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I have had my Qanba Titan for about a year now and I've always been able to plug it into a pc and it will immediately get recognized as a Qanba Titan Arcade Stick by PCs without issue. However today I went to play some Blazblue and when I plugged in my stick the "setting up a device" pop up appeared and told me it was setting up a device called updater. I didn't think too much of this but when I launched the game none of my inputs on the stick were being registered. I checked steam controller settings and it told me that it did not detect any controllers currently plugged in. I went to the bluetooth and other devices menu and tried forgetting the stick and plugging it back in but it still just got recognized as updater. My desktop is running windows 10 and its been about 5 days since I've used the fightstick so I thought maybe some windows update fuckery broke things. However plugging my stick into my laptop running windows 11 it simply shows up as "unknown device" with all the same issues. I have double checked that the stick was in pc mode before plugging it in and even tried plugging the stick in while it was in ps5 mode to see if anything different would happen but to no avail. I went to Qanba's website looking to see if I had maybe missed a driver update or something but could not find anything. Googling any variant of "Qanba titan Updater" does not bring up results of anyone else having this issue. I am at a complete loss for what else to try or what the issue could even possibly be, any suggestions or information would be greatly appreciated.

I’m using an Alt. My main would make this completely obvious.
My wife and I have completely switched gender roles, which I’m completely fine with. I’m fortunate to be self employed and do a majority of my work one day a week. I work in the wedding industry. My wife on the other hand, works in a corporate world as a project biller.
We have 2 daughters. The older daughter is a teenager from a previous relationship, and we share a toddler. I’m responsible for most of the housework and childcare. I do my best to clean, grocery shop, schedule appts, cook, and do bigger projects when asked (I’m generally running non stop). Our toddler was a never nap child and she has rarely ever fallen asleep before 10pm. I’m usually in charge of making sure she’s tidy and ready for bed, and if she needs any medicine.
During the week, I’m also doing paperwork and following up leads for my business. Phone calls, etc etc. anyone who is self employed, especially if it’s just them or a couple of people that they contract, know that it’s always a hustle to get more work.
My wife wakes up, and works from home, so she heads to her home office at about 8am, and then we see her for maybe lunch, and then dinner, and then maybe 10pm if we’re lucky. But by then, she’s irritable, frustrated, and drinking/smoking/420 until she goes to bed. She spends most of her free time on social media, typically TikTok, or looking at Zillow for a dream house, though we’re not exactly in the market.
Her career involves sending invoices and correcting hours etc for multiple companies, and it follows q30 close, quarterly close, and end of year close. It seems there is ALWAYS something that keeps her working 60-70 hours a week. Always.
I’m tired. I know she’s tired. But I’m tired of this entire existence with her. I’ve done everything in my power during/after Covid to make as much money as I could while working as few days/hours, so I could be there for our family. Our kids. She seems to be unwilling to change anything or figure out a solution to this issue that I have brought up with her a few times.
There’s a lot more to this, but to keep it concise: I can’t tell if this is the root cause or just a symptom. We don’t have a relationship. I honestly am indifferent to her existence, and it feels like that is completely reciprocated. There’s no effort on her end, with anything. I’ve suggested counseling, either together or separate. She refuses to even go to a regular doctor for some medical issues. I was told to stop buying flowers, even if it’s our toddler that wanted to buy them for her. I try to do a family trip to see my family who lives in another state, once or twice a year. She has been absent for every single one of them. It’s always close week, or something with work has come up, they’re implementing a new system, there’s a new trainee. There’s always something. She’s started to do the same thing with concerts, etc.
She’s not cheating because she doesn’t leave the house. Honestly, it’s like she’s both lazy and agoraphobic at the same time. Just work, self medicating, sleeping. And I’d say extreme emotional fragility. She’s crying once or twice a day, guaranteed. Doesn’t matter what I do, or what I’ve done, or if I’ve specifically done things to make everything easier for her. She’s crying because any number of things. If I sit and listen as a silent shoulder, crying. If I suggest plans to help with issues, crying. Try to be positive and take over another thing she needs help with? Yep. Crying.
She never wants to come up with ideas for activities for either us as a couple, or together as a family. Ideas lay with me.
I get frustrated because I see these videos about weaponized incompetence and how guys in general are just useless, and I agree. Generally speaking, a large percentage of men are just taking up space in a relationship and don’t contribute. But what happens when the gender roles are primarily swapped?
I can’t leave. She makes more than I do, and in this economy, I don’t make enough to support two on my own just yet. Divorce would destroy the toddler, and the teenager would be a wreck as well (even though she’s experienced insecurity before I won full custody).
How do I really reach my wife, for a real wake up call? We can’t do this anymore. I can’t. Or rather, what can I do to get into a better situation?

My girlfriend and I were together for two years, part of it was long distance. We were previously good friends for 5 years, then she was the one that caught feelings and pursued me first. During our relationship she always told me things like “I’m the one”, we talked about how we would get married and grow old together, she made so many promises that she was 100% sure of me and that she’d never leave. She would say things like “we’ve known each other in every lifetime”. We got together even though I was leaving for a masters study, she said she thought she’d never do long distance again but for me it was worth it, bc she was 100% sure I’m the guy she wants. I left a week after we got together, and I was gone for about a year. During that time we visited once a month, it was always great. I eventually moved back and we spent another year together in person. I’m sorry if this post is too long.
She ended things about a month ago. During the breakup she gave me very vague answers so I couldn’t get the closure I needed. I decided to reach out a week after the breakup to ask why she did it, and what she said killed me inside.
She said that she knew we were compatible and I’m an amazing person but felt like she was settling for me, and she didn’t want to live her life like that when she thinks she can find something better. She said she believes in that soulmate connection with one person when you know deep inside you that this is “it”, and she didn’t feel like that with me, she didn’t think I was “it”. But we did say to each other during the relationship that this was “it”, she told me so many times that I’m the one, so I don’t know how a flip just switched in her brain. She also said she realized she didn’t love me in the way “real love” is, and maybe she just loved the idea of me. She said she always felt the need to be accepted and loved by people and I made her feel like that. She said when you truly love someone you’d sacrifice things for them, and she wouldn’t sacrifice things for me. She said she was forcing herself to be comfortable around me, and it wasn’t the type of comfort that it should be with “the one”.
How the fuck does it take you two years to realize you don’t love someone in the way “real love” is? Especially after all the emotional intimacy we shared. How could you be uncomfortable with me? I was her first kiss, her first hand hold, she said she was saving those things for the right person and she did them with me. Why would she feel like shes settling for me when she’s the one that pursued me first? She went all out to “get me” and be in a relationship with me. Am I really the type of guy that gets settled for? That hurts like hell. She said she was having all these thoughts during the last 4 months of the relationship. But literally a month ago, I felt that she’s been a bit cold, and I asked if everything was okay. She said “nothings wrong, I’ve been really stressed with school/work. But nothings wrong with us, maybe something’s just wrong with me with all the stress. But we’re good, that doesn’t mean I don’t love you or that I’d ever give up on us, I’d never do that. Don’t worry I still love you and I’ll always be here.” She said that word for word. So she was lying to me? Why would you lie instead of communicating openly? If she had told me she was having those thoughts it would’ve been easier for me, but she gave me that reassurance and then blindsided me a month later. I told her it’s normal to lose feelings in a relationship after a while, that eventually that initial spark or honeymoon phase ends, and that’s when the real relationship starts and you work on building a life together. Love eventually becomes a choice and not just a feeling. But she said she wouldn’t lose feelings with the right person. Now I’m the wrong person when she literally told me a million times that we were always meant for each other. I told her I think she’ll end up being disappointed when she realizes there is no “one” person that gives you that magical feeling for life, you eventually reach a point where you have to choose that person everyday. Relationships are hard and most of them end up losing that initial spark, but it’s an opportunity for a new kind of love to blossom, a love based off commitment and loyalty to each other. That’s the only way a relationship can last forever. And during our relationship we even acknowledged that fact together and we told each other that if the feelings fade we will always choose each other no matter what happens. It makes no sense to me. And if she actually lost feelings and fell out of love, that’s fine. But to say she never loved me in the way “real love” is, that makes no sense to me and it’s killing me inside. Have I just been blind and stupid the entire relationship? How does it take TWO YEARS to realize that? She said to me, “maybe you can choose someone and settle for them and learn to love them, but I believe there’s one person out there that is meant for me and when I find them I will know it deep inside me.” Yea, I believed that too. I believed it because I thought it was you. Just because I chose you doesn’t mean I’m settling for you or learning to love you. I thought you were meant for me. It’s so ridiculous I don’t understand, she used to be so sure that I was the one, she knew it deep inside her that I was. And now she’s saying that when she finds it, she’ll know. Well you knew it with me and now you don’t.
Part of me understands why she lost feelings, we didn’t really have a strong base. We were together for only a week before I left for a year. I feel like it wasn’t enough time for the physical attraction to build up and to get to know each other in person. By the time we visited each other, a lot of time had passed and the spark wasn’t the same as the beginning, it was kinda awkward at first. We got into a serious committed relationship talking about future marriage, before we ever hugged each other. She was scared to kiss me, maybe that’s why she said she was forcing herself to be comfortable. But eventually we kissed and it was great. During the visits it felt like everything was going great and that our relationship was getting stronger. I didn’t think that she was uncomfortable. I feel like if we had done all the intimate things in the beginning, we would have a base to build off of and the spark would be alive.
Also I keep blaming myself and wondering what I did wrong. I’m just certain that it’s my fault, that I made her lose attraction. Maybe I wasn’t manly enough or attractive enough. Maybe I was too boring or uninteresting or too “stable”. Being in love with someone basically means you have to be sexually attracted to them first, that’s what separates family love from romantic love. Maybe I didn’t do enough to keep her attracted to me, so she felt like she lost feelings. It was really hard with the distance. I tried, I really tried. I would always flirt and tease her, I tried not to let the relationship feel like it was a platonic friendship over time. I was always confident and “manly” with her, I stood my ground when she did things I didn’t like, I wasn’t needy. We sexted and video called all the time. I always planned amazing dates. I tried to keep the fun alive. I don’t know what else I could’ve done to keep her attracted. I truly feel like if we had been in person the whole time, it would’ve worked and she would’ve still been attracted to me. It’s just different when you’re there physically. But we both knew this, we acknowledged that it was gonna be hard and the feelings may fade, but we said we’d always choose each other no matter what. Maybe it was inevitable with the distance, but at the end she said it wasn’t because of the distance, she believes with the right person the distance wouldn’t matter. So I just wasn’t the right person for her, I was for a while, but I let her lose attraction for me. Your view on love and attraction may differ, but I learned that it’s the guy’s responsibility to keep a woman attracted, it’s about how he acts and behaves that keeps her attracted. So it’s my fault she lost attraction, it’s something I did. For example when I look back at the first visit, a mistake I made was asking to kiss her instead of just going for it. She said no, maybe because I came off as unconfident and that turned her off. I was so nervous during the first visit because there was so much expectation built up inside my head. Maybe that prevented me from being able to genuinely enjoy myself around her and attract her. Eventually though, we got comfortable with each other and we kissed and it was great. I felt the spark was there. I don’t think she met someone else, I asked her and she said no. Yea maybe she could’ve lied, but i know her and I don’t think she would do that. She said “you know me, I would never allow myself to do that while I’m in a relationship. The reasons are solely because I don’t feel in love with you anymore.”
We hit a little rut near the end because we were both very busy, but I didn’t think it was concerning because she always gave reassurance and made it seem like everything is fine. It feels like shit hearing that someone was settling for me. Why wasn’t I enough? I keep looking back and thinking what I could’ve done different to keep her attracted. I keep nitpicking at myself and feeling insecure about the way I am. She was so sure of me in the beginning so I must’ve done something along the way to make her lose feelings. She let me tear my walls down and trust her fully, then she left. It feels like I’m not worthy of love because she saw something in me and decided she didn’t want me. What hurts the most is that to me, she was “it”, to me she was the one. And she said that to me too and I believed her. I felt that she truly meant it when she said that. She would tell me she was always attracted to me and had feelings during our friendship but she “locked them in a box” because she was too afraid. She even told me that I was a walking green flag and that I was perfect and I did nothing wrong. It hurts to know she thinks that yet she still decided she didn’t want me. It kills to know that one day she’ll get married, he’ll get to hold her and kiss her and have a family, and it won’t be with me. I can’t stand the thought of her being intimate with someone else. And it’s the thought that, whoever she ends up with, will be better than me in a way. She will love him more than she loved me. He will make her feel what I couldn’t make her feel. And I’m blaming myself so much that I couldn’t make her feel like that anymore. I’m grieving the future that we both planned together. I feel so betrayed, I feel like shit. Most of all I just really miss her, we knew each other for 7 years and now we’re just strangers again.
I’ve been hurt before, I’ve had a few breakups, but this one hurts the most. I don’t know what it is about this girl that makes me feel like I’ll never find anyone better. I know that time heals everything but I feel like this has damaged me on a deep level, I feel like I can’t let my walls down again. I don’t want to love again and risk getting hurt. I can’t invest myself fully into someone if I’m always afraid they’re going to blindside me. I know a breakup shouldn’t define your self worth, but it’s just the idea that the person I loved doesn’t see herself spending her life with me anymore, that makes me feel really bad. It’s the thought that she saw something in me that made her decide she doesn’t love me. She analyzed our relationship and thought “I want someone better”. The thought that it’s my fault, that it’s something I did. I didn’t have enough “game”. I couldn’t keep her attraction high. I can’t stand the idea of her getting married one day and finding her “it”. Of course I want her to be happy but I’d be lying if I said that doesn’t kill me inside.
Nobody is perfect but she was close to it. She’s such a rare breed, she had everything I wanted in a woman and it’s so hard to come by. I wish I had a reason to hate her but she’s genuinely an amazing person. She did nothing bad to me, we barely fought and when we did it was very gentle. Our entire relationship was pretty much perfect up until the end. I’ve never been with someone that was this compatible with me. She’s the kindest human, she’s intelligent, she’s very mature, she’s beautiful inside and out, she’s very warm and gentle. And the fact that she’s such a sweet and genuine person makes it way harder. If she had cheated or something I think this would’ve been easier on me, because I’d see her as a bad person. But she’s not a bad person. It hurts way more knowing that she was feeling like she wanted to end things, but at the same time she was trying to convince herself to love me, because she didn’t want to hurt me. She didn’t want to break her promises, she was trying so hard not to, but in the end she couldn’t lie to herself anymore. Why do I have to feel like someone has to convince themselves to love me? Why does someone have to force themselves to believe I’m the one? Why can’t anyone ever just truly believe it with their entire soul, that they want to be with me. When I asked for reassurance and she told me she still loved me and would never give up, she was trying to convince herself because she didn’t want to hurt me. It was all lies. Every “I love you” in the last 4 months was a lie. I feel like such an idiot that I was sitting there for the past 4 months thinking that everything was going great. She was just faking her affection the whole time. Imagine hearing that someone was forcing themselves to love you. No one was forcing you! The exit door has always been open, no one forced her to stay, no one forced her to pursue me in the first place. I told her many times that I just want truth and transparency in our relationship, yet she hid all of those things. She said she hid them because she cared about me and didn’t want to hurt me, and she was trying to make it work. But if she truly cared for me, she would know that I deserve honesty, I deserve to know the truth even if it hurts. I don’t deserve to live in a lie. If she cared for me she would let me go find someone who truly loves me, instead of just pretending to love me. By lying, she was only caring about herself, to relieve herself of the guilt. The breakup would’ve been way smoother if she just told the truth from the start, but now I feel like an idiot who sat there for 4 months thinking that everything was going well, when in reality it wasn’t.
There’s so many things I loved about her. I loved the way she cries during every movie, she thinks she’s too sensitive but I think it’s beautiful to feel your emotions that deeply. I loved the way her face lights up when she smiles. I loved how she would call me just to tell me silly little things about her day. I loved her curiosity and wonder for the universe. I loved how she would run into my arms when she saw me. She just understood me, and I understood her. I can’t hate her, I wish I could, but I just love her with all my heart. I don’t think I’ll ever stop. Even when 20 years pass and I’m over this and we’re both married to other people, I will still love her and wish the best for her. I miss her so much, I miss talking to her. I know we can't be friends, but I really wish I could still have her in my life. But I shouldn't wish that I guess, because she decided she wants to live her life without me in it. I can’t believe she could decide to lose me forever when she always said she could never live without me.
The worst part is, I reacted to the break up very emotionally. I showed how hurt I was, I wrote a long paragraph, and I brought up all the promises she made. That was a mistake, it probably killed any ounce of attraction she had left. If there was any chance of her coming back or realizing it was a mistake, I destroyed that chance. I made it look like I can’t live without her. I didn’t beg for her back at all, but I kept pushing for answers and explanations. I asked her what I did wrong and stuff, and that made me look super desperate. I should’ve just accepted the break up immediately and cut off all communication. Maybe then she would’ve thought about it, she would wonder why I wasn’t upset and have second thoughts about her decision. It would make me look more attractive in her eyes. But no I ruined it forever. Now all I want to do is salvage some respect, to make her see me as a valuable person. Not as someone who can’t live without her. Deep down I really want her to have a change of heart, I want her to feel re-attracted somehow, after having some time and space away from the situation. But I ruined her image of me. Now I’m looking back and analyzing every little thing about our relationship and wondering what I should’ve done better. I realized I made a lot of mistakes, which at the time I didn’t think were mistakes, but now looking back it’s probably my fault she lost attraction. I didn’t do enough.
I told myself during the relationship that “everything is temporary, don’t get too attached, life can change at any moment”. I know those things because I’ve learned my lessons from the past, but this is still killing me. I know almost everyone has been heartbroken, I’m nothing special, every human has been through this before. I just need to hear that it wasn’t my fault or that I’ll find someone better eventually. I’m blaming myself a lot right now and I keep thinking that she wouldn’t have left if I had been attractive enough. I generally consider myself a confident person but this has set me back a lot, it’s ruining my self esteem. Maybe I have attachment issues that I need to work on. I know that time will heal this, but right now I can’t imagine myself finding someone that’s better. I feel like the idea of “the one” has been ruined for me. I want to believe it, but I don’t think I do anymore. Even if I find another person who I think is the one, there’s always the possibility that they will change their mind. There’s always a chance that all of their words and actions were just lies. A lot of people get into relationships because they love the idea of being in love, not because they are actually in love with the person.
Thank you for reading this far, I know it’s a long post. I needed somewhere to vent, I don’t have many people to talk to. When I cry, I cry alone. And during the act of crying I start to hate myself for being such a bitch. I know it’s perfectly okay to cry and feel your emotions but it’s hard to escape the conditioning that I’m used to. I have friends and family but, I can’t express my emotions the way I did in this post. People have their own lives and worries and they don’t want to deal with someone’s silly heartbreak I guess.
TL;DR - my gf and I broke up a month ago, she said she was settling for me and that I wasn’t the “one”, even though she made promises and assured me that she wouldn’t leave. I keep blaming myself and wondering what I did wrong.

