Things to do during the day on yure birthday

I'm 28, 5'10, 307lbs. For the past month I've been fasting those 3 days a week, for 4 weeks and I've lost nothing. The 2 weekdays I eat, I'm VERY careful about calories and even make sure I get most of them from protein. Weekends I am much more laxed but the thing is, before I started this, I've been at this weight for almost a year. During this fasting regimen I've been eating the same amount on weekends that I've always been, not more. But I also used to eat a lot the rest of the days of the week as well. I feel I should have lost at LEAST 10lbs. Having 0 calories 3 days a week is the hardest thing I've done but I kept telling myself, it would pay off. Now finding out it did nothing was devastating. I honestly don't know what to do anymore.

I was not looking for love and then I met my ex.
She swooped in during my dad just getting in remission from cancer.
Previously prior to my BPD ex I had been in some bad situations in relationships.
One night she called me crying hysterically and said that she had been physically attacked by her roommate who I later found out this was her husband way later on in the relationship.
At four months of knowing her I asked her to move in with me. We agreed on 200 in rent. She never paid a single dime to me.
Said she was depressed, I waited gave her time and she took several trips to yoga retreats. She would come home be happy. I encouraged her if she loved yoga to do it. She failed doing coursework due to not showing up. I found out later this was not her first time failing. She failed once before when she was with her husband.
Then I found out later that two months into our relationship she divorced him. She said she loved me and bought me a ring. We were engaged at one point.
Then one day I asked her for money for the rent etc. She came home packed up her things and left to go back to her ex husband.
I was bawling and didn’t understand what the hell was happening. It’s been 5 months and I feel lost. I could relate to someone so much and then she’s gone.

Over two hundred years after The War of Arcane Sundering had destroyed the greatest kingdoms of Arches, anyone who is found with the ability to weave magic is taken and trained under the watchful eye of The Mage’s Circle. Sources that survive the training with their minds in tact are assigned to one of the five noble houses to serve as court mages. One of these sources, taken when she was little, has escaped The Circle with the help of an unknown entity. Through dreams she has seen visions of a past’s past. A man, the first one to weave magic and change his reality. But with only blurred glimpses into another’s past, will she be able to find what she seeks before The Circle’s Magehunters find her? Will she be able to free herself from their endless watch?
After twenty years of tacking and hunting for the Ironthorn Syndicate, Ezura has started to forget his past life. Growing up as a half-elf in an elven clan, Ezura did not have the luxury of time to learn the skills of hunting and tracking before he reached adulthood. He began his training earlier than any other child in the clan and despite the little time he had compared to others, he became one of their most skilled Eladan, or ranger in common language. After an incident involving a knight from a nearby kingdom, the ranger became a criminal, exiled from his clan and hunted by the kingdom. Joining the Ironthorns was the only way he could live without constantly running from soldiers and bounty hunters. But years of hunting for the syndicate have worn on the half-elf. He wants out, but after burning into the family, the only way to leave is to bleed out. After finding an old book during one of his hunts however, he thinks that its contents may be the key to finding his way out of a life of crime. If he could find someone who could decipher the diagrams and glyphs that fill the pages, he could change the past and stay in his clan. But who would be able to comprehend such things?
Hi there! I’m Keith, a 25 year old in CST. If you read through all that, you might be interested in rebooting an old roleplay that I have been itching to write again. I’m looking for a semi-lit to literate partner over the age of 20 to write as a sorceress on the run. If you would like some information on the characterization of this sorceress from the prior story, I would be more than willing to provide some info. If not, I’d be really excited to see your completely new take on this character. I usually write anywhere from two to three paragraphs in my responses and would like my partner to do about the same, giving some leeway for shorter responses during back and forth dialogue. I do work full time and have a baby so I may not always respond right away but I try to write a response two days after my partner posts or less. Of course I would communicate with you if that should change. I’ve found that Discord has been the best platform to keep the story together so I prefer to use that.
If you are interested in restarting this journey with me, I would love to hear from you! If you could send a small snippet of any past writing you’ve done, that would be much appreciated. I look forward to seeing how the stories of these two characters end.

My neighbors have lived next to me for about five years. For the most part we have been on pretty good terms. They are heavy smokers and often smoke marijuana and cigarettes. I like to keep a few windows or screen doors open when I’m home and often the smell gets in when they smoke. I get really bad headaches from the smell so I try to close them as soon as I catch a whiff. By then it is usually too late and the smell is in my house. I have previously asked them to just shoot me a text when they are lighting it up. They smoke quite often and it’s multiple people so they have different schedules. All I asked was for them to send a quick text before doing it. I don’t have to respond, you don’t have to do anything else. They didn’t do this for the longest time. I would remind them and explain I have really bad migraines because of it. I take pills for it and do all that I can to combat it from my side all that I ask is that they do the bare minimum. Only recently after years of asking have they started to do this and I have thanked them and said how much it helps. This isn’t the problem, I just thought it was important to add to show their mentality when asking for simple considerations.
For the last few years my backyard has been getting remodeled. For a while it has been a bunch of dirt and whatnot. Recently had time to pay more attention to it and finished the remodel. The same neighbors have four big dogs and they use their backyard as a dumping ground for fecal matter. Emphasis on four really big dogs who leave four times the amount of feces and at a larger size. Also the wind blows from their house to ours. As I previously mentioned, I haven’t used the backyard recently due to remodeling so haven’t been back there as much. I have left some of the windows and whatnot open but never have smelled it to the point of it being an issue. Since it is newly refurbished, I’m trying to use my backyard more but the stench is unbearable. It’s hot and is left sitting out there for weeks at a time. I texted them again and explained the situation. I’m not looking to start something up again but I have remodeled and will be using the backyard more. I’m not throwing any loud ragers, just small garden parties. I even told them that you don’t have to keep it squeaky clean but if I am throwing a party a certain day can I text you ahead of time so you have time to remove it before the party? We agreed. First few times it worked. I texted and they removed. I don’t like having to tell them to clean up their own dog poop but I understand compromises must be made. However the last year or so they have become worse and worse with maintaining their end of the deal. Sometimes they don’t text back till the day after the party, they don’t remove it, or have passive aggressive remarks. I don’t throw many parties and they aren’t even always outside. I’d say once a month maybe, so that is only twelve times a year they have to remove it. It has gotten to the point where they haven’t cleaned it up. I’ll set up for outside but the smell is so unbearable my guests end up going back inside. I spent a lot of money and put a lot of hard work into this remodel and would like to use my own backyard. It is my daughter’s birthday this week. I texted them same thing as usual. “Hey I’m having a small party for Lucy and a few of her friends in two days, just wanted to let you know so you have time to clean up the dog stuff, thank you!” A day before the party I got a really passive aggressive reply (more rude than usual) saying, “I can’t drop everything I’m doing every second you want throw a party, I won’t bend to your whim anymore, no wonder your old neighbors left they probably hated you, please stop these threats and harassing me and my husband” I was shocked. We have always been cordial enough and I’m very understanding if something is going on in their personal life, if there was an emergency or they are out of town, etc. I responded back asking them if they were gonna remove it. No response and night before the party now, they still haven’t removed it. I have been patient and understanding for years, this week I’m filing an official complaint with police and their landlord. It is apparently illegal in our city to leave any pet feces on public or private property, it’s a serious health and house code violation. Is there anything I should know or do before filing a complaint. I will not be warning them or giving them any heads up. I have given them plenty of time and leeway but they take advantage of it. I won’t be doing anything petty like egging or TPing so don’t try to suggest that. Thanks to anyone who reads all of this.

