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We took our rabbit to the vet almost 2 weeks ago for GI stasis, he spent a few hours there being examined and treated, and then we brought him home that same day with medicines to be given via syringe several times a day. He finished his medicines a little over a week ago. Ever since we brought him home from the vet, however, he’s been an absolute menace. He’s apparently un potty trained now and prefers to pee next to his litter box instead of in it no matter how clean or dirty his litter box is, he pees in his pet bed which he only did like twice before taking him to the vet and now he does it all. The. Time. And he’s started chewing EVERYTHING. he never chewed anything that wasn’t his before we took him to the vet, but now he’s chewing on cupboards, furniture, books, absolutely anything he can reach he’ll try to chew. I just don’t understand what happened or why he’s suddenly being so naughty when he was a little angel before, and I don’t know how to make him stop. When he pees on the floor we wipe it up and put the paper towels in his litter box and then we clean the spot with a vinegar water mixture, which is what I’ve read we’re supposed to do, but it makes no difference. I’ve taken his bed away so he can’t pee in that anymore (and sit in his urine), but I still feel like a bad mom taking it away. If I catch him peeing or about to pee on the floor I’ll pick him up and put him in his litter box. Personality wise he’s still the same, except for the chewing everything and peeing outside his litter box. The vet said his teeth and everything looked fine, aside from the GI stasis. He’s one year old and neutered.

Hey - hope this finds you well.
Let's get the physical description out of the way: 6'2", 185lbs with a lean physique, blonde, and hazel-eyed. Happy to exchange (SFW) photos.
I'm originally from Atlanta, but I moved to Florida from college, and I'm currently based in Orlando. I graduated from college last year, and currently work for a tech consultancy firm. I'm 90% remote, and expect to be fully remote in the next few years, so I'm quite flexible with regard to geography.
I'm fairly well-travelled owing to my father's career in the military, and am quite keen to continue seeing more of the world and experiencing new cultures. I'm well on the way to hitting 30 countries visited before my 30th birthday. Other hobbies include mixed martial arts training (I'm not as brutish as this hobby would suggest), open-water swimming, hiking, watching films, and cooking (my specialties are Greek/Turkish food - if you're lucky, I'll make you a spread that'll make you feel like you're enjoying a warm summer night by the Mediterranean).
I'm a driven, responsible, march-to-my-own-drum kind of guy, that's fiercely protective of and loyal to the people I love, and I'm very keen to work hard so that I can provide my family with the best possible life.
Why am I here?
I'm done with nightclubs and online dating. All of that is well and truly out of my system. I'm working to build a great life for myself, and I'd love to settle down and share it with someone. However, a pretty significant proportion of my fellow Zoomers are choosing not to retire prematurely from their wild years, which has led to my expanding my search to include subs like this.
I'm looking for a mature, responsible, and kind woman to get to know and hopefully establish a monogamous romantic relationship with (please don't reach out if you're already in a relationship). I have no real preference re: ethnicity, body type or anything like that - I'm more interested in the sort of person you are. I don't have any children of my own, but I don't mind if you do. I'd love it if any of our hobbies aligned, but this isn't important - I can always introduce you to them, and maybe you can do the same for me with your hobbies!
My only dealbreaker is that I'm looking for someone that's at least over the age of 20, but preferably over the age of 25 and under the age of 40. If you're in that age range, and anything you've read in this post has appealed to you, I'd love to hear from you. Also, I've put a bit of effort into this post, and will not be responding to anyone who opens with "hey".
While I wait for you, I'll start putting together a cool story for when people ask how we met. (I'm completely serious about the title of this post - after we meet, we're going to pretend that this sub doesn't exist. 😂)

Hi Everyone, I firstly want to thank everyone that reads this post and offers their thoughts and advice. I have been wracking my brain endlessly on it for weeks and have no idea what to make of it. I have been through a tumultuous therapy experience and feel completely broken by it.
I am 26F and started therapy with a therapist 32F back in Jan 2024. It went extremely well in the beginning, we both have lived very similar lives, are both the same ethnicity and are both queer women. I also have OCD and CPTSD (maybe BPD - not sure). I never connected with another therapist like her before, it felt easy, natural and comfortable. I never felt so seen, so validated, so supportive ever in my life. And she was my type, so romantic transference was easy to happen for me. I started to think of her all day, ever day, like limerent crush. I also carry my heart on my sleeve and whenever she would mention the concept of romantic relationships, I would blush very obviously and be unable to make eye contact. I found myself stalking her LinkedIn and forgot that LinkedIn can track who has seen their page. The next session, the first thing she did was tell me about her entire career history unprompted, subtly letting me know that she knew that I stalked her page.
I then began to express how I find it difficult to connect with certain people, and she brought up the idea that I am just more compatible with some people and not others. She then said "If you and I were to go on a date. we would be compatible". I remember blushing so hard. In retrospect, that was an insane thing to do on her part. I think she wanted to check if I had a crush on her or not. But still I was just a vulnerable person who never felt seen in the way that a therapist could. We had pretty messy boundaries, to be honest, which I think added to this dichotomy - we spoke about music once and she asked to go through my playlists and told me we "had similar taste". You could literally see hearts in my eyes. I have no idea if she was being honest or not. She did one red flag thing that had good intentions but impacted me very negatively. I was very committed to taking notes and learning because I deeply wanted to heal, but felt I was not progressing. She pointed out to me how much better I was doing than her other clients (then told me about how each of them were not doing well. She also told me about a client that had to be referred out and rolled her eyes once about her. As someone racked with anxiety about how people perceive me, this deeply scared me because it meant that she was absolutely capable of judging me in the way that I expected her to. But honestly, she did help me, there were so many new concepts that really opened my mind and enriched me. She continued to make me feel safe, and heard.
I ended up becoming extremely attached to her, to the point of having erotic transference, which became intrusive and unwelcome. If I had a hard day at work, I would have flashes of being with her, of her holding me. So many times, the desire for her to hold me, and be with me was so overwhelming that I would have to write it down in a journal just to feel relief. It really scares me how depraved I have been, it scares me because I feel I am scared of how I would be in an actual relationship. Going back to the music, she said it would be alright if I sent her music that I had been listening to as long as it had to do with Mental health. I sent her several songs about mental health and sent her an extra song that was romantic in nature. I know I shouldn't have sent that song, I knew it was a mistake to do that. I hate that I did that because I put her in such an uncomfortable position and I crossed a boundary. For this, I take full accountability, I suppose I was trying to tell her in my way that I had romantic feelings for her.
The next session, there was a noticeable difference, she was more distant (less validating) and she changed to a harder - more challenging style (almost devil's advocate-y) which caused my attachment to twist inside me. I have an anxious attachment and I was confused by the change, didn't realize why I was in so much pain and incessant rumination trying to figure out what happened. I began to do what any anxiously attached person does, scan for signs of that I had done something wrong, that I would be abandoned. I would replay clips of sessions in my mind over and over trying to figure out if she cared about me or if she did not, there was evidence for both. I became increasingly attached, with the romantic transference which began to scare me because I knew I did not actually know her as a person, I had no idea if she was a bad person who manipulated me into attaching to her or if this was a healthy attachment. It became so overwhelming, she became my first thought in the morning, and my last thought at night. My heart longed for her in a way that it never longed for anyone in my life and my mind was paranoid and anxious of how this happened, and was distrustful of my therapist. She knew though that I liked her, I know because in a later session she began to discuss romantic relationships, and I bit my lip and looked down and I could hear her say "it must be so painful to not be able tell a friend you like them", and then we moved on to the next topic and the moment was over.
In one of our last sessions, I confronted her about how discussing her other client's "flaws'' caused me so much anxiety. She immediately became defensive and went into explanation mode instead of acknowledging the issue and did not apologize for how her action unintentionally hurt me. This broke so much trust in me, how can I feel comfortable in a space where rupture and repair is handled so badly, I just felt unsafe and hurt. The attachment grew, I think shaming myself for it worsened it, I began to to think of her and the complicated love and hate I had for her. I was never present in my life, I could be out with friends, at a concert, at dinner, and I would just find myself slipping into my mind, replaying, reliving, trying to hunt for clues for an explanation. I blamed myself for sending the song, I hated that I became so attached to someone who made me feel so unsafe, who I had felt tricked me into the attachment. I don't know if she intentionally meant to do it or not, I don't think so, but I cannot be sure. In the meanwhile, my anxiety snowballed out of control, I had never been so dissociative, and socially anxious in my entire life, my mind felt like a prison. It felt like all of my trauma, anxiety, stress, social anxiety was coming to the surface after years of it being underwater. I didn’t feel like myself
In our very last session, I couldn't hold it in any longer, and told her everything, told her how terrified I was because of the attachment. I mustered up the courage to finally tell her about the romantic transference and she freaked out and almost yelled “this is a therapeutic relationship (2X)”. I cried over her saying this so much. I could not believe that in the final moments of a fact she knew, and I knew that she shamed me. I was so distraught about it, every time I thought about it, I cried. And after I told her all the pain I had been in, she said “So you learned nothing in the past few weeks” because I had said how much I worried what she thought of me and we had been trying to work on trying to move away from external validation. I could not again believe she made such a huge generalization, I had learned so much, but my attachment was causing me an insane sense of anxiety, and her actions (also a medication that I was on was also adding to the anxiety). We had then redrawn a new plan for therapy - something that would be more step by step, laying down self-compassion first which would have been more helpful.
I ended up having an argument with my father and started to have racing thoughts of wanting her to protect me, and her holding me. I panicked because of how unnatural it felt to have her in my mind, wanting her to protect me. I wrote her an email withdrawing as a client, thanking her for all the lessons I learned and how much the attachment scared me, and how I had flashing thoughts of her wanting to save me when I was arguing with my dad.
For the week after, I missed her like I had never missed anyone in my life. I had somehow made something like a core attachment to her, and felt like a dying child. I woke up in the middle of the night with my heart literally feeling like it would burst out of my body. I then began to do some very intense inner child work, she was in a horrific amount of pain and really longed for my therapist. After hours of work, over the days, I was able to reconnect with her in a way I was never able to. I reassured her that I was there to protect her and love her, and honestly I had so much distrust in myself that she didn’t believe me, but I did end up creating a bond with her. At least in this horrible experience, I was able to come back to myself. I am still recovering from it, but my anxiety is down and I am so much more aware of my thoughts. I feel very conscious that I am not my thoughts, but just an observer experiencing them, but of course I have good and bad days too.
But still I missed her, we had such a good bond, and honestly she became the one of the most important people in my life for the last 4 months. I could easily say I loved her the way that a client could love a therapist. I was heartbroken for weeks to lose that bond, all of her stories, all of the kindness, all of our jokes, I missed her so much. The thought of healing without out shook me to my core, I truly had built such an intense bond with her. I was in so much pain, crying out of nowhere, and angry for her behavior. Angry that she couldn’t take accountability, and sad that I now felt it was hard to trust her. And just upset that the situation had to spiral this far.
I realized, I had hope still, maybe we could work through it, maybe she apologized, and I could apologize and we could start over and move past this. I ended up sending an email requesting that I come back as a client but honestly told her that I don’t trust her, but felt we could hopefully repair that trust. And requested that she take accountability and that I would too. In response, she terminated me as a client and told me it was because “I was no longer benefitting from the modality that she practices”, and offered me 1 more session to discuss the “transition” to a new therapist. And told me she would send my files and explain my situation to another therapist.
I have been in utter chaos for the last few weeks, feeling every emotion you could think of in its extremes. Words could not describe the anguish I had been in. I feel completely abandoned and lost and confused. I still think about her every minute of every day. I am honestly unsure of how to face this situation. A part of me wants to cry, another wants to yell at her and not hold back on all the ways she hurt me. Another part wants to update her on all the good progress that I’ve made, and yet another part wants to send her a cold professional “thank you” email and put this horrible situation behind me. I feel so numb now, unable to choose what to do, unable to know if meeting her for the last time will give me any closure. Afraid that this therapist's wound will affect my life. And unable to stop thinking about her. I just went in to heal, that's all I wanted. I wanted to heal so that I could have happy, healthy relationships in my adult life unlike my parents before me. And all I feel is hurt, abandoned by the one person I felt safe with for the first time in years. I need help and any advice that you have. Thank you again :)

Dear everyone,
Someone or multiple people in our house has been dumping plastic, e-waste, glas and metal in paper container.
Subsequently, our house has an issue with the containers sometimes not being emptied due to I guess faulty sorting. They go missing or are left on the street by the city trash company unemptied.
Every time I go take the trash out there are plastic bags and other crap in the paper containers. I usually just re-sort them, but today after emptying two big boxes full of toys and kids electronics my inner Karen snapped, I guess.
How to go about this without sounding/behaving like a total Karen or one of the people from /aberBitteLaminiert? I am not confrontational and as someone who is a foreigner, feel extra stupid complaining to my German neighbors about their trash.
I accidentally found out the name of today's dumper neighbor too, because they had thrown away postcards along with the trash I took off the paper containers today. I didn't go through the trash or intend to snoop, but the ton was half full of the crap starting from the bottom, and I had to tilt the insides out to be able to take the non-Pappe away from the ton. Then when it spread all over and I gathered it to the original toy boxes they dumped them in, I saw the recipient in one of the postcards.
After some googling, also a person's trash is something that falls within the privatesphere. So over all this seems like a delicate situation. Also dumping just a bunch of kids stuff erratically to a wrong container could be some kind of crisis and I don't want to worsen somebody's state with my karening, if it indeed were.
Tips? Is printing out the local trash guide and putting it in their postbox passive aggressive? I don't like the aspect of leaving a note on the hallway, cause it feels a bit humiliating. I don't have much contact with the Hausverwaltung, because unlike most people in the house, I am not their tenant, and I also don't want to get anyone in trouble.

Hi,
I am a 27 y/o female diagnosed with a small umbilical hernia in Feb 2024 - I am in very good, athletic shape. I coach and take fitness classes (HIIT, spin, yoga, barre) totaling about two hours of activity a day, every day). I was putting off getting the surgery as I rely heavily on my fitness career and taking the time off sucks, but the pain has been getting worse and I have started to modify in my own workouts and coaching now. I have the surgery scheduled for July 2024. Surgery is laparoscopic where she will close up the hernia and place a mesh.
I am looking for advice for both pre and post-op recovery as it seems there is not too much online for people in my demographic. I know most of these questions should go to my surgeon but she is, at this time, playing it safe just telling me to plan on being in LOTS of pain after...
My thoughts pre-op are to stay in tip top shape and keep up with full body exercises, working out up until the day before surgery (is working out the day before surgery a good idea, or do I take a rest day?). After surgery I am planning on taking 3 full weeks off of coaching. Can I be prepared to start getting back to body weight movement, spin, coaching classes without using weights, after the 3 weeks? Specifically with taking yoga classes, if anyone has advice, I anticipate a longer recovery but how long may that be? Think torso twisting movements, camel pose, etc.
And, I am wondering how should I be eating in preparation for surgery, and after? I track macros and not sure if I should be consuming the same as I would be for rest days or workout days while I recover (I use an app called Macrostax). I figure I won't be too hungry right after but should I be stocking up on tons of protein shakes, etc to ensure I am hitting my macros? I am not a stickler with nutrition but more so want to make sure I'm properly fueled to maximize recovery!
I would very much appreciate any advice from athletic folks who have gone through this!! Thanks in advance.

I'm worried about my rank and my grades toward the end of junior year and that I started a lot of my ECs in junior year.
Academics

• Rank: Top 13% (approx), unranked (Grades fell was initially top 8.4%)
  
• SAT/ACT: 1510 SAT + 35 ACT.
  
• Courses: AP Physics I, AP Chemistry, AP English Literature, AP Calculus AB (Junior). AP Psychology, AP Physics C, AP Calculus BC, English Literature.
  
• AP Scores (So far): AP Human Geography: 5, AP World History: 4, AP Biology: 4.
  

ECs

• Research paper published (low-end journal) + arXiv preprint - ML Paper (Started March 2023).
  
• Research Internship @ Texas Tech University - EEG data analytics for 6-7 months (Started February 2024).
  
• Research Internship @ UT - Conducting IoT project w/ graduate student help.
  
• Nonprofit Co-Founder - News feature for created mobile app + various advertising.
  
• Research paper - possibly may receive preprint - theoretical comp sci homomorphic encryption
  
• ML Project - demonstrating generative AI capabilities with hemophilia risk rate.
  
• Varsity basketball team for 3 years + Varsity soccer team for 2 years.
  

