Cute goodnight saying to a girl

OP's original post: "For context, I dated a narcissist for almost 10 months. He cheated on me the whole time, was emotionally abusive, and an alcoholic. After I helped him move all weekend, he decