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hi! not gonna be very long, words are hard!
either way, im a girl (woo!) and im not very experienced. im not shy or anything but yeah lots of stuff just never happened. :(
and im tired of waiting, the 21st century wasnt built for patience.
ideally id like someone shy, and timid, who's passionate about the things he does that i can direct all my attention to! i've got really lots of energy and lots of things to give and i really just need someone to be mine for a while (or forever, we'll see how that goes). i do have to like that person and they'd have to like me before that happens though :( thats the catch
so whoami? - chill, likes things most people like (anime, films whatever), struggles with anxiety,, getting a masters', is terrified of holding eye contact, prefers to die rather than live a life which is too hard
aaand what im looking for: it's hard to describe since ive liked different sorts of people since ive been alive. just dont be boring and dont really start empty conversations, i have enough of those already. i really like people with a dark side to them as well, i feel like that makes them seem more human ig (especially since nowadays, no one ever really shares what they think to others, everyone's just sorta robotic.
dont be too old, prefer guys around my age really. if we're at different stages of life it s tooooo weird.
dm me something interesting about you and not too boring please! try to catch my eye really :) why will we like eachother?
im not very quick at replying

Of course, if you're here you have seen the recent clip wherein Jordan Peterson calls Destiny out for "wanting to be right", because he has a "Luciferian intellect". And if you're anything like me your first reaction was something like "lmao, what?". If anything was clear from that conversation, it was that Peterson wanted to be right as much as Destiny - probably more. I vividly remember him angrily shouting "What do you make of the excess deaths!?". Jordan Peterson also talked and interupted way more than Destiny did. How could he think that Destiny is the Luciferian one?
I think the key is when he says:

I usually talk to people who want to talk. And I can disagree with them. I disagree with Russell Brand about lots of things we get along just fine. And the reason for that is that Russell talks and listens. He isn't hitting me with a hammer trying to be right. And so I don't like those arguments, I don't like arguments. You know and people don't like arguments generally, this is why Joe Rogan is so popular. Rogan doesn't argue and he isn't trying to be right

For a sense of what the interactions between Jordan and Brand look like see this clip. Jordan claims he likes to "talk to people that want to talk", but Russell doesn't speak a word for the first 6 minutes of this clip! When he finally does speak it is mostly to say that Peterson is correct. What JBP likes about Russell Brand (and implicitly what he wants from Destiny) is that he listens and agrees without pushing back basically at all. Joe Rogan is similar - or at least was similar before covid. A classic Rogan episode looks like several hours like this. His guest talks a lot and Rogan says "yeah right" ever so often in short and longer ways.
Is Jordan just a narcissist then? While I do think he is quite prideful (Ironically evident from when he made a video denouncing (gay) pride). I think there is more going on here though. Peterson praises Rogan, even though the latter is usually interviewing someone other than Jordan. And I want you to contrast the Russell clip from before with this one with Roger Penrose. It is a lot like the previous one, but now the roles are reversed. This time Jordan Peterson barely talks and only very sheepishly on the rare ocasion. Where a normal Peterson clip has him dead center, dominating the frame. In this clip he is barely visible in the corner of the frame. Even his posture (when you see it) is much more demure. What is the differentiating factor?
Putting it all together, the anwer is probably hierarchy. Hierarchies are extremely important to how Peterson sees the world. Important enough to make it the first thing to talk about in his 12 rules for life lecture. In a story about wrens he suggest that hierarchies are important because it allows everyone to distribute resources with a minimum of violence, and in humans it allows us to engage in positive sum games. Peterson respects hierarchies greatly. Meritocratic ones yes, but also the monarchy.
Penrose is older and more accomplished than Peterson is. Jordan recognizes that a reasons to regard his guest as higher on the hierarchy than himself, and his behavior changes accordingly. But when he talks to Russell Brand or Destiny (who are much younger and have less status), he expects the same sort of behavior in return. Russell obliges. But Steven does not. That is because he conversations as much more symmetric. Destiny will generally tend to defer to experts on topics he doesn't know much about, but fundamentally ideas have to stand on their own merit in Steven's eyes - not the merits of their speaker. He doesnt feel any reservation talking back. But to Jordan, that is an challenge to the hierarchy and a play for status. He says as much in the original clip. In Paradise Lost, Lucifer damns the cosmos precisely because he rebels against the Godly ordained hierarchy. This is how Destiny is like Lucifer in Jordan Peterson's eyes.

