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Back in March 2024, I lost my job unexpectedly. I had money saved and am was ok with rent.
Live in Portland, ME
I even found a job and was hired pretty quickly. The background check has taken longer than expected. And I've now had no income for 2 months
I've been selling some personal items, but it only takes me so far. I even started a gofundme, but unsure if it's ok to post the link
I also got approved for food stamps, so that helps with food But I still have bills I need to pay
I'm asking for a little help in catching up with bills until i officially start working , which is hopefully soon
making sure I can pay for my wedding at the end of june
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Thank you for looking

My husband is currently experiencing fairly severe zoloft withdrawal symptoms, and I'd love to hear your suggestions for how to best support him.
For some background, he started taking zoloft about two and a half years ago to help with his anxiety and depression. He has dealt with anxiety (without depression) for almost a decade. He started at 25mg, then up to 50, then 100mg. After he'd been taking it for a year, we met, fell in love, got pregnant, got married, then lost the baby, all in about 7 months. As a bit of an aside, after the baby, I was taking zoloft for about a month, but stopped (cold turkey) after a series of unbearable nightmares.
He started tapering down about 2.5 months ago under the direction of his doctor. He went from 100 down to 50 for three weeks, then 25 for three weeks, then 25 every other day for three weeks, now he's off. I think he stopped completely about a week ago.
For the last several days, he has been experiencing severe mood swings (mostly swinging between okay/happy to incredibly sad and crying), chills, loss of appetite, nausea, vomiting (as well as what you could call retching or dry-heaving), and a return of his anxiety (worse than it's ever been according to him).
He has messaged his doctor, and we are waiting to hear what she says. I feel like she dropped the ball a bit because she originally said she was going to prescribe him something else to help transition off, but that didn't end up happening.
Please let me know how I can help him. Right now, I am just trying to reassure him that he is okay, that I'm here, not going anywhere, etc. We went to Kaiser urgent care yesterday, and they ran all kinds of tests that came back normal, so I've been reassuring him with that information as well. He can be a bit of a hypochondriac, so he's been taking his temperature and checking his oxygen levels a bunch. I want nothing more than for him to be happy and well, and I will do anything to help him, so please help me do that.

After saving the Kingdom of Alba from the undead army, our adventuring company is invited to meet with the Kaiser of the Holy Hessian Empire to congratulate them as well as closing accounts of several groups who assisted them.
A brief synapses of what's going on. Now comes the long read so crack open a cold one.
Free. No need to worry about playing.
Like the title suggests, I’m looking for six players for my homebrew campaigns. I will be running this story using D&D 3.5. That means I’m not using 5E. It should be obvious but I tend to have one or two prospects say they made a character and they used D&D Beyond. D&D 3.5 is older but it’s what I really got into when I started table top gaming and it’s still my bread and butter.
Since I said Online, I will be using Discord for VC and Roll20 for combat.
Starting Level is 5 and wealth is 4,500 GP for equipment.
The day we will be playing is Sundays and the times will be from 12pm to 4pm. The time zone for that is EST or UTC-4 for those across the pond. Also the times are sent in stone so if you’re interested but the day and time isn’t good for you, I’m afraid the times won’t change for you.
This is a Heavy RP Campaign so I expect quite a bit of talking and interactions with the world. I am planning at least one combat per session unless there’s a point in the plot that requires more. If you’re shy or you’re a person who just like listening to and not contributing, you might not have as much fun as the others.
Long Term means this won’t end in a few months. I plan to have everyone starting and level one and end at level 20. I don’t use milestones so experience point will be awarded by combat, finishing quests and tasks, or if I find the roleplaying during the session incredible.
The 18+. Besides the descriptions I will use for scenes, I also use images for descriptions. The world can be cruel at times and you can see and witness that during certain interactions. As a way to help explain how dark the world can be, for those Anime/Manga lovers think Goblin Slayer or Berserk. For TV show lovers, think Game of Thrones. I’m not saying that my world is dark and bleak, but scenes can be. If what you wanted is a light hearted game where good triumphs over evil, this isn’t for you.
Six players. Most of the time you have 4 but I prefer six. Typical parties have a Fighter, Rogue, Wizard, and Cleric. With six you have more additional classes to a 2nd to assist. Also this help with continual weekly session. If one or two people are unable to attend then sessions can still continue. I always found that a drag when not enough people show up and sessions had to be cancelled. That being said, I also am looking for players who can be consistent. If you can play every other week due to prior commitments then I don’t think that will work for me. Real life happens. I know all too well that. If you can’t make it please just let me know before hand or if you cannot before the next session. I’m sure everyone will become good friends and we just want to make sure you’re ok.
Now on to more of the campaign. For this, the only race you can be is human. Why you might ask? I enjoy the versatility as well as like I said, most of my campaigns are build towards humanoids. Where are the elves, dwarves, and Halflings? They did exist but long since extinct. Now they are human dwarves but that’s a different story. My other reasoning why is there were too many monstrous humanoids in 5E and it didn’t make sense going into a tavern with a Minotaur and Centaur in the party and no one bats an eye or has the exact specifications for furniture or accommodations. Just play Human. I assure you, you’re still going to have fun with all the combination of classes and prestige classes to choose from.
Since I kind of went into a bit of character creation I’ll explain a bit more of that. More will be told if you’re accepted. We’re going by Gestalt rules. What’s that? It’s merging two classes into one. Helps a lot if you want to be a fighter and rogue but don’t want to split levels into then. You can take the highest Base Attack Bonus, Hit Dice, Saves, and Skill points. Lots of good combinations and choices. Every has full hit points so no need to roll for HP when leveling. Lastly the combination of skills together from the classes count as class skills and not cross class for the purpose of skill points. Character wealth is based on level. One last time to note that based upon the nationality of the character, an additional feat is given but skills automatically trained on.
Since this is D&D 3.5, you don’t have to have any experience in order to join. Veterans are welcome as well but I have made some modifications so if a new player to the rules have questions, let me answer them for or if there is no change I will defer them to you. It can be a bit more complicated than 5E but after a few sessions in, you’re get the hand of it. If you played PF1e then you got a basic understating.
The last thing I would like to know is that we’re here to play a game and escape the real world for a few hours a day. I kindly ask all of you who are interested to keep certain discussions to yourself or DM each other and not on the server. If you want to meme that’s fine but bring up political beliefs and religion, it’s better to just have private conversations.

After saving the Kingdom of Alba from the undead army, our adventuring company is invited to meet with the Kaiser of the Holy Hessian Empire to congratulate them as well as closing accounts of several groups who assisted them.
A brief synapses of what's going on. Now comes the long read so crack open a cold one.
Free. No need to worry about playing.
Like the title suggests, I’m looking for six players for my homebrew campaigns. I will be running this story using D&D 3.5. That means I’m not using 5E. It should be obvious but I tend to have one or two prospects say they made a character and they used D&D Beyond. D&D 3.5 is older but it’s what I really got into when I started table top gaming and it’s still my bread and butter.
I will be using Discord for VC.
The day we will be playing is Sundays and the times will be from 12pm to 4pm. The time zone for that is EST or UTC-5 for those across the pond. Also the times are sent in stone so if you’re interested but the day and time isn’t good for you, I’m afraid the times won’t change for you.
This is a Heavy RP Campaign so I expect quite a bit of talking and interactions with the world. I am planning at least one combat per session unless there’s a point in the plot that requires more. If you’re shy or you’re a person who just like listening to and not contributing, you might not have as much fun as the others.
Long Term means this won’t end in a few months. I plan to have everyone starting and level one and end at level 20. I don’t use milestones so experience point will be awarded by combat, finishing quests and tasks, or if I find the roleplaying during the session incredible.
The 18+. Besides the descriptions I will use for scenes, I also use images for descriptions. The world can be cruel at times and you can see and witness that during certain interactions. As a way to help explain how dark the world can be, for those Anime/Manga lovers think Goblin Slayer or Berserk. For TV show lovers, think Game of Thrones. I’m not saying that my world is dark and bleak, but scenes can be. If what you wanted is a light hearted game where good triumphs over evil, this isn’t for you.
Six players. Most of the time you have 4 but I prefer six. Typical parties have a Fighter, Rogue, Wizard, and Cleric. With six you have more additional classes to a 2nd to assist. Also this help with continual weekly session. If one or two people are unable to attend then sessions can still continue. I always found that a drag when not enough people show up and sessions had to be cancelled. That being said, I also am looking for players who can be consistent. If you can play every other week due to prior commitments then I don’t think that will work for me. Real life happens. I know all too well that. If you can’t make it please just let me know before hand or if you cannot before the next session. I’m sure everyone will become good friends and we just want to make sure you’re ok.
Now on to more of the campaign. For this, the only race you can be is human. Why you might ask? I enjoy the versatility as well as like I said, most of my campaigns are build towards humanoids. Where are the elves, dwarves, and Halflings? They did exist but long since extinct. Now they are human dwarves but that’s a different story. My other reasoning why is there were too many monstrous humanoids in 5E and it didn’t make sense going into a tavern with a Minotaur and Centaur in the party and no one bats an eye or has the exact specifications for furniture or accommodations. Just play Human. I assure you, you’re still going to have fun with all the combination of classes and prestige classes to choose from.
Since I kind of went into a bit of character creation I’ll explain a bit more of that. More will be told if you’re accepted. We’re going by Gestalt rules. What’s that? It’s merging two classes into one. Helps a lot if you want to be a fighter and rogue but don’t want to split levels into then. You can take the highest Base Attack Bonus, Hit Dice, Saves, and Skill points. Lots of good combinations and choices. Every has full hit points so no need to roll for HP when leveling. Lastly the combination of skills together from the classes count as class skills and not cross class for the purpose of skill points. Character wealth is based on level. One last time to note that based upon the nationality of the character, an additional feat is given but skills automatically trained on.
Since this is D&D 3.5, you don’t have to have any experience in order to join. Veterans are welcome as well but I have made some modifications so if a new player to the rules have questions, let me answer them for or if there is no change I will defer them to you. It can be a bit more complicated than 5E but after a few sessions in, you’re get the hand of it. If you played PF1e then you got a basic understating.
The last thing I would like to know is that we’re here to play a game and escape the real world for a few hours a day. I kindly ask all of you who are interested to keep certain discussions to yourself or DM each other and not on the server. If you want to meme that’s fine but bring up political beliefs and religion, it’s better to just have private conversations.

After saving the Kingdom of Alba from the undead army, our adventuring company is invited to meet with the Kaiser of the Holy Hessian Empire to congratulate them as well as closing accounts of several groups who assisted them.
A brief synapses of what's going on. Now comes the long read so crack open a cold one.
Free. No need to worry about playing.
Like the title suggests, I’m looking for six players for my homebrew campaigns. I will be running this story using D&D 3.5. That means I’m not using 5E. It should be obvious but I tend to have one or two prospects say they made a character and they used D&D Beyond. D&D 3.5 is older but it’s what I really got into when I started table top gaming and it’s still my bread and butter.
Since I said Online, I will be using Discord for VC and Roll20 for combat.
Starting Level is 5 and wealth is 4,500 GP for equipment.
The day we will be playing is Sundays and the times will be from 12pm to 4pm. The time zone for that is EST or UTC-5 for those across the pond. Also the times are sent in stone so if you’re interested but the day and time isn’t good for you, I’m afraid the times won’t change for you.
This is a Heavy RP Campaign so I expect quite a bit of talking and interactions with the world. I am planning at least one combat per session unless there’s a point in the plot that requires more. If you’re shy or you’re a person who just like listening to and not contributing, you might not have as much fun as the others.
Long Term means this won’t end in a few months. I plan to have everyone starting and level one and end at level 20. I don’t use milestones so experience point will be awarded by combat, finishing quests and tasks, or if I find the roleplaying during the session incredible.
The 18+. Besides the descriptions I will use for scenes, I also use images for descriptions. The world can be cruel at times and you can see and witness that during certain interactions. As a way to help explain how dark the world can be, for those Anime/Manga lovers think Goblin Slayer or Berserk. For TV show lovers, think Game of Thrones. I’m not saying that my world is dark and bleak, but scenes can be. If what you wanted is a light hearted game where good triumphs over evil, this isn’t for you.
Six players. Most of the time you have 4 but I prefer six. Typical parties have a Fighter, Rogue, Wizard, and Cleric. With six you have more additional classes to a 2nd to assist. Also this help with continual weekly session. If one or two people are unable to attend then sessions can still continue. I always found that a drag when not enough people show up and sessions had to be cancelled. That being said, I also am looking for players who can be consistent. If you can play every other week due to prior commitments then I don’t think that will work for me. Real life happens. I know all too well that. If you can’t make it please just let me know before hand or if you cannot before the next session. I’m sure everyone will become good friends and we just want to make sure you’re ok.
Now on to more of the campaign. For this, the only race you can be is human. Why you might ask? I enjoy the versatility as well as like I said, most of my campaigns are build towards humanoids. Where are the elves, dwarves, and Halflings? They did exist but long since extinct. Now they are human dwarves but that’s a different story. My other reasoning why is there were too many monstrous humanoids in 5E and it didn’t make sense going into a tavern with a Minotaur and Centaur in the party and no one bats an eye or has the exact specifications for furniture or accommodations. Just play Human. I assure you, you’re still going to have fun with all the combination of classes and prestige classes to choose from.
Since I kind of went into a bit of character creation I’ll explain a bit more of that. More will be told if you’re accepted. We’re going by Gestalt rules. What’s that? It’s merging two classes into one. Helps a lot if you want to be a fighter and rogue but don’t want to split levels into then. You can take the highest Base Attack Bonus, Hit Dice, Saves, and Skill points. Lots of good combinations and choices. Every has full hit points so no need to roll for HP when leveling. Lastly the combination of skills together from the classes count as class skills and not cross class for the purpose of skill points. Character wealth is based on level. One last time to note that based upon the nationality of the character, an additional feat is given but skills automatically trained on.
Since this is D&D 3.5, you don’t have to have any experience in order to join. Veterans are welcome as well but I have made some modifications so if a new player to the rules have questions, let me answer them for or if there is no change I will defer them to you. It can be a bit more complicated than 5E but after a few sessions in, you’re get the hand of it. If you played PF1e then you got a basic understating.
The last thing I would like to know is that we’re here to play a game and escape the real world for a few hours a day. I kindly ask all of you who are interested to keep certain discussions to yourself or DM each other and not on the server. If you want to meme that’s fine but bring up political beliefs and religion, it’s better to just have private conversations.

Some of us like to judge others for many things. What are some of the things we like to judge others on? Clothing choices, size and shape of their bodies, color of their body’s skin, religion they may have chosen, comments they make, actions they take, etc…
All of these decisions to judge others originate with a comparison to our own view of what is. We move through life with our own gauge of what is acceptable/unacceptable, right/wrong, ok/not ok for what the apparent others are doing. This is always being compared to our own actions and perspectives. Each and every time you judge someone else that is just comparing them to you from your perspective. There are no others. Anytime you see “someone else” do something that you don’t like you should really only look at yourself.
Every single person is a reflection of you. What you see in them is only yourself. Truly meditate/contemplate on this fact… you will see it in action daily. When you assume separation, you can delude yourself into thinking that you are better than them. You aren’t. They are you. You are them.
Some of the others though, are not quite aware of what is. Some call them NPCs, some call them drones, some call them sleepers… whatever you call them is irrelevant. What is relevant is that you understand that they are instances of you and also that they don’t realize you are an instance of them. Instances of you as you were, as you used to be. Versions of you from your own past. These are the ones that will try to judge you.
It is ok to be judged by them - it is to be expected, that is what the do. You must realize they are only seeing themselves in your mirror. You have a few choices when you get judged by them. First, you can accept their judgement and internalize what they are saying and then try to recalibrate your own actions to match their will of how they believe you should be acting. Bending to their manifestation of how you should be acting in other words. This will also at the same time subject them to judgement from others as well though – binding them to their judgement. Or secondly, you can refuse their judgement and go on about your day as you see fit. This will not be pleasant to the ones judging you. They will be confused, they may get irritated that you are not bending to their will and act how they think you should be acting. How dare you not behave in the manner that they see fit, this is their world after all! The result of this will leave them free from judgement from others, but they will be left confused and potentially even more irate at you.
In regards to subjecting yourself to judgement from others. By far and large the largest quantity of those that judge others are EXTREMELY unbalanced individuals. Subjecting yourself to their judgement is a brutal existence. They are for the most part NOT qualified to judge people. So if you just allow everyone to judge you (and internalize what they say and make it a part of your own subjective reality) then you are imprisoning your own mental well being and holding it hostage by the most mentally unstable people around you. Yes, there are some people that are mentally balanced and they are judging people as well at times… but you won’t be able to tell the difference. Play the numbers game… if you are being judged, you should assume that it is coming from an unbalanced one.
You control your own mental balance. You are the one that will internalize anything that may be said about you from the others. What will you take in? How much of your actions will you allow to be controlled by the others? How much will you change your own behavior so that you can “fit in” to the narrative that is being expected of you by the ones that would judge you?
Do not be a slave to the others' thoughts and judgements about you. Do not allow their opinion of you to change how you see yourself. They cannot even see you, they only see themselves. You are the ONLY ONE that can actually see who and what you are. No one else can see you, so how can they ever even judge you?

After saving the Kingdom of Alba from the undead army, our adventuring company is invited to meet with the Kaiser of the Holy Hessian Empire to congratulate them as well as closing accounts of several groups who assisted them.
A brief synapses of what's going on. Now comes the long read so crack open a cold one.
Free. No need to worry about playing.
Like the title suggests, I’m looking for six players for my homebrew campaigns. I will be running this story using D&D 3.5. That means I’m not using 5E. It should be obvious but I tend to have one or two prospects say they made a character and they used D&D Beyond. D&D 3.5 is older but it’s what I really got into when I started table top gaming and it’s still my bread and butter.
I will be using Discord for VC.
Starting Level is 5 with 4,500 GP for wealth.
The day we will be playing is Sundays and the times will be from 12pm to 4pm. The time zone for that is EST or UTC-5 for those across the pond. Also the times are sent in stone so if you’re interested but the day and time isn’t good for you, I’m afraid the times won’t change for you.
This is a Heavy RP Campaign so I expect quite a bit of talking and interactions with the world. I am planning at least one combat per session unless there’s a point in the plot that requires more. If you’re shy or you’re a person who just like listening to and not contributing, you might not have as much fun as the others.
Long Term means this won’t end in a few months. I plan to have everyone starting and level one and end at level 20. I don’t use milestones so experience point will be awarded by combat, finishing quests and tasks, or if I find the roleplaying during the session incredible.
The 18+. Besides the descriptions I will use for scenes, I also use images for descriptions. The world can be cruel at times and you can see and witness that during certain interactions. As a way to help explain how dark the world can be, for those Anime/Manga lovers think Goblin Slayer or Berserk. For TV show lovers, think Game of Thrones. I’m not saying that my world is dark and bleak, but scenes can be. If what you wanted is a light hearted game where good triumphs over evil, this isn’t for you.
Six players. Most of the time you have 4 but I prefer six. Typical parties have a Fighter, Rogue, Wizard, and Cleric. With six you have more additional classes to a 2nd to assist. Also this help with continual weekly session. If one or two people are unable to attend then sessions can still continue. I always found that a drag when not enough people show up and sessions had to be cancelled. That being said, I also am looking for players who can be consistent. If you can play every other week due to prior commitments then I don’t think that will work for me. Real life happens. I know all too well that. If you can’t make it please just let me know before hand or if you cannot before the next session. I’m sure everyone will become good friends and we just want to make sure you’re ok.
Now on to more of the campaign. For this, the only race you can be is human. Why you might ask? I enjoy the versatility as well as like I said, most of my campaigns are build towards humanoids. Where are the elves, dwarves, and Halflings? They did exist but long since extinct. Now they are human dwarves but that’s a different story. My other reasoning why is there were too many monstrous humanoids in 5E and it didn’t make sense going into a tavern with a Minotaur and Centaur in the party and no one bats an eye or has the exact specifications for furniture or accommodations. Just play Human. I assure you, you’re still going to have fun with all the combination of classes and prestige classes to choose from.
Since I kind of went into a bit of character creation I’ll explain a bit more of that. More will be told if you’re accepted. We’re going by Gestalt rules. What’s that? It’s merging two classes into one. Helps a lot if you want to be a fighter and rogue but don’t want to split levels into then. You can take the highest Base Attack Bonus, Hit Dice, Saves, and Skill points. Lots of good combinations and choices. Every has full hit points so no need to roll for HP when leveling. Lastly the combination of skills together from the classes count as class skills and not cross class for the purpose of skill points. Character wealth is based on level. One last time to note that based upon the nationality of the character, an additional feat is given but skills automatically trained on.
Since this is D&D 3.5, you don’t have to have any experience in order to join. Veterans are welcome as well but I have made some modifications so if a new player to the rules have questions, let me answer them for or if there is no change I will defer them to you. It can be a bit more complicated than 5E but after a few sessions in, you’re get the hand of it. If you played PF1e then you got a basic understating.
The last thing I would like to know is that we’re here to play a game and escape the real world for a few hours a day. I kindly ask all of you who are interested to keep certain discussions to yourself or DM each other and not on the server. If you want to meme that’s fine but bring up political beliefs and religion, it’s better to just have private conversations.

After saving the Kingdom of Alba from the undead army, our adventuring company is invited to meet with the Kaiser of the Holy Hessian Empire to congratulate them as well as closing accounts of several groups who assisted them.
A brief synapses of what's going on. Now comes the long read so crack open a cold one.
Free. No need to worry about playing.
Like the title suggests, I’m looking for six players for my homebrew campaigns. I will be running this story using D&D 3.5. That means I’m not using 5E. It should be obvious but I tend to have one or two prospects say they made a character and they used D&D Beyond. D&D 3.5 is older but it’s what I really got into when I started table top gaming and it’s still my bread and butter.
Since I said Online, I will be using Discord for VC and Roll20 for combat.
Starting Level is 5 and wealth is 4,500 GP for equipment.
The day we will be playing is Sundays and the times will be from 12pm to 4pm. The time zone for that is EST or UTC-4 for those across the pond. Also the times are sent in stone so if you’re interested but the day and time isn’t good for you, I’m afraid the times won’t change for you.
This is a Heavy RP Campaign so I expect quite a bit of talking and interactions with the world. I am planning at least one combat per session unless there’s a point in the plot that requires more. If you’re shy or you’re a person who just like listening to and not contributing, you might not have as much fun as the others.
Long Term means this won’t end in a few months. I plan to have everyone starting and level one and end at level 20. I don’t use milestones so experience point will be awarded by combat, finishing quests and tasks, or if I find the roleplaying during the session incredible.
The 18+. Besides the descriptions I will use for scenes, I also use images for descriptions. The world can be cruel at times and you can see and witness that during certain interactions. As a way to help explain how dark the world can be, for those Anime/Manga lovers think Goblin Slayer or Berserk. For TV show lovers, think Game of Thrones. I’m not saying that my world is dark and bleak, but scenes can be. If what you wanted is a light hearted game where good triumphs over evil, this isn’t for you.
Six players. Most of the time you have 4 but I prefer six. Typical parties have a Fighter, Rogue, Wizard, and Cleric. With six you have more additional classes to a 2nd to assist. Also this help with continual weekly session. If one or two people are unable to attend then sessions can still continue. I always found that a drag when not enough people show up and sessions had to be cancelled. That being said, I also am looking for players who can be consistent. If you can play every other week due to prior commitments then I don’t think that will work for me. Real life happens. I know all too well that. If you can’t make it please just let me know before hand or if you cannot before the next session. I’m sure everyone will become good friends and we just want to make sure you’re ok.
Now on to more of the campaign. For this, the only race you can be is human. Why you might ask? I enjoy the versatility as well as like I said, most of my campaigns are build towards humanoids. Where are the elves, dwarves, and Halflings? They did exist but long since extinct. Now they are human dwarves but that’s a different story. My other reasoning why is there were too many monstrous humanoids in 5E and it didn’t make sense going into a tavern with a Minotaur and Centaur in the party and no one bats an eye or has the exact specifications for furniture or accommodations. Just play Human. I assure you, you’re still going to have fun with all the combination of classes and prestige classes to choose from.
Since I kind of went into a bit of character creation I’ll explain a bit more of that. More will be told if you’re accepted. We’re going by Gestalt rules. What’s that? It’s merging two classes into one. Helps a lot if you want to be a fighter and rogue but don’t want to split levels into then. You can take the highest Base Attack Bonus, Hit Dice, Saves, and Skill points. Lots of good combinations and choices. Every has full hit points so no need to roll for HP when leveling. Lastly the combination of skills together from the classes count as class skills and not cross class for the purpose of skill points. Character wealth is based on level. One last time to note that based upon the nationality of the character, an additional feat is given but skills automatically trained on.
Since this is D&D 3.5, you don’t have to have any experience in order to join. Veterans are welcome as well but I have made some modifications so if a new player to the rules have questions, let me answer them for or if there is no change I will defer them to you. It can be a bit more complicated than 5E but after a few sessions in, you’re get the hand of it. If you played PF1e then you got a basic understating.
The last thing I would like to know is that we’re here to play a game and escape the real world for a few hours a day. I kindly ask all of you who are interested to keep certain discussions to yourself or DM each other and not on the server. If you want to meme that’s fine but bring up political beliefs and religion, it’s better to just have private conversations.

A wizard put a powerful spell on you so that any action or endeavor you perform feels effortless, but it comes at the cost of never being able to get more than the median level of success. You don't ever have to hype yourself up or struggle with a decision, as soon as you think I should make something to eat you're in there, cooking it up and cleaning as you go like it is nothing, but the end result is always just ok. Unhappy with your job? You're immediately happy sending out resumes and breezing through interviews without a care, but the new job will turn out to be fine with basic benefits and medium pay. Even things outside of your control are easy but will only have moderate success, like you don't have any stress, compulsion, or negative feelings about gambling, if you want to you seem to always find somewhere giving you the opportunity, but you'll only ever be as lucky as the 50th percentile at that game. Any situation you have currently that is above average will eventually decrease to average. Like if you've inherited a bunch of money you might keep getting fines until your wealth is at the median level, but also you'll never have great tragedy befall you, just the average life circumstances.
The wizard offers you a reversing spell that will uncap your potential. It doesn't guarantee success, but it is no longer limited in any way, the catch is that everything feels incredibly difficult/daunting. You're just as talented at whatever as you are without any magic involved, and the tasks don't actually become more difficult, you just now have a powerful inescapable dread over doing anything. In theory you could go out and become a member of the 1%, but getting around to brushing your teeth takes a solid 30 minutes of telling yourself to go brush your teeth, the idea of sending an email is enough to make you question your life's choices, and you're likely to stick at a job you hate for months or longer because looking for a new job feels so hard and the next place will probably be worse, but if you ever do get around to looking you could land a job with double the pay and the coolest boss.
Normal is not an option, no other magic exists in the world, science cannot compensate, your choices are either living a mediocre life effortlessly, or struggling your way through everything at the chance of great success, which do you take?

I asked out my best friend of many years who I've known since freshman year of highschool.
(A little backstory in case you are interested she knew I liked her since in our last year I had told her I've always had small crush on her throughout highschool, but I simply wasnt too interested in love during my time in it, now it's been 3 years since then, I I've since then moved out of my parents house and I'm currently making a life of my own plan to open my business by the end of this year God willing... I'm financially stable, know how to cook, clean, and everything in between)
Me and her used to often flirt with eachother playfully, I could listen to her talk for hours about her school, her life, and just worried about her health, whether she ate that day or drank water, and even after tired days at work I would always make time for her and chat until midnignts....
But, I had pretty much given up on pursuing her as partner years ago... but after mentioning a trip she had where she met up with a old childhood friend she has, she adamantly said he isn't interested un her but... bruh, I can tell, a guy never does all the things he does for a girl he doesn't like.
Finding this out made My heart drop... I was so mad...so angry...but mostly sad...because if she ever got together with him...sadly I would lose my best friend...
So I asked her out a few days later... I told her I would be willing to support her and her dreams, take care of her and hope she joins me in my trips to travel around the world...together.
She seemed pretty excited and I told her to think about it and give me my answer the day after....I was happy and nervous the whole day at work... and I genuinely thought maybe... she might say yes.
But after getting home and getting in a call she said no... a long with quite a few things (nothing bad tbh she really did try and break the news in the best way possible) But what really broke me was when she said "You are the perfect guy for me, if i said yes i wouldnt have to start over again with some other guy because you know me so well... but I just don't love you, and i dont think we could ever make it work"
She wasn't even willing to give me a chance... simply because of experiences she has had in the past... At this point...my heart is crushed... I asked that she give me a break from being her friend, and I dont know when I'll feel OK enough to talk to her again... but it still hurts even a week later, why am I not enough... why toy with my heart with flirty words and texts... maybe its my lack of experience...idk...at this point...I've given up on love... at this point I'm just working on my self, going to gym and working on opening my business... I just wished she was by my side while I built my self up...

Hello,
sorry for this being so long. Ihope it is understandable, since English is not my first language.
I recently had an heated argument with a colleague who is kind of my superior, lets call him Jim. I am sitting in my office with two other colleagues, lets call them Ann and Bob. I was in the middle of a longer group call when Jim came in our room and started talking to Bob about some personell interest and politics. Shortly after we made a short break in the call. At this time Jim (a ca. 45 year old guy) stated, that due to recent events we would need a strong military and that the youth should suck it. In his time if you did not want to go to the army you would habe gotten slapped in the face and do what you have been told. that would be the right way. I told him - entering the conversation - that if anyone had slapped me in the face i would have had pressed criminal charges and or punched this person back and that such behavior is not ok in any way.
Side note: i am mid 30 and would most likely not be affected by that kind of draft that is discussed in our country right now, but I think it is right out entitled to demand a young generation to go to the military to guard the old folks.
We disagreed on that and I thought everything is fine. He has the right to have his own opinion. I did not like the route this conversation was taking and stopped participating in the conversation. Around two minutes later my call continued. Jim and Bob talked on. Since I couldn‘t concentrate a asked „excuse me, i do not mean to be unpolite but could you go on with your personal discussion somewhere else since i have to listen to the call.“ (these were the exact words - translated) I tried to say that as politely as possible but maybe I was a bit harsh, but definatly not attacking Jim or Bob.
Bob reluctantly nodded but Jim starred at me pointing his finger at me and said not screaming but definitely in a real aggressive way: „You dont talked to me like that, else…“ I asked - not calm anymore - „What else?“ and he just repeated the same thing, letting the subtile threat standing in the room and turned to go. No here is where I fucked up a bit: I shouted after him that he should not threaten me like this and that he can keep his „toxic bullshit“ and his threat of „abusing his power“ (in this situation i thought that the „else“ could only be a threat of physical violence or fucking me up on the job and due to the benefit of the doubt I got on the latter). He came back an shouted at me I should not talk to him like that. Granted, I was furios at that point as well. I told him (loudly) that he could not intimidate me like that. Well, that was a bluff, but i still kind of stood my ground. He also got on that I could not argue since Ann, Bob and I would talk frequently (in our room) and therefore he was entitled to doing the same (in our room).
I got some reassurance from colleagues that this was not his first time getting furios with some colleagues, especially young ones. I felt kind of encouraged im my stand to net let it slip this time since I kind of wanted to protect the young ones. yeah, i am that stupid.
Later in the day when when Ann and Bob had gone home already Jim asked me to come over to his room to discuss the matter which I did. He wanted me to close the door which I did even though i felt uncomfortable with it. He than again accused me of being rude to him and told me that he wanted me to apologize. I told him that i thought his behavior was rude. He interrupted me several times. He said that i was the one being rude in asking him to leave when i interacted in the discussion before. He then said i was screaming at him to leave and therefore started the whole conflict. I told him that that is not the way i remembered the situation and that i definitely did not scream, but apologized if me asking him to leave came through as rude to him. He insisted I shouted at him first and that he demands respect. I told him - again after being interrupted several times - that this is not what i remembered and that he should stop gaslighting me. After that I said I wanted a talk together with our supervisor on that matter and turned to leave. He shouted „Do not go“ which I ignored and got out. He came after me (not physically aggressive) and the discussion went on. He demanded an apology in which I would take the full blame in front of Ann and Bob since I undermined his authority in front of him. I told him, that this discussion was over, that I dont want to be isolated by him and I would no go on and call my supervisor on that. He then threatened me with the following words: „I give you this collegial advice: dont take that to the next higher level. I talked to others and you have been noticed negatively already.“ I asked what he meant or whom he had talked to but he just repeated that several times over.
I then left and called my supervisor. I have an appointment tomorrow.
How should I go on with that?

My best friend and I are both 23 and have known each other since 10. For backstory she moved away at 14, we texted but that was it. She ended up moving back at 20 with her mom when her parents divorced and although we had not seen each other for 6 years, it was as if nothing changed and she once again became my best friend as an adult. We caught up on life and she was obviously emotionally stunted.
I found out when she moved she was homeschooled, she never made a single friend, she never worked, did not learn to drive, stayed home all day. It wasn't her fault but her parent's fault and I feel terrible that's how she was raised when she moved. Well I'm the opposite. Moved out at 17, have been working since 15, very social, always dating and trying to meet new people. Lived though a lot of crazy shit and want to do as much as possible lol. Ive always been aware my friend has some mental problems (abandonment issues, ocd, anxiety). Since she moved back we have never argued or fought until a couple days ago.
If I was hurt or upset by something I usually kept it to myself because I know she's sensitive and means well. But recently she used me by taking my idea to open a bakery and excluded me from the project when I asked her to partner with me. At first I didn't tell her it upset me because I was happy she was finally making money but after a couple months I decided to be honest with my feelings. I just told her it hurt my feelings when she excluded me with the business and stole my logo, theme and business name. Well.... she broke down. She told me she didn't even realize she took it from me and that I was actually interested in doing it. I stayed calm and told her it was ok and just a misunderstanding and I should have communicated better with her but I just wanted to tell her my feelings instead of holding them in and was happy I heard her side. She started sobbing and freaking out. Ive never seen anything like it. I kept reassuring her it was ok but she kept saying how terrible she is and how she now hated herself and wished she was dead. It freaked me out so I just kept reassuring her it was ok until she calmed down.
I now feel terrible. I always put others feelings above me and for once I admitted how I felt and ended up having to apologize and now I'm worried about her. After she calmed down she then told me she wanted to be honest with me as well. She told me she fears I will meet new friends and leave her because I like making friends. I told her she is like a sister to me, that no matter what she's my best friend. But she wouldn't let up. She said she has no desire to make friends and all she needs is me. Now, I understand this Is because her dad abandoned her, she never made other friends and I'm all she has. She even told me a couple years ago she does get jealous and what not. I have no idea how to deal with this. I suggested therapy and she shot that idea down. I wasn't very pushy with the idea but I am going to hang out with her soon and would like some advice.
I told my boyfriend and he says this is psycho behavior. It sucks because I totally understand how she sounds insane but I know she isn't a bad person. She had terrible parents and no one to guide her. Some of her behavior reminds me of me when I was younger so she does just seem emotionally immature. Ive grown a lot in the past few years (been sober 8 months, working towards a career, taking care of my mental and physical health). No matter what, she is family to me and I want to help guide her in the right direction because I wish I had someone to help me when I was lost in life and mentally unwell. Should I have a deeper conversation about therapy with her? Should I ask her more questions about her past to get her to open up and realize the root of her problems? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Tl;Dr
Best friend isn't addressing her mental health problems that affect are relationship, she is possessive and unwell. How do I address this topic with her so she gets the help she needs.

I 30f am a part of a solid friends group of 6 people. With some of them we’ve been friends forever, like 20 years maybe. Others I knew at least for 10. There’s a guy in our friend group that I’ve dated for 3 months 10 years ago, he treated me horribly, verbally abused me, told me I’m nothing to him, etc. I think he might have cheated on me, but I have no proof. Everybody in our friend group saw this, one guy even asked him wtf is he doing. He told him that it’s all ok, this is the kind of relationship we have, it’s all just a joke. Well, we broke up after 3 months but remained cordial. Because I’m a doormat. Not long after that he attempted to reconcile, told me he’s sorry, that I’m perfect for him. I refused. But he never gave up, or at least it seems like it.
It looks like he changed a lot after years. He never insulted me like before, he started treating me with warmth and kindness. But every time we, meaning our friend group, are going out, he starts being touchy with me. He grabs my hands, hugs me, tries to kiss my cheek. He follows me around. Every time, throughout 10 years after we broke up. He tried to convince me several times to get back together. I shut it down, but after some time he brings it up again. Recently, he started bringing up the guys I’ve dated after him, wants to talk to me about my relationship with them, makes jokes like “well I don’t even know when you can find a perfect guy, seems like there’s no one left”. Last time we met, a week ago, he joked like this for an hour straight, and didn’t talk about anything else. In the presence of our other friends.
6 or 7 years ago he started dating this girl. This was serious, they seemed happy. But even her immediate presence never stopped him from harassing me every time we’ve met. I remember the day of our friends wedding. We were taking a group photo. He took his girlfriend of three years by the hand, walked with her directly to me, stood by my side. With his one hand, he was hugging his gf. His other hand tried to grab my ass.
They broke up after 4 years. He immediately went to me saying how perfect I am for him. Again, I refused him. A year later, he sends me a gift basket full of things that he thinks are meaningful to me with the purpose of melting my heart. I refuse, again. It’s not like he stalks me, because I live 1000+ miles away, we are LC and never talk to each other directly, only in a group chat. I visit my hometown maybe 3 times a year, I meet my friends, he’s there and he starts harassing me. I know he talks about his “feelings” to the others.
I’m a doormat. I never told him to stop touching me. I freeze. I leave the party. I play it all off as a joke. I never told my friends that his behaviour makes me uncomfortable. Sometimes I even play along. I feel that because I live far away and don’t see the others as often as he does, they will all take his side if I try to stand up for myself. I hate myself for letting him harassing me. I feel like I won’t let him do that again, but at this point I’m afraid I dug myself so deep into this hole I won’t be able to explain why I’m suddenly against his attention, after not saying anything for 10 years. I’m afraid that they accuse me of leading him on.
I hate myself for being passive in the moment just to burn of rage after. I hate him of obsessing over a girl he abused 10 years ago that doesn’t even exist anymore. I hate my friends for never stopping him, seeing what he does and comforting him when he cries to them. And I say nothing, because I’m so scared that my friends are going to leave me that I would rather say nothing, so I would never know.

1 (20M) went and god my blood tested and had ok total test and pretty low free test. Doc gave me a list of stuff to try taking, vitamin d, zinc, magnesium, boron, and DHEA.
DHEA I know is good for older dudes as they stop making it as well. But its also a hormone used to make test and estrogen and I'd like to know if it's a good idea for me to be taking as a younger guy or if there's some negatives that could come from me taking outside DHEA opposed to letting my body produce it. Anybody has any ideas, or even any other things that they had success with then I appreciate you very much kind sir.

