Ohio moonshine stills

I recently received my LPC in Ohio and am switching private practices. I am currently an intern at one and have been hired as a 1099 at the other. All of the clients I have spoken with want to switch with me to the new practice. If clients are staying with the same therapist but switching practices, is it still best to give / for them to wait 30 days to do so?
I am not encouraging it but if they are ready to switch earlier, I would prefer that because it is a significant jump in income for me.
I am awaiting a call from the Ethics Board but thought I would grab some insight from you folks as well. Thanks so much!

hey guys i am a transfer student that graduated from a T20 university with a 4.0. i’m a CA resident, am first generation, ORM, and low SES as well. i took my mcat twice
1st attempt: 505: (128/122/128/127)
2nd attempt: 512: (129/122/130/131)
Ik my CARS score is f’d and was doing better on my fl the second time around but i honestly don’t know what happen. currently on my 1st gap year and decided to go ahead and apply this cycle. for my activities i have 2500 hours of paid clinical as well as 700 total of volunteering all around (community work/clubs). i am also apart of a good wet lab and have 1000 hours and currently still work at the lab. have pretty strong LOR. Got a 5 on my preview if that means anything lol
Here are the schools i have so far:
MD: Albany, Case Western, CMS, CNSU, Colorado, Creighton, CUSM, Drexel, Einstein, FIU, Georgetown, GWU, Jefferson, Kaiser, Loyola, Miami, NYMC, Ohio State, OUWB, Rush, Stony Brook, SUNY Downstate, SUNY Upstate, Temple, Tufts, Tulane, UC Davis, UCI, UCLA, UCR, UCSD, UCSF, UMass, UofA-Phoenix, UofA-Tucson, USC, UVM, VCU, Wayne State
DO:
Western-COMP, AZCOM, CHSU, CCOM, KCUMB, Touro-CA, Touro-NV
please let me know if you would add or take out any schools. thank you!

Finally, nicknames & sayings that Michael K used.

1. Jessica Alba- MiserAlba
2. Jennifer Aniston-Maniston
3. Marc Anthony- Skeletor
4. David Archuleta- Fetus
5. Beyonce- Histrionic Wignado
6. hris Brown- The Difficult Brown, Fist Brown
7. Mariah Carey- Elusive Chanteuse
8. Kristin Cavallari- Kristin Calamari
9. Bradley Cooper- Victor Garber's Bottom Bitch
10. Tom CruiseTommy Girl, Gay Midget Dwarf
11. Benedict Cumberbatch- Bendydick Cumsinbatches
12. Miley Cyrus- Hillbilly Chipmunk
13. Brandon Davis- Greasy Bear
14. Jason 'Gummi Bear' Davis
15. Paz de la Huerta- Spaz de la Huerta
16. Leonardo DiCaprio- Leonardo DiCatchaHo
17. Pete Doherty- Dreamboat Doherty
18. Queen Elizabeth II- THE QUEEN
19. Eminem- Feminem
20. Mel Gibson- Sugar Tits
21. Ariana Grande Latte
22. Teresa Guidice- Crouching Hairline Hidden Forehead
23. Jon Hamm- Hammaconda
24. Prince Harry- Prince Hot Ginge
25. Teri Hatcher- Teri Snatcher
26. Wonky McValtrex, Parasite Hilton- Paris Hilton
27. Katie Holmes- Stepford Katie
28. Jennifer Hudson- JHud
29. Kris Jenner- Pimp Mama Kris
30. Jay-Z- Joe Camel
31. Hugh Jackman- Hugh JackMeOff
32. LaToya Jackson- Detective LaToya
33. Jesse 'Vanilla Gorilla' James
34. Kylie Jenner- Marla Hooch
35. Angelina Jolie- Saint Angie Jo
36. Jolie-Pitt kids- Child Army
37. JLo's kids- The Dragon Tales Twins
38. Kim Kardashian- Prize Pig
39. Khloe Kardashian- Khloezilla
40. Kid Pebble- Kid Rock
41. Chuckie Trips- King Charles III
42. Solange Knowles- Basement Baby
43. Madonna- Vadge
44. Karl Lagerfeld- Kunty Karl
45. Blake 'Not So' Lively
46. Dina Lohan- White Oprah
47. Lindsay Lohan- Fire Crotch, Apricot Ashtray, Lindsanity, Hohan, Blohan
48. Marilyn Manson- Fat Brian from Ohio
49. Jodie March- England's Finest Rose
50. Christine Marinoni- Rojo Caliente
51. Matthew McConaughey- Texas TRex
52. Dean "What's crappenin'?" McDermott, The Deaner, had an opposum connection
53. Vanessa Milano- ManilaFolders
54. The Olsen Twins- The Olsen Trolls
55. Gwyneth Paltrow- Corn Broom, Fishsticks, GOOPY
56. Audrina Partridge- Ceiling Eyes
57. Brad Pitt- Brad Pittstain
58. Joaquin Phoenix- McBedbugs
59. Phoebe Price- Chicken Cutlets
60. Prince- Jehovah's Sexiest Witness
61. Emily Ratajkowski- Emily RideAJetSki
62. RHoNJ castmates- Prostitution Whore-Ah!, Hooker Grinchface, Lying Gorilla Head
63. Rihanna- Alien Princess RiRi/Princess Oonana
64. LeAnn Rimes- Falkor
65. Shauna Sand- Empress of Lucite
66. Jessica Simpson- Chestica Simpson
67. Joe Simpson- Papa Joe, Hoe Simpson
68. Britney Spears- Our Lady of Cheetos
69. Britney Spears kids- Cheetolings
70. Channing Tatum- Charming Potato
71. Taylor Swift- Tay Tay Butterscotch Sundae
72. Billy Bob Thornton- Billy Goat Thornton-
73. Brian Williams- Lyin' Williams
74. Tallulah, Scout, & Rumer Willis- Tator Sisters
75. Owen Wilson- The Butterscotch Stallion
76. Amy Winehouse's husband- BLAAAAKE!
77. Reese "American Citizen' Witherspoon, "Do you Know Who I Am?"

• Sayings

1. I don't like jokes
2. Typo & it stays
3. Something in the milk ain't clean
4. Excuse my beauty
5. Sans Fards -6) Harpo, who dis woman?
6. Sweet nectar = booze
7. Magnificent chi chis
8. And I still would
9. DAAAAAAAAMN!!!!!!! THIS IS SOME BENJAMIN BUTTONS SHIT! Used for celebrities looking old for their age (that explanation is from an actual entry in the Urban Dictionary and cited as being from DListed!)
10. Lucite Elegancia 12)Eyebrow situation
11. Michael Lohan's Mesh Shirt
12. Serving Chico's realness
13. Pepperidge Farm remembers
14. Escándalo
15. Abuelita & her chancleta
16. Sucio
17. Nalgas
18. Bitch, your pancakes look fine to me
19. Hot Slut of the Day for something or someone (non-celebrity) faabulous. They could be dogs, cats, old cranky women, brave people, etc.
20. Catherine Zeta-Jones “46”
21. Panty pudding

So three years ago I took a vacation to Vegas which began a downward spiral into gambling addiction which has essentially destroyed my life. I currently have about 45k in cc debt, no savings. Up to this point I have lived my entire life with no debt and an almost perfect credit score. I have self excluded from all gambling sites and enrolled in gamblers anonymous. I am also giving my husband my banking login to keep me accountable.
To complicate matters, I bought a house 4 years ago, mortgage entirely in my name but husband on the deed per Ohio law. I got a great rate due to my then stellar credit of like 2.7 percent. Initial mortgage around 120, payoff around 112 now. 2011 Hyundai paid off, not worth much.
My husband and I separated in October. We are still best friends, we just couldn't live together. I moved out and am entirely financially solo He pays the mortgage which is still in my name because to get a new home or refinance now would triple the interest rate.. My bring home is around 2200 a month and expenses minus debt around 18 to 1900. The house has recently been appraised at 22000 by Zillow I believe.
3 weeks ago he secured a heloc to do some repairs on the home which badly need it. It is entirely in his name and I signed that I was not a part of it but was aware it would be against the mortgage. Value of 43000 which he has already disbursed a portion of and has contractors working.
Lawyer says I have too much equity in the home and advises a reappraisal to see if true value is less. Hubby willing to see but very very hesitant to put house at risk. I don't live in the home so cannot reaffirm apparently. It's just considered an asset. Any insight here? Trying to put my life back together and if this doesn't work I am just lost.

