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2017.10.23 22:11 chongoshaun This Isn't Who We Are

Does it piss you off when someone gets caught doing something wrong, and during their 'Mea Culpa' they utter the most ridiculous phrase ever... "This isn't me" or "This is not who I am". Does it drive you crazy like it drives us crazy? Well then, WELCOME! CLEARLY IT IS WHO YOU ARE! YOU DID IT!
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2024.05.21 16:19 beeby8 How do I save my family from falling apart and we get our lives back?

So I am 26 years old. I am from Melbourne Australia. I am single and I live with my mother, my step-dad, my brother and my sister in law who have just moved back in recently after having moved out of home 3 years ago, but have moved back in to save money to eventually move out into the country somewhere. They are not really city/suburb people. The prefer regional/rural areas.
Anyway, the problem in our family is my step dad. I would say for the last 5-6 years, he has withdrawn alot from us. He spends the majority of his time (when he is not at work) sitting outside smoking, drinking and watching YouTube videos on his phone. We barely see him except for weekends because he works the afternoon/evening shifts.
When we do see him on weekends, he barely ever wants to do anything with us. We are always inviting him out to do things with us, but the majority of the time, he says no and uses the excuse of staying home to look after the dogs to get out of it. The only thing that we really do anymore is watch our show together on Saturday nights (if we haven't got something on, which we often do), but even that he is starting to lose interest in.
He also get sick quite often. He has a really bad cough due to his heavy smoking. I have never smoked in my life. My mum, brother and sister in law have, but they have all given up regular cigarettes now and either vape or use marijuana. I would honestly prefer if they just ditched the vapes and just smoked the marijuana to be honest and I have never had a problem with people who smoke pot as long as you do it safely and don't drive on it. It smells way better than cigarettes or the horrible artificial smell of vapes. Anyway, that's not the point.
He (my step dad) has also claimed to be on a meat and dairy only diet for the past couple of years now, basically the complete opposite of a vegan, yet we constantly see him eating bread, chips and other regular foods that are not part of his carnivore diet. He also makes a massive mess in the kitchen every time he cooks his food and never cleans it up because he cooks and attempts to clean in the dark without the light on.
We all think (myself, mum, my brother and sister in law) all think he had some severe health problems like potentially lung cancer and maybe even early onset dementia, but her just will not go to the doctor.
My brother and sister in law even said that one of the main reasons they moved out in the first place 3 years ago was because of how uncomfortable they felt around him and now they are saying the exact same thing again. They said it again literally tonight.
He also does not have a very good relationship with either of his biological children (my step brother and step sister). He says that he wishes that he talked to and saw them more, yet he makes little to no effort to see them or spend time with them outside of special occasions like birthdays, despite the fact that his son lives 10 minutes around the corner. His daughter lives a few hours away, but you would think he would make the time to see her more often, especially since his daughter now has a daughter, making him a grandfather.
He also sleeps in a completely separate room to my mum too which I believe severely impacts their relationship. Couples who do not sleep in the same bed together (for the most part) I believe do not wore every well in general. Now to be fair, this is mainly due to the fact that he snores very loudly and has too wear a massive CPAP machine at night which would keep mum awake, so he eventually just moved into the spare room. That part of it I get, but it's still not ideal.
And the worst part is, all that is just scratching the surface. My mum is constantly ranting and complaining to me about how much she has had enough and is fed up with him just doing nothing and not wanting to be a part of the family any more and just retreating into himself and I completely agree with her as well.
My mum and step dad have been together for 20 years this year, but I know for a fact that she does not love him anymore and wants to break up with him and end the relationship. Not only has she flat out told me this in private, but she wouldn't even have to tell me for me to know.
The biggest problem however and the primary reason why she won't separate from his is money. They have a mortgage for the house in both their names, many contracts are in both their names as well for things that we have done to the house like adding the solar panels, the battery backup for the solar panels, the renovations etc. A few joint accounts too.
Mum has told me so many times that if she were to win the lottery, she would leave him in a heartbeat. The money side of things and so many things being in both their names makes the situation so much harder. Mum has also said that she could not afford to live in our house if they split up as just a one person salary would not cover everything. I currently do not have a job and am actively;y looking for a new one after leaving a toxic work environment recently, but I do my part by paying for the houses monthly internet bill which lowers the cost of my board and my brother and sister in law also chip in in their way, but I still don't know if that would be enough.
Now of course, I love my step dad. I really do. He has been my main father figure in my life for the past 20 years since my mum divorced my real dad in 1999 when I was 2 years old. I still see my real dad on a regular basis and we have a good relationship, but I obviously have not lived with him 24/7 like I have with my step dad for 20 years. It's just that unfortunately, he is just not working in our family anymore and something has to change.
I guess what I am asking for is some advice and some help. Is there a way that we can move on from him? Is there a way where we can get him out of our lives without our lives being shaken up in the process. We have lived in this house for 18 years and it is our home. The thought of moving somewhere else just because we wouldn't be able to afford it anymore is heartbreaking to me. I know I may eventually move out one day if I get a girlfriend or whatever, but more heartbreaking for my mum than anything else.
So my question to you all is, has anyone out there reading this experienced the same sort of thing I have just described to you and if so, how did you manage to get out of it (if you did) and get your family back again? Any sort of advice or information or whatever else you can give me would be so much appreciated.
Thank you for reading and listening.
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2024.05.21 16:14 AtlantiumAI SUPERLIGHT Episode 9

