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2024.05.19 13:06 Bebo_Zorak I think my friend might be bi or gay
I’ve had suspicions for a while. Being a gay guy, I’ve got a pretty good reading on guys. All of my exes were straight before me, and closeted guys just naturally gravitate towards me.
My friend who is pretty shy and takes ages to open up to has said he’s straight to me (which I’ve respected). I did develop feelings, but I just enjoy our relationship for what it is. If he were bi or gay and into me then I would be open to ideas, but until then we’re friends.
I did end up telling him how I felt and it was awkward between us for a while, but it’s made us closer than ever before. He opens up to me way more and it feels like we’ve gone from being friends to being close friends.
He doesn’t like talking about girls or guys, and I’ve asked him a few times what’s his type and he always avoids the question. When we go on nights out he chooses to go to gay bars and rejects any girls that come up to him.
When we’re drunk he’s extremely close, like joint to the hip. We stay together and he’s way more touchy feely. I try not to do anything, obviously it’s easier said than done when you’re drunk.
Lately I’ve noticed we’ve almost developed this kind of attachment anxiety, which isn’t healthy I know. All of my exes I’ve enjoyed my own space. For example when he’s with his friends (who are all straight) he’ll message me, even when they go on holidays together he’s reaching out to me (sometimes he’s messaging me every hour).
I’m not bi and didn’t struggle coming out, none of my friends struggled to realise their sexuality either and I’ve never been in this situation before, so could do with as much advice as possible please.
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My friend who is pretty shy and takes ages to open up to has said he’s straight to me (which I’ve respected). I did develop feelings, but I just enjoy our relationship for what it is. If he were bi or gay and into me then I would be open to ideas, but until then we’re friends.
I did end up telling him how I felt and it was awkward between us for a while, but it’s made us closer than ever before. He opens up to me way more and it feels like we’ve gone from being friends to being close friends.
He doesn’t like talking about girls or guys, and I’ve asked him a few times what’s his type and he always avoids the question. When we go on nights out he chooses to go to gay bars and rejects any girls that come up to him.
When we’re drunk he’s extremely close, like joint to the hip. We stay together and he’s way more touchy feely. I try not to do anything, obviously it’s easier said than done when you’re drunk.
Lately I’ve noticed we’ve almost developed this kind of attachment anxiety, which isn’t healthy I know. All of my exes I’ve enjoyed my own space. For example when he’s with his friends (who are all straight) he’ll message me, even when they go on holidays together he’s reaching out to me (sometimes he’s messaging me every hour).
I’m not bi and didn’t struggle coming out, none of my friends struggled to realise their sexuality either and I’ve never been in this situation before, so could do with as much advice as possible please.
2024.05.19 12:54 Bebo_Zorak I think my friend is bi
I’ve had suspicions for a while. Being a gay guy, I’ve got a pretty good reading on guys. All of my exes were straight before me, and closeted guys just naturally gravitate towards me.
My friend who is pretty shy and takes ages to open up to has said he’s straight to me (which I’ve respected). I did develop feelings, but I just enjoy our relationship for what it is. If he were bi or gay and into me then I would be open to ideas, but until then we’re friends.
I did end up telling him how I felt and it was awkward between us for a while, but it’s made us closer than ever before. He opens up to me way more and it feels like we’ve gone from being friends to being close friends.
He doesn’t like talking about girls or guys, and I’ve asked him a few times what’s his type and he always avoids the question. When we go on nights out he chooses to go to gay bars and rejects any girls that come up to him.
When we’re drunk he’s extremely close, like joint to the hip. We stay together and he’s way more touchy feely. I try not to do anything, obviously it’s easier said than done when you’re drunk.
Lately I’ve noticed we’ve almost developed this kind of attachment anxiety, which isn’t healthy I know. All of my exes I’ve enjoyed my own space. For example when he’s with his friends (who are all straight) he’ll message me, even when they go on holidays together he’s reaching out to me (sometimes he’s messaging me every hour).
I’m not bi and didn’t struggle coming out, none of my friends struggled to realise their sexuality either and I’ve never been in this situation before, so could do with as much advice as possible please.
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My friend who is pretty shy and takes ages to open up to has said he’s straight to me (which I’ve respected). I did develop feelings, but I just enjoy our relationship for what it is. If he were bi or gay and into me then I would be open to ideas, but until then we’re friends.
I did end up telling him how I felt and it was awkward between us for a while, but it’s made us closer than ever before. He opens up to me way more and it feels like we’ve gone from being friends to being close friends.
He doesn’t like talking about girls or guys, and I’ve asked him a few times what’s his type and he always avoids the question. When we go on nights out he chooses to go to gay bars and rejects any girls that come up to him.
When we’re drunk he’s extremely close, like joint to the hip. We stay together and he’s way more touchy feely. I try not to do anything, obviously it’s easier said than done when you’re drunk.
Lately I’ve noticed we’ve almost developed this kind of attachment anxiety, which isn’t healthy I know. All of my exes I’ve enjoyed my own space. For example when he’s with his friends (who are all straight) he’ll message me, even when they go on holidays together he’s reaching out to me (sometimes he’s messaging me every hour).
I’m not bi and didn’t struggle coming out, none of my friends struggled to realise their sexuality either and I’ve never been in this situation before, so could do with as much advice as possible please.
2024.05.19 12:40 -pwagyi- After DV winning
Could u guys please submit pathway to do step by step after Dv winning. What I want to know is my passport will ready after August 13, is that ok? How much will cost to go from my country Burma to US? How to live and survive? I am currently offshore mechanical technician and what kind of job can I get at us? Which state to choose? Lots of thing I want to know so please kindly explain slowly but surely step by step to do so? Will Ds 260 will accept after August 15?
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2024.05.19 12:04 ficus77 Some tips for first time travellers to Vietnam
Just got back from Vietnam - North to South tour over a couple of weeks around my partner's birthday. Absolutely loved the experience and would love to visit again and slow down the travel to take things in a bit more.
I have some tips for folk from my own experience. I'm from the UK - and specifically Cornwall where tourism is a mainstay of our local economy and I know what it's like to have your land flooded with tourists.
1: the pound is roughly 30000 Vietnamese dong, so divide by 3 and knock off some noughts. It's easier to knock off the last three 0s from the dong price first. Very important for weighing up the personal value of something you might buy/are being hassled to buy.
2: Security at airports is not like our biometric passport scanners in the UK - it's guys in very officious looking uniforms taking their sweet time to weigh up whether you should be let in (or out) of the country. Bear this in mind for planning follow up transport or arriving for a flight. Huge queues. It took about an hour after arriving to get through security, and an hour and a half when departing for our UK flight (important as they were shutting the doors by the time we got through security).
3 phone data - while queuing to get into the country in Ho Chi Minh, we opted to buy some local SIM cards from a stall next to the queues. They were £8 each and gave us unlimited data for our 2 weeks. Ideal. Might be able to get it cheaper but convenience after 20 hours of travelling was worth it.
4 airport transfers - take advantage of these where offered. Again, just takes the stress out of things as we found the country quite overwhelming, especially HCMC and Hanoi (overwhelming in a good way though).
5 city markets - we went to Hanoi, Cat Ba, Hoi An, Phú Quoc and Saigon and in each place there was a sizeable (Cat Ba was smaller) market advertised as a "must see" experience but in truth is the same place selling knock off clothes, luggage, souvenirs, food ingredients, etc. Every fourth or fifth stall is EXACTLY the same stuff. It gets boring after 10 minutes. Would advise visiting this wherever you are on your last day to buy some stuff to take home rather than lugging it around.
6 scooters - I wouldn't consider this unless you know how to ride a scooter, especially in the cities. Vietnamese traffic is an organic wonder to beyond from the safety of a taxi.
7 crossing the road - for UK folk, they drive on the other side in Vietnam. Very important to look both ways but believe the hype, pick your moment and go confidently - Vietnamese also have incredible spacial awareness to avoid you.
8 GRAB - download the app, add your card and Grab away. Again, speaking of convenience and least stress, you will quickly appreciate not walking for 20 minutes in +30° city heat and choosing to take an air conditioned taxi. For comparison, a trip that would cost about a tenner in UK costs a £1. Incredible value for your wallet, comfort and time.
9 food - try everything. OK, maybe Thit Cho on Hanoi is a stretch too far for the average Brit but everything else should be experienced. Personal favourites were Hotpot (so wish we had similar in UK) and BBQ where it's in the middle of the table and you do all the grilling. You can find Pho for equivalent of about £1 if you need shoestring food.
10 wine - some places sell local Dalat wine which is OK but wine is not a big deal in Vietnam and is usually at least UK price if not more. My partner found this hard as she doesn't like beer and didn't want to drink cocktails all holiday. Dalat is perfectly good plonk though - white and red.
11 Hoi An - don't believe the hype. We spent too long here (so sorry Saigon, you weren't as loved as you should have been). It can be done in a day and you've experienced it all. Reviews were lead to believe there was more to it. Nightlife was a laugh in a trashy way though if you want to do the whole Brits abroad thing.
12 Be respectful - my experience was that Vietnamese are a country of grinders who work all hours of the day. So speaking of Brits (or anyone else) abroad be respectful that not everyone you see is there for your photo opp or to help you and those in markets and hospitality are making a living, so don't waste their time. British especially are a nation of window shoppers and I'm not sure that came across too well on our travels. Try to be low key while you weave around the lives of Viet folk.
13 Learn to confidently say "no thanks" - politely saying "no thanks, just looking" and moving on is a valuable tool for getting through certain touristy areas. Engaging with folk will both give that person the wrong expectations and exhaust you in the process.
14 Google Translate - download this and use for basic enquiries. I don't think I was saying Xin Chao, Cam On or Tam Biet properly, so for anything beyond that, I have no clue. Don't assume people speak English - some are good enough to say Hello first to get past that.
15 Find a spot and just watch - find a coffee shop, relax and watch a very different people go about their lives. Things I enjoyed: how cool all the young people are; how obsessed the young folk are about selfies; care of children; karaoke round the dinner table (understand not to everyone's taste); friends enjoying a hotpot; lads fighting a crab into said hotpot; groups of friends having animated toasts after work; care of old folk; many and varied ways to use a scooter to carry people, goods, materials, flat screen TVs, dogs.
16 Beers in order of my personal taste - Saigon Red; Larue; Saigon Special; Hanoi; 333
17 Beer St in Saigon - go walk through it. I have never seen anything like it. Don't necessarily stop there but go observe it's wild, perverse nature.
18 If staying in a hotel, before you head out for the day, soak a flannel in water, put it in a glass, put the glass in the fridge. You will appreciate it when you get back from your enevitablely roasting walk around town (mad dogs and Englishman..).
19 pack for very hot weather (in May at least). I took a set of clothes for UK - these were worn to and from the airport and otherwise lived at the bottom on my bag. Otherwise, shorts, t-shirts and light shirts to keep the sun off. Even cotton t-shirts felt too much at times. My favourite items were a matched black linen shirt and shorts I bought out there. Pretty much lived out of them exclusively towards the end of the trip. Must have announced my musky presence from a great distance. Utilise the laundry services for sure.
20 ignore the rubbish - try to tune it out and adjust your hygiene expectations. This is important as in two weeks, I got blisters, bites, at anything and yet came away without food poisoning, infection or anything else. It's an eyesore at times to these soft UK eyes but don't let it ruin the trip. Hope Vietnam authorities can do more to handle that as it'll mount up the more the country is discovered.
Sure there's more but just offloading after getting back. Hope it helps.
EDIT: More to add
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I have some tips for folk from my own experience. I'm from the UK - and specifically Cornwall where tourism is a mainstay of our local economy and I know what it's like to have your land flooded with tourists.
1: the pound is roughly 30000 Vietnamese dong, so divide by 3 and knock off some noughts. It's easier to knock off the last three 0s from the dong price first. Very important for weighing up the personal value of something you might buy/are being hassled to buy.
2: Security at airports is not like our biometric passport scanners in the UK - it's guys in very officious looking uniforms taking their sweet time to weigh up whether you should be let in (or out) of the country. Bear this in mind for planning follow up transport or arriving for a flight. Huge queues. It took about an hour after arriving to get through security, and an hour and a half when departing for our UK flight (important as they were shutting the doors by the time we got through security).
3 phone data - while queuing to get into the country in Ho Chi Minh, we opted to buy some local SIM cards from a stall next to the queues. They were £8 each and gave us unlimited data for our 2 weeks. Ideal. Might be able to get it cheaper but convenience after 20 hours of travelling was worth it.
4 airport transfers - take advantage of these where offered. Again, just takes the stress out of things as we found the country quite overwhelming, especially HCMC and Hanoi (overwhelming in a good way though).
5 city markets - we went to Hanoi, Cat Ba, Hoi An, Phú Quoc and Saigon and in each place there was a sizeable (Cat Ba was smaller) market advertised as a "must see" experience but in truth is the same place selling knock off clothes, luggage, souvenirs, food ingredients, etc. Every fourth or fifth stall is EXACTLY the same stuff. It gets boring after 10 minutes. Would advise visiting this wherever you are on your last day to buy some stuff to take home rather than lugging it around.
6 scooters - I wouldn't consider this unless you know how to ride a scooter, especially in the cities. Vietnamese traffic is an organic wonder to beyond from the safety of a taxi.
7 crossing the road - for UK folk, they drive on the other side in Vietnam. Very important to look both ways but believe the hype, pick your moment and go confidently - Vietnamese also have incredible spacial awareness to avoid you.
8 GRAB - download the app, add your card and Grab away. Again, speaking of convenience and least stress, you will quickly appreciate not walking for 20 minutes in +30° city heat and choosing to take an air conditioned taxi. For comparison, a trip that would cost about a tenner in UK costs a £1. Incredible value for your wallet, comfort and time.
9 food - try everything. OK, maybe Thit Cho on Hanoi is a stretch too far for the average Brit but everything else should be experienced. Personal favourites were Hotpot (so wish we had similar in UK) and BBQ where it's in the middle of the table and you do all the grilling. You can find Pho for equivalent of about £1 if you need shoestring food.
10 wine - some places sell local Dalat wine which is OK but wine is not a big deal in Vietnam and is usually at least UK price if not more. My partner found this hard as she doesn't like beer and didn't want to drink cocktails all holiday. Dalat is perfectly good plonk though - white and red.
