https://imgur.com/a/vmGWF1p I've been single for over a year now and now that I'm mostly healed I have started to enter back into the dating scene. however, it feels like dating apps have become a dark forest and since most of my friends have either moved away or started a family, I'm having a hard time meeting people. I also travel for work Monday through Friday, which adds to the difficulty. I'm not super athletic, but l have been told I'm fairly handsome with an average build? I like to garden and cook when I have the time (boring, right?) well l'm not opposed to long-distance dating, I'm hoping to find somebody who is not too far away from me. Looks aren't everything, but I would prefer someone who isn't overweight and who is polite If you think that you and I would get along well, please send me a DM with the word "porcupine" in it!

There has not been a specific single incident which has caused me to question this, but the last straw happened a few days ago. This involved her snapping as a minor disagreement and trying to hurt herself, ending up with me, her father, and her brother to hold her down. I truly love this girl, but I go back and forth with whether it is healthy for me to stay. We have been together for 3 years and we live together. She has made many promises to work on her mental health, but it feels like she just keeps relapsing (which I understand, but it is very hard on me as well, not to sound selfish).
There are many things in our relationship that is caused by her anxiety. She has separation anxiety, making it where she does not want me to be away from her for more than 2 nights. She also doesn't like me being out with my friends too long. With trips, whether it be with me friends or family, it can't be more than once every 3 months. If I am gone longer than that, she cuts contact with me and says that she would be better off without this stress in her life. There is always an argument when it comes to me going anywhere without her.
She has barely met any of my friends. We always have a date set, then she feels depressed the day of, then we have to cancel. She didn't even come to my birthday party at our own apartment because she was sacred of a couple of my friends being there (about 4). Now she has made progress and has met one of them, and she says she really wants to meet more, but it never happens.
She can get very defensive and angry about anything changing or not going her way. Usually it ends up with me being ignored and yelled at. Then her coming around the next day, apologizing and trying to find a compromise. This cycle makes me not want to press my opinion on things unless it is very important to me.
Please don't get me wrong, she is my best friend. She makes me laugh more than anyone in the world. We have very similar goals in life, morals, and are very compatible, especially with me being ace. She is super sweet, but her anxiety and depression really gets in the way, usually almost everyday. I don't know if this is enough to warrant giving up on such an amazing person.
TL;DR! My girlfriend has anxiety, social anxiety, depression, and ocd. Do I stick it out until her mental health gets better, or is it time to move on?
I would love some other peoples' opinions. I can add any context needed if anyone wants to know more~
Edit: I am using a burner account

I was evicted by my own parents on Christmas Eve via texting war with my step day during a 10hr shift as a barber. I was informed my youngest daughter (6) wouldn’t be returning from her fathers house for Christmas that same day. My oldest daughter (16) and I were casted out of our family’s traditional Christmas festivities and we spent Christmas Eve and Day alone. The day after she went to “lunch” with my ex mother in law and never came home. I was devastated which caused a pain flare up (fybromiaga/myofacial pain syndrome/stage 4 endometriosis, degenerative disc disease). I couldn’t get out of bed. I had to call off. I was fired on January 3rd. On January 6th I was pulled over and arrested because the passenger of my vehicle had put 3GS of crack in an old prescription bottle. January 8th my phone was turned off. On the 10th my car broke down and I just got it back yesterday morning.
In a span of two weeks, I lost my kids, my family, my house, my job, my phone, my car, and was arrested.
I’ve never been in trouble in my life. Always had full custody of all three of my children. and for the most part without any involvement of their fathers outside of the weekends. But I lost all of it. My ex had manipulated my family in believing complete lies about me. Smear campaigns surround me every day. Every morning I wake up and realize where I am, and how far away from my children I am and I lose it. I cry every time I open my eyes. It’s been months. And every day it hurts more. Because I can’t afford a lawyer, there’s a very good chance I won’t get them back.
My son keeps me here most days. But if I lose custody of my youngest, like I did my oldest, there’s no way I can continue living feeling this much pain, physically and emotionally single day. Thank you for allowing me to vent.

Hi guys, I have a friend that I have known since kindergarten, we even went to school together and were really close , we lived in a small city and had contact, as we grew up we went to collage in a same, bigger city and haven't really had any contact with her for last 2 years other than texting. 2 months ago I was talking to mutual friends and asked how she was doing and they said she was ok and mentioned how we weren't never in a relationship, I was surprised because I thought there wasn't anything there and they said that she always liked me for a long time and I did not notice because I never looked at her that way, I went home, sat down and realized that I have only looked at her as a good childhood friend, then remembered or better said realized all the flirting, her asking who I was crushing/dating, the late night texts, I realized everything, I have always been in a relationship since I was like 16, I'm single now though, so last 2 months I can't get her out of my head, I spend hours thinking about her everyday, I even have dreams about her, I don't know what I feel about this situation, about myself, but every time the thought of her comes to mind my heart starts racing, I thought about asking her out but I want to make sure I feel the right way so I don't end up hurting her and myself, I know for sure I feel something towards her but It's possible that my inner child could be influencing my feelings, especially considering my long history with my friend dating back to kindergarten. Childhood friendships can have a deep emotional impact and can sometimes resurface in unexpected ways as we grow older, what should I do?