My neighbors have lived next to me for about five years. For the most part we have been on pretty good terms. They are heavy smokers and often smoke marijuana and cigarettes. I like to keep a few windows or screen doors open when I’m home and often the smell gets in when they smoke. I get really bad headaches from the smell so I try to close them as soon as I catch a whiff. By then it is usually too late and the smell is in my house. I have previously asked them to just shoot me a text when they are lighting it up. They smoke quite often and it’s multiple people so they have different schedules. All I asked was for them to send a quick text before doing it. I don’t have to respond, you don’t have to do anything else. They didn’t do this for the longest time. I would remind them and explain I have really bad migraines because of it. I take pills for it and do all that I can to combat it from my side all that I ask is that they do the bare minimum. Only recently after years of asking have they started to do this and I have thanked them and said how much it helps. This isn’t the problem, I just thought it was important to add to show their mentality when asking for simple considerations.
For the last few years my backyard has been getting remodeled. For a while it has been a bunch of dirt and whatnot. Recently had time to pay more attention to it and finished the remodel. The same neighbors have four big dogs and they use their backyard as a dumping ground for fecal matter. Emphasis on four really big dogs who leave four times the amount of feces and at a larger size. Also the wind blows from their house to ours. As I previously mentioned, I haven’t used the backyard recently due to remodeling so haven’t been back there as much. I have left some of the windows and whatnot open but never have smelled it to the point of it being an issue. Since it is newly refurbished, I’m trying to use my backyard more but the stench is unbearable. It’s hot and is left sitting out there for weeks at a time. I texted them again and explained the situation. I’m not looking to start something up again but I have remodeled and will be using the backyard more. I’m not throwing any loud ragers, just small garden parties. I even told them that you don’t have to keep it squeaky clean but if I am throwing a party a certain day can I text you ahead of time so you have time to remove it before the party? We agreed. First few times it worked. I texted and they removed. I don’t like having to tell them to clean up their own dog poop but I understand compromises must be made. However the last year or so they have become worse and worse with maintaining their end of the deal. Sometimes they don’t text back till the day after the party, they don’t remove it, or have passive aggressive remarks. I don’t throw many parties and they aren’t even always outside. I’d say once a month maybe, so that is only twelve times a year they have to remove it. It has gotten to the point where they haven’t cleaned it up. I’ll set up for outside but the smell is so unbearable my guests end up going back inside. I spent a lot of money and put a lot of hard work into this remodel and would like to use my own backyard. It is my daughter’s birthday this week. I texted them same thing as usual. “Hey I’m having a small party for Lucy and a few of her friends in two days, just wanted to let you know so you have time to clean up the dog stuff, thank you!” A day before the party I got a really passive aggressive reply (more rude than usual) saying, “I can’t drop everything I’m doing every second you want throw a party, I won’t bend to your whim anymore, no wonder your old neighbors left they probably hated you, please stop these threats and harassing me and my husband” I was shocked. We have always been cordial enough and I’m very understanding if something is going on in their personal life, if there was an emergency or they are out of town, etc. I responded back asking them if they were gonna remove it. No response and night before the party now, they still haven’t removed it. I have been patient and understanding for years, this week I’m filing an official complaint with police and their landlord. It is apparently illegal in our city to leave any pet feces on public or private property, it’s a serious health and house code violation. Is there anything I should know or do before filing a complaint. I will not be warning them or giving them any heads up. I have given them plenty of time and leeway but they take advantage of it. I won’t be doing anything petty like egging or TPing so don’t try to suggest that. Thanks to anyone who reads all of this.

I just finished Oathbringer and am fully invested in figuring out all of the intricate details of this series that has quickly become my new obsession. I’ve loved diving into the lore and seeing how our characters have been handling growing through their serious brokenness. Just wanted to post a lot of my thoughts, ideas, and questions here. Please let me know if any of these can be answered with information through OB. Otherwise, I’m sure most of this is RAFO and I’ll see as I jump right into Dawnshard and RoW!
Radiance

• Will Kaladin even say more of the Windrunner Ideals? There is something weird going on with the Radiants and why they decided to break their oaths at the Recreance and I don’t think we have the full story yet. Perhaps we don’t need our main characters to finish all of the Ideals? Not sure.
• I’m thinking that the 4th Windrunner Ideal might be something along the lines of “I accept that I can not protect everyone” and Kal must learn to live with the fact that sometimes he will fail and it will be very hard for him.
• What is our count on number of Ideals sworn by Shallan? Shallan’s are, of course, the truths that she tells to Pattern and those include the murders of each of her parents as we found in WoR. But what more could she say? There is still a lot of mystery with her family and their ties to the Ghostbloods, especially the mother and Helaran.
• Let’s get Shallan soulcasting more! She’s been way out of practice on that end.
• What about Dalinar’s Ideals? Dalinar becoming Unity seemed to be the second of his Ideals as the Stormfather accepted his words during the Battle for Thaylen City. I’m interested to see more of his development as a Radiant. It seems that the Bondsmiths are particularly important and I want to know more about each of the three of them and what their specific roles are. Will we see the other two appear as the series goes on?
• I’m glad Dalinar learns to read and write, it’s about time we give up some of those old-fashioned Vorin ideas. I was kinda hoping his Bondsmith powers would let him learn immediately in the same way he learns other languages by touching someone who speaks it, but oh well.
• I do not think we’ve seen much of the Surges of Cohesion and Tension (Stoneward territory) and I’d love to learn more about what they are, how they work, how different Radiants manifest powers through them. The Ars Arcanum descriptions of them are vague and mysterious. Dalinar can gain the power of Tension through being a Bondsmith, but I’m not sure if we’ve seen that explicitly yet?
• Just how powerful was Dalinar’s Unity stand? Odium retreated immediately after the conjunction of the three realms. Was Odium’s claim of (paraphrase) “I though we killed you” referring to Honor, or perhaps something different? Is this one of Dalinar’s powers now, i.e., will he be able to regenerate Stormlight at his will? It seems so since he reloaded Kaladin before he flew off to recover Skar, Drehy, and co., but it seemed to be quite taxing on him.
• Man I just want to know all about the different powers that Surgebinders carry. There are 10 surges total, and if each Order of the KR can access 2, then there are 10!/(8!2!) = 45 unique combinations of two surges… too bad there are only 10 orders instead of 45 to match all combinations :( Might have been an undertaking for Brandon to create all of these orders.
• It’s been hinted that upper-level Ideals must be sworn for Radiants to get Shardplate? Maybe we’ll see that happen in RoW.
• Of course Malata is siding with some antagonists. Fits the trope that fire/destruction powers = evil. Bummer. Maybe someone else will come up who can use this power for good.
• Renarin’s bond is interesting to me. His spren is either corrupted or simply one of the Voidspren, but he still seems to maintain good intentions as a character. I’m interested to see what happens with him. Maybe not all Voidspren have to side with Odium/the Fused. He is also mentioned (secretly to Odium) in the Diagram, so he’ll obviously play an important role.
• Similarly, I’m interested in Venli’s role. Seems like she recognizes that things are off with the Voidspren and Odium. Is her spren Timbre a lightspren? Willshaper Venli? Her ties to Odium, the Listeners, the Fused, etc. will be interesting after having said the First Ideal. Especially with the Voidspren that is in her gemheart.
• Jasnah clearly is very powerful (as shown at the Battle for Thaylen City) and it was an interesting choice to make her queen. I’d have figured she would want to devote her time to her scholarly work rather than dealing in politics, but we’ll see how it goes I guess. Might be hard to find time to mentor Shallan on Soulcasting too.
• Man we gotta find a way for Lift to either take in Stormlight in the normal way or to just get her a huge duffel bag full of food all the time, especially during battles.

