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Shinies, but in real life!
2016.06.16 21:53 Shinies, but in real life!
The term "shiny" originates from Pokémon. It is a term used to describe a pokémon that is a completely different color from all others in their species. We have taken that idea and expanded it to include objects, plants, food, and people! All color morphs are accepted providing they are atypical from the norm of that species, breed, or type.
2017.02.22 17:12 PeterPorky Felt Good Coming Out
I bet that felt good coming out. newfastuff.com
2013.02.07 02:16 immski Feels good, man.
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2024.05.18 22:38 bumurutu Update: 11 months from DDay 3
So, for those of you who know my story I have been through a lot during R. Those who don’t can view my post history as I wrote a lot about it.
Back in June of last year I caught WW still in communication with AP. And by communication, I mean I caught her with a hidden camera in our bedroom on a FaceTime masterbating with him while I was staying at a local AirBNB for a golf tournament.
To say I was devastated is an understatement, as it invalidated 6 months of R and put us back to below zero. Looking back, I realize now that I was the only one driving R initially. I was active on subs, reading articles and books, learning everything I could about how to recover from this devastation and keep my family whole. I was also telling WW what I needed from her for R but to her it felt forced. Like I was telling her what needed to be done and when, like being in IC.
She didn’t want to do any of it back then. She was sorry, sure. Sorry for the pain she caused me. Sorry that the kids had to hear us fighting behind closed doors. Sorry that her friends thought less of her. Sorry she got caught. In her mind, she was still blaming me for the affair but knew she couldn’t say it out loud because she couldn’t defend that feeling under scrutiny.
Since DDay 3, I have seen a remarkable shift in my WW. She started IC shortly after and has been dedicated to improving herself as a person. She confessed her actions to our families, some of her friends and one couple that we are close with. She has cut her toxic mother off for long stretches (4 months) and no longer allows her influence on her life and our marriage. This was the big one for me as it was a massive strain on our marriage for its entirety. She has read books to better understand how she could allow herself to self sabotage like this. How she could take everything good in her life for granted and jeopardize it for so little gain. She has evaluated how she interacts with others (men in particular) and established clear boundaries for her behavior. She supports me in my career and helps more with the kids on a day to day basis (also a problem pre-affair). She acknowledges all the things I do for her and our family and expresses appreciation. She reciprocates and shows me how much she respects and values me on a daily basis. She communicates what she is feeling and when she needs more from me in a particular area (also a pre-affair issue). She recognizes AP’s motivations and feels shame for not seeing it sooner.
We have had a few missteps along the way, such as some omissions from the original affair coming to light as well as a coworker acting inappropriately that she didn’t share with me until I found the voicemails and made him call the both of us with his wife on the call also to admit what he was doing (threatened to send the voicemails to HR and blow up his career). While these were serious violations, we have worked through them along with her motivations for keeping them secret. She understands and verbalizes why her motivations were misguided and realizes that therapy has been key in getting her to understand these things.
As of now we are settled back into a comfortable routine, but this time it is more even when it comes to supporting each other. We have made new friendships with others outside of her long standing and somewhat toxic friend group and distanced ourselves from the ones that don’t support us. We have an improved level of intimacy that we are both comfortable with (though I do admit I miss the hysterical bonding 🤣). We focus more on family than before and our children have become much closer with their cousins as a result. We “date” each other often and she drives half of that equation now instead of me having to pursue her as before. We spend quality time with the kids as well as alone with each other every day. In short, we have built the marriage we want out of the ashes of the old one.
There are still struggles of course. I still harbor resentment and anger at times and can face triggers on isolated occasions. She is overcoming a lifetime of conditioning and poor coping skills which is not done overnight. We argue (respectfully of course) on things at times but we communicate our frustrations immediately now instead of letting them fester. I still have some struggles with intimacy as I can get stuck in my head in the moment on occasion, which concerns me, but we make it work.
At the end of the day, we both have taken this nightmare and have turned it into an opportunity to better ourselves and our marriage. To honestly and harshly assess our flaws and shortcomings and dedicate ourselves to either fix them or at least minimize their impact.
I look back on the period before DDay 3 and still have many regrets, from ignoring my gut during the affair to how I handled things after it came to light, but I don’t fault myself. I realize I was doing the best I could with the information I had available, and was making decisions from a place of integrity and hope. While I may have been naive at times, I never betrayed my own values during this process. I always made decisions with the best interests of my family at heart. We still have a long way to go and this is a life long endeavor for improvement, but at this moment I feel content and optimistic with our progress. This is a long, ugly path that can be avoided with emotional intelligence and maturity, but unfortunately some don’t have the self introspection needed to do so. That is where the childhood trauma comes into play in my opinion.
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Back in June of last year I caught WW still in communication with AP. And by communication, I mean I caught her with a hidden camera in our bedroom on a FaceTime masterbating with him while I was staying at a local AirBNB for a golf tournament.
To say I was devastated is an understatement, as it invalidated 6 months of R and put us back to below zero. Looking back, I realize now that I was the only one driving R initially. I was active on subs, reading articles and books, learning everything I could about how to recover from this devastation and keep my family whole. I was also telling WW what I needed from her for R but to her it felt forced. Like I was telling her what needed to be done and when, like being in IC.
She didn’t want to do any of it back then. She was sorry, sure. Sorry for the pain she caused me. Sorry that the kids had to hear us fighting behind closed doors. Sorry that her friends thought less of her. Sorry she got caught. In her mind, she was still blaming me for the affair but knew she couldn’t say it out loud because she couldn’t defend that feeling under scrutiny.
Since DDay 3, I have seen a remarkable shift in my WW. She started IC shortly after and has been dedicated to improving herself as a person. She confessed her actions to our families, some of her friends and one couple that we are close with. She has cut her toxic mother off for long stretches (4 months) and no longer allows her influence on her life and our marriage. This was the big one for me as it was a massive strain on our marriage for its entirety. She has read books to better understand how she could allow herself to self sabotage like this. How she could take everything good in her life for granted and jeopardize it for so little gain. She has evaluated how she interacts with others (men in particular) and established clear boundaries for her behavior. She supports me in my career and helps more with the kids on a day to day basis (also a problem pre-affair). She acknowledges all the things I do for her and our family and expresses appreciation. She reciprocates and shows me how much she respects and values me on a daily basis. She communicates what she is feeling and when she needs more from me in a particular area (also a pre-affair issue). She recognizes AP’s motivations and feels shame for not seeing it sooner.
We have had a few missteps along the way, such as some omissions from the original affair coming to light as well as a coworker acting inappropriately that she didn’t share with me until I found the voicemails and made him call the both of us with his wife on the call also to admit what he was doing (threatened to send the voicemails to HR and blow up his career). While these were serious violations, we have worked through them along with her motivations for keeping them secret. She understands and verbalizes why her motivations were misguided and realizes that therapy has been key in getting her to understand these things.
As of now we are settled back into a comfortable routine, but this time it is more even when it comes to supporting each other. We have made new friendships with others outside of her long standing and somewhat toxic friend group and distanced ourselves from the ones that don’t support us. We have an improved level of intimacy that we are both comfortable with (though I do admit I miss the hysterical bonding 🤣). We focus more on family than before and our children have become much closer with their cousins as a result. We “date” each other often and she drives half of that equation now instead of me having to pursue her as before. We spend quality time with the kids as well as alone with each other every day. In short, we have built the marriage we want out of the ashes of the old one.
There are still struggles of course. I still harbor resentment and anger at times and can face triggers on isolated occasions. She is overcoming a lifetime of conditioning and poor coping skills which is not done overnight. We argue (respectfully of course) on things at times but we communicate our frustrations immediately now instead of letting them fester. I still have some struggles with intimacy as I can get stuck in my head in the moment on occasion, which concerns me, but we make it work.
At the end of the day, we both have taken this nightmare and have turned it into an opportunity to better ourselves and our marriage. To honestly and harshly assess our flaws and shortcomings and dedicate ourselves to either fix them or at least minimize their impact.
I look back on the period before DDay 3 and still have many regrets, from ignoring my gut during the affair to how I handled things after it came to light, but I don’t fault myself. I realize I was doing the best I could with the information I had available, and was making decisions from a place of integrity and hope. While I may have been naive at times, I never betrayed my own values during this process. I always made decisions with the best interests of my family at heart. We still have a long way to go and this is a life long endeavor for improvement, but at this moment I feel content and optimistic with our progress. This is a long, ugly path that can be avoided with emotional intelligence and maturity, but unfortunately some don’t have the self introspection needed to do so. That is where the childhood trauma comes into play in my opinion.
2024.05.18 22:38 Equivalent-Date-4796 No way anyone has ever said to her!
https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=364015357870535
https://www.tiktok.com/@thefemalelead/video/7178991556660071685?lang=en
"You'll OFTEN hear people say?!" about HER? The gall. No way anyone said that to her. She amplified every tiny thing she did before she met Harry, every single stupid thing was on social media, that stupid "refugee camps and red carpets" statement, etc. If anyone had EVER said to her that she was helping women find their voices, she would have said it when it happened, tagged that person, or made a general comment on her stupid Tig account. Especially if people "often" said that to her...she is making it seem as if she was a known humanitarian figure people talked about. Idiot, the only thing people "often" talked about with you was confusion about how you snagged the idiot prince who was way above your level (despite being no catch either).
No one ever said it, but she wanted acknowledgement for something she thought would put her above Kate, so she made that whole thing up and derailed the whole discussion from mental health, focusing more on men, as William was talking about, to women's empowerment...not even women's mental health!
I was so uncomfortable watching this the first time around. Catherine was speaking so softly and was being talked over by Meghan, who was speaking about women's empowerment when the entire forum was supposed to me about men's mental health. She was heavily pregnant with Louis and I felt very badly for her, she seemed like a sweet person who wasn't able to say or do much due to Meghan taking over, and I really thought that in the coming years her and William would be totally overshadowed by M and H.
That interviewer asking Meghan if she could share examples about her work with the BRF, and Meghan saying, "No, sadly, I can't." SO stupid and SO fake. It was obvious she was doing nothing, and then the interviewer still let her instead redirect to her fake women's empowerment thing. I'm so glad I was wrong about the future, and that William and Kate saw "the long game" much better than I did lol.
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https://www.tiktok.com/@thefemalelead/video/7178991556660071685?lang=en
"You'll OFTEN hear people say?!" about HER? The gall. No way anyone said that to her. She amplified every tiny thing she did before she met Harry, every single stupid thing was on social media, that stupid "refugee camps and red carpets" statement, etc. If anyone had EVER said to her that she was helping women find their voices, she would have said it when it happened, tagged that person, or made a general comment on her stupid Tig account. Especially if people "often" said that to her...she is making it seem as if she was a known humanitarian figure people talked about. Idiot, the only thing people "often" talked about with you was confusion about how you snagged the idiot prince who was way above your level (despite being no catch either).
No one ever said it, but she wanted acknowledgement for something she thought would put her above Kate, so she made that whole thing up and derailed the whole discussion from mental health, focusing more on men, as William was talking about, to women's empowerment...not even women's mental health!
I was so uncomfortable watching this the first time around. Catherine was speaking so softly and was being talked over by Meghan, who was speaking about women's empowerment when the entire forum was supposed to me about men's mental health. She was heavily pregnant with Louis and I felt very badly for her, she seemed like a sweet person who wasn't able to say or do much due to Meghan taking over, and I really thought that in the coming years her and William would be totally overshadowed by M and H.