SUPERLIGHT Episode 9
SUPERLIGHT Episode 9
By Roc Hatfield
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Aetherians of the New Empire are banned from ever returning to Aetheria or from joining into the One. The border net is a solid wall to non-authorized Aetherians, impenetrable. The Elo Eloahim passes through the net without a hitch.
The Blade has now come to a full stop. The shuttle carrying Excelsior Andriel is docking with the Blade. Once the shuttle is cleared of occupants, it will return to the Elo Eloahim autonomously.
Excelsior Andriel has made his way back to the bridge of the Blade and is admiring the border net through the giant viewer screens. I haven't been out here for many strands. Beautiful to look at.
Send some technicals out to one of those nodes to have a look at it. I am sure it is manifest, but there must be a way to defeat it. I want to tear a hole in it, big enough to push the Blade through it, Andriel says.
There is only one express elevator that drops down to the 17th floor. The operator must enter a series of codes as the elevator descends. The codes are changed frequently like a password.
There are government secrets on 17 that can never be accessed by unauthorized personnel, says Steven as the elevator nears the bottom floor of the Pine Bluff underground base. The door opens and Nancy, Walter, Brad and the two techies spill out of the elevator to a large hall with long corridors running down each side. The footprint of the bottom floor covers about 120,000 square feet, about the size of a car factory or supersized retail store.
We have all your gear in a lab down this hallway, says Steven. We are anxious to see your device at work, Oscar says. Hey, do you guys want to see something really cool? Steven asks.
All three nod in unison. Great. Follow me, Steven says.
The group walks down a hall and enters a lab, lots of tables, computers, not much to see really. Up on one table is a group of long plastic tubes, 12 inches in diameter, maybe 4 or 5 feet long. You can see mirrors at the end.
Wow, this looks interesting, Walter says. You are looking at the real reason we went into Iraq. Saddam had this built from instructions found on ancient Sumerian clay tablets found near where Babylon once stood.
They called it the Looking Glass. Our CIA guys heard about it and had photos and diagrams of it smuggled out of Iraq. We recreated it out at Area 51, Groom Lake actually.
When they saw that it worked, the powers that be, Steven makes air quotes with his hands, decided to go in and get it. This is the real deal. The whole 9-11 scam was part of an elaborate plan to get this thing out of Iraq. That’s my opinion.
Plus other sundry items. Walter, Nancy, and Brad are just stunned. Steven turns on a light source that bounces around from mirror to mirror and ends up at a large concave mirror, 15 inches in diameter.
You can see faint moving images on the mirror's surface that look like old 8mm grainy film. It looks like rioting in the streets, store shelves empty, a stark apocalyptic scene. Large crowds gather around the U.S. Capitol building and the Vatican.
Steven, where are these images coming from? Brad asks. From the future? Steven responds. No? Brad says. Yes, from the future. Steven says.
Somehow, light being moved over all these mirrored surfaces breaks out a light that is streaming in from the future. Walter moves in closer. So are these images just random snippets? Or are they organized in some manner? Walter questions.
The best we can tell is that they are like listening to an old AM radio at night. Stations from far away can drown out stations that are close by. Just sort of a jumble of music coming in and fading out.
It seems that the images are from different points in the future. One may be 5 years out and the next 50 years away, Steven says. So, what is so important about it, Nancy asks? Think about it, Nancy, having advanced warning of coming events.
Plus, many times we can see advanced technology. It's priceless, Oscar says as he reaches over and turns off the device. The one big drawback, however, is that, just us witnessing of these events will change them.
It's a very tight loop. We have been shooting video from the big mirror. When we compare previously shot video from images from the look in glass, they are different.
Some in subtle ways and others in major ways. Simply observing the future changes it. So we only keep it on for brief periods until we understand this phenomenon better, Steven concludes. Okay, let's get you guys settled into your lab. I am really looking forward to learning more about this superlight. Our world is amazing, isn't it? Steven says,
Washington DC is spectacular at sundown. The lights from the monuments and government buildings make for dramatic and exciting backdrop for the world leaders and dignitaries that visit, as well as the everyday politicians that haunt the city. A group of high-powered cabinet secretaries and military bosses have sit down for an emergency meeting with the president. Gentlemen, greetings and thank you for coming up here to the White House on such short notice.
I have been receiving phone calls and veiled threats from world leaders all day. Number one, what is all this fuss really all about? And secondly, what is going to be our stance in regards to this crazy technology, which I have heard very little about? Are we just going to take it from a private company and turn it over to all the governments of the world? The president asks out of breath, Mr. President, if I may, says Senator Abramson, who is seated on one of the two sofas just in front of the president's big resolute desk. I believe I was the first one to hear of this device.
I heard from a doctor that works at the company, one of my constituents. He came to me frantic and told me many details about this device. He had the presence of mind to film an experiment he participated in, shot on his cell phone.
I was so concerned about this horror show being in my district, I contacted the FBI director to look into it, for I thought it was a national security risk at the highest degree. The FBI director sent in a team with a warrant to seize any and all evidence related to the Superlight project. Brad Hillier, the company CEO, was one step ahead of us and had already moved all key components of the device and associated files and plans.
We have no leads at the moment as too where he and members of his staff are hiding out. I would like to offer whatever assistance I can, being that this thing was created in my district. I would like to help if I can.
Thank you, Senator. We can use all the help we can get. I want to thank you all again for coming up, and I would like to suggest that each of you consult with your respective departments and get me a letter that lays out your thoughts on how to proceed with this situation.
Please give me something by the end of tomorrow. I will then be better informed on my decisions on how to deal with this issue. Thank you all for coming.
All the attendants stand and stream out of the Oval Office. Ed Bramson hangs back. Mr. President, I had a deep black officer from the Space Force speak to my oversight committee, and she let it be known that she knew about Hilliard before any of this became public.
I have no way of getting to her. But I thought you should know, she may have information regarding Hilliard. Very interesting, Senator.
I will try looking under some rugs. But as you know, I have little authorization over deep black project sites or the people that run them. Please stay in contact, Senator.
Atlan, the home world of the Aetherians, is the seat of the Old Dominion. The large planet sits just outside the massive black hole at the center of the Milky Way galaxy, in a large cluster of stars orbiting the event horizon. The light from all the nearby stars eliminate all darkness.
Every planet in this cluster is lit every hour, all over the globe by multiple stars. Massive bright stars can be seen in every direction. Humans could not exist here, the heat and radiation would evaporate the water in a human body in seconds.
But it's paradise to the Aetherians that dwell here. An indescribable garden, hundreds of millions of vast mansion homes with complex landscaping. There are over 100 planets inhabited by the Aetherians in this sector.
One more beautiful and amazing as the next, Atlan is home to the One. The One walks these gardens from time to time, and abides in a mountain compound known as Shiloe Ahim. Ambassador Lucentel the hand of the One, is an Ark ancestor.
He was with the One long before the Matterverse was spoken into existence. There are a small number of Ark ancestors, as many as 100 are known to live. The Akashe, the Ancient Hall of Records, holds records telling the story of the One and the Ark ancestors alone on Atlan.
The Ark ancestors wanted a family and asked the One to enrich them with sons. The One said he would extract a small spark of himself and release it as a son for each Ark ancestor. Many years later, the Ark ancestors developed the ability to petition the One for new sons and daughters.
The sons and daughters of the Ark ancestors are slightly less powerful than the Ark ancestors. Over billions of years, the eternal Aetherians have multiplied into trillions of beings and lower beings. The lower beings take the form of many exotic creatures that inhabit thousands of planets scattered across the Aetherians' Old Dominion.
Atlan is standing by to receive us, Ambassador, announces the Commander on duty. Please dock and secure the Elo-Eloahim. I would like to travel down to Atlan as soon as possible.
Brad, Nancy, and Walter have finished setting up the superlight in the big lab that Steven and Oscar gave them. Brad, you need to see the footage I shot of you while you were sleeping in the van. The interview I did with your driver, Zia, Nancy says.
What? You interviewed my driver? Brad says surprised. Yes, when you were asleep in the van, Nancy says, as she is cutting up the video footage. Okay, here we go.
Brad is watching the video, riveted by it. He turns it off. Well? Nancy asks. It's nice, I always wanted a daughter, Brad giggles.
I am sorry this shit is so crazy that if I don't laugh, I would cry. We haven't peeled back even one layer of this onion yet, and it's already difficult to keep up with. When I came out here with Archer on his private plane, Captain Carpenter introduced me to her little grey alien friends.
We flew aboard a small silver disc-shaped craft to their home base, that sits out around the rings of Saturn. Nancy looks right at Brad. Stop Brad, are you high right now?.
Brad pauses, don't you remember at lunch, Captain Carpenter said I would bring you up to speed. Well, I am bringing you up to speed right now. Drivers, waterbots, now grey aliens and UFO discs, what's next? Nancy asks with indigence.
Brad says, who knew a high-frequency light designed to see cracks in critical aircraft components and machinery would cause intergalactic turmoil. So as I was saying, my understanding is that the Superlight is a threat to a huge data collecting operation that these high freaks have been doing for eons. High freaks? Walter asks puzzled.
Oh, that's just a name I gave them. They are the beings that inhabit the realm that we see with the Superlight. They function at a super high frequency of light.
Their world is as real as ours, just operating at a higher frequency. Without the advent of the Superlight, we would never know that they are all around us and strewn all across the universe, Brad continues. The high freaks drive avatars or waterbots as Zia calls us, without our knowledge, so they can collect millions of terabytes from hundreds of telemetry points during the lifetime of the avatar.
It seems that the traveler or waterbot is just a spacesuit, be it an advanced one for the high freaks, Brad concludes. So the superlight reveals this relationship to the travelers, and that is what they are concerned about. Follow the money.
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2024.05.21 16:13 Weekly-Mortgage7726 10/10 WBRT

Finally done with whole brain radiation! I have an oncologist appointment tomorrow to talk about chemo pills (probably xeloda, I’m hoping I have the right enzymes for it since they did a blood test for it a couple weeks ago)
I’m still very exhausted from the radiotherapy and my hair has started falling out, but I’m trying my best to celebrate my daughter’s birthday today. I hope these 10 sessions actually did something 🤞🏻 so far I’ve read a lot of positive responses about wbrt.
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2024.05.21 16:10 JCLAVE1 X-men 97 mini’s

Anyone else really enjoying these guys? Not hard to find and look really good for how small they are! Just got mine from my daughter today in my birthday.
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2024.05.21 16:04 Girls_Just_Wana_Swim The Sea's Princess: Sylvia Rhodes of The Caribbean

Sylvia https://imgur.com/gallery/GK6ShZQ

Sylvia Rhodes

"One whom strives is one whom succeeds.."