It's only been three days...
The relationship only lasted 2 months, but it felt as if we've known each other for much longer. While I (25 BW) initiated the break up, I felt that we've been arguing more often than not. He (26 WM) felt like I brushed him off with plans and wasn't a priority, and I felt disrespected, untrusted and slightly controlled. He is a hurt person and has been cheated on before me. I wanted to prove to him how much I love him and show how much he matters to this world. I truly tried to make sure he felt loved but it seemed like I'd get criticized for my feelings and sometimes he thought I'd just leave him for someone else... Here I am, single and still constantly think of him. I never had an issue reassuring him and complimenting him. He was my teddy bear 💔
I don't see him as a bad person and I don't think I'll ever bring myself to hate him. I felt like we both could've done better. When he accepted it he said "You'll never have to see me again. Have a good life. Bye." Then he hung up. It crushed me. I didn't want to leave our relationship. I just didn't want to have constant fights over how he spoke to me or fearful of his anger when things don't go his way. The same issues woul keep arising.
Despite all of that we still played so many games together (nearly everyday), went on fun dates, watched movies, planned future events and had fun intimate moments. We also rushed this relationship (even though I didn't want to). I also understand that I could've been better. Maybe I should have called out of work sometimes...? Not be so sensitive? I don't know... I wanted to be the one to show him that he is important... perhaps he didn't feel that way with me.
I want to check in on him as it seems like we both really do care about each other... I don't know if he actually hates me, thinks low of me like his other exes, wants nothing to do with me OR I need to be the one if any contact needs to be made. His best friend follows me on Instagram and I'm unsure if he told him about my condition. I am beside myself, crying at work, physically weak, loss of appetite and energy... My family and friends have been helping me out, but I keep thinking about the good times and his beautiful face. I hate when people insult him trying to make me feel better. I still harbor feelings for him. The only relief I get is by sleeping and a bit at the gym...
I've only been in two relationships (this is my second) and it feels so brutal. I've been single for most of my life and I just want to be loved. Not replaced, hated or invaluable. I want to see him again. What if he's not even thinking about me? Should I reach out or just look forward to whatever the future brings...?😞

I am working towards my bachelors in HR with WGU. I previously went to a local university that had an online program, but the classes were not asynchronous (despite being advertised as so). I work full time, so I started exploring my options at online schooling that was fully asynchronous.
Lo and behold I found WGU. I was a little iffy because some people have started saying employers don't recognize WGU degrees as a real degree, but I really beg to differ. The coursework is actually well thought out. I actually have to put in time and effort to learn and do well on the exams and papers I am writing.
I am on my third course right now (started in March), and am absolutely impressed with how much they actually want you to learn. I know that sounds so stupid, but I kid you not at my local university I was literally able to look up the answers for homework online. Writing discussion posts was just me literally skimming the required text and then writing thoughtless discussion posts filled with filler words to reach the word count. The material wasn't engaging, and I never truly felt like I was applying what I learned.
I'm currently working on my D081 task right now for HR, and even though I've been on it for 5+ hours, I am absolutely amazed that I actually feel like I am learning and applying the knowledge I have gained.
Also, can I just say that the resources they provide us are very well thought out?! I took Employment Law as my first class and my instructor gave me a cheat sheet on ALL the major employment laws, who they apply to, how many employees a company has to have for it to apply to them, and much more. That's something I'm keeping forever so I can look back on it when I actually get into the industry.
Anyway, long story short... Yes! There's a lot of annoying things about WGU, but I feel myself actually getting an education here and learning things. It's definitely not easy though, so if you come from a regular university online program and try to transition here? Be ready for a lot more work lol.

Noob here. Often at the start of an air arcade battle 99% of my control binds just disappear. The only one that sticks around is mouse look. Even esc doesn't work so my only option is to use task manager to shut the game down. This is happening in about 75% of games I spawn into. It's unplayable. I'm reinstalling right now so hopefully that will do the trick. Making this post to see if anyone else has had something like this happen. Suggestions welcome.
Edit: After reinstalling, the issue persists. Please help!

TL;DR: boyfriend (M30) learnt my native language secretly to listen in on what my me (F30) and my family talk about.
Some basic info on us that I think is relevant:
My bf, come from a kind of rich country in europe, and has been living in the secondary country for all of his life. He has a good job but has had bad relationships in the past.
I (GF) come from a comparitively under-developed country and met my bf on holiday to visit my brother in the secondary country.
I met my boyfriend about 3.5 years ago, we spoke for a year while he visited almost every month even though it is far, he sorted out having me move to the secondary country where I have been living with him for 2.5 year. So far it has been great, he's kind, smart and very charismatic. I know all of his friends and family and nobody has said anything bad about him or mentioned anything about him learning my language so I think they do not know.
All my family speaks English fully but we default to a kind of small dialect of a language when I am home, they are here, or I am on the phone. He has no links to this community other than his step-dad who is from the same place as me, but has never hinted or even joked that my bf knows our language.
So. On with the story.
We were both home today, he is working on his laptop and someone from his work comes to the door and he has to leave urgently. This happens sometimes and is not unusual.
After a while I walk by the table he works on near the kitchen, and see that his laptop is still on and unlocked, with a document open in my native dialect, which as far as I knew he only knows a maximum of 5 words. I know it's bad of me, but I decided to snoop. I know that is dishonest of me but you can't not see the screen when you go to the kitchen and this isn't exactly something you would ignore, because its so unexpected.
I looked through the document, and it's basically small notes on a conversation I had with my brother earlier where my bf has listed down some slang phrases we used, which i thought was odd as my bf doesn't speak my language and incredibly intrusive (i know, irony). So by now I have to know more, so I carried on looking at his laptop and I saw a folder titled with my language and can see in there that he has been paying for lessons for almost 3 years and I can see all of his notes, which include writing practice stories in my language, letters and even watching tv shows. So I can see that he isn't just learning basic phrases, he has a very extremely advanced knowledge and understands almost everything, including slang we use.
Following on from this, I see messages between him and his tutor, explicitly saying that he is learning the language not to talk, but only to listen to me my family and my friends to see if we are looking to hurt him and if I mention something to a friend indicating that I'm cheating etc.
By now I'm angry, I know it probably look bad since I just admitted to snooping, but I've never given him a reason to think I'm scamming him or whatever, and I don't intend to.
Also, whenever I have been with family, he has made me translate what they are saying into English almost every day for 3.5 years while he has played dumb like he doesn't understand anything other than hello and give me beer.
Should I confront him and let him know all of this? some of this? I don't think I can ignore it as it is bothering me so much and I'm sure he will be back later tonight and he will know something is wrong. I love him of course, but I feel betrayed and now I'm worried about other things he may be hiding.

How have you handled staying in a relationship after infidelity 3+ years later? My biggest insecurities now would be my boyfriends phone (m 26/ f 30) and his relationships with other females.
He’s so shady with his phone and he tells me all the time that it’s “his” and I shouldn’t be concerned about it. It bothers me that it’s on silent 24/7… he sleeps with it under his pillow.. his notifications don’t show. It screams “I’m still cheating” but he just tells me that I’m insecure and not doing the work to trust him.
It’s been almost 2 and a half years since the first time he cheated and in his eyes I should have moved on already and also that he’s “not the same person as he was before.” I get it but has done a lot of questionable things since then up until now and it’s hard for me to trust him.
He has a passion for training at the gym, and a few years back I was totally against him training other females. He recently told me that he’s going to start training people and the OLD me would have made it into a problem, but I realized it’s something he’s passionate about so I needed to “grow up and just trust him,” especially because all the people he was going to be training were “bigger people” (his words) so I felt that he was actually doing something good.
Well, today he told me he has a client that never showed up, and I didn’t think much of it. He had left the room and miraculously left his phone in the bed (he takes that thing everywhere with him) and I saw he had a notification saying that a certain female started sharing her location with him. I found it so odd because why would he need her location if they were meeting at a gym. I never said anything to him about it because then he would know I looked at his phone and THAT makes him get angry. I started asking him questions about the client that missed their session and asked who it was and he told me her name. It was the same girl that shared her location with him.
Some how this escalated into an argument and I pointed out to him that- if I had a problem with him training before and now I’m letting my guard down, why can’t he do small things to reassure me? If he could let me know about his sessions for the day and who he’s training? He straight up told me that he doesn’t need to do that, and that I don’t need to know about who he’s training or when. Not going to lie, this broke me. I don’t ask for reassurance every day and most of the time he says no. Why is this something he’s saying no to?
He previously told me (about 6 months ago) that we have a year. And if things don’t get better that we need to part ways. He brought it up today saying he was serious about it. He doesn’t feel like I’m doing any of the work to trust him, or make him feel safe enough to talk about things with me. But I on the other hand feel like I’m doing my best every single day. When I’m bothered by something I just keep it to myself now. I don’t fight with him about anything anymore and it’s mainly because I know his reaction to it will just be telling me that it’s my own problem and to figure it outs or to leave if I don’t like it.
After the argument I ended up leaving his house. He wasn’t letting me talk, he was disregarding everything I said and also told me that my solo therapist sessions don’t mean anything because he thinks I “lie to my therapist”. I told him we can be done, and even though that’s not what I want- I don’t feel like it will get better.
Has anyone else been in a situation similar? Or have any advice or input? Any advice on your significant other people close with the opposite sex?

My ADHD partner has a porn addiction and it’s ruining our relationship. If some of you don’t already know, ADHD is heavily correlated with addictions especially porn addictions as it’s a quick release of dopamine. He claims it's part of his illness. I didn't know how bad his porn addiction was until a couple weeks ago, when I found out pretty much everything.
It’s rather how regularly he is watching it (multiple times a day even when I’m there) and how he hyperfixates on certain pornstars to the point of obsession.
He has around 10-12 women who are his ‘favorites’ and he has downloaded pretty much every single picture and video of them in existence (terabytes of porn, thousands and thousands of files). Most of them are a good 10 years or more younger than me, and also do not look anything like me. He gets crushes on them and obsessively masturbates to them.
I also found out he was subscribed to multiple onlyfans women and only confessed when I confronted him after he used MY card to sign up for it.
What’s worse is nothing helps. His two main crutches are weed and ADHD meds. The weed makes him insanely horny, and the ADHD meds only give him a higher sex drive and makes him hyperfixate on porn. If I’m not there, he will often spend 8 or more hours straight just masturbating to porn. Even if he’s not using either of them, he’s still constantly horny. He's on high dose antidepressants but still has an extreme drive to masturbate.
I’ve talked to him about this multiple times. He basically told me he ‘can’t help being attracted to sexy women’, that he’s ‘an extremely visual person’ that he ‘can’t resist thirst traps and women acting and looking sexy’ and that although I’m his ‘favourite girl’, he cannot deny his attraction to other women and will never be able to stop looking at other women and using pornography.
He says he will never physically cheat on me and I believe that because he's home pretty much 24/7 and was a virgin when I met him. But this still feels like a violation of trust.
He also shuts down and starts shame spiralling when I tell him it hurts me and he claims he cannot do anything about it. What also bothers me is he guilts trips me and DARVOs a lot, accusing me of not sending him enough nudes or not acting provocatively for him enough.
This is of course BS because even at the height of our sexual activity where I try pretty much everything to please him and keep his focus on me, he is still looking at porn and sending money to random women. He needs to ejacualate multiple times a day, often 10-15 times. He prefers porn because it's 'easier'.
At this point, I’m kinda sick of it. I feel unattractive, like I’m being forced to ‘compete’ for his attention, but every time I mentioned breaking up he threatens to harm himself and goes on a bender.
I’m so frustrated and feel like this man is taking years off my life. In many ways he’s a great partner, amazes me how extremely loving and caring he can be to me (and our dog), but he absolutely cannot shake off his addiction to visual stimuli and looking at other women. He says it’s part of his illness and always has/will be. I’m at a complete loss of what to do.
Sorry for the long post.
TLDR; ADHD bf has suffered with porn and masturbation addiction for last 19 years, hyperfixates on pornstars, admitted he cannot stop masturbating or stop looking at other women and will probably never be able to.
My self esteem is becoming non existent and it’s hurting our relationship although I love him.

To start, I have about 80hrs into the game. Beat the main quest and went into new game plus. Played about 6 hours more with new update but now I just can't bring myself to continue. I feel absolutely nothing for this game now and even when I was playing.
With the new update I thought the new gameplay options, maps, and quality updates would bring me back in but it's still the same boring as fuck chore that I remembered when I finished in SeptembeNovember. This is doubly disappointing because I would probably call myself a fanboy for BGS games. These types of games are why I love video games so much. Fallout 3, Skyrim, and Fallout 4 I can replay over and over until the end of time but Starfield is the biggest dud I have ever played.
The writing is horrendous, the main story is laughable and a chore to get through, most of the cast of characters sound like they're about to die of boredom, the setting is bland as fuck, and the procedural content just kills the variety and identity that BGS games are known for. The entire game lacks creativity and identity. It feels like a BGS game that has been sterilized of all the things that make their worlds interesting and immersive. Ship building can be fun at times but it's not what I'm personally looking for but I can admit it's one of the better aspects of the game. Also the faction quests can be fun at times but they also fall into this general lack of creativity and flair.
With all the lore that you learn, especially with the colony wars, House Varuun and so on, I feel like we were cheated of a really interesting setting because you start your character after all the cool shit has already happened. Everything just feels overly sanitized which kills any sense of character this game was trying to give.
Think of the atmosphere of Fallout 3, the dynamic dragon attacks and next level immersion in Skyrim, and the set pieces and density of Fallout 4. Hell even think about the sheer variety in Fallout 76 with the world of Appalachia. Starfield has none of that. All it has are thousands of barren planets with copy pasted buildings, lackluster weapons, cringe-worthy companions, cities that are pretty to look at yet are completely shallow, endless fetching and boring corporate oriented quests, and writing and dialogue that makes me wanna fall asleep whenever a character opens their mouth.
So yeah sorry I just needed to rant and get my frustrations out about this game before putting it away for good. It stings more considering my affinity for the developers and all the great games they've made before this

Hey all! This is a bit weird for me being almost 40 and looking for friends. But here I am anyways lol. Mainly looking for someone to message throughout the day and get to know. Maybe game with if we have that in common. I do work from home so there’s no one to really talk to during the day.
I’m married and have 2 kids, a 6 month old son and a 9 year old daughter. I’m into basic nerdy things. Gaming, star wars, super heroes, DnD, etc. Also trading card games like Disney Lorcana and Star Wars Unlimited.
I watch a ton of Critical Role stuff especially Campaign 3! Currently on episode 74, so if you watch too, let me know! Also like to watch Battle of the Brands on YouTube.
I’m also into movies and tv, some sports, pro wrestling. Collecting action figures and retro games is one of hobbies as well. Anything 80s/90s nostalgia i absolutely love so if you want to talk childhood and growing up back then, i’m down! I miss the good old days where we went to arcades and italian sunday dinners at the grandparents and where the world just wasn’t as nutso as it is today lol.
My kids are everything to me and I do love talking about them. Love being silly with them and spending time with them (when they aren’t driving me crazy 🤪 lol)..I would prefer you be around my age and have kids as well just so we have that stuff in common off the bat! I’m socially awkward most times but very easy to get along with. I’m definitely considered an introvert. But once you get to know me I break out of that awkward shell. I do like to use sarcasm, and mostly like to try and make people laugh because a world without laughter would just be horrible.
Alright i’ll shut up now but I’d like to think i’m an awesome person to get to know and hopefully there’s more you’d like to know so feel free to DM me! (I looove using GIFs so if you message me, open up with a funny one! Especially since then i’ll know you actually read this 😂)