Gods, Heralds, all things of power:

• What are the different “levels” of power that each of the gods possess? Honor has obviously been killed, but I get the sense that he might still be able to “come back” through DalinaStormfather? I don’t know. These gods can be killed I guess, so not quite true God-gods, just some supremely powerful beings.
• What are the motivations of these different gods (Odium, Cultivation, pre-death Honor, others)? It’s hard to get a reading on why Odium wants to be so involved with the Singers’/Listeners’ return instead of just existing as a god somewhere. I know he’s trapped somehow, hence the barter with Dalinar, but like why does he cause so much mischief in the first place? Just his nature I guess?
• Wit has got to be up here with this crew of gods, no?
• Who is Rayse? We hear about him through the letters exchanged with Wit in the epigraphs, but still so mysterious. Again, what are these higher-beings’ motivations? Perhaps his role is clearer by reading some of BS’s other books prior to the SA?
• I do believe that Adonalsium is the true OG God, and he somehow split into “Shards” that might be these other gods known as Honor, Odium, Cultivation, etc., but that is surmised through some reading online. Not sure exactly where that information has come out and what I need to read for better background on this. How did the Shattering occur? Why did the Shards gain sentience? Why do they have different personalities and motivations?
• This Voidlight is mysterious still. How is it different in nature to normal Stormlight? Can Knights Radiant take it in the same way? Can the Fused take in regular Stormlight? I don’t think it’s been explicitly stated, but this must be what was in the sphere that Gavilar gave the Szeth on the night of the assassination. Also is that sphere the same thing Navani hinted at when Dalinar showed her the Nergaoul-infused King’s Drop?
• I’m interested to find out why are Honorspren looked down upon in Shadesmar at the moment.
• Szeth’s blade Nightblood is very different — talks to him, needs to be sheathed instead of vanishing, has a very skewed sense of time, drains color. People on Reddit have recalled this blade from Warbreaker, which I have not read yet, and thus already know about it, Vivenna/Azure, and Zahel, among others.
• I am hoping that the Heralds are able to make somewhat of a recovery from their insanity and we can see them in power. Too bad Jezrien has been killed. I was looking forward to his return in particular. Nale is… coming around? We got a few glimpses of Ash in Oathbringer, and I realized she is the same character as the woman destroying paintings in the WoK interlude. Taln is so noble… was not even mad about holding the gates for 4.5 thousand years, just happy to have given humans the time to develop. Taravangian hinted that Dova in Kharbranth is Battar. Seems like Ishar will come into play given all his mentions in Oathbringer. Haven’t heard much (or don’t remember) much of the others (Kalak, Pailiah, Vedel, and Chanarach), but hopefully they show themselves soon!
• Ok, so the secret came out that the humans are the Voidbringers and came from another planet that they destroyed and caused a lot of problems here on Roshar. The timeline for this is confusing to me. If the humans are the invasive species, then why were the Heralds created in the first place? It’s my understanding that the Heralds (or all of the ones we’ve seen so far) are human. The old story says (or implies) that the Heralds were created to bring an end to the Desolations. So does that mean that the humans invaded, then Honor gave a handful of them additional powers (Surges) to help exterminate the Singers and the other Rosharan inhabitants? And then, of course, the formation of the Knights Radiant. When did they come about? Did the Heralds fight for a few hundreds/thousands of years before the KR were formed or were they around earlier? I’m missing the motivations of the gods here… why would Honor create these powerful beings to help invade a new planet? Not very honorable if you ask me. What kinds of powers did the early Listeners have that required the use of Surgebinding to defeat? How do the Voidspren and Fused play into this? Are they native Roshar spren that are just angry at being taken over by humans with their bonds to other higher spren? Something is fishy with the relationship between the Listeners and the Voidspren — they banished them at risk of being enslaved for thousands of years. Most of the Listeners are rightfully angry at the humans for millennia of enslavement, but very few actually want to kill the humans. Rather, they seem content to just cohabit Roshar. I am hoping for further clarification in RoW.
• The Unmade are so fascinating to me. They are described as being of Odium, but do not necessarily want to remain tied to him, some of them having minds of their own, fueled by the specific Passions relevant to them. Interesting how these powerful spren will continue to influence Roshar. Also being made, then unmade?? What’s that all about?
• Cultivation is being foreshadowed a lot and I am wondering what her influence will be in the coming books. She had the interaction with Dalinar in his flashback, but they talk about her so much more than just referring to this one instance. The Nightwatcher’s powers (with the boons/curses) are still so interesting to me too.
• Have we seen Odium’s analog to the NightwatcheStormfather? I’m assuming that if Cultivation and Honor have these more-powerful spren, then so will he. Maybe you could consider the Unmade to satisfy this role?

Secret Organizations:

• Ghostbloods — I feel like we’ll get a lot of info. on these guys soon. We know somewhat little about them. Members include Mraize and Iyatil, both mysterious, and members of House Davar. They are good at finding Honorblades and Heralds. Lots and lots of secrets. They’re gonna keep on manipulating Shallan it seems… hopefully she can maintain an upper edge.
• The Diagram — I am inclined to think that the Diagram may be right, but I am hoping that it’s flawed. Interesting that there were parts of the Diagram that even Odium couldn’t see (Renarin’s name). Seems they have good intentions, but are ultimately perilous to our protagonists through their means to save Roshar and, thus, are “bad guys”. I seems to me that Taravangian just wants what’s best for Roshar, and it’s too bad his one day of genius has painted all of our main characters as roadblocks/liabilities/etc. Always so sneaky, Taravangian, but also very interesting. I hope he has another day of brilliance, I loved reading the day on Urithiru where he was quite intelligent (still not the same as the Diagram day, of course).
• Sons of Honor — my least favorite of the secrete organizations tbh. Glad Amaram is dead after being infused by the Unmade (can’t remember which one. Yelig-Nar maybe?). Amaram seemed to have met with Odium prior to the battle for Thaylen City though… is that consistent with the SoH or did he break off from the group to do this? Other members of SoH that we know of so far?

Bridge Four:

• The connection between squires and radiants is still kinda vague to me. What are the requirements for these squires to become full Radiants, if at all?
• I think Rock may be my favorite B4 member, so earnest and kind, doesn’t want to hurt anyone. And a good cook. I’d like to know more about his past, his family, really all about the Horneaters. I could tell right away that he’d be pretty distraught over having to take the Amaram kill shot.
• Love Skar and Drehy’s connection with Adolin.
• Teft has gotta figure out his firemoss shit
• How can you not love the Lopen?

Other mysteries and thoughts:

• Aimia — what happened here? What caused its destruction? It’s hinted in Mythica that one of the Unmade, the mysterious Dai-Gonarthis, may have caused the destruction of this country. There are still secrets lying in Akinah as suggested by the Oathbringer interludes that I’d love to discover more about.
• What of the Aimian people? Reading online hints that there are two types, iirc. The only things I remember are of Axies the collector and the Sleepless that Lift encounters in Edgedancer. I remember being thoroughly spooked by him, hordelings crawling around all the time. Perhaps as intended, every time there is mention of cremlings in the main SA series, I think it’s one of the Sleepless keeping an eye on things (Taln’s kidnapping at the end of WoR, e.g.).
• Zahel has a lot to yet reveal in these books. I feel like he’s pretty dang powerful and should have a bigger role in all of this.
• The country of Natanan is somewhat interesting right now too. Still surviving as a city-state over so close to the Origin. How are they doing? I want more on them too.
• There’s some sketchy stuff going on at the Origin too. We’ve got information about that story (from Wit’s story in WoK if I remember correctly) that people may live there and have their own kingdom and whatnot. This place gets hinted at from time to time. Was the Oathbringer interlude about the lighthouse taking place here?
• There’s something going on in the Horneater Peaks. There is a Perpendicularity there, but I feel that can’t be all.
• What’s the deal with the Greatshells? They seem important and… wise? Perhaps some relation to the Chasmfiends (unless they’re classified as Greatshells too? I’m mostly thinking of those that live in/near the Reshi Isles).
• So much of the Cognitive realm/Shadesmar still needs to be explored and understood from our perspective.
• Will the assassin hired by Jasnah on the night of Gavilar’s assassination come into play again? Can’t remember her name rn.
• Speaking of that day… why were the Heralds (Nale and Ash? Any more?) at the party?
• Who is Restares and why did Gavilar think he may have been involved with his murder? Is there some deeper involvement by House Sadeas in the assassination of Gavilar as well?
• We still don’t know the full details of Gavilar’s plan. What was he up to? The Listeners killed him for the desire to bring back their gods (which has proved disastrous), but what else was he getting into? He had clear ties to the Sons of Honor I think.
• Will Adolin be able to revive Maya and perhaps gain some Radiant powers?? I’m rooting for it to happen.
• Man, what’s going on over in the West? Iri and Rira just decided to submit to the Voidspren/Listeners immediately? And Shinovar is going to have an interesting story with it being the first-landing of humans and the storage space for most of the Honorblades for thousands of years.
• Wit found a Pattern at the end of part 5 and mentioned some of the First Ideal (interesting…). He’s always going to be a mystery to me, I fear. But also easily one of the, if not the, best character in the series.