Hi all, Thad a long stint in the hospital with two emergency surgeries and an extended battle with sepsis. I spent over a month in the hospital. My care was beyond top notch. I was released with several tubes as well as a G tube. Over the series 3ish months the tubes were removed one at a time with the last one being a G - tube. It was removed on a Monday and by Saturday night I was in extreme pain, so much so l couldn't walk. I was at my parents house for a holiday- two hours away from my acute care doctors. I had called their after office hours and my surgeon called me back immediately. He instructed me to go to the nearest ER and have them call him when I get there. So, my mom takes me- I explain to them my medical history and they take me back asap. My ER doc called my acute care surgeon and he was told my history and what my surgeon was worried about/the look for. Abscess, gastric leak, sepsis (as it's easier to get again once you've har it), and asked him to get me a CT scan. The CT V was ran... and reviewed by the radiologist and Ek doc. The ER doctor determined there was nothing out of the ordinary and in fact... I was lucky because my bowels weren't twisted! He called my acute care surgeon back and told him as such. My doctor directed to prescribe me antibiotics as a precaution. The ER doc told me to follow up in two weeks if need be with my PCP. I leave the ER in tears and a wheelchair as I am incapable of walking. I stay at my parents house for an additional two days because I was hoping the antibiotics would do their thing and I was terrified of a two hour drive with as much pain as I was in. One day 3 the pain was spreading and worse and I make the decision to head back to my own hospital.
I go directly to the ER. They run their own tests and take me to the OR immediately. My medical records state: "Patient CT concerning for a fluid collection/ abscess. Compared to previous CT done at another emergency department there is now a more defined abscess and fluid collection. Suspect abscess is secondary to gastric fluid leak given history of recent removal of g tube and closed wound and less likely nec fasciitis however surgical team was consulted and patient was immediately taken to OR. Patient was started on sepsis protocol on arrival will need further surgical management." My surgeon made the comment that he wasn't pleased they told him I was alright. I spent two weeks in the hospital and had two surgeries within that week. I have a 17 in scar from my G tube spot that wraps around my torso. It was left open and I was discharged. I had a wound vac and in home nurses. It took about two months to heal/close. It was one of the worst experiences of my life.
Which, brings me to my questions: My husband and I feel incredibly angry that such a large thing was missed - my medical records clearly state that the abscess was present on the original CT scan, and was even bigger the few days later. They billed us $32,000 for that too. Which, we've refused to pay so far.
I know medical malpractice is hard to prove to a degree and my husband and l are very close to the situation and I would like an outsiders perspective. I know there has to be a valid loss.... but it could have been my life. I feel if they had caught it.... maybe I would have had a 17 in scar wrapped around my body and endured so much torture.
Secondly, my husband is an attorney here in California for a large company- but he is a corporate attorney as are all of his friends... so it isn't his area of expertise. He wrote the letter for the intent to sue and we sent them out to the ER Doc, Radiologist, Hospital and company that employees the doctors. I have received responses to them and they're all requesting that I release my medical information to them. I'm assuming that's typical as several attorneys have requested it of me. We're in the process of getting an attorney (wanted to get the clock started).... Is that a typical request and are we required to do it? I understand that the intent to sue kind of helps with possibly avoiding court... Do I comply with their requests or? My husband said he was going to research it but I thought there might be someone knowledgeable here that could give some insight. Thank you!!

You guys think keloids will have a golden treatment (one that satisfies a patient) or at least better treatable in the near future?
I have recently read researches at PubMed’s official website indicating that keloids are poised for greater treatments in the future. In my opinion, and hopefully, as someone who has keloids and is hoping for a fix, this is indeed possible or factual.
I think with recent breakthroughs like the clinical trial for a newborn that had deafness was able to hear after “gene therapy”. For something we thought was impossible had actually been cured.
Knowing that gene therapy, stem cells, botox, etc. are promising treatments, I give my full support to this researchers who continue to fight this disorder and hope they’d be able to develop the golden standard of keloid treatments
What do you guys think?

