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Heya Vault Dwellers! I am looking for a secondary weapon that goes well with Holy Fire, and by that I mean it gets the increased damage from Heavy Gunner and ammo is affected by the perk Battery Included. I'm looking for something to use for bosses as I use a vamp Holy Fire to clear out mobs. I'm running a bloodied heavy gunner build (No PA). I tried creating a Gauss Minigun earlier since it was on sale from Minerva and unfortunately it was doing so less dmg than my Holy Fire for some reason.. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! đ
At level 945 and my 6th season in. Now I can't stop. I'm going to need more Nuclear Keycards. Hađ I had well over a hundred saved up iirc. Sold 'em, dumped 'em. Even left 10 behind on last season's Scoreboard. They weigh a good amount. I thought "I'm never going to do THAT again" after a failed attempt long ago. I didn't know the launch codes were needed on hand, thought they were baked into the process and would be given to me along the way. I was wrong.
I use the "door shortcut" method to the launch silo. I know some say take the long way, that's the way its intended. But I tell you that first failed time I did and it was a tedious task. These days? After so much time in game it would just be busy work. I can't imagine doing that each and every time. Fabricating panels, fixing pipes, working terminals. Its not challenging for endgame players, I know that. It just takes more time. Who needs it? I take out 'bots, Assaultrons, turrets with ease, no PA and Bloodied at that. I don't want more of that while running around being a fixer upper...I just want to launch a nuke. So I fabricate an ID card, disable the security grid, and its pretty much a done deal so far as tasking.
It's great fun as it is. I love the launch map. I was a bit disappointed about the "Safe Zone" and find it odd to have for the reasons stated...but oh well. I wanted to nuke Point Pleasant to enjoy a radiated Mothman event but could not. Having never seen the map before I wonder if this "Safe Zone" is new to the game for Special Events or that area is always green? Because the area itself seems no different from many others.
I do understand the temptation to hit a camp or two now, also. Not directly but in the zone. Ha...same results. It sounds mean but when actually at the map if you're a person like myself who enjoys a bit of mischief? It must go through the mind. Maybe I'll nuke a friends camp? "Surprise!" lol. It could happen. But I digress. In the end it is a wasted nuke and I really just want to have a good time with fellow wastelanders at an event I triggered. So...that's that.
So...sooner or later I guess there comes a time. I find launching fairly addicting atm. Just something about being alone in the silo, getting it done, launching and enjoying the results with others. More good times in the wasteland. See 'ya all later...I got a date with The Queenđ€
Hello! Iâm currently in my second year in a really demanding law school. I recently got my test results for 3 subjects and boy⊠I just wanted to cry because I didnât pass a single one. Iâm just really frustrated because I study, tooth and nail, but it feels like Iâm set up to fail. Our finals is next month and Iâve already started my finals grind but im so tired. I canât keep up with the daily grind na nga and Iâm having retention problems pa. I feel so hopeless. Most of my professors said that 2nd year is the hardest year. But how do I survive? For those who got through 2nd year unscathed, how did you do it?
I know the preparation largely depends on the subject and the professor so itâs different for everyone.
For context, I do codal and cases for rem subjects. For others, I really try to finish the commentary especially when the subject has a lot of conflicting jurisprudence like sales and corporation law.
Any advice please?
I would like to know how everyone is going with the current cost of living crisis? Below is a breakdown of down of where our family is at.
Wage = $140K Tax = $40K That leaves $100K
Mortgage = $500K Interest = $30K PA
That leaves $70 K
Car = $65k (4x4) as i live out in Far north QLD and work in Western QLD 7/7
Repayments $15k a year
That leaves $55k
Fuel = $800 per month of which around $400 is tax. (GST+fuel excise+sales tax)
That leaves $45.5K
Rates + electricity + house insurance = $20k
That leaves $25 k
Food = $12K ( cost has risen near on $4K in last 2 years)
That leaves $ 13K
Medical insurance $3k (cheapest i could get as we are forced to get it)
That leaves 10 K
That has to pay for school expenses - any entertainment, there are no holidays. No emergency funds.
The reality out of all of this is they take around $70K in taxes if not more when you add GST - sales tax - fuel excise and PAYG tax.
I know this is a simplified version but this is my reality. How are people surviving on less than $100k?
Hi everyone! Iâm currently researching headlamps for an upcoming four-day trek. During one of the days, weâll start our hike in the middle of the night, and for all four days, weâll be camping along the route.
Iâm on the lookout for a reliable headlamp that can serve dual purposes: hiking and camping. Additionally, it would be great if it could double as a general flashlight during my 15-day trip. Bonus points if itâs suitable for night runs once Iâm back home!
Iâve come across various recommendations for hiking headlamps. Some sources suggest a range of 200-400 lumens for backpacking, while others mention 500-600 lumens. Based on my use cases, it seems like something around 300 lumens is enough but please correct me if I'm wrong! I don't expect to use it a ton outside of the odd hike or run after I'm back home, so I suppose a AAA powered option might be best for a long-term investment where I don't have to worry about batteries going bad. However on the trip, rechargeable would be better.
Currently, REI has a sale, and Iâve noticed positive reviews for the Black Diamond Spot and Storm headlights. Their Astro 300 is also significantly discounted, although it hasnât received as much online attention. Additionally, the NiteCore NU25 has been recommended online. With so many options, Iâm feeling a bit overwhelmed!
Requirements:
Price Range: $30-$40 USD (definitely open to lower. Can go a bit higher) Primary Use: Hiking Secondary Use: Navigating the campsite at night Battery Type & Quantity: Open to any type, but rechargeable would be ideal. I already have two rechargeable AAA batteries. Size: Ideally not too bulky for hiking Type: Headlamp
Just found out that I won't be able to attend Petit this year, so I've got a 4-day pass plus a tent camping spot for sale if anyone's thinking of going and hasn't bought tickets. $175 for the lot.
27M commuting 2hr each way from PA to NY- also an industrial outside sales rep. So need something AWD for location/winter, great mpg, and not too flashy but want to be comfortable yet presentable. Thoughts ?
Ako ba yung gago for always bringing my friend as thirdwheel sa out of town travel namin ng husband ko?
For context. My friend, let's call her Mara. She's like a sister to me. Sya rin ang maid of honor ko sa kasal na kaming dalawa ng asawa ko ang nagdecide because she has always been there, not just for me but for our relationship kase minsan nagiging mediator din namin sya, minsan sa kanya nag aask ng advice yung husband ko before kung paano ako susuyuin, pag magkaaway kami. Kahit nung nagpropose sya saken, kay Mara sya nanghingi ng assistance to suprise me! Ako naman si Mara yung nasusumbungan ko minsan pag naiinis ako sa jowa ko. So she's not a stranger sa relasyon namin ever since we started dating. Why? Kase magkakaklase at magkakaibigan kami nung college pa. So kung may role sya sa relasyon namin, sya ang official thirdwheel đ
Nagkakataon na si Mara yung laging available na kaibigan namin pag may mga gala kami ng husband ko, kahit noong pang mag bf palang kami. Pampa-balance din kasi minsan pag kami lang ng jowa ko nag tatravel, nagkaka-initan ng ulo eh đ Sa mga mahilig magtravel dyan, alam nyo yan đ€Ł Childless pa naman kaming mag asawa so boring naman kung lagi na kaming dalawa lang.
So minsan gala, foodtrip, staycation din pag mga last night na saka namin sya pinapasunod para may moment din kaming dalawa ni hubby mag lambingan . Minsan nag-i-sleepover dito sa bahay si Mara, kasi sa sobrang pagchichismisan eh inaabot na sya ng gabi. May isang beses na nakitulog kami sa kanila kase brownout. Minsan na rin kami sumama sa joiners tapos dahil kulang sa matinong tent yung organizer, nagtabi-tabi kami. Pero ako sa gitna ah.
Weird ba yun? Minsan naiisip ko baka ano isipin ng ibang tao. Pero wala naman kaming ginagawang masama at malaswa eh. So move on.
This time, may plano kami na mag adventure sa CAM SUR. DIY lang kaya gusto ko, may kasama kami ng husband ko kase di pa namin kabisado eh. Para sana di kami kabahan. We asked some of our friends and same response, walang ibang available but si Mara lang. Bumili na kami agad ng tix kasi seat sale. First time ko sasakay sa plane. While yung dalawa, may experience mag plane. Lalo na si Mara. Kase lagi sya nagtatravel na sya out of the county.
One time, nagshared post si Mara sa fb about sa pagtravel. She captioned it "exticted na sa next travel natin!" with tagging me and my husband. Then, one of our college classmate and our friend din (pero ako kinut-off ko na sya matagal na dahil nang aaway nalang bigla sa chat.) na nakatira na sa province commented na "wag ka na sumama dyan sa kanila! Kaya di sila makabuo istorbo ka naman" Buti nalang Mara replied ng maayos na that's not our goal kung bakit kami magtatravel.
Dahil dito, medyo napaisip na naman ako. Mali ba na isama namin si Mara? Take note, di naman sa lahat ng travel namin, kasama sya. Pero sa tingin nyo ba, di na appropriate to bring her?
Feeling ko, ako yung gago kase hinahayaan ko na mapag-isipan ng masama yung kaibigan ko by always bringing her.
The moment a lot of you have been waiting for is here!
A couple of notes before you read (or after because I would just jump into the list right away too)
- Direct quotes from Ali herself are in italics.
- I tried my best to keep everything in timeline order. Some people like The Come Back Kid I placed in the order where they reconnected/talked about on the pod. But I did my best to note this.
- All this information came from the FMH podcast, the Patreon, the original FMH blog, TikTok and other podcast that feature FMH/Ali. I also crossed reference information with this sub. I got most of this done with the help of the Patreon and listening to 1.75x speed but I lost accessed to the Patreon because my subscription ended.
- I'm open to edits! Things around the matchmaker era confused me and if anything is incorrect or if I'm missing someone, please let me know! I will note where corrections are made.
- Some people don't have anything simply because only a name was said or I couldn't find any details about the person/date
- And of course, please be respectful of all the sub rules!
Names on the original FMH blog
- Mr. Adorable aka The Coach
- Trouble
- Waffles
- Future Husband Brian (FHB)
- Cookie
- Peter Pan
- Ambiguous Goodbye Guy
- Bad Bitch Man
AOL chatroom Boyfriend Mentioned on Tiktok and on the pod once
Myspace Boyfriend Mentioned on Tiktok
Third Boyfriend Met on
eCrush.com in 2002 and this was mentioned on the Cracked Up podcast, The Dave Glaser Podcast and Tiktok
The Kiwi Met on a 2 week Model UN type youth trip in high school when Ali was 15, never a boyfriend but she had a huge crush on him, he tried to kiss Ali and she literally ran away, didnât talk the rest of the trip but exchanged numbers and screen names (Aliâs was FineGal13 or BeachJewel760), she made him a mixtape cd called âAliâs really cool mix for The Kiwiâ but never sent it and she still has it. In 2021, he DMâd her when she posted photos of her and her mom in France and invites her to visit him in London, she says she canât but says they should catch up if he comes to NYC
Fourth Boyfriend Met on OkCupid when you had to use it on the computer, this was mentioned on Tiktok
The Homecoming Date or Light Switch First boyfriend? (she goes back and forth calling him her first bf or a situationship), a family friend, a month younger than Ali, dated in high school but went to different high schools, football player, made him ask her to her Homecoming dance over email (her words), Ali hid in the bathroom the whole Homecoming dance, 3-4 revisits of this situations as adults, saw him on Bumble a few years ago and texted him that he had a typo in his bio, â
he very much wanted to be with meâ and now heâs married with a kid. His mom is still â
obsessedâ with Ali and she listens to FMH
Random college guy Freshman year of college, Ali doesnât have a nickname for him/doesnât remember his real name, met this guy through a friend, was texting him to invite him over to hot tub but her phone autocorrected to
âhow about some hot rubbing tonight?â but Ali didnât noticed/didnât correct it and he never replied, Ali had a house party and got really drunk and was all over him, he left the party early, she messaged him on MySpace 3-4 times asking why he left
The Resident Matched on
Match.com, first guy she dated in NYC after college, older than Ali, a doctor, lasted 3 months â
maybeâ, he didnât like Aliâs friends, got a card from him on her birthday and it said â
Love, The Residentâ and it took Ali back a little, Ali drinks black coffee because of him, he coordinated having her mom visit NYC for her birthday then he broke up with her a week later
The Ghost Met at a bar when she was 25, turns out they matched on OkCupid and they already had a date scheduled next week, they dated for 6-8 weeks, had sleepovers,
âThe worst ghosting experience Iâve ever hadâ, he borrowed The Great Gatsby from Aliâs roommate, planned to make dinner together after a beach trip in August with her friends and never showed up, Ali is blowing up his phone and gets no reply, two weeks later she finally texts
âare you alive? check yes or noâ and he responds âYesâ, Ali then ask if he could return the book and gets no reply again, 5 months go by and she receives the book in the mail with the note: âHereâs the book back. Sorry. P.S. sorry about last summer. I was in a bad place. Youâre a great person and your salmon is amazingâ, since then she has ran into him twice on the streets and matched with him on Bumble
The Coach/Mr. Adorable First serious boyfriend at 26/27 in 2013, matched on
Match.com or met through work depending if youâre listening to the pod or reading her OG blog, clean-cut look, played volleyball, Ali invited him to a friendâs birthday party and they made out in the streets at 4am, on their second date he asked Ali if she was seeing any one and when Ali said no he ask her to be his girlfriend 3 days after their first date, dated for almost 1.5 years or almost 2 years depending on if youâre listening to the pod or the Patreon, first time saying âI love youâ to a guy, â
lovely guyâ, never would posted Ali on his instagram until Ali said something, he âlivedâ with her for two weeks while he was in between apartments, tried blind folding/hair pulling during sex and she didnât like it, by the end of their relationship Ali didnât like sex and thought she wasnât a very sexual person, after they broke up Ali drunk texted him at 2am and he picked her up and she spent the night and she took her things in the morning in a rolly suitcase, from her blog in 2015: â
I just want to be careful I donât end up with another Mr. Adorable situation, where I find myself dating my platonic best friendâ, had drinks with him in 2016 from the blog:
âNot in a romantic way (at least on my end)â, Ali still talks to him sometimes through casual instagram DMs, heâs currently (as of 2021) dating someone for 4+ years and Ali thinks theyâre going to get engaged
Trouble OG 2015 FMH blog, never mentioned on the pod,
âI was immediately enamored with himâ, met at a Beer Olympic party but he worked with one of Aliâs best friends (Ali was still dating The Coach at the time), lived in BK, tattoos and stubble, Aliâs best friend said he was a âfuck boyâ,
âhe very much made me see that it was the right thing for me and The Coach to not be togetherâ, from her blog in 2015: â
he has this look in his eye like heâs constantly laughing at me â in a super sexy wayâ, he texted her saying he didnât see anything romantically with her and she sent a gif of someone shrugging
Personal side note: Ali has mentioned she has cheated on someone but never disclosed who she cheated on or with. I feel like she cheated on Mr.A/The Coach with Trouble because of the timeline. Just a guess.
