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2024.05.19 01:19 NrdyExplorer 30(M) Seeking MTF ages 21- 35
Hi my name is Lee. I'm looking for my forever person. I'm not interested in dating cis women. I'm a somewhat masculine male so I'm not really into gay men either. I've had girlfriends in the past but since I was a teenager I've been attracted to trans girls. I want a legitimate relationship. Monogamous only. Someone who wants to get to know me, go on adventures with me, and does everyday things with me too. Like cooking each other dinner and curling up for a movie.
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2024.05.19 01:18 Adept-Surprise-6200 Based on my past experiences and total lack of success on dating apps, I’ll probably never go on a date again.
I’m 29. Red headed guy, 5’11. 160 pounds, pretty average looking. I have an engineering degree, no debt, and am doing fairly well financially for my age. I have a handful of hobbies that I really enjoy and a few friends. I’m very close with my family.
I haven’t been on a date in 7 years. I get matches on dating apps, and get ghosted after a few messages almost every time, even if we have common interests and seem to be compatible. In person, women have generally treated me as if I’m invisible, or go out of their way to tell me I’m unattractive.
For example, I’ll be in a bar with a few friends, and I’ll sit in the middle. The bartender or women we meet will look at guys on either side of me, while totally glossing over me. Or I’ll be alone in a bar holding a beer, and a hot girl will come over and grind on me, and run over to her friends to laugh at me. One group of girls danced with me for a minute at a club, only to tell me “no woman would ever be with a guy like you” before laughing and leaving. I had some dates in my early 20s where the woman would meet me in person and then walk back to her car right away.
I met a woman online a few months ago who lives far away. We clicked instantly and talked on the phone often, but after a while she decided it was best we don’t continue talking as we live just too far away. She met a guy close to home. It made sense but was still disappointing. She is a great person, and seemed like that “one in a million.”
Going almost 30 years and having no good experiences has made me numb to the pain to a certain degree. It’s just not a part of life for me. I’m probably not attractive or “interesting” enough to date, but I don’t think I deserved to be treated as poorly as I was either.
At this point, I can’t justify putting in the time and effort trying to date after having absolutely no success and seeing no interest from anyone over the first decade that I have tried. I can’t comprehend how people who have gone through what I have continue to try again and again. It’s admirable, but I can’t fathom putting myself out there again.
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I haven’t been on a date in 7 years. I get matches on dating apps, and get ghosted after a few messages almost every time, even if we have common interests and seem to be compatible. In person, women have generally treated me as if I’m invisible, or go out of their way to tell me I’m unattractive.
For example, I’ll be in a bar with a few friends, and I’ll sit in the middle. The bartender or women we meet will look at guys on either side of me, while totally glossing over me. Or I’ll be alone in a bar holding a beer, and a hot girl will come over and grind on me, and run over to her friends to laugh at me. One group of girls danced with me for a minute at a club, only to tell me “no woman would ever be with a guy like you” before laughing and leaving. I had some dates in my early 20s where the woman would meet me in person and then walk back to her car right away.
I met a woman online a few months ago who lives far away. We clicked instantly and talked on the phone often, but after a while she decided it was best we don’t continue talking as we live just too far away. She met a guy close to home. It made sense but was still disappointing. She is a great person, and seemed like that “one in a million.”
Going almost 30 years and having no good experiences has made me numb to the pain to a certain degree. It’s just not a part of life for me. I’m probably not attractive or “interesting” enough to date, but I don’t think I deserved to be treated as poorly as I was either.
At this point, I can’t justify putting in the time and effort trying to date after having absolutely no success and seeing no interest from anyone over the first decade that I have tried. I can’t comprehend how people who have gone through what I have continue to try again and again. It’s admirable, but I can’t fathom putting myself out there again.
2024.05.19 01:13 TheLemura Standards and Fear
I’ve had some bad relationships in the past. Multiple failed ones. Cheated on three times, and abused on another.
I’m not sure how other people feel about this but I understand a little bit of both sides.
Been about two years since I’ve last dated. Thought I cutoff my heart from these feelings but unfortunately they are coming back. I know this is a good thing but it’s scary to me and has been causing panic attacks, randomly out of nowhere, nocturnal panic attacks. ice had to sit down in the middle of cooking and turned the stove off because I couldn’t breath and felt like I was going to pass out.
I have a new set of standards for myself. Again I do understand negative views on this and not everyone is the same. I just want to know how others feel because honestly I feel alone on this and want to protect myself.
I’m a man in his mid 20’s who’s finally getting these romantic feelings back.
My standards/limitation/boundaries are never talk to an ex, never talk to a person they’ve flirted with or had a crush on, no talking so someone they’ve had intercourse with. ^ I know everyone isn’t the same again, but for me this is a giant trust issue and a big boundary of mine. It’s how I’ve been cheated on in the past.
I have no control over the other person, but would like to communicate that to them. I want to have this talk and if I find out any of those boundaries are crossed I will ghost them.
I’ve been friends with women majority of my life and I know there are plenty of good women out there, but a few demons roaming.
If I were to reintroduce myself into dating again, how would I have a talk about this?
^
I know whoever I’d have romance with would look at me funny and look at me as controlling. I just don’t know how to do that.
It freaks me out, I’m scared, I’m lonely (I have friends but I crave romance and physical touch is my love language), and I feel lost.
I have a heart full of so much love, I just don’t anybody to share it with and don’t know if I can honestly trust anybody anymore. All this social media and messaging is kinda like all of those streaming services. One day you want Netflix, the other you want Hulu. It’s very easy to be replaced. I’m lost.
When the feeling of love is taken away, it hurts. I’ve been through substance withdrawals badly with no dopamine or serotonin in my brain, the shakes, vomiting, and potential brain damage. Nothing on this earth hurts more than love being taken away, especially when it occurs due to cheating.
I’d go through withdrawals every day of my life instead of being hurt by someone.
It feels like I’m drowning without love or touch.
I’ve learned to look for a person not a feeling. You need a friend first, the feeling either comes or goes.
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I’m not sure how other people feel about this but I understand a little bit of both sides.
Been about two years since I’ve last dated. Thought I cutoff my heart from these feelings but unfortunately they are coming back. I know this is a good thing but it’s scary to me and has been causing panic attacks, randomly out of nowhere, nocturnal panic attacks. ice had to sit down in the middle of cooking and turned the stove off because I couldn’t breath and felt like I was going to pass out.
I have a new set of standards for myself. Again I do understand negative views on this and not everyone is the same. I just want to know how others feel because honestly I feel alone on this and want to protect myself.
I’m a man in his mid 20’s who’s finally getting these romantic feelings back.
My standards/limitation/boundaries are never talk to an ex, never talk to a person they’ve flirted with or had a crush on, no talking so someone they’ve had intercourse with. ^ I know everyone isn’t the same again, but for me this is a giant trust issue and a big boundary of mine. It’s how I’ve been cheated on in the past.
I have no control over the other person, but would like to communicate that to them. I want to have this talk and if I find out any of those boundaries are crossed I will ghost them.
I’ve been friends with women majority of my life and I know there are plenty of good women out there, but a few demons roaming.
If I were to reintroduce myself into dating again, how would I have a talk about this?
^
I know whoever I’d have romance with would look at me funny and look at me as controlling. I just don’t know how to do that.
It freaks me out, I’m scared, I’m lonely (I have friends but I crave romance and physical touch is my love language), and I feel lost.
I have a heart full of so much love, I just don’t anybody to share it with and don’t know if I can honestly trust anybody anymore. All this social media and messaging is kinda like all of those streaming services. One day you want Netflix, the other you want Hulu. It’s very easy to be replaced. I’m lost.
When the feeling of love is taken away, it hurts. I’ve been through substance withdrawals badly with no dopamine or serotonin in my brain, the shakes, vomiting, and potential brain damage. Nothing on this earth hurts more than love being taken away, especially when it occurs due to cheating.
I’d go through withdrawals every day of my life instead of being hurt by someone.
It feels like I’m drowning without love or touch.
I’ve learned to look for a person not a feeling. You need a friend first, the feeling either comes or goes.
2024.05.19 01:11 Asleep_Ad6713 Trying to impress my boyfriend’s (20M) Christian parents ?
I (23F) am really struggling to find ways to impress my boyfriend’s (20M) parents. All of us are Christians but they’ve had more time and dedication to God than I had growing up. My family and I went to church and even volunteered but besides that, we never went home to pray, study the bible, have conversations, etc. Now everytime I go over, they are asking me all these questions about my walk and I get very confused and flustered. I’ve been honest with them and they even have helped me throughout it all so thankfully, I don’t feel completely left out. When you think of Christian parents, they are exactly what you would expect: no living together until married, mom only works part-time job to help with kids, son has a curfew, purity until marriage, etc. As frustrating as it can be, I’ve learned to be okay with their rules, even as both their son and I are adults. Here’s where I’m struggling, when I first met them, I told them I was in college (which was true). I have recently dropped out due to the career path not being something I was interested in anymore and already working a full-time job along with other responsibilities. I’ve had a detailed conversation with my boyfriend saying things like, “If you want to be the main provider for our future family, why would I spend $10,000+ just for a degree I may not even use?” He was fully supportive and loved that conversation between us but how do I express that to his family the next time they ask without it making it seem like I just want to use him for his money? Considering we are only dating, and not engaged or even married, you never know what could happen between us, I’m aware of that. I want to come off as very “traditional” but I also grew up in a single-mother home where my mom was the only one providing for me and my siblings. Also, any pointers to help impress them entirely would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
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2024.05.19 01:09 AnalysisElectrical30 I love our Faith dearly, but
Im becoming increasingly frustrated with some of the practical details.
Homophobia, burial, no confession, no priesthood: all those become side points to 1 hopeless topic: scheduling.
My goal is to attend (at least in part) every feast and HD, and so I originally saved 2 online calendars
https://www.bahai.us/events-calendaholy-days/
https://www.bahai.org/action/devotional-life/calendapdf-calendar
for this purpose. They are misleading. A third paper calendar is confusing: it highlights 2 days per feast or HD, and so I do not know which day I should keep free.
Earlier this year, I was supposed to deliver a professional presentation on a certain Wednesday evening. Believing it would conflict with feast, I delayed my presentation. As it happened, feast was held the day before the calendar date given. Therefore, it was an unnecessary postponement.
I declared on same day that Bab did, which Ruhi 4 (my authority) says is May 23. The night of my act was indeed "May 23", in the early evening. Last year, I believe the program began at 9 pm, somewhat later. This year, our observance will be a day earlier however, in the early evening. (I am tempted to bicycle around our locked center the next day before sunset, to honor the original date) I do not understand why this variation is necessary for the same location and same event.
I know that sunset begins a new day in our Faith and Christianity (which makes sense if someone works grave); we also have our civil time changes, and the seasonal changes throughout the year, all of which affect the schedule.
This calendar
https://www.bahai.us/community/
is apparently correct for actual ceremonies. Is it possible it can be extended for 6 months or a full year?
Is there a formula for predicting dates and times, so I am not surprised by changes in the first 2 mentioned calendars?
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Homophobia, burial, no confession, no priesthood: all those become side points to 1 hopeless topic: scheduling.
My goal is to attend (at least in part) every feast and HD, and so I originally saved 2 online calendars
https://www.bahai.us/events-calendaholy-days/
https://www.bahai.org/action/devotional-life/calendapdf-calendar
for this purpose. They are misleading. A third paper calendar is confusing: it highlights 2 days per feast or HD, and so I do not know which day I should keep free.
Earlier this year, I was supposed to deliver a professional presentation on a certain Wednesday evening. Believing it would conflict with feast, I delayed my presentation. As it happened, feast was held the day before the calendar date given. Therefore, it was an unnecessary postponement.
I declared on same day that Bab did, which Ruhi 4 (my authority) says is May 23. The night of my act was indeed "May 23", in the early evening. Last year, I believe the program began at 9 pm, somewhat later. This year, our observance will be a day earlier however, in the early evening. (I am tempted to bicycle around our locked center the next day before sunset, to honor the original date) I do not understand why this variation is necessary for the same location and same event.
I know that sunset begins a new day in our Faith and Christianity (which makes sense if someone works grave); we also have our civil time changes, and the seasonal changes throughout the year, all of which affect the schedule.
This calendar
https://www.bahai.us/community/
is apparently correct for actual ceremonies. Is it possible it can be extended for 6 months or a full year?
Is there a formula for predicting dates and times, so I am not surprised by changes in the first 2 mentioned calendars?
2024.05.19 01:08 Childfreetxguy 41 [M4F] - Houston/Texas/US/Anywhere - Vasectomy - DINK life
![41 [M4F] - Houston/Texas/US/Anywhere - Vasectomy - DINK life](https://b.thumbs.redditmedia.com/EVKVI6e54WjcTYSM1xm7qB9bqldk9598t5EXGX3gKKg.jpg "41 [M4F] - Houston/Texas/US/Anywhere - Vasectomy - DINK life") | https://preview.redd.it/guw6k0t8n91d1.jpg?width=960&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=afd8f05ddf9b02183c0d2530d9699d42924987fa submitted by Childfreetxguy to cf4cf [link] [comments] Greetings! Thank you in advance for reading if you read all of this. My name is Travis. I’m a single, 41-year-old male living in Houston, TX who is looking for a childfree, long-term relationship. Possible life partner. Possible soulmate. That dream DINK life. That being said, I think relationships can only happen organically. I posted on this sub last year and am trying again. As only someone who is also childfree can understand, finding someone who is 100% childfree in this life is like searching for a needle in a haystack. And the apps, well… not sure I ever want to go back to them again. Regardless, I’m a romantic and will not stop searching for a partner. About me: · Happy, chill, kind, understanding, empathetic, sweet, and easy-going person who loves life. Never been married. I’m drama free, have no baggage, and am one of the most easy-going people you’ll ever meet. · I live alone and have no pets, but I do love animals and am pet friendly. · Monogamous. Hookups and non-monogamy are not for me. No judgments for others that do. To each their own. I’m a one-woman man and only have eyes for the woman I’m with. I don’t flirt with, check out, or desire other women. For me there is only my partner. That’s how I naturally am and how I like it. I also only date one woman at a time. · I’ve had a vasectomy and am sterile. I would like to meet someone that is also sterile or would never go through with an unwanted child. Also, I want to be with someone who has no desire to ever adopt or foster children. I’ve found now that I just can’t be attracted to someone that is not on the same wavelengths with these things with being 100% childfree for life. I rather be single and celibate than ever bring a child into this world. And yes, I understand that everyone has a different idea for how they want to live childfree. · Ideally my preference would be someone local to Houston or in Texas, but I am open to anywhere for the right childfree person. Just as long as it’s agreed to not stay long distance once things have gotten serious. I’m willing to relocate for the right person. · I don’t smoke, drink, or do any drugs. I won’t date a smoker, heavy drinkepartier, or hard drug user, but I am 420 friendly and don’t mind if you drink at all. · I have eclectic tastes. I’m fascinated by the world, and there’s not much I don’t enjoy. One of my passions is that I love to do acrylic paintings. I picked it up a year and a half ago after being inspired for years by Bob Ross (he’s one of my spirit animals.) I love to paint seascapes and landscapes and want to learn to paint all kinds of things. I also love to write, read, go for runs and walks, be out in nature, take road trips, travel, be out in nature, watch movies/shows, cook, exercise, go to museums, try new food spots, hike, learn new things, play board games and video games, visit with family and friends, play golf, explore new local places, and much more. · With a partner, I love nights in and adventures out together equally. Cooking a delicious meal for my partner and then cuddling up for a movie or show together is one of my favorite things. · I love all the love languages, but my biggest is physical touch (giving and receiving.) I’m one of the most physically affectionate partners that you could ever meet. Would love to meet someone that is also physically affectionate. I love it all – holding hands, cuddles, hugs, all the kisses. I’m also very sexual and kink friendly. My next biggest love language is time spent. I love being around my partner, but I also think it’s very important for both partners to have their own time to do things like pursue their passions and spend time with friends and others. I value words of affirmation and am very verbal about my love and affection. I also love doing all kinds of acts of service for my partner and coming up with special, thoughtful, surprise gifts. If you read all of this, I sincerely appreciate it. If this resonates with you and you think we’d be a good match, I hope you reach out. What matters truly in a match to me is just being an honorable and kind person and being childfree. Not having the exact same favorite things or interests isn’t important to me. In general, I enjoy all kinds of activities, have all types of interests, and am eager to explore this world. Would be even better to have someone to share it with. Anyway, if you have any questions please ask. Also, please share pictures if you reach out and chat. Best of luck to you! https://preview.redd.it/t886je9ln91d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3c1af3a83dd1637d9bb5d00b6d24ebd3976660a2 https://preview.redd.it/5wh1gvijn91d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=29b29ce64a2520089e42eee41ff1cf900f096876 https://preview.redd.it/8or6ictqn91d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=33b8f4db2665aaf3387d183fb26de268876cec2e https://preview.redd.it/dugevd7sn91d1.jpg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9e4b6cdce1913a8959d9c75f0474ededb9dab6a5 https://preview.redd.it/kjnx90bzn91d1.jpg?width=3009&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=062230cec28c390dcba3c6275b8fe773732a4619 |
2024.05.19 01:08 idigclams Jack London - How I Became a Socialist
 | It is quite fair to say that I became a Socialist in a fashion somewhat similar to the way in which the Teutonic pagans became Christians–it was hammered into me. Not only was I not looking for Socialism at the time of my conversion, but I was fighting it. I was very young and callow, did not know much of anything, and though I had never even heard of a school called “Individualism,” I sang the paean of the strong with all my heart. This was because I was strong myself. By strong I mean that I had good health and hard muscles, both of which possessions are easily accounted for. I had lived my childhood on California ranches, my boyhood hustling newspapers on the streets of a healthy Western city, and my youth on the ozone-laden waters of San Francisco Bay and the Pacific Ocean. I loved life in the open, and I toiled in the open, at the hardest kinds of work. Learning no trade, but drifting along from job to job, I looked on the world and called it good, every bit of it. Let me repeat, this optimism was because I was healthy and strong, bothered with neither aches nor weaknesses, never turned down by the boss because I did not look fit, able always to get a job at shovelling coal, sailorizing, or manual labor of some sort. submitted by idigclams to socialism [link] [comments] And because of all this, exulting in my young life, able to hold my own at work or fight, I was a rampant individualist. It was very natural. I was a winner. Wherefore I called the game, as I saw it played, or thought I saw it played, a very proper game for MEN. To be a MAN was to write man in large capitals on my heart. To adventure like a man, and fight like a man, and do a man’s work (even for a boy’s pay)–these were things that reached right in and gripped hold of me as no other thing could. And I looked ahead into long vistas of a hazy and interminable future, into which, playing what I conceived to be MAN’S game, I should continue to travel with unfailing health, without accidents, and with muscles ever vigorous. As I say, this future was interminable. I could see myself only raging through life without end like one of Nietzsche’s blond-beasts, lustfully roving and conquering by sheer superiority and strength. As for the unfortunates, the sick, and ailing, and old, and maimed, I must confess I hardly thought of them at all, save that I vaguely felt that they, barring accidents, could be as good as I if they wanted to real hard, and could work just as well. Accidents? Well, they represented FATE, also spelled out in capitals, and there was no getting around FATE. Napoleon had had an accident at Waterloo, but that did not dampen my desire to be another and later Napoleon. Further, the optimism bred of a stomach which could digest scrap iron and a body which flourished on hardships did not permit me to consider accidents as even remotely related to my glorious personality. I hope I have made it clear that I was proud to be one of Nature’s strong-armed noblemen. The dignity of labor was to me the most impressive thing in the world. Without having read Carlyle, or Kipling, I formulated a gospel of work which put theirs in the shade. Work was everything. It was sanctification and salvation. The pride I took in a hard day’s work well done would be inconceivable to you. It is almost inconceivable to me as I look back upon it. I was as faithful a wage slave as ever capitalist exploited. To shirk or malinger on the man who paid me my wages was a sin, first, against myself, and second, against him. I considered it a crime second only to treason and just about as bad. In short, my joyous individualism was dominated by the orthodox bourgeois ethics. I read the bourgeois papers, listened to the bourgeois preachers, and shouted at the sonorous platitudes of the bourgeois politicians. And I doubt not, if other events had not changed my career, that I should have evolved into a professional strike-breaker, (one of President Eliot’s American heroes), and had my head and my earning power irrevocably smashed by a club in the hands of some militant trades-unionist. Just about this time, returning from a seven months’ voyage before the mast, and just turned eighteen, I took it into my head to go tramping. On rods and blind baggages I fought my way from the open West where men bucked big and the job hunted the man, to the congested labor centres of the East, where men were small potatoes and hunted the job for all they were worth. And on this new blond-beast adventure I found myself looking upon life from a new and totally different angle. I had dropped down from the proletariat into what sociologists love to call the “submerged tenth,” and I was startled to discover the way in which that submerged tenth was recruited. I found there all sorts of men, many of whom had once been as good as myself and just as blond-beast; sailor-men, soldier-men, labor-men, all wrenched and distorted and twisted out of shape by toil and hardship and accident, and cast adrift by their masters like so many old horses. I battered on the drag and slammed back gates with them, or shivered with them in box cars and city parks, listening the while to life-histories which began under auspices as fair as mine, with digestions and bodies equal to and better than mine, and which ended there before my eyes in the shambles at the bottom of the Social Pit. And as I listened my brain began to work. The woman of the streets and the man of the gutter drew very close to me. I saw the picture of the Social Pit as vividly as though it were a concrete thing, and at the bottom of the Pit I saw them, myself above them, not far, and hanging on to the slippery wall by main strength and sweat. And I confess a terror seized me. What when my strength failed? when I should be unable to work shoulder to shoulder with the strong men who were as yet babes unborn? And there and then I swore a great oath. It ran something like this: All my days I have worked hard with my body, and according to the number of days I have worked, by just that much am I nearer the bottom of the Pit. I shall climb out of the Pit, but not by the muscles of my body shall I climb out. I shall do no more hard work, and may God strike me dead if I do another day’s hard work with my body more than I absolutely have to do. And I have been busy ever since running away from hard work. Incidentally, while tramping some ten thousand miles through the United States and Canada, I strayed into Niagara Falls, was nabbed by a fee-hunting constable, denied the right to plead guilty or not guilty, sentenced out of hand to thirty days’ imprisonment for having no fixed abode and no visible means of support, handcuffed and chained to a bunch of men similarly circumstanced, carted down country to Buffalo, registered at the Erie County Penitentiary, had my head clipped and my budding mustache shaved, was dressed in convict stripes, compulsorily vaccinated by a medical student who practised on such as we, made to march the lock-step, and put to work under the eyes of guards armed with Winchester rifles–all for adventuring in blond-beastly fashion. Concerning further details deponent sayeth not, though he may hint that some of his plethoric national patriotism simmered down and leaked out of the bottom of his soul somewhere–at least, since that experience he finds that he cares more for men and women and little children than for imaginary geographical lines. * * * * * * *To return to my conversion. I think it is apparent that my rampant individualism was pretty effectively hammered out of me, and something else as effectively hammered in. But, just as I had been an individualist without knowing it, I was now a Socialist without knowing it, withal, an unscientific one. I had been reborn, but not renamed, and I was running around to find out what manner of thing I was. I ran back to California and opened the books. I do not remember which ones I opened first. It is an unimportant detail anyway. I was already It, whatever It was, and by aid of the books I discovered that It was a Socialist. Since that day I have opened many books, but no economic argument, no lucid demonstration of the logic and inevitableness of Socialism affects me as profoundly and convincingly as I was affected on the day when I first saw the walls of the Social Pit rise around me and felt myself slipping down, down, into the shambles at the bottom. 1905 |
2024.05.19 01:07 Working-Pumpkin8722 date w/ a chaser
This is gonna be a long post but I feel like no one understands me. I have plenty of trans friends but they’re all escorts so none of them really get that I’m actually trying to find my other half not just having hookups.
I started talking to this guy on bumble about a month ago and I honestly only replied to this man because he double texted me. For the most part I really only get on dating apps to swipe when I’m bored because I usually have better luck meeting men in person and I also hate disclosing. I would obviously never be intimate with a man before telling them I’m trans but I’ve faced so much rejection after telling men and it’s become difficult to tell them now which is why I also hardly reply to anyone. It’s hard because these men are obviously attracted to me but they can’t get over the fact that I’m trans. But I can’t blame them because after all I am pre op and everyone has their own preference.
Back to the story, he asked for my number and asked to take me out. As most of us have probably experienced, once we disclose we either A. Get unmatched or B. It goes from “let me take you out” to “come over”. I told him and he said it didn’t matter and he’d still like to see me. We texted all day Monday and agreed to go out on Tuesday. We ended up choosing a rooftop bar and it went very well at least I thought. We had a few drinks and ending up making out outside looking at the view. Overall he was kind of everything I was looking for.
Originally I wanted to go to a different bar where they have a DJ and it was more of my vibe but idk I think he was overwhelmed from seeing the bars post on instagram 😂 The rooftop we chose was closing early because it was a weekday and we both wanted to continue talking. I asked if he’d like to go to the place I had in mind to begin with to continue getting to know each other and he agreed but I could tell he was hesitant. So I suggested calling it a night as well, and then he mentioned going back to his place to have a drink. I was iffy because I obviously knew what this would lead up to but up to that point I had no red flags. This man just seemed different and just genuinely kind. I also didn’t get any chaser vibes from him especially considering he was okay being seen in public with me.
So we agreed and walked back to his place as it wasn’t far at all. He held my hand the entire time and put his coat over me and I’m a sucker for romantic stuff so I could tell I was already gonna be delusional over this man even though that’s probably the bare minimum to other girls. We got to his place and had a few more drinks and then he asked to go to his room. I said we shouldn’t bc it was our first time meeting and tbh I expected for him to start yawning or something indicating for me to leave but nope. He understood and we just proceeded to cuddle on his couch. After a while of just making out and talking I folded and gave him head.
The next morning he sent me an instagram reel which to me was a good sign that it went well but after that he went dry on me. I noticed a difference because the day before our date he would reply to me almost immediately even if I took long to reply. I tried texting him a few more times the rest of that week until inevitably he told me he didn't see anything serious with me because we were a bit too different. I forgot to mention but when we told each other what we were looking for I said I was looking something more serious and wasn't interested in casual dating i.e hookups. He was basically just going with the flow and if it turned into something serious then great. I was disappointed because I still wanted to get to know him more. I also felt like I had finally opened myself up to going out on a date just for this to happen.
I realize now this probably happens to everyone not just trans women, sometimes it’s just not gonna work. I appreciated that he didn’t just ghost me and had the courtesy of telling me he didn’t see anything serious. Since then, we’ve texted about twice. Just simple texts like him swiping up to my story or me sending him a reel. When we first started talking he sent me a TikTok and I went through his following but there was really nothing out of the ordinary. He came up on my TikTok suggestions this week and I decided to lurk into his following again. He only follows about 40 people and I noticed a new girl. A trans woman that does drag and she followed him back.
Bitch I was in disbelief because I didn’t get that vibe from him at all. No disrespect to her but she looks to be in the early stages of transitioning and I just couldn’t believe he’d be talking to a drag queen. Granted they might not even be talking but for them to follow each other and him only following a handful of people, my gut tells me they are. When it comes to dating I really do only look for straight men and preferably men that don’t seek out trans women. When I gave him head he also tried touching me down there and I quickly moved his hand away. I thought it was just him trying to "please" me but it's more than likely he was just looking to experiment.
I know this is a long post and idk if anyone is even gonna read all this but I’m just exhausted. Every time I let my guard down it just turns into another man trying to use me. The reason I’m on here is because after talking to a friend they told me “this is the life of a trans woman and you chose it”. That sent me into a spiral. Has anyone had luck with dating? Because at this point I feel like I don’t wanna date until I have bottom surgery and become stealth.
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I started talking to this guy on bumble about a month ago and I honestly only replied to this man because he double texted me. For the most part I really only get on dating apps to swipe when I’m bored because I usually have better luck meeting men in person and I also hate disclosing. I would obviously never be intimate with a man before telling them I’m trans but I’ve faced so much rejection after telling men and it’s become difficult to tell them now which is why I also hardly reply to anyone. It’s hard because these men are obviously attracted to me but they can’t get over the fact that I’m trans. But I can’t blame them because after all I am pre op and everyone has their own preference.
Back to the story, he asked for my number and asked to take me out. As most of us have probably experienced, once we disclose we either A. Get unmatched or B. It goes from “let me take you out” to “come over”. I told him and he said it didn’t matter and he’d still like to see me. We texted all day Monday and agreed to go out on Tuesday. We ended up choosing a rooftop bar and it went very well at least I thought. We had a few drinks and ending up making out outside looking at the view. Overall he was kind of everything I was looking for.
Originally I wanted to go to a different bar where they have a DJ and it was more of my vibe but idk I think he was overwhelmed from seeing the bars post on instagram 😂 The rooftop we chose was closing early because it was a weekday and we both wanted to continue talking. I asked if he’d like to go to the place I had in mind to begin with to continue getting to know each other and he agreed but I could tell he was hesitant. So I suggested calling it a night as well, and then he mentioned going back to his place to have a drink. I was iffy because I obviously knew what this would lead up to but up to that point I had no red flags. This man just seemed different and just genuinely kind. I also didn’t get any chaser vibes from him especially considering he was okay being seen in public with me.
So we agreed and walked back to his place as it wasn’t far at all. He held my hand the entire time and put his coat over me and I’m a sucker for romantic stuff so I could tell I was already gonna be delusional over this man even though that’s probably the bare minimum to other girls. We got to his place and had a few more drinks and then he asked to go to his room. I said we shouldn’t bc it was our first time meeting and tbh I expected for him to start yawning or something indicating for me to leave but nope. He understood and we just proceeded to cuddle on his couch. After a while of just making out and talking I folded and gave him head.
The next morning he sent me an instagram reel which to me was a good sign that it went well but after that he went dry on me. I noticed a difference because the day before our date he would reply to me almost immediately even if I took long to reply. I tried texting him a few more times the rest of that week until inevitably he told me he didn't see anything serious with me because we were a bit too different. I forgot to mention but when we told each other what we were looking for I said I was looking something more serious and wasn't interested in casual dating i.e hookups. He was basically just going with the flow and if it turned into something serious then great. I was disappointed because I still wanted to get to know him more. I also felt like I had finally opened myself up to going out on a date just for this to happen.
I realize now this probably happens to everyone not just trans women, sometimes it’s just not gonna work. I appreciated that he didn’t just ghost me and had the courtesy of telling me he didn’t see anything serious. Since then, we’ve texted about twice. Just simple texts like him swiping up to my story or me sending him a reel. When we first started talking he sent me a TikTok and I went through his following but there was really nothing out of the ordinary. He came up on my TikTok suggestions this week and I decided to lurk into his following again. He only follows about 40 people and I noticed a new girl. A trans woman that does drag and she followed him back.
Bitch I was in disbelief because I didn’t get that vibe from him at all. No disrespect to her but she looks to be in the early stages of transitioning and I just couldn’t believe he’d be talking to a drag queen. Granted they might not even be talking but for them to follow each other and him only following a handful of people, my gut tells me they are. When it comes to dating I really do only look for straight men and preferably men that don’t seek out trans women. When I gave him head he also tried touching me down there and I quickly moved his hand away. I thought it was just him trying to "please" me but it's more than likely he was just looking to experiment.
I know this is a long post and idk if anyone is even gonna read all this but I’m just exhausted. Every time I let my guard down it just turns into another man trying to use me. The reason I’m on here is because after talking to a friend they told me “this is the life of a trans woman and you chose it”. That sent me into a spiral. Has anyone had luck with dating? Because at this point I feel like I don’t wanna date until I have bottom surgery and become stealth.
2024.05.19 01:06 guiltyofnothing “Do you comment on Reddit to be an annoying middle child?” Slapfights rage and insults fly as /r/BoomersBeingFools debates if boomers don’t eat enough food
The Context:
A user posts to /BoomersBeingFools wondering if boomers don’t eat enough and are “starving” themselves, and by extension pushing their expectations unfairly onto others.Many users quickly take issue with OOP’s premise. The discussion quickly devolves into multiple slapfights, insults over weight, and the war in Gaza.
The Drama:
Does metabolism change as people age?People commenting it’s cause they’re older and don’t need to eat as much. Yes, I know that could be a part of it, but let’s be honest, it’s mostly them just being judgy/brainwashed by diet culture/think it’s absurd to spend money on eating out…[Continued:]
"Brainwashed by diet culture" ah so in other words you are obese and need to eat a lot and probably deeply into healthy at any size/fat acceptance.
No they just know they don't need 5000 calori3s a day to exist.
I’m obese for wanting to eat some lunch and dinner? 🤯
No I say that because of "brainwashed by diet culture" there's exactly one group that talks like that.
You must not get out much
I do actually it's how I maintain not being fat. Limiting calories to under 2500 and being outside moving a lot.[Continued:]
I lost 140 pounds by eating more. 🤷 starving myself led to weight gain.
I'm sure you eat more but less calories in total. No one increases their calories and losses sorry.
You're wrong. Instunted my metabolism and my body was holding on to the weight to protect me.
I was eating skinless baked chicken and plain broccoli for 2 years and could not lose weight. I was sick and exhausted but worked out all the time.
Started eating carbs and the weight came melting off.
Sorry :)
For sure. Thats why all the body builders are morbidly obese. They eat chicken and broccoli and their body just goes into starvation mode and holds all the fat. Same with like the concentration camps. All those poor morbidly obese starving people. Once we saved them and fed them the weight just shed off. It's the craziest thing.[…]
It's almost like bodies are different, user name doesn't check out, a nerd would know that 🤔
Whatever you need to tell yourself.
i guess the law of thermodymanics doesnt apply to you.[…]
You should get studied. Defying the laws of thermodynamics is pretty impressive!
Tell me you see someone fat in the store and cringe inside/judge them for no reason without ever speaking to them without telling me 😂[Continued:]
You dislike/hate fat people for the horrid crime of being fat when they don't think about you at all and haven't ever wronged you in any way at all.
Also, I can tell you have never struggled with your weight in the past due to not giving a shit how hating random people for looking a certain way effects them. That, or you did struggle once, and bought into the haters telling you you were worth less based on the number on the scale, in which case I am sorry you believe that.
Dude I was 350lbs at my heaviest. People love saying "oh he says weightloss is eat less move more? Clearly he wants to genocide fat people" but no that's not it at all. I lost tons and most of the people around me went from morbid obesity to overweight or a normal weight. We changed our lifestyles and got in shape. The people that didn't lose weight claim all kinds of medical issues but none of them changed their diet and not of them want to work out. It's pretty clear how to lose weight. That's all.
No more no less no hate.
Wanna know how I know you're a liar or incredibly ignorant of how you come off?
You say you don't dislike them but make fun of their physical disabilities like it's funny. It's not funny. You're making fun of them. It's not funny to make fun of people for having disabilities or for how they look. You perpetuate hate against them that makes them feel like crap for being alive. I don't care about your spiel about medical issues or dieting in general or the fat acceptance movement. When you make fun of disabled people who have trouble walking i'm going to call you out on it. That's exactly what you did. Whether they're fat or not I refuse to make fun of people for that.
I have never made fun of a single person. Only a movement that claims you can be healthy at any size. You can't be vastly under or over weight and be healthy.
Whatever you say buddy. Keep on making fun of people because they can't walk or cope some more that it wasn't directed at a specific person. Have fun with that.
Shut the fuck up fattyInsults are made, ending with accusations of sockpuppeting:
I don't think you realize how pathetic you sound. When my jaw was broken I went 6 weeks without solid food and I'm sitting here rolling my eyes at your propensity for letting your stomach color your opinions of other people. I'd bet dollars to dimes that your body mass index is over 30.[Continued:]
Hey.
You should know:
It costs $0 to not be a dick.
I'll pay that cover charge any day of the week. Especially when I'm dealing with a major league dipshit like [Candy_cane999]Wow, you’re disgusting. It’s not that deep
Radagast was brown, nerd.
Says the person here gossiping about their relative's metabolism. "Not that deep" lol you made a judgment about an entire generation of people because your family member wasn't hungry..lol fuck off
I bet you are high as a kite right now from all the users here agreeing with you, even if they haven't a fucking clue what they are talking about.
Seriously, though, how fat are you? I'm guessing fat enough that you can't hide that stomach roll when you sit down.
High as a kite? Huh? Relax weirdo, it’s just Reddit
You still haven't told us how fat you are.Damn this guy hates fat people !
I used to be one.
So now you just hate fat people for fun?[…]
People with no self control, ESPECIALLY when that self control would benefit their health, are people who are functionally useless as human beings. They are the pieces of shit who would hoard food while everyone else is starving.
It ain't for fun.
Do you comment on Reddit to be an annoying middle child?
Ahhh yes. The fat people are useless excuse. Okay bud have fun out there!
It seems you have to self control over your feelings little guy. Go out there and practice some self control!
Bitter, party of one.
Get a life, chill[Continued:]
😂sounds like you’re projecting. What’s it like still living in your boomer mom’s basement?Get a life, chillAh yes, the mating call of people who "have lives"...ohhhhhh the irony.
lol "projecting", I see you have your masters in Reddit psychology.
What’s it like still living in your boomer mom’s basement?Oooooof, sounds like someone is...................................................................................projecting.
You do realize calling someone fat is the easiest most insecure insult to throw out there. Classic textbook. Hypocrite
I used to be fat as fuck, 270lbs at 5'10. I'll judge you fatties all I damn well please.
You keep avoiding answering the question. You're a landwhale, aren't you?
Ahha! There it is. It’s because you hate yourself. Hope you’re in therapy
The more you avoid this the more we know what kind of person we are dealing with.[…]
You talk shit about people who have self control to excuse how fat and disgusting you are.
Dude why admit that, all you are showing is that you had become really fat, and rather than learn a healthy relationship with food even at that extreme point, you just chose to hate food in general. You took the easy way out because nobody ever taught you portion control. Your loss I guess.[…]
I admit it because I was raised in a home where I couldn't get up until my plate was clean and my mother made sure there were never leftovers that way. I admit it because it is the truth and I don't lie or omit details to make myself sound better. I admit it to show I can relate to being a fatfuck. I admit it because being fat is a choice.
”why would you say something true about yourself!?" - if that isn't Reddit-in-a-nutshell I don't know what is.
I'm just saying it makes you look like you just hated yourself and were pushing that onto another person that may or may not have a healthier relationship with food than you, that's all.
They didn't answer did they?Then, there’s this:
After several attempts they've avoided even talking about their fat stores and are now trying the victim angle.
No doubt. Fatty McFat Fat can't comprehend people not being addicted to constant feedings.
Reddit in a nutshell.
Bro's talking to himself on an alt
OP is a fat fuckOne user thinks they’re speaking uncomfortable truths:
As a former fatass this was my immediate thought
I knew as soon as he said road trip to FloridaFor wanting lunch and dinner? You’re sick
They’re someone whos whole identity is shoving food in their mouth. Look at their username
Eat shit.
If StandardSafe isn’t willing to say it again, I will: grow up and get over it. 99% of the people who say they “aren’t heavy” actually are, your dad was probably just being a concerned parent. “unhealthy relationship with food”, LMAO. A first-world problem for sureFinally, the war in Gaza is brought up for some reason:
No, he was just a bully and abusive. But thanks for playing.
That’s a really weird thing to say to a stranger, dude
You ok bro? Did that make you feel good about yourself? To insult a stranger because you personally didn’t have to deal with abuse? Or let me guess, you did, but it made you a “strong man” who knows what’s best for everyone.
You don’t know me. You have no idea what my childhood and young adulthood was like and maybe it sounds like a “first world problem” (which by the way, is so fucking dismissive and gross to say to people when they an issue) to you, but for me it became an eating disorder that I still struggle with in my 40s.
I’m going to try to say this as politely as I can, please fuck off into the sun with your bullshit and go troll somewhere else. You’re an asshole who seems to get off on insulting people to get your pathetic dick hard. I hope you don’t have kids because I worry if you do how fucked up they are and if you’re married I feel terrible for your wife. But let’s be honest, you’re a sad, lonely, angry man who has nothing better to do.
Dumbass takes like this are part of the reason people develop eating disorders on both ends of the spectrum.
You're gonna tell me someone who is suffering from Anorexia/Bulimia just needs to "grow up and get over it"?
You need to grow up and take a biology class.
When did the commenter say she had anorexia/bulimia? Those are actual eating disorders…she just said she eats very little and blames her dad.
A biology class, really? Psychology sounds more like it. Or are you telling me you learned about eating disorders in a bio class? Where was that, at some sort of school that gives out certificates in self-actualization or holistic-healing?
Sorry -- from what school did you get a psychology degree that allows you to label Anoerixa/Bulimia as "actual" eating disorders but not what OP described?
The school of hard knocks 😂 he’s so superior to us that he can diagnose a stranger through the internet on Reddit based on a paragraph that seemed to make him bigly angry.
He’s just a sad man who needs to get off by insulting people. He can go live that life and we’ll be over on this said being human to each other.
You know that on the other side of the apartheid wall Israel set up there are thousands of people who had access to the Dead Sea (and their homes), that was changed by the establishment of Israel. Millions of people around the world are coming to the decision to boycott any company that supports the Israeli Apartheid Occupation. Millions are urging their universities and employers to divest any money and programs with the genocidal force that is Israel. I urge you and your family to take a hard look at yourselves and learn what Israel really is made of. Then the logical decision will be to never visit or spend a dime in Israel until their genocide and apartheid ends. Ty
Take a walk off a short pier.
This response is unhinged.
“Learn about an ongoing genocide, with bombs falling through the air as we speak, that you knowingly or unknowingly support, that we can do something about”
“Your response”
Please just look someone in the eyes today and remember what it means to be a human. Each of us is a library of life, and we’re constantly diminishing the value of each other as “enemies”.
I’d rather that than share air with someone who supports the ongoing genocide. Not for me, not for you, but for the kids and our collective humanity: please learn something new today.
You’re supporting the death of my family in Israel. Seriously, you’re a PoS
Before Israel was, there was Palestine. Palestine was for all. Muslims, Christians, and Jewish families all lived together. We all visited Jerusalem.
When Israel decided that only Jewish people would now be allowed in to these random borders drawn over Palestine, well, that should come off as racist. Now the Christian and Muslim Palestinians had their villages raided and their women raped by a well funded militia, before it became the IDF. This terrorised the Palestinians that lived in their homes, so they ran.
Then these homes were empty.
The land without people for the People without a land. Fabulous. Absolutely fabulous. The people that were born there were displaced by a terrorist militia, and now it was a land magically without a people.
And your family came in, and settled in “Israel”. A family out there has the keys to the very home your family lives in in Israel, although you’ve probably changed the locks by now.
But for generations this land fed them and protected them from the elements. All of a sudden it’s yours?
And the people Israel oppresses, the thousands of Palestinians that are in prison with no trial. Children and women Palestinians have been taken captive for over 70 years!! Where’s the outrage?
Are we not human?
When we say free Palestine from the river to the sea. It’s for everybody. Come by and buy my home. But please don’t show up with an armed force ready to exterminate me for refusing you the home my forefathers have called their own.
TLDR Israel is the fire nation in avatar the last airbender.
The best way I can put it is.. if a bunch of armed chickens showed up and kicked you and your family out of their homes, one day you might want to fight those armed chickens back instead of being homeless. Israel are the armed chickens
The Flairs:
2024.05.19 01:00 Hour_Ad_4272 Defamation of character - IL
Long story short, I was accused of a serious crime. My face made the headlines and Facebook had a field day. A lot of false information was spread as well. This was in May of 2023. I still await my trial date.
I know I'm innocent. Others believe I'm innocent. My lawyer says I'm innocent. The prosecution has no leg to stand on.
I'm reading the defamation of character cases expire 1 year after the statements are made. I didn't think we could sue for damages without first proving my innocence. But as my case continues to get dragged on, it seems unlikely that I'll be able to do anything about the negative and damaging posts and articles.
Advice?
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I know I'm innocent. Others believe I'm innocent. My lawyer says I'm innocent. The prosecution has no leg to stand on.
I'm reading the defamation of character cases expire 1 year after the statements are made. I didn't think we could sue for damages without first proving my innocence. But as my case continues to get dragged on, it seems unlikely that I'll be able to do anything about the negative and damaging posts and articles.
Advice?
2024.05.19 01:00 mindsetfin-313 Cap (M) blocked me & we have (had) a trip planned...
Cap (M) blocked me b/c he still loves me? And we had/have a trip planned.
I "dated" a Cap (M) 40 and I'm a Pisces (F) 40 for 8 months. We were both in long term relationships when we met. We have been friends for years but were strictly platonic. He was with Pisces (F) and I was with a Libra (M). One day we met and instantly clicked. He was a straight shooter out the gate. I was surprised how agressive he was about being so transparent. We began seeing each other and the energy was so magnetic. We talked everyday all day for hours via text and phone. We saw each other as much as we could. He owns and runs a very successful company and I work from home. We both have children and we agreed not to introduce our kids to each other until the timing was right. We did so much together. We became inseparable. I was scared/nervous and skeptical to fall for him since he had already been in a relationship with another Pisces (F) and my thoughts were "if it didn't work with her, there's no way it would work with us". Plus he told me that he had never loved any other woman besides her. So, I definitely had my guards up. When I tell you, this man poured into me, he poured into me. He was so consistent with his actions and words that I began to fall in love. I was the first one to admit that I was in love and he also confessed he had fell in love and that he had never felt the way he felt with anyone else. He said he had sexual relationships with over a hundred women and "experienced" everything under the sun and that he never realized that what he was actually searching for was "connection". He said he was surprised by how easy it was to talk to me and just be honest and vulnerable. We literally would be together for hours and days (sometimes) with no television, no distractions, and just talk for HOURS. We really enjoyed each others company.
Flashforward, the other Pisces woman (41) began to beg for his return. They have children together and she begged and begged for another chance to connect with him "for the sake of the kids". She claimed that he never gave her an opportunity to emotionally connect. He told me he never felt comfortable being vulnerable or honest with her in all the years he's known her. I could feel him slipping away and pulling away. I could tell he was becoming conflicted. How could I compete with her when they had so much history? I just found it confusing because for months I held back on giving him my heart completely but he repeatedly assured me that he was all in and that "she couldn't change his mind". He told me it was safe to trust him, it was safe to be vulnerable, it was safe to love him.
All of a sudden, within the last 30 days I could feel him shifting and his internal turmoil bubbling up. I suggested that he take two weeks of no contact to figure out what he wanted to do. He called me 5 days later and broke up with me. He said he couldn't stand seeing he emotionally breakdown the way that she had and that they had a lot of history together and that he feels bad because he was never truly vulnerable or honest with her. He basically blamed himself and said that before he could be with me or anyone else he "has to try" for the sake of the kids and to make sure he did all he could do to "save" the relationship.
Of course, I broke down in tears. I felt betrayed. We experienced so much together, grew together, built trust, I allowed mysef to love him fully and completely and then he blindsided me and broke up with me! My initial reaction was shock. I kept muting myself during the phone call. He did not tell me in a gentle manner. It was very "conversational" which was abnormal. The next day, I called him to ask questions and I broke down and actually cried on the phone (like full on ugly cry). We continued to talk for days afterwards b/c he felt bad for me and he misses our banter. After going back and forth talking (sometimes as if he did not break up with me), he asked if he should stop communicating with me until he was 100 percent done with his current situation and was single. I asked him, what he felt led to do and he wouldn't answer. Finally, today, I told him it would not be fair to her or me if he continued to talk to me because that's not him moving in an honest manner and he would basically be using me as a "crutch" or a "backup". He told me, that I would always have a place in his heart and that I was unforgettable and that this would be his final communication with me. I acknowledged is text message and shed a few tears.
Hours later, I noticed he actually blocked me on all social media platforms. I was not expecting that! Especially since I did not break up with him, he broke up with me and HE broke MY heart!
We were supposed to take a trip together in June. He reimbursed me for it (after I asked)...should I give him time to work things out (cool down) and still go or just leave him alone completely? My heart is broken! I really thought he was my forever person! I miss him so much.
Him: Cap Sun, Gemini Moon, Cap Mercury, Sag Venus, Cap Rising Me: Pisces Sun, Leo Moon, Pisces Mercury, Aqua Venus, Scorpio Rising Other woman: Pisces Sun, Sag Moon, Aqua Mercury, Aries Venus
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I "dated" a Cap (M) 40 and I'm a Pisces (F) 40 for 8 months. We were both in long term relationships when we met. We have been friends for years but were strictly platonic. He was with Pisces (F) and I was with a Libra (M). One day we met and instantly clicked. He was a straight shooter out the gate. I was surprised how agressive he was about being so transparent. We began seeing each other and the energy was so magnetic. We talked everyday all day for hours via text and phone. We saw each other as much as we could. He owns and runs a very successful company and I work from home. We both have children and we agreed not to introduce our kids to each other until the timing was right. We did so much together. We became inseparable. I was scared/nervous and skeptical to fall for him since he had already been in a relationship with another Pisces (F) and my thoughts were "if it didn't work with her, there's no way it would work with us". Plus he told me that he had never loved any other woman besides her. So, I definitely had my guards up. When I tell you, this man poured into me, he poured into me. He was so consistent with his actions and words that I began to fall in love. I was the first one to admit that I was in love and he also confessed he had fell in love and that he had never felt the way he felt with anyone else. He said he had sexual relationships with over a hundred women and "experienced" everything under the sun and that he never realized that what he was actually searching for was "connection". He said he was surprised by how easy it was to talk to me and just be honest and vulnerable. We literally would be together for hours and days (sometimes) with no television, no distractions, and just talk for HOURS. We really enjoyed each others company.
Flashforward, the other Pisces woman (41) began to beg for his return. They have children together and she begged and begged for another chance to connect with him "for the sake of the kids". She claimed that he never gave her an opportunity to emotionally connect. He told me he never felt comfortable being vulnerable or honest with her in all the years he's known her. I could feel him slipping away and pulling away. I could tell he was becoming conflicted. How could I compete with her when they had so much history? I just found it confusing because for months I held back on giving him my heart completely but he repeatedly assured me that he was all in and that "she couldn't change his mind". He told me it was safe to trust him, it was safe to be vulnerable, it was safe to love him.
All of a sudden, within the last 30 days I could feel him shifting and his internal turmoil bubbling up. I suggested that he take two weeks of no contact to figure out what he wanted to do. He called me 5 days later and broke up with me. He said he couldn't stand seeing he emotionally breakdown the way that she had and that they had a lot of history together and that he feels bad because he was never truly vulnerable or honest with her. He basically blamed himself and said that before he could be with me or anyone else he "has to try" for the sake of the kids and to make sure he did all he could do to "save" the relationship.
Of course, I broke down in tears. I felt betrayed. We experienced so much together, grew together, built trust, I allowed mysef to love him fully and completely and then he blindsided me and broke up with me! My initial reaction was shock. I kept muting myself during the phone call. He did not tell me in a gentle manner. It was very "conversational" which was abnormal. The next day, I called him to ask questions and I broke down and actually cried on the phone (like full on ugly cry). We continued to talk for days afterwards b/c he felt bad for me and he misses our banter. After going back and forth talking (sometimes as if he did not break up with me), he asked if he should stop communicating with me until he was 100 percent done with his current situation and was single. I asked him, what he felt led to do and he wouldn't answer. Finally, today, I told him it would not be fair to her or me if he continued to talk to me because that's not him moving in an honest manner and he would basically be using me as a "crutch" or a "backup". He told me, that I would always have a place in his heart and that I was unforgettable and that this would be his final communication with me. I acknowledged is text message and shed a few tears.
Hours later, I noticed he actually blocked me on all social media platforms. I was not expecting that! Especially since I did not break up with him, he broke up with me and HE broke MY heart!
We were supposed to take a trip together in June. He reimbursed me for it (after I asked)...should I give him time to work things out (cool down) and still go or just leave him alone completely? My heart is broken! I really thought he was my forever person! I miss him so much.
Him: Cap Sun, Gemini Moon, Cap Mercury, Sag Venus, Cap Rising Me: Pisces Sun, Leo Moon, Pisces Mercury, Aqua Venus, Scorpio Rising Other woman: Pisces Sun, Sag Moon, Aqua Mercury, Aries Venus
2024.05.19 00:54 mindsetfin-313 Cap (M) blocked me b/c he still loves me? And we had/have a trip planned.
I "dated" a Cap (M) 40 and I'm a Pisces (F) 40 for 8 months. We were both in long term relationships when we met. We have been friends for years but were strictly platonic. He was with Pisces (F) and I was with a Libra (M). One day we met and instantly clicked. He was a straight shooter out the gate. I was surprised how agressive he was about being so transparent. We began seeing each other and the energy was so magnetic. We talked everyday all day for hours via text and phone. We saw each other as much as we could. He owns and runs a very successful company and I work from home. We both have children and we agreed not to introduce our kids to each other until the timing was right. We did so much together. We became inseparable. I was scared/nervous and skeptical to fall for him since he had already been in a relationship with another Pisces (F) and my thoughts were "if it didn't work with her, there's no way it would work with us". Plus he told me that he had never loved any other woman besides her. So, I definitely had my guards up. When I tell you, this man poured into me, he poured into me. He was so consistent with his actions and words that I began to fall in love. I was the first one to admit that I was in love and he also confessed he had fell in love and that he had never felt the way he felt with anyone else. He said he had sexual relationships with over a hundred women and "experienced" everything under the sun and that he never realized that what he was actually searching for was "connection". He said he was surprised by how easy it was to talk to me and just be honest and vulnerable. We literally would be together for hours and days (sometimes) with no television, no distractions, and just talk for HOURS. We really enjoyed each others company.
Flashforward, the other Pisces woman (41) began to beg for his return. They have children together and she begged and begged for another chance to connect with him "for the sake of the kids". She claimed that he never gave her an opportunity to emotionally connect. He told me he never felt comfortable being vulnerable or honest with her in all the years he's known her. I could feel him slipping away and pulling away. I could tell he was becoming conflicted. How could I compete with her when they had so much history? I just found it confusing because for months I held back on giving him my heart completely but he repeatedly assured me that he was all in and that "she couldn't change his mind". He told me it was safe to trust him, it was safe to be vulnerable, it was safe to love him.
All of a sudden, within the last 30 days I could feel him shifting and his internal turmoil bubbling up. I suggested that he take two weeks of no contact to figure out what he wanted to do. He called me 5 days later and broke up with me. He said he couldn't stand seeing he emotionally breakdown the way that she had and that they had a lot of history together and that he feels bad because he was never truly vulnerable or honest with her. He basically blamed himself and said that before he could be with me or anyone else he "has to try" for the sake of the kids and to make sure he did all he could do to "save" the relationship.
Of course, I broke down in tears. I felt betrayed. We experienced so much together, grew together, built trust, I allowed mysef to love him fully and completely and then he blindsided me and broke up with me! My initial reaction was shock. I kept muting myself during the phone call. He did not tell me in a gentle manner. It was very "conversational" which was abnormal. The next day, I called him to ask questions and I broke down and actually cried on the phone (like full on ugly cry). We continued to talk for days afterwards b/c he felt bad for me and he misses our banter. After going back and forth talking (sometimes as if he did not break up with me), he asked if he should stop communicating with me until he was 100 percent done with his current situation and was single. I asked him, what he felt led to do and he wouldn't answer. Finally, today, I told him it would not be fair to her or me if he continued to talk to me because that's not him moving in an honest manner and he would basically be using me as a "crutch" or a "backup". He told me, that I would always have a place in his heart and that I was unforgettable and that this would be his final communication with me. I acknowledged is text message and shed a few tears.
Hours later, I noticed he actually blocked me on all social media platforms. I was not expecting that! Especially since I did not break up with him, he broke up with me and HE broke MY heart!
We were supposed to take a trip together in June. He reimbursed me for it (after I asked)...should I give him time to work things out (cool down) and still go or just leave him alone completely? My heart is broken! I really thought he was my forever person! I miss him so much.
Him: Cap Sun, Gemini Moon, Cap Mercury, Sag Venus, Cap Rising Me: Pisces Sun, Leo Moon, Pisces Mercury, Aqua Venus, Scorpio Rising Other woman: Pisces Sun, Sag Moon, Aqua Mercury, Aries Venus
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Flashforward, the other Pisces woman (41) began to beg for his return. They have children together and she begged and begged for another chance to connect with him "for the sake of the kids". She claimed that he never gave her an opportunity to emotionally connect. He told me he never felt comfortable being vulnerable or honest with her in all the years he's known her. I could feel him slipping away and pulling away. I could tell he was becoming conflicted. How could I compete with her when they had so much history? I just found it confusing because for months I held back on giving him my heart completely but he repeatedly assured me that he was all in and that "she couldn't change his mind". He told me it was safe to trust him, it was safe to be vulnerable, it was safe to love him.
All of a sudden, within the last 30 days I could feel him shifting and his internal turmoil bubbling up. I suggested that he take two weeks of no contact to figure out what he wanted to do. He called me 5 days later and broke up with me. He said he couldn't stand seeing he emotionally breakdown the way that she had and that they had a lot of history together and that he feels bad because he was never truly vulnerable or honest with her. He basically blamed himself and said that before he could be with me or anyone else he "has to try" for the sake of the kids and to make sure he did all he could do to "save" the relationship.
Of course, I broke down in tears. I felt betrayed. We experienced so much together, grew together, built trust, I allowed mysef to love him fully and completely and then he blindsided me and broke up with me! My initial reaction was shock. I kept muting myself during the phone call. He did not tell me in a gentle manner. It was very "conversational" which was abnormal. The next day, I called him to ask questions and I broke down and actually cried on the phone (like full on ugly cry). We continued to talk for days afterwards b/c he felt bad for me and he misses our banter. After going back and forth talking (sometimes as if he did not break up with me), he asked if he should stop communicating with me until he was 100 percent done with his current situation and was single. I asked him, what he felt led to do and he wouldn't answer. Finally, today, I told him it would not be fair to her or me if he continued to talk to me because that's not him moving in an honest manner and he would basically be using me as a "crutch" or a "backup". He told me, that I would always have a place in his heart and that I was unforgettable and that this would be his final communication with me. I acknowledged is text message and shed a few tears.
Hours later, I noticed he actually blocked me on all social media platforms. I was not expecting that! Especially since I did not break up with him, he broke up with me and HE broke MY heart!
We were supposed to take a trip together in June. He reimbursed me for it (after I asked)...should I give him time to work things out (cool down) and still go or just leave him alone completely? My heart is broken! I really thought he was my forever person! I miss him so much.
Him: Cap Sun, Gemini Moon, Cap Mercury, Sag Venus, Cap Rising Me: Pisces Sun, Leo Moon, Pisces Mercury, Aqua Venus, Scorpio Rising Other woman: Pisces Sun, Sag Moon, Aqua Mercury, Aries Venus
2024.05.19 00:52 anonimous72937 AITA for blocking my best friend without any warning?
disclaimer: i myself genuinely think I'm partially the asshole in this situation that happend almost two years ago, so no need to be rude, I'm just curious of what other people think
Me (M 21) and my best friend (M 23) have been friends for three years. We were always really close but he increasingly started to say very weird and problematic stuff.
For example one time we were hanging out and talking about our past relationships, and he mentiones the fact that he only ever dated women, but I remember her that he also dated a trans woman and he told me "why? do you consider that a real woman?" when he clearly knows that I'm trans myself.
Or another time us and another person were talking about this person that they hate for no apparent reason, at some point they start calling them a whale, obese and fat (they're not even chubby) right in front of me, a fat person.
For me he reached the limit when we were at my house together and in front of my sister (who is disabled) told me that he finds disabled people disgusting.
The number of times stuff like this happened increased over time and at some point we started talking less and less and some day I just blocked her everywhere. He tried to talk to me but I was just full of his childish behavior so I told him that I didn't have the intention to talk to him ever again. At that point he started to call me with private numbers to make fun of me with his friends, and talk ill of me every time he had the chance to.
I know I shouldn't have reacted that way but what do you think?
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Me (M 21) and my best friend (M 23) have been friends for three years. We were always really close but he increasingly started to say very weird and problematic stuff.
For example one time we were hanging out and talking about our past relationships, and he mentiones the fact that he only ever dated women, but I remember her that he also dated a trans woman and he told me "why? do you consider that a real woman?" when he clearly knows that I'm trans myself.
Or another time us and another person were talking about this person that they hate for no apparent reason, at some point they start calling them a whale, obese and fat (they're not even chubby) right in front of me, a fat person.
For me he reached the limit when we were at my house together and in front of my sister (who is disabled) told me that he finds disabled people disgusting.
The number of times stuff like this happened increased over time and at some point we started talking less and less and some day I just blocked her everywhere. He tried to talk to me but I was just full of his childish behavior so I told him that I didn't have the intention to talk to him ever again. At that point he started to call me with private numbers to make fun of me with his friends, and talk ill of me every time he had the chance to.
I know I shouldn't have reacted that way but what do you think?
2024.05.19 00:48 Arthur_189 Bro has a girlfriend named Jacobi
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2024.05.19 00:47 DelMarYouKnow The RO set to break ground next month: mixed use walkable featuring luxury hotel, restaurant and residencies
 | Hello Houston. I know a different headline has dominated this week. Just wanted to post this positive headline in the midst of everything. submitted by DelMarYouKnow to houston [link] [comments] The RO is a 17 acre mixed use project going up at the former ExxonMobil R&D center at 3130 Buffalo Speedway. It will feature a hotel, residence and restaurant district. The hotel flag will be the Auberge Resort Collection which is a Houston based luxury hotel chain. This will be their first resort in their home market. Auberge is owned by the Friedkin Group which is known for their Gulf States Toyota subsidiary. The opening date shows for 2027 https://www.connectcre.com/stories/the-ro-set-to-break-ground-in-houston/ |
2024.05.19 00:46 jelly_wishes Why does my opinion not matter?
A while ago the topic of kids came about when I was chatting with friends from college. For contex, I am almost 23 now and I was 20 at the time. Well, a few of my friend want to have multiple children and like children a lot (nothing wrong with that) but when it came my turn, I said I didn't want children and they all looked at me kind of weird. Cue the "what? really? are you sure?" - (internal thoughts) Yeah I am, for as long as I can remember. "Maybe you will change your mind in the future" - I didn't tell you that when you spoke, so why are you telling me? But the thing that really stood out to me was: "What does (boyfriend) think about that?"
We had been in a relationship for 2 years at that time (4 and a half now) and somehow thay thought he wasn't on the same page? I wouldn't seriously date someone who wasn't childfree too. Either way, why would his opinion make me change my mind (or my opinion his, but women are usually more questioned on that). Why do people assume I had to convince him and he didn't chose the same thing out of his own volition?
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We had been in a relationship for 2 years at that time (4 and a half now) and somehow thay thought he wasn't on the same page? I wouldn't seriously date someone who wasn't childfree too. Either way, why would his opinion make me change my mind (or my opinion his, but women are usually more questioned on that). Why do people assume I had to convince him and he didn't chose the same thing out of his own volition?
2024.05.19 00:45 Rustin_Cohle35 Tip for women still looking-
The last man I dated was the first man in my entire life to do one major thing. Check it out: most of his favorite authors, musicians, physicists, scientists etc...were women. He sought out women doctors, lawyers, politicians. He complimented women in his life and in the news on things that had nothing to do with the way they looked.
I've heard men say nice things about women but 99.9999999% of the time they begin with, "so and so is so hot AND she's so..." it's always looks first.
Realizing that it took 46 years for me to meet ONE man who seemed to see women as actual whole human beings-was slightly fucking devastating.
I took a really close look down memory lane and even the best men I've known have never sought out women centered media, music, academia etc...They consume books, music, movies, magazines specifically designed for men. They look at women as 2 dimensional, leading with and mostly prized for looks, then secondly for services provided. So for the ladies here still choosing to sift through the molding haystacks out there-here's a blowtorch. Ask the guys you're talking to who their favs are-do they ever mention women? If so, is it beyond the outside package? I think this would make a kick ass vetting technique if no one has mentioned it yet.
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I've heard men say nice things about women but 99.9999999% of the time they begin with, "so and so is so hot AND she's so..." it's always looks first.
Realizing that it took 46 years for me to meet ONE man who seemed to see women as actual whole human beings-was slightly fucking devastating.
I took a really close look down memory lane and even the best men I've known have never sought out women centered media, music, academia etc...They consume books, music, movies, magazines specifically designed for men. They look at women as 2 dimensional, leading with and mostly prized for looks, then secondly for services provided. So for the ladies here still choosing to sift through the molding haystacks out there-here's a blowtorch. Ask the guys you're talking to who their favs are-do they ever mention women? If so, is it beyond the outside package? I think this would make a kick ass vetting technique if no one has mentioned it yet.
2024.05.19 00:44 milkecartonangel Hating how much I’m currently set apart from and harassed by my peers in my shitty hometown.
I live in a small rural conservative town and it is extremely hard to express yourself here. LGBTQ+ members are ridiculed and harassed for their sexuality or gender, POC are called slurs and harassed over their skin color, and women, especially young girls my age (13-16), are catcalled, sexually harassed, and objectified. It’s a shithole and I want out, but I’m only 15 and my family doesn’t have the money to move without government assistance. Safe to say, if you are not a cishet white guy who dresses like a farm hand or cishet white girl who’s always wearing lululemon and carrying a Stanley, nobody will like you. Not saying those things are bad, you can dress however you want and be who you want, but you know what I mean, it’s like an established norm.
You at least have a chance at being liked and fitting in with the crowds if you’re a minority who likes what the poplar kids do, which is sports, dating, vaping, drinking, and the beach, because that’s all I hear them talk about when they’re not harassing other people or talking shit about them. Sure, you’ll still be the butt end of the joke due to your race or sexuality, trust me I’ve seen it, but you’ll at least have some sort of a social life and status. If you’re a minority and don’t like those things though, tough shit I guess.
I’m white, so my race isn’t really something they go after, but I am arobi (aromantic bisexual), and I dress in a more casual gothic style? Certainly not whatever’s accepted by most of my peers, if what thy say about me is anything to go by. Not many people know I’m arobi so they leave me alone for that, but they obviously know I’m a girl because I’m rather fem presenting, and it’s horrible. One of the popular guys threatened to rape me in the woods, trust me, it’s horrible, not to mention him and his friends always referred to me as ‘fleshlight’ instead of my actual name, even in front of teachers, who did nothing to stop it, by the way. They’ve done plenty of other gross shit but all you have to know is that their sexual harassment towards me was the straw that broke the camel’s back and made me quit school in favor of doing online school.
It’s just miserable. I have a close group of friends which I’m grateful for, but they don’t like the same things I do. We share some common interests like Sanrio, two of them even like some anime, but they’re not as into it as me. For context, I’m a bit nerdy. I collect anime figures and Sanrio merch and stuffed animals and stuff, and that’s very rare in this town. The only place I have to turn to to really express and be myself is the internet, but I haven’t even made any online friends, which I don’t want to by the way, but even then I have no real community or social circle there, either.
I just feel alienated. Part of me is attention and praise-driven due to my past of being emotionally and physically neglected as a younger child, and realizing that the majority of people in this town hate my guts is miserable, because I do want people to like me. But most of all, I just want to be myself and be happy without being harassed or judged or objectified or anything. Nowadays it feels like that’s too much to ask for, everyone is so damn rude and mean and yeah, I guess I get it, we all have someone we don’t like, but do you really have to go that far? Not everyone is going to be just like you, look like you, like the same things as you, and feel the same way you do on things. I feel these people need to get over it and move on with their own lives instead of ruining the lives of others.
Anyways that’s the end of my rant. I probably sound like an angsty teen going through some sort of phase, and maybe I am, but I just wanted to have somewhere to get this out. Thanks for reading if you read this I guess, you can comment and give comfort or your own insight if you want but you don’t have to, I didn’t make this to get attention or anything.
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You at least have a chance at being liked and fitting in with the crowds if you’re a minority who likes what the poplar kids do, which is sports, dating, vaping, drinking, and the beach, because that’s all I hear them talk about when they’re not harassing other people or talking shit about them. Sure, you’ll still be the butt end of the joke due to your race or sexuality, trust me I’ve seen it, but you’ll at least have some sort of a social life and status. If you’re a minority and don’t like those things though, tough shit I guess.
I’m white, so my race isn’t really something they go after, but I am arobi (aromantic bisexual), and I dress in a more casual gothic style? Certainly not whatever’s accepted by most of my peers, if what thy say about me is anything to go by. Not many people know I’m arobi so they leave me alone for that, but they obviously know I’m a girl because I’m rather fem presenting, and it’s horrible. One of the popular guys threatened to rape me in the woods, trust me, it’s horrible, not to mention him and his friends always referred to me as ‘fleshlight’ instead of my actual name, even in front of teachers, who did nothing to stop it, by the way. They’ve done plenty of other gross shit but all you have to know is that their sexual harassment towards me was the straw that broke the camel’s back and made me quit school in favor of doing online school.
It’s just miserable. I have a close group of friends which I’m grateful for, but they don’t like the same things I do. We share some common interests like Sanrio, two of them even like some anime, but they’re not as into it as me. For context, I’m a bit nerdy. I collect anime figures and Sanrio merch and stuffed animals and stuff, and that’s very rare in this town. The only place I have to turn to to really express and be myself is the internet, but I haven’t even made any online friends, which I don’t want to by the way, but even then I have no real community or social circle there, either.
I just feel alienated. Part of me is attention and praise-driven due to my past of being emotionally and physically neglected as a younger child, and realizing that the majority of people in this town hate my guts is miserable, because I do want people to like me. But most of all, I just want to be myself and be happy without being harassed or judged or objectified or anything. Nowadays it feels like that’s too much to ask for, everyone is so damn rude and mean and yeah, I guess I get it, we all have someone we don’t like, but do you really have to go that far? Not everyone is going to be just like you, look like you, like the same things as you, and feel the same way you do on things. I feel these people need to get over it and move on with their own lives instead of ruining the lives of others.
Anyways that’s the end of my rant. I probably sound like an angsty teen going through some sort of phase, and maybe I am, but I just wanted to have somewhere to get this out. Thanks for reading if you read this I guess, you can comment and give comfort or your own insight if you want but you don’t have to, I didn’t make this to get attention or anything.
2024.05.19 00:42 Boring_Head338 New and Looking for General Advice
Hello everyone, I’m a 24 year old American guy who just found this subreddit and am interested in the life style. I’m not looking to get married anytime soon, just looking for a nice foreign girl to date long term. Here are my questions,
What are the best countries in Asia to meet nice Asian women?
Are there any good online dating sites or apps to help meet these women?
I already work online and make a decent income, so moving isn’t a huge issue. Thank you for all your help.
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What are the best countries in Asia to meet nice Asian women?
Are there any good online dating sites or apps to help meet these women?
I already work online and make a decent income, so moving isn’t a huge issue. Thank you for all your help.
2024.05.19 00:38 judaspreis I feel like love is reserved for attractive men only
I’m ugly and short. That’s not me being pessimistic it’s just true. I understand it. I’m not saying I’m entitled to love or something but, it sucks that from what I see especially with people my age, romantic love is reserved only for the physically attractive men. They get all the dates, they get all the attention and validation, they are loved for just being themselves. Meanwhile I check my dating profiles every day to see the same thing: no matches, no likes. And I know why, I’m not hot enough for romantic consideration. I’ve tried to go to singles events, even one hosted by my college and the women ignore me at best and seem annoyed by me at worst. I try to find women who are also conventionally unattractive as I am, and who possibly share interests I have and still, they are only eyeballing the same men all the other women are. I’m just sad and demoralized.
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2024.05.19 00:38 Madamadragonfly I'm sorry to autistic woc for what they have had to endure
So I'm not good at this stuff, so if I cross any boundaries please let me know if I said anything wrong or crossed any boundaries. I will apologize if I do.
So I'm hispanic, but I'm light skinned or I guess white-passing; it really depends on who you ask because apparently some people would say I look white but some won't. My identity regarding my apparence has always been kind of confusing to me, but this really isn't about me rn.
I've been seeing things online where I see a lot of woc who are on the spectrum be treated terribly. I'm not ignorant to the existence of racism, I know it's still a problem that needs to be addressed globally, but what's somewhat surprising is that I also see them get hate from neurotypical/allistic pocs.
Something else is that after researching autism for awhile as a late diagnosed woman, I started to pick up better who might be on spectrum or at least neurodivergent. A lot times I tend to notice that many alternative black girls are or could be on the spectrum, not all, but I've seen it. The way I've seen people talk about alternative black girls breaks my heart because I've seen them get called "oreo" or get judged if they date outside their race. It's even worse because so many black women on the spectrum go undiagnosed at higher rate for many years.
I'm apologize if I am crossing boundaries, it's not my intention; but please let me know if I did, I just want people to know I don't mean to hurt anyone.
I grew up in a place that had a huge latin population, and even then I still felt like I was alone due to the bullying I received growing up. I can't help but think how many other girls are going through the same or worse.
Community is so important, and every time I think about how darker-skinned women and girls on the spectrum could be going through that or worse, it makes me very nervous and sad, especially if they still don't know they're on the spectrum because on top of the racism and colorism, to be an outsider in your own group of outsiders really hurts. I get really concerned the little poc girls that may be going through this right now, and how this might impact them growing up.
Please let me know your thoughts and experiences. Please let me know if I said anything wrong, I will apologize and learn from it.
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So I'm hispanic, but I'm light skinned or I guess white-passing; it really depends on who you ask because apparently some people would say I look white but some won't. My identity regarding my apparence has always been kind of confusing to me, but this really isn't about me rn.
I've been seeing things online where I see a lot of woc who are on the spectrum be treated terribly. I'm not ignorant to the existence of racism, I know it's still a problem that needs to be addressed globally, but what's somewhat surprising is that I also see them get hate from neurotypical/allistic pocs.
Something else is that after researching autism for awhile as a late diagnosed woman, I started to pick up better who might be on spectrum or at least neurodivergent. A lot times I tend to notice that many alternative black girls are or could be on the spectrum, not all, but I've seen it. The way I've seen people talk about alternative black girls breaks my heart because I've seen them get called "oreo" or get judged if they date outside their race. It's even worse because so many black women on the spectrum go undiagnosed at higher rate for many years.
I'm apologize if I am crossing boundaries, it's not my intention; but please let me know if I did, I just want people to know I don't mean to hurt anyone.
I grew up in a place that had a huge latin population, and even then I still felt like I was alone due to the bullying I received growing up. I can't help but think how many other girls are going through the same or worse.
Community is so important, and every time I think about how darker-skinned women and girls on the spectrum could be going through that or worse, it makes me very nervous and sad, especially if they still don't know they're on the spectrum because on top of the racism and colorism, to be an outsider in your own group of outsiders really hurts. I get really concerned the little poc girls that may be going through this right now, and how this might impact them growing up.
Please let me know your thoughts and experiences. Please let me know if I said anything wrong, I will apologize and learn from it.
2024.05.19 00:37 Fit_Childhood_1612 HCG not doubling 5-6 weeks
TW: loss mentioned Give it to me straight guys! I am recently dx with pcos after going to a RE due to difficulty getting pregnant. 3 days after our initial consult I found out I was pregnant without intervention. I had a previous blighted ovum 3 months ago but did not get serial betas for that one. I have had serial betas with this pregnancy and currently waiting for my first US. My dates are pretty solid as I used OPKs but I am worried about another blighted ovum given my history. My numbers are:
12DPO - 42 16DPO - 266 (36 hr doubling time) 18DPO - 742 (32 hr doubling time) 22DPO - 3561 (42 hr doubling time) 26DPO - 8184 (80 hr doubling time)
My dr gives the same “dont worry we have to wait till the scan” line that I see most drs give and I am sure that keeps most women calm but for me I’d rather just prepare myself mentally for the worst. Anyone have similar numbers? How did it go for you?
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12DPO - 42 16DPO - 266 (36 hr doubling time) 18DPO - 742 (32 hr doubling time) 22DPO - 3561 (42 hr doubling time) 26DPO - 8184 (80 hr doubling time)
My dr gives the same “dont worry we have to wait till the scan” line that I see most drs give and I am sure that keeps most women calm but for me I’d rather just prepare myself mentally for the worst. Anyone have similar numbers? How did it go for you?