For the last few years my backyard has been getting remodeled. For a while it has been a bunch of dirt and whatnot. Recently had time to pay more attention to it and finished the remodel. The same neighbors have four big dogs and they use their backyard as a dumping ground for fecal matter. I haven’t used the backyard recently due to remodeling so haven’t been back there as much. I have left some of the windows and whatnot open but never have smelled it to the point of it being an issue. Since it is newly refurbished, I’m trying to use my backyard more but the stench is unbearable. I texted them again and explained the situation. I’m not looking to start something up again but I have remodeled and will be using the backyard more. I’m not throwing any loud ragers, just small garden parties. I even told them that you don’t have to keep it squeaky clean but if I am throwing a party a certain day can I text you ahead of time so you have time to remove it before the party? We agreed. I don’t like having to tell them to clean up their own dog poop but I understand compromises must be made. However the last year or so they have become worse and worse with maintaining their end of the deal. Sometimes they don’t text back till the day after the party, they don’t remove it, or have passive aggressive remarks. I don’t throw many parties and they aren’t even always outside. I’d say once a month maybe, so that is only twelve times a year they have to remove it. It has gotten to the point where they haven’t cleaned it up. I’ll set up for outside but the smell is so unbearable my guests end up going back inside. I spent a lot of money and put a lot of hard work into this remodel and would like to use my own backyard. It is my daughter’s birthday this week. I texted them same thing as usual.A day before the party I got a really passive aggressive reply saying, “I can’t drop everything I’m doing every second you want throw a party, I won’t bend to your whim anymore, no wonder your old neighbors left they probably hated you, please stop these threats and harassing me and my husband” I was shocked. We have always been cordial enough and I’m very understanding if something is going on in their personal life, if there was an emergency or they are out of town, etc. I responded back asking them if they were gonna remove it. No response and night before the party now, they still haven’t removed it. I have been patient and understanding for years, this week I’m filing an official complaint with police and their landlord. It is apparently illegal in our city to leave any pet feces on public or private property, it’s a serious health and house code violation. Is there anything I should know or do before filing a complaint. I will not be warning them or giving them any heads up. I have given them plenty of time and leeway but they take advantage of it. I won’t be doing anything petty like egging or TPing so don’t try to suggest that. Thanks to anyone who reads all of this.

Believe it or not, there was a time when people actually talked to each other—shocking, especially for the younger generation, right?
But kidding aside, there's a grain of truth in that jest. I'm a firm believer that genuine connections start with meaningful conversations. I'm on the lookout for someone who appreciates the beauty of communication as much as I do.
About Me: I'm the kind of person who finds joy in learning about people from all walks of life. Whether it's through the pages of a book, the scenes of a movie, or engaging in conversation, there's always something to discover about the human condition. I believe in making every moment count.
I've been told I have a knack for turning ordinary conversations into something a bit more exciting. If you enjoy a good laugh, playful banter, and a dash of charm, we might just hit it off.
I'm searching for someone who knows how to keep a conversation interesting. If you appreciate witty banter, love sharing your favourite cheesy jokes, and aren't shy about throwing in a compliment or two, you might be the one I'm looking for.
If you're ready to embark on a communication adventure filled with laughter, curiosity, and a hint of flirtation, send me a message. Let's see where our conversation takes us and if we can make each other's day a little brighter.
About You:
I do have a type. Currently working on my overall fitness journey during bouts of depression (somewhere between fit and dad bod?). I'm looking for a partnesub who is somewhat in shape or thin. Apparently, someone once told me that I have a thing for dark-haired women with big lips—go figure!
A bit about me: I'm pretty open, dark-skinned, 5'7, black hair, brown eyes, working in IT. Feel free to bounce ideas off me to see if there's a match. I enjoy wordplay, encouragement, and, of course, seeing you. Intellectual stimulation is crucial, and effort goes a long way. Currently learning guitar for fun (what a journey!). I'm pretty much an open book.
If any of this resonates with you, don't hesitate to reach out. Pouring yourself out there isn't easy, but to make sure you've read this far, please include your favourite drink or any books you've read lately in your message!

So a bit of background. I’m M 27 from the UK. Used to be really into the music scene back in my younger days, anything from House, Techno, Jungle, you name it, i’ll jive to it.
I’ve always heard amazing things about the scene over in Berlin and how welcoming everyone is so I’d love to get some ideas on where’s best.
I’ve tried doing a bit of research but all i’m finding is Dua Lipa concerts and Nicki Minaj, can’t lie, not really my cuppa tea.
I’ve never travelled solo before but i’m kicking on abit and getting to the stage where it’s now or never for stuff like this. Was wondering if anyone has some pointers on where is best to go and if there’s anywhere to find some like minded people beforehand. I’m good with chatting to randomers at the rave and always made mates in the smoking area but never been anywhere like that on my own before.
I’m looking at going anywhere between the 3rd of June to the 8th depending on what’s going on, wondering if these dates would work or if it’s quieter during the week? I’d suspect it’s a lot like the UK with stuff going on all throughout the week but I genuinely have no idea.
Any helpful people just drop a comment below or shoot me a DM as they’re open. Happy hunting!

*Moved this over from Barcelona forum.
Hello All,
We just got back to the US from our great trip to (mostly) Barcelona. We did spend a couple of great days in the Costa Brava in the town of Begur. That was a wonderful time too. We had a great time and were sad that our time in Spain came to a close so quickly.
When we landed at the airport we got a 3 day Hola Barcelona pass that was excellent and worth it. We took the bus, tube, and tram around the town and it’s some of the best public transport I’ve had the privilege of using.
We stayed in the Poble Sec area, and this was a lovely area, but all of Barcelona was great, as well. We ventured through El Ravel during the day even though our host told us that this might be an area to avoid. Note: Most people on here said just use common sense and be mindful, and following that advice we had a positive experience.
The people of Barcelona that we encountered in our trip were kind, friendly and patient. We spoke Spanish and English, and most people seemed to also speak English along with their native Catalonian and Spanish.
Like most other posts say, there is much to do and take in this city. They say New York is the city that never sleeps, but I was thinking that Barcelona is the city that is alive night and day.
Now, to address the one thing that many people have posted about on Reddit - the problem of pickpockets and theft. The majority of our trip was wonderful, and we did not really encounter this, and we were mindful of our belongings and employed common sense awareness.
That said, there were two things related to potential theft that stood out on our trip.
1. We rented a car to travel from Barcelona to Begur, but we planned to detour first to go see Montserrat. On our way to Montserrat a car pulled up behind us and was honking and flashing us and then drove up beside us indicating that we should stop bc something was “wrong” with the car. A younger man then proceeded to show me how the wrong thing in the back needed to be fixed and he was trying to “help”. This felt wrong bc he was too aggressive and forceful in this situation; he was brazen enough to just open our trunk without consent.
Later we read about a flat tire scam that people use to rob people sometimes. We avoided what we think might have happened by being firm and saying that we should call the police and road side assistance because we were in a dangerous situation (by being on the side of the road) he was adamant that he could fix it/ we shouldn’t call for assistance & should follow him. Once we said we were going to call for assitance he got upset and drove away. We realized right away that we had avoided a negative situation.
Lesson Learned: The rental car we got had a rental car company bumper sticker which I think makes for an easy target. We removed it and were fine after that. Here, pay attention to your gut if something doesn’t feel right then believe it.
2. On our last day, on our way back into Barcelona after returning the rental car, we took the train. As soon as we boarded, the train agent on the train yelled out loud and pointed to the people sitting behind us and identified them as known pickpockets. He warned everyone, which was helpful, and made us candidly aware of how close pickpockets can be on public transport. At the next stop two other pickpockets boarded the train. That was kind of a surreal experience.
Lesson Learned: there are pickpockets, but everyone is on the lookout, so just be mindful and aware of your surroundings.
I share these two lessons because Reddit was so helpful to us. We loved our time in Barcelona (& the Costa Brava), and we felt so welcomed by the people in Spain. Thank you for welcoming us as guests to your home.

