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2024.05.19 06:50 wonder_luck I thought my (19F) guy friend (19M) had feelings for me but he kissed my best friend after a party, should I distance myself from him and our friendship?
I’ve been friends with my guy friend for 5 years, I feel such a deep love and respect for him (yes I’m literally in love with the guy lol). Anyway, we’re always touching each other - he’ll greet me with a poke in the side, and I’ll tickle him until he falls on the floor and we’re like wrestling sort of. He’ll grab or squeeze my thighs or playfully hit my arms. We even make sexual jokes sometimes. And he’s told me that he trusts me more than anyone else and I’m “like a sister to him (😭).” He cried for me once when I finally opened up about myself and that was the first time I’ve ever seen him cry and it was on MY behalf. He’s told me that he tells me almost everything, even things that he doesn’t tell our mutual best friend.
What’s weird is that he asked our mutual best friend to prom as “friends” - later he told me he would’ve asked me the same way but he asked her because she seemed liked she wanted him to. And after prom they went back to her house and he kissed her and she said he held her for a long time - and he SLEPT OVER. She said she’s confused about it and they might try dating this summer. Of course I’m devastated and heartbroken. I truly thought he felt the same way, he even tells me he loves me when we say goodbye. Why would he treat me like that and then kiss her? And he still treats me like that even after what happened between them. Maybe I’m not physically attractive to him and she is? Idk, I’m just really sad, I’ve never harbored feelings for a person like this over this many years. I don’t think I can continue our relationship as it is if I have to sit back and watch him with other girls but at the same time flirt with me and say all these lovely things (because that what it is right?)
He’s a great person, truly, I just don’t think he understands what he’s doing. I hate this. Maybe if I was more his type he would see me differently. Should I distance myself from him and our friendship to protect myself?
Also - We even have a stupid little fantasy that when we get older I’ll buy a little house on some land and we can do fun crafts together around the house and spend time together :(. I don’t want to ruin our friendship but I just can’t take this anymore.
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What’s weird is that he asked our mutual best friend to prom as “friends” - later he told me he would’ve asked me the same way but he asked her because she seemed liked she wanted him to. And after prom they went back to her house and he kissed her and she said he held her for a long time - and he SLEPT OVER. She said she’s confused about it and they might try dating this summer. Of course I’m devastated and heartbroken. I truly thought he felt the same way, he even tells me he loves me when we say goodbye. Why would he treat me like that and then kiss her? And he still treats me like that even after what happened between them. Maybe I’m not physically attractive to him and she is? Idk, I’m just really sad, I’ve never harbored feelings for a person like this over this many years. I don’t think I can continue our relationship as it is if I have to sit back and watch him with other girls but at the same time flirt with me and say all these lovely things (because that what it is right?)
He’s a great person, truly, I just don’t think he understands what he’s doing. I hate this. Maybe if I was more his type he would see me differently. Should I distance myself from him and our friendship to protect myself?
Also - We even have a stupid little fantasy that when we get older I’ll buy a little house on some land and we can do fun crafts together around the house and spend time together :(. I don’t want to ruin our friendship but I just can’t take this anymore.
2024.05.19 06:49 FucknAright I need to know a better dual sport than a KLR. My last 2008 KLR was horrible on the highway, 70 mph and you're wrapped out and vibrating your entire body. And the thing ran perfectly.
There has to be a more Street friendly bike that's lighter and more gutsy. I just don't understand why everyone says the best dual sport is a klr, my experience with it was underpowered on the freeway and too heavy for Trails.
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2024.05.19 06:49 Ok_Start1379 Should I (27F) break up with my (28M) ex-fiancé?
My (ex)fiancé and I had been together for almost 6.5 years, engaged for almost 2.5. Over the last several months, my (ex)fiancé has sat me down to talk about our relationship about once a month. Before these conversations, he would shut down and barely speak to me for several days even when I would ask what was wrong. Then he would finally tell me he was ready to have a conversation and would express his frustrations with the relationship. By the time of our conversations, I would already be on the defensive from his recent behavior. I also generally do not receive feedback well. When he would try to tell me that he was unhappy in our relationship because I didn't compliment him enough, flirt with him enough, or tell him I loved him enough, I would shut down. I was not able to hear what he was really trying to tell me. Instead, I put up a wall and told him to love me for who I am. I basically asked him "If I'm happy in our relationship despite my frustrations, why can't you be?" I now realize that is not an appropriate or healthy response when your partner is trying to communicate with you.
I did try to hear him. I gifted him some lingerie for the first time and let him take a boudoir photo shoot of me wearing it. I started sending a few more cute messages. I tried to make more time to cuddle with him when he would ask. I tried to give him more hugs. I tried to thank him more for picking up around the house. I wrote him a cute letter and surprised him with a few gifts for Easter. However, about a month ago, we had another one of those conversations. Except this time the first things he brought up were 'wondering what else is out there' and talking about how other girls are always complimenting him. Again came the walls and extra defensiveness. I ended up writing him a letter talking about how I didn't know if I could ever be what he wanted me to be and that maybe he should think about calling things off. This was obviously a defense mechanism to try to beat him to the punch line and talk about a self-fulfilling prophecy. Three weeks later he would sit me down and tell me he wanted to know what else was out there again and that he didn't know if he could go through with marrying me. My efforts did not feel like enough for him and I understand why. I was having a hard time connecting my emotions with my actions which made my actions seem reactionary and not genuine or provoked by love.
I have been through a lot more trauma in my life than I realized. My dad was in the Navy while I was growing up. We had to move every three years. A very pivotal point in my life was when we moved when I was in the 6th grade. I lived right next door to my best friend. I was finding my love for math and theater. I also played soccer and was a Girl Scout. When we moved, I became very depressed, though I didn't understand that's what it was at the time. I stopped all of my extracurricular activities. I stopped getting too close to people because I knew I would have to move or they would have to move eventually. I mostly stayed in my room and kept to myself, even from my family. I also have struggled with anxiety for as long as I can remember. Then, in my senior year of high school, I got my first-ever boyfriend. We were in a relationship for over 4 years. In that relationship, I would always be the one to try to talk about our problems. I would be the one who would always want longer hugs and more cuddles. But it was not a healthy relationship. We broke up and got back together many times. I found several illicit texts to other girls on multiple occasions and he would always gaslight me by saying his younger brother stole his phone or I misinterpreted the messages. I think this caused me not to want to show my emotions because it wasn't reciprocated and resulted in heartache. Then, three years ago my younger brother died in a tragic car accident at the age of 17.
When I realized I could lose the love of my life, I realized that he was right about me not being affectionate enough. I had built up walls to protect myself. I thought I had made progress on my anxiety and depression, but I realized I was wrong. I also realized that I have issues with communication, trust, and vulnerability. I was a great partner in other ways and I did express my love in other ways. I moved across the country, coast to coast, with him to a state where I didn't know anyone so that he could attend his dream school. I take care of the household. I get the majority of the groceries. I do all of the cooking. I do all of the maintenance cleaning. I take care of our 2 cats and 1 dog. I say all of those in the present tense because we currently still live together but are sleeping in separate rooms. I also financially supported him by lending him money and letting him pay less of the rent because I made more money. I accept all of him including that he has terrible time management skills, he can have a hard time controlling his emotions at times, and he is disorganized and messy. I also accepted that I would have to wait for marriage and children because of his school and accepted that he did not have a lot of free time between school, work, and his hobbies. I supported his love for his hobbies by accepting his purchasing of expensive equipment even when he owed me money, traveling to watch several events that were important to him, and traveling to see him win an award from his job. I would write heartfelt cards for every holiday. I also bought him dozens of children's books about love that I wanted us to read to our children one day.
When I realized I could lose him, I felt something change inside me. It was like I could feel a hole being blown in the wall I had built up. I felt all my love for him overwhelm me. I couldn't hug him, kiss him, or tell him I love him enough. I tried to talk to him to apologize for my behavior and how badly I'd hurt him. I tried to explain how I felt like a different person and how I really wanted to work hard on improving myself as a partner to make our relationship work. I tried to prove my words with actions. I wrote a list of things I needed to work on including communication and being more affectionate. I also wrote out a list of ways to work on those things and actually started doing the things on the list. Some of the items I had already begun to do like hug and kiss him more and tell him I love him more. I also tried to ask more questions about his interests/hobbies/day. I was more vulnerable and talked with him about my feelings more. I even initiated intimacy, something I had really only done once in a blue moon when I was intoxicated.
Despite all of my efforts, over the next two weeks, he continued to say he did not know if he could be with me and wanted to know what else was out there. He was very wavering and said multiple times "I don't know what the right decision is." He said he could not trust that my changes would last and that it was probably too late. I begged him to try couples therapy, but he refused and said "Therapy takes too long" and basically said it wasn't worth the time. He finally broke up with me after 2 weeks of going back and forth and I was devastated. He later talked to a mutual friend of ours and changed his mind about therapy. I was so happy to hear that he had changed his mind. However, now I feel like I can't even trust him anymore. He's turning into a person I don't recognize and I don't know what he's capable of anymore. I don't know if the man I love still exists. When he told me he was now agreeable to try therapy he said "We're still broken up, but I won't talk to any other girls." and then promptly said "And it will give me more time to find a place to live if things don't work out." He deleted several Instagram posts that had photos of me after he agreed to try therapy which makes me think he's not actually that open to healing our relationship. He complained to me about how he might have to take out student loans after I told him he needed to pay me for half of the rent while we're broken up and not decreased rate he had been paying me. He also "checked on me" on the night of the 3rd year anniversary of my brother's death when he heard me crying. Then he just sat on the end of the bed scrolling his phone while I cried as if he was checking on me because he felt like he had to and not because he wanted to. When I asked him if he had some sort of deadline in mind for the therapy, because he had previously mentioned that it takes too long, he said July or August and I have a suspicion that is because a girl he likes is leaving for summer break but will be back at the end of August for the next semester.
I just feel like the way he has been acting is not how you act towards someone you were in a relationship with for almost 6.5 years. Especially after saying you still love them and have no negative feelings towards them. That means even though you don't think you are a good relationship match, you should still want to treat them with respect. You should care that they are hurting during this time. You should want to comfort them in their grief of a separate event. You should mean it if you say you want to try therapy.
TL;DR : So should I break up with my ex-fiancé or should I keep fighting to get back the man I love?
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I did try to hear him. I gifted him some lingerie for the first time and let him take a boudoir photo shoot of me wearing it. I started sending a few more cute messages. I tried to make more time to cuddle with him when he would ask. I tried to give him more hugs. I tried to thank him more for picking up around the house. I wrote him a cute letter and surprised him with a few gifts for Easter. However, about a month ago, we had another one of those conversations. Except this time the first things he brought up were 'wondering what else is out there' and talking about how other girls are always complimenting him. Again came the walls and extra defensiveness. I ended up writing him a letter talking about how I didn't know if I could ever be what he wanted me to be and that maybe he should think about calling things off. This was obviously a defense mechanism to try to beat him to the punch line and talk about a self-fulfilling prophecy. Three weeks later he would sit me down and tell me he wanted to know what else was out there again and that he didn't know if he could go through with marrying me. My efforts did not feel like enough for him and I understand why. I was having a hard time connecting my emotions with my actions which made my actions seem reactionary and not genuine or provoked by love.
I have been through a lot more trauma in my life than I realized. My dad was in the Navy while I was growing up. We had to move every three years. A very pivotal point in my life was when we moved when I was in the 6th grade. I lived right next door to my best friend. I was finding my love for math and theater. I also played soccer and was a Girl Scout. When we moved, I became very depressed, though I didn't understand that's what it was at the time. I stopped all of my extracurricular activities. I stopped getting too close to people because I knew I would have to move or they would have to move eventually. I mostly stayed in my room and kept to myself, even from my family. I also have struggled with anxiety for as long as I can remember. Then, in my senior year of high school, I got my first-ever boyfriend. We were in a relationship for over 4 years. In that relationship, I would always be the one to try to talk about our problems. I would be the one who would always want longer hugs and more cuddles. But it was not a healthy relationship. We broke up and got back together many times. I found several illicit texts to other girls on multiple occasions and he would always gaslight me by saying his younger brother stole his phone or I misinterpreted the messages. I think this caused me not to want to show my emotions because it wasn't reciprocated and resulted in heartache. Then, three years ago my younger brother died in a tragic car accident at the age of 17.
When I realized I could lose the love of my life, I realized that he was right about me not being affectionate enough. I had built up walls to protect myself. I thought I had made progress on my anxiety and depression, but I realized I was wrong. I also realized that I have issues with communication, trust, and vulnerability. I was a great partner in other ways and I did express my love in other ways. I moved across the country, coast to coast, with him to a state where I didn't know anyone so that he could attend his dream school. I take care of the household. I get the majority of the groceries. I do all of the cooking. I do all of the maintenance cleaning. I take care of our 2 cats and 1 dog. I say all of those in the present tense because we currently still live together but are sleeping in separate rooms. I also financially supported him by lending him money and letting him pay less of the rent because I made more money. I accept all of him including that he has terrible time management skills, he can have a hard time controlling his emotions at times, and he is disorganized and messy. I also accepted that I would have to wait for marriage and children because of his school and accepted that he did not have a lot of free time between school, work, and his hobbies. I supported his love for his hobbies by accepting his purchasing of expensive equipment even when he owed me money, traveling to watch several events that were important to him, and traveling to see him win an award from his job. I would write heartfelt cards for every holiday. I also bought him dozens of children's books about love that I wanted us to read to our children one day.
When I realized I could lose him, I felt something change inside me. It was like I could feel a hole being blown in the wall I had built up. I felt all my love for him overwhelm me. I couldn't hug him, kiss him, or tell him I love him enough. I tried to talk to him to apologize for my behavior and how badly I'd hurt him. I tried to explain how I felt like a different person and how I really wanted to work hard on improving myself as a partner to make our relationship work. I tried to prove my words with actions. I wrote a list of things I needed to work on including communication and being more affectionate. I also wrote out a list of ways to work on those things and actually started doing the things on the list. Some of the items I had already begun to do like hug and kiss him more and tell him I love him more. I also tried to ask more questions about his interests/hobbies/day. I was more vulnerable and talked with him about my feelings more. I even initiated intimacy, something I had really only done once in a blue moon when I was intoxicated.
Despite all of my efforts, over the next two weeks, he continued to say he did not know if he could be with me and wanted to know what else was out there. He was very wavering and said multiple times "I don't know what the right decision is." He said he could not trust that my changes would last and that it was probably too late. I begged him to try couples therapy, but he refused and said "Therapy takes too long" and basically said it wasn't worth the time. He finally broke up with me after 2 weeks of going back and forth and I was devastated. He later talked to a mutual friend of ours and changed his mind about therapy. I was so happy to hear that he had changed his mind. However, now I feel like I can't even trust him anymore. He's turning into a person I don't recognize and I don't know what he's capable of anymore. I don't know if the man I love still exists. When he told me he was now agreeable to try therapy he said "We're still broken up, but I won't talk to any other girls." and then promptly said "And it will give me more time to find a place to live if things don't work out." He deleted several Instagram posts that had photos of me after he agreed to try therapy which makes me think he's not actually that open to healing our relationship. He complained to me about how he might have to take out student loans after I told him he needed to pay me for half of the rent while we're broken up and not decreased rate he had been paying me. He also "checked on me" on the night of the 3rd year anniversary of my brother's death when he heard me crying. Then he just sat on the end of the bed scrolling his phone while I cried as if he was checking on me because he felt like he had to and not because he wanted to. When I asked him if he had some sort of deadline in mind for the therapy, because he had previously mentioned that it takes too long, he said July or August and I have a suspicion that is because a girl he likes is leaving for summer break but will be back at the end of August for the next semester.
I just feel like the way he has been acting is not how you act towards someone you were in a relationship with for almost 6.5 years. Especially after saying you still love them and have no negative feelings towards them. That means even though you don't think you are a good relationship match, you should still want to treat them with respect. You should care that they are hurting during this time. You should want to comfort them in their grief of a separate event. You should mean it if you say you want to try therapy.
TL;DR : So should I break up with my ex-fiancé or should I keep fighting to get back the man I love?
2024.05.19 06:49 HenryDaveThorowaway Disclosed to a friend for the first time. Well, lesson learned.
TW: CSA, SI
TL;DR: Some bitches simply can't be trusted but some formerly bitch families can maybe make some growth? WUT.
I'd (30sf) lived with my roommate (30sf) for a decade and known her for even longer. I disclosed to her 1.5 yrs ago, after integrating EMDR into a VERY long CPTSD healing process early in the pandemic. She was so, so kind and understanding in the beginning. We'd been best friends for so long, that I genuinely feared calling her family, because family has such negative connotations for me, but lately, I was finally saying it more often.
Since the start of this year, my EMDR has primarily focused on the peak of my suicidal ideation and how it's entangled with my sibling-on-sibling CSA. It has been a rough and exhausting effort, but all things considered, I'm actually "doing" quite well, as much as one can under such conditions. I'd started FMLA leave from work because, SUPRISE, trauma causes lifelong physical ailments and chronic illnesses, and my roommate had reassured me we'd be re-signing the lease that we had less than a month left on, so I would at least not have to worry about housing.
I had one bad night. One bad night of zero sleep, fighting off the nightmares for the thousandth time, begging and pleading to just finally rest, and that's all it took. I called her out the next day over leaving her two-day old dish full of thawed chicken water in the microwave, and finally broke. I know I said a lot of delusion shit (that I immediately-and repeatedly-apologized for for days after, after I'd regained my compusure/grip on reality), but we discussed it for days after and scheduled a therapy session for as soon as we could get one to figure out what went wrong in our communication that night.
She couldn't even wait that long. After a week of the silent treatment (partially because she got mad at me for asking her to mask up while I was on medical leave--while she had active COVID, for the 4th time--and was still going out because she "had plans"), she started a fight with me out of nowhere, broke me down into a fully blown flashback, and then literally ran away from my weeping (which I have done--outside of a therapeutic setting--exactly 3x since my diagnosis). Then she came back the next afternoon (while I was literally in the process of hanging pictures we'd bought ages ago) saying she wouldn't be re-signing the lease. It wasn't even a discussion. She just decided and that was that, no matter how stunned I looked, how much I sobbed and shook, or the fact that I am unpaid right now, see some new specialist t every other day for this shattered brain or broken body, of the fact that we live in HCOL city where, even if I was working, I wouldn't be able to afford somewhere solo.
But the worst part? During her monologue, she tried to claim I had somehow blamed her for my CSA during my trauma tantrum from a couple weeks earlier.. Now I know in general, my shortterm memory has been fucked by the EMDR crossing-the-timelines mindfuckery, but I know myself damn well enough to know I did not and would never place the the blame on her, because why even in the actual hell would I? Folks, this woman used to be a public prosecutor assigned to the children's sexual abuse unit. You can't make this shit up.
And if that weren't all bad enough, in my immediate panic, I had nowehere left to turn, so I had to call my family for help, and because I had to explain why I wasn't working and undergoing all sorts of medical procedures, and after YEARS of So. Much. Fucking. "HEALING." I just gave it all up. Told my parents for the first time. Told my brother, my primary abuser, for the first time. (He'd admitted many times over our adult years that he blacked a lot of his/our childhood out, and I have always believed him, because he was likely abused himself by someone else first.) He apologized. Profusely. And even agreed to start therapy. My parents apologized, in their own way, by promising to help with rent. Of all the things. Of all the fucking things...I wasn't expecting that. While part/a lot of me is cautious to accept any sort of help from them (because obvie), I am genuinely impressed, and grateful, that they are at least pulling through on this one.
It's been a confusing few weeks and people are complex.
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TL;DR: Some bitches simply can't be trusted but some formerly bitch families can maybe make some growth? WUT.
I'd (30sf) lived with my roommate (30sf) for a decade and known her for even longer. I disclosed to her 1.5 yrs ago, after integrating EMDR into a VERY long CPTSD healing process early in the pandemic. She was so, so kind and understanding in the beginning. We'd been best friends for so long, that I genuinely feared calling her family, because family has such negative connotations for me, but lately, I was finally saying it more often.
Since the start of this year, my EMDR has primarily focused on the peak of my suicidal ideation and how it's entangled with my sibling-on-sibling CSA. It has been a rough and exhausting effort, but all things considered, I'm actually "doing" quite well, as much as one can under such conditions. I'd started FMLA leave from work because, SUPRISE, trauma causes lifelong physical ailments and chronic illnesses, and my roommate had reassured me we'd be re-signing the lease that we had less than a month left on, so I would at least not have to worry about housing.
I had one bad night. One bad night of zero sleep, fighting off the nightmares for the thousandth time, begging and pleading to just finally rest, and that's all it took. I called her out the next day over leaving her two-day old dish full of thawed chicken water in the microwave, and finally broke. I know I said a lot of delusion shit (that I immediately-and repeatedly-apologized for for days after, after I'd regained my compusure/grip on reality), but we discussed it for days after and scheduled a therapy session for as soon as we could get one to figure out what went wrong in our communication that night.
She couldn't even wait that long. After a week of the silent treatment (partially because she got mad at me for asking her to mask up while I was on medical leave--while she had active COVID, for the 4th time--and was still going out because she "had plans"), she started a fight with me out of nowhere, broke me down into a fully blown flashback, and then literally ran away from my weeping (which I have done--outside of a therapeutic setting--exactly 3x since my diagnosis). Then she came back the next afternoon (while I was literally in the process of hanging pictures we'd bought ages ago) saying she wouldn't be re-signing the lease. It wasn't even a discussion. She just decided and that was that, no matter how stunned I looked, how much I sobbed and shook, or the fact that I am unpaid right now, see some new specialist t every other day for this shattered brain or broken body, of the fact that we live in HCOL city where, even if I was working, I wouldn't be able to afford somewhere solo.
But the worst part? During her monologue, she tried to claim I had somehow blamed her for my CSA during my trauma tantrum from a couple weeks earlier.. Now I know in general, my shortterm memory has been fucked by the EMDR crossing-the-timelines mindfuckery, but I know myself damn well enough to know I did not and would never place the the blame on her, because why even in the actual hell would I? Folks, this woman used to be a public prosecutor assigned to the children's sexual abuse unit. You can't make this shit up.
And if that weren't all bad enough, in my immediate panic, I had nowehere left to turn, so I had to call my family for help, and because I had to explain why I wasn't working and undergoing all sorts of medical procedures, and after YEARS of So. Much. Fucking. "HEALING." I just gave it all up. Told my parents for the first time. Told my brother, my primary abuser, for the first time. (He'd admitted many times over our adult years that he blacked a lot of his/our childhood out, and I have always believed him, because he was likely abused himself by someone else first.) He apologized. Profusely. And even agreed to start therapy. My parents apologized, in their own way, by promising to help with rent. Of all the things. Of all the fucking things...I wasn't expecting that. While part/a lot of me is cautious to accept any sort of help from them (because obvie), I am genuinely impressed, and grateful, that they are at least pulling through on this one.
It's been a confusing few weeks and people are complex.
2024.05.19 06:48 CollegeB0y212 Boyfriend and Bestfriend getting too close? [M25]
I (M25) have been dating my bi boyfriend (m22) for about 6 months and for background in the past he had a female bestfriend who was into him and pressured him into kissing her which he later apologized and confessed to me about. Now flash forward to today, him and my best friend who is a girl (and has a bf she hates) get along well and always make jokes of getting married and things of that sort. I know for a fact he's not her type physically and he himself thinks he may be fully gay, but I know that she is exactly his type and has a history of making poor romantic/sexual choices (especially with her current boyfriend) Right now I'm on vacation and they had a sleepover, which they told me about in advance but didn't really ask if I was okay with it. To be honest I'm 99% sure nothing would ever happen with them especially because of both of their loyalty to me but I'm someone who gets anxious very easily so that 1% is really freaking me out. Would I be justified to tell them I don't feel comfortable with how close they've gotten, which one of them should I tell and how do I say it????
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2024.05.19 06:47 SeaweedSundae BF of five years suddenly unsure about relationship, and life in general.
Apologies for the long post, please bear with me. I'm really scared and confused and not sure what to do and any/all advice is appropriated.
My bf of five years and I are currently long distance but were in the planning stages of moving in together sometime this year or early next year. Around 10 days ago, he proposed the idea of maybe exploring sexual non monogamy together, and said that he'd been wondering what he really wanted in life. My initial response was bad and I own up to that and Im making a notable effort to do better. We eventually decided to compromise and say that flirting and sexting were ok, but we'd prioritize each other and wait until we're stably in person before exploring physical intimacy with other people.
The days after that, there was some tension between us, but despite my best efforts to do better and work through my paranoia, it kept feeling like he was keeping me at arms length. When asked, he would say that he kust didnt know what he wanted with his life, and he was uncertain about everything, including me. He emphasized that it wasnt anything i did, just that its something he'd been thinking about for a while. Despite this, over text he seemed to go through the motions of talking with me like his boyfriend and calling me pet names and whatnot.
I sought verbal reassurance and reaffirmation since the uncertainty of the situstion frightened me immensely. In passing, i asked "hey do you like being my boyfriend" and that caused him to just say "i dont know" and just shut down a bit. After a lot of discussion, my bf said that he just doesnt know whats going on anymore in life, and that he'd had some experiences with people asking him if he was truly happy and what he wanted to do with life. Again he emphasized that it was him and not me that was the cause of anything, but suggested maybe we should take a break while he navigates this. However, he still would like me around as his best friend.
However, we seem to have hit a wall with what a break actually looks like. I considered that we set a time frame, and are just taking time away from each other romantically to reflect and recoup, but he seems to want to do that, and also freely go on dates with other people. I would be ok with this with the condition that we plan to come back to each other, but he doesnt seem to want that. In his words, he sees a break as not being in a romantic relationship until circumstances improve and then we can reevaluate if we want to be together.
Where Im personally stuck is that I'm still in love with him, but he doesnt know what he's feeling. My heart has been shattered into a million pieces and I'm scared to take a chance on this break since its not certain that he'll want me again. I'm scared to be just his friend, i don't want that.
In a lot of ways I feel like things are stacked against me. I wanted to pursue other options like couples counseling or other support before just being friends, but he was worried about hurting me in his self discovery process. He was adamant that he wants me to be prominent in his life but i dont know that my heart can take it.
I'm in love with him and I just want things to go back to the way they were but my bf doesn't know what he wants, and also saif that he thought returning to that would be untenable, and to me seems like he doesnt want to even try to mend it.
I'm scared, and I'm confused and I don't want to just be his friend. Im haunted by songs that we shared that are our songs, and games that we played together and special memories different things illicit. Due to circumstances, its been nearly 2 years since we've seen each other in person, and the timeframe for the break is until we can see each other in person again, but I'm scared even if he sees me in person, there might just not be a spark. I'm also scared that if he dates while on break, he might just find someone better and just toss me aside..
Apologies again for the long story, and thank you if you read all the way here...
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My bf of five years and I are currently long distance but were in the planning stages of moving in together sometime this year or early next year. Around 10 days ago, he proposed the idea of maybe exploring sexual non monogamy together, and said that he'd been wondering what he really wanted in life. My initial response was bad and I own up to that and Im making a notable effort to do better. We eventually decided to compromise and say that flirting and sexting were ok, but we'd prioritize each other and wait until we're stably in person before exploring physical intimacy with other people.
The days after that, there was some tension between us, but despite my best efforts to do better and work through my paranoia, it kept feeling like he was keeping me at arms length. When asked, he would say that he kust didnt know what he wanted with his life, and he was uncertain about everything, including me. He emphasized that it wasnt anything i did, just that its something he'd been thinking about for a while. Despite this, over text he seemed to go through the motions of talking with me like his boyfriend and calling me pet names and whatnot.
I sought verbal reassurance and reaffirmation since the uncertainty of the situstion frightened me immensely. In passing, i asked "hey do you like being my boyfriend" and that caused him to just say "i dont know" and just shut down a bit. After a lot of discussion, my bf said that he just doesnt know whats going on anymore in life, and that he'd had some experiences with people asking him if he was truly happy and what he wanted to do with life. Again he emphasized that it was him and not me that was the cause of anything, but suggested maybe we should take a break while he navigates this. However, he still would like me around as his best friend.
However, we seem to have hit a wall with what a break actually looks like. I considered that we set a time frame, and are just taking time away from each other romantically to reflect and recoup, but he seems to want to do that, and also freely go on dates with other people. I would be ok with this with the condition that we plan to come back to each other, but he doesnt seem to want that. In his words, he sees a break as not being in a romantic relationship until circumstances improve and then we can reevaluate if we want to be together.
Where Im personally stuck is that I'm still in love with him, but he doesnt know what he's feeling. My heart has been shattered into a million pieces and I'm scared to take a chance on this break since its not certain that he'll want me again. I'm scared to be just his friend, i don't want that.
In a lot of ways I feel like things are stacked against me. I wanted to pursue other options like couples counseling or other support before just being friends, but he was worried about hurting me in his self discovery process. He was adamant that he wants me to be prominent in his life but i dont know that my heart can take it.
I'm in love with him and I just want things to go back to the way they were but my bf doesn't know what he wants, and also saif that he thought returning to that would be untenable, and to me seems like he doesnt want to even try to mend it.
I'm scared, and I'm confused and I don't want to just be his friend. Im haunted by songs that we shared that are our songs, and games that we played together and special memories different things illicit. Due to circumstances, its been nearly 2 years since we've seen each other in person, and the timeframe for the break is until we can see each other in person again, but I'm scared even if he sees me in person, there might just not be a spark. I'm also scared that if he dates while on break, he might just find someone better and just toss me aside..
Apologies again for the long story, and thank you if you read all the way here...
2024.05.19 06:47 GuiltlessMaple Best Canon Underwater Camera Case
 | submitted by GuiltlessMaple to u/GuiltlessMaple [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/n8ppu0plcb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b7417dcb4b79a208a94ccfe236a5a112ac9fa7c9 Canon Underwater Camera Cases are perfect for capturing those unforgettable underwater moments. Our article presents a comprehensive roundup of the best models, highlighting their features, durability, and ease of use. Whether you're an amateur or a professional photographer, this review will help you choose the right Canon Underwater Camera Case to protect your camera and enhance your underwater photography experience. In this article, we'll delve into the top Canon Underwater Camera Case models in the market, discussing their unique selling points and how they cater to different photography needs. Our comparison will provide you with all the information you need to make an informed decision and ensure your camera remains safe on your next underwater adventure. The Top 6 Best Canon Underwater Camera Case
Reviews🔗Canon WP-DC40 Underwater Camera Casehttps://preview.redd.it/ipp2neylcb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1c4696570283ff02b843456f353aea45e45ff8b7 I recently took my Canon camera on a snorkeling trip to Hawaii, and it was nothing short of amazing. With the Canon Waterproof Underwater Case WP-DC40 (S60/70), I didn't have to worry about water damage and could take stunning photos at depths up to 130 feet. The case's intuitive controls allowed me to capture every breathtaking underwater moment with ease. One of the standout features was the accessibility of all camera buttons and knobs. This made it incredibly user-friendly, even for someone like me who isn't a professional photographer. The seal also proved to be reliable, with no leaks even during my 102-foot dives. On the downside, the sunlight through the water occasionally made it difficult to see the screen, but it wasn't a deal-breaker. Overall, the Canon Waterproof Underwater Case was a fantastic addition to my camera gear, and I can't imagine traveling without it now. 🔗Underwater Case for Canon PowerShot SD700 IShttps://preview.redd.it/16fwlqfmcb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2115cf11c0fdd7b2ee66827f503942253091c91d As a photography enthusiast, I recently discovered the Canon WP-DC5 Waterproof Case. I've been taking my Canon PowerShot SD700 IS digital camera everywhere, and this underwater case has been a lifesaver. The case is designed to protect my camera from sea water and sand, which means I don't have to worry about damaging it while exploring the underwater world. Its reliability and ease of use are truly impressive. Using it underwater was a breeze, and it opened up new shooting possibilities that I never thought were possible with a regular camera case. With its help, I've been able to capture stunning underwater photos at depths of up to 130 feet, even on my first dive. The highlights of this product are its ability to protect your camera from harsh underwater environments and its ease of use. However, it's essential to take care of the lens port and keep the camera open when not in use to maintain the seals. Additionally, some users might experience issues with water droplets on the port affecting their shots. Overall, the Canon WP-DC5 Waterproof Case has been a game-changer for me. It has allowed me to explore the underwater world without worrying about damaging my camera. Its reliability, ease of use, and ability to capture high-quality underwater photos make it a must-have for any adventurous photographer. 🔗Waterproof Case for Canon Digital Camerashttps://preview.redd.it/ge8252vmcb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=505b12b5add8e1ca5fc24f692485d07e192b87ff I recently had the chance to use Canon's WP-DC27 Waterproof Case for my underwater photography explorations. As an avid scuba diver and photographer, finding a reliable case to protect my camera was crucial. The Canon WP-DC27 didn't disappoint. It provides excellent protection against water, sand, and dust, making it accessible for photographers who want to capture dynamic shots in various environments. The ease of use was one of the highlights of this product. Its compact design and secure seals made the camera easy to load and unload, even with my hands covered in scuba diving gloves. The clear front panel allowed for easy access to the camera's controls, such as adjusting white balance and toggling shooting modes. On the downside, I did find that the lens port wasn't threaded to accept additional lenses like macro or wide-angle options. While this isn't a deal-breaker for basic scuba diving and snorkeling, it may be disappointing for photographers looking for more flexibility in their shots. In conclusion, Canon's WP-DC27 Waterproof Case is a reliable and user-friendly option for photographers on-the-go and exploring different terrains. Its durability and ease of use make it a worthwhile investment for those looking to capture their adventures to the fullest without worrying about their camera's wellbeing. 🔗Ikelite Underwater Housing for Canon PowerShot G9/G9 Mark IIhttps://preview.redd.it/udytcu6ncb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3d676d4ebca17661e72c11c73701613601770014 I recently got my hands on the Ikelite Underwater Action Housing for my Canon PowerShot G9 X camera, and let me tell you, it has been a game-changer for my underwater photography adventures! With its ability to capture high-quality video and still images at depths up to 200 feet beneath the surface, this compact, lightweight housing has made exploring the depths of oceans and lakes a whole new experience. One of the standout features of this action housing is its scratch-resistant glass lens port. This ensures full use of the camera's zoom range without any vignetting, giving me super-clear shots even in the most challenging underwater environments. Additionally, the front of the port accepts press-on color-correcting filters and is 67mm threaded for attaching optional accessories, which further enhances the versatility of my underwater photography setup. Another feature I absolutely love is the custom ABS-PC blend housing with acetyl controls. This material provides strength, UV protection, and fundamentally corrosion-free performance, making it perfect for withstanding the harsh underwater conditions. Plus, its light gray/white color on the front, sides, top, and bottom contrasts with the clear back, making it easy for me to monitor the O-ring seal and rear camera controls at a glance. The built-in, flat, optical glass lens port with a 3-inch diameter is another highlight. It allows attachment of optional, accessory wide-angle and macro conversion lenses as well as color-correction filters, giving me the flexibility to capture the perfect shot in any underwater environment. However, there is one downside to this action housing – it lacks a strobe connector and access to the camera's flash. While quality photos are still possible with an optional constant light source at any depth or with available sunlight down to about 60 feet, I would have appreciated more connectivity options for even greater creative control. In summary, the Ikelite Underwater Action Housing has made exploring the depths of oceans and lakes an unforgettable experience. Its scratch-resistant glass lens port, custom ABS-PC blend housing, and compatibility with various accessories make it a top choice for avid underwater photographers. While it may not have the most advanced features and lacks a strobe connector, the overall quality and performance are worth considering for anyone looking to take their underwater photography skills to the next level. 🔗Ikelite Underwater Housing for Canon EOS M10 (200 ft Depth Rating)https://preview.redd.it/xfhi7alncb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a65c50db977323c6d7cfbc0941dccf4d2ba590cf Ikelite's Underwater Housing for Canon EOS M10 is like a trusty, waterproof companion for my beloved camera. It's more than capable of keeping up with my adventurous spirit, offering a depth rating of 200 ft (60m). The controls on this housing are impressive, allowing me to access all my camera's functions except for the Mobile Device Connection button. A slight negative buoyancy in fresh water means I don't have to worry about it floating away. But it's not all perfect. The actual buoyancy can vary depending on the lens and port I choose, which can be a bit of a pain. Also, the 1/4-20 thread tray mounting with 3-inch (76mm) spacing is a bit limiting if you're looking for more versatile mounting options. All in all, Ikelite's housing has been a game-changer for my underwater photography adventures. It's made capturing those magical moments much easier and more enjoyable. 🔗Nauticam Canon EOS R5 Underwater Housinghttps://preview.redd.it/50jo9pzncb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=02d3c552bf4f6ac647e4791434169055702b8906 I recently had the opportunity to use the Nauticam Underwater Housing for my Canon EOS R5. This housing follows Nauticam's innovative approach, offering compatibility with both EOS R lenses and native RF optics using an adapter. The dimensions of the housing are 357mm x 200mm x 161mm (W x H x D), and it has a depth rating of 100m. It weighs 3.5kg in air, but becomes slightly lighter at -0.5kg in water when including the camera body and battery. The port area is of the N120 type. One of the standout features for me was its portability. Even with my Canon EOS R5 securely tucked inside, the housing felt sturdy and reliable. It's evident that a lot of thought has gone into the design, making it incredibly user-friendly. However, there were a few cons to consider. While the housing is generally well-built, the included torque screws for the port attachment feel a bit delicate. Additionally, the integrated vacuum system, though a useful feature, can be a bit sensitive to pressure changes and occasionally needs resetting. Overall, the Nauticam Underwater Housing for the Canon EOS R5 provided excellent protection and control for my camera while underwater. Despite some minor drawbacks, I would recommend this product to any Canon users looking to take their photography skills below the surface. Buyer's GuideChoosing the right Canon underwater camera case can be essential, whether for professional photography or casual photography while exploring the depths. This guide will inform you of the crucial factors to consider prior to making your decision in order to equip you with the ideal underwater camera case for your needs.1. Type of Underwater ActivityUnderwater housings are designed to cater to different activities such as scuba diving, snorkeling, or surf photography. For example, some cases are suitable for deep-sea diving whilst others could be for surface water sports. Hence, it is essential to consider the type of underwater photography you're likely to engage in for you to choose the appropriate housing. https://preview.redd.it/sh75v0focb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7fad980e157c19999435345c4a1039d7e6ebb8da 2. Depth RatingThe depth rating of a case indicates the maximum depth it can withstand without water seeping into the camera. This detail is critical as it ensures the camera stays protected at your desired depth. If you're primarily shooting above water while surfboard, a low depth rating would suffice. However, for professional divers, a high depth rating camera case would be more appropriate.3. Lens CompatibilityLens compatibility could restrict your choices. Some underwater camera cases are compatible with wide-angle lenses, others with standard lenses. Depending on your photography requirements, you should choose a case that fits your preferred lens.4. Ease of UseUnderwater photography often involves quick action. Hence, it’s necessary to select a model that allows simple and swift movement, particularly during those crucial underwater moments. Features such as ergonomic handling, easy-to-use buttons, and controls would be beneficial for smooth photography sessions. https://preview.redd.it/znofdi3pcb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=89b5db13a784c1cddccb61eb14123707c9e6a1bc 5. DurabilityThe durability of the underwater camera cases is another crucial factor to consider. High-quality polycarbonate materials or aluminum bodies are known for their robustness and long-lasting performance. Ensure you select a case designed to withstand the rigors of your photography activities.6. Price RangeUnderwater camera cases can vary significantly in price. The cost is often dependent on factors such as complexity of design, type of materials used, and additional features. While it’s vital to invest in a high-quality case, ensure that you only pay for what you need by prioritizing the features that are most essential for your photography style.7. Brand ReputationThe credibility and reputation of the brand can be a strong indication of the quality and reliability of the product. Make sure to choose a reputable brand known for producing high-quality waterproof camera housings.By taking these considerations into account, you will be well-equipped to choose the ideal Canon underwater camera case to suit your specific photography needs. https://preview.redd.it/dx2tmkbpcb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=13ba90b00783e3d9da466fbcda8858da254fa311 FAQHow deep can a Canon underwater camera case go?The depth rating varies depending on the specific model and brand of the underwater camera case. Generally, Canon underwater camera cases can withstand depths between 150 to 200 feet (approximately 45 to 60 meters). It's crucial to check the product's specifications to ensure it meets your needs for the depth of water you plan to explore.Which Canon camera models are compatible with these underwater camera cases?Almost all the Canon PowerShot series and some EOS DSLR and mirrorless models are compatible with Canon underwater camera cases. Popular models include the PowerShot G7 X Mark III, G5 X Mark II, SX70 HS, and the EOS 90D. Please refer to Canon's compatibility chart for the specific model you own or consider purchasing. https://preview.redd.it/8y90bswpcb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f80cdaea7c4679965ed8ae114021c09e180ef8fb Can I use my Canon camera in a generic underwater camera case?While it is possible to use a generic underwater camera case for some Canon camera models, it is highly recommended to use the original Canon underwater camera case designed specifically for your camera model. This ensures proper fit, functionality, and protection for your camera, ultimately extending its lifespan.How do I clean and maintain my Canon underwater camera case?After each use, rinse the case thoroughly with clean water and thoroughly dry it with a soft, lint-free cloth. Avoid using any solvents or abrasive cleaners. Keep the seals and O-ring clean and free of sand or grit. Lubricate the O-ring with a silicone lubricant occasionally to ensure a tight seal. Regularly inspect the case for wear, damage, or accumulated debris.What is the best setting to use on my Canon camera when shooting underwater?Using the underwater shooting mode (typically designated as "UW" or "sea") is often recommended, as it optimizes the camera settings for shooting in low-light, minimizing backscattering, and increasing color reproduction. Additionally, ensure that you shoot in RAW format to have greater flexibility in post-processing.How do I ensure a leak-free seal on my Canon underwater camera case?Before each dive or use, inspect the seals and O-ring for any wear, damage, or accumulated debris. Clean the seals and O-ring thoroughly and apply a silicone lubricant. Secure all latches on the case, ensuring they are fully engaged. Perform a "vacuum test" by submerging the case in a shallow pool or tub of water, and inspect for any visible water or bubbles after about 10 minutes. If everything is dry, your case is properly sealed. Always double-check the seals and latches before every dive or use.What is the difference between a DSLR and a mirrorless Canon underwater camera case?The primary differences between a DSLR and mirrorless Canon underwater camera case are their size, weight, and controls. DSLR underwater camera cases tend to be larger and heavier, provide more physical controls, and accommodate interchangeable lenses, offering more flexibility for advanced photographers. In contrast, mirrorless underwater camera cases are more compact, have fewer physical controls, but often yield higher image quality relative to the camera size.How do I prevent fogging inside the Canon underwater camera case?Before diving or shooting underwater, put a silica gel desiccant packet or anti-fog gel on the inside of the lens port. This helps absorb any moisture and prevent fogging. Make sure the camera, lens, and case are at the same temperature as your surroundings before sealing the case. When changing lenses, ensure the camera is dry and free of any moisture. Avoid touching any lens elements or the interior lens port, as body oils and moisture can cause fogging.Can I use third-party strobes with my Canon underwater camera case?Yes, you can use third-party strobes with some Canon underwater camera cases. However, compatibility depends on the model of your case and the specific strobe. Some strobes may require a dedicated adapter or sync cord to connect to the camera, so it's essential to consult the manufacturer's guidelines for proper installation and compatibility.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.19 06:47 Healthy_Ship_665 On Instagram for the first time in ages - eye opening experience
I deactivated my Instagram months ago and rarely use social media now, only have Facebook for marketplace and a hobby group and reddit, which I'm cutting back on.
I wanted to find some contact info in an old message on Insta and that was my reason to open it up again. I now feel like I got brain slapped by digital garbage. Having been off for a while, I found the app to be immensely overwhelming. I have a lot of connections there to acquaintances, some friendish professional contacts, parasocial type relations... it's just so weird to see people posting so much about their lives and work and opinions. I used to be that way, so I'm not bashing it, I'm just weirded out by the whole thing having some more distance now. It seems so odd - I just can't figure out what anyone is actually trying to communicate to each other with these posts. I do not think it's all narcissistic, as I know my intentions for sharing something like art I saw or something beautiful or inspiring were done with the intention to share that good with others and I often consumed content from others with a similar assumption about intentions - but still, it is so disconnected from the people next to you or that beauty in that moment. It's also just too darn much, too much, I can't see another flower tree there with the same awe again and again like I can irl. I loved the positive things shared and there were moments when the platform was something I really enjoyed, but it became less and less so, especially once stories and reels were added and the algorithm took you all over the metaverse away from the accounts you follow.
I gave myself a decent amount of time with the app to just explore old accounts I liked and sift through it while being mindful and I was surprised by how stressful even engaging with it just in one day is for me now. I could feel the pressure I would have had to post things about interesting things, or the protests on my campus, or travels, or big work milestones, and dang I'm so happy to have not had that these past few months. I also always used to tell myself that I'm immune to comparison on the apps, since I rarely feel envy irl, but I realized while I don't have "envy" I was definitely comparing myself to people in reels; I've lost 40 lbs recently and feel great and am working on 25 - 30 more, and the reels made me feel more insecure than ever about my body. I was bombarded with events and cool things in my city I would love to go to, but realized in my limited free time I am currently regularly getting out to museums and shows and the park and other things without Instagram directing me there -- and actually, I'm doing so more than ever without wasting my life online. There were other subtle changes in my mood or thoughts I was much more aware of while engaging after my break.
The whole thing felt fake and weird and left a bad taste in my mouth. I posted some new contact info for my friends (from my non inner circle irl whom I talk with regularly outside of social media) and said I'm doing well, gave it up for a bit and my break convinced me I'm going to keep doing so and turn it off for good tomorrow. I honestly wish instead of letting that contact be posted for a day I just shut it down for good after getting what I needed, but I'm happy to give a final adios to the platform and let people know, but I find the platform totally horrible to explore even for the brief amount I did today.
I cannot believe the amount of time I wasted on that platform and can't wait to but that garbage in the trash tomorrow.
It was completely eye opening to get back on social media like Instagram after a break.
I'm also more inspired than ever to tackle my last internet hook, which is reddit. I'm fairly confident I'd feel similarly coming back here as I did to Instagram; weirded out by why I or others ever wasted time reading AITA or TIL or more. On Instagram the accounts and content I enjoyed were so sparse to the junk I saw when I opened it was the majority of what I saw. I feel similarly about reddit. I hope to change my use here to what I do with Facebook, which is very sparingly and utilitarian (since there are some helpful subreddits).
Totally eye opening. I am stunned.
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I wanted to find some contact info in an old message on Insta and that was my reason to open it up again. I now feel like I got brain slapped by digital garbage. Having been off for a while, I found the app to be immensely overwhelming. I have a lot of connections there to acquaintances, some friendish professional contacts, parasocial type relations... it's just so weird to see people posting so much about their lives and work and opinions. I used to be that way, so I'm not bashing it, I'm just weirded out by the whole thing having some more distance now. It seems so odd - I just can't figure out what anyone is actually trying to communicate to each other with these posts. I do not think it's all narcissistic, as I know my intentions for sharing something like art I saw or something beautiful or inspiring were done with the intention to share that good with others and I often consumed content from others with a similar assumption about intentions - but still, it is so disconnected from the people next to you or that beauty in that moment. It's also just too darn much, too much, I can't see another flower tree there with the same awe again and again like I can irl. I loved the positive things shared and there were moments when the platform was something I really enjoyed, but it became less and less so, especially once stories and reels were added and the algorithm took you all over the metaverse away from the accounts you follow.
I gave myself a decent amount of time with the app to just explore old accounts I liked and sift through it while being mindful and I was surprised by how stressful even engaging with it just in one day is for me now. I could feel the pressure I would have had to post things about interesting things, or the protests on my campus, or travels, or big work milestones, and dang I'm so happy to have not had that these past few months. I also always used to tell myself that I'm immune to comparison on the apps, since I rarely feel envy irl, but I realized while I don't have "envy" I was definitely comparing myself to people in reels; I've lost 40 lbs recently and feel great and am working on 25 - 30 more, and the reels made me feel more insecure than ever about my body. I was bombarded with events and cool things in my city I would love to go to, but realized in my limited free time I am currently regularly getting out to museums and shows and the park and other things without Instagram directing me there -- and actually, I'm doing so more than ever without wasting my life online. There were other subtle changes in my mood or thoughts I was much more aware of while engaging after my break.
The whole thing felt fake and weird and left a bad taste in my mouth. I posted some new contact info for my friends (from my non inner circle irl whom I talk with regularly outside of social media) and said I'm doing well, gave it up for a bit and my break convinced me I'm going to keep doing so and turn it off for good tomorrow. I honestly wish instead of letting that contact be posted for a day I just shut it down for good after getting what I needed, but I'm happy to give a final adios to the platform and let people know, but I find the platform totally horrible to explore even for the brief amount I did today.
I cannot believe the amount of time I wasted on that platform and can't wait to but that garbage in the trash tomorrow.
It was completely eye opening to get back on social media like Instagram after a break.
I'm also more inspired than ever to tackle my last internet hook, which is reddit. I'm fairly confident I'd feel similarly coming back here as I did to Instagram; weirded out by why I or others ever wasted time reading AITA or TIL or more. On Instagram the accounts and content I enjoyed were so sparse to the junk I saw when I opened it was the majority of what I saw. I feel similarly about reddit. I hope to change my use here to what I do with Facebook, which is very sparingly and utilitarian (since there are some helpful subreddits).
Totally eye opening. I am stunned.
2024.05.19 06:47 imjust_a_lil_guy WA sucks
So I'm a 16 yo and I've hated my male body and I feel like I should've been born a girl obviously I'm trans and the thing that sucks about that is my best friend told me that there's no doctors that can help me transition in WA.
I don't really know what the actual thing they do is but I know it's something to do with the female hormone and putting it in my body or something like that and because of the fact I can't have the thing done because I'm in WA I've started taking female sports supplements or something similar with my mother knowing I don't know if it's helping my feel more feminine but it's whatever:3
Idk why I made this post but I did anyway have a good day or night
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I don't really know what the actual thing they do is but I know it's something to do with the female hormone and putting it in my body or something like that and because of the fact I can't have the thing done because I'm in WA I've started taking female sports supplements or something similar with my mother knowing I don't know if it's helping my feel more feminine but it's whatever:3
Idk why I made this post but I did anyway have a good day or night
2024.05.19 06:46 HazelTreeofKnowledge WIBTA if I told therapist about child abuse?
So it's would be a shit ton to unpack, but some of you may remember a post about 6 or so months ago about me threatening to go NC with my father, and the stuff my lovely sibling allowed and did to me when we were children..well and what my parents attitude towards it was. Long issue short...parents basically treated me like the back up child who was around to deal with the consequences of sister's actions, fix any wrongs she did etc. sister was...volatile...to say the least. Whether it was letting friends and bfs use me as a stress ball, or the time she touched me because it was funny. (She and her bf and friends thought it downright hilarious at the time)
Onto the issue. Her entire life she's wanted to be a mom, so she is. She's not the best mom, no one quite manipulates as flawlessly as she does, but she cares about her kids and puts in the time and effort to help them with activities/hobbies/groups. There's never been one sign that she has done or attempted to relive her past actions on her children.
The problem is, I just started seeing a new therapist to help with past trauma, and my childhood is one glaringly obvious one that is bound to come up. As a mandated reporter ..if I tell the therapist what happened as a child, they'll have to report it to law enforcement. There is no statute of limitations on child abuse, which means there's a very real possibility an investigation will start, the children will be removed until said investigation is over...and I will have caused trauma to kids who love their mother.
I will lose any connection and support I have left from my parents, and because they have covered up and smoothed over her actions for so many years....I'll be the one trying to cause drama and lying about childhood trauma. I will effectively destroy my family. I want to get better. I want to work through all this stuff that messed me up so badly...but at what cost? Is it really fair to blow apart multiple lives when everything points to her not being that same person? (At least when it comes to her children and people outside of immediate family)
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Onto the issue. Her entire life she's wanted to be a mom, so she is. She's not the best mom, no one quite manipulates as flawlessly as she does, but she cares about her kids and puts in the time and effort to help them with activities/hobbies/groups. There's never been one sign that she has done or attempted to relive her past actions on her children.
The problem is, I just started seeing a new therapist to help with past trauma, and my childhood is one glaringly obvious one that is bound to come up. As a mandated reporter ..if I tell the therapist what happened as a child, they'll have to report it to law enforcement. There is no statute of limitations on child abuse, which means there's a very real possibility an investigation will start, the children will be removed until said investigation is over...and I will have caused trauma to kids who love their mother.
I will lose any connection and support I have left from my parents, and because they have covered up and smoothed over her actions for so many years....I'll be the one trying to cause drama and lying about childhood trauma. I will effectively destroy my family. I want to get better. I want to work through all this stuff that messed me up so badly...but at what cost? Is it really fair to blow apart multiple lives when everything points to her not being that same person? (At least when it comes to her children and people outside of immediate family)
2024.05.19 06:46 ToxicCookingShow Friend Zone
What was the worst way you have ever been Friend Zoned, or the best way you friend zoned someone?
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2024.05.19 06:45 Significant_Ad_7697 My Girlfriend's roommate is my ex-girlfriend's best friend
My Girlfriend is studying abroad this summer and she's assigned a random roommate. It turns out to be my ex-girlfriend's best friend who heavily dislikes me, especially because the previous relationship ended badly. I wasn't the best partner in my past relationship and my girlfriend doesn't know about it as I've only vaguely discussed it with her, but now I'm scared she's going to find out a lot more about me then I am comfortable with. I'm scared anything her roommate says will negatively impact the good relationship I currently have going on. Any advice?
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2024.05.19 06:44 Peachbobafae Need to vent
Trigger warning: Mentions of losing a loved one and chronic illness
This has been the absolute worst year for me so far. In order; my best friend passed away, my chronic illness has gotten significantly worse, my boyfriend lost his job, and my mom has become homeless.
I’m the only one between my mom, boyfriend, and I with an income. I am struggling to make rent on my own due to my health (I call out at least once a week these days and I know I’m going to possibly lose my job but I can’t help that my endometriosis has grown onto my gallbladder and kidney).
I am also struggling to help my mom out in every which way I can. She can’t live with my boyfriend and I, but I have her sleep over every once in a while and make sure to cook her meals and let her use whatever she needs (laptop, shower, kitchen to cook, etc). I pay for her hotels when she needs a place to stay, but can’t do it anymore because I don’t make enough to cover my rent and rooms for my mom.
My boyfriend and I are on the verge of breaking up, because on top of me being the only one who has a job, I handle most of the chores. He complains when I ask him to do chores, but I am too sick to handle even basic tasks on my own. He called me entitled one night, and that lead to a fight between us because I am far from entitled. I work hard even with the state I am in.
He even asked me to pay for his haircut when my birthday is next week, and I don’t even have the money to take myself out. His response to me telling him this was, “Everyone has a birthday.” He puts his family’s birthdays first before everything else, so hearing him say this broke me.
My mental health has been absolute shit since my best friend passed away. And everything that has happened since is just building onto my stress.
I just feel so stuck because I don’t have the means to leave my boyfriend or my job, and I need surgery on top of everything.
I’m just so tired.
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This has been the absolute worst year for me so far. In order; my best friend passed away, my chronic illness has gotten significantly worse, my boyfriend lost his job, and my mom has become homeless.
I’m the only one between my mom, boyfriend, and I with an income. I am struggling to make rent on my own due to my health (I call out at least once a week these days and I know I’m going to possibly lose my job but I can’t help that my endometriosis has grown onto my gallbladder and kidney).
I am also struggling to help my mom out in every which way I can. She can’t live with my boyfriend and I, but I have her sleep over every once in a while and make sure to cook her meals and let her use whatever she needs (laptop, shower, kitchen to cook, etc). I pay for her hotels when she needs a place to stay, but can’t do it anymore because I don’t make enough to cover my rent and rooms for my mom.
My boyfriend and I are on the verge of breaking up, because on top of me being the only one who has a job, I handle most of the chores. He complains when I ask him to do chores, but I am too sick to handle even basic tasks on my own. He called me entitled one night, and that lead to a fight between us because I am far from entitled. I work hard even with the state I am in.
He even asked me to pay for his haircut when my birthday is next week, and I don’t even have the money to take myself out. His response to me telling him this was, “Everyone has a birthday.” He puts his family’s birthdays first before everything else, so hearing him say this broke me.
My mental health has been absolute shit since my best friend passed away. And everything that has happened since is just building onto my stress.
I just feel so stuck because I don’t have the means to leave my boyfriend or my job, and I need surgery on top of everything.
I’m just so tired.
2024.05.19 06:44 Necessary-Wall-6446 AITA for walking out of the bridal salon when I found out my friends were making fun of me behind my back?
I have two friends: Gaby and Shelly. All of us are 23, if that matters. We were roommates in college and stayed in the same city after graduation. While the three of us are close, I’ve always known that Gaby and Shelly are the closest. They have a really sweet friendship.
Shelly is getting married. Gaby is the maid of honor and I’m one of the bridesmaids. Over the weekend, I went with Shelly so she could look at wedding dresses. Gaby was supposed to come with us but got called into work last minute. I helped Shelly pick out some dresses then she went with the consultant to try them on. Shelly asked that I take pictures and videos on her phone to send to her mom and Gaby. I was getting the camera ready when a text from Gaby came through. I didn’t mean to click on it and was instantly going to click back out when I saw one of my Instagram pictures in their private chat from earlier that morning. Both were making fun of me for the face I was making and my outfit choice. It didn’t appear to be very good nature.
I admit, curiosity got the best of me so I searched my name in the chat. I found multiple pictures that I, my boyfriend or my mom have posted of myself, absolutely ripping them to shreds. Ranging from selfies to posed shots to even a few baby pictures. They’d also make fun of me in general in terms of the way I talked, wore my hair and the way I ate. This went back as far as I could tell, at least a year.
My heart broke. It all felt so juvenile and high school. While we all joke around, I would never do this to them nor have they ever even tried to instigate these types of conversations with me about the other one on one. I was in tears. As someone who was bullied all through middle and high school, it just brought me back to a horrible place. I put the phone in Shelly’s purse and brought it to another employee, telling her to tell Shelly that I had to go. I drove home and had a long cry.
Shelly texted me by the time I made it home asking where I went. I said I was going home and we could talk later. When she did call a few hours later, she was understandably confused and hurt that I left. I told her what I found, explaining that I only looked further because of the initial text I accidentally saw. She went off on me for looking through her private texts and said those were none of my business. She also told me I shouldn’t have left the store without saying anything. I said I didn’t want to make a scene but also knew I couldn’t fake being happy for her.
Shelly told me the texts were “all in good fun” and clearly she loves me because I’m going to be her bridesmaid. She added that I’m only hurt because I chose to read all those texts. Later on, Gaby called to tell me that I invaded Shelly’s privacy and hurt her by walking out.
My boyfriend and mom think I did the right thing by walking out. But obviously, they’re a little biased. I just want some unbiased looks: was I an asshole to look through the texts and then leave?
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Shelly is getting married. Gaby is the maid of honor and I’m one of the bridesmaids. Over the weekend, I went with Shelly so she could look at wedding dresses. Gaby was supposed to come with us but got called into work last minute. I helped Shelly pick out some dresses then she went with the consultant to try them on. Shelly asked that I take pictures and videos on her phone to send to her mom and Gaby. I was getting the camera ready when a text from Gaby came through. I didn’t mean to click on it and was instantly going to click back out when I saw one of my Instagram pictures in their private chat from earlier that morning. Both were making fun of me for the face I was making and my outfit choice. It didn’t appear to be very good nature.
I admit, curiosity got the best of me so I searched my name in the chat. I found multiple pictures that I, my boyfriend or my mom have posted of myself, absolutely ripping them to shreds. Ranging from selfies to posed shots to even a few baby pictures. They’d also make fun of me in general in terms of the way I talked, wore my hair and the way I ate. This went back as far as I could tell, at least a year.
My heart broke. It all felt so juvenile and high school. While we all joke around, I would never do this to them nor have they ever even tried to instigate these types of conversations with me about the other one on one. I was in tears. As someone who was bullied all through middle and high school, it just brought me back to a horrible place. I put the phone in Shelly’s purse and brought it to another employee, telling her to tell Shelly that I had to go. I drove home and had a long cry.
Shelly texted me by the time I made it home asking where I went. I said I was going home and we could talk later. When she did call a few hours later, she was understandably confused and hurt that I left. I told her what I found, explaining that I only looked further because of the initial text I accidentally saw. She went off on me for looking through her private texts and said those were none of my business. She also told me I shouldn’t have left the store without saying anything. I said I didn’t want to make a scene but also knew I couldn’t fake being happy for her.
Shelly told me the texts were “all in good fun” and clearly she loves me because I’m going to be her bridesmaid. She added that I’m only hurt because I chose to read all those texts. Later on, Gaby called to tell me that I invaded Shelly’s privacy and hurt her by walking out.
My boyfriend and mom think I did the right thing by walking out. But obviously, they’re a little biased. I just want some unbiased looks: was I an asshole to look through the texts and then leave?
2024.05.19 06:43 Dear-Investment-3514 Do I [18F] Break up with my [18M] Boyfriend?
I guess I'll start off by giving backstory. I am a (18F) in a relationship with my boyfriend(18M). We originally met back in February on a dating app, and we are long distance (of an hour away from each other), and our relationship is a secret from my dad (strict parent). My mom is aware of the relationship however because she is concerned for me getting found out, she limits my hangouts with my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I try to see each other every week, sometimes every other week.
I just want to make it clear: from the beginning of our relationship I have been the one to mess things up. Or that is how (him and me) mostly see it. I think I've come to realize it's because I have a lot of mental immaturity. From what I recall, one of the first arguments we had was my inability to communicate properly with my boyfriend. Such as: texting him small updates or, checking things he would send me on social media and not reply to his iMessage back. Very minor communication. The others were a bit more extreme. One of the more extreme ones stemmed from the whole strict parent thing. See, originally my boyfriend asked me out the first month in which we met. However, I turned him down because although I wanted to say yes, I didn't want to lie about the status of my relationship to my parents. Eventually, I wanted the two of us to become official after a few months of us talking, so I can then introduce him as my boyfriend to my parents. This created a big issue between us, in which he started developing a sense of not having security in the relationship. This would be the cause of many arguments. I think my fault in this was instead of reassuring him and making him feel heard; I would apologize over and over again trying to offer solutions. On his birthday I wrote him a long love letter and I told him I wanted to make things official, the truth is I felt pressured because a week before his birthday we had the same reoccurring argument. We've had a lot of arguments piling since then, many of them having to with me such as: making conversations about his feelings about myself, in which then he feels pressured to comfort me. Our most recent argument was completely my mistake and I recognize this.
About three weeks ago, one of my friends was preforming at my former highschool. It was going to be a concert like event in which students and their rock bands would preform. So I invited my Best Friend (18M) and my Boyfriend. (To clarify, my best friend has been my friend for 7 years and he is gay, this doesn't have to do with my best friend being a man; my boyfriend himself is comfortable with our relationship.) I had not seen my boyfriend for a week or so prior to this event and so I would constantly tell him about how I miss him and how I was looking forward to see him, hence why I invited him. Before the event started, the three of us (me, Boyfriend, and Best friend) decided to go to a cafe to get a drink since it was a 5min walk from my former highschool (where the event was being held). I thought I was giving him attention by being affectionate in holding his hand, trying to include him in conversation, and clinging to his arm would be enough: showing my boyfriend that I missed him. However, when we walked back from the cafe to line up outside the event, I noticed he was going quiet and even got out of line to sit down at a nearby bench. When we entered the event, us three sat down and my Boyfriend put his head down immediately. I knew from that, that this wasn't his vibe. After the first two songs, he got up and left (with letting me know) and went back to his car. I asked him if he was okay, and he just told me he wanted to lay down. The event was three hours, I stayed for the first hour almost two, before receiving a text from my boyfriend. In which he said "should I just leave", so I left the event and went to his car to talk to him. He told me that he felt unappreciated especially because I said I had missed him so much, that I didn't even say "thank you baby for driving an hour to be here". We ended up talking this out and we went to dinner after. The reason why I am bringing this up is because my best friend was actually quite annoyed at this. This week, me and my best friend went out to Koreatown which we were talking about my boyfriend. My best friend brought up his behavior from the event, and demonstrated the way my boyfriend had his head down expressing how annoyed it made him feel that I left early, and even missed some of my friend performance which was the reason why I went. I made the mistake of mentioning this to my boyfriend. He got extremely upset, and took my best friend as mocking him and disrespecting him, he got mad at me for not defending him. This was a very big argument. My boyfriend has expressed and even shown throughout the arguements we've had, that he is losing his patience and feels as though I am abusing him ;"Let me continue to beat you mentally and ask for forgiveness with no promise of a promising future for myself in change (he told me this)". Lately, although I should have been doing this from the beginning have been trying to put my best foot forward in changing attitude, I've been trying to be more supportive and not making conversations about myself, in making sure that he knows that I understand him, however I keep messing up and its very frustrating to me.
I've talked to my therapist and my own mom about my problems, because I really want to stay with my boyfriend and I really want to change. My last relationship I was sexually and verbally abused, and although me and my boyfriend have a lot of problems he really is the best and the first person I have seen a future with. I sometimes struggle with the trauma from my last relationship, which is why sometimes I get scared of expressing myself (my ex would call me stupid or a manipulator when I expressed myself so I get scared of retaliation). My boyfriend gets sometimes frustrated when I explain this because he tells me "well I'm not him and you know that". Although I love this person, I don't know whether to break up with him or not. We have both stayed with each other because we want to work things out, however as he has expressed to me and I have noticed: this creating an unhealthy environment and he feels like he is in an unhealthy environment. I never want to keep my boyfriend in an environment in which he feels unsafe and not happy. A lot of the time I worry because of the several arguements we have had, that he is not happy but yet he stays. I cry a lot and I feel terrible, I never open to my mom about things ever but, I did the last argument because of how terrible I feel about it all. I feel like I'm not enough. I find myself trying but even I know my efforts aren't enough for this relationship. Any advice will help which is why I've taken it to here, thank you if you read this.
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I just want to make it clear: from the beginning of our relationship I have been the one to mess things up. Or that is how (him and me) mostly see it. I think I've come to realize it's because I have a lot of mental immaturity. From what I recall, one of the first arguments we had was my inability to communicate properly with my boyfriend. Such as: texting him small updates or, checking things he would send me on social media and not reply to his iMessage back. Very minor communication. The others were a bit more extreme. One of the more extreme ones stemmed from the whole strict parent thing. See, originally my boyfriend asked me out the first month in which we met. However, I turned him down because although I wanted to say yes, I didn't want to lie about the status of my relationship to my parents. Eventually, I wanted the two of us to become official after a few months of us talking, so I can then introduce him as my boyfriend to my parents. This created a big issue between us, in which he started developing a sense of not having security in the relationship. This would be the cause of many arguments. I think my fault in this was instead of reassuring him and making him feel heard; I would apologize over and over again trying to offer solutions. On his birthday I wrote him a long love letter and I told him I wanted to make things official, the truth is I felt pressured because a week before his birthday we had the same reoccurring argument. We've had a lot of arguments piling since then, many of them having to with me such as: making conversations about his feelings about myself, in which then he feels pressured to comfort me. Our most recent argument was completely my mistake and I recognize this.
About three weeks ago, one of my friends was preforming at my former highschool. It was going to be a concert like event in which students and their rock bands would preform. So I invited my Best Friend (18M) and my Boyfriend. (To clarify, my best friend has been my friend for 7 years and he is gay, this doesn't have to do with my best friend being a man; my boyfriend himself is comfortable with our relationship.) I had not seen my boyfriend for a week or so prior to this event and so I would constantly tell him about how I miss him and how I was looking forward to see him, hence why I invited him. Before the event started, the three of us (me, Boyfriend, and Best friend) decided to go to a cafe to get a drink since it was a 5min walk from my former highschool (where the event was being held). I thought I was giving him attention by being affectionate in holding his hand, trying to include him in conversation, and clinging to his arm would be enough: showing my boyfriend that I missed him. However, when we walked back from the cafe to line up outside the event, I noticed he was going quiet and even got out of line to sit down at a nearby bench. When we entered the event, us three sat down and my Boyfriend put his head down immediately. I knew from that, that this wasn't his vibe. After the first two songs, he got up and left (with letting me know) and went back to his car. I asked him if he was okay, and he just told me he wanted to lay down. The event was three hours, I stayed for the first hour almost two, before receiving a text from my boyfriend. In which he said "should I just leave", so I left the event and went to his car to talk to him. He told me that he felt unappreciated especially because I said I had missed him so much, that I didn't even say "thank you baby for driving an hour to be here". We ended up talking this out and we went to dinner after. The reason why I am bringing this up is because my best friend was actually quite annoyed at this. This week, me and my best friend went out to Koreatown which we were talking about my boyfriend. My best friend brought up his behavior from the event, and demonstrated the way my boyfriend had his head down expressing how annoyed it made him feel that I left early, and even missed some of my friend performance which was the reason why I went. I made the mistake of mentioning this to my boyfriend. He got extremely upset, and took my best friend as mocking him and disrespecting him, he got mad at me for not defending him. This was a very big argument. My boyfriend has expressed and even shown throughout the arguements we've had, that he is losing his patience and feels as though I am abusing him ;"Let me continue to beat you mentally and ask for forgiveness with no promise of a promising future for myself in change (he told me this)". Lately, although I should have been doing this from the beginning have been trying to put my best foot forward in changing attitude, I've been trying to be more supportive and not making conversations about myself, in making sure that he knows that I understand him, however I keep messing up and its very frustrating to me.
I've talked to my therapist and my own mom about my problems, because I really want to stay with my boyfriend and I really want to change. My last relationship I was sexually and verbally abused, and although me and my boyfriend have a lot of problems he really is the best and the first person I have seen a future with. I sometimes struggle with the trauma from my last relationship, which is why sometimes I get scared of expressing myself (my ex would call me stupid or a manipulator when I expressed myself so I get scared of retaliation). My boyfriend gets sometimes frustrated when I explain this because he tells me "well I'm not him and you know that". Although I love this person, I don't know whether to break up with him or not. We have both stayed with each other because we want to work things out, however as he has expressed to me and I have noticed: this creating an unhealthy environment and he feels like he is in an unhealthy environment. I never want to keep my boyfriend in an environment in which he feels unsafe and not happy. A lot of the time I worry because of the several arguements we have had, that he is not happy but yet he stays. I cry a lot and I feel terrible, I never open to my mom about things ever but, I did the last argument because of how terrible I feel about it all. I feel like I'm not enough. I find myself trying but even I know my efforts aren't enough for this relationship. Any advice will help which is why I've taken it to here, thank you if you read this.
2024.05.19 06:43 Glittering_Depth1584 AITA for always starting fights?
I (15F) and my mom (41F) have always fought. Recently we have been getting into a lot more big fights over the littlest things, for example I did my hair a different way and she tried to tell me to not (I normally have straight hair but I let my hair go naturally wavy) because she “had more life experience” and “I don’t have curly hair”. This weekend I went to my best friends cottage and didn’t have wifi, I had to ask her dad to help me with my data because I had to stand in certain spots to get it to send messages. Her dad drove us to see some animals and I told my mom about it, soon after she asked me what time I would be home which I didn’t see since I had no data and I was busy with the animals. She got extremely upset and I answered about an 1-2 hours after when I was on my way home. She told me I was supposed to be home at noon (it was 4PM) which we didn’t agree on and she never told me when she would like me home by.
Later when I got home she spoke to me outside and told me she didn’t appreciate me ignoring her, how she was going to take my phone away if I did it again, how I should’ve answered her, and told me not to talk, etc. I was getting really upset since she was saying I was making excuses so I told her I didn’t have data and I couldn’t. Which she took as another excuse, she then screamed at me to shut up and jumped up and down getting really upset with me (having a tantrum) so I just walked off as she tried to tell me off. I was already upset with her since she slept in my bed (my uncle is over so he is in my brothers room, as well I dislike when others sleep in my bed without asking, I am a bit of a germaphobe and she showers once a month) and got upset with my brother when he said he didn’t want too sleep in my bed because he knows I wouldn’t appreciate it. She could have slept in the same bed as my dad (they don’t sleep in the same bed due to different schedules) or even slept on the other side of the couch since we have an L shaped couch. I have a plan to get a job as soon as possible so I can save to move out as soon as I can because I can’t keep arguing with her only to get blamed for every argument, at this point she makes me feel like I’m a horrible kid and I’m starting to think I’m a bad person. So AITA?
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Later when I got home she spoke to me outside and told me she didn’t appreciate me ignoring her, how she was going to take my phone away if I did it again, how I should’ve answered her, and told me not to talk, etc. I was getting really upset since she was saying I was making excuses so I told her I didn’t have data and I couldn’t. Which she took as another excuse, she then screamed at me to shut up and jumped up and down getting really upset with me (having a tantrum) so I just walked off as she tried to tell me off. I was already upset with her since she slept in my bed (my uncle is over so he is in my brothers room, as well I dislike when others sleep in my bed without asking, I am a bit of a germaphobe and she showers once a month) and got upset with my brother when he said he didn’t want too sleep in my bed because he knows I wouldn’t appreciate it. She could have slept in the same bed as my dad (they don’t sleep in the same bed due to different schedules) or even slept on the other side of the couch since we have an L shaped couch. I have a plan to get a job as soon as possible so I can save to move out as soon as I can because I can’t keep arguing with her only to get blamed for every argument, at this point she makes me feel like I’m a horrible kid and I’m starting to think I’m a bad person. So AITA?
2024.05.19 06:42 clydie__________ scared to take the risk
So I have a huge crush on someone (like super huge) and I can’t seem to confess to him because I know for a fact that he’ll reject me. This is because he stated it clearly na he is persistent to his type, which I’m not (sadly). So I just befriended him all the way until we became besties. We gossip about men when in reality he is the one I want to. I imagine being with him everyday. I’m an agnostic but somehow I got to make a sign of the cross and pray for him. So now I’m even more scared to confess my feelings for him because I don’t wanna risk our friendship and loose a very thoughtful friend. That’s why I’m keeping this secret burried for as long as I can. I’m trying my best for my feelings to be gone pero damn everyday, he makes me blush internally just in his own little ways. Am I wrong for this?
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2024.05.19 06:42 Commercial_Section87 Feeling a type of way after attending a wedding with boyfriend
My boyfriend and I went to a wedding yesterday and I was kinda rubbed the wrong way.
For one I didn’t know the bride or groom, as the groom was his best friend growing up. One of his childhood friends also showed up, but we had never met before either.
My boyfriend was in the wedding and I was a guest. I knew this going in so there weren’t really any hard feelings there. I guess where I really started to feel upset was during the reception.
For context my boyfriend and his childhood friend don’t see each other often. The friend, let’s call them Mary, drove 8 hours to be at the wedding. Thus, this was essential the wedding was also an opportunity for them to catch up.
Mary was very nice to me, so there’s no complaints there. Throughout the night though, I felt as though Mary was my boyfriend’s date instead of me. They were constantly hitting the bar together (I’m not a big drinker and only had 2-3 drinks throughout the entire night), dancing together, and took multiple pictures together.
I get that they hadn’t seen each other in a while but I couldn’t help but feel like I didn’t really need to be there. It was a nice wedding and I’m happy for the couple but ultimately I felt out of place, and my boyfriend’s behavior only emphasized that feeling. Not to mention the fact that we don’t have a single photo of us from the night.
By the end of it I was tired, cold, and ready to go home. When we got home, my boyfriend immediately asked me what was wrong. I felt silly bringing up Mary so instead I mentioned some of my boyfriend’s behavior.
He apologized but didn’t really grasp why I was upset. He kinda just kept apologizing for how I felt rather than how his actions made me feel.
I’m not sure how to proceed given what’s happened had happened. I guess I just figured attending a wedding together would be more fun. Instead I kinda just found myself waiting for it to end so I could go home.
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For one I didn’t know the bride or groom, as the groom was his best friend growing up. One of his childhood friends also showed up, but we had never met before either.
My boyfriend was in the wedding and I was a guest. I knew this going in so there weren’t really any hard feelings there. I guess where I really started to feel upset was during the reception.
For context my boyfriend and his childhood friend don’t see each other often. The friend, let’s call them Mary, drove 8 hours to be at the wedding. Thus, this was essential the wedding was also an opportunity for them to catch up.
Mary was very nice to me, so there’s no complaints there. Throughout the night though, I felt as though Mary was my boyfriend’s date instead of me. They were constantly hitting the bar together (I’m not a big drinker and only had 2-3 drinks throughout the entire night), dancing together, and took multiple pictures together.
I get that they hadn’t seen each other in a while but I couldn’t help but feel like I didn’t really need to be there. It was a nice wedding and I’m happy for the couple but ultimately I felt out of place, and my boyfriend’s behavior only emphasized that feeling. Not to mention the fact that we don’t have a single photo of us from the night.
By the end of it I was tired, cold, and ready to go home. When we got home, my boyfriend immediately asked me what was wrong. I felt silly bringing up Mary so instead I mentioned some of my boyfriend’s behavior.
He apologized but didn’t really grasp why I was upset. He kinda just kept apologizing for how I felt rather than how his actions made me feel.
I’m not sure how to proceed given what’s happened had happened. I guess I just figured attending a wedding together would be more fun. Instead I kinda just found myself waiting for it to end so I could go home.
2024.05.19 06:41 LeagueOfChesster Unlock Your Potential with a Friendly and Affordable Coach - Over 1,000 Successful Sessions in 2022 Bundle Discounts Available Free Consultation, Analysis, and Sessions Limited Openings for May.
About me
Hello there, my name is Coach Chesster(Yes, an obvious Chess reference, which is, by far, my favorite game). I've been playing League of Legends since season one, I've experienced everything from full AP Yi one-shotting my entire team to Tryndamere mains spinning around with a needlessly large rod instead of a sword. You could say I've been there during all the important historical moments of the game. I've been at the top of the ladder in Season 6 (Going between high Diamond and Challenger, based on how much time I've had to invest). I've competed in various tournaments, even being able to win a number of them, before I decided to get myself into coaching.
Coaching
I started the entire coaching thing during season 7 when one of my friends asked if I wanted to help him get out of that Diamond 4 hell. Ever since then, I was having a consistent number of sessions on a weekly basis, with my network of people slowly increasing(One of them actually gave me the idea to advertise on Reddit, which I did eventually accept!) I've coached more than 700 individuals ever since I started and I can proudly say I've had more than 500 sessions this year alone! So, if you are looking for someone who is around for more than 5 days actually add me.
Some of my personal coaching achievements include
Getting a player from Silver 1 to Platinum in just 5 weeks
Getting D2 to Masters in 2 weeks
Bronze 1 to Diamond, yes, this one happened as well, though it took slightly more time
Helping Duo players on NA reach Gold(They were actually stuck in Bronze 2 prior!)
Creating a coach from hard-stuck D2 after he got GM
Community
In addition to my services, I am proud to present to you our Educational community, which is steadily growing on a daily basis. Aside from Coaching, it is an amazing place to connect with other people, find friends and talk about the game all of us love and enjoy. Various events are held on a weekly basis, from 1v1 tournaments to Team Contests, with nice rewards being given out! Hint, you might win a free session!
All of our coaches have been vetted and verified, being certain all of you guys get the best service available! Every single one has peaked at least Grandmaster, with a minimum of 250 Coaching Hours to their name.
Discord Community: CLICK HERE
Prices for my sessions are negotiable and I can guarantee, they fall onto the affordable part of the specter!
My coaching sessions are oriented and tailored to each student's specific needs, and they do cover everything from theory to live coaching, in-game mentality, etc.
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Hello there, my name is Coach Chesster(Yes, an obvious Chess reference, which is, by far, my favorite game). I've been playing League of Legends since season one, I've experienced everything from full AP Yi one-shotting my entire team to Tryndamere mains spinning around with a needlessly large rod instead of a sword. You could say I've been there during all the important historical moments of the game. I've been at the top of the ladder in Season 6 (Going between high Diamond and Challenger, based on how much time I've had to invest). I've competed in various tournaments, even being able to win a number of them, before I decided to get myself into coaching.
Coaching
I started the entire coaching thing during season 7 when one of my friends asked if I wanted to help him get out of that Diamond 4 hell. Ever since then, I was having a consistent number of sessions on a weekly basis, with my network of people slowly increasing(One of them actually gave me the idea to advertise on Reddit, which I did eventually accept!) I've coached more than 700 individuals ever since I started and I can proudly say I've had more than 500 sessions this year alone! So, if you are looking for someone who is around for more than 5 days actually add me.
Some of my personal coaching achievements include
Getting a player from Silver 1 to Platinum in just 5 weeks
Getting D2 to Masters in 2 weeks
Bronze 1 to Diamond, yes, this one happened as well, though it took slightly more time
Helping Duo players on NA reach Gold(They were actually stuck in Bronze 2 prior!)
Creating a coach from hard-stuck D2 after he got GM
Community
In addition to my services, I am proud to present to you our Educational community, which is steadily growing on a daily basis. Aside from Coaching, it is an amazing place to connect with other people, find friends and talk about the game all of us love and enjoy. Various events are held on a weekly basis, from 1v1 tournaments to Team Contests, with nice rewards being given out! Hint, you might win a free session!
All of our coaches have been vetted and verified, being certain all of you guys get the best service available! Every single one has peaked at least Grandmaster, with a minimum of 250 Coaching Hours to their name.
Discord Community: CLICK HERE
- Upon joining, message me in order to have a Role assigned!
Prices for my sessions are negotiable and I can guarantee, they fall onto the affordable part of the specter!
My coaching sessions are oriented and tailored to each student's specific needs, and they do cover everything from theory to live coaching, in-game mentality, etc.
2024.05.19 06:41 Vegetable_Trash7511 11 year old tore both ccl(acl)
My 11 year old Shih Tzu Bichon Oliver tore his ccl in his right hind leg back in February. They did lateral suture surgery on him in March and he ended up stretching the suture so they have to replace it. Now tonight he tried jumping and I think he tore his left leg too. He won’t really walk or put weight on it. I’m very scared as he is our boy and my best friend in the whole world. Has this happened to anyone else and they’re dog made it through recovery even at 11. He is a fairly active dog and loves to play. I don’t want him to suffer but I also don’t want to say goodbye. Since it’s the weekend I can’t even talk to a vet until Monday. I just want to know my boy will be ok
Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
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Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
2024.05.19 06:41 Sweet-Count2557 Best Restaurants in Rapid City Sd
 | Best Restaurants in Rapid City Sd Welcome to our culinary adventure through Rapid City, South Dakota! Prepare to indulge in a smorgasbord of flavors as we uncover the best restaurants this vibrant city has to offer.From the aromatic spices of Everest Cuisine to the sizzling steaks at Delmonico Grill, there's something to satisfy every craving. Quench your thirst at Independent Ale House or satisfy your taco cravings at Eddies Tacos RC.Join us as we embark on a gastronomic journey through Rapid City. Let's dig in!Key TakeawaysEverest Cuisine, Kathmandu Bistro, and Qu Pasa? Cantina offer authentic Indian, Nepalese, and Tibetan cuisine with must-try dishes like vegetable samosa, mixed vegetable curry, chicken tikka masala, and fish tacos.Delmonico Grill is an upscale steakhouse known for its romantic setting and seasonal meals crafted by chefs. Must-try dishes include bacon-wrapped shrimp, soup of the day, and On Green Dolphin Street Ribeye.Independent Ale House is a laid-back tap house with a wide selection of beers, pizzas, and salads. Must-try dishes include handcrafted beers, Alien with an Attitude, Caesar salad, and spicy chicken pizza.Tallys Silver Spoon is a landmark dining place since 1930 that offers sumptuous meals made with fresh ingredients. Highly recommended by locals, it is known for sourcing ingredients from local food growers.Everest Cuisine, Kathmandu Bistro, and Qu Pasa? Cantina: Authentic Indian, Nepalese, and Tibetan CuisineOur favorite restaurants in Rapid City, SD for authentic Indian, Nepalese, and Tibetan cuisine are Everest Cuisine, Kathmandu Bistro, and Qu Pasa? Cantina. These establishments offer unique dining experiences with a diverse range of tastes.At Everest Cuisine, you can indulge in traditional dishes like vegetable samosa, mixed vegetable curry, and chicken tikka masala. For those seeking a more adventurous palate, Qu Pasa? Cantina serves up alligator tikka masala and combo biryani. Kathmandu Bistro offers a fusion of flavors with dishes like shrimp Kadai and reshmi kebab.Everest Cuisine, located in downtown Rapid City, provides a welcoming atmosphere with friendly staff. The restaurant's interior reflects the rich cultural heritage of Nepal and India. The menu is filled with mouthwatering options that cater to both vegetarians and meat lovers. The fragrant aromas and bold spices will transport you to the streets of Kathmandu or the bustling markets of Mumbai.Kathmandu Bistro, also located downtown, offers a cozy ambiance with warm lighting and authentic decor. The chefs at Kathmandu Bistro are skilled in the art of creating flavorful dishes that showcase the best of Nepalese and Indian cuisine. From the first bite, you can taste the freshness of the ingredients and the care that goes into each dish.Qu Pasa? Cantina, situated in the heart of Rapid City, is a two-floor Mexican restaurant that stands out for its wide selection of tequila. The simple yet attractive architecture adds to the overall dining experience. The must-try dish at Qu Pasa? Cantina is their fish tacos, which are bursting with flavor and served with all the traditional toppings.When it comes to places to eat in Rapid City, these three restaurants are top contenders for anyone craving authentic Indian, Nepalese, and Tibetan cuisine. Whether you're a local or a visitor, you won't be disappointed with the flavors and dining experiences they have to offer.Delmonico Grill: Upscale Steakhouse With a Romantic SettingFor an upscale steakhouse with a romantic setting, Delmonico Grill offers a dining experience like no other. Founded by local chef Pete Franklin, this fine dining establishment is known for its exquisite seasonal meals and elegant ambiance. From the moment you step inside, you'll be greeted by the warm and inviting atmosphere, perfect for a special date night or anniversary celebration.Delmonico Grill takes pride in sourcing the highest quality ingredients to create their culinary masterpieces. Each dish is carefully crafted by their talented team of chefs, ensuring a delectable and unforgettable meal. Start your evening with the tantalizing bacon-wrapped shrimp, a perfect combination of smoky flavors and succulent textures. Pair it with the soup of the day, a comforting and flavorful option that changes daily.When it comes to the main course, the On Green Dolphin Street Ribeye is a must-try. This perfectly cooked steak is tender and juicy, offering a melt-in-your-mouth experience that will leave you craving for more. Accompanied by a variety of handcrafted side dishes, such as creamy mashed potatoes or grilled asparagus, each bite is a symphony of flavors.The knowledgeable and attentive staff at Delmonico Grill are always on hand to guide you through the menu and offer recommendations. Whether you're a steak aficionado or looking to explore new culinary horizons, they'll ensure that your dining experience exceeds your expectations.With its upscale atmosphere, exceptional cuisine, and romantic setting, Delmonico Grill is the ideal choice for those seeking a special dining experience. Indulge in the finest cuts of meat, savor the exquisite flavors, and create lasting memories at this remarkable steakhouse.Independent Ale House: Known for Beers, Pizza, and SaladsWe can't wait to tell you about Independent Ale House, known for their wide selection of beers, delicious pizza, and fresh salads. Here's why you should pay them a visit:First true tap house in Rapid City: Independent Ale House takes pride in being the first establishment of its kind in the city. With 50 beers on rotation, they offer a diverse selection that will surely satisfy any beer lover's cravings. Whether you prefer a hoppy IPA, a smooth stout, or a refreshing cider, they've something for everyone.Laid-back atmosphere with friendly bar staff: The moment you step into Independent Ale House, you'll feel a sense of freedom and relaxation. The laid-back atmosphere, combined with the friendly and knowledgeable bar staff, creates an inviting environment where you can unwind and enjoy your time with friends or family.Must-try dishes: While Independent Ale House is known for its beers, they also offer a mouthwatering selection of food. Don't miss out on their handcrafted beers, such as the popular Alien with an Attitude. Pair your drink with a fresh Caesar salad or indulge in their spicy chicken or chicken, bacon, and ranch pizzas for a satisfying meal.Now that you know what Independent Ale House has to offer, get ready to satisfy your cravings for great beer, pizza, and salads. But before you head out, let's move on to the next section about 'Eddies Tacos RC: Family-Owned Mexican Food Truck'.Eddies Tacos RC: Family-Owned Mexican Food TruckBut don't overlook Eddies Tacos RC, a family-owned Mexican food truck that offers a unique setup and a menu filled with tasty options. This hidden gem is a must-visit for those craving authentic Mexican flavors in Rapid City. Eddies Tacos RC is known for its vibrant and flavorful dishes that are sure to satisfy your taste buds.The food truck is run by a warm and welcoming family who puts their heart and soul into every dish they serve. The setup is simple yet inviting, with colorful decorations and a friendly atmosphere that adds to the overall dining experience. Whether you're grabbing a quick bite or looking to cater a special event, Eddies Tacos RC has got you covered.When it comes to the menu, Eddies Tacos RC offers a wide variety of options to choose from. Their all-meat combo burrito is a fan favorite, packed with juicy meats and topped with fresh salsa and guacamole. If you prefer tacos, you can't go wrong with their taco plate, filled with your choice of meat and accompanied by flavorful toppings. And for those who love quesadillas, their meaty quesadilla is a must-try, oozing with melted cheese and savory fillings.As we transition to the next section about Tallys Silver Spoon, another iconic dining place in Rapid City, it's worth mentioning that Eddies Tacos RC perfectly embodies the freedom and diversity of cuisine in this city. With their mouthwatering Mexican dishes, this family-owned food truck adds a unique flavor to the culinary scene of Rapid City.Tallys Silver Spoon: Landmark Dining Place Since 1930As we delve into the topic of Tallys Silver Spoon, a landmark dining place since 1930, we're transported to a bygone era of culinary excellence in Rapid City, SD. This historic restaurant holds a special place in the hearts of locals and visitors alike, offering a taste of tradition and a glimpse into the past.Here are three reasons why Tallys Silver Spoon continues to be a beloved dining destination:Rich History: Tallys Silver Spoon has been serving the community for over 90 years, making it one of the oldest restaurants in the area. Its longstanding presence is a testament to its commitment to quality and exceptional service. Stepping inside the restaurant feels like stepping back in time, with its charming decor and vintage ambiance.Upscale Dining Experience: Over the years, Tallys Silver Spoon has transformed from a humble cafe to an upscale eatery. The restaurant prides itself on using fresh ingredients sourced from local food growers, ensuring that every dish is bursting with flavor and quality. From delectable seafood to mouthwatering steaks, the menu offers a wide range of options for every palate.Local Recommendation: Tallys Silver Spoon comes highly recommended by locals, who appreciate its rich history and consistently delicious food. Whether you're a first-time visitor or a regular patron, the friendly staff and warm atmosphere make you feel right at home. It's a place where memories are made and cherished.Texas Roadhouse: Popular Steak Restaurant Founded in 1993Let's explore Texas Roadhouse, a popular steak restaurant founded in 1993, known for its savory American dishes and friendly staff.Texas Roadhouse is a favorite among locals and tourists alike for its delicious steaks and lively atmosphere. As soon as you step inside, you'll be greeted by the mouthwatering aroma of seasoned meats sizzling on the grill.The menu at Texas Roadhouse offers a wide range of options, from juicy steaks cooked to perfection to fall-off-the-bone ribs that are sure to satisfy any carnivorous cravings. One of their most popular dishes is the Prime Rib, a tender and flavorful cut of meat that's sure to leave you wanting more. For those looking for a taste of the South, their Fall-of-the-Bone Ribs are a must-try, slathered in a tangy barbecue sauce that will have your taste buds dancing.But Texas Roadhouse isn't just about the steaks. Their handcrafted side dishes are equally as impressive. From their buttery mashed potatoes to their crispy seasoned fries, each side dish is made with care and attention to detail. And don't forget to save room for their famous homemade rolls, served warm and accompanied by a delicious cinnamon butter.What sets Texas Roadhouse apart from other steak restaurants is its friendly and energetic staff. The servers go above and beyond to make sure you have a memorable dining experience. They engage in lively banter, perform line dances, and even let you choose your favorite songs on the jukebox.Frequently Asked QuestionsWhat Are the Vegetarian Options Available at Everest Cuisine, Kathmandu Bistro, and Qu Pasa? Cantina?At Everest Cuisine, Kathmandu Bistro, and Qu Pasa? Cantina, we offer a variety of vegetarian options.At Everest Cuisine, you can try the vegetable samosa, mixed vegetable curry, and the combo biryani.Kathmandu Bistro has delicious vegetarian dishes like the vegetable samosa and the mixed vegetable curry.Qu Pasa? Cantina offers vegetarian options like the Caesar salad and the spicy chicken pizza.These restaurants provide diverse and flavorful vegetarian choices for those seeking a meat-free dining experience.Can You Provide More Information About the Seasonal Meals Offered at Delmonico Grill?At Delmonico Grill, we offer a delightful array of seasonal meals that are crafted by our talented chefs.Our fine dining experience is set in a romantic ambiance, perfect for a special occasion.From the bacon-wrapped shrimp to the On Green Dolphin Street Ribeye, our must-try dishes are sure to tantalize your taste buds.With a commitment to using fresh and quality ingredients, Delmonico Grill is a top choice for an unforgettable culinary experience in Rapid City.How Many Different Types of Beers Are Available at Independent Ale House?At Independent Ale House, you can choose from a rotating selection of 50 different types of beers. We offer a diverse range of craft beers, ensuring that there's something for everyone's taste.Our laid-back atmosphere and friendly bar staff create a welcoming environment to enjoy your favorite brews.Whether you're a beer enthusiast or just looking to try something new, Independent Ale House is the perfect spot to indulge in handcrafted beers and delicious food.What Are the Catering Services Offered by Eddie's Tacos Rc?Eddie's Tacos RC offers catering services for special events. They're a family-owned and operated Mexican food truck, known for their unique setup and tasty menu.Whether it's a birthday party or a corporate gathering, they can provide delicious Mexican cuisine to cater to your guests' tastes. From their all-meat combo burrito to their mouthwatering tacos and quesadillas, Eddie's Tacos RC will bring the flavors of Mexico to your event with their exceptional catering services.Can You Recommend Any Specific Dishes at Tallys Silver Spoon Made With Fresh Local Ingredients?At Tally's Silver Spoon, we highly recommend trying their sumptuous meals made with fresh local ingredients. As a landmark dining place since 1930, Tally's has been sourcing their ingredients from local food growers, ensuring the highest quality and supporting the community.Whether you're in the mood for breakfast, lunch, or dinner, Tally's offers a diverse menu that's sure to please your taste buds. Don't miss out on this local favorite for a truly unforgettable dining experience.ConclusionAs we conclude our culinary journey through Rapid City, South Dakota, one thing is for certain - this city is a food lover's paradise.From the exotic flavors of Everest Cuisine to the classic elegance of Delmonico Grill, there's no shortage of dining options to satisfy every palate.Whether you're in the mood for a laid-back atmosphere at Independent Ale House or the historic charm of Tallys Silver Spoon, Rapid City has it all.So, what're you waiting for? Come explore and indulge in the best restaurants this vibrant city has to offer. submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] |
2024.05.19 06:41 LeagueOfChesster Unlock Your Potential with a Friendly and Affordable Coach - Over 1,000 Successful Sessions in 2022 Bundle Discounts Available Free Consultation, Analysis, and Sessions Limited Openings for May.
About me
Hello there, my name is Coach Chesster(Yes, an obvious Chess reference, which is, by far, my favorite game). I've been playing League of Legends since season one, I've experienced everything from full AP Yi one-shotting my entire team to Tryndamere mains spinning around with a needlessly large rod instead of a sword. You could say I've been there during all the important historical moments of the game. I've been at the top of the ladder in Season 6 (Going between high Diamond and Challenger, based on how much time I've had to invest). I've competed in various tournaments, even being able to win a number of them, before I decided to get myself into coaching.
Coaching
I started the entire coaching thing during season 7 when one of my friends asked if I wanted to help him get out of that Diamond 4 hell. Ever since then, I was having a consistent number of sessions on a weekly basis, with my network of people slowly increasing(One of them actually gave me the idea to advertise on Reddit, which I did eventually accept!) I've coached more than 700 individuals ever since I started and I can proudly say I've had more than 500 sessions this year alone! So, if you are looking for someone who is around for more than 5 days actually add me.
Some of my personal coaching achievements include
Getting a player from Silver 1 to Platinum in just 5 weeks
Getting D2 to Masters in 2 weeks
Bronze 1 to Diamond, yes, this one happened as well, though it took slightly more time
Helping Duo players on NA reach Gold(They were actually stuck in Bronze 2 prior!)
Creating a coach from hard-stuck D2 after he got GM
Community
In addition to my services, I am proud to present to you our Educational community, which is steadily growing on a daily basis. Aside from Coaching, it is an amazing place to connect with other people, find friends and talk about the game all of us love and enjoy. Various events are held on a weekly basis, from 1v1 tournaments to Team Contests, with nice rewards being given out! Hint, you might win a free session!
All of our coaches have been vetted and verified, being certain all of you guys get the best service available! Every single one has peaked at least Grandmaster, with a minimum of 250 Coaching Hours to their name.
Discord Community: CLICK HERE
Prices for my sessions are negotiable and I can guarantee, they fall onto the affordable part of the specter!
My coaching sessions are oriented and tailored to each student's specific needs, and they do cover everything from theory to live coaching, in-game mentality, etc.
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Hello there, my name is Coach Chesster(Yes, an obvious Chess reference, which is, by far, my favorite game). I've been playing League of Legends since season one, I've experienced everything from full AP Yi one-shotting my entire team to Tryndamere mains spinning around with a needlessly large rod instead of a sword. You could say I've been there during all the important historical moments of the game. I've been at the top of the ladder in Season 6 (Going between high Diamond and Challenger, based on how much time I've had to invest). I've competed in various tournaments, even being able to win a number of them, before I decided to get myself into coaching.
Coaching
I started the entire coaching thing during season 7 when one of my friends asked if I wanted to help him get out of that Diamond 4 hell. Ever since then, I was having a consistent number of sessions on a weekly basis, with my network of people slowly increasing(One of them actually gave me the idea to advertise on Reddit, which I did eventually accept!) I've coached more than 700 individuals ever since I started and I can proudly say I've had more than 500 sessions this year alone! So, if you are looking for someone who is around for more than 5 days actually add me.
Some of my personal coaching achievements include
Getting a player from Silver 1 to Platinum in just 5 weeks
Getting D2 to Masters in 2 weeks
Bronze 1 to Diamond, yes, this one happened as well, though it took slightly more time
Helping Duo players on NA reach Gold(They were actually stuck in Bronze 2 prior!)
Creating a coach from hard-stuck D2 after he got GM
Community
In addition to my services, I am proud to present to you our Educational community, which is steadily growing on a daily basis. Aside from Coaching, it is an amazing place to connect with other people, find friends and talk about the game all of us love and enjoy. Various events are held on a weekly basis, from 1v1 tournaments to Team Contests, with nice rewards being given out! Hint, you might win a free session!
All of our coaches have been vetted and verified, being certain all of you guys get the best service available! Every single one has peaked at least Grandmaster, with a minimum of 250 Coaching Hours to their name.
Discord Community: CLICK HERE
- Upon joining, message me in order to have a Role assigned!
Prices for my sessions are negotiable and I can guarantee, they fall onto the affordable part of the specter!
My coaching sessions are oriented and tailored to each student's specific needs, and they do cover everything from theory to live coaching, in-game mentality, etc.