft, cushioned material such as foam or neoprene to provide enhanced protection against impacts, scratches, and other damage that could occur during transportation or storage.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |