Hi I'm Filipina married to a Foreigner. I just got our PSA Marriage Certificate and I would like to know if his name format may or may not result to any problems in the future.
I realized that maybe there's a "minor" discrepancy of my husband's name on his Passport vs. our Marriage Certificate.
His name on his passport (not his real name) Given Name: Mark Silva Last name: Brown
He considers "Silva" as his Middle name, hence when we were filing for Marriage License, his name is entered as follows: First Name: Mark Middle Name: Silva Last Name: Brown
Thus, the same name format was entered in our PSA-issued Marriage Certificate.
Honestly I think it was my fault too for not double checking thoroughly. I was the one who filled out our Marriage license form. We were not given heads up too by the people who received and checked our documents at the civil registrar's office as well. We were only asked for his passport and legal capacity to marry for his side
Would we have any problems on this in the future, such as Visa Application or would our marriage be considered null/void? That's my worry at the moment.
Appreciate your advise.

Hello all! I just got filed my marriage license today with the court and have an official copy (judge filled out two). Do i need to wait to get the marriage certificate itself to go to the office and get a name change or do i need to wait to get the certificate first? It has a section about legal name change so im unsure. Thank you!

Good day po sa lahat. Bale kuwento ko po muna lahat bago po ako magtanong para may context din po kayo. I am a graduating student of BS Psychology, in these 4 years na nagtatake ako ng Psych course, somehow nanotice ko na nagiging malala yung ugali/situation ng grandparents ko. Hindi ko po alam kung saan po kasi ako pupwede magtanong about sa aking lolo at lola, so I'm taking my chance here po.
Ito po yung parang characteristics and family history ng lolo ko tsaka lola ko: 1. Lolo - Yung tatay niya kastila, yung nanay niya from Bicol. Pag apat po siya sa magkakapatid, siya po ang bunso na lalaki. As far as I remember po, yung mga kapatid (at nanay) ay binubugbog po ng tatay niyang Kastila (pinanganak po kasi siya after ng war po). Yung panganay po na babae yung nagpaaral po sa lolo ko, since ayaw po ng tatay niya na pag-aralin po siya. Based po sa stories ng lolo ko, he likes questioning his teachers noong nag-aaral po siya, which sometimes makes his teachers & professors irritable towards him. Noong siya naman po yung nagtuturo, ang alam ko po medyo kinaiinisan siya ng ibang mga estudyante since parang pilosopo siya sumagot. There were several instances na sinasabi ng lola ko na he never said "sorry" even once tuwing may kasalanan siya (I personally seen and experience this). There were also a LOT of instances na gusto niya na siya lang nasusunod to the point na he risked losing his job habang nasa college pa yung tito ko, and made an excuse na "tinatamad na siya magtrabaho" mind you wala pa siyang 55 noon. Marami siyang nakakaaway, kung minsan noong bata ako ayaw ko siyang makasama kasi kahit tryc driver or cashier sa grocery minsan pinipilosopo niya. Kahit kwento rin ng lola ko, sinasabi na marami daw may away sa kanyang maka interact.
Ang parang problema kasi ngayon sa lolo ko, dahil 30 years na yung bahay need na irepair pero ayaw pa rin niya. Yung lugar namin lately naging bahain as in hanggang waist, ayaw pa rin ipaayos ng lolo ko kesyo siya raw gagawa kahit hindi naman siya gumagalaw sa bahay. Marami siyang sinasabi na siya gagawa, siya magaayos, pero nakahilata lang siya. Di nga siya tumutulong sa bahay. Kaya naman ng pera noon, pero ayaw talaga ng lolo ko, eh ngayon need na talaga ipaayos since naaksidente lola ko eh hindi PWD ready yung CR namin).
I came across po yung terminology na Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) during my internship. Like the name implies, gusto lang niya siya lang nasusunod at lagi siyang nagooppose. And somehow the symptoms fit po sa kaniya as well as yung causation na it might be from exposure to his family na puro binubugbog sila. Eh given na may edad na po, there might be sobrang little chance na i can still take to therapy, so im kinda opting po for non therapy advices po. I am aware that I CANNOT, at all means, diagnose since wala pa akong RPsy license, let alone hindi pa po ako nagtake ng MA. Pero the symptoms fit all through well po.

1. Lola ko - Batangueno yung nanay at tatay niya, pero nanirahan sila sa Manila. She was not a favorite of her mother, tinatawag siyang "ipot", tapos yung mother niya in favor dun sa kapatid niyang sugarol (gambler). Yung lola ko sumunod lang sa nanay niya (magtapos ng kursong education ganon), to the point na nawalan ng opportunities yung lola ko. Ayaw ng lola ko sa conflict since yung tinirhan nilang bahay dati puro nalang conflict. Nung nakilala ng tatay ng lola ko yung lolo ko, somehow nagapprove siya (hindi naman siya manliligaw pero parang sa lolo ko lang nagapprove yung tatay ng lola ko, kaya parang nagpakasal sila ganon). Take note na parang hindi out of 'love' yung nangyari, parang out of convenience lang; medyo nagwoworry kasi yung tatay ng lola ko sa magiging condition niya kung magstay pa siya sa bahay since yung kapatid niya sugarol and minsan nagddrugs pa, eh nung nakita niya na parang "malakas" (di ko sure kung tama term ko) yung lolo ko parang pinush niya na sila nalang dalawa.

