I need advice on how to deal with a colleague that seems to have wormed there way into the business and increasingly and worryingly quickly up the ladder.
She joined as a proposed business development person who was to bring in more revenue for the agency in the from of social media clients, websites etc.
2 months into her role and she said to the director that she had actually been running her own agency singlehandedly and was bringing in around £12k per month on her own.
She said that she would merge with the business and then during the 3rd month she sat us down and told us that she had 'bought' into the business and was now a director of the agency.
The team knew this was all rubbish as she only brought in around £2k per month since and we have had no mention of this supposed £12k she had in her agency.
She comes in after our start time and leaves whenever she pleases to attend supposed client meetings and calls.
She built a website for a client and it is very very poor standard so clearly she has no training or experience at all.
Her social media skills are very subpar compared to our current social manager and even he is stunned by how she operates.
She has literally came in and managed to flatter the owner and somehow convince him that she has all this experience to offer and realistically she likes the title of a director and does none of the work for any of it!
The rest of the team sit and discuss her like daily as she is never in on time with us and still expects to sit and be one of us for the time being and then when it's time for management stuff and finance stuff she goes away for hours and is always in meetings.
We do not have a HR department
The owner appears blinded by her and she can seem to do no wrong in his eyes
I really am worrying now as I feel her lack of experience and her power that she now has will cause the business to dip and therefore i will be the one to suffer as I have only recently joined and I would probably be the first casualty.

I have been vegetarian for 10 years and cut dairy out of my diet 4 years ago. The only animal product I consume are eggs. I’ve always been conscious to buy organic free range pasterised eggs but after doing some research I realised that these companies still cull their baby male chicks and unhealthy female ones. Even brands that advertise how “cruelty free” they are. It is disgusting and should be considered false advertising because I was only able to find this information after hours of research!? (Happy Egg company is one of the brands i looked into)
I looked into small local farms where I could go collect the eggs myself, see where the hens were being raised, and be certain that baby chicks are not culled, but as a 20 year old student living in London this option is unaffordable to me. (nearest farm is 3 hours from me) Due to health reasons I’m unable to cut eggs from my diet at this point in time and all the egg substitutes here are so expensive and full of unnatural ingredients. I eat tons of tofu and mushrooms, but eggs are my best and easiest source of protein (again im a student with limited money and time).
Does anyone know if there are any accessible, affordable eggs on the market in the UK that are cruelty free and dont massacre baby chicks? Ive looked into so many companies in so many supermarkets and I just cant be certain when they claim they are free range and cruelty free. I do not want to contribute to the murder of innocent lives.

As a grown man, I hate blaming my parents for issues I have. Compared to so many horror stories, my childhood, parents and family were wonderful. In general, I try to believe that people do the best they can with the resources they have and rarely have true malicious intent. Unfortunately, there is one “childhood trauma” that I am stuck with and I don’t see any way to get over it.
For as long as I can remember, my boomer parents and gen x siblings would absolutely torture me about girls. Like every girl I ever came into contact with from preschool on I would get the “oh that’s your giiiirrrrlllfrieend” crap. I was a sensitive, people-pleasing kid and this really bothered me. To make matters worse, My family had the awful habit of “making fun” of, quite literally, anyone on the planet. Too rich, too poor, imperfect physical features, race, ethnicity, religion, different style clothes, different interests or hobbies, nobody was safe.
I went through adolecence and young adulthood mostly terrified to interact with women. Just now am I getting to the point where I have actual platonic female friends. School dances and prom were major sources of stress. I had whole relationships in high school and college that I kept secret from my family, including a 3 year relationship with who I now consider to be the “love of my life.” How awful must these young women have felt that I was hiding them from my family? I’ll never forgive myself.
After college, I moved back home (see people pleaser comment above). A month later my longterm girlfriend broke up with me. Why? Because I was still hiding her from my family. I certainly can’t blame her and I hope she is living the life she deserves.
A hazy, drunken, depressed and miserable 7 or 8 years then ensued that frankly I’m lucky I survived. I was a total wreck on the inside but put together enough on the outside so as to not worry anyone. Good job, remained in shape, outwardly I was just a fun, drunk, party guy in his 20’s. No relationships. Any dates were to a bar. Very rare sexual encounters were risky, drunken, one or few night stand situations.
At 29 I started dating my now wife. After a few months of secret dating I fought through and introduced her to my family. I’m grateful that my wife pulled me out of the abyss. After a few months of dating I finally got my own apartment and started to live as an actual adult. We got engaged at a year and a half and married at two years. We’ve been married for 10 years. We have a house and two wonderful children. My thirties were far better than my 20s and 40’s are looking great so far. Except…..
Lately, I have not been able to shake feelings of regret or what might have been. While we get along, our marriage is like a business agreement. It works. We’re busy, the kids are busy, we don’t or can’t take time for ourselves, we are both constantly engaged in jobs, cooking, dishes, laundry, cleaning, kids activities, etc. We both tackle everything and neither of us is ever sitting or relaxing. It never seems like we can get ahead of things. My wife is totally codependent and cannot handle anything on her own. She also may be a hoarder in the making. She was diagnosed with OCD as a child and is probably somewhere else on spectrum, terrible anxiety, too. I’ve made all adjustments to accommodate her needs. New, self-employed job so I can control the schedule, no hobbies or friends, I am always available for her needs. She refuses to get any outside help with her mental health. It’s all on me. She’s miserable, always mad at something or somebody(her family tells me this is her historic personality and she’s just like other family members), always sick, she has gained well over 100lbs and the health issues that go with that are starting to creep in. More for me to deal with! Sex life is dead. Totally vanilla when it does happen-missionary with shirts and socks on. Multiple times over the past 5 years we have gone 8-12 months without intimacy. Any attempts to discuss these issues as adults are met with rage and blaming everyone else. Her position is basically that I married her and just have to live with whatever. She also knows I’ll never leave the kids(I’m not saying that’s the right call for everyone but it’s the right call for me).
Here’s the thing- I can handle a lot with a smile on my face. I am longing for those relationships I had in early adulthood where my SO actually wanted me to be happy sometimes instead of only living to serve her needs. I can’t get these ghosts of girlfriends past out of my head. Every single night I am having vivid dreams about them sexual and otherwise. Marriage with kids is a lot different than college relationships so who knows what could have been. For me, the unknown is what haunts me.