11 Hoi An - don't believe the hype. We spent too long here (so sorry Saigon, you weren't as loved as you should have been). It can be done in a day and you've experienced it all. Reviews were lead to believe there was more to it. Nightlife was a laugh in a trashy way though if you want to do the whole Brits abroad thing.
12 Be respectful - my experience was that Vietnamese are a country of grinders who work all hours of the day. So speaking of Brits (or anyone else) abroad be respectful that not everyone you see is there for your photo opp or to help you and those in markets and hospitality are making a living, so don't waste their time. British especially are a nation of window shoppers and I'm not sure that came across too well on our travels. Try to be low key while you weave around the lives of Viet folk.
13 Learn to confidently say "no thanks" - politely saying "no thanks, just looking" and moving on is a valuable tool for getting through certain touristy areas. Engaging with folk will both give that person the wrong expectations and exhaust you in the process.
14 Google Translate - download this and use for basic enquiries. I don't think I was saying Xin Chao, Cam On or Tam Biet properly, so for anything beyond that, I have no clue. Don't assume people speak English - some are good enough to say Hello first to get past that.
15 Find a spot and just watch - find a coffee shop, relax and watch a very different people go about their lives. Things I enjoyed: how cool all the young people are; how obsessed the young folk are about selfies; care of children; karaoke round the dinner table (understand not to everyone's taste); friends enjoying a hotpot; lads fighting a crab into said hotpot; groups of friends having animated toasts after work; care of old folk; many and varied ways to use a scooter to carry people, goods, materials, flat screen TVs, dogs.
16 Beers in order of my personal taste - Saigon Red; Larue; Saigon Special; Hanoi; 333
17 Beer St in Saigon - go walk through it. I have never seen anything like it. Don't necessarily stop there but go observe it's wild, perverse nature.
18 If staying in a hotel, before you head out for the day, soak a flannel in water, put it in a glass, put the glass in the fridge. You will appreciate it when you get back from your enevitablely roasting walk around town (mad dogs and Englishman..).
19 pack for very hot weather (in May at least). I took a set of clothes for UK - these were worn to and from the airport and otherwise lived at the bottom on my bag. Otherwise, shorts, t-shirts and light shirts to keep the sun off. Even cotton t-shirts felt too much at times. My favourite items were a matched black linen shirt and shorts I bought out there. Pretty much lived out of them exclusively towards the end of the trip. Must have announced my musky presence from a great distance. Utilise the laundry services for sure.
20 ignore the rubbish - try to tune it out and adjust your hygiene expectations. This is important as in two weeks, I got blisters, bites, at anything and yet came away without food poisoning, infection or anything else. It's an eyesore at times to these soft UK eyes but don't let it ruin the trip. Hope Vietnam authorities can do more to handle that as it'll mount up the more the country is discovered.
Sure there's more but just offloading after getting back. Hope it helps.
EDIT: More to add
- Cash is king but card is accepted - in the UK, because of COVID, cash has definitely taken a back seat to contactless payment. I've rarely had to use cash other than to pay for things off FB marketplace. Vietnam isn't like that, despite being at least as technologically advanced as the UK in certain respects. Always have some dong on you. Few hundred thousand covers small purchases like water, Bahn Mi for the road, restorative coffee, etc. A lot of places do accept card but can come with a 3% fee. And get ready as they take the card and put it into the machine - it's not a scam (at least, I don't think it is) just how it's done. The card machine is handed to you for pin and then half the time they need a signature on the receipt. Monzo is a good bank for travelling as you get free ATM withdrawals on their side up to £100 and you can instantly see the conversion of the latest transactions.
- Ice cubes - when I got my travel vaccines, I was told to be wary of ice as much as tap water. From experience, iced coffee from most coffee shops has been fine (thankful in the heat) and cocktails with ice also fine. I'd maybe avoid the street side iced drinks and stick to modern looking bars, coffee shops and hotels to be on the safe side.
- Geckos - you may see geckos in hotel rooms and elsewhere. Fear not, they are harmless and like to feast on mosquitos. As with any wild animal though - and includes all the cute looking street dogs - observe from a distance. We shared our cabin in Phu Quoc with a foot long Tokay Gecko which absolutely freaked us out for an evening until the manager told us it's fine and just to leave it be and it'll keep it's distance. Definitely the coolest wild creature I saw.
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It's a quality product made in China, combining style and functionality to meet the needs of every modern man. The only downside to this bag, in my opinion, is the price tag. It's not exactly cheap, but considering the high quality and longevity of the material, I think it's worth the investment. All in all, the Carhartt WIP Essentials Bag gets a solid thumbs-up from me. Carhartt Black Legacy Cross Body Gear Organizer for Menhttps://preview.redd.it/0pmeqpeusc1d1.jpg?width=489&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d3a545bc4c0b1a75cc3621d53e6992574630150f In my quest for the ultimate organization solution, I stumbled upon Carhartt's Black Legacy Cross Body Gear Organizer. As an avid user of different types of gear, I can confidently say that this crossbody bag has been a game-changer in my daily life. One of the standout features for me is the adjustable shoulder strap - offering both convenience and versatility without compromising on comfort. The main compartment houses two slash pockets and five elastic loops, which are perfect for storing and accessing essential tools effortlessly. However, one minor drawback is the single zipper, making it difficult to open the bag without causing the sides to open as well. Another highlight worth mentioning is the front compartment, featuring a slash pocket and an ingenious key fob that prevents me from losing those elusive keys. While the Carhartt Gear Organizer doesn't boast a large capacity, its compact design and robust construction make it reliable for carrying your vital tools and devices. Over the past few weeks, I've relied heavily on this organizer for work and leisure, and it has shown no signs of wear and tear - a testament to its impeccable craftsmanship. In conclusion, the Carhartt Black Legacy Cross Body Gear Organizer provides a convenient storage solution for anyone who needs a reliable and compact tool for organizing their gear. Despite a few minor drawbacks, such as the single zipper in the main compartment, this lightweight and durable bag has become an indispensable part of my daily life. Carhartt Heavy Duty Water-Resistant Gear Bag - 23https://preview.redd.it/d49k7g8xsc1d1.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a8b62a64ccb552cb1b0989c2561218fb238e8ad5 I recently received the Carhartt Legacy 23" Gear Bag in black, and I must say, I've been thoroughly impressed with its performance. At first glance, this bag might seem like your average gear bag, but once you start using it, you'll realize that it's so much more. Firstly, the durability of this bag is outstanding. Constructed from 1200D poly, it's designed to withstand even the toughest of conditions. The Rain Defender Durable Water Repellent and Duraux abrasion-resistant base mean that my stuff stays safe and dry no matter what the weather throws at me. The main compartment is deceptively spacious. I initially thought this would be a standard tool bag, but it turns out to be a versatile gear bag, perfect for travelling or organizing everyday items. The top and side haul handles, combined with the removable/adjustable padded shoulder strap, make it incredibly comfortable to carry, even when full. However, there are some minor downsides to this bag. For starters, the storage options inside the bag are a little inconvenient. There's only one small interior pocket, which isn't very useful for organizing smaller items. Additionally, some users might find the size of the bag a bit too small for their needs. But overall, I'm extremely happy with my purchase. The Carhartt Legacy 23" Gear Bag is a well-made, high-capacity bag that's as tough as they come. If you're in the market for a reliable gear bag, I'd definitely recommend giving this one a try. Carhartt Medium Duffel and Utility Pouchhttps://preview.redd.it/tluuw9lxsc1d1.jpg?width=768&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6cc88622605b2828bd40550d2793c0ebcdbf3418 I recently got my hands on the Carhartt Black Trade Series Medium Duffel and Utility Pouch, and I must say, it has been an absolute game-changer. The large zippered opening into the main compartment has made packing and accessing my stuff super easy. The exterior slash pocket is perfect for keeping my essentials within quick reach. One of my favorite features is the included reusable tool pouch, which I use to store various small hand tools. It's a nice touch that adds extra utility to an already versatile bag. The removable adjustable shoulder strap with pad provides comfort and convenience during those long hauls. However, there are some downsides. While the bag is spacious, it could stand to be a bit more organized with some internal compartments. Additionally, it may not be the best option for those looking for a lightweight, minimalistic bag. All in all, the Carhartt Black Trade Series Medium Duffel and Utility Pouch is a reliable and durable choice for anyone in need of a versatile bag for work, travel, or sports. Just remember to pack light and keep an eye on the size if you're planning on using it as a carry-on for flights. Buyer's GuideImportant Features to ConsiderWhen shopping for aCarhartt gym bag, there are several features you should look for:
https://preview.redd.it/jm0jzodysc1d1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=d74714847038541041e69106314966d026797904 Considerations for Your Specific NeedsBefore making a purchase, think about how you will use the bag. Will you be carrying heavy items like shoes or protein shakers? Do you need space for a laptop or tablet? These factors can help you narrow down your choices and find the perfect Carhartt gym bag for your needs.General Advice for Maintaining Your Gym BagTo prolong the life of your Carhartt gym bag and keep it smelling fresh, follow these tips:
In ConclusionInvesting in a quality Carhartt gym bag will not only make your workouts more convenient but also help keep your belongings organized and protected. By considering important features, addressing your specific needs, and following general maintenance advice, you can ensure that your new gym bag will serve you well for years to come. https://preview.redd.it/swq6atwysc1d1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=8e0ba896639d7bb8b2646c722e46000c8ad04a7a FAQWhat are Carhartt gym bags best suited for?Carhartt gym bags are best suited for activities that require carrying personal items, clothing, shoes, and sometimes even gear. These are perfect for gym goers, fitness enthusiasts, and even boxing or other sports practitioners.In what ways are Carhartt gym bags durable?Carhartt gym bags are designed with durability in mind. They are made from heavy-duty materials, such as cotton duck, sandstone canvas, or polyester, that can withstand harsh conditions and rough use. The quality of craftsmanship, strong stitching, and robust zippers make them reliable companions for daily use. https://preview.redd.it/x8dqjnlzsc1d1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=a9b10de0c59e97fd3407cca58a94d65dac7c3957 What sizes do Carhartt gym bags come in?Carhartt gym bags come in various sizes to cater to different needs. There are smaller options like the Drawstring Backpack for carrying basic essentials, medium-sized options like the Classic Sport Duffle Bag, and larger ones like the Carhartt Gym Bag for those who need more storage space.Do Carhartt gym bags have compartments?Yes, many Carhartt gym bags have multiple compartments and pouches to help organize your belongings. These compartments often include a main storage area, a separate shoe compartment, and smaller pockets for items like keys or wallets.How do Carhartt gym bags perform in terms of water resistance?Some Carhartt gym bags offer water-resistant features to protect your belongings from light rain or spills. Make sure to check the product description for specific water resistance capabilities when shopping for a gym bag. https://preview.redd.it/lz2o8dzzsc1d1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=9bdb15461db71bf73fac6167c65eee36b2517507 Are Carhartt gym bags available in different colors or designs?Yes, Carhartt gym bags come in a variety of colors and designs to suit different tastes. From timeless neutral tones to more vibrant options, there is a gym bag available that will fit your style preferences.Are Carhartt gym bags suitable for professionals who need to carry work-related items as well as gym gear?Yes, many Carhartt gym bags can easily accommodate work-related items such as laptops, documents, and stationery along with your workout gear, making them a versatile choice for busy professionals who need a convenient way to carry everything they need for both work and the gym.Do Carhartt gym bags have a warranty or guarantee?While specific warranty information may vary by product, Carhartt is known for manufacturing high-quality, durable products. Many gym bags may come with a limited warranty that addresses manufacturing defects. It's essential to check the product description or contact the merchant for details on warranty and return policies.How can I clean and maintain my Carhartt gym bag?
How do I choose the best Carhartt gym bag for my needs?To choose the best Carhartt gym bag for your needs, consider factors such as the size or capacity required, your preferred style, and any special features or compartments that would suit your specific requirements. It can also be helpful to read reviews from other customers to get a better understanding of how the bag performs in real-world situations.What is the price range for Carhartt gym bags?Carhartt gym bags are available in a wide range of prices, starting from around $20 for smaller, more basic models and extending up to around $100 or more for premium, larger, or more feature-rich options. This variety in pricing allows you to find a bag that accommodates your budget and fulfill your needs.Are Carhartt gym bags suitable for travel?While Carhartt gym bags are designed primarily for everyday use at the gym or during workouts, their durability and size options make them suitable for some types of travel, like short trips or gym-centric vacations. However, for extended or more demanding travel, it may be worth considering a traditional travel bag or another type of luggage designed specifically for longer trips.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.19 11:36 ConsequenceSure3063 Best Carhartt Beanies
 | submitted by ConsequenceSure3063 to u/ConsequenceSure3063 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/pea3yx84sc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8c1f83dc330e45617835dceeec4d87ea87028aee Discover the perfect headgear for the chilly season with our roundup of Carhartt Beanies! As the temperature drops, having a cozy beanie is essential to stay warm and stylish. In this article, we'll delve into some of the best options in the Carhartt lineup, ensuring you find the perfect beanie to keep your head warm and stylish this season. Stay tuned as we explore the world of Carhartt Beanies in this comprehensive product guide. The Top 5 Best Carhartt Beanies
Reviews🔗John Deere Knit Beanie with Leather Patchhttps://preview.redd.it/8uhtj305sc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=891eefc376da9868a5b695be3486a90a74a01145 I recently got the chance to try out the John Deere Leather Patch beanie, and I must say, it has been an essential part of my wardrobe in these chilly months. The first thing I noticed was the quality of the knit material, it's so soft and warm. The Carhartt Brown color pairs perfectly with my casual outfits, making it my go-to beanie for most days. The John Deere leather patch on the front adds a unique touch that sets it apart from other beanies. One downside is that it can be a bit tight-fitting around my ears, but that could vary depending on individual head size. Despite this, the beanie has proved itself to be a reliable companion during my daily activities and I appreciate the American craftsmanship that John Deere stands for. Overall, I would highly recommend this beanie for anyone looking for a stylish and warm accessory. 🔗Carhartt Classically Durable Winter Beaniehttps://preview.redd.it/jmm6u3e5sc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=73a0b5bafafe8f9c370e6ad669cd61ffcf8a4415 I recently decided to give the Carhartt Glass Blue Knit Beanie a try during these chilly winter months. As a product reviewer, I was excited to see how well this beanie would perform in both comfort and style. The 100% acrylic rib knit fabric is a pleasant surprise as it feels incredibly soft against my skin while doing an excellent job at keeping the cold out. I also appreciate the thick cuff, which ensures that my ears stay toasty and the beanie stays firmly in place even during blustery winds. One of the highlights of this beanie is the Carhartt label sewn on the front. It adds a touch of sophistication to an otherwise casual look, making it suitable for both work and play. I love how the leather patch complements the beanie's color while adding a subtle edgy vibe. However, there is one minor cons. I've noticed that during extremely windy days, the wind may make the Carhartt patch flutter a bit, which can be slightly annoying. Nevertheless, the overall quality and design more than make up for this minor inconvenience. Overall, I'm thoroughly impressed with the Carhartt Glass Blue Knit Beanie. Its superior comfort, stylish appearance, and sturdy construction make it an excellent choice for anyone seeking a reliable and fashionable beanie during these cold months. 🔗Carhartt 2nd Quality Rib Knit Beaniehttps://preview.redd.it/30ulm4y5sc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7b489d1a20c28025509b651aea31adf6fdfd6e22 I recently got my hands on the Carhartt Factory 2nd Acrylic Knit Cuffed Beanie 2.0 in Gray, and I must say, it's been a reliable companion in keeping my head warm during chilly mornings. This beanie is made of 100% acrylic, stretchable rib knit fabric, which ensures a snug fit without feeling tight. The Carhartt label sewn on the left side adds a touch of branding that I absolutely love. Although it's imported, the quality is top-notch, and I can feel the durability in every stitch. However, the material can be slightly on the warmer side, so it might not be the best choice for those who prefer more breathable headwear. Overall, if you're looking for a cozy and well-built headwarmer that'll stand up to the elements, this Carhartt Factory Acrylic Knit Cuffed Beanie 2.0 is definitely worth a try. 🔗Men's Carhartt Skills Graphic Beanie in Coal Heatherhttps://preview.redd.it/75utp0a6sc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=60f0691986ba1db425ab5789b9e2e0fae2854669 I remember when I first got my Carhartt Skills Graphic Beanie, I was skeptical about how much it would enhance my outdoor outfits. But boy, was I in for a treat! . This beanie not only kept me warm, but also added a touch of rugged charm to my winter wardrobe. Its acrylic, stretchable rib-knit fabric is a dream to wear, and the sewn-on Carhartt label on the front only adds to its distinctive look. Plus, being made in the USA is always a plus point for me. However, one downside is that it doesn't have any reviews yet, which makes it a bit hard to gauge its popularity. Overall, though, it's a fantastic beanie for any guy who loves the outdoors and wants to support the trades. 🔗Customizable Carhartt Heather Grey Watch Cap 2.0https://preview.redd.it/28qpwqq6sc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4197924e55a7126c2d7cba2519d5c50978905960 I recently purchased the Carhartt Watch Cap 2.0 to stay cozy during my morning runs in the freezing temperatures. I've always been a fan of Carhartt's high-quality standards, and this hat didn't disappoint! It's super comfortable, stretchy enough to always have a snug fit, and flexible enough to go over balaclavas, gaiters, and ball caps for even more warmth. But its best feature has got to be the bright lime color that seems to glow in the dark, making me super visible during my night runs. On the downside, it can be a little itchy initially, so remember to wash it before you wear it. Overall, I highly recommend the Carhartt Watch Cap 2.0 for anyone looking for a warm, comfortable, and stylish beanie that keeps your head toasty, even in the harshest of climates. Now let me tell you about another aspect of this beanie that made me appreciate Carhartt even more. I bought three of these for the men in my family when we were heading to the mountains for Christmas. And guess what? They loved them! The guys felt so protected and warm that they didn't want to take them off, even when it started snowing on us. When it comes to keeping your head warm and comfortable, the Carhartt Watch Cap 2.0 truly delivers. However, I did come across one issue with sizing in my research. The size seems to vary depending on the country where it's made, which can be a bit frustrating. It's a good idea to keep an eye on that if you're a stickler for consistency in your hats. All in all, the Carhartt Watch Cap 2.0 is an excellent choice for anyone looking for a high-quality and cozy winter beanie. Buyer's GuideCarhartt beanies are a winter essential that provide both style and functionality. As you begin your search for the perfect beanie, there are several important features and considerations you should keep in mind. Here's a detailed guide to help you make the right choice.MaterialOne of the most critical aspects of a Carhartt beanie is the material it's made from. Look for options that feature 100% acrylic knit or fleece linings to ensure maximum warmth and durability throughout the cold months.Fit and Comforthttps://preview.redd.it/fd9cvkd7sc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e6c98a74bf779e7b0ed1a82248fed167bc149f98 The right fit is crucial when choosing a Carhartt beanie. Make sure to pick a size that comfortably rests on your ears without being too tight or loose. Additionally, consider models with adjustable cuffs to help customize your fit further. Style Variations
Washing and CareProper cleaning and maintenance are essential for extending the life of your Carhartt beanie. Wash your beanie inside out using cold water to keep colors vibrant and remove dirt. Air dry your beanie to prevent shrinking or excessive wear on the fabric.Additional Features
https://preview.redd.it/2wluxqv7sc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4d7fb7923644ab4e95806b76d042fdb0aea4d319 General AdviceWhen shopping for Carhartt beanies, always prioritize quality and comfort over price. Investing in a well-made beanie will save you money in the long run as it lasts through multiple winters without losing its appearance or functionality.Carhartt beanies are an excellent addition to any winter wardrobe, offering style and warmth while protecting you from harsh weather conditions. By considering the factors outlined in this guide, you'll be well-equipped to find the perfect Carhartt beanie that suits your needs and preferences. FAQWhat materials are Carhartt beanies made from?Carhartt beanies are primarily made from acrylic, a synthetic fiber known for its durability and warmth. Some beanies also include blends of other materials such as polyester or spandex for added stretch and comfort.Do Carhartt beanies come in various styles?https://preview.redd.it/hjxc0ud8sc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d8cbd31ac4b8c9d34cd19c83cb59f4d0a64198a1 Yes, Carhartt beanies come in a variety of styles to suit different preferences. Options include classic and cuffed styles, as well as visors and ear flaps for added warmth. How can I tell if a Carhartt beanie will fit well?Carhartt beanies are designed to fit head sizes varying from small to large. To ensure the right fit, measure the circumference of your head just above your eyebrows and consult the sizing chart provided on the Carhartt website or on the product page.How do I wash my Carhartt beanie?It is recommended to wash your Carhartt beanie in cold water on a gentle cycle. Avoid using fabric softeners, and air dry the beanie to maintain its shape and quality.Where can I buy Carhartt beanies?Carhartt beanies can be purchased from the official Carhartt website, as well as various online retailers such as Amazon, Zappos, and Dick's Sporting Goods. Some brick-and-mortar stores also carry Carhartt beanies, including sports outfitters and major department stores. https://preview.redd.it/xc0zfdu8sc1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=20ce9a7de9550956c2994a70c40bec27c65a7300 Do Carhartt beanies come with a warranty?Yes, Carhartt beanies come with a one-year limited warranty that covers any defects in materials or workmanship. If you experience any issues with your beanie within this timeframe, you can contact Carhartt's customer service for assistance.How much do Carhartt beanies typically cost?The cost of Carhartt beanies can vary depending on the style and material. Classic acrylic beanies generally retail between $15 and $25, while more premium options (such as those made from wool or featuring detailed embroidery) may be priced up to $50 or more.Are Carhartt beanies suitable for cold weather?Yes, Carhartt beanies are designed to provide warmth and protection from the cold. Many beanies also have features such as adjustable cuffs or ear flaps for added insulation and comfort in colder climates.Do Carhartt beanies run true to size?Carhartt beanies are designed to run true to size. However, it is helpful to consult the sizing chart provided on the Carhartt website or on the individual product page to ensure the best fit for your head size.Does Carhartt offer customized beanies?While Carhartt does not offer customized beanies, they do have a variety of different styles and colors available, allowing customers to choose a beanie that best suits their personal preferences and needs.How can I care for my Carhartt beanie to extend its longevity?To care for your Carhartt beanie and extend its longevity, it is recommended to wash it in cold water on a gentle cycle and to avoid using fabric softeners. Additionally, air drying your beanie can help maintain its shape and quality, rather than using a dryer.Do Carhartt beanies have reflective aspects for safety?Some Carhartt beanies, such as their reflective strap beanie, include reflective elements to enhance visibility in low-light environments, promoting safety for those who work or engage in outdoor activities during early mornings, late afternoons, or at night.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.19 11:35 MotleyCrew1989 ADVICE NEEDED: I (35M) confront, play dumb or cut contact with a (F33) friend over something she confided me??
Prepare for a wall of text, this is a long one, also, english is not my mother´s tongue. Im posting this after a question in AskMen touched a sensitive fiber and I need some advice on how to proceed. I posted this on relationshipadvice too, but the female perspective you could offer me here might help me understand this from her point of view too.
She is a married friend of mine, but our friendship is quite peculiar.
We know eachother since our last year at university (eight years ago), we did a team asignament and got along well so we continued seeing eachother after the course ended. We clicked well and talked about everything including our romantic lifes, her almost sexless relationship and my shitty and sexless dating life. We developed trust, companionship and a curiosity for trying new things together. We have the same values, political leaning and dark sense of humour. It is a great friendship and we can confide eachother anything.
She was in an almost sexless relationship for years, she married that same guy and is still married to him (14 years together and counting). Her relationship with her now husband is great except for the sexual aspect. This was a recurring conflict in her relationship up to the point than her then BF told her than "if she wanted sex so much she could find someone else", it didnt bothered him that she had sex outside of the relationship. She almost told him to go fuck himself right there. Ironically, near the marriage date she found chats his fiance had with another woman, he was planing on cheating on her. They talked thing out, she forgave him and got married. I asked her WTF she was thinkig, but she said she loved him...
Over the years of closeness, trust and mutual support, we developed atraction we both adknowledged to eachother but we both knew nothing would happen because she was married. Just to give you an example, she once told me that if she wasnt married we would have been having sex from long ago (wierd to translate from spanish), and I told her that the only thing stopping me is that she respected her marriage. This kind pull and push went on every once in a while for years. We both knew nothing would happen but we liked having someone that made us feel sexually desired, as her relationship was as sexless as before the marriage, and my dating life sucked big time.
Arround year and a half ago, she gave her husband an ultimatum and he finally went to an endocrinologist and a therapist, and after some time their sexual life improved. This went fine for arround a year until her father in law passed away, and their sex life plummeted again.
In our last meetups she told me her husband screwed up again, she found he had a collection of pictures he took from a coworkers IG profile and pictures from other women, which he looked before having sex with her to arouse and prepare himself for the act. When she confronted him, he said he was going to try to improve, but a month passed and he was caught again looking at other womens pic. He said to her that his psychologist told him he wasnt hurting anyone by doing this, as it wasnt cheating.
He said he wanted to do a clean slate, try from the begining again and she also said she had something to confess. A year after the wedding, she took some singing lessons (she sings preety well) and there was a classmate that didnt gave a fuck she was married, she hadnt had sex in months, found someone who was agresive in his aproach, lusted for her and caved in. She told me about the guy when this happened, but she lied to me and said that "it took a lot of willpower and self restraint not to cheat".
Now, here is the problem:
I never expected her to dump her BF/husband for me because that is a recipe for failure and being replaced on the same way the previous guy was. And while I stated I was interested I never pushed too far because of her morals (christian practicing woman who believed in marriage and loyalty AFAIK then). I have to admit than I if she dumped him I would have taken my chance because she is everything I want in a woman (except for the cheating part), she actually raised the standard of what I would like in a long term partner.
But it really pissed me off than the moment she decides to take the risk to set her life on fire, she does it with a random guy, and that the excuse she gave me is that she valued our friendship and would have caused her a lot of pain if her husband found out and she couldnt see me again, she didnt sleep with me because she values me. What kind of twisted, emotionally manipulative way ot thinking is that???. I didnt confront her that exact moment and emotionally dissociated because at the time we were having a coffee previous to a theater function she gifted the ticket to me for my birthday (we give eachother nice gifts), it was not the time nor the place.
I honestly feel used for the validation her husband didnt gave her for years, and a part of me wants to tell her to fuck off and never talk to her again. Another part of me sees a great friend in her, and it would hurt me dearly not having her in my life. This confession changed the way I see her, there is no going back from that. I can accept being second to her husband, for good or bad, its the man she choosed to share her life with, but not to a random stranger (one who didnt gave a fuck about her values).
I have to be honest too, and in these eight years my dating life was a dissaster, I never dated much, I tried for a month or two, then dropped the towel for months on a never ending cycle with longer hiatus each time. Dating allmost always lead nowhere for me, I only had sex with two women in all that time, I would have loved a LTR but it never happened for me. So, having someone that found me atractive as a person and as a man made me feel a bit valued.
TLDR: I have feelings for a married friend, she said she is atracted to me too. It never lead anywhere because we both knew our place. She cheated on her husband with a random guy and told me she didnt cheat on him with me because she values me.
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She is a married friend of mine, but our friendship is quite peculiar.
We know eachother since our last year at university (eight years ago), we did a team asignament and got along well so we continued seeing eachother after the course ended. We clicked well and talked about everything including our romantic lifes, her almost sexless relationship and my shitty and sexless dating life. We developed trust, companionship and a curiosity for trying new things together. We have the same values, political leaning and dark sense of humour. It is a great friendship and we can confide eachother anything.
She was in an almost sexless relationship for years, she married that same guy and is still married to him (14 years together and counting). Her relationship with her now husband is great except for the sexual aspect. This was a recurring conflict in her relationship up to the point than her then BF told her than "if she wanted sex so much she could find someone else", it didnt bothered him that she had sex outside of the relationship. She almost told him to go fuck himself right there. Ironically, near the marriage date she found chats his fiance had with another woman, he was planing on cheating on her. They talked thing out, she forgave him and got married. I asked her WTF she was thinkig, but she said she loved him...
Over the years of closeness, trust and mutual support, we developed atraction we both adknowledged to eachother but we both knew nothing would happen because she was married. Just to give you an example, she once told me that if she wasnt married we would have been having sex from long ago (wierd to translate from spanish), and I told her that the only thing stopping me is that she respected her marriage. This kind pull and push went on every once in a while for years. We both knew nothing would happen but we liked having someone that made us feel sexually desired, as her relationship was as sexless as before the marriage, and my dating life sucked big time.
Arround year and a half ago, she gave her husband an ultimatum and he finally went to an endocrinologist and a therapist, and after some time their sexual life improved. This went fine for arround a year until her father in law passed away, and their sex life plummeted again.
In our last meetups she told me her husband screwed up again, she found he had a collection of pictures he took from a coworkers IG profile and pictures from other women, which he looked before having sex with her to arouse and prepare himself for the act. When she confronted him, he said he was going to try to improve, but a month passed and he was caught again looking at other womens pic. He said to her that his psychologist told him he wasnt hurting anyone by doing this, as it wasnt cheating.
He said he wanted to do a clean slate, try from the begining again and she also said she had something to confess. A year after the wedding, she took some singing lessons (she sings preety well) and there was a classmate that didnt gave a fuck she was married, she hadnt had sex in months, found someone who was agresive in his aproach, lusted for her and caved in. She told me about the guy when this happened, but she lied to me and said that "it took a lot of willpower and self restraint not to cheat".
Now, here is the problem:
I never expected her to dump her BF/husband for me because that is a recipe for failure and being replaced on the same way the previous guy was. And while I stated I was interested I never pushed too far because of her morals (christian practicing woman who believed in marriage and loyalty AFAIK then). I have to admit than I if she dumped him I would have taken my chance because she is everything I want in a woman (except for the cheating part), she actually raised the standard of what I would like in a long term partner.
But it really pissed me off than the moment she decides to take the risk to set her life on fire, she does it with a random guy, and that the excuse she gave me is that she valued our friendship and would have caused her a lot of pain if her husband found out and she couldnt see me again, she didnt sleep with me because she values me. What kind of twisted, emotionally manipulative way ot thinking is that???. I didnt confront her that exact moment and emotionally dissociated because at the time we were having a coffee previous to a theater function she gifted the ticket to me for my birthday (we give eachother nice gifts), it was not the time nor the place.
I honestly feel used for the validation her husband didnt gave her for years, and a part of me wants to tell her to fuck off and never talk to her again. Another part of me sees a great friend in her, and it would hurt me dearly not having her in my life. This confession changed the way I see her, there is no going back from that. I can accept being second to her husband, for good or bad, its the man she choosed to share her life with, but not to a random stranger (one who didnt gave a fuck about her values).
I have to be honest too, and in these eight years my dating life was a dissaster, I never dated much, I tried for a month or two, then dropped the towel for months on a never ending cycle with longer hiatus each time. Dating allmost always lead nowhere for me, I only had sex with two women in all that time, I would have loved a LTR but it never happened for me. So, having someone that found me atractive as a person and as a man made me feel a bit valued.
TLDR: I have feelings for a married friend, she said she is atracted to me too. It never lead anywhere because we both knew our place. She cheated on her husband with a random guy and told me she didnt cheat on him with me because she values me.
2024.05.19 11:31 Nearby-Revolution229 why do I self sabotage on purpose?
so I'm a pretty young guy and there's a lot of younger people at my workplace who are very cool people. I wouldn't say I've struggled to make friends, but a lot of bad things have happened to me and now I have a lot of internalized homophobia/act more fiscally conservative than I am because of what I went through in high school, and I have trouble talking to people. It actually really hurts when I see people so confident in themselves and I picture an older version of my younger self with them instead of that person turning into me. it feels like that person died and I lost something. But that line of thinking makes me suicidal so I try to dismiss it as my brain playing tricks on me.
Anyway, with that context out of the way, here's what this post is about. I don't hate myself. I'm solitary and anxious, but I do love myself. It's almost like I see me and myself as a team lol. so I don't truly believe that people hate me. But thinking about befriending these cool people at work, I keep telling myself they hate me. Like I picture a scenario in my head where they sneer at me and say really viscous and hurtful shit to me if I tried to talk to them. I don't believe that's what's going to happen. But it's like I'm making a conscious choice to pretend that it is. Like I'm playing a little game with myself. And it hurts a lot. it makes me want to cry.
Another example. There is a pretty cool girl at my work who I want to talk to. She has not explicitly approached me and said "I think you're cool and I want to be friends", which for me is the minimum it would take for me to even consider opening up to her. But if I put myself in her shoes, that's asking a lot. And logically, I'm pretty sure she wants to be my friend. she's started conversations with me a few times. I'm not psychic but I'm assuming. But because she hasn't given me explicit confirmation, I tell myself that she thinks I have an obsession with her and that she's extremely uncomfortable around me, so I try to avoid her. I don't even look at her. Not in a rude way or in a way that's trying to manipulate her, but just staying out of her way. Honestly maybe she does think I'm weird at this point because I've acted this way. But that doesn't make me feel embarrassed. It just makes me sad but vindicated.
So why do I do this to myself? I say it's a choice I'm making, but it's probably closer to an intrusive thought that takes over. It just feels like I choose it a little bit. Am I scared of rejection? Do I want control? Is it childhood trauma? Id even just appreciate if someone relates to this without a solution.
I can't just make the choice to stop feeling bad for myself or whatever because this always pops up when something good might happen for me, and I do believe I deserve good things. But when it's in real life, that happens and I'm really mean to myself in my head about it.
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Anyway, with that context out of the way, here's what this post is about. I don't hate myself. I'm solitary and anxious, but I do love myself. It's almost like I see me and myself as a team lol. so I don't truly believe that people hate me. But thinking about befriending these cool people at work, I keep telling myself they hate me. Like I picture a scenario in my head where they sneer at me and say really viscous and hurtful shit to me if I tried to talk to them. I don't believe that's what's going to happen. But it's like I'm making a conscious choice to pretend that it is. Like I'm playing a little game with myself. And it hurts a lot. it makes me want to cry.
Another example. There is a pretty cool girl at my work who I want to talk to. She has not explicitly approached me and said "I think you're cool and I want to be friends", which for me is the minimum it would take for me to even consider opening up to her. But if I put myself in her shoes, that's asking a lot. And logically, I'm pretty sure she wants to be my friend. she's started conversations with me a few times. I'm not psychic but I'm assuming. But because she hasn't given me explicit confirmation, I tell myself that she thinks I have an obsession with her and that she's extremely uncomfortable around me, so I try to avoid her. I don't even look at her. Not in a rude way or in a way that's trying to manipulate her, but just staying out of her way. Honestly maybe she does think I'm weird at this point because I've acted this way. But that doesn't make me feel embarrassed. It just makes me sad but vindicated.
So why do I do this to myself? I say it's a choice I'm making, but it's probably closer to an intrusive thought that takes over. It just feels like I choose it a little bit. Am I scared of rejection? Do I want control? Is it childhood trauma? Id even just appreciate if someone relates to this without a solution.
I can't just make the choice to stop feeling bad for myself or whatever because this always pops up when something good might happen for me, and I do believe I deserve good things. But when it's in real life, that happens and I'm really mean to myself in my head about it.
2024.05.19 10:58 ChardPublic387 Clubbing in relationships always leads to disaster
I've had 3 relationships in the past. All 3 of them cheated at the clubs.
The first one I dated was a party girl, and so in retrospect her cheating was more of an eventuality. Never date a party girl, they're for the streets.
The second and third went clubbing maybe 1-2 times a month, eventually found out from mutuals they were always getting drinks from strangers and then hooking up with them. Both used the shitty excuse of "it was a heat of the moment thing" or "I was so drunk I'm it'll never happen again"
I really disagree with people saying "Oh trust your partner" or "You're being so controlling". People lie when clubs are mainly for dancing. If that were so, why do both guys and girls dress so provocatively as if advertising they wanna bang.
Especially for girls, it's so easy for them to cheat there. I'm not saying all men go to the clubs for the purpose of getting laid, but I'd bet at least a good 60-75% there keep an eye out hoping to get lucky. They don't care if they're attached or if it's morally incorrect, as long as they have fun they don't care about the lives they destroy.
Clubs are made for girls, they get in for free on ladies nights and the guys follow. Guys will shower them with drinks, and they'll accept. The alcohol impairs their judgment which then allows them to justify choosing any good looking guy there to hook up with. It's like fruit picking, and if something better comes along then "Why not? It's just for one night. They'll never find out".
Even if they don't hookup, women are lying when they say they don't like the unwanted attention. Women go to clubs for that attention, it's an ego boost. That's also just as bad because that means they're always on the look out for something better, meanwhile the poor guys at home are blindly being loyal.
It's been a year and I'm still trying to recover from all this. I think I'd happily be single for the rest of my life as long as I don't have to deal with this nonsense. If I do find someone, if they even mention that they like to club I'll drop them so fast they won't even know what hit them.
My advice to you Redditors is always be wary of your partner going out clubbing, as there's a very high chance something bad is going to happen.
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The first one I dated was a party girl, and so in retrospect her cheating was more of an eventuality. Never date a party girl, they're for the streets.
The second and third went clubbing maybe 1-2 times a month, eventually found out from mutuals they were always getting drinks from strangers and then hooking up with them. Both used the shitty excuse of "it was a heat of the moment thing" or "I was so drunk I'm it'll never happen again"
I really disagree with people saying "Oh trust your partner" or "You're being so controlling". People lie when clubs are mainly for dancing. If that were so, why do both guys and girls dress so provocatively as if advertising they wanna bang.
Especially for girls, it's so easy for them to cheat there. I'm not saying all men go to the clubs for the purpose of getting laid, but I'd bet at least a good 60-75% there keep an eye out hoping to get lucky. They don't care if they're attached or if it's morally incorrect, as long as they have fun they don't care about the lives they destroy.
Clubs are made for girls, they get in for free on ladies nights and the guys follow. Guys will shower them with drinks, and they'll accept. The alcohol impairs their judgment which then allows them to justify choosing any good looking guy there to hook up with. It's like fruit picking, and if something better comes along then "Why not? It's just for one night. They'll never find out".
Even if they don't hookup, women are lying when they say they don't like the unwanted attention. Women go to clubs for that attention, it's an ego boost. That's also just as bad because that means they're always on the look out for something better, meanwhile the poor guys at home are blindly being loyal.
It's been a year and I'm still trying to recover from all this. I think I'd happily be single for the rest of my life as long as I don't have to deal with this nonsense. If I do find someone, if they even mention that they like to club I'll drop them so fast they won't even know what hit them.
My advice to you Redditors is always be wary of your partner going out clubbing, as there's a very high chance something bad is going to happen.
2024.05.19 10:54 insanebraincrane What is wrong with my approach to love? M/26 22F
Hey,
This is gonna be long-winded and probably incoherent, but I just need to get this off my chest and if you have any insight regarding why it's constantly happening to me I'd love to hear it.
I consider myself a pretty introverted guy, but I've generally had no issues talking with girls and getting dates, more so recently of course, since I've been growing more comfortable in my own skin. I'm definitely a romantic, I never understood the attitude of guys that treat girls like trash, that just doesn't compute in my head. If I love something, I'm going to take care of it to the best of my ability.
I think we have all had that experience of "the one that got away", well mine was no different. The girl I met when I started uni was special, she was drop dead gorgeous, completely my type, witty and cracked jokes like I would, we finished each other's sentences, we had the same ideas and ambitions. Everything was going great, I was on cloud nine and I never even thought about this like that, but this girl made me think that she's the one I'm gonna marry. We were celebrating new year's at a mutual friend's house and we hooked up, it was phenomenal. Literally 2 days later she ghosts me out of nowhere, I panic. I reach out to talk to her face to face to see what's going on. She obliged reluctantly and word for word said "I'm sorry it's not going to work, you are too good for me".
Now, I've had my heart broken a few times by this point, but this... This was devastating.
I went to a dark place in my own mind, stopped talking with everyone, started doing drugs and generally engaging in self-destructive behavior. It was really hard accepting the fact that my best was never enough for her, I blamed myself constantly, I cried dozens of times alone outside. Whenever a song came up on the radio that reminded me of her my whole mood changed, even if it was jolly prior. I generally am able to keep a cool and straight face when I'm around family as I never want to talk about my own problems, mostly because I know that if I do I will fucking meltdown so I steer clear, I never want them to feel sorry for me, but even they thought something weird was going on and kept asking me questions.
It took me a good 3 years to accept what happened and start trying to move on, as you can imagine my confidence was shattered for that whole time and my self-worth was at an all time low. I started dating again, but not to find love, I don't believe in that anymore, just for sex and to feel wanted. I would tell girls what they wanted to hear, hook up and bail. Hell, sometimes they only wanted sex too, that was optimal. If I didn't get intimate with a girl on the 2nd date I would just look for someone else, I never wanted to put in any effort into actually cultivating anything meaningful or fulfilling. I would always feel like shit when I would pump and dump, because deep down I know what I was doing and that it wasn't me, but I also craved the satisfaction. Looking back, I was definitely perpetuating my own trauma.
Now, I used mainly dating apps, sometimes just start texting people I knew. But a few weeks ago I was at the supermarket and just on my phone walking, when some girl just ran in front of me at speed and knocked me off balance for a moment, she just glanced back at me and I saw how pretty she was, it sent a shock down my body. She was hurrying to get some beer, which I respected and admired. When we were on our way out I approached her to talk to her, told her she caught my eye and asked for her number. She gave me the digits, but she was so flabbergasted it was really funny and cute. We went on a date the next day, she's amazing, we mesh so well together. She's smart and responsible, takes care of her parents same as I do, we found a lot in common. I was thrilled, I never approached anyone like this and the time I felt that I had to do it - it paid off in a big way. I was falling for her and she was for me.
We went on dates, we had fun, talked and walked a lot. I bring her lunch to work, flowers sometimes. She was celebrating a sister's birthday one evening and I had taken her from the place to her apartment, she said she wanted me to stay the night, so I did. It was glorious, we both had a great time.
After that she ghosted me, she doesn't text me first anymore. I have to show all the initiative now, whenever I try to set up dates she's busy. To be fair she is pretty busy, she has 2 jobs and she's one of those people like me that don't pull out their phone when hanging out with someone, just not that attached to technology which I really vibe with. She spends a lot of time with her family, she has sisters and cousins that are all the same age and they hang out in the evenings at her place or at her sister's place and I trust that she's not lying. I've met her cousins, they are all really sweet. But I just feel like she's lost interest in me, I keep trying to get something going but her response times are getting longer and longer.
Honestly I've never seen a switch flip so suddenly, it's like she's a different person now. We used to be so intimate, not only in a sexual way but she would sleep on my chest, hug me in her sleep, squeeze me and not let me go, now she barely gives me any attention. It feels like I'm a burden on her right now. She told me that she has always had trouble with relationships because she's so busy with work and it never worked due to this, but I also feel like she could make time for me if she wanted to, but just chooses not to. I feel like I'm about to get my heart annihilated again.
I don't want to lose her, she made me believe in love again. I truly love this girl and want to build my future with her. I keep fighting the urge to reach out to her and try to make it work, but I think that pulling back might be the best play, however painful it might be right now.
Why is it that always when something good happens to me it never lasts.. Always disappointment after disappointment. What is wrong with me?
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This is gonna be long-winded and probably incoherent, but I just need to get this off my chest and if you have any insight regarding why it's constantly happening to me I'd love to hear it.
I consider myself a pretty introverted guy, but I've generally had no issues talking with girls and getting dates, more so recently of course, since I've been growing more comfortable in my own skin. I'm definitely a romantic, I never understood the attitude of guys that treat girls like trash, that just doesn't compute in my head. If I love something, I'm going to take care of it to the best of my ability.
I think we have all had that experience of "the one that got away", well mine was no different. The girl I met when I started uni was special, she was drop dead gorgeous, completely my type, witty and cracked jokes like I would, we finished each other's sentences, we had the same ideas and ambitions. Everything was going great, I was on cloud nine and I never even thought about this like that, but this girl made me think that she's the one I'm gonna marry. We were celebrating new year's at a mutual friend's house and we hooked up, it was phenomenal. Literally 2 days later she ghosts me out of nowhere, I panic. I reach out to talk to her face to face to see what's going on. She obliged reluctantly and word for word said "I'm sorry it's not going to work, you are too good for me".
Now, I've had my heart broken a few times by this point, but this... This was devastating.
I went to a dark place in my own mind, stopped talking with everyone, started doing drugs and generally engaging in self-destructive behavior. It was really hard accepting the fact that my best was never enough for her, I blamed myself constantly, I cried dozens of times alone outside. Whenever a song came up on the radio that reminded me of her my whole mood changed, even if it was jolly prior. I generally am able to keep a cool and straight face when I'm around family as I never want to talk about my own problems, mostly because I know that if I do I will fucking meltdown so I steer clear, I never want them to feel sorry for me, but even they thought something weird was going on and kept asking me questions.
It took me a good 3 years to accept what happened and start trying to move on, as you can imagine my confidence was shattered for that whole time and my self-worth was at an all time low. I started dating again, but not to find love, I don't believe in that anymore, just for sex and to feel wanted. I would tell girls what they wanted to hear, hook up and bail. Hell, sometimes they only wanted sex too, that was optimal. If I didn't get intimate with a girl on the 2nd date I would just look for someone else, I never wanted to put in any effort into actually cultivating anything meaningful or fulfilling. I would always feel like shit when I would pump and dump, because deep down I know what I was doing and that it wasn't me, but I also craved the satisfaction. Looking back, I was definitely perpetuating my own trauma.
Now, I used mainly dating apps, sometimes just start texting people I knew. But a few weeks ago I was at the supermarket and just on my phone walking, when some girl just ran in front of me at speed and knocked me off balance for a moment, she just glanced back at me and I saw how pretty she was, it sent a shock down my body. She was hurrying to get some beer, which I respected and admired. When we were on our way out I approached her to talk to her, told her she caught my eye and asked for her number. She gave me the digits, but she was so flabbergasted it was really funny and cute. We went on a date the next day, she's amazing, we mesh so well together. She's smart and responsible, takes care of her parents same as I do, we found a lot in common. I was thrilled, I never approached anyone like this and the time I felt that I had to do it - it paid off in a big way. I was falling for her and she was for me.
We went on dates, we had fun, talked and walked a lot. I bring her lunch to work, flowers sometimes. She was celebrating a sister's birthday one evening and I had taken her from the place to her apartment, she said she wanted me to stay the night, so I did. It was glorious, we both had a great time.
After that she ghosted me, she doesn't text me first anymore. I have to show all the initiative now, whenever I try to set up dates she's busy. To be fair she is pretty busy, she has 2 jobs and she's one of those people like me that don't pull out their phone when hanging out with someone, just not that attached to technology which I really vibe with. She spends a lot of time with her family, she has sisters and cousins that are all the same age and they hang out in the evenings at her place or at her sister's place and I trust that she's not lying. I've met her cousins, they are all really sweet. But I just feel like she's lost interest in me, I keep trying to get something going but her response times are getting longer and longer.
Honestly I've never seen a switch flip so suddenly, it's like she's a different person now. We used to be so intimate, not only in a sexual way but she would sleep on my chest, hug me in her sleep, squeeze me and not let me go, now she barely gives me any attention. It feels like I'm a burden on her right now. She told me that she has always had trouble with relationships because she's so busy with work and it never worked due to this, but I also feel like she could make time for me if she wanted to, but just chooses not to. I feel like I'm about to get my heart annihilated again.
I don't want to lose her, she made me believe in love again. I truly love this girl and want to build my future with her. I keep fighting the urge to reach out to her and try to make it work, but I think that pulling back might be the best play, however painful it might be right now.
Why is it that always when something good happens to me it never lasts.. Always disappointment after disappointment. What is wrong with me?
2024.05.19 10:34 PickMyGoffr I can't download Identity V on my laptop.
I always had a problem to download Identity V on my laptop, but at the end, i always success. Well, this time I have no idea what to do. I have a new computer, and when I'm trying to download Identity V from the original page - it works. It works, I download it, but when I'm trying to do it in files, I can download it as many times as I want, and yet it won't be fully installed. I install, choose on which disk to have it, accept rules, downloads it and yet, there's no game and I can do it (download) it as many times as I want! Guys, do you know what to do?
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2024.05.19 10:05 ggwplucky [Abandoned Pools] Sony Connect Track by Track Interview
![[Abandoned Pools] Sony Connect Track by Track Interview](https://b.thumbs.redditmedia.com/Wh_F6hlvj3-qiM2-gJFE7A7mKUd6-BFPlteTdOzhJWY.jpg "[Abandoned Pools] Sony Connect Track by Track Interview") | A while back I was messing around with the Wayback Machine & came across this diamond in the rough on AP's MySpace page. Also found some photos, but most importantly, a track-by-track [Armed To The Teeth] interview from Sony Connect that they did back in '05 (presumably around the same time they did the Sony Connect set with the acoustic songs). submitted by ggwplucky to AbandonedPools [link] [comments] In the interview, Tommy tells the story behind each track on Armed To The Teeth (except Lucky). You'll also find tidbits about the process, lyrically & sonically of these songs, and much more! If you want to read it/see it from the "raw" source and discover more, here's a link with the Wayback's capture I found on the interview blog: https://web.archive.org/web/20071005015435/http://www.myspace.com/abandonedpools Now without further ado, the Sonic Connect Interview: A track by track discussion of Armed to the Teeth from the Sony Connect Store interview: LETHAL KILLERS TW: As far as how that [demo of the] song was constructed ... I did this trick where I would take a half-time drum loop and sort of nudge it one way and then put in another track and nudge it the other, and we got this sort of double time, rolling drum feel. So that - plus the sort of round-robin type of guitar parts that we have going - was sort of a very easy construction for a song. And then you start moving the bass part around, and, boom, you've got a song. But I think that lyrically - I want to make it clear that that song isn't necessarily [about] "church is bad, government's bad." I think it's a little bit more complicated than that, though sometimes if you mix the two of religious power and government power, that can be bad for both of them. And I kinda like the idea of not living a life saying, "Well, you better live life in a certain way because then, you know, everything's gonna be great later in heaven." You know, the idea of, like, if this is all we have now, if that idea was just a little bit more embraced, our world could be a little bit better. I just find that a little bit more satisfying, too, if you think like, this is all you have and then you're gonna die. [Laughs] It seems a little bit more like, "Oh, okay, well!" instead of, like, thinking that there's some other life at some other time and you can put things off. RABBLE TW: Well, a lot of the songs on this record - about two-thirds of it - have to do with a relationship I had that went south, and you know when you go through relationships you always have such a good 20/20 hindsight about things. And I think "Rabble" is just trying to basically say to somebody, "I just wanted to know you better" . . . It's just one of those things where, with this relationship in particular, I wish it would have turned out better. And there's a lot of things that happened that shouldn't have happened, and it's just sort of one of those "oh, what could have been?" scenarios. THE CATALYST TW: "The Catalyst" is definitely along the same lines. I think the main line in that one is "I wish I could say something beautiful to make you fall in love again." There's a Coachella reference in there, too: "Love has slowly faded away like spotlights shining into space." Have you ever been to Coachella? Of course you have. You know, there's all those spotlights that shoot up in the air. I just thought that was kinda cool, like, how far do those lights really go? "The Catalyst" was also the last song written for the record. It was demoed while we were in the studio. And it's one of those songs that I said two-thirds of the record was written for somebody. That's one of them. TIGHTER NOOSE TW: "Tighter Noose" is the oldest song on the record by far. It was probably written back in '99, 2000, or somewhere in there. I was thinking about it for the first record [2001's Humanistic], but it didn't really fit in with those kind of songs, so I kept it around and we'd even play it live occasionally. I think it fits in with these songs way better. [As for what "Tighter Noose" is about,] that song is one of those breaking-off-on-your-own- what-have-you-got-to-lose kind of things, because that was written sort of in the wake of when I was in The Eels. It wasn't a terribly happy situation, so I was like, well screw it, I'm just gonna go off and do my own thing. And then it's sort of like, well, you know: "I'm gonna go start my own thing. Uh, I have to learn to sing and write songs now." [Laughs] It's kinda funny: "Screw you guys! I'm gonna go get a deal!" And then like, "Uh oh." But really, I'm a firm believer in that [idea that] you just gotta go for it. And so it was like, well, this is gonna be difficult, but it's gonna be better than what I had before. And actually, with some distance on that situation, I realized I made the right decision and made a lot more money and was a lot more happy as a result. So that was sort of a leap of faith, you know. I didn't want to be someone's stupid bass player. Now I'm my own stupid bass player. WAITING TO PANIC TW: There was a lull between record companies. The first record [Humanistic] was on Extasy - I don't know if you know about that company, but we were basically the poster-child for the implosion of an indie label. I came off the road in 2002, the label's folding, and I'm like, well, I'm just gonna go back and give this my best shot and we'll get another deal. It seemed highly unlikely, but we ended up doing it. And there was just a lull in there where nobody was interested. I had attorneys not returning my phone calls - that kinda stuff. It felt like, I'm just waiting around and I'm really anxious. So that was a song of frustration that was written and demoed all in one day - it was a song that just came out of me in like eight hours. We also put an EP out [The Reverb EP] and on the EP is the version of that demo that I did in one day. It doesn't happen [like that] very often. Usually I build bed tracks and come back to it a few weeks later and add something, and then come back a couple of days later. This one was all in one shot. HUNTING TW: My friend Ross Golan, who has his own band Ross Golan and Molehead, had been following the wake of the relationship. He's like, "You just gotta write her a song and use her name." And I'm like, nah, nah, it's not covered enough. And he's like, "No, just do it. Go for it." So I did. I wrote this song and I wrote it for her for her birthday and I used her name, which is in the first lyric of the song, which is "Ginny." So I just went for it and wrote it. It was basically a birthday gift, and it was basically saying, like, you know, "Oops!" [Laughs] It didn't get me very far, but I like the song. We're friends, she's a good girl, absolutely, but back at that time, it was kinda like, "Erraaghhh! Here's a song!" But I like the song and I just think it was one of those times where I was really putting myself out there, and I know she liked it, too. But then, I think that's a myth where you just write a song and all of a sudden the girl just says, "Oh! Okay!" But, you know, hey. There it is. It's on the record. That's the romantic notion of how they'll react to the song, at least. TW: Exactly. And I'm really glad we're past that whole ironic phase, which I was part of with The Eels, where everything was super ironic and we'd play "The Macarena" on stage - [sarcastically] and that was funny! I'm glad we're through all that stuff, even though I was still a Beck fan when he was doing all that stuff, too. But I like being sincere and sappy and romantic. I kinda think that's a great thing. ARMED TO THE TEETH TW: This is one of the first songs written when we came off the road and I had a lot of momentum. If you look at the state of the industry you can see a lot of corporations that seem to have to buy everything in sight. They just have to own everything, and to what purpose? Does it really make the industry much better? No. There's fewer outlets, there's a lot more gatekeepers. They want to buy stuff and it just kinda makes things bad for everybody. All the radio stations play the same shit - except for Indie 103.1 and KCRW in L.A. In spite of it all, I'm just gonna try to do my best and have a career anyway. When we came off the road I felt like I had a lot of momentum. Performing live is inspiring to writing, so it was just the whole idea of, "Alright, now that I have one record under my belt, I'm gonna really go for it in spite of all the forces that be." Even though they're pretty much indifferent to us, [laughs] their actions do affect us. It's sort of a song of bravado. Why did you also choose "Armed To The Teeth" as the name of the album, too, which, in turn, implies it as the overall theme? TW: Yeah, which is funny, since I kinda decided on that theme early on, thinking I was gonna go in a certain way, but then, like I said, two-thirds of the record is love songs. So "Armed To The Teeth" doesn't really fit in a certain way, but I also liked it just because [of] that idea of, like, now I'm really ready to make a record, and also I think it reflects the state of the country a little bit. Everything's a little bit aggressive, we're at war, and I thought it was sort of timely in that way SOONER OR LATER TW: "Sooner Or Later" is another one of those tracks that was written after we got signed, so it's a newer song. I mentioned that sort of double time drum loop thing with "Lethal Killers" - this is the same thing. It's a half time drum loop that I nudged in one direction and then put in another track and nudge it in the other, then "boom," it's double time. And I like that, it's a good effect. It really sets up this kind of overlapping, rolling sound that a real drummer can't do. And things flam a little bit, and I really like that feel, so this song was constructed in the same manner where you have a rolling drum loop and then you put over a couple of guitar parts here and there and all of a sudden you got a song - I think this song is over six minutes. This is, um, I guess it's a couple things. Lyrically, it's sort of saying, like, whatever you do or whatever you say, there's no point in hiding anything because it all comes out in the end - which is the tagline in the chorus. There's no hiding. And in the verse it says, "Sooner or later / It's all coming down." In some way or another, whether you acknowledge it or if it just eats at your self, you can't really get away with anything. It's sort of fatalistic that way, but also in terms of, like, seeing how I also look at as a bigger picture of, like, politically, and since we're at war right now, it seems like things are getting a little scary. And that's kind of like one of those doomsday scenarios. If you look around a little you can really freak yourself out if you're reading about, like, bio-warfare and things like that. So a lot of this talk about "smoking gun in the shape of a mushroom cloud" and all that, it sort of brought up for me a lot of doomsday scenarios. So it's two-fold: it's that doomsday scenario, in terms of as far as the world is concerned, and then, personally, if you do stupid shit then you're eventually gonna pay for it somehow. SAILING SEAS TW: Like "Hunting," this is probably the most direct, out-there storytelling song. Instead of using her [real] name, it's switched to "Holly," which is in the chorus. So it's another one of those songs talking straight to somebody. And there's a lot of details in there that I wouldn't talk about in normal conversation. That's the funny thing about songwriting where I wouldn't talk about this, but then I can put it in this song and you can still hear it and you still understand, but it's sort of masked a little bit. It's presented in a certain way where it's somehow okay to say that when you're in a major key or something. Because like, the second verse is about pretending you're outside a room listening to somebody [you love] have sex [with someone else], and that's a situation to put yourself into to really torture yourself. I created this scenario in my head and I put it in a song, and it's kinda brutal, but the [beat of the] song is upbeat and happy. RENEGADE TW: This is a sample-based type song [with] drum loops. The cello was originally a Bjork sample and we replaced it. This one is sort of hard to explain. To me it’s just sort of like just a creation, because some of the record is social commentary, and I think there's a lot of that in this song, and it's like little snippets and ideas, and not necessarily one unifying idea. I think it's just kind of a song based on looking around and taking stock of things. This song in particular isn't really even about anything. It's just, like, observations, pretty much. And, oh, by the way, Billy Howerdel, the guitarist from A Perfect Circle, is playing guitar on that song. He jumped on that track and he's the one that makes it sound scary. MAYBE THEN SOMEDAY TW: That was one of the first songs written in the wake of the breakup. It was one of those kind of "well-it-just-didn't-work-out-but-maybe-one-day-we'll-see-what-happens" kind of things. Because the circumstances are such that it wasn't gonna happen immediately so I was kinda like, well, we'll see. I don't have much to say about that; it's just grouped in with "songs about her." GOODBYE SONG TW: That was also written when there was not a lot going on for me and we hadn't really nailed down the record deal. She [Tommy's ex-girlfriend] always thought she was bad luck - she'd show up and bad things would start happening - so she thought it was her fault that I hadn't got a deal. She actually moved away and soon as she did, we got a deal. [Laughs] I think it's funny to sort of say, like the first line of the song is "I'm not washed up / And you're not bad luck for anyone," so, you know, get off the ledge, really. And it's just one of those things; it's one of those yearning songs. I think with a lot of those songs there's a certain amount of effort spent on presenting evidence, like, "Look, I know this is how you feel, but look at all the other stuff." It's almost like making a case for your self [in a song]. And like I said, it didn't get me far, but it's still a good venting process. And I sort of realize when I say things like, "I wrote this for her" or whatever, it's not really for her. It's more self-indulgent to get this stuff out. And in a way you're saying, "Yeah, I wrote this song for you," but no, you wrote it for yourself so you could say things that you felt like saying. So I realize that and I think I realized that while I was writing them, but my job is to write songs so you take from what's around you to make it happen. |
2024.05.19 10:01 COOCOORAARAA Is this an interesting Coraline movie prop in your opinion?
I plan on showing it to you guys eventually, currently working on a display
Basically, it’s a Coraline face, and very much looks like a screen used Coraline face, but it isn’t actually screen used.
Before Coraline’s look was set into stone, there was one last thing that had to be done, and Henry Selick asked the crew to make three identical sets of expressions (so an identical sequence) - one with just freckles, one with freckles and blush, and one with neither.
Henry then looked at each sequence and compared them to see which one he liked the most - he ended up choosing the freckles and blush sequence; my face plate has the handwritten text “freckles/blush” and was a face used in the sequence that determined the final look of Coraline.
I’m curious if you guys think this is cool, because I do. While it’s not a screen used face, it’s pretty unique. There are 10,000+ screen used face plates out there, and probably less than a dozen of the ones used in the freckle/blush sequence that was used in finalizing the Coraline we know and love
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Basically, it’s a Coraline face, and very much looks like a screen used Coraline face, but it isn’t actually screen used.
Before Coraline’s look was set into stone, there was one last thing that had to be done, and Henry Selick asked the crew to make three identical sets of expressions (so an identical sequence) - one with just freckles, one with freckles and blush, and one with neither.
Henry then looked at each sequence and compared them to see which one he liked the most - he ended up choosing the freckles and blush sequence; my face plate has the handwritten text “freckles/blush” and was a face used in the sequence that determined the final look of Coraline.
I’m curious if you guys think this is cool, because I do. While it’s not a screen used face, it’s pretty unique. There are 10,000+ screen used face plates out there, and probably less than a dozen of the ones used in the freckle/blush sequence that was used in finalizing the Coraline we know and love
2024.05.19 09:03 JetFindMyLlamaToo Which is the best class to join for GRE in Indore?
can you guys recommend any good GRE classes?
I'm in my third year of engineering from GSITS indore. i would like to study masters abroad. do you know anyone who has done GRE classes? which class did they choose? thank you for any help.
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I'm in my third year of engineering from GSITS indore. i would like to study masters abroad. do you know anyone who has done GRE classes? which class did they choose? thank you for any help.
2024.05.19 08:59 Stage-Piercing727 Best Carbon Fiber Knife
 | submitted by Stage-Piercing727 to u/Stage-Piercing727 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/pyjeqa520c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=81f14f00047544270b7c8bcfbe0be78e1fbcfe52 Welcome to our product rounded-up article featuring the sleek and versatile Carbon Fiber Knife. This cutting-edge innovation combines the durability of carbon fiber with the precision of its sharp and sturdy blade. Prepare to journey through the top-rated Carbon Fiber Knife selections available on the market today, as we walk you through their features, benefits, and expert reviews. Get ready to elevate your culinary experiences with this game-changing kitchen essential. The Top 6 Best Carbon Fiber Knife
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2024.05.19 08:57 MistaGalaxy I'm sorry but I just had to defend Kaizen the ML from (How to hide emperor's child)
DISCLAIMER : LONG RAMBLING (ngl, very tempted on that non judgement flair, im a coward)
I gonna said it guys, Kaizen is way too overhated and the hate towards him is unwarranted
also, this is strictly novel only, because tbh I don't like how the manhwa portrays Kaizen. and spoilers.
now truthfully does Astelle (FML) deserve a better ML (not Seibel, just a random village guy) or just stay single? yes lol
I come to this conclusion not because of Kaizen but rather I felt that Astelle would prefers the countryside life more than being an empress.
And now onto Kaizen. From the hate comments i had seen towards him, I conclude that people are just traumatized from Sovieshu's shenanigans and how the this story and the Remaried Empress have similar premise which I can see why people would lumped them all together.
And this story opening up with Kaizen divorcing Astelle after literally the day their wedding night \ahaha* do not help at all.
Ya okay, this part on why the fuck Kaizen choose the worst time to divorce Astelle is really something that I can't defend (the author prob just use it to ramp up the drama i guess lol)
But, i do can defend on why the divorce had to happened. For those uninformed, its a plot device that it is an obligation emperor and empress must consummate their marriage even though the couple can choose to use protection (??) and the plot twist comes in that dundundun Kaizen's dad is dead literally the next day thus Kaizen's emperor reigns began.
From the flashbacks, we can see that Kaizen from the young age have always being wary of any potential threats to the throne and ironically the girl (Astelle) he was betrothed to was the daughter of said threat. So the boi had been planning to get rid those threats once he got that emperor power which also includes Astelle unfortunately.
Now, that does means Kaizen despises Astelle? No. At worst, he just wary of her knowing full well she is just a puppet to her father. If he does despise her, he could just kill her on the spot the moment he becomes the emperor.
Kaizen in a way does see Astelle as someone who is in the same predicament and Astelle who never confessed her feelings make him assumed that her feelings toward him is the same as him.
Which lead to him doing to what I can say to worse thing he done to Astelle. A very angsty teenage boi ignoring and avoiding his fiancee for their entire childhood. So surprise 2X, he doesn't know much about Astelle despite basically growing up together. And of course, he gonna assume that Astelle like stereo typically any upper class lady stuff.
Now onward to post-divorce. He did tried to give compensation to Astelle after learning that she had been kick out by her OG family and of course Astelle heartbroken, understandably rejected it which make him assume that Astelle found a decent life elsewhere.
ok now i gonna list down things i appreciated about Kaizen after did i mentioned that i binged read this novel 3 times?
Now this arc got me emotional the most so i gonna ramble about it.
Onward to the post-"Theo is revealed to br Kaizen's son" arc, Astelle agreed to be the empress again due to some politics stuff that I didn't remember on the condition that Kaizen must agreed to divorce her after 3-5 years later with no strings attached. (like she's had enough lmao) then the maternal grandpa accidentally reveal Astelle's former crush to Kaizen that just give even more emotional dmg to Kaizen which just lead to him to say fuck this and allowed Astelle to leave anytime she wants (and gift her a castle and even the entire East region) with the promised that he would not remarried and Theo will succeed him as the emperor. then he got poisoned. DUNDUNDUN
Now, Astelle could have just took this fine opportunity to leave but of course she didn't and Kaizen while in and out of consciousness, said "i gonna die, huh? welp rn i wanna write my last will to give all of my authority to Astelle". Bro already accepted his fate ヽ(*。>Д<)o゜. and when Astelle said to please recover quickly for Theo and for her, Kaizen literally said, "Wait, you actually want to save me?" gahhhhhhhhh angsttt gyahhhhhhh
OK FINE, i be honest, i'm just here to let out my fangirl moments (no friends moment frfr) I do not expect this incoherent ramblings of a mess would change anyone's mind lol.
on my first read of the novel (back to the ex is my guilty troupe kek) , I literally do not care about Kaizen, thinking he just a whatever ML but after looking at the comments that just 90% shitting on him even multiple times comparing to the likes of GRADE A-HOLE, Sovieshu made me thinking, he's not that bad tho, convinced to re-read again the novel and again for good measure hehe. And the guy (as evidence from the mess of an essay) warmed up to me.
As you can see, i really do like this novel. (just shows what my standards are ehe)
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I gonna said it guys, Kaizen is way too overhated a
also, this is strictly novel only, because tbh I don't like how the manhwa portrays Kaizen. and spoilers.
now truthfully does Astelle (FML) deserve a better ML (not Seibel, just a random village guy) or just stay single? yes lol
I come to this conclusion not because of Kaizen but rather I felt that Astelle would prefers the countryside life more than being an empress.
And now onto Kaizen. From the hate comments i had seen towards him, I conclude that people are just traumatized from Sovieshu's shenanigans and how the this story and the Remaried Empress have similar premise which I can see why people would lumped them all together.
And this story opening up with Kaizen divorcing Astelle after literally the day their wedding night \ahaha* do not help at all.
Ya okay, this part on why the fuck Kaizen choose the worst time to divorce Astelle is really something that I can't defend (the author prob just use it to ramp up the drama i guess lol)
But, i do can defend on why the divorce had to happened. For those uninformed, its a plot device that it is an obligation emperor and empress must consummate their marriage even though the couple can choose to use protection (??) and the plot twist comes in that dundundun Kaizen's dad is dead literally the next day thus Kaizen's emperor reigns began.
From the flashbacks, we can see that Kaizen from the young age have always being wary of any potential threats to the throne and ironically the girl (Astelle) he was betrothed to was the daughter of said threat. So the boi had been planning to get rid those threats once he got that emperor power which also includes Astelle unfortunately.
Now, that does means Kaizen despises Astelle? No. At worst, he just wary of her knowing full well she is just a puppet to her father. If he does despise her, he could just kill her on the spot the moment he becomes the emperor.
Kaizen in a way does see Astelle as someone who is in the same predicament and Astelle who never confessed her feelings make him assumed that her feelings toward him is the same as him.
Which lead to him doing to what I can say to worse thing he done to Astelle. A very angsty teenage boi ignoring and avoiding his fiancee for their entire childhood. So surprise 2X, he doesn't know much about Astelle despite basically growing up together. And of course, he gonna assume that Astelle like stereo typically any upper class lady stuff.
Now onward to post-divorce. He did tried to give compensation to Astelle after learning that she had been kick out by her OG family and of course Astelle heartbroken, understandably rejected it which make him assume that Astelle found a decent life elsewhere.
ok now i gonna list down things i appreciated about Kaizen after did i mentioned that i binged read this novel 3 times?
- Bro is completely and painfully aware that Astelle do not like him. So yes, he's aware that divorcing literally after the wedding night is a total dick move. So he never does force or blackmail Astelle (the divorce was mutually agreed) but just took every chance to dragged out the trip so he can hopefully convinced Astelle to stay.
- He's very straightforward. He would always confessed that he does feel jealousy when Astelle is having good time with any other man. And expressed disappointment when Astelle wouldn't understandably trust him.