Flash forward, nung Jan. 2023 naaksidente lola ko, narealize niya yung mga mali sa buhay niya (hindi kasi siya observant, or parang hindi niya naiintindihan yung bigat ng nangyayari). Please take note na noong naaksidente lola ko, bibihira lang po tumulong lolo ko, SOBRANG bihira lang po. Doon po nagsimula magdamdam lola ko aside sa mga realizations niya, kasi para saan nga ba yung marriage vows na 'in sickness and in health' kung ngayong tinetest yung challenge na yon, palpak yung resulta. Doon din niya narealize na ayaw sa affection nung lolo ko (ayaw niya yung may humahawak sa kamay o arm niya). Minsan nakikita ko yung lungkot when it comes doon sa nakikita niya mga co-worker niya sa fb na masaya parin sa marriage nila. Gusto ko lang din po inote na parang sinisisi pa ng lolo ko kung bakit naaksidente lola ko, tsaka tuwing tinatanong namin kung bakit hindi tumutulong yung lolo ko ang sabi niya "80 years old na ko, di ko na kaya yan" or "hindi ko na responsibilidad yan". Minsan tinatawanan na nga lang niya lola ko, ako nalang din naaawa para sa lola ko. Sobrang nalulungkot na yung lola ko, to the point na sinabi na niya na inaantay nalang daw siya kunin ni Lord at liability siya sa bahay; yung mga kaibigan at nakakausap na rin kasi niya sumakabilang buhay na.
Yung lola ko dahil naaksidente, hindi naman siya bed ridden pero nahihirapan magbanyo kasi hindi PWD ready yung CR, sobrang liit kasi ng cr. So may commode kami tas doon nalang naglilinis, yung nanay ko (panganay niyang anak) yung nagpapaligo sa kaniya sa pamamagitan ng towel ganon tas nagagawa naman nilang linisan yung buhok. Nagkakaroon na ng dysfunction sa bahay, yung nanay ko po kasi nagaalaga sa lola ko. Need po ng nanay ko magtrabaho dahil unti unti na kaming nababaon sa utang dahil sa kailangan ng lola ko (diapers, underpads, wipes, etc) isama pa yung pagkain kasi hindi lahat ng pagkain pwede sa amin lahat (may gout isa, hypertension, allergies, mga remarks ng doctors sa pagkain). Eh naisip namin parang hindi namin kaya na iisa o dadalawa lang magtatrabaho, given na napakalaki na ng bilihin ngayon.
I need advice po sana, or baka may kilala kayo na pwede ko pagtanungan:

1. Ano po kaya pupwede ninyong maiadvise na gawin ko po sa lola ko na may symptoms po ng depression para maiprevent po fully yung pagdevelop?
   
2. Ano po kaya pupwede ninyong maiadvice na gawin po sa lolo po na may symptoms ng Oppositional Defiant Disorder po?
   

Since I was in JHS I know I'm unstable (undiagnosed ADHD and depression), I wanna take some tests din pero ang expensive lang din (wanna take exam when I start saving from work). I noticed I'm really unstable and I really wanted to cry, hindi ko na po alam gagawin ko sa bahay. Naawa na rin ako sa nanay ko. I really don't know what to do. Syempre meron din ako mga problems sa school, pero grabe it's really piling up and I really can't give up now lalo na graduating na. Thank you po sa lahat na sasagot.

I apologize if this is the wrong place to ask but me and my fiancée are getting married in two weeks (yay!!) and I will be taking his last name. From my understanding I will sign the marriage certificate with my current/maiden name and then take the certificate to the social security office to get my new SSN and then go to the DMV and so on but at what point will I legally be able to use my new last name to sign documents, introduce myself with it etc? Once my SSN has my new last name? once my drivers license does? I’m wondering because i’m planning to change my name on my SSN right away but wait a couple months to change my drivers license for personal reasons but i’m scared i will end up in a tricky situation with having a my old last name on my drivers license and introducing myself with my new one.

Hiya! Planning on getting married in Texas somewhat soon, however I have an extremely niche problem which is that my legal name is not the same on my passport which would be the only legally recognised form of ID within Texas/United States that I have. (The reason being is that there is a 2 year grace period for changing the name on your passport after changing your name legally through a deed poll - and I ended up having to renew my passport before this grace period and I would much rather delay spending another 130 dollars for a new passport as much as possible). As such, I am planning on bringing the legal document that recognises my name change, and other forms of Irish and European id with my new name (of course I know these would not be recognised as official ID). Would the Texas courts recognise this name change or would they completely ignore it and insist on using the name on my passport on the marriage license and within official proceedings?

Hello all! I just got filed my marriage license today with the court and have an official copy (judge filled out two). Do i need to wait to get the marriage certificate itself to go to the office and get a name change or do i need to wait to get the certificate first? It has a section about legal name change so im unsure. Thank you!