You wake up during dinosaur age (let’s say in the middle of it) and you have Superman superpowers, you literally have all the superpowers Superman has, except one, you can’t leave earth. You can fly where you want even in the high sky, but you can’t leave earth atmosphere and earth as a planet. You also can’t fly around earth to invert time as you wish with your speed like Superman does in the first movie with Cristopher Reeve.
You are immortal, it’s almost impossible to die and you don’t age, so you are not affected by time passing.
You don’t need to eat, to rest, and you can’t get ill in any situation, all you need is the sun, like Superman.
One day, you see an old wizard coming to you, and he asks you this question
“Do you want to come back to your time and to your normal life and losing all your superpowers becoming normal again, or you wish to stay in this time?”
“If you decide to stay in this time, you will keep your superpowers, you will be immortal and you won’t age, you will se all history passing, you will see the first men, all kind of societies passing and all the greatest events of history with your own eyes, and one day, you could still see the life you left behind, when you will arrive again at the time you left to arrive here.”
What would you do ? Remember one thing, if you decide to stay in the dinosaur age, you will have to be completely alone for at least some milions of years before the first men would arrive on earth, so this could really change your mind about staying, it would mean being completely alone for a lot of time.

I 20F met my friend 19F in Elementary school and have been friends for several years(around nine/ten). When we met we were wonderful friends and always got along with one another. It was just the two of us and we had constant sleepovers along with small playdates. We were considered the weird girls in all of our classes for our quirky behaviors.
When middle school came, we didn't have lunch or classes together, but we continued to keep in contact and consistently had sleepovers despite the lack of in person interactions at school. She met a guy during the first year of middle school, making friends with him. He's a great guy and I don't blame him for anything. He's chill and wouldn't hurt a fly. Upon the second year of middle school, would I get to have lunch with her(due to a transfer).
This would be when I finally got to meet her new friend and we all got along fairly well. I would never complain about the friendship. We all loved talking and messing around with each other. We never had any fights, no one ever felt left out, or anything like that. I had to fight off jerks from bothering them, but between all of us...it was civil.
A few years later, after highschool when we all are getting jobs and making a living for ourselves that's when things started to feel more dull and forced. I was suspicious that those two would get in a relationship and leave me out. To my fear, I got a text the very day I was talking to my older brother about my suspensions. I learned that they started to date through text.
After they got together, she wouldn't go anywhere without him and sleepovers began to get more complicated. Everytime they both came over for our sleepovers I would have a hard time trying to please both of them. Normally I would ask about what they'd like to do or what they wanted to talk about just to make sure we are all included. There were a few times that he and I would have great conversations together since we share a passion for art. She doesn’t do art and doesn't join the conversations because of this. In turn she started to feel left out during these conversations. I do my best to try and include her in the conversations even if it isn't something she's into.
There have been several times we all are playing multiplayer games with one another just for her to get off and go onto her phone. I notice this majority of the time and ask her if everything's okay. Normally she shrugs it off and tells me that she's bored. This is her feeling left out and I only know this since her boyfriend told me after the sleepover. I have a hard time reading people and with me asking is my way of trying to understand another person.
Even after making sure my friends throughout the years know I'm aromantic, I was shocked when he sent me a strange question. After one of the sleepovers, I mostly talked with him since she shut herself out and wasn't responding to me. Figuring she wanted to be left alone, I wasn't going to poke the bear and left her to her phone activities. Because I decided to do this, he asked me through text if I was jealous and had a crush on him? This question took me back, since I've stressed I'm unable to romantically get attached to people. I told him no and that I tried talking to her but she didn't want to talk to me in return. This is why I talked to him more than her.
We all made plans to go out together to the next city to visit a store we all wanted to go to. Upon rolling around, I get a text saying they already went without me and got a few things(attached with a picture). When I got this text, it all hit me and I felt as if our friendship was bound to crash into flames. They ditched out on me not even a week before and made the snarky comment 'since we already went, but we can still go.' I decided I wasn't going to go with them to the event since it was supposed to be the first time with us all. We waited six months for him to turn 18 so he could come with us just for them to go without me.

My neighbors have lived next to me for about five years. For the most part we have been on pretty good terms. They are heavy smokers and often smoke marijuana and cigarettes. I like to keep a few windows or screen doors open when I’m home and often the smell gets in when they smoke. I get really bad headaches from the smell so I try to close them as soon as I catch a whiff. By then it is usually too late and the smell is in my house. I have previously asked them to just shoot me a text when they are lighting it up. They smoke quite often and it’s multiple people so they have different schedules. All I asked was for them to send a quick text before doing it. I don’t have to respond, you don’t have to do anything else. They didn’t do this for the longest time. I would remind them and explain I have really bad migraines because of it. I take pills for it and do all that I can to combat it from my side all that I ask is that they do the bare minimum. Only recently after years of asking have they started to do this and I have thanked them and said how much it helps. This isn’t the problem, I just thought it was important to add to show their mentality when asking for simple considerations.
For the last few years my backyard has been getting remodeled. For a while it has been a bunch of dirt and whatnot. Recently had time to pay more attention to it and finished the remodel. The same neighbors have four big dogs and they use their backyard as a dumping ground for fecal matter. Emphasis on four really big dogs who leave four times the amount of feces and at a larger size. Also the wind blows from their house to ours. As I previously mentioned, I haven’t used the backyard recently due to remodeling so haven’t been back there as much. I have left some of the windows and whatnot open but never have smelled it to the point of it being an issue. Since it is newly refurbished, I’m trying to use my backyard more but the stench is unbearable. It’s hot and is left sitting out there for weeks at a time. I texted them again and explained the situation. I’m not looking to start something up again but I have remodeled and will be using the backyard more. I’m not throwing any loud ragers, just small garden parties. I even told them that you don’t have to keep it squeaky clean but if I am throwing a party a certain day can I text you ahead of time so you have time to remove it before the party? We agreed. First few times it worked. I texted and they removed. I don’t like having to tell them to clean up their own dog poop but I understand compromises must be made. However the last year or so they have become worse and worse with maintaining their end of the deal. Sometimes they don’t text back till the day after the party, they don’t remove it, or have passive aggressive remarks. I don’t throw many parties and they aren’t even always outside. I’d say once a month maybe, so that is only twelve times a year they have to remove it. It has gotten to the point where they haven’t cleaned it up. I’ll set up for outside but the smell is so unbearable my guests end up going back inside. I spent a lot of money and put a lot of hard work into this remodel and would like to use my own backyard. It is my daughter’s birthday this week. I texted them same thing as usual. “Hey I’m having a small party for Lucy and a few of her friends in two days, just wanted to let you know so you have time to clean up the dog stuff, thank you!” A day before the party I got a really passive aggressive reply (more rude than usual) saying, “I can’t drop everything I’m doing every second you want throw a party, I won’t bend to your whim anymore, no wonder your old neighbors left they probably hated you, please stop these threats and harassing me and my husband” I was shocked. We have always been cordial enough and I’m very understanding if something is going on in their personal life, if there was an emergency or they are out of town, etc. I responded back asking them if they were gonna remove it. No response and night before the party now, they still haven’t removed it. I have been patient and understanding for years, this week I’m filing an official complaint with police and their landlord. It is apparently illegal in our city to leave any pet feces on public or private property, it’s a serious health and house code violation. Is there anything I should know or do before filing a complaint. I will not be warning them or giving them any heads up. I have given them plenty of time and leeway but they take advantage of it. I won’t be doing anything petty like egging or TPing so don’t try to suggest that. Thanks to anyone who reads all of this.

