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2011.04.24 01:26 Deli1181 Judge redditors based solely on a picture

Tell Redditors who you think they are based on their picture.
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2018.08.29 06:48 Wolves Are Big Yo

Wolves are big yo.
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2024.05.19 19:03 No-Hedgehog1797 Are My Bf (M18) and I(F18) just going through a “hard phase?”

Okay i’m sorry if this is all over the place but i want to rant to a community of people with some people who are older and have more experience so they can give me genuine advice. My Bf (M18) and I (F18) have been together since february of our sophomore year of high school, we’re graduating soon now. We’ve been with eachother almost all of high school Id say, especially since my class (2024) had the covid hybrid year during freshman year. Id been in a few relationships and “situationships” (i hate that term bc truth is it’s a situation to one party and nothing to the other) in high school, he hadn’t. We’re both eachothers first and only real relationship. I understand that there is a “honey moon phase” and people say there are “toxic phases” and things of that sort. I believe our relationship is being tested right now. We’d never really argued. There was nothing to argue about, and if someone felt a way about something we’d always just talk about it. We know we’re young and we have to grow up together, and we know the other isn’t a mind reader. But over senior year, i do feel like our relationship has taken some turn. I didn’t talk about some of the things i’d noticed were changing at first because i am a very emotional, sensitive person, and i have BPD, which i know severely impacts relationships and how i perceive them. Whenever i would rant to him about something, whether it had to do with my mom or a friend, he would always be there for me, consoling me, and TALKING to me. That’s a big change. I feel like over the past few months he’s somehow forgotten how to comfort me even though he used to be so good at it. Now more than ever do i hear the words “I don’t know what to say” or “I don’t know what to tell you.” Not only that, but i feel like he ignores me a lot more when we’re with his friends. Throughout the school year there were times at lunch nearly everyday i would just stop talking for a few minutes and just sit there… because id try to tap him on the shoulder to add on to the conversation, because sometimes it is something i would want just him to hear, or i feel like he’d understand because he’s supposed to be my best friend as well. but more than ever i feel pushed to the side. If you’re around my age, you’ll understand that the fact he doesn’t post me barely anymore is a cause of concern. he genuinely isn’t rlly on socials, but he wasn’t before we got together either.. before he would post me often, but now i feel like i have to ask and remind him. Lastly, he has been a “safe place” for me throughout the relationship. but again; i feel like i cant talk to him like i used to… he’s yelled at me and cussed at me more than he ever has. which is not often, but still. also, he scared me for the first time the other week when he was driving recklessly. i wanted to tell him to just drop me off at the side of the road so i could call my mom. but i didn’t. i didnt wanna make him mad ACTUALLY LASTLY.. i’ve had conversations with him about how i’m feeling. i know he loves me too, genuinely. he promises to me he’ll change, that he’s gotten too comfortable and i am right to talk to him and “set him in place” I don’t want to be dumb. I love him so much, and i know he loves me too. I know that most high school sweethearts don’t last forever, but i want us too. I feel like we could if we were both putting in the work and deciding to love eachother everyday, but i feel he is lacking in the effort department. i’m sorry if this is too long. if you could respond, thank you 🙏🏼
tl;dr: I know that most relationships from high school/when you’re young don’t work out. But some do, and i believe it’s because two people decide to put in effort everyday and decide to love eachother everyday. My bf and i are finally hitting our “hard phase” i feel like. He’s going through a lot too and we’re young, i can understand how sometimes he has forgotten about certain things, but i feel like i’ve talked to him about my concerns for months and no real change has been made regarding him not putting in as much “effort” (not posting, not paying attention to me when we’re with friends, not offering as much advice as he used to). and new things have rose, he’s spoken to me out of turn for the first time a few months ago and he genuinely made me scared for my safety. I don’t want to be “dumb”. I don’t even know what to do.
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2024.05.19 19:03 thwowaway2695 AITAH for wanting to leave my bf?

This is a throw away account because I don’t want anything being traced back to me.
I (21 F) have been dating my bf (22M) for 8 months, things have been good but one sided arguments (me talking to a brick wall) are pretty common. I have an ex (20M) and as much as it pains me to say it he is very much involved here.
For context: I was dating my ex, I will call him D, for a total of 6 months and he treated me well, if I had a problem he would try to understand and he would put in the effort to change and I would do the same. We broke up because he moved away, and we ended on good terms but low/ no contact. When we were together, I told him my heart, body and soul was his. (Which is stupid and naive and weird I know) I guess when you’re young and you think you are in love you say stupid things . When I said that to him I didn’t think I actually meant it, but now here we are and I don’t think my feelings for him have really changed in the slightest. A part of me still loves him and I’m terrified that in the end it will always be him. Maybe it was because he was genuinely my first love and I’ve heard that you never really forget about your first “love” because that person is your first. The separation absolutely broke my heart and it took me a while to get over it, after I was sure I was able to move on I decided to try dating again and this is how I met my current bf, I will call him S, S was good at the start of the relationship. He was kind and funny, and he was supportive of me, however he has his flaws like everyone, and one of those flaws is that he’s very selfish and he likes to turn everything against me. He did not get me a birthday present which was very upsetting and while I don’t expect him to blow all his money on me, just a hand written card literally would have been enough and it would have meant a lot because it was heartfelt. But instead I got nothing. I am constantly having to pay for everything because he decided to quit his job before ensuring he had another one lined up. So he has no money, no savings, no nothing. I found out he was following these only fans girls on social media and liking their stuff while we’ve been together, I tried to confront him and he reacted very poorly and told me that I need to grow up and then he knew them before he met me and that I was stupid and that I was just yapping. He’s very selfish in bed and while I won’t go into detail, I will say that he likes to leave me hanging after he’s done and he doesn’t like to reciprocate what I do for him. He will also go out with his friends without telling me (which I do not care about I’m not his mother) what actually bothers me is that other girls will be there and he does not let me know and I have to find out through his social media, and when I say other girls will be there I don’t mean “it’s one big friend groups and there’s girls in it”I mean it almost looks like he’s on a 2-man. He also likes to make his social media look like he is single and I will ask him to do a trend with me and he will say no because he is “trying to be nonchalant”. Some more information about my ex and my bf: when I was with my ex it was like he was my best friend and we could talk about anything. My boyfriend is not the same and we have the same conversations on repeat everyday and I’m just not as comfortable with him as I was with my ex because of how he responds to my needs, so I find it kind of hard to talk to him about general stuff.
So fast forward to my predicament, because of all this, it’s been building up to a point where I want to leave him. But I do not know how to approach this. D recently contacted me to check up on me and see how I was doing. And while I appreciate him checking up on me I have informed him that I am in a relationship and I am not looking to rekindle anything with him at this point in time. He said he gets it and that he has a girlfriend and I am happy for him and I am glad he’s doing well. But he also keeps inviting me out with just him and I’ve turned him down every time because wtf?? I just say “maybe one day” and change the subject. He also keeps reminiscing on our relationship which is strange because he has a girlfriend. I feel bad for her and I would like to tell her what has been happening but I don’t even know her name I just know what she looks like because he never brings her up.
I respect his relationship so I would never tell him that I still partly have feelings for him. Because I don’t want to come in and ruin anything they may have, if I can even say that he still has an inkling of affection for me. I just feel like I am losing my mind and I feel like a horrible person.
I will not be leaving him for D. Yes sometimes I do miss D and I think about what we could have been if I had just waited and held on a little bit longer. But D is not the reason I am wanting to leave. He is just not a great boyfriend and it isn’t working but I don’t know how to approach it. I am also leaving because it’s not right that I am dating someone and sometimes thinking about someone else.
I am a horrible person, I am naive and stupid and I know it.
I just need advice on how to tell him that I am leaving because he doesn’t treat me well.
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2024.05.19 19:01 kuu_panda_420 "I'm never letting you live this down"

My friends say this sort of thing to me a LOT because I, admittedly, do a lot of stupid things. But there comes a point where it just feels like bullying. Maybe because I end up doing so many things that people can make fun of me for. I lose stuff a lot, and I forget things easily, and I have a hard time paying attention when people talk to me, and my friends seem to think it's funny. I left my keys in the door when I got home last night and forgot, and my friend woke me up the next morning and reminded me, and said "I'm never letting you live that down, by the way." It's just annoying when it happens so often. It makes me feel like I'm just an idiot, but I know that's not true. I just wish my friends wouldn't make so many jokes about how I don't pay enough attention or I'm always spacing out or when I do something really clumsy. I feel like my general vacancy in conversations is like a big joke to them, but I feel really bad about not being able to focus on what they say. And I try really hard not to forget things but it's so difficult and every time they catch me fucking up, it's just "haha, he's so silly, his mind is in space" and I hate it. It's not my fault I can't organize my own thoughts for shit.
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2024.05.19 19:00 AutoModerator /r/GoPro Weekly Questions Thread - Ask all of your questions here!

Welcome to the /GoPro Weekly Questions thread!
This is the place where everyone, beginner or advanced, should ask your general GoPro related questions, or ask for help troubleshooting! We encourage you to post here rather than make your own thread, as this is a great place for us veteran users to answer your questions regularly, it minimizes basic question clutter on the main page, and allows users with discussion threads to stay on the front page longer before getting bumped off over time.
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2024.05.19 19:00 AutoModerator [PLEASE READ] Weekly FAQ Reminder

Hello all,

In an effort to mitigate the amount of repetitive questions that have been asked recently, we have set up this thread as a reminder on how certain things in the game works. As of now, this reminder is planned to be posted weekly for visibility.

0. FAQ Wiki Page


1. Monthly Challenges


2. Artist/Group Tickets


3. Account Related Concerns


4. Shortest Song(s)/What song(s) to Grind/What songs are easy to FSP


5. Powering Up/Rating Up tips

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2024.05.19 19:00 AutoModerator [PLEASE READ] Weekly FAQ Reminder

Hello all,

In an effort to mitigate the amount of repetitive questions that have been asked recently, we have set up this thread as a reminder on how certain things in the game works. As of now, this reminder is planned to be posted weekly for visibility.

0. FAQ Wiki Page


1. Monthly Challenges


2. Artist/Group Tickets


3. Account Related Concerns


4. Coupon Codes


5. Shortest Song(s)/What song(s) to Grind/What songs are easy to FSP


6. Powering Up/Rating Up tips

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2024.05.19 18:59 Affectionate_Run3921 The Fire Playbook that worked for me

I replied to a post here yesterday and a similar one in the Reddit salary sub, and in the discussion/comments there were a number of requests for more info on how I grew my annual earnings from 28k to 750k over a 30 year period. I commented that it was nothing fancy, but that I’m happy to share what my personal playbook was with this post.
First, there are many ways to get wealthy. Mine was the boring slow way. I didn’t grow up in poverty, lower middle class is more accurate. Had two great parents who cared, but we didn’t have alot financially. Put myself through a state college to get a Bachelors in business. Wanted to start my own business after graduation but needed to get a job to start paying back the school loans.
I had read every career and business book I could get my hands on, and the strategy I chose was to get hired in an entry level role at a branch of Fortune 500 company and work my way up. I was trying, but just wasn’t getting hired because I didn’t have any experience. From what I read, Sales would be the best place to start for me.
I was however able to get a year or so of sales experience at a small company, making 28k. With that experience I again started applying to big companies. Not in tech, and while that’s probably one of the best fields, I really don’t think field matters as much as size of company does. Big, publicly held companies benchmark compensation levels and tend to structure pay similarly to be competitive.
Ideally your background will allow you to target a large and steadily growing industry. Do your research and pick a company with a good culture. That was my strategy, thinking it would equate to more opportunities for advancement over time.
I finally landed a sales job in a small field district of a Fortune 500 company, and my pay went up to 60-70 annually. My first big jump. I outperformed my peer group and built a name for myself internally and externally in the market. A few years later I was anxious for a promotion that was still a few years away based on internal timing. When I got recruited to go work for a different company as a sales manager role, I took it. My compensation jumped to 130k. 90k base, plus bonus. Most importantly this company was doing better than my first one, had a better culture, and had more internal opportunities to apply for, which I did on a regular basis once I got up and running. I made it known I was here to learn and grow and make contributions to the business. Management liked the enthusiasm and I delivered on results.
25 years and 7 promotions later I was a VP. There was no secret advantages here. There are a lot of variables and this is just one guys path. I out worked and outperformed others, kept a positive attitude, asked for mentorship, was a lifelong learner, built relationships and a good name for myself, and was willing to adapt to a constantly changing environment. I put integrity first and build a solid reputation and relationships up, down and across the large organizations.
Outside of work, my sahm wife and I raised our family comfortably on my growing salary, but we avoided lifestyle creep. Never spent much more when 750k came in than we did when 200k came in. Key was paying off all debt as soon as possible, including our house and investing steadily over this time period. Paying off the house was not the best financial trade off but it gave me peace of mind, and unlocked a lot of income for investing. Net worth today is $7M and will be $10M when I retire in a few years. Like I said, this is just one persons path, but perhaps it’s helpful to some of you. Happy to answer any questions here but no private messages please. Too many scams out there. Best regards.
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2024.05.19 18:59 No-Web-372 2024 Draft Scouting Profile: Matthew Van Blaricom

The SJHL isn’t often a league that sees many of its players get drafted, in fact it’s rare if any of the Junior A players playing out of Saskatchewan get their name called in the draft. The tides seem to be turning slightly on that though; as the Canucks selected another Humboldt Bronco Matthew Perkins in 2023. This years version of Perkins will be Van Blaricom in my opinion who’s currently ranked by central scouting in the 4th-5th rounds of the draft and will be heading to Muskegon next season for one more year of development before starting his college career at Michigan Tech.
So why am I such a big fan of the 5’11 right wing from Southey, Saskatchewan? It’s purely based on the play style he brings and how there’s a really nice NHLer trajectory for skaters that play the way that he does.
As Brock Otten describes him, Van Blaricom is a Tasmanian devil on the ice. He played for Canada West alongside some really interesting Major junior skaters and was an absolute menace the entire time on the ice. He has a nose for the net always crashing in on rebounds or creating space by relentlessly tracking pucks into tight spaces. While he was the star player in Humboldt, the way he was able to change his role up with Canada West where he wasn’t the most skilled player was equally as impressive. He became someone who was able to utilize his strong pro like shot to create rebounds or create space for more skilled players by suckering defenders too far away from their position.
Van Blaricom’s physical presence is also a major part of his game; he lays hits and he lays them to hurt guys. All SJHL season he caught players at open ice or blasted them into the boards with more force than some that is 5’11 and 175 pounds should be doing. That and playing a physical game in front of the net snowing the goalie an extra little bit or pestering a defender to react and draw a call. Van Blaricom is an absolute nuisance that the team that drafts him will love. Though he will continue to work on his skate stride to really be able to make it to the next level of the game as his stride is clunky and very upright.
Had 68 points in 47 games with the Broncos this year, the SJHL isn’t a league that Baders system loves so Van Blaricom is projected as a 3% star and 18% NHLer with some really intriguing similar Draft Year trajectories: Evan Rodrigues, Dakota Joshua, Andrew Mangiapane and Troy Terry
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2024.05.19 18:58 thatonegirl1884 “Sun protectant…..right!?”🙈

“Sun protectant…..right!?”🙈
Why would anyone in their right mind buy this based off your review alone? You haven’t even used it yet!! So much to unpack in barely ten seconds.
1– girl you think that tiny ass clasp is for a DIAPER BAG? At least read the manual. Even without seeing it up close I’d bet it’s for the roll up shade or to extend the back cover. It’s a clasp. It’s joining another clasp end. It’s not going to hold a heavy ass diaper bag. Terrible salesman.
2– “looks exactly like our other stroller which was so expensive” sooooo why’d you buy it? Your super $$ stroller converts into this exact stroller shape, but of course you didn’t read the instructions on that one either. You thought it came with a damn bassinet for overnight sleep.
3– Neither of you understand SPF/UPF coverage? It’s like you don’t know how to read. Research it! You’re becoming parents!! Gabe could benefit from learning about UVA/UVB rays with his purple skin, and Grue has been sunburned multiple times while pregnant. This poor baby is going to have zero sun protection. She’s going to put little cutesie sleeveless outfits on and try to make her wear sunglasses and a big floppy hat for pictures and just call it a day. Sorry Blanca, we’re trying boo-boo.
4– Cupholder 👍🏼 got it. No one needed an extra video on the cup holder alone. What about the important stuff like brakes or secure seatbelt or good wheels, etc. Nope! We need a good cup holder for our 835 daily drinks. (Little does she know you can just buy a dang cup holder for your car seat) but THAT was the selling point?
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2024.05.19 18:58 Affectionate_Run3921 The FatFire playbook that worked for me

I replied to a post yesterday in the Reddit salary sub, and in the discussion there were a number of requests for more info on how I grew my annual earnings from 28k to 750k over a 30 year period. I commented that it was nothing fancy, but that I’m happy to share what my personal playbook was with this post.
First, there are many ways to get wealthy. Mine was the boring slow way. I didn’t grow up in poverty, lower middle class is more accurate. Had two great parents who cared, but we didn’t have alot financially. Put myself through a state college to get a Bachelors in business. Wanted to start my own business after graduation but needed to get a job to start paying back the school loans.
I had read every career and business book I could get my hands on, and the strategy I chose was to get hired in an entry level role at a branch of Fortune 500 company and work my way up. I was trying, but just wasn’t getting hired because I didn’t have any experience. From what I read, Sales would be the best place to start for me.
I was however able to get a year or so of sales experience at a small company, making 28k. With that experience I again started applying to big companies. Not in tech, and while that’s probably one of the best fields, I really don’t think field matters as much as size of company does. Big, publicly held companies benchmark compensation levels and tend to structure pay similarly to be competitive.
Ideally your background will allow you to target a large and steadily growing industry. Do your research and pick a company with a good culture. That was my strategy, thinking it would equate to more opportunities for advancement over time.
I finally landed a sales job in a small field district of a Fortune 500 company, and my pay went up to 60-70 annually. My first big jump. I outperformed my peer group and built a name for myself internally and externally in the market. A few years later I was anxious for a promotion that was still a few years away based on internal timing. When I got recruited to go work for a different company as a sales manager role, I took it. My compensation jumped to 130k. 90k base, plus bonus. Most importantly this company was doing better than my first one, had a better culture, and had more internal opportunities to apply for, which I did on a regular basis once I got up and running. I made it known I was here to learn and grow and make contributions to the business. Management liked the enthusiasm and I delivered on results.
25 years and 7 promotions later I was a VP. There was no secret advantages here. There are a lot of variables and this is just one guys path. I out worked and outperformed others, kept a positive attitude, asked for mentorship, was a lifelong learner, built relationships and a good name for myself, and was willing to adapt to a constantly changing environment. I put integrity first and build a solid reputation and relationships up, down and across the large organizations.
Outside of work, my sahm wife and I raised our family comfortably on my growing salary, but we avoided lifestyle creep. Never spent much more when 750k came in than we did when 200k came in. Key was paying off all debt as soon as possible, including our house and investing steadily over this time period. Paying off the house was not the best financial trade off but it gave me peace of mind, and unlocked a lot of income for investing. Net worth today is $7M and will be $10M when I retire in a few years. Like I said, this is just one persons path, but perhaps it’s helpful to some of you. Happy to answer any questions here but no private messages please. Too many scams out there. Best regards.
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2024.05.19 18:57 skatecloud1 When the inevitable 'reboot or wtvr happens- would you watch it?

Personally I feel like the actors and characters on the show seem like a lightning in a bottle type of thing to happen- regardless of how people feel the plot and stories developed I feel like a lot of things came together for a lot of it to come together how it did...
That said- I could see big potential with a Lost type show that had a solid 10 or similar number of episodes per season rather rhan the old TV studio way of 15+ episodes a season and they could plot everything out in detail in advance.
The only thing that seems problematic to me- if it's just a redo of Lost than who cares... so I'm not sure how you can make a new Lost that doesn't seem redundant.
Thoughts?
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2024.05.19 18:57 Twinningses What's your workflow for editing photos on the Pixel 8?

For reference, I have a Pixel 8 Pro and am coming from a Samsung S20.
I had a great workflow on the S20:
I am having a much harder time using the Pixel 8 Pro's apps to figure out workflow. Right now it looks like this
I dislike that in the Photos app, when you create an album it is uploaded to the cloud rather than staying on the phone. I prefer the old Gallery app that keeps it on the local drive.
Also, let's say I open up Instagram and want to upload a photo, none of the albums I create on the Photos app are listed. I can only see albums created in the old Gallery app. The lack of a quick way to see edited photos on social media apps is a real hassle.
I also hate that the UHDR viewing in Photos is not an accurate representation of how photos are viewed in most social media apps. Instead they look like over-processed hdr, which makes sense, but means that viewing and editing in the Photos app is pretty useless if you want to know how things will appear online.
So I suppose I could just stick with my old Gallery + Snapseed workflow, but then it eliminates the usefulness of having the Pixel 8 Pro and the higher-end features baked in.
Would be great to hear your recs or if I'm just missing some basic functionality of the Pixel.
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2024.05.19 18:56 Admirable-Tension-80 Boundaries in a situationship