Age: 15
Birthday: August 22, 2024
Godrent: Triton , Leiutenant of the sea..
Identity: Female (she/her), straight ally

Appearance:

Ebony skin, she always wears her hair in fashionable dreads with silver beads strewn through it. Heterechromia: One bright blue eye and one interestingly red-pink eye. No one can explain where it comes from. She has a scar down, diagonal, through her red-pink eye, she covers it with makeup often. Sylvia has snakebite piercings on either side of her bottom lip, that she switches out for shiny metals often, as if changing clothes. Her hair kind of moves like water.

Personality:

Bratty rich girl - She gets what she wants, doesn't matter how she has to achieve it. If she wants it, it's her's. She gets angry easily and is good when it comes to manipulation and playing the victim. She's a bully, you're different? Weirdo. Kind of bully.

Family:

Kira Rhodes: mother, famous model and ex-olympic swimmer, gives her daughter whatever she wants, 39
Triton: father, never met him, hopes he's cool (and possibly hopes he'll give her something if they ever reunite), Greek god
Naomi Rhodes: Kira's wife, stepmom, spoils Sylvia as well, 35, filmstar
Cerberus: her little black lab puppy, 3 months old, not the actual cerberus

Powers:

Weapons:

Trident - "it's pretty and practical, okay, darling?" High heel - "look, they're always there. It makes sense."

Background...

Sylvia was 13 when her mother had to tell her the truth, who her father was.
Sylvia had, unironically, drenched a saleswoman in water from the mall fountain when the woman tried to touch her. Of course; Sylvia doesn't like that. No permission? No access. That's how she works. So of course she did not take kindly to a 'lowly salesperson' grabbing her 3,000 dollar faux-fur jacket.
When her mother explained everything, it seemed that everyone was in the loop. Her mom, her maid, her stepmom, everyone but her. But whatever.
Sylvia was born on one of the Caribbean islands and her and her mother moved to California when her mom stopped representing the Bahamas in the Olympics. That was when her mom's job took off like a rocket. And there she was, the rich, pretty, smart, popular girl at school who came from abroad (or about abroad at it can bs counted) and whose mom(s) were famous. Everyone wanted to be her, or with her, or something like that.
When she was 12, she'd gotten into a bad accident resulting in her scar. And she's ashamed of it.
Then, one of those 'stupid dog penguins' attacked Sylvia while she was at a beach party her school was hosting. Then her moms whisked her away to camp, where she was left to, as she put it, shrivel up and die.

Present...

Sylvia stood at the edge of camp, wearing her baby blue tank-top crop-top and gray jeans with her (3,000 dollar) faux-fur jacket. Her blue heels weren't sinking in the dirt, yet.
She flicks her dreads over her shoulder and starts to walk into camp, standing tall and walking proud. Her while suitcases were all attached to eachother aside from her purse, which hung from her shoulder whilst she dragged the suitcases. She was not happy about this, but atleast her parents allowed her to pack whatever she wished.
So now she made her way down the hill, her silver ring shimmering with a seafoam green sheen. Of course, her Trident was hidden within it.
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2024.05.21 16:01 TheCorsair05 I think I finally have to admit that my mother is a Narcissist

It's harder to come to terms with this than I was expecting.
I (32F) know that I've always given my parents a lot of grace - they both had pretty rough lives growing up, and I genuinely think they did their best raising my brother and I. But their best was still pretty emotionally abusive, and left my brother and I with a lot of emotional scars. I thought things were a bit better, now that we're adults - sometimes I love spending time with my parents. But most of the time, it's still very hard to be around them, especially my mother.
Last year, my mother pushed me over the edge (I don't remember what exactly did it, but it was a "straw that broke the camel's back kind of situation), and I went very low contact with her. And then, while moving into the house I'd just purchased, I had a fire. The house wasn't fully destroyed, but it was unlivable, and the mental/emotional toll was huge. I was really floundering, dealing the contractors, the different insurance agents, and trying to find a temporary place to live (for what ended up being a little over 9 months, rather than the 6 months the contractors initially quoted). I didn't have anyone else to turn to for help, so I turned to my mother.
I'll be the first to admit - my mother was a HUGE help in dealing with the contractors, the insurance, and even with designing some changes that needed to be made to the house (the whole process was terrible - the contractors were shitty, took forever, and didn't communicate, and it seemed like every single thing took more effort than it should have, or there was some kind of mistake that would need to be fixed that made it harder to deal with). But emotionally, she was just as hard to deal with as she had always been. She somehow didn't seem to understand that I wasn't going to immediately bounce back from this incredibly traumatic and emotionally devastating event. And the two times that I pushed back on a demand she had, she would say something like "then I just won't help you anymore, and you can deal with this yourself". So of course I would back down, since I knew I was not in a place to be able to handle any of it myself.
And then, on top of the house, I lost my job. So it's been a pretty rough year or so for me. I had hoped, now that I'm finally living in my house, and the contract company has been finishing up the final few issues, that things would get better with my mother. I wouldn't need to see her as much, I could focus on my house and finding a new job and taking care of myself. But no - she's insisted on coming over every few days to "help" with things. Helping unpacking, helping cleaning, helping with yard work. All of which needed to meet HER exacting standards. She finally said she couldn't come over anymore after yelling about my lack of cleanliness (heaven forbit I, an adult in my early thirties, decide not to make my bed every day and vacuum two to three times a week).
And then, two days later, she called to argue with me some more. And she dropped the line that made me finally believe my mother is a narcissist. After almost 30 minutes of arguing and berating me, she insisted that I needed to try and see things from HER perspective. That I needed to try and understand how hard my trauma and pain of the last year have been for HER to deal with.
There are so many other examples that should probably have made me realize my mother is probably a narcissist sooner. But I'm very different from her. I could never imagine asking someone who had been through a huge trauma, and who had told me how hard things were for them, to imagine how hard listening to them was for me. And it hurts. It hurts so much.
I'm really not sure how to deal with this hurt moving forward. I love my parents, and I still want to see them. But I don't know how to go about being around my mother (and my father, who has always enabled her, and insisted that I forgive and move on, every single time she has hurt me in the past) now that I've finally started to understand what she's like. A friend has sent me a book about adult daughters of narcissistic mothers that I'll be checking out, and I'm hoping it helps me to understand how to deal with my mother in a way that's better and more healthy for me.
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2024.05.21 15:59 Mindless-Schedule253 Help for my daughters birthday

In 2016 we got this shirt at the merch booth at a show for my daughter. I can’t find anything close to this anywhere. Does anyone know where I could find one?
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2024.05.21 15:45 Dizzy-Squirrel9610 Still here :)

I'm the lady who thought she got a bat bite in the backyard while throwing my daughter a birthday party. Cant remember the account name I used to post here at that time. I thought I'd hop on here because today I got a sore throat and my immediate thought was "It's probably rabies."
That's how OCD works. This thought will plague me until my sore throat goes away. My brain will do mental gymnastics to try to calm itself and it won't work. Now, I could make it a million times worst by checking to make sure I can still swallow every few minutes, checking my temperature, investigating the site of my non existent bite to see if it tingles or is itchy, googling for reassurance, asking for reassurance on this sub etc etc. But then the OCD would only stay longer. And after eight months I say f*** that.
I''d rather put up with these scary thoughts for a day or two. Just sit with them and feel afraid, than fuel the OCD. OCD is a monster and when you perform those compulsions you just feed it and it grows bigger and scarier.
If you are on this sub today seeking reassurance, try to stop yourself. You know it won't help you because nobody can tell you with 100% certainty that you don't have rabies. That's what you are asking for and no one can give that to you.
Try to immerse yourself in an activity. Mine was slow cooking. I cooked complicated recipes, my family ate like royalty. I had a silly little dance that I did when the thoughts got so bad I thought I was gonna explode.
I had setbacks. Stupid rabies OCD kept flaring up, so I would repeat the process. I even started having nerve issues in my foot which was the site of the "bat bite." Those were tough days. My Dad had a brain injury, my daughter was in a car accident and I dealt with both. I was there with my family, showed up for my kids. You can't do that when you're online compulsively asking, searching, pleading for certainty that can't be had.
Pick a hobby. Immerse yourself. Notice the thoughts. This fear will lessen. It will be more than tolerable. Some days you will even laugh at yourself and the thoughts. The whole thing will become a joke even while it's still sometimes scary. You can do it.
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2024.05.21 15:41 cryptidace How do you continue having them in your life?

