Big pregnant areola dailymotion

Okay, so for this post there are a lot of people involved (this has been going on for a while) so I'll list up here who's who. This is my wife's family. I'll be using code names when appropriate:
Father-in-law - FIL
Mother-in-law - MIL
Wife(oldest daughter) - Wife
Second daughter - Sarah
Third daughter - Lana
Fourth daughter - Ruth
Second daughter's husband - BIL
Third daughter's fiancee - Karl
My daughter - daughter
Second daughter's older son - Danny
Second daughter's younger son - Aaron
And me as me
I know this is long but bear with me TL;DR Brother-in-law has snapped the last straw for the family and we are all starting to cut ties with him

 BIL's family has their own side of the story that I'm barely familiar with, so it won't be brought up here. We first met BIL way before they got together; Sarah bought a house as a group of friends with her boyfriend at the time, and BIL and his second wife at the time. We didn't interact with him much. We just heard a few stories about him from their friend group. Eventually this situation broke down and BIL and his second wife left and vandalized Sarah's home on the way out. They let their dogs poop all over the floor, stole some miscellaneous items, poured water in their lawn mower gas tank, etc. He did this to Sarah, his future third wife. We thought this guy was out of our lives forever. Sarah eventually came to stay on my couch after she sold the house. She lived with me and my wife for roughly 3 months. Then she went and rented an apartment a few miles away. No sooner than a few weeks did we find out she was dating future BIL, and a few weeks after that we found she was pregnant. He met the family and stated that he wanted to be a part of it. He blamed all his past transgressions on his second wife. We questioned him at the time if he was still with his second wife. He said no, and that he was officially divorced. My wife looked up the public court records and found out that he didn't file divorce papers until 11 days after we asked that question. A small lie but considering our history of knowing him it was concerning. BIL is a big gun enthusiast. About 1 months after they told us Sarah was pregnant, while cleaning a gun at home he shot himself in the hand. Again, we were concerned but Sarah assured us he was a changed man and this was just an unfortunate accident. His hand healed but he didn't do his physical therapy that seriously so his hand is still kind of jacked up. I feel this is important because he kind of has a history of not following through on what he says. During Sarah's pregnancy we found out that BIL seriously beat one of their dogs back when they bought the house together. We also figured out he diagnosed himself with bipolar, but refused to go to a doctor to get an actual diagnosis. The whole family at the time was distracted by all of this because during Sarah's pregnancy my wife went through a major medical struggle that resulted in multiple surgeries and a months-long stay in the hospital. We were so focused on that the BIL details just kind of came and went at that moment. Sarah gave birth to Danny during COVID lockdown. We were so excited and we all were very active in Danny's life. Time would pass and we just kind of got used to BIL being despite the fact that he often would miss family events. BIL and Sarah would move into a house on my in-laws property just down the road from in-laws house. MIL became their primary caregiver as she could work it around her job and still make decent money. As 4 years have passed my MIL, FIL, Lana, my Wife and I all take shifts of watching their now 2 kids for them, for free. MIL also watches my daughter but significantly less that their son's. 2 years would pass after Danny was born and everything seemed OK. There would just be hints in they way he talked about who he really was. He would say something in casual conversation like "man, there seems like there are too many black people in commercials these days" or "I don't know why we are forcing women's sports to be a thing." Bigoted stuff like that, but veiled enough so there was plausible deniability. I would often call him out on it, so he really grew to not like me. This all changed at his 30th bday. He had a big party with a lot of alcohol and weed with dozens of friends. My wife and I didn't go because we are not party people. Lana and Ruth went to the party. Sarah was also there. During this party BIL went outside and decided to "mud" his jeep through the creek beside their house. This was possibly with Karl but I'm not sure of that to this day. Karl has recently come into the picture prior to this event and was previously friends with BIL for a long time. The jeep got stuck and flooded for obvious reasons. After trying to get it out of the creek by multiple means, they gave up and left it there. I believe it took almost 2 days to get it out. He went back to the party and as everyone got progressively drunk and high, my 2 sister-in-laws Lana and Ruth (I believe) criticized BIL for getting his car stuck in a creek while playing. BIL verbally assaulted them and demanded they get out of his house. They left in tears. They drove separately, and Lana had gotten buzzed so they both got in Ruth's car and drove to my house. They sat and vented to my wife and I for a while, and eventually I offered that we should go do something fun to take their minds off of it. My wife and I drove them to Taco Bell and we got some food and drove around town for a while and made jokes in the car. After they cooled off and were in a better mood they said that Lana needed to go get her car from the party. In a flurry she accidentally left her keys inside her sister's and BIL's house. We drove them over just in case anything sketchy happened but Lana and Ruth didn't want us to go inside, so we waited out in the car. She didn't think it would be a big deal to walk in, but as her and Ruth did BIL immediately got in her face and demanding she gets out or else. Ruth went to talk to someone else at the party and didn't notice this at first. BIL shoved Lana against a wall and held her there. Everyone apparently stood in stunned silence as this happened. He then shoved her to the ground, grabbed her around the ankles and started pulling her across the floor. As he was threatening to do even worse, Ruth ran up and jumped on his back and gave him a head lock. She screamed at him to stop but before BIL could anything about this everyone finally woke up and pulled them apart. Ruth helped Lana up and they ran out of the house onto the front porch sobbing. My wife saw this and got out of the car and yelled at them to get back in our car. We drove up to the in-laws house. By then it was past midnight. MIL was about an hour away working her job and FIL was up in his room asleep. The sisters went and woke him up and explained the situation through tears. They also called MIL to inform her of the situation. He got ready and ask me to go with him down to the house to get some answers. The sisters stayed up at the house. We drove down in his car and when we got out the entire party was ready for us and greeted us at the car. Literally over a dozen people, most of whom I did not recognize started screaming what happened at both of us simultaneously. Everyone was clearly very drunk. FIL looked overwhelmed, so I raised my hands and tried asking everyone to stop for a second and go one by one telling their bit of the story. BIL stopped me mid sentence and pointed his finger in my face. I noticed he had his other hand on a holstered hand gun. He yelled out "You don't have a say here! You're barely even part of this family." For context, I had been with my wife for over 11 years at that time and he hadn't even married Sarah yet and had been there about 2 1/2 years. FIL backed up and told me that I need to stop talking and that I was being a problem. I backed off and went over the yard to Sarah and Karl. I asked Sarah what happened and she told me that she didn't see what happened and that she wasn't very aware of what was going on now. Karl would barely answer the same question. I walked back over to FIL but he told me to back off and that I really wasn't needed there. Admittedly I felt pretty insulted and just decided to walk back to his house and get my car and go home with my wife. We eventually left after FIL came back to the house. We found out later that BIL had pulled his gun out and threatened to kill himself if FIL didn't leave. Out of fear of what he would do, my in-laws were pretty afraid to take action at this point. A lot of the situation was his word against someone else's and Sarah went on a tour around to the friends and convinced them not to take any of this to the police. She then tried to smooth things over with the family and offered that BIL would apologize to everyone. He then refused, stating that Ruth was the real aggressor and that she assaulted him. He eventually agreed to apologize to just FIL for causing a problem and I think some half-hearted apologies to Lana and Ruth. The whole situation was swept under the rug but an unease has existed over the family since then. He stopped coming to family events pretty much altogether. About 4 months after this situation, prior to my daughter being born, he told MIL he was going to bring Danny up to their house so she could watch him for a few hours while he took a nap. His job works long hours so this wasn't out of the ordinary. However, he didn't show up for a while and my MIL started questioning what going on. She called but there was no answer. She drove down to his house and knocked but there wasn't an answer, only Danny crying in the background. She let herself in and found BIL asleep on the couch with Danny actively trying to wake him up. MIL tried to wake him up but nothing for a few minutes. She gave up and wrote a note to let him know where Danny was. BIL didn't notice Danny was gone for 2 hours. He finally woke up, drove up to in-laws house, and yelled at my MIL for just taking Danny without informing him. He took Danny and then left. A few months after that, after my daughter was born, He fell asleep while watching Danny again. This time we found out because when he woke up the front door was open and Danny was gone. He called in-laws for help finding him. My in-laws have a large property (about 200 acres) with a ton of it forested. Danny wandered 1/4 of a mile into the woods and I believe it took roughly a little over an hour to find him. Family questioned him hard this time but he just recoiled back into their house and didn't talk to us much. Sarah continued to defend him and said it was just an accident. Again the police were not notified about any of this. There was always this idea that if we went to authorities about any of this they would just run for it. They would then surprise everyone with the news that they were pregnant again, despite the fact that Sarah had used the morning after pill. This whole time they hadn't married yet. They announced that they were getting married but Sarah told Lana that it was mostly just to help BIL not have to go through bankruptcy a second time. I wasn't sure if this would do anything to help that situation, but that's what Sarah said at one point leading up to the wedding. About a month before the wedding, however, he threatened Sarah that if she insisted on inviting my wife to the wedding he would demand to invite a friend of his that Sarah hated. This friend also used to date BIL I believe. This was his ploy to force Sarah to not invite my Wife or me. The 2 other sisters and MIL all stood in solidarity with us and said that they would also not go if we weren't invited. He eventually relented and they got married a little before Aaron was born. As more kids were added, MIL's childcare duties got much harder. Eventually my wife and I started paying her (not much but something at least. $150 a month) to watch our daughter, but we also did chores for her, bought her food often, and eventually my Wife started taking a few shifts to watch all 3 children. To date, BIL and Sarah have never compensated any of us for our work. It's a little frustrating but we've tried to understand because Sarah and BIL seem to be bad with money. They objectively make more than us yet can't afford to pay MIL anything. Last Thanksgiving, in the middle of dinner, Sarah and BIL decided to have an "intervention" and talk about how we were not treating BIL fairly. They addressed everybody but really honed in on me specifically. This seemed to be because the rest of the family kind of dance in eggshells around them, while to be frank I'm pretty honest about how I feel about them. They seemed to think I was causing the family to turn against him and questioned why I would do that. I told him he lacked humility. He said he didn't understand. I told him that if he admitted to his mistakes and actually apologized about any of the stuff I previously wrote, instead of blaming everyone and everything else then the whole family would feel a bit different about him. A lot of talk was about the 30th b-day and other times when I just ignored him and how he had already apologized about the party. I reminded him that he didn't apologize to most of the family and he blamed Ruth. He then stated that Ruth was the cause of a lot of the problems at that party. He also made a big deal about how the family doesn't trust him with my daughter and kept emphasizing how he has never held her. We finally tried to come to an agreement. I told him I would try to talk to him more and try to understand him better and he said he would try to come to family events more. He also wanted more of a relationship with my daughter. We left and my wife and I were skeptical but we said that if this is who Sarah really wanted to be with, as long as BIL wasn't perceived as a threat he could have more contact with our daughter. We have had way more of a relationship with his kids than he has had with our daughter so I tried to sympathize with that imbalance. Karl also stated later that having known BIL for a long time, he thought he was very sincere. To date, BIL has not asked or tried at any family events to spend any time with my daughter, despite having numerous opportunities. Now to the current situation. About a month ago Lana and Karl announced that Lana was pregnant. This was a revelation due to Lana having a medical condition that made it harder to get pregnant. A lot of excitement was brewing in the family because of this. Karl has been seeming like a good partner to Lana, and proposed to her a little before the pregnancy happened. This is especially pertinent because Lana and Karl moved into a house together right beside BIL and Sarah. A few days ago they were over at Sarah and BIL's house when an argument broke out between Sarah and BIL. BIL demanded that Sarah wasn't an "obedient enough wife" and that if she wanted there marriage to work then she was going to have to get better at serving him. She was upset and they weren't coming to an agreement so he was going to leave, but apparently he was very high so Sarah refused to give him the keys to his car. He got extremely mad and then got a gun, held it to his head, and threatened to kill himself if she didn't hand over the keys. Fortunately, Danny and Aaron were taking a nap during all of this. Sarah called the police during this whole exchange and the operator heard a lot of what BIL said over the phone so based on that they arrived at the house. He apparently drove away and it took the police a bit to find him but once they did he turned himself over. They admitted him to a mandatory 72-hour stay at a psychiatric ward for a mental health assessment. Sarah then came up to the rest of the family (not me or my Wife) and gave them Danny and Aaron. She then went and confided with Lana and Karl about how abusive BIL had been and how life was just miserable right now. A lot of us, especially Karl and my in-laws, were telling her that she needs to leave BIL and file for emergency custody of her children. She seemed to be listening to us and turning a corner, but inexplicably the psychiatric ward allowed BIL to have a phone call with Sarah and they had a long conversation. Suddenly, Sarah shut us all out and completely changed her story. She started defending BIL again. BIL was then let out of the psychiatric ward a day early. Since Karl was working at the time, Lana came to stay with us and then over at her in-laws. We are especially concerned about her safety around BIL due to her being pregnant. They have since cut nearly all contact with us for 4 days now. They have only told Karl that they were getting a new TV because the old one mysteriously broke somehow. They have continued to post on social media like nothing has happened. They have spent 2 days with BIL's family so we aren't sure what their opinion of this is, though we do know a sibling of his has also told Sarah to leave him prior to this latest situation. We don't know what their plans for childcare is because they are wholly reliant upon us. Lana is very reluctant to ever be home alone. Ruth is as well. There are so many other details I haven't mentioned. There have been holes in walls they've had to fix. There is some evidence that BIL is cheating on Sarah, but that evidence is somewhat inconclusive. The bigoted comments for a while now have gotten increasingly misogynistic. It's a lot of 'we need to respect proper gender roles' kind of stuff. There's just too much and I've already written a book on here. I don't really know what to do at this point. Because a lot of this stuff has been swept under the rug it's hard to tell how seriously CPS or police would take our claims. FIL has threatened to kick them out of their very cheap rental they're in now. Who knows what they would do in that scenario. I know this post is detailed and because of that BIL or Sarah might see it, but at this point I wonder if I even give a shit. They've already eluded to keeping their sons from us in the past and the vibes we are getting now is that they are already doing it. And from the bottom of my heart, fuck BIL. 

I have been w my husband for 24 years. Since I’m a teenager. He is well liked and comes off so nice in front of others. We have three children. My life has always been drama with him. But from the outside noone would know. When I was pregnant with my second child. I found out he was speaking w another woman And brought my other child out w this woman and then lied and denied it when my daughter told me. He obviously denied a physical affair but I was 9 months pregnant and just wanted to get thru my pregnancy. I tried to forgive him but he never really had remorse. When I became pregnant years later. I had a miscarriage. I called him in a panic to come stay home w the kids. He said oh well I am At a family party and hung up. I miscarried alone in the bathroom while my Six year old took care of the little ones. I still didn’t leave and years later I caught him on text w a co worker making a comment to wear somthing cute to work tommorow. I lost it and told him to leave. He said I made a big deal over nothing. During this time I found out I was pregnant again. I couldn’t deal so I looked into other options. I was devasted and went to a dr for an abortion. The dr made me feel violated during the exam. I was so ashamed and opted for the abortion pill so I didn’t have to go back to him. I told my husband what happened and he laughed and said could you blame him. He offered to take care of kids while I took abortion pill at home and promised to be better and be their for me and to please trust him as he was filled with regret and wanted his family back . Of course when I took the first pill he dissapeared and I could not contact him at all leaving me in an even worse position. I finally got in contact w him and he said oh somthing came up and basically put me in a situation where I needed to have a surgery . He claimed a job came up. I was finally was done. He has for years been claiming he wants to work it out and will apologize so I set some boundaries to see if he could agree to them. For example letting me know if he was going to be gone for hours or days at a time or being their in an emergency. He couldn’t stick to any of them so I never took him back. There is so much more that has happened in my marriage that was bad but this is what broke me down the most because this person doesn’t care about my kids or my well being . I was raised to stay married and be traditional but I couldn’t take it anymore. He tells me constantly how I should move on and how I’m a baby because I resent him and don’t forgive him. This doesn’t include all the other selfish things he has done but this to me is unforgivable. AITA for not forgiving and forgetting and wanting to break up my family. It’s just tooo painful

Hi there!
I’m currently 22 weeks pregnant with triplets and have a 21 month old. Looking for some advice whether the wonderfold wagon is worth it. It’s on sale today only for 20% off at WCK and I don’t typically like to decide on big purchases without doing a tonne of research. I’m just wondering for other parents of multiples if they’ve liked it/ what my other options might be for having 4 kids under 2. I live in Canada so there aren’t a lot of options for even triplet strollers.

TLDR; my mother-in-law endangered my child's life over breakfast food.
I (31F) and my husband (30M) have been married for 5 years. My mother-in-law, let's call her Tiffany, has never really been fond of me. I didn't understand why for a while, and assumed I was misreading the vibes, until we got engaged. She immediately told me she always thought he would marry a blonde, like her and his younger sister -let's call her Ella . I'm half Latinx, and this was the first of several comments she made that showed that she didn't approve of that. That's just a tiny context for the following tea:
My husband and I had a little girl together a little over 2 years ago. She's adorable and wonderful in pretty much every way - and I'm not just saying that because she's mine. She potty trained herself, she's always been ahead milestone wise, she slept through the night at 6 weeks, and everywhere we go people talk about how beautiful she is. Even as a 2 year old, we have minimal tantrums - she's just a sweet, great kid, all credit to her - she just came that way. But, Tiffany tries to claim credit for anything and everything good about her, and blames anything "wrong" with her on me and my "mystery" genetics. One of those things is her food allergy. Our girl has a SEVERE allergy to eggs. Think what you typically hear about with nuts, but eggs. Contact reactions, anaphylaxis, the whole 9 yards. We found out about this allergy not long after she started eating solid food, so it's not new news to Tiffany and her family, but them being careful about it has been an absolute non-stop battle, and she has made every possible effort to blame it on me, my parenting, or my genetics (for the record, neither of our families have a history of food allergies - it was a total fluke).
Most recently, we went to visit for a weekend (why we still even do this at all is a whole other post's worth of info), and because I was hesitant to do so with the history we have had, Tiffany swore up and down that she would have an egg-free kitchen so it would be safe to prepare food for our daughter. I didn't trust it, but my husband begged me to give her a chance, so I agreed. First thing when we arrived, she informed me she had "forgotten" to throw her eggs away, and asked if she should just take them to a neighbor. I told her she didn't have to do that, as long as they were in a sealed container in the fridge, unbroken, it would be fine. She said they were, but my alarm bells were going off like crazy. We ate out with them that night, and I ran my usual checks with the restaurant, no problem. It seemed to annoy everyone else at the table, but whatever, the restaurant was super kind and accommodating.
Fast forward to the following morning. Ella, who is pregnant, and her husband Josh arrived for breakfast after a supposedly intense workout. We got there from our hotel shortly after them (no continental breakfast unfortunately). As we walk in, Tiffany says "Oh, by the way, I put eggs in the pancakes, so those won't be for you, but you can eat whatever you can find that doesn't have eggs in it." I just stared a bit shocked, because I knew I had told her before that most pancake mix contains powdered egg, which can be really dangerous if our daughter breathes it in. And not only did she use a pancake mix that had eggs in it, but also had added additional eggs (this is what I figured out by inspecting the kitchen).
So, I pick up my daughter so that she can't touch anything that might hurt her and start looking around the kitchen for something she and I can safely eat. I generally avoid eggs too because I don't want to risk the cross contact, unless I'm in a space I can fully control. I find us some fruit and yogurt, and we sit down in the dining room. The table is small, so there's not much space to put food down, without it being a little too close for comfort to everyone else's egg filled pancakes, but I try to be careful to keep the peace. As we are eating, Tiffany begins cooking again in the kitchen. I assume she is making more pancakes or something and ignore it. Ella and Josh, who are sitting across from us, have not even quite finished their pancakes when Tiffany brings in a heaping platter of scrambled eggs and sets them on the table directly in front of us. She says, without looking at me "here you go dear, I know you need all the protein you can get to grow that sweet grandbaby of mine! Plus, Josh just had a big workout, so he'll need the extra protein too." They happily thank her for the food and start dishing up, so I stand up, grab my daughter, and walk out of the room, and explain to my daughter that we can't go in the kitchen or dining room anymore because it's not safe for her. She's had enough reactions that she is aware of how sick eggs make her, and she is really careful as long as she's aware that she's not in a safe space. Tiffany walks past in a huff, clearly offended that I've told my daughter that grandma's house isn't safe.
The rest of the trip she continued to make passive aggressive remarks about her allergy, and how no one told her she needed to be accomodating, shoving ingredient labels in my face and demanding I read them because she doesn't want to get her glasses, or saying that if I hadn't introduced her to eggs so early, she wouldn't be so allergic in the first place (all her doctors say the opposite). My husband thinks she didn't intend to do anything dangerous, and was just thinking about her pregnant daughter. I argued that she clearly knew what she did was wrong, otherwise she wouldn't have promised an egg free kitchen in the first place, and that forgetting to check a label is one thing, but actively adding eggs to the food and making scrambled eggs is another thing entirely. I also didn't expect her to accommodate - she is the one that promised she would, and on the advice of my husband I gave her a chance to do so. I wish there was a more satisfying conclusion to this, but it has more or less remained unresolved. Advice is appreciated🫠. BUT, that is my story of my "Breakfast at Tiffany's" from hell.

Struggling. I learned I suffered a missed miscarriage a few weeks ago. I’m 40, single, had an unmedicated IUI in March; got pregnant on first try. I was 7w4d at a 7-week ultrasound; it’s likely the fetuses (there were two) stopped growing in week 5 sometime. Took 4 misoprostol pills vaginally (so just one dose); doctor, whom I trust and have been with for a while, recommended it over D&C. Bleeding continued over a week on and off; never excessively heavy. Ultrasound a couple weeks ago showed I had passed most of the pregnancy tissue; hCG was 1470. About a week later, hCG was down to 626. Then yesterday it was apparently 650. Provider has low suspicion of ectopic pregnancy. Had me take another round of 4 miso tablets last night, which triggered spotting. Inserted a second round this AM; no bleeding as of yet. I’m supposed to get blood work Friday and if it doesn’t show a drop in my hCG, I think they’ll infer it must be an ectopic pregnancy. That would likely mean treatment via methotrexate, which I understand requires at least a 3-month wait to conceive once treatment ends. I’m here just to say I’m scared that this is an ectopic pregnancy. It feels like time is slipping away. I have 20 frozen eggs; but I’m just so sad about this potential big setback. Would welcome any feedback or words of encouragement. I’ve been on this sub the last couple weeks and it helps to know I’m not alone ❤️

Almost everyone is probably aware of the timeline inconsistency in Book 1 of HoC with the Fall of Pale being said to have just happened, and this not matching up with it supposedly being 1159 Burn's Sleep. What most people might not be aware of is that even if the year was 1163 it would still be an inconsistency because it would be the wrong time of the year.
In chapter 2 of GotM Tattersail tells us Pale fell in late winter:

In some military headquarters back in the Empire's capital of Unta, three thousand leagues distant, an anonymous aide would paint a red stroke across the 2nd Army on the active list, and then write in fine script beside it: Pale, late winter, the 1163rd Year of Burn's Sleep. Thus would the death of nine thousand men and women be noted. And then forgotten.

But in chapter 1 of HoC, right after Karsa has started his journey, we are told that it is late spring:

Less than a score days remained in this, the season of spring.

While in chapter 3 Torvald Nom says Pale has just fallen:

‘This is Culvern Crossing,’ the Daru went on, ‘and it’s a storm swirling with the latest news from the south. All right, a small storm, given the size of this latrine pit of a town. The scum of the Nathii, which is saying a lot. The Malazan company’s pretty excited, though. Pale’s just fallen, you see. A big battle, lots of sorcery, and Moon’s Spawn retreated-likely headed to Darujhistan, in fact. Beru take me, I wish I was there right now, watching it crossing the lake, what a sight that’d be. The company, of course, are wishing they’d been there for the battle. Idiots, but that’s soldiers for you-’

It's clear that Pale must have just fallen, and it can't be months old news that have just reached them since Torvald thinks Moon's Spawn is crossing Lake Azur in that very moment. Karsa's journey would have to have taken him nine months for it to be late spring when he set out, but be late winter when he's in Culvern Crossing. Karsa needing nine months to reach Silver Lake seems far too long.
There is also another indication that Karsa travels to Seven Cities around the time of GotM, and that is later in chapter 3 after they have entered the Nascent when the Unbound are on board the Silanda after Karsa has killed Binadas they sense they are hunted by other T'lan Imass:

‘Let us find out. Begin the preparations. Ber’ok, scatter that handful of otataral dust in the cabin-the Tiste Edur sorcerer’s warren remains open and, in this place, it will quickly become a wound… a growing wound. The time has not yet come for such unveilings.’ The speaker then lifted its mangled head and seemed to sniff the air. ‘We must work quickly,’ it announced after a moment. ‘I believe we are being hunted.’ The remaining six turned to face the speaker, who nodded in answer to their silent question. ‘Yes. There are kin upon our trail.’

I think it's a very reasonable to assume that these are the same hunters that Felisin's group encounter in chapter 9 of DG. I also think it would be weird to have these T'lan hunters roaming the Nascent for years without finding the Silanda, but them being there for a handful of months seems relatively reasonable.
Another oddity related to the timeline placement of HoC Book 1 is the age of Karsa's daughters in TtH. If we assume that Harllo is five years old in TtH as the book says, then TtH should be set during late winter 1170, since he was conceived in the middle of 1164 in MoI, and would therefore be born in 1165 and be five in 1170. If HoC book 1 is in 1159 then this would mean that Karsa's daughters should be around 10 years old, which seems far too young.
Karsa's daughters being 10 might in fact be too generous. In tGiNW we learn that Sarlis was pregnant with Rant for 2 years, and if Teblor women have equally long pregnancies then Karsa's daughters wouldn't be born before 1161, and only be 9 in TtH. If we also take the date for HoC Book 1 to be winter of 1163 based on the Fall of Pale reference, then Karsa's daughters would in fact be younger than Harrlo.
Something that many might not know is that when HoC was originally published the year given for Book 1 wasn't 1159, but 1139. I wonder if Erikson might have based the age of Karsa's daughters on the 1139 date, which would mean that they are in their late twenties in TtH, which seems much more reasonable. But this would be a very strange error to make if the 1139 date was simply a typo. Erikson should know that HoC Book 1 isn't decades before the other books, unless that was in fact the original plan and he forgot he had changed it.
I feel the type of timeline errors related to HoC Book 1 indicate that there originally was a time skip in the middle of it that was abandoned relatively late in the writing process. Erikson has said that he doesn't care overmuch about the timeline, but he also prides himself on that he doesn't put anything in a book that he doesn't feel must absolutely be there. I can't really see any purpose to the mention of the Fall of Pale except to give the reader an idea of the timeline, but this would be unnecessary since we have already been given the year and even the season earlier in the book. If there had been a time skip then Erikson feeling the need to clarify when the story is taking place would make perfect sense.
My guess is that Erikson originally planned for HoC Book 1 to start in late spring of 1139, and then have a time skip and end it in late winter of 1163. In chapter 2 Karsa gets captured by the people of Silver Lake and put in a slave pit, but he almost immediately escapes before being recaptured by Malazan soldiers. The natural place for a time skip would have been to have Karsa be a slave for 24 years before his escape attempt.
In addition to the age of Karsa's daughter making more sense in TtH, another neat thing with the part of HoC before Karsa becomes a slave being in 1139 would be that Elade Tharos would be 80 years old in tGiNW just like Karsa was 80 at the beginning of HoC, and I really like the symmetry in that. In HoC Elade Tharos is "no more than forty" when he witnesses Karsa killing his family. tGiNW is set about ten years after MBotF, which would be around 1180, roughly 40 years after 1139.
Elade Tharos's ambitions in tGiNW are exactly the same as Karsa's in chapter 1 of HoC when we learn he is 80:

And I have but just begun on this path. Newly arrived to my eightieth year of life, finally a warrior in truth. I have heard the oldest words, the whispers, of the One, who will unite the Teblor, who will bind the clans one and all and lead them into the lowlands and so begin the War of the People. These whispers, they are the voice of promise, and that voice is mine.

If Erikson in fact planned for Karsa to be enslaved for several years then why did he abandon this idea? It might be that Karsa being a slave for so long became too derivative of the Conan the Barbarian film, or it might be as simple that he felt the story flowed better without Karsa being enslaved for a long time. Or there might never have been a time skip with Karsa being enslaved, and I'm just taking crazy pills.

What’s up everyone, I’ve got a few questions, but it all boils down (pun intended) to one main question:
What’s your favorite spot for crab legs in Austin?
Only place I’ve been is TLC, and I liked it, but realized I don’t even know of other options around the city. Crab legs are one of my favorite meals, but I usually only eat them about once a year due to price. My now pregnant wife has been craving them though, so now might be a could time for my annual crab meal.
A couple tangential questions:

• is there a best “season” for crab legs, similar to crawfish or oysters?

I know most will be frozen so I’m guessing it won’t make as big of a difference.

• is there much availability on crab legs this year?

I searched this sub and saw a post from last year saying they were scarce, and there may not be a fishing season (at least for Alaskan king crab) due to low populations.

• does anyone here do their own boil at home and would you recommend it?
  I’m sure this would be the cheaper option, and I’ve seen boxes of frozen king crab legs at Costco before, but I’m always hesitant to cook something that expensive if I’ve never done it before. Don’t want to overcook $150 worth of crab legs and end up with the priciest dog food in the city.
  

~First~
Cats, Cops and C4
The Erumenta woman tries to fight even as he forces her into the cell, her natural fire flaring hot enough for his clothing to smoulder and him to mentally congratulate himself for his Undaunted Brand. It’s literally saved his fingers multiple times today.
Marlintine Spire is like many of the spires of Centris still reeling from the massive scan. Sure it had been legal, and both Living Goddesses upon the world had told everyone to calm down in their own way. But just because something is legal and endorsed by powerful figures does not make it a popular move.
“You burn any of your fellow prisoners while you’re in there and you’re getting a suppression collar.” He tells the obstinate criminal as he shoves her into the holding cell and slams the bars shut. The forcefields supplementing the metal bars flickers into place and the blast of flame she aimed at his face splashes against it without further effect. “Cute, keep it up and we won’t need a court hearing to upgrade you to a real prison.”
“He’s being serious. Stripper boy is playing at being a serious police officer.” Another criminal mocks and is subsequently ignored as Chenk leaves the area. He has other things to do.
“Ma’am.” He greets Chief Bowman as he slips by to head back out.
“Hold it human. I know your kind are endurance monsters, but you need to sit the hell down. You’ve been dragging in cult soldiers for six and a half hours straight. Your legal overtime ended a half hour ago.”
“Then keep a cell open for me as I keep bringing in more people. This needs to be quelled.” Chenk says and as he turns to keep going she grabs his belt and pulls him back.
“You need to rest.”
“The Spire is in the middle of a borderline insurrection. I can rest when it’s...” He begins to say before a sudden movement to his right makes his head snap around. Just before Vera the Takra-Takra crashes into him.
“Thanks for stalling him out Chief! Come on you goofy human!” Vera announces as she drags him down the hallway and into Linda’s Office. She tosses him onto the couch and then pounces onto him and pins him.
“Really?” Chenk asks.
“Yes really. You need to calm down. And I found a way to force it.” Linda states.
“But the Spire is...”
“You are one officer. Supersoldier on loan to the station or not, you’re still only one officer. The structural integrity of this spire only depends upon you when there’s a bomb threat and even then, only when it’s a chemical bomb.” Linda tells him. “Or do we have to restrict you to only being called out during a bomb threat?”
“No.” He says. “But people are still getting hurt and...”
“And they're the ones hurting themselves. Just please calm down. I know you’re skilled, but your sense of justice is just going to hurt you at this rate. Don’t want to leave a bad example for Amy now do you?” Linda teases him and Chenk groans in frustration.
“... I really should have thought things through before growing attached to that girl.”
“Oh probably, but it was adorable to see. The world crashing down on a poor little girl in over her head and then Officer Hero, Supersoldier from the blackest void of the galaxy flies in to save her.” Vera teases.
“Still, him being a supersoildier is a bit of a problem right now. Big man needs a mission, or he’s going to go nuts!” Linda notes. “Luckily! I called one of your friends on the ship. Soldier, you’re in position to requre a talking to from The Observer. However, the call is on hold, but you need to be here when it goes off.”
“That’s a dirty trick.” Chenk notes even as an Undaunted communicator is tossed at him and he catches it. It’s activated, it’s in a waiting queue and there’s no way he can go into the field now if he’s waiting for an official answer. “Very dirty.”
“Good thinking!” Vera compliments as she cuddles closer to her pinned target. Her hair spikes out in sudden shock as The Communicator then goes off to signify the call has gone through. “I jinxed it!”
“Specialist Chenk Barnabas sir!” Chenk answers the call instantly as he sits up and Vera scurries off him.
“Really? I put him on that waiting list to get him to calm down and stop working.”
“Specialist Barnabas, I’m one of numerous individuals filtering the sheer number of incoming calls to The Inevitable. You’re in the proper queue now, please state what you have been doing as a member of The Undaunted so that Observer Wu can better decide who to speak with.”
“I’m on loan to one of Marlintine Spire’s major police stations. Due to the overpopulation of Centris this means I have been acting as elite law enforcement over a population that exceeds that of many of earth’s countries.”
“I see, anything in particular that you’re doing?”
“I’m a chemical expert and accredited detective at this rate. I am the go to specialist for law enforcement when it comes to chemical explosives for a full ten percent of Centris Police Departments.”
“Any particularly interesting cases you’ve been assigned to?”
“Yes, one that is still being debated in court by none other than The Trytite Lady. It involves cloning, murder, mercenaries, numerous criminal gangs and a great deal of more nonsense such as massive prison breaks, fighting robots and Axiom effects so dangerous that even speaking about them in anything more than the most broad and general of terms on an open frequency is a punishable offence.”
“So you have seen a fair amount of what has occurred in the galaxy.”
“I’ve seen enough that I’m going to be very hard to surprise or overwhelm any longer.” Chenk says.
“Very good. I’ll just note this down. The Galaxy is absolutely insane, I’ve been fielding calls from people with like nine heads all speaking in concert and god damn lobster people and more...”
“That’s reality for you.” Chenk replies. “Always more absurd than it should be.”
“Indeed, stand by. I’m putting you into the next proper queue. It shouldn’t be more than a minute or two long.” The Assistant states and then the call shifts to simply display that he’s fourth in the queue now.
“Hunh. Faster and somehow slower than expected at the same time.” Chenk says even as Vera leans against him.
“Even when you take a break you’re still working.”
“You didn’t complain about me being an endurance monster when I planted this in you.” He says gently patting her growing stomach and she pushes him a bit in protest.
“Problem with getting the super-babies of doom is the wait for the baby.” Vera complains and he chuckles before the communicator activates again. He puts it in broadcast mode as Linda leaves her desk to sit next to him for support.
“Observer Wu I take it?” Chenk asks the Asian man who nods.
“And you are Officer and Operative Barnabas. The little summary in front of your call has my attention. Tell me, how are laws generally handled in the Centris space.”
“Centris is a massively overpopulated planet consisting of Spires and Plates. The Spires are the massive multi tiered towers that have two hundred levels each and each level holds enough people to populate any major city on Earth with ease. The lower the level on the spire the less funding, infrastructure and support it has with the bottom ten generally considered a universal slum or no man’s land. Law enforcement in those areas is nigh on impossible and the air itself has been described as thick and fetid. No natural light reaches those areas either.”
“And higher up?”
“Increasing amounts of wealth and support. To such a degree that the plates, which form an artificial ring around Centris are of such high quality that their most squalid and desperate places are at roughly the same standard of living as the middle fifty floors of a well off Spire. As you can imagine, policing all this is an outright herculean effort and every station, no matter how well funded, armed or endorsed is simply inadequate for the task.”
“What sort of crimes have you witnessed?”
“I’ve stopped terrorist conspiracies, torn down drug labs, found myself between assassins and their targets, I’ve stood in the middle of gang wars commanding people to stand down, I have tackled muggers, murderers and maniacs alike into walls and cuffed them. Not even twenty minutes ago I dragged a criminal who could light fires with her will alone into a cell, my jacket is still singed from it.”
“So the world is rife with criminality.”
“No more than any other place, there’s just so many people crammed in here that it’s constant, and that’s without the recent provocation that every single criminal organization received more or less simultaneously. Generally for every single idiot that needs a police officer to remind them why good behaviour is a good idea, there’s an entire bus full of people that didn’t even consider breaking the law.” Chenk explains.
“But when they truly commit crimes they don’t stop do they?”
“No, more resources, technology and Axiom means that if someone wants to break the rules they can break the very concept of rules. The last major case I was in before this flashfire of criminality was kicked off involved the sanctity of body and mind being shattered for the sake of mere greed by a figure so underworld infamous that for a chance to get either evidence on the person in question or ingratiate themselves to them we had an all out war break out in the station. One that if not for a quick trick, we would have lost.”
“And the trick was?”
“Switching out the prize for a disguised tracking beacon.” Chenk says and Observer Wu nods appreciatively. “I can’t credit on that though, it was The Private Stream that did that.”
“I haven’t had that fully explained to me. What is THE Private Stream?”
“I’m not the best person to explain it, but a quick summary is that it’s a shared persona for low profile work. Operative Jameson is the founder and original Private Stream, a persona that lets him go around while heavily armed and armoured while arousing no suspicion.”
Vera snorts in amusement. “Arousing... lot of girls find the aw shucks innocent routine to be arousing.”
Chenk slowly urns to her. “What?”
“You know what.”
“Maybe I don’t!”
“Maybe you do.”
“Could we focus please?” Observer Wu asks. “Now, as an Officer, are there any laws that you would find concerning about humans?”
“Yes, they’re usually location dependant thankfully. So the issue can be avoided. Furthermore there’s a lot of leeway given in laws where the traits of a species would make following the law difficult if not impossible. For example a human can generally get away carrying substances that are considered highly toxic or dangerous due to the fact that our diets contain what many people in the galaxy are nothing more than hard core poisons.”
“Hmm... Could you be more specific?”
“Well, this one won’t apply to you due to an amendment that Admiral Cistern was able to get allies to help him push through, but one of the most popular religions the galaxy over is the Gravid Faith, it has numerous denominations and variants and several of them create what’s called Arrangement Systems where men are required by law to have a hundred wives.”
“And the amendment is?”
“That if you are gainfully employed by governmental or military forces that you are exempt from the law so long as you remained employed in such a manner. You Observer Wu are the eyes of hundreds of Earth Nations meaning a government employee.” Chenk explains and he nods.
“I see. Any other exemptions?”
“Generally the Galaxy looks down on kinetic weaponry, so when it was pushed that humans wear weapons and cultural garb it was allowed through without issue. So humans are legally allowed to carry weapons like knives and pistols at almost all time without question. It’s... rather stupid in my opinion, but well it would be even more foolish for me to complain about something I’m outright benefiting from.”
“Hmm... any other laws?”
“They very much vary by location. Which are further influenced by the species of the residents, local culture, religion, political association, economic status. The name of the game is jurisdiction issues here on Centris. The local police departments all help one another, but always at the invite of the local officers who can actually confirm if what’s taking place is a crime or not in the local area.”
“Can you give an example of this working against things?”
“Alright, the easiest example is with drugs. There is no agreed on way to combat the spread of illegal narcotics. Some make the growing of the plants that produce what you want illegal. Others make the refinement of it’s fruit illegal and some make the selling of the drug illegal. So you can produce it all on the third Spire and sell it on the first two legally. You can grow the plant on the second and third spire legally, refine it on the first and third legally and that way you have a massive multi-jurisdiction drug running operation without technically breaking any law.”
“Hmm... that is a great deal to consider. I presume other such crimes can operate the same way?”
“Unfortunately yes. But that’s the problem with laws, you need to set where the boundaries are, but not make people prisoners in their own homes. There’s always a loophole.”
“Tragically yes.” Observer Wu remarks. “Now, I do need to speak to the others, but I have a few moments more. Who and what are you sitting near. The vaguely catlike woman on your right and the... generally human looking woman on your left are?”
“Linda is to my left. Partner and wife, the first actual police officer of us three. Vera is to my right. Wandering Warrior and wife. Linda is a Tret woman, they’re best considered to be humans if we evolved with Axiom helping us, a sister species to our own people. Vera is a Takra-Takra, she and her kind can shapeshift into the ferocious Warform and use it in battle. They pride their skill as Warriors and seek out stronger mates to empower the next generation.” Chenk explains before tiltiing the view down a little to show the pregnant stomach on Vera. “A work in progress.”
“I see. Congratulations. Although compared to many other Undaunted you seem a little behind.”
“I wasn’t aware it was a race.”
“Which is exactly how you lose the race!” Vera says in an amused tone.
“Indeed. Every conversation leads me to believe that I need to take an entire university degree in order to understand things. Thankfully your own is rather straight forward.”
“Really? Who are you speaking with next?”
“I haven't decided yet, but I need to speak with everyone in some way.” Observer Wu states.
“Good luck sir, I think you’ll need it.” Chenk says.
“Excuse me, is there a way to get a human to calm down and take a break? Ever since Centris was Scanned and hidden societies were exposed all over Chenk has refused to stop working. Is there any way to just get him to take a break?” Linda asks.
“It generally varies from person to person. But I would suggest guilting him. Emotional blackmail is a powerful tool.” Observer Wu says with a slight smirk.
“Traitor!” Chenk declares and there’s a chuckle from The Observer.
“Indeed. I’m afraid this call needs to finish now. Best of luck.” Observer Wu says before the call ends.
“So... we need to guilt you then? Okay!” Vera exclaims before her eyes start to water. “Don’t you wanna be there for the baby? Doesn’t she deserve a daddy?”
“Oh my god woman!”
~First~ Last

Unlaws because I'm not married to their exjew son and I'm even a goy so this whole thing is unlawful.
They make an effort, but everything has to be on their terms obviously as they would be starving where we live due to the lack of kosher food. I'm a bit in trouble relating to them, but I'm glad that they want to have a relationship with my partner who felt rejected and abandoned most of his life. We've met once already when I was pregnant, it was hard for me and I couldn't support my partner well, and I'm now afraid of failing in it again.
I know it's hard for them too, and I know it's already a big thing for them to not straight deny our existence. It's gonne be 4-5 days on home grounds for me, but I'm unsure how can I both be and be comfortable while also be respectful of their culture.
Obviously I have to hide while breastfeeding and dress modest, but how do I balance the rest? I get that Jewish law doesn't expect anything from me an my son as we are goyim, but does it mean it's ok for me to sing in front of the man? Can I grab a cheeseburger while around them? (Of course that's a no too, I know now but I didn't know the last time that I could have my bag with me and buy water on Shabbat those rules only apply for Jews)
What should I know, what should I ask and what should I assume?

There's quite a bit to go through today.
Last night I had an anxiety attack. My trigger was my mental health and how despite being diagnosed with depression and anxiety and taking medications, I still feel like something is wrong with my brain. I have intrusive and racing thoughts which are hard to control and last night it was SOO overwhelming that I froze. I started to cry uncontrollably, I tightly clasped my hands together and felt like I couldn't let go...eventually, I started pacing and shifting my weight from my right to left leg back and forth until I calmed down. Surprisingly I slept well after that. I felt like I got some deep sleep. I don't know if the anxiety attack just tired me out so much that I slept the best I have slept for the past week or so.
I dreamt quite a bit. But the dream that stood out was that I was pregnant with his baby. I remember having this big pregnant belly, I remember giving birth and the delivery being so smooth and quick, I remember the nurses laying her right next to me on my left side for some skin-to-skin contact...she was so cute. I was so happy having my new baby girl, him, and my mom all by my side. I looked up pregnancy/birth dream meanings and supposedly it means "new beginnings". The way I interpreted it was that not only am I going through this new transformation as an individual, but our relationship is too. But also he has been the only person I have truly wanted a baby with so maybe it could just be a more literal subconscious desire.
After a quick yoga session, I went out to the store this morning. I went to World Market to look for this 5-pack coffee syrups sample because I started making my coffee at home again but didn't have any syrups to give it that **pizzazz**. I got them along with a new espresso cup because the one I had at home was broken. I also bought these cute little felt mushroom string lights. I thought the mushrooms would look pretty cute since I have a lot of plants and stuff in my room. After that, I went to Chick-fil-A and got my usual. And I know I said I wasn't depressed, but maybe I am? Just a little? Because despite doing all these little things that should've brought me joy, I didn't truly feel happy. I didn't feel super sad...I guess the best way to describe how I feel today is numb.
I'm pushing through. My goals for today (besides the stuff I already did this morning) is to hang up these string lights, do laundry, and do my evening yoga session.

Long story short, my (now ex) fiance cheated on me a few weeks ago. I am currently 22 weeks pregnant. Naturally, I am devastated. Those close to me who know about what happened/our separation have asked me if I have thought about what I will do when delivery day comes. Honestly, I hadn't thought about it until they asked. I have no idea what to do. I can't talk to him and only do if it has to do with our other kids because talking to him/seeing him (when we exchange the kids) hurts too much. During one of his drunken rages in which he was texting another woman/receiving nudes from her, he told her that this baby wasn't his. That especially stung because he had begged for this baby, literally for years. Of course after he came out of his vodka fueled binge he was extremely apologetic (he usually is) and keeps insisting that I give him another chance and he "didn't mean any of it" (yea, okay).
So a big part of me feels I am way too hurt for him to be a part of the delivery experience, and a smaller part of me feels that that is petty and would feel guilty if I didn't allow him to be. I know i have some time still to make a decision, I guess I'm just curious to see what others think/may have experienced. Have any of ever experienced infidelity while you were pregnant, and/or had to make a decision whether or not dad would/n't be part of the delivery?

Pretty sure 2.5 year old has ADHD bad, both parents have it… she’s been struggling worsening lately idk why.
Wakes up middle of night any type of change to room, or different parent, all hell will break lose, big emotions, yelling screaming, hitting and aggressive self harm.
This can go on for 2 hours and soothing methods do not work. I am so tired and pregnant I cussed and screamed so loud today. I am not ok. What can I do to help us? Especially when this is occurring 2:30-5 am nightly for the past week.
It’s a diaper change that needs to happen, a specific diaper design Lights have to be a certain color and not too bright or too dim Blankets have to not touch her and if they do they need to be a certain direction Clothes have to be on and not rolled up through sleep Certain fabric napkins to wipe her nose and tears
OR ELSE it will be hell….
Plz help… or provide support and assurance I am not alone 😭 how do I parent…

I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant with my second child. I had my first at 19 with my ex and while I don't blame my ex at all (we were practically kids ourselves) this pregnancy has made me aware of all the support I didn't receive the first time around and I am just so thankful to be with my current partner. My partner has been incredible throughout my pregnancy between being there for me through the mood swings and cravings and changes in my body. Lately though it has really struck me how truly loved I am. I've been struggling more and more with basic self care tasks, mostly due to going off my ADHD and depression meds. My mental health has been manageable for most of this pregnancy but has slowly gotten more difficult. One big struggle of mine is showering, it often feels like a monumental task so I opt for taking a bath to get clean. Baths are better than nothing but never leave me feeling truly clean and makes it difficult to clean my hair. A few weeks ago I was venting to my partner about how frustrating/hard it is to struggle with such a basic self care task and he off-handedly asked "would it be easier if I helped?" I kinda laughed it off at first since I thought he was being cheeky but he pressed and said that he can't grow our baby but he can help take care of me. So a new routine has been born. Every few days we hop in the shower together and this angel of a man lovinging washes conditions and combs through my hair while reminding me how much he loves me and how beautiful I am. It is the single most intimate non-sexual thing I have ever experienced, I literally melt every single time. I'm just so thankful everyday to have such a wonderful partner in my life and I needed to gush about it somewhere and here seemed like the perfect place!

I 21F and fiancé 23M have been together for 11 months, and we live together. I am also 11 weeks pregnant after 2 miscarriages with him. His mom and sister (mom 46F, sister 18F) continue to talk about his ex gt even though they have not been together for years (approx. 2-3 years) . For example, mom still has photos of the ex on social media and refuses to delete them because they are "memories". And sister still talks to her friends to get information out of them about her to bring it to our attention. Just a couple months ago, me and fiance got into a fight, and with no context the mom says " did he cheat on you and was talking to her?" with a big smile on her face. Almost as if she wanted that to happen. I'm very unsure of what to do, and to my understanding his family all like me, but please give me your input and advice. TYIA
TD;LR! -Fiancés family keeps discussing about his ex gf while i’m pregnant with his child in front of the both of us.

Im a young female, recently turned 20. I have realized my pelvic area is super bloated to the point I look pregnant. This is really messing with my confidence as my stomach sticks out more than my butt. There’s not much fat on my stomach either so it’s very noticeable and a lot of clothes don’t fit. This has been going on for a couple weeks. (i’m not pregnant, i’ve taken a test) I’m ovulating right now i’m hoping afterwards this will go away.
Has anyone else dealt with pelvic bloating and had it gone away, what helps?
I am a skinny woman weighing about 120 pounds and i have small boobs so i notice when my lower stomach looks big because it looks bigger than my boobs. It makes me look “skinny fat”
I don’t know much about pelvic stuff so anything helps!
tldr: bloated pelvis, age 20 female, what helps bloating? (will this ever go away ahhh!!) need a better summer bod

I am a 29F and my husband is a 32M. We have a 3M and my stepson who is 12 and stays with us on weekends. I have been thinking lately that while yes, our toddler is still a handful trying to potty train and all, I think we could handle another kid. Besides by the time I get pregnant and have another child, our son will be older and potty trained. Plus when is there ever "a good time" to have another child. If you keep waiting for the right time it'll never happen.
I've been trying to find a way to bring it up to my husband I want to try again but we were laying in bed cuddling last night and he said something that is bothering me. While yes, yesterday was rough. Our son has been having trouble going to bed on time and potty training. Not to mention he found a sharpie and drew all over our NEW WHITE sheets. I still think we could manage it.
Anyways, we were laying there and he said, "I know you want another kid, but I just don't know if that'll happen. It's getting kinda late and the older you get the more problems you have." I said, "well my mom was 32 when she had me and then 3 yrs later she had my brother, so I don't think that's a big deal." I'm pretty sure we can figure it out financially since he is working some good hours. Yes it would be tough with him working like he is and having a toddler and a baby. The main problem is not having our own house with an extra room for the baby when they get old enough for their own room. "We rent a 3 bed right now."
I'm not totally sure why I'm asking for advice here, I guess just wanna see ages and situations people have had a second kid.

My LO is 3 months. And up until ~ 3 weeks ago, my husband and I would both wake up in the middle of the night when she’d cry. We’d take turns feeding/changing etc. But for the past few weeks, I’m not really waking up as easily? Or my husband will pick her up before I wake up at all.
While pregnant I was an extremely sensitive sleeper, woken up by a lot of small sounds. So this feels like a pretty big shift?
Has anyone else experienced this? I’m nervous about moving her to her crib, and that I’ll be even less likely to wake up relying on the sounds from the monitor.

My golden is a big ole doofus, endearingly so, but he is so dirty. I tried keeping up with washing him while I was pregnant but now I dont have the time and neither does my husband because he has taken on a lot of the heavy duty work and almost every chore (its slowly coming back to being my responsibility for the household chores but I do appreciate my husband so much for this) It has been so rainy and he loves the mud. Even not on rainy days he flips his water bowl to play in the water and then the dirt. I can’t wash him every. single. day and I am avid on making my animals feel a part of the family. The past couple of days I have been trying to let my 4m old pet him and hold his face and as soon as my dog takes his head away my stomach drops from seeing the amount of dirt on my baby. I try to contain the disgust and let them interact while the baby is on my lap a bit longer then I immediately take the baby to wash his hands and legs where the dog would rest his chin. Is it ok to let such a dirty pet to be touching my baby like that? I want them to love each other so bad and my baby does enjoy it while he watches and pets him. He does so with all the animals but I got our golden specifically for him and I can see how much my golden wants to love him. I dont let him lick the baby or anything even though he wants to really bad so his solution is to hold his very dirty ball in his mouth while the baby pets him so he doesn’t have the urge to lick him. When did you guys let your pets interact? How did you control the dirty aspect of pets?

AITAH for being annoyed with my sister?
I’m pregnant with my first child and my older sister has two children of 3 and 7 years. For my birthday yesterday she gave me some old shoes I guess she didn’t want anymore that are also a size too big for me. I’m feeling pretty hurt but I don’t know what I expected as she’s never been a supportive or caring sister ever. It just almost seems aggressively careless..
When her first child was born I gave her my teddy bear from when I was a baby with a note she could read when she got older about the bear and how her granny gave him to me. This was also just after I’d suffered with an ectopic pregnancy and come out of hospital so wasn’t working or earning.
I’d hoped my sister might think of something remotely thoughtful, even just hand me down clothes from her youngest would have been great.
Im so annoyed. Am I just being an ungrateful asshole?