Waffles Matched on Bumble, OG 2015 FMH blog, he asked Ali fuck/marry/kill breakfast foods, dated 2 months around summer time, on Fourth of July while watching fireworks he said how they had a great day and Ali replied with something along the lines with âyeah, it would be better if I could call you my boyfriendâ
, he said he wanted a relationship but just not with Ali and shortly afterwards they stopped seeing each other
The Buffalo Lived in Buffalo NY, 6â5, Scorpio, met in 2015 at Adults National volleyball (Aliâs team won that year) where he was heckling her while she was playing, asks Aliâs mom for her number and Aliâs mom said âI guess youâre tall enoughâ and told him to ask her himself, he flew her out and she met his parents, dated over summer, exclusive but never boyfriend/girlfriend (but called him her LD boyfriend on TikTok), texted and talked on the phone a lot, Aliâs best friendâs favorite ex âthey had really good banterâ, in October he invited her to his cousins wedding and she invited him to her friends wedding, after Ali bought her ticket to his cousins wedding (with the promise he would buy her ticket to her friendâs wedding) he ghosted and stonewalled her, she âpoured her heart out to him on voicemailâ and he never replied, she asked him to pay her back for her ticket and he got mad that she âmade this about moneyâ, 2 years later he told Ali that he freaked out because he really liked her and saw a future with her but knew she would never move to Buffalo and it would ânever workâ, Ali said at the time she would have considered moving for him, Ali used to have him blocked on Facebook and told all her friends not to update her on info about him (unless she asked). Heâs now married and goes to Disney with his wife (which Ali kind of scoffs at?), Ali said on TikTok that she dodged a bullet
Baby Bic Met him at Adults National years ago, had a flirtationship with him in 2016 when he was 19 years old, ran into him at the Adults Nationals 2021, last texts she got from him were about getting his fake ID taken away at the bar and him visiting her in NYC but Ali didnât want to buy him beer and drink at her apartment
The Chef Matched on Tinder around 2016, he loved karaoke, â
total shitâ, asked Ali to be his girlfriend and to meet his mom after a month, off and on dating, broke up the first time because he was talking to his ex, lied and flew to Mexico to see his ex while dating Ali, that ex sent Ali a Snapchat of them in bed together on that Mexico trip, Ali broke up with him via text and called him a shitty boyfriend, heâs the reason Ali deleted her Snapchat because of drunk Snaps he would send post break up, FB messaged Ali 6 years later (while Roark was visiting/staying with Ali) and said sorry for being a shit head. Aliâs best friends hated him
The Dentist Met on Halloween in the wild, Canadian, dated NYE 2016- May 2017 â
nice guy, not my guyâ, one of Aliâs best friendâs favorite ex âhe adored you,
âhe was too sweet for meâ and
âhe had no edge to himâ, he painted Aliâs cat for her 30th birthday but she was annoyed it was just Rory and not both cats, The Chef texted Ali while on a date/sleeping at his house
ASV - Aspiring Sober Vegan Met through a friend (her best guy friendâs college roommate) the day before she had to fly out to her dadâs memorial, a doctor, into meditation, remembered him â
being cuterâ when they went on a first date, felt âthe sparkâ, had â
omg this is awesome sexâ, Ali described this relationship as a âslow burnâ and âthe most attracted she ever been to a partnerâ even thought she didnât think he was that cute in the beginning, dated 2-3 months before he tried to ghost Ali but they talked and broke up, four months later they start casually dating/FWB because heâs moving but this turns into a âmiddle distance relationshipâ and he moves to Philly, had a lot of communication issues but didn't have a lot of fights, wants to live in Ohio and give a % of his income to charity, Ali was close to saying âI love youâ but didnât, he uninvited her to meet his extended family and they got in a fight, broke up with her a couple weeks before their 6 month anniversary at the park while on a picnic and told her that sheâs still his favorite person, Ali used to think he was â
the one that got awayâ and would frequently have dreams about him. From what Ali knows, he's sober but not vegan
The Scientist 2017 or 2018ish, from San Diego, went on one date, Ali ended up ghosting him due to the decline in her dadâs health, saw him on Hinge while she was in San Diego for 3 months in 2020, texted him and apologized for ghosting him, ended up going on 2-3 more dates, took a selfie in front of his house and sent it to him but acted like she didnât know that was his house and made a TikTok about it, things ended up not working but she doesnât make it clear on who ended it. She can now see she shouldnât have been going on dates during this time when her dad was sick.