Awards (not very good)

• Won a small biology competition in Austin
  
• Deca international competition (ICDC) qualifier
  
• HOSA state qualifier
  
• All state for contrabass violin (junior year) + one year region band
  

I would most likely apply for applied mathematics but I ended up having my lowest grade of the year in physics with an 82 as well as an 87 in anatomy class for two semesters, but I had a 95 in physics during my first semester. I began to miss a lot of school during the second semester because I got sick a lot and so my grades went down. This year I've had mostly 91s to 96s with the exception of physics but in past years ive had an average gpa of 96.8 and higher. This is why I'm mostly worried if I should apply for applied mathematics considering my lowest grade was at one point in a mathematics class. I am hoping for some advice on how to approach this and if I should apply for a different major, I don't mind doing ECE or SDS.

Hey guys, long time no post!
To start, I am not exactly a reviewer, but The Thousand-Year Door is like my #1 game, and has been for a long, long time.
So of course the remake being announced completely floored me, back in 2023. I was among likely thousands of people with tears in their eyes upon getting to the end of that fateful Direct, recognizing the first notes of that music and screaming in disbelieving joy before the black screen had a chance to show the storybook.
I rode a wave of excitement and eagerness and explosive anticipation for all the long months before May 23rd, 2024.
When I got my hands on it I was so excited I was shaking and could barely get the plastic off the box hahaha I'm sure lots relate to that.
The game started up and just couldn't stop gushing. From the first screen I was yelling about the music, the look, the feel, the animations~~~ My emotional state was euphoric to the point of tears, which sounds dramatic because I am. I stared at everything as I went by, hopping and giggling along with my little brother, who's sitting in on my playthrough. Oh, and of course gasping and shouting "BACK SPRITE" when one popped up. We've been doing some silly voice-acting(and really getting into it!) and it's just made it such a special and wonderful experience.
There's so much to happy dance about and little, for me personally, to complain over!
Backtracking reduction, lighting, resizing game components, editing item locations, adding new things to discover-
As a longtime player of The Thousand-Year Door I can't tell you how many times I went crazy out of my mind just over the simple fact that there were some items moved around from what I remembered. I've 100% the game a dozen times and I was just so shocked.
But that brings me to the changes that are a little weird/bad for me *whomp whomp* Those being...Text changes. No, not dialogue, but the speed you had in the original and also the option to GO BACK to PREVIOUS text...Oh how I miss it :( RIP to the cute little hearts haha The speed overall for the game has seen a bit of a decline, including riding Yoshi because his little acceleration period feels more awkward.(Or in my case, Sora because of his sky-like/cloud coloring. I never saw white Yoshi as white, I saw him as sky-blue lmao) But I'm not actually that miffed about that <3 The Strange Sack- Okay what the hell tho, it was a gamechanger when it doubled your inventory but now it feels so meh- I hightailed it to the Pit for Pine T's trouble(that's when I always just go ahead and get the Strange Sack) and I was looking for the same situation of doubling your inventory but...eh. It doesn't hit the same now >:/ FPS? I don't know enough about it to be mad, but that's something I am sympathetic towards for the ones who were disappointed. I don't personally understand or have a problem but I will say I'm sorry guys. It's an amazing experience though, so I hope you still play because you deserve to see the game in this iteration.
The partners....My babies- yes, even Bobbery and Flurrie are my babies, even though they're so grown lol...I felt like this reintroduction was like greeting an old friend- and then suddenly finding out they can do a triple backhand spring! I enjoyed them so much, and I was pointing and squeeing with every little silly text change and new animations for them all. Goombella's still sassy, even with some *ahem* "controversial changes"(don't get me started, how is the enjoyment of the game hindered even a smidge by some changes and tweaks like that? Who enjoys a little Goomba girl getting harassed like that so much that they boycott a game? lol) I've noticed a TON of little dialogue tweaks and aside from me pointing at them and going "OOH OOH, DIFFERENCE" there's no probs here~
Goombella has always had the most text, so I feel like she has about the most personality because of how much we see her talk and opine about the world and the people in it- so she's always been just so great to me~ When you spend so much time with someone's dialogue, it just so happens to allow you to feel like you know them so much better, so I think that's why a lot of people adore her! You spend about the most time with her on a technicality, but they've done a great job in not making it feel like just complete handholding most of the time lol Appreciated that always. I think it's a tad more handholdy in the remake, but eh, another just eeny-meeny-teeny issue that I don't need to go up in arms over bc I can deal lol
Koops actually gives a little marker to help with depth perception issues when you have to move around(extremely needed, my depth perception is like an infant's lol)
Flurrie's ability, in my opinion, while feeling also a smidge slower, is improved! Seems less finicky to me, idk! Smoother to do!
Sora, as I said earlier, lil' awkward on the starting run but idc too much as it's minute, but I noticed it.
Vivian. Vi-VI-ANNNN~ How stinking CUTE does her ability sound in the overworld now~? So cute lmfao. Her dialogue changes stood out to me, and y'all probably know why. Y'all, I am so sappy and such an advocate for people getting to discover and identify as how they truly want and are meant to be. So glad to see it upfront about her where it's so plain and clear <3 She is here and she is amazing. Now, in HD, everybody and everyone can FINALLY SEE THAT SHE HAS PINK HAIR. Forget about the awesomely lovely graphics updates to the environments- Vivian fans finally see hair and not a nose hee hee hee
Bobbery is hardly changed and that's certainly no complaint! Nailed it, and he gets WHOOSHED into the air when Mario throws him. I feel like he gets so much HIGHER now! XD
Ms. Mowz I wanna shout out because of how cute she sounds just sniffing about. She's always just been so cute <3
Did I mention how much I love the additional animation sprites yet? No? Anyways, Jolene and her notebook, Flavio singing, plus all the angry and shocked expressions are a highlight for sure lmfaooooo
Y'all. The Pipe Room^TM. I LOVE ittttt. While some of the designs around the pipe indicating the areas are hit or miss(ADD ROSES TO POSHLEY HEIGHTS ONE, I LOVE THE ROSE BUSHES IN THAT COMMUNITY), the fact that the room is a thing is a small miracle. Would it have been the end of the world to keep it the same? Is this change the most amazing thing to happen in gaming? I mean no but...C'MONNNN, major issue fixed! That pipe in Twilight Town just being in that house with no pomp and circumstance is funny, but funny weird not funny clown. Love that it's there tho. That house just had nothing going for it originally so good for it. Good for it.
Y'all. They added cinematics. Y'all I was cackling so much. Unironically, they go so hard. I was giddy with giggles.
NEW BOSS TOO??? YOU CAN GET YOURSELF FREAKING BEAT THE HELL UP BY A SUPER SAIYAN TOAD??? I didn't expect it, but a whole new boss fight? I love Mush. He's amazing. I had to try four times before I won. He's a great addition. Out of everything I didn't expect them to just add a new boss like that.(FRICK YOUR DEFENSE BY THE WAY)
I am having the time of my life. My childhood is here, shiny wrapping paper and all, improved and adorable and touching and absolutely just a gorgeous experience. AND I'M NOT EVEN DONE YET. I just wanted to come and gush about the game because it means the world to me. Congratulations on being so beloved that you got your very own remake, Thousand-Year Door! <3
If you read all this, thank you lol It's fun to talk about it and stuff. IF you want a TL;DR: TTYD REMAKE GOOD AS HELL. A lil slow. BUT GOOD AS HELLLLLLLLLL

My (22M) brother (32M) is having a really bad time, since he ended his career (Industrial Engineer) when he was 25, he has been taking some bad decisions thought his lifetime.
When he graduated, he got the best grade of his generations, he was an honorable student, in one of the most prestigios Universities of Mexico (it was pretty expensive for my parents to maintain it)
He went to Prague to study a diploma, the he came back to Mexico, and we all thought that he was going to have a great job… or at least start some projects or doing something.
Well he took a year off from everything, just to wait a friend who was going to start a new car repairestoration studio.
Well, a year pass, and yeah, they started to work together, he worked there for like 4 years, he was doing good, he bought a great car, he was growing as a person (he was still living with my parents and me).
Then, he wanted to stop working, because he hate to have a boss, so he wanted to start his own design business…
Well, he quit, he started to spend his money, he also sell his car, and time pass…
Now, he lives with my parent (my parents divorced in the process, I know it can be hard to swallow, but he was already 28 years old, not a kid who can not process a divorce) and all the day the only thing he does is smoking weed and listening to music.
I do not fucking know how in some years, he had a pretty great future ahead, and now he earn NO MONEY, he do not want to work, and he just smoke weed all day.
I do not know how to help him, we have a good relationship, I have been talking about depression for a year with him, he only tells me… “I am not going to be like this forever, I just want to live”
But now he is so skinny, he does not eat, and he does not have any dream…
Does anybody can give me some advice??
Edit 1: I am not demonizing weed, but there is far difference between smoking weed and being productive, and smoking weed and just being lost all day. I smoke, but there I know when and where, it should not be consume your life like this.

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See you on karlssonSMP! ✨🚀

Welcome to karlssonSMP! ✨
What started in late August 2023 by a couple of friends who decided to invite new players turned into a fun and small community of like-minded players, our goal is to make it feel like you're just playing with friends.
At karlssonSMP our priority is to maintain the essence of the original game by preserving its vanilla aspects. However, we've implemented a few quality of life datapacks to ensure a smoother experience for all players.
🎥 Seeking Content Creators: For the upcoming season, we are particularly interested in streamers and other content creators! If you create Minecraft content, we would love to have you join our community and share your adventures on karlssonSMP.
⏩ Apply here: Discord
⚔️ Enhanced Gameplay: Experience the best of both worlds with vanilla gameplay complemented by carefully selected quality-of-life datapacks. Dive into a seamless gaming experience with features like custom armor statues for personalized aesthetics, mini blocks for intricate builds, anti-grief measures against creepers and endermen, player head drops upon vanquishing opponents, their heads will now serve as trophies and more mob heads where mobs have a chance of dropping their head.

• Multiplayersleep
• Hermitcraft inspired
• Shopping district
• Squaremap
• Respectful and fun members
• 10k World border
• Map reset every 6 months (S3 begins when version 1.21 is released!)

You can find out more information about the server and its datapacks on our discord!
🚫 Zero Tolerance Policy: Enjoy a safe and fair gaming environment with strict rules against stealing, cheating, and griefing. Our community upholds integrity and respect for all players, ensuring a fun and enjoyable experience for everyone.
🔒 Server Details: Our Java Edition server runs on PaperMC and is located in Europe, ensuring a smooth gameplay. Currently, we are on version 1.20.4.
⏩ How to Join:
Applying is easy! Simply hop onto our discord server and submit your application. Join a community of like-minded gamers and become part of the karlssonSMP family. We welcome all players, from casual builders to hardcore survivalists.
See you on karlssonSMP! ✨🚀

Welcome to karlssonSMP! ✨
What started in late August 2023 by a couple of friends who decided to invite new players turned into a fun and small community of like-minded players, our goal is to make it feel like you're just playing with friends.
At karlssonSMP our priority is to maintain the essence of the original game by preserving its vanilla aspects. However, we've implemented a few quality of life datapacks to ensure a smoother experience for all players.
🎥 Seeking Content Creators: For the upcoming season, we are particularly interested in streamers and other content creators! If you create Minecraft content, we would love to have you join our community and share your adventures on karlssonSMP.
⏩ Apply here: Discord
⚔️ Enhanced Gameplay: Experience the best of both worlds with vanilla gameplay complemented by carefully selected quality-of-life datapacks. Dive into a seamless gaming experience with features like custom armor statues for personalized aesthetics, mini blocks for intricate builds, anti-grief measures against creepers and endermen, player head drops upon vanquishing opponents, their heads will now serve as trophies and more mob heads where mobs have a chance of dropping their head.

• Multiplayersleep
• Hermitcraft inspired
• Shopping district
• Squaremap
• Respectful and fun members
• 10k World border
• Map reset every 6 months (S3 begins when version 1.21 is released!)

You can find out more information about the server and its datapacks on our discord!
🚫 Zero Tolerance Policy: Enjoy a safe and fair gaming environment with strict rules against stealing, cheating, and griefing. Our community upholds integrity and respect for all players, ensuring a fun and enjoyable experience for everyone.
🔒 Server Details: Our Java Edition server runs on PaperMC and is located in Europe, ensuring a smooth gameplay. Currently, we are on version 1.20.4.
⏩ How to Join:
Applying is easy! Simply hop onto our discord server and submit your application. Join a community of like-minded gamers and become part of the karlssonSMP family. We welcome all players, from casual builders to hardcore survivalists.
See you on karlssonSMP! ✨🚀

Welcome to karlssonSMP! ✨
What started in late August 2023 by a couple of friends who decided to invite new players turned into a fun and small community of like-minded players, our goal is to make it feel like you're just playing with friends.
At karlssonSMP our priority is to maintain the essence of the original game by preserving its vanilla aspects. However, we've implemented a few quality of life datapacks to ensure a smoother experience for all players.
🎥 Seeking Content Creators: For the upcoming season, we are particularly interested in streamers and other content creators! If you create Minecraft content, we would love to have you join our community and share your adventures on karlssonSMP.
⏩ Apply here: Discord
⚔️ Enhanced Gameplay: Experience the best of both worlds with vanilla gameplay complemented by carefully selected quality-of-life datapacks. Dive into a seamless gaming experience with features like custom armor statues for personalized aesthetics, mini blocks for intricate builds, anti-grief measures against creepers and endermen, player head drops upon vanquishing opponents, their heads will now serve as trophies and more mob heads where mobs have a chance of dropping their head.

• Multiplayersleep
• Hermitcraft inspired
• Shopping district
• Squaremap
• Respectful and fun members
• 10k World border
• Map reset every 6 months (S3 begins when version 1.21 is released!)

You can find out more information about the server and its datapacks on our discord!
🚫 Zero Tolerance Policy: Enjoy a safe and fair gaming environment with strict rules against stealing, cheating, and griefing. Our community upholds integrity and respect for all players, ensuring a fun and enjoyable experience for everyone.
🔒 Server Details: Our Java Edition server runs on PaperMC and is located in Europe, ensuring a smooth gameplay. Currently, we are on version 1.20.4.
⏩ How to Join:
Applying is easy! Simply hop onto our discord server and submit your application. Join a community of like-minded gamers and become part of the karlssonSMP family. We welcome all players, from casual builders to hardcore survivalists.
See you on karlssonSMP! ✨🚀

• during this week's Dynamite, The Patriarchy come out for a promo. Christian is heelish, albeit a lot less so, humble in defeat. Bullet Club Gold interrupt, and Jay says he USED to respect Christian as a fellow villain, but doesn't anymore, since he's become a loser. Jay asks Killswitch and Nick Wayne why are they hanging out with a guy who lost 2 big title matches in a row, a guy who has nothing left to teach them. Juice and Gunns chime in with jokes, but Jay gets angry, admonishing them for not taking this seriously. Christian tells Jay he better be careful who he makes an enemy out of, because he just might regret it.
  
• out of this, Bullet Club War Dogs invade AEW, and challenge Bullet Club Gold to an Eight Man Tag Team Elimination Match at Forbidden Door - losing group must stop using the Bullet Club name !! In the end, Jay is left all alone with David Finlay, and The Rebel pins his former best friend clean with The Overkill. Afterwards, Jay stops Finlay from exiting the ring, and gives him a Two Sweet, as a passing of the torch.
  
• Patriarchy vs the now-officially-renamed Bang Bang Gang feud kicks off with a couple inter-stable matches; Jay gets disqualified against Killswitch for trying to break his arm, Gunns defeat Wayne and Killswitch, and Christian defeats Juice after 2 Unprettiers to send a message. Since The Patriarchy won the stable warfare matches 2-1, Cage makes a challenge - if him and his boys beat Juice and Gunns in a Trios Match, then they'll get a shot at the actual titles. Patriarchy ends up winning, with Cage pinning Colten, but then after the match a brawl ensues. In the middle of the chaos, Jay gets into Mother Wayne's face... AND HITS HER WITH BLADE RUNNER!!
  
• furious that Switchblade put his hands on his mom, Nick Wayne challenges Jay to a singles match, despite his stable advising him against it. The match does go down, and the kid gets some offense in, but in the end Jay ends up destroying him with 2 more unnecessary Blade Runners. A high-stakes match becomes mandatory at this point, so it gets signed - Patriarchy vs BBG in a Tornado Trios Match for the titles !! In the final moments, Juice ends up taking the bullet (pun intended) for Jay, eating a Spear through a table. Seconds later, Jay spins Christian around into a Blade Runner for the three. Story takes a turn, emphasizing how Cage got pinned for the third time in a title match for a third title.
  
• Jay's confidence sky-rockets, but Cage calls for them to throw out all the smoke and mirrors, so he makes a challenge - Cage vs White at All In, both Patriarchy and BBG are banned from ringside !! Jay takes a week or two to think about it, but he eventually accepts. The match goes down clean as a whistle, and in the end White wins clean, countering Cage's Corner Sunset Flip with a gorgeous Blade Runner. King Switch then declares that he's done with the has-been Christian, and that he'll focus on the Trios Division. Christian makes one last challenge for All Out - 2/3 Falls Style !! Christian says if he loses, he'll take time off to think about where he wants his career to go. Enticed by the offer, Jay accepts.
  