I’m a stay at home mom of two baby boys. Married 3 years & dated 6 months prior to marriage & got pregnant a couple of months before getting married.
I’m going to get shit for all my bad decision-making here.
I prayed (out loud) for a man that would meet all this criteria and one month later met my husband. He met all the criteria of my prayer so no matter what bad things happened, I thought God had this purposed for me. I mean like a checklist of 10-20 items all checked off. I was vedy devout in my faith. But, now looking back I feel like maybe it wasn’t God who answered my prayer. Maybe this was like a time in the book of Job where God let Satan attack Job and take everything away from him. I don’t know. Oddly enough, the man that became my husband said he prayed for this, too, one month prior.
He love-bombed me. He devalued me. Later, he threatened to leave me (but never has). While we were dating, when I was pregnant, when we were engaged. He called escorts behind my back. I find out he had sexual relations with a woman in his apartment complex one week before we started dating - he told me three years into our marriage. Before we dated, he also had a two year affair with a married woman (whose husband to this day has no idea about it.) He was meeting her and texting her behind my back 2 weeks into us being officially dating exclusively. I find out because he got arrested and I went to pick up his things on his person at the jail. I guess his passcode in one try and there I see the truth. He lied about this woman - he said she was a best friend with no I love yous and no sexual relations. He even asked me if it was okay to be friends with her and I asked him those two questions. He lied and the proof was right there. We were fairly new so I didn’t read too many texts. I spent one hour on his phone at most and handling a panic attack in between.
I read where he texted escorts, too, and read two other relationships he had while seeing this married woman. My mind was blown. I was done. I screenshoted some evidence for my personal keepsake. I texted the married woman because their I love you was so recent. I told her what happened and said to go get him out of jail because I was done. She blew up my phone with texts. She wanted to know who I was and she wanted to share all the creepy details about this man. She claimed they only had sex twice and it was rape - bullshit. She also said a lot of other things like she knew when he bought me a coffee and knew when he went to the city to meet his friends. She said he said that they could still have sex while he was seeing me. He denied it and said it was the other way around.
When he got out of jail, he contacted me and sent me a video. She texted me to show me he sent her a video, too. Same shirt, same scenery and all filmed back after back. He told her how much he cared about her but he was letting her go. He came to meet me because I took his dog to care after her while he was in jail. He talked me into giving him one more chance. I moved into his apartment to get away from a situation at home. I fell for him hard and believed I was in love. We texted and talked all the time and when we were able, we were together. I went on a trip for a week withoht him to California. I got back and the sheets were washed. He said he did that for me so I can come home to clean sheets. Later over the course of our relationship I noticed he never much stepped up to do the laundry. A lot of chores started falling on me. Before even being married he expected me to coean his whole apartment which seemed to have never been touched once with any cleaning.
We were fighting a lot and I saw some of his anger but I thought he was just frustrated with things he was dealing with in his life. He got sort of pushy with me having intercourse with him at times I told him I didn’t want to because I wanted to wait. That made him angry. I find out that he had been FaceTiming escorts from the first weeks we started dating and found at least one call every month up to the week we were suppose to get married. I was shocked! I had no idea and I couldn’t believe it. We had intercourse so much that he wouldn’t need that so I thought. He said it was like porn to him and he had that habit from before he met me. Keep in mind, I’m religious so I was abstinent most of my life and these red flags weren’t so obvious to me. I thought most men were dogs like this. The biggest factor that blew my mind (of which he explained away) was that these escorts weren’t typical - they were transgender women and some still had their boy parts. After talking with someone who I thought was like a mom to me(I find oht later she wasn’t for me), I went through with the wedding, and besides, I was having his baby.
We moved states. I noticed a lot of verbal abuse starting from typically the night time as we shared a bed. He would cuss at me a lot and get so angry. It was almost every night. I was surprised - thinking who is this guy. He made me cry a lot. It was so stupid, I got screamed at just for rolling over in my sleep. He explained this away later after the problem got better. I began feeling like I made a mistake in marrying him. I was so scared at the same time because this was my first pregnancy. I feared so much about the “what ifs” and what world this baby was coming into.
The abuse got worse. It got physcial from time-to-time. He says I was abusive back but I feel like it was reactive abuse because it became too much for me. I would hit him back. It ate at my mind every day and I had all these hormones because I was going to have a baby soon. When pregnant, he has pushed me, held me down, jumped on me with his hands around my neck. He said things that were horrible like he would walk away from this son like he did his first son (he had a son from an earlier relationship which he had nothing to do with). Fear overcame me and some days I thought ending my life was the only way to escape my life and prevent a nightmare for my son. (These feelings relented later in time.)
One time he held up furniture above his head and he was ready to throw it at my head - I believe this was right after our son was born. We argued a lot because my mistrust in him because what I mentioned I discovered earlier. I wanted him to assure me he was trustworthy so sometimes I asked for his phone. Doing that resulted many times in violence and rage. When he had that furniture held up, I felt like he was going to end me right then and there. He stopped himself and I asked him why. He said because he saw the fear in my eyes.
We fought and made up A LOT. That was our relationship and me asking him where he has been or was he with someone. It was terrible for both of us. I discover later that he lied about a lot of things. I didn’t even know he didn’t have a drivers license until about 1-2 years into our marriage. I didn’t know the pictures of his boy parts I found once while dating were to the escorts. I asked him approximately a thousand times. He doesn’t just lie - he tells a story with details and the whole thing is a lie.
I use to check his phone and browser history because it was never ending place of discovery. I never got confessions out of him but I did get evidence that he thought he hid. He must have gotten better at hiding things because I would find less and less. I got to a point where I don’t check anymore - I know and it’s a damn headache to live like that. All the time he did these things, he swore his love for me. He said I was everything.
I discovered again a lie the first time he went to Miami last year (his first time away from me.) He took advantage and called at least ten eacorts and almost met up with one (or did. I don’t know. There’s no money spent but he lied and said the last escort called was his co-worker. I may never know what happened but his coworkers got weird around me after that trip. They won’t look me in the eye.) I didn’t know all this until December last year where I asked him for his T-Mobile password. He didn’t think I would find this when giving me the password.
I saw a text after that trip and found out he lied. He was awake at 2:00PM after he told me he went to bed on the phone. He told me how he missed me SOOO much. He said he tried putting his arm around me in bed to realize I was not there. We FOUGHT over the phone. He didn’t want me to see the rest of the texts between him and his coworker. He left bruises on my arms pushing and shoving me with all his strength. He overpowered me and I never saw the messages. He said he was hiding the fact ge did cocaine. I lost control because I pulled a knife out at him. Not to hurt him but to intimidate him. (I never lost it like this again -he ALWAYS uses this against me to say I’m the abusive one.)
December he admitted the elaborate cocaine story he gave me was a LIE. He said he did do cocaine but not how he told me. The real thing he was hiding was the escorts. At that time, I find out he kissed a coworker (maybe more but nobody will tell me anything.) Another girl told me he was always flirting with new hires. After I find this out from these girls, he put two holes in the walls and broke the doors at the apartment that was in my name. He also bought me $200 roses and a new marriage ring fo Christmas along with other nice gifts. He even goes to therapy to get better at his lying problem (which he only did for about 3 sessions.) He swore this was the last time I would EVER have this happen to me. He swore he loved me and our family. My second baby was born February after ALL of that.
November, my mom died and left me money. I find all that out after I put money on a house for us - Our first house. I made sure we were good. I made sure my baby had everything he could need. I didn’t even buy myself a new car (backstory I lost my good credit, my 2020 car and had one eviction in this marriage. I was almost $30,000 in debt after all of that. My husband made his bad credit good and how we got the house, too. He still has his car and no evictions on his name. We paid over $5,000 for his traffic tickets and court fees plus his debts.)
I could have left then but I was vulnerable because I was having another baby in two months.I feared all the time because I couldn’t get a job or keep one being pregnant and I worried about having one after because I wouldn’t make enough with him and me working would put us at a negative income. I tried building this website but I have yet to get sales. I knew I needed to get out but one last things I feared was breaking up my marriage. I thought he could get better for all his problems.
His anger reared its head again this past month. I found a book titled “Why did he do that.” My husband fits a lot of those examples of abusers. The book said the nice guy is the mask.
This time when he got angry, he said it was my fault he cheated on me. He said it’s a woman’s fault if a man cheats. He said that women need to keep a man happy. He said he had depression caused by me which he never mentioned before. He always said I made him happier than he ever has been in his life. I didn’t know about the cheating just like I didn’t know about the cause. He endlessly lied to me.
I went to his work and asked his boss about the girl he kissed. He is still lying. He said he told his boss what happened. His boss said they both said nothing when they came in for questioning. My husband got the word out and it turned into drama when those girls texted me.
My husband is two people. Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde. I just learned recently he has been reading my journals on my phone and texts between my sister. He read my reddit posts. He lied about this and kept it to himself. I feel like he may have planned trapping me in my marriage so I would have nothing. I feel like he is stalking me, too. I have 30K left locked up in a CD - he wants that when its available to pay off the credit cards in his name. We both spend on those cards for food and needs. I want to keep it as my nest just in case. He scares me sometimes. I feel like he may charm a judge when we fight for custody if I leave. I’m scared he will bring up the knife incident and the baker act (I was bakeracted last year when 5 months pregnant- he said he would cut me off financially and have me and our unborn baby fend for ourselves. I panicked and he was being a monster. I said he was hurting me and he said he didn’t care.) I told a cop I wanted to hurt myself but I wasn’t suicidal - I just feared my husband and wanted to get away from him. It was impulsive and I regretted saying it immediately. He was messing with my mind - he fake called the cops. Never dialed but acted out a conversation. I called right after.
I fear him. He is looking like a pscychopath to me or narcist - he pal ed his whole marriage and family around abuse and lies. He admitted to lying to keep me from leaving him on a few occassions. He would act like a little innocent and hurt boy. I could never see the abuser when he switched.
Would you be scared, too? I feel like no matter what I will never be free from him. My husband has once told me nobody will believe me. Everyone thinks I’m crazy - he said this right after convincing the cops that. (Time where he bent the truth to make it funny - the cops were sold.)

