Pedigree problems middle school

All these names are fake for privacy.
I have 2 sisters Alexandra and Vanessa. While I love both my sisters I was always closer to Alexandra.
Recently my wife and I had a baby girl. We both quickly agreed on a first name but we couldn't agree on a middle name. I finally suggested that we could use Alexandra as her middle name and my wife who is also close to her agreed.
Well when I told everyone about our decision Vanessa wasn't happy about it. She asked if we have a fucking problem with her and we said we don't. She then asked then why would you name her after her and not me? Why is everyone always naming kids after her?
To be clear one of my brothers has a daughter whose middle name is Lexi and another one has a son whose name is Xander but it's not like we are doing this on purpose they just liked those names that's all.
Now Vanessa thinks we are all assholes especially because she was a great help to us during my wife's pregnancy but to be clear Alexandra was also a great help to us.

So last week me (18f) and my boyfriend (17m) had prom. After he told me he had to talk to me about something and sat me down on the couch. He told me how he had no time for his hobbies because I'm always over on the weekends and that's the only real time he gets to do his hobbies. How I distract him from his school work. He told me that he felt like I was using him as a crunch too much because I have no friends. For a little bit of background I just stopped being friends with a girl that I had been friends with for 9 year because of prom drama and she was the only one who i was close to other than my boyfriend. Anyways, he told me that I had to make more friends to rely on because he feels trapped. He told me even when I'm not around he's constantly thinking of me and worried about how I'm doing due to my metal health not being so great. How it destacks him from his hobbies and schoolwork. He told me that he cares to much about and said he doesn't know what to do. I asked him if he wanted to break up(I asked him this a few times throughout our conversation) and he said he didn't know. I asked him if he loved me because i was his girlfriend or if he loved me for me. He didnt know how to answer the question and said it was strange. After coversatating a little more I went to the bathroom to take a breather and when I came back out he hugged me and said he didn't want to break up and that he did love me. We then came to the conclusion that I wouldn't come over as much and that he wouldn't text me at school. The problem is that can't stop feeling guilty. I feel like I'm holding him back. I also feel like I no longer can talk to him about my feelings because it might distract him. To be honest my mental health has never been great but I don't think I talked to him about it that much. There would be times I would have panic attacks and would call him late at night but besides that I always kept my feelings to my self. Sometimes I would sneak to the bathroom and cry so he wouldn't know at night because I didn't want to bother him. He never asks me about myself either. He never asks me how im feeling, hows school going, what ive done today. So hearing him say that I use him as a crutch hurt and made me feel guilty. It makes me not want to share any of my feelings with him, I know that's not healthy but im scared that it'll just end up pushing him away more. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm on eggshells now because if I tell him im upset or anything it'll just make him feel more trapped. He's my first boyfriend and we've been dating almost a year. I don't want to break up with him but I don't want to hold him back. I also don't want to ask for space because I feel like that will just make him feel guilty. There's so much more I can say but this is already way to long. So what should I do?
TLRD: My boyfriend told me that he felt trapped by me and that I used him as a crutch to much so now I don't know what to do.

Hello all, I have a 12 week old Finnish Lapphund. He can be so so sweet and is learning kinda fast (sit, wait,…) but when it comes to biting me (and others) we seem to have no progress. I understand an occasional bite but the problem is he gets into this attack mode or play mode and I just don’t know how to stop it. He starts biting me all over and is literally charging at me. I try to get a hold of his collar to pull him to me and hold him tight until he would calm down but there’s just no way I can do that effectively. Do you have any advice on what I can do in moments like these? I’m actually kinda scared I’m creating an aggressive dog and I don’t even know how. We’re starting puppy school in a few weeks. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you all!

So my mom and my brother have been living in the same apartment together for almost 25 years. My mom just recently (5/16/24) passed away from cancer. I had asked the leasing company if we could get my brother's name on the lease, and they said, sure, no problem. The new lease was to be sent in June. My mom died two weeks too early and we never got the new lease. Instead, I got an email with their 40-day vacate notice and her apartment is already up on the website to be available in July.
We have not even had my mother's services and is this how they're treating 25-year tenants. I'm sick about it it. My other brother was going to move in to help the brother who currently lives there pay the rent. At the end of the day, my brother is a middle school custodian but does not make enough money to support himself.
I'm upset they didn't reach out to me first to figure out an agreement, I'm upset that there are no places where he can move and I'm wondering if even if he wasn't on the lease, but he lived there for 25 years, does he have any rights to this place?

I texted an old friend last night. I asked him if he wanted to hang out when me and my partner go to Seattle later this summer (he lives there). My "friend“ texted me tonight telling me he doesn’t want to. He said he thinks it wouldn’t be a good idea and he’s sorry he never explicitly said anything until now.
We’ve been friends since middle school. He never even said/ did anything implicitly that told me he didn’t want to be friends anymore. It just felt so out of the blue. It hurt a lot. He was one of the few people from my high school that I still thought fondly of. He totally unfollowed me on instagram and told me he wasn’t going to reply to any texts anymore. It just…. Kinda hurts man. It just hurts.

I’m not really sure what to say. I know the advice is to go to a professional but I feel embarrassed as if I’m faking it or want attention or something even though ive never told anyone about any of this and I don’t think I’d be able to voice it anyway. I think I have a girl with me mentally right now and she’s so sweet but it’s confusing because I’m a trans man. My head feels fuzzy I originally wanted to talk about my experiences and get your input but instead I want to ask anyone willing to answer some questions if it’s okay because I know the internet is full of misinformation or really basic answers that don’t answer my questions:

• does everyone with DID have a literal internal world? When I was in middle school or high school idk I remember watching vdeos of people describing this complex fantasy world with castles and caves and stuff. But I recently saw someone say that these people often fake it or spread misinformation or something (I have no idea about any of that stuff) and now I’m wondering if this idea I have of DID needing an internal world like that is always the case or not. When they aren’t fronting, where do alters go? Where would I go? Is it possible to have an internal world that you’re not aware of, or to forget about it while fronting?
  
• the person in video also said that the idea that each alter is a very distinct different person is also misinformation and it’s usually more like different versions of yourself that aren’t fully formed in a way sometimes or distinct at all. Can alters really almost blur together like that? Can it be hard to tell who’s who for multiple alters? Can you feel shifts in your body and mentality and awareness without really understanding who you are or who you shifted from? Again I’m confused about where people go when they leave
  
• how do you discover who you are or who others are and communicate with them? [TW mention of cannabis] I had a wild experience with weed and a bad high a couple years ago where my voice and demeanour and emotions were rapidly switching and feeling like I was teleporting from dissociation it was scary (and in front of people too! My roommates at the time.) and I don’t wanna exactly repeat that, I haven’t really tried weed since, would you guys recommend trying it again in a safer setting or are there better ways to try to understand what might have been going on
  

Thank you for any answers, I could totally not have DID as I’m pretty sure I have autism ADHD CPTSD PMDD maybe BPD so maybe some things are just overlapping symptoms, regardless I’m happy to learn more about DID either way, thanks :)

Seoul has announced the Foreign Residents Policy Master Plan, which will invest KRW 250.6 billion over the next five years to attract 1,000 foreign talents with master's and doctoral degrees in science and technology, and provide them with the same level of childbirth and childcare services as Koreans to help them settle in the city. This policy is a proactive measure for Seoul's sustainable growth, with the core goals of attracting talented foreigners and creating an inclusive multicultural society.
Seoul plans to pursue the following major initiatives:

1. Attracting and supporting the growth of talented people:

o Attract global companies to make Seoul a city where talented people from around the world want to work, similar to Silicon Valley in the United States.
o Work with major domestic universities to attract 1000 foreign talents at the master's and doctoral level in science and technology.
o Pilot the introduction of overseas workers in industrial occupations with severe labor shortages and in areas with long-term labor shortages.

1. Support stable settlement in local communities: o To help foreigners stably settle in Seoul with their families, we will provide support for childbirth an

d childcare services, educational activities, etc. without discrimination against Koreans.
o Select 10 universities in high-tech industries in Seoul and provide up to KRW 1.5 billion per year for three years to attract 1,000 outstanding foreign talents.

1. Strengthening multicultural integration and communication:

o Starting with Jakarta, the capital of Indonesia, which has the largest school-age population among ASEAN countries, we will organize local Seoul Study Fairs twice a year and provide support to outstanding foreign students in science and technology by establishing the Seoul Tech Scholarship program.
o Opening the Seoul Foreign Residents Support Center and deployed real-time interpretation devices using artificial intelligence (AI) technology to help foreign residents communicate with each other.
o From this year to 2028, 1,000 AI interpreters will be deployed.

1. Support for childcare fees and educational activities at daycare centers:

o Support 50% of daycare fees for foreign infants (ages 3-5) and expand multicultural integrated daycare centers.
o We will support educational activity fees of 400,000 won for elementary school, 500,000 won for middle school, and 600,000 won for high school for school-age foreign children.

1. Rent Assistance Service for Foreign Residents

o We will launch a new service to help foreign residents pay their rent so that they do not suffer from communication problems.
o The number of 'Global Real Estate Offices for Foreigners, that can conduct real estate brokerage business in foreign languages will be expanded from 239 this year to 414 in 2028.

I'm currently a senior in high school who has 4 days STAT to make a choice.
The options are: AB Communications and Chemical Engineering.
AB Comms has been by dream ever since. My passion lies in that field and industry, my skills excel in that program, and I'd do anything to make the best out of the money that my parents would spend for me in taking this program at my dream university. The cons are that my parents don't believe in this certain program as its success rate is "low" in the Philippines. They finally agreed in letting me do what I want, but now I have doubts of myself if I'd actually end up being in a trash bin as they all say.
For chemical engineering, it isn't actually my dream but I've heard that it makes money. It's the only program that me and my parents can agree upon, especially if I tell them that I can take my masters at this school. I also heard that it has tons of job opportunities at other countries, but the problem is that I'm not good at chemistry. In fact, I suck at chemistry though I can try, I could never find myself understanding it (and probably enjoying chem). But the thing is, I can force myself to learn that field just for... I don't know, the money? So that my parents won't be disappointed at me, telling me, "I told you so!"
I need help. BIG HELP.

So last week me (18f) and my boyfriend (17m) had prom. After he told me he had to talk to me about something and sat me down on the couch. He told me how he had no time for his hobbies because I'm always over on the weekends and that's the only real time he gets to do his hobbies. How I distract him from his school work. He told me that he felt like I was using him as a crunch too much because I have no friends. For a little bit of background I just stopped being friends with a girl that I had been friends with for 9 year because of prom drama and she was the only one who i was close to other than my boyfriend. Anyways, he told me that I had to make more friends to rely on because he feels trapped. He told me even when I'm not around he's constantly thinking of me and worried about how I'm doing due to my metal health not being so great. How it destacks him from his hobbies and schoolwork. He told me that he cares to much about and said he doesn't know what to do. I asked him if he wanted to break up(I asked him this a few times throughout our conversation) and he said he didn't know. I asked him if he loved me because i was his girlfriend or if he loved me for me. He didnt know how to answer the question and said it was strange. After coversatating a little more I went to the bathroom to take a breather and when I came back out he hugged me and said he didn't want to break up and that he did love me. We then came to the conclusion that I wouldn't come over as much and that he wouldn't text me at school. The problem is that can't stop feeling guilty. I feel like I'm holding him back. I also feel like I no longer can talk to him about my feelings because it might distract him. To be honest my mental health has never been great but I don't think I talked to him about it that much. There would be times I would have panic attacks and would call him late at night but besides that I always kept my feelings to my self. Sometimes I would sneak to the bathroom and cry so he wouldn't know at night because I didn't want to bother him. He never asks me about myself either. He never asks me how im feeling, hows school going, what ive done today. So hearing him say that I use him as a crutch hurt and made me feel guilty. It makes me not want to share any of my feelings with him, I know that's not healthy but im scared that it'll just end up pushing him away more. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm on eggshells now because if I tell him im upset or anything it'll just make him feel more trapped. He's my first boyfriend and we've been dating almost a year. I don't want to break up with him but I don't want to hold him back. I also don't want to ask for space because I feel like that will just make him feel guilty. There's so much more I can say but this is already way to long. So what should I do?

I don't even know where to start. I'm a 19 year old girl, I live in a third world country and I'm kinda drowning currently.
I'm very autistic, I can talk and do some school stuff but I can't adapt to work environments at all and holding down a job has been impossible even though I've gone through training or a month or two of work in like a dozen places. It just never sticks. And this is a huge problem and relevant to my situation.
I'm currently in college too, on top of that, but because of the autism it's been impossible to keep up with the pace and truly learn and I've been failing exams and other college obligations. It's all going downhill.
I don't like going to college at all to begin with, but the crux of my issue is that I hail from a very abusive, very strict family and they demand I not only finish college but do it with good grades too. And I depend on them financially. Now I got into this college on a full scholarship because I managed to get through previous schooling with good grades (with extreme pressure and mental breakdowns and stress put on me by my family) so my family doesn't have to pay for school. Still, they pay for my housing and food.
They don't believe I'm struggling, they're those types of mental health deniers, and my worth to them is directly tied into my college performance. They've threatened to cut me off if I fail college before and often blackmail me by withholding enough money for me to live (there was one month where I had to go hungry a lot because I couldn't cover everything with rent and bills and public transport fees etc.).
The problem is that I'm depending on them, and my inability to work makes it impossible for me to become independent. I keep trying to find jobs that might be possible for me to do but they either don't want students or want people with a lot of work experience which I don't have. Or they just don't call me back.
I'm just so depressed and honestly just so scared. I don't want to become homeless and destitute, and I wish I could handle college because I know a college diploma is useful in life, but I just can't. Every time I think I finally did a little better in school or learned a bit more, my results come back bad anyways. It's so stressful because the only livelihood I have access to currently depends on my college success but I'm not succeeding despite trying my best.
I don't know what to do. I don't know what I can do either. It all feels hopeless. My family looms so large because they control money and therefore resources and I don't know how I can ever break free. I'm just so lost.
I need general life advice here, I think. Anyone who's been through something similar, how did you get out of it? What options exist out there? I'm sorry if this post sounds like I'm whining, I'm just desperately trying to find a solution because the state of things as it is right now isn't working out at all. English isn't my first language either so if my tone or wording is weird, I'm sorry.
Thank you anyone who reads this. Hope you have a good day

Before we begin, I apologize in advance if this is long and rambly. Just trying to organize my thoughts and get some input from people who may have had similar experiences and/or are willing to read through my meandering bullshit.
I am a 25 year old EI with two years of experience who is currently unemployed. I started working with a mid-sized consulting company once I got my Bachelor's degree, brought on as an hourly employee in the geotechnical department while a full-time Master's student. I got my Master's in geoenvironmental engineering back in May, stuck around the company until December. Decided to take a break after leaving as one final hurrah in honor of being done with school, and am now starting the job hunt again.
There were a few different reasons I left my previous company, but one of the big ones is that I'm mainly interested in environmental work, and despite management saying they'd transfer me to a more environmentally-focused position, it never came to fruition. I wanted to try out geotechnical work because I really liked the geotech classes in uni, but I absolutely despised the work I was doing in geotech; field work was ok, but geotechnical reporting is absolutely soul-crushing. All that being said, the company I worked for also did environmental work, and I've had some low-level interaction with the department; realistically, it seems like it was just the same shit as geotechnical but with a different coat of paint. Somewhat interesting field work, followed by hours of templatized report writing and scraping the bottom of the barrel for billable hours.
Basically, I don't like geotech, and I'm worried that environmental engineering is going to be a lot of the same shit I didn't like about geotech, just under a different name and with different terms. I originally wanted to do remediation, but a lot of people I've talked to who did remediation absolutely fucking despised it. I've been looking at different jobs and subsets of engineering, and I really think something along the lines of coastal engineering would be something I'd love; the Army Corps of Civil Engineering specifically has some amazing sounding job openings, full of shit like stream and marsh restoration, jetty and coastal structure design, etc., but I really don't want to get my PE working in government, as that goes against everything I've ever been told in terms of career development. The big problem is, there are no private coastal opportunities in my city (somewhat expected, as I'm about four hours from the coast...), and I'm not planning on moving until I'm done paying my student loans.
One of the things that appeals to me with coastal engineering is that, I assume just from being a specialized market, the work looks a lot more in line with the shit I got into engineering for in the first place; design, modeling, that kind of thing. I don't want to be a project manager, I want to do technical and design work. Additionally, I want to work with water resources; this is one of the entire reasons I got into civil engineering. With that in mind, I've been looking into some local positions that I feel have some transferable skills, water resources type jobs, and it seems like nearly all of them are either stormwater or wastewater oriented, neither of which I'm particularly interested in. This is where I'm having some trouble trying to figure out what to do next.
I guess one of the big questions would be, would a job like this even exist? As in, a water resources oriented job that doesn't pertain to stormwater or wastewater? I've used a dozen different variations of searches on Indeed using keywords like modeling, water resources, water quality, etc., and it just gives me search results for wastewater work. Some examples of what I'd love to do are the things I did in my groundwater resources engineering and surface water quality modeling classes; in groundwater resources engineering, my final project included modeling the groundwater table for a local area based on well data. It was a little bit ago, so I'm a little fuzzy on the details, but another student used my model in his project and did something pertaining to contaminant transport in the groundwater. In surface water quality modeling, we did a lot of Simulink programming to model a large local watershed area. Is this kind of shit unique to academia, or can you score a job like this in consulting? If so, what are some companies I should be keeping an eye out on for job openings?

Hey there guys! I'm a first gen girl from North India in class 12 cbse from a middle class family of 7. Im putting this info here only for 2 days b4 deleting. Guys it would be very helpful if u can chance me and tell me what I can do to improve(advice me here or on pm ) . Im not posting this on chanceme due to the toxicity there . My school is basically a school where people have very little interest in applying abroad there is no counselor and very limited knowledge but yeah couple of teachers are supportive mainly prep for jee or neet is done here. So there are no clubs or extracurricular activities of any kind I have done this all on my own).
Major: physics Uchicago ed1 Sat:1580(800 math) Grades 9-96 10-92 11-70 ( this happened due to bouts of pneumonia and typhoid throughout year due to which I couldn't go to school and even missed a few exams . There was also heavy grade deflation)(this is my applications weakest point pls advice me about what I can do . I'll be mentioning this in sop and my teacher will also mention this in lor) 12-96(expected) AP: my school doesn't provide and they are expensive af Financial aid: no ( loans and external scholarship maybe I'll ask for 18-20k/yr from uchicago cuz coa is 97k/yr)
Awards and honours 1. Research paper award (international) 2. Conrad challenge top50
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1. aknowlegment by hon' PM Modi for continued efforts to bring improvement in society ( also got acknowledged by ministry of education)
   
2. School academic distinction 9-10
   

ECS

1. 2. 3. All three are research papers 1 on math reviewed by UIUC prof and 2 on physics (astro) that have also been acknowledged by iiser profs
2. Astronomy app
3. Braille and sign language educator at local school have held initiatives and workshops as well as working on making a free course right now
4. Research with iit prof ( ongoing)
5. Research project - an innovation hailed by ministry of health and iit profs.
6. Tutor for underprivileged children for 4 years
7. Book on physics (250+ pages still writing)
8. Mun and debates or a research project I'm doing this summer
   Essays i must say are nice ( I'm a good writer as well as quite into philosophy)
   

Letter of recommendation - my teachers love me and must say the draft of my chemistry teacher lor is a piece of art. And I'm hoping if iit prof will also write me one.
So yeah this is it. I know I was a bit vague it's because I didn't wanna get doxxed. PS I have also built a small electromagnetic particle accelerator at home. 🌟