Good on Paper Divorced Dude Met a couple of years ago (she told this story on TikTok in 2020) on Bumble
The Groomsman Met at her friend Ashleyâs wedding in Chicago Oct 2019, had a â
two night standâ with him, texted/talked/FTâd for 3-4 months, divorced, never dated seriously/FWB, saw each other a couple time when he came to NYC, Ali stopped talking with him due to FMH and her trying to find a serious relationship, he starts dating someone, follows FMH on insta, slid into her DM in 2022 and then sent her soup while she was sick, turns out heâs single again, 2 months later Ali is heading to Chicago and texts him â
Hello! Reminder that my arrival to your neck of the woods is imminentâ and turns out he is now seeing someone and Ali doesnât see him while in Chicago (at least she doesnât mention it)
Unnicknamed person He was her plus one at her best friend from collegeâs NYE wedding 2019/2020, met and hung out with Aliâs mom, posted photos of them together on her personal Insta story, â
fully dating but werenât official heheâ doesnât have a nickname/never gave him a nickname? This could be The Latvian/the person she texted her friend in DC about saying âI think Iâm on a date with my husbandâ
Starts FMH on January 2020 on Instagram/TikTok
The Traveler He was browsing Bumble while Ali was in the bathroom during their first date, he was banned from Bumble and was using his grandma phone number. Ali turned down a second date
The Duke Early FMH, went for long periods of time in between texts, 7-8 Zoom dates while Ali was in San Diego and he was in NY, Ali said you could see three of his exâs on his instagram page (without scrolling), they finally went on one date and it was
âmehâ but they did kiss on their date
The Oyster Matched on Bumble (he had one photo and no bio) two weeks before Valentines Day, Gemini, a lawyer, part of the 13 First Dates in 30 Days series (he was #13), dated Feb 2020-Aug 2020, love bomber, felt âthe sparkâ and became official after 3 dates, best first date ever??? at the time, said âI love youâ to Ali after two weeks, â
For most of my relationship with The Oyster, he didnât live in the city he had moved to Connecticut without telling meâ, would fight all the time, opposite political views, Ali felt like a â
fucking summer camp directorâ because she planned all their dates and he would get upset if Ali didn't have a plan, sought out a therapist (Megan) because of her relationship struggles because of him, went to Mass/church, he wanted a traditional marriage/life/wife/kids (at one point had Ali thinking she wanted that), didnât want to live in NYC, didnât support BLM, Cindy hated him
The Pilot Went on 3 dates, texted a lot, didnât hear back from him in four days and when she said she was looking to date someone who showed more consistency, he replied saying he met someone the day after their last date who seems to have more free time than Ali and he wants to pursue that but would like to be friends, Ali said on TikTok that this other women âbent her schedule to his scheduleâ and she was unwilling to do that. Mostly talked about him on TikTok
The Analyst Matched on Bumble two years ago and went on one date, re matched in 2021 and he stood Ali up, she send him a text âgetting stood upâ script and he never replied. Only mentioned him on TikTok (?)
Ali and Roark start FMH: The Podcast February 2021
The Boomerang First date on the pod? I couldn't find anything else about him
The Scuba Diver The Music Man One date,
âhe didnât do anything wrong, heâs just not for meâ, amped up small talk, complimented Ali a lot which made her feel awkward cause she wasnât feeling it, he texted her and asked for a second date and Ali sent the no ghosting script
The Bet Uses the phrase âok betâ, 28 years old shoe designer, only went on one dinner date to a spot he picked, turns out its cash only and he didnât bring cash, was not into him , not looking for the same thing
The Dinosaur Nickname was previously The Hawaiian, first date at Dinosaur BBQ, stood in a parking spot to save for Ali, he asked for a kiss after their date and Ali declined saying maybe next time
The Rose He sent her a rose on hinge, first date was an hour long walk in the park while drinking beer
The Comic Matched on Hinge, older than Ali (Aliâs friends express how happy they were to hear that), had brunch on their first date (was the first part of a double header but the second guy canceled), listed as âmoderateâ politically on Hinge, good and easy convo, went back and forth twice over text and then never heard back from him,
âtechnically not ghosting...â The Camper Met in the wild at a volleyball tournament in July, lives in Chicago, 27 years old, hung out the whole time, over heard Ali asking someone to get her a make out partner, gave Ali his number, drunkly ask him for a FT date in the future and he didnât reply, Ali texts him again about a volleyball thing and he replied back with not a lot of enthusiasm, Ali is going to Chicago in Sept for a volleyball tournament and sheâs already planning on playing 4-on-4 with her best friend vs. his roommate and maybe The Camper, he texts her saying he has to work on the date of the tournament and wonât be able to do the 4-on-4 game, â
I feel like I got broken up with someone I never want to date in the first placeâ Aliâs Matchmaker contract starts in August 2021 - 6 matches
The Schmoozer Went on a dinner date, was chatting up the waitress in a kind of creepy way, was bragging about a lot of things and it turned Ali off and Ali texted him her no ghosting script
The Accountant 1st matchmaker match, 31 years old, lives in BK, his dad has also passed away, easy to talk to, on the third date she wasnât sure if she saw a future with him and in her gut doesnât feel like this would be a slow burn, Ali breaks things off with him, months (?) later he sent Ali a 5 min long voice memo and they said they were both down to see each other as friends. He later on dated and ghosted Erica