Roughly a month ago after excessive alcohol consumption I realized my hangover symptoms weren't normal.. Clammy skin, cotton in the brain, heart palpitations, and dysphagia. The last two were unique and especially the dysphagia was completely new. Every second or third word if I wasn't extremely focused would come out slurred. While at work this freaked me out, a lot. I managed to get myself together in the second half of my shift and most of my symptoms went away. I suddenly had energy again and didn't feel like I was thinking through molasses.
Fast forward over the next 4-5 weeks I would experience new symptoms, typically trailing heavy drinking days. The cotton in the brain, trouble swallowing (full-blown dysphagia hasn't happened again so far), heart palpitations and general weird body and mind feelings..
I only drink on weekends, but lately I have been putting away some serious alcohol compared to past practice. I haven't been doing this consistently for years, I typically take breaks such as observing dry January. I have no doubt my recent scare involves some alcohol withdrawal, but I believe it also lead straight into an almost 48 hour long panic or anxiety attack.
Before 5 weeks ago I considered myself someone that mostly became anxious in normal and appropriate times to do so. However, I have been reaching a substantial amount of stress lately.. Things not done, new experiences on the horizon, not following through with healthier practices, etc..
Now then onto my most recent experience, Wednesday was day 3 of heavy drinking. I think I would sum up maybe 5,000-6,000ml of 8% beer on Wednesday alone. I woke up still a little intoxicated, my fitbit clocked 5-6hrs of sleep. I proceed to work where I develop some of the previous symptoms as I sober up: Clammy skin, trouble swallowing, confusion/cotton brain, heart palpitations, shortness of breath. After I make it off-shift 10 hours later I start to feel a bit better. I make it home, and I take some recently prescribed hydroxyzine. (I visited Urgent Care a week prior for help with some of these symptoms, the doctor didn't ask nor did I volunteer my drinking habits. He was however convinced I was suffering from panic or anxiety attacks.)
After taking 25mg and trying for some much needed sleep I begin to go into an episode of fear, maybe even dread. All of my previous symptoms return including some new ones: Chills, Hot Flashes, Muscle Spasms, Restless Legs, Twitching, Insomnia. I got about 1 hour of sleep Thursday Night. The worst symptoms showed up after my attempt at sleep. A rising feeling in my stomach like being on a rollercoaster that would travel up my body but stop around my chest area, sudden onset of intense fatigue or a wave of cotton-brain, and an uncontrollable feeling in my throat and jaw that I can't seem to describe.
These symptoms continued pretty consistently for 48 hours. I did not go to the hospital. I decided on the third day if they persisted I would go to the ER. So far most symptoms have tapered down to become non-existent or very minimal. I do still get a smaller rising sensation in my stomach anytime I panic, such as thinking about if I'll be able to sleep tonight, etc..
I came here to tell this story but also to ask if anyone has experienced these scarier symptoms during a panic or anxiety attack. I have stopped the sauce for now, and classic Google is telling me that my symptoms can be anything from dehydration to epilepsy.
I am brand new to panic/anxiety disorders. Apologies for the long read.

Okay maybe graphically it has but gameplay wise Star fox 64 is just the top of its class.
Straight up boot up an N64 emulator and start up Starfox and you’ll be shocked at how this game is as fun now as it was 20 goddamn years ago.
And that’s not to say other Retro games aren’t fun but usually when you play an old game you can see how the groundwork here would go on to inspire 20 years of innovation and evolution from that genre. You boot up final fantasy 7 and have a great time but you can see how an element of spectacle and graphical fidelity can really elevate a turn based RPG, you boot up metal gear solid and have a goddamn great time but you can see how the genre changed and shifted with later game to be a fun mix of stealth and action, you boot up resident evil and it has its charms but you feel the age almost immediately when you touch the tank control. And all of those experiences have their charm but you can see how later entries would improve on those foundations…. Not goddamn Starfox 64
So for those who don’t know Starfox 64 is what’s called a rail shooter, a game where you fly down down a linear track shooting all the enemies along the way to build up points and then fight a boss at the end, I would say before Starfox 64 the most recent rail shooter I played was kid Icarus uprising and that game is immaculate but Starfox just does it better.
So what makes it so special? Insane replayablity and the need to accomplish multiple objectives during each level. So in day Kid Icarus uprising your only goal In the flight levels is to kill as many enemies as possible and reach the end of the stage alive and while that’s true in Star fox they always try to mix it up, firstly on a normal playthrough you go through 7 levels. However there’s multiple planets that you can go to on each level and the way change which stage you go to is by completing hidden side objectives during the level your currently on, but the kicker is that it’s not normal just find the 7 hidden doodads and finish the level, on a few of these once you accomplish the hidden objective it completely changes the current level on, fly through all the speed booster in meteo to activate warp speed and now your flying to the other side of the map and the back half of this level is completely different.
But that’s not all, the game make sure it’s always doing something to keep you paying attention. You have 3 Wingmen with you on each stage that all provide banter to keep the pace going while each having a unique function (peppy = tutorials, Slippy = visible boss healthbars, Falco = shoots enemies or stage hazards), so every once in a while you’ll see your wingmen gettint shot at by enemies and if you don’t manage to take down those enemies they’ll have to leave for the rest of the mission and the next one for repairs so your focus is quichkly being shifted to the micro challenge.
But the other big thing you’ll be keeping track of is the score attack aspect of the game, because you see each level has a hidden kill count you need to get, and when you reach that score you’ll see a medal on the level select screen, and normally I’m not one to car about that kind of stuff but if you manage to hit that score requirement on every stage you unlock the hidden Expert difficulty, which turns the game from a chill game a kid could fumble their way through to something honestly kinda brutal if you’re not ready for it, and just having that secret difficulty was all the motivation I needed. And that’s also interesting because the best way to get points is to hit enemies with charge shots that make a small explosion on impact and award bonus points for each additional enemy caught in the blast.
So when you figure all of this out each level becomes a sort of checklist. You’re looking for incoming enemies and hazards to avoid taking damage, you’re keeping an eye out for your team members in danger when they pop up, you’re looking out for the hidden secondary objectives to change your route through the levels, and your thinking about what part of the level sends in what groups of enemies so you can plan out the best sections to hit with a charge shot or a bomb, and your doing all of that on a sort of timer as you fly through the level tension building up as your nearly at the bossfights but you still haven’t hit the score total for the medal requirement and then you hit that boss praying winning gives you enough points to push over the edge, it’s just an interesting way to introduce tension In a way that doesn’t put the player in danger.
And last thing I wanna mention is controls other rail shooters and I think even Starfox Zero seperate the aiming reticle from the character and I think that might be a mistake actually. So in Starfox the input for move and aim are the same analogue stick and what this does is means that to try and aim and shoot at certain targets and enemies you need to actually put yourself in danger to do damage and I think that adds a lot of depth to the controls that I feel was kinda lacking in Kid Icarus.
But yeah so why hasn’t Starfox aged a goddamn day? Because for some reason other rail shooters have never even attempted what Starfox did, with immaculate level design, and a game that can provide steady difficulty while also giving players options on how to tackle missions and alternative paths beyond the typical narrow paths and seemingly endless replay ability I promise you won’t find a 20 year old game that has aged this good.

Hi everyone, I decided to join this community as a way to vent and cope because I'm sure my friends are tired and honestly, even my therapist sometimes gives me misguided advice on how to deal with my dad sometimes. She's been slowly getting the picture but it's hard.
Long story short - I am 34(f) my dad is 87. He has three kids from a first marriage, who are all in their 50's with kids my age. He had two kids from a second marriage - my sister and I. I recently made the decision to move back home with him because he agreed to help me through grad school (just graduated, hurray! now...job hunting) and has even agreed to make me co-owner of the house.
He's a stubborn new england father, the house is up in the middle of the woods and everyone in the family is thankful that I'm here keeping an eye on him. As "luck" would have it, not even two years back and he did have a major minor accident. I say major because he fell from the stairs at like 2 in the morning (he does not have a good sleep schedule) and discovered after 3 days of refusing to go to the hospital, that he got a hairline fracture in his neck. I also said minor because he thankfully got away with the least possible damage, and the fracture is stable and he is mobile. It's been two months and of course, the fracture isn't healing, so they are giving him another month before deciding on surgery....
Of course this means he can't drive and just basically stays at home all the time. This is where my patience is wearing out thin. He continues to do the things that got him in trouble and overall just argues with me when I say he needs to take it easy and not, say, go for hours long walks in the woods where the trails are not defined during dawn! I legit almost called the police one day because 4 hours later, 9 pm, he was no where to be found. Until he popped up finally and scoffed at me being worried.
He's become hard of hearing which he blames me for not speaking clearly and not looking directly at him (he's lipreading) and gets angry when I do raise my voice.
There's obviously a lot going on, I feel for him, it's not easy loosing your autonomy but jesus he can be such a dick sometimes. He was rude to waitstaff because he didn't hear what the lady said. He's constantly talking down to me and is very patronizing and doubts and questions my every fucking word.
This summer is going to be rough because when I was studying, at least I was out of the house all day. Now I'm trying to help clear the house out (SO MANY BOXES! He's horded boxes of things - like newspapers - from the frickin' 60s) Thankfully he's been cooperating but very slowly. The house needs a lot of work and he also refuses to hire people and believes that once he's healed, he'll be back to doing things like finish building the porch he started 10 years ago?!
I can't wait to get a job so I can hire professionals to, say, put in a new water heater because ours has been leaking for over a year but he hasn't bothered calling anyone and refuses to give me the number to call. Ah, power struggles.
Anyways, if anyone read this, thanks. I was just on the verge of crying today because of a random-ass trivial thing that he got very obstinate about and basically insulted my intelligence =[