That interviewer asking Meghan if she could share examples about her work with the BRF, and Meghan saying, "No, sadly, I can't." SO stupid and SO fake. It was obvious she was doing nothing, and then the interviewer still let her instead redirect to her fake women's empowerment thing. I'm so glad I was wrong about the future, and that William and Kate saw "the long game" much better than I did lol.
2024.05.18 22:38 bumurutu Update: 11 months from DDay 3
So, for those of you who know my story I have been through a lot during R. Those who don’t can view my post history as I wrote a lot about it.
Back in June of last year I caught WW still in communication with AP. And by communication, I mean I caught her with a hidden camera in our bedroom on a FaceTime masterbating with him while I was staying at a local AirBNB for a golf tournament.
To say I was devastated is an understatement, as it invalidated 6 months of R and put us back to below zero. Looking back, I realize now that I was the only one driving R initially. I was active on subs, reading articles and books, learning everything I could about how to recover from this devastation and keep my family whole. I was also telling WW what I needed from her for R but to her it felt forced. Like I was telling her what needed to be done and when, like being in IC.
She didn’t want to do any of it back then. She was sorry, sure. Sorry for the pain she caused me. Sorry that the kids had to hear us fighting behind closed doors. Sorry that her friends thought less of her. Sorry she got caught. In her mind, she was still blaming me for the affair but knew she couldn’t say it out loud because she couldn’t defend that feeling under scrutiny.
Since DDay 3, I have seen a remarkable shift in my WW. She started IC shortly after and has been dedicated to improving herself as a person. She confessed her actions to our families, some of her friends and one couple that we are close with. She has cut her toxic mother off for long stretches (4 months) and no longer allows her influence on her life and our marriage. This was the big one for me as it was a massive strain on our marriage for its entirety. She has read books to better understand how she could allow herself to self sabotage like this. How she could take everything good in her life for granted and jeopardize it for so little gain. She has evaluated how she interacts with others (men in particular) and established clear boundaries for her behavior. She supports me in my career and helps more with the kids on a day to day basis (also a problem pre-affair). She acknowledges all the things I do for her and our family and expresses appreciation. She reciprocates and shows me how much she respects and values me on a daily basis. She communicates what she is feeling and when she needs more from me in a particular area (also a pre-affair issue). She recognizes AP’s motivations and feels shame for not seeing it sooner.
We have had a few missteps along the way, such as some omissions from the original affair coming to light as well as a coworker acting inappropriately that she didn’t share with me until I found the voicemails and made him call the both of us with his wife on the call also to admit what he was doing (threatened to send the voicemails to HR and blow up his career). While these were serious violations, we have worked through them along with her motivations for keeping them secret. She understands and verbalizes why her motivations were misguided and realizes that therapy has been key in getting her to understand these things.
As of now we are settled back into a comfortable routine, but this time it is more even when it comes to supporting each other. We have made new friendships with others outside of her long standing and somewhat toxic friend group and distanced ourselves from the ones that don’t support us. We have an improved level of intimacy that we are both comfortable with (though I do admit I miss the hysterical bonding 🤣). We focus more on family than before and our children have become much closer with their cousins as a result. We “date” each other often and she drives half of that equation now instead of me having to pursue her as before. We spend quality time with the kids as well as alone with each other every day. In short, we have built the marriage we want out of the ashes of the old one.
There are still struggles of course. I still harbor resentment and anger at times and can face triggers on isolated occasions. She is overcoming a lifetime of conditioning and poor coping skills which is not done overnight. We argue (respectfully of course) on things at times but we communicate our frustrations immediately now instead of letting them fester. I still have some struggles with intimacy as I can get stuck in my head in the moment on occasion, which concerns me, but we make it work.
At the end of the day, we both have taken this nightmare and have turned it into an opportunity to better ourselves and our marriage. To honestly and harshly assess our flaws and shortcomings and dedicate ourselves to either fix them or at least minimize their impact.
I look back on the period before DDay 3 and still have many regrets, from ignoring my gut during the affair to how I handled things after it came to light, but I don’t fault myself. I realize I was doing the best I could with the information I had available, and was making decisions from a place of integrity and hope. While I may have been naive at times, I never betrayed my own values during this process. I always made decisions with the best interests of my family at heart. We still have a long way to go and this is a life long endeavor for improvement, but at this moment I feel content and optimistic with our progress. This is a long, ugly path that can be avoided with emotional intelligence and maturity, but unfortunately some don’t have the self introspection needed to do so. That is where the childhood trauma comes into play in my opinion.
submitted by bumurutu to AsOneAfterInfidelity [link] [comments]
Back in June of last year I caught WW still in communication with AP. And by communication, I mean I caught her with a hidden camera in our bedroom on a FaceTime masterbating with him while I was staying at a local AirBNB for a golf tournament.
To say I was devastated is an understatement, as it invalidated 6 months of R and put us back to below zero. Looking back, I realize now that I was the only one driving R initially. I was active on subs, reading articles and books, learning everything I could about how to recover from this devastation and keep my family whole. I was also telling WW what I needed from her for R but to her it felt forced. Like I was telling her what needed to be done and when, like being in IC.
She didn’t want to do any of it back then. She was sorry, sure. Sorry for the pain she caused me. Sorry that the kids had to hear us fighting behind closed doors. Sorry that her friends thought less of her. Sorry she got caught. In her mind, she was still blaming me for the affair but knew she couldn’t say it out loud because she couldn’t defend that feeling under scrutiny.
Since DDay 3, I have seen a remarkable shift in my WW. She started IC shortly after and has been dedicated to improving herself as a person. She confessed her actions to our families, some of her friends and one couple that we are close with. She has cut her toxic mother off for long stretches (4 months) and no longer allows her influence on her life and our marriage. This was the big one for me as it was a massive strain on our marriage for its entirety. She has read books to better understand how she could allow herself to self sabotage like this. How she could take everything good in her life for granted and jeopardize it for so little gain. She has evaluated how she interacts with others (men in particular) and established clear boundaries for her behavior. She supports me in my career and helps more with the kids on a day to day basis (also a problem pre-affair). She acknowledges all the things I do for her and our family and expresses appreciation. She reciprocates and shows me how much she respects and values me on a daily basis. She communicates what she is feeling and when she needs more from me in a particular area (also a pre-affair issue). She recognizes AP’s motivations and feels shame for not seeing it sooner.
We have had a few missteps along the way, such as some omissions from the original affair coming to light as well as a coworker acting inappropriately that she didn’t share with me until I found the voicemails and made him call the both of us with his wife on the call also to admit what he was doing (threatened to send the voicemails to HR and blow up his career). While these were serious violations, we have worked through them along with her motivations for keeping them secret. She understands and verbalizes why her motivations were misguided and realizes that therapy has been key in getting her to understand these things.
As of now we are settled back into a comfortable routine, but this time it is more even when it comes to supporting each other. We have made new friendships with others outside of her long standing and somewhat toxic friend group and distanced ourselves from the ones that don’t support us. We have an improved level of intimacy that we are both comfortable with (though I do admit I miss the hysterical bonding 🤣). We focus more on family than before and our children have become much closer with their cousins as a result. We “date” each other often and she drives half of that equation now instead of me having to pursue her as before. We spend quality time with the kids as well as alone with each other every day. In short, we have built the marriage we want out of the ashes of the old one.
There are still struggles of course. I still harbor resentment and anger at times and can face triggers on isolated occasions. She is overcoming a lifetime of conditioning and poor coping skills which is not done overnight. We argue (respectfully of course) on things at times but we communicate our frustrations immediately now instead of letting them fester. I still have some struggles with intimacy as I can get stuck in my head in the moment on occasion, which concerns me, but we make it work.
At the end of the day, we both have taken this nightmare and have turned it into an opportunity to better ourselves and our marriage. To honestly and harshly assess our flaws and shortcomings and dedicate ourselves to either fix them or at least minimize their impact.
I look back on the period before DDay 3 and still have many regrets, from ignoring my gut during the affair to how I handled things after it came to light, but I don’t fault myself. I realize I was doing the best I could with the information I had available, and was making decisions from a place of integrity and hope. While I may have been naive at times, I never betrayed my own values during this process. I always made decisions with the best interests of my family at heart. We still have a long way to go and this is a life long endeavor for improvement, but at this moment I feel content and optimistic with our progress. This is a long, ugly path that can be avoided with emotional intelligence and maturity, but unfortunately some don’t have the self introspection needed to do so. That is where the childhood trauma comes into play in my opinion.
2024.05.18 22:38 kreukmuckleneuk Is my mom hijacking my birthday?
My 30th birthday is around the corner and I feel like doing absolutely nothing to celebrate it.
The other day I mentioned to my mom and my aunt that I saw an exciting holiday destination that has eclectic gypsey wagons and hippie vans as accommodation. I told them that I mentioned to my partner (30 M) that we should go there for my birthday.They were very excited about this place and immediately started planning a weekend getaway for my birthday. I never told them who I was planning on inviting, they just assumed that they were going with. Don't get me wrong, I love my mom and my aunt is like a second mother to me. But, something just feels awkward about going on a weekend getaway with my mom, aunt and a bunch of my friends.
Yesterday my mom started pressuring me to tell her how many people I am going to invite to go along because she needed to pay a deposit before the end of the day. I told her that there are 5 of my close friends that I wanted to invite. She then proceeded to pay the deposit to secure the booking.
Here is where the situation upset me - Earlier tonight she called me to talk about the weekend away. She confirmed which friends I wanted to invite and told me what the costs are per person, etc. Before ending the call she said she wanted to ask me something. 1. She asked me to please allow her to invite my brother and his wife even though she knows that I have very strong feelings towards her (the wife). It is a very complicated situation and a very long story to include here, but I'll explain shortly. This woman made up stories about my father and tells lies about many other people and situations. She is shady and she is creating a rift between members of our family. I do not like her and I do not want to spend time with/around her. My mother feels bad for my brother and does not want him to feel excluded. I do not want that either, but I really REALLY do not want to spend my 30th birthday with someone who goes out of her way to hurt the people that I love. 2. My mom also asked me if she could invite my other aunt and my cousin to go along. I am not close to either of them. The thought of inviting them did not even cross my mind. My mom did not provide any reasoning as to why she wants to invite them.
After the conversation I burst out in tears and told my partner that "they have a very wonderful way of always making stuff like this about themselves". I felt embarrassed about reacting so strongly and told him I don't understand why I am crying about this. He told me that this is a trauma response because of all the many other times they have done this in the past.
It feels as if the weekend away is an excuse to bring the family together. I do not think that my 30th birthday is the appropriate occasion to do this.
At this point I am strongly considering to tell her that I do not want to go and that they should all enjoy the time away without us. My partner was also upset after she called and told me straight that my mom and my aunt is hijacking my birthday and I should confront them about their behaviour.
I would like to hear from people who can relate to this and have dealt with similar situations. Please help me with ways to approach my mother without hurting her.
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The other day I mentioned to my mom and my aunt that I saw an exciting holiday destination that has eclectic gypsey wagons and hippie vans as accommodation. I told them that I mentioned to my partner (30 M) that we should go there for my birthday.They were very excited about this place and immediately started planning a weekend getaway for my birthday. I never told them who I was planning on inviting, they just assumed that they were going with. Don't get me wrong, I love my mom and my aunt is like a second mother to me. But, something just feels awkward about going on a weekend getaway with my mom, aunt and a bunch of my friends.
Yesterday my mom started pressuring me to tell her how many people I am going to invite to go along because she needed to pay a deposit before the end of the day. I told her that there are 5 of my close friends that I wanted to invite. She then proceeded to pay the deposit to secure the booking.