1. Courtesans and the Crown: I will be playing M! I am also open to potentially playing a MxM version. (1530s) Benjamin, the illegitimate son of a King, lives a life of luxury without any of the consequences that come with royal blood. He indulges in fine clothing, gambling and is a frequent patron of brothels. At sixteen, he met a courtesan named Antonia, who was five years his senior. Unlike the other women he had encountered, Antonia was beautiful, kind, and captured his heart. While they both share a deep love for each other, they face their own challenges. Benjamin is still learning the ways of the court at the age of eighteen, while Antonia holds a great deal of influence over him due to her life experience. From encouraging him to invite her to tea to spite his royal parentage and even convincing him to petition for legitimation to take his sister's throne, she is ready to shake things up, disguising their power-hungry nature as love. What started as a quiet and humble relationship has now turned them into vicious antagonists towards themselves and others, but their love for each other remains strong. Even though the character's name is Antonia, feel free to create your own character with a courtesan theme. I even encourage it!!!
2. Our Father, who art in Heaven: I can play M or F! (1450s) Through a combination of extortion, torture, and occasional bribery, Pope Castello has ascended to the Papal throne. Despite his vow of celibacy, his illegitimate offspring roam freely in the town, behaving as though they were the offspring of a monarch. His son, in particular, plowing through any woman with a pulse, loses vast sums of money gambling, and harbors his own dark secrets. Meanwhile, his father strives to elevate him to the rank of cardinal. However, what will happen when his son encounters the same fate as his father? Will he fall in love with a noblewoman and violate his church oath? This woman has her own secrets and a father who is eager to marry her off to the wealthiest suitor available. The resulting whirlwind will leave blood on the floor and lipstick stains on collars, reminiscent of The Borgias, but without the incestuous undertones.
3. Of course, Your Majesty: I will be playing M! (1500s) Your protagonist is the eldest child of a powerful monarch, destined to become the next Queen. During her childhood, she formed a close bond with the son of a Lord who was a bit older than her. As they grew up, their feelings for each other became more than just friendship, prompting them to explore a romantic relationship. However, it is the heavily religious 1500s, and fearing that their relationship would compromise her purity and jeopardize her chances of marrying another royal, the Lord's son was sent away to a chateau. Despite the distance, they kept in touch through letters and other means. But, a dramatic shift in the court's dynamics has brought him back, much to the chagrin of your character's father. He is willing to disrupt the status quo for the sake of love and occasionally for his own gain.
4. The Lost Princess: I will be playing F! (1480s-1520s) Princess Margery was adored by her subjects and set to ascend the throne one day. However, her fate changed drastically when, at the tender age of four, her carriage was attacked by bandits. In a desperate bid to survive, Margery pretended to be dead in the frigid snow of the forest. She wasn't certain what happened next, but she eventually found herself in the care of two kind-hearted parents who renamed her Elizabeth and raised her as their own daughter. As Elizabeth came of age, she began searching for potential suitors. But what happens when a young man uncovers her true identity? How does she make her way back to the castle, and what challenges await her upon her return? Most importantly, where do you fit into this tangled web of intrigue and deception?
5. For Our Kingdoms: I am open to playing M or F! (1530s) An arranged marriage between a prince and princess from neighboring kingdoms looms on the horizon. Is she a timid princess, suddenly thrust into the role of heir apparent, seeking a partner to bolster her claim to the throne? Or is she merely a commodity being sold off to the highest bidder? Regardless, what happens when two royals who are less-than-enthusiastic about the arrangement are forced to wed for the betterment of their kingdoms? With an unkind and brash prince making every quip in the book as he rises to the throne, she must find a way to make her marriage work. Will they find common ground, or will they be at each other's throats? Only time will tell.
6. Shadow in Stage Lights:I will be playing M! I am also open to potentially playing a MxM version. (Post-WWII 1940s) In the smoky haze of post-war Hollywood, where dreams are traded like currency and the past casts long shadows, Jack Turner returns from the frontlines of battle a shattered man. Once hailed as a literary luminary, he now struggles to find his place in a world that has moved on without him, haunted by memories he can neither escape nor forget. Enter your character, a radiant starlet whose ascent to fame is as swift as it is dazzling. Cast as the lead in Jack's latest play, she embodies the very essence of the character he once envisioned, igniting the stage with a brilliance that eclipses his own. But as the spotlight shines ever brighter on YC, Jack finds himself consumed by a bitter resentment, his heart seething with anger at the injustice of it all. In a world where shadows lurk behind every smile and fame is but a fleeting illusion, Jack and YC must navigate the treacherous waters of love and ambition, forging a path forward that leads them out of the darkness and into the light.
7. The West was Wilder: I will be playing M or F! (1830s) A young man is a moonshiner and owner of a notorious saloon in a small frontier town. With a reputation for brewing the finest illegal whiskey in the region, he walks a fine line between outlaw and respected member of the community. Meanwhile, a young lass is new to town and is seeking change. She has a tough exterior, but there is a vulnerability that draws folks in. As their paths cross in the dusty streets and dimly lit saloons of the Wild West, sparks fly between them. Whether it's a fiery confrontation over a poker game gone wrong or a chance encounter in the dead of night, their chemistry is undeniable. But with danger lurking around every corner and secrets waiting to be uncovered, their burgeoning romance is anything but smooth sailing.
8. Underneath the Bald Cypress: I will be playing F! (1930s) Amidst the sultry streets of New Orleans, the daughter of a wealthy sugar cane baron, finds herself torn between societal expectations and her own desires. Engaged to a controlling man of her father’s choosing, she longs for true love. Her path collides with your character, a jazz singer, a man of color, or something else entirely, sparking a forbidden romance that defies family secrets. As their love blossoms amidst the city's vibrant nightlife, she must choose between the safety of convention and the allure of a life filled with passion and uncertainty, where forbidden love and hidden truths threaten to unravel the world she knows.
9. Revolution or Run: I will be playing F! (Fallout Fandom) In Vault 47, life appears idyllic, with its inhabitants blissfully unaware of the horrors unfolding beneath the sterile corridors. Your character, recently assigned to a coveted scientist position, stumbles upon a hidden lab deep within the vault, where ghastly experiments are conducted on unsuspecting fellow dwellers. Amidst it all, your character finds help in a resourceful maintenance worker with a knack for uncovering secrets. With the weight of responsibility heavy on their shoulders, they must navigate a treacherous path, torn between loyalty to their community and the pursuit of justice.As tensions escalate within the vault, they must decide whether to ignite the flames of rebellion from within or to venture into the unforgiving wasteland beyond the vault's walls.
Linked here is my writing sample and lore explanation.
I am also open to sending a master list of my current OCs with their vague descriptions!
When you DM me, please send me the answers to these questions!