I’m sorry if this is confusing, I’m not really sure how to word this. I just realised I misspelled the title sorry btw.
I F15 (2009) and my friend F14 (2010) have been friends for a couple months, we normally interact during school hours. We’re both in year 9 even though she’s a year younger, age is important to the story btw.
For the sake of simplicity I will call me friend Zoe, Zoe has a crush on this boy M17 let’s call him Jake. Jake and Zoe had been talking and of course the school had caught wind of it since they were walking around together during break, I personally thought it was a bit weird given there 3 year age gap. Normally 3 years isn’t bad but because of Zoe’s maturity level it made everyone agree it just wasn’t right.
Didn’t matter and they kept talking but eventually after a while u asked Zoe how things were going because she hardly talked about him. And she told me he liked her but things were complicated, I felt sorry for her and I didn’t want Jake to play with her feelings. So I went and talked to Jake who explained to me that he wasn’t comfortable with the ‘relationship’ because of the age gap and wasn’t sure how to tell her, I told him to just out right and say it. The next day he told me he did during a phone call, I was kinda relieved until a few days later he told me and my friends that she was still contacting him, he found it annoying and asked us to talk to her. I didn’t talk to her because i didn’t know how to approach the conversation, next week he complains again (she sent him a tik tok about how she liked him but couldn’t have him) and one of my friends tell him to block her on everything, since he already set his boundaries. We asked him why he hadn’t done it before and he expressed he was worried she’d kill herself (which is wild but okay).
Because of this whole thing me and Jake started talking more often and I got to know him, we text now and again when I’m not too busy. When Jake followed me on instagram he noticed my following count was 666, called me out lol. I thought it was funny and posted it on my story. Zoe has seen it and she texted me asking if I was talking to him and I explained we we’re talking about someone else (which we were) and she asked to know what exactly he was saying. I told her since it wasn’t a big deal but I still thought it was strange. I thought it was a bit odd but I just brushed it off, I did end up telling Jake to tease him. Couple weeks later Zoe messages me again asking if I would date Jake because she overheard my friend calling Jake my man (my friend was very unhinged and I was trying to tell her to shut it omg) so I obviously said no because at the time I wasn’t interested in him.
Now fast forward a couple weeks i regularly talk to Jake, I wouldn’t say I’m In love with him but idk he’s funny and today I was in class and I tried talking to her but she kinda ignored me, idk maybe I’m overreacting but I still feel weird about it.
ANYWAY I need advice and I need to know if I’m in the wrong and breaking girl code.

There are 10 matches on this card but some go by quick, or could happen on tv, I’m assuming this is gonna be the biggest or one of the biggest PLE’s ever so here we go.
Randy Orton vs Solo Sikoa
This match doesn’t even start because Randy is attacked before walking out Solo is sending a message to everyone. This is a reason to have Randy on the card, you’ll see.
Jey Uso, Sami Zayn, and Kevin Owens vs New Imperium, King Gunther, Ludwig Kaiser, and Ilja Dragunov
New Imperium starts a fued with Sami and Kevin, they need a third and get Jey Uso. They dominate setting Gunther up for a world title shot.
AOP(c) vs The Creeds - WWE World Heavyweight Tag Team Championship
Big meaty men bumping meat. I do not think Awesome Truth will make it to summerslam.
Liv Morgan(c) vs Becky Lynch vs Asuka vs Kairi Sane
Liv Morgan beats Becky about a month after KOTR. Their fued officially ends here but damage control get involved to spice it up. Miss MITB Dakota Kai tries cashing in but fails to with involvement from Becky.
Chad Gable(c) w/ the creeds vs Otis/Pete Dunne intercontinental Championship
Either stretch out the Otis Gable storyline til august or wrap it up quickly and give Pete Dunne a singles title opportunity, opportunity comes short against the odds though. Alpha/Creed Academy stands tall with their titles (I’d even get Shelton Benjamin or Kurt angle or both to join them eventually)
Drew McIntyre vs CM Punk
This would be the second PLE match between the two, Drew winning the first. Punk Wins to probably seal this fued down..but Drew will still get the last laugh down the line.
Logan Paul(c) vs LA Knight United States Championship - Falls Count Anywhere
I’m not the biggest LA Knight fan but I think it’s about time they give him a title run. This fued has already been set up and it’s gonna be entertaining. Falls count anywhere to enhance their performance and maybe have Logan do something crazy because they’re in Cleveland.
Yeah!
Damien Preist(c) w/ R-Truth ;) vs Finn Balor w/ JD World Heavyweight Championship
Judgment Day implodes throughout summer and we finally get this title match. Finn Balor and JD leave the Judgment Day and become a duo. Balor Finally after 8 years becomes world champion again…
Damien Preist or Aj attacks Finn balor after the match and takes out JD. Aj Styles is cashing in his MITB!
Finn Balor(c) vs AJ Styles
AJ is champ again! Finn Balor is once again taken from a world title run.
Bayley(c) vs Bianca BelaiTiffany Stratton Woman’s Championship
Bayley wins. For now.
Cody Rhodes(c) vs The Rock w/ The Bloodline (and Roman) WWE Undisputed World Universal Heavyweight Championship
Let’s just assume the rock does this match, the way I would have it play out is there’s a moment where Cody is being beat up by either all of the bloodline or Rock and Solo, Randy Orton comes to Cody’s aid. We get a Randy vs rock moment (which sets up a match later for them) and Cody and Randy stand tall
but then Roman returns. Randy is taken out, it’s now 2v1 Rock and Roman vs Cody. But in a shocking turn of events Roman turns on the rock with a Superman punch. Everyone is shocked turning Roman face (or roles could be reversed and Rock turns face.)
Cody Capitalizes on it hits rock with a crossroads and wins. The Bloodline is all over the place.
Summerslam is closed out by a Slim Jim Commercial

Coming up on my 3rd visa Renewal and will be going for indefinite right to remain, so to get ahead of things I decided to take my first stab at the Pub quiz, I mean, "Life in the UK Test" because I have never been the type of person who was good at studying and memorizing dates, I figured I would need to take it a few times to pass.
I got the study guide but its so freaking dense, I was struggling. Thankfully I found Dan's "UK Life Prep" youtube channel. He runs through a lot of the common questions and I found it much, much easier to absorb in chunks watching his videos...even listening to a few while driving in to take my test.
I eventually got through every practice test on lifeintheuktests.co.uk and was getting about 66% each time and was getting worried. Then I noticed in the comments, that many people were saying the practice tests didn't match anything on their actual test and failed multiple times.
I found a few at https://uacademy.co.uk/free/life-in-the-uk-test/ which I was doing better on and that increased my confidence somewhat.
I nearly canceled the test the morning off, as I had developed a tooth abscess in the middle of the night before, and my emergency dentist appointment was scheduled an hour before the test...I decided to go to the dentist and see if I was feeling up for it after and if I had time, as cancelling would have forfeited my fee anyways....and glad I did.
Took the test, was done in 6 minutes...was 100% sure I was correct on 18 of the questions, had 2 I was iffy on, and 4 that were outright guesses.
They didn't give you the results there, I had to wait for an email....I passed...But they just say if you passed or failed apparently so I still don't know what ones I got correct or not.
So my advice is, watch the videos instead of the study guide. And as you know from living here the english are obsessed with the 66 world cup, so there will likely be at least one question on it.

Hey there, just checking in, my last exterminator visit was back in January, 14th to be precise.
I am bedbug free now, which is hard to realise even now. The PTSD is real, yeah, first world problem. I was suicidal at one point.
If there is one tip I can give you: accept that it has happened, doesn’t matter how. Try to do something about it, the work put in may feel like it’s too much and not worth the fight, but it is. The calm nights are there, you just need to survive those tough days. It’s still a better problem to have than freezing to death in the winter, isn’t it?
Also, if you are tight on budget, retrospectively exterminator visit (with warranty) would be the only thing I'd actually go in debt for. Fortunately I didn't have to, as my familiy helped me, but even though the price seemed like a lot, it was worth it. The price seems funny now considering that I can finally live without stress.
If you have any questions, feel free to ask. Thank you all for being such a cool community, I have learned a lot from you. Maybe too much of a paranoia, but it for sure paid off.

