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2013.04.30 01:33 davidcu96 BulkOrCut

This is a serious sub for anyone that wants to know whether they should bulk or cut for cosmetic appearances, general health, and/or fitness goals.
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2012.03.08 00:03 godleflopest Collection of delightfully rotund cats or businessmen!

Fat Cats killed fatcats.
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2013.01.17 21:20 NewYorkBarbershop305 r/Barber - Reddit’s #1 Barbering Community

Welcome to /Barber - The #1 community on Reddit dedicated to the art of barbering, for barbers by barbers.
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2024.05.22 01:45 Elbow_calrissian Microtech UTX-85 Bounty Hunter Hellhound

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LNIB. Never carried, cut, or sharpened. Kept in foam, and have original box and packaging. Birthdate 2/2024. PP G/S includes shipping SV $350. Apocalyptic finish.
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2024.05.22 01:42 AZ_Steve Am I an idiot or is it obvious to order a 65 foot roll of turf? (Yard Diagram Inside)

Am I an idiot or is it obvious to order a 65 foot roll of turf? (Yard Diagram Inside)
Each square represents 2'x2' (it's not 100% accurate but very close)
With artificial turf roll being 15 feet wide I could go horizontally end to end with one huge piece. Except in the deepest portion I will have about 2'9" x 20' feet in that space with the odd angle up against the patio and house.
I should point out that the "Raised Dirt Patch" is going to have turf, but it's separate from the rest of the yard. There is a small retaining wall there and that 12x12 section is raised up to the height of the patio which is about 12 inches higher than the ground on the other side of the 7" wall".
Here is a picture that better illustrates my words. I had some ground squirrels burrowing under the patio, hence the wire mesh I laid down. It's still a work in progress. Those gosh darn squirrels...
I will still get some base layer to bring that area up closer to the height of the patio as well.
The squirrels have been tormenting me for years
So laying the 65' roll of turf horizontally across the yard I will be able to use the portion I cut from the more narrow area to cover the missing depth in the widest area. (And in the right direction). I might have to cut in a small triangle to cover the widest spot.
In my mind that means just 1 (maybe 2) seam(s). But it's a small ish piece about 3' off the house and is a total of about 60 square feet (3'x20" ish plus the angled portion). Is that weird? I think it's OK, but I don't know what I don't know.
On the other hand it means I will be working with one giant piece of turf. Am I an idiot setting myself up for a terrible time laying that down and getting it nice and tight?
If I were to run the turf vertically instead of horizontally I think I will end up with a lot more waste. Or if I try to minimize waste I end up having to place a small strip somewhere else in the yard which leads me back to the thought that I might as well just run it horizontally if I'm trying to avoid small strips of turf.
Part of the doubt I have is that there was some turf in the yard before. It only covered about 50% of the yard and it was run vertically. So someone made that decision before. And since I'm just a guy with big ideas and no experience I'm here looking for others to help me brainstorm.
It seems like "bad" turf jobs on the internet are usually from visible lines. So having essentially one huge continuous piece sounds to me like a no brainer, right?
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2024.05.22 01:35 bictclejko Clarification on the Footprints

I keep hearing how it’s weird they left calmly. Are there pictures of the footprints how is it determined they left calmly. In snow often times the fastest you can move is a walk. Also, clear footprints you can determine speed from in a snow covered mountain a month later surprises me.
My theory: A bad snow storm or gust of wind at night knocked down their tent trapping some or all inside. Someone with a knife cuts their way out and everyone gets out of the collapsed tent. In -40 degree, windy, snowy weather only some people found their clothes and get dressed giving some articles of clothing to the undressed hikers who can’t find their clothes. They hike down to the trees. Knowing they will need better shelter the fully clothed people go deeper but one falls and hits his head and the other three are killed by shifting snow in the ravine or attempting to help him and failing. Time passes and the rest of the group realizes the “scouting” team is not returning. They determine it’s too dangerous and they have been outside too long to follow them, so one of the group climbs the tree staying close to the fire while collecting dry sticks for the fire. The next most dressed people eventually make an attempt to return to the camp to retrieve items/supplies to survive the night but never make it. The unclothed stay in their “shelter” waiting for two groups who never return.
I also, depending on locations think it’s possible the three “returning” to the tent were actually returning to the two underdressed people to bring them to the other shelter but couldn’t find them in the storm/dark.
Maybe I’m missing information that will prove my theory false but it seems the most logical to me.
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2024.05.22 01:33 iuliad94 My thoughts about S3 Part 1 after rewatching

So I actually watched the first 4 episodes when they dropped, but I was very underwhelmed and decided not to post anything as I didn’t want to be negative. I didn’t dislike it, but I was definitely disappointed because I had very high expectations after all the press, the promo and what was being said by the cast and the crew. However, since then I rewatched the 4 episodes and I definitely like it more now after rewatching with no high expectations.
The things I had issues with:
A thing I'm unsure about for now:
Now finally onto the positive stuff:
So these are my thoughts and even though I was disappointed I did enjoy the season overall even if it seems like I have many complaints, it’s still Bridgerton and I just love the show. I feel like my thoughts would be much different with a full picture of the season and not just 4 episodes. I am sure that after Part 2 my feelings about it will be a lot more positive since the storylines will all pay off hopefully. I’m also hoping that they don’t do this split release in the future as I genuinely think it hindered my enjoyment of the season.
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2024.05.22 01:28 GrainOfSand10 SCARED of my husband

I’m a stay at home mom of two baby boys. Married 3 years & dated 6 months prior to marriage & got pregnant a couple of months before getting married.
I’m going to get shit for all my bad decision-making here.
I prayed (out loud) for a man that would meet all this criteria and one month later met my husband. He met all the criteria of my prayer so no matter what bad things happened, I thought God had this purposed for me. I mean like a checklist of 10-20 items all checked off. I was vedy devout in my faith. But, now looking back I feel like maybe it wasn’t God who answered my prayer. Maybe this was like a time in the book of Job where God let Satan attack Job and take everything away from him. I don’t know. Oddly enough, the man that became my husband said he prayed for this, too, one month prior.
He love-bombed me. He devalued me. Later, he threatened to leave me (but never has). While we were dating, when I was pregnant, when we were engaged. He called escorts behind my back. I find out he had sexual relations with a woman in his apartment complex one week before we started dating - he told me three years into our marriage. Before we dated, he also had a two year affair with a married woman (whose husband to this day has no idea about it.) He was meeting her and texting her behind my back 2 weeks into us being officially dating exclusively. I find out because he got arrested and I went to pick up his things on his person at the jail. I guess his passcode in one try and there I see the truth. He lied about this woman - he said she was a best friend with no I love yous and no sexual relations. He even asked me if it was okay to be friends with her and I asked him those two questions. He lied and the proof was right there. We were fairly new so I didn’t read too many texts. I spent one hour on his phone at most and handling a panic attack in between.
I read where he texted escorts, too, and read two other relationships he had while seeing this married woman. My mind was blown. I was done. I screenshoted some evidence for my personal keepsake. I texted the married woman because their I love you was so recent. I told her what happened and said to go get him out of jail because I was done. She blew up my phone with texts. She wanted to know who I was and she wanted to share all the creepy details about this man. She claimed they only had sex twice and it was rape - bullshit. She also said a lot of other things like she knew when he bought me a coffee and knew when he went to the city to meet his friends. She said he said that they could still have sex while he was seeing me. He denied it and said it was the other way around.
When he got out of jail, he contacted me and sent me a video. She texted me to show me he sent her a video, too. Same shirt, same scenery and all filmed back after back. He told her how much he cared about her but he was letting her go. He came to meet me because I took his dog to care after her while he was in jail. He talked me into giving him one more chance. I moved into his apartment to get away from a situation at home. I fell for him hard and believed I was in love. We texted and talked all the time and when we were able, we were together. I went on a trip for a week withoht him to California. I got back and the sheets were washed. He said he did that for me so I can come home to clean sheets. Later over the course of our relationship I noticed he never much stepped up to do the laundry. A lot of chores started falling on me. Before even being married he expected me to coean his whole apartment which seemed to have never been touched once with any cleaning.
We were fighting a lot and I saw some of his anger but I thought he was just frustrated with things he was dealing with in his life. He got sort of pushy with me having intercourse with him at times I told him I didn’t want to because I wanted to wait. That made him angry. I find out that he had been FaceTiming escorts from the first weeks we started dating and found at least one call every month up to the week we were suppose to get married. I was shocked! I had no idea and I couldn’t believe it. We had intercourse so much that he wouldn’t need that so I thought. He said it was like porn to him and he had that habit from before he met me. Keep in mind, I’m religious so I was abstinent most of my life and these red flags weren’t so obvious to me. I thought most men were dogs like this. The biggest factor that blew my mind (of which he explained away) was that these escorts weren’t typical - they were transgender women and some still had their boy parts. After talking with someone who I thought was like a mom to me(I find oht later she wasn’t for me), I went through with the wedding, and besides, I was having his baby.
We moved states. I noticed a lot of verbal abuse starting from typically the night time as we shared a bed. He would cuss at me a lot and get so angry. It was almost every night. I was surprised - thinking who is this guy. He made me cry a lot. It was so stupid, I got screamed at just for rolling over in my sleep. He explained this away later after the problem got better. I began feeling like I made a mistake in marrying him. I was so scared at the same time because this was my first pregnancy. I feared so much about the “what ifs” and what world this baby was coming into.
The abuse got worse. It got physcial from time-to-time. He says I was abusive back but I feel like it was reactive abuse because it became too much for me. I would hit him back. It ate at my mind every day and I had all these hormones because I was going to have a baby soon. When pregnant, he has pushed me, held me down, jumped on me with his hands around my neck. He said things that were horrible like he would walk away from this son like he did his first son (he had a son from an earlier relationship which he had nothing to do with). Fear overcame me and some days I thought ending my life was the only way to escape my life and prevent a nightmare for my son. (These feelings relented later in time.)
One time he held up furniture above his head and he was ready to throw it at my head - I believe this was right after our son was born. We argued a lot because my mistrust in him because what I mentioned I discovered earlier. I wanted him to assure me he was trustworthy so sometimes I asked for his phone. Doing that resulted many times in violence and rage. When he had that furniture held up, I felt like he was going to end me right then and there. He stopped himself and I asked him why. He said because he saw the fear in my eyes.
We fought and made up A LOT. That was our relationship and me asking him where he has been or was he with someone. It was terrible for both of us. I discover later that he lied about a lot of things. I didn’t even know he didn’t have a drivers license until about 1-2 years into our marriage. I didn’t know the pictures of his boy parts I found once while dating were to the escorts. I asked him approximately a thousand times. He doesn’t just lie - he tells a story with details and the whole thing is a lie.
I use to check his phone and browser history because it was never ending place of discovery. I never got confessions out of him but I did get evidence that he thought he hid. He must have gotten better at hiding things because I would find less and less. I got to a point where I don’t check anymore - I know and it’s a damn headache to live like that. All the time he did these things, he swore his love for me. He said I was everything.
I discovered again a lie the first time he went to Miami last year (his first time away from me.) He took advantage and called at least ten eacorts and almost met up with one (or did. I don’t know. There’s no money spent but he lied and said the last escort called was his co-worker. I may never know what happened but his coworkers got weird around me after that trip. They won’t look me in the eye.) I didn’t know all this until December last year where I asked him for his T-Mobile password. He didn’t think I would find this when giving me the password.
I saw a text after that trip and found out he lied. He was awake at 2:00PM after he told me he went to bed on the phone. He told me how he missed me SOOO much. He said he tried putting his arm around me in bed to realize I was not there. We FOUGHT over the phone. He didn’t want me to see the rest of the texts between him and his coworker. He left bruises on my arms pushing and shoving me with all his strength. He overpowered me and I never saw the messages. He said he was hiding the fact ge did cocaine. I lost control because I pulled a knife out at him. Not to hurt him but to intimidate him. (I never lost it like this again -he ALWAYS uses this against me to say I’m the abusive one.)
December he admitted the elaborate cocaine story he gave me was a LIE. He said he did do cocaine but not how he told me. The real thing he was hiding was the escorts. At that time, I find out he kissed a coworker (maybe more but nobody will tell me anything.) Another girl told me he was always flirting with new hires. After I find this out from these girls, he put two holes in the walls and broke the doors at the apartment that was in my name. He also bought me $200 roses and a new marriage ring fo Christmas along with other nice gifts. He even goes to therapy to get better at his lying problem (which he only did for about 3 sessions.) He swore this was the last time I would EVER have this happen to me. He swore he loved me and our family. My second baby was born February after ALL of that.
November, my mom died and left me money. I find all that out after I put money on a house for us - Our first house. I made sure we were good. I made sure my baby had everything he could need. I didn’t even buy myself a new car (backstory I lost my good credit, my 2020 car and had one eviction in this marriage. I was almost $30,000 in debt after all of that. My husband made his bad credit good and how we got the house, too. He still has his car and no evictions on his name. We paid over $5,000 for his traffic tickets and court fees plus his debts.)
I could have left then but I was vulnerable because I was having another baby in two months.I feared all the time because I couldn’t get a job or keep one being pregnant and I worried about having one after because I wouldn’t make enough with him and me working would put us at a negative income. I tried building this website but I have yet to get sales. I knew I needed to get out but one last things I feared was breaking up my marriage. I thought he could get better for all his problems.
His anger reared its head again this past month. I found a book titled “Why did he do that.” My husband fits a lot of those examples of abusers. The book said the nice guy is the mask.
This time when he got angry, he said it was my fault he cheated on me. He said it’s a woman’s fault if a man cheats. He said that women need to keep a man happy. He said he had depression caused by me which he never mentioned before. He always said I made him happier than he ever has been in his life. I didn’t know about the cheating just like I didn’t know about the cause. He endlessly lied to me.
I went to his work and asked his boss about the girl he kissed. He is still lying. He said he told his boss what happened. His boss said they both said nothing when they came in for questioning. My husband got the word out and it turned into drama when those girls texted me.
My husband is two people. Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde. I just learned recently he has been reading my journals on my phone and texts between my sister. He read my reddit posts. He lied about this and kept it to himself. I feel like he may have planned trapping me in my marriage so I would have nothing. I feel like he is stalking me, too. I have 30K left locked up in a CD - he wants that when its available to pay off the credit cards in his name. We both spend on those cards for food and needs. I want to keep it as my nest just in case. He scares me sometimes. I feel like he may charm a judge when we fight for custody if I leave. I’m scared he will bring up the knife incident and the baker act (I was bakeracted last year when 5 months pregnant- he said he would cut me off financially and have me and our unborn baby fend for ourselves. I panicked and he was being a monster. I said he was hurting me and he said he didn’t care.) I told a cop I wanted to hurt myself but I wasn’t suicidal - I just feared my husband and wanted to get away from him. It was impulsive and I regretted saying it immediately. He was messing with my mind - he fake called the cops. Never dialed but acted out a conversation. I called right after.
I fear him. He is looking like a pscychopath to me or narcist - he pal ed his whole marriage and family around abuse and lies. He admitted to lying to keep me from leaving him on a few occassions. He would act like a little innocent and hurt boy. I could never see the abuser when he switched.
Would you be scared, too? I feel like no matter what I will never be free from him. My husband has once told me nobody will believe me. Everyone thinks I’m crazy - he said this right after convincing the cops that. (Time where he bent the truth to make it funny - the cops were sold.)
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2024.05.22 01:26 GrainOfSand10 SCARED of my husband