I wrote a letter to my Dad about how he was never emotionally there in my life and how that affects me now. I get anxiety and feel uncomfortable around him and find it hard to talk to him. He read the letter and asked me to call him when I was ready. He didn't really say sorry it was more of a "sorry you feel that way" and "I'm not apologising for what I've done because what's done is done" and saying how he's disappointed that I've been lying about who I am to him which yeah he's kind of right because I've been hiding myself as a way to protect myself (yes I explained it to him in the letter and on the phone). He is brutally honest and doesn't care about other people's feelings and he said to me that I should speak up when he's hurt me (yes I've explained to him why it's hard for me to do). He basically was like let's forget about it and move on. While this did hurt, I wasn't surprised by him rather my reaction was "well, that's my Dad" I wasn't doing this for our relationship or him. I was doing it for me. I didn't want to hold onto these feelings anymore because it hurts and it's exhausting. I'm thinking of myself and my own wellbeing after living my whole life not doing that. I've never felt close to him and he's always just been there. He's always been in the background. My mum died 2 years ago and every time I meet up for Christmas or her birthday it's a stark reminder that my emotional connection to my family is gone after my mum died. She was the only one that I actually had any emotional connection to me. My mum wasn't perfect though, she overstepped boundaries and emotionally parentified me which has brought it's own set of issues. I've always felt somewhat separated from my family and I don't feel connected to them. I look at other families and see how close they are and realise how abnormal my family are.
After this I've been questioning what my next move should be. I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to keep contact so I don't regret going no contact when he dies. Part of me thinks "why bother" he'll just upset you again and it's exhausting. I just know anything that comes out of my Dad's mouth is just straight up rude because he is rude most of the time. I know it'll be exhausting. It's like dealing with a child who hasn't learnt empathy or the phrase "if you've got nothing nice to say then don't say it". Also I can't help but feel bad for him. He doesn't have friends and my mum was his emotional and social life. Yes, I know he's done that to himself but I still feel bad. It's like he's lost his wife and how a daughter. Also I don't want to put all of his emotional and social life onto my brother because I know my brother will just take it.
Maybe should this be my last try and leave it as that. I don't know. How do you guys deal with emotionally neglectful parents?
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2024.05.21 15:38 sillycats_1995 How do I (28F) tell my brother (40M) I'm getting married without inviting him?

My eldest brother and I have a strained relationship. We don't hate each other, in fact I feel bad for him because he's in an abusive relationship with his wife (40F), who's been draining him like a vampire (emptionally, financially etc). Short version is his wife threatened to call immigration on my fiance if we so dared as to set foot in the same city where they live (which is dumb, because my parents live in the same city). Something bad happened in the family 4 years ago and his wife decided to blame my fiance and turn the whole family against him, even though in the end her allegations turned out to be false. He doesn't have the backbone to stand up to his wife, so I've quietly just avoided him and his family, it's almost a mutual thing. Every now and then we talk but it's only if it's necessary. It's civil, but very strained.
I'm getting married next month, and I've basically invited everyone in my family except for him. I'm having an intimate wedding, 20 people maximum, and that's including my family and my little nieces already. I just assumed it wouldn't be a big deal since I don't get invited to any of his daughter's birthdays (they're doctors, so they always throw a huge birthday bash for her and I'm never invited), or I also don't attend other relatives' weddings if my brother and his wife are coming just to avoid tension. I learned from my sister and my mom, however that while he understands why I wouldn't invite him, he still feels kind of bad about it. I'm the first girl in the family to be getting married, so I guess it's a big deal.
I don't have any ill will towards him, my family has been asking me to at least tell him I'm getting married (even though he knows, I just haven't talked to him about it). I just don't know how to inform him while also maintaining that I don't necessarily want him to come, just because he hasn't been the nicest person to my fiance and I want to be surrounded by only people who love and support the both of us.
TL;DR: I have a strained relationship with my brother because he wasn't always the nicest person to my fiance, and I want to let him know I'm getting married but without inviting him to the wedding.
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2024.05.21 15:21 human_itarian Realizations & My Breaking Point

I used to think that maybe my father didn't quite understand how crazy my mother was and that he was such a passionate man and had to keep his marriage vows to be faithful.
My breaking point was when my parents flew to my home state to spend a weekend with the kids at a nice hotel. My husband and myself weren't invited but we took to the idea because it gave us the chance at some much needed alone time together.
This was the first time I had seen her since the previous Christmas visit, in her home, and I had told her off for recording my dad choking while laughing in his and our faces about it. (She then made it a point to send me the video recording - twice).
We invited her over to celebrate her birthday one of the days she was in town. I ordered a custom made cake for her with her favorite flavors from our favorite local baker. I worked hard to make sure the house was looking it's best in between working full time and rasing two children. I picked fresh flowers from our garden and arranged them in a way I hoped that she would like.
It was a very cold feeling upon her arrival. Short answers and questions, small talk, but cold talk. At some point I mentioned that I had been feeling depressed (it was hard to shake what happened during the Christmas visit with them) and tried some meds that my dr Rx but I didn't tolerate them well, so stopped them.
At some point my mother got up from the table and went into my daughters room. She opened her closet door and it wasn't organized. She brought the outside garbage bin inside into her room and started to toss things out. At best I thought she was just trying to help. And at worse I thought she was just being crazy again. I asked my dad to have her stop because I didn't want the outside trash bin in my house. The trash bin was brought back outside with whatever she took upon herself to toss of ours.
We sang happy birthday to her, she stood there with folded arms. The kids ate the cake, she had none, and left without a goodbye; much less a thank you.
It wasn't until the next day that my husband went to look inside the trash bin and he discovered what she threw out was our keepsakes such as framed pictures of my daughters first ultrasound and our first family dog that passed away, school clothing, a game system, things that were not helpful or wanted to be thrown away.
Soon after they returned to their home state, I get an email from them that they think I need to be in a mental hospital. For some context, I am a successful licensed mental health social worker. If I needed inpatient hospitalization I'm sure I wouldn't be able to maintain my case load, obtain multiple performance based bonuses, and continuously score 100% on my quality audits. This suggestion was supposed to be a "dig" at me, but what it did was make me finally realize she's never going to change and I don't have to keep accepting her toxic abuse.
What I've come to realize is that my father does understand how fully crazy she is. She put him through multiple crazy scenarios - (accused him of cheating, got them kicked out of their neighborhood - just to name a few) He just chooses to side with that over keeping a relationship with his daughter or grandson (even though he insists on keeping one with his granddaughter)
I gave them the option to apologize and seek help prior to us engaging in a relationship further. They chose to take me off the will soon after and I haven't heard from her since.
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2024.05.21 15:06 ValyrianRizz Aelora Belaerys

Reddit Account: ValyrianRizz
Discord Tag: Indigo
Name and House: Aelora Belaerys
Age: 25
Cultural Group: Valyrian
Appearance: Of unmistakable Valyrian descent, Aelora’s ancestors left their mark in the cool, glacial tint of her eyes and tresses of silver-gold that spill past her shoulders like so much silk. Her fingers are slender and petal-veined, strong and quick and never wrong, whether curling about a bowstring, a quill, or the waist of a lover. If ever her velvet voice and striking appearance are not enough to command attention, no doubt it is the way she carries herself–like a member of the noble family to which she belongs. Though youthful in appearance, there is an aura about the young woman that suggests she is wise far beyond her years.
Trait: Agile
Skill(s): Bows (e), Ranger (e), Footwork
Talent(s): Poetry, Hunting x 2
Negative Trait(s): N/A
Starting Title(s): Scion of House Belaerys
Starting Location: Opening Event
Alternate Characters: The High Septon