for me i am calm because of environment. i am calm when for example couple hours ago, i went to the balcony to look around, that is when wind hit my face, not strong but calm wind it was nice, it was not cold but it kept me cool. rain was now starting, not normal one but weak one, sky was cloudy sun was going down it was not completely gone but it created vibe that matched the atmosphere. ( sky was grey) lamps outside started to light, even cars too. everything was beautiful for me now i felt really calm i mean really calm. then i just went on the youtube to play a song. it was song by caamp album cover is one guy is standing on the cliff and behind him is an ocean. guy was holding a cigarette on his hand but his face was blurry he has white sweater and brown scarf. first song i listened from that album was vagabond ( i tried to search vagabond calm type song ) and it hit the spot. i listened a lot of songs from that album and now it is my favorite one because it hit my soul when i needed to. when i was calm that time i felt i could do anything like i was not scared of anything anymore. then i had feeling that i want a girlfriend to feel calm with her, her to put her head on my shoulder, to feel warm, i want a girlfriend but i dont want to date because i find it boring. ( most dates i was in was boring because they didnt mach energy that i wanted) after some time i went inside to put on vein belt, ( i have varicose veins ) then when i went back inside it didnt hit the same anymore i didnt feel calm and i hated it because it didnt even lasted a day. to sum up i feel calm when wind hits right and environment is good but i want to feel calm always. when do you feel calm or how do you achieve it

Just took a ride to the STL airport. It was about $15 cheaper to drop off at Terminal 2. Terminal one is about a half a mile away and a quick drive.
Weird. I wonder why it was cheaper?

Two of the biggest things that makes me drop a book.

1. When the MC is meant to be weak but they have to clean up all the messes. For example, MC is 16 years old and just awakened. They have their super duper special class. "Oh no, the village is being attacked by bandits" who will save us.
2. Newly awakened MC
3. town guards
4. literally any adult. If your book picks the first one I refund it.
   
5. If your MC can fight multiple stages or levels higher than them then it all means nothing. "I'm level 20 and he's level 80 but I have my super duper class and he has common class so I easily win" It means your book is lame and the progress means nothing.
   

The second reason is why I believe Cradle was so good. Linden wasn't going around killing monarchs as a copper.

Hey everyone,
So my latest visit to my doctor I went with an A1C of 6.7 even though I didn't follow a healthy diet, I just cut off sweet stuff and sugar, rarely had white rice or pizza, but everything else was on the menu.
other tests were also good except my Insulin sensitivity which was 52%. He told me we would like to make that 70 or 75 if possible.
Anyway he gave me a month and a half with meds for blood sugar and one to help me lose weight and fat, and said after 45 days I need to repeat these tests and if my numbers are better he would take me off meds! Which is something i want to do for a while now but at the same time I'm scared!
I'm trying to eat better now, but I was planning to go 5 strict day and maybe 2 days where I can have something I love at dinner... only one bad meal during the day, but when I'm off meds I will be more scared of how would that affect me! before I knew that meds would help. Any advice? anyone here managing their blood sugar without meds and enjoy one cheat meal at least?
Thanks,

So for a quick history. My last couple jobs were a firefighteEMT, I worked there for a few months and was stuck on an ambulance the whole time, got burnt out very quick.
The next one was working sales at a department store. It wasn't awful, was not my favorite work but I was there for 2 years.
This last week I started a new desk job at a bank. This is really my first 8-5, M-F type of job and even after 3 days I'm having serious doubts.
I've talked to a lot of people and I know new job stress is normal. I've been nervous with new jobs. But I've never been THIS stressed. All weekend I've been anxious and want to throw up. The idea of working 5 straight days staring at a computer screen all day seems daunting to me.
I think taking this weekend and seeing what I liked about the previous jobs, I like some irregularity with my schedule. I don't like working 5 days straight.
At the department store I would work a lot of times in 2, 3, or 4 day stints, still work full hours, but wouldn't be 5 straight. And even the days I did work 5 straight, I wasn't mentally exhausted and anxious after work at home. Even the fire department, which EXHAUSTED ME, did not leave me this mentally wrecked.
I know it's only been 3 days, and this week will be my first full week. But sometimes can you just KNOW an environment doesn't fit you?

Hi guys,
i have previously used my entry level road bike with trekking wheels for my bikepacking trips. These have always been short and never lasted more than a handfull of days. I am now planning to do a larger road trip and was wondering how much sense would it make to upgrade my bike?
i am not going for time, but will try to ride 100-150km a day. my current bike was the first road bike i got, and is fairly cheap around 700 pounds. I think upgrading to a new frame is completly unecessary since I got so much weight anyways from my bags (around 30 pounds with tend, sleeping bag, change of clothes etc.) that a few pounds from my frame would not make any difference.
i was thinking of maybe getting a new gear ratio, since my current one is somewhat aggressive. with so much additional weight and long distances every day as well as large climbs (sometimes 5k a day), I think opting for an easier gear ratio might be useful?
if you have any other tips what i can do, do either get more comfort whilst driving or something that will help me save energy please advice.