The Aussie Matched on Hinge, in politics, from Australia but lived all over the place, asked Ali what sheâs looking for on the first date and he said heâs âcasually looking for something seriousâ, Ali accidentally walks up to a different person on their second date, Ali texts him saying she would love to see him before he leaves on a trip and she wasnât happy that it took him till the next day to reply and he canât see her before he leaves
The Goalie Was supposed to be Aliâs 2nd match, heâs a paying client, Ali didnât hear back from him for a while when she told him where she lived, he wrote to the matchmaker saying that she lived too far away even though it states where she lives in her matchmaker profile
The Journalist 2nd matchmaker match, ended things because she was dating/pursuing things with The Discoball and paused her matchmakers matches
The Threepeat Matched multiple times on dating apps but this recent time with Hinge, Amazon seller, first date was a pizza lunch date (with bubbles aka champagne) and he gave her a single yellow carnation, talked a lot about her âside hustlesâ aka her food blog, coaching, FMH and the pod (Ali didnât mentioned the name on FMH), had an awkward half kiss during the date and then gave her a peck when they said goodbye, he had no night stands by his bed?, spent the night but told public pod they had a movie night, different kissing styles, 6 dates, broke things off with Ali two days before her first date with The Rower WHILE Ali was on a Halloween girls trip
The Rower Dated from Halloween 2021 till early Feb 2022, Pisces who is 6 days older than Ali, has an ex-fiancĂ© (they dated for 8 years, engaged for two of them, she broke off the engagement with him 1.5 years ago once he started dating Ali), has a shared dog with this ex, slept together around Xmas on the fourth date and Ali got a UTI, first time having âomg this is awesome sexâ since ASV, first person Ali slept next to wearing an eye mask "
that's a big step for me", had him watch 90 Day FiancĂ©, on New Years Day told her that he sees âlong term relationship potentialâ with her but doesnât want to be exclusive after 5 dates, â
we didnât talk all weekâ, he said he wasnât as ready as he though to date someone seriously and âI donât know why I donât want to be in a relationship with youâ they broke up over the phone, Ali said heâs a good human and wants to date someone like him, 3.5 weeks later Ali drunk texted him at 3:00 am saying â
its really hard not to talk to youâ which Ali said was a lie, he replied back (few days? A week later?) while Ali was on another date and it made her cry a bit, she replied back saying â
the door is closed but not lockedâ in regards if he wants to get back together.
âFin⊠for nowâ 2022
The Discoball Matched on Hinge but didnât go on a first date for two week, Gemini, used to be a singer in a band, moved from DC to NYC, went on 7 dates in 2022, had a dog w/ ex and ex got full custody once he moved, met one of his friends on the second date, slept with him on the second date
âmorning and nightâ, he tried to find the podcast without knowing the name, podcasted from his house in DC, he would send Ali photos of them together âall the timeâ, gave a virtual presentation from his hotel room, did Molly together in DC, had him watch 90 Day FiancĂ©, moved to BK (didnât see each other for 2 months pre-move), had a sex-less sleepover (a milestone for Ali), he showed up for her on her dadâs death date (something that a person sheâs dating has never done), used to listen to the pod but stopped before they stopped seeing each other, ghosted her after they had a talk about moving things forward to exclusive and Ali texted him something along the lines of âyour silence is the answerâ when she didnât hear back from him for a week and he ghosted her. Ali said he sucks in #77 AUA
Lisbon The Brit M&M The Come Back Kid They went on 2-3 dates in Nov 2018 and reconnected in May 2022,
"felt immediately comfortable", sat next to a very drunk lady on their second 1st date and was supportive but "didn't step on Ali's toes" when the drunk lady said something offensive to Ali, couldnât remember if they slept together or not, knows about FMH, ghosted Ali
The Trainer The Cold Brew The Nomad 3rd matchmaker match, reminded Ali of The Oyster, wanted kids and didnât want to live in NYC forever, Ali was upset at first because her matchmaker was supposed to screen for that but the matchmaker DID check and it wasnât mentioned when she was screening The Nomad, no second date because those are dealbreakers to him
The Catcher Matched on Bumble,
âgood not greatâ after their first date, ~April 2022, talked about sports a lot on their first date
The Gentleman 4th matchmaker match, knew about Aliâs FMH socials before their date, Ali didnât like his texting style, awkward intro on their first date â
like hugging a 2 x 4â, he runs a dating event company and actually email Ali to be a guest on the pod when FMH first started, awkward goodbye, didnât discuss the actual first date on the main pod because she doesnât want to give him a reason to reach out again
The Tennis Pro Ali had a good time on their date, â
He is an adult, heâs matureâ BUT â
I donât think he was into itâ
The Padre Matched on Bumble, 3 dates, from San Diego,
âenergy mismatchâ, doesnât want to know or listen to FMH, no psychical connection/kiss, only a kiss on the cheek on their last date, â
I havenât spoken to him since Friday night [a week]â, she didnât want to do what The Threepeat did to her (break up while on vacation/traveling), she said it might be a MOO
Roark leaves and Erica joins the pod Oct 31st 2022
Captain Kirk 5th matchmaker match, found him on Bumble before their in-person date, ghosted Ali AND the matchmaker???