Hey all! Mainly looking for someone to message throughout the day and get to know. Maybe game with if we have that in common. I do work from home so there’s no one to really talk to during the day.
I’m married and have 2 kids, a 6 month old son and a 9 year old daughter. I’m into basic nerdy things. Gaming, star wars, super heroes, DnD, anything Disney, etc. Also trading card games like Disney Lorcana and Star Wars Unlimited.
I watch a ton of Critical Role stuff especially Campaign 3! Currently on episode 74, so if you watch too, let me know! Also like to watch Battle of the Brands on YouTube.
I’m also into movies and tv, some sports, pro wrestling. Collecting action figures and retro games is one of hobbies as well. Anything 80s/90s nostalgia i absolutely love so if you want to talk childhood and growing up back then, i’m down! I miss the good old days where we went to arcades and italian sunday dinners at the grandparents and where the world just wasn’t as nutso as it is today lol.
My kids are everything to me and I do love talking about them. Love being silly with them and spending time with them (when they aren’t driving me crazy 🤪 lol)..I would prefer you be around my age and have kids as well just so we have that stuff in common off the bat! I’m socially awkward most times but very easy to get along with. I’m definitely considered an introvert. But once you get to know me I break out of that awkward shell. I do like to use sarcasm, and mostly like to try and make people laugh because a world without laughter would just be horrible.
Alright i’ll shut up now but I’d like to think i’m an awesome person to get to know and hopefully there’s more you’d like to know so feel free to DM me! (I looove using GIFs so if you message me, open up with a funny one! Especially since then i’ll know you actually read this 😂)

Hey all! Mainly looking for someone to message throughout the day and get to know. Maybe game with if we have that in common. I do work from home so there’s no one to really talk to during the day.
I’m married and have 2 kids, a 6 month old son and a 9 year old daughter. I’m into basic nerdy things. Gaming, star wars, super heroes, DnD, anything Disney etc. Also trading card games like Disney Lorcana and Star Wars Unlimited.
I watch a ton of Critical Role stuff especially Campaign 3! Currently on episode 74, so if you watch too, let me know! Also like to watch Battle of the Brands on YouTube.
I’m also into movies and tv, some sports, pro wrestling. Collecting action figures and retro games is one of hobbies as well. Anything 80s/90s nostalgia i absolutely love so if you want to talk childhood and growing up back then, i’m down! I miss the good old days where we went to arcades and italian sunday dinners at the grandparents and where the world just wasn’t as nutso as it is today lol.
My kids are everything to me and I do love talking about them. Love being silly with them and spending time with them (when they aren’t driving me crazy 🤪 lol)..I would prefer you be around my age and have kids as well just so we have that stuff in common off the bat! I’m socially awkward most times but very easy to get along with. I’m definitely considered an introvert. But once you get to know me I break out of that awkward shell. I do like to use sarcasm, and mostly like to try and make people laugh because a world without laughter would just be horrible.
Alright i’ll shut up now but I’d like to think i’m an awesome person to get to know and hopefully there’s more you’d like to know so feel free to DM me! (I looove using GIFs so if you message me, open up with a funny one! Especially since then i’ll know you actually read this 😂)

Hey all! Mainly looking for someone to message throughout the day and get to know. Maybe game with if we have that in common. I do work from home so there’s no one to really talk to during the day.
I’m married and have 2 kids, a 6 month old son and a 9 year old daughter. I’m into basic nerdy things. Gaming, star wars, super heroes, DnD, etc. Also trading card games like Disney Lorcana and Star Wars Unlimited.
I watch a ton of Critical Role stuff especially Campaign 3! Currently on episode 74, so if you watch too, let me know! Also like to watch Battle of the Brands on YouTube.
I’m also into movies and tv, some sports, pro wrestling. Collecting action figures and retro games is one of hobbies as well. Anything 80s/90s nostalgia i absolutely love so if you want to talk childhood and growing up back then, i’m down! I miss the good old days where we went to arcades and italian sunday dinners at the grandparents and where the world just wasn’t as nutso as it is today lol.
My kids are everything to me and I do love talking about them. Love being silly with them and spending time with them (when they aren’t driving me crazy 🤪 lol)..I would prefer you be around my age and have kids as well just so we have that stuff in common off the bat! I’m socially awkward most times but very easy to get along with. I’m definitely considered an introvert. But once you get to know me I break out of that awkward shell. I do like to use sarcasm, and mostly like to try and make people laugh because a world without laughter would just be horrible.
Alright i’ll shut up now but I’d like to think i’m an awesome person to get to know and hopefully there’s more you’d like to know so feel free to DM me! (I looove using GIFs so if you message me, open up with a funny one! Especially since then i’ll know you actually read this 😂)

25M here, I got left an year and half ago, in name of study pressure and lack of care and attention, even though I gave it all for her. We'd been through multiple instances of breaks but this one hit because this time I opted not to beg for acceptance. She didn't remember me for a month then needed me for her exams, we talked but casually since but, 6 months ago we talked as if we had hope of rejuvenation and maybe going to marriage, something I had hoped from the very beginning. But a month ago, she got accepted at a reputed institution and deservedly too because she had worked hard for it. I only texted her congratulations but her response was unexpected, she delivered blows to me and even told me to not call her names which we used to call when in relationship. She was very rude and it felt like it came from that recruitment. She gaslighted me in our oldest conversations and condemned me for a conversation I had with a friend 4 years ago, charging me for cheating and told I was always unfaithful, though I was never of that sort. I listened to everything, didn't respond more than that I was sorry and closed the convo. But for the last week I m seeing her in my dreams, I miss her so much, I checked out our old photos and read our old convos. I myself took an exam recently and hope for a good result but she always appears disappointed with me in my dreams. In one she avoided contact with me and she acted if she didn't know me, so much so that when her friends talked with me she ignored and avoided even touching. In another she became pregnant and her friend kept tormenting me and telling I shouldn't have left her even though I had sex with her 3 years ago. In some she comes beautiful and in next she just destroys me in and out and my mornings are left with pain. I hope I come out of this soon. I tried looking for new relationships but none work out for me because I'm not that flamboyant, lost it as my commitment with her was for 5 years a and longer. Hope for a change.

Context: We are both 32, met on neopets at age 11, met in person at age 14, didn’t see each other again until 2022 but remained close friends online.
In the summer of 2022, I was going through the absolute worst part of my life. Early June, I went on vacation out of state, and though I was in a 10 year relationship at the time, I didn’t talk to my at the time girlfriend much. Our relationship was cratering because she was struggling with alcoholism and depression. I was trying to figure out a way to break things off in a clean way, unwind our financial and living situation, etc. During this vacation, we didn’t talk much. It was tense and frankly exhausting. Instead, every day, from morning til night, I was talking to my now ex. Mind you… I wasn’t cheating. I didn’t have feelings for her at the time. We were both just in a bad place - her dealing with the father of her 3 children cheating on her, and still living with him, me, dealing with a failing relationship I desperately needed out of. To be honest, most of our conversations were about work, where our relationships went wrong, and our kids. My son from another relationship ship is low functioning intelligence / autistic, which also caused a lot of issues - my partner at the time did try to accept this and be a mother figure but deep down, it was too difficult for her.
I get back home, and in the span of two weeks, my life fucking cratered. I’m talking about cinema grade levels of shit hit the fan.

1. My son burned my garage down to the studs while I was asleep - I had to run and pull him out of a burning garage, get my then girlfriend out of bed, and get our dog outside. We didn’t have a fire extinguisher so it was, so far, my closest near death experience
2. I was forced out of a company I co-founded by my 2 business partners, losing a 125k year salary, just months before the company was purchased for approximately 10,000,000 - my share would have been 10%
3. My at the time girlfriend went to a routine doctors appointment - a woman who struggled with alcoholism, has pcos and ovarian cysts, with what we were told an almost 0% fertility rate….was 7 months pregnant.