I’m a stay at home mom of two baby boys. Married 3 years & dated 6 months prior to marriage & got pregnant a couple of months before getting married.
I’m going to get shit for all my bad decision-making here.
I prayed (out loud) for a man that would meet all this criteria and one month later met my husband. He met all the criteria of my prayer so no matter what bad things happened, I thought God had this purposed for me. I mean like a checklist of 10-20 items all checked off. I was vedy devout in my faith. But, now looking back I feel like maybe it wasn’t God who answered my prayer. Maybe this was like a time in the book of Job where God let Satan attack Job and take everything away from him. I don’t know. Oddly enough, the man that became my husband said he prayed for this, too, one month prior.
He love-bombed me. He devalued me. Later, he threatened to leave me (but never has). While we were dating, when I was pregnant, when we were engaged. He called escorts behind my back. I find out he had sexual relations with a woman in his apartment complex one week before we started dating - he told me three years into our marriage. Before we dated, he also had a two year affair with a married woman (whose husband to this day has no idea about it.) He was meeting her and texting her behind my back 2 weeks into us being officially dating exclusively. I find out because he got arrested and I went to pick up his things on his person at the jail. I guess his passcode in one try and there I see the truth. He lied about this woman - he said she was a best friend with no I love yous and no sexual relations. He even asked me if it was okay to be friends with her and I asked him those two questions. He lied and the proof was right there. We were fairly new so I didn’t read too many texts. I spent one hour on his phone at most and handling a panic attack in between.
I read where he texted escorts, too, and read two other relationships he had while seeing this married woman. My mind was blown. I was done. I screenshoted some evidence for my personal keepsake. I texted the married woman because their I love you was so recent. I told her what happened and said to go get him out of jail because I was done. She blew up my phone with texts. She wanted to know who I was and she wanted to share all the creepy details about this man. She claimed they only had sex twice and it was rape - bullshit. She also said a lot of other things like she knew when he bought me a coffee and knew when he went to the city to meet his friends. She said he said that they could still have sex while he was seeing me. He denied it and said it was the other way around.
When he got out of jail, he contacted me and sent me a video. She texted me to show me he sent her a video, too. Same shirt, same scenery and all filmed back after back. He told her how much he cared about her but he was letting her go. He came to meet me because I took his dog to care after her while he was in jail. He talked me into giving him one more chance. I moved into his apartment to get away from a situation at home. I fell for him hard and believed I was in love. We texted and talked all the time and when we were able, we were together. I went on a trip for a week withoht him to California. I got back and the sheets were washed. He said he did that for me so I can come home to clean sheets. Later over the course of our relationship I noticed he never much stepped up to do the laundry. A lot of chores started falling on me. Before even being married he expected me to coean his whole apartment which seemed to have never been touched once with any cleaning.
We were fighting a lot and I saw some of his anger but I thought he was just frustrated with things he was dealing with in his life. He got sort of pushy with me having intercourse with him at times I told him I didn’t want to because I wanted to wait. That made him angry. I find out that he had been FaceTiming escorts from the first weeks we started dating and found at least one call every month up to the week we were suppose to get married. I was shocked! I had no idea and I couldn’t believe it. We had intercourse so much that he wouldn’t need that so I thought. He said it was like porn to him and he had that habit from before he met me. Keep in mind, I’m religious so I was abstinent most of my life and these red flags weren’t so obvious to me. I thought most men were dogs like this. The biggest factor that blew my mind (of which he explained away) was that these escorts weren’t typical - they were transgender women and some still had their boy parts. After talking with someone who I thought was like a mom to me(I find oht later she wasn’t for me), I went through with the wedding, and besides, I was having his baby.
We moved states. I noticed a lot of verbal abuse starting from typically the night time as we shared a bed. He would cuss at me a lot and get so angry. It was almost every night. I was surprised - thinking who is this guy. He made me cry a lot. It was so stupid, I got screamed at just for rolling over in my sleep. He explained this away later after the problem got better. I began feeling like I made a mistake in marrying him. I was so scared at the same time because this was my first pregnancy. I feared so much about the “what ifs” and what world this baby was coming into.
The abuse got worse. It got physcial from time-to-time. He says I was abusive back but I feel like it was reactive abuse because it became too much for me. I would hit him back. It ate at my mind every day and I had all these hormones because I was going to have a baby soon. When pregnant, he has pushed me, held me down, jumped on me with his hands around my neck. He said things that were horrible like he would walk away from this son like he did his first son (he had a son from an earlier relationship which he had nothing to do with). Fear overcame me and some days I thought ending my life was the only way to escape my life and prevent a nightmare for my son. (These feelings relented later in time.)
One time he held up furniture above his head and he was ready to throw it at my head - I believe this was right after our son was born. We argued a lot because my mistrust in him because what I mentioned I discovered earlier. I wanted him to assure me he was trustworthy so sometimes I asked for his phone. Doing that resulted many times in violence and rage. When he had that furniture held up, I felt like he was going to end me right then and there. He stopped himself and I asked him why. He said because he saw the fear in my eyes.