I am EXHAUSTED after my shift today, so here are a few of the gems of the day:
Boomer dude walks in and comes straight through the store to the pharmacy, says "HEY" loudly at me until I look up at him (I was counting), and then says, "Are there any heating pads in the heating pad aisle?" I just told him "I don't know? Go look?" Then I went back to counting while he stared daggers at the side of my head for a while, then he let out a HUGE sigh and went to look in the aisle himself.
Boomer lady on the phone talks over my greeting demanding her opioid. I start confirm her info and she interrupts me to demand my name (which she'd already have heard if she hadn't talked over me in the first place). I eventually get around to explaining that the doctor put a "do not fill before" date on it for tomorrow and she interrupts me yet again to say she KNOWS THAT but she wants to be SURE it'll be filled FIRST THING. I have to tell her like 3 times that I'll leave tomorrow's pharmacist a note because she's talking over me so much. I finally print out her info and give it to the pharmacist, and he gives me a puzzled look and holds up another copy of the same printout. She'd already called once to make the same demands.
Yet another Boomer lady is walking up to the gate one minute after we're supposed to close for lunch. Our pharmacist is checking out some other lady who spent the whole 15 minutes before we closed chatting to her friend right in front of the pharmacy and is only now getting around to picking up. I tell the new woman, "I'm sorry we're closed" as I clock out. She demands we serve her anyway, and I tell her she can come back in half an hour. She says "Well why can't you help me now?" Because I only get 30 minutes to eat, and I've already clocked out. She leans over her cart and YELLS at me, "YOU KNOW WHAT YOU NEED? YOU NEED TO LEARN SOME BETTER CUSTOMER SERVICE!"
Had a toddler start to come into the pharmacy through the swing gate and I stepped in front of her and shooed her back, and her mom glared at me and said "It's fine if she goes through, she'll come out again when I call her." Uh... no?
Millennial guy who has had major attitude issues with me before called to demand his Trulicity because he needs it, and when I explained that there's unfortunately a shortage and no one within at least 20 miles has any, he started in with the kind of language that makes me feel perfectly justified in hanging up the phone. He was actually the second person today to hold me personally responsible for a backorder, so that's fun.
I also couldn't help but note today that every SINGLE person who asked me "How are you?" then immediately started in with telling me what they wanted without giving me a chance to answer. I don't care if you ask, but thanks for making it clear that you see me as an automaton!
Anyway, I had a super fun day full of absolutely exhausting humans. Hope your shifts went better!

3 years ago I met a man on tinder who I crushed on. We first met at target, went to the movies & then hung out at my friends place for a couple hours or so.
(I was out of state to hangout with a friend planning to stay for a couple weeks or so)
But yeah I invited him after the movies with my friends permission of course because I was so happy around him. He was cute, funny & kind. We hit it off really nicely.
He lived around 40-50 minutes away from my friends but still made the time to hangout with me frequently. But he was so sweet, always getting me Starbucks. Making me lunch from scratch. Really affectionate & complimentary.
When I went back to my actual home we missed each other a lot, face timed all the time.
I’m from Maine, my friend & him lived in Colorado. He was living with his brother at the time but they got in a fight where he was kicked out making him homeless.
I had pity for him & since I missed him + had enough money to go back I did. We hung out frequently, almost daily. But one day my friend had to travel to a different state to visit her close friend because she was having a lot of struggle in her life. & apparently that meant I had to leave her house? I didn’t have enough money yet to actually travel back to my hometown (I work remote so I was going to make money to eventually travel back).
She asked where I’d stay which obviously implies she doesn’t want me to stay at her house or maybe her partner didn’t.
Either way that meant I was homeless with my boyfriend (we eventually made it official after a 3-4 weeks).
At this point we’ve been dating for maybe 2 or 3 months and it was June. We found an apartment to rent & naturally moved in together. One of the most exciting times of my life. After settling we went to a gym together & he convinced me to get a membership together. We worked out now and then together which was fun!
One day on the weekend he told me he was gonna work out with a friend. I thought it was off he didn’t invite me so asked if he planned on just them hanging out or could I come? He told me he was planning just them but I could come. Which I thought was super fucking weird but told myself I’m maybe being paranoid.
Anyway, he was a great partner but as time progressed I started to pick up narcissistic tendencies.
He’d randomly say the most outta pocket things such as “ I feel bad for you that your parents don’t seem to care about you, they never call” to which I explained my parents know I call them frequently & don’t need to. But he would say this frequently almost like he wanted a rise outta me bc wtf that’s hurtful? And when I mention it being hurtful tell me I’m taking things the wrong way or being really sensitive which only got me more pissed which made him pissed.
Or back handed compliment as “you’re so lucky you get to sit all day for your job”.
He was also a bit controlling. He worked night shifts and if he called me to where I didn’t answer his first call he would scream at me such as “ why didn’t you answer??? You trying to ignore me?? That’s actually so rude and messed up. What are you doing?” He reeked insecurity.
And when I even mentioned visiting my family again he seemed upset at the idea of me going to visit them without him.
Anyway, this is a couple examples out of 100. I’m trying not to make this a novel.
Fast foward 3 months we were drinking a ton with the neighbors. We drank out in the back of our shared yard together. He asked me to charge his phone. He always asked me to do things for him like that which is fine whatever. But I thought to look thru his phone. Had a lucky guess with his passcode found out it was his PIN number lol.
Anyway, looked through his snap only to find that he cheated on me 2-4 times with his friend. The one he worked out with and he did during his night shifts. Broke my heart. I didn’t mention anything to him. The next day I told his sister that I’m moving back to my home town because of this while he was at work. She told him. He called me. Begging me not to go. Insisting he’ll go to therapy, he’ll talk to my parents, that he’s sorry. That it’s a dumb decision.
I asked him why to which he gave reasonings but he lied somewhat about the story. Cheating part didn’t hurt me, planning on not telling me hurt me. I caved in because his tears seemed to be real and he was in a state of severe depression for like a month. In any instance it’s hard for me not to have empathy for someone who’s sad. But I was too.
I found out he was subscribed to some of people too & watched porn!! Which honestly porn I wouldn’t care about if in the beginning of our relationship he didn’t tell me it was a deal breaker because it affected his dad horribly. And as for or paying to see someone nude in a relationship? Gross.
Fast foward a few months we’re still together but the relationship doesn’t feel the same as it used to. When we started dating he was the ONLY person I found attractive. But after finding out he did why should my eyes only be on him if he’s had eyes on others? Anyway I missed my family so much and friends. I couldn’t stand being with only him. I let him know that I need to visit my family, still he was scared of me being alone without him. So I told him well I’m either visiting them or you’re moving with me there. Couple months pass by he caved in on moving there with me. Which is obviously a huge decision to make leaving his good job and family. Surely he loves me and I convinced myself everything would be okay.
I don’t believe he’s ever cheated again. He’s grown so much mentally & emotionally even if he has bipolar.
Does a much better job at managing & discussing his emotions & thoughts. We’ve lived in Maine together for around 2 years. Which means it’s almost been 2 years 4 months since I found out he cheated on me at one point.
Every dang day I have anxiety about it. I just want to heal, man. I can’t stop thinking about missed opportunities of dates I could’ve had. People I didn’t give a chance to. And I can’t stop thinking what if he does it again when we’re 30? I wasted a decade of my life for nothing?
But thing is all his belongings are in my state. We’re not rich, moving is hard. He doesn’t want to ever let me go either. Plus I’ve grown attachment to his dogs which feel like mine at this point😭. One of his dogs comes to me every night as soon as I lay down just to cuddle me. Plus my partner provides so much for me financially and we have such a fun time being in each others presence. Not only does he work around 10-12 hours a day 5 days a week. He also usually cooks dinners for me as well.
I’m not asking for tips on how to leave. There’s no escape for me at this point. I’m depressed without him, I’m depressed with him. Some days are good but for the most part I live life in constant anxiety of being hurt again. I just want to know about others experience if they’ve dealt a similar situation. Does it get better?
I might’ve left some details out so if you have any questions just ask.

Hello everyone. My boyfriend (M23) and I (F20) have been together for over 2 years. He is my first serious boyfriend, and he treats me so well. He has so many great qualities, and he is my exact type. We moved in together one year ago, and it’s been going well. We live in a very expensive area, which we are able to afford due to his well-paying job. He got me out of a bad situation with my family, where I wasn’t being fed properly and was emotionally abused daily. I have a better relationship with my parents now that I am out of that house, but I still need distance from them. My dad and I used to be extremely close, but now we rarely talk to one another. My mom and I talk weekly, so I’m glad I have that with her. My boyfriend has an amazing family. They are the family that I wish I was a part of while growing up. His parents are so sweet and supportive of us. His mom and I are like best friends, and I love talking to her. His dad is so helpful and always gives me good life advice.
My boyfriend introduced his uncle to me when we were one year into dating. I will call him Ned. I remember the first time I met Ned. I came over to say hello, and we made eye contact, and my heart was racing. I thought he was one of the most handsome men I had ever seen in my life. He and my boyfriend look so much alike. Ned has such a confident and attractive demeanor. He has a high-paying job and loves traveling and doing adventurous things. He has always been friendly to me, greeting me with hugs. He calls me cute and was making lots of eye contact the first time we met. Flash forward to a year later, and my boyfriend and I decided to move in together, and the area we live in is about an hour's drive away from Ned and his family. So when my boyfriend and I drove down with all our belongings in our cars, Ned offered for us to spend the weekend at his house and for me to meet his family. They live in a mansion and are very well off.
Ned has a pretty and cool wife, whom I believe is in her 30s, who is hardworking and has an amazing business. He also has two beautiful children under the age of ten that I adore. I hit it off with his family; they immediately reminded me of the family I want to have one day. The entire weekend, his uncle was making eye contact with me, calling me beautiful and cute. Flash forward to six months later. Ned visits my boyfriend and I at our place, where my boyfriend and I smoke with him and just relax and banter with one another. Ned kept going off about how much my boyfriend’s family loves me and how beautiful I am. Ned also brought up how big his thing is compared to my boyfriend, to which I gasped and looked over at my boyfriend, who was dying of laughter.
Flash forward to six months later. My boyfriend's entire family comes over to Ned’s house to have a boat day. Everyone was there except Ned's wife, and the entire time he was touching me by the shoulder and hand again, giving me alcohol, making lots of eye contact, and I even caught him looking at me, to which he looked away. He always comes up to me to start a conversation and get to know me better. He hands me glasses filled to the brim with wine and touches my hand so caressingly. I don’t think much of it, and while this happens, The morning of the boat ride, we get on the boat, and Ned introduces me to friends of his and once again gives me alcohol. My boyfriend is very close with his uncle, and they get along so well. Ned made a joke about how many fingers it takes to get inside a woman, to which my boyfriend just laughed.
I’m playing with his kids the entire time, and Ned comments that I would be an amazing mom and that I am so good with them. He took lots of pictures of me and the kids, as well as pictures of me when I wasn't looking. We get back to the house to eat, and I catch him constantly staring at me once again. My boyfriend and I then leave. A week later, Ned texted my boyfriend to go have sex with me so that he could use our streaming service to watch a game since we were using it, and this caught me by surprise. We went to visit Ned and his family a week later to watch a game, and Ned’s wife was there. Whenever she is around, Ned is not flirtatious with me at all and tries to cut conversations short. He still makes lots of eye contact with me, asks for my age, and gives me plenty of alcohol.
I think Ned’s wife notices him staring at me and laughing with me, to which she gives me dirty looks and makes rude remarks. I made an inside joke with my boyfriend, asking if he recognized some songs that were playing "in the streets," to which Ned's wife replied, saying I was trying to act "ghetto" and giving me dirty looks, which made me pause and go silent the rest of the night. We finally leave, and my boyfriend tells me that Ned was married three times and that his wife is not affectionate towards him and the kids that much, and she can’t relax. Ever since then, I can’t stop thinking about Ned. He is on my mind 24/7. He is twice my age, and I dream about him constantly and have sexual thoughts about him. I would never hurt my boyfriend and his family, whom I adore. But I can’t get Ned out of my head. What do I do?
TL;DR: I love my boyfriend, but I cannot stop thinking about his uncle, and I have a massive crush on him. What do I do?

My boyfriend D.C. copied my condo’s keys without my knowledge.
Last September when I went back to another country to see my grandma (for last time, she passed away because of cancer two months later), DC told me he’s returning to Oakland for work (he rent a space in a living room there) but in reality he had my keys and stayed in my place. He does not have a place in Vancouver. When he comes to Vancouver, it’s to visit me only so he stays with me. But I never gave him my keys!
I only just found out about this. He lied on Reddit saying that he is a married man. He also did not mention it’s not his home. He asked strangers, including couples, to come to my apartment to play with him.
As a single lady who’s constantly feeling insecure, after dating DC for almost four years and been engaged for a while, I saw him as my family and best friend I can count on. I always appreciated him crossing the border a few times a month to come to Canada to see me.
He has never told me anything about his sexy kinks. He clearly knows I would not be part of any of those given my personality so he did not even mention it whatsoever. When I asked him if he has a special sex kink needs to be fulfilled, he denied, sayings it’s just a dark side of him.
I’ve been going to therapy with this and also dealing with trauma of losing my grandma who raised me. You might judge me but I’m still struggling to move on from this pathological liar.
Financially I’m doing much better than him so there was some pressure on him about starting a family. Therefore he also guilt-trip me for what he did.
Let me know your thoughts or advice. #cheaters #liar #fallapart
TLDR Boyfriend of last four years copied my keys without my consent and used my home for threesome, hook-ups and whatever while I’m struggling with my sick family

Students segregate themselves. Am I the only one who noticed that? Am I segregating myself from others?
Especially in the US, I noticed that a lot (not saying all!) Black, White, Asian, students tend to stay with the same race / nationality. I’ve rarely seen mixed friend groups. I feel very lonely in college.
As an immigrant who lived in 5 different countries, I don’t label myself…yeah I might have my Eastern European mindset/manners/ because I was born there speaking Russian (native speaker) and was raised by USSR parents, but I’m still far away from being a “stereotypical Eastern European” lol I don’t know if you get it!
M22. I Don’t smoke, I don’t drink, and I don’t go clubbing. Already cuts me off from a lot of college students!
I’ve NEVER had the chance to become friends with White Americans…I don’t know how…you guys (White Americans) have your own social circle and your rich parents paying your college tuition won’t let any outsiders in to your family…it’s the truth. Don’t pretend that foreigners with completely different lifestyle, culture, food, etc. will truly get along with Americans. Which is a pity. Your parents seemed to have accomplished the American dream while we only just got here haha. Every time that I talk to Americans…i feel like I’m being mocked. Military / retired veteran parents made fun of my dad working 2+ jobs, how we never use AC in summer, how we never go out to eat, how we don’t consume all the same media…I don’t know…
I knew many Asians (Vietnamese girls)…I guess the language barrier ruined everything because they seemed like the only motivated, funny, and caring friends. I even invited a girl for a date (at least I thought it was a date) but she is moving to another state and she was interested in another guy. I’m still genuinely interested in their culture, family and country but…god knows what they are going through with their parents forcing them to study in the US.
My Russian speaking acquaintances don’t hang out with me. They go clubbing, drinking, doing other stupid things… they actually used me for their English homework and I was helping them because I was desperate to make friends (I know it’s dumb lol). I took them out to eat on campus for my OWN money and I even invited them to my house…they never invited me anywhere. Never.
It’s still a weird and hard topic for me…

He's a nice person. Dedicated sa trabaho nya, as I could see in his fb posts. Mahal nya pamilya nya, iniispoil nya in fact when he do got a chance, and He just tend to be so ma-effort to help any students. He's around to his mid-twenties and I'm on my early twenties. Prof sya sa campus namin pero never ko syang naging prof like in my subjects since different dept sya. I met him only as an adviser of an org. Di ko alam if I only admire and respect him too much since hanga talaga ako sakanya, but It's just cute when he still in effort to help me as a president ng org namin kahit hindi naman na sya yung adviser. Anything that he does were just genuine. Ganon din kasi sya sa lahat. Please, he also tends to give gifts to anyone's birthday that he is close with. Ang cute lang din na most of his students also adores him like letters, messages even coming from both parents and students on how well-generous and good at his job in teaching. And in my generation, minsan ka nalang makakakita ng ganon. It still wonders me why kung bakit padin sya single, lol. If He were in my age, I would definitely grab the chance.

Hey guys, gonna ask a woman from class out this Thurs/Friday, and I need to know how to actually go through with it. How do they want to be approached? Just walk up and bluntly say “hey, do you want to go on a date this weekend?” Or do I go about it more smoothly? We’ve talked quite a bit, are at least alright friends and it’s her with most conversation going smoothly, and I made sure she’s single. I didn’t have anything crazy planned, just the bowling alley for a few hours on Saturday since there isn’t really jack shit in my town, but all I’m really worried about is not fucking up asking her out since presentation is such a big deal, any advice?

For some context, my current bf and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. We dates my sophomore year and his first junior year (he repeated his junior year twice to do sports) for about 3 months. We go to the same church and reconnected at church camp 2 years after our first breakup. This time had been a lot different and a lot better because I thought we had both matured. “Thought” is the key word. Since we’ve been together for almost 2 years I have met most of his family and have been around them a lot. The way they act and treat him makes me worried about our future together. For one, he’s a HUGE mommas boy (no hate to mommas boys out there). His mom is one of those “my sons is my best friend” moms and I can’t stand her sometimes. She babies him and his older brother to act like they do no wrong in her eyes. Because of this, he expects me to treat him this way. I have told him on multiple occasions that that will not work for me. One instance I can think of was last summer. He was having really bad allergy problems and his normal allergy meds weren’t working. He was complaining about how bad they were and I told him he probably needed a stronger dose and should go to the doctor. He asked if I would make the appointment for him because “he didn’t know where to go”. I told him that there is a local clinic he could go to and I gave him their number so he could make the appointment. That next week, he went to the doctor and made his mother go with him. Mind you HE IS 20 YEARS OLD. Another thing about his family is how his father acts. My bf and I both graduated high school last year and while in school we both did the usual college visits. During these visits both of his parents would come along and ask all the questions for him. His dad would only let him talk to the School of Education for each college because he says “I’m paying for your education so I decide what degree you get”. My bf does not want to be a teacher but he has to because if he does not get an education degree he won’t be able to go to college. I hate they way his dad treats him, but his dads personality is coming out in him and that worries me about our future together. My bf is constantly talking about “when we get married” and “when we have kids” and I have told him that those thoughts haven’t crossed my mind because we are far too young to be thinking about those sort of things. I think heads been pushing those ideas because we have a few friends of our who are getting married this year or are having kids. There are other things that he does that I cannot see myself being able to live with everyday but I won’t get into those if no one wants to know. I’ve have serious thoughts about breaking up with him because he causes me so much stress but I don’t want to break up with him right before we go away to college. We are both going to different colleges that are about 2 hours away from each other. He is constantly worrying about us breaking up or that I will “find someone better”. Everytime I see him he brings this up and it makes me feel like he doesn’t trust me and he sort of guilt trips me into feeling bad for not wanting to go to the same college as him (I have many reasons for not wanting to go to the college he chose). If anyone could please give me advice regarding this situation, that would be much appreciated. I’m not sure what to do anymore.