I just mentioned this person in a comment and it reminded me to make a rant post about her.
Friend of a friend, I'm not exactly sure on age but can't be older than 25.
Mother of....I honestly can't remember but I think 6?! Give or take one, and she's currently pregnant.
Dad is involved. But honestly all he can do is work as much as he can. Can't imagine he gets much time with the kids, probably just enough to give mom time to like...be a human.
I just....😬 how? Why? There is no way any one of those kids gets enough one on one time. And as they get older they're just gonna get more expensive! I can't imagine they'll be able to help any of their kids with big life expenses (cacollege) but I'm not even sure they'll be able handle minor ones (sports/cell phone).
But here's the kicker. Get your mad face on. She wants more. Why? Because she only has one girl. That was my line of "ok I'm removing myself from this persons life". She's never been anything but totally respectful of me not wanting kids, so of course I tried to give her the same courtesy but that's too far for me. Can you imagine?! Being in a family with that many siblings and being one of the "stinky boys" (that's a quote from her). With that attitude I can't imagine she treats the boys the same as the girl.
🤦‍♀️ Thankfully her family is keeping an eye on everything so I know for a fact those kids will always have what they need but it's sad. You can't buy a mothers love

Here are some good simple pointers I've found to lessen my anxiety and improve myself in socializing as someone with Autism Lvl 1 (High-Functioning), Severe Anxiety Disorder, and Episodic Depression Disorder.

• When starting a conversation, it's ok to sound ridiculous. (ex. hey. hey. hey. i want your attention. lets talk. I like cheese.)
• When having difficulty continuing a conversation, you can stay silent until the other person continues it or ask the person about themselves(ex. What's your favorite color to wear?).
• If your mind goes blank, say it. It's not uncommon plus it continues the conversation (ex. Oops- God deleted all my open tabs.)
• You don't have to make direct eye contact, but if you need to you look at the bridge of someone's nose.
• You are allowed/ecouraged to sound weird/odd accented/lisped/stuttered. It is something that makes you who you are.
• If you have a hard time reaching out, set an alarm or automated task for each person in your life to send a quick "Hope you're doing well today" message.
• You can practice what you want to say before reaching out by writing your thoughts down.
• People bully because they are trying to feel better about their own lives. (and failing lol)
• Everyone thinks the world revolves around them in the sense that their lives have terrible impacts on others, but in reality you are less significant of an impact than you think.
• It is ok to have a small friend group, the quality of your friends is what matters.
• Grooming/Self-Maintenance is important when going to be with other people. Shower, Dry, Brush(hair and teeth), Deoderant. (SDBD) kind of sounds like STD.
  • Soap scrub your scalp, not your hair. Wash your nasty bits.
  • Dry 20 min max with cheap blowdryer
  • Brushing hair is from top to bottom, outside to inside.
  • When brushing your mouth, brush your gums. Don't swish out toothpaste with water, spit the excess. Can give you an extra day if you are depressed.
  • Deoderant PT (Pits to Tits).
• Nobody cares what your body looks like, it's about what actions you take to present it
  • Wear 2 or 3 colors for clothing
  • Look up your body type/shape to figure out clothing that looks good on you and you're comfy with.
  • Look up face shape for easy make-up tutorials.
  • Didn't wash your hair? Wear a hat or tie it with a scrunchie.
  • Perfume needs only 1 squirt per wrist. Rub together and use your wrists to put some behind your ears
  • Use a clip-on tie for formal occasions. Less stress.
  • Wear reflective shades if you don't like people looking at your eyes or don't want them to know what you are looking at.
  • Get slip-on casual/formal shoes, less hassle and looks nice.
• 21+ rated things like alcohol, tobacco, nicotine, strip clubs, etc. aren't as fun as media makes it out to be and can damage your brain chemistry. Don't be ashamed for not partaking.
  • Alcohol tastes like vinegar for wine, bread yeast for beer, and Windex for vodka. It is an anti-depressant and the only reason it tastes good is when it's mixed with sweeteners or sodas which are non-alcoholic. Just drink the 7-up.
  • Smoking makes your lungs look terrible, like yellow-stained drain bags. (healthy sexy lungs ftw) and is an anti-anxiety device.
  • Pornography/StripClubs is ACTING. Intimate sex is nothing like you see online. Hook-up culture can damage you socially due to the bonding brain chemicals that come with sex.

These are just what I pulled off the top of my head. If anyone wants me to cover something I haven't listed feel free to COMMENT BELOW

To say this, I don't have to agree with his newer political takes. And other people don't have to either. Nowadays he is on TDW, and is talking about politics and pushing conservativsm.
Ignoring that stuff, JP has done a good thing trying to help people by using his knowledge and experience of psychology to create habits and a way of thinking for people to compensate for lifes problems.
It is very easy to critique things, and say that there is no hope, life is just meaningless suffering, do what you want, take what you want and there is no reason why anything is worth doing or avoiding. That kind of stuff.
But it is much harder to make a positive case for life. To say that there is something people should be doing. And people who try to make a positive case for how people should act and think is admirable because it takes some courage and tenacity. Even if you don't do it perfectly, doing it pretty well is good.
Both 12 Rules for life contain useful things for people for self-betterment. And his lectures have good insights too.
JP has his flaws, he is very volatile and goes on emotional rants about this or that. But he has good sides too, and people don't like to admit that because nowadays people need to be either completely good or bad. But we should all know that we are not completely good or bad and neither is anyone else.
One problems with the woke stuff is that people turn into walking commericals instead of walking movies. Everyone needs to say the same correct things, and everyone has to agree with them. No mistakes or flaws are allowed, or if you make mistakes you have to reprent and show humility to the group. A bit more moral freedom for people would be good, because with new negative things that would pop up, new positivie things could pop up too.
Just saying that it's ok to say a person with some negative qualities has done positive things too. And people should not be judged for saying that.

Do you spend a lot of your time day dreaming what life would be like with your perfect match? Would that life consist of lots of quality time spent together, shared hobbies, travelling together, supporting each other and sharing not just the good times? Are your passions a weird conglomerate of sciency and artsy topics? We might just be a match. No, this is not an infomercial.
What makes finding my match somewhat difficult i,0s that my personality is all over the place, I can't really be put into a box and I dream of finding someone I'm deeply compatible with. I have a PhD in physics/math and work in a related field, involving IT and programming. My take on life is rather critical, rational and I'm not religious. BUT I'm also very by morals, emotional in certain aspects and my biggest aspiration in life is having a happy, fulfilling relationship where we are inseparable, each others best friend and more. A soulmate sorta thing if you wish, even though souls obviously don't exist...right?
Soo what are my passions that we could hopefully share together? I have to get the cliché out of the way first, I'm really big on films/tv shows/video games/manga and some books. It's not just something I consume to overcome boredom though, I'm extremely interested in stories and the art of story telling. My tastes are varied and something that would be fun to discuss, some of the things I like:

• weird, obscure horror movies that sometimes make me wonder if anyone else on the planet has ever seen them (spoiler: yes they have). Also horror movies in general.
• "artsy, deeper" movies without bordering into pretentiousness, a line that is entirely subjective but I shall still defend as if an objective truth. Kubrick I really like, also Disney.
• big sucker for romantic comedies and enjoy some goofy comedies as well.
• mostly story driven, single player games, Life is Strange would be an example of a game that had a deeper impact on me, wowser.
• would enjoy getting into multiplayer games together, I consider it a fantastic way to bond. Mario Kart (GoldenEye?) should be obligatory for a couple, friendly trash talking included (or not so friendly, if you're into that). LoL? Yes please (even though I hate it)
• I already feel like it's getting too long (that's what she said) but I enjoy the Harry Potter books and don't like when people call them children's books. They contain more wisdom about life than most literature classics.