We fought and made up A LOT. That was our relationship and me asking him where he has been or was he with someone. It was terrible for both of us. I discover later that he lied about a lot of things. I didn’t even know he didn’t have a drivers license until about 1-2 years into our marriage. I didn’t know the pictures of his boy parts I found once while dating were to the escorts. I asked him approximately a thousand times. He doesn’t just lie - he tells a story with details and the whole thing is a lie.
I use to check his phone and browser history because it was never ending place of discovery. I never got confessions out of him but I did get evidence that he thought he hid. He must have gotten better at hiding things because I would find less and less. I got to a point where I don’t check anymore - I know and it’s a damn headache to live like that. All the time he did these things, he swore his love for me. He said I was everything.
I discovered again a lie the first time he went to Miami last year (his first time away from me.) He took advantage and called at least ten eacorts and almost met up with one (or did. I don’t know. There’s no money spent but he lied and said the last escort called was his co-worker. I may never know what happened but his coworkers got weird around me after that trip. They won’t look me in the eye.) I didn’t know all this until December last year where I asked him for his T-Mobile password. He didn’t think I would find this when giving me the password.
I saw a text after that trip and found out he lied. He was awake at 2:00PM after he told me he went to bed on the phone. He told me how he missed me SOOO much. He said he tried putting his arm around me in bed to realize I was not there. We FOUGHT over the phone. He didn’t want me to see the rest of the texts between him and his coworker. He left bruises on my arms pushing and shoving me with all his strength. He overpowered me and I never saw the messages. He said he was hiding the fact ge did cocaine. I lost control because I pulled a knife out at him. Not to hurt him but to intimidate him. (I never lost it like this again -he ALWAYS uses this against me to say I’m the abusive one.)
December he admitted the elaborate cocaine story he gave me was a LIE. He said he did do cocaine but not how he told me. The real thing he was hiding was the escorts. At that time, I find out he kissed a coworker (maybe more but nobody will tell me anything.) Another girl told me he was always flirting with new hires. After I find this out from these girls, he put two holes in the walls and broke the doors at the apartment that was in my name. He also bought me $200 roses and a new marriage ring fo Christmas along with other nice gifts. He even goes to therapy to get better at his lying problem (which he only did for about 3 sessions.) He swore this was the last time I would EVER have this happen to me. He swore he loved me and our family. My second baby was born February after ALL of that.
November, my mom died and left me money. I find all that out after I put money on a house for us - Our first house. I made sure we were good. I made sure my baby had everything he could need. I didn’t even buy myself a new car (backstory I lost my good credit, my 2020 car and had one eviction in this marriage. I was almost $30,000 in debt after all of that. My husband made his bad credit good and how we got the house, too. He still has his car and no evictions on his name. We paid over $5,000 for his traffic tickets and court fees plus his debts.)
I could have left then but I was vulnerable because I was having another baby in two months.I feared all the time because I couldn’t get a job or keep one being pregnant and I worried about having one after because I wouldn’t make enough with him and me working would put us at a negative income. I tried building this website but I have yet to get sales. I knew I needed to get out but one last things I feared was breaking up my marriage. I thought he could get better for all his problems.
His anger reared its head again this past month. I found a book titled “Why did he do that.” My husband fits a lot of those examples of abusers. The book said the nice guy is the mask.
This time when he got angry, he said it was my fault he cheated on me. He said it’s a woman’s fault if a man cheats. He said that women need to keep a man happy. He said he had depression caused by me which he never mentioned before. He always said I made him happier than he ever has been in his life. I didn’t know about the cheating just like I didn’t know about the cause. He endlessly lied to me.
I went to his work and asked his boss about the girl he kissed. He is still lying. He said he told his boss what happened. His boss said they both said nothing when they came in for questioning. My husband got the word out and it turned into drama when those girls texted me.
My husband is two people. Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde. I just learned recently he has been reading my journals on my phone and texts between my sister. He read my reddit posts. He lied about this and kept it to himself. I feel like he may have planned trapping me in my marriage so I would have nothing. I feel like he is stalking me, too. I have 30K left locked up in a CD - he wants that when its available to pay off the credit cards in his name. We both spend on those cards for food and needs. I want to keep it as my nest just in case. He scares me sometimes. I feel like he may charm a judge when we fight for custody if I leave. I’m scared he will bring up the knife incident and the baker act (I was bakeracted last year when 5 months pregnant- he said he would cut me off financially and have me and our unborn baby fend for ourselves. I panicked and he was being a monster. I said he was hurting me and he said he didn’t care.) I told a cop I wanted to hurt myself but I wasn’t suicidal - I just feared my husband and wanted to get away from him. It was impulsive and I regretted saying it immediately. He was messing with my mind - he fake called the cops. Never dialed but acted out a conversation. I called right after.
I fear him. He is looking like a pscychopath to me or narcist - he pal ed his whole marriage and family around abuse and lies. He admitted to lying to keep me from leaving him on a few occassions. He would act like a little innocent and hurt boy. I could never see the abuser when he switched.
Would you be scared, too? Am I overthinking his lies and abuse? Do I need to get away now? I feel like no matter what I will never be free from him. My husband has once told me nobody will believe me. Everyone thinks I’m crazy - he said this right after convincing the cops that. (Time where he bent the truth to make it funny - the cops were sold.)