I'd like to share a lengthy and self-indulgent note about my history with the Baha'i community and the impact it had on my family and me. It's worth noting that I'm sharing this using a throwaway Reddit account that I generally reserve for browsing porn. I find funny to imagine a Baha'i apologist reading this, becoming angry and judgmental, and then, investigating my profile and ending up jerking off. With that said, let's dive into my story.
I want to share my experience in case it resonates with someone else, a lot of the stories on this Reddit helped me, and perhaps my story will give some comfort to someone else. It has taken me a while to write this down, and I'm glad I finally got around to doing it.
My parents emigrated from their homeland for reasons of principle and value. Upon their arrival, they were greeted by Baha'is who met them. And so, lovebombed and lavished with love, praise, and celebration for moving countries due to values that they portrayed as being closely aligned with the Baha'i faith, my parents fell for this validation and worked very hard once they became Baha'is in the mid-1980s.
My dad got rid of all of his whiskies, and swiftly, my parents began hosting potlucks and fireside chats, diligently working to integrate into the Baha'i ecosystem. Back then, the atmosphere was fairly light-hearted, with devotional gatherings, prayers, and a somewhat 1960s-esque hippie vibe. There was live guitar music, and joss sticks.
However, I remember Baha'i classes having an interesting edge. We were taught that Buddhists were not following a religion but merely a way of life, and that Hindus had become pantheistic because they had lost the core of their faith and religion, which had become corrupted over time. Thanks to Google, I can discover that yes indeed, this is from Lights of Guidance.
There was a significant emphasis on the importance of gender equality and the oneness of humanity – because, hey, the eighties. I feel sad there isn't anything anymore about the Virtues project - even if the Virtues project was sort of framed like it was created by Bahais.
Even in the 1980s, there was an overwhelming atmosphere that the key to being a good Baha'i was how you presented yourself rather than your actual behaviour. I recall learning an apocryphal tale of a young Baha'i who, while fasting, participated in an aerobics class and nearly fainted (yeah, aerobics, this is a real 80s fable), but was told by another Baha'i to prioritize representing the faith well over completing the fast because *it looked bad*. From a very early age, I learned the importance of putting the right face forward.
My parents then took their relationship with the Baha'i faith to the next level and volunteered at the World Centre in Haifa. As a child, this was a pretty interesting experience. I was suddenly immersed in the Iranian, or rather, Persian community, with its strong culture of martyrdom. Even as a child, every event seemed to feature graphic videos depicting young kids being taken from their homes. It was quite frightening, and I remember being afraid.
I also recall a strong sense of hierarchy within the community. My family lived in a small apartment with a very old, busted-up car from the 1970s, while others resided in nice homes with pleasant views and drove nice cars. I attended a local Israeli school, which was a cultural experience in itself, while my peers my age went to the much fancier American school. It's important to note that, at this point, the conversation about the "great catastrophe" – two-thirds of the world's population dying, leading to a period of peace and the entry by troops – was a prevalent topic openly discussed at the World Centre.
We completed our stint there, even living through the Gulf War. Upon returning to my birth country, my parents chose to live in places with smaller Baha'i communities, as they wanted to support and help establish Local Spiritual Assemblies. Things had changed by this point, not only because I was a teenager but also because the community itself had transformed. There was a significant Iranian presence everywhere, and the focus had shifted heavily towards rules, especially those related to sex, drinking, and drug use. There was also a huge emphasis on financial contributions to the faith, and it was the first time I began to see a somewhat materialistic outlook within the community.
As a preteen and teenager, I engaged in activities like dropping off flyers in mailboxes and soliciting strangers to talk about this great new religion, all in the name of “teaching”. I joined the local choir and sang, inspired by a crush I had on a girl there. This was probably the golden time of the community, with the choir doing outreach and a balance between Western and Iranian believers.
However, things began to accelerate. The Ruhi Institute and teaching became significant focal points. I was encouraged to bring a good friend of mine to a Baha'i camp, and once there, I was pressured to ask him to convert. It was very uncomfortable.
This Reddit loves cringe stories, so here is a winner: I had a birthday party with my non-Baha'i friends, and two older Baha'i girls attended. One of the girls ended up stalking my friend, showing up at his workplace and calling him at home with sexually suggestive comments. The matter was escalated to the Local Spiritual Assembly, but instead of talking to me about it, they basically ended my friendship with this kid. To me, this somehow captures so much of what it was like to be a Baha'i child and how Baha'i adults treat children to this day.
When I turned 15, I signed up for Baha'i membership because it was the expected thing to do. However, by the time I was in my early 20s and studying at university, I had started to interact more with the local, real-world community. This might seem like a small thing, but it was actually quite significant. You see, my parents had always felt a little bit on the outside compared to the average person on the street around them. This sense of elitism was really exacerbated by being a Baha'i because Baha'is would walk around in a cloud of self-assurance, slapping each other on the back and saying , "We don't do drugs. We've got all the answers and solutions, not like you." That was pretty much the attitude. It felt very socio-economic, with a lot of judgment towards working-class people. When the Iranians arrived, the cultural judgments grew even stronger.