- He's not completely down bad for Astelle. While most of the story Kaizen would say yes to Astelle including when Astelle is planning to work together with her father aka the worst threat to Kaizen. Kaizen doesn't let Astelle completely clouded his judgment when she request her very sick maternal grandpa and her young nephew back to the poor countryside which yah doesn't really made sense in Kaizen's POV. And he did hilariously a petty revenge on Astelle by stealing away Theo (post-reveal) by convinced Theo to sleep at the Emperor's Palace instead for a night.
Now this arc got me emotional the most so i gonna ramble about it.
Onward to the post-"Theo is revealed to br Kaizen's son" arc, Astelle agreed to be the empress again due to some politics stuff that I didn't remember on the condition that Kaizen must agreed to divorce her after 3-5 years later with no strings attached. (like she's had enough lmao) then the maternal grandpa accidentally reveal Astelle's former crush to Kaizen that just give even more emotional dmg to Kaizen which just lead to him to say fuck this and allowed Astelle to leave anytime she wants (and gift her a castle and even the entire East region) with the promised that he would not remarried and Theo will succeed him as the emperor. then he got poisoned. DUNDUNDUN
Now, Astelle could have just took this fine opportunity to leave but of course she didn't and Kaizen while in and out of consciousness, said "i gonna die, huh? welp rn i wanna write my last will to give all of my authority to Astelle". Bro already accepted his fate ヽ(*。>Д<)o゜. and when Astelle said to please recover quickly for Theo and for her, Kaizen literally said, "Wait, you actually want to save me?" gahhhhhhhhh angsttt gyahhhhhhh
OK FINE, i be honest, i'm just here to let out my fangirl moments (no friends moment frfr) I do not expect this incoherent ramblings of a mess would change anyone's mind lol.
on my first read of the novel (back to the ex is my guilty troupe kek) , I literally do not care about Kaizen, thinking he just a whatever ML but after looking at the comments that just 90% shitting on him even multiple times comparing to the likes of GRADE A-HOLE, Sovieshu made me thinking, he's not that bad tho, convinced to re-read again the novel and again for good measure hehe. And the guy (as evidence from the mess of an essay) warmed up to me.
As you can see, i really do like this novel. (just shows what my standards are ehe)
- top tier FML (I don't really care for children so sorry Theo)
- small cast of characters and small world building, at least make me remember all of them upon my binge read.
- Politics is understandable and doesn't felt it doesn't dragged out that much.
- I don't why ppl kept thinking Seibel is the 2nd ML when bro is introduced much later part of the novel. so thankfully no fuckin love triangle.
- Don't really care much about Astelle mom's past B-plot tho
2024.05.19 08:39 Connect_Ad_8705 So...Archmage Absolution of Inspiring
 | Hello, fello builders,I am a new player(joined in tota) and wanna try some new stuff this league, since you can easily print some crazy gear, it should make most of the off-meat stuff at least viable. submitted by Connect_Ad_8705 to PathOfExileBuilds [link] [comments] It all starts when I saw a few discussions about alt quality absolution gem and a build showcase form Matil, plus some experiment stream from Onemanaleft, a crazy idea just grow in my mind : "What if I can play Archmage Absolution like stormcall back in the day?" *Discalimer : I am a huge minion cuck, and all minion cucks are either weird, filthy rich, or both. *Discalimer 2: I don't really recommand anyone try this build unless you hate your life or you like being mentally and visually tortured So first, POB and some T16 semi mf(40 quant 130 rarity), T17 b2b barrel action so you don't have to watch all the disgusting walls of words before the good stuff. POB https://pobb.in/0GA0CgW2SakY YT showcase *FLASH BANG ALERT https://youtu.be/o1rOsEKtAgg?si=_nwvAvRvWdzeyqG5 I use hh instead of MB here, since its quicker in mapping,and you have to go fast in this strat. https://youtu.be/slU4UC1CbYI?si=Lte_QBzKZG5hjjDR Didn't know exactly what killed me there, strongboxes are scary sometimes. As you can see, I use AG and spectre for the buff/debuff, which alots of people are not a fan of, but it is what I can think of aside form generic multi-curses kitava's thirst setup(Its good, but I wanna boost my dps even more by using 8 link helmet), maybe there are better tech out there, hope you guys can help me out on that. This build has two setups
Damage sourceAbsolution of inspiring-spell echo/inspiration-awakened spell cascade-Archmagewith 8-link helmet Shout out to Elesshar for the amazing crafting guide on this one Wand with generic acrhmage mods, using essences of fear instead of woe forgot to 30% quality first,sadge SummonEvery spectre/AG has overcapped ele res and 80k+ health, though chaos/phys max hit is a bit low, my AG died twice in 100 T17 b2b maps, spectres dies here and there but not much.Spectres I use -Spectral Leader(20% action speed) Kind of hard to keep it alive in T17 and some T16 hot moment, but damage boost is pretty crazy, could've use arena master instead. -Primal Rhex Matriarch(increase enemy lightning taken by 50%) -Charge monkies(for frenzy charges) AG gear -King maker, Legacy of fury,Vixen entrap(enfeeble curse on hit), gruthkul's pelt,crusadeshaper helmet(increase damage taken/decrease lightning res debuff) AOEIt seems that stormcall has better innate AOE than absoution even though it says the same in the gem, and you can't use conc+ intensify for 5 overlaps on awakened spell cascade since the latter can't modify minion gems. So the only way you can do is scale the shit out of aoe, at around 5.8 meter(or 280% in game panel) you can reliably get 5 overlaps, see below.Maven demo AOE demo Defensive layerEternal damnation setup+ minion tauntTaunting works pretty well on T17 mapping Build cost(~250d with self crafted weapon/helmet) Pros and Consthe good-Respectable dps and maxhit -gear are easy to craft and sell(sold roughtly 1.5 mirrors with wand craft) -rub your hipster ego(very important) the bad -pseudo minion build -AG and spectre can and will die -not budget friendly Overall went better than I thought, then again any crazy ideas can work with adorned and mageblood, I recon there are more techs I didn't know existing out there, maybe you guys can help me out. |
2024.05.19 07:31 PoemOpen I finally had a much needed discussion with my SO today.
I have commented here a few times but never posted. It's long so i get if you dont want to read. I just have some feelings to let out! I've been with my(27f) SO(29m) for 4 years. He has a son(12) whom I met when he was 8. I am child free and have no interest in being a mother myself. However, I felt being a stepmom/cool aunt would be fine bc I don't have that big of an issue with kids and my SO only has SK EOWE (he now keeps SK 3 weekends a month bc SO's mother can't not stick her nose where it isn't wanted) I made the mistake of trying to be too helpful at the beginning of our relationship bc I am a people pleaser who didn't know better and wound up being main caregiver every weekend SK was here due to SO's excuse of having to work. For a little while it was fine bc SO had started a new, very fruitful and life changing job and I wanted to help him succeed and i was under the impression after a while he wouldnt be expected to work them as much. I picked up SK from BM's house after my own long day/week at work every weekend my SO had custody, I would pick up food for SK, even paid for groceries for SK when SO failed to get any for the weekend, cleaned up messes and was the only ear around for SK to yap into oblivion. HUGE MISTAKE!!! After a while (like 2.5 years) of this going on, no thanks or appreciation and then getting criticism from SO's father for literally parenting SK when no one else was, I threw my hat down and said I'm done taking care of SK for SO and would step back. Last year I had started to slowly nacho and do less and less as my resentment towards both SK and SO grew larger. At this point in time, SO was CHOOSING to work these weekends instead of being required to; and choosing to pick up extra OT (an extra 8 hours on top of the 16 he is working that weekend) on some of these weekends while taking off on weekends we didnt have SK. This grinded my gears and I had a discussion with SO about how unfair it is to expect me to be completely responsible for SK when I am not his parent. That resulted in SO's mother taking SK for one weekend a month and SO apologizing and saying he won't do that anymore. Now, maybe I should have been more clear, but SO took this to mean that he could work these weekends, but no OT. That is not what I meant. I meant for SO to not work when he has SK. It came to a big head when just 2 weeks after we had our initial discussion, SO texts me from work telling me he not only had signed up for the weekend, but asked for an additional 12 HOURS that weekend since it would be extra pay for working on a holiday without talking to me on a SO custody weekend. He had the audacity to tell me "dont be mad." I lost it. I told him that this behavior was disrespectful to me and a huge slap in the face given the conversation we practically just had a fortnight ago. He apologized, said he won't do it again but it wasnt good enough for me until i saw real, consistent change. I told SO he needs to get his mother to watch SK that weekend because I will not be doing it. He tried but SO's mom was out of town. I was pissed and told him if it happened again there would be a serious change in our relationship, either I move out or we split and that he will be making up for this for a long time. Things were fine for a little over a month. SO was taking off weekends he had SK like I asked and had someone watch SK if SO wanted to work. All is good. Then this weekend came. SO signed up this weekend despite SK coming over and didn't communicate with me. I was mad but kept quiet, when I shouldn't have. Today we were talking and deciding whether to go workout today since if we did we would have to rush around before SO had to leave for work. SO said something along the lines of: SO: "what do you want, then?" Me: "for you to not go to work tonight." SO: "So we can go to the gym?" Me: "Yea....among other things.." I think he knew what I meant. I could tell his tone got defensive. I know that was passive aggressive of me but tbh we had been having some rough times lately and I was so tired of being frustrated with him so it just kinda came out. I told him the same things I had been saying: not my kid so why am I expected to take care of him? I don't mind helping but I am not SK's mother or father, he has those. This did not bode well in SO's brain because even though I stayed level headed to express myself, he immediately jumped on the defensive, got loud and told me that since I am at home that it "shouldn't be too much to expect me to watch his kid." And just no. Absolutely not. I DID NOT PUSH THIS KID OUT OF ME OR BUST A NUT IN THE WRONG PLACE!! I put my foot down and I told him straight up I did not get into this relationship to be anybody's mother and if that is what he expected of me then we will not work. After A LOT of getting him to calm down🙄🙄🙄 he began to understand what I was saying(Or at least put on a damn good show of it if not). I tried my best to make him feel that I do not hate or really even dislike his son or wish him to be gone(I prefer Sk not be here but it is what it is and I try not to have SK feel that way bc it's not his fault) but I am very resentful of the amount of work I have put in and am expected to do for a child I did not have and isnt my responsibility. I also sited his lack of communicating efficiently with me about his work schedule. I said I know I get visibly irritated when SK comes over and SO decided to ask "well if I do this will your attitude towards SK change?" Which like...what bad faith question honestly. I told him "yea, most likely, with time and consistency from you." Overall, we are doing well as of right now and I feel like things are slowly changing, which is good. Not exactly how I wanted but that's reality, ya know? I love SO very much. He is an amazing partner and is the only place I have felt safe in my life. His child is just a really tender spot for us as SO does not want to be a father but feels stuck. I understand that but we have to wake up to our reality and not just push responsibilities off onto others. I hope things will continue to get better from here but I also wouldn't be surprised if this is what eventually breaks us up if we spilt ever. Apologies for the length. I've had a lot of feelings for a while and don't have anywhere to let it out but this subreddit has really helped me understand my own feelings and feel less like I'm the bad guy for how I feel.
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2024.05.19 07:18 FallenShadeslayer [Very Long] The Last Faith (PS5) - May 2024 Review
The Last Faith is what you get when you combine the tone and allure of Bloodborne mixed with the flowing combat and sheer coolness of Castlevania: Symphony of the Night. Theres also a sprinkle of Blasphemous in there, for some reason. It's also a game that isn't quite sure if it wants to be a souls-like and near-copy of Bloodborne or just a simple metroidvania. In two sentences i've probably confused you. Good, now we're both on the same page. This is The Last Faith.
The Last Faith puts you in the shoes of Eryk. Eryk is a swell guy. He cares for everyone, questions little, never says a mean word and goes out of his way to help out hapless NPC's as well literal monsters. While everyone around him is content to compliment him on his combat prowess, Eryk thinks he's just a dude. Does that sound like the main character of a game that's basically 2D Bloodborne? It's a mismatch for the tone of the game and while it wasn't enough to take me out of the experience, I couldn't help but feel he belongs in another game. Animal Crossing: New Horizons, maybe? He'd make a killing on the stalk market.
This game is VERY similar to Bloodborne. Unlike Elden Ring or the Souls series, you have health potions that do not refill upon death. You have to find them in the world or buy them. Just like Bloodborne. The same goes for ammo. This wasn't an issue. The game throws so many health potions at you and they're so cheap to buy I had nearly 200 at the end. Which begs the question, why even do this? Because Bloodborne did it? There's little tension in death when I have 15 heals and know I can easily go get 50 more in a matter of minutes.
Combat is standard fare but feels quite good. Let's take a look at some super cool bullet points!
The mood and atmosphere in the game are absolutely superb, but the environments don't reflect this as well as they could have. You have your standard ice area and swamp area, but for the most part it's just houses and caves. For me, the pacing of when you get abilities varied wildly. Being a metroidvania, there are a number of zones to choose from and some you can miss entirely. Depending on your path you may find the game doles out abilities far too slowly and it just feels like you're not progressing.
I didn't even get one of the coolest abilities until right before the end because I just happened to miss a tiny path barely viable on the map that led to an entire zone. Because of course it did. When you play a metroidvania, these are the things you accept going in and it's what makes these games special. I do wish the game would have had a more set progression path for your abilities, however.
All in all, I enjoyed my time with The Last Faith. Part of me feels this would have been better off as just a metroidvania or Castlevania-like, but it does combat and movement well and has a top notch atmosphere. I recommend The Last Faith.
Some random things that didn't fit in the main body of the review.
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The Last Faith puts you in the shoes of Eryk. Eryk is a swell guy. He cares for everyone, questions little, never says a mean word and goes out of his way to help out hapless NPC's as well literal monsters. While everyone around him is content to compliment him on his combat prowess, Eryk thinks he's just a dude. Does that sound like the main character of a game that's basically 2D Bloodborne? It's a mismatch for the tone of the game and while it wasn't enough to take me out of the experience, I couldn't help but feel he belongs in another game. Animal Crossing: New Horizons, maybe? He'd make a killing on the stalk market.