I’m a stay at home mom of two baby boys. Married 3 years & dated 6 months prior to marriage & got pregnant a couple of months before getting married.
I’m going to get shit for all my bad decision-making here.
I prayed (out loud) for a man that would meet all this criteria and one month later met my husband. He met all the criteria of my prayer so no matter what bad things happened, I thought God had this purposed for me. I mean like a checklist of 10-20 items all checked off. I was vedy devout in my faith. But, now looking back I feel like maybe it wasn’t God who answered my prayer. Maybe this was like a time in the book of Job where God let Satan attack Job and take everything away from him. I don’t know. Oddly enough, the man that became my husband said he prayed for this, too, one month prior.
He love-bombed me. He devalued me. Later, he threatened to leave me (but never has). While we were dating, when I was pregnant, when we were engaged. He called escorts behind my back. I find out he had sexual relations with a woman in his apartment complex one week before we started dating - he told me three years into our marriage. Before we dated, he also had a two year affair with a married woman (whose husband to this day has no idea about it.) He was meeting her and texting her behind my back 2 weeks into us being officially dating exclusively. I find out because he got arrested and I went to pick up his things on his person at the jail. I guess his passcode in one try and there I see the truth. He lied about this woman - he said she was a best friend with no I love yous and no sexual relations. He even asked me if it was okay to be friends with her and I asked him those two questions. He lied and the proof was right there. We were fairly new so I didn’t read too many texts. I spent one hour on his phone at most and handling a panic attack in between.
I read where he texted escorts, too, and read two other relationships he had while seeing this married woman. My mind was blown. I was done. I screenshoted some evidence for my personal keepsake. I texted the married woman because their I love you was so recent. I told her what happened and said to go get him out of jail because I was done. She blew up my phone with texts. She wanted to know who I was and she wanted to share all the creepy details about this man. She claimed they only had sex twice and it was rape - bullshit. She also said a lot of other things like she knew when he bought me a coffee and knew when he went to the city to meet his friends. She said he said that they could still have sex while he was seeing me. He denied it and said it was the other way around.
When he got out of jail, he contacted me and sent me a video. She texted me to show me he sent her a video, too. Same shirt, same scenery and all filmed back after back. He told her how much he cared about her but he was letting her go. He came to meet me because I took his dog to care after her while he was in jail. He talked me into giving him one more chance. I moved into his apartment to get away from a situation at home. I fell for him hard and believed I was in love. We texted and talked all the time and when we were able, we were together. I went on a trip for a week withoht him to California. I got back and the sheets were washed. He said he did that for me so I can come home to clean sheets. Later over the course of our relationship I noticed he never much stepped up to do the laundry. A lot of chores started falling on me. Before even being married he expected me to coean his whole apartment which seemed to have never been touched once with any cleaning.
We were fighting a lot and I saw some of his anger but I thought he was just frustrated with things he was dealing with in his life. He got sort of pushy with me having intercourse with him at times I told him I didn’t want to because I wanted to wait. That made him angry. I find out that he had been FaceTiming escorts from the first weeks we started dating and found at least one call every month up to the week we were suppose to get married. I was shocked! I had no idea and I couldn’t believe it. We had intercourse so much that he wouldn’t need that so I thought. He said it was like porn to him and he had that habit from before he met me. Keep in mind, I’m religious so I was abstinent most of my life and these red flags weren’t so obvious to me. I thought most men were dogs like this. The biggest factor that blew my mind (of which he explained away) was that these escorts weren’t typical - they were transgender women and some still had their boy parts. After talking with someone who I thought was like a mom to me(I find oht later she wasn’t for me), I went through with the wedding, and besides, I was having his baby.
We moved states. I noticed a lot of verbal abuse starting from typically the night time as we shared a bed. He would cuss at me a lot and get so angry. It was almost every night. I was surprised - thinking who is this guy. He made me cry a lot. It was so stupid, I got screamed at just for rolling over in my sleep. He explained this away later after the problem got better. I began feeling like I made a mistake in marrying him. I was so scared at the same time because this was my first pregnancy. I feared so much about the “what ifs” and what world this baby was coming into.
The abuse got worse. It got physcial from time-to-time. He says I was abusive back but I feel like it was reactive abuse because it became too much for me. I would hit him back. It ate at my mind every day and I had all these hormones because I was going to have a baby soon. When pregnant, he has pushed me, held me down, jumped on me with his hands around my neck. He said things that were horrible like he would walk away from this son like he did his first son (he had a son from an earlier relationship which he had nothing to do with). Fear overcame me and some days I thought ending my life was the only way to escape my life and prevent a nightmare for my son. (These feelings relented later in time.)
One time he held up furniture above his head and he was ready to throw it at my head - I believe this was right after our son was born. We argued a lot because my mistrust in him because what I mentioned I discovered earlier. I wanted him to assure me he was trustworthy so sometimes I asked for his phone. Doing that resulted many times in violence and rage. When he had that furniture held up, I felt like he was going to end me right then and there. He stopped himself and I asked him why. He said because he saw the fear in my eyes.
We fought and made up A LOT. That was our relationship and me asking him where he has been or was he with someone. It was terrible for both of us. I discover later that he lied about a lot of things. I didn’t even know he didn’t have a drivers license until about 1-2 years into our marriage. I didn’t know the pictures of his boy parts I found once while dating were to the escorts. I asked him approximately a thousand times. He doesn’t just lie - he tells a story with details and the whole thing is a lie.
I use to check his phone and browser history because it was never ending place of discovery. I never got confessions out of him but I did get evidence that he thought he hid. He must have gotten better at hiding things because I would find less and less. I got to a point where I don’t check anymore - I know and it’s a damn headache to live like that. All the time he did these things, he swore his love for me. He said I was everything.
I discovered again a lie the first time he went to Miami last year (his first time away from me.) He took advantage and called at least ten eacorts and almost met up with one (or did. I don’t know. There’s no money spent but he lied and said the last escort called was his co-worker. I may never know what happened but his coworkers got weird around me after that trip. They won’t look me in the eye.) I didn’t know all this until December last year where I asked him for his T-Mobile password. He didn’t think I would find this when giving me the password.
I saw a text after that trip and found out he lied. He was awake at 2:00PM after he told me he went to bed on the phone. He told me how he missed me SOOO much. He said he tried putting his arm around me in bed to realize I was not there. We FOUGHT over the phone. He didn’t want me to see the rest of the texts between him and his coworker. He left bruises on my arms pushing and shoving me with all his strength. He overpowered me and I never saw the messages. He said he was hiding the fact ge did cocaine. I lost control because I pulled a knife out at him. Not to hurt him but to intimidate him. (I never lost it like this again -he ALWAYS uses this against me to say I’m the abusive one.)
December he admitted the elaborate cocaine story he gave me was a LIE. He said he did do cocaine but not how he told me. The real thing he was hiding was the escorts. At that time, I find out he kissed a coworker (maybe more but nobody will tell me anything.) Another girl told me he was always flirting with new hires. After I find this out from these girls, he put two holes in the walls and broke the doors at the apartment that was in my name. He also bought me $200 roses and a new marriage ring fo Christmas along with other nice gifts. He even goes to therapy to get better at his lying problem (which he only did for about 3 sessions.) He swore this was the last time I would EVER have this happen to me. He swore he loved me and our family. My second baby was born February after ALL of that.
November, my mom died and left me money. I find all that out after I put money on a house for us - Our first house. I made sure we were good. I made sure my baby had everything he could need. I didn’t even buy myself a new car (backstory I lost my good credit, my 2020 car and had one eviction in this marriage. I was almost $30,000 in debt after all of that. My husband made his bad credit good and how we got the house, too. He still has his car and no evictions on his name. We paid over $5,000 for his traffic tickets and court fees plus his debts.)
I could have left then but I was vulnerable because I was having another baby in two months.I feared all the time because I couldn’t get a job or keep one being pregnant and I worried about having one after because I wouldn’t make enough with him and me working would put us at a negative income. I tried building this website but I have yet to get sales. I knew I needed to get out but one last things I feared was breaking up my marriage. I thought he could get better for all his problems.
His anger reared its head again this past month. I found a book titled “Why did he do that.” My husband fits a lot of those examples of abusers. The book said the nice guy is the mask.
This time when he got angry, he said it was my fault he cheated on me. He said it’s a woman’s fault if a man cheats. He said that women need to keep a man happy. He said he had depression caused by me which he never mentioned before. He always said I made him happier than he ever has been in his life. I didn’t know about the cheating just like I didn’t know about the cause. He endlessly lied to me.
I went to his work and asked his boss about the girl he kissed. He is still lying. He said he told his boss what happened. His boss said they both said nothing when they came in for questioning. My husband got the word out and it turned into drama when those girls texted me.
My husband is two people. Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde. I just learned recently he has been reading my journals on my phone and texts between my sister. He read my reddit posts. He lied about this and kept it to himself. I feel like he may have planned trapping me in my marriage so I would have nothing. I feel like he is stalking me, too. I have 30K left locked up in a CD - he wants that when its available to pay off the credit cards in his name. We both spend on those cards for food and needs. I want to keep it as my nest just in case. He scares me sometimes. I feel like he may charm a judge when we fight for custody if I leave. I’m scared he will bring up the knife incident and the baker act (I was bakeracted last year when 5 months pregnant- he said he would cut me off financially and have me and our unborn baby fend for ourselves. I panicked and he was being a monster. I said he was hurting me and he said he didn’t care.) I told a cop I wanted to hurt myself but I wasn’t suicidal - I just feared my husband and wanted to get away from him. It was impulsive and I regretted saying it immediately. He was messing with my mind - he fake called the cops. Never dialed but acted out a conversation. I called right after.
I fear him. He is looking like a pscychopath to me or narcist - he pal ed his whole marriage and family around abuse and lies. He admitted to lying to keep me from leaving him on a few occassions. He would act like a little innocent and hurt boy. I could never see the abuser when he switched.
Would you be scared, too? Am I overthinking his lies and abuse? Do I need to get away now? I feel like no matter what I will never be free from him. My husband has once told me nobody will believe me. Everyone thinks I’m crazy - he said this right after convincing the cops that. (Time where he bent the truth to make it funny - the cops were sold.)
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2024.05.22 01:26 WurstofWisdom No more negativity about our fantastic council.