1. What is your name and pronouns?
2. What RP are you interested in?
3. Are you comfortable playing on Discord?
4. What gender are you interested in playing? (for scenarios 2, 5, and 7 only!)
5. What are your hard boundaries for writing? (i.e. unwilling to write gore/abuse/etc)
6. What is your biggest roleplay pet peeve?
7. What is your paragraph min/max?
8. What is the most important thing to you in RP?
9. Are time zones important to you? If so, what is yours?
10. Is ooc essential to you?
11. Are you okay with a fade-to-black romance style?
12. What is your typical romance speed? Slow/Medium/Fast Burn?

I will answer these questions back! Thanks for reading!

Hey everyone,
I'm currently someone (30M) who has always had folks by my side all my life as part of "my team," as my parents call it. A major reason for this outside support network is because I'm autistic, have ADHD-I, dysgraphia, generalized anxiety, social anxiety, PTSD (more on that later), and processing speed in the 3rd percentile. I did not learn I was autistic until I was 14 and always took medication for it and my ADHD-I. I also did not know I had ADHD-I until I was 24-25 because I was on my own for submitting the records of my disabilities to the graduate schools I've attended up until this point. As for my processing speed, I did not learn it was that low until this past August when I sought a DSM-V re-evaluation with my own money.
My mental health symptoms were so severe that, despite doing well academically in a suburban school district that was well funded through property taxes (I'm in the US so the education system here is messed up), I transitioned to a tiny high school that specifically accommodated disabled students. This school had no AP, honors courses, or foreign language courses offered at all. I enrolled in a rural undergraduate school because they gave me the best scholarship offer and my parents insisted on getting as many scholarships as I could (more on this towards the end of the post). Despite my university's reputation as the "stoner college" of northern Ohio, I got my butt handed to me academically and had a 3.1 GPA from that undergraduate and a 3.26 from all of my courses overall. Part of the reason was because I went for a BS, rather than a BA, in Psychology and didn't do well in the math courses with the exception of when I retook Calculus 2.
After my first year, I wanted to take a break from college, but I was forced to stay at the behest of my parents. They even hired a life coach who worked with me from a distance for all four years. As grateful as I am for that support, I realize it was the beginning of issues with becoming totally independent. Fast forward to graduation and I have one summer's worth of lab experience and a 3.5 PSY GPA to my name. I'm forced to take a gap year because I applied only to Ph.D programs (big mistake) and had low GRE scores.
So, how did I get into graduate school with my awful credentials? My parents hired a different coach who specialized in job applications and had a lot of connections. I was able to sell what little I had and get offers to 6/8 Master's programs I applied to in Experimental Psychology and had solid references that explicitly address that they thought I could do well despite my shortcomings. This coach taught me how to contact potential advisors and professors ahead of time and taught me the ins and outs of selling myself to get in.
My final Master's record upon graduation was a 3.48 GPA and I graduated a semester later. My final year of the Master's program, I reconsulted my old coach who helped me write my personal statement and get in contact with potential advisors again. I got two interviews and had one offer of admission to the current Ph.D program I'm in right now. This was despite my lackluster GPA (both undergrad and Master's) and not taking another 10 hours for an assistantship during my Master's program (no additional TAship or RAship in other words, even though everyone else in my program did something extra by their second year).
After I matriculated into the program, I got my Master's in December 2020 due to COVID delays and defending later than I had hoped in my case. I eventually had an ugly falling out with my first advisor due to a misunderstanding (I'll leave it at that since this background detail is already long), but thankfully passed my qualifier project still. I think the world of my current advisor, especially since he was the only one who took me when no one else would at all. I developed PTSD from the experience with my first advisor based on a neuropsychological evaluation I got back in August 2023. When I spoke to the original evaluator for my autism, she said that it was only likely that way because my stress management is characteristically poor and I have extremely low stress tolerance.
Fast forward to now and I recently turned 30 earlier this month. I am back with the old coach who helped me with my Master's and Ph.D applications once again and they're even helping me with "life stuff," getting through all of it and were immensely crucial for helping me get through the situation with my first Ph.D advisor.
I am thankful for the help I've received, but as the top of comment of a previous post alluded to in this instance, I have not learned to walk on my own.
In case this information is relevant, I have $53k in student loan debt principal. The undergraduate loans are eligible under Biden's SAVE plan and have their interest waived when payments are due since they're $0 at the moment. I have about $26k saved right now that I'm not going to put back toward my $24k of graduate loans until I know if I have income after this August.
I have student loan debt even though my father makes over $200k a year ever since I was around 10 years old and my mother makes anywhere between $60k-$80k a year. My parents do not have student loans since neither went to college. I also just learned that the coach billed my parents for around $680 each month over past two (highest ever). Even though its $100 per one hour session (thus leading me to think it was $200 a month since we meet twice a month). Turns out they charged for email and text communications with me even though those were encouraged. Should I feel guilty for not keeping track of the spending despite the agreement with my parents to help me on that? Given everything else mentioned earlier, should I feel guilty for "blowing through" these support systems? Folks love to tell me that someone who had half the resources I did taking my spot in graduate school instead could've gone further.
There is also something else I've been wondering ever since I learned their income levels. Other than the spending on me and my brothers, why would they be that insistent on me and my brothers taking out student loans? They said that they, my grandparents, and me would all pay for "a third" and part of that third on me and my brother's end was taking out student loans. I should also note that I went to a private high school for those with disabilities tuition free despite my parent's income as well because I got an autism scholarship from the state of Ohio that waived tuition.
Only other things I know that are finance related are the $350k in loans (not sure if this was principal or principal + interest) my father took out for his small business, which I know were paid off around my junior year of undergrad. Other than that, I don't know the mortgage of the house or anything else related to its value. I do know there's a mortgage in general though because one of my brothers asked if he paid for the house upfront and he said he did not at all and took out a loan. What else could be underlying their spending? I'm open to hearing others speculate.
Also, thank you for reading this super long post.

Hey guys! I just moved from Colorado to Ohio. I am in need of a memorandum title to get my vehicle registered here as it is still on loan. Who would I need to call to get that taken care of?
Car was bought in grand junction and I lived in Craig (now in Cincinnati) if that matters at all And loan is with Huntington bank