I (19F)met my ex ( 19M) 2 years ago and had a rocky relationship with him.I had been dealing with a very hard time in my life and he was everything I have wanted in life at that point.I was 17 who never had a proper relationship at that point,so I was intrigued.
When happy phase ended after 5 months,I started to saw the red flags.He was childhish.He would just coldly broke up with me,saying that he didn’t love me anymore and next day,he would come back crawling,saying sorry,crying.At that point,I did not know any better,so I tolareted this behaviour.
We dated for a year after this After the uni acceptance exam I was screwed up.İt meant I had to take again next year. He basically told me that he was going to university and didnt want to deal with a high school graduate while he was off to another city,saying he wanted to live a “uni life” and dumped me in cold blood again.I found out he met someone that day and gave his Instagram and that was why he dumped me.He even described this girl as “drop dead gorg,made me forget my gf lmao”in his groupchat
I was heartbroken.Crushed all over and did not want to leave my room for a whole week and crying all day. This is when my best friend(19M)comes to story.Let’s call him Edgar. He was there for me.
Edgar and I have dated back in middle school when both 14.We were kind of that silly childhood sweethearts who randomly name their imaginary child.We broke up but wanted to stay in touch,so we decided on staying friends.We quickly got comfortable and even called each other “best friend”.We never lost touch and were always close.My boyfriend knew aboout us and claimed he had no issues,said he respected our friendship and even met him on my birthday.
Edgar was there for me when my boyfriend dumped me and basically dragged me outside when I did not want to leave my room.We spent time together which helped me heal a lot but I can’t deny that he was getting more touchy than ever (without being sexual and unappropriate) and always said phrases like “if we were 14 right now”or “if we were back to middle school,what would you do?”
That being there,my ex reached out to me and quickly started trying to reconcile.He was trying nonstop and bombarding with me with all the apologies.I am an idiot for this but I once again took him back. But it only got worse from there.
He was getting better and I was starting to notice that he was more serious about our relationship,was more warm and but I had trust issues now.
We had a fight when his family didn’t want to meet me.Appearantly,his mother hadnt even met his sister’s boyfriend (40F)because she did not think marriage.I found this off since we were fresh 18 back then and barely adults and had a huge fight about it.So,I invited Edgar to my place to talk and rant to him.
Drinks were involved and we ended up sleeping together that night which was my first time.I would never try to justify my cheating but I felt like he brought me back to life that night and felt an immense connection to him.Maybe,it had been there all the time?
I couldn’t keep it and came clean about everything to my boyfriend.He was furious but decided to forgive me.
Me and Edgar never talked about that night and had a fight over some trivial matter and hadnt speak for 9 months.Meanwhile I continued to date my boyfriend but I just felt so empty and really missed Edgar.My boyfriend always knew. 9 months later;everything started to clear up.We broke up with my ex after dating almost 2 years and we even made up with Edgar
Well,we are trying to make it work.We have our problems after 5 years of being friends and suddenly getting into a relationship but it is great.I love him and he has became my everything. I quess it was just meant to be.Me and him.
We had date and I decided to post it but my ex’s bff saw and sade it to him
He was angry and started to roast me on his WP status,calling me names,posting edgy/angry musics and making his friends comment mean things to my post.
I reached out to him and told him to get over it and he got even more angry,told me I am a cheating bed toy who deserves all the bad things in life.
I just dont understand this reaction when he LİTERALLY did cheat on me too and forgave me after mine too?And even knew he knew I had never gotten over that night with Edgar
Comments are getting mean but he refuses to get over it. So yeah,this is my story.

Hello guys, so I'm sharing my story in hopes I'll find some type of answers or closure. I've been dating this guy for 10 months. I really got to know him in a deeper level ( at least I thought so). When we started dating I was still talking with other guys and so was he . On November was when we decided to just focus on our conection , since we realized we indeed enjoyed each other. On December he asked me to be his girlfriend, there was only one thing between us.. the distance. We decided to do it either way because we where in love and he would always reasure me everything would work out.
Everything was going fine , he would come to our country and I'd visit him to the country where is currently living and working. We'd see each other from month to month. Everything was going amazing, we would video call every single day, we shared the same values, interests and we where pretty much aligned about our future together. The distance was indeed really hard and sometimes I would feel disconnect during the time appart. I always shared my toughts , fears with him , and he would always give me reasurance SO I felt like I could truly relax and enjoy the process I guess, I trusted him like I've trusted in another ex-partner. We felt like we could relax and felt really confortable when we where with each other.
There where only 2 situations I can see that would lead to our break up.. the last time he came to our country I felt sad that the time we we'd share would only be with family and friends, I wanted more "us" time together. He told me that he felt pressure bc he came for a short period and doesnt know how to divide time with everyone. The 2nd situation: I couldnt come to his birthday bc I couldnt get enough days to flight there. He spent 24H partying and I was indeed very happy for him but was expecting to have 10 min to wish him happy birthday properly. I tried 3 times during , and lost the excitment along the way. He called me around 7pm whe he came back home , and even tho I wanted to be really happy I couldn't fake it ... so I told him that I was sad with the situation. The next day we talked about everything and I started to feel a bit insecure and shared that with him. He told me I was almost in his arms again and everything would be okay.
The next weeknd I flew to him. I did something I shouldn´t have done. Whent through his instagram and found really innapropriate conversations with 2 girls on Novemeber. We weren't bf and gf by that time. I told him about what I saw and during that conversation he broke up with me... I dind't see that coming at all.
He told me that he have been thinking about it lately and was waiting to see how that weeknd would go to make a decision... the thing IS.. I DIND'T EVEN KNEW OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS BEING PUT IN QUESTION, he never shared with me his toughts. He gave me different reasons but all seems like excuses... he said that the time appart was rough, that even though we would see each other from month to month that 1 week together only its not enought. He also told me that even if we move in together its not faire for the person who moves , and that as I told him before we would probably have each other there , that his feelings for me where decreasing and our " videocalls" started to lose magic . But he never even shared this with me before, that was something we could have worked on.
After we broke up I still stayed there for one day , he told me that he really enjoyed that moment with me , but for me it was just a normal " us" day so im confused, we messaged after, and he told me that he has been feeling like in burn out that he needs space and time , I know his work was stressfull lately. I know he likes me and like to be with me in person, im just confused. I dont know if is there even a possibility of us coming back one day ... I feel betrayed like I trusted 100% on him and that was took from me in a snap of fingers.