Who is Hanuman?

A popular character in Hindu mythology, Hanuman is known for his strength, trust, and selflessness. He is seen as a deity in Hinduism and is a major figure in the ancient Indian outstanding Ramayana.

Here are some of Hanuman's important features:

• Parents and Birth: The monkey king Kesari and the heavenly young Anjana are the parents of Hanuman. He is also regarded as the son of the wind god Vayu, who was involved in his being born. His birth is connected to a number of healing occurrences, and he often appears as possessing supernatural powers from an early age.
  
• Devotion to Rama: Lord Rama, the seventh incarnation of the god Vishnu, is the focus of Hanuman's unwavering devotion. In the Ramayana, he plays an essential part, supporting Rama in his mission to free his wife, Sita, from the know of the demon king Ravana. Central themes in Hanuman's story are his selfless service and loyalty.
  
• Supernatural Powers: Along with his amazing power and flight ability, Hanuman possesses a number of other supernatural talents. In various scenes of the Ramayana, his abilities are shown. For example, he uses his fiery tail to burn the city of Lanka, jumps across the ocean to reach Lanka, and brings the Sanjeevani herb to heal Rama's brother Lakshmana.
  
• Symbolism: Hanuman represents bravery, selfless service, and devotion (bhakti). He can always count on strength and protection. His appearance serves as an example of loyalty, humility, and the value of having faith in God.
  
• Festivals and Worship: Hanuman is highly revered in India and other countries where Hindus are found. He often appears as having a monkey face, holding a mace, and carrying a mountain in the temples that are devoted to him. The devotees celebrate his birthday, Hanuman Jayanti, with joy.
  
• Cultural Impact: Apart from his connection with religion, Hanuman has shaped Indian literature, art, and storytelling, among other facets of Indian culture. In the traditions of yoga and martial arts, he is also regarded as an inspiration.
  

In Hindu mythology, Hanuman is a revered and adored figure who embodies the perfect warrior and devotee thanks to his tales and attributes.
Read Also: The Son of Hanuman: A Story You don’t Know about Hanuman

Is Hanuman Still Alive in Kalyug?

Hanuman is seen as a Chiranjivi, or immortal, who has a destiny to live through the present time, known as Kalyuga, and beyond, according to Hindu belief and a number of scriptures. This belief is supported by multiple connections found in Hindu texts and customs:
Hanuman is one of the seven immortals, or Chiranjivis, who are thought to live until the end of the current age (Kalyuga). The Puranas are among the scriptures that mention the Chiranjivis, who are thought to have been endowed with life forever for certain purposes.

• Granting of Immortality: According to the Ramayana and other scriptures, Lord Rama himself grants Hanuman the gift of immortality. Hanuman was presented with this blessing in exchange for his steadfast devotion and support. Hanuman was given a guarantee by Rama that he would live as long as his name was chanted worldwide.
  
• Existence in Kalyuga: Many myths and tales from Hindu stories indicate that Hanuman is still alive and well in Kalyuga. Believers hold that he still walks the planet, often showing up in appearance or shadow, helping and guarding those who pray to him strongly.
  
• Temples and Experiences of Devotees: There are numerous Hanuman temples, including the Jakhu Temple in Shimla, the Sankat Mochan Temple in Varanasi, and the Hanuman Garhi in Ayodhya. These temples are places of great devotion where devotees feel his blessings and presence. Stories of healings and requests being granted are common among Hanuman devotees.
  
• Literary References: The belief in Hanuman's immortality is supported by a number of texts, including Tulsidas' Ramcharitmanas. The text highlights his enduring presence as well as his function as a protector and mentor for followers.
  

Even though it is a matter of faith, many Hindus find great meaning in the belief in Hanuman's immortality. Hanuman's lasting impact on Hindu culture and religious practice can be seen by his ongoing worship and the stories of his presence in modern times.

I've multiple subdomains point to a lot balancer
from what I understand how oracle LB works
Load balancer listeners are required for traffic, at least one is required and each listen to a port and point a backend set
each backend set can have multiple servers and each listen to port
so listener is on 443 and server on 443
How to use certificate authority to enable ssl? I created a certificate for one domain and only it points to the load balancer
specified the certificate and it's CA but still I get connection timeout
I made sure the backend accepts connection on 443
what am I doing wrong