• Cage wins the first fall by countering a Sleeper Suplex into an Unprettier, while Jay wins the second fall by countering a Spear with Blade Runner. The match breaks down during the final fall, with Patriarchy and BBG brawling around ringside. Jay capitalizes by grabbing a chair, and he smashes Christian over the head with it to earn the final fall !! After the match, Jay grabs another chair and stacks it with the other one. Jay grabs a mic and says Cage's concussion issues are well known, so he'll make the career decision for him - he'll retire him right now by smashing the back of his head into the chairs !!! White goes to do it, but surprisingly, Juice and Gunns stop him, telling him that's too far. Jay looks shooketh, but then he calms down and the boys leave together.
  
• during the following Dynamite, Christian announces he's taking time off, but then out of nowhere Wayne and Killswitch turn on him, beating him down !! Jay is shown backstage watching the beatdown, looking ecstatic, while Juice and Gunns look perplexed. Bang Bang Gang make their return to the Trios division, making a couple successful defenses, as well as winning a feud against RVD and Top Flight. Their next set of challengers is a dream team of Darby Allin, Jeff Hardy, and Dustin Rhodes !! The big Six Man is set up for Wrestle Dream, and during its final moments, Jay tries to do to Dustin the exact same thing he tried against Cage, with Juice imploring him to stop. Out of nowhere, Darby flies into him with a Coffin Drop, smashing Switchblade into the chairs!! Dustin hits a Reckoning, and then tags Jeff for a Swanton - 1,2,3 !! New Trios Champions, as Jay is losing his mind..
  
• around this time, Christian Cage makes his return, taking out his former two proteges, sending Luchasaurus to be repackaged, and Wayne to Ring of Honor. Cage quickly shifts his attention to Bang Bang Gang, promising to destroy them. Unfortunately, nobody on the roster is willing to team with Cage due to his past transgressions, so BBG use that to beat him down every week. Finally, Jeff Hardy steps up to defend his former rival, and the two are soon joined by... GANGREL !! A gauntlet is thrown down for Full Gear - Bang Bang Gang vs Christian, Jeff, Gangrel... and the returning Adam Copeland of course !! In the finishing moments, Jay, for the 104848th time, gets those two chairs, attempting to cripple Cage, but once again Juice and Gunns stop him. Cage uses this to his advantage, hitting a low blow and then an Unprettier on top of the 2 chairs for the win!
  
• Copeland says now that Christian got his revenge, it's his turn to take a slice out of Switchblade. Copeland says that he sees a lot of himself in Jay, but he ain't passing the torch to him anytime soon, he'll only challenge him to a straight up singles match at World's End !! Surprisingly, Jay wins totally clean, but afterwards, we're greeted by the same tale - stacking chairs. Jay tries to do it to Cope, but BBG stop him again. In a moment of epiphany, Jay grabs the chair again... AND STARTS BRUTALIZING JUICE AND THE GUNNS !! Referees and security come down, but Switchblade is merciless, swinging at anything that moves. After another moment of clarity, Jay stacks the two chairs, and after months of teasing we finally see the move - he grabs Juice by the head, and smashes him into the two chairs !!! The crowd boo Jay mercilessly, as he sits on a chair with a soulless look in his eyes. With 2 clean wins over 2 legends and now the heartless destruction of his faction, Jay White is wrestling's most hated villain..
  

hi everyone!
new ish cat owner here - my little guy is 1 and we adopted him in March. He’s very chill and overall a great cat. We started having a problem with him scooting after he poops about a month after we got him. So i took him to the vet, no worms & he had his glands expressed Vet said that he probably is getting used to his new poop schedule vs being in a shelter sharing a litter box w multiple cats and was a little backed up.
After that he was good for a bit. Also, let me preface that he only scooted on hardwood floor at this point which obviously I assumed it was to clean up more after using the litter box. My partner and I also do wipe his butt with a warm paper towel after he poops since we’ve gotten him to avoid this. Fast forward, he progressed to scooting on the carpet which he never did before. I assumed since there is texture on the carpet he must be itchy. So back to vet again where his glands got expressed AGAIN this time there was nothing wrong. So i mentioned what if he’s itchy and then i got a cream for his butt which we apply weekly to not overdo it.
Now he has progressed to scooting on our couch. I am at a loss and don’t know how I can help him or what else to do. I applied ointment again because maybe he’s itchy but I also don’t want him scooting on the couch. I was hoping anyone has had this happen could give me insight. Any tips appreciated 🥲

I (23M) have ADHD and autism along with anxiety and a short list of mental health conditions. My partner (also 23M) has some mental health stuff himself. Overall I thought our relationship was good and healthy but lately I've been second guessing that at times.
Over the past few months we both started using 🍃🍃 to cope with physical pain as we both have our own health issues/damaged muscles. Something I've known as a smoker of said thing is that over time it greatly impacts my mental ability, I'm already a forgetful person but it makes it 4x worse. I admit I got carried away for a while because after a long day at work I just wanted to forget about the stress and laugh at silly videos with my partner. I've decided to quit all together for quite a while so my brain can recover. I won't lie, right now I basically have some symptoms of early alzheimers so I know it's frustrating to deal with at times but it's equally frustrating for me.
My partner can be a lovely, caring and sweet person. He makes me feel like I can do anything and am safe to do what I want or try to achieve my goals with him by my side. He makes me feel loved and appreciated.
My partner can also be rude, is constantly brutality honest and nit-picky. In the past this wasn't really an issue but over the past maybe 4 months it's become a point of unspoken contention between us.
Like I said I've become very forgetful, it's usually never anything big, things like I forgot to put something away or misplaced something, maybe I didn't realize the dogs had already been let out so I let them out again, etc. When my partner points out things I forgot I just go and put whatever it is away/fix whatever it is. When my partner forgets things like that on occasion I don't say anything, I just fix whatever it is without a second thought and move on. But when my partner finds something I forgot or didn't do right he tells me about it and that I need to fix it, then spends the next few minutes acting frustrated. He also calls me stupid or dumb when these things come up because how could I forget?
The past week or so it's finally become too much for me to be quiet over. Every time he finds something I get aggravated with his reaction, I react back in a frustrated way and then we're both frustrated with each other. I told him today I don't like being called stupid every day (hence why I've had an attitude with him) and he said I just need to stop forgetting things.
An example that happened the other day:
I was making him lunch and while I was already holding some food containers I put one of the bags on the counter. The counter hasn't been cleaned in a while but it wasn't like I put it on a mound of dirt, the bag was also sealed. I continued making the rest of the food, planning on putting the containers I was already holding away after I was done with them and then I'd grab the bag I needed from the counter. Still holding some of the other containers I walked across the kitchen to throw out a wrapper and my partner walked into the kitchen. He saw the bag on the counter and grabbed it, asking me why I'd put it on the counter. I said (still holding 2 or 3 containers) that I didn't have enough hands so I set it down while I finished the rest of the food. He then berated me about being stupid for putting it on the dirty counter and how he "wouldn't put up with this forever".
Today I told him that I love him but the way he's always getting after me is very frustrating and it's hard for me not to have a reaction to his reaction at this point. He said he loves me too but I'm "naturally dumb" so I'm therefore irritating to him. A bit after this he was annoyed that I was still upset over the comment (I was sitting silently instead of trying to make conversation) and asked why I was being a baby. Before letting me respond he said he actually didn't care and that he knew I wouldn't tell him why anyway. I told him I had already said exactly what was bothering me earlier.
He likes to get irritated after making me upset because I'm "being a baby" which is actually just me having feelings towards the way he spoke to me. Obviously I'm not going to be happy after being told I'm naturally dumb or stupid. Also hearing that from someone I love and want to be my husband makes me feel like shit and I hear it basically every day now.
My partner has some symptoms that feel like bipolar or just mood swings because he can go from asking me how I am/being excited that we get the day together to irritated as fuck over some minor thing like a door he wanted open being closed or I forgot to bring paper plates upstairs, you get the idea. I continually try to compromise on things with him, I myself am trying to better my memory and I'm currently on a waitlist for a neurologist because I've had memory issues for many years (not due to smoking). I'm a very patient and calm person but these past few days I've been feeling angry. Angry that the person I love can flip on a dime over something insignificant, something I wouldn't think twice about let alone let myself get worked up over.
My partner has never physically hurt me or anything but he's a very angry person. If one thing starts not going his way then his day is already ruined, when he gets especially mad at me he'll just go to sleep and leave me with my thoughts. He always talks about how he doesn't care and doesn't have patience but he does nothing to get better at it. In my opinion he's making himself miserable because he lets himself get so worked up. I know when to stop myself and take a breath, he doesn't.
I love him to death and I want us to stay together, but I need the person he is half the time to be present nearly all the time. Should I approach him about this? Should I just give it time and see if my own mental betterment helps him regulate himself too?
He can be the most amazing and supportive person, it's just as soon as he's mad I feel like I can't do anything right.

It's a book from the 50s about an American man who moves to Paris and has a love affair with another man named Giovanni. From the beginning, you know that the story will end in tragedy, but the book is about how that plays out and the forces that leads to it. I honestly wasn't really expecting to like it that much- I don't normally read older books, and I especially avoid classics because I kind of assume I'll be let down because surely they can't live up to their hype. But as soon as I started reading, I was hooked and finished it in just a day.
It has this really emotional, gripping writing style that sucked me in. It ties together things we think of as opposites- hatred and love, joy and tragedy, beauty and ugliness- and shows that they are in fact inseparable. There's so many lines that just punched me in the gut and astounded me at how relatable and profound it was.
I thought the main character's arc was so fascinating. It's slowly revealed how empty of a person he is. He's so alienated and aimless, with no real passions or goals. He's terrified of his own sexuality, he wants freedom but he abhors it at the same time, he wants to be able to go home but he doesn't want to go home. He regrets his mistakes yet can't help but repeat them. He resents all the older men in his life (his father, Jacques, Guillame) and yet knows he will either die young or become one of them. He doesn't really love people, he just wants to fill the hole inside of him. I think this is supposed to be a commentary on youth in general, which is still very salient today.
The backdrop of Giovanni's room itself had a claustrophobic feeling, with Giovanni's constant and fruitless renovation projects symbolizing failed hopes and lack of direction. I also think the uncleanliness of the room is linked to David's feeling of his own sexuality being unclean. The tension between dirtiness and cleanliness is a constant motif. There's some generally very fascinating commentary on queerness, repression, intimacy, class, etc that I could write several papers on (if I had the time and energy). Would definitely love to hear other people's thoughts on this. And if you haven't read the book I'd highly recommend it.

this is long, I know, but for 20 years I've told nobody about this and it's been eating me alive.
My dad is generally very abusive towards my mom both physically and emotionally, and her being an immigrant who married him and left her career behind to be a mom made her unable to retaliate or even leave the marriage due to the financial chokehold my dad had on us. Divorce is also very taboo in our culture, which led to my mom never telling her family about anything that had happened until very recently; even now, she has only told them bits and pieces out of sheer desperation after my dad called them and spent hours manipulating them with sob stories about how he just can't live with such a "demanding, arrogant woman" but was only doing so "for the kids". Scratch that, because he has now made it his "demanding, arrogant family", including me (20F) and my sister (8F).
I was born shortly after my parents got married (an arranged marriage) and my dad spent hours on the phone with my grandad when my mom was pregnant with me, where my grandad would make up ridiculous stories about how my mom's family had "disrespected" them and how that made them horrible people. This was clearly to rile up my dad, who would then get physically and emotionally abusive with my mom, yelling at her and even strangling her while she was pregnant.
I grew up with my dad acting the same way towards my mom, but with him showering praise and love on me (only through his words), all the while slipping in a few details about how my mom was irrational and crazy but he was so much better and how she had manipulated him into making ridiculous sacrifices for her (taking her to the doctor when she was sick). I grew up with my mom yelling at me and even cursing at me for the simplest accidents and mistakes, going on and on about how every other child was good but she'd been cursed with me and how i didn't fear her enough. She'd rarely come back and apologize or make fun of me for crying - I could never find a pattern. While all of this is wrong on her part, I can't help but notice how a stranger abusing you all the time and treating you like trash while you toil away as a housewife thousands of miles away from any family and forbidden by that man from having friends would break your mind to at least that degree.
My dad never bought me or my mom anything that would give us happiness; not out of poverty (he made good money) but purely because he would lie saying that he was broke while sending his lazy family thousands of dollars every month.
He would claim that things like theme parks were too expensive for birthdays to which i would beg to go to a Chuck E Cheese's, which he would also claim was too expensive for him to afford, going on speeches abut how I had to be "more understanding of how daddy is struggling to make ends meet." He never got me any toys past the age of 3, not even ones from the dollar store. He also never got me a barbie doll despite me begging for years.
I was also forbidden from having any friends, going to birthday parties/sleepovers because "if you go to their parties you have to buy presents, which we can't afford, and you'll also need to throw a party for your birthday, which we can't afford either." It got to the point where when a girl miraculously wanted to be my friend and would come ring my doorbell to go play with her, I would be told to stay silent and pretend nobody was home. I never had any video games growing up, and never had the experience of waking up on christmas/my birthday and unwrapping presents or even having someone get me anything at all. We never even went to restaurants - fast food chains were a biannual event. I never went out to buy pretty clothes ever - i was lucky to go clothes-shopping once a year at walmart. I didn't need much clothes or shoes since i never went out anyway. All i would buy were uniforms for the public school i went to. We never even had nice furniture, because who gives a shit when nobody is coming to our house anyway. He complained about the 1000 he spent on a sofa once our decade-old one was withering, also claiming that to be an example of how my momn was an exorbitant spender.
We went to Disney and Seaworld once each when i was 3-4, and my dad decided that was it. These were simply experiences for him to show other people pictures of to prove that he was a wonderful dad.
As a family of 3 whose idea of a grand excursion was walmart superstore and a child who would act like she had won the lottery if her dad got her a ring pop, he'd claim he spent about 5k a month in "expenses" and also had a 20k credit card debt by the time I was 9. His yearly compensation was about 70k after taxes at this point, but both me and my mom knew that asking him about this would lead to him being more abusive, so we never did.
By the time i turned 10, i was lonely, depressed, and suicidal. Puberty was hitting me and it just made all my emotions worse. I didn't know how to word these emotions as I was too young but I knew I wanted a pet, which was forbidden. So I asked for a sibling. My mom had told me she planned on another child, and I told myself that a sibling would solve my problems. I wouldn't be bored or sad because I'd have a partner for the rest of my life. I was told I can never go to therapy for burnout/suicidal thoughts because "what would people think if they somehow found out my daughter had seen a shrink?"
I love my sister, but I sometimes wish she weren't here so that I could just end it without having to think about her future. Selfish, I know, but she is the only reason I never went through with any of my suicide attempts. I love her to pieces and I would never forgive myself if I left her alone with my two parents to become what I have.
I've moved out and live at college. I don't work, my dad gives me an allowance each month because he "doesn't want his precious girl working at a fast-food joint". In reality, he knows it would reflect poorly on him now that he earns 6 figures a year working from home. I'm 20 now, and I still struggle from time-to-time with accepting that I deserve to have little things that make me happy. I deserve to buy a trinket that I think is cute. I'm allowed to go to a burger place again the next day because I liked it. No, your life is not going to crumble because you bought a pair of jeans despite having a pair. No, sustaining yourself doesn't really cost 2000 dollars a month.
Looking back now, I can't ever remember a time when I was any less mature than I am now. It's like I told myself when I was 6 or something that I had to be an adult who didn't prioritize happiness or fun because those were luxuries. Growing up I'd hear people say "you're so mature for your age" and I would feel proud of myself, but i know see that all of that was actually not a good thing at all.
Me moving out means that my sister is unfortunately alone at home with my two parents. My mom has kind of come around after years of me explaining how she was not being a good parent, but still gets angry at accidents without thinking. My dad is still abusive. I suggested they get my sister a nintendo switch so that she has something to do - she's been saying that she's inexplicably anxious all the time and has trouble relaxing, and I know that the cost is something we can definitely afford. My dad spent the next hour yelling about how i was asking too much of him and how we were all conspiring against him and how he "can't kill himself for us" because IF the device malfunctions, my sister would "cry asking for another one". My sister, who was jumping up-and-down in excitement when I suggested the switch, held back tears as she told me she didn't want it anymore and that it was okay. That's when I broke.
I see my sister being denied the little joys of life and tricking herself into thinking she doesn't need to have nice things gives me immeasurable rage and sadness. She's becoming me. She's becoming a shell of a girl, one who gets praised for "never asking for things" and being "disciplined". One who will grow up with absolutely no childhood at all because she was never allowed to be one. This happened at 10am today. It's 1pm as i type this and i'm still choking back tears. I can't believe I can't save her. I hope that in 1 more year when i graduate I can go no contact with him and take my sister with me wherever I go. My dad has started telling my sister in private that I am a horrible big sister to her and that i'll drain him of money and abandon her too once I get a job, which thank god, she didn't fall for. I don't know what to do until then.

I'm a rising college senior and while I should be having an internship, I didn't really put too much effort into finding one for this summer.
Other than being lazy, I was feeling burnt out from the school year, and I enjoy being home for the summer. I started a remote internship in March of this year (10 hours per week), that I'll be continuing through September. I also am doing the same part time job I did last summer, but it's only anywhere from 10 to 25 hours a week. This is fine by me as it gives me time to train for a triathlon I'm doing.
My sister just got home, interviewed somewhere, and got hired, but she's working like 44 hours a week, which means she's never home which is kind of a bummer because this is the first summer in a while we've been home together (we're about the same age); honestly, I'm slightly ticked because she just got the first job she interviewed at without fully realizing how many hours a week it would be and it kind of digs into some of the plans me and my family made. Don't get me wrong; I'm happy for her, but she's just working a lot. I know I need to start growing up and actually think about a career. It's possible I might also volunteer or shadow somewhere to apply some skills I learned during the school year (I just got EMT certified).
Any advice? I have friends still interviewing for stuff, but my hours are all over the place, so I don't think I'll be able to find another job on top of the things I already have, unless I just volunteer somewhere.

I have a bit of a concern here, especially after few conversations with my friends telling me, that I am overreacting. Allow me to explain first.
I have known M since last year, and as I found out within few months back, he broken up with his girlfriend. So we chatted as friends, knowing him more via "persona he had created" I started to fancy him a bit. So I decided to invite him out for a coffee back in March.
We went on 4 dates (he was asking me out as well). And after last date he kissed me twice. Then he ghosted me for an entire week, showed no initiative, so I decided to remain silent. In the end I blocked him.
I had one of my social media accounts locked for a 4 weeks, and once I unlocked it, he has sent me over there a paragraph length message that he ghosted me, it was awkward to not say anything, basically roasted me for my personality, said we are incompatible, humiliated me with polite words usage, and then proposed to be friends, referring to his ex.
I did not responded, so I blocked him everywhere on social media, was bit sad, carried on with work, gym, studies - generally speaking my life. Dating him gave me couple of red flags (example: sometimes he said he dumped his ex, sometimes he said she dumped him, sometimes he did not wanted to talk about things related to any ex, whenever he said one story, a bit later he said different one about same thing, so things were not adding up; for me it's red flag here). So the last time we had any contact was around 14th this month.
Recently long weekend took the place, so I stayed at home, studied, did not stepped outside due to my online uni classes. My housemate informed me that he found weirdly looking envelope (on Monday) in our mailbox dedicated to me.
Envelope was not addressed, there were no stamp, no seal, nothing. Just my full name written on it.
When I opened the letter, there was piece of paper looking like ripped of from notebook, with weird cypher written on it. In some sort of maybe symbols like from games, sigils, fiction, coding. No idea. I decided to upload it online and mentioned that it looks to me like a prank. Since I am non English person, I used some online community related to my nationality. Someone responded pretty fast within few hours decoding this to me. Deciphered letter states this:
"[HERE IS MY FULL NAME]
IF I RECALL CORRECTLY YOU PREFER TO RECEIVE YOUR APOLOGIES IN THE OLD WAYS
THE LACK OF COMMUNICATION WAS NOT ACCEPTABLE
I AM TRULY SORRY FOR HURTING YOUR FEELINGS
I AM NOT ASKING TO BE FORGIVEN
I JUST HOPE THAT YOU ARE OK AND WISH FOR YOU ONLY THE BEST IN YOUR LIFE.
PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
[HERE IS GOOD NIGHT WORD IN MY NATIVE LANGUAGE]"
In a meantime I was writing with my family member, they said to me - Hey maybe that is THIS GUY? - which I doubted at first. But based on language used above, exact working and finishing line I AM 100% SURE THAT THIS GUY WHO DUMPED ME WRITTEN IT.
He was never informed by me where exactly in town I live. I never share my personal address anywhere on socials. Only two people locally know where I live - but they don't know that guy. So I have no idea how... But he literally stalked out where I live (It looks like it's the case), dumped the letter - and I am sharing this now right here not sure what to do.
My two best friends from abroad are like: Hey, it's just a letter, you overreact, just throw it.
My family member is like: you should report it to the police!
Me: What the hell is this letter for?
So my question is this: How should I proceed in this situation guys? How would you feel in my place? What's the point for him in doing all of that? I just need some brainstorm in the comment section to know which approach is the best for this.

I mean yes of course there are multiple jokes on it, reels too. But do you actually sit and think about it? Because I do and I wonder if I am the only one.
I think about Md Shami specifically. The way he wasn't in the playing XI initially but the moment he came, he started breathing fire. 4 wickets, 5 wickets, that seam that line that length. Everything is just worthy of capturing and framing. Playing against him, it felt like teams weren't even prepared. and then you had Bumrah. I mean I can imagine the strategy going on in opposition teams before the match. Play safe against shami. and Bumrah. and Siraj too. And the batsman is probably thinking who do I hit then? And then came kuldeep yadav. Just beautiful deliveries. On one spot, one after another. That slight variation, that slight flight, and boom a wicket. Jadeja on the other hand, squeezed the opposition of runs. Where do you score? How do you score?
And then, after being through all this, if you have been able to put some sort of score and wish to defend it. Rohit and Virat are standing there. Waiting for you to come. Oh those pull shots. Those flicks. Especially that lofted shot Rohit plays over mid on in powerplay. Not to forget straight drives from Gill that give ever so slight nostalgia about the little master. To top that off, you had Iyer, Rahul and SKY. The way Rahul played in those tricky situations. Those shorts with the straight bat. And those slogs by SKY. How did we not win?
Am I alone thinking about this here. I'm sorry for the rant but I can't really move on. It's personal. I was preparing for CAT (competitive exam). It was the most important thing for my career. But India was performing so good that I watched all the matches. So much so that I watched the final on 19th November, when my exam was on 26th. I just refuse to believe that we didn't win. 2011 Cup we won. That was good. I was a kid back then. Didn't know how big of a deal it was. 2012 was a traumatic year for me as a new fan. All I remember is Ian bell and Alister Cook literally cooking us in tests in India. 2013, we make a comeback. Oh those shikar rohit partnerships and that Ashwin Magic. Those spells from Ishant Sharma. What a time to be alive. That final, washed out, turned to T20. India posts a mere 129. But that spell from Ishant Sharma in the end, those two wickets, both caught by Ashwin. and then the last over bowled by Ashwin too. 1 ball 6 runs needed. Batsman misses it, so does dhoni, but we win the champions Trophy and I remember raina dancing in Champagne, wearing white blazers.
That year made me a fan, perhaps it shouldn't have. Because 2014 T20 World Cup, final with sri lanka, again only 130 required to win and SL does it easily. Then west Indies, Pakistan, New Zealand, England and now Australia. But you know what hurts the most? The final against Australia, play a 100 matches with that team in that form, that team would lose 1 out of 100. Why does that 1 have to be the final? I can't forget that image of someone patting on Md Shami's back in the dressing room after the loss. The faces. Oh how they changed. It's also poetic. We didn't have a best fielders award in finals, not because fielding was poor. But because, It didn't even matter.
I'm sorry I know I'm just ranting and going nowhere. But I wish I had somewhere to go to. How do I muster up courage to watch this T20. Tbf, looking at the squad and current form, I have good reason to believe we are not going into the Semis. Everybody asks when would we have an ICC trophy. Let me ask you, when would we have a team as lethal as the one we had in CWC23.
I'll end my rant with a song, I often sing to myself.
Mujhe teri mohabbat ka, sahara mil gaya hota.
Agar toofaan nhi aata, kinara mil gaya hota.
Na tha manjoor kismat ko, Na thi marji baharo ki,
Nahi toh is gulistan mein, kami thi kya Nazaaro ki?
Meri Nazaro ko bhi koi, nazaara mil gaya hota.
Agar toofaan nhi aata, Kinara mil gaya hota.