I’m sick of hearing about how our council and city Is performing. Everyday we have people complaining about “council did this/council forgot about this” etc. But there is plenty to be positive about! Just today - here are three stories to make you feel good about the city.
Council is wisely using its funds on painting lines on paths. No one asked for it, knows what it’s for and it’s a little on the piss but other then that pretty happy to see my rates spent on this than silly things like graffiti removal or street cleaning!
In a meeting to hear resident feedback, our wise councillor'sshut down a pesky resident who had the audacity to ask the major (oh great one!!) to stop playing her phone whilst people made submissions. A ridiculous request really. Why should we expect the mayor to pretend to listen to feedback they are going to ignore anyway? And remember being critical of the mayor is sexist & racist - it’s good the chair cut off the person being mean to her.
Lastly,concerned that council would let you decide what to name your private access street? Have no fear, council is on top of that too! Yes, it may delay projects and cost time and money. But that’s not important, you need to look at the bigger picture and ensure that the driveway has a nice unique name.
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2024.05.22 01:16 doveymoey_ Still thinking about the situationship from 2 years ago. What do i do?

This is going to be super long :’) So i (19F) was friends with this guy (20M), (let’s call him Kyle) since 2020. When we met i was going through a breakup and he was in a very serious long term relationship. We became friends pretty quickly but it wasn’t any kind of close friendship, just surface level talking and joking around. Eventually i got with his friend (20M) with whom i broke up pretty quickly and we kind of eventually grew distant.
Years went by and we reconnected again when i was graduating and decided to plan a trip with my friend(let’s call her Katy) to a city where he studies in (he moved to a different country after graduating school). Eventually Katy couldn’t make it and him and i started to talk a lot, facetimes, texts, had each other’s pictures as wallpapers etc. He sent me a huge bouquet of flowers for my birthday since he couldn’t make it (which was pretty sweet :) ) A month later i came to visit him (the trip lasted 4 days) and i swear this was trip was one of the best times of my life. He was so gentle, funny, caring and all of the wonderful things you can think of. It wasn’t lovebombing, he was just absolutely wonderful. We did not sleep together because i have sexual trauma and asked him to take it slow and he was so understanding and kind about it, i’ll never forget it. By the end of my visit he decided to come with me to the city where i live (and well, he used to live) to see his family. So i ask him, “what are we? I really like you and i’m ready to try long distance for you” , to which he said that he didn’t plan a relationship and hoped that i would understand that long distance is difficult but he’d try it as well. So we agree on boyfriend and girlfriend.
on the ride to our home country things turned sour and i noticed he was a little distant, but didn’t give it much notice, everyone has their bad days. A day later he was very avoidant and tells me at a birthday party that he doesn’t want to be together still and wants “a less serious relationship” i felt absolutely horrible. The next few months he texts me once per day and i got fed up and just cut things off.
After some time Katy meets up with him and convinces him to see me to “fix things”. While she did that i told another girl, let’s call her Sasha, that i have this ex that i’ve been thinking about for ages and how much i miss him and how much potential we had. She was very understanding about it and shared her experience with a similar thing. Later on Sasha proposed a social project to me and Katy. We agreed and Katy suggested we invite Kyle to work with us.
Kyle joined us quickly. We started talking and flirting again even though i was a a bit defensive and mad (obviously). He then invited me for coffee to talk. We met and basically to spare you the details he told me than all he wanted was to sleep with me but eventually caught feelings and it made things complicated. i asked if there was a chance to try again and Kyle said that he wasn’t ready and suggested we stay friends. i agreed since i didn’t want to lose him again. What happened next is that Sasha started flirting and talking to him right in front of my nose. I got mad and called her out. She made everyone gang up on me and Katy in the project and we were kicked out. Out of solidarity with Katy (the project didn’t mean to me as much as it meant to her) i blocked everyone including Kyle. It’s been two years and i miss him every day. I don’t wanna betray Katy nor do i think it would be a good idea to text him and share my feelings, so i’m in constant tortures :’)
TL;DR Every day i think about someone who gave me the best days of my life yet eventually ghosted me and was mean to my friend. We’ve been on a no contact for two years, but i still miss him every day. what do i do?
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2024.05.22 01:16 ThrowRA-inneedofhelp I (19M) am very worried about if my gf (20F) is cheating on me, is there a way I can deal with it?

You can skip a lot of stuff here if you don't want a lot of details I am writing as much details as I can to make sure that whoever needs details can get them more easily, if there are details about anything you want to ask me about just ask.
So me and my gf are in a long distance relationship, we have been together for over a year and she trusts me a lot to the point that she doesn't mind telling me very private stuff about herself, but lately(nearly 18 days) she doesn't text me at all while I send her messages every day and night, sometimes at random times too, so it makes me worried for her wellbeing, or if she is ghosting me for another like a some of my ex gfs did to me, and my gf is attractive I know that well because some of my friends saw a picture of her on my phone, ehile i am below average in looks at best, I am 5'8 so average in height was a bit on the muscular side when we started dating but I lost slot of muscles due to inflation making me not able to afford enough protein without having to cut off on other stuff, my family is well off, while she is pretty much someone out of my league all that I said above about myself but better except the height I am just a bit taller than her she isn't extroverted but she has a lot of friends both girls and guys which I think you can see where I am going, makes me feel like she will cheat on me one day with a guy friend of her's since allot of them have better looks, taller, more muscular, etc, and I have a fear that someone will steal her from me, then I will have nothing after that, she is the most important person to me in the world, and no my parents or siblings aren't important to me since they pretty much make my life hell and full of problems but that is something for another time, anyways no I can't tell her to stop having male friends because that would make it double standards because I have female friends but I am only friends with them to understand more about what girls like and one of them pretty much helps me with writing poetry for my gf.
I guess what I wrote is enough if somehow you want more details about anything just ask me and I will answer asap, I need advice on what to do, if it is a way to make sure my worries go away or a way for me to stop thinking about it.
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2024.05.22 01:08 Current-Carrot6051 Paramount: Deal Rumors Aside, What About The Operations? Can The Company Turn A Profit?

Paramount: Deal Rumors Aside, What About The Operations? Can The Company Turn A Profit?
May 21, 2024 2:41 PM ET
Summary
Paramount Global remains my worst investment, but I still believe in its potential for success.
Paramount's "lack of scale" is not the reason for its underperformance as it spends about as much on content as industry leader Netflix.
Paramount's loss last year was largely the result of one-off writedowns, both domestically and internationally. These losses will not repeat going forward.
Paramount's streaming operation suffers not from lack of scale, but an abundance of overload waste, which may be alleviated under new management.
The sports slate remains best-in-class, and CBS is still the leader in broadcast scripted. CBS Television City in Los Angeles, Ca, USA. JHVEPhoto/iStock Editorial via Getty Images
Paramount Global (NASDAQ:PARA) (NASDAQ:PARAA) remains my worst investment. Let's just get that clear from the start. I said two years ago it was madness not to buy Paramount. That was wrong, wrong, wrong. The fact that I recommended against buying the new Warner Discovery at the same time, and heeding that warning saved a lot of money, makes me feel a little better, but not much.
And no, the fact that Warren Buffett made the exact same mistake as me doesn't help much, either. Mr. Buffett and I are about to part ways, anyway. He is now completely sold out of Paramount, while I am hanging in. Yes, I am still buying. Get all the ribbing out of your systems, and then read on.
Although a few rounds remain to be played in the game, it is no longer inconceivable that none of the various deal permutations that have been put forward for Paramount will pan out, and that it will continue as an independent company. Essentially, Redstone will block a deal with Apollo Global Management, Inc. (APO) and Sony Group Corporation (SONY) and the 'B' shareholders will litigate a Skydance deal to death.
Because so many Seeking Alpha articles are already offering a blow-by-blow analysis of the deal talks - and I absolutely encourage you to read them - I wanted to turn back for just a minute to a more in-depth look at Paramount's actual operations. If it stays independent, can it turn itself around?
Scale Is Not The Issue I'm angry. Usually, when an investment goes wrong, I can manage to be philosophical or even dispassionate about it. Risks of the trade, can't win 'em all, pick your maxim.
But this one is really getting to me. I'm sure part of that is simply the sheer amount of my portfolio that has suffered - I bet a lot more on Paramount than I did on my typical investment, so sure was I that it had the tools needed for success. Fortunately, some of my other media investments have worked out much, much better, or I'd really be hurting. In fact, my Netflix buy has repaired all the damage my Paramount buy has done.
Still, I'm unusually angry, partly because of the sheer amount lost. But it's also that I still don't believe there is anything wrong with Paramount, at its core. It has become quite commonplace to speak of Paramount's "lack of scale" as the reason for its apparent impending demise, or at least subsumption. But I would still argue that that isn't born out by the numbers. Paramount spent roughly $16 billion on content in 2023, the same total as 2022, when $4 billion of it was spent on streaming. That is only slightly less than Netflix, Inc. (NFLX) which leads the industry in market cap and performance, if not in spending. While the gap with other studio peers is larger, I'm not sure spending at Netflix levels equals a "lack of scale."
What's more, a lot of that extra spending by other traditional industry players like Warner Bros. Discovery, Inc. (WBD) and The Walt Disney Company (DIS) is not spending that investors should necessarily cheer. As I've explained before, Paramount's lower spending total is almost entirely accounted for by its far more profitable approach to sports rights; a lot of that extra spending that Disney and Warner are doing isn't particularly profitable or even sensible.
What then, does account for Paramount's underperformance?
Stock Performance That depends on which underperformance you're talking about. First, the stock price. Paramount cut its dividend in spring 2023. That announcement, with its Q1 earnings, was enough to cause half of the past-year decline in a single day. Paramount went from $21 to $16 with the dividend cut and was still at $16 as late as December.
Since then, the other half of the decline has reflected the increasing evidence that Paramount is more or less ready to throw in the towel, and intends to be a distressed seller to another studio or private equity firm soon. More specifically, it is actually Shari Redstone, who exercises control over Paramount through her 77.3% share of Paramount's Class A voting stock, who is ready to call it quits. The perception that she has no leverage and will be forced to accept a fire sale offer has driven the stock lower.
Operations All that, however, merely explains the stock market decline; what is the operational explanation for Paramount's troubles? The company reported a $600 million loss for full year 2023. How is it that one of the Big Five movie studios, with the most popular of the Big Four broadcast networks, the most popular show on cable (Yellowstone) and the only profitable sports slate in American television, can't make money?
Accounting Element First, we need to acknowledge that there are some accounting factors in that 2023 loss. Paramount took a "programming charge," i.e., a write-down of the value of programming assets, of roughly $2.4 billion in Q1 and Q2 last year. That is money that would ordinarily be amortized over a period of years - it's mostly streaming originals, which Paramount usually amortizes over a 4-year period - that instead saw its red ink taken all at once. Had it been amortized normally, Paramount would have reported an operating profit of roughly $1.2 billion, more or less identical to 2022, instead of reporting an operating loss of the same amount.
Still, that write-down reflects the fact that the content isn't performing well, so those losses were always going to happen, and they're quite real; the accounting change is simply a timing issue. So Paramount is operationally deficient, even if perhaps not quite as operationally deficient as this one-time write-down makes it look. We cannot dismiss Paramount's operational issues by putting them down to accounting distortions.
TV Scripted Content Difficulties Paramount did not break down the programming charge, but outside reports have about half of it owing to the integration of Showtime in Paramount+ as a single service. It's not entirely clear which side of the ledger those losses are coming from; one of the less understood things about merging services is that it potentially makes content on both sides less valuable as it is replaced by more popular content from the other side. Showtime's Q1 2023 viewership was very top-heavy, with just two shows, Yellowjackets and Your Honor constituting 30% of all viewership. Presumably, those two shows reduced the value of some Paramount+ existing content while the rest of Showtime's library may have suffered from competition with P+ content.
Regardless of the exact source, Paramount's content is not performing. That's a little surprising considering that, as I said, CBS content is actually quite popular on the linear side. In fact, in the earnings call following the annual report now-former CEO Bob Bakish reported that CBS had the top 16 scripted programs and 18 of the top 20 in the first week of post-strike broadcasts. Paramount has disclosed in the past that CBS content makes up roughly half of the viewership on Paramount+; and this is despite the fact that P+ isn't even the sole beneficiary of CBS content; roughly $600 million per quarter of Paramount's licensing revenue comes from CBS shows as well.
One possibility that I perhaps did not consider sufficiently was the chance that the unique characteristics of CBS would make it harder for that channel to transition to streaming than its other broadcast peers. CBS is the most popular of all broadcast networks, but that popularity owes disproportionately to more elderly viewers; in the demo, it is actually Comcast Corporation's (CMCSA) NBC which takes the top crown.
With elderly viewers both less appealing to advertisers and less likely to make the transition to streaming, it is perhaps not so surprising that CBS is continuing to perform well on linear but having trouble translating that to streaming.
International Shortfall The damage isn't through yet, either. Paramount disclosed that it took another $1.2 billion impairment charge on content in the first quarter. This one has to do with the international side; a few years ago Paramount commissioned 150 new, original international shows and movies to try to boost international growth. Now, Paramount reveals that even international consumers spend no less than 90% of their time streaming Hollywood content; the local originals aren't doing very much for growth or retention.
About the only good thing that can be said about this complete and utter debacle is that it is a one-off; unlike Paramount's US content spending, which is ongoing and therefore must be made more efficient if Paramount is to survive and thrive, Paramount is gradually exiting International production. In fact, to help cover the losses on its international originals it is selling its share in Viacom18, the network that formerly served as Paramount's onshore operation in India, to its partner Reliance for a little over $500 million.
Where Are The Children? Yet another factor is children's programming. While many have essentially written off Paramount's entire cable channel group, and I agree the prognosis for MTV and Comedy Central is rather grim, I have argued that Nickelodeon remains a real asset, as one of the top two children's channels in linear TV. I believed that would be a powerful subscriber acquisition tool, alongside sports, as the streaming transition continued.
It hasn't worked out. Surveys consistently show the Big 3 for parents with children are Netflix, Disney, and the third is Amazon.com, Inc. (AMZN) of all things. Neither Paramount+ nor Warner Discovery's Max make the cut, despite ownership of top children's linear platforms/libraries Nickelodeon and Looney Tunes, respectively.
The prognosis here isn't entirely grim. Paramount has reported that half of their streaming subscribers touch kids' content regularly, so clearly Nickelodeon does mean something to the subscribers. It's possible it helps with retention, even if it doesn't drive acquisition. Paramount owns the number one brand for pre-school kids, Paw Patrol.
Paramount has shut down the separate Noggin streaming service and will presumably be amplifying the kids content on P+ as a result, so perhaps this trend will yet turn around. With so many other things going wrong, though, the inability to make kids content more central to the strategy is a painful blow.
The Mismanagement Of Streaming I suspect, however, that Paramount's single biggest defect over the past few years has been the competency of its management. In a streaming world, success hinges overwhelmingly on the efficiency with which a content budget is deployed. That efficiency, in turn, requires avoiding the trap of "overload," something cable doesn't have to worry about but which can kill a streaming service.
What Is Overload? In brief, overload is when a streaming service spends money on content that appeals primarily to those subscribers who were already subscribed and intending to remain subscribed, even without that content. Because revenue does not increase with more viewership, such spending is essentially wasted money. I have been arguing for several years that some economic models of streaming profitability fail to take account of this significant element.
Paramount seems to have had a lot of overload in the last few years. Specifically, its single most broadly appealing piece of content is the NFL, which Paramount is an anchor broadcaster for. Because NFL fans are accustomed to spending upwards of $100 a month on cable just to watch the NFL - over 10% of cable subscribers say that the NFL is the only reason they're still subscribing - Paramount's $6-$12 a month fee for streaming really doesn't need anything more than NFL games to attract these 40-50 million fans.
The Earnings Jaw-Dropper And yet, it seems that's where a lot of the extra streaming money has been going. On the Q2 earnings call last year, CEO Bob Bakish, watching the stock price steadily decline, seemed to be eager to reassure he had a handle on the situation and began describing some of the changes he'd be making. It started out well enough, really; he told investors that NFL viewers churn drops dramatically if they also engage with entertainment titles, which is what you'd expect.
But then, he stunned me and I expect just about everyone listening when he said, "we probably need to do less for [the NFL viewer] in the fall, and more outside the fall because we can rely on the NFL." Compounding the almost Looking Glass-feeling, he then went on to reassure everyone he would be "fine-tuning" the content strategy to address that point in the years to come.
It was, frankly, stunning. Both me and I suspect just about every analyst who was modeling Paramount had just assumed it went without saying that of course, any entertainment content targeted at retaining NFL viewers should drop in the other half of the year when the NFL wasn't playing on TV. My own calculations of the profit margin on CBS's NFL deal had always incorporated that.
And while that was bad enough, it also raised the concern that a management team that didn't understand that going in might have put a lot of other overload in other categories as well. Suddenly, it wasn't so hard to see how the best-scripted shop with the most profitable sports contracts was having trouble making money. Double-loading for 50 million households would be a major drag on the financial performance for streaming.
Light At The End Of The Tunnel Despite all of this, I still think there are bright spots in the Paramount picture, even without a merger. Its operations, as well as its merger discussions, don't seem to lack potential.

1: My Usual Paramount Bull Argument: Sports Profits

One thing that continues to go right is sports content. A few years ago, I wrote that Paramount was a strong contender to become a sustainable streaming business because it had the only profitable sports slate in the business. The stock hasn't gone where I wanted it to go, but that is the one part of my thesis that has been definitively borne out. In fact, many now say that it is CBS's sports deals, at least as much as Paramount's film/TV studio, that the prospective buyers of Paramount are after.
I've covered these in other articles already. The March Madness deal runs until 2032 and the NFL deal runs until 2033, although the NFL has an opt out after 2029 that it will probably exercise given the utterly ludicrous bids the NBA is receiving, so the last four years of that deal might have to be chopped off the profit projections. Even so, Paramount can probably generate $1.25 billion a year in profit just off of those two deals for the next six years.
Those are probably the biggest, but it doesn't stop there. Almost every sports deal Paramount has is profitable. For all the flak management has deservedly taken, Paramount continues to show discipline and focus on sports. You won't find Paramount throwing $2.5 billion a year at the NBA's 'B' package, which is more money than the NFL gets for its 'B' package despite having 10x the viewership.
For all its many, many missteps, a Paramount that can just manage to stay afloat long enough for some of these ludicrous sports bets at other companies to blow up may yet find itself with cards to play later in the decade.

2: Recouping Write-downs Via Preferred Conversion

Another small boon has been the official conversion of the preferred shares. The Paramount mandatory convertible formerly trading under the PARAP ticker was capped at 0.85 shares per common share. Given the initial price of the convertible at $100 per share, that effectively means that a preferred share that was carrying a $100 liquidation value has just been converted into 1.1765 shares of a common stock currently trading around $12. A total value per preferred share of around $14.
And they sold for $1 billion, so that's basically $860 million back into the common equity that management was able to get at the peak of the boom. That actually repairs almost all of the red ink from Paramount's doomed international originals push on its own.

3: An End To Streaming Waste

Finally, a lot of the waste in streaming may soon be ending. Bob Bakish was finally fired a few weeks ago, and while I never want someone to lose their job, he frankly had looked overmatched for a while. Bakish was a lifetime cable executive who seemed to be having trouble making the transition to a streaming-world mindset. Frankly, if I knew about it in 2021, the CEO has no business fine-tuning it into the strategy in 2023.
With international originals no longer draining the coffers and overloaded entertainment programming shifted to months of the calendar where it can be more productive, streaming may yet turn the corner.
Investment Summary I recognize fully that each fall in Paramount stock makes my bullish optimism seem ever more out of step. I do believe, however, that Paramount's failures are more failures of execution than lack of scale or structural disadvantage. Paramount CEO Bob Bakish simply wasn't up to the job. Ironically that wasn't what got him fired; Bakish was almost certainly fired for opposing Redstone's plan to enrich herself at the expense of other shareholders, probably the most competent thing he did in the last few years of his whole tenure.
Paramount has everything it needs to be successful; profitable sports contracts, which is just unbelievable in this day and age, a thriving scripted TV operation, and a viable, if recently somewhat mismanaged, streaming service. An end to overload waste, the continued exploitation of its favorable sports slate, throttling back unhelpful international originals and boosting kids content engagement may yet produce a different streaming picture going forward. Should older viewers start to get more comfortable with streaming going forward and following their favorite programs to Paramount+, that would just be icing on the cake.
It's been a depressing ride the last few years, but I'm sticking with Paramount.
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2024.05.22 01:03 Zihna_wiyon I used wartPEEL

I used wartPEEL
Do you think it’s gone? First pic was when i first started using the wartPEEL. The black dots were appearing. Then i debrided every day before applying my medicine. Second pic is when i exposed the wart tissue. Third to last picture is before i debrided today. Second last picture shows, that when i went to cut the dead skin off today the wart black spots literally just fell off. Last picture is after i cut all the dead skin off that was under the wart. I don’t see any more black spots and im down to my flesh.
Do you think I can stop using wartPEEL?
This was a plantar wart on my heel.
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2024.05.22 00:59 TH3D4RKN16T Rant

Rant
I’ll try to cut this really short so it’s not too long and not understandable a few weeks ago I turned in my device to Best Buy so that they could send it out for repair and today was the day that I was supposed to go and pick it up when I got to the counter. The representative told me that I needed a state issued ID in order for me to pick up my device, I told her I had forgotten it and that I would look in my car while I was looking around in my car. I remember that the email thread that was sent to me said that I could either use a state issued ID or email to be able to pick up the device I’ll add a picture so you guys can see when I went back inside and told her about this. She said that this was incorrect and that I did need a state issued ID bottom line is I’m just really not happy that I was not able to pick up my device with just the email, even though that’s what it said again from what I understand and I get that having a state issued ID seems common sense in order for me to pick up my device, but dammit if the email says I can use it as well as proof I should be able to if not, they should just take away the wording.
I really do just feel frustrated because I have to drive an hour to the store and just leave empty-handed. Am I bad for filling this way because right now it doesn’t seem like it’s my fault .
I also went to complain to an agent:
Customer Care agent: Thank you for choosing Best Buy, my name is Helen K. How may I assist you today?
Customer Care agent: Hello, nice to have you on chat!
You: I have a complaint Helen. Please understand I am not mad at you but I am just really disappointed at the moment.
Customer Care agent: I am sorry for that!
Customer Care agent: Please let me know about your complaint!
You: Today I was suppose to go in and pick up my device that was ready for repair. I scheduled an appointment and arrived early. Once I went to the counter I spoke with the agent and they notified me that I needed my State Issued I.D to pick up my device.
Customer Care agent: I completely understand!
You: I went to my car and unfortunately did not have my I.D present but did remember that the email that was forwarded to me mentioned that I could present either my I.D. OR the email for pick up
You: When I went to the counter the agent mentioned to me that this was a mistake and could not hand me my device without an I.D even though the email said that I could use it as proof.
Customer Care agent: I understand, sorry for the inconvenience caused!
You: I am just unhappy at the moment because the store is roughly and hour drive from my home for me to leave empty handed. And again I am not angry at the worker, or you Helen but at whoever at corporate Best Buy with either completely mislabeling things on email or for not providing proper training to there colleagues.
Customer Care agent: I would like to inform you that whenever you visit the store for picking up any item, you should compulsorily have government issues ID card for your safety purpose.
Customer Care agent: So that no one can visit the store and by showing the email confirmation without any ID proofs, other may take the +
Customer Care agent: take the product and you may lose your product!
Customer Care agent: Just for verification purpose our store team will ask you to carry the government issues ID card!
Customer Care agent: I can certainly understand your concern, but we are extremely sorry for the miscommunication happened!
You: I understand this Helen and completely agree with it. But Best Buy’s information should NOT say; in a figure of giving me an option to take an I.D. OR to show proof with the email. That’s a blatant lie and should be taken down from the email transcript.
Customer Care agent: No worries, I would inform this to our higher authorities to clearly mention about this.
Customer Care agent: Please rest be assured, this mistake won't repeat again!
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2024.05.22 00:54 Ornery_Road7713 not too sure what style and shade of blonde would suit me? is a fringe still a good look on me?