Alam ko maba bash ako dito pero okay lang kasi kasalanan ko talaga. Gusto ko lang ilabas 'to kasi sobrang bigat na.
Two weeks ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. In our almost 2-year relationship, we never had any major arguments. For context, my ex was broken when we got together—I was there for him when his previous ex left him. But I never thought I was just a rebound. I’m 10 years older than my ex-boyfriend. I’m in my early 30s, and he’s in his early 20s. Tahimik buhay namin sa loob ng almost 2 years, may tampuhan man pero super babaw lang. Yun nga lang, I never experienced being posted sa social media or his story (I know this is petty, but I’m mentioning it anyway. In almost 2 years, I think he posted me on his story twice, and my face wasn’t even that visible. I’m not as attractive compared to his ex. There was no trace of me on his social media. Walang ni isang picture ko. Literally zero. He said he wasn’t into social media, and it’s true kasi di sya ma status. Unlike when he was still with his ex). I was the opposite of him. I had pictures of him on my social media and was super proud of him. We also don't celebrate monthsaries or even anniversary kasi para sa kanya di naman importante yun. Mahalaga magkasama at masaya kami. I was already living with him and his family. For two years, I was okay with that because I loved my ex. Ang major concern ko lang noon was that whenever we had a fight, his family would know immediately, which made me embarrassed. Instead of resolving things just between us, his mom would always know. Other than that, there were no problems since his whole family was very kind. So in short, kahit may mga ganyan happy kami kasi mabait naman si ex. May times lang na naku question ko yung worth ko pero overall super okay kami.
Anyway, again, we never had any major arguments in our almost 2 years together. Our relationship was so relaxed that we both gained weight since give and take kami sa pag asikaso sa isa't-isa especially me, since I’m older—I really spoiled him as much as I could. Again, mahal na mahal ko kasi ex ko.
But I don’t know what came over me; I started chatting and flirting with someone from another country, ibang lahi. Uunahan ko na kayo—I wasn’t serious. We're both working from home, and after our shifts, we had our own hobbies. My ex was always busy playing on his PC. Ewan ko ba anong kat@ng@han pumasok sa utak ko kasi nga busy ex ko sa paglalaro and kaya nya mag spend ng ilang oras sa harap ng PC nya so I flirted with this guy without my ex-boyfriend knowing. Flirted in the sense the nilandi ko talaga yung guy pero hindi naging kami. Landian lang talaga. But eventually, I stopped. I probably flirted with the guy for about a week, and after that, I never chatted with him again. My mistake was not deleting the messages because it didn’t mean anything to me, and my ex boyfriend didn’t meddle with my phone. But he read them. Mga isang linggo na after my last chat with the guy, my ex-boyfriend read the conversation.
After reading it, he immediately told his parents that he was going to kick me out because I had been chatting with someone else. Direkta sya agad sa parents nya. Walang kumprontahang naganap muna. He threw my things, cursed at me, and called me all sorts of names. I get it. It was my fault. I cheated, even if I wasn’t serious. I begged for forgiveness kasi I wasn’t really serious about what I did. I had never done anything like that in my life, but I ended up on my knees begging for forgiveness. I was just curious and bored (sorry alam kong kab0b0han pero ito talaga rason ko) so I flirted, but I had no plans to cheat na makipag relasyon sa iba. I lied, yes. And that's cheating. He never forgave me. Wala ako magawa. I explained several times that I wasn’t serious, but he wouldn’t accept my explanation. Kaya kahit masakit pumayag ako makipag hiwalay.
It’s been days since I left their house, but until now, it still hurts. I still blame myself, super b0b0 ako sa part na yun and I never thought that something that was just a game to me would end our relationship.
I really miss him, lalo na lately lagi umuulan sa hapon. Sobrang lungkot ko. Iyak ako ng iyak because of what happened, but I'm trying my best to continue living my life. Mali ko eh, kasalanan ko. I haven't reached out to him because I know never nya na ako mapapatawad and I’m embarrassed of what I did. Alam ko din kasi na pag nag message ako malalaman na naman ng buong pamilya nya, nakakahiya.
P.S Lurker ex ko dito sa reddit, kung mababasa mo man 'to sorry pero wala talaga ako makausap. Sobrang bigat pa din talaga. Miss na miss na kita. Sobra. Ikaw na bahala kung iku-kwento mo na naman 'to sa pamilya mo. Again, sorry.

i’ve always kept a “vault” of personal pics/vids from exes and whatnot. it got to be about 30gb. last night, i stumbled onto this sub and read about people deleting their porn and feeling great. at first, i wasn’t even considering deleting my stuff because it’s not porn it’s “real,” and then i thought about how embarassed i’d feel if others knew i had a “vault.” it’s all so silly and i definitely don’t need old pics taking space up on my phone when i can be making new memories. and who cares about beating off anyway? right then and there i deleted everything. i know i’ll regret it sometimes in the future, but ultimately it was the right call. it’s not like i’m a changed man overnight, but it’s one big step toward cleaner living for me. i want to be both mentally and physically healthy, and this was a necessary step to feeling better.
would have never done it without seeing y’alls stories first. reading your experiences not only inspired me to recognize i was borderline obsessed with these pictures, but also give me the strength to delete.
to anyone who’s considering deleting their collection, just do it. don’t think about it, just delete it and be free. yes you spent years putting it all together, but by freeing yourself from it you’re getting years BACK. future time to be spent on healthy habits instead of more years beating off to a porn collection.

I’ll preface off the bat by saying I don’t think he is a good person I just feel like claims he is a monster are heavily overstated. Secondly I’m not a communist, socialist, etc so that doesn’t really play any part in my defending him.
I see pretty much the same talking points spread about that he sent homosexuals to concentration camps, is racist, and committed genocide all of which are verifiably misrepresentations or outright lies. To start off the concentration talking point is beyond laughable as he I shit you not left the country entirely months before these concentration camps opened up so any feelings about that have to be taken up with Fidel Castro. That being said these concentration camps while still bad weren’t death camps like the ones nazis used and only sent people who couldn’t hoping the military and as homosexuals weren’t allowed to they were sent there. Fidel went undercover there to see the abuse going on he had heard and put reforms in place to lessen it so while still bad they weren’t nearly the level of evil the word concentration camp draws up in one’s mind.
Che was racist as evident by his own words but his racist quote everyone spreads around was from before he became a revolutionary and realized the error of his ways to the point he literally fought alongside the Africans in the Congo.
The majority of the people Che sent to be executed were members of the Batista regime who had committed war crimes. He executed many people who were likely innocent due to sentencing people without much proof at times but such ruthless is in a way necessary for a revolution and is seen to occur in every prominent revolution from the American to the French to the Haitian. In an ideal world no innocents would have to be killed but holding punches when overthrowing an oppressive government causes revolutions to fail who ch only causes more death and suffering.
Regardless the fact such ruthlessness was used is proof enough he wasn’t a good person but he isn’t a monster by any means. The thing that separates Che from Fidel Castro is that Fidel used talk of helping the people as a ruse to gain power while Che believed in his cause to the extent he spoke out against Castro publicly for becoming dependent on the Soviets as it was no better than doing so to America. He was so genuine in his motives to help the people that after winning the revolution in Cuba he continued fighting in other countries until he was killed. He was flawed but the extent at which people try to portray him as being is little more than blatant propaganda to discredit the fact that he is a symbol for revolutionaries everywhere. I’ve seen a lot of conflicting opinions on the matter and want to hear some reasons for thinking he is a terrible person based on his actual actions and not fabrications

So I was around seven when this happened and I was over at my dads. Mind you, im 13 now, and know the full meaning of the word. A little bit of a background check, just so you get the jist! My mom and my dad divorced in 2016, so my dad moved in with my grandmother. He eventually found he liked his crushed since 7th grade, my step-mom. Let's call her...step-mom. I also have some step-sibling. My brother, and older sister. We'll call them brother and older sister. One time we went camping. At this time my older sister had maybe just turned 8 and I was still 7. Brother was around 5 maybe. I was sitting in a dicks sporting goods chair, this will come in handy later, so remember it, and I was looking out at the pond that was near our camping site. I saw the dicks sporting goods logo, turned around, and told brother "Oh brother, your a dick." Je started rolling on the ground with laughter, or tears. It would be bad if he was crying cause he knew what it meant, but it would be even worse if he was laughing and knew what it meant. My dad came over, picked me up, and started carrying me over to the tent saying that I shouldn't have said that. Step-mom shot me a mean glare and said, very baitum, "You really shouldn't have said that." I pleaded and cried saying I didn't know what it meant. And I didn't. I was 7. "Yeah, sure you don't. Your a guy and you don't know what that means? Pft..." and then kept looking at me with this wildly mean face. My dad put me in the tent and left me there for a minute.
A few minutes later.
My dad came over and asked "Do you really not know what that word means?" I kept on shaking my head, trying to prove I didn't. AND I DIDNT! I AM WAS 7! My dad told me what dick meant, and I immediately ran from the tent without my dads permission, darted passed him whilst he yelling at me to get back there, and I hug my brother and say, "I'm sorry, I didn't know what it meant." He said I was okay. I walked back to my dad and step-mom talking. Step-mom said I should be put in the tent for the rest of the day, and that I was lying when I said I didn't know. I butted in and said "Uh, know I do. So thusfore your argument is invalid." I quote for quote said that. My dad looks down in astonishment and asks me how old I was. I told him I was 7. He says to step-mom, "I don't think he needs to spend anymore time there." I apologized to step-mom for being a jerk to her, but she huffed...puffed...then stomped away. So what, am I the jerk, for being 7 and not knowing what a word was?

So I 22M, am only 5'8'' in a country where the national average for men is around 5'11'', I generally don't struggle with forming friendships and have both male and female friends so, socially speaking, I am not that bad.
However, It just seems like I can't ever get anyone to even give me a chance. It's almost like dating is completely off the table since: a) I have never had anyone interested in me in that way and b) every woman I ever asked out always tells me that they only see me as a friend and aren't attracted to me
Also whenever my friends who are attracted to men speak about their types or other men they met, they always mention how tall the hot guys are. Also anyone who I asked for advice told me that my height is the primary factor dragging me down and that I should give up on dating since short men are considered universally unattractive and there is very little one can do about their height to compensate.
My question towards people in this sub in general is did anyone else have this kind of experiences and if yes, were you able to compensate for the lack of height. Also to people who didn't manage to overcome the height disadvantage, how do you cope with your lack of romantic success and the inability to participate in dating culture?
Also, women, why is height so important and did you ever been attracted to a shorter man despite them not being tall?

This is really early for Private Servers but i assume some people have been tinkering with this, given that this is one of the most controversial topics.
Is FF still reliant on HMC? How much damage do we actually lose from having someone else there? Who would be the best alternative? Same goes with Ruan Mei and non-RM/HMC teams tbh
If i miss any post about this then I'm sorry, and do help me out by linking it here, thanks!

So I've seen a lot of people saying that due to the lack of buffs/positive changes to Mercy and the Mirrowat h kit for Mercy that she's likely going to get a rework.
And as much as I would love that idea I think it's very unlikely, firstly yes she got a completely different kit in Mirrorwatch but I really don't see any of those elements working for her. One of the reason why reworks have rarely been super dramatic changes is because the dev team cares a lot about heroes having distinct identities, and as fun as it was mercy not having a res and being able to shoot during beam feels like it strays way too far from that. So I don't think personally that they were "testing the grounds" with her Mirrorwatch changes.
An other argument I've seen a lot is that Mercy hasn't received an actual buff since like season 3, (I would consider the removal of beam breakage during ult a quality of life change more than a buff). And while it's true I don't think it's enough to say that we'll be getting a rework for Mercy, she had her stats tweaked pretty much every other season to "shake the meta" and make DB interactions less frustrating to play against. But generally speaking she's been underperforming compared to supports like Kiriko, Zen or Bap.
I really think that at this point Mercy's current state isn't just a byproduct of the recent changes (health, dps passive) but that it's a conscious decision to let Mercy be this pretty underwhelming hero overall, who's just easy to pick up and fun to move arround with. Mercy still has some pretty niche usages like Hanzo getting his one shot back and res being really strong in some modes/maps, and I feel like that's just what they want to do with Mercy for the time being, a low risk/low impact hero.
I hope I'm wrong or that we'll at least get some buffs in season 11 but I wouldn't count on it so much