I am a man who has a bisexual past. I am attracted to women, but am very shy & nervous around them. I dated mostly men on & off for around a decade as a result.
I recently have begun the process of reconciling my past & my faith as a Christian. I grew up in a conservative evangelical/fundamentalist household. My parents never approved of my lifestyle & almost disowned me at one point. Dealing with that was pretty traumatic.
I have quit dating men & am now exclusively dating women. Almost every woman I have dated in the past six months has been a Conservative Christian.
It hasn’t really gone well….. I feel like damaged goods for my past. I deeply regret losing my virginity to a man. I am deathly afraid of admitting this to a woman. I figure any Godly woman would run like a bat out of Hell the moment I tell them.
My parents think I should take this secret to the grave. I don’t feel good withholding this info though. I want a girlfriend/wife I can be totally honest with. And I’m not sure it is psychologically healthy to hide that for the rest of my life.
I deeply desire sexual purity. But due to my past, it is impossible to be sexually pure when I have already been tainted. I feel like I have a scarlet letter. How should I handle this?

My girlfriend has been snapping other guys photos of her in a bikini, not rejecting their compliments, and saying she's single to them. They're randoms on snapchat and she used that as an excuse. I found out this morning and immediately left her house. I asked her if I wasn't giving her enough attention and she said I was. Everything else has been perfect and I have no complaints about anything but that. I write her poems, hand make gifts and buy her jewelry, whatever she wants I get her. I really love her but I was warned by my buddy about her cheating habit before we started dating (small town). She hasn't "cheated" yet but I fear it may lead into it. I really want to stay but I'm pretty numb to it now. We've been dating 3 months. I skipped grade 12 and am currently studying an aviation program so she keeps saying that I could do better when I confront her about it. I see her every weekend but not throughout the week. What should I do?

I started writing this last month after realizing the kind of time I was wasting and how I was basically living weekend to weekend. I had similar experience while I was working during college. At the time I just left the work I was doing and focused on learning something else but now its different. Stakes are higher and markets are volatile and I am not in college anymore.

Agenda

1. Detailed plan for next 2 years
2. Broader plan for 5 years

Date: 20 April 2024

Goals

• What do I want by 20 April 2026?
  • Net worth of INR 1.5Cr
  • Be away from parents' home
  • Social life
  • Have a relationship (casual/serious anything, preferably casual)
  • Be physically fit (if possible mentally too but not a priority)
  • Read regularly and regular journaling
  • Buy a car too (Only when I can pay for it fully cash)
• What do I want by 20 April 2029?
  • All of the above
  • Net worth of INR 10Cr
  • Not working for money
  • 3B house in good society

Current

• I live in parents' house (not out of need but convenience, saves a lot of time)
• I have a remote coding job which takes 8-9 hrs everyday
• I make INR 30L/year before tax, about INR 24L after tax
• Most likely the income will double in next 3 months
• I am 22.8 years old
• Rest of my time goes in social media scrolling (I intend to cut this) and started reading books recently.

How

• Keep going on current path
  • Pros
    • Likely to help the 2 year goal
    • A fish in hand is worth more than the thousands in the lake
  • Cons
    • Likely to help the 2 year goal
    • A fish in hand is worth more than the thousands in the lake
• Higher education in AI/ML
  • Pros
    • Looks sustainable for at least next 10 years.
    • Pretty much guaranteed success considering market trends
  • Cons
    • Declining student interest (applicant numbers decreasing)
    • Possible recession in the next 3 years
    • Going in negative net worth (Student debt)
• Higher education in MBA (Business/Finance)
  • Pros
    • Relatively old profession (GMAT is conducted since 1950s), so looks sustainable.
    • Something new and challenging for me.
  • Cons
    • Would current AI trend take over this profession? Can't say
    • Declining number of applicants
    • Going in negative net worth (Student debt)
• Pack bags and roam around the country to find answers (Possible due to remote job)
  • Pros
    • Sounds good
  • Cons
    • Inconvenient

After trying to find answers by myself for sometime. I have now decided to get opinions from strangers on the internet and see what next steps should be. Please comment on which is best path according to you and why? Or If there is something else other than listed above.