Hey everyone,
I'm currently someone (30M) who has always had folks by my side all my life as part of "my team," as my parents call it. A major reason for this outside support network is because I'm autistic, have ADHD-I, dysgraphia, generalized anxiety, social anxiety, PTSD (more on that later), and processing speed in the 3rd percentile. I did not learn I was autistic until I was 14 and always took medication for it and my ADHD-I. I also did not know I had ADHD-I until I was 24-25 because I was on my own for submitting the records of my disabilities to the graduate schools I've attended up until this point. As for my processing speed, I did not learn it was that low until this past August when I sought a DSM-V re-evaluation with my own money.
My mental health symptoms were so severe that, despite doing well academically in a suburban school district that was well funded through property taxes (I'm in the US so the education system here is messed up), I transitioned to a tiny high school that specifically accommodated disabled students. This school had no AP, honors courses, or foreign language courses offered at all. I enrolled in a rural undergraduate school because they gave me the best scholarship offer and my parents insisted on getting as many scholarships as I could (more on this towards the end of the post). Despite my university's reputation as the "stoner college" of northern Ohio, I got my butt handed to me academically and had a 3.1 GPA from that undergraduate and a 3.26 from all of my courses overall. Part of the reason was because I went for a BS, rather than a BA, in Psychology and didn't do well in the math courses with the exception of when I retook Calculus 2.
After my first year, I wanted to take a break from college, but I was forced to stay at the behest of my parents. They even hired a life coach who worked with me from a distance for all four years. As grateful as I am for that support, I realize it was the beginning of issues with becoming totally independent. Fast forward to graduation and I have one summer's worth of lab experience and a 3.5 PSY GPA to my name. I'm forced to take a gap year because I applied only to Ph.D programs (big mistake) and had low GRE scores.
So, how did I get into graduate school with my awful credentials? My parents hired a different coach who specialized in job applications and had a lot of connections. I was able to sell what little I had and get offers to 6/8 Master's programs I applied to in Experimental Psychology and had solid references that explicitly address that they thought I could do well despite my shortcomings. This coach taught me how to contact potential advisors and professors ahead of time and taught me the ins and outs of selling myself to get in.
My final Master's record upon graduation was a 3.48 GPA and I graduated a semester later. My final year of the Master's program, I reconsulted my old coach who helped me write my personal statement and get in contact with potential advisors again. I got two interviews and had one offer of admission to the current Ph.D program I'm in right now. This was despite my lackluster GPA (both undergrad and Master's) and not taking another 10 hours for an assistantship during my Master's program (no additional TAship or RAship in other words, even though everyone else in my program did something extra by their second year).
After I matriculated into the program, I got my Master's in December 2020 due to COVID delays and defending later than I had hoped in my case. I eventually had an ugly falling out with my first advisor due to a misunderstanding (I'll leave it at that since this background detail is already long), but thankfully passed my qualifier project still. I think the world of my current advisor, especially since he was the only one who took me when no one else would at all. I developed PTSD from the experience with my first advisor based on a neuropsychological evaluation I got back in August 2023. When I spoke to the original evaluator for my autism, she said that it was only likely that way because my stress management is characteristically poor and I have extremely low stress tolerance.
Fast forward to now and I recently turned 30 earlier this month. I am back with the old coach who helped me with my Master's and Ph.D applications once again and they're even helping me with "life stuff," getting through all of it and were immensely crucial for helping me get through the situation with my first Ph.D advisor.
I am thankful for the help I've received, but as the top of comment of a previous post alluded to in this instance, I have not learned to walk on my own.
In case this information is relevant, I have $53k in student loan debt principal. The undergraduate loans are eligible under Biden's SAVE plan and have their interest waived when payments are due since they're $0 at the moment. I have about $26k saved right now that I'm not going to put back toward my $24k of graduate loans until I know if I have income after this August.
I have student loan debt even though my father makes over $200k a year ever since I was around 10 years old and my mother makes anywhere between $60k-$80k a year. My parents do not have student loans since neither went to college. I also just learned that the coach billed my parents for around $680 each month over past two (highest ever). Even though its $100 per one hour session (thus leading me to think it was $200 a month since we meet twice a month). Turns out they charged for email and text communications with me even though those were encouraged. Should I feel guilty for not keeping track of the spending despite the agreement with my parents to help me on that? Given everything else mentioned earlier, should I feel guilty for "blowing through" these support systems? Folks love to tell me that someone who had half the resources I did taking my spot in graduate school instead could've gone further.
There is also something else I've been wondering ever since I learned their income levels. Other than the spending on me and my brothers, why would they be that insistent on me and my brothers taking out student loans? They said that they, my grandparents, and me would all pay for "a third" and part of that third on me and my brother's end was taking out student loans. I should also note that I went to a private high school for those with disabilities tuition free despite my parent's income as well because I got an autism scholarship from the state of Ohio that waived tuition.
Only other things I know that are finance related are the $350k in loans (not sure if this was principal or principal + interest) my father took out for his small business, which I know were paid off around my junior year of undergrad. Other than that, I don't know the mortgage of the house or anything else related to its value. I do know there's a mortgage in general though because one of my brothers asked if he paid for the house upfront and he said he did not at all and took out a loan. What else could be underlying their spending? I'm open to hearing others speculate.
Also, thank you for reading this super long post.

TL/DR: 2015 Outback has been having issues with rough idle ever since accident and transmission replacement last year. Need ideas on what it could be.
Sorry this got so long! I tried to keep it short, but ADHD 😂🤦‍♀️
We bought the Outback used exactly 2 years ago to the day, ran like a dream and never gave me any issues. Last year in March, we were in an accident - we were in the center lane on the highway on a nasty NE Ohio morning where it had been raining the whole night and then changed over to freezing rain/wet snow that morning so the roads weren't treated yet. A car was passing us on the left, hit a spot of black ice, and turned horizontal into our lane. My husband tried to steer left to avoid hitting her, but clipped the back end of her passenger side and sent her slamming into our passenger side.
There was significant damage to the front passenger side suspension arm (it took most of the impact), the front passenger panels, and the collision place eventually discovered the back passenger side wheel was also damage and needed to be replaced. Damage totalling $10,200.
I went to pick it up when they called to say it was ready and immediately noticed it didn't sound right. It sounded like a diesel pickup truck whenever I accelerated. So I turned around and took it right back to them (about 5 mins total driving). They couldn't figure it out, so our insurance sent it to the local Subaru dealership so they could take a look.
Turns out the transmission also took a huge hit from the impact and was destroyed. How the collision place didn't see or hear this, I'll never understand, but I'm grateful they missed it because our insurance never would've fixed the car if it had been found before they paid the repair claim (our adjuster flat out told me this). So $5,600 later, we had a used transmission installed at the dealership (they were wonderful and even gave me a free loaner even though we didn't have rental coverage). They also found the collision place didn't tighten anything down when they installed the new suspension arm, so all the nuts (or bolts, not sure) were completely loose.
Got the car back finally end of May 2023. It ran okay for a few months, then I started having issues with the idle. At first, it would just lightly shudder just before I came to a stop at a red light or a stop sign.
Fast forward to 2 months ago, the shuddering is way worse and now it does the shudder when I flip on my wipers, or when I open the tailgate, or when I turn the lights on. My brother in law noticed the change in idle when I was dropping something off and was parked in their driveway with the engine running. I opened the tailgate and you could hear the idle change. He thought it was my battery, so I went out and got a new battery at our local wholesale club. My husband didn't know to use a memory saver before disconnecting the old battery, so I did an idle relearn procedure and it was fine for 2 days, then started the idling crap again.
The car is still doing the weird idling, and it's even worse now that I have to use the a/c since it's hot as hell here. I called the dealership and they told me to disconnect the battery for 30 mins and then do another idle relearn procedure. I did that and it's still having idling issues.
I'm at a loss and don't know what to do anymore. Could it be the transmission? Or does it sound like an electrical issue? I need ideas on what else to look for because I've been Googling for months and haven't found anything that would explain this. I need my Subbie to be okay because we're upside down on the loan since we got her when used car prices were insane.
Please help! And apologies for this being so long!