Family Tree

House Belaerys of Aegon’s Rest

Biography (Timeline)

4 AC – Aelora is born to Baelor and Baela of House Belaerys on the island of Dragonstone.
7 AC – House Belaerys is gifted Aegon’s Rest by Queen Visenya and the family moves to the Riverlands.
9 AC – Studies under a septa in an attempt by her mother to expose her children to Westerosi culture. Aelora hates this and remains a staunch adherent of the gods of Old Valyria. She does, however, develop a fondness for western poetry.
12 AC – Lady Baela passes away, and her death greatly affects her daughter, who becomes increasingly rebellious. Takes up the bow to turn her anger into something productive.
16 AC – The rebellious attitude culminates in Aelora running away from home upon learning that her father intends to remarry. She is gone for almost a week before a handful of knights bring her home cold, hungry, and smudged in dirt, but nevertheless unharmed.
18 AC – Meets Renfry, a young woman from Oxcross who works as a traveling farrier. She is immediately intrigued by the idea of a woman doing such an inherently masculine job. Absolutely seethes with jealousy at the news her brother has tamed a dragon.
21 AC – Reunites with Renfry after a few years apart, who joins the household staff as a farrier, and Aelora’s self-proclaimed protector.
22 AC – Has become quite a proficient archer and spends a lot of time riding along the river with Renfry, shooting at small game. Aelora gifts her a proper set of armor for her nameday.
25 AC – Travels to King’s Landing along with the rest of her family to attend the birthday celebrations for the princes.
Name and House: Renfry of Oxcross
Age: 24
Cultural Group: Andal
Appearance: Tall for a woman, with starry eyes and rich brown hair always pulled out of her face. Faded scars on her lip, the arch of her cheek, and her brow.
Trait: Champion
Skill(s): Polearms (e), Andal Knight
Talent(s): Swimming, Climbing, Running
Negative Trait(s): N/A
Starting Title(s): Sworn Sword, And They Were Roommates
Starting Location: Opening Event
Alternate Characters: The High Septon

Family Tree

N/A

Biography (Timeline)

1 AC – Born the eldest of six girls to a farrier and his wife in the village of Oxcross.
5 AC – Rides her first horse.
11 AC – Begins to take an active part in the family business, traveling with her father to shoe horses. Attends a tourney while in Lannisport.
12 AC – Crafts a makeshift quintain and practices the tilt with a tree branch “lance” in her free time.
16 AC – Allowed to work on her own on small job for the first time.
18 AC – Meets Aelora Belaerys for the first time after picking up work at Aegon’s Rest.
19 AC – Enters a tournament as a mystery knight wearing bits of armor scavenged and salvaged from her many journeys.
21 AC – Reunites with Aelora and eventually joins the household staff.
22 AC – Receives a proper set of armor from Aelora as a nameday gift and enters several more tourneys.
25 AC – Accompanies House Belaerys to the festivities in the south.
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2024.05.21 15:01 SharkEva AITA for not giving my adopted daughter a stuffed animal for her high school graduation, when both of my biological children got one?

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/evastraea posting in AmItheAsshole
Concluded as per OOP
2 updates - Long
Original - 21st June 2022
Update1 - 27th June 2022
Comment from OOP - 27th June 2022

AITA for not giving my adopted daughter a stuffed animal for her high school graduation, when both of my biological children got one?

I [49f] have 3 children, [22f], [19m], and [18f]. My oldest are my biological children from a previous marriage, and my youngest I became a mother to at the age of 2 when I married her widowed father. She has only ever called me mom, and I officially adopted her at the age of 12.
Now on to the issue with the stuffed animals: years and years ago, when I was only 20 and in college, I worked at a children's museum. I adored the job and working with kids, and had the idea to buy stuffed animals from the gift shop to be my future-kids' first stuffed animals whenever they were born. I had gotten a stuffed bear at birth that was very special to me growing up, and on my 18th birthday my parents gifted me a duplicate they had bought way back when and kept for me all these years. I found this so special, and wanted to do something similar, so I bought 6 stuffed animals from the museum's gift shop; 3 to be given at birth, and 3 duplicates. I had no idea at the time how many kids I would have, but I knew I wasn't planning on having more than 3, so I didn't get any more.
My first daughter received the stuffed animal I selected for her while pregnant. Then, between her birth and the birth of my son, I miscarried. The experience was deeply traumatic for me, especially as I miscarried in my second trimester, and I buried my baby with the stuffed animal they would have gotten. I kept the duplicate to for comfort, to cuddle and hold.
Finally, my son was born and received the last of the stuffed animals I had set aside so many years ago. Now, here's where I may be the asshole. For both my daughter and son's high school graduations, I surprised them with the duplicates, for them to take to college with them and compare against the stuffies they've been loving on their whole lives. Both were very moved by this, and took both (original and duplicate) to school with them.
My youngest, however, never received a stuffed animal, and so when her graduation celebration rolled along I had no duplicate to gift her. I watched her unpack all her gifts, and her face fall when she got to the last one and realized. She didn't really say anything, just got this super sad look on her face, and excused herself to her room. I followed to ask what was wrong, but she said she didn't want to talk to me, so her father went in instead.
According to him she cried to him that she didn't feel as loved by me as her siblings, and as much a part of the family - the unwrapping of her siblings' stuffed animals were very emotional events, and she had had the expectation she'd be getting the same. In hindsight I could have easily done something similar for her whenever I first came into her life, even if it wouldn't have been from the museum, but I just didn't think of it. She has been cold to me this entire last week, and I feel so terrible, I've offered to take her out to a special dinner the two of us to make amends but she turned me down. AITA?
Edit: the votes are in, and I am definitively TA. Many of you are suggesting that I get her a stuffie that reminds me of her, or maybe to get her two so she can continue the tradition with her future kids. But I think what I will do is gift her the duplicate my parents gifted me of my special plush bear I received at birth, which is one of my most treasured possessions, and deeply meaningful to me. Thank you all for the advice, it is genuinely appreciated.

Comments

Mrs-Addams
YTA. Nothing quite says “you’re not like my other kids” like leaving her out of a family tradition when her turn came. I’m sorry about the loss of your baby and understand why you kept that stuffed animal for your own, however, the tradition could have started with her when she joined your family at age 2, or when you formally adopted her.

SmartassMouth89
YTA your kids grew up together and for years you never once thought to go and buy two stuffed animals for your adoptive daughter?

QueenKeisha
Right? In 16 years, and after giving 2 other bears away, she didn’t once think, hey what about youngest?

SmartassMouth89
Right? She liked the daughters dad enough to marry him but didn’t think that it would be a good idea to give the two year old a stuffie at the wedding?

Update - 6 days later

Long story short: my daughter found my reddit post, and came to me in tears apologizing for her reaction. This was NOT my expectation, and I assured her she had nothing to apologize for, as I had been in the wrong. We had a long discussion about the situation, our feelings, and how to move forward from this, and although I know she is still hurt we are on our way to making amends.
Long story long: so what even happened? As I've now discovered, my daughter loves browsing AITA. She stumbled on my post, and after reading it in it's entirety, as well as a good chunk of the comments (all of mine, and many left by other redditors) she came to me in tears apologizing for her reaction.
She sobbed in my arms that she didn't want this to be the end of our relationship, and that she was sorry, and wanted to enjoy this last summer together. I held her and assured her she had nothing to apologize for, and apologized myself (I did shed a little tear, but tried to keep my emotions in check as I did not want the burden of comforting me to be on her).
What followed was a productive but incredibly emotionally vulnerable conversation, the details of which I will not disclose entirely. She has been going through a rough time, and my impression (I could be wrong) is that the lack of a stuffie at graduation was a catalyst for bigger emotions. She did take me up on my offer to take her to dinner, and I've now booked a reservation at a nice restaurant she has been wanting to go to for a while.
And last night we cooked her favorite dinner together, which gave us an opportunity to smooth things over somewhat. We have not yet broached the subject of me intending to gift her my own plush, except for very briefly (she insisted I didn't have to, and seemed to feel a lot of guilt), but I still plan to. I just feel it would be best to wait until things have cooled down.
And if she truly doesn't feel comfortable taking it, I plan on getting a bear of a similar look to be its "little brother" for her to take care of. That's the update, obviously things have not magically mended overnight, but we are finally on-track to a resolution. Many thanks to all that left advice, and please check the comments below for clarification on many questions asked before passing any judgements (I far exceeded the allowed word limit, and have instead pasted much of what I intended to say here below).