My son was held in the care of the local state children’s hospital for mental and physical examination. My home was in shambles, and the insurance company dragged their feet throughout the entire ordeal. I was reeling from a massive financial blow and loss of identity in a lot of ways, because that company felt like my life’s mission. My current gf and I split up, she moved out to live with her aunt, and it wasn’t pretty. I was so angry, so defeated.
I had a complete mental breakdown. I’m talking, I flew my mother in town to help with daily tasks. I couldn’t function. I lost about 30lbs, lost many friendships both personal and professional.
But this woman was there for me. She was a shoulder to cry on. She bore the brunt of my mental and emotional exhaustion and never pushed me away, never looked at me differently. We were drawn to each other during this time of complete fucking chaos, and one night, I hit on her. I threw out some bait, she took it, and we met up for the first time since we were teenagers.
We hit it off tremendously. It was like we hadn’t been apart a day in our lives. We both fell in love, quickly, as I began to rebuild my life, welcome a new child into the world, repair my home, work on myself professionally. She was there, through all of it, and she made it easier. I could lean on her, I could look forward to her, no matter what life had thrown me, I thought I had found my soulmate in this woman I’ve known longer than anyone. So, we started to date.
It was difficult in the beginning. She had to move out of her ex boyfriends house and get an apartment. This took a lot of time and planning because she was working a retail job and hadn’t been on her own in 7 years. This man was abusive, controlling, and eventually she managed to get an apartment with her mother to get away from him. He was furious that after a year of the two of them being broken up, that we got together. He wrongfully assumed I’d been in the wings all these years, which couldn’t be farther from the truth - he had cheated on her and she left him and refused to reconcile. It took a few months but she got an apartment. This was difficult for her, she left a nice area and moved to a low income area. She could only see her kids 50% of the time. Transportation was rough between both towns. It put a huge strain on her mentally.
I, meanwhile, did what I could. In the beginning I went out of my way to see her at every opportunity I could. I’d take her out to dinner often, visit her at work, stay over at her apartment. She’d come over to my house. It wasn’t easy - I bought my home just as Covid started to rock the housing market, and I had to land in a rural town. So we had 45 miles between us. I was also busy dealing with life without a live in partner, facilitating my sons care, and having my newborn 50% of the time.
But it was good, I thought. We got along well, it was electric, it was our escape. About a year into the relationship, the mother of my child had to move back into my spare room. She was struggling and I was not going to turn her or my daughter away in the time of need, it was not even a consideration. My ex understood, but acknowledged the pressure it put on us both mentally and emotionally - my house was now, effectively, off limits. This greatly reduced the time we could see each other. We’d go 2-3 weeks without getting together, with our only time between managing our schedules being maybe 2-3 hours on a random day, or a quick outing. Our relationship devolved quickly into a FWB situationship, and this is where the mistakes were made.
I didn’t see it at the time, but that’s all we really had. I was complacent and aloof, a little distant, and just… okay only seeing her every now and then. I think deep down I wanted more but it became such an insurmountable hurdle to put together. During this next part of the year or so remaining, she began to fall out of love with me. She told me that she felt like we were just FWB, stagnant, and going nowhere. She was dealing with depression, openly despising herself, and struggling to see a future with me. I realized that my complacency was to blame, but to a certain degree, she too was complacent.
Instead of voicing her concerns, talking options, solutions on how to build a life together, she sunk into her depression.l, and her feelings faded. I guess the how’s turned into why’s, and the what ifs turned into oh well. I do acknowledge I took on a huge responsibility dating a single mother of 3, but…. After learning these things from her the last few days, I realized.
I never felt like a team. We were together in flesh and bond only, we never discussed our future. We didn’t plan, we merely hoped. And we drifted away from each other, and in the end, it became too much for her to bear, and being alone felt like the best solution for her. She left me 2 weeks ago after bringing these issues to light. Initially I was devastated. I collected my thoughts and spoke with her last night.
I told her, I did want more, but I got comfortable, and so did you for a bit. We were stagnant because neither of us pushed the other forward. I wanted to be a team, I wanted to work towards something, but the opportunity just slipped through our hands. I begged. I pleaded. I told her, I’d do whatever I can to build a life for us. I own my home, it’s small, but it’s something. I can work harder, I can figure things out, I can work towards pulling together the things we need. I can be more present, more attentive. Because despite the both of us checking out to an extent, I very much still love her.
I feel and see her everywhere in my daily life. I cling to her, I dream of her, I long for her. I feel like the deck was so stacked against us, that we both bit off more than we could chew. But in the end, she didn’t want to keep trying, she didn’t see a future, and I’m stuck picking up the pieces and so desperately wanting things to work.
She told me to move on, to heal, to grow stronger and become a better person. She has no hard feelings, no contempt or regret. She just lacks the physical, mental, and emotional capacity to have a relationship, and that she doesn’t want to. But I still can’t shake the fact that I really thought I had found my person. I love this woman. I…. I wasn’t ready to stop. I risked so much, pushed through so much adversity to bring us together, but in the end, it just wasn’t enough.
It sucks. I’m devastated, defeated. I truly feel like life looked me in the eyes and said no, you are not good enough for this. I blocked her this morning because I realize she has made her peace and moved on, and that I will only drag her down, push her away, and erode my dignity at every turn, because I am still struggling to accept no for an answer. She didn’t cheat on me, she didn’t abuse me. We never fought, argued. We got along so, so, so well. She was the most important person in my life outside of my children, and I failed to show her that. And I feel in some ways, she failed me too. Because when it got hard, challenging, when it became time to work on life together, she got spooked, spiraled, and…. Gave up. She gave up on us.
I thank you for reading. It’s disorganized and insane because frankly I don’t know how to put all of this on paper. I’m going into therapy next month to revisit a lot of the issues I faced before her and to understand life after her and what went wrong. I have never felt a void like this in my life, there is a her shaped hole in my life and just….. this is just another level of pain.

Been looking to buy this game for a bit, and now that I can I was wondering if it has a offline mode only? And is the anti-cheat install required to play the game at all? Would really prefer not to have what is basically spyware on a game I am only going to play offline.