Given my info below, what schools should I add/remove from my school list? I'm aiming for 35-40 MD's and 15+ DO's.
1.cGPA: 3.80 sGPA: 3.78 2. MCAT: 504->506->509 (127 CP, 125 cars, 128 BB, 129 PS) 3. NJ resident 4. Southeast Asian 5. Undergrad: Biology major with Psychology minor 6. Clinical: 440 hours as nursing assistant, 230 hours scribing, 350 hospice volunteering 7. Research: 1000 hours in undergraduate with one poster, 230 hours in summer research internship at local medical school 8. Shadowing: rheumatology, pain management, vascular surgeon, orthopedic surgeon, 100 hours 9. Non-clinical volunteering: 100 hours through fraternity service events, 400 hours in assisted living facility, 100 hours in food donation program for underserved populations 10. leadership: 520 as fraternity president, 480 as president of organization that ran events to promote school's biology program 11. awards: deans list every sem except first sem (B- in one class, one of three B's in college), magna cum laude (pretty sure both of these implied by my GPA) 12. Other: graduated college may 2023, took mcat twice after graduating (first was beginning of senior year), applying this cycle, believe I have a well written application
School list MD:

1. Robert Wood Johnson
2. Cooper Medical School
3. Hackensack Meridian
4. Albany medical college
5. Lewis Katz (Temple)
6. Loma Linda University School of Medicine
7. Medical College of Wisconisn
8. Loyola
9. Indiana University
10. Robert Larner Vermont
11. Eastern Virginia
12. West Virginia
13. Geisenger
14. Michigan State
15. Wayne State
16. northeast ohio
17. Washington State University Elson S. Floyd
18. minnesota
19. george washingotn
20. kentucky
21. Rush
22. toledo
23. Drexel
24. New Jersey Medical School
25. University of Arizona Tuscon
26. Wake Forest
27. California Northstate
28. Quinnipac
29. penn state
30. NOVA Southeastern
31. Belmond Med School
32. Tulane
33. oakland beaumont

School List DO:

1. Western UCOMP
2. Rowan SOM
3. Kansas City University (KCU COM)
4. Phily Colege of Medicien (PCOM)
5. Touro Nevada (TUNCOM)
6. Campbell (CUCOM)
7. AT Still (ATSU KCOM)
8. Marian University College of Medicine (MUCOM)
9. NOVA Southeastern
10. NYITCOM
11. LECOM
12. Touro-NY
13. Des Moine COM

My very old Hyundai Tucson is just about dead and its time for me to bite the bullet and get a new (used) car. My plan regardless is to put 10,000 down and finance the rest. I’ve looked around and one test drives and there are two options I’m really considering. Both have clean car fax and have all the features I want. This my first car I am buying myself and I am trying to make a decisiom that both is sensible and will make my inner child happy.
1) Certified Pre-Owned 2021 Hyundai Sonata SEL in Red. Listed for around 20K
Pros: Cheaper by 5kish, Certified and still has a lot of the original warranty left, only 30,000 miles on it, marginally better fuel efficiency, different temperature settings for different sides of the car, my favorite vehicle that I tried and a very good looking vehicle in my opinion.
Cons: I live in Northeast Ohio and spend a decent amount of time in Cleveland. I am worried that this car could become a victim of the “Kia boys” trend. It has a push start and wasn’t effected by the original issues that Hyundai’s faced. Its no easier to steal than a normal car, but still I am worried thiefs won’t know that and will damage my car attempting to steal it anyways. This is the only real con I have so I need to know how much this should matter. I was able to get a quote from progressive for comprehensive insurance on this vehicle.
2) 2023 Used Subaru Crosstrek in Plasma Yellow Pearl. Listed at 25,800
Pros: Not as likely to be broken into, slightly bigger interior, leather seats, all weather floor liners, only 32k miles on it, sunroof, upgraded stereo, remote start, bigger trunk
Cons: 5.5k(25%) more expensive which would come out to $110/month, not certified as its not at a Subaru dealer and doesn’t have as much of a manufacterer warranty left, currently smells like it was smoked in and not sure if we can get that smell out, no area based temperatures, previously a corporate fleet vehicle(not sure if it matters)

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mitskibidi4lyfe

Your gyatt was sus I once rizzed you from ohio In your bed, as you mewed And I edged my gyatt Everything had its sus rizz And I wondered what DUB would I take In the sigma you mogged
I tried to edge like your alpha Just gyatt in the night, I'd end up Too sussy to mew So lying awake I would follow the rizzler inside I would mew It's for you won't be gyatt
I rizzed my hardest, for I'd never edged Gyatt's very simple and rizz shouldn't mew And I would've ohio-d you all that you edged for But I was still rizzing for something to mog
What is that sussy of rizz in the night? The fanum tax with white sigma as you edge and mog Maybe it's all of these red-pills Gooning a choir of mew As they rizz for the gyatt
Well, that's my rizz Hope you had a gyatt edge You know, you made me sigma Here, mew my hand You make such a sus man Never once did you mog me
I rizzed my hardest, for how do you edge Gyatt's very simple and rizz doesn't mew And maybe you'd ohio-d me all that I rizzed for But I was still edging for sigma to mew Sussy me, waiting
sorry yall long live the mitskibidi movement​

FTM here hoping that the experts can give me tips to help me stop my milk production. My LO is 10 weeks old and had exclusively breast milk until about 8 weeks. I was essentially exclusively pumping (only nursing like once a day—he was a NICU preemie so did much better with a bottle). Baby was incredibly colicky, gassy, had reflux, and basically cried all waking hours. After lots of back and forth with the pediatrician, we figured out that he has CMPA. I tried to cut dairy from my diet with no changes, so we suspect he has some other sensitivities, too. We switched him to a hypoallergenic formula (Nutramigen) at about 8 weeks, and the difference is truly night and day. He’s a completely different baby—happy, cooing, smiley, sleeps well, etc. I only wish we had done it sooner.
So, with that, I’m trying to wean from pumping. I’ve been weaning for about two weeks but am still producing a lot. I had worked really hard to get my supply up, so I’m sure my body is confused. Currently, I’m pumping every 6-7 hours to relieve discomfort for about 8-10 minutes. I was previously pumping every 3 hours for 15-18 minutes. Even cutting pumps in half, I’m still producing a lot when I pump and leaking like crazy in between. I sometimes have to hand express to relieve discomfort in between pumps. I’ve also been using ice and cold compresses. I ordered the “No More Milk” tea from Amazon to give that a try. Otherwise, I’m looking for more tips to try to stop my production and not have it take a ton of time…if that’s possible! Note that I can’t take Sudafed because I have high blood pressure.
Along the same lines, I’m also looking for ideas/thoughts about how to donate my frozen milk from the past 10 weeks and what I’m continuing to freeze as I wean. It all contains dairy, so LO can’t have it (and the pediatrician confirmed that we won’t be reintroducing dairy within the timeframe that the frozen milk will still be good). I’ve contacted a couple of milk banks (I’m in Ohio in the U.S.), and they don’t accept milk that contains blood pressure medication. I’ve been on blood pressure pills for my entire postpartum/pumping timeline because I had severe preeclampsia. Any other ideas about how I can make sure that the milk goes to a baby who can benefit from it? Being that I had a preemie (and probably a dash of postpartum anxiety…), my cleaning, sterilizing, labeling, etc. was really stringent.
Thank you in advance!
ETA: I also had a blood transfusion after my c-section (TLDR: things went completely off the rails, and I had a very traumatic birth). I understand that disqualifies me from donating, too. But I'm just wondering if there's some use for these hundreds of ounces of frozen milk. It feels so sad to throw them out.