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aroundincircles
Read your first post and this one, and I feel it from both sides. My wife and I recently adopted a bio niece (13 yo this week) and she welcomes us as dad and mom, but we've run into a number of times where the kids will pull out something from a trip we went on, or an activity we did, etc years before she was ever in our lives, and she'll go "why don't you have one of those for me"? It's really hard, some of these things are simply impossible for us to get, and/or would cost us thousands of dollars (when We already spent 30+k on custody/adoption lawyers and court fees).
She also didn't even bring anything with her when we picked her up, she wasn't even allowed to bring a change of underwear. It's been something that we've had to deal with in counselling that her life with us didn't start till she was almost 12, and we have to begin fresh from there, we cannot turn back the clock and give her back an entire childhood she missed. Like when we went camping for the first time with her, and we were getting things out to visually see what we needed to get from the store and we pulled out the kid's sleeping bags, and she was like "where is mine", and the fact that we didn't already have one hurt her.

Glum_Hamster_1076
And that doesn’t make you an ahole. I hope no one will call you one. Situations change and you’re not always able to “make up for it”. OP didn’t do this to hurt her daughter and it’s weird people are painting it that way. I hope things are going well with you all in therapy and your family is making great strides together.

Comment from OOP

When I initially posted to AITA, I was prepared to face judgment, and open to constructive criticism. However, while I did receive many constructive comments, which I truly appreciate, I received many more that were hateful and unconstructive, and I will admit, I did get defensive. But the attitude I took on in the comments is not one I brought into my interactions with my daughter; please understand that I did not throw in her face all the kind things I feel I've done for her over the years, but was rather attempting to contextualize our relationship for strangers who've never met us.
And before passing any further judgment in the comments, please check below for answers to a lot of the questions asked in the original thread. To answer a few questions: why did I not adopt her until 10 years after I came into her life? Because I never sought to force myself on her as her mother, and waited until she could give me explicit consent to adopt her. Why did I never buy her any stuffed animals? I did. I bought her many when I first met her, as well as one for her official adoption day, and every adoption day celebration since.
And I did technically gift her a stuffed animal for her graduation, too, it was just a plush of her college's mascot rather than a duplicate of a treasured plush from her childhood. So why did I not buy her a duplicate at any point over the last 16 years? I did not think to until my oldest graduated and received hers, by which point I (mistakenly) felt the significance would be lost. Both my bio kids received stuffies saved for them for decades, whereas she would have received one saved for only four years. Instead I tried to honor her in other ways, such as (as I described in the comments) crafting her a cookbook of generational family recipes that I illustrated by hand, because she is her own individual.
Truthfully, while I understand the sentiments expressed in the comments, I don't believe recognizing differences is inherently a bad thing. The duplicate stuffies my bio kids received were duplicates of the very first stuffies to ever be in their crib with them. Their receival of them was a birth event, and I did not give birth to my youngest. But that does not mean I love her any less, or that she is any less my daughter.
We have established our own traditions honoring her entry into my life, such as our celebration of her adoption day, and while I realize I could have handled the stuffie situation better, I do believe it was an honest mistake. But how could I not include her in a treasured family tradition, knowing how important it is (especially as an adopted child) to feel a part of the family? Because I truly did not realize this one specific tradition meant as much to her as it did.
I have strived to include her in as many family traditions as possible throughout the years. As I mentioned in the comments, she speaks German because I taught and spoke it to her growing up, even though her father does not. We celebrate German traditions, such as baking countless batches of German Christmas cookies together every year (just the two of us, neither of her siblings have any interest in baking), which is something I grew up doing with my mom, and every year it is quality time I deeply treasure.
For her 16th birthday I gifted her the locket my mother gifted me on my 16th, which she'd been gifted by my grandmother before me - this actually upset my eldest daughter, who had not received such a hand-me-down, and this is just to name a few. So given the fact that she has on occasion received and taken part in traditions my other kids have been excluded from, I did not think the stuffie would carry as much weight as it ultimately did. But isn't her reaction an indication that there are larger issues at play, and that she has likely felt this way for a while? Perhaps.
I am not a perfect adoptive mother, and have never claimed to be. And I can not see inside her brain, so I cannot know her true feelings. But my sense - and I may be wrong! - is that the larger issues at play relate back to her bio mom, which is something she expressed to me in our conversation. I did not disclose this in my original post, because I did not believe it to be relevant, and it is also a painful topic within our family, but her bio mom committed suicide whilst in the thick of post-partum depression. This has obviously impacted my daughter, who has been in and out of therapy for years grappling with feelings of loss, and guilt.
She is highly sensitive to feeling isolated within our family unit, which is something I should have taken into account in this situation, and I own that. I realize this is a huge hunk of text, but given the visceral reaction many had, I felt it was important to cover my bases. Come to whatever conclusions you all like, I will likely not be checking the comments for my own mental health, and the wellbeing of my family. To all who left genuine advice, even if that meant calling me an asshole, I truly do appreciate you. And to all who said hateful things, especially in regard to the loss of my baby, please consider the impact your words may have moving forward

Comments

Rice-Correct
You’re a good mom. It might’ve been a mistake not to gift her the plush, and it might, as you said, just have been indicative of some larger big emotions going on, as graduating is a HUGE milestone and going to college is an enormous life change that is very rewarding and exciting, but also stressful. But it sounds like you’ve been amazing about creating beautiful memories and experiences together! I think at some point, the plush will be a distant memory. From your post, it seems pretty clear you DO have a good relationship, and you’re a caring, empathetic parent. ENJOY your summer together, Mama!

sharraleigh
Don't take the hateful comments personally; it's easy to be cruel online to a faceless stranger. Also, your original post didn't include all this info (it would've been impossible to anyway), and therefore lacked a lot of the back story and nuance that frankly, a real person's life experience encompasses. Your daughter probably saw your post and realized how her reaction hurt your feelings and read the hateful comments and felt bad for you. It sounds like you have a great relationship and you're lucky to have each other in your lives!

I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
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2024.05.21 14:53 NoFudge5924 The latest "shocking" MILESTONES' video was a complete flop. The # of views is the worst yet since the relaunch of their YouTube content.Their context is corny, cringe & nothing new. It's regurgitation of their Instagram posts that are repeated ad nauseam. What'll next Monday's shocking content be?