But I was working in restaurants and learning about booze from bartenders. I had gotten to know real people. I had lost my virginity, and all that Bahai jazz seemed so much less relevant. I hardly even noticed when the year 2000 arrived without the predicted apocalypse, entry by troops, or any of the other anticipated events. Life went on. I lived in another country and met a girl, and we lived together.
Here is cringe story #2: my girlfriend /fiancé and I hosted a Bahai couple from my hometown. Despite being in my late 20s and engaged, and even though I hosted this gentleman in my house and helped him with his preparations for his business and presentations in the country where I lived, he reported to the Local Spiritual Assembly that I was living with a woman and we weren't married. It was absolutely amazing. The level of judgment still grosses me out.
I started to reflect on what the religion had meant to me and saw how it had changed. The obsession with fundraising was becoming ever more strident and panicked. The gaps in the actual scriptural logic of the religion were becoming more exacerbated as real-world problems still ran rife, and real-time discussions on social media brought these issues to light. It took me a while to start really digging into it, and it was only much later, when I started therapy, that I realized I needed to formally resign from the religion.
Looking back, it's astonishing how this religion, which professes to have such blind equality between the genders, as if other religions have some kind of hardwired sexism, actually had hardwired sexism in how the Universal House of Justice operates. A religion that taught the oneness of humanity, as if all humanity is equal and other religions don't recruit from anyone they can find, places divisors. Although of course, Bahai’s can’t recruit from Israeli Jews, so much for oneness of humanity. But this religion has taught that all humanity is equal, unless, of course, you're gay. Then you can't get married, let alone have sex.
There are other principles I haven't touched on, such as non-involvement in politics, unless it involves things happening to Baha'is or politics in Iran. The principle of independent investigation of the truth doesn't seem to work if you might investigate something that's not in line with the Baha'i perspective. The idea of a universal language? I don't really see any evidence that they're even really thinking about that one. The unity between science and religion? A religion that only allows men to sit on its senior board of a global theocracy probably isn't going to jive with a contemporary scientific perspective…. I mean, apparently you don't need a penis to be a man anymore, right?
In between these moments are my colorful memories of random things, like endless discussions about the boundaries of physical intimacy, people getting married at the age of 16 because they had exemptions for being Persian, and meeting Ms. Khanoom in Israel, feeling some sadness that the lone woman who at least brought some feminine energy to the World Centre is now gone, replaced by 12 boring men.
I've had conversations with my wife where I tried to explain what Baha'is actually do. She just wonders why they aren't doing stuff like normal religions do, like reading to the elderly or supporting schools for the disabled. I explain that's not the target demographic. I remember a wealthy man brought to firesides who obviously nobody else wanted to listen to, but we all sat around and applauded him like he was a great ukulele player and a clever man. He pointed out a hilariously Iranian man who was an alternative healer, and they got into a debate about modern medicine. The wealthy man said, "Well, you should see my daughter and what she studied. She studies Law." And then quickly changed the subject when asked about her name since I studied at the same Law school. Here's this man who's self-aware enough to join the adoration of his crowd but doesn't want his daughter mixed up in it in any way. Absolutely hilarious. Make that cringe story #3.
This reflection was sort of sparked when my wife and I discovered that the writings attributed to Rumi, which Baha'is often quote, is the same guy who started the Whirling Dervishes. We read about Rumi and I realized just how different he is from Baha'u'llah. Rumi wrote poetry, but he didn't pretend to be a prophet of God. He was just offering a different dynamic for how to interpret spirituality. He didn't say he was part of some sort of cycle. There's something beautiful about that simplicity. And needless to say, Rumi lived long before the Baha'is ever started.
It makes me wonder, will anyone ever watch the equivalent of a whirling dervish dance for the Baha'is?
The obsession with appearances sounds like a joke, but it isn't. It wasn't for me. Some bad stuff happened to me on my trip to Israel. When we got there, my parents didn't understand why I was so upset about everything. It was a culture shock, attending a local school, not speaking Hebrew, being lumped together with Russian kids who also didn't speak Hebrew, and getting beaten up in the toilet. It wasn't a very good time for me.
So, I was sent to counsel with a local Israeli counselor. After several sessions, she instructed that I had to sit down with my parents and tell them what I needed to tell them, particularly about the shadow that had come over me since coming to Israel. My parents were enraged when I said, “I wish we never became Bahai”.
And so, we returned from the Holy Land and moved to a tiny community that was struggling to get members. To this day, my parents are still members. I've resigned so I'm never dubbed a "covenant breaker." I'm pretty sure my parents know that I resigned because they literally never raise the topic of the Baha'i faith with me. I wish the religion had some interesting cosmology, something mystical, some interesting new take on the universe, or provided my family with tools to handle being migrants or raising teenagers. At the very least, it could have given us a common language we could have used to bond together. It did none of that.
But to be fair, if it wasn't the Baha'is, some other rinky-dink cult would have love-bombed my parents back in the 1980s. Of course, it would have been so much more fun if it had featured more sex and drugs 😊