not too sure what style and shade of blonde would suit me? is a fringe still a good look on me?
last 4 pictures are most recent but very last pic is how long my hair used to be before cutting it all off about 8 years ago. i have pin straight hair, very fine, only ever dyed it red/burgundy. currently planning on going blonde for summer and i have an appointment booked at the end of next month.
i currently have a few blonde highlights which are a bit more cool toned, but im not sure what my undertone is or if mahbe a warmer blonde would suit me?
and the actual style situation. ive been toying with the idea of growing my fringe out for a bit, i had it when i was a lot younger but it had grown out by secondary school, then i cut all my hair off for charity in year 7, then went for a pixie cut (not happening again) and since then i cut it to a bob, now im growing my hair out. i used to have very long hair. would long hair still suit me? and my fringe does it still look good? i don’t like cutting it too short, just on my eyebrows usually!
what would suit me? i’m really stumped!
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2024.05.22 00:52 ZagZ32 [wts] Para 3, Para 3 Odds and Ends, crk backspacers.

Photos: https://imgur.com/gallery/HjZdqBc
Accepted a new job and moving, so I’m getting rid of stuff I don’t use any more.
If for some reason you want everything spyderco related on this post, I will sell it all for $275. That is the para 3 itself, all 3 scale sets, the backspacer and both clips. To cut down on shipping costs I will give a discount if you buy multiple items. Just shoot me an offer. This stuff is just collecting dust at this point. Feel free to ask for more or better pictures if you need them.
Para 3: $190 Para 3 cpm 4V with flytanium skinny scales, flytanium backspacer and lynch clip. 2nd owner on this one, has been carried some and sharpened, a choil has been added. Comes with a box but not the original box. Drop shut action, perfect centering. If you don’t like the price, feel free to shoot me an offer.
Awt para 3 black Micarta scales: $50 Bought these, thought they would be darker. I never carried or used the scales. Original owner.
Para 3 g10 scales: $25 Want the black scales and not the pink? Want the blue ink scales and not the black? Too bad you’re getting both. Both in new condition, removed before use.
Para 3 flytanium backspacer: $30 Installed on a knife for about a day, decided i didn’t like the color combination and uninstalled. Original owner.
Para 3 deep carry clips: $20 Both are MXG clips and both have been used.
Crk small sebenza backspacer: $75 Jekyll to Hyde Designs. I installed this one on a knife and carried it a few times but it still looks new. Everything needed to install is included.
Crk small sebenza deep carry clip: $30 MXG. glass blasted and not sandblasted. So be aware of that if you have a sand blasted sebenza and you want it to match perfectly.
Crk small inkosi backspacer: $75 Jekyll to Hyde Designs. Installed this one but decided I didn’t like how it looked. Has not been carried, comes with everything needed.
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2024.05.22 00:46 nofocuspoint Restarting

Restarting
So I am considered and pretty set on cutting my locs and starting over. I got my started my locs 1/4/22 not 2024 so my bad and the other picture is my hair currently. I have many regrets with my hair like not looking into the different kind of parts I want or how small I want them. I didn’t look into different ways to start my locs or the different methods of Interlocking. I would like to go with smaller parts and go for sister locs or maybe a little smaller than what I have currently and actually take care of them in the start phase. Let me know if anyone has or is currently considering starting over.
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2024.05.22 00:46 Frequent-Dentist-444 Am I the asshole for not wanting to be friends with one of my best friends anymore because she won’t leave her boyfriend?

I(20F) and my best friend (21F) have been friends for a long time, since high school. Her bf(20F) is a complete JERK to her. He has cheated on her, gaslighted and manipulated her and so much more. They have been together on and off for about 3-4 years. What’s funny is, I went to middle school with her bf and he was a huge asshole to everyone then as well. When my friend first showed me that she matched with him on tinder, I immediately told her that he’s an asshole and he’s toxic and that she shouldn’t get with him. She did it anyways.
Once they started seriously dating, her bf started being an asshole to me and being racist so I told my friend that I wasn’t willing to hang out with her, if he was around and of course she didn’t want to do anything without him so I unfortunately felt like I had to cut ties with her and I did. Fast forward a year or two, I realized I was missing my best friend and she missed me too so we became friends again. As soon as we started talking again she started telling me all about the shit he’d done to her while we weren’t friends. He cheated on her, she would go through his phone and see him getting at multiple girls(and getting no responses), he would be asking multiple girls to hang out with him and would ask if he could take them on dates. She also told me about all the very rude and disrespectful things he’s said to her! I immediately started telling her that she needs to leave him! She would always tell me she was going to leave but it never happened. There were a few times where she actually did leave him, but they got right back together the next day. Whenever she brings up his name, I tell her ALL THE TIME that she needs to leave him because he’s literally cheated on her several times but for some reason she believes that, just because he’s only texting girls and not meeting up with them, he’s not actually cheating.
Anyways, fast forward a year, she’s still with him and still dealing with the same sht with him, him cheating, texting other girls, and just being a btch overall. She messaged me one day, crying saying she went through his phone and he was cheating… again but this time, he was actually meeting up with the girl and basically having a whole relationship with her on the side. She also told me that she was breaking up with him for good. I comforted her as usual and told her she’d be okay and that she deserves better and the next day she was posting pictures of them together, captioning the post “I love you” again…
This made me very upset because 1. I’m tired of hearing about the drama. Everyday it’s something new with their relationship, always him cheating with someone new, saying something else very disrespectful to her, her going through his phone and finding crazy sht(he also has a prn addiction) and I always comfort her but I’m just tired of it. At this point it’s almost like she’s doing it to herself. 2. I am always the one that has to be there for her and tell her the same stuff I always do, “you can do better” “you don’t deserve this” “just leave him already he obviously doesn’t love you” i’ve told her everything. I’ve been hard on her, i’ve been nice, i’ve been mean. She just never gets it I guess and it’s very exhausting for me! Everyday I hear about this, it’s all we talk about now and it’s annoying
I just want to know if I’d be the asshole, for cutting her off again but for good this time. All of this is exhausting for me and it’s growing old. It’s been 4 years now and she’s been dealing with this for the ENTIRETY of their relationship. Literally 3 months into their relationship, he was texting other girls. She’s basically allowing this to happen to her and i’ve stood by her side this whole time but I don’t think I can anymore. She’s just making herself look stupid. She’s already lost her two other best friends over the same thing and I don’t want to be the bad guy for leaving also but I’m just so tired.
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2024.05.22 00:41 Seeking_Pi_Solutions [CA] Retaliation Mediation/EEOC Question

Hey all,
Im using a throwaway account for privacy sake.
To start, I am no longer employed with the company I am seeking to mediate/file an EEOC complaint against.
An incident occurred in December of 2021 that left me being harrased and targeted by a member on the executive team. Many other executive members tried silencing him during this meeting, and ultimately his assistant followed me to my car as I was crying after this all took place. The information I provided during this situation outlined the failure of a contract that his other company signed with our company. (Side note- he worked for the company I worked for AND had a few other companies that he would align with the company I worked for as contracting work.)
After this situation he cut off all work communication with me even though we had many things on our project that were dependent on our mutual communication. He then hired people and put them in places to try and undercut the compliance and data management that my job was responsible for upholding and maintaining.
Fast forward to Summer of 2022. He restructured my department and put people in place that left the company vulnerable to neglect of compliance for a major project. He worked to have me work off-site of said project to ensure that I wouldn't be able to communicate to the compliance and executive teams about the cornerns with the project.
At this point I was experiencing many mental and physical issues all stemming from the stress and unhealthy working environment. My doctor took me out on medical leave in the Summer of 2022 and during my medical leave I was sent "separation documents" that had a small sum of money contingent on me signing the documents. I have yet to sign these documents that were initially sent to me in March of 2023. I was told that the department and project I was managing was all being laid off. For what its worth I can still look up and see that the company I worked for owns licences for the project I was involved in. I suspect that they leased this project out to a 3rd party company to side step the company being involved with it any longer.
I have contacted many attorneys and have been told that I have a case. I put together a 72 page document outlining my tenure with the company with pictures and descriptions of the unhealthy working environment as well as the harassment and retaliation that took place. I was not able to afford 2 of the attorneys that would take on my case, and the one that could take me on contingency told me 4 months later that his team hadn't filed any EEOC or CCRD complaints on my behalf and that he did not have the bandwidth to take my case at this time.
My questions are as follows;
  1. How can I word an email to the HLegal team of said company that would allow me to mediate a higher "severance/separation payout"? I don't intend on trying to take them for much, mostly just the cost of the mental health treatments I had to undergo due to the situation.
  2. Should I continue with filing a complaint to the EEOC and CCRD all while pursuing medation?
  3. Can I leverage the contents of my 72 page document during mediation or should I keep that private so they don't end up gaining access to it? The contents detail many illegal things the company had done over the past 7 years, all of which I don't believe are within the statute of limitations anymore to sue over.
I do not plan on having an attorney with me during mediation as I feel confident/comfortable negotiating what my severance could possibly be and dont believe I am willing taking a chunk out of to pay to an attorney.
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2024.05.22 00:40 MinuWasTaken My mother might get evicted

I would notify people around me, but I feel too worried to mention anything about it, as if things might blow over and suddenly I got worked up over nothing. So, I want to just get some recent events in my life off my chest.
I am a 16M and I live with my mother (40), stepfather (40), and little sister. Throughout my life, there have been massive ups and downs, but I feel our family might be reaching a breaking point. A month, or a few before now, my stepfather threatened my mother with eviction. The reasoning to me is unknown. All I know is that after days of arguing, I did see a white paper on the front door labeling notice to vacate the premises. My stepfather often gets worked up over stuff, and things might just be forgotten or perhaps they reach some agreement I am unaware of. I hoped nothing would come of it.
However, one night my parents were intensly arguing, and I had finally gotten tired of it. I left my room stood in front of my stepfather (a tall 6'8,) and I told him to just listen to my mother. He was insisting during the argument that he didn't have to listen to my mother. After he repeated that to me, I told him he would listen if he loved her. He then yelled at me that he didn't love her. We stared at each other for a few moments before my mother urged me to go, so I did, with him saying something mocking.
After that, I stayed in my room for a bit before he walked in and told me a few things. He said that he was going to evict my mother and that she had been lying to him about something for a long time. He said it was my choice to stay with him there or leave. He also said it was my fault for driving a wedge in our relationship, as I often avoided speaking with him or being around him (the reasoning being that I don't feel comfortable around him.) He said it was good that I was defending my mother, but that she had done bad things. He said she would leave me at my grandmother's and just run off. He said proof of it was with my brother (who left to live with his dad when he was 11 and cut everyone off to run north recently) and that I should already know that because I had contact with him (I don't.)
I didn't feel comfortable around him for numerous reasons. He was often quick to anger, and would even give out punishment without thinking first. I also have older memories of him involving his brash behavior, such as when he pointed a weapon at my mother when I was 5 or so and when he slapped me to the ground for slamming a door.
After that interaction though, things felt calm. Everything has been the same and my mother recently got some blood work degree through some program. Today, I had to leave home early for what I assumed was my mother taking some extra test for the degree. However, after school, when I asked her how it went, she told me that she went to court and the judge said she had a week.
I felt rather empty heading home. I don't know what to do or how to feel about it. I just wanted to get this all off my chest.
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2024.05.22 00:38 kikitheangel Stalked and harassed by a colleague

TW: sexual abuse, sexual assault, harassment, stalking
I (22F) started working at a supermarket close to my parents’ home when I was 19; it didn’t pay much, but I had to attend classes in the evening since I was still in highschool and finding another job would’ve been extremely hard.
After a couple of months I stated making friends at work and we started hanging out after work hours. One of my colleagues, let’s call him Creep (28M, at the time), had a crush on me and I could tell, but I was too shy and anxious to turn him down immediately. A few months later, I was assigned to a different department and started seeing him less and less (not that I minded, he was kinda creepy in everything he did - even in the way he speaks, but i later found out that he has problems communicating because of how he was raised by deaf parents).
One day he texted me saying that he would’ve come to the store to give me a ride back home (I lived literally 5 mins away from my workplace lol) once I finished my turn. I gently declined, I didn’t need a ride home, I could’ve just walked, but he insisted saying that he had something to tell me. I didn’t have a choice basically. Once we were in the car I asked him what he had to tell me so urgent he couldn’t have waited to see me at work. He confessed that he had a crush on me, that he noticed since we didn’t get to spend much time together anymore and he missed me, asking me what I thought about it and if I would give it a shot. I told him no, I was already seeing someone and I had no interest in persuing something else. I got off the car and said goodbye, but it seemed pretty chill between us.
A few weeks later we were hanging out with some of our friends, had a couple of drinks and, once we were alone, he kissed me. Back in the days my anxiety was pretty bad, I dissociated hard after that, feeling insecure because it seemed like my words didn’t mean a thing - I already turned him down, but he didn’t care.
The following day we had plans with other friends, so I asked him to meet me a little early so we could talk about what happened. He picked me up, he parked near where we hat to meet other people and he immediately cut me off when I started speaking. I was shocked at what he started blabbing.
Him:“So, since we are now dating, I just wanted to let you know a couple of things. I don’t want my girlfriend to go out and get drunk with male friends like you do; I don’t want you to dress like a whore, either-“
Me: “Well, you’re lucky then, since I am NOT your girlfriend.”
Right at that moment I got a phone call, so I picked it up. It was one of our friends, asking for details about the plans we had that evening. While I was talking to him, I suddently felt something wet and soft and disgusting in my other ear - yep, he started licking my ear and my neck out of the blue. Then he grabbed one of my tits, he put his hand between my thights and he touched me. I was shocked, my first reaction was freezing immediately, I was scared and it fucked with my brain badly because I was already sexually assaulted at 17. And he knew it. He knew that I wouldn’t have reacted, that it was too much for me to elaborate, that I was still recovering from my previous assault. I stood there holding my breath, hoping that he wouldn’t go further, because I didn’t have the strength to go through that again. I put down the phone and stared at him while shaking, unable to speak and frightened as hell. He was calm, as if nothing happened, and he continued his monologue. “I know it may seem a bit weird, but I’m still a virgin and I want you to be my first”, he said with dreamy eyes. I wanted to puke. He just molested me, but kept talking as if we were in a relationship. I told him once again that I already had a boyfriend, but couldn’t do anything more than that. I was dissociating so bad, even I started behaving like nothing happened and I don’t know why. Maybe if I played his game I would be safe. Maybe I wasn’t processing properly due to my previous abuse. I don’t know, but I still regret it because it was like telling him that it was fine and he could do whatever he wanted.
A few days later, when I saw him at work, I told him - ONCE AGAIN - that I wasn’t interested, I had a boyfriend, and if it helped him get over it I would stop speaking to him for a while so he could take his time. At first he said he agreed, but after a couple of hours he stopped me in the storehouse saying that he thought about it and he couldn’t accept it, he wanted to keep being my friend and talk to me. I told him “well, i have already told you what I think, I’m sorry but I think it’s better off this way. Now I don’t have time to talk about this again, I’m working”. I turned my back and went for the door - that’s when he suddently GOT ANGRY. He started screaming that he couldn’t stand the idea of not talking me, while blocking the door so I couldn’t get out. I was scared to death. I tought he was going to hit me or something, but nothing happened, he quickly calmed down and let me leave. I stopped talking to him completely. And he. Went. Crazy.
Whenever he walked past me he “”accidentally”” touched my butt; he did anything to find and excuse to talk to me; he always came too close to me to creep me out; he followed me whenever I had a break and went out to smoke a cigarette. My silence didn’t last long, since I got transfered again in the same department as him. Sometimes we were the only two people working during the shift, so I was forced to talk to him at least about work related stuff. So I did. He was ecstatic, he thought we were mending our relationship and he got 10X worse. He texted me weird pictures, he started replying to my Instagram stories with sexual comments, he started following me when I went to school after work, he followed me anywhere I went in general. He also told me weird stories that creeped me out even more.
I started asking my co-workers for help, begging them to stick around so he wouldn’t be near me alone, asking for advice on how to handle it. I didn’t feel safe talking to my supervisors for multiple reasons, and at the time I was just a troubled kid with ptsd. I didn’t have the tools to handle it. So I just stayed quiet. My mental health was getting worse day by day, I was paranoid, alienated, depressed, anxious and scared of everything. I stopped talking to everyone at work, I wasn’t able to interact because I felt as if I had forgotten how to do that. I was miserable. I started going to therapy and took 5 months off to focus on getting better.
But, 5 months later, I had to go back to work.
[The story is too long, if you are interested I’ll post the rest, I just needed a safe space to share this experience and get some advice on how to heal from all of this maybe?]
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2024.05.22 00:33 DapperLee My Brother-in-law has caused entire family to want him gone.