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2024.05.21 14:49 mf04231999 ABYG na umiiwas and sobrang minimal lang ng interactions ko sa tatay ko

Hiwalay mama ko and papa ko and hindi rin naman sila nagpakasal. Gusto talaga ng papa ko mapakasalan yung 1st gf nya and yun din yung una nyang panganay kaso galing sa political family yung girl and they don't want him for their daughter. Second panganay nya, sa ex-gf ng tito ko. Ayaw naman ng pamilya ng tatay ko dun sa girl kasi nga ex na ng tito ko tapos yung tatay ko naman yung sinunod. Nagkaron pa sila ng ilang anak after. Pangatlong panganay nya yung ate ko, dapat magpapakasal sila ng mama ko kaso hindi nakakuha yung tatay ko ng certificate of no marriage (CeNoMar) kasi pineke pala nung pangalawang girl yung signature ng tatay ko and ng lola ko as witness, so in papers, sila yung kasal, hindi ko lang alam if valid talaga. Hinayaan na rin ng pamilya ng tatay ko kasi may anak rin naman daw dun. Wala rin naman pake mama ko kasi ayaw rin ng family nya sa papa ko, coming from a family of lawyers sila mama, and my maternal grandmother threatened her na hindi na susuportahan if magpakasal sila.
As mentioned and halata naman sa story, hindi ganun kasuccessful yung pinanggalingang family ng papa ko. Nagkkwento yung paternal grandmother ko na galit sya dun sa 2nd girl kasi parang tae lang nila tinapon papa ko (her words) nung nawalan ng work. Years after, nakapag abroad yung papa ko and saka lang sila nag paramdam ulit. Sumugod pa yung girl and her mom sa bahay ng lola ko para pilitin sya magbigay ng sustento. Sa mama ko pinapadala yung pera pero si papa nagddictate magkano ibibigay dun sa isang pamilya nya. Tanda ko pa nun nagrrange sa 15-25k per month dun sa isa nyang pamilya kasi nga nagaaral mga anak tapos samin malaki na yung 10k/month e nag aaral din naman kaming magkakapatid. Buti na lang academic scholar kami hanggang college.
Now, matatanda na kami, naghiwalay na rin parents ko nung grade 4 ako, i stayed with my mom until HS tapos sa papa ko naman nung college kasi mas malapit sa university na pinasukan ko.
Year 2021, they found out na may loan yung papa ko sa sss na hindi nabayaran, coincidentally same year and month na pinanganak yung isa nyang anak dun sa pangalawa. Lumobo na yung interests and penalty, it reached near 100k. Kinausap ng tito at tita ko kaming magkakapatid sa pangatlo kung mababayaran daw ba namin yung loan ng papa ko sa sss tapps moving forward, bigyan yung papa ko ng pera pangbayad sa sss contribution para may pension. Pumayag naman kami dun, pero nainis na yung kuya ko kasi bakit kami lang eh ang dami naman anak nyan? Kung tutuusin yun yung binuhay nya, hindi kami? Hindi rin naman na naghihirap yung mga anak nya sa pangalawa.
Pag birthdays pa ng mga anak nya sa pangalawa nageedit pa sya ng pictures to post with long message and shits, tapos kami message lang. Ito rin reason bakit nagttravel na lang kaming magkakapatid out of country pag bdays namin.
Recently, naging sakitin na papa ko, may tatlo syang HMO card galing saming magkakapatid sa pangatlo, and take note na never sya nagkaron and naging beneficiary ng mga anak nya sa pangalawa. Kinausap na naman kami na ipacheck up and ipahospital if necessary, tapos excluded na naman sa responsibility yung mga anak sa pangalawa.
Umiiwas na ako sa kanya kasi everytime i see him, sumasama lang loob ko, and siguro may inggit din. In a normal family siguro, ang disrespectful ko tignan sa pag iwas pero naiisip ko lang naman bakit during his ups, yung pamilya nya sa pangalawa yung nakikinabang, pero pag sufferings and downs, kami na yung sasalo? Ako ba yung gago?
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2024.05.21 14:42 AdBrilliant7972 Birthday

She’s on live right now asking for 20.00 for work then trying to make people feel bad that she gotta pay for Ellie’s whole birthday party. Girl… it’s called adulting, being a parent. Like we all gotta pay stuff nothing is given…. And you enablers that are sending her money, you stupid a’f. She gotta grow up.
You wanna send money, I’ll drop my CA. 😂 My daughter birthday 05/29 and I will gladly have y’all pay for the party! Lmk if you wanna contribute!😂
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2024.05.21 14:04 ThrowRA-throwmeout How do I (24F) tell my bf (35M) that I cheated on him?

I F24 messed up everything. I’ve been with my partner M35 for almost 3 years. I know the age difference is big, but in his defence I lied about my age on the dating app so that I could meet older men. He knew from the first date and decided to still give it a try. Anyways, we’ve always been perfect. Never a single argument, we always resolve everything. He’s bought a new flat and is waiting for the keys, which should’ve happened weeks ago but solicitors are awful. For the last 2-3 months we’ve been living at my mums house as he had to move out quickly of his old flat due to a crazy roommate and my mum was more than happy to have him here. This is where the issues started. My mum is very dependant on me emotionally, more than what is healthy, so is my younger sister. I’ve been struggling to be a daughter and a girlfriend. I’ve been feeling suffocated etc, whatever.
Anyways, thoughts started running through my mind about the relationship and doubts, I’ve never moved in with a man before, what if it all becomes a shit show? We usually have sex everyday but that’s been difficult at my mums. We always reconnect with each other through sex and without it, we’ve been tense. So to the cheating- he went on a business trip for 2 weeks. I meet up with friends on a weekly basis for an activity. I’d like to say my partner and I are very flirty with everyone, it’s just how we are together and separately. My friends know this and we always have a little flirt. It’s 2 girls and 1 guy. When we travel for dinner after our activity, the two girls go together as they’re closer and I go with the guy, someone I’ve known since I was 5. We were always flirty as kids and teens but were never close or anything. Anyways, in the car he kisses me and after a while I kiss back. I really enjoyed it, we were flirty all night. I knew it was wrong but it felt so good to have something new and exciting. I didn’t want him, I knew he wouldn’t be as good as my partner or anywhere near as fun, but for some reason I loved it. For the rest of the week I was excited about it. I don’t know why, I’m young and dumb and then it hit me how bad it all was. It wasn’t just a kiss, it was quite passionate, there was grabbing and touching and afterwards flirty messages that I’ve had to delete out of disgust and guilt.
The guilt is eating me alive. I know I need to tell him but I don’t know how. It’s his birthday in 2 days, we have a huge party on the weekend. Regardless of that, how do I tell him while he’s still living at my mums? What if he wants to go somewhere else, where will he go? I don’t know how he’ll react. He loves me so much. I love him so much, but clearly I lack respect. I can’t even use the drunk excuse as I was sober when I was texting the days after. Do I wait until he gets the new flat so he can make the decision to leave and have his own space? He’s my best friend, my confidant, my comedian, my sexy man, my home, and i fucked it all for what? A passionate kiss to make me forget my living situation?
This is no excuse, but it has been hard at home. My mum goes through a lot, I am basically a second parent to my sister who is now experimenting with drugs, things aren’t easy and I always went to my boyfriends as an escape at times. I think I went crazy without that escape and made a stupid mistake. The worst part is that I enjoyed the thrill when it happened. I’m so angry at myself. I still get butterflies for my boyfriend, I’ve been thrilled enough. Now I can’t believe I’ve done something to hurt him. I feel it’s best to not tell him and move on but at the same time it’s eating me alive and he needs to know so he can decide what to do. He’s said in the past he’d forgive me for cheating (it was a weird topic we were on) but I can’t hold him to that. I have to tell him, but when? How? If he does forgive me, how do I forgive myself? I can’t imagine him looking at me differently. I’ve been acting weird for weeks because I feel I don’t deserve him, and I don’t. He makes these grand gestures of his love, he genuinely loves me so so much and I’m about to ruin it all.. I can’t sleep, I can’t eat, I’m descending into madness, all deserved, but I want it to stop. Please help me
TLDR- I doubted my relationship with my partner of almost 3 years and kissed an old friend, it’s eating me alive. Don’t know how to tell my bf as we are both currently living in my mother’s house until he gets his flat keys.
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2024.05.21 13:50 Deep-Big2798 couples: how do you balance being present and there for your partner, and maintain your boundaries with their family?