My (34/M) situationship and myself (37/F) have been involved for over 6 months. It started as a FwB kindof situation, but we became instant BFFs. I was going through a divorce and very emotionally unavailable, so we agreed that when we found a partner to be monogamous with, we would part the romantic part of our relationship amicably.
Well, I’ve done a ton of healing with myself and believe that I can effectively date with intentions. He has always maintained he “couldn’t give me what I need.” Which, completely understandable. He’s also on the spectrum and his brain works very technically, which I’m more of a creative.
It seems like the more I heal, the more he opens up and is now treating me like a girlfriend. He’s been inviting me into his friend group, which is honestly great because I’m social and I love meeting new people. But- I’m very uncomfortable with how affectionate he is in front of them. Parading me around like we are a serious item. He’s used to seeing me in sweats and a messy bun, but I love dressing up and not to sound vain, but I clean up well. We went out on the town and met up with some of his friends and he couldn’t stop commenting on how it felt awesome to be seen with me, how gorgeous I am, etc.
He got intoxicated and some point and all the sudden brings up how he felt bad because he knew he was going to hurt me. He’s said this before, but I felt like it was inappropriate to talk about this while intoxicated, mainly because he’s very well known for saying things he doesn’t actually mean or want to commit to. To make things worse, he said he was terrified to lose our friendship, but when he settles down, us communicating anymore wouldn’t be appropriate and would be unfair to his new partner. I kept my cool in order to process this, but it hurt my feelings.
I don’t want to lose this friendship, but also frankly I think he’s a bit immature perhaps? He likes his bachelor lifestyle and I have a whole household, mortgage, kids and pets to take care of. The companionship we have is so, so nice since losing my husband, it’s comfort and fun and mostly very positive interactions. We both are well aware that when it ends, it’s going to hurt, but the love we have feels worth it at the time. He’s not a player, very kind and a big nerd so I don’t feel like he’s using me, we’re just using each other.
I briefly touched on our behavior (PDA) and if he felt uncomfortable, to which he said no but we could stop. Thing is, it DOES make me uncomfortable if he is still not entertaining the fact that we are and have been essentially dating for quite some time. And if anything, I’m just very confused at this point. I don’t want to break up with this friend, but he made it clear that friendship after he meets his “someone,” is off the table now. We run in the same neighborhood and it would be hard to avoid each other. I need some outside feedback please. Should I just let it ride out?
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2024.05.19 18:56 likescacti People who don't understand Specific Learning Disorders (SLD)

I've got dyslexia, dysgraphia, and dyscalculia.
Dyslexia - I'm tired of people saying "same" when I have spelling issues. Like, respectfully, no it's not the same. We all make spelling mistakes and that's normal. It's not normal I functionally need autocorrect to spell at an acceptable level. I understand they're trying to be kind though, so I admittedly should work on just letting this one go.
Dysgraphia - First off almost nobody knows what this is (impacts handwriting and or written expression). This one hits me the hardest.... I can sign my name alright thanks to lots of practice. But when I tell people I shouldn't be the person specified to take notes, I'm not being lazy. My notes actually suck. My handwriting looks terrible. I have trouble staying in the lines, I swap back and forth between cursive and print, the spacing between my letters is inconsistent, my "5" and "S" are actually identical. What really gets to me when is when people do see my handwriting/notes and they feel the need to, often without the intent of being mean, call it out like "wow. You can read that?". Or sometimes I'll tell people I have dysgraphia and my handwritten is horrendous. Then they'll insist I write something out to "prove it". So I can either say no and seem lame, agree and write my normal way and have people laugh at my bad handwriting, or I can work extra hard and make a sentence legible be told how my handwriting is fine and have them question if I really have a disorder.
Dyscalculia - again not a lot of people know this one (math related issues). But once they hear about it, they almost always insist I don't actually have it. For example, someone saw me add 3 dollars to a tip and said "you added that correctly". Like, okay? I can add and subtract from 1-25 pretty easily. But when it gets a bit more complex I need a calculator. Or they insist I can't have dyscalculia because I'm a grad student. I try to explain I can understand what to do and grad courses totally let me use calculators. I can use my notes to run statistics. Literally nobody runs ANOVA's in their head. I will admit I am lucky I only have a mild degree of dyscalculia that primarily impacts my "pure math" ability. I can do word problems or figure out my own research data; but when something is totally abstract and devoid of a context (like ACT and GRE math) I take a really big blow... But people still insist it's not real.
Basically I'm a bit annoyed with people who think learning disorders are the same thing as misspelling a few words, that I'm lying because I'm a grad student, or get enjoyment out of making fun of my poor writing.
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2024.05.19 18:55 NWaitforitZ Rank the following paper tiger number one seeds in the West: 2021 Jazz, 2022 Suns and 2024 OKC

Kind of funny how three out of five number one seeds in the West since 2020 turned out to be paper tigers. I’ll be ranking them by how fraudulent they turned out to be.
  1. 2022 Suns. 64 wins in the West, by far the best record in the league. A clutch machine, top 5 in both offense and defense. A well-oiled win machine. Booker 5th in MVP and First Team All NBA, CP3 Third Team All NBA, Bridges First Team All Defense, Ayton, one of the better centers in the league, Monty COTY. The only team that was supposed to rival them in the West was Warriors, that’s it. Their opponent?
52-win four-seeded Mavs team that traded Porzingis at the deadline for Dinwiddie and Bertans. Luka was Luka, Brunson and Dinwiddie high level guards who could shoot and handle the ball, DFS, Kleber and Bullock really good 3 and D guys. All those guys were in their primes other than Brunson who turned into an All Star-ish player that postseason. Luka missed a few games of that Jazz series in the first round, and they still won in 6. The concept was: surround Luka with guys who can space the floor, can execute on defense and handle the ball when needed. It totally worked. Let’s be clear though: this team was still a level below the Suns. Dallas was a tier 2 contender in the West. Phoenix was a title favorite basically. Suns in 6 was probably the most popular pick.
We all know what happened. They went up 2-0 and 3-2. They layed a giant egg in Game 7 at home. It was over in the second quarter. No real excuse. Their greatness in the regular season, strong contender status, an embarrassing fashion in which they went out and the fact that they lost to a really good not great team that lost in 3 to the Warriors in the next round makes them an easy number one.
  1. OKC 2024. Just hear me out. 57 wins in an absolutely brutal West. The toughest conference of the 2020s for sure. Top 5 in offense and defense. Excellent halfcourt offense. Second best net rating in the league only behind Boston. Great record against good teams. SGA second in MVP, Chet a DPOY candidate by all the metrics, Dort an All Defense candidate, Daigneault COTY, Jalen Williams played like an All Star for a while (Bill Simmons said J-Dub reminded him of Kawhi, so that’s almost like an award). Were they considered the best team? No, the Nuggets were, but they were certainly in that second tier with Minnesota. There were concerns about their youth. Yet this team had all the regular season metrics in their favor, they had talent, depth, youth, athleticism, two-way play and excellent coaching. Their opponent?
A 50-win five-seeded Dallas. No refreshers needed for them. OKC lost in 6 as a favorite. And here’s why I ultimately have them at two on this list: what advantage did Dallas have over them before the series?
Home court advantage? No.
Rest advantage? No, they went six with the Clippers, while OKC swept the Pels.
Coaching advantage? No, Daigneault is one of the most esteemed coaches in the league, while Kidd is probably not even in the Top 10 for most people.
Injury advantage? No, Luka was not at 100% the whole series. He was pretty bad for half the games, just like he was the previous round. Plus, they lost Kleber who is one of their few two-way players. The Mavs were the most successful with Kleber on the court vs the Clippers. He was more important for them than Gafford, Lively less so, but Kidd was most comfortable having Maxi out there. OKC was fully healthy.
Talent advantage? If we include the first eight players in the rotation, then 100% no. You would predict Dallas to have two of the three best players in the series (Luka and Kyrie vs SGA).
Matchup advantage? Not really, because even though we knew Dallas was gonna have size and good rim protection for 48 minutes, we also knew that OKC has two shooting bigs and they play five out most of the time, so it was possible they would just kill them from the outside, so I wouldn’t say Dallas had an obvious matchup advantage going into the series.
We know what happened next. In three of the four Dallas wins, they led the whole fourth quarter. Game 4 it was the same story, but SGA got hot, Mavs missed a ton of FTs and somehow choked that game. Now, obviously they didn’t go out in an embarassing fashion (17 point blown lead in Game 6 is bad, but it was a close game in the end), but I will say that they were certainly outplayed in Games 2 through 5. It probably should’ve been over quicker. They had OKC’s offense in the mud (it was SGA or bust for them the whole series, which is what the Mavs wanted), overpowered them in the paint and on the glass, and they scored just enough to win four out of six. Almost the entire time Dallas was in control. OKC didn’t even choke away a series lead (1-0 doesn’t count). They were just completely outplayed by a team that wasn’t supposed to outplay them (unless Luka and Kyrie went supernova which is maybe the opposite of what happened). In the words of Bill, that felt pretty paper tiger-y to me.
  1. Jazz 2021. 59 win pace, best record and net rating in the league, top 5 in both offense and defense, three All Stars, DPOY and All NBA guy (Mitchell, Conley, Gobert). Everything was great in the regular season. Now, they went out way more sad than OKC. Choked a 2-0 lead, lost the last two games against Kawhi-less Clippers, blowing a 25-point lead in Game 6. The reason I have them behind OKC is that they definitely had the most excuses out of all these teams.
First, no one actually took them seriously as the number one seed. OKC was definitely behind the Nuggets this year, but no one else in the West. In 2021, people would take the Lakers, Clippers and post-deadline Nuggets over them in an instant. Wasn’t close. Lakers had the eight best record in the West that year, and everyone would still take the Lakers going into the playoffs. So, they were already known to be paper tigers.
Second, they lost against the Clippers who had more talent, a better coach and were a bad matchup for them. They were second in Net Rating that year too. The last two games against Dallas in the first round they looked like a bona fide title contender. Prime Kawhi, PG, two forwards/small-ball fives who shot 40%+ from three in Batum and Morris who could space out Gobert. They went down 0-2 and then blew Jazz out at home in Games 3 and 4. They were easily the better team, and I don’t know who would suggest they weren’t before the series.
Third, the Kawhi thing was a big break for them, but they were unlucky themselves. Mitchell missed the last 16 games of the season with an ankle injury, missed Game 1 of the first round and hurt it again in Game 2 against the Clippers. Conley missed every game of that series but the last one, came back and was awful. We’re seeing three years later how good Conley is. Terance Mann also went for 39 points in that Game 6, which was pretty fluky. No wonder they lost.
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2024.05.19 18:54 sp666ky- how to make the most out of little space ?