Okay, so for this post there are a lot of people involved (this has been going on for a while) so I'll list up here who's who. This is my wife's family. I'll be using code names when appropriate:
Father-in-law - FIL
Mother-in-law - MIL
Wife(oldest daughter) - Wife
Second daughter - Sarah
Third daughter - Lana
Fourth daughter - Ruth
Second daughter's husband - BIL
Third daughter's fiancee - Karl
My daughter - daughter
Second daughter's older son - Danny
Second daughter's younger son - Aaron
And me as me
I know this is long but bear with me TL;DR Brother-in-law has snapped the last straw for the family and we are all starting to cut ties with him
 BIL's family has their own side of the story that I'm barely familiar with, so it won't be brought up here. We first met BIL way before they got together; Sarah bought a house as a group of friends with her boyfriend at the time, and BIL and his second wife at the time. We didn't interact with him much. We just heard a few stories about him from their friend group. Eventually this situation broke down and BIL and his second wife left and vandalized Sarah's home on the way out. They let their dogs poop all over the floor, stole some miscellaneous items, poured water in their lawn mower gas tank, etc. He did this to Sarah, his future third wife. We thought this guy was out of our lives forever. Sarah eventually came to stay on my couch after she sold the house. She lived with me and my wife for roughly 3 months. Then she went and rented an apartment a few miles away. No sooner than a few weeks did we find out she was dating future BIL, and a few weeks after that we found she was pregnant. He met the family and stated that he wanted to be a part of it. He blamed all his past transgressions on his second wife. We questioned him at the time if he was still with his second wife. He said no, and that he was officially divorced. My wife looked up the public court records and found out that he didn't file divorce papers until 11 days after we asked that question. A small lie but considering our history of knowing him it was concerning. BIL is a big gun enthusiast. About 1 months after they told us Sarah was pregnant, while cleaning a gun at home he shot himself in the hand. Again, we were concerned but Sarah assured us he was a changed man and this was just an unfortunate accident. His hand healed but he didn't do his physical therapy that seriously so his hand is still kind of jacked up. I feel this is important because he kind of has a history of not following through on what he says. During Sarah's pregnancy we found out that BIL seriously beat one of their dogs back when they bought the house together. We also figured out he diagnosed himself with bipolar, but refused to go to a doctor to get an actual diagnosis. The whole family at the time was distracted by all of this because during Sarah's pregnancy my wife went through a major medical struggle that resulted in multiple surgeries and a months-long stay in the hospital. We were so focused on that the BIL details just kind of came and went at that moment. Sarah gave birth to Danny during COVID lockdown. We were so excited and we all were very active in Danny's life. Time would pass and we just kind of got used to BIL being despite the fact that he often would miss family events. BIL and Sarah would move into a house on my in-laws property just down the road from in-laws house. MIL became their primary caregiver as she could work it around her job and still make decent money. As 4 years have passed my MIL, FIL, Lana, my Wife and I all take shifts of watching their now 2 kids for them, for free. MIL also watches my daughter but significantly less that their son's. 2 years would pass after Danny was born and everything seemed OK. There would just be hints in they way he talked about who he really was. He would say something in casual conversation like "man, there seems like there are too many black people in commercials these days" or "I don't know why we are forcing women's sports to be a thing." Bigoted stuff like that, but veiled enough so there was plausible deniability. I would often call him out on it, so he really grew to not like me. This all changed at his 30th bday. He had a big party with a lot of alcohol and weed with dozens of friends. My wife and I didn't go because we are not party people. Lana and Ruth went to the party. Sarah was also there. During this party BIL went outside and decided to "mud" his jeep through the creek beside their house. This was possibly with Karl but I'm not sure of that to this day. Karl has recently come into the picture prior to this event and was previously friends with BIL for a long time. The jeep got stuck and flooded for obvious reasons. After trying to get it out of the creek by multiple means, they gave up and left it there. I believe it took almost 2 days to get it out. He went back to the party and as everyone got progressively drunk and high, my 2 sister-in-laws Lana and Ruth (I believe) criticized BIL for getting his car stuck in a creek while playing. BIL verbally assaulted them and demanded they get out of his house. They left in tears. They drove separately, and Lana had gotten buzzed so they both got in Ruth's car and drove to my house. They sat and vented to my wife and I for a while, and eventually I offered that we should go do something fun to take their minds off of it. My wife and I drove them to Taco Bell and we got some food and drove around town for a while and made jokes in the car. After they cooled off and were in a better mood they said that Lana needed to go get her car from the party. In a flurry she accidentally left her keys inside her sister's and BIL's house. We drove them over just in case anything sketchy happened but Lana and Ruth didn't want us to go inside, so we waited out in the car. She didn't think it would be a big deal to walk in, but as her and Ruth did BIL immediately got in her face and demanding she gets out or else. Ruth went to talk to someone else at the party and didn't notice this at first. BIL shoved Lana against a wall and held her there. Everyone apparently stood in stunned silence as this happened. He then shoved her to the ground, grabbed her around the ankles and started pulling her across the floor. As he was threatening to do even worse, Ruth ran up and jumped on his back and gave him a head lock. She screamed at him to stop but before BIL could anything about this everyone finally woke up and pulled them apart. Ruth helped Lana up and they ran out of the house onto the front porch sobbing. My wife saw this and got out of the car and yelled at them to get back in our car. We drove up to the in-laws house. By then it was past midnight. MIL was about an hour away working her job and FIL was up in his room asleep. The sisters went and woke him up and explained the situation through tears. They also called MIL to inform her of the situation. He got ready and ask me to go with him down to the house to get some answers. The sisters stayed up at the house. We drove down in his car and when we got out the entire party was ready for us and greeted us at the car. Literally over a dozen people, most of whom I did not recognize started screaming what happened at both of us simultaneously. Everyone was clearly very drunk. FIL looked overwhelmed, so I raised my hands and tried asking everyone to stop for a second and go one by one telling their bit of the story. BIL stopped me mid sentence and pointed his finger in my face. I noticed he had his other hand on a holstered hand gun. He yelled out "You don't have a say here! You're barely even part of this family." For context, I had been with my wife for over 11 years at that time and he hadn't even married Sarah yet and had been there about 2 1/2 years. FIL backed up and told me that I need to stop talking and that I was being a problem. I backed off and went over the yard to Sarah and Karl. I asked Sarah what happened and she told me that she didn't see what happened and that she wasn't very aware of what was going on now. Karl would barely answer the same question. I walked back over to FIL but he told me to back off and that I really wasn't needed there. Admittedly I felt pretty insulted and just decided to walk back to his house and get my car and go home with my wife. We eventually left after FIL came back to the house. We found out later that BIL had pulled his gun out and threatened to kill himself if FIL didn't leave. Out of fear of what he would do, my in-laws were pretty afraid to take action at this point. A lot of the situation was his word against someone else's and Sarah went on a tour around to the friends and convinced them not to take any of this to the police. She then tried to smooth things over with the family and offered that BIL would apologize to everyone. He then refused, stating that Ruth was the real aggressor and that she assaulted him. He eventually agreed to apologize to just FIL for causing a problem and I think some half-hearted apologies to Lana and Ruth. The whole situation was swept under the rug but an unease has existed over the family since then. He stopped coming to family events pretty much altogether. About 4 months after this situation, prior to my daughter being born, he told MIL he was going to bring Danny up to their house so she could watch him for a few hours while he took a nap. His job works long hours so this wasn't out of the ordinary. However, he didn't show up for a while and my MIL started questioning what going on. She called but there was no answer. She drove down to his house and knocked but there wasn't an answer, only Danny crying in the background. She let herself in and found BIL asleep on the couch with Danny actively trying to wake him up. MIL tried to wake him up but nothing for a few minutes. She gave up and wrote a note to let him know where Danny was. BIL didn't notice Danny was gone for 2 hours. He finally woke up, drove up to in-laws house, and yelled at my MIL for just taking Danny without informing him. He took Danny and then left. A few months after that, after my daughter was born, He fell asleep while watching Danny again. This time we found out because when he woke up the front door was open and Danny was gone. He called in-laws for help finding him. My in-laws have a large property (about 200 acres) with a ton of it forested. Danny wandered 1/4 of a mile into the woods and I believe it took roughly a little over an hour to find him. Family questioned him hard this time but he just recoiled back into their house and didn't talk to us much. Sarah continued to defend him and said it was just an accident. Again the police were not notified about any of this. There was always this idea that if we went to authorities about any of this they would just run for it. They would then surprise everyone with the news that they were pregnant again, despite the fact that Sarah had used the morning after pill. This whole time they hadn't married yet. They announced that they were getting married but Sarah told Lana that it was mostly just to help BIL not have to go through bankruptcy a second time. I wasn't sure if this would do anything to help that situation, but that's what Sarah said at one point leading up to the wedding. About a month before the wedding, however, he threatened Sarah that if she insisted on inviting my wife to the wedding he would demand to invite a friend of his that Sarah hated. This friend also used to date BIL I believe. This was his ploy to force Sarah to not invite my Wife or me. The 2 other sisters and MIL all stood in solidarity with us and said that they would also not go if we weren't invited. He eventually relented and they got married a little before Aaron was born. As more kids were added, MIL's childcare duties got much harder. Eventually my wife and I started paying her (not much but something at least. $150 a month) to watch our daughter, but we also did chores for her, bought her food often, and eventually my Wife started taking a few shifts to watch all 3 children. To date, BIL and Sarah have never compensated any of us for our work. It's a little frustrating but we've tried to understand because Sarah and BIL seem to be bad with money. They objectively make more than us yet can't afford to pay MIL anything. Last Thanksgiving, in the middle of dinner, Sarah and BIL decided to have an "intervention" and talk about how we were not treating BIL fairly. They addressed everybody but really honed in on me specifically. This seemed to be because the rest of the family kind of dance in eggshells around them, while to be frank I'm pretty honest about how I feel about them. They seemed to think I was causing the family to turn against him and questioned why I would do that. I told him he lacked humility. He said he didn't understand. I told him that if he admitted to his mistakes and actually apologized about any of the stuff I previously wrote, instead of blaming everyone and everything else then the whole family would feel a bit different about him. A lot of talk was about the 30th b-day and other times when I just ignored him and how he had already apologized about the party. I reminded him that he didn't apologize to most of the family and he blamed Ruth. He then stated that Ruth was the cause of a lot of the problems at that party. He also made a big deal about how the family doesn't trust him with my daughter and kept emphasizing how he has never held her. We finally tried to come to an agreement. I told him I would try to talk to him more and try to understand him better and he said he would try to come to family events more. He also wanted more of a relationship with my daughter. We left and my wife and I were skeptical but we said that if this is who Sarah really wanted to be with, as long as BIL wasn't perceived as a threat he could have more contact with our daughter. We have had way more of a relationship with his kids than he has had with our daughter so I tried to sympathize with that imbalance. Karl also stated later that having known BIL for a long time, he thought he was very sincere. To date, BIL has not asked or tried at any family events to spend any time with my daughter, despite having numerous opportunities. Now to the current situation. About a month ago Lana and Karl announced that Lana was pregnant. This was a revelation due to Lana having a medical condition that made it harder to get pregnant. A lot of excitement was brewing in the family because of this. Karl has been seeming like a good partner to Lana, and proposed to her a little before the pregnancy happened. This is especially pertinent because Lana and Karl moved into a house together right beside BIL and Sarah. A few days ago they were over at Sarah and BIL's house when an argument broke out between Sarah and BIL. BIL demanded that Sarah wasn't an "obedient enough wife" and that if she wanted there marriage to work then she was going to have to get better at serving him. She was upset and they weren't coming to an agreement so he was going to leave, but apparently he was very high so Sarah refused to give him the keys to his car. He got extremely mad and then got a gun, held it to his head, and threatened to kill himself if she didn't hand over the keys. Fortunately, Danny and Aaron were taking a nap during all of this. Sarah called the police during this whole exchange and the operator heard a lot of what BIL said over the phone so based on that they arrived at the house. He apparently drove away and it took the police a bit to find him but once they did he turned himself over. They admitted him to a mandatory 72-hour stay at a psychiatric ward for a mental health assessment. Sarah then came up to the rest of the family (not me or my Wife) and gave them Danny and Aaron. She then went and confided with Lana and Karl about how abusive BIL had been and how life was just miserable right now. A lot of us, especially Karl and my in-laws, were telling her that she needs to leave BIL and file for emergency custody of her children. She seemed to be listening to us and turning a corner, but inexplicably the psychiatric ward allowed BIL to have a phone call with Sarah and they had a long conversation. Suddenly, Sarah shut us all out and completely changed her story. She started defending BIL again. BIL was then let out of the psychiatric ward a day early. Since Karl was working at the time, Lana came to stay with us and then over at her in-laws. We are especially concerned about her safety around BIL due to her being pregnant. They have since cut nearly all contact with us for 4 days now. They have only told Karl that they were getting a new TV because the old one mysteriously broke somehow. They have continued to post on social media like nothing has happened. They have spent 2 days with BIL's family so we aren't sure what their opinion of this is, though we do know a sibling of his has also told Sarah to leave him prior to this latest situation. We don't know what their plans for childcare is because they are wholly reliant upon us. Lana is very reluctant to ever be home alone. Ruth is as well. There are so many other details I haven't mentioned. There have been holes in walls they've had to fix. There is some evidence that BIL is cheating on Sarah, but that evidence is somewhat inconclusive. The bigoted comments for a while now have gotten increasingly misogynistic. It's a lot of 'we need to respect proper gender roles' kind of stuff. There's just too much and I've already written a book on here. I don't really know what to do at this point. Because a lot of this stuff has been swept under the rug it's hard to tell how seriously CPS or police would take our claims. FIL has threatened to kick them out of their very cheap rental they're in now. Who knows what they would do in that scenario. I know this post is detailed and because of that BIL or Sarah might see it, but at this point I wonder if I even give a shit. They've already eluded to keeping their sons from us in the past and the vibes we are getting now is that they are already doing it. And from the bottom of my heart, fuck BIL. 
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2024.05.22 00:30 ZookeepergameBig7880 Eeoc determination

Hey, so last year oct 24th 2023 during my employment with walmart I was taken to the cash room for a coaching there was the manager of ap services (the department I was under) and the witness another manager as walmart tends to always make sure another person is in the room when you're being given a coaching. So someone had had stolen merchandise and the manager claimed It my was my fault they never showed me the tape and I'm almost certain all her items were bagged and I know she didn't set off the alarm, but anyways she gives me the whole spill about how my job as ap services ta is important for deterring theft and I'm the last and first face customers see we all know customers don't HAVE to show their receipt and some aren't going to so when I tried to rebuttal with a scenario where it's next to impossible to check a customers receipt to determine if I would still somehow be "at fault" if a customer is reluctant to letting you see a receipt but while I'm mod sentence with the scenario the manager cuts me off and says "you have an advantage" she said this while gesturing her hand from my head to my toes she placed her hand back to herself saying "if I were to ask for a receipt they would say I'm racist" now I tried to have a broad horizon of thinking to narrow down how she could've meant her comments in a "good" way a non racist way but i kept coming to the same conclusion that it was just flat out racist to say that! I actually used ppto and didn't come back after lunch (as I informed them I would most likely be doing)I attempted to talk to the people lead about it who wanted no parts of the situation giving me the ole runaround taking me over to the pictures informing me I have to talk to this individual and he doesn't handle it he just didn't want to handle it. I was able to get some audio recording of the meeting with the lead store manager when he rescinded the coaching and a conversation later with the witness stating that she was bothered by the Comments that the manager had made she assured me she would be speaking to someone "higher" than she was. Meanwhile I had already submitted a claim through the lovely ethics department get this walmsrt has a 0 tolerance policy supposedly only when I brought these claims to their attention and wrote my statement because I was the last one to do mine according to the individuals in house who were handling the claim ironically one of them was the people lead who wanted no parts! I constructively discharged a few weeks after this the manager would also laugh and taunt me every chance she'd get when she'd see me (nothing I could prove with documentation) I had also filed a claim with the eeoc and finally got to the interview process almost two weeks ago they quickly closed the charge the day after it was filed and they determined essentially that they made no determination they say they can't conclude if further investigation would proof or disprove my claim and that their notice doesn't mean my claim lacks merit and that it doesn't mean walmart wasn't In violation below there is the rights to sue letter with the witness who still works there and the audio i have of her claiming she heard the comments too be good evidence that can be authenticated? Does the eeoc "neutral" determination make it less likely or less desirable for a firm to want to cater to my claim? I'm biracial african American & Caucasian btw
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2024.05.22 00:26 McHeccinHecc Missing Persons Case, Supernatural Intervention?