i (25 f) have been dating my gf (22 f) for almost a year now. we live together and things have been great.
she has a very close knit family. she’s extremely close to her twin and her parents. because of that, we have a lot of family time. i have a good time most of the time, but specifically her mom rubs me the wrong way sometimes. it’s become hard to attend family gatherings as they are almost every weekend and i feel like i don’t have time to recharge after being around her.
for example, we went to a dinner last weekend. they are hispanic and i am not, so i only know a bit of spanish. she made a whole scene pointing out how i don’t know the language and laughed about me to the waitress, right in front of me. i understood enough to know she was being mean. she then tried to not tip the waitress and told me to just pay the whole bill when i offered some cash to tip. she ended up paying it but she wasn’t happy that i immediately agreed and offered to pay.
the weekend before, she took her daughters to get their nails done and offered to bring me. i thanked her and said i already got mine done with my mom for a mother’s day gift. she cut me off and said “you’re white you have money.” i mean…i’m a teacher so i can pay my bills but i genuinely had to budget for these nails.
she’s constantly commenting on what i wear, expecting me to wear far more revealing things than i’m comfortable with. she made me change for a party once and i was crying in the bathroom. constantly threatening to take my gf away if we don’t include her “other baby.” (they’re 22). constantly twisting the truth to make her a victim (pretending like we didn’t ask her if she wanted food at a restaurant we stopped at for example).
my gf knows i feel this way and will stand up for me in the moment but nothing changes. we have to see her mom again this weekend and she says i don’t need to come with, but it’s celebrating her dads birthday and i want to be present.
if you don’t like your in laws, how do you balance being present for your partner and protecting your mental health?
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2024.05.21 13:42 throw_away_and-hide How do I tell my boyfriend I cheated on him?

I F24 messed up everything. I’ve been with my partner M35 for almost 3 years. I know the age difference is big, but in his defence I lied about my age on the dating app so that I could meet older men. He knew from the first date and decided to still give it a try. Anyways, we’ve always been perfect. Never a single argument, we always resolve everything. He’s bought a new flat and is waiting for the keys, which should’ve happened weeks ago but solicitors are awful. For the last 2-3 months we’ve been living at my mums house as he had to move out quickly of his old flat due to a crazy roommate and my mum was more than happy to have him here. This is where the issues started. My mum is very dependant on me emotionally, more than what is healthy, so is my younger sister. I’ve been struggling to be a daughter and a girlfriend. I’ve been feeling suffocated etc, whatever.
Anyways, thoughts started running through my mind about the relationship and doubts, I’ve never moved in with a man before, what if it all becomes a shit show? We usually have sex everyday but that’s been difficult at my mums. We always reconnect with each other through sex and without it, we’ve been tense. So to the cheating- he went on a business trip for 2 weeks. I meet up with friends on a weekly basis for an activity. I’d like to say my partner and I are very flirty with everyone, it’s just how we are together and separately. My friends know this and we always have a little flirt. It’s 2 girls and 1 guy. When we travel for dinner after our activity, the two girls go together as they’re closer and I go with the guy, someone I’ve known since I was 5. We were always flirty as kids and teens but were never close or anything. Anyways, in the car he kisses me and after a while I kiss back. I really enjoyed it, we were flirty all night. I knew it was wrong but it felt so good to have something new and exciting. I didn’t want him, I knew he wouldn’t be as good as my partner or anywhere near as fun, but for some reason I loved it. For the rest of the week I was excited about it. I don’t know why, I’m young and dumb and then it hit me how bad it all was. It wasn’t just a kiss, it was quite passionate, there was grabbing and touching and afterwards flirty messages that I’ve had to delete out of disgust and guilt.
The guilt is eating me alive. I know I need to tell him but I don’t know how. It’s his birthday in 2 days, we have a huge party on the weekend. Regardless of that, how do I tell him while he’s still living at my mums? What if he wants to go somewhere else, where will he go? I don’t know how he’ll react. He loves me so much. I love him so much, but clearly I lack respect. I can’t even use the drunk excuse as I was sober when I was texting the days after. Do I wait until he gets the new flat so he can make the decision to leave and have his own space? He’s my best friend, my confidant, my comedian, my sexy man, my home, and i fucked it all for what? A passionate kiss to make me forget my living situation?
This is no excuse, but it has been hard at home. My mum goes through a lot, I am basically a second parent to my sister who is now experimenting with drugs, things aren’t easy and I always went to my boyfriends as an escape at times. I think I went crazy without that escape and made a stupid mistake. The worst part is that I enjoyed the thrill when it happened. I’m so angry at myself. I still get butterflies for my boyfriend, I’ve been thrilled enough. Now I can’t believe I’ve done something to hurt him. I feel it’s best to not tell him and move on but at the same time it’s eating me alive and he needs to know so he can decide what to do. He’s said in the past he’d forgive me for cheating (it was a weird topic we were on) but I can’t hold him to that. I have to tell him, but when? How? If he does forgive me, how do I forgive myself? I can’t imagine him looking at me differently. I’ve been acting weird for weeks because I feel I don’t deserve him, and I don’t. He makes these grand gestures of his love, he genuinely loves me so so much and I’m about to ruin it all.. I can’t sleep, I can’t eat, I’m descending into madness, all deserved, but I want it to stop. Please help me
TLDR- I doubted my relationship with my partner of almost 3 years and kissed an old friend, it’s eating me alive. Don’t know how to tell my bf as we are both currently living in my mother’s house until he gets his flat keys.
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2024.05.21 12:44 LordAddzy Raising money for my disabled veteran Grandfathers car restoration.

Hello, I'm currently in the process of restoring my Grandfathers Falcon Ute as a present for his upcoming birthday. Little backstory: My Grandfathers name is Jacko and he served in the Army and fought in the Vietnam war, he is currently a TPI (Totally and Permanently Incapacitated) disabled veteran. He purchased this ute new in 2005 and it has been his pride and joy ever since, unfortunately however, over the last few years due to his poor health it has seen better days, I have spent many months fixing the engine and replacing parts with the intention of surprising him at Christmas with it looking just as it did when he first got it. It is now running like a dream and all that is left is some rust removal and a respray which I have been quoted $7000, if you'd like to help fund this final step I know he'd be ecstatic to see it restored. I'll also be getting a certificate made up with the names of all those who donate to towards the restoration, and be making a video of the reveal to him.
Thank you in advance for your support.
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2024.05.21 12:42 Sad-Travel-2180 WIBTA for not reorganising my kid’s birthday so someone with a service dog can attend?

My daughter’s birthday is coming up and for it all she wants to do is go to our local animal Wildlife park. She’s inviting a couple of friends and our local(ish) family is coming + I’ve booked an encounter with her favourite animal. My partner (her dad) has never done much regarding planning birthdays, I just keep him informed of what’s going on.
He mentioned today his aunt had booked plane tickets to come down for the time period and will be able to make the birthday. Normally great but his aunt requires a service dog and this specific wildlife park does not allow them in. She’s (understandably) not able to be separated from it.
My partner (and now his parents) think we (I) should reorganise the day because his aunt would be offended we’re doing something she can’t come to. I think we should keep the plans as they are but we can also do stuff with his aunt the day before/after and so breakfast and dinner on her actual birthday. WIBTA for this?
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2024.05.21 12:22 sschuman_2017 Sending child to kindergarten who didn’t make district cut off date

This is my first Reddit post. We Are in Indiana as well as it seems requirements differ so much from state to state from my research on this. My daughter has an early September birthday so although the district cut off is “August 1” we have a state cut off for “Oct 1” you are able to petition for early entrance. She has done preschool for a year and her preschool teacher did an assessment that indicates she is ready. I spoke with the district principal and he said it’s such a personal choice he can’t recommend one way or another. He also did an assessment. But we will not know those results until June 1. From my understanding these assessments are just identifying letters, shapes, colors which my child is able to do. My son is in kindergarten this year so I am well aware kindergarten is much more than this now. They learn to read,write, tell time. Honestly my mind has been blown every week with what they learn. My child wants to go to kindergarten but I guess I am worried about sending her early. I just don’t want her whole academic career to have me thinking “what if” we waited. My husband wants to do whatever the assessment indicates. I am just torn. I know so much is required of kids and I don’t want to ruin school for her for 13 years as far as making friends or feeling “too young” she is mature and plays well now with kids in her preschool that will be entering kindergarten but I know that can change. I am just trying to forecast to make sure I am not doing her a disservice by trying to start early. I have done my own research but just looking for other opinions.
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