My brother (22M) has recently started dating a girl we’ll call K (19F), and I (19F) am starting to get a little weirded out.
For context, K has a pretty rough family life and so she spends most of her time over at my family’s house with my brother. I’m glad she stays here, considering I’ve seen her parents’ behavior and I wouldn’t want her in that environment. But things have gotten unusual.
Anyway, the situation started out tame. She started using all the same products I do (same face wash, toner, moisturizer, etc) and switched her shampoo and conditioner to the brand I use. I was cool with that, considering I recommended them since I like them. From there, things started to get a little weirder. She started wearing similar clothes to me, and when I said I was planning on dyeing my hair with some reddish tones, she said “me too!” and did it two days later.
Again, not that bad, so I brushed it off.
Then she started eating the same foods as me, and calling my mother “mom” and got her flowers for Mother’s Day (she specifically picked flowers after I had, and got her a slightly bigger bouquet).
Most recently and the biggest issue is this: Last month, I told K how I’m taking a gap year before starting schooling for becoming an MFM Ultrasound technician (baby scans, etc). I’ve wanted that career for a while, and I’m following in my dad’s footsteps since he’s also a tech. I told her about how passionate about it I am and how much I enjoyed shadowing at the hospital to see the job.
This month, K has now stated that she is no longer going to major in nursing like she had planned. You guessed it! She wants to be an MFM Ultrasound tech. She asked my dad to get her in to shadow the position so she can start her major this Fall.
I mentioned to my dad how strange I thought all of this was, but he told me not to mention it to her or my brother out of risk of upsetting them. He said he thought it was a bit silly of me to be upset. “There are a lot of Ultrasound techs out there, it’s not a big deal” and all that.
But It almost feels like she’s trying to take my place in the family. Call it petty, but it upsets me. I’m trying to be cool about it but it’s tough.
I don’t mind sharing my family with her. Like I said, I don’t want her in a bad situation with her family, but Jesus. I just am so squicked out by this whole thing. My brother hasn’t even seemed to notice, either.
AITAH for wanting to confront her?
TL;DR: My brother’s girlfriend has started copying my skincare/haircare products, my diet, my clothes, and most recently has switched her career choice to mine.

Hello fellow Helldivers!
Warning: Long post:
TLDR: I’m a business/games guy who just joined Arrowhead as the CEO to enable Johan Pilestedt and the other amazing devs of Arrowhead to do more of what we all want them to do - make games. The ship will stay on the same course, despite the change in captain.
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My name is Shams Jorjani and I'm the new CEO of Arrowhead! I wanted to DROP BY to say hello, introduce myself, to get a conversation going with y'all and set some expectations. Much like Pilestedt (or Pilen as I call him) himself I'm mainly on twitter /shamsjorjani - but I'm a colossal reddit nerd and read a lot of posts on this subreddit.
Briefly about myself - I'm based in Stockholm, like the rest of Arrowhead. I turn 41 (!) tomorrow and I got my start in video games AT THE EXACT same time as Pilen and Arrowhead as I was the organizer of the indie game competition they won when they made Magicka. Later when they partnered with Paradox Interactive in 2009 I was assigned as their producer and marketing person. So we go back 16 years.
While the Magicka launch was a big success, it was also a bit of a MESS. Sound familiar? The game was insanely broken (terrible producer on that project). But we worked insanely hard to fix things. While the Arrowhead team patched the game like crazy (14 patches in 12 days - so often in fact that after a few days the pirate groups stopped pushing every new build to The Pirate Bay) I meanwhile hopped into every Steam thread and responded to comments, complaints and concerns. I think we all collapsed after 36 hours of non stop work.
When we woke up we thought we'd be met with tons of angry voices - but to our surprise we noticed that while we were away the community had rallied around our messaging and kept repeating our words "they're working on it", "there's a new patch coming on Tuesday" and so on.
I mention this story because there are a lot of similarities between HD2 and Magicka. A lot of the fundamentals of how we worked, how we make games and support them was established there and carried on to today.
Here’s Johan and me as BABIES 12 years ago: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xU28nTjgbcg
We later collaborated again on The Showdown Effect - which was a fun game - but did absolutely terribly. Arrowhead/Paradox parted ways but Johan and I stayed in touch. Over the years I've helped Arrowhead with stuff on the business, strategy and leadership side - you might say that I'm a Business & Leadership Main Class and a Game/Product as a Secondary class - a bit of a mirror image to Pilen who’s a Design/Game Main but also has spent a fair bit of time in business. You'll hear a lot of RPG-terms from me and Pilen.
I stayed at Paradox Interactive for 12 short and fun years and helped grow the company in a leadership position from a small 22 person company to the 800 person behemoth it became. I was mostly in charge of the portfolio over those years - I helped sign and start bangers like Cities Skylines (1), Pillars of Eternity, Surviving Mars and then a bunch of stuff that did not do as well. I signed a game that ended up getting a 22 on Metacritic - Gettysburg Armored Warfare. I wear that achievement as a badge of honor. I finally left Paradox 2½ years ago.
Over the years I screwed up a ton and learnt even more. It was the best school I’ve ever attended.
When I’m not wearing the CEO hat at Arrowhead I play a ton of games: I've played Magic the gathering player since 1995 (I'm a Spike) but also play a lot of pen & paper RPG's. And of course a ton of other games - Dota 2, Kerbal Space Program, Battlefield, Helldivers (I've beat difficulty 8 but not Helldive yet), a ton of roguelikes, Rimworld, Dyson Sphere Program, Subnautica. My all time favorite game is Tie Fighter - but the game I've probably spent most time in is Smash Bro's (N64 & ultimate mostly) - I'm a Kirby main and I hate myself for it. I also serve as the chairman/advisor for indie publisher Hooded Horse. Oh - and I'm a huge Star Trek nerd.
For the past 6 years or so I've hosted a podcast (The Business of Video Games Podcast) about the business side of the video games industry - so that's a pretty good way of getting to know what kind of bullshitter I am. I'm definitely going to be doing episodes in the future about the inner (business) workings of Arrowhead. Whenever something happens that has you going: "wtf were you thinking when you did this" you should say so and I might actually do an episode about it and explain why. The better you understand how we run our business, the more you can keep us on our toes (and I you off our backs about stuff you understand).
https://thebusinessofvideogamespodcast.podbean.com/
As you can probably tell I'm a straight shooter - I expect you to be as well - the only thing I ask is that we keep things civil and constructive. We shape the community we want to have and we all have a better time (and by extension a better game) if we keep things nice. If you're really, really frustrated at times - scream into a pillow, or scream at me. Please don't threaten the people who work on the game. Not cool. Not what Helldivers do.
Ok - what about the future - what can you expect from the Studio?
First off this whole switcheroo is all about getting Pilen closer to the games. Making new games/prototypes, having more time to play Helldivers, work closer to Micke our excellent Game Director and the many other designers/devs we have. I've charged Pilen with being the Obi-wan to many "Lukes" in our studio. If everyone can hear Pilen's sage voice in the back of their heads when they're balancing weapons, designing missions or enemies the better. That doesn't mean Pilen is always right - but we intend to keep him on our toes and he the rest of us. But at the end of the day it’s not Pilen who makes the games - it’s everyone else - it's a team effort.
Secondly - keep working closely with Sony and improve the game for as many people as possible. They're an amazing partner and we really, really really wouldn't have had HD2 if it wasn't for them.
Thirdly - MOAR. We knew it would be impossible to keep up with demand and the insatiable hunger for more fun shit to do in/with HD2. Our singular focus as a studio is to set things up in a sustainable way so that in the long term we can make more and better stuff. We're building a bit of scaffolding before we can make a bigger barn. Queue "where's the patch?????" comments.
Fourth - Dialogue - I think Pilen has set a great precedent talking so plainly and directly with the community about the game. He's our ambassador and he'll keep being our BIG voice. But I'll be here as well, and why I've harped on a bit about myself. There's a human on the other end of the comments. It won't mean we'll respond to every thread, whim or loud voice - but we're here listening. Pilen and I spent an hour over dinner the other night laughing at the memes you made.
This one was our favorite: https://www.reddit.com/Helldivers/comments/1cy2uia/that_would_be_chief_creative_officer_si
I'll be frank and say the same thing most game devs say - when things turn toxic the natural inclination is to retreat. Anyone who gets death threats (and worse) will naturally want to engage LESS with the community. That leads to a negative spiral with less interaction and more frustration. Pilen and I will always be active - but we will be more active the more civil and fun things are. So I'd ask you to help us to turn this into a positive atmosphere. That doesn't mean you can't criticize - you can! and should!
We share well articulated feedback about the game internally, it really resonates and makes it easier for us to do our jobs. We don’t however circulate the posts where we’re told to go jump off a cliff - even if they might have excellent design feedback.
So that’s about it - hit me up, I’ll be lurking, reading and sometimes posting.
/Shams - on his 7th day on the new job.