My mother changed her first name to an Anglicized version of her name such as Ji-Woon to Jenny and this change is reflected on her green card and marriage certificate. She had the impression that since these documents had the name change, she filed all her other legal documents (such as her SSN) under this Anglicized name.
Recently she became a US citizen and the immigration officer told her she could not use this Anglicized name and put her original name (e.g. Ji-Woon) as it was written on her birth certificate onto the document.
My mother wants to apply for a passport so she can go see her own mother who is sick and may pass away in the next year. She’s worried the government will see her differing name between her drivers license/SSN and US Citizenship certificate and not allow her to get a passport. She’s also worried she may loose her assets which are listed under her Anglicized name.
In our eyes the easiest solution is to get the first name on the US Citizenship certificate changed to the Anglicized version of her name. But we are worried this process may take a while. Are there documents we can use such as her old green card or marriage certificate that can expedite this process? Is a lawyer recommended for this process?
Thank you!

Hi peeps,
I’ve had quite a few frustrating weeks with DistroKid and I’m posting here because I think I’m flat out of options. I hope this isn’t a repetitive issue but I really don’t know what to do from this point onwards.
I uploaded an album to DistroKid on April 16th, with 5 covers and 3 originals. Luckily, all the cover licenses came within a few days and the album was successfully processed and delivered to stores on April 20th, or so I thought.
The original release date was set to May 10th, as I figured leaving a few weeks was a safe bet. I am writing this post on May 22nd and the album still isn’t live in ANY store. Not Spotify, Apple Music, iTunes, instagram, even TikTok! 😂
Out of curiosity I had a chat with Spotify for artists support team, gave them the album name and UPC and they say that the album has not be received and they have no record of it ever being received.
As the album isn’t live in any stores, and it’s confirmed from Spotify that it hasn’t been received, I think it’s a fair assumption to say that despite DistroKid claiming the album is processed and has been sent to stores, that it just simply not true.
I’ve tried contacting support through their stupid chat bot but they just send me the clearly templated email with links to articles about the 5 working day wait time.
At this point, I’m so so frustrated with Distrokid, I’d even take a refund so I can hop onto a service with better support, but I don’t know if they do refunds for the cover songs.
Anyone have any ideas on what I can do next? Is there any other way to contact them? Or should I just give up and give Ditto the business?
Thanks in advanced peeps. I hope this doesn’t come across as too ranty, just a frustrated musician here! :)
TLDR Spotify hasn’t received album despite it being supposedly “delivered” by DistroKid over a month ago. Not sure what to do next.

Hello!
My partner and I applied for our marriage license this morning (wooo!), including paying a $50 fee for it. We want to do a simple, secular ceremony at city hall so we were told to get in touch with the city clerk. She's available to do the ceremony and make things official, but in our emails with her she told us that she charges a $100 fee (in cash only) in order to do it. It seems strange because there's no record of this fee outside of her emails.
Has anyone else ever heard of this?

WWYD, Hello all, this is my first post in here so bear with me as it might be long and very detailed. My ex-husband and I have three kids together. I am currently in a relationship and have been for a few years. We live together and it’s a completely different relationship that I’ve ever had. There’s been a lot of me giving in as i did during my marriage. I was a severe people pleaser all my life, caving in to more than i ever should have to too many people. This year has been the first year that I really have stood up for myself when it has come to anyone in my life. It took me 5 years to leave my ex-husband. Our whole relationship was rocky. We, of course did have good times. My parents were split up when i was 3 and they both also had rocky relationships after. Along with that , my dad chose when to be present in my life. Due to all that, I was very committed even though even before our marriage, many people told me to break up with him. We had our first child, two years before we got married. Fast forward to Marriage, 3 kids total, and were currently in marriage counseling. I had already had one foot out the door. One of my breaking points during marriage counseling is him lying to our counselor. That was basically the end of the road for me. My kids were suffering and saw everything going on and it was just time for me to strengthen up. Divorce starts and that was hard enough. I’ll save the headache on that one. He took nothing, but his clothes and he signs a dissolution of divorce because he wanted nothing more to do with me. We figure out custody of the kids, I did not file for child support as i agreed not to due to the amount of money he was making. Due to me having epilepsy and not having my license, He would pick up and drop off the kids at my house. I really tried to have a nice coparenting relationship, caved over so many things and so much more. Fast forward so much has happened between then and now. Everywhere from my kids have been in therapy due to issues that have been caused by him, them being scared at the first place he lived, and so much more. My number one thing I have done is severely work on myself, so much so that after he split, I was able to get my license for the first time in my life at the ripe age of 34. Now, I’ve had my issues too, i am definitely not perfect. I met my boyfriend randomly the same time during my separation and divorce, waited 6 months for my kids to meet him. When my ex found out about him, sometime even before then, my ex would cause issues at pick up and drop off including to using his car to kick up dust on my boyfriends car, stalk my house when he would go out of the way to drive by it at midnight when he didn’t have the kids. Made racist and rude, sexual comments in front of the kids. I caved so much, so much more than I should have. I went to file child support, he gets the papers in the mail, begs me to stop it, so i do. Child custody, same thing. Wow, I didn’t know i would be typing this long, lol, but I have been meaning to post in here ever since I found this group and this seriously feels like a weight lifted off my shoulders since I’m finally posting. I update him on everything about the kids even though each teacher have communication apps and he gets them on Tuesday until 5. He doesn’t have our kids do their homework so they have to do it when they get home, I still do everything for them, of course he used to have to take them to all their appointments, I do give him that when it came to our oldest, he took so much pride in being her dad, but also turned her against me when she was 3, he also does take our youngest to speech. He isn’t in the best financial situation, hell none of us are these days, so I’m really trying to not file child support or child custody, but im at the point where having everything through the courts is going to make everything just ease some anxiety, I can’t be around him without shaking. We’ve been doing better at drop offs and pick ups, we meet half way now, he pays me once a week, a total of 600 a month. I struggle financially. I get less than 1200 on SSDI. Now, My kids absolutely love my boyfriend, he lives with us now. My oldest want to call him dad, but knows her siblings will tell their dad. When I ask him about Child support, He will tell me to have my boyfriend help me pay for things, which when it comes to house bills, he does help, when it comes to the kids though, I really try to make sure I can cover everything. Unless, it’s something at his house, I pay for everything even school items. But the clincher here is, he wants my boyfriend to do nothing with our kids and frankly, i am tired of hearing it. My boyfriend really wanted to try to patch things up with him ( he expressed it would be nice that we all could come together for the kids) since years have gone by, but my ex stated, “I don’t trust you with the kids, and I trust him less.” My boyfriend is really involved in the kids life, including school, but when it comes to school visits for things, he doesn’t go to avoid unnecessary drama. We went to my oldest’s band concert, it was a Tuesday so he had them, I had picked up my daughter to take her to band after she was picked up by him. She called me, he was yelling at her on the phone, cursing at her, after he cursed at her in front of her teacher just minutes before . This was after the 3rd time being over 20 minutes - 1 hour late to pick up our kids. One day he forgot about them. So band concert, My 2nd child wanted to come sit with my boyfriend and I my 3rd stayed with dad. My second has ADHD and OCD and her anxiety is very stressful for her. He told her, “if you go sit with your mom, you have to stay with her.” Well, while that might have been the best idea, although, she has done it all the time with each concert, she started breaking down crying and shaking in anxiety because her dad told her that and she missed her dad and wanted to go sit with him. He just kept staring over at us until our daughter played. When done, never asked why she was crying or if she was okay. Kind of just ignored her which again broke down in the car on the way home. She is extremely sensitive that even though there’s issues with dad, she tries to see past it because she does love him, as do all my kids. My oldest states that she doesn’t want to shorten the days because she’s scared of what he will do or take it out on them. There’s days she doesn’t want to go because how he acts sometimes. Things she expresses to me, she no longer wants me to address to her dad because he has yelled at me in front of the kids at pick up or drop off when addressed, he will completely lie through text or phone calls. She tells me that no matter what she will go to protect her siblings. Unfortunately, I feel the same way. I fear he will cause issues all over again. Thank you for the long read. I really do appreciate it. I apologize for the grammatical errors lol 😂
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Also, the day he yelled at our child the day of her band concert, I asked if he apologized and she said nope. He did although say,
Ex: I apologize
DD: for what?
Ex: for being a bad ass dad. *face palm*

I run a WooCommerce shop and sell digital items like photoshop templates, textures, and stock illustrations. My customers should be able to choose between a personal, commercial, or extended license. What's the best way to do this? Product variations?
Here's an example of what this looks like on a Shopify store.