i live in a sober living right now , and i have two other roommates , and our room is definitely not big enough for the three of us to fit in here comfortably . we share a closet , and we don’t have dressers , just these little drawer things that you can get at walmart . i couldn’t even bring all of the things that i wanted to here , because there is not room for me to have a lot of things . so any advice on how to make the most out of the little space that we have would be greatly appreciated . also asking for my roommates as well 🫶🏼 (asking on how to make the most out of the top of the closet and the bottom of it as well . my roommate also has a lot of stuff on her drawers , causing the plastic to bend and start to cave in . so any advice would help !
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2024.05.19 18:54 L0rem-Ipsum-Docet Charlie carries a part of Charlotte’s Soul

Charlie carries a part of Charlotte’s Soul
Because people don't make enough theories about novels, here's a short theory about them.
As we learn at the end of TFC, Charlie does not have a soul of human origin since she is an agony creature/an object infected by agony (I know it’s debatable, but it doesn’t really matter for this theory). Her memories therefore come from after the creation of her main bodies (after 1983) as well as from fictitious scenes staged by Henry to make his daughter believe that she had a life during the period of the creation of her body. As clarified by Elizabeth, before Charlie had a body, her memories were either those of Henry or memories made by Henry.
Basically, she has three types of memories:
  1. Charliebot's direct memories (for example, the events of TSE or her memories of childhood spent with her friends), the equivalent of our human memories. We know that Henry has access to these memories and can suppress or modify any memories he wants.
  2. Memories made by Henry, who used camera recordings that he filmed himself (for example, some of her memories spent in her father's workshop).
  3. Memories from Henry himself that Charlie absorbed as any agony entity would (for example, Henry crying with his daughter on the hill or Henry discussing with Jen about Charlotte’s ghost).
So far so good, it's logical, and all of the memories from this time could have been created by Henry without too many problems (since they are mainly memories of Henry working in his workshop alongside his daughter).
These fabricated memories therefore certainly date from the year 1983, or even 1982. We know that Charlotte was reported missing in October 1982 (or it was retconned in 1983, whatever) and that she was buried in 1983, which leads us to believe that Henry began his experiments around this period. In addition, Charlie mentions knowing her friends quite well when she was a child and was around them for at least two years (she mentions in TSE a passage of time of two years between the first and the last time she invited John to her house), meaning that they spent a few years together. So the period where Henry must have falsely manifested the presence of his daughter must not have lasted many years either, therefore easily explaining how he was able to stage everything without much difficulty for Charlie's memories after 1982 and before she got a body (it was only a matter of a few months).
This is all well and good, but what about memories from before Charlotte’s death?
At first, we can say that they should not be very complicated to reproduce either and that they are staged by Henry. They are mostly childhood memories, after all—basic memories from early childhood. But it raises some inconsistencies. Certainly, Henry could have recreated memories where he and his daughter talk at the Fredbear despite the place having fallen into ruin, but recreate a memory where his entire family is present? It gets harder... This is definitely not the second category. So these are probably memories belonging directly to Henry, right? And yes, it already works better. Charlie could just remember family moments and father-daughter moments via Henry's own memory by having his own feelings superimposed on hers. Except... what about the scenes where Henry is not present? The scenes that only take place between Sammy and Charlie or between Charlie and her mother (well, I have to admit, it’s not like there were a lot of scenes between Charlie and “her” mom—there’s only one for them in the entire trilogy), and where Henry is undeniably absent? What do we do with them?
And then, it must be said that the fact that Charlie so easily differentiates her feelings and those of her father, even when they are quite distinct, is a little strange. Since when do agony entities feel the emotions of a person attached to their victim and not of the person themselves? When Henry puts his rage into the fourth Charliebot, he didn’t put the rage he imagined the robot was feeling; he put his own rage. It's kinda weird. So yes, Charlie was able to reinterpret the memories, but to this extent? I’m not that shocked because… it’s Charlie. She’s already a bit of an exception, and she also seems to already interpret things in her own way, as seen in the memory on the hill and in the memory where Henry is talking to Jen about Ella, but still.
And above all… Charlie remembers her kidnapping. Or rather, the kidnapping of her brother who is in fact her sister (it quickly becomes complicated). It can't be a memory of Henry; he wasn't there. That's clear. We are therefore left with the second solution: Henry recreated this memory by filming the scene. At first, it seemed coherent. Henry just changed the fact that it was Sammy who was kidnapped and not Charlie, which explains this change without creating any inconsistency.
Except, first, that means Henry got up one morning and decided to shoot a film of his daughter's death (aaaand... surprisingly, now that I think about it, it's completely something that Henry could do. Well, I'm still putting it here because it's really twisted). Next, how to shoot this scene without Sammy? Well, fortunately, there is a fairly simple solution for that. Henry has conditioned his daughter to consider that the person she misses and who was kidnapped is her brother. We know that Henry can manipulate his daughter's point of view to a certain extent, and that could quite clearly be what happened in this case. As an adult, Charlie immediately thinks that her instincts to go into her closet and commit suicide are a manifestation of her brother (which is false). Likewise, Henry had no problem making her forget the fact that Sammy moved into the new house with them. So yes, if the scene is actually filmed, a young child would be needed to play the role of Sammy, but Sammy himself is not necessarily required. Which leads us to the question of which kid did Henry take to play in his macabre roleplay where he would have played the role of his daughter's murderer?
Another major problem: Charlie remembers being face-to-face with Spring Bonnie. How could Henry have known that his child was kidnapped by William when the case was never solved (I mean, Sammy could have talked about it, but if that were the case, why is Henry still friends with William if William is the number one suspect?)? And can we talk about the precision of the scene? Charlie's false memories are moments where she does not interact with her surroundings (for relatively obvious reasons such as a camera can’t talk and doesn’t have arms), unlike this memory where Charlie interacts with Sammy.
And then seriously. Why did Henry create such an atrocious scene?
For realism?
No one remembers the conditions of “Sammy’s” death in any case. People don’t even know he’s not dead at Hurricane. Why not pretend that his daughter was not present during the kidnapping or make her believe that she has forgotten this horrible memory?
Because he believes Charlie has the right to witness a realistic version?
First, this is not Henry's mentality at all (he’s the guy who lived in total denial for two years) and then Elizabeth directly says that the false memories serve to maintain the illusion that Charlie is a happy child and absolutely not a paranormal entity traumatized by her father's negligence and the incomprehension of her condition.
“He made memories for you; creating a life for her little rag doll, making her a real little girl. I am sure that many of these memories were carefully crafted and embellished (...)”
—Elizabeth, TFC
I also want to point out that Henry altered Charlie's memories in 1985 (before his suicide) to force her to forget every trace of Afton. We know that’s the case because William had already met Charlie before and probably studied her with Henry, but Charlie doesn’t even remember seeing him before in TSE. Henry is the only character who can manipulate Charlie's memories, so he’s the one who did it, even if his motives aren’t very clear.
Maybe Charlie just imagined the scene herself then?
Yes, but no. Firstly, because she would need to have cosmic gifts to guess that William was disguised as Spring Bonnie, and then because it's not really Charlie's habit to invent memories, even for events of which she is aware and which she could more easily recreate (for example, the separation with her mother, which Charlie finds strange not to remember, but she never reinvented a memory herself).
Just inconsistency and negligence on the part of the authors?
Yes, there is probably that. But now that it's in the final book, we can't just ignore the problem.
And this is where I propose my theory: Charlie's memories from before 1982 do not come from scenes created by Henry, nor even from Henry's memories; they come from Charlotte. I'm not talking about Charlotte's soul itself, I'm talking about agony or rather feelings in our context.
As explained by our friend Phineas in the FF, in the Fnaf universe, objects in our environment can absorb the emotional energies that we, beings of flesh and blood, produce. Phineas mainly focuses on negative emotions and feelings since he considers them to be the most powerful emotions in the world of Fnaf, which I absolutely disagree with, but it has little importance here. The important thing is that we introduce energy into receptacles unintentionally.