6th matchmaker match Last match and Ali states she will not talk about this date or anything about it
JFK Kirk? Matched on Bumble, didnât realize heâs located in SD, exchanged personal instagram info, not sure where things went or how things ended
Kirk #1 Met in the wild, make out a lot the night they met, â
stealing kisses throughout the nightâ, exchanged numbers, planned a date (no specifics, just the day) but when Ali texted him day of he asked to reschedule (no specifics again), he replied back that heâs picking up a rental car, told him sheâs looking for someone to respect her time and he never replied back
2023
The Falcon First date of 2023, matched on The League, first nickname was âLeague Kirkâ, hard to talk to, felt like Ali was always reaching for the next topic, likes to travel, â
there wasnât a vibeâ, MOO
The Roommate Used to be her friendâs roommate and have met before (Ali doesnât remember but it was the day after that exclusive convo with The Rower),
âtotally cuteâ, reunited at their mutual friendâs engagement party January 2023, made out at the bar, comes back to her place and sleeps over (no sex), Ali questions why her friends never set them up and its because he was taking a break from dating, first date they made out a lot at the bar (again),
âI really felt like we were already a coupleâ, âIt didnât feel like a first dateâ, mentions her FMH content has popped up on his FYP, tried texting him after their date and he wasnât giving effort, sheâs glad she didnât sleep with him because â
one night stands arenât my thingâ, MOO
The Belgian Matched on Bumble, accidentally had their first date during a trivia night at a bar, easy to talk to
The Viking Ali forgot they had a first date on the day of said date
Tinder Man Matched on Tinder (duh) on Valentineâs Day, first Tinder date in three years, good convo on first date but got a pushy vibe from him at the second bar they went to, put his hand up her sweater and was kissing her in the bar, made Ali uncomfortable and she told him that after her asked her on a second date
The Historian Matched on Bumble, good conversation on the first date with a wide range of topics like â
urban planning and its impact on feminismâ, heâs in grad school
The Georgian Matched on Hinge, he asked if she was free on Friday and she said yes but didnât hear back from him in two days and in that time she made plans for Friday, rescheduled for a Saturday afternoon date at a dive bar, ate on her way to her date
âit would be next level rude to eat on the subwayâ, good first date, talked about places he wants to take her to
The Publicist Matched on Tinder, lives in BK, Jewish, one year younger then Ali, good first date, invited him to the Chaotic Singles Party that night, came over to Ali's apartment (which Ali said was messy) before and he made her favorite cocktail for her, a couple of listeners met him at the CSP, goofy and silly convo mixed with deep and serious convos, second date was at the Brooklyn Botanical Gardens and a tasting menu dinner, he made a Resy reservation and Ali got an email saying she was added to it â
fuck receiving gifts, THATâS my love languageâ, he's into words like Ali, he sneezed and Ali said "God bless you" but then corrected herself and said "gesundheit" and he leaned over and kissed her and said he loves that she cares about her words, he met her friends on the third date â
It felt so easy. It felt so comfortableâ, her friends took âsneakyâ picture and videos of them together which Ali said she loves a sneaky pic, took all their date recap videos on his phone, cooked Ali steak on their fourth date, "
it's very comfortable", had him watch 90 Day FiancĂ©, Ali met two of his friends and some of his teammates he plays a rec sport with, had sex the day they took a trip outside of the city, Erica met him before their trip to Greece and I said âheâs dorky in a good wayâ, WhatsApp video chatted while in Greece and told her âsee you in two days!â at the end of their call, said she felt less anxious about him compared to other relationships while on vacation, sent him a birthday present while she was in Greece, felt an energy shift coming back from vacation and didnât hear back from him 3 days after she came home, Ali requested a call to talk about this distances she was feeling,
âI did the 12 date rule and it didnât work!â, she said the distance help her see that theyâre not compatible, went on a total of 9 dates. Ali talks about the âbreak upâ on episode 123
Mr. Chaotic Matched on Tinder but he saw Ali at the Chaotic Singles Party and Cassidy the host is there mutual friend, went to a brewery and played games on their first date (Ali said this was her favorite first dates in episode 147 where they recapped 2023), works in entertainment industry, very high energy, knows about FMH and he said she's entertaining to watch, splits his time between NYC and some unknown city, texted while she was in Greece,
âThe man gives good textsâ Random Matchmaker Match Withdrew his match to Ali because he found her FMH socials. Talked about on #71 AUA
Gone with the Wind Matchmaker match, said some gross things about women in volleyball outfits on their first date, Ali told her matchmaker about this, âI would describe him as misogynistic overallâ, Ali was glad he did say those weird things so early on so she didnât waste her time, the matchmaker flagged his account. This was around June 2023