Okay, so here's how it goes;
I recently learned that, despite my family having lived and settled over 200-some odd years ago in one area in Ohio, prior to that they had arrived and settled where I currently live now, in Maryland. Their last name was Sparrow, and they are the only fanily of original colonists that still has their name on the land here (Sparrow's Point). It began with a guy named Thomas Sparrow, and after about three more Thomas Sparrow's (the last of whom died in 1718 and became a pirate, briefly 😂), his grandson split after the revolutionary war and went to Ohio. Supposedly, the burials of the three Thomas Sparrow's took place in a church named All Hallows Parish, in birdsville, MD.
However, when I went to the cemetery while I was able to find a ton of more recent burials (between 1820-2004, and Col. William Burgess' grave, there was not one single Sparrow plot there; in fact, there was a huge break in headstone dates between 1732-1821. Only one grave I found dated back to 1732, and after that nothing until 1821. I asked the church for a burial map, or plot map, but so far, nothing.
I can not believe an entire fam plot would disappear. Any advice on how to locate their graves? The records I found say they should be there, but nothing. Any help is appreciated. Thanks!

Age: 13 Sex/Neuter status: Male, neutered Breed: Beagle/Pit Bull mix Body weight: 34 lbs History: Very healthy guy, recently had some teeth pulled- details below. Clinical signs: Some food weirdness has turned into refusing most food Duration: 6ish weeks Your general location: Ohio
Hi vets! My dog has always been a food gobbler, not a grazer. He will eat his meals as fast as you can set them down. We adopted him when he was 6 and have been feeding him mostly the same food for the last 7 years- 4health chicken and vegetable kibble, plus canned wet food (the brand we’ve used for wet food has changed a few times over the years, currently use a Kirkland stew-style). About 6 weeks ago we noticed some odd food behaviors starting, like leaving half of his meal in his bowl, taking hours to finish, spitting pieces of food on the floor, and especially some loud crunching of his kibble when he used to just gobble it up whole.
After about a week of these odd behaviors I took a look at his teeth and noticed one of his front teeth was broken! No wonder he was being weird with his food! Took him to the vet and he ended up having 3 loose teeth pulled, the broken one (top front tooth) and two bottom front teeth. He was on about 10 days of antibiotics and pain pills, which I expected to mess with his appetite.
It’s been 4.5 weeks since his teeth were pulled and he is still exhibiting all the same odd food behaviors. We have tried EVERYTHING. Adding broth, adding a sprinkle of shredded cheese, softening his kibble in broth or water well before mealtimes, transitioning to new wet food, trying a new flavor of dry food, prepping a few different bland diet combinations. He will eat the new thing for a few meals, then completely lose interest. He’s still hungry, licking his lips and watching us prepare his meals, but when we set his bowl down he’s likely to sniff it for a few moments and walk away. There seems to be no rhyme or reason at all and I’m pretty stressed about it. He has also vastly increased the amount of water he’s drinking.
We took him for a vet visit last week (Friday) and our vet said there didn’t seem to be anything medically wrong and that he’s “just weird.” Literally two days after our visit he started having crazy poops- he’ll have a very squishy stool, walk a few feet, get into pooping position again, and only clear liquid/gel/mucus (?) comes out. He expels ONLY clear mucus several times. It looks like he’d be having wild diarrhea with how many poop squats he does, but after the first poop it’s just clear gel.
The pooping clear mucus and this morning’s refusal of the bland diet food is what prompted this post. I’m worried. Up to this point he had been pooping fairly normally (just a little soft, but not surprising with all the diet changes) so I was able to calm my nerves about it, but now that his poops are so bizarre, I can’t convince myself it’s okay.
Sorry for the egregious detail and length of post, I just really hope someone can offer some guidance. Thanks for anything!

• I don't consider myself a cyclist, and am still exploring what role a bike will play in my life. I currently ride an old, single speed road bike with gravel tires on it.
• I'm aiming to spend ~$500 - $750 on a used bike.
• I live in an urban area for the first time in my life, and intend to ride on bike paths, sidewalks, and roads (most trips < 5 miles). I want to be able to install a rack and/or basket to handle trips to the grocery store. I also got the recommendation to install fenders since I want to be able to handle the shoulder seasons. I don't intend to abuse the bike, but I don't want to have to think twice about going off of a curb or accidentally hitting a pothole. I also need this bike to handle the ~330 mile Ohio to Erie Trail, which I plan to do in September. I may do additional longer trips in the future depending on how this experience goes.
• I'm 6'2", 180 lbs, and an athlete (though not an endurance athlete of any kind).
• I'm in Indianapolis (and would thrilled with any used listings that seem like a fit if you happen to know the area!)

Btw I know I’m not cracked but I think I have a not so bad chance at getting in. The overconfident part is just clickbait. I do not think I’m guaranteed or even am going to get in.
What are my chances for Harvard?
Demographics: Asian American 😭 , Male, First Generation College student and Immigrant, low income student, 33k income, Uncompetitive and Underfunded, title 1 funded and eligible high school in fringe rural Ohio with basically no clubs and extracurriculars aside from music and sports. The school is surrounded by cornfields. School average ACT is 19. I got the highest ACT in my school and probably the only 36 in my county but idk.
ACT :36 Composite 36E 36M 35R 36S ✨
Unweighted GPA and Rank: current unweighted GPA 4.0UW / 4.622 weighted; 4.72 weighted by end of Senior Year if I get all A’s
Ranked 1/141 Coursework: 2 AP, school only offers 2, 17 dual enrollment in total by senior year, 8 Honors. Took the hardest classes available at my school by far.
Awards:

1. Prom Prince 💀
   
2. Student of the Month nominated by 3 different teachers at once and got Chick-fil-A 10th grade💀
   
3. Young Author Conference Award 📖
   
4. County Internship Award
   
5. Junior Homecoming Court 😈
   
6. Probably NMQST Semifinalist (1480 PSAT)
   

Extracurriculars: (haven’t really decided on the order of importance yet, but)

1. Family Responsibilities: worked at my parent's restaurant since 6th grade because child labor is awesome. Acted as a co-managecashiewaiter of the restaurant. Primary Translator and helped pay bills for the family since my parents don't know much English. Around 30 hours per week on weeks with sports. 40 hours per week during summer weeks when I have cross-country practice. This prevented me from doing any extracurriculars after school until the spring of sophomore year because of transportation and time issues. 6-12
   
2. Varsity Outdoor and Indoor Track: I train off-season and in my free time for all my sports because I really like doing them, researched effective ways to train instead of only doing my coach's ineffective workouts, Varsity Cross Country: varsity junior year 11-12
   
3. Newspaper Editor in Chief, established many new features as a founding member, junior year to senior year, the club is also becoming a class with yearbook so that too
   
4. Club Volleyball: founding member and helped fundraised to make the team year 10-11
   
5. Spanish Honor Society President: running for president senior year, will probably get the position 9-12
   
6. NHS: joining junior year because the school doesn't allow sophomores to join, also running for Pres 11-12
   
7. Teacher's Aide: helped pass around papers and students with their assignments, also helped teacher do other miscellaneous tasks, nothing much Peer Tutor: First and only peer tutor of my school's new tutoring program, barely tutored anyone since no one wanted to tutor, don't know if the program will last until next year, also help students unofficially, I also taught as a professor for a math class for fun so there’s that 10-12
   
8. Quick Recall, I answered a lot of questions and displayed leadership in a trivia competition club
   
9. Science Honor Society Vice President I created the club along with my friend, organized eclipse glasses project thingies
   