About WARNO)
Background:
The first division to be introduced on the Sordish side was the 5th Infantry Division. Deployed in the Nargis region as part of the Sordland First Army, The 5th infantry division is perhaps the most typical of all Sordish infantry divisions before the war of 1958. In fact, the Sordish armed force inquiry specifically designated the division as a template division. The 5th Infantry Division saw its first combat in the Estord pincer; it has since taken part in many major campaigns throughout the war.
Logistics: The 5th infantry division is designed with strong logistical capability in mind, providing the commander with a range of different options for combat sustainment
Sunolis 32 truck: the stereotypical truck that represents the Sordish Armed Forces
M52 munition carrier: the license-produced Arcasian carrier has been used as a mechanized troop transport. On some occasions, they are used to ferry ammunition to the frontline.
Fielddepot: a hardened strongpoint for storing ammunition. The Sordish doctrine relies on a good defense just like it relies on a good offense.
Sunolis 41 jeep: a mobile ride for commanding officers, not exactly the safest option
Infantry: The backbone of the Sordish Army, the men of the 5th infantry division may not be best of the entire army, but they are well-equipped and ready for combat.
Rifleman (motorized): 10 men squads with 8 G2 combat rifles, one MG21 machine gun, a Carl Gustafsson recoilless rifle (12 penetration with 4 shots), and rifle grenades. Initially, the Lancea reform aimed to fully mechanize all infantry units with M52 carriers. However, due to resource constraints, for each infantry brigades, two infantry battalions are motorized on trucks, and the third is mounted on M52 carriers.
Riflemen (mechanized): 8 men squads with 7 G2 combat rifles, one MG21 machine gun, a Carl Gustafsson recoilless rifle and rifle grenades. The squad rides in M52 carriers to battle. The carrier can reinforce the rifle squads with ammunition and material to reflect the fact that carriers do carry ammo on them. The recoilless
Engineers: 6 men squads with 5 G2s, one MG21, and 4 AT grenades (10 penetration and 50m range). Engineers have always been a part of the Sordish army since the Markian empire. Per doctrine, the engineers should be deployed as a reserve unit in the rear to strengthen defenses, they are not expected to hold the line or storm enemy positions.
Pioneers: Pioneers are specialized combat engineers tasked with storming enemy strongpoints and engage in close combat. This role is reflected by their shock trait, which increases their damage output at close range. A pioneer squad has 9 men with 7 G2s, an FO-47 flamethrower, satchel charges (50m range, 3 HE damage), and AT grenades.
Weapon squad: For each company, four machine guns are allocated; this is reflected by the weapons squad with 4 tripod mounted MG21s. The squad has 8 men with 4 G2 and an additional Carl Gustafsson Recoilless.
Anti-tank squad (motorized): The dismounted recoilless squad operates a crew-served 106mm M51 recoilless rifle (14 penetration, 70% accuracy, 800m range). They reflect the anti-tank squad organic to each motorized company.
Anti-tank squad (mech): mechanized AT squads are attached to each mechanized infantry company from the battalion level; they consist of a 5 men team with two Carl Gustafsson. The squad rides in a M52A carrier armed with a 106mm recoilless rifle.
ATGM squad: This is a new addition to the motorized battalion's anti-tank asset, but it has yet to replace the role of the venerable M53. The BS-3 missile is operated by a three-man team with a minimum range of 400 meters. The MCLOS guidance system resulted in abysmal accuracy (35%), but the long range of the missile and its penetration level (14 penetration with 3000m range) brought a revolutionary change to anti-tank combat.
Headquarters team: the leader of the unit. A five men team with 4 G2 rifles and one recoilless rifle. The headquarters team increases the morale of units within its effect radius and increases their veteran level. Enemy units seen by the HQ team can also be targeted with artillery with reduced aiming time due to their “forward observer” trait.
Artillery: Despite being smaller than their gargantuan Rumburgian counterpart, Sordish infantry divisions have access to a wide range of artilleries.
81mm mortar team: Five-men team with an 81mm, not the best nor the worst. (2 HE damage, fast fire rate)
M502 mortar carrier: A M52 carrier configured to carry 120mm mortar (3 HE damage, fast fire rate)
HF110 howitzer: a towed piece of 110mm artillery (3 HE damage, medium fire rate but with longer range and ammunition)
HF155 howitzer: a towed piece of 155 (4 HE damage, medium fire rate)
L213 SPG: A self-propelled 155mm artillery gun, it is armored to protect itself against enemy counterbattery fire (4 HE damage, medium fire rate)
Rk228 “pipe organ”: A heavy multiple-launch rocket artillery capable of firing 16 480mm rockets in one row. The accuracy is poor, but it can absolutely devastate enemy strong points.
Tanks: The Lancea reform seeks to turn the army into a modernized force capable of inflicting devastating losses on enemy units through maneuver warfare. The division’s tank arsenal has been modernized to some degree.
B-45 tanks: first developed in 1945, the tanks were pretty outdated by 1958. They lack modern armor and cannot reliably damage newer tanks with their 88mm gun. (4 front armor, 2 side armor, 1 rear armor, the 88 gun deals 2 HE and 10 penetration with 40% accuracy over 2300m range)
B-55 tanks: the update to B-45 tanks (pretty much T-55 but better), the B-55s are equipped with smoke launchers, newer 100mm guns, and active night vision capability to counter the Rumburgian night capability. The armor is also improved (7 front armor, 3 side armor, 1 rear armor, the 100mm gun deals 3 HE and 14 penetration with 45% accuracy over 2500m range)
B-55M1, the newest generation of the B-55 series, the tanks are equipped with ballistic computers and better armor, the ammunition is also improved. (9 front armor, 5 side armor, the gun deals 16 penetration with a kinetic projectile with 60% accuracy over 2500m range)
B-55cmd, a command variant of B-55, with leader trait and forward observer trait
Recon: The ability to get information across is essential in modern warfare, hence the army has invested much in this field
FernJaeger: 10 men motorized squad with 7 G2 rifles, 2 MG21 machineguns, 1 Carl Gustaf, and grenades. They have exceptional stealth and spotting.
Belluxjaeger: 4-man team with one Carl Gustaf. They can ride in M52 Jagdhross carriers (the recon version of M52, it is equipped with one 106mm and two MG21 guns). or jeeps
Hettmotor Fuchs: A 6-wheeled armored car with a 20mm cannon and smoke launcher (3 front armor, good spotting)
Air Defense: the Sordish air force is confident in their ability to stop most enemy air attack, but infantry divisions usually retain a strong anti-air component
M42 20mm: dual 20mm anti-air gun, it is somewhat obsolete
M55 anti-air: Self-propelled quad 20mm anti-air gun with radar assisted guidance, the main defense against Rumburgian air threat.
FK-20 Magico: Lespian infrared anti-air missile, the only weapon system not made in Sordland. The missiles have a 60% hit rate against air targets.
Helicopters: Sordish infantry divisions do not have access to much helicopters, most helicopter assets are centralized to armored divisions
Antelope II: Lespian light helicopter, somewhat commonly used in the Rika continent by the Pretorian Defense Force and some Arcasian PMCs, the helicopter is mostly used for recon with only an MG21 mounted on it.
Planes: The Sordish Air Force is an independent strategic branch. Due to limited resources, they are more concerned with gaining air superiority and acting as an interdicting force. The vast majority of infantry units cannot call in close air support. A longtime joke is that a colonel in an infantry division can call in as much air support as a captain in a tank division can.
P-86 Sabre: the plane comes in two variations; A2A variant is armed with a Rattlesnake air-to-air missile (60% accuracy). The rocket variant fires 128mm rockets.
P-104 Starfighter: the Arcasian plane’s reliance on speed has made it notorious for crash incidents, it is often nicknamed as “flying coffin” by aircrews. The plane comes in a bomber variant with two 450kg bombs.
P-100 Super Sabre: the backbone of the Sordish air force, the A2A version has semi-active radar missiles in addition to Rattlesnakes, the bomb version carries four 450kg bombs and two 20mm gun pods