This is my first reddit post and honestly it's a lot so please bear with me. I'm still trying to figure out how to process everything and make sense of it all. I guess we will start at the very beginning. My boyfriend,( we will call him michael) and I just passed 6 months together. Honestly, hes been great. We clicked pretty fast and have a great bond. I feel safe and comfortable around him and can communicate in a way ive never been able to before. It just kinda works. I definitely fell hard and fast for him and from what I could gather, the feeling was mutual. We had met on tinder in early October and went on our first date in November. We made it official shortly after our first date.
After we started dating, he had briefly mentioned that he had a friend who had a bit of a crush on him. I told him I didn't mind and I trusted him. As long as he kept things respectful to me, it didn't matter. He then explained that her crush was a bit obsessive and he actually wanted to push her out of his life and needed advice. Apparently, this friend, (we will call her beth) was pregnant and wanted Michael to be her baby's God Father. He said that she would follow him and got jealous when he was with other girls. I found this kind of odd but he swore they were just friends, so I told him the best way to let her down gently and let him do his thing. About two weeks later, he told me she was out of the picture. I didn't really care either way but the communication was cool.
Anyways, I pretty quickly forgot about all of that because it was irrelevant and I wanted to focus on our relationship. One night when we were hanging out, he got a snapchat notification. He turned away from me to respond to it but I didn't think much of it, just asked who that was. He said it was just a friend (we will call this one Jen) and they were catching up. I had never heard of her before but I didn't care, I just said cool and dropped it. Just like before, I quickly forgot about that conversation because again,it was irrelevant and I had better things to think about. I trusted him so why should I care who he talks to? He is his own person after all and I understand the importance of friendships.
Fast forward about another two weeks later, him and I had our first argument. I dont remember what it was about. Most likely something small and pointless because I had a stressful day at work but nothing too serious. We did not talk much that day. Later that night, I apologized and we talked it over. Everything was fine. He then told me that earlier in the day, an old friend that he had removed off social media readded him and messaged him. We will call her Molly. Apparently she had just noticed she was removed and was upset and wanted to know why. He told me that he sent her a message explaining that he didn't see her in his life long term and doesn't feel the need to keep someone around who won't be around forever so he didn't want to be friends anymore. He then removed her again. At this point I thought the way he acted was odd. I had never heard of molly before, he waited until he had already removed her before telling me about the conversation, she only came into the picture when we had our first argument and it got me thinking about the other girls who were just friends. I definitely started to over think a bit and was more than curious about who these people were and what their relationship to him was. But he swore they were all just friends. So I continued to believe him.
We went a long period of time without anything coming up so once again I forgot about it and moved on with my life. Him and I were doing great. We were young dumb and in love. I felt truly happy, something I hadn't experienced in a long time. I felt like I genuinely found someone who was right for me and I didn't need to second guess whether or not he was gonna cheat on me. He occasionally would ask to see my phone but I didn't have anything to hide so I allowed him. I had set a boundary with him that if he ever felt concerned or needed reassurance, he needed to bring it up to me first. After we talked it over then he could see my phone, but we would always go through it together. This seemed fair to me. My phone was never off limits, there just needed to be open communication. Anyways, he would always offer for me to see his phone in return but I would decline. I didn't feel the need to and I had learned from past experiences that if you go digging, you will most likely see something you can't unsee.
Then one day he needed to have his wisdom teeth removed. I dropped him off in the morning for his surgery and I was told I needed to hold on to his personal belongings and wait until the operation was over. No big deal. I know this is wrong and I shouldn't have but finally curiosity got the best of me and I looked on his phone. At first it wasn't malicious. I genuinely was just curious. But of course, I saw things I wish I could unsee. It started off on tiktok. In one of his conversations with a friend, he poured his heart out, explaining how he was still so in love with his ex and missed her like crazy. Of course it stung a little to see the things he said but I knew there was someone before me so it wasn't that surprising. That was until I saw those messages had been sent in mid October. So of course i was like huh.we started talking early October and dating early November. So clearly he wasn't over his ex when he met me. But I was willing to forgive it. It wasn't a deal breaker. But Instead of putting the phone down to protect my peace and his privacy, I kept looking. And boy did I find a lot. I found lots of old text messages from contacts that were not saved. Most of then were hard-core sexting and flirting. This dude literally acted like a dog.And yeah it was again hard to see but it was before me and he wasn't like that anymore. With me, he was gentle and respectful and never treated me like an object. Some people just go through a phase and that's okay. Again, it wasn't a deal breaker. But finally i found some very passionate, lovey, intimate messages with an unsaved contact. I was immediately drawn in by the kind words and heartwarming love messages. Whoever this was, they cared for eachother very strongly. I almost immediately felt heartbroken. Not because she was a past love interest, but because he had never spoken to me the way he spoke to her. I read all the way from the top of the conversation. Months worth of love confessions, paragraphs of strong feelings, longing to be with one another, etc. But finally halfway through in one of the paragraphs I see a name. Molly I was shattered. Molly was the girl who supposedly was removed months before him and I even met. The one that was "just a friend" who messaged him and he removed her because he didn't want to be friends anymore. Yeah clearly they were more than just friends. I was livid and felt crushed. Why did he feel the need to lie about something so unnecessary? I wouldn't have been mad if he had told the truth about who she was. But then it got me thinking. Was Beth truly just a friend? Was Jen truly just a friend? What was the actual relationship? I gathered up as much as I could but then the nurse came to the lobby to tell me he was awake and ready to go home. I kind of panicked and in my hurry, I forgot to delete the screenshots out of his phone.
We get in the car and I give him his phone, he's still pretty loopy. Obviously I had a million questions to ask him but I knew he wasn't in the right state of mind to have that conversation so I put my feelings aside and decided it could wait. Well he wanted to take pictures of his bloody swollen face and send it to his uncle. In the process, he sees the screenshots i had forgotten to delete off his phone and immediately screams what the f*** is this? I tried to talk calmly and explain that now wasn't a good time to talk about it and it could wait. He kept pressing "what the f*** did you do? Who the hell is this?" In my mind I thought "uh dude, you tell me." But didn't want to escalate it while he was drugged up. I decided the best option was to simply say that I wasn't mad , I stilled planned on taking care of him while he recovered and that we would need to have a conversation when he was in a better state of mind. He just started sobbing. Oh boy. I kind of ignored it as much as I could. I drove us to the store to get ice cream and other soft foods he could eat before taking us back to my apartment. I helped get him set up in my bedroom and he still was crying. So much so he started coughing out blood. It smelled awful and got everywhere. He was a wreck. I felt bad for everything. I felt guilty for going on his phone behind his back, for leaving the screeshots on his phone and for him crying. It took several hours but eventually I got him to calm down. I kept my word and continued to take care of him until he was recovered.
Finally when enough time had passed I decided it was time to sit down and talk about it. I explained that obviously I had found messages and i wanted an explanation. He told me molly was just a friend, and very clearly it was more than that. I also explained that I had a suspicion that he was not fully honest about his relationship with Jen and Beth either. He looked me dead in the eyes and said he had no idea what I was talking about and they were just friends. I remained calm and explained that I won't be mad at him or leave him. I told him I didn't want to fight. I just felt as though I deserved to know the truth if I was going to continue to be with him, especially since he was still in contact with Beth and Jen while we were dating. We continue to go back and forward for several hours with no progress. I decided then if he didn't feel I deserved the truth, I would find out for myself. I took the screenshots I had found and reached out to the contacts one by one.
Let's start with Beth. She was the quickest to respond. I briefly explained who I was and that I was hoping to ask some questions about my partner because I felt like i was being lied to and was hoping she could fill in some of the gaps. She texted back and simply asked "do you work at blank" I responded that yes, I did. She then asked if I lived at a specific apartment complex. I said yes and was creeped out. She knew where I worked and lived. She then asked if she could call me. I agreed. For some context, he told me that she was a friend he had met in school. He explained that she had gotten out of a rough relationship and he wanted to make sure she was okay when it happened. That's how they became close. He explained that they would hang out all the time and eventually she became obsessed with him. Well during my phone call with her, I heard a very different story. Yes, they met in school and initially started off as friends. But, slowly with time as they started to spend more and more time together, they started to catch feelings. He said I love you first. And she proved this with screenshots. She also sent me pictures of them holding hands and kissing. She explained that they never officially started dating but they definitely were more than just friends. Their relationship was much more physical and romantic than platonic. She also told me that they had hooked up about 3 times. She explained that they had eachothers location and pretty frequently they would make plans then he would last minute cancel. So she would see what he was doing and would see him at two very specific addresses. Visiting my work or my apartment. She eventually asked him where he was and he told her that I was his cousin and was trying to get out of a rough relationship so he was helping me. I felt sick. No wonder why she was "obsessed" he was borderline dating her, telling her he loved her, and then started to ditch her when he made things official with me. Then it killed me to realize that even though they never had an official title, he was dating the two of us at the same time. I didn't know what to do. I ended up apologizing to her for everything he did and told her I never would have agreed to be his if I knew he was entertaining someone else. Michael overheard this phone call between us and looked like he had seen a ghost after. All he did was started crying, said she was lying, and that she was only a friend. I asked "so....these screenshots and pictures are all made up?" No response. He knew he was busted.
I decided I needed to take some time to process that information and I didn't want to say something I would regret. I let him stay at my place because he had nowhere else to go and I went to stay with a friend. He kept calling and texting but I couldn't deal with it. I cried all night. I was a mess. I should have just accepted that I was cheated on and lied to but I couldn't leave. I needed to know the truth. So I kept reaching out. Next up was Jen. I never was able to reach her, but I found out through Michael and Beth that Jen was Beth's best friend. But even more than that, I found out the three of them had a threesome together. He had told me previously that he had never been interested in a threesome and would never want to have one. Then I found out not only did he have one and lied about it, but it was with two girls he told me were just friends.
I went back to my apartment the next day and tried to talk stuff out. He just continued to say they were just friends. I finally snapped. I screamed and cried and told him that I just wanted to know the truth. That I deserved the truth. He looked me in the eyes, pinky promised me no more lies. We talked for a while and basically he explained that he never had an official title with Beth. They were very close but he basically just used her to pass time because he had nothing better to do. He said he loved her because that's what she wanted to hear and he treated her like a partner without ever having any real feelings for her. He knew as soon as he met me that he wanted me but didn't want to hurt her so he just kind of pushed her to the side but kept her in the picture. I felt so sad for her. He used her. He led her on. He treated her like an object and then threw her to the side when he met me.I asked why he lied about having a threesome. He said he felt ashamed Apparently they started to do it and then he chickened out so he didn't really count it. That made sense to me. I was pissed that he lied but at least it made sense. Next I asked why he told me Beth and Jen were just friends instead of being honest about the relationship. He said he never had feelings for either and they never had the official title so he didn't think it was important and he did not want to scare me off. I explained to him that although I understand why he lied to me, I didn't forgive him. I warned him that I would not tolerate anymore lies and obviously for the time being I did not trust him. I told him I wouldn't break up with him but if I found out he lied again, he would lose me. I also told him I considered what he did as cheating since he was seeing us at the same time after him and I became mutually exclusive. After we concluded our conversation about Beth and Jen, I started thinking about molly and the messages I had seen. I asked him what their relationship was, he said just friends. I freaked and told him to give me his phone. I found their old messages and told him to read them. "Hey goofball, you awake? Well if you're not I have something impossible to say to you. You are my sun, my moon, and all my stars. I love you lots and want you to know that no matter what happens I will always care about you. To me you are perfect. Amazing. And attractive asf. You are also very sweet and caring and adorable. Don't think about the negative things about yourself that will drag you down. You are way more than that. This is an official goodnight and I love you goofball." This is just one of the MANY messages sent back and forward. He reads the conversation and just goes oh. He then says he didn't remember any of that happening. We began to argue and the story he tried to spin was that his life must have been so traumatic that his brain literally deleted his past memories and replaced them with false memories where he didn't do these things that he is ashamed of. He got caught in lies and after so long was just like...whoa I did that? I had no idea I didn't remember. Technically I didn't lie because I told what I thought the truth was the way I remembered it. I told him I wanted to break up and he cried and begged me to forgive him and stay. I listened.i tried to move on and make things normal again but I couldn't stop thinking about all the lies and what else he might have been lying about. Then randomly one day, Molly added me back on social media. She was the last and took over 1.5 months so honestly I figured I'd never get ahold of her. I was genuinely surprised to see her show up on my friend list and reached out. Once again back story, he told me that she lived in Wisconin and they had never met. He said he was also using her for nudes and to pass time, same way he used Beth. He had told me that he removed her off social media months before him and I even met and aside from that one night she reached out, he hadn't heard from her in forever. I found out from her that she did not live in Wisconsin, she lived in the same state as us That to her, they were definitely dating and in love. I also saw a messaged saved on snapchat where he had been texting her in October (after we met) and even sent her the same pickup lines he had sent me. he had cheated with not just one, but two (at least that I know of) other girls.
At this point I had been broken so bad I didn't even feel the pain anymore. I just went numb. I had no more tears left to cry and couldn't be bothered to care anymore. I stopped eating and taking care of myself. I just went to work, came home, slept and repeated. I had watched the man that I loved and adored, one that made me feel so safe and happy turn into a monster right in front of me. He wasn't him anymore. I finally could see him for who he was. But I still didn't leave. He told me that he had only ever slept with three girls. I later found out it was actually six. He told me he had never been in love before. I later found out he tells basically every girl he's ever talked to that he loves them AND genuinely was in love with his ex before me. He told me after his ex and him broke up, he had a rebound but he only hooked up with her once before ghosting her. I found out they actually dated for several weeks, hooked up several times, and she had taken cute couple pictures with him and posted them on social media. He said that he never wanted to take those pictures, she made him put his Hands on her and pose and if he didn't cooperate, she would throw a tantrum like a child. One last thing I think that is important to mention,when we went on our first date, I told him I don't do hookups. We stayed out late and hit it off really well so I offered for him to stay the night at my place. I said I was okay with cuddling and whatever but I did not want to have sex. He seemed okay with it. I went to bed and then when I woke up, my pants were off and he was inside me. He claimed he didn't know I was asleep and thought I wanted it because apparently my butt kept rubbing against him while we were spooning.
It's been about a month since all that and I'm still just meh. I haven't exactly forgiven him but I also don't hate him. Things are normal. I act normal we still do couple things. But I can't help but wonder if he is just using me the same way he used them. I mean after all, he lives in my apartment rent free and asked me to buy him a truck for his birthday. He says I should forgive him because he genuinely doesn't remember doing these things and he didn't mean to lie to me. He said he's so ashamed of who he was but isn't like that anymore. He doesn't associate with who he was and wants to be given a chance to show that he is different. But can I ever forgive him? Should I? Where do I go from here? I feel so lost and confused. I dont think I'll ever be able to trust his word again. I dont feel secure. He broke me so bad I can't even feel anymore. Am I crazy and somehow making this a bigger deal than it is? Can I ever have the man I fell in love with back? I'm sorry if this was confusing. I'm typing this all out in one sitting. Please help me because I genuinely am so lost and I don't want to tell any friends because I don't want them to hate him.
TLDR: My boyfriend cheated on me with at least two other girls that I know of at the moment and has lied to me about too many things to count. His argument is that It doesn't actually count as cheating because he technically didn't date these people and he didn't remember doing it.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years and we’ve had such a healthy relationship so far. He’s very caring, supportive and overall a very charming person. I couldn’t be happier in my first ever relationship thanks to him.
I never got a boyfriend nor someone that confessed to me up until now, and no one really complimented me either up until my boyfriend. My classmates, or even strangers, would sometimes make fun of me because of the way I looked and naturally, I became very uncomfortable in my own body and face, resulting in very low self esteem.
Although I became a little more suitable for the beauty standards now compared to the past, I still cannot shake off the feeling of being ugly no matter the make up or weight loss.
My boyfriend always complimented me. He always tells me how attractive I look or how I look very pretty, cute and all that jazz. However, I yesterday, I couldn’t help myself but look through his journal he told me not to look at ever due to his logs about his fetishes and some more personal stuff. Now, he has always told me when he thought someone was attractive and never concealed the fact that they were pretty. My boyfriend is also a very charming person so he has had a lot of relationships in the past and I know all about his exes. At first, I didn’t mind hearing about them but there was a tome when he made a new friend and the first thing he told me was how pretty she was. He never compared me to her nor did he show any intentions of cheating but I felt so scared that I decided to read his journal when he was showering.
In his journal, he would write about people he found attractive and what he would do to them in another universe or something. He had also written about his new friend and how charmed he was. I also realized how much he had written his fantasy about his exes and how little he had written about me. I know he finds me attractive as well since he has written about me too but all the other girls he has written about are all these thin girls who fit the beauty standards better than I do.
I know he would never cheat on me and I’ve seen and read how much he loves me and yet I don’t want him to look at other girls, I want his head filled with me and only me even in his fantasies that will never become real in this universe.
I realize that I should never have looked at his journal, and I know he loves me very much but I can feel my self esteem plummetting again even though he has never compared me to them whether in his journal or words he has directly told me.
He also constantly reassures me that I am his one and only but I feel so jealous that these girls are still a masturbation tool to him. i want to get angry at him but I can’t when he hasn’t really done anything wrong, and he would definitely hate me if he heard me reading his journal.
how do i make his feeling go away?