Howdy. I am officer M (only M, privacy reasons, could lose my job if I was exposed). I’ve been investigating these three cases for the past few years, and I wanted to see if anyone had any clue how to solve them.
I normally wouldn’t go to places like Reddit for this, but I’m desperate. Everyone else I’ve tried has said that this is some kind of webseries project thing. It isn’t.
I’m gonna show you the transcriptions of three sets of video tapes. The first set is from James Barlowe, the second from Daren Redd, and the third from Nick Robin.
Well, I’d better get on with it.
[- - -]
There’s only one tape in this section. It begins with a man in a priest’s uniform (identified as James Barlowe) in the driver’s seat of a car. The person holding the camera is in the passenger’s side.
CAMERAMAN (LATER IDENTIFIED AS NICK ROBIN): “So! What’re we doing, James?”
JAMES: “Oh, uhm, we’re going to a haunted house to perform an exorcism.”
NICK: “Hell yeah we are!”
Nick turns the camera towards his face.
NICK: “Someone tipped us off on a haunted house recently, so we’re gonna go check it out. And James is gonna use his cool priest powers or whatever to get rid of the ghosts! Right James?”
The camera pans to James.
JAMES: “Ah- Yeah.”
The camera turns back to Nick.
NICK: “Now, I’m not gonna be in this one too much, since James is gonna be doing his stuff on his own.”
JAMES: “Wait what?”
The tape cuts off here, and picks back up with James holding the camera. He’s in front of a run-down, abandoned house. He seems nervous, fidgeting with the stole around his neck.
JAMES: “Okay, so, uhm. I am Father Barlowe, and, uhm..I kind of thought Nick was gonna be here. He- He told me he was gonna be here. I dunno. Uhm. Today I’m going to exorcise this ghost. I, uh, don’t know if I’m allowed to do that anymore. But I know how.”
James turns the camera around, and starts to walk into the house. The front door opens into a hallway, which leads to a living room. The camera shakes as James fumbles with his pockets, then brings out a cross. He holds it out in front of him.
JAMES: “Uhm, if there are any ghosts here, show yourself.”
Nothing happens. James mutters something about editing. He waves the cross around dramatically.
JAMES: “Ghost, or demon, or whatever you are, please come and-”
A loud bang comes from somewhere within the house. James seems to flinch. He can be heard heavily breathing as he turns the camera towards the sound.
JAMES: “Uhm..Okay. That’s okay. I’ve got a cross. I’m okay.”
James begins to walk down the hall, where the sound was heard. The camera is shaking, and James is holding out his cross.
JAMES: “Okay, uhm- I think..I think the ghost is in there.”
James points to the doorway at the end of the corridor, then advances towards it. He walks through, and into what appears to be a study. There is a desk and chair in the corner. The chair has a pitch-black figure in it.
JAMES: “Oh god, okay, uhm- Okay. Okay. Uhm. Uh- Demon!”
The figure turns to face James. He holds out his cross with a trembling hand.
JAMES: “Foul creature, begone from this home-”
The figure stands up and begins to walk towards James. The camera is dropped.
JAMES: “Oh God, oh God!”
James can be heard running away.
[- - -]
This first tape is very intriguing to me. The figure has not been identified. At least, not as anyone in the town.
I interviewed both Nick Robin and James Barlowe (they had not gone missing after this video. quite the contrary, in fact. James Barlowe is the one that brought the video to police), and they revealed that most of the content in their videos was fake.
They said that the events of the video were not planned.
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The camera appears to be moved around a bit, before setting up to show a man in a red hoodie (identified as Daren Redd) sitting in an office chair. It can be assumed that he’s at his desk. He smiles at the camera.
DAREN: “Uh- Hi. This feels weird, haha. I don’t think I should introduce myself? I don’t know. No one but me’s gonna see this anyways. Unless I make, like, a giant scientific discovery. Or break a world record.”
Daren fidgets with the strings of his hoodie, twirling one between his fingers.
DAREN: “So. My sleep schedule sucks. I’ve been trying to fix it for weeks now, it isn’t working. I’ve decided, fuck it, I’m just gonna roll with it. So! I’m gonna try and stay up for 12 days straight.”
Daren grabs the camera, and shows a calendar up on the wall. The month and year are cut off. Two days are circled (Tuesday, then the next Saturday).
DAREN: “I’ve got a calendar here so that I can figure out how long I’ve been up. If I do more physical stuff, maybe I’ll stay up longer! Haha.”
The camera pans back to Daren.
DAREN: “I’ve got my room-mate watching over me. He’s actually in here right now- Say hi, Nick!”
(PRESUMABLY) NICK, IN THE BACKGROUND: “Hey.”
DAREN: “I rested up real good to prepare for this, so I’m hoping that my plan works. So, uh..Yeah. D-Man out.”
The next tape starts out with Daren holding the camera up to Nick Robin.
DAREN: “Niiiiiiiick.”
NICK: “Why are you recording me?”
DAREN: “Nick how long have I been awake?”
NICK: “Since yesterday, I think.”
Daren flips the camera around to face him. He has a large grin on his face.
DAREN: “That’s right, baby! D-Man has been awake for one whole day! Well- Two? One? Since Tuesday. It’s, uh, Wednesday.”
Daren shows the calendar to the camera. Tuesday is crossed off.
DAREN: “So far, nothing weird has happened yet. I’m tired, but I’ve been drinking a ton of Monster.”
The camera pans to a trash can, with several cans of Monster in it.
DAREN: “So! I should be able to stay up as long as I need. World record, here I come!”
The third tape begins with Daren dragging a trash bag outside.
DAREN: “Ok so I forgot to record a tape today, and I know that if I don’t do it now I’m gonna forget again. But, uhm, I’ve been up for..Uh..I dunno. Time is a concept, anyways. It’s Thursday now, though!”
Daren heaves the trash bag into a can. He walks back inside, and sighs with relief as he enters.
DAREN: “Whew, I love air conditioning.”
NICK (IN THE BACKGROUND): “Dude- Why don’t you take your hoodie off?”
DAREN: “Ah, y’know.”
NICK: “I really don’t.”
DAREN: “See, you get it!”
Daren chuckles and brings the camera into his room. He sets it down on his desk, and sits down in the office chair. He has bags under his eyes, and his hair looks messier than usual.
DAREN: “So. Recently, I’ve been tired. Like, horridly tired. To the point where even sitting down is a..” Yawn. “Risky move for me. But, working from home is keeping me on my toes. Who knew that writing reports could be so exhilerating!”
He looks over his shoulder for a moment, before turning back to the camera. His eyes appear wide and frightened, but he’s still smiling.
DAREN: “Uh, pro tip, maybe don’t try this stuff! I’m stupid enough to try and get a world record, but you, uh, shouldn’t be. Anyways, uhm, D-Man out.”
The fourth tape shows Daren in the hospital, sitting next to Nick, who is in a bed with an IV in his arm. Daren’s eye bags have gotten worse.
DAREN: “Hey, uhm. I don’t know if I’m supposed to record in here. I had to drive Nick to the hospital- He had a dairy allergy thing.”
NICK: “I said he could record in here, don’t worry.”
DAREN: “Yea, he- He said I could record this. I think I’m gonna stay the night here- People do that at hospitals, right? But, uh, they don’t need a bed for me. Because I’m not sleeping! I’m just gonna, uh, play on my phone for the night.”
Daren looks over his shoulder, before turning back to the camera.
DAREN: “Well! It’s Friday now. Been, uh, four days, I think? Yeah. I’ve been awake for four whole days! Well, uhm, this is more filler than anything. Nothing to note. D-Man out.”
The fifth tape is corrupted. Nothing is salvageable.
The sixth tape begins with Daren sitting at his desk. He looks tired beyond comprehension. His knee is bouncing, and he’s tapping his fingers on the table.
DAREN: “Uh, day..Six. I think. It’s Sunday now. The Lord’s day, ha-ha! I’m- I’m not religious. But, uhm, I know one of Nick’s friends is. James something. Maybe I should call that guy. I-”
Daren cuts himself off by looking over his shoulder. He looks back. His eyes are wild and terrified.
DAREN: “I think this was a bad idea. A horrible idea. I- I tried to sleep yesterday. But I couldn’t. I can’t- I can’t close my eyes for too long. Uhm..Nick has been in the hospital since Friday. He’s- He should be back by now. His visits never take this long.”
Daren chuckles. His voice sounds nervous.
DAREN: “He should be back soon, though, right? Right. He’s just taking a bit longer than usual. Uhm, Darry out.”
The seventh tape shows Daren sitting under his desk. He sets up the camera and brings his knees to his chest.
DAREN: “Nick came back today. He, uhm. He’s acting different. I was- I was talking to him, and he, uhm. He forgot he had a dairy allergy. He just..Forgot. I reminded him and he went- He went, oh, yeah. Like he didn’t go to the hospital for it a couple days ago.”
Daren appears to be trembling. He pulls his hood over his head.
DAREN: “..Been awake for seven days, ha-ha. So close! Just, uhm..Five? Four? Something around that. That many days left. I don’t- I don’t wanna do this. But I think I have to. I think it’ll leave me alone if I..”
Daren looks up at something offscreen, and screams.
[- - -]
Daren Redd went missing after this video. I’ve been looking for him for years. I’m trying to stay professional here, but I really don’t know what’s going on. I still sometimes try to figure out what he was looking at in the last tape. But there’s no reflection in his eyes- No shadows anywhere. Nothing. Could he be hallucinating?
I don’t think he is. I think he’s seeing things, sure, but they’re real. They have to be real.
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This last section begins with Nick Robin in a car. He’s driving this time, with the camera on the dashboard. James is in the passenger seat. There’s camping gear and a few bags in the back seats.
NICK: “Hey! Welcome back to the PDC (later identified as Paranormal Discovery Channel, the youtube account that both Nick Robin and James Barlowe share), today we’re gonna be exploring a whole abandoned town! It’s called, uh..What was it called again?”
JAMES: “Sasbol heights.”
NICK: “Right, right. Sasbol heights or whatever. Anyways! It’s gonna be cool. Oh- There it is! Dude dude dude- Look!”
The camera points to a charred-looking town. Maybe burnt down?
NICK: “We’re gonna get settled, then get back to all of you. I’ll see y’all soon!”
The next tape begins with Nick sitting in a tent.
NICK: “So! It’s been, like, a day. The first night was pretty underwhelming- Just some creepy old town with bugs and stuff. Nothing too special. Just a bigger version of a haunted house.”
Nick looks off screen- Presumably at James. Nick chuckles.
NICK: “James is sleeping right now. Apparently he’s been having nightmares? That’s, uh, pretty normal for him, though. Oh! Today I started setting up the ghost hunting stuff. Unpacking, putting up cameras, all that jazz.”
There’s shuffling from behind the camera. Nick smiles at (assumedly) James, and winks at the camera.
The third tape starts with Nick and James going into one of the abandoned houses. Nick seems much more enthusiastic than James.
JAMES: “We’re gonna put a voice-over on this, right?”
NICK: “Yea, yea. Something something, abandoned house, something something.”
JAMES: “Good, good, uhm..Nick, man, you know I like doing this and all..But I don’t think I like this episode. It’s like- It feels wrong, y’know?”
NICK: “Mm..You’re right, you’re right. But hey! Think of the money we’ll get from this. Our reactions are gonna be authentic and shit. Plus, we’ve only got a day left.”
Nick pats James’ back, and James smiles.
JAMES: “Right. You’re right.”
The fourth tape is corrupted.
The fifth tape doesn’t include James or Nick’s face, but we can assume who is talking.
NICK: “Listen, man, it- It just got corrupted. It’s fine, right? It’s cool. We can redo it-”
JAMES: “I’m fucking serious, Nick! This isn’t normal! None of the shit we saw yesterday was planned!”
NICK: “I know, I know, but come on man! I need this money!”
JAMES: “Money isn’t worth it, at this point. Please, God, let’s just leave.”
NICK: “If you wanna leave, just go! I can do the video without you.”
JAMES: “I’m not just leaving you with these demons!”
Both Nick and James are quiet for a while. Nick silently walks back to the tent, bringing the camera with him.
The sixth tape is shot from within Nick’s car. Nick is driving, the camera is on the dashboard. He seems terrified.
NICK: “I’m not publishing this. I’m keeping this for myself, and- I don’t know! The police, probably! Jesus Christ- I’m fucking speeding. Are there even road laws here?”
Nick looks at his gas tank, seeing the needle nearing the E. He begins to tear up.
NICK: “Fuck- Uhm. What happened. James tried to kill me, and- And I don’t think he’s James anymore. I really don’t. He’s- He’s not that guy I went to high school with. There’s actually no way.”
He looks at the camera briefly, doing a quick double take.
NICK: “What- No. No. No- Goddammit! Leave me alone!”
The car swerves, and the camera topples over.
[- - -]
I’ve been thinking about these cases since I found them. The actual police department doesn’t know about them- And I haven’t told my superior about them. These tapes just kind of appeared at my doorstep one day, along with a camera.
I looked at the camera’s film, and found three images.
The first one is a picture from the first set of tapes. It seems edited, though. James has a halo.
The second one is from the second set. It shows an image of Daren, with some kind of pitch-black figure behind him.
The third one is, supposedly, from the third set. Though nothing like it is seen anywhere in the tapes. It’s an image taken from the driver’s seat of Nick’s car, showing the camera from the video on the dashboard. On the screen of the camera is Nick. The image is edited to show a car tire over Nick’s face.
If anyone knows anything about James Barlowe, Daren Redd, or Nick Robin, please tell me at [xxxxxxxxxxxxxx]@gmail.com.
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