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*Leans against my lightly used 2006 Honda Civic* Hey! Thanks for clicking on my totally original title. It was a toss up between this or the definitely not over-used, "looking for my player 2."
To start off, I'm 24 and from the East Coast of the United States, you can be from anywhere though since I really love to travel and I need a reason to do it more. I work as a freelancer on remote projects and because of that I'm not really tied down and have a bit of free time on my hands.
Honestly speaking, I'm not looking for anything incredibly specific. I think getting a relationship out of this would be great. Ideally we could fall in love and takeover a small island and convert it into a Banana Republic, start a cult, create and sell low-quality appliances at an absurdly high price and amass a small fortune, etc. But that seems like wishful thinking. I do miss the feeling of having someone to confide in, someone to support and be supported by. I want the feelings that come with cheesy romance, and at the risk of sounding generic, I want a partner in crime (minus the crime if you aren't into that stuff). I'm not sure if that could come from a Reddit post, but I don't see a reason not to try. I'd definitely prefer to take things slowly rather than rushing into something, so you won't have to worry about me proposing in the parking lot of Applebee's anytime soon. I wouldn't be opposed to something moving at a quicker pace if the vibes are right though!
I'm not the best at descriptions, so I would be more than willing to swap pictures early on since I know physical attraction is important to most people. When it comes to weight and height, I'm 150 pounds, slim/fit, and around 5'9 (6'4 in heels 😳) (175cm) (0.0009 nautical miles for all my pirates out there)
Hobby wise, I'm invested in reading and writing. I also play games with my friends on occasion, I like hiking and camping and I'm big into all kinds of horror movies and video games. I've been wanting to get into D&D and I even wrote a little campaign for my friend group but it has been such a pain trying to organize things with them 😭. Outside of that, I go hiking and camping, and I recently got back into calisthenics. I think sometime soon I'd like to start playing the bass guitar again. I swear it's not a midlife crisis thing though!
Anyways, there's a lot more that I can say but I really don't want to overwhelm anyone who ends up reading this with a wall of text. If anyone's interested then by all means feel free to DM me! I promise you won't regret it (too much.)

Glowing Red Fist - Shock Release
Widely documented in history as Glowing Red Fist, this is a cursed technique that has been very often seen in members of the Tsuyoi Clan, one of the many sorcerer clans found in the past.
Currently known as Shock Release, this is an inherited technique passed down in the Tsuyoi family. This technique manifests the imaginary concept of kinetic energy as a measurable substance that can be interacted with through the manipulation of the user’s cursed energy.
While any member of the Tsuyoi Clan has an average chance of hereditarily gaining access to this technique, it is similar to limitless in that it can only be truly used to it's full extent if the user also has access to a special type of cursed energy, like how the Six Eyes are required for Limitless to be mastered, although not nearly as rare to occur.
Tsuyoi Clan
Although not nearly as ancient, powerful or famous as the three great sorcerer clans of the jujutsu world, this is still a very influential family that has raised exceptionally talented individuals, mostly known for their physical strength and enhancement techniques that have been passed down through generations.
While not equally as influential in the politics of the jujutsu world, the Tsuyoi Clan is still regarded as a very important organization within society due to their past as frontline soldiers in the war against cursed spirits, their powerful members have been of great importance in protection of humankind and that is what granted it's members certain authority within the association.
Special Cursed Energy
Almost half of the members of the Tsuyoi Clan are born with a distinct cursed energy, one that is hard and very dense, almost solid flame, this is what has always protected them from harm and assisted in fighting against cursed spirits while using only their bodies and martial arts, something that made them famous in the jujutsu world. The main properties of their special cursed energy are how it’s toughness can act as a shield that can stop an attack before it reaches them, which creates an absolute defense if enough energy is released while paired with powerful reinforcement, and how it can be used as a weapon, since even a small output of cursed energy can harm most enemies if what is being released is a heavy and hard blast of stone-like energy.
Although it is very commonly seen in members of the family, there is a very different degree of hardness that each member demonstrates, some of the members of the clan have a dense but just a little less softer energy than the average sorcerer, while others have what could be compared to a concrete wall surrounding them, this is usually not an issue as it doesn’t make that much a difference between most members, however, Shock Release is a cursed technique which’s efficiency is directly associated with the toughness of the cursed energy of it’s user.
Shock Release is, at it’s most basic form, a technique that releases accumulated kinetic energy, it doesn’t however accumulate it by itself, this can only be done mainly by cursed energy, but also by the body of it’s user, although at a much lesser degree. But cursed energy only accumulates excessive kinetic energy efficiently if it is a special type, one that is tough like found in members of the Tsuyoi clan, but for a user of this technique to use it to it’s full extent, having very dense energy is a minimum requirement as it tells not only how easily it takes in shock but also how much of it can be stored inside, therefore a certain degree of luck is involved when it comes to people born with the famous Glowing Red Fist.
The secondary property that occurs for users of Shock Release and allows them to use the technique efficiently is that this dense cursed energy has a function of acting like a sponge for kinetic energy, accumulating any excessive display of it and storing it within itself, this happens whenever it’s user performs any physical action such as moving, breathing, fighting, there is always a small percentage of the shock generated by these motions that leaks and gets caught in the user’s aura. Although higher reserves of cursed energy can lead to a higher storage capacity for shock, this is mostly influenced by the toughness of the energy, which also tells how high a percentage of what is leaked can be absorbed.
Description
Glowing Red Fist is a cursed technique that allows the user to bring the idea of kinetic energy into reality, as a bright red, flame-like substance, that can be interacted with if cursed energy or organic matter is used as a medium for it to flow through. It can be used for a great variety of situations and applied in many different ways, limited only by the user's imagination of what they can do.
Shock can be employed in many ways while utilizing this technique, enhancement to physical attacks by injecting kinetic energy into a target while hitting them with your fists is a very common application of the technique, although it can also be used for something such as movement bestowal, applying the force in a way that causes an object to move as intended without the need for direct interaction with it,
As with any cursed technique, Shock Release's efficiency and strength depend on the user, a low-grade sorcerer might require rituals to inject an object with enough kinetic energy for it's manipulation to be worth it while one of a higher grade, being able to freely use the technique during a fight, could be an unstoppable force, one that destroys anything in their path and fights in a manner completely unpredictable due to their unexpected movements, which are caused by the application of the technique on themselves for unnatural maneuvering that doesn't necessarily follow the laws of physics.
The user is also limited by the toughness of their cursed energy and it's reserves and output. Too soft an energy leads to almost no kinetic energy being taken in and not enough stored for large-scale applications and a low output might make it difficult to employ the shock that has been saved up.
Usage and Applications
The techniques is used, firstly, by saving kinetic energy that is usually absorbed by the user’s cursed energy, then, it is injected into a target that could be anything from an inorganic object such as a rock to the organic matter of the user’s body, doing so charges the target and allows the user to activate the shock that has been stored within it, an activation means the actual Lapse of the technique which involves causing the shock to interact with the target, resulting in any chosen result as long as it could be done through actual force, such as causing an object to be thrown upwards. As long as there is enough shock inside an object, it can move as far or as fast as the user wants depending on their cursed energy output.
Shock can only be manipulated through cursed energy or organic matter, injecting inorganic matter with it will only be temporary, as it will leak and return to being just an imaginary concept very fast, it only remains manifested if it remains within a solid enough aura or inside organic matter such as a person or the user himself. Therefore, injecting a target with shock requires the source to make contact with it, if stored within cursed energy, imbuing an object with it after releasing it is enough, but if stored within a person, physical touch is required.
Usually, whenever an object is injected with manifested kinetic energy, it glows red, this is the reason the technique was once called Glowing Red Fist as it’s users always had their fists glowing red due to how much force they applied to them before hitting an enemy, cursed energy also becomes red when carrying shock which causes all users of the technique to always have red cursed energy as their energy is always taking in the kinetic energy from the surrounding area. The more that is stored within a target, the brighter it glows.
The most common application of this cursed technique is to enhance physical attacks, the Tsuyoi Clan is known for enhancement-related cursed techniques and this is one of them, injecting the user’s body with shock and releasing it while attacking greatly increases the harm they can cause, with a lot of shock and powerful reinforcement, they can destroy any target with a single punch, once again reminding all why it once had “fist” in it’s name. This isn’t a rule, as any movement performed by the user can be enhanced, running, moving their arms to block an attack or their entire bodies to move away from one, an action can be improved by applying kinetic energy to it, it is even possible for capable users of the technique to apply shock to something that is about to hit them so that they can stop it in it’s tracks, such as pushing back on an enemy’s fist so that the punch isn’t as strong or can’t even make physical contact if there is enough force being used.
Another very common application of Shock Release is movement bestowal, which is the injection of force within an object and activating it to move it in any way deemed possible by how much force is injected, through swift manipulation of cursed energy, one could do this with such accuracy that it would be essentially the same as telekinesis, but it is usually used to maneuver mid-air by applying it on yourself or to control the trajectory and speed of projectiles. A high-grade sorcerer who uses Shock Release can even move other sorcerers either to cause them harm by throwing them somewhere or pulling them in for a punch or to assist allies in moving away from attacks or reaching an intended location faster than they could move themselves. With enough difference in power it is likely possible to completely control the movements of someone and bind them to the user’s will as long as the technique is active and there is enough force for such.
Cursed Technique Reversal
By activating the technique with positive energy, one can cause the opposite effect of the technique and drain kinetic energy instead of releasing it, this is a major improvement to the technique in general as it not only makes it a lot easier to fuel the user’s storage of shock but also because it makes one capable of completely negating the damage from most attacks and grants them a multitude of newer applications to use in a fight.
It is said that a user of Shock Manipulation, which is the name of the technique for someone who can use it’s reversed form, becomes so powerful after learning this that they are essentially more than twice as powerful as they were before, this can be considered an exaggeration as one would have to train in order to properly use this newly acquired application but it is true that one who has mastered both the use of positive and negative energy with this technique becomes a powerful individual who should not be underestimated.
Usage and Applications
Mastery over both positive and negative versions of Shock Manipulation grants the user complete control over kinetic energy, any application they were already capable of using is improved due to how fast the user can accumulate force to charge them and they can not only modify them for a different result but use new techniques altogether, such as not only changing the trajectory of a projectile but also stopping it mid-air as to confuse or avoid the defense of a target before allowing it to go forward again without having lost any of it’s speed, even the user’s ability to maneuver becomes even greater as they can deny the effects of gravity on themselves by absorbing the kinetic energy that is generated by it’s interaction with their mass and redirecting it towards movement bestowal, making it possible to fly.
Someone capable of draining the kinetic energy generated by the attacks of an enemy becomes a beast when it comes to physical combat, they are hardly harmed and become even stronger hitters after taking in the force they stole from their aggressors and using it against them.
Strengths and Weaknesses
The most famous advantage of this technique is how it’s user can freely maneuver during a fight in ways that are normally impossible and are therefore unpredictable, when combined with their enhanced attacks, this makes anyone who uses Glowing Red Fist a powerful closed-quarters fighter no matter how strong they are, but those of the Tsuyoi family usually have very strong bodies so it is only an improvement on an already great strength.
The biggest strength of the technique is it’s diversity, although lower grade users don’t have as much freedom as those of higher grade when it comes to using the technique, they still can inject and manipulate the shock imbued within an object to great heights, and there are thousands of ways of using the ability to move things however you want to your advantage. Higher-grade sorcerers are simply absurd because through subtraction, they become capable of using the technique with so much freedom that they simply control the battlefield without chants or hand signs, just the manipulation of their cursed energy as a medium for the accumulated force to flow through is enough to move, harm and confuse any enemy to great extents.
The most famous weakness of the technique is that it is an accumulative type, something that can also be a strength as it is a sorcerer can become a lot stronger than their peers if they are fully charged, but makes it so they pretty much don’t have a technique once they run out of kinetic energy, but this can be bypassed once the user learns cursed technique reversal. Another known weakness is how kinetic energy can easily be seen as not only it is carried by cursed energy but it also glows red. The red glow from force-filled cursed energy can’t be hidden, but a very precise manipulation of the force can hide it within objects by burying it deep, using organic matter as storage can also be used to bypass the weakness of glowing cursed energy.
TLDR: Negative energy releases kinetic energy and positive energy drains it, think about the first Noumu or Fat-Gun from My Hero Academia, kinetic energy can be used to move things.
I plan on posting an OC that uses this technique eventually and I will provide more information on how it can be used, I will also write about some of it's extension and maximum techniques, I also have a few ideas on a domain expansion that has this technique as it's guaranteed hit. This is actually something that I first thought about as a Hatsu for a HxH oc but I think it works better as a cursed technique due to how nen works.

So my friend and I have been receiving a lot of random phone calls from obviously fake local phone numbers. I received this woman’s iCloud information but cannot find her phone number to report her to Apple or just to legitimately contact her to tell her to stop. My friend and I are security at a few clubs here downtown. This woman’s husband is a coworker and I assume she thinks he has time to cheat on her… and the calls and texts are never ending for my friend. I NEED to find a way to get this chick to take some accountability and back the hell off. PLEASE HELPPPPP 🙏

Wow, where to start! I am the oldest daughter of a family that loves our mother dearly! I planned an amazing surprise 75th Birthday for her and it went off without a hitch and all had an amazing time! Family came from every direction of the US. FF to now , its time for her 80th birthday milestone and Yep... you guessed it, I started planning a surprise party again. We cant have it at my eldest brothers house because he had passed away in 2021 from Covid. It was a huge loss for our family as our other brother was killed back in 98 by our cousin but thats for another story! So, I talked to my remaining brother, we will call him George...... George agreed to host the party and i would help with food, drinks , cake etc and I would invite all I could get in touch with. So I did! Mind you, I have been working on this for several months at this point. Well, as usual, Mom always figures these things out and asked if I invited entitled niece.... lets call her Harriet.... I said Nope... and I am not going to because she hasnt given me the time of day even though I was the ONLY babysitter she ever had. I used to keep her and she tagged along with me literally EVERYWHERE....Harriet was my shadow and I loved her so much. I still do. Well, after she grew up she went off to college and confided in me about some procedure she had and i shoud NEVER bring it up again. WHAT? When she got home from college of course i had questions and she said she would never talk to me again for even asking her about it. Fast forward to the last up to 10 years that everytime I have seen her and her family I have went out of my way to say hello and try to hug them as we are a very huggy family... but she would basicaly ignore me and pull away . I have went out of my way to be nice to her for my Mothers sake as she was the first grandchild and my moms favorite even though i have 8 children. At any rate......... I contacted my little sister who we will call Petty and gets whatever she wants at any time... So Petty said she would contact the local peeps that i dont have contact information for and then I just got a text from a number I dont know... SURPRISE... Its Pettys 14th new phone number in 5 years stating that I need to call her... So, I did. Petty informs me that the party i have been planning for months has now been moved to Harriets place for a pool party when it was already decided to be at our brothers place. WTF????? I said.. Ok..... Please remember to contact EVERYONE to tell them the venue has changed and I know you all will have a great time. I wont be coming! I refuse to go anywhere where I do not feel welcome and I refuse to pretend to be civil when I will just want to basically walk out within the first 5 minutes! I texted my brother George and Petty and Harriet havnt yet let him know about the change of venue. Harriet has lots of money and a huge fancy house and I guess it was said it would go over better if the party was at her place. Well, Ok. I am on disability and have been saving to be able to pay for this. Not any more. She can have the party and I will visit my Mother and do my own party weekend with her. I dont need to be in the presence of fake loving family. Kinda pissed but I will get over it.
Little backstory on Petty and my relationship. We are 5 years apart and really have nothing in common but she is Mamas baby and all that entails! She has stolen literally everything of value from me all my life... My cheerleading coat, my class ring.... even though i bought her ...her class ring , my jordache jeans, my white rabbit coat even though I bought her a black rabbit coat..... she has taken money out of my wallet as i slept after i got paid from my after school j0bs.....years later my son went to live with her for a few months with all his possessions and his dog... SHE KICKED HIM OUT AND SOLD EVERYTHING HE OWNED TO PAWN SHOPS AND GAVE AWAY HIS DOG BECAUSE HER BOYFRIENDS BROTHER WANTED A DOG FOR HIS BIRTHDAY! Needless to say... Not much love lost. I love her but keep my distance.
This is just a shitshow and I am staying as far away as possible. No way we can say dysfunctional any better. No wonder i live 8 hours away and enjoy my peace and quiet on Daytona Beach! No drama zone!

I'm just wondering about the security of Canada Posts online and tracking services. I'm asking because I recently sent documents internationally and had to fill out all my details online including a pho number. The same day the package was delivered I received a suspicious text claiming to be from Canada Post say my package could not be delivered with a suspect link to click on to update the information. I just ignored it as I checked the status of my package and it was marked delivered.
This is not something I've received before randomly and the whole thing seems a little too well timed to be coincidence. Who/how would I report this. There doesn't seem to be a contact option that wouldn't get it completed dismissed.

Hi! I'm a 24 year old female who is currently out of school. This post will be a bit rambly so bear with me.
I've become more aware of my struggles with reading as I've gotten older. I did pretty well in school up to 12th grade for the most part, but I struggled a lot with grammar and any reading assignments.
I HATED essay questions with a burning passion. There has been times in the 5th grade where I'd cry while doing homework because I struggled to put my thoughts on to paper. I've always been terrible at summarizing and never got the hang of it. I remember crying in school because our ridiculous school decided to give us work to do on spring/winter break and I was so overwhelmed by all the stuff we had to do.
Once I started community College, that's when I really started to struggle. I got Cs and Ds in most classes. The only class I got an A in was Art. I've tried several programs but couldn't finish any of them. It's something that still bothers me to thus day.
The final nail in the coffin was when I started an online program to become a Dental Assistant. Whenever I took notes I'd make a ridiculous amount of spelling mistakes. I've always been a terrible note taker, but this was worse than ive ever been. My biggest problem was that no matter how much I read and reread my notes or a text book, my stupid brain just could not retain most of the information. It gave me panic attacks just looking at the words.
My reading problems gives me so much anxiety because I feel like they'll hinder my ability to do well in a workplace. I'm a slow reader and it takes a long time for my brain to process a lot of information sometimes. I feel so stupid. I feel like something is wrong with me.

The video I'm going to share here is highly relevant to the train of thought in this discussion
It's a letter from someone who understands the geopolitical implications of major religions and awnsers a difficult question that many people have about individual spirituality, the church, and other things. To ignore this element of objective reality is to be ignorant.
https://youtu.be/ZZZGfgVeruA?si=cRPrdeou1TAUmBBi
I posit that this individual spiritual reflection is highly relevant to the study of ufos and their implications to this day. (I do not advocate or align with a specific religion or organization so this post is purely in relation to the coverup of UFO information by both the Vatican and the MIC and I make direct claims about this connection later in the post) Many people argue about things they don't understand here because western society has discarded spiritual learning as useless to the modern life. The oppisite couldn't be more true when considering the phenomenon.
This person in 1933 without the internet sat down and probably awnsered 80% of your questions that could not any more relevant today as they were in 1933. This reflection about how the phenomenon may be connected to history is instrumental to the study of UFOs and I also posit that if you try to parrot the idea that the phenomenon has no spiritual basis then you aren't considering the plethora of evidence and history that suggests otherwise.
Another way to put this entire post; something covered in the video, the Vatican was not just a church in times like the 1930s. The political manuvering of the catholic church was unmatched by any other body of people on earth. The pope effectively became a defacto dictator over Europe and the reality is the only major time this control was seriously disrupted was during WW2. The UFO secrecy was properly implemented by the united states government after WW2.
If you think; that American intelligence figures like Allen Dulles didn't have the support of the Vatican to do that; you are patently incorrect. Avery Dulles was an important figure in the catholic church, and he had regular contact with Allen Dulles.
To the point; that Allen Dulles left Avery his armored car in his will.
Allen Dulles attended Averys priesthood ceremony despite John Foster Dulles viewing the church unfavorably. Despite Allan's personal beleifs about the Vatican led to himself being unaligned with the catholic church.
(If you Google information about all of these things you'll find them easily enough)
This suggests that Avery Dulles and Allen Dulles were close; and that's essentially a direct line between the American national security apparatus and the Vatican as it wss forming and directly after when their shadiest stuff went down.
Imagine all the clandestine possibilities of having a cousin who's important in the catholic church in the 40s, now imagine your destined to become the first civilian director of the CIA.
So yeah. What the Vatican says is highly relevant to the coverup of UFOs. The person above understood why it was relevant to understand what the catholic church was up to when it was really hard to aquire this persepctive.
Its written in a way that will shock some western audiences when heard. It's done in a way that doesn't force an idea or an ideal; just lays out the issues and their responce. The Vatican saying not our job is a sign that they are ready to take the backseat and fade into non existence as democratization of individualized spiritual learning becomes commonplace. I see it as great they decided to mostly stay out of it. The person in the above video could sparsely imagine a reality in which the church would not suppress new ideas. That's how much it's changed in a short 90 years.
It's no longer the Vatican, or any organized religions job to help discern objective reality and they cautiously acknowledged that in their most recent statements. Probably one of the most historic moments in the Vaticans history when you look at things from a distance.
In the same way; it's not any governments job either.
It's YOUR job (yes whoever you are reading) to advance your knowledge and understanding of the coverup so it can be undone and properly reconciled. A natural part of this process is spiritual information and you become truly ignorant and lost without this consideration on your plate.
I posit that if you really want disclosure get off your ass and do something to make that happen. Learn something. Talk to someone. Do something that actually moves the topic forward and if your the type of person to squabble with others let it go. It'll never do what you think it will do and I've learned this lesson squabbling with other people.
All the pieces to disclosure exist in the public domain; yet the organization of putting together the puzzle has been muddled by governments and religions alike. It's your job to do the hard work to overcome these roadblocks and accomplish our goals for the world we want to live in. If you want to see the coverup become undone; express your own individual creative way of doing so.
All of us doing that will have what we all want here done in short order.
Complaining that xyz person/entity isn't doing or saying what you want or the conversation isn't going the way you want will never get us there because that's what's been done all along, for hundreds maybe thousands of years. Negative forces that would love to see it kept from the general public feed off this disagreement and confusion.
Individualized spiritual reflection on humans greatest questions and mysteries will accomplish something.
Let's leverage some modern ways of thinking and action to solve these issues shall we? Let's invent something new. The church and governments both have alot less control over who you choose to be, depending on where you live, than they did in 1933.
The study of these institutions has become easy online. You no longer have to align with any organization period to compile information that others may find of intellectual value(as evidenced in this post) so why not do it?
Why not tackle humanity's greatest struggle, I earnestly ask what other solution is there for the complicated situation we have on earth where these conflicts between institutions are threating to destroy us all ?
What's your excuse for not understanding it all and figuring out what to do? There is none and you must if we plan to survive as a species. Not someone else; you.
In the same way you can't shoulder off responsibility for your own actions and be a responsible person; you cannot claim you want disclosure and not be willing to consider the full puzzle. It's a complicated, multidisciplinary topic that requires a serious level of deep thought about subjects beyond science and physically viewing a UFO.
Thanks for reading and I wanna make a short comment on the progress of my 1933 magenta crash research in case any of you care. This subject has turned out to be the most complicated thing I've ever attempted to research in my whole life. I've taken in alot of information from so many sources that they often swim together.
One thing is clear; I'm very close to confirming key details about the case from the American perspective, not so much from the Italian perspective. I want to be very careful and considerate of all parties involved to make sure what I posit as my final conclusions are well rounded and worth the time and energy I've put into this process. Some Italian expertise on the matter would be greatly welcomed so if that's you please reach out; I have many questions.
So yeah it's still not done lol. I'm going along at a reasonable pace ; and I expect to arrive at a place where I'm comfortable sharing it all very soon.
Also you dont have to trust me on anything related to the case the Google doc in my other post is alive, so if you haven't checked it in a while and are looking for more details on the case, it is a great resource for looking into different elements of history that surround it and obtaining obscure details.
The length of that document is going to accelerate shortly so if you care keep an eye on it; anything new in that Doc is a great way to keep track of where the research on the case is headed.
Cheers all, may this next week bring around some better news than this last week. The tone and content of Elizondo's comment on Matt Ford's show the other night caused me great concern. Sending love to all the brave souls who are involved in helping our species through this mess.

I think one of the most fundamental problems in Canadian society, that often gets over looked because of media coverage and racist trolls on the internet, is the LACK of real competition among Canadian businesses.
Especially among Telecom, Financial Services (banking) and of course grocers!
For the purposes of this post I want to propose some tactical things we can do as a community to help bankrupt Loblaw's Food Retail Business. We can't take down the entire empire and I want to keep us focused on this sub.
I know bankrupt might sound extreme and we have to think about the people that work there, but in the long run, it's better if there's MORE competition in this space.
NOT only for consumers, but for workers as well. The more employment options (employers) you have in an industry the better your wages are as a worker in said industry. They'll actually have to compete to keep talent.
So for all the techies in this thread here's my first pitch. We NEED a public database for food prices. Here's how I think we can get that to happen:

• If we can develop an app that anyone can use that takes a photo/scans the bar code at a store and stores the following information:
  • SKU Numbers/Product code
  • Price
  • Time the picture was taken
  • Location of Picture
  • Name of the store
• Ideally it's just a simple point and click type thing. We want to minimize the number of fields/attributes that the user has to fill out.
• We want to store the data and make it as public as possible.
  • Let people leverage that to build even better apps, we just need the data as a foundations
  • DATA is POWER
  • We can maybe even send weekly summaries to this subreddit.
• At some point it will cost money to store all this data, I would encourage you to leverage crowd funding tools online.

Now here's a call for the entrepreneurs/politically active folks it's all about location, location ,location!!!:

• Co-operative grocers!
  • We need more of these, they're basically like Costco were you pay a smaller membership every month to help pay for the infrastructure and you try buying and selling goods at cost to members.
  • If you've worked in the industry and are in the sub, try starting a crowd funding campaign to open one up in your local community. WE NEED YOUR EXPERTISE.
• Community gardens:
  • Work with your municipalities tp create space we can grow and sell our own produce at a reasonable price.
• Food trucks
  • No, not the kind that sells over price novelty food.
  • If you can work with farmers or producers to buy stuff and sell it in bulk to communities/people that can't access Loblaw alternatives.
    • Use Facebook and social media to organize people and collect grocery lists:
• Community Grocery Runs
  • Basically car pool with people to Loblaw alternatives; use social media to organize these runs.

If you plan on doing something like this, leave a comment below or start a new post and give updates to the broader community.
From far and wide, all across the country, I hope we can work together and once again be the True North strong and free! For without choice we lose our freedom.

I'm an adult disabled child and have had a representative payee until the beginning of this year. Currently living in Montana but unable to receive the level of assistance I require from local groups due to the age and jurisdiction. This is regarding misappropriation of funds and identity theft with one of my previous payees from 2017-2021. As an adult disabled child with a representative payee I was informed that I could have no direct access to any form of money myself both by SSA when I received my award and by both of the representative payees I previously had. They would either give me cash without me having knowledge of available balance or directly give me a credit or debit card with instructions on what I was authorized to purchase that I would then surrender once I returned. Sometime during 2017 I made my then girlfriend Jennifer Jackson my payee. She recommended building credit for me and I authorized her to open two credit accounts on my behalf which she would manage with my social Security funds. The two accounts were PayPal and Capital One. The only updates that I ever received were verbal confirmation that they were paid and at some time in 2018 or early 2019 she showed me a printout of my credit report which listed my credit as over 700. Approximately 2-21, I was experiencing a panic attack and mental disturbance while being harassed by Miss Jackson while she was driving my vehicle. I wanted to go home. She refused and continued to harass me while attempting to force me to contact associates about procuring opioids for her because she was in withdrawals. I struck her twice in the arm. At that time she took me home. The police were called and I was arrested. A restraining order was placed in which she told the judge that she was completely dependent on my home, my vehicles and my income as her only form of support. This was unfactual as she also received roughly the same amount as me in SSI whereas I receive SSDI, and all bills were split between her myself my father and my stepmother. Each of our shares were approximately $350 a month as can be attested to on the financial reports supplied to social Security and the Georgia welfare programs. I was not allowed access to any monies from social Security from that date until my father was made my payee approx 7-22. I had no access to my family lawyer for several months due to this. Upon release I discovered that she had sold the vehicle that she was awarded use of by the restraining order. Her ex husband informed me of this via Facebook messenger which I received upon release. During the conversation to him I threatened legal repercussions and asked him to talk to her regarding where my car was and the money she had received and was arrested for harassment/stalking. The beginning of this year I was awarded control of my own finances for the first time. Upon doing so I discovered a total of three items in collections on my credit report totaling approximately $2,600. Portfolio recovery services (Capital One): $694 Midland credit management (Synchrony Bank): $1028 LVNV Funding LLC (Credit One Bank): $880 They will be removed from my report approximately the beginning of 2026. I am unsure how much money she collected on my behalf as social Security has been extremely difficult to work with me in any way regarding this matter. The original SSA office I spoke to, Barrow County, informed me that because we "lived together as man and wife" that she had full rights to any SSA funds even though we were not married and she was my payee. Several organizations have expressed outrage at the "blunt lie" of that statement as Georgia has not have any form of common law in many many years. I have spoken with social Security Representatives regarding this since I moved to Montana and was informed that it was at minimum inappropriate but likely illegal for her to attain credit on my behalf even with my knowledge as she was only authorized to manage social Security funds. This is a drastically different statement from when I was first awarded disability with a payee. I have also filed 2 reports with social Security regarding the misappropriation of funds but have thus far gotten no response. The first verbally when I was released from prison approximately 7-22 in person at the Barrow county social Security office. The second at the behest of my therapist, local social workers, and Disability Rights Montana was filed electronically approximately 2 months ago. I have contacted the Barrow county Police and filed a report. I have also contacted the three credit reporting agencies about this but no changes were made except to update with "customer disputes: meets Fair Credit reporting standards". I added a consumer statement to explain the situation of the debt reflected on my credit report as well. My previous lawyer, Macklin Smith (Deceased), informed me that any contact with her would likely end with more charges even if it was a lawsuit(because of the previous contact with her ex husband regarding the car and money and threat of lawsuit) and advised me to wait until the restraining order had expired to proceed. I would be satisfied with these items removed from my credit history. If the only way to do that is through civil or criminal litigation then I am comfortable doing so now that the restraining order is expired. Any assistance is greatly appreciated.

I discovered Shera's videos quite a few years ago, and loved her humour as well as her message to level up. I started noting down all her little gems. They give me motivation, and a giggle too. I am older, in my fifties, and have been happily married for over 15 years, so I don't need her dating, sugaring, or 'get the bag' advice, but I do love her level up advice. I saw another lady share her notes, so I wanted to as well. There are tons, I've realised! I hope you enjoy them!
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How do you become the prize?

If you don’t start as the prize, then you aren’t the prize. If you don’t know if your mind that you are already the prize then you can never be the prize.

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How to be more feminine so I can be spoiled more?

It’s a lifestyle. You have to act, fake it until you make it, and create a lifestyle. The days that you don’t feel very feminine are the days that you have to use more of your masculine energy.

Remember to always have a space to come back to that is feminine, and recharge yourself with feminine energy. Create a more feminine environment, wear more feminine clothes, listen to music that is going to help your femininity instead of diminishing it.

Keep things that you like to do feminine and do feminine things. Going shopping, getting your nails or hair done, buying shoes, picking out décor for our rooms, decorating tables, going on picnics, watching girly movies.

Recharge yourself by doing some of those things. You need to be able to recharge your femininity at least once or twice a week.

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Live the type of life you want already. It may not be on the scale that you want to live it at, but it needs to be a version of it. For example, if you want to live a soft, feminine life make sure your current life reflects that: your current environment, the current way you dress, the current way you walk, talk and act.

The more you receive, the better treatment you receive, if you can get a provider who can let you live a more feminine life, a softer life, then it's just going to get better and better.

But already live the life you want to live, that way they can only improve you and they see how you treat yourself and see what you like and that’s what they are going to be giving you. Your goals will be met just by dating.

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What are some ways to keep him interested in he provides well?

Look good
Make sure you know what his interest are
Talk to him
Make sure he feels like he is the man
Look good when you are out with him
Make sure you are pretty and heads turn ‘ooh who’s he with’
His self-esteem will skyrocket when you go out with him if you look good and he’s not going to want to leave that


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Men like women to switch it up as long as it’s classy.

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Flower attract bees to them by their bright colours and they smell good. Attract men to you:

· Wear bright pretty colours
· Smell good
· Look fresh, dewy and youthful
· Look attractive

Look like the prize. Look like his fantasy. Look through his eyes: what would he like to see?

It’s not that complicated. Bring it back down to simplicity? What do men like?

Heels
Skirts
Dresses
Makeup
Long hair
Red lipstick
Baby voice
Feminine colours
Make them feel good
Give them compliments
Let them talk
Don’t talk about your boring stuff – they don’t care

Use the formula to get success with men.

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If you want to dress casual in jeans and a cute top, still wear heels, hair, full makeup. If you’re going to wear jeans, you’re going to need to wear heels.

Also think about this: what sort of man are you attracting. If you wear jeans when you meet you’re going to get taken to a jeans date. Dress for the life you want.

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Comment:
When we had a fight I cut my hair short & bangs & went shopping. He was so glad he said “you look like a different person!” The fight was forgotten & he treated me new again & took me shopping again.

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"Life is fun! (...) life is a movie, life is a stage. Get into character... "

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Men don’t care about anything else but what you look like and how you make them feel.

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If you’ve let yourself go, level yourself up to the point that their jaw will drop when they see you.

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The only limitations are the ones you believe in.

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What do rich men’s wives all have in common besides being pretty?

They’re feminine
They’re classy
They’re not loud and obnoxious
They don’t outshine their husband
They hold back and keep it together in public
They are well proportioned

Shera had a friend who was a little rachet, and she ended up marrying wealthy. She had to totally change everything about herself:

The way she dressed
The way she wore her hair
The way she spoke
The kind of shoes she wore
Her makeup
She had to change it all
How she acted around people
How she spoke to men
She had to change everything
It’s not that she changed who she was inside or her personality
It’s that she changed who she was around men
There’s a difference

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Your stock should go up after you get married, not down. If your stock is not rising after marriage you’re doing it backwards. That means still investing into yourself, your beauty, your clothing, into your stash (money, wealth and investments). If you got married and your stock plummeted, that’s your fault.

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Loving yourself means putting yourself first as a priority. Knowing your worth and value and not taking any crap from anybody because you value yourself, you love yourself. That’s all loving yourself means. And not talking down about yourself. And knowing that you deserve what you want in life.

Once you do that other people will as well – men, co- workers, your boss, parents, spouse, brother, sister, cousin, whoever. Whoever is in your life at the moment will recognise that you love yourself and that you don’t have to submit to them or that you’re not desperate for their approval. In fact they may start to be desperate for your approval. So make sure you’re putting yourself first.

Don’t be always talking about the other person and what they want or what they think. Don’t care who they are. Don’t care about other people or their spouse or the person they’re interested in. It’s not about them, it’s about you. If they can’t recognise you and they don’t like you, then you are wasting time.

If you have to sit there and be puzzled about why someone is not responding properly or why they’re not doing this or that, it means they don’t like you so just move on and stop trying to waste time worrying about it. You already know that in the back of your mind; you’re just hoping for a different outcome that there won’t be.

Make sure that when you realise you are putting other people before yourself as a priority then you’re not going to get the type of man or people attracted to you that you need. When you can get somebody in the click of a finger and they’re not used to that it means you are valuable and that they are not necessary. They are very unnecessary and therefore they feel like you have even more value because you don’t need them. You don’t need them, they need you. That’s why they seek you out. That’s why they call you, that’s why they ask you out.

Make sure you’re not getting caught up in silliness. If they’re not putting you first, you’re gone. Or you put them on ice; that means you let them figure it out and when they start acting right again then you allow them back into your life. If you’re chasing behind someone, if you’re worrying about someone who ghosts you then you’re not putting yourself first.

And that means you don’t love yourself. A lot of people were taught to act a certain way – not cocky etc – if you don’t, all people see you as is a doormat. You can let down your guards later when they are fully invested in you and aren’t going anywhere, but until that happens they are there to impress you.

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How do you fall in love with yourself when you aren’t happy with yourself?

Become happy with yourself:

· Do things that make you happy
· Look the way you need to look
· Continue to do this every day until you are happy

Only you can make you happy

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Don’t go out there lookin’ like Plain Jane. Plain Jane gets passed by with the eye.

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The key is confidence. You can learn all you want, if you don’t have confidence you can’t pull it off. The key is confidence, knowing your value, and not listening to no dusties. That’s the key, that’s the masterclass right there – be confident.

Be main character energy. Stop caring what people think. Have a goal of what you want and go for it and don’t stop until you get it. Speak positive about yourself and stop dealing with dusties. That’s just it. You do all those things and you’re going to have something. You’re going to get what you’re looking for. That’s it.

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It’s not what you look like – it’s how you make them feel.

Are you going to make them feel young again?
Are you going to make life exciting for them?
Do they enjoy being with you?
Do they like being seen out in public with you?

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Shera, on when you talk about all your feelings and prior history:

“You’re being an informant on yourself. You’re telling on yourself. You’re giving out all your secrets and revealing everything. So that’s definitely not feminine energy, because feminine energy is naturally dark. You know, it’s water, it’s the cosmos, it’s that. So when you’re revealing everything, when nothing is unknown and everything is known, now you’re masculine. Because that’s light- everything is known. So the more you say, the more you tell, the more you open up, the more masculine you become in that energy, and the less mystery and femininity and feminine allure you have, because now you’re an open book. And they have all the clues to how the story ends and how to manipulate the character.”

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“Feminine energy is naturally dark, is water, is the cosmos, is that. So, when you are revealing everything, nothing is unknown and everything is known, now you’re more masculine, because that is light, everything is known.

So the more you say, the more you tell, the more you open up, the more masculine you become in that energy, and the less mystery and femininity and feminine allure you have because now you are an open book, you’re predictable.

And they have all the clues to how the story ends and how to manipulate the character.”

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Get them to worry about you, while you worry about you.

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How do you find your purpose? You create it.

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Leveling up is actually a lot of fun when you are present and mindful about it it’s probably be the best gift you could ever give yourself as a woman.

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Stop caring what other people think and live the life you want to live. If you don’t like kissing people’s butts, don’t kiss their butt.

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A lot of women don’t realise that if you just get into your feminine, and you stick with your standards, you can get what you ask for.

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How to become detached and unbothered?

Stop caring. When you care too much, that’s when you can’t detach and be unbothered. Stop caring, become ‘take it or leave it’. That’s your attitude. You will be fine with it or without it.

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Comment:

Three years ago I was getting yelled at a public train station (which we had to take because neither of us had a car) by my dusty disgusting ex. I lived in a cheap apartment with four unsavory roomates and their boyfriends. Now I live in a luxury high rise with a conceirge and valet. All I did today was get a facial, sit by the pool and shop. I don’t have to worry about a SINGLE THING and every man in my life treats me like a queen. I’m truly breaking generational curses; my dad left my mom with four kids alone while she worked at Denny’s waitressing overnight. If it weren’t for Shera’s wisdom I don’t know where I would be today but I just give thanks every day that I saw the light. This is my one and only life so why shouldn’t I be living peacefully and bougie.

It’s crazy how fast life can chance when you realize your worth and act on it. Keep on inching further and further; the more luxurious things you do the more the rest of your life catches up. It literally started with me going to the expensive nail salon instead of the cheap one. Then I felt like I deserved more. I moved into a nicer apartment that was out of my budget at first, then a nicer car, then I started buying designer bags and now I live in an ultra-luxurious place. Small steps and the rest of your life will catch up in time. Of course look your best every day and be healthy. And do not give a second of your time to anyone who does not treat you with respect, remember if they’re not adding to your life they are taking away.

The universe somehow just opened up and rains abundance on me. The more you surround yourself with the vibrations of prosperity the more it will be drawn to you. Ella Ringrose on YouTube helped me a lot to draw in money.

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Comment:

Shera ever since I started watching you I have levelled up my life completely. I lost 50 pounds and changed my whole look to be more feminine. My husband was so motivated he started making more money and bought me a home and my dream car. He does everything I want now and he feels proud to bring me home his paycheck. I no longer work and just workout every day and focus on my children. A lot of my family members don’t understand this life but I am very happy and comfortable.

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If you give yourself away too easily, your value is low.

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10 Important Habits of a Gold Digger

1)high standards
2)high self-esteem
3)perspective
4)purpose
5)options
6)be unapologetic
7)looks
8)business plan
9) knowledge/value of money
10)stay unbothered

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‘Busy patterns that aren’t classy make you look older’. You can show how classy your clothing is by the cut, colour and pattern, not the brand or designer.

Look to magazines for style inspiration:

O magazine = for older women
Instyle = more youthful

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Comment:
Men need respect, they don’t want your love.

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Wealthy men like women who are thin, feminine, and classy, or classy/sexy.

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Classic = classy. Dress in a way that you wouldn’t look crazy in a photo in 20 years time.

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‘We’re not trying to fit in, we’re trying to stand out.’

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Comment:
Looking beautiful, adore your blouse and that classy backdrop. I have earrings very similar. I have to go out now, I’m over 60 and always look stylish heading out the door . Make up and a cute dress today. You never know who is at the coffee shop 😊

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Be cute, be feminine, don’t talk so much. Let him do the hard work.

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‘You’re not his momma stop acting like it’ video
Women will turn into their man's mother without realizing it! Then he will run.

A lot of times when a woman has been in a relationship for a long time or is married, they start acting like a mother to the man without even realising it. To avoid that, do these things:
· Totally change everything – change how you dress, put more makeup on, wear heels.
· Act ten years younger.
· Don’t be concerned about the things you used to be concerned about.
· Let everything be free and fly.
· If you once worried about dishes in the sink don’t worry about it anymore.
· Change it up.
· If he realises that you stop caring and you just put all that extra energy that you were nagging and trying to organise and keep stuff right or that you were frustrated about – if you took all that extra energy and put it back into yourself – and you stopped worrying about the house and the domestic issues and him doing this, this and that. He’s going to think, ‘Well dang, everything is out of order, now she’s dressing like this and putting on makeup and looking this way, and the dishes aren’t clean anymore, or she’s not nagging me about picking up my clothes and the room is a mess’, then either he’ll get up and do it or he’ll start turning into your father.
· You mirror what they do and they’re gonna start seeing what you are doing by you have to act that way with them.
· You stop cleaning dishes, you start leaving your stuff on the floor.
· You start dressing cute, and say you’re going out.
· You forget to do stuff, or you stop helping out because you don’t want to damage your nails or the Real Housewives is on.
· Start doing the same thing to him – he watches sport, you say, ‘Oh Housewives is on, I wanna watch it. I don’t wanna watch it later.’
· You don’t do any of this like it’s revenge, just like you joined him in not being responsible, or joined him with more relaxed rules.
· He might like it. He might be like ‘you’re so laid back, you look happy today’.
· Then he might start cleaning up more because it’s not an order.
· But as long as you’re happy and not nagging him, he’s going to do it voluntarily.

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How you act and how you make him feel will give you more power to get what you want.

· Look good
· Be more feminine
· Speak softly
· Smile
· Laugh at whatever he is saying and make him feel good about who he is
· Let him talk more than you
· Feed his ego
· Act vulnerable and he will want to do things for you, will want to please and impress you

(I added:
· Ladylike, dainty, girlish, delicate, compassionate, considerate, sympathetic, tolerant, warm-hearted, gracious
· Calm, refined and tasteful
· Agreeable, friendly, good-natured,
· Kind, moral, pleasant, delightful)

That’s how you get what you want.

Our power is in our femininity, not in our masculinity, not in being in competition with a man, but making them weak because we are giving them exactly what no-one else does and so they’re not used to it and they yield to it and want more of it and they’re going to do what you want.

Being feminine is the key to getting what you want. There is no magic formula; it’s just ‘being feminine’. Work on that and you will get what you want. Work on your baby voice. Work on asking men for things and help, feeling vulnerable around them and stroking their ego and you can pretty much get what you want, especially if you choose the right target. Don’t go up and choose someone who has a thousand options, go up and choose someone who feels lucky to be with you and who will act accordingly.

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Men don’t like jealous women. You look insecure if you show jealousy. If you feel jealous, act like you don’t care – laugh it off.

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Men don’t like to be told what to do or have someone running their life. They don’t need you to offer them suggestions – this will just make them feel like a child, emasculated and they will rebel.

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Have a hobby and have a life.
Have your own life.
Make yourself number one.

Make sure he likes you more than you like him. If he really likes you he is going to chase you and not let you go, and you don’t even have to do anything to make this happen.

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I am not a people pleaser. I live for myself not others. And that’s how you have to be to be unbothered. Be unbothered always and you will live your best life.

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I live in a fantasy world every day. That’s why I can create the world that I want.

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A dream woman is motivation for a man in every way. If you no longer motivate him, you are no longer his dream woman.

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A good actress will melt into her role.

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Instead of waiting and having regret later, make the decision now to do what’s best for you, not what’s best for the outside world and what they think. Do what’s best for you in the long run, not what’s best for you right now in this one moment which will pass. Think ahead. Right now is gone. As soon as you think about it, it’s gone.

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To be a dream woman and to be worshipped by the man you are with, you have to stay focused on you. Don’t be about him. A man’s dream woman does not mean she is all over him. She has a life. Keep a healthy distance instead of being extra clingy. That way you stay on his level. Make sure you appeal to his friends (in a classy way) too. He will see that others appreciate you and know that he has the prize.

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“Put outfits together in your mind when negative people are talking.”

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How to be unbothered?

Comments:

‘Fake it till you make it. That’s what happened with me I started to pretend that it didn’t bother me. Now I’m literally so unbothered and focused on myself.’

‘When you are showing that you’re upset or bothered, you are giving them power to know they affected you. I love everyone but I do not argue. I have trained myself not to get emotional even at my husband or family. Being this way also makes you more respected, it’s part of your charisma.’

‘Being unbothered is a choice.’

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Comment:

If you're over 35 the best ways to look young is to drink a gallon of water a day....it's good for wrinkles..and helps your makeup glide on like butter.

Eat less and eat as much green as you can (Kale, Broccoli, Spinach) so you can be as slim as possible so that you feel good in your clothes....

Work out to increase your confidence...

Dress your age....nothing worse than a woman who dresses out of her age range...makes you look like you're trying too hard...

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Build confidence by not accepting that you have low self-esteem. Every day improve yourself so your self-esteem gets higher and higher. Don’t wallow in it, don’t accept it. Every day tell yourself what you want:

I look good
I feel good
I’m great

Tell yourself that. Give other people compliments, and they will give you compliments. Before you know it, you’ll have high self-esteem. You have to work on it, it doesn’t come automatically. It took a long time to tear down your self-esteem, and it takes a moment to pull it back up.

Just work on it, keep moving forward. Don’t let anyone put you down again.

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How to keep your husband interested

· Less communication
· Less giving of information
· Spend more time apart
· Don’t get so close that he is going to want to back up
· You have to get close then back up, get close then back up again
· Look your best at all times
· Don’t smother people and they won’t try to escape you
· Have a life
· Have things to do
· Have a to-do list that does not require that person

Go out and do things. He will appreciate you more when you get back. He will wonder what you’ve been doing. He will anticipate your return.

Don’t let him conquer you. When men have conquered a woman, they will move on. If he doesn’t feel like he can ever conquer you, he will try harder. Never let him feel like he totally has you.

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Masculine people (men or women) tend to run to the rescue of others.

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Shera, on uplevelling your looks and being your best every time you step out the front door: Don’t let life pass you by. Life is short. Life is very short.

Comment on Shera’s video: My mom went through a season where she dressed up and it just made our whole family and home come alive. I remember when my mom walked into the living room all fixed up and my little cousin's eyes just lit up. He said be careful don't touch her lol. He literally went from seeing her as a plain ol’ aunt to a princess. He was so young, but he couldn't fake it; that was his instincts.

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· It’s not about looking young, it’s about looking good.
· If you miss an opportunity to be levelling up, you are only cheating yourself.
· Stay ready.
· Every day do something to improve yourself - hair, exercise, mindset, self-esteem
· Enjoy getting ready – be creative
· If you’re wearing makeup, go bold. Men want to see the makeup.
· Men like it when you look your best. When you’re out in public, people are judging a man’s status by the type of wife he has, how she looks. You add status to any man that you are with.
· If you are attractive, you will have a lot of friends inviting you out. They will use you to attract attention because you look good. They are going to gravitate towards you and associate you with success. Your appearance will get you further than almost anything else.

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When you’re trying to lure a man in, dress for that man. Men do pay attention to what you look like.

Broke men pay attention to your silhouette. They look at your body because they just want to have sex with you.

Men with money pay attention to what you wear: your clothes, your shoes, your jewellery, your shoes, your hair, everything. Are you appropriate? If he wants to take it to the next level and take you out and get to know you, start a relationship, introduce you to his friends, he isn’t just looking at your body.

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The better you look, the more successful he looks.

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Men are visual creatures. Everything men do is based on that they see. How they treat you is based on what they see.

If you go without makeup, hair not done, and dressed badly, you won’t get the same treatment even by the people who see you every day. When you look good, the people around you have a little bit more respect for you. They see you looking pulled together and to see you any other way is foreign to them.

When you are levelled up, keep this in mind, don’t backslide. When a man meets you looking good, he wants to see you like that for your entire marriage. He doesn’t want you to let yourself go.

Try hard to keep yourself up during your marriage; how you looked when you met him is how he wants to see you forever more.

Men are very visual creatures, so when they see us looking bad, it upsets them. It literally makes them clench inside a little bit because they are so affected by the visual.

You are like a Christmas tree or a beautiful ornament. It’s a pleasure to look at you and they’ll want to be around you just for that.

People may treat you badly because you didn’t keep up your looks - a man could be speaking to another woman or ignoring you.

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“Just act and dress like a feminine lady. You’re making them feel younger by being in their presence. Watch 1950s Hollywood movie stars to watch how those ladies acted.”

Never help a man level up as they will always put you in a maternal role and look at you as a mother figure.

How to change your mindset:
1. Tell yourself that you are no longer allowing people to make you feel bad about something – that’s your choice.
2. Decide that you want to be better, and each day take action towards being better. Your self-esteem will rise from this.
3. Surround yourself with like-minded people so you can influence and help each other.

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People who talk less are generally more well respected.

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“Look for the positive in every negative comment or situation, and you will find it every time.

Whatever your weakness is, make it your strength, to fuel you to the next level. That’s how you really level up from inside. Face your weakness head on. If someone calls you fat, flaunt it. Say, ‘So what? Yes, I eat, I haven’t seen a rib in many decades, but I’m happy. I got a lovely husband, nice house, nice car.’

Instead of being a victim about it, empower yourself with it. Your flaw can be your power. It can be your power if you take it and embrace it and stop focusing on it as an insecurity. The more you focus on something as an insecurity, the more other people will focus on it because they know it’s your weakness and that’s how you get affected. Whatever your flaw is, turn it into something that can give you more than it can take from you. If people say it’s a flaw, take it and turn it into a power.”

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Don’t listen to what people say; what do you think? Opposition creates interest.

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· Be extra feminine in the way you dress, speak, act.
· Be charming - smile, don't argue (and then do exactly what you were going to do anyway).
· Ask for help from your man - opening a jar, lifting something, reaching up high, anything - they love it. Do this three times a day. Say things like 'It's too heavy for me'. Doing this makes them feel protective of you.
· When you are offered help, accept it.
· Talk to men in a feminine baby-voice.
· Practice being feminine and flirty every day to men everywhere so that it becomes second nature. Things such as asking a man for assistance at the supermarket and smiling and saying thank you in a feminine voice.
· Use your feminine charm on everyone around you.
· Look your best, put on makeup every day, smell good, be well groomed, have nice nails.
· Speak to him as if he's a person and not a child - don't try to control him. Mothers control their children and men don't want to have sex with their mother.
· Ask for what you want, but do it in a feminine way.
· Act like the prize to be the prize.
· Be unpredictable - men will get bored of you if you are too predictable. If you are unpredictable it is exciting to them plus scares them a little too. They will wonder why you are different.
· Don't talk so much.
· Mirror how he acts to bring him closer. Say your man is a bit distant; my natural inclination is to wonder what is wrong, try and talk to him etc. That is clingy, a better way to behave is mirror that - be busy doing your own things, happy but busy and let him come looking for you when he comes out of his cave.
· Be feminine in everything you do - surround yourself with reminders of your femininity - i.e. a pink phone cover.
· Be the receiver not the giver.
· Let him think up ideas, with your subtle input.
· Hardly ever text or call him at work, unless you need him to pick up something.
· Dress up every day for no reason.
· Smile.
· Always be levelling up.
· Have a plan B.
· Don't tell him your plans for the day or where you have been - be a little mysterious and let him wonder what you've been up to.
· Keep the mystery alive with privacy - closet, bathroom etc.
· Don't do everything together.
· Have hobbies and interests of your own.
· Make him feel like a man by asking his advice, seeking help from him, not trying to tell him what to do etc.
· Keep up with new trends and the latest styles. Try new looks, buy new clothes, look cute.
· Make him feel younger by being fresh, new and exciting.
· Be excited by life and easily impressed.
· Go on vacation, go out to places.
· Do new things and turn him on to new things. Do new things in bed.
· Change your looks - look different, be different.
· Listen to the latest music.
· Keep up with the latest trends in things.
· Be an exciting adventure.
· Be happy go lucky, not a care in the world, everything is fun.
· Head up, chin up, look around, smile.
· Get all excited when you talk about little things.
· Light up when you talk to people.
· Bring a high energy.
· Wear your hair long and straight or smooth-wavy.
· Be seasonal - with your look/outfit, eating, décor.
· Reinvent yourself regularly.
· Play different characters for fun.
· Channel someone else when you go out.
· Be constantly changing and improving.
· Be a lively woman - bubbly, happy, exciting, smiling, lifts their spirits, fun to be around.
· Grab his hand and pull him along like a child.
· Be energetic and breathe life into others.
· Mirror his body language about 10-30 seconds later.
· Try new things, new looks.
· Practice your charm on waiters etc.
· Be a people watcher in different environments depending on the lifestyle you desire.
· Look from the outside in - how do people view you? How attractive are you?
· Transform yourself.
· Be his ultimate fantasy girl.
· Look good, do your makeup every day.
· Speak to your him as if he is a person and not a child.
· ‘Can you help me/lift that/get me a blanket?’ in a baby voice. Get him used to looking after you. ‘This is too heavy for me, I can’t reach it’. Do this three times a day minimum.
· Ask for what you want in a feminine way.
· Use the baby voice.
· Be extra feminine.
· Be charming – smile, don’t argue – agree (but do exactly what you want anyway).
· Ask for help from men.
· When you are offered anything, accept it.
· Talk to men in a feminine nature.
· Practice being feminine and flirty every do so that it becomes second nature to you – it will become easier with practice.
· Ask questions and smile.
· Play a bit dumb (not stupid; request their knowledge).
· Use your feminine charm on everyone around you – practice on any man to get better.
· Never get too comfortable (don’t let yourself go).
· Keep the illusion going – makeup, hair, lotion, fragrance.
· Look like you did when you first met (me: 66-67kg, long blonde hair, stylish clothes).
· Men are visual creatures and your hair is foremost – long, silky and straight.
· Have your makeup on, look cute.
· Shera’s husband treated her differently when she gained weight and then lost weight.
· Shera’s advice to a lady who gained 40 pounds and now her husband isn’t attracted to her: ‘Lose 40 pounds’.
· Still look sexy even if you’ve been together a while.
· Exfoliate your face and body.
· Have glowing, moisturised skin.
· Use highlighter on your face.
· Wear perfume, body lotion, nicely scented products.
· Wear red lipstick, eye makeup.
· Wear light, modern perfumes.
· Have simple, nice nails.
· Tell him that whatever you want is your ‘ultimate fantasy’.

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If you want to be married to a rich man, dress like a rich man’s wife.

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Be unbothered

It’s so amazing to just not care. You have no idea how much better your life gets when you stop caring. When you stop caring about stuff that’s not beneficial to you, everything blossoms, everything. Because your attention is no longer on anything negative, it’s all on you, and so you blossom.

How to keep your man chasing you? Be busy, don’t call him all the time. Have a hobby or a business and let him have to go looking for you.

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Did you ever feel insecure about your weight?

“No.

At any weight my mental game was tight, it was good. I could get anything I wanted, so it never really held me back. The only thing that would ever make me feel insecure about anything is… I really don’t have a lot of insecurities anymore. I had the normal insecurities of a child. But when I grew up and I understood that you could take your power from any situation, you no longer have insecurities.

If I was insecure about my weight, I wouldn’t be up here on YouTube, and if someone says something about how I look, I don’t care. I say Okay yeah and so what? I’m eating good, I’m living good. It doesn’t bother me, because that’s not what defines me. I’m gonna get paid skinny or fat. I’m gonna be happy at whatever makes me feel happiest. So it’s all about how you feel about yourself and how you value yourself. You don’t base your self-worth on what other people think about you.

And the reason why I teach people you gotta look good if you want to turn heads and make men cross the room is because if you are trying to get a date, yes, you have to be concerned with what other people find attractive. But that should not ever play a role in your own personal self-esteem.

Whatever you need to feel good at the time, tomorrow or today, that’s what you need to be doing.”

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I feel like such an idiot. Please avoid the same mistakes I did. Background is that I'm desperate for a new living situation (I'm separating from my partner) and was living out of town with my family while I figured things out.
Here's how it happened:
I found the *perfect* listing on Zillow and contacted the owner for a tour of the property on May 1. They responded saying the current tenant leaves May 15, that I can view the property after they move out, and then asked for my email for reservation and application (RED FLAG). I didn't even think twice about moving my conversation from Zillow to email at the time. I wish I hadn't.
Every communication from here on out was so professional. No spelling errors, no sob story. Just seemed like a person doing business, who had been a property manager for a long time. They sent a rental application form that asked for my SSN (RED FLAG), as well as info on my resident history and employment information. I googled the address and the listed property manager's name (Sharon Simmonds), and nothing questionable came up. I filled out the application.
I submitted the application form, was notified that it was accepted, and then was sent a lease to review and sign within 24hrs (RED FLAG). The application form looked professional and the terms made sense. I reviewed and signed.
Then I received receipt of the signed lease agreement, and was asked to proceed with the deposit to the address listed on the lease - either via wire or ACH transfer - and list the address in the wire description (RED FLAG). The bank was Navy Federal Credit Union, and that alone was enough for my stepdad to be convinced this was above-board. The NFCU affiliation didn't mean anything to me, but if my stepdad seemed so sure, that was enough for me.
I sent the funds on May 3, and after Sharon confirmed receipt, she said she'd meet me on move-in day (May 20), have a full tour of the unit, document the status of all appliances, and hand over the keys.
I followed up on May 13 to to ask about what time Sharon was available on the 20th, and she said she'd get back to me. She hasn't responded to any emails, calls, or texts since.
Last night, I looked up "Sharon Simmonds La Jolla" and found the same Zillow property listed on Vrbo. Same property manager name, same photos. I contacted the individual via Vrbo and they confirmed they hadn't posted the property on Zillow; it's exclusively a holiday rental. Here's the Vrbo listing: https://www.vrbo.com/593827
I know it was dumb. I was (am) in a complicated living situation and am dealing with personal stuff, so I unfortunately was the best target for this sort of scam. I just don't want anyone else to go through the same thing.

• Don't let professional communications or documents fool you. Especially now with the support of AI, putting together a believable application and lease is easier than ever.
• Keep your conversation on the rental platform.
• Don't give out your SSN; it isn't necessary for a rental application.
• Don't wire money without seeing the property.
• If you're out of town and can't review a property, at least have a friend meet the manager and see the location in person.

Anyway, I'm trying to move on without hating myself too much. I've reported the fraud to the police, called my bank, frozen my credit etc. Trying to do as much as I can to mitigate further damage, since I'm already assuming the $7k is completely gone.

I'm an adult disabled child and have had a representative payee until the beginning of this year. Currently living in Montana but unable to receive the level of assistance I require from local groups due to the age and jurisdiction. This is regarding misappropriation of funds and identity theft with one of my previous payees from 2017-2021. As an adult disabled child with a representative payee I was informed that I could have no direct access to any form of money myself both by SSA when I received my award and by both of the representative payees I previously had. They would either give me cash without me having knowledge of available balance or directly give me a credit or debit card with instructions on what I was authorized to purchase that I would then surrender once I returned. Sometime during 2017 I made my then girlfriend Jennifer Jackson my payee. She recommended building credit for me and I authorized her to open two credit accounts on my behalf which she would manage with my social Security funds. The two accounts were PayPal and Capital One. The only updates that I ever received were verbal confirmation that they were paid and at some time in 2018 or early 2019 she showed me a printout of my credit report which listed my credit as over 700. Approximately 2-21, I was experiencing a panic attack and mental disturbance while being harassed by Miss Jackson while she was driving my vehicle. I wanted to go home. She refused and continued to harass me while attempting to force me to contact associates about procuring opioids for her because she was in withdrawals. I struck her twice in the arm. At that time she took me home. The police were called and I was arrested. A restraining order was placed in which she told the judge that she was completely dependent on my home, my vehicles and my income as her only form of support. This was unfactual as she also received roughly the same amount as me in SSI whereas I receive SSDI, and all bills were split between her myself my father and my stepmother. Each of our shares were approximately $350 a month as can be attested to on the financial reports supplied to social Security and the Georgia welfare programs. I was not allowed access to any monies from social Security from that date until my father was made my payee approx 7-22. I had no access to my family lawyer for several months due to this. Upon release I discovered that she had sold the vehicle that she was awarded use of by the restraining order. Her ex husband informed me of this via Facebook messenger which I received upon release. During the conversation to him I threatened legal repercussions and asked him to talk to her regarding where my car was and the money she had received and was arrested for harassment/stalking. The beginning of this year I was awarded control of my own finances for the first time. Upon doing so I discovered a total of three items in collections on my credit report totaling approximately $2,600. Portfolio recovery services (Capital One): $694 Midland credit management (Synchrony Bank): $1028 LVNV Funding LLC (Credit One Bank): $880 They will be removed from my report approximately the beginning of 2026. I am unsure how much money she collected on my behalf as social Security has been extremely difficult to work with me in any way regarding this matter. The original SSA office I spoke to, Barrow County, informed me that because we "lived together as man and wife" that she had full rights to any SSA funds even though we were not married and she was my payee. Several organizations have expressed outrage at the "blunt lie" of that statement as Georgia has not have any form of common law in many many years. I have spoken with social Security Representatives regarding this since I moved to Montana and was informed that it was at minimum inappropriate but likely illegal for her to attain credit on my behalf even with my knowledge as she was only authorized to manage social Security funds. This is a drastically different statement from when I was first awarded disability with a payee. I have also filed 2 reports with social Security regarding the misappropriation of funds but have thus far gotten no response. The first verbally when I was released from prison approximately 7-22 in person at the Barrow county social Security office. The second at the behest of my therapist, local social workers, and Disability Rights Montana was filed electronically approximately 2 months ago. I have contacted the Barrow county Police and filed a report. I have also contacted the three credit reporting agencies about this but no changes were made except to update with "customer disputes: meets Fair Credit reporting standards". I added a consumer statement to explain the situation of the debt reflected on my credit report as well. My previous lawyer, Macklin Smith (Deceased), informed me that any contact with her would likely end with more charges even if it was a lawsuit(because of the previous contact with her ex husband regarding the car and money and threat of lawsuit) and advised me to wait until the restraining order had expired to proceed. I would be satisfied with these items removed from my credit history. If the only way to do that is through civil or criminal litigation then I am comfortable doing so now that the restraining order is expired. Any assistance is greatly appreciated.

Enhancing Google Sheets with Dynamic Email Features Using AppScript

Google Sheets has evolved beyond a mere spreadsheet tool, becoming a versatile platform for automating and streamlining various tasks, including email communication. The integration of AppScript, a powerful scripting language designed for Google's ecosystem, opens up possibilities for creating dynamic, automated email systems directly within Google Sheets. This capability allows users to send personalized email notifications, updates, or reminders based on the data stored in their sheets. By leveraging AppScript, individuals and organizations can significantly improve their workflow efficiency, ensuring that important information is communicated promptly and accurately.
The process of setting up a dynamic email reference involves scripting within the Google Sheets environment, utilizing AppScript to fetch data from cells and use it to populate email content. This approach not only automates the email sending process but also tailors the message according to specific criteria or triggers defined by the user. Whether it's sending out mass emails for a marketing campaign, dispatching personalized client updates, or automating internal notifications, the flexibility and power of AppScript with Google Sheets offer a scalable solution to meet diverse email communication needs.

Command	Description
MailApp.sendEmail()	Sends an email from the script
SpreadsheetApp.getActiveSpreadsheet()	Gets the current active spreadsheet
getSheetByName()	Accesses a specific sheet within the spreadsheet by name
getRange()	Gets the range of cells specified in the sheet
getValues()	Retrieves the values from the specified range

Exploring Dynamic Email Automation with Google Sheets and AppScript

Google Sheets and AppScript together provide a powerful combination for automating various tasks, including the dynamic sending of emails based on spreadsheet data. This functionality is particularly useful for businesses and organizations that require regular communication with clients, employees, or members based on updated spreadsheet information. For example, a marketing team can automate the sending of personalized promotional emails to a list of subscribers directly from a Google Sheet containing subscriber information and email content. Similarly, HR departments can utilize this setup to send out automated updates or notifications to employees. The beauty of using Google Sheets for these tasks lies in its accessibility and ease of use, allowing for real-time updates to email lists and content without the need for complex database software.
The technical aspect of setting up such an email automation system involves writing custom scripts using Google AppScript, a Javascript-based language that interacts with Google Apps. This script can be tailored to trigger emails when certain conditions are met, such as the addition of a new row with a subscriber's information or updates to existing rows. The script reads the specified range in the Google Sheet, extracts the necessary data (such as email addresses and message content), and uses the MailApp service to send out the emails. This approach not only streamlines the process of sending out large volumes of personalized emails but also introduces a level of customization and flexibility that traditional email marketing tools may lack. By integrating Google Sheets with AppScript, users can create a highly efficient, automated email system that can adapt to various needs and scenarios.

Automating Email Notifications with Google Sheets and AppScript

Google AppScript Code Example

const sheet = SpreadsheetApp.getActiveSpreadsheet().getSheetByName("Emails"); const range = sheet.getRange("A2:B"); const data = range.getValues(); data.forEach(function(row) { MailApp.sendEmail(row[0], "Your Subject Here", row[1]); }); 

Exploring Dynamic Email Automation with Google Sheets and AppScript

At the core of automating email communications through Google Sheets lies the powerful Google AppScript, a scripting platform that allows for the creation of custom functions and automation within the Google Workspace environment. This integration enables users to transform their spreadsheets into dynamic tools capable of sending personalized, data-driven emails automatically. By utilizing AppScript, users can effectively harness the data within their Google Sheets to initiate email campaigns, send out timely notifications, or even distribute personalized messages to a targeted audience based on specific conditions or triggers identified within their spreadsheet data.
The practical applications of this are vast, ranging from businesses that need to automate customer communications, educators sending course updates to students, to event organizers distributing tailored information to attendees. The process involves writing a script that interacts with both the spreadsheet data and the email service, dynamically generating and sending emails based on the content of the spreadsheet. This not only saves time but also introduces a level of personalization and efficiency that manual processes cannot match. The ability to automate these processes within Google Sheets using AppScript significantly enhances productivity, allowing users to focus on more strategic tasks while the system manages routine communications.

FAQs on Automating Emails with Google Sheets and AppScript

1. Question: Can I send emails to multiple recipients using Google Sheets and AppScript?
2. Answer: Yes, you can send emails to multiple recipients by iterating over a range of cells containing email addresses and using the MailApp.sendEmail() function within a loop.
3. Question: How do I personalize the email content using data from Google Sheets?
4. Answer: You can personalize emails by fetching data from the spreadsheet using getValues() method and dynamically inserting this data into the email body or subject line in your AppScript code.
5. Question: Is it possible to schedule email sending with AppScript?
6. Answer: Yes, by using AppScript's time-driven triggers, you can schedule your scripts to run at specific intervals, thereby automating the email sending process based on your preferred schedule.
7. Question: Can I attach files from Google Drive to the emails sent through AppScript?
8. Answer: Absolutely, AppScript allows you to attach files from Google Drive by using the DriveApp service to fetch the file and include it as an attachment in your MailApp.sendEmail() call.
9. Question: How can I ensure my email automation script runs smoothly?
10. Answer: To ensure smooth operation, regularly review your script's execution logs, test your email functionalities thoroughly, and stay within Google's quota limits for email sending to avoid disruptions.
11. Question: Are there any limits to sending emails through AppScript?
12. Answer: Yes, Google imposes daily quota limits on the number of emails you can send through AppScript, which varies depending on your Google Workspace account type.
13. Question: Can I use HTML content in emails sent via AppScript?
14. Answer: Yes, the MailApp.sendEmail() function supports HTML content, allowing you to create rich, formatted email messages.
15. Question: How do I handle errors in my email sending script?
16. Answer: Implement try-catch blocks within your script to manage errors gracefully and log or alert any issues encountered during execution.
17. Question: Can I track if an email was successfully sent using AppScript?
18. Answer: While AppScript doesn't directly provide email tracking capabilities, you can log the execution and success of email sending operations, or use email marketing tools in conjunction with your script for advanced tracking.

Expanding AppScript Capabilities in Google Sheets

Google Sheets and AppScript synergize to offer a powerful platform for automating email communications, enabling users to send customized messages based on spreadsheet data. This integration allows for the dynamic generation of email content, addressing specific recipient needs or actions. For instance, users can automate feedback requests post-event, send out personalized product updates, or manage periodic newsletters. The ability to dynamically reference email addresses and content from a spreadsheet ensures that messages are both relevant and timely, catering to a wide range of applications from marketing to project management.
Moreover, this approach democratizes the ability to create complex email automation systems, requiring no specialized software beyond the Google Suite. It encourages a more efficient workflow by reducing manual input and potential for error, ensuring that communications are consistently aligned with the latest data. Additionally, it opens up avenues for integrating with other Google services, further expanding its utility and versatility in automating tasks and enhancing productivity within organizations.

Common Questions on Dynamic Email Automation with AppScript

1. Question: Can AppScript send emails to a list from Google Sheets?
2. Answer: Yes, AppScript can iterate over a range in Google Sheets to send personalized emails to each address listed.
3. Question: How does one customize the email content with AppScript?
4. Answer: Email content can be customized by fetching data from spreadsheet cells and using it to populate the email body or subject dynamically.
5. Question: Is it possible to schedule emails using AppScript?
6. Answer: Yes, by utilizing Google Apps Script's time-driven triggers, emails can be scheduled to send at specific intervals.
7. Question: Can AppScript attach files from Google Drive to emails?
8. Answer: Yes, AppScript can attach files from Google Drive to emails by accessing the DriveApp service.
9. Question: How can one handle errors in email automation scripts?
10. Answer: Error handling can be implemented using try-catch blocks to manage exceptions and ensure the script continues to run smoothly.

Unlocking Advanced Communication Strategies with AppScript

Implementing dynamic email functionality through Google Sheets and AppScript represents a significant leap forward in how businesses and individuals can manage their communications. By leveraging data directly from spreadsheets to inform and personalize emails, users can create more impactful, timely, and relevant email campaigns. This not only improves engagement rates but also streamlines operational workflows, reducing the manual effort required in managing large-scale email communications. Whether it's for marketing, customer feedback, or internal notifications, the combination of Google Sheets and AppScript offers a flexible, powerful toolset to automate and enhance email-based communications. With the added benefits of customization and integration with the broader Google ecosystem, users can efficiently scale their efforts to meet their specific needs, marking a pivotal step towards more intelligent and responsive communication strategies.
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I am a young adult with multiple disabilities, including level 2/medium support needs autism (which disables me the most out of everything I have). I recently had to leave my part time job for reasons relating to my disabilities and the way I was treated because of them. I really want to work, but it is incredibly difficult to find a job that can and will accomodate my needs, accept and understand me, and will not lead me to burnout or mental breakdown. I'm wondering if anyone has any advice.
My needs/things that would need to be accomodated are: -I cannot speak coherently or at all about 30% of the time (this includes written text, such as emails). -I cannot mask my autism well and struggle with social queues a lot. -I can only do about 10-12 hours a week at the most. -i have chronic pain and a lot of physical health issues that affect my mobility, so couldn't do manual labour or a job where I'm on my feet a lot. -I struggle significantly with my mental health (particularly anxiety and emotional regulation), so couldn't do a job where I'd have a lot of uncertainly or lack of structure/consistency. -I get overwhelmed very easily - especially from noise, using my brain a lot, and taking in new information. - I have to have lots of breaks, or work slowly so my body and brain don't get too exhausted.
I know this is a lot (and I've also only included the most important points) but with all this in mind, I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas what sort of job I could look into doing?

Hello, looking for some thoughts on what was wrong with me, and what happened during a surgery I experienced in 2012
Context:
I was a 15 year old female, in an Australian hospital. Getting access to the medical records involves a lot of steps I’m not fully brave enough to do.
I hadn’t been diagnosed with any chronic/acute physical ailments prior to becoming unwell. I had been diagnosed with depression & anxiety and was taking fluoxetine. I had my tonsils removed due to frequent tonsillitis around the same age, but cannot recall if it was before or after this surgery.
I had been self harming, possibly using blades that weren’t the cleanest (but were only used by me)
What happened:
I ate a bacon and egg sandwich for lunch and not long after that, severe abdominal pain started. My mother & I assumed it was indigestion.
After 6+ hours it got to the point where I was struggling to breathe from the pain and was taken to the emergency room.
I was admitted to the ED, morphine reduced the pain a little bit but I started vomiting and then dry heaving/gagging after there was nothing left to throw up.
It was assumed it was my appendix, the rebound test confirmed that. An ultrasound was done but they couldn’t find my appendix. I was admitted to the children’s ward for monitoring. Multiple ultrasounds were done over the few days I was there, but they couldn’t see the appendix so assumed it wasn’t inflamed.
I was due to be discharged after about 3 days, but the night before the pain become incredibly bad again. I woke up at 7am being wheeled away to have surgery.
It was keyhole surgery with 3 incisions in my lower abdomen to remove the appendix. They informed my mum that it would be a simple 30-60 minute procedure.
It ended up taking 6 hours.
Afterwards, the surgeons said my appendix had been fine, but they removed it regardless (I understand this is pretty standard). However, they said that my abdomen was filled with pus and (maybe?) lymph fluid, and they spent hours “hosing it out”
They also mentioned that a gynaecologist had to come in and clean my reproductive organs. I’m not sure if this was an internal clean of the womb or if it was an external clean.
I can’t remember exactly what they ended up saying the cause or diagnosis was, and I’ve always been curious about it and have struggled to find info online. I recall them saying something about my internal lymph nodes being the cause, and referred to it as something that sounded like “lymph adie itis”
Does anyone know what the cause or reason that happened was? Why it took so long for them to clean me out (what exactly happens when they do that?) And what the fluid inside me was? I’ve never had a problem like that again.
Thanks :)

My (24F) father-in-law (52M) is getting married next weekend to a woman he dated in high school. I’m assuming she is the same age. We will call him George and her Amanda—not their real names.
Info: George and Amanda reconnected 2 or so months ago and have been dating ever since. The two of them dated in high school during the late 80s early 90s and people who knew them then described it as extremely “volatile”. One month ago George told us via family group text—me, my husband (24M), BIL (28M) and wife (27F), & BIL (14M)—they are getting married. All 3 males are Geroge’s sons. My husband and I have a daughter (4mos) and my BIL & SIL have two children (4M & 1F). My husband and I have not met her because we live 17+ hours away, but we have spoken on the phone with her and George. We are supposed to meet her July 4th weekend. She presents herself in a nice manner every time we have FaceTimed/spoken. BIL(28) & SIL(27) + kids have met her a few times. BIL & SIL have said that she is nice and really tries to engage with them and their children. They have definitely noticed that alcohol plays a part in her social interaction. Without alcohol she is more quiet and reserved. With alcohol she is super bubbly and in the mood to chat and have fun. She is drinking most of the time they are around each other.
Issue: all adult children of George are worried because Amanda has ZERO relationship with her adult children from her previous marriage. She will NOT discuss why there is no relationship with them, and we have been told to not bring up the subject at all. She won’t tell him because she “can’t keep her story straight” and her best friend has to be the one to tell him because it is so emotional. Red flag? Something pretty bad had to have happened for them to be no contact with her. We have all picked up on the fact that Amanda probably has an alcohol problem. We suspect that alcohol/substance abuse may play a role in her relationship with her children. Amanda has planned for her and George to go stay with her best friend a week AFTER they get married so that the friend can explain what happened. Also, we have no idea why she was divorced from the father of her children. No contact and divorce go hand in hand? I feel like if you’re getting married that you should be able to talk to your partner about any and everything.
Other info: George and Amanda are not planning to live together right away because of work and my little BIL(14) living mostly with George. We’re 99% certain Amanda’s children know nothing about them getting married.
I guess the adult children’s issue is why the rush? Why is she waiting to tell you until after the marriage? We have children that will know this woman as a grandmother figure. George has a minor son still living at home. Once the information is revealed—will that change how George sees Amanda? And again, WHY THE RUSH? Marriage is a huge deal.
We 100% want George to be happy, but there are so many red flags. They are in the “puppy love” stage and have not had any big issues arise yet. If there weren’t grandchildren and a teenage son involved we wouldn’t GAF. You do you, George, but we all have a bad feeling about the marriage. It affects more than just George. We do not want to see George get divorced for a third time.
I guess my question is: are we right to be weary of the situation? Should we stress to him that he needs to know all of her “baggage” before marriage? Do we let him live and learn without speaking up?
Wedding/elopement is next Saturday.