The point being, talking about stories, analysing movies together or writing our own video game plot (don't worry I already have an amazing idea, but not so good at writing dialogue)/short stories is a big thing I'd like to share in a relationship.
Still with me? Some other things I enjoy:

• music, especially older stuff rock, pop, some metal, classical and soundtracks!
• photography, especially nature & architecture. Going on a hike or exploring nature with the intent of taking pictures gives you a whole new outlook on things.
• running, that would be a really fun activity to share together as well.
• cooking and every now and then baking. Let me cook a romantic dinner for you?
• travelling! I've somewhat dipped my toe into the digital nomad thing in the last year and loved it. Exploring a new city/country is super exciting to me. My style of travelling is definitely more adventurous. I like being out and about all day and see as much as I can in the time I'm there, doing a moderate but not too crazy amount of research beforehand about attractions. I like a certain degree of spontaneity and some days where we would just walk wherever the wind carries us. Long... really long walks on the beach are the best, especially at night. That being said, I also enjoy a day laying at the beach, café hopping, exploring restaurants or a mall haha. My favourite place so far has been Japan for sure (not a weeb I swear)(lot's of malls here!). If you're a solo traveller let me know. If you're younger or haven't travelled so much, this is not a deal breaker. As long as you're curious and open minded with a sense for adventure.

Phew ok, not done yet. I need to say something about the type of romantic connection I'm desiring as it's somewhat off the norm. I want to spend a lot of time with my partner. A lot. That doesn't even mean constantly engaging with each other, but just being around each other, checking in on each other, leaving little notes, generally what they would call being clingy. Maintaining a happy relationship should be the number 1 priority in your life, as it would be for me. I would never neglect you in favour of other people or obligations and expect the same in return. Location wise would be great if you're in Germany of course, but really doesn't matter that much to me. This would just be an awesome motivation for me to travel somewhere and as I'm very flexible in my day to day life, I would make a visit happen sooner than later.
Appearance wise, 183 cm, caucasian, slimish/fitish/averageish build, short dark brown hair and eyes. Finally, I'll finish off with an arbitrary list of traits that describe me and I'm simultaneously seeking out in a woman: sense of humour (did that come across...like, at all? Writing this post I felt like it was all rather serious at times, because I take this seriously, but my style of communication is more light hearted, being silly together, not taking everything too seriously, but being able to talk maturely should the situation require), responsible, curious, reliable, trustworthy, loyal, honest to a fault, dedicated, creative, self-aware, honest again because it's important, thoughtful, caring, kind but not a pushover, enjoys arguing/debating, romantic, sweet. If you have a (very?) k1nky side that would be the cherry on top, but it's not a must and all in due time.
Have a virtual cookie for making it this far. Now don't be shy and send me a PM already, telling me what's on your mind. If you send a chat and I don't reply, send a little PM as a follow up in case the chat didn't work.

Hello,
I subleased my unit at my last apartment (Texas), and talked with the landlord at the time about leaving my security deposit with the unit (as incentive for the subletter). They told me that was fine, and just to follow up about getting that back when the sublet moves out in April of this year.
Not surprisingly, management changed hands a couple of times after I’d moved out, but I kept the email receipts and documents from my last landlord detailing the situation. I reached out to the new management a little before my subletter moved out end of March thoroughly explaining that my deposit was still with the unit, my communications with my last landlord, and all the documents verifying my residency and deposit amounts.
The new landlord responded after a few days very kindly, saying they just need my current address and that they will send a ledger after they inspect the unit. She sent me the ledger shortly after, and said the check was mailed to my address. This was early April, and since then I’ve gone back and forth with her about never receiving the check, which she’s apologized for and said she addressed it to my subletter (but had my correct current address?). Two weeks ago she said she fixed it and mailed a new check, but I still have not received anything. I’ve told her multiple times I'm still in the area to pick up the check at her office, but she hasn't acknowlegded that (and hasn't given me an office address).
I just had to send a final email basically saying that I'm considering filing in small claims court if I cannot pick up the check soon, as I'm assuming it's been lost in the mail.
Do I have grounds to sue in small claims? I've read that under Texas law management has 30 days to return the deposit, which at this point it has been well over. I'm just worried the sublet part would somehow invalidate/complicate things in court. My sublet has been supportive and even reached out to management to further clarify that the check should be sent to me, not them. This is a pretty big deposit and it's been a strain waiting for so long to just find my mailbox empty everyday :/
TLDR: Sublet my last apartment, left the deposit with the unit until they moved out late March. Last landlord said it was ok and to reach back out for it when they move. Current management keeps saying they've sent me the check, but I haven't received it in over a month. Would I hold up if I had to take this to court?

So I think it all began in late 2021,it was the first year of our highschool, I met my bestfriend, who I'll call ira, in a gathering. It was a gathering arranged by our coaching classes since we hadn't actually met irl with any of the teachers or students. It was online due to COVID. There I met ira, she met two other people that day and apparently really clicked with me out of all the people she met, I felt the very same. The gathering was held in a different city, so the students from other cities travelled together, i didn't know of any such means so I had my parents drop me. Ira and the other two people were in the van together so they went ahead and formed a gc,one of them was a boy and the other was a girl, they both went to different schools than ours (me and Ira went to same school), i came late to the gathering and the only empty seat I found was next to ira, i sat beside her and found myself getting along w her, although the girl she made friends with was sitting right beside us she didn't bother to talk even after me trying to hit up a conversation. I stopped, anyways Ira insisted me to join insta and discord which I later did in the beginning of 2022, she added me to the gc she made on the time of our gathering, I made friends with the guy, let's call him doofus but the girl wasn't interested, let's call her emo(which she really was and is). I started liking the guy and around the time our year ended, and the new one started our coaching was held offline and doofus left the coaching but I got to know from his friend that doofus and Ira were kind of dating, heartbroken I left. I didn't wait for Ira, she was submitting some notes. She called me later to ask where I was and I till then had contacted doofus and he said it wasn't a relationship, they just liked eo but Ira stopped liking him and he was depressed for a while. I wasn't mad over the fact that she got with my crush, she had no idea I had a crush on him and I wasn't unreasonable but what got me mad was she didn't think of telling me out of all the people about this. I was her bestfriend by then and I've uh had a not so good life, i was depressed and had trust issues(still do). My past experiences with "bestfriends" weren't pleasant. So, I was worried if she was the "one", anyways we came past those issues and have the strongest bond right now, still doesn't make me less guilty of talking to doofus after what had happened and BEHIND her back, doofus and i became best friends and I started losing feelings, i eventually grew tired of his clingy nature and gave excuses to not talk to him, he took the hint and went away, the following months me, Ira and emo formed a trio and emo became a very good friend to me (back then we called that being bsfs but nope) anyways doofus and Ira became friends AGAIN around September (i insisted her to apologise and mend things) later he followed me on ig, i did the same. He posted a lot about him and his friends just being goofy, he was in the popular grp of his school so that was obv, have I mentioned that he looks good? He does. Anyways around in October, his friend sent a req, i recognised him since doofus posted him a lot and accepted, i followed him back. I still remember our first chat went, him replying to my story in a rude way and me laughing w my bsf Ira at him and his comment. (I started liking doofus again few days after we stopped being friends), I got to know that he was doofus's bestfriend. Maybe that's why we started chatting, let's call doofus's bsf, Eric. All we talked about in the beginning was doofus and Ira but then it gradually became him confiding in me and later in the beginning of 2023 me confiding in him, which was around the time my brother passed away. We became somewhat bsfs, later he told me that his gf of some months had cheated on him with his ultimate bsf, not doofus but some other person. Doofus to him was only a bsf of the same grp and he wasn't exactly emotionally available for him or vice versa. Anyways I consoled him a lot and later we became best of friends, but, we didn't talk much in offline, infact he ran away when he saw me. After I pointed this out to him he came around and I hung out with him daily after coaching. Sometimes doofus and his group dropped by and he went away with them but he was mostly with me. Ninth grade ended, results came, i scored low. I was a bright student my entire life, this hit me more, I wasnt mentally well. The time when I lost my brother, who actually was a best friend of mine from school, I had no one to support me, I was 14 and told by people that my grief wasn't big enough. I know that sounds absurd but trust me Eric even tried comparing his problem of his gf cheating on him with mine. Again, ik i should have left. But I didn't, ik he was the only one who was there but not exactly there to support me. Anyways doofus taunted me because of my results and Eric took his side, they both very well knew, why my results were down that year. Anyways, tenth grade began. Eric and i hung out a lot, his home was right beside my school and he used to come early from his school, which was fifteen minutes away from my school just to meet up w me and talk to me for about 1 or 2 hours. It became a ritual, me waiting outside my school for him, him coming after ditching his friends to not keep me waiting. His friends hung out after school too (popular group yk). At first it was me asking if i should wait that day or just him asking me to wait but that gradually became an unspoken rule that I'd wait atleast 10 minutes before going home, and everytime he came he'd take a good look around to see if I waited for him or not and then going home. You see we both got pretty mad at eo if any of us didn't show up, but that was half the time cause our attendance was too low. Even though we did for some reason act like husband and wife and even called eo that in the chats we never dared to say it in offline. I had his password and he had mine, I knew from one of his chats he liked me long ago, not sure about now but yes. If I hadn't mentioned it, he would go a lot far with his jokes, I ended up opting for SH to cope up w it. He knew about it and he'd still joke about it. It was something his ex did and he just didn't like people who did or like the same things as his ex, we had lots of ugly fights about him ghosting me, making jokes on me, etc. But in the end, we both came around. I often missed out on many things just to spend time with him. 2024 started and I hadn't talked to him for around one month(the longest we stayed away from eo), I was frustrated and confronted him like I always did and told him that we can't go on like this, that he doesn't care enough and we shared our part of the stories, I told him I love him, he said he loves me and wouldn't let us end like that, not so easily. He said he was afraid we wouldn't be able to have talks like those again, blah blah. Anyways, few days later We had farewell in my school and I had told him to meet me before I went in the school to attend the farewell, I wanted to show him how I looked. He didn't pick up my calls and I went inside frustrated, he then woke up two hours later and asked if we could meet then, i said I'm in the school for the celebration rn, i gave him the time it would end (I didn't think we would be clicking pictures, with people and classmates, I didn't give it much thought). He started blowing up my phone. I said I'll be there in some minutes, I clicked MY MEMORIES urgently, I didn't get to take pictures with many people, and rushed to him, asked him how I looked and he said I looked old in that dress. Anyways we talked and talked for hours, he had touched my hand accidentally and checked my forehead and said i felt warm, I ignored it. Later when I went back home, i dozed off. I woke up to his texts, he was excited about something I can't remember but those lines were immediately followed up by "are you ok?" "You felt warm" . There is one instance I really like, it was him coming back from his school, I waited as usual, we started chatting and he mocked me about how my uniform doesn't have a tie and that i probably dont know how to tie one, he taught me by tying a tie on his neck, two to three times, handed the tie to me and told me to tie it, I tried to do it in the air and he stupidly said, it's supposed to be tied around the neck and came forward, I tried tying it around his neck, i playfully just tied a knot and tried to strangle him but even then he didn't back off and i eventually gave up, he called me dumb, lol. There were instances like these where he was good, I listed the things here which I felt good about, there are several instances unlike these which would make people hate him, in all honesty he was broken and he was just projecting. I forgive him. We decided to end things mutually, after the finals, he ghosted me for about ten days again, and i this time just demanded to end things. Like the last time, he didn't exactly tried to mend things, he just agreed to it and wished me luck. I confessed to him. I was going to another state for my college so he just said even if he did want a relationship he wouldn't get in one for other person's future. I never really understood why he bought it up since he clearly knew i wouldn't date until i was of a certain age. But ig I do understand now. Little did he know, it was upto me if I WANTED to go to a different state and start fresh, I wasnt exactly in the best mindset back then and the very next day of us ending things I went begging to him to not end things, he was dry. That was the closure I needed, i stopped. I was not thinking clearly and agreed for the college next state, I cried for a whole month there, each day, it was a new state and I didn't have permanent roommates. I tried to contact him three times. He had blocked me. I cried, wrote paragraphs, pages for him. Words couldn't express the misery I felt, it wasn't just a dumb teenage attraction, it was love, moreover I wasn't upset about my love interest not talking to me I was upset about my number one bestfriend not being there with me. Throughout this all my bestfriend from school has helped me a lot, Ira got to know these things later,she has been nothing but supportive, i have two bestfriends in my life currently, Ira and the bsf from school, let's call her, ayra. They have supported me these last two months. It has been exactly two months since things ended with him, ig I'm regaining myself since then, few boys have proposed to me and some are showing interest in me, it's all new to me though, lol. Ig they took their chance since Eric is "out of the way", it's kinda disgusting but tbh a sad reality we live in, i gave Eric the date of when I'd be going off to hostel, etc. He didnt contact me back then and I was heart broken, I'm glad now that he back then chose not to. I've learned to live my life without giving someone every little and big updates about my life each day or meeting up with them everyday, over-all I've stopped depending on people to give me their time. I am back in my home for now, I'll be leaving in ten days for hostel again and this time there isn't any long vacations, to come back home during. So ig I'm just stuck there for a few monhs lol. I have to study to cover the backlog I created while staying there for one month and doing little to no study. Life has certainly not been great, but again it's life. I'll make the most of it while I am here.

Hello,
I subleased my unit at my last apartment (Texas), and talked with the landlord at the time about leaving my security deposit with the unit (as incentive for the subletter). They told me that was fine, and just to follow up about getting that back when the sublet moves out in April of this year.
Not surprisingly, management changed hands a couple of times after I’d moved out, but I kept the email receipts and documents from my last landlord detailing the situation. I reached out to the new management a little before my subletter moved out end of March thoroughly explaining that my deposit was still with the unit, my communications with my last landlord, and all the documents verifying my residency and deposit amounts.
The new landlord responded after a few days very kindly, saying they just need my current address and that they will send a ledger after they inspect the unit. She sent me the ledger shortly after, and said the check was mailed to my address. This was early April, and since then I’ve gone back and forth with her about never receiving the check, which she’s apologized for and said she addressed it to my subletter (but had my correct current address?). Two weeks ago she said she fixed it and mailed a new check, but I still have not received anything. I’ve told her multiple times I'm still in the area to pick up the check at her office, but she hasn't acknowlegded that (and hasn't given me an office address).
I just had to send a final email basically saying that I'm considering filing in small claims court if I cannot pick up the check soon, as I'm assuming it's been lost in the mail.
Do I have grounds to sue in small claims? I've read that under Texas law management has 30 days to return the deposit, which at this point it has been well over. I'm just worried the sublet part would somehow invalidate/complicate things in court. My sublet has been supportive and even reached out to management to further clarify that the check should be sent to me, not them. This is a pretty big deposit and it's been a strain waiting for so long to just find my mailbox empty everyday :/
TLDR: Sublet my last apartment, left the deposit with the unit until they moved out late March. Last landlord said it was ok and to reach back out for it when they move. Current management keeps saying they've sent me the check, but I haven't received it in over a month. Would I hold up if I had to take this to court?

Just wanted to let people know I had a pretty legit hack attempt today. It started with this text:
COINBASE: A request to change your recovery options was submitted. If this was you, reply "Y" If this wasn't you, reply "N"
It said it was from coinbase in the text title (but doesnt anymore). When I replied 'Y', immediately got a very credible sounding call back from 'coinbase' on the caller ID. He had details that made it sound very believable (attempt came from Salt Lake City, they withdrew money and attempted to send to another address which flagged it, etc). But then he said some things that threw up the red flags - 1. He wanted to send me a verification code to my email to prove he was from CB and I needed to click on it 2. He gave my regular email as where to send the code/link (I don't use that one for investments) 3. When I asked how much they attempted to take, he said 500 BTC (lol don't even have 1 full BTC) and 4. When I asked if he could call me back, he wanted an exact time he could call back and said it couldn't be more than 30 min.
As soon as I got off the phone with him I called CB who confirmed everything was ok. They did ask me a lot of questions to make sure I hadn't unintentionally given out any info. And, they said they don't send texts (good to know!)
So all is okay, but just wanted to let everyone know about this because he almost got me.