Am not here to support the current government or any other government. And honestly speaking idk much about employment rates and how that really works.
So basically I want to ask people that when you haven't studied in any semester of your college, you were passing exams with 0 knowledge, then why are you crying now for low paying jobs?
Ok let me clarify my statement first through an example:
Am using my own name in example. So khushi was a very dull student. She never paid attention to the lectures in school. She got 70-75% in 12th standard by rote learning and cheating in exams.
Due to caste based admission (obc/sc/st) she got admission in a college of a reputed university. And Because she never paid attention to her school lectures her basic knowledge is incomplete now. She is facing difficulties in her higher studies. And due to that she isn't paying attention to her college lectures as well.
All she is doing is sleeping in her hostel room watching movies, series etc. Now it's the semester exam, again she is just rote learning and cheating in her exams to get passing marks only. She also thinks like the most of the students "academic knowledge doesn't matter" also "what matters the most is experience and practical knowledge". But she got none of them. It's the last year of college life and companies are here to hire students. Due to zero knowledge khushi got no job. She is blaming the education system now. She is blaming her college by putting a tag of 'shittiest placements'. She knows that she have 0 knowledge about the subjects she passed by cheating. But she wasn't aware that she can't cheat in an interview. Now khushi is working as a credit card seller or accountant for 10-15k a month. Now khushi is blaming government for low salary and low employment rates.
Now my question is, was the government really responsible for it?
In today's world many people are living in this same situation. My senior who was boasting about 14 backlogs in semester exams is crying because there are no jobs for her. She used to be like one of those 'CoOl sTudEnts' who believes in only clubbing and spending money pver silly things which are considered as cool kids things nowadays. And whom she is blaming now? The government. The education system. And yea her parents.
I saw a reel where ashneer grover answered a question asked by a student that "Is the knowledge we are gaining in college life really matters?" To which he answered that "This generation is the most stupid generation who thinks that only they themselves are the most logical people nowadays. For them teachers are fools, universities are fools, their own parents are fools. He also said that if you aren't attending lecture but you are somewhere doing something better than the lecture then it's a good thing for you. But if you are just sleeping in your hostel rooms, binge watching a series at the time of studying then you are the one who is fool here.
This was the most logical and simple answer i have ever heard. People will blame everyone and everything but not themselves, not their own doings. People with full knowledge are getting jobs. They are getting everything for which they worked hard in their school and college days when you were just clubbing and wasting your money over cigarettes and alcohol. When you were looking for casual dates amd hook-ups those people were keeping a check on their exam dates.
My brother (not writing the name or college's name for privacy) topped in his college and got 50+ LPA package from a well reputed company. His current salary is 4.5 lakhs per month. He is living his dream life. And all because of the hard work and time he putted in his studies (and yeah surprisingly not because of his luck.)
The whole purpose of this rant was to make y'all aware that unless you aren't working hard you shouldn't yapp about not having a dream job or dream life you kept dreaming of. Thanks. Have a happy and healthy life. And start studying MFs <3

Hearing Bob & Corby talk about Casa Bonita brought back my memory of the place. When I was in the Army in Colorado Springs, circa 1991, as a morale booster my unit loaded into buses and drove to Denver to go to the place. It was just as they described it. The most insane, over the top, sensory overload place you've ever seen. Arcade, skee ball, fake jail, Black Barts Cave, mariachi bands, dancers and cliff divers. We sat at a table right by the cliff diving area. Big pool with rocks & landscaping surrounding it with a wall made to look like cliffs. I forget how often it happened but eventually a guy in a speedo climbed up the cliff and dove into the pool. Everyone clapped & cheered and thought it was the best thing ever. The food was terrible too. Think of the most mediocre tex-mex place you've ever been too and it was 10 times worse. So thanks Hardline for bringing that memory back for me. Stay Hard. Qweef.

As a little kid I was considered good looking and did a lot of modeling. By age 13 I became depressed and completely let go at a young age, turning me into the “weird kid”. I was bullied quite a bit and often called ugly. This was right around the age I started to really be interested in girls. I was massively insecure and always rejected. Even to this day I still feel like that insecure child. Regardless by high-school I started to get my looks back together and got my first girlfriend however after a few short months I was cheated on. After that relationship, I started getting lots attention from girls and I was not used to it and fell in love with the attention. I have manipulated many women and caused a lot of pain to them in order to fulfill my own selfish desires. To this day I am in love with the idea of love but I don’t know how to actually love someone or even tell if the feeling is genuine. I don’t want to hurt anyone else and I want to find something genuine but I don’t know if I deserve it after all the people I hurt. While not as bad as the things I’ve done in the past, even now I find myself on dating apps starving for attention, often ghosting most of the people after getting the attention I wanted. I don’t know how to grow as a person or what steps to take in order to forgive myself. And I don’t know how to love or be genuine…