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"2Blood, 2Blasphemous"
He's also afflicted with... something. And oh boy, when that something finally reveals itself it.. oh wait it doesn't ever fully reveal itself. This game's version of "souls" is called "Nycrux." Sigh. Can we just call them souls, please? For the love of the moon presence we don't need cute names for the currency with every souls-like. In typical souls-like fashion though the Nycrux is also what our character is afflicted by. I think. What does it do? No clue! Did I even pay attention to the story?! Dude I tried. I really did. The notes and item descriptions did little to help me piece together the story, unlike FromSoftware games. It's utterly non-sensical.This game is VERY similar to Bloodborne. Unlike Elden Ring or the Souls series, you have health potions that do not refill upon death. You have to find them in the world or buy them. Just like Bloodborne. The same goes for ammo. This wasn't an issue. The game throws so many health potions at you and they're so cheap to buy I had nearly 200 at the end. Which begs the question, why even do this? Because Bloodborne did it? There's little tension in death when I have 15 heals and know I can easily go get 50 more in a matter of minutes.
Combat is standard fare but feels quite good. Let's take a look at some super cool bullet points!
- You have a light attack and you are also able up charge up that attack which I did precisely 6 times and never again because it's utterly useless.
- Each weapon also has a unique (or somewhat unique) weapon art. In addition you have whats called a Stigma and this allows you to use various abilities such as a shield, parry or something else I found to be rarely helpful which is thebeast mode.
- Combat revolves around rolling, attacking and learning enemy patterns. Parries and block's don't factor in as much here but they absolutely can if you are dedicated to pulling them off. And they feel great!
- My play-style started as your standard strength build and then morphed into a mage who used a big ass scythe. So like a DEX/INT build. Very grim, very reaper.
- The spells themselves are varied and quite cool and are good for helping you to get in close. The game also features guns. I used them to varying degrees but they all worked well and while I never felt like I NEEDED to use them, I had fun with them nonetheless.
- Like any souls-like, you can level up your character (STR, DEX, INT, etc) as well as your weapon. Each weapon will scale depending on what stats you invest in and the game is VERY generous with its scaling.
- Weapon requirements exist and I cannot for the life of me figure out why. You can wield any weapon or spell in the game regardless if you have the stats or not and the only penalty is a slight decrease in damage.
- Your roll has I-frames. And sometimes it doesn't. It was frustrating be able to doge into a projectile and come out unscathed and then I try it again with a different move and get hit.
- Bosses varied wildly in difficulty. Some where extremely easy while the last few bosses has me questioning my sanity. Very few were inspired, but they all felt right at home in the world.
The mood and atmosphere in the game are absolutely superb, but the environments don't reflect this as well as they could have. You have your standard ice area and swamp area, but for the most part it's just houses and caves. For me, the pacing of when you get abilities varied wildly. Being a metroidvania, there are a number of zones to choose from and some you can miss entirely. Depending on your path you may find the game doles out abilities far too slowly and it just feels like you're not progressing.
I didn't even get one of the coolest abilities until right before the end because I just happened to miss a tiny path barely viable on the map that led to an entire zone. Because of course it did. When you play a metroidvania, these are the things you accept going in and it's what makes these games special. I do wish the game would have had a more set progression path for your abilities, however.
All in all, I enjoyed my time with The Last Faith. Part of me feels this would have been better off as just a metroidvania or Castlevania-like, but it does combat and movement well and has a top notch atmosphere. I recommend The Last Faith.
Some random things that didn't fit in the main body of the review.
- When you die to a boss, your "Nycrux" spawns right there with you at the checkpoint. I greatly appreciate that. Boss corpse runs are the WORST. But also kind of fun if i'm being honest.
- Status effects in this game are utterly useless against bosses, as I only got one status effect to proc on a boss ONE time in the entire game.
- A massive issue I have with this game is this insane input delay after you roll or dash. I cut the section on it as this is already too long but it nearly ruined some boss fights for me. You have to HOPE you are already perfectly positioned when a boss does a big AOE and if not, oh well. That input delay isnt letting you get out of the way in time.
- Hope you like Monster Closets, because very frequently this game will lock you in a room with a gauntlet of spawning enemies and wont let you leave until they're dead.
- The Game has 3 endings and some pretty cool hidden bosses. One of which was the best fight in the game and isn't too hidden. The game leads you to it quite well, actually!
2024.05.19 06:48 LargeAndScary AITAH for being upset after telling my partner to go to a party instead of joining me at a function I was obligated to go to?
The other day my partner and I were hanging out, as they are wont to do, and later in the evening I had to be at an art opening of a good friend of mine. We were both tired after a long day but I felt it my duty as a friend to go (I didn't not want to go, but it would have been a 3 hour drive to and from) and I wanted to support them. I am an artist as well, and openings are often overwhelming and kind of a drag, a sentiment my partner and I are both share, but this was one I felt I needed to go to, and I made mention of that a multiple days prior to my partner. I knew her agreement to go was reluctant, given her tepid response, so I told her "you're not obligated to go so don't feel like you should". She remained steadfast in her decision. Come the day, and I told her again, you really don't have to come but she got ready and was willing to tag along, basically to commiserate, but then she got a text from another friend of hers, a guy whom I've only met once, and I like well enough from what little I know, and hes her only friend out where she lives, Inviting her to a child's birthday party, and while I'm getting to my car I hear her audibly moan, and I ask her whats up, to which she tells me that this friend asked if she wanted to come to this party. For context, this party was like one of those cool adults with kids party, they had a DJ and all in an odd setting, in reality the makings of a could be fun, could be annoying situation. She had mentioned he texted her about this party earlier in the day and thought it would've been cool to go. Seeing how obviously she wanted to go to that party, I told her again, "You really don't have to go to this opening, if you want to go to this party you can.". She told me she wanted to come for support, considering how annoying openings can be, but really wanted to go to this party, and said she would rather go with me, but with an obvious tone of ambivalence. It was glaringly clear she wanted to go to that party, and while I would've enjoyed her company, I felt I'd rather her have fun that subject her to a potentially draining social affair, so I told her I wouldn't be mad if she went to the party. The sort of classic partner conundrum it felt like. I was convicted in my feeling of her doing her thing and I would just go and come back without her, and so that decision was made. She was to go to the party, and I would go to the opening. She asked me if I was fine with that decision and I told her yes, but I felt a little dismayed, and I knew my voice and face betrayed me from presenting otherwise. We parted ways and on the drive I gradually felt more and more bothered by her choosing to go to the children's party. I started over thinking a bunch of things, which felt more like anxious conclusions than logical reasoning, but I continued to get more and more upset that she chose that odd event than going to this opening with me. we haven't seen each other much lately due to the nature of her job, so I figured if I were in her position I would've gone to the opening regardless, but that's just me. either way, as I kept driving, I decided I would curb my social anxiety and just make it a good time no matter what, and yet I continued to get more and more upset by her decision. I think it stems from some deeper feeling about her relationship with this friend and choosing that over an event we both tend to loathe, and I did implore her to stay and have a better chance at a more entertaining evening. But I know in my heart of hearts I wished she would've come along with me, but I'm upset for not being more honest about it. Ultimately I ended up having a really lovely time with friends at the opening and at the after party but I wished my partner had come, and now I feel like a dick head being upset at her decision. I guess I just would like to get the temperature of how irrational I am probably being.
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2024.05.19 06:21 Just_Mellow Coolbooter errors + Coolbooter CLI short guide + N1ghtshade Guide
The post is intended mainly for A6 (iPhone 5c) users, but I hope it may help many new users :)
- stuck at disk partition
You can try older versions of Cooboolter it maybe can help you. if you using kok3shiX, turn on the toggles "enable legacy patches" and "destroy sandbox containers" or just use h3lix jailbreak.
- stuck at [cb] loaded
Try older version and make sure you don't have a passcode.
- stuck at activation screen
As I understand you should use older version and try many times :,)
- task\_for\_pid error - re-jailbroke with h3lix instead of kok3shiX
- stuck at disk partition - give up or try coolboter cli
All you need is install these two tweaks and enter the commands below in whiteterminal
- You don't have enough space error (there is enough) - try to downgrade Cydia Substrate tweak
Thx u/The_Lego_Maniac
Supported Coolbooter devices:
iPhone 4, iPhone 4S, iPhone 5, iPhone 5c, iPad 2, iPad 3, iPad 4, iPad Mini 1G, and iPod Touch 5G.
Thanks to my beloved iPhone 5c, on which nothing works or installs and there are only errors around, I suffered a lot and I wanna save you from this dhaha, the hero of the occasion is the white and blue iPhone 5c, thank him, but after all its still my favourite iPhone. I strongly don’t recommend use Coolbooter on this device, it often completely refuses to work on many models. Tested on iPhone 5C 32GB (Global) and iPhone 5C 16GB (Global), both iOS 10.3.3. I recommend using n1ghtshade instead.
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Coolbooter 1.6
Basically, if something doesn’t work out for you, try downgrade to older versions, there seem to be no concrete solutions to the problems. Remember that you won’t be able to do this on an 8GB device.- stuck at disk partition
You can try older versions of Cooboolter it maybe can help you. if you using kok3shiX, turn on the toggles "enable legacy patches" and "destroy sandbox containers" or just use h3lix jailbreak.
- stuck at [cb] loaded
Try older version and make sure you don't have a passcode.
- stuck at activation screen
As I understand you should use older version and try many times :,)
Coolbooter 1.5/1.4.1/Older
You can get the same error or cydia dead which is very difficult to fix if you are not an expert in this. You can try Coolbooter CLI using macos or whitererminal tweak :D maybe it’ll help you.- task\_for\_pid error - re-jailbroke with h3lix instead of kok3shiX
- stuck at disk partition - give up or try coolboter cli
Coolbooter CLI
How to use Coolbooter CLI with Whiteterminal ?All you need is install these two tweaks and enter the commands below in whiteterminal
- su - (gives root)
- alpine
- coolbootercli 8.4.1 --datasize 8GB -use-dpw (8.4.1 - version you want, 8GB - space for OS)
- Then open Coolbooter app and press Boot
- You don't have enough space error (there is enough) - try to downgrade Cydia Substrate tweak
Coolbooter repo not working?
- Visit this link in safari on your iDevice.
- Press "ISRG Root X1 CA (Let's Encrypt)"
- The website will take you to settings. Install the profile.
- Try to add Coolbooter repo again!
Thx u/The_Lego_Maniac
Supported Coolbooter devices:
iPhone 4, iPhone 4S, iPhone 5, iPhone 5c, iPad 2, iPad 3, iPad 4, iPad Mini 1G, and iPod Touch 5G.
N1ghtshade
- Using your Mac, download V1.0 and Release Candidate 3 of N1ghtshade.
- Download IPSW file, you can choose any version of iOS for your iDevice
- Open N1ghtshade V1.0, select Other and open Restore menu.
- Connect your iDevice and press Power + Home button for 10 seconds, release the Power button and keep holding the Home button 10 seconds to enable DFU mode.
- Select your IPSW file in Restore menu and wait until it's done.
- Open N1ghtshade Release Candidate 3, select Other and then open Jailbreak menu. You need to enable DFU mode again (point 4).
- Back to N1ghtshade V1.0 and select Boot Tethered, enable DFU mode and wait until it's done.
- On your iDevice, open the Nightshade app and install Cydia, then Boot Tethered again.
Legacy_IOS_Kit (tethered)
- Download version of LiK for your Mac (LiK - Legacy_IOS_Kit im just lazy)
- Open LiK Folder and run restore.sh file via terminal (tip: mark "always open with" option)
- Select Restore/Downgrade (type 1 in terminal), then Other (Tethered) (type 4).
- Select Target IPSW which you have download here, you can choose any version of iOS for your iDevice
- Start operation, for the 1st question type n (don't jailbreak now) and then spam Enter.
- Run restore.sh again, select Jailbreak Device and spam Enter button for all questions until its done.
- Run restore.sh again :D and select Other Utilities (5), then Just Boot (6), spam Enter.
- Congratulations, you did it !
By OP
This guide kinda small and many people already know everything, but for new users I hope that it'll be useful. Write comments and I will gradually update post :)Thanks to my beloved iPhone 5c, on which nothing works or installs and there are only errors around, I suffered a lot and I wanna save you from this dhaha, the hero of the occasion is the white and blue iPhone 5c, thank him, but after all its still my favourite iPhone. I strongly don’t recommend use Coolbooter on this device, it often completely refuses to work on many models. Tested on iPhone 5C 32GB (Global) and iPhone 5C 16GB (Global), both iOS 10.3.3. I recommend using n1ghtshade instead.
2024.05.19 06:05 Ok_Technician_7264 Want to understand my first love
I need to get inside the mind of someone that does this or understand this: My ex (first love who is now 27m) has been keeping up with my life on IG since we broke up 6 years ago. I keep in contact with his mom VIA Facebook, but other than that we don't talk at all. We last talked 3 years ago when we attempted to rekindle our relationship which went perfectly, but it's like he's scared of his own feelings so he disappeared and i had to confront him. Ended with both of us crying for different reasons. Still, I probably will always have a soft spot for him🤷🏾♀️ anyway, he is the very first person to like all my pictures and like all my post on my story. He doesn't actually use social media. He only has IG and uses for his business when necessary so he's never actually on it. No matter what time I post (2am, 4pm, 7:52am) he is the first to like it so I guess he gets notifications for my post? What the hell does that even mean? Why do that to someone you've let slip out of your life? I openly told him I'd take him back in a heartbeat since we broke up due his need to focus on his mental health at first. It was my choice to leave because he needed to get better. We tried 3 years later after he supposedly got better, but he didn't and I said he has a place in my life if he wants it as long as he focuses on getting better (i dont wanna go into detail about what better means). Idk...it's just weird. Why would he choose to watch me from afar? I would love to have him as my friend even. He's that important to me. I would like to understand the thought process here if anyone had any advice.
Im 26f now and I don't date since I'm in college and about to leave the country when I graduate so I'm not asking for dating purposes. I just want to understand if I can. Since I still hold a torch for this guy, I'd like understand him better. Thank you for reading🫶🏾
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Im 26f now and I don't date since I'm in college and about to leave the country when I graduate so I'm not asking for dating purposes. I just want to understand if I can. Since I still hold a torch for this guy, I'd like understand him better. Thank you for reading🫶🏾