“[Human emotions] emanate from us or are excreted from us, if you will, like sweat or tears, and it wafts outward like a noxious cloud, soaking into the surroundings.” —Phineas, Epilogue 1:35AM
However, these feelings are not necessarily negative. They can be positive as it's suggested in the novels when Charlie says she believes in ghosts and Marla adds by talking about her own experiences in certain places which seemed to give off a positive energy. It is even quite logical with the fact that Henry's denial is an emotion powerful enough to feed the entity that is Charlie (even if denial isn't really suffering), and the fact that David seems to be able to put happiness into the Mimic even when he wasn’t aware yet.
So.
Wouldn't it be normal for the very strong feelings that emanate from a young child to be stored in an object that they rarely part with? More precisely, an object that contains very strong feelings to the point that they can be considered a source of energy would have every chance of being a transitional object, an object that toddlers use to develop emotionally and have a first control of their emotions—a cuddly toy.
Do you have any memories from your childhood? Probably. Do you have an object that reminds you of it? It could be anything, a book, a toy, a stuffed animal. You know, that object that appears in old photographs. Personally, I had a rabbit plush that I never let go of. It is an object that accompanied me in my childhood wherever I went, offering me comfort when I needed it, and I spent hours playing with it. Now, let's take a look back at Charlie's memories of her early childhood. These are pleasant moments that can mark a young child, almost exclusively moments of play and rest. Moments spent at Fredbear's, moments in the car... The kind of moments where it would be normal for a young child to have a toy, a plushie... maybe a doll? You understand where I'm going with this.
I mean, it's not like it’s an unknown concept in Fnaf. We can think of Simon, who talks to Jake and is not haunted by a soul, or even Tyler's Tag Along Freddy. And I will pass on the theories which propose a solution based on agony concerning Fredbear Plush in Fnaf 4.
When Elizabeth talks about her life (and death) to Charlie, she talks about her Charlizabeth phase in a very specific way: Charlizabeth's body received emotions but wasn’t able to interpret them before gaining consciousness.
“Of course, I could not comprehend those memories until I had received a soul of my own (...). Once I had endowed myself with a soul, I experienced those memories anew: not as an uncomprehending toy, twitching and seizing with an all-consuming rage I could not fathom, but as a person.” —Elizabeth, TFC
This is where it gets interesting. This is exactly what happens to Charlie regarding her old memories. They are memories that she has reinterpreted. Charlie is not a robot; she is originally a rag doll. And… well, in the end, we don’t know much about this rag doll. Her name is Ella, or Henry renamed her Ella, it's not very clear (not to be confused with the Ella doll, I know it's very confusing, but the doll we're talking about was not built by Henry). It was an object purchased in a shop rather than being made by Henry, and above all, it was a toy that belonged to Charlotte (biological Henry’s daughter, I mean).
Now what's interesting is that Henry cried into this object for days and nights, no doubt because it reminded him of his daughter. Even once the shock stage had passed and the denial stage approached, Henry did not part with the doll and kept it in his workshop on a chair. I would like to point out that this happened when Henry did not believe that his daughter's soul was in the doll but believed that Charlotte's soul was in another doll (the other doll also called Ella but which was created by Henry, the one we see in the novels). So if he keeps the doll displayed like this at home, it is probably because it has a very strong personal connection to Henry, and it was an important toy in the eyes of his daughter.
Let's imagine that this doll was Charlotte's cuddly toy, an object that she regularly kept with her and for which she reserved particular importance. The doll was able to integrate the emotions, feelings, and memories of its owner like any object in the world of Fnaf, without being animated by a conscience—a conscience that would only develop when Henry put all his negative feelings and his love for his deceased daughter into it (feelings obviously much more raw and powerful than the simple emotions of a toddler).
Now, let's go back to the memories in question. Charlie remembers the times spent with family, since she was with her family but in the form of a toy. She remembers the moments between Henry and Charlotte since she was with Charlotte and Charlotte's interpretation of the world was transmitted into her doll. Charlie remembers the play scenes between Charlotte and Sammy since Charlotte was playing with her. Which leads us to the kidnapping scene that Charlie remembers.
As for Elizabeth, the memory is a reinterpretation that Charlie carries out on Charlotte's feelings during her kidnapping. Not everything is real since Charlie was then influenced by her father (just as all of her other memories are biased. Charlie thinks she IS Charlotte the little girl when she was just her doll, a bit like how she identifies herself as Charlie in the memories she inherited from Henry, instead of interpreting them as being Henry himself).
Charlie is traumatized by this event, truly traumatized. Because Henry himself was traumatized by the event or for another reason? What traumatized Charlie the most was the figurative mutilation she suffered when her “brother” was taken from her, but her brother was never taken from her. Could the trauma not come from the brutal separation from her owner? It is also interesting to note that once Charlotte was kidnapped by William, Charlie only remembers the events very very vaguely and only vividly remembers the moment when her father got her back (the moment when Henry intervened and Henry was able to transmit his own memories to the doll). Before the kidnapping, Charlotte and Sammy were going to sleep (a situation where kids often have a plush or a doll with them), and we know that Sammy had a toy during the kidnapping. Moreover, if Charlotte was indeed separated from her doll during her kidnapping, this explains Henry's obsessive behavior towards his daughter's toy: it was the last object she had before disappearing, totally the type of object on which a father incapable of mourning would become obsessed.
To sum up my idea:
  • Charlie is also influenced by Charlotte’s feelings.
  • Henry (and William and Elizabeth, who based their work on Henry’s) doesn’t know this (he stopped caring about Charlie after he understood that she wasn’t Charlotte after all).
  • All of Charlie’s memories from before Charlotte’s death mainly came from Charlotte’s own memories.
Or in a form of a timeline :
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Two things to quickly add about this.
Firstly, in a more general sense about the series, this reinforces a certain link between the three main agony entities (whether they are creatures created solely from emotions or those possessing objects) in the series: Charlie, Eleanor, and the Mimic. If we consider that the backstory about the pendant mentioned by Talbert has any connection with Eleanor (which is rather implied) and that she (or at least her physical body) was created/re-used by Talbert (already more debatable, but I believe it's a fairly widespread theory about Eleanor? I’ll leave it to those who know better to discuss this in the comments), it seems relatively interesting that the three most conscious entities purely constituted of agony that we know of are all objects that were linked to a child before being infected by more violent emotions from an adult. It might be a silly remark; I haven't delved deeply into Eleanor's character for this lol.
Secondly, regarding the novels: the memory of Charlotte’s kidnapping could be the element that made Henry realize that William was indeed the person who kidnapped his daughter. TFC suggests that Henry understood before the MCI that William was his daughter’s murderer (notably because he seems to recover Charlizabeth before the children's disappearances). I generally assumed that Henry realized the truth about William when the latter stole the fourth Charlie model, but it would indeed make more sense for Henry to understand via an external event.
The trigger event between William and Henry is not William’s theft. After all, William has no valid reason to suddenly betray Henry and jeopardize his cover and his restaurant project with the Twisteds, just to steal an unfinished model (if he could, he would probably have stolen the third model, which was likely much more advanced and even maybe finished). Henry would have understood by visualizing Charlie’s memories or she might have mentioned the memory to her father. Henry would have turned against William, and in the panic, the latter would have returned to steal the only model easily available. This also explains why Henry didn’t tell the police that he knew William was responsible for the MCI and his daughter’s death even though he was convinced of it: revealing his undeniable proof would mean exposing the true nature of his daughter.
Well, that’s all from me!
(Btw, I wanted to add pictures from the graphic novels but couldn't because they actually didn't understand the twist and represented the ragdoll as classic Ella. Seriously I hate these books).
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2024.05.19 18:54 Marygtz2011 Not OOP AITA for telling my estranged parents to never contact me again after they reached out to apologize?