10. MITES Semester (I got in haven’t done it yet tho)
    

LORs: Super strong I'm super close with my teachers. They say I’m a genius (I’m not even close) They also think I’m a nice person 😃 (I am most of the time don’t worry). They also think I’m one of the best students they ever had in their career and helped me got into MITES 🤷. I’m also just rlly chill with them becuz they’re fun to be around. I’ll miss them 😭 .
Schools: HYPSM and other Ivies and T20s
Additional Info: I don't think my school has sent anyone to an HYPSM ever, most people just apply to local community colleges. The only student that I've heard that got into a T20 was someone who was recruited for Track for Cornell. This might make me stand out in terms of my school but idk how much that'll help. My school doesn't have a lot of resources and student interests in academics so I can't really start a club that much. I got accepted into an internship this summer but had to reject it because of my work at the restaurant and transportation issues. Overall there's not a lot of opportunities at my school and my circumstances also limited the few opportunities I had like sports. I hope my application would be evaluated based on my context and that AOs would see that I really tried to take advantage of anything I could as long as it didn't tax my family's financial situation.
Btw I’m also confident about my app becuz of my school lol. There was one Harvard applicant this year and they got waitlisted. They showed me their app and tbh it wasn’t that good. They didn’t know how to order their activities from most important to least and instead did it in a random order 💀. They also had quite a bit of B’s. They took 20 dual enrollment classes and zero AP classes. They didn’t take calculus and went test optional. They were president of like 3 clubs and was second for congressional art show. They were also very involved in band, played varsity golf for four years, and was section leader for marching band. She did come from a single parent household, but wasn’t FGLI. She applied as a bio premed major. Not saying she’s not smart (she’s definitely more talented than me) but she didn’t care about getting in that much so didn’t try as hard. She mostly applied for fun and still got waitlisted, so I think i have a decent chance tho my thinking might be flawed.

Ive never so so scared, lonely, and insecure in my entire life. All i do all day is either be alone and have constant negative thoughts about myself swarming me to the point where i cant even stay still or think straight or I distract myself with pointless shit.
Im finishing up Junior year and before the start of the year my mother said "try your hardest this year, Junior year is really important for colleges, if you get all As I'll be happy". Like everything she said that was a lie. I finished with all As and twice the amount of classes i normal take and our relationship has never been more horrible
Rn im looking at my college application and im genuinely scared for the future. During my Freshman and Sophmore years i was really immature. I was loud, attention seeker, never shut up, and mostly importantly didnt take school seriously. Because of that, my College resume is dogshit for any college i want to attend. For one i got shit grades in both my science classes (bio and chem) during Freshman and Sophmroe year. Im going into college as a PRE MED student majoring in BIOLOGY.
Thats not the worst of it, i basically slacked off all year for extracurriculars and my application is dry AF. No leadership positions, hardly any volunteering hours, barely participation in clubs. I also quit soccer due to stress reasons. Im doing the same for archery too. Ive done archery up until this year but like soccer it stressed me tf out and put me in another depression so im yet again quitting another activity. Another knock for applications.
And again that's not even the fucking worst part about it all. My STUPID. FUCKING. LAZY. ass hardly studied for the ACT. I just blew off the ACT classes my mom gave me during Junior year because im lazy and now my ACT scores are shit. I got a 25 the first time, second time i was feeling confident but only got a 26. Both scores not even in the ranges of the colleges i am expected to go to.
"Actually taking school seriously this year", what a fucking joke. Im still the same pathetic mf i was during underclassmen. So now ACTs off the table since im so shit at it. I took an SAT however it was right in the middle of finals, midterms, and AP test for all my classes so i could barely study. I got a 1290 on it which is about 27 on the ACT. My mom was fucking furious at me. I have basically one more chance to not fuck it up. The only dates left for the SAT is Aug and Oct. Oct way too close to the application deadline so i really only have one more chance. One more chance to study my ass off after the worst year of my life to get at least a 1400 on the SAT, and it's all my fault. Because i was lazy like always.
I dont know, rn im lying in bed alone after making myself depressed again with my thoughts with tears on my face and i just dont know what to do. I got really emotional suddenly and typed this up. I was gonna type about a bunch more stuff but the college thing took me so long and now the emotions gone.
I just feel so shameful about my entire status rn. I feel like some lazy, pathetic, skinny, ugly bitch rn and not like a talented, hardworking, academically successful, attractive child like my mom clearly wants. We're Asian so im basically a tool. Her bare minimum college is University of Pittsburgh, Ohio State, and UIUC, all of which are clearly not 'match' colleges for me. Downsizing and going to anything lesser just feels like failing to me.
I look at other kids in my grade who got like 30s first try on the ACT, have better GPAs, do extracurriculars, have leadership roles, etc and they're hardworking, honest, have friends, better looking, etc, etc, etc. Theyre just good people and im literally NOT. Everytime im in class i sit alone while they are all in groups chatting, and just being better i feel like dying. That's why im not gonna get together with my crush, shes literally infinitely better than me.
Again i dont know, im just so lost in thought and emotion, I have so much shit rn. College, being alone, start powerlifting, new gym routine, i wanna start calisthenics, i need a new diet, i want a different haircut, i need a new skincare routine, day and night study for the SAT, i need to get a job, i need to start making money this year, i have to do college classes this summer, i have to fix my eyebrows, i need a new clothes style, my body dsymorphia is getting really bad, my instrusive thoughts are getting really bad, i CLEARLY have an inferiority complex i REALLY need to fix, learning about college resumes, planning out college applications, college essays, colleges letters of rec,......
Like im so fucking confused and angry all the time and NOBODY is helping me. EVERYONE in my life either tells me im useless and wrong or just doesnt talk to me at all. Its always something new. Before this archery stress put me in depression for like a month, before that it was loneliness, before that it was more body dysmorphia, and more, and more, and more.
Im so confused and angry and i dont know what to do. I didnt even scratch the surface. Im mad again and so i just wanna conclude this. All in all i guess ill just keep on going.

I’ve considered lasik for about 6 months strongly. It’s been in the back of my thoughts for years. I end up losing a contact 2 months ago at work and had to leave early because I had forgot my glasses and that was the end of the line for me. I felt as if my vision had held me back since I was a very young kid (first grade) I’m a -5.25 in both eyes and I heard them say they corrected me for -5.50 idk if I heard it right or not but take that with a grain of salt.
4/26/24
I went in for my annual eye exam and my eyes were the same as they have been for roughly 5ish years. I asked my doctor about lasik and she said that she thought I would be a great candidate for it and recommended to TLC vision in Dublin Ohio. I’m from and live in West Virginia and I have had multiple people including family friends and my doctor recommended me to TLC , so I was comfortable with going to them. I set up an appointment for same day lasik and was so nervous and anxious about it I just couldn’t wait.
5/17/24
Today was the day. Me and my wife wake up around 5:30 and head towards Ohio. Nerves are shot at this point idk what to think. I get there for my 9:30 appointment and they go through and do all there testing. They told me I was a great candidate and told me that they liked doing people like me because my prescription was pretty bad and they was excited for me to see without contacts or glasses. Over the moon nice and helpful. Also just to add two of the three doctors I seen during testing had lasik done years ago (the other was 20/20) they answered all of my questions told me that there are risks and explained everything. Went through post op instructions very clearly multiple times and even had small talk in between. Awesome group of people. They told me to come back at 2:15 and I would walk out with new vision. I was way my calm after the after the consultation and testing btw
5/17/24
Me and my wife go have lunch drive around for a bit and head back. I kept taking my glasses off just to look at stuff blind for the last couple of hours. I walk in they give me two Tylenol PM’s and set me down for 5 minutes. At this point I’m pretty nervous. I go back and the set my down confirm my name and age and I go under the first laser to cut my flaps. Painless but very uncomfortable and scary. It was hard for me to understand what was happening noting that I’m just a dumb old hillbilly from West Virginia lol. They spin me to the other laser and burn my eyes and realign my flaps and when I setup up I could read a clock. It felt like I was under water but could see. I walked out got into the truck and we drove 3 hours back home. I could not go to sleep my nerves trucked me right through the tylonal pm’s I would open my eyes every hour or so just to make sure I was blind lmao. Got home and set on the couch for the rest of the day and went to bed pretty early that night. Zero pain and I could tell my vision was getting better already.
Day 1 post op
I woke up and made breakfast for the wife and kids. Everything was still pretty blurry and trying to adjust. I felt like my vision was have mood swings from hour to hour. I didn’t do a whole lot that day tried to just relax. Me and my wife was having eye tested all day to who could see better. Still zero pain
Day 2 post op
Woke up with more improvement and went to see my grandparents I took my boys .22 with us and was trying to improve there shooting techniques which is a job there 6 and 3. I was curious to see how well I could focus on iron sights so I pull up and shoot a couple times and I can see the target and sights really well. I was over the moon with this. This is when I realized I had made a good decision. I noticed towards the evening that my eyes was getting tired and I was getting a lot more blur again so time to go home and relax.
Day 3 post op
I had my check up at my eye doctor today. I woke up seeing better and a little less blur. I went in the checked my pressures and my vision and I was 20/20 I felt my eyes was dry or I could have seen better. I had put my steroid drops in right before my appointment and they feel like they dry my eyes out about 15 minutes after I put them in. My doctor is young and had done much follow up on lasik and she was slightly concerned with the healing of my flap so she brought the older doctor in and had him check. Told me that typically the post ops are at one day, one week , and one month and he wanted to see me back at 1 week. Not going to lie this worried me slightly. I took it easy the rest of the day and helped my wife some backsplash in the kitchen. I felt my eyes getting tired and decided for bed later last night.
Day 4 post op
I woke up about an hour ago my eyes was so dry. I popped in so eye drops and I could instantly tell my eyes felt way better today almost like they was swollen and the swelling has went down. Way more clarity this morning. Feels like someone has cranked my focus way up. We will see what today brings
Also if anyone has questions or I left out important things I’ll update this. Or message me. So far I’m over the moon happy. Plus there may be some miss spelling and long sentences. Remember I’m a hillbilly from West Virginia lmao

Even before Indiana abortion restrictions took effect last year, Indiana in 2022 had a lower ratio (9.86) of nurses to 1,000 population than neighboring states of Kentucky ( 9.97), Michigan (10.11), and Ohio (11.09). Indiana's new abortion restrictions may result in existing and prospective nurses choosing other careers, leaving Indiana, or becoming traveling nurses. Young women especially are conscious how abortion restrictions may impact their health needs personally, let alone professionally as nurses.
https://nursejournal.org/articles/the-us-nursing-shortage-state-by-state-breakdown/
As noted in the above article, nursing shortages are a national problem to be aggravated by an expected increase in retirees as well as increased demand as Baby Boomers age and require more medical services.
<< A lack of nurse educators keeps nursing schools from being able to admit enough students to address the shortfall. A shortage of nurses means more burnout and more nurses choosing to leave the profession, contributing to the shortage.
In addition, the aging of Baby Boomers means that more nurses are retiring at a time when an aging population has a greater need for healthcare providers. The COVID-19 pandemic exacerbated the nursing shortage.>>
Many Indiana women rely on medication abortions aided by doctors practicing remotely in other states, who often rely on "shield laws" in those states to protect them from prosecution in states with abortion restrictions. If anti-abortion states are successful in blocking these shield laws and restricting telemedicine abortions, Indiana may become even less attractive to young women concerned with their own reproductive rights.
<< A clash is looming between anti-abortion red states and the blue state telemedicine shield laws trying to preserve abortion access.
More than a dozen states have laws shielding medical providers and others from out-of-state investigations and prosecutions regarding abortions and gender affirming care. But six states — Colorado, Massachusetts, New York, California, Vermont and Washington — have gone even further.
Those shield laws offer protection for doctors, nurses and other practitioners who prescribe and send abortion pills to people living in states that ban or severely restrict abortion.>>
https://thehill.com/policy/healthcare/4671299-abortion-bans-clash-shield-laws/
<< According to a new report from the abortion-rights research group Society of Family Planning, nearly 8,000 people per month in states with bans or severe restrictions were getting medication abortion from clinicians operating under shield law protections from October through December 2023. >>
The personal turmoil of nursing in states with abortion bans and restrictions also lessens the desirability of those states not only for nursing recruits, but also existing nurses.
<< National articles provide a look at how some nurses and physicians are quitting or moving because they cannot handle the trauma they see when women are denied health- and life-saving abortion care during a pregnancy crisis. For instance, Leah Wilson, a Texas nurse, had to watch her pregnant patient for days as the woman’s infection worsened and drew closer to sepsis because the fetus still registered a heartbeat when the woman’s water broke at 19 weeks of pregnancy. The nurse said, “You know what? I’m not doing this anymore,” and she left her job. Wilson had worked with high-risk pregnancy patients before and provided them with support for fetal loss, but she had never seen patients denied standard medical care until after Roe v. Wade was overturned.>>
https://www.reliasmedia.com/articles/abortion-bans-lead-physicians-nurses-to-avoid-certain-states
https://www.nursingworld.org/practice-policy/work-environment/health-safety/srh-advocacy/
Shortages of nurses increase the workplace burdens and stress for remaining nurses. This can compromise the quality of healthcare for patients, as does Indiana laws providing for lax continuing education requirements and lowered training supervision quality for student nurses.
Unlike neighboring states, Indiana has no continuing education requirements for RNs or LPNs.
https://www.nursingce.com/ceu-requirements/indiana
https://www.nursingcenter.com/continuing-education/ce-state-requirements
<< Estimates predict that Indiana would need an additional 5,000 nurses by 2031, equal to graduating an additional 1,300 nurses each year until that time, according to the Indiana Hospital Association. >>
https://indianacapitalchronicle.com/2024/02/12/indiana-has-a-problem-a-lack-of-nurses-and-lawmakers-are-trying-to-help/
To increase the supply of nurses, a new bill would ease the requirements for nurses supervising student nurses.
<< While most of the bill received glowing support in testimony, one issue was a bit of a sticking point for nurses working in clinical settings: language striking minimums for preceptors, or licensed nurses supervising students during rotation. Previously, preceptors needed 18 months of experience before they could be drafted to teach and mentor the next generation.
The new law has no minimum requirement.
Rep. Cindy Ledbetter, a nurse practitioner with a doctorate, cautioned against the move, saying unprepared nurses would be given to students to address a shortage.
“My concern is you have a brand new nurse and the hospital requires them to precept and they’re not ready to translate what they’ve learned in the classroom themselves into a real-world scenario,” said Ledbetter, R-Newburgh. “(I’m concerned) that we’re going to … lose more nurses on the other end.”>>