I am about to file the I-130 form for my wife and I just realized that my address's zip code is incorrect on the marriage certificate. Will I need to get this fixed or is it fine since it's just a small typo

Deciding to elope was the easy part. Telling your loved ones that you’re eloping? Sometimes that’s not so easy!
Before we get too far, it’s important to note that you are NOT required to tell anyone beforehand if you know they will not be supportive of your decision, or will cause additional stress leading up to your wedding day.The time you spend planning your elopement is already full of so many different emotions, so if you prefer to only tell people who will bring joy to the process and have your back, or decide to keep your decision completely to yourself until after you’ve signed your marriage license, that it is absolutely okay to do so.
However, if you feel ready to tell your family you're eloping, we’ve put together a guide with some tips and tricks for sharing the news about your elopement, as well as ways to include them in person or from afar!
Check it out 👇🏻
How to Tell Your Family You’re Eloping

Hi!
A new major release of DaDaBIK is out (founder here) and I think this might be of interest to this subreddit.
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My wife needs to apply for social security and has a question. 35 years ago after we got married, she started using her maiden name as her middle name. However, when she notified SS after the marriage, she only changed her last name. So SS & Medicare has her actual middle name from her birth certificate in their system. I'll use a fake name as an example: her birth certificate name is "Jane Diane Smith", but changed her last name after the wedding to "Jane Diane Thomas". SS/Medicare systems show her legal name as "Jane D Thomas". Her driver's license, passport, and federal/state tax returns are all listed as "Jane Smith Thomas".
We know we can call SS and ask them, but thought we would ask here to see if someone had a similar issue. Our question, is it legally required for her to contact SS/Medicare to change her name in their systems to "Jane S Thomas"?

Hi guys! Did anybody got married in the state of Georgia and change their name?
We did (me and my USC husband). I chose to take his name but in our county, they gave us a Marriage Certificate with both our maiden names + a copy of the application for a marriage license where it states that I will take her name.
I want to send the concurrent filling with my married name, so I get SSC and GC under that name already, but I'm afraid of doing so because the actual certificate has my maiden name.
Can someone married in Georgia share their experience?
Thank you so much!

This is a mystery that my grandmother could never solve. After she passed away, I took up the cause, but I've only partially solved it. After years of this, maybe some of you folks who haven't stared at everything for hours on end can see something I haven't.
The mystery is Rachel Meddings - DOB (I believe) 8/22/1884. Date of Death - 9/1/1916. This date I know because I found her death certificate, but even that has a typo and lists her year of birth as 1844. She was married to John James Meddings, DOB 7/25/1881, date of death 5/2/1946. Her death alone was the biggest part of the mystery for a long time, because my grandmother had been told that she died in childbirth, but the death certificate says pertussis. She was buried at the county farm apparently in an unmarked grave so that location may never be found.
The remaining mystery is - who were Rachel's parents? On her death certificate, they're listed as William and Telitha French. I can find a William and Telitha French in Putnam County, WV in the 1900 census with a daughter named Rachel, but her birth is listed as June of 1883 there. On John and Rachel's marriage license 2 years later in 1902 her last name is listed as Horton, but it shows that she hadn't been previously married.
So now the questions - where did the Horton last name come from? Who are Rachel's real parents? Why can't I find any more records for William and Telitha? Looking for William French, who's listed as her father, I can't find any more evidence of him existing other than the 1891 marriage certificate for he and Telitha. To add to it, there's an 1892 marriage certificate for a William French and Malinda Ray in the same county that I think is just a different William French. He of course also had a son named William too. My guess is that maybe Rachel is the daughter of either William or Telitha from a previous relationship since she was born in 1883 and William and Telitha weren't married until 1891. As a bonus, on the 1910 census they have listed that they'd been married 17 years, or back to 1883 when Rachel was born. She's not listed on the census as a stepchild though, and I can't find any birth records for Rachel either as Horton or French.
My grandmother always insisted that Rachel's last name was French, but again, she always insisted she died in childbirth too and we all know how often these things people insist were true really weren't. So maybe someone here can point out something I've missed right in front of me for years. Of course West Virginia's database of vital records is having technical difficulties and can't display images right now too so that makes it more fun. So - anyone have any theories or see something I've missed?