Hi all. I'm 30F. Single. Been a fencesitter for probably the last 5 years or so. A lot of back and forth over what I want, what I think I want, what I've been taught to want, what the men I've dated wanted, etc.
I guess I just wanted to share some recent thoughts about the true- day to day logistics and realities of what I envision and how it seems truly SO challenging to me.
I do have struggles with mental health issues. I have anxiety and can have depressive episodes as well. I think that might contribute to my next point...
Life just feels so full. Even just for myself. Working full-time. Trying to balance alone time, social time, cooking, cleaning, etc.
It often feels like a hamster wheel. I truly don't know if I would be able to handle the daily operational components to motherhood.
I do think managing things with a partner would ideally make it more appealing. But even so...
I have a lot of other thoughts/feelings about this topic.
But today in particular. I actually stayed home from social plans after having an exhausting week. Not sure why I thought it, but literally thought- "how do people do this with kids?"
Thanks for listening (reading). What are your thoughts on this piece of the puzzle?

I'm 18f and I'm the eldest daughter and middle child, probably a nasty mix but regardless.
I have 6 siblings but only really interact with 4 of them because we live together along with our parents 0
every since I was younger I've always felt like I was a second priority.
Since I was the child that wasn't trouble and obedient I guess I just was given as much attention as my siblings.
My dad isn't to consistent with being around us but me more, he acted like he was annoyed or didn't care or he did care but didn't bother.
When I was born I guess he was happy, he and my mom and grandma named me after a chick who was allegedly murdered.
When I was 2 he sat me down infront of horror movies and by the time my younger sister Emily was born(i was 4), he was already having me watch things like snapped or talking about a case were children like me were murdered. I was practically desensitized to horror and gore by 8 years old.
My sister and other siblings occupied his attention.
Even my 2 eldest brother who aren't his occupied his attention more than I did.
As tike went on I grew distant and I went through thing I refused to mention. When my sister started dating he was protective, but when I was being stalked he simply couldn't care less, actually none of my family cared.
Apparently being the ugly child means I can't have that stuff happen to me, that's what I got from there lack of concern.
Graduation came and he came and I was happy but quickly left and hung out with my sister after while I went out and ate with my mom and her now ex, and then went home, teared up and went to sleep, because while I was home and sad that I wasn't the center of attention at my graduation my dad and sister were hanging out, my brothers were gone and my mom also left.
As time continued to go on I just gave up on life, lacked hygiene, any substance of importance and just wasted away. He didn't notice and all my mom did was complain I have no life.
When ever he got home and wanted to go somewhere he would let my sister tag along but I was a second though, even when I was next to her, he would only ask her, and they would go.
When my mom confronted this behavior my dad was shocked and stuttered by I could tell he was annoyed.
The behavior continued.
When ever I was around my dad he would do the bare minimum to pay attention to me and more so pay attention to my sister.
Meanwhile on the other hand my sister would give me attitude, probably because she didn't wanna lose dad's attention but regardless, it wasn't a excuse to treat me like that.
Today something happened, I was decluttering, My dad force me to come out Into the kitchen while I was already stress and mad over decluttering things, to strip corn, he already knew I had been trying to get rid and clean. then while helping my sister with the corn I said "instead of lathering thw corn in butter, just put a glob on and roll it up in the tin foil, because wee gonna put more on anyway"
We started to debate on it which let to her says she was right and was gonna be the bigger person since I wanted to argue like a brat.
I told her "no your not the bigger person and I'm not angry I'm just say this way is more efficient, and quick, and this is the way I did it with dad last time"
She keep say she was the bigger person and better than me, I couldn't even respond and then my dad came into the kitchen, I asked him about it and he said the same thing i did to my sister about the way I mention being the quicker way and ther being no wrong way nessacarily.
But my sister continued to spout that she was right and alway gonna be better than me. I turned to him and looked him dead in the eye while my sister was still spouting bs about being better and bigger person. And said "she makes me wanna hang my self" I said it so it would end the now, because I say it jokingly when I start to get annoyance wanna move topics. And then from behind me I hear her say " I hope you do"
And I kinda froze, me and my dad were still making eye contact, I knew he saw my eyes start to water, but he ignored it, walked away and started to cut potatoes. I stayed calm, trying not to cry in front of them, I was also in shock, like my body just froze and I started to tear up more, so I calmly spoke as I held in my tears and ask if I could go to my room. He Asked me if I want to I said yes and got up but he ask for a hug so I walk up to him, hugged him and then went to my room.
I got into my room turn off my lights and rolled up into a blanket and cried, I cried so hard I couldn't breathe
The worst part is that my thought process was "I hope my dad comes to comfort me like he dose my sister"
But already knew that wouldn't happen.
He just stay in the kitchen and continues what he was doing with my sister.
So I'm laying on my bed angry and crying, because of them and crying harder because I'm thinking of the most grotesque ways die, and even more angry because I lost the keys To my safe which my knife was in.
I never was able to get the knife out of my safe, I fell asleep crying and then when I woke up I just layed there, thinking "I don't understand why dad didn't come to comfort me, but I already knew he wouldnt"
When I got up for dinner I decide I wasn't going to speak, so I tired to eat and thye left soon after.
And so while eating i kept thinking about the situation and I spat up for back on to my plate. I couldn't eat. So I threw away the food away and left back to my room and now I'm here.
I haven't spoken a word to my sister in 5 hours and haven't spoken a word to my dad either.
The situation dosnt feel real, I cant believe she would say for me to do it over corn.
Maybe It's a bad joke to make when I wanna change topic, but that coldness and anger in her voice.
It's surreal, I feel fuzzy and hungry, I still haven't eaten. And have a headache.
My body feels restless and I feel tired.
Urge for death has left me now and I've only every wanted to die passively, but regardless.
I thank my cats for playing with those keys and losing them, because my head wasn't in the right state.
It is now but I'm still recovering, I'm gonna go to bed, sleep it off. Maybe things will be back to normal.
Even now, I can help but feel remorse for my sister, our mom excuses her behavior as being a Teenager and out mom might wanna move out of our childhood home, meanwhile my dad is still acting like it's fine. She feels like our parents coddle her, and I feel bad, more than I should considering what's she's said and how she's treated me.
I don't know what to do.