Hi folks,
Longtime lurker and first-time poster here. I need a (relatively) unbiased perspective on something that happened last night with my girlfriend.
For context, things between us have been touch and go for the past two months. A combination of issues we had when we first started dating resurfacing and long-distance (she's been working out of the country since March but will be back in about ten days) has made it hard to soothe each other during such times.
Things yesterday were more than okay. Actually, they were great. The warmth that we had at the start of the year when she was still here was back. She was affectionate, loving, cracking jokes, smiling, laughing, etc. I felt great. We decided to prepare dinner together that night on FaceTime, and things were going stellar.
Until she was jokingly telling me to stop singing this one song that she hated and I told her "to relax" in a non-serious tone. I instantly went, "Oh shit haha I'm so sorry, don't take my head off," because I remembered how she hates it when someone tells her to "relax." She clapped back, saying, "Haha don't tell me to relax, I'll fucking punch you in the face." And that is when I got pissed.
I'm a sensitive guy. I always have been. It is something that has caused me a lot of anguish in my previous relationship because I can very quickly get upset about small things. For some reason, I've always had an issue with this kind of language in relationships. Violence. Do I think my girlfriend would actually punch me in the face? Of course not. But for whatever reason, I've always been hyper-sensitive to this kind of talk. I also despise it when anyone goes for my face in a joking manner, whether it's some rough housing with my dad or my friends, or my significant other jokingly giving me a couple of taps on the face.
I've never been physically abused in my life. My parents never laid a hand on me. I've never been physically bullied, either. So I really don't know where this aversion to physical or verbal jokes of this kind comes from.
I got a little pissed. I didn't shout, scream, or throw a tantrum. But I was visibly upset. She asked me why I was so pissed since she was clearly joking and said she would never actually punch me. I said I don't like that kind of language being thrown around even as a joke, to which she said, "Who hurt you?"
She went on to say that if this triggered a soft spot because of something that happened to me, I should communicate that to her. But I can't expect her to understand that if I've never told her. I said nothing happened to me. I've never been physically abused, so there's no "trauma" underlying it. It's just something I don't enjoy. No need to overanalyze it.
That sentence kicked my anger up a few notches. I guess reflecting on it, it felt invalidating. It frustrated me. I said, "Who hurt me? Do you really want to take it there? Is that how you want to handle this?"
I was pretty sure I knew why that sentence hurt me. I was in an emotionally abusive, toxic relationship for five years with a borderline narcississt. My girlfriend knows this. She knows how bad it was. And I guess the crass nature of the 'who hurt you?' comment reminded me of a time earlier in my relationship with my current girlfriend where we were having an argument and she said, "Do I have to treat you like shit to have you?" Which was a clear reference to my previous relationship. She has since apologized for that comment, after I told her how profoundly invalidating and wrong it is to say something like that.
The thing is. My girlfriend has a tendency to say things that come off as rude, hurtful, or invalidating when she's upset. And I think this whole situation triggered that fight or flight response after the 'Who hurt you?' debacle.
Back to the current issue....
I was flooded, so I told her I'd call her back after I've cooled off. I took five minutes to relax and then called her back. I apologized for my "overreaction" to her joke and explained to her that generally, I don't enjoy these kinds of jokes.
She went on to say that she finds me getting upset at something like this, to the degree that I did get upset, "kind of ridiculous."
I told her I understand. I said it was unfair to get roused up like that. I told her it's all water under the bridge now and I know she didn't mean anything she said seriously. I reiterated that I don't appreciate these kinds of jokes and that I don't think it's a big ask not to make them in our relationship. She agreed.
After we spoke about it, I couldn't shake the feeling that her telling me my reaction was "ridiculous" and me doubling down by saying it was "unfair" to her was, in reality, unfair to me, and invalidating for me.
Either way, it seemed like the damage was done, though. She was cold for the rest of the night while we watched something on Netflix. The jokey, smiling, sensual person that was there a few minutes ago was replaced by a cold, frustrated, avoidant person. Things were just lukewarm for the rest of the night. She was back to feeling super anxious about all the things we were going through and I was back to feeling like garbage. My anxiety was through the roof. My heart was beating like I was running away from a tiger. I felt sick to my stomach.
I wanted to beat myself up to a pulp. My internal monologue went straight into self-hatred mode. "Why are you like this? This is all your fault. Things were fine, but your sensitive, fragile ass just had to have a moment, right? You couldn't just enjoy the present moment. You couldn't take two seconds to calm your nervous system down before overreacting. Now she probably feels like she has to walk on eggshells around you. She probably thinks you're a baby. You're not a real man. A real man wouldn't throw a childish tantrum like this over a silly fucking joke. You just gave her the ick. You triggered her, and now she's anxious and feeling like crap, and so are you. You just can't have nice things, can you? You have to self-sabotage, don't you?"
I didn't give into the monologue. I took ten minutes to record a voice note to myself, speaking to myself as though I was a friend. I told myself that while I may have overreacted, I did the right thing by taking accountability and apologizing. I also reminded myself that what I had done was far from a "tantrum." I didn't scream, shout, break stuff, or name-call. I didn't blame her, hold it against her for the rest of the night, or stonewall.
The issue that I am dealing with and have always dealt with in these situations is the intense feelings of shame and guilt that come about after these moments. In addition, I feel like I can never truly validate my feelings. Sure, I recorded that voice note as an exercise to try to rewire that awful, abusive self-talk in my head, but I still felt like the whole situation was entirely my fault. I still sort of blame myself for how she is feeling now. I blame myself for disrupting a moment of peace and well-being in our relationship. And I also know that I am prone to self-sabotage, so that makes it even more difficult to find the middle ground between taking responsibility for my actions and validating my feelings.
Was I being extra? Was I really overreacting? Is my insecure attachment causing me to overanalyze or interpret my girlfriend's actions after the initial episode I had? Did she really invalidate how I was feeling by asking the "who hurt you?" question in a somewhat sarcastic way as well as telling me that it was ridiculous of me to get angry at such a thing? Was I really being unfair to her by reacting how I did? Is my nervous system just picking up on a pattern of invalidating behaviour and the anger after the 'who hurt you?' comment is a natural reaction to that? It is the morning after that situation, and I am feeling rather distant towards her. I feel almost sick in my stomach. As though I'm seeing a side to her that I shouldn't ignore. But again, I think as people with insecure attachments we have this tendency to either put people on an insane pedestal to which they will inevitably fall short of or label any behaviour as a 'red flag'.
I'm not looking for a pity party. I want honest opinions, please. If I was really in the wrong, I want to hear that perspective.
TL;DR:
Things have been touch and go with my girlfriend due to resurfacing issues and long-distance challenges. Last night on FaceTime, she joked about punching me in the face, which upset me as I'm sensitive to violent language. I expressed my discomfort, and she responded with a sarcastic "who hurt you?" This reminded me of a past abusive relationship. I took a break to calm down and apologized, but she called my reaction "ridiculous." She became cold afterward, making me anxious and self-critical. Now, I feel conflicted, wondering if my reaction was an overreaction or if her responses were invalidating. Am I overanalyzing due to my insecure attachment style, or is this a red flag? Seeking honest opinions.