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2024.05.19 18:53 BoysenberryStill1498 Is lack of self esteem that brought me (34M) to this situation with my wife(43F)?

I (34M) and my wife (43F) are together since 2008, married since 2017. 3.7 yo Daughter.
No affairs, no secrets, or other big issues.
Every single day of my life, from July 2009 to today, I spend my time trying to establish a dialogue with my wife without success.
She is always there physically but never mentally, I have difficulties to start a conversation and to keep it with her because she gets distracted all the time
I have tried hundreds of times to express how all this makes me feel, how much it hurts me, how I burned with all my heart to be in contact with her like we were in 2008 (the first year we were together were she was 100% connected with me), but I couldn't get through to her.
So, for all the years of our lives, the following has continued: - I try to establish contact with her multiple times during the day. - She doesn’t pay attention to me/responds in monosyllables/is not involved in the conversation or say few things then stops - I feel rejected because she doesn’t want to talk to me; I realize I’m not important to her, and by force of circumstance, I shut down because there is no communication or sharing (stone walling). - She notices the stone walling and does everything to get me out of it because she detests it, but not what she should do (i.e., insist on asking what’s wrong to establish that contact that wasn’t established before and then be available to talk in the future). Lately, her solution is to verbally or physically attack me to force the change in me (quote “enough with these damn sulking faces! Smile, damn it! Don’t just sit there like a moron”). - This is devastating for me because not only I can't talk to the person I love, but I’m also insulted if I bring up the problem. Then, when she wants to spend quality time on the weekend, when she's calmer and more relaxed, she's nice and peaceful, and I’m devastated and don’t want to spend any quality time with her because I’m not feeling well and resent her.
If I manage to start a conversation by chance, after a few interactions, she's already back in her head or mobile thinking about her things. Her lack of communication towards me is invariant to the things that have happened in our lives. How she handled things poorly with me in the past when I pointed out this issue: - Manipulation: “Come on now, it’s you who gets hung up on things, of course we talk, what are we doing right now?” - Insult: “These damn things again? Do you want the truth, Husband? You’re a pain in the ass.” - Ultimatums: “If you want, change yourself, I won’t change.” “I’m going to the lawyer.” - When pushed to the limit: sex and done. The only times she's mentally present are when we argue; then she's definitely there.
The only time I feel connected to her is during sex, but it’s 20 minutes every how many days? So, when we are old and can’t have sex anymore, we won’t even look at each other’s faces? With the arrival of the child, all this emerged like a frog jumping out of boiling water. Our daughter sees it, feels it, perceives these dynamics, and it makes her feel bad.
I’m sorry, but I’ve reached the end of my patience.
She is the only person with whom I can’t talk, but with whom I ardently want to talk, exchange ideas, opinions, thoughts, etc., even 24 hours a day for 30 consecutive days (like we did in 2008). This is our main problem. In addition to all this, in recent years, she have also added: - Severe insults - Constant threats - Spitting in my face - Kicking and slapping
She has no respect for me anymore, zero.
Affection has completely disappeared; I’m writing now after more than 8 days in which I haven't received a kiss, a cuddle, a caress from her (yes, I count them). Not once have she said to me: gosh Husband, you’re right, I’m deeply sorry, now for the next 2 hours I’ll leave my phone, this, that, and we’ll talk together. NO. It doesn’t even cross her mind.
Honestly the only thing I see viable here is divorce
But, one thing I was meditating upon is this: is my lack of self esteem the real cause of all of this? If only I had more self esteem and love for myself, wouldn't I be out of such situation?
Please share you POV with me
I don't even know how I could not have an affair with someone else after all of this luck of affection, attention and respect
Thanks
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2024.05.19 18:53 CautiousXperimentor Risks of using a personal photo as a WhatsApp profile picture

Hello
After several years of not using WhatsApp, society has made me go back on it. I’ve never had a personal photo of mine as a profile picture, although I’ve shared a couple of them with some close contacts through old chats, years ago.
Back to the present day, physically I’ve changed (for the better) and I feel like using one single photo of my self, one that I really like, monochrome (just black & white or sepia), with big sunglasses that cover my eyes, as a profile picture. Vanity, they say, is the favorite sin of the devil.
So, I know that picture will be in Meta’s servers for ever. And I’m not sure if I’m okay with that. I had a Facebook account back in the day, with a few photos of 10-15 years ago, but I deleted the photos and my FB account several years ago. Not sure if Meta will be able to link those old pictures from my deleted account with my current profile picture… maybe I’m being too paranoid but we all know how this big companies work.
 