Here is where the situation upset me - Earlier tonight she called me to talk about the weekend away. She confirmed which friends I wanted to invite and told me what the costs are per person, etc. Before ending the call she said she wanted to ask me something. 1. She asked me to please allow her to invite my brother and his wife even though she knows that I have very strong feelings towards her (the wife). It is a very complicated situation and a very long story to include here, but I'll explain shortly. This woman made up stories about my father and tells lies about many other people and situations. She is shady and she is creating a rift between members of our family. I do not like her and I do not want to spend time with/around her. My mother feels bad for my brother and does not want him to feel excluded. I do not want that either, but I really REALLY do not want to spend my 30th birthday with someone who goes out of her way to hurt the people that I love. 2. My mom also asked me if she could invite my other aunt and my cousin to go along. I am not close to either of them. The thought of inviting them did not even cross my mind. My mom did not provide any reasoning as to why she wants to invite them.
After the conversation I burst out in tears and told my partner that "they have a very wonderful way of always making stuff like this about themselves". I felt embarrassed about reacting so strongly and told him I don't understand why I am crying about this. He told me that this is a trauma response because of all the many other times they have done this in the past.
It feels as if the weekend away is an excuse to bring the family together. I do not think that my 30th birthday is the appropriate occasion to do this.
At this point I am strongly considering to tell her that I do not want to go and that they should all enjoy the time away without us. My partner was also upset after she called and told me straight that my mom and my aunt is hijacking my birthday and I should confront them about their behaviour.
I would like to hear from people who can relate to this and have dealt with similar situations. Please help me with ways to approach my mother without hurting her.
2024.05.18 22:38 Tesa_Tesanovic1988 Nine blockchain trends for 2024
 | Experts around the world have heralded 2023 and 2024 as the years of the large-scale breakthrough of blockchain, with the technology expected to accelerate its adoption and market size. Experts from consulting firm Agile Dynamics shed light on some of the top trends driving blockchain’s growth. submitted by Tesa_Tesanovic1988 to BlockchainChat [link] [comments] Security tokensThe initial coin offering (ICO) concept was criticized for its perceived lack of real value and uncertain regulations, leading to limited profit potential for many investors accustomed to the more established IPO market. Given the potential for market manipulation and limited liquidity, cryptocurrency is often viewed as a short-term investment.To address these issues, security tokens were introduced. These tokens are based on the concept of programmable equity, which combines the benefits of blockchain with the stake principle. Unlike ICOs, they offer investors more value, such as ownership rights and passive income in the form of dividends. https://preview.redd.it/9s6ymzfbx81d1.jpg?width=900&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=20e3f66fee92d306cd3ae856df079979c2463395 As entrepreneurs are familiar with this concept, it has the potential to revolutionize the IPO business by providing greater liquidity and efficiency, combined with round-the-clock access to capital. Blockchain-as-a-serviceAs the Technology-as-a-Service model gains popularity, we can anticipate a rise in the number of blockchain platforms available as well. In essence, Blockchain-as-a-Service allows customers to leverage all the best features of this technology without having to create their own platform. They can access the cloud, build apps, execute smart contracts, and take advantage of the existing well-developed infrastructure.Several providers, including Amazon, have already begun offering BaaS, and we anticipate that more companies will enter this market. For example, a few months ago, Huawei introduced its own Blockchain Service, which allows its clients to use this technology through Huawei Cloud. Blockchain consortiaThe primary objective of a blockchain consortia is to facilitate productive collaboration among competitors. As the success of any blockchain platform is contingent on its community, involving more members can greatly enhance the relevance of shared data and improve the technical security of the network.Blockchain consortia can focus on two main areas: business, which aims to develop and maintain platforms that address specific business problems, and technology, which focuses on creating reusable platforms based on technical standards. Some consortia, like R3, can incorporate features of both types. Fiat-crypto exchangeThe lack of regulations and government support for cryptocurrency transactions has undermined confidence in their use. Although some countries, such as China and Ecuador, are experimenting with launching their own digital currencies, most governments do not support the development of cryptocurrencies, which limits their application outside the digital world.While fiat currencies still dominate in most countries, the most effective approach is to create a digital link between the fiat and crypto worlds. Fiat-crypto exchange is increasingly necessary across various industries that seek to expand their possibilities. Hybrid models also hold promise for real-world applications, such as land registry and the voting process. 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One of the primary principles of blockchain is that data cannot be deleted or altered from the network, making such an environment secure and eliminating risks of leaks and other privacy violations.Decentralized ecosystemsWhile B2C businesses typically find it relatively easy to transition into the digital world, B2B companies may face a slower pace of digitalization. Blockchain technology can assist B2B companies by enabling the creation of complex ecosystems, such as B2B2C, using smart contracts. This can facilitate efficient peer-to-peer transactions and allow competitors to collaborate and construct new business models.Such systems require the creation of a business governance model that guarantees equal rights for all ecosystem players to prevent monopolization. Blockchain IoT technologyInternet of Things (IoT) technology still faces security and data assurance challenges. Blockchain technology can help overcome these issues by establishing a secure framework for data exchange between IoT devices.Furthermore, an IoT-enabled blockchain can enhance consumer data management by giving users more control over the information they share.Experts around the world have heralded 2023 and 2024 as the years of the large-scale breakthrough of blockchain, with the technology expected to accelerate its adoption and market size. Experts from consulting firm Agile Dynamics shed light on some of the top trends driving blockchain’s growth. Security tokens The initial coin offering (ICO) concept was criticized for its perceived lack of real value and uncertain regulations, leading to limited profit potential for many investors accustomed to the more established IPO market. Given the potential for market manipulation and limited liquidity, cryptocurrency is often viewed as a short-term investment. To address these issues, security tokens were introduced. 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Several providers, including Amazon, have already begun offering BaaS, and we anticipate that more companies will enter this market. For example, a few months ago, Huawei introduced its own Blockchain Service, which allows its clients to use this technology through Huawei Cloud. Blockchain consortia The primary objective of a blockchain consortia is to facilitate productive collaboration among competitors. As the success of any blockchain platform is contingent on its community, involving more members can greatly enhance the relevance of shared data and improve the technical security of the network. Blockchain consortia can focus on two main areas: business, which aims to develop and maintain platforms that address specific business problems, and technology, which focuses on creating reusable platforms based on technical standards. Some consortia, like R3, can incorporate features of both types. Fiat-crypto exchange The lack of regulations and government support for cryptocurrency transactions has undermined confidence in their use. Although some countries, such as China and Ecuador, are experimenting with launching their own digital currencies, most governments do not support the development of cryptocurrencies, which limits their application outside the digital world. While fiat currencies still dominate in most countries, the most effective approach is to create a digital link between the fiat and crypto worlds. Fiat-crypto exchange is increasingly necessary across various industries that seek to expand their possibilities. Hybrid models also hold promise for real-world applications, such as land registry and the voting process. Alternative asset tokenization Asset tokenization involves the conversion of high-value assets, such as real estate or commodities, into tokens that can be exchanged on the blockchain. This shift from cryptocurrency to real-based digital assets has the potential to be a game-changer for small to medium-sized enterprises, as it provides them with broader market access. By leveraging the power of blockchain technology, these companies can attract more investors and benefit from the high liquidity and transparency of exchanges. Data marketplaces The growing use of AI requires high-quality user data, which can be difficult to obtain. To meet this demand, communities are proposing the concept of a ‘data marketplace’, a blockchain-based platform where individuals can sell their personal data for financial gain. One of the primary principles of blockchain is that data cannot be deleted or altered from the network, making such an environment secure and eliminating risks of leaks and other privacy violations. Decentralized ecosystems While B2C businesses typically find it relatively easy to transition into the digital world, B2B companies may face a slower pace of digitalization. Blockchain technology can assist B2B companies by enabling the creation of complex ecosystems, such as B2B2C, using smart contracts. This can facilitate efficient peer-to-peer transactions and allow competitors to collaborate and construct new business models. Such systems require the creation of a business governance model that guarantees equal rights for all ecosystem players to prevent monopolization. Blockchain IoT technology Internet of Things (IoT) technology still faces security and data assurance challenges. Blockchain technology can help overcome these issues by establishing a secure framework for data exchange between IoT devices. Furthermore, an IoT-enabled blockchain can enhance consumer data management by giving users more control over the information they share. |
2024.05.18 22:37 paradox914 Opinions wanted on a situation with a new person who isn't my ex
Hey guys, I would love to hear opinions on what I got going on right now. This doesn't have to do with my ex but actually a different girl I was talking to shortly after my relationship had ended. I'll just jump straight into it. It's gonna be bit long, but for those of you who stick it out, I greatly appreciate it.
So, 6 months ago in November my ex broke up with me. It was a 3 1/2 yr relationship. About 3 weeks after the breakup, I decided to ask out a girl who was in my class at the time. I genuinely actually liked her as a person prior to the breakup. She would just come hang/study with me every day before class, and I genuinely enjoyed being around her. I had no intentions of getting into anything with her but one time thought to myself that if I wasn't in a relationship I would totally ask her out and want to get to know her on a more personal level.
Well, low and behold, I was dumped and now actually had the opportunity to ask her out. Idk what I was thinking at time that made it seem like a good idea to go straight into dating after coming out of a 3 1/2 yr relationship 💀. But she said yes to going on a date. I told her we should wait till after finals, which she agreed to (we were in the last 2 weeks of the semester at that point, and the workload was crazy).
In this time, though, I was still in a lot of pain from my breakup and hurting. My ex was constantly on my mind. I was very emotionally unavailable to this new girl. I think to the point where she probably started having doubts by the time we finished the semester. I tried planning 1 date with her, and it didn't end up happening. It was around Xmas though and she had a lot of family stuff going on, which I understood. After Xmas passed, she messaged me apologizing for how busy she was and said we'd figure something out. I told her that was cool and just to let me know when she had time in her schedule. She said that was cool but never reached out about specifically about a date. But in this time her and I would message each other on instagram. We gamed online a little as well.
Once February hit and we hadn't gone on a date, I finally realized okay this is not going anywhere, and I was still deep in my healing process. Reality hit and I could see how not good the situation was that I was in. I never had told her about my breakup either. So by mid-February, I had lowered the amount of interaction to almost little to none hoping it would die out (terrible idea, I should have just communicated to her properly like an adult). But she would still send me stuff on Instagram, so I assumed okay is she still interested? So I messaged her and asked if she was still interested in going on a date, which she said yes to. I told her, though, that I wanted to talk to her over a call to talk about something important. I was going to be straight up to her about my breakup, which I felt was very important for her to know about if she were to invest anymore time into me. I didn't want to talk about it over text, though. She said she was busy atm so I told her it was okay and to let me know when she had some free time to talk. She said okay and I left it at that. I refused to take anything further without having that talk with her. She never reached out about the call but sent a reel here and there. I stopped replying to her and it finally just died out. I told myself I needed to just focus on me.
Fast forward to now. It's been 6 months after my breakup. I haven't had any contact whatsoever with my ex and could care less about anything that has to do with her, her life and what she does is none of my concern or business. I also haven't messaged the other girl since February. I've been committed to heavy personal growth and have detached and healed properly from my breakup. I've been working on my unadressed traumaus, attachment style, and anxiety by doing countless hours of workbooks, courses, and watching videos addressing my mental health and teaching me important skills that are required for a healthy relationship. I now feel like I am truly ready for another relationship.
Looking back on the situation I had started with the other girl, I feel so bad. I had no business asking her out at the time. I was completely in the wrong doing it. I was emotionally unavailable to her and probably came off like I didn't care much. She probably felt lots of mixed feelings cause of my mixed emotions and lack of effort/interest. And quiet frankly I don't blame her at all for how she was acting. I would be acting the same way in her position, having to deal with someone like me at the time.
Since then, I have run into her in person a few times, and we had decent short interactions. I would love to try again with her but properly. I just don't know if it's worth it. I already had put her through a rollercoaster, and we weren't even in a relationship. If I were to start up something again with her, I would want to have an actual conversation with her, apologize, and be straight up front about everything before moving anything forward just to clear things up (if she would even be open to the idea).
So I guess my question now would be, should I reach out to see if something can work? Or should I just leave it be? I don't care about being rejected, I'm just more afraid of disturbing her or making her upset or uncomfortable by reaching out. What's your guys' honest opinion and what would you do in this situation?
Thanks again for those who took the time read through all that. I greatly appreciate it :)
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So, 6 months ago in November my ex broke up with me. It was a 3 1/2 yr relationship. About 3 weeks after the breakup, I decided to ask out a girl who was in my class at the time. I genuinely actually liked her as a person prior to the breakup. She would just come hang/study with me every day before class, and I genuinely enjoyed being around her. I had no intentions of getting into anything with her but one time thought to myself that if I wasn't in a relationship I would totally ask her out and want to get to know her on a more personal level.
Well, low and behold, I was dumped and now actually had the opportunity to ask her out. Idk what I was thinking at time that made it seem like a good idea to go straight into dating after coming out of a 3 1/2 yr relationship 💀. But she said yes to going on a date. I told her we should wait till after finals, which she agreed to (we were in the last 2 weeks of the semester at that point, and the workload was crazy).
In this time, though, I was still in a lot of pain from my breakup and hurting. My ex was constantly on my mind. I was very emotionally unavailable to this new girl. I think to the point where she probably started having doubts by the time we finished the semester. I tried planning 1 date with her, and it didn't end up happening. It was around Xmas though and she had a lot of family stuff going on, which I understood. After Xmas passed, she messaged me apologizing for how busy she was and said we'd figure something out. I told her that was cool and just to let me know when she had time in her schedule. She said that was cool but never reached out about specifically about a date. But in this time her and I would message each other on instagram. We gamed online a little as well.
Once February hit and we hadn't gone on a date, I finally realized okay this is not going anywhere, and I was still deep in my healing process. Reality hit and I could see how not good the situation was that I was in. I never had told her about my breakup either. So by mid-February, I had lowered the amount of interaction to almost little to none hoping it would die out (terrible idea, I should have just communicated to her properly like an adult). But she would still send me stuff on Instagram, so I assumed okay is she still interested? So I messaged her and asked if she was still interested in going on a date, which she said yes to. I told her, though, that I wanted to talk to her over a call to talk about something important. I was going to be straight up to her about my breakup, which I felt was very important for her to know about if she were to invest anymore time into me. I didn't want to talk about it over text, though. She said she was busy atm so I told her it was okay and to let me know when she had some free time to talk. She said okay and I left it at that. I refused to take anything further without having that talk with her. She never reached out about the call but sent a reel here and there. I stopped replying to her and it finally just died out. I told myself I needed to just focus on me.
Fast forward to now. It's been 6 months after my breakup. I haven't had any contact whatsoever with my ex and could care less about anything that has to do with her, her life and what she does is none of my concern or business. I also haven't messaged the other girl since February. I've been committed to heavy personal growth and have detached and healed properly from my breakup. I've been working on my unadressed traumaus, attachment style, and anxiety by doing countless hours of workbooks, courses, and watching videos addressing my mental health and teaching me important skills that are required for a healthy relationship. I now feel like I am truly ready for another relationship.
Looking back on the situation I had started with the other girl, I feel so bad. I had no business asking her out at the time. I was completely in the wrong doing it. I was emotionally unavailable to her and probably came off like I didn't care much. She probably felt lots of mixed feelings cause of my mixed emotions and lack of effort/interest. And quiet frankly I don't blame her at all for how she was acting. I would be acting the same way in her position, having to deal with someone like me at the time.
Since then, I have run into her in person a few times, and we had decent short interactions. I would love to try again with her but properly. I just don't know if it's worth it. I already had put her through a rollercoaster, and we weren't even in a relationship. If I were to start up something again with her, I would want to have an actual conversation with her, apologize, and be straight up front about everything before moving anything forward just to clear things up (if she would even be open to the idea).
So I guess my question now would be, should I reach out to see if something can work? Or should I just leave it be? I don't care about being rejected, I'm just more afraid of disturbing her or making her upset or uncomfortable by reaching out. What's your guys' honest opinion and what would you do in this situation?
Thanks again for those who took the time read through all that. I greatly appreciate it :)
2024.05.18 22:37 Alex72598 Scooby-Doo and the Curse of Atlantis (my idea for what the 5th Mook Animation film could have been)
To provide some context, Mook Animation is a Japanese studio who is responsible for arguably the four most iconic Scooby-Doo films of all time: Zombie Island, Witch’s Ghost, Alien Invaders, and Cyber Chase. These films focused more on horror / supernatural elements, with a key element of each being that they featured real monsters and gave more depth to the gang’s personalities than the classic cartoons. Mook’s involvement with the franchise ended after Cyber Chase in 2001, due to clashes with the execs at Warner Bros. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what I would want from a 5th film in this style, and this is the idea I came up with.
It would be titled “The Curse of Atlantis” and be released in 2002, with the same voice cast returning from Cyber Chase (Scott Innes as Shaggy and BJ Ward as Velma). For this film, I would tweak the formula and go for more of an anime / steampunk vibe (the final act features the gang using mech suits to fight off an army of Atlantean spirits unleashed by the villain, while the villain and one of the other protagonists fight one on one). I would really like the film to be done in traditional cel animation like the first three Mook films, but almost certainly it would be done in digital animation, like Cyber Chase.
Aside from the gang, these would be the characters introduced in this movie:
The film would be more explicitly connected to the previous 4 films canon wise, as Eric from Cyber Chase would make an early appearance recommending the gang’s services in translating the tablet, while Crystal and Amber from Alien Invaders are also mentioned while the gang are on Atlantis, as Shaggy and Scooby are wondering if any of the advanced technology on Atlantis could be used to contact them. Maybe there could also be a Hex Girls poster in the mystery machine as an Easter egg.
The first act involves the story of the fall of Atlantis being told as a frame narrative, which is then revealed to be a lecture from Oliver, who is later revealed to be planning an expedition to Atlantis with his wealthy friends Naomi and Elliot, who are funding everything. The trio have been unable to find anyone who can translate the tablet, until Eric, who is a student at the same university, points them towards mystery Inc. Velma succeeds in translating the tablet and the gang are invited to join the expedition as thanks.
Shaggy and Scooby would be chased by Atlantean spirits on the ship, which raises some suspicion for the gang about what’s really going on. Later, the gang would spend a day on Atlantis getting up to their usual shenanigans, but the spirits would return to cause trouble again, and Fred would come up with a plan to trap them. That night, they would lure the spirits into the trap, with it actually working perfectly on the first try, and the spirits would be unmasked and revealed as the crew members trying to scare them off before they realize that the main trio are here to loot the city.
Suddenly, said trio would appear carting out priceless treasures, but once Oliver realizes the charade is over, he betrays everyone else and reveals that his true intentions are far worse, as he plans to use the might of Atlantis’ advanced weaponry to subjugate the world to his will, as his ancestors once sought to do until they lost the tablet (Oliver and Naomi are both descended from Atlanteans who escaped the island’s original fate and spread out across the world). Oliver would then use the tablet to unleash an army of real Atlantean spirits which capture the gang, but they make a getaway thanks to Zola, their tour guide from earlier. During this chase, an original song would play called “Atlantis Awakened”. This leads to the aforementioned final act.
Like Ben from Witch’s Ghost, Oliver ends up having a “fate worse than death” defeat, as the spirits turn against him when the tablet is destroyed, and prevent him from escaping as the island sinks back into the ocean. The implication is that he will face the wrath of the gods alone, while the other Atlanteans will be spared, and all we see is his pure terror as he vanishes beneath the waves along with Atlantis.
The film would deal with the theme of whether the outside world is ready to coexist with Atlantis, and if they can be trusted to use Atlantean technology for good, with the answer being left at “not yet”, as even Zola, who has always been optimistic on this, concedes in the end. Meanwhile, despite being passionate about this subject, and having the potential to become rich and famous beyond their wildest dreams, Naomi and Elliot decide it’s best to ditch any evidence of Atlantis and tell the world it’s just a myth after all. Throughout the film, I envision the score being very thoughtful and mysterious, yet also melancholy, as it’s an unknown frontier, similar to Alien Invaders. The final shot would be of the gang standing by the ocean and gazing out upon the calm waters at sunset, knowing they’ll be amongst the few to ever know the truth, before driving off towards home.
I actually have the entire plot synopsis written up for this idea, this is just a summary of the main points.
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It would be titled “The Curse of Atlantis” and be released in 2002, with the same voice cast returning from Cyber Chase (Scott Innes as Shaggy and BJ Ward as Velma). For this film, I would tweak the formula and go for more of an anime / steampunk vibe (the final act features the gang using mech suits to fight off an army of Atlantean spirits unleashed by the villain, while the villain and one of the other protagonists fight one on one). I would really like the film to be done in traditional cel animation like the first three Mook films, but almost certainly it would be done in digital animation, like Cyber Chase.
Aside from the gang, these would be the characters introduced in this movie:
- Naomi and Elliot Blackwell - an eccentric millionaire couple in their early-mid 30s who are passionate about finding Atlantis. Later revealed to be apparent villains, but they were actually in the dark about their friend’s true motivations, and ended up helping the gang defeat him. Naomi is revealed to be descended from Atlanteans.
- Oliver Harrison - a mythology professor in his late 30s, and a close friend of Naomi and Elliot, later revealed to be descended from Atlanteans, and later still, as the true villain.
- Duke, Aria, and Wilson - three crew members on the expedition who dressed up as Atlantean spirits in an attempt to scare the gang off. They ended up helping the gang after Oliver betrayed them.
- Zola - a kindhearted and idealistic Atlantean who give the gang a tour of the city and, unlike most of his kind, does not have a deep distrust of the outside world, and even believes Atlantis may be able to rejoin the world someday and share its technology for the greater cause of mankind. He befriends the gang and takes them to his home to meet his family, and later, helps them escape when Oliver turns on them.
The film would be more explicitly connected to the previous 4 films canon wise, as Eric from Cyber Chase would make an early appearance recommending the gang’s services in translating the tablet, while Crystal and Amber from Alien Invaders are also mentioned while the gang are on Atlantis, as Shaggy and Scooby are wondering if any of the advanced technology on Atlantis could be used to contact them. Maybe there could also be a Hex Girls poster in the mystery machine as an Easter egg.
The first act involves the story of the fall of Atlantis being told as a frame narrative, which is then revealed to be a lecture from Oliver, who is later revealed to be planning an expedition to Atlantis with his wealthy friends Naomi and Elliot, who are funding everything. The trio have been unable to find anyone who can translate the tablet, until Eric, who is a student at the same university, points them towards mystery Inc. Velma succeeds in translating the tablet and the gang are invited to join the expedition as thanks.