So I work at this school daycare. And work in a room with four 1 year Olds. And we also have another teacher. Let me just tell you, there is this one kid. He is a little demon I tell you. The second his mom drops him off he's already causing so much chaos. The 3 other kids are calm until he shows up and then they are all misbehaving. They don't listen to us at all as soon as this kid is here. This kid will have dozens of toys scattered on the floor, but he is more interested in kicking the other kids on the head, pushing them as hard as he can into a shelf, climbing on top of them, hitting them, stealing their toy when he already has one, tugging on the curtains, trying to press the alarm door, opening closets or cubbies and processing to throw everything out, ALWAYS throwing his food and water even after we get him another one and he starts crying that it's on the floor, fighting you to change his diaper, fooling around during nap time and waking up the others by jumping on them or removing their blankets, trying to pull an outlet, ripping our work papers that we need to turn in, etc etc etc..... These other kids are nothing like him, but AS SOON AS HE IS IN THE ROOM...ALL THESE KIDS START ACTING LIKE HIM😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 me and my coworker tried to figure out why he is so aggressive. We've come to find out that his mother let's him watch wrestling and aggressive sports. And we told his mom how aggressive he is and she didn't believe us. He also gets hurt way too often at home and at the daycare cause they let him do anything at home and they don't watch him and at the daycare he is doing things he isn't suppose to do and chooses not to listen to us. And the worse thing is, he knows what he is doing. Cause the second you catch him doing something bad, he starts smiling at you and does it. He loves getting a reaction. I even told my mom about this kid and she gave me a small bottle of holy water to bring to work for me when I get too stressed. But this kid really push my buttons one day and I threw like a splash of holy water on his head and he started laughing and wanted more.
At this point me and my coworker don't know what to do anymore. This kid stresses me out, I can't get him to listen to me or be calm. What advice would you give? Please help🙏

DISCLAIMER: This is definitely a long read & I’ll be surprised but hopefully blessed if anyone comments
For years, the husband has traveled extensively for his line of work. Now he owns his own business (& has to travel even more often to stay afloat). Wife is home-bound b/c of children, land & livestock responsibilities.
He & his wife are typically both hopeless romantics & two peas in a pod who rarely butt heads; but he suddenly tells you he’s deeply put-out that she won’t send him nude pics nor vids “anymore”. You’ve long known for a fact he’s a rare one who isn’t tempted to look at porn (unique aspect of his otherwise “colourful” testimony), so this isn’t a potential “deterrent” situation. He just really digs his wife who he doesn’t often have time to be intimate with.
Wife says she never wanted to send nudes. In fact, he originally understood & accepted her firm position “for years”. Over time, however, he emotionally & scripturally pressured her to the point she believed the Christian, wifely thing must be to lay aside her own desires & comfort zone & go the second mile & beyond - even though it pained her & “went against every grain of [her] being” (which he was well-aware of).
Husband was thrilled but began to insist on more & when she wouldn’t oblige, he claimed he felt unloved, disrespected, & undervalued because “I sacrifice everything to provide for her & this is the one & only thing I need & ask of her. One thing!”
Before long, one of wife’s nagging fears was realized: Husband’s phone was “lost”; worse, yet, at a church they were visiting for the first time. For days, they could remotely see someone was “active” in some of their apps in which the footage was saved.
When what turned out to be a thief was discovered, he lied about how he found the phone in his car; he then gave it to the church secretary, who gave it to the pastor who returned it to the husband. The phone was on & frequently active throughout this time.
The wife - who also had a history of having been raped & it videotaped during her teens - was completely mortified. The husband tried to calm her nerves by acting borderline amused. He also suggested she get past her feelings, sort of laugh it off in her breezy way, & go back to this church they’d enjoyed so much. He even went so far as to stress that she was “supposed to be 100% freed & healed by Jesus from any negative ‘associations’ about her former sexual assaults, so why would it suddenly be affecting her if she’s set free like she claims she was?”
He is currently sulky & cold towards her & still says “i love her more than life & slave my life away & I enjoy that she enjoys the fruits of my labor even though I hardly can, but she won’t love & appreciate me enough to do this one, simple thing for me”; & she says “I literally feel sick & alienated, violated & that he doesn’t love me enough to care how I went out of my way to sacrifice my sense of security & dignity & my personal desires - out of sacrificial love - to please him & send the pics & vids more than a few times & it ‘wasn’t enough’… now, all this happens & he still insists!”
On a last note: She tells him to keep enjoying those; he says “that’s just like telling me I should be satisfied to have a few photos of her face from yrs ago & i’m not supposed to want more!”
So, anyone still reading? What say you guys? How to respond to these two?

GENERAL INFORMATION.
Name: Hector MacCarthy
Aliases: Det. MacCarthy Hector
Species: Mythical
Age: 37
Birthdate: October 12th
Gendepronouns: Male he/him
Sexuality: implied homosexual (no cannon sexuality)
Occupation: Detective
Alignment: Chaotic Good
Height: typically 5,5 but can change it.
Build: typically skinny big boned, but can change.
Skin Tone: black beneath fur
Hair: very dark crimson, acting like fur.
Eyes: Red&purple sort of Cheshire cat like eyes w/black pupils.
Identifying Marks: Slightly brighter fringes on fur
Appearance: Strangely shaped and typically fills the room before you know him, but when you walk up to him and say hi, his vibe completely flips. Like some sort of magical filter. A long prehensile tail with the slightly lighter fur at the end. Wide yellow toothed grin (he brushes his teeth daily) Brown flowy coat and brown top hat that’s slightly crooked. He doesn’t need to wear clothes.
Personality: Goofy and eccentric. Very touchy and chatty but will lay off if you ask him.
Likes: Caleb(he needs a therapist), Talking to people, doing any sort of acrobatics or physical activities, randomly scarring people.
Dislikes: Rejection, salt, gooey textures, pants and shoes.
Motivations: the potential to be with his long lost friend, and fruity or bitter foods.
Goal: finding his long lost friend.
Fears: Loosing control(lowkey), butterflys, isolation.
Hobbies: searching, scaring people, any sort of bonding with people, fantasizing, singing.
Talents: Acrobatics, Melee fighting(with hands).
Skills: singing.
Powers/Abilities: shapeshifting(he can not only change body mass//including bone density// and height, he can also shrink the fur on his face and finger tips, along with changeing his face shape and finger prints as he originally doesn’t have any.) Sedation (his eyes can allure anyone to come closer)
Weapons: None.
Universe their from: (haven’t named it yet)
Backstory: Went into the library one day and made a new friend, lost them the next day after celebrating their birthday, only found out on the third day (the gardien of Caleb, who is the kid we are talking about, was found dead with gun wounds, and Caleb was presumably missing.)
Extra: He easily looses track of things, so despite his powers and abilities, if you ran around a big pillar a few times, he would lose you. Hector also gets distracted way to easily, the only time he’s able to keep attention is when he’s feeling any sort of negative emotion. It’s difficult to piss him off, as he doesn’t register insults as insults. He also gets really bad when he’s angry, as he Mostly focuses on illusion, he won’t hurt you, he’ll just intimidate you, and he’s an expert at it.

Hey y’all, I’m new to the whole community and I’ve grown up with the Hunger Games movies. With the latest new movie, the Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes, I started to pick up my hyper fixation and have tons of thoughts about it. Since I’m pretty young and barely have anyone to talk about this who isn’t busy, I wanted to talk on this Reddit.
So to start, I want to talk about the 10 hunger games we saw in the Ballad Of Songbirds and Snakes because it is so interesting to me. It’s great to see these games and how the games started out during the early stages and right after the Dark Days. It showed how harsh the Capitol use to be and the District’s treatment. The Capitol barely cared about them and didn’t have the special treatment they had during Katniss’ games like District 1 and 2 only had the advantage of being well-fed but that’ll all. Not the abilities to have Capitol favoritism nor the knowledge on killing or even how to wield a weapon in general as seen with Sabyn (Sorry if I misspelled her name), Marcus, Facet, and Velvereen. The only ones who did have a significant advantage were tributes like Coral, Mizzen, Treech, Tanner, and even Lamina. The main reason is because they had experience welding weapons or thing back in their district that could be used to kill someone. Additionally, I loved to see the progression we see in all of the tributes by the time of the 10ths Hunger Games. We can see this in Lucy Gray where at the reaping, she can be seen with her hair all made up, her dress being clean and somewhat light, and her face blushed and touched up.
Anyways, those are my main thoughts and I do have more that’ll I’ll post later. Thank you, sincerely.