However, that’s not my only worry regarding using a personal photo as a profile picture.
Since the days when WhatsApp was bought by Facebook (now Meta), I decided to not share my contacts with the app. Anymore. And that’s how I’ve been using it since then.
But then, you only have two options regarding the profile picture: let everyone see it, or no one. Because the “only contacts” option only works when you share your contacts with WhatsApp.
So, considering everyone looking for that phone number would be able to see my profile picture, would you put a photo of your face as a profile picture? Mind you, as I said, it’s a monochrome picture where I wear big sunglasses.
 
Please let me know your thoughts on the matter, the privacy and potential risks this could arise, and any solution to be able to use a picture of myself as a profile picture on WhatsApp.
Thank you.
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2024.05.19 18:53 k1re11 How the hell do I survive in this family?

I just want to rant about my family here, specifically my father, and also ask tips on how I should handle this because clearly, it's affecting me SO SO MUCH in my mental health. I feel like it's equivalent to k/ll/ng myself already.
He is just the worst of the worst, I swear. He's been abusive towards us, ESPECIALLY ME. It's not that he has a favorite one to be abusive to, but it felt like it's a battle between me and him everyday. He has done a lot of things ENOUGH to make me hate him to death. Let me give you two of the traumatizing experiences he did to me that I won't ever forget.
1) This happened during the pandemic. One time, he got mad at me for being on the computer all the time (take note, it's because I needed to do all my assignments and schoolworks, etc.) so he asked me to help him in the kitchen. So of course, while helping him, he never stopped blabbering about me not being a good daughter, about how I'm always on the computer, and even everything that has been in the past already! Obviously, I am annoyed so I showed a little annoyance at him, but still doing what he told me to. (Side note: when this man gets angry, his voice is really mad and one wrong word or move, you're dead— literally) Fast forward, he's trying to pour water in our pitcher so he gets the big water container in his hand. HOWEVER, I was cutting the onions this time and OBVIOUSLY, onions make you cry! Well, guess what? He saw me cry! Now, he thought that I was crying because of how he's scolding me! (But tbh, I was glad on the other side, because I really wanted to cry at that time. So I found a good excuse if ever he saw me cry. So yes, I was crying because of the onions and also because of him) What happened is that he got really really mad that he lost control of himself and his temper that he decided to throw the big water container then shouted at me. He kept shouting and I kept explaining that I was crying because of the onions and not because of him, but as usual, he won't listen. He kept getting mad and eventually, everything happened so fast that I already saw him coming at me and I pleaded him to stop, but then he started to strangle me. He held my neck and I was a bit high in the position, but of course, I didn't hold back. I was getting tired and angry, so I did my best to fight back— which is to slap his face and try to gouge his eyes while he's holding my neck and kick my feet as hard as I could. I was also crying shouting. After a few seconds though, he stopped, and I stormed off to our bedroom and just cried there.
2) This just happened recently. Last 2 weeks, to be precise. I won't go into details because this is longer than the other one. Basically, he got mad at all of us in the house because no one was attending to my sister's calls. She was calling someone to help open the water outside, but no one was able to do it. Quick background: my other siblings, mother, and I were in the bedroom; he, and two of our maids were in the living room. So obv, when my sister 1 shouted, three of them could clearly hear it, but no one helped. At first, he got mad at my other littler sister because he thought that sister 2 ignored sister 1 and immediately went inside the bedroom. But sister 2 did not actually hear sister 1 in the bathroom. So then, he targeted me next. He got mad at me, saying a bunch of stuff again, asking "what will you do if no one helped you in the bathroom?!?" so then i answered him TO WHAT I WILL ACTUALLY DO in that situation. But then, he got even more mad saying "why are you answering back?!?" even if he told me multiple times "you answer me right now!" I WAS LIKE WHAT THE FUCK????? YOU TOLD ME TO ANSWER YOU AND NOW THAT I ANSWERED YOUR QUESTION, YOU GOT MAD AT ME FOR ANSWERING YOU??? Just what in the hell is in his mind! Fast forward, he got even more mad, because of how I answered his question, to the point that he lost his temper again and punched me in my upper body. The good thing is I was able to dodge myself (thankful for my mother because she shielded me :(( ), so there was less impact. But to be honest, even up until now, it still hurts. His punch still hurts like hell. What if I wasn't able to dodge it? I might have a broken rib on the side by now... A lot more worse happened after this, but I won't tell that much.
This is just so fucking sad, and I feel like my life span is declining everyday, even if I just see him around this house. I almost kms last 2 years (or last year) because of this family. He may be a good father at times, but when he gets mad or annoyed, you need to pray for your life. I already told my mother to file a case for Violence Against Women and Children, leave him, put him to jail, etc., but she said it's hard and it can't be done that easily. I'll just have to endure this until next year, so I can go and save my siblings in the future. (I applied as an international student in Canada, so if luck comes my way, I'll be studying there and get work after, so I can get my siblings)
The bad thing is I've been enduring this for the last couple of years (ever since I was a child) and I am going crazy, I swear. All the things you didn't do in your life? Suddenly, you did it if he says so! He gets irritated if someone nags him, but he's the one who keeps yapping everything about you as if he knows everything you've done in your life. I don't know how to cope anymore, I don't know what to do anymore. I've been patient with him, but he's just too much for me to handle.
The saddest thing about this is realizing that if ever something happened to me, the first thought that will come to mind is "Oh no, he can't know about this" (thinking that I'll be even in great danger if he knew about this rather than the one I am already in). I just really feel sorry for myself sometimes. :((
This is just a few of his doings. There's still a lot more. If you guys have any tips or what, how to handle this family situation and such until I can finally get away, please help me out before I actually start unaliving myself. :(
P.S.: He keeps saying that our blood is a fighter and no one backs down, but if I fight him (talk back), he gets so mad LOOOOOOOL
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2024.05.19 18:53 Original-Cry-1058 Question about businesses

Walking around Palma and I love the island. Beautiful views and amazing beaches. However, one thing i noticed, specifically in s'Arenal, is that majority of the businesses along the beach are owned by non locals, being mostly indians or chinese. So my question is are the natives of the island actually making money? I know the Big hotels are owned by mostly rich foreigners, but It even appears that the smaller businesses are being dominanted by expats. Is this true? If so, does this have a negative affect on the local community? How do the natives feel about It, i would think that this is very important for natives to make money
EDIT: I am making assumption they are not spanish bc from when i have tried to speak spanish with them, It comes out broken
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