Shaggy and Scooby would be chased by Atlantean spirits on the ship, which raises some suspicion for the gang about what’s really going on. Later, the gang would spend a day on Atlantis getting up to their usual shenanigans, but the spirits would return to cause trouble again, and Fred would come up with a plan to trap them. That night, they would lure the spirits into the trap, with it actually working perfectly on the first try, and the spirits would be unmasked and revealed as the crew members trying to scare them off before they realize that the main trio are here to loot the city.
Suddenly, said trio would appear carting out priceless treasures, but once Oliver realizes the charade is over, he betrays everyone else and reveals that his true intentions are far worse, as he plans to use the might of Atlantis’ advanced weaponry to subjugate the world to his will, as his ancestors once sought to do until they lost the tablet (Oliver and Naomi are both descended from Atlanteans who escaped the island’s original fate and spread out across the world). Oliver would then use the tablet to unleash an army of real Atlantean spirits which capture the gang, but they make a getaway thanks to Zola, their tour guide from earlier. During this chase, an original song would play called “Atlantis Awakened”. This leads to the aforementioned final act.
Like Ben from Witch’s Ghost, Oliver ends up having a “fate worse than death” defeat, as the spirits turn against him when the tablet is destroyed, and prevent him from escaping as the island sinks back into the ocean. The implication is that he will face the wrath of the gods alone, while the other Atlanteans will be spared, and all we see is his pure terror as he vanishes beneath the waves along with Atlantis.
The film would deal with the theme of whether the outside world is ready to coexist with Atlantis, and if they can be trusted to use Atlantean technology for good, with the answer being left at “not yet”, as even Zola, who has always been optimistic on this, concedes in the end. Meanwhile, despite being passionate about this subject, and having the potential to become rich and famous beyond their wildest dreams, Naomi and Elliot decide it’s best to ditch any evidence of Atlantis and tell the world it’s just a myth after all. Throughout the film, I envision the score being very thoughtful and mysterious, yet also melancholy, as it’s an unknown frontier, similar to Alien Invaders. The final shot would be of the gang standing by the ocean and gazing out upon the calm waters at sunset, knowing they’ll be amongst the few to ever know the truth, before driving off towards home.
I actually have the entire plot synopsis written up for this idea, this is just a summary of the main points.
2024.05.18 22:37 RipOk702 I used to be beautiful and I’m not anymore. And I like it that way
Hello,
This might be a throw away. I’m not sure. I just need somewhere to vent.
When I was in my early 20s, I was a size zero blonde with a large bust and small waist. I would wear revealing clothing without a care in the world, and I would get screamed at for it by jealous women. But I didn’t care. I was so beautiful that wives would yell at their husbands in the middle of the store because they would stare at me.
I ended up getting a boyfriend who could buy me anything I wanted. Anything my heart desired. I could snap my fingers and I would have it. But, he only liked me for my beauty. I was required to be dressed up around him all the time and I couldn’t be in comfortable clothes or shoes for most of my days.
It was fun for a while, but then it started to turn into something terrible. As most pretty women, I gained multiple stalkers. Some would follow me home, others would threaten me if I rejected them. My boyfriend only saw it as a complement to him. Because all those men wanted me, but he had me. So he wouldn’t do anything to stop them. The more nasty men were to me, the more it fed his ego.
All the men around me would act like animals. I couldn’t trust anyone. Not even the people I went to school with. Also, I was skinny because I was anorexic and bulimic. All of my worth was tied into my beauty. If I gained a single pound, I would refuse to eat for days at a time.
I was miserable. I was an object to everyone around me. Women hated me and men only saw me as a trophy.
I broke up with my boyfriend because I couldn’t handle the way he viewed me. I began to want to be viewed as a person rather than an object. And I didn’t care if I struggled without his money.
As the years went by, the eating disorders caught up with me and I got sick with a chronic autoimmune issue and gained a considerable amount of weight. I went through multiple surgeries and was bed ridden for a while. Multiple members of my family died as well, and I had to bury them next to each other in the span of only a couple years. So I went into a horrible depression where I would eat to my hearts desire. I also stopped bleaching and styling my hair and it grew out to its naturally dark brown color and mostly sits in a bun on my head.
As I gained more weight, people started to become cruel. The jokes and insults started rolling in from everyone. The suggestions for me to try different diet plans came from anyone who laid eyes on me. People who knew me in my early 20s even asked me if it was possible for me to go back the “diet” I used to be on (meaning anorexia and bulimia).
My ex-boyfriend has recently suggested that we can get back together if I agreed to start taking Ozempic.
But, I don’t want to be skinny again. Yes, I get called fat. And yes, it hurts my feelings sometimes.
But I’m largely left alone by everyone. I can walk down the street without being cat called. I can wear comfortable clothes without worrying about how I look in them. I can easily make friends with women and they won’t get jealous or worry that I’ll steal their husband away. I can eat whatever I want and not worry about throwing it up later for the fear of getting fat. I can go out for drinks, watch a movie, you name it, I can do it now.
I have made so many friends with people that actually matter to me, and men don’t even look at me anymore because I’m not beautiful.
I have no desire to get back with my ex, because I don’t want to be treated as a prize anymore.
So I want to eat pizza, I want to wear extra large clothes, I want stay ugly. The people that matter will stay.
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This might be a throw away. I’m not sure. I just need somewhere to vent.
When I was in my early 20s, I was a size zero blonde with a large bust and small waist. I would wear revealing clothing without a care in the world, and I would get screamed at for it by jealous women. But I didn’t care. I was so beautiful that wives would yell at their husbands in the middle of the store because they would stare at me.
I ended up getting a boyfriend who could buy me anything I wanted. Anything my heart desired. I could snap my fingers and I would have it. But, he only liked me for my beauty. I was required to be dressed up around him all the time and I couldn’t be in comfortable clothes or shoes for most of my days.
It was fun for a while, but then it started to turn into something terrible. As most pretty women, I gained multiple stalkers. Some would follow me home, others would threaten me if I rejected them. My boyfriend only saw it as a complement to him. Because all those men wanted me, but he had me. So he wouldn’t do anything to stop them. The more nasty men were to me, the more it fed his ego.
All the men around me would act like animals. I couldn’t trust anyone. Not even the people I went to school with. Also, I was skinny because I was anorexic and bulimic. All of my worth was tied into my beauty. If I gained a single pound, I would refuse to eat for days at a time.
I was miserable. I was an object to everyone around me. Women hated me and men only saw me as a trophy.
I broke up with my boyfriend because I couldn’t handle the way he viewed me. I began to want to be viewed as a person rather than an object. And I didn’t care if I struggled without his money.
As the years went by, the eating disorders caught up with me and I got sick with a chronic autoimmune issue and gained a considerable amount of weight. I went through multiple surgeries and was bed ridden for a while. Multiple members of my family died as well, and I had to bury them next to each other in the span of only a couple years. So I went into a horrible depression where I would eat to my hearts desire. I also stopped bleaching and styling my hair and it grew out to its naturally dark brown color and mostly sits in a bun on my head.
As I gained more weight, people started to become cruel. The jokes and insults started rolling in from everyone. The suggestions for me to try different diet plans came from anyone who laid eyes on me. People who knew me in my early 20s even asked me if it was possible for me to go back the “diet” I used to be on (meaning anorexia and bulimia).
My ex-boyfriend has recently suggested that we can get back together if I agreed to start taking Ozempic.
But, I don’t want to be skinny again. Yes, I get called fat. And yes, it hurts my feelings sometimes.
But I’m largely left alone by everyone. I can walk down the street without being cat called. I can wear comfortable clothes without worrying about how I look in them. I can easily make friends with women and they won’t get jealous or worry that I’ll steal their husband away. I can eat whatever I want and not worry about throwing it up later for the fear of getting fat. I can go out for drinks, watch a movie, you name it, I can do it now.
I have made so many friends with people that actually matter to me, and men don’t even look at me anymore because I’m not beautiful.
I have no desire to get back with my ex, because I don’t want to be treated as a prize anymore.
So I want to eat pizza, I want to wear extra large clothes, I want stay ugly. The people that matter will stay.
2024.05.18 22:36 Inevitable_Log_5121 Seller appreciation + review (repost)
 | All of the things l've bought from The u/dieebitchh, thus far! I have shopped with her three times, and each time was an incredible experience! She is the sweetest, most lovely, and has the best recommendations! I asked her questions, and she was patient with me. The delivery arrived on schedule and in excellent shape. All things considered, she's fantastic! Among my best Reddit users❤️ submitted by Inevitable_Log_5121 to DesiFragranceAddicts [link] [comments] ——————————————————- Chanel no 5: has an initial scent reminiscent of baby powder mixed with glue. Thankfully, the glue-like note dissipates quickly, leaving a luxurious, powdery dry down. Although it doesn't align with my personal preferences, I can appreciate the allure and enduring appeal of this iconic fragrance. —- Chanel coco madmoselle: opens with a sharp, synthetic citrus note that quickly fades, revealing a sweet, overly floral heart. The dry down is cloyingly sweet and lacks the sophistication I hoped for. —— Chanel chance eau tendre: This a delightful fragrance with a fresh, light, and elegant scent. It strikes a perfect balance between sophistication and a refreshing, youthful vibe. The fragrance feels modern and uplifting, making it a joy to wear. I thoroughly enjoyed it and find it an excellent choice for everyday use. —— Fleur Narcotique by Ex Nihilo: I absolutely love this. The fragrance is a perfect blend of floral and fruity elements that creates a vibrant, modern appeal. It exudes a luxurious and sophisticated aura, yet feels fresh and invigorating. Every time I wear it, I feel uplifted and elegant, making it a standout in my perfume collection. It's a delightful fragrance that perfectly captures a contemporary, refined essence. ———— YSL Libre: is simply captivating. It's a fragrance that exudes confidence and freedom. The blend of lavender, orange blossom, and musk creates a unique and unforgettable scent that feels both empowering and elegant. Every time I wear it, I feel a sense of liberation and sophistication. It's truly a masterpiece that I can't get enough of. ——— Jadore by dior: Dior J'adore is an enduring classic that continues to enchant. Its floral composition emanates a timeless elegance. The fragrance exudes luxury and sophistication. Whenever I wear it, I feel poised and self-assured, making it an essential part of my fragrance repertoire. It epitomizes modern femininity in a truly captivating way, and I have a deep affection for it. ——- Phlur solar power: This is truly like capturing sunshine in a bottle, embodying the essence of blissful, sun-drenched days. Its fusion of bergamot, coconut water, and sandalwood creates a harmonious blend that exudes vitality and warmth. This fragrance authentically evokes the feeling of a carefree summer breeze, uplifting the spirit and infusing every moment with radiant positivity. Love this! ——— Chloe: captivates from the first spritz with its enchanting floral bouquet, evoking a sense of timeless sophistication and grace. The initial burst of fragrance is utterly beguiling, drawing you into its feminine embrace. However, as it transitions to the dry down, the magic seems to fade a bit for me. The warmer, muskier base notes don't quite maintain the same allure as the captivating opening. Despite this, the fragrance still holds a special place for its memorable introduction. ——- Chanel no 5 leau: leaves me with mixed feelings. Initially, its presentation is decent, but nothing extraordinary. However, it's the dry down that truly elevates the experience. As time passes, the fragrance evolves into something more captivating and refined, revealing layers of complexity and sophistication ——- Commodity milk: This envelops you in a cozy embrace reminiscent of a Marshmallow Fireside. It combines creamy notes with a subtle sweetness that evokes the comforting aroma of toasted marshmallows and smoldering embers. The scent is warm, inviting, and indulgent, creating an ambiance of relaxation and nostalgia. It's like wrapping yourself in a soft blanket by a crackling fire, savoring every moment of comfort and contentment. —— Paco Rabanne's Olympea: is a fragrance I truly love. It effortlessly blends freshness with sensuality, creating an irresistible aroma. Every spritz leaves me feeling empowered and confident. It's a scent that commands attention and makes a lasting impression, earning its place as a staple in my collection. ——- |
2024.05.18 22:36 Teatarian Fake phobias are created to control people.
 | Fake Phobias submitted by Teatarian to u/Teatarian [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/j71wfz32x81d1.png?width=845&format=png&auto=webp&s=fc842cce931697b140222b02ba387ea41c3e502d |
2024.05.18 22:36 ProofMasterpiece7955 Just came out to my Dad
 | My Dad was the last person I needed to come out to and honestly the scariest. This was his reaction. I'd say it's a good initial response? Certainly could have been wayyyy worse. submitted by ProofMasterpiece7955 to trans [link] [comments] |
2024.05.18 22:36 SmartStatistician684 Add supercell friend
Sorry if this is the wrong place for this but I’m trying to figure out how to add my clash royale friends as supercell friends. Been going back and forth google and support just say send them the QR code. HOW? I can’t send pics through the app, we’re not supposed to give personal info like emails over clan chat, can’t dm in clash royale. I have a couple CR friends that are in my SC friends list but I don’t know how they got there..
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2024.05.18 22:36 Get_Drivers_Ed Increase Your Odds Of Passing With Get Drivers Ed
 | https://preview.redd.it/bv6y8kdqw81d1.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=669c4a81798d5dbb2cbf9f46498a2239b7411c10 submitted by Get_Drivers_Ed to u/Get_Drivers_Ed [link] [comments] Increasing Your Chances of Passing the Driving Test: Insights from Get Drivers EdOne of the most common questions we hear at Get Drivers Ed is, "How likely am I to pass my driving test on the first try?" It's a valid concern, as the driving test is a significant milestone in acquiring a driver’s license. The likelihood of passing depends on a variety of factors, including the quality of your preparation. In this blog, we’ll explore how taking a comprehensive Drivers Ed course, such as those offered at Get Drivers Ed, can significantly increase your chances of success.Understanding the Driving TestThe driving test is designed to evaluate your ability to operate a vehicle safely and effectively in everyday traffic conditions. 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Confidence plays a critical role in your ability to perform well during the test. https://preview.redd.it/fge1hr9vw81d1.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=6c542595be0a2afd23fa0eadd230fd2636afa7a7 Test Anxiety: Nervousness can significantly affect your performance. Managing anxiety is essential to ensure you can demonstrate your driving abilities effectively. Our instructors at Get Drivers Ed specialize in strategies to help you stay calm and focused during the test. https://preview.redd.it/l9dh9mnvw81d1.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=c2b1b8c0f254a5d507cce8924e78a4f498765f16 How Get Drivers Ed Prepares You for Success At Get Drivers Ed, our approach to driver education is holistic and personalized: Comprehensive Curriculum: We cover every topic that you’ll find on the written test and every skill you’ll need for the road test. Our curriculum is designed to provide you with a deep understanding of all aspects of driving. 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Make sure you understand the rules of the road and traffic laws. Practice Regularly: Gain experience by driving in various conditions and times of the day. The more you practice, the more comfortable and skilled you become. Listen to Feedback: Take constructive feedback from your instructors seriously and work on improving your weaknesses. Regular practice sessions with an instructor can significantly enhance your skills. Relax: On the day of the test, remember to stay calm and focused. Deep breathing exercises and positive visualization can help manage test anxiety. Success Stories Many of our students have passed their driving tests with flying colors on their first attempt, thanks to the robust training provided at Get Drivers Ed. For instance, John, a recent graduate, passed his driving test last month after completing our comprehensive Drivers Ed course. He initially struggled with parallel parking and highway merging but overcame these challenges through targeted practice sessions and personalized feedback. His success, like that of many others, is a testament to the effectiveness of our teaching methods and curriculum. Similarly, Emily, a nervous driver who had failed her first attempt elsewhere, came to Get Drivers Ed with little hope. Through our supportive environment and systematic training approach, she not only passed her test on the second attempt but also became a confident and careful driver. Why Choose Get Drivers Ed? Choosing the right driving school is crucial for your success. At Get Drivers Ed, our commitment to excellence and student success sets us apart: State-of-the-Art Teaching Methods: We use the latest educational techniques and materials to provide high-quality, engaging instruction. Our innovative approach keeps learning interesting and effective. Experienced Instructors: Our team of certified instructors is passionate about teaching and dedicated to student success. They bring years of experience and a wealth of knowledge to each lesson. Flexible Scheduling: We offer flexible course schedules to fit your busy life. Whether you need evening classes, weekend sessions, or online courses, we can accommodate your needs. Comprehensive Support: From your first lesson to the day of your driving test, we provide ongoing support and guidance. Our instructors are always available to answer questions, provide feedback, and offer encouragement. Conclusion The likelihood of passing your driving test increases significantly with the right preparation and mindset. At Get Drivers Ed, we provide all the tools and training you need to succeed, not just in your driving test, but on the road. Our comprehensive curriculum, experienced instructors, and flexible scheduling ensure that you are well-prepared and confident when test day arrives. 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2024.05.18 22:36 Scare_Norm [FS][US-NJ] Middle Atlantic WRS-8 Hanging Wall Mount Rack - $100
I have a Middle Atlantic WRS-8 hanging wall mount rack leftover from a project I did a few years ago. It's still in the original sealed box.
It's great for locations where you don't have enough depth to put a regular wall rack.
The usable depth is 23" but you can increase that by a few inches using rack mount extenders.
Spec Sheet: https://objects.eanixter.com/PD338872.PDF
Pictures: https://imgur.com/a/gQYboaV
The only picture I could find online of the inside is the 4 space one, this is the larger 8 space model.
Asking $100. Local pickup in 08003, Cherry Hill, NJ.
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It's great for locations where you don't have enough depth to put a regular wall rack.
The usable depth is 23" but you can increase that by a few inches using rack mount extenders.
Spec Sheet: https://objects.eanixter.com/PD338872.PDF
Pictures: https://imgur.com/a/gQYboaV
The only picture I could find online of the inside is the 4 space one, this is the larger 8 space model.
Asking $100. Local pickup in 08003, Cherry Hill, NJ.
2024.05.18 22:36 Underboss572 Anyone else feel like they are both in denial and acceptance?
I was semi-blindsided, and after a terrible first few days, I started to logically and rationally evaluate what happened. After reading and speaking to my own therapist, I feel like it was almost certainly her previous trauma and avoidant tendencies that caused our breakup and that she will likely start to feel her feelings again.
Now I feel like I am in this weird limbo. I know I can't do anything other than give her space and hope. And I know that, at least for the moment, I'm single. I've even gotten back on the apps and will probably be at a point to go on a date in the next week. If I thought it was fair to the other person.
But at the same time, I feel like there is this cloud over me. At some point, be it in a month or a year, she will want to get back together, and if I reach out, we can do it.
It's left me very confused. I know the answer is to accept she may never come back and continue to live my life. But I just can't shake the feeling that, at some point, we will be back together. Has anyone experienced a similar feeling? And if so how do you differentiate denial from reasoned probability?
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Now I feel like I am in this weird limbo. I know I can't do anything other than give her space and hope. And I know that, at least for the moment, I'm single. I've even gotten back on the apps and will probably be at a point to go on a date in the next week. If I thought it was fair to the other person.
But at the same time, I feel like there is this cloud over me. At some point, be it in a month or a year, she will want to get back together, and if I reach out, we can do it.
It's left me very confused. I know the answer is to accept she may never come back and continue to live my life. But I just can't shake the feeling that, at some point, we will be back together. Has anyone experienced a similar feeling? And if so how do you differentiate denial from reasoned probability?
2024.05.18 22:35 digitalpencil When is a tantrum not a tantrum?
I’m dad to a 3.5 year old who for 6-7 months now, has been having increasing challenges with tantrums/meltdowns. Tiredness is certainly a contributing trigger, but not the cause. She’s always been quite sensitive; if anyone raises their voice to her, not even in a “being told off” manner but just concern for eg. she nearly banged her head or something, she will take it very personally, often bursting into tears.
This mostly manifests in her crying and then retreating to her room but often, when the stars of her discontent align, it becomes something else altogether. Particularly when tired, she will flop to the ground, beg to be picked up and quickly flop back to the floor. She wants to be held but not held, wants to be alone, but not alone, wants dad/mum, and neither and will scream for them to leave if they come to her (quite unlike her). It’s almost like she’s desperately searching for something, anything to make her feel better but nothing does which just increases that frustration and feeling of being unable to cope.
During all of this, she thrashes to a point of risking injury and where we need to restrain her (hold her legs, try and hold her close in a hug). She will bicycle kick legs, throw her head back and flail her hands back and forth, often repeating things like “I can’t, I can’t, I can’t” over and over.
As for ourselves, we try to be a calming presence and just be there through it, sympathise with her and let her know that it will pass. She will scream “ouchy” at us for holding her and we will commiserate by telling her we have to hold her so she doesn’t hurt herself, but of course in this moment, she is unable of processing this.
We can try and ‘distract’ her away from it but being frank, there’s no success with this until she’s ready for there to be. These meltdowns will take roughly 15-30 minutes, and have been increasing in frequency.
So we’re at a loss. We want to help her navigate this but we also feel ill-equipped to do so. We’re also concerned that we don’t know if this is typical toddler behaviour, or an early sign of something more concerning (particularly the flailing hands/repeated phrases). At any rate, we’re not qualified and conscious to not label things unnecessarily, but we also don’t want to shrug something off blindly as "kids being kids", as we understand earlier intervention can be of benefit if this is something wanting of professional help.
I would say that, outside of this she’s fairly typical; conversational, holds eye contact, emotive/smiley/excitable, she can sit still and focus (at times), no real aversion to eg strange textures/sounds (although decidedly not a fan of the hand dryer).
Anyway, I thought I’d chuck it out there to gain some insight into what is and is not, typical behaviour for a tantrum/meltdown, at this age? Our take has always been, these are “big feelings” and our role is to help her navigate, feel and process them, but holy shit it can be exhausting. I feel despondent sometimes. Are there any things you’ve found helpful in your experience, good books etc?
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This mostly manifests in her crying and then retreating to her room but often, when the stars of her discontent align, it becomes something else altogether. Particularly when tired, she will flop to the ground, beg to be picked up and quickly flop back to the floor. She wants to be held but not held, wants to be alone, but not alone, wants dad/mum, and neither and will scream for them to leave if they come to her (quite unlike her). It’s almost like she’s desperately searching for something, anything to make her feel better but nothing does which just increases that frustration and feeling of being unable to cope.
During all of this, she thrashes to a point of risking injury and where we need to restrain her (hold her legs, try and hold her close in a hug). She will bicycle kick legs, throw her head back and flail her hands back and forth, often repeating things like “I can’t, I can’t, I can’t” over and over.
As for ourselves, we try to be a calming presence and just be there through it, sympathise with her and let her know that it will pass. She will scream “ouchy” at us for holding her and we will commiserate by telling her we have to hold her so she doesn’t hurt herself, but of course in this moment, she is unable of processing this.
We can try and ‘distract’ her away from it but being frank, there’s no success with this until she’s ready for there to be. These meltdowns will take roughly 15-30 minutes, and have been increasing in frequency.
So we’re at a loss. We want to help her navigate this but we also feel ill-equipped to do so. We’re also concerned that we don’t know if this is typical toddler behaviour, or an early sign of something more concerning (particularly the flailing hands/repeated phrases). At any rate, we’re not qualified and conscious to not label things unnecessarily, but we also don’t want to shrug something off blindly as "kids being kids", as we understand earlier intervention can be of benefit if this is something wanting of professional help.
I would say that, outside of this she’s fairly typical; conversational, holds eye contact, emotive/smiley/excitable, she can sit still and focus (at times), no real aversion to eg strange textures/sounds (although decidedly not a fan of the hand dryer).
Anyway, I thought I’d chuck it out there to gain some insight into what is and is not, typical behaviour for a tantrum/meltdown, at this age? Our take has always been, these are “big feelings” and our role is to help her navigate, feel and process them, but holy shit it can be exhausting. I feel despondent sometimes. Are there any things you’ve found helpful in your experience, good books etc?
2024.05.18 22:35 utpian LZTR1-related schwannamotosis and suspected MNF1: Asking some questions
Hi everyone. I've been lurking for a long time, for as long as I've suspected I've had some condition under the umbrella of neurofibromatosis. I've read so many posts from all of you over this time and I feel like I should introduce myself, and also ask a few questions of you all.
Introduction
I've always been into genetics as a hobby. My grandmother had an incredibly rare condition that took many years for her to be diagnosed with, and every day of her life she was at risk of sudden death as a result (and has absolutely nothing and no relation to any form of NF). When I started in school and learned about genetics even being a thing, I was convinced that her condition was likely a component of it. As it turns out, it is. I couldn't become a geneticist: school was so challenging to afford to begin with, even with really fantastic grades, and I was a high school dropout, so my career became something else (software engineering), but I was always interested in the subject.
Many years ago, I got several consumer-level DNA tests. One of the tests had a mutation in NF1, and I checked to see if it was a miscall. It appeared not to be. I had gotten a new job with fantastic insurance and wanted to see if I could get it checked out.
I see the geneticist. No mutations in NF1 detected, but a mutation in LZTR1 was present, along with a Variant of Uncertain Significance that had not been recorded and studies at the time (now, it's published). So I went about my life as of a few years ago knowing that was a possibility. Saw a neurologist, got an MRI, they said I looked good, life moved on.
A few years before this happened, I had a child (who does not have any of my pathogenic mutations.. I've checked). So this whole time, I started getting some symptoms of issues with my eye over the years: a symptom where i had sudden extreme pain that felt like my eye was out of the socket almost, happened twice, eye doctors had no idea what was going on. Then, a retinal hole, so I had surgery to repair it. My vision just has never been as strong there.
As of the last few months especially, I've had other symptoms on the same side as my eye: tinnitus, a feeling that my ear felt dislocated until I put it back in place, slight aching, a little bit of dizziness, and in hindsight I think my hearing was already being impacted. Less than two weeks ago, I had a moment where everything hit hard: all of the sudden, it hurt more on the same side with my eye, the vertigo got worse, I could definitely tell I had lost hearing, double vision when seeing up close. I knew in that moment that something more than just some sort of ache was going on, that this seemed worse. Also keep in mind, I actively avoid getting COVID-19 by masking, air purification, vaccines, etc. So as of now, I have never had it, and thankfully have also barely been sick at all in the past few years beyond these other unusual symptoms.
I saw my neurologist immediately after realizing what was going on. I told him what I thought this was: an acoustic neuroma, and maybe something else additional with my eye or something similar to it. The appointment ended up being really disappointing, dismissive and not at all in the direction I had hoped, and I'm going to find care elsewhere after I get my MRI because I know I deserve better than someone who does not care to drop his ego. But I did convince him to get me an MRI (it's been two years), which happens tomorrow morning. And I did also find out that my optic nerve is tortuous, especially the left side (and I doubt he reviewed it himself back in the day, beyond the written report). And I pointed out to him again about the mutation I had in NF1, and how I also have cafe au laits and freckles in patches throughout my body, that are just harder to see because I'm multiracial and they're very close to my own skin tone. And he confirmed my conductive hearing loss. And examined my ears and ruled out an ear infection. So... what else could it be in someone who has LZTR1-related neurofibromatosis diagnosis from a geneticist?
So I have, what I believe, is mosaic neurofibromatosis type 1. I think the first DNA test I saw that in was legitimate. I also think the LZTR1-related schwannomatosis is kicking in, but that I knew about. I think I have even a spot on my spine, as I've had pain there with pressure for almost my entire life (at least as long as I can remember).
And I am hoping someone can take me seriously at another place of care once my MRI comes back. Whatever is happening is large enough to impact my hearing and vision and face. And it's the weirdest experience knowing part of this in advance of it before I had symptoms I noticed. It's like every step of the way, I've had to convince someone else of what I thought was going on. But I am super lucky to know enough in advance to find the care I need. WIsh that was the case for everyone.
TL;DR: Inadvertently found out I have LZTR1-related schwannomatosis and I suspect mosaic neurofibromatosis type one. Might have acoustic neuroma based on symptoms, some optic nerve involvement based on symptoms, MRI tomorrow.
Questions
I have some questions just to generally ask. I try to search the subreddit, but sometimes it's just easier to ask in the way I need to, and I want to add a bit more detail to some of the questions to help clarify what I'm asking about.
I know that was a massive post. Thank you for reading. Thank you if you give any answers. And thanks for being a part of this community, I wish none of us had to face this, but I am glad there are places where we can know we're not alone in our experiences.
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I've always been into genetics as a hobby. My grandmother had an incredibly rare condition that took many years for her to be diagnosed with, and every day of her life she was at risk of sudden death as a result (and has absolutely nothing and no relation to any form of NF). When I started in school and learned about genetics even being a thing, I was convinced that her condition was likely a component of it. As it turns out, it is. I couldn't become a geneticist: school was so challenging to afford to begin with, even with really fantastic grades, and I was a high school dropout, so my career became something else (software engineering), but I was always interested in the subject.
Many years ago, I got several consumer-level DNA tests. One of the tests had a mutation in NF1, and I checked to see if it was a miscall. It appeared not to be. I had gotten a new job with fantastic insurance and wanted to see if I could get it checked out.
I see the geneticist. No mutations in NF1 detected, but a mutation in LZTR1 was present, along with a Variant of Uncertain Significance that had not been recorded and studies at the time (now, it's published). So I went about my life as of a few years ago knowing that was a possibility. Saw a neurologist, got an MRI, they said I looked good, life moved on.
A few years before this happened, I had a child (who does not have any of my pathogenic mutations.. I've checked). So this whole time, I started getting some symptoms of issues with my eye over the years: a symptom where i had sudden extreme pain that felt like my eye was out of the socket almost, happened twice, eye doctors had no idea what was going on. Then, a retinal hole, so I had surgery to repair it. My vision just has never been as strong there.
As of the last few months especially, I've had other symptoms on the same side as my eye: tinnitus, a feeling that my ear felt dislocated until I put it back in place, slight aching, a little bit of dizziness, and in hindsight I think my hearing was already being impacted. Less than two weeks ago, I had a moment where everything hit hard: all of the sudden, it hurt more on the same side with my eye, the vertigo got worse, I could definitely tell I had lost hearing, double vision when seeing up close. I knew in that moment that something more than just some sort of ache was going on, that this seemed worse. Also keep in mind, I actively avoid getting COVID-19 by masking, air purification, vaccines, etc. So as of now, I have never had it, and thankfully have also barely been sick at all in the past few years beyond these other unusual symptoms.
I saw my neurologist immediately after realizing what was going on. I told him what I thought this was: an acoustic neuroma, and maybe something else additional with my eye or something similar to it. The appointment ended up being really disappointing, dismissive and not at all in the direction I had hoped, and I'm going to find care elsewhere after I get my MRI because I know I deserve better than someone who does not care to drop his ego. But I did convince him to get me an MRI (it's been two years), which happens tomorrow morning. And I did also find out that my optic nerve is tortuous, especially the left side (and I doubt he reviewed it himself back in the day, beyond the written report). And I pointed out to him again about the mutation I had in NF1, and how I also have cafe au laits and freckles in patches throughout my body, that are just harder to see because I'm multiracial and they're very close to my own skin tone. And he confirmed my conductive hearing loss. And examined my ears and ruled out an ear infection. So... what else could it be in someone who has LZTR1-related neurofibromatosis diagnosis from a geneticist?
So I have, what I believe, is mosaic neurofibromatosis type 1. I think the first DNA test I saw that in was legitimate. I also think the LZTR1-related schwannomatosis is kicking in, but that I knew about. I think I have even a spot on my spine, as I've had pain there with pressure for almost my entire life (at least as long as I can remember).
And I am hoping someone can take me seriously at another place of care once my MRI comes back. Whatever is happening is large enough to impact my hearing and vision and face. And it's the weirdest experience knowing part of this in advance of it before I had symptoms I noticed. It's like every step of the way, I've had to convince someone else of what I thought was going on. But I am super lucky to know enough in advance to find the care I need. WIsh that was the case for everyone.
TL;DR: Inadvertently found out I have LZTR1-related schwannomatosis and I suspect mosaic neurofibromatosis type one. Might have acoustic neuroma based on symptoms, some optic nerve involvement based on symptoms, MRI tomorrow.
I have some questions just to generally ask. I try to search the subreddit, but sometimes it's just easier to ask in the way I need to, and I want to add a bit more detail to some of the questions to help clarify what I'm asking about.
- Is there anyone else here who has Mosaic Neurofibromatosis Type 1 and LZTR1-schwannomatosis? Or anyone that has any form of mosaic NF1 and schwannomatosis?
- For those of you with acoustic neuromas / vestibular schwannoma, is there anything you would want to know or tell anyone who goes through any treatment for it?
- I know a ton about the general facts and procedures for the moment. I mean anything that you would have found helpful to keep in mind, or something that helped you during the treatment and in recovery?
- For those of you with anything around the optic nerve including optic nerve glioma, is there anything you would want to know or tell anyone who goes through any treatment for it?
- I know roughly about this, but looking more for anything that you would have found helpful to keep in mind, with treatment, recovery?
- For absolutely anyone in the umbrella, what helped you cope with finding out this news?
- I usually deal by digging deep into a subject and educating myself, which I've done ad nauseam already. But I am really struggling with what's going on, the juxaposition between how I feel just god awful physically on the daily, and also coping with this news, and how I have been treated by my neurologist and others. I imagine some of this will probably be helped by actually seeing and knowing the details after tomorrow. I know I'm pretty resilient because I've been through so much real shit in my life, and I know I am in no degree perfect, and I'm going to try to persevere as much as I can. I just try to be a good person, and life just hits me with the hardest situations. And now I have a kid that I want to do absolutely everything in the world for and that's jeopardized. And I am the only person I know like me.
2024.05.18 22:34 Chaotic_Journey save me from my brain please (◉‿◉)
Hello guys so um, two years ago I kept reading about narcissism to the point I started doubting everyone including myself, so I stopped.
One week ago, I got to know a new friend and I loved her (turns out she's an INTJ) but I loved her (as a friend, like I felt that I will cherish her and will be one of my close friends) too quickly (literally 2 days talking to each other)
This reminded me of love bombing, and the "what if I'm a narcissist" thoughts attacked me, I tried to brush it off and started thinking about the idea of feelings and time and whether it's okay to feel and express strong feelings early if they're genuinely felt, or to disregard/supress the feelings just because they're too early (would love to hear your opinions)
However, the thoughts started haunting me again and I've been in a rabbit hole the past week thinking "Could I be a narcissist? Why do people think I'm good? am I a bad person? could I be pretending to be good? what is bad and what is good? On what basis am I gonna judge? can I accurately assess myself without bias? If I can't accurately assess myself due to bias and people can't cuz they don't see the full picture then how can I know my reality? who am I? what is reality in general?"