I would like to buy the F14 Tomcat but there are 2 which one should I get the one from Indiafoxtecho or the one from DC Designs

I know that this community has been life-changing for myself and thousands of others. How amazing to read posts that (as painful and unfair they can be) show us that we are valid in our feelings, and that others have had a similar experience to us. How amazing to be part of a community where we can receive support and advice from people who truly get it. The list goes on.
This community gives us something so essential, as a human, and even more as a CPTSD survivor : hope & connection.
So, I wanted to celebrate that as well as share some positive vibes on the subreddit and stimulate the social connection that we all so desperatly need and crave.
So, let's make friends a little bit! Share one of your hobbies, a funny joke in the comments. Something that defines you, and that has nothing to do (if you want!) with your trauma.
Let's make this the most upvoted post on here, guys!! We deserve it.
Sending you love.

I'm currently in a finance leadership role at a company with two distinct brands within our division. We have a division president who oversees both brands and focuses more attention on brand A and there is a division manager role that oversees brand B and reports to the division president. The division mananger role for brand B is currently vacant as the former person in that role was let go about 6 months ago (I speculate due to some of his own shortcomings but also due to the underperformance of that brand). My direct boss (the division president), recently retired and has been replaced by someone I highly respect and we have worked very well together since he started a couple of months ago. Last week my new boss approached me and directly asked why I haven’t considered applying for the vacant division manager position. He says I would be good fit for the role. Here are my thoughts and concerns:

1. Current Compensation vs. Promotion
   
   • I currently make very good money, and the promotion would only increase my pay about 20%. While significant, the raise isn’t a game-changer for me.
2. Job security
   
   • In my current role, I feel secure with performance metrics I can control. Conversely, the last two managers for this prospective position were fired in the span of 4 or 5 years. It feels like a big risk..
3. Division Performance
   
   • Brand B is currently struggling, mainly due to sales issues. We've had delays in projects, lower margins than forecasted due to market conditions, and corporate has recently mandated not to drop earnings forecasts, which impacts bonuses. It’s currently a stressful situation with a lot of pressure from corporate.
4. Future Opportunities
   
   • I’ve expressed interest in leading a division one day, but im in my early 30’s and with only 6 years in the industry, I’m not sure I’m ready. I don’t want to be overlooked for future opportunities if I don’t take this chance now.
5. Stress
   
6. I do feel like this role would cause me more stress… ironically I’d probably work less hours in the new role but it would be subject to more big decisions, worrying more often at home, etc.
   

Any advice would be much appreciated.

it’s not uncommon for this fanbase in general to complain about the audience etiquette and age of people attending the twins shows, and i can even understand a lot of the complaints. however! as someone who has attended 2 the garden shows and 2 enjoy shows, (and a handful of other punk/metal shows), you guys gotta chill out a little bit. respect the kids and they’ll respect you back! i’m 21, not quite a kid and not quite an “older” fan. but i have been a vada vada fan since around 2019, maybe 2018. there will be “annoying” fans, drunk weirdos, and people who don’t know how to be courteous in a crowd at pretty much any rowdy show. but honestly, i’ve never had a bad experience at any of the shears’ shows. they’ve always been memorable and fun as fuck. it’s valid to criticize and have disdain for the folks who are assholes. but have a little bit of patience for younger folks, and remember we all started somewhere. vada fans could use a little more camaraderie these days! (see ya at the Tampa show next month!)