My boyfriend talks a lot. This is something I always knew about him. We’ve been together for 3 months but have known each other since middle school. I really love being around him and talking to him. We both have the same sense of humour and can have a great time together. However, when conversations get more serious I find myself being talked over a lot. I am a bisexual woman and this is my first relationship with a male in over 10 years. I’m not sure if my lack of patience is due to the switch in relationship dynamics or if he just truly does not respect me. I find myself blocking out a lot of what he is saying because I’ve either 1) told him I did not want to talk about it or 2) I was talking about something else. And when I try to stand my ground and tell him I was taking, he makes me feel like I don’t give him space to talk (even though he’s always the one talking)

I need to download Xampp to start using MySQL Workbench at school, but for some reason, whenever I want to use it, I can't because Xampp downloads the 32-bit version even though I have the 64-bit installer. I have downloaded it multiple times from different versions, but whenever I start the download, it installs the 32-bit version instead of the 64-bit one. Can help me? I'm just starting university with this ;___; pls pls pls
Does anyone know how to fix that problem? or another way to use MySQL workbench without Xampp?

Hi, everyone
My ex and I were together for almost 6 years, but we've known each other since we were middle school. One night just right after coming from a date and planning for Valentine's Day, he suddenly broke up with me. I never saw it coming.
Days before the break-up the topic of marriage came up from our friends and family, and he started distancing himself. I tried to reassure him that I was not in a hurry to get married, what mattered most was that I wanted to be with him, and we've had talks about moving in together and traveling in the future. I gave him the space to calm down and would check up on him as he was dropping hints too that he wasn't okay. I picked up on them, which led me to ask, but he'd always just say that he's okay, or just tired, and that he was going to talk to me about it when he was ready. I respected that and didn't want to force it out of him as that might cause different problem altogether. Then days after, the blindside happens. He said he no longer feels any love for me, it seems like he is losing himself, and that he couldn't see me as his partner in the future-- but he doesn't know why. It was just something he was feeling.
Our relationship was great, and healthy, and we've been best friends for the longest time. We've broken up before (he was the one who left), but learned from what we lacked in that relationship and worked hard to be better, so we had healthy ways of communicating what bothered us. Turns out, there were things he didn't communicate because he didn't know how to and worried how I would react.
It's been almost 4 months, and I honestly don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I feel my self-worth has taken a massive hit, and am constantly thinking about why I wasn't good enough or worth it enough to stay and fight for. I am also slowly losing hope in finding love again because I never want to go through something like this ever again. It's just too painful. I heard from a friend of ours that he thought I'd be okay by now as we have had the "closure" talk last April. I don't know how he could ever think such a thing, after what he just did to me and our relationship. I honestly hope he realizes what he's lost and regrets it, because as of now, he doesn't.
I wanted to ask: does it ever get better? Any perspective that you guys could share that could help me look on the bright side? Any good stories? Thank you so much.
TLDR; BF of 6 years blindsided me, and after almost 4 months, I am having a hard time seeing how it gets better. Any stories/advice?

So I had two dreams, 3 days apart and the second directly relates to the first one. Also the first ine of its own was interesting enough to me and I wonder what you people think of it. I know theres such a thing as an initiation dream in Jungs Psychology but I dont really know what it is all about. My first dream has initiation as a topic:
In my first dream there was something like a ritual going on, but it was playing like a movie and it was about becoming adult, becoming grown, like old cultures have proper adult initiations. There was this pillar of water and I also watched that some environmental changes were going on, with lava or so. These changes forced a whole bunch of bunnies outside of this whole thing. And that just happens when you grow up, that was the understanding inside of the dream. But then I suddenly realized that its important whats going on there, because i was just watching it and also doing something else in the same time. Then I realized that this is important for my existence and my chance so i jumped into that water pillar to be subject to this ritual. - No more memories after this
So three days later I have another dream, in which I am in a classroom. In real I dont have any school setting anymore, but in the dream it was not odd or special (sometimes I have dreams in school where it is like implicit, that I usually are not in school anymore. This dream was different, being in school was normal). What was special though was the teacher, he was a new teacher to me and he being unfamiliar occupied my mind during the dream because I would want to be in a good light to him and also get to know what he is like. I feel like before the classroom scene there were othere scenes with motifs of an according institution and of some structuring and ordering measurements through authorities. Whatever, during the class he did his first lesson thing and asked around stuff and adressed the people. In my case, he accused me of something, i dont know what he accused me of exactly but it had something to do with a book at hand. I was completely sure that his accusation was not true and I remained calm and gave my best to show to him that I am not guilty of whatever it was. What resolved this conflict is that I showed that the book was not mine. I turnt to the first pages of it and found someones name (a not so important ex work colleague, thats been fired because she often came way too late). And that proved that the book wasnt mine. Though I dont know why that wouldve been a problem in the first place. The book was an actual novel named "Niemand ist eine Insel" from a german writer. I do own this book because I once found it second hand very cheap. Though I have not read a single page of it. The title translates to "Nobody is an island". There was another scene in the classroom. The teacher talked and explained the progression of some type of act. I dont know what was the actual subject or his understanding of what he talked about, but he explained that the person sits in a chair and suddenly the floor beneath the chair will disappear and the person falls. Then I reply to him "into water?" and he says yes. In the actual dream I was thinking of the dream described beforehand, as if it was an important thing and I used my knowledge of it in this classroom scene, which ultimately linked these two dreams together.
I found that exciting because its not just like from wake perspective it is connectable, but I actually made a connection inside of the dream itself. So I am open to your thoughts about this general thing, about the dreams themselves and especially about the motif of initiation the water, for I know water stands for the unconscious.

hi guys!! I'm planning to run as a student council officer next school year. One of the problems that previous councils faced is the rampant latency of students. How can the next student council solve this problem using their power? thank you in advance!!!!

They pass passes you then failed you when you get to high school so you go get your GED and start working manual labor., I had my teacher started early as 5th and 4th grade my sixth grade teacher told me angel Martinez I would say present and he would say leave and don't come back to lunch lol passed I never threatened the teacher till they put their hands on me!!!! And then mostly with my eyes lol #world it's the future they had to pass through the six pack my class in the middle Mr Henderson and two classrooms Lifting me off the ground while Eric hung from my neck in a chokehold and I whispered you got to let me go you ain't going to put me to sleep you might as well let me go and the teacher join the two classes ingesting me around while kid hung from my neck and my head was being supported and my body was being supported separately