Nakakagago yung rason ah! Ayaw na kilalanin kasi pangit daw siya kesho di ka level in terms of social standing. Bakit daw ako magdadala ng ganyan sa pamilya. Pinapahiya ko daw ang pamilya. Hindi daw ako marunong pumili?! What the actual f*ck?! Maiintindihan ko pa if yung reasons are character-wise or may family issues na di kaaya-aya pero napaka superficial ng rason! Syempre masakit! I’ve dated guys who treated me like shit but approve sa “standards” nila and ayoko na ng ganon. They refuse to see the potentials i see in this person and it pains me. Ayoko naman na pagdaanan niya to. No one deserves to be treated like this. Sa lahat ng mga taong dumaan sa buhay ko this is the very person na ayokong masaktan sa ganitong rason. Di ko na alam talaga.

J is a jobber. Or is she?
J wins (not neccesarily kills): Billions of humans (off screen) Assisted kill on human Thousands of drones N, virus (it wasn't really a fight, but it can count) V, semi MD (as a WD) 1 drone (ep 1, pre-fight) 3 confirmed kills drones (as eldritch) Dozens of drones (as eldritch)
Losses: Uzi (almost won) The couple, eldritch (almost won, again) Cyn (if you count that as a fight)
V Wins: Billions of humans 1 human Thousands of drones Doll's parents, and 3 drones. ALMOST killed red sentinel. Shot Doll (if you count that as a fight)
Losses: Ep 1 Ep 3, literally defeated by doll in a single strike, in less than a minute. Ep 4, Uzi. Ep 5, J. Ep 6, EMP blast Ep 6, Sentinels
Oh, damn, it seems V has lost MORE than J, and barely surpassed her in kills. This means that either: The J hate clock must be changed to have atleast one V hate hour, Or Removed entirely Or Accept J ain't that bad, keep your hate to yourself.
Yeah, i'm not a J simp, but it is clear V is inferior to J.

My boyfriend D.C. copied my condo’s keys without my knowledge.
Last September when I went back to another country to see my grandma (for last time, she passed away because of cancer two months later), DC told me he’s returning to Oakland for work (he rent a space in a living room there) but in reality he had my keys and stayed in my place. He does not have a place in Vancouver. When he comes to Vancouver, it’s to visit me only so he stays with me. But I never gave him my keys!
I only just found out about this. He lied on Reddit saying that he is a married man. He also did not mention it’s not his home. He asked strangers, including couples (he wants to be third), to come to my apartment to play with him. He posted so much on Reddit’s related community to a point that he got two Reddit accounts banned.
As a single lady who’s constantly feeling insecure, after dating DC for almost four years and been engaged for a while, I saw him as my family and best friend I can count on. I always appreciated him crossing the border a few times a month to come to Canada to see me.
He has never told me anything about his sexy kinks. He clearly knows I would not be part of any of those given my personality so he did not even mention it whatsoever. When I asked him if he has a special sex kink needs to be fulfilled, he denied, sayings it’s just a dark side of him.
I’ve been going to therapy with this and also dealing with trauma of losing my grandma who raised me. You might judge me but I’m still struggling to move on from this pathological liar.
Financially I’m doing much better than him so there was some pressure on him about starting a family. Therefore he also guilt-trip me for what he did.
Let me know your thoughts or advice. #cheaters #liar #fallapart
TLDR Boyfriend copied my keys without my consent and used my home for threesome, hook-ups and whatever while I’m struggling with my sick family