I end up exhausted and feel like shizz especially that I think about all of my mistakes and the guilt haunts me and I feel like a failure and I end up not sure of anything at all, not myself, nor my feelings, not psychology, not the people I know and just absolutely lost. And I feel like I'm unable to take a step forward in any direction like I have things to do, people to reply to but I'm too mentally exhausted to do anything
Do you creative wonderful brains know what I can do about this? Have any answers? Have you ever experienced something like this?
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One week ago, I got to know a new friend and I loved her (turns out she's an INTJ) but I loved her (as a friend, like I felt that I will cherish her and will be one of my close friends) too quickly (literally 2 days talking to each other)
This reminded me of love bombing, and the "what if I'm a narcissist" thoughts attacked me, I tried to brush it off and started thinking about the idea of feelings and time and whether it's okay to feel and express strong feelings early if they're genuinely felt, or to disregard/supress the feelings just because they're too early (would love to hear your opinions)
However, the thoughts started haunting me again and I've been in a rabbit hole the past week thinking "Could I be a narcissist? Why do people think I'm good? am I a bad person? could I be pretending to be good? what is bad and what is good? On what basis am I gonna judge? can I accurately assess myself without bias? If I can't accurately assess myself due to bias and people can't cuz they don't see the full picture then how can I know my reality? who am I? what is reality in general?"
I end up exhausted and feel like shizz especially that I think about all of my mistakes and the guilt haunts me and I feel like a failure and I end up not sure of anything at all, not myself, nor my feelings, not psychology, not the people I know and just absolutely lost. And I feel like I'm unable to take a step forward in any direction like I have things to do, people to reply to but I'm too mentally exhausted to do anything
Do you creative wonderful brains know what I can do about this? Have any answers? Have you ever experienced something like this?
2024.05.18 22:34 tway0558 26M, I've already "self improved" and it still doesn't feel like enough
So much of the advice given to men my age is go to the gym, focus on your career, etc. I've been working out most of my life at this point, have a pretty good physique, can deadlift 3x my bodyweight. Even then, it's been months at this point where I've felt a genuine motivation to go the gym. I just go because it's routine at this point. I have a well paying job in the field I've always wanted to be in, recently moved away from home to a new city (and my first time living in a city) for a good bump in pay.
From an outsiders perspective I'm sure it feels like I have it all but I feel completely hollow on the inside and that my life feels empty. I was always a shy kid but at some point I just developed seemingly insurmountable self esteem issues that ruin my ability to find happiness. I was self conscious about my looks basically all throughout my life.. I don't even feel particularly bad about my appearance at this point, I know I'm not ugly, but it's not like 23 years of believing so didn't have an effect on my social skills and self esteem.
I don't think I have social anxiety, atleast not severe to the point that it hinders my ability to work and function day to day, I'm also decent enough at holding conversations if someone starts it.. but I legit don't think I've ever in my life just walked up to a stranger and made conversation. I have great friendships back home, but all of my close friends are friendships that started at child hood or high school.. I don't think I've made a new genuine friend since. Not a single friendship made in 4 years of college.
Obviously this makes dating a nightmare. My one relationship, that lasted over 4 years, was more or less the result of a girl whose family was friends of mine who kept pursuing me.. and I stayed in that relationship much longer than I should have because I didnt want to be alone. I've been single 3.5 years now and I cant even pretend at this point that I don't want a relationship. I've had a handful of dates through OLD but nothing long term, and OLD is a shit experience anyways.. but meeting someone doesn't feel possible else wise right now.
Logically, I know I just need to forget dating for the moment and focus on solving out whatever mental issues I have, because they're not just gonna go away, they didn't when I was in a relationship before. But at the same time, I genuinely miss having a partner, someone I could share my day to day life with, the feeling of being desirable and wanted by another person, and I don't know how much longer I can take being single.
I have zero motivation to do anything I find enjoyable like reading a new book, listening to new music, playing the bass. Every couple of months ill get the urge to game and that atleast distracts my mind for a few weeks. Every weekend I sit around on my phone just stewing away in my thoughts. Even now as I type this, I drove 5 hours to visit home last night, and all I've done is sit on the couch with the family dog lmao.
Sorry for the long rant but yeah. As much as I wished becoming objectively swole and being financially successfull gave me some genuine meaning to life, I cant say it is right now lmao
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From an outsiders perspective I'm sure it feels like I have it all but I feel completely hollow on the inside and that my life feels empty. I was always a shy kid but at some point I just developed seemingly insurmountable self esteem issues that ruin my ability to find happiness. I was self conscious about my looks basically all throughout my life.. I don't even feel particularly bad about my appearance at this point, I know I'm not ugly, but it's not like 23 years of believing so didn't have an effect on my social skills and self esteem.
I don't think I have social anxiety, atleast not severe to the point that it hinders my ability to work and function day to day, I'm also decent enough at holding conversations if someone starts it.. but I legit don't think I've ever in my life just walked up to a stranger and made conversation. I have great friendships back home, but all of my close friends are friendships that started at child hood or high school.. I don't think I've made a new genuine friend since. Not a single friendship made in 4 years of college.
Obviously this makes dating a nightmare. My one relationship, that lasted over 4 years, was more or less the result of a girl whose family was friends of mine who kept pursuing me.. and I stayed in that relationship much longer than I should have because I didnt want to be alone. I've been single 3.5 years now and I cant even pretend at this point that I don't want a relationship. I've had a handful of dates through OLD but nothing long term, and OLD is a shit experience anyways.. but meeting someone doesn't feel possible else wise right now.
Logically, I know I just need to forget dating for the moment and focus on solving out whatever mental issues I have, because they're not just gonna go away, they didn't when I was in a relationship before. But at the same time, I genuinely miss having a partner, someone I could share my day to day life with, the feeling of being desirable and wanted by another person, and I don't know how much longer I can take being single.
I have zero motivation to do anything I find enjoyable like reading a new book, listening to new music, playing the bass. Every couple of months ill get the urge to game and that atleast distracts my mind for a few weeks. Every weekend I sit around on my phone just stewing away in my thoughts. Even now as I type this, I drove 5 hours to visit home last night, and all I've done is sit on the couch with the family dog lmao.
Sorry for the long rant but yeah. As much as I wished becoming objectively swole and being financially successfull gave me some genuine meaning to life, I cant say it is right now lmao
2024.05.18 22:34 cocodonutoil When men say “I need to focus on myself” is it an excuse to walk out or a legit reason to work on oneself and just the way a man grows?
Partner broke up AGAIN saying he needs to work on himself and find a job after a year of unemployment and he can’t do all that while being in a long distance relationship.
A lot of my girl friends have had similar experiences. I know I am a massive support to my partner, I was a massive support - mentally, emotionally, career-wise, but he still decided to leave because he couldn’t balance career and relationship together and the only way he thought he could was by not being together.
Is it just an excuse to breakup or is it real?
He really does have a lot going on personally, but I still don’t understand how breaking up from someone who has always wanted your best is the answer to self improvement and growth?
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A lot of my girl friends have had similar experiences. I know I am a massive support to my partner, I was a massive support - mentally, emotionally, career-wise, but he still decided to leave because he couldn’t balance career and relationship together and the only way he thought he could was by not being together.
Is it just an excuse to breakup or is it real?
He really does have a lot going on personally, but I still don’t understand how breaking up from someone who has always wanted your best is the answer to self improvement and growth?
2024.05.18 22:34 Available_Bid_9592 Passed a driver on a double yellow.
So today I was driving and I came around a corner and a truck ran a stop sign and pulled out in front of me. I had to slam on my breaks and was a little pissed off. I was considering passing him but he was going the speed limit so I decided to not pass him when I was legally able to. I noticed that his license plate had a fire fighter emblem on it. Which means that they were apart of the fire department. As we were driving he was driving an inconsistent speed and was going below the speed limit at certain times. I decided that I was going to pass him when I can but he decided to drive partly off the road and kick up gravel onto my car. I decided that I didn’t want to be behind him because I didn’t know what he was going to do next. So I decided to pass him on a double yellow and he pulled out his phone well I was passing him and recorded me. I flipped him off with a smile on my face. Even though that may seem to be an immature thing to do I was just kinda laughing at the fact that this person was just being a dick. That person seemed to be younger and I assume that he is going to use his legal authority to report me and get me in trouble. Do I even need to worry about anything? Am I in the wrong?
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2024.05.18 22:34 spicynuttboi What to do about my heavy deterministic mindset?
I'm somewhat new to philosophy, and I know that keeping an open mind about things is important and I try to do that for everything. But for determinism vs free will specifically, I just cannot stand it. I'm such an indecisive person generally, but this.... I have never felt so strongly about my belief in determinism.
And because of this it flows into ever facet of my life. I feel indifferent to everyone and everything. Why should I like or dislike anyone at all? The feeling of being loved, liked, hated or insulted has just all dulled. It's been like this for a while now. I barely engage in conversation now because my relationship with other people feels empty. I don't feel like I engage in anything, I'm just an observer, because that's all you can be, and you can't even choose what to observe.
I'm also going into Law school in September and I'm not sure how that's gonna go now that my beliefs on justice and moral accountability has completely shifted. My view on economics and politics has also taken a complete 'left turn' if you will. I'm losing lots of money because I can't help but give it away (which sounds so morally pretentious but it's true). I feel guilt all of the time.
And my biggest irk is just how this illusion of free will trickles into every aspect of human life - our education system, legal system, how relationships work, economic reward - it's all founded on an illusion right at the heart of the human experience! Wherever I look, I see the debate, and the dissonance between the way we've built society and the way things really are.
I just can't shake the obsession I have over this, I don't understand how the majority of people don't have an obsession over this problem. I've tried to talk to my friends and family about this issue I have and the common responses were "why even think about it?", "I feel like I choose though", my grandad even accused me of being in a cult! Genuinely!
What do I do?
Sorry for the rant, I could go on for days about this.
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And because of this it flows into ever facet of my life. I feel indifferent to everyone and everything. Why should I like or dislike anyone at all? The feeling of being loved, liked, hated or insulted has just all dulled. It's been like this for a while now. I barely engage in conversation now because my relationship with other people feels empty. I don't feel like I engage in anything, I'm just an observer, because that's all you can be, and you can't even choose what to observe.
I'm also going into Law school in September and I'm not sure how that's gonna go now that my beliefs on justice and moral accountability has completely shifted. My view on economics and politics has also taken a complete 'left turn' if you will. I'm losing lots of money because I can't help but give it away (which sounds so morally pretentious but it's true). I feel guilt all of the time.
And my biggest irk is just how this illusion of free will trickles into every aspect of human life - our education system, legal system, how relationships work, economic reward - it's all founded on an illusion right at the heart of the human experience! Wherever I look, I see the debate, and the dissonance between the way we've built society and the way things really are.
I just can't shake the obsession I have over this, I don't understand how the majority of people don't have an obsession over this problem. I've tried to talk to my friends and family about this issue I have and the common responses were "why even think about it?", "I feel like I choose though", my grandad even accused me of being in a cult! Genuinely!
What do I do?
Sorry for the rant, I could go on for days about this.