The Rock Ali knows him from an activity that they used to be involved with in the city (she's very vague about what this is) from 8 years ago, he had a very serious/long term GF when they met, follows her personal Insta, has never talked about him because heâs never been a âprospectâ, summer 2023 they met up to catch up and found out that heâs now recently single but heâs moving out of NYC for work, Ali texts Cindy saying she thinks this is a date, Cindy said to tell him that you really want to kiss him, he ends up telling Ali âI really want to kiss youâ, made out at the bar, Ali invited him back to her apartment and they had sex the night before Ali ended things with The Publicist, â
one night stand vibesâ but she said she was down to do it again, Patreon only and talked about on #75 AUA
The Tourist Matched on Hinge, just moved to Brooklynn, went to a brewery in BK for their first date, Ali showed up to the date dripping in sweat, allergic to cats, he sent Ali a âno ghostingâ text the next morning
The Stout Matched on Bumble, â
we had really great banter right awayâ, laughed the whole time on their first date, talked about going on a second date during their first date
Speed Racer Matched on Bumble, drinks first date, axe throwing second date, made out after their second date, MOO, randomly texted Ali ~6 months later because he said one of Aliâs date recap videos about him popped up on his FYP (Ali and Erica think this is a lie), he thought Ali wasnât into him, he claims he was doing all the work with texting even though there was only a few messages since they exchanged numbers after their second date
Billy Joel Recently sober, Ali said she felt like they had several inside jokes before they met in person, ate pizza on her way to their first date, second date was getting coffee and going to the museum, they cooked dinner together for their third date at Aliâs apartment and they watched 90 Day FiancĂ© (he didnât like it), he Googled how to clean a red wine stain when it spilled on her countertop, he asked if she wanted to have sex and she turned it down, the next day/the day before a 7am flight Ali booty called him and they had sex, she was drunk and said the sex wasnât good/they stopped mid way, helped Ali pack for her flight, Ali said heâs at a crossroad and he doesnât seem like a long term fit, Erica found a condom on the ground while cat sitting, Ali said she didnât regret hooking up with him but wishes she hadnât done it, MOO
Sales Cycle 30 seconds in and Ali said he was very boring, only really talked about his job, stared at Aliâs boobs, â
might be a MOOâ, texted her âmerry christmasâ
2024
Pie Guy/Dr. Laundry Matched on The League, 34 years old, requested a nickname change from Pie Guy to Dr. Laundry, he had to cancel their second date because he got hit by a car, went on two dates, Ali sent him a pic of his subway stop saying something along the lines of âthe stop isnât looking as cute todayâ and turns out someone he dated with in that photo, were supposed to go on a third date the night she got back from a bachelorette party but he didn't answer her text when she said she landed, the next day he asked her how her trip was not acknowledging her previous text at all, Ali expressed her disappointment and he replied that he was tired last night, she said she would've been understanding if he said something then ghosted her
Andddd I stopped listening to the podcast around the Dr. Pie Laundry Guy but have stayed up to date with everything via this sub.
I have a huge interest in dating culture, human behavior and data similar to Ali and this little project of mine was really interesting once I got the framework of this list. I started this list once I found this sub in December 2023 and started re listening to the Patreon while working out (and lost 10 lbs ayeee) and writing down information in my notes app. I did my best to keep this list unbiased and just give facts and information that was said.
My own thoughts after making this list is that I'm very sad for Ali. I didn't realize the extent of her dating history. I think about my own dating history or even my friends who are in their 30's and dating and Ali's dating lore runs so deep. Is Ali unlucky with love? Did she pass on someone that could have been great for her? How has she had so many dates with little success in a long term partner or even going beyond 6-8 dates? Or is Skyline the person she has been waiting for? What's the pattern with all this dates/men? So many questions.
I truly do hope Ali finds her guy because I believe theres someone for everyone. Until then, I'll be hopping into this sub (cause y'all are too funny and give the best advice) and waiting for Ali to find Mr. Height.
Enjoy and I look forward to everyone thoughts! I'll keep my eye out for any edits that need to be made.
Bonus quotes:
âLongest relationship was a little under a year and a half. Havenât made it past 6 months with anyone elseâ - AUA #7 11/27/21
âI spent the first 10+ years of my dating life being sort of perennially singleâ -1. The Actual First One episode 2/21/21
"I think my parent's story is the reason why I think that I can romantically get back together with an ex and it'll work out" -The Dave Glaser Podcast 4/5/21
âAlmost every relationship Iâve ever been in, with a couple of exceptions, started as a situationship.â -21. The Undefined One 7/11/21
âAll of my boyfriends have been whiteâ -Aliâs BFF Special on Patreon 4/23/22
âYou definitely need an older guyâ -Cindy on Aliâs BFF Special on Patreon 4/23/22
âIâve been on the dating apps since high school. Dating websites at the timeâ -Aliâs BFF Special on Patreon 4/23/22
âWho would be the perfect man for Ali?â
âClearly a combination of the The Dentist and [the early stages of] The Buffaloâ -Cindy on Aliâs BFF Special on Patreon 4/23/22
âDo you consider The Rower or Disco ball to have been situationships?â
âNo, I don't consider either The Rower or The Disco Ball to be situationshipsâ -question asked on TikTok 11/9/22