So to provide some context, I (28F) recently started a law firm with my mom, who is an attorney. I was working on my own business at the time, but when my mom’s paralegal up and left her right before Christmas, she needed help, plus I had experience starting a business and was previously in the legal field, so I agreed to come on as her legal assistant/business helpeetc. We agreed on a set weekly amount for pay, which wasn’t crazy high but solid and I felt like I could use the opportunity to help my mom build something lucrative after leaving her old firm (where she was severely monetarily taken advantage of, and is going to have to sue her old business partners for what they owe her + her partner investment at the old firm, but that’s a story for another day) The thing is, I was wary going into this my mom would not be able to financially keep our agreement, because she has big dreams and ideas but doesn’t always take the practical steps in terms of things like budgeting (the fights and struggles this has caused in my house between my parents my whole life and the financial issues we’ve experienced as a result have shown me she has no plans on changing this but I am also empathetic because she is crazy busy and my other siblings, one who is severely mentally ill and lives at home, take up an insane amount of time)
Now I want to hammer in that my mom is a good person, with a big heart. My dad is a good person too, which is why I feel this situation is so difficult for me to navigate. They have their issues and personally to me, seem to act like children in many ways in how conflicts are handled and how they emotionally react (my mom especially, she cares so much how people feel about her but doesn’t realize that her fuse is short and she will just yell and scream at everyone) They have not had an easy set of cards dealt to them in regards to all of us kids and the individual issues, and I have always had so much empathy for them. However, the older I’ve gotten and more I’ve experienced, the more I realize a lot of the issues we had growing up, whether it was financial or my siblings behavior and issues, probably could’ve been handled in a much healthier way which would’ve saved a lot of the pain experienced by continuing the cycles and behaviors that were causing the issues in the first place. My parents stayed married, but basically tolerated one another and never had a united front, were always talking bad about one another and could never agree on proper ways to fix what was happening, so it was a chaotic mess all the time, where the more difficult kids were enabled and it felt like those of us who actually had more of our shit together, were just expected to either help with it or just deal with the fact they didn’t have time for us because of the time my siblings took up. An example of this would be when I was in college, I was on a full scholarship (full tuition, but not room and board) because of my academic and athletic scholarship, so I ran track and XC to help pay for school. I worked two jobs as well to pay for my rent, and barely slept as I was in pre-med. I am the oldest of the 6 kids in my family, and in my family, I was the good kid. I didn’t ask for much, always figured my stuff out, etc. They “never needed to worry about me” so they didn’t. However, during that time when it went to school, my dad lost his job and my parents were fighting more and more. My siblings had less tolerance for their “bullshit” but they also fought each other because of the issues at home. Therefore, they began to struggle a lot. My mom was always borrowing money from me and I had no idea when I’d get it back. I would struggle and could barely afford my NEEDS. I barely bought books I needed and would often be finding ways to take pictures of my friend’s books, etc. Anyway, this was consistent and even to the point where I could not buy myself the sashes and what not for my graduation (I was in the honors courses, extracurricular, scholar athlete, Greek life, graduated top of my class for my major etc) because my mom had borrowed almost 1000 from me…and gave it to my sister who was studying abroad. This sister has never cared about taking my parents money or caring about how their financial situation affects everyone. She has since been diagnosed with BPD…I get that I have some unresolved family issues, so that may be coming out as I type here, but I also wanted to provide context into why I feel the way I do. I was also heavily parentified being the oldest, with an extreme sense of responsibility, even as an adult, for the well being of my siblings and parents. I have”sacrificed” (I say it in quotes because I know it was my choice and I take responsibility, but looking back I don’t agree with how it was all handled and felt my parents should’ve been more of the adults and allowed me to try and build my young adult like without the burden of caring for children that were not mine) a lot of time, money and opportunity so I could focus on trying to “save “ them (I have gone over this complex I have in therapy and I’m still working through it, but take responsibility for my actions in perpetuating the cycle)
I could go into more detail about the difficulties and struggles my parents face, and how life has gotten harder and harder for them. My mom is an enabler because she has trouble with people disliking her, yet burns bridges with people who genuinely care because she ends up accidentally taking advantage of them to focus on for example, her kids who are not actually doing anything to help and causing more issues in the family. My siblings are beginning to hate her, threaten to cut her off from meeting her future grandkids, etc I will be on the last line for cutting her off, because I genuinely believe she is such a loving person who has never been able to totally focus on her and has just been running on fumes for years. However, through therapy I’ve also come to recognize she is an adult who has had the opportunity to change her behavior (my dad too) to try and get a more positive outcome, but they have chosen to remain stubborn, and say it is because they have no time, but that part just isn’t true, it would take a lot of work and reorganizing at this point, but changes could be made. I have literally bought my mom therapy appointments, set them up, (I control her calendar for work so I know when she’s free and I handle all business scheduling so I know what appointments are important to the firm so I try to schedule when we have a few days without major deadlines) and my mom still says she is too busy
Anyway, finally to the point of this post, my mom owes me over 10k in promised payment, and I have been working full time. She has given me the amount I’ve needed to pay my half of the rent at my place (I live with my partner, who is genuinely shocked at the behavior of my parents and our family dynamics, but is very loving and supporting regardless, even to my family) but besides that, I’ve just been floundering. I don’t know where the money goes after we bill, but my mom is always complaining we don’t have money in the account. However she has not forgotten she owes me, and always brings up how she wants to get me paid, but I am continuing to struggle and don’t know when that will happen. I know she will, but when? The other aspect of this is my sister (the one with BPD) just graduated law school and was supposed to help us with the firm to help pay for her bar prep and bar fees, but she has managed to avoid work and I know my mom is just going to pay for it all anyway. However, I’m not mad cause I’m very proud of my sister and what she has accomplished with her mental health struggles however, that means her work has fallen into me, and not only am I helping with my duties and hers,I am expected to set up all the automations in the firm, handle all the schedules and set up a business for success. That takes time on top of all I am doing, and my mom gets easily frustrated with technology and things and complains this should all be easier and we should get it set up to be automated, have draft emails, etc . I tell her that takes time and money, but she has this idea we can just hire someone to take on the extra work but I’m not even being paid right now, so even the money that could potentially go to me, the person working full time, would be given to a VA to help push the firm forward. I would be okay with that if I really believed we were on our way to making a successful sful, lucrative business, but because of all the issues at home, my mom has barely been able to work. She is emotional and has a short fuse a lot, and it’s hard for me to keep things moving when I need an attorney to do most of the big thing clients pay for when working with a firm. Now she has gotten ill (which I am so upset about but my guess is it is due to stress) and has been out of work for two weeks besides hitting deadlines that need to be hit, she will call me screaming , crying (edit since input syringe instead of crying the first time) that she can’t do this anymore, can’t do the firm, etc. But then being happy and excited the very next day. I always tell her I just want her happy and to take care of herself, but she needs to let me know so I can find new work and build my life. I feel stuck in limbo and know I need to take actions to help myself, but I still wanted to try and help my mom as much as possible and see if the firm could still be built. However, yesterday my non working sister (studying for the bar) called me to show me the new outfits she had gotten and how she was going to go out with some friends, I love those types of calls from my sister but it made me realize my mom was still giving her money, fun money not just get ready for the bar money, and I’m here struggling and my partner is picking up the slack. One of my brothers, who I have lent money to multiple times in the last few months (he always pays me back in a timely manner) who said he couldn’t afford to do things he wanted and had to sell his EDC ticket, is now at EDC and my mom has no money in her account so my guess is she helped him. My dad works too so they are surviving, but she complains about the mortgage and bills to me a lot, so I feel guilty adding to her stress especially with her being sick, but I’m kind of at the end of my rope here after seeing she is still not prioritizing paying her employee (even if I am her daughter and have a lot of empathy for the situation)
I know I wrote a lot but I feel like I could have provided so much more context. Once she is feeling better I know I’m going to have another talk with her, but I don’t know if I should just say I’m done once we finish up our current case load and to not bring on any more clients unless she hires someone else cause I feel she’d be more likely to pay them. I want to believe it could be different and my mom could figure out how to build this firm professionally going forward, but I just don’t know if I’m being idealistic. Anyways, I do really wish I could get the money I’m owed to put into my own business that I have put on hold to do this (thinking I could help my mom AND save some money to put towards my own business which my mom was on board with and wanted because she sees the firm as a way to help all the kids finance their own dreams, and she really means that which is one example of why I say my mom is genuinely a good and kind person who loves her kids) part of me wants to say that if she wants to keep saying she “can’t do this” anymore that I am quitting and I hope she takes the time to focus on taking care of herself because I can’t stand by and watch her do the same stuff that will stress her into an early grave which genuinely scares me but is how I feel. Granted even if she isn’t working she is kind of addicted to stress so it may not change anything but there is part of me that hopes it would. Plus, they obviously need the money so it is probably just wishful thinking.
Anyway, sorry for the ramble, maybe I needed to get my feelings out, but I am wondering if anyone has any advice? Have you been in a situation like this and how did you handle it? Please be kind to my parents, but truthful as any help would be appreciated.
TLDR Summary
Busy Mom of 6 with good heart is my employer and has not paid me what is owed, but spends money on my siblings and has a history of doing things like this. I know she is struggling financially. How do I approach her and what is my best course of action to resolve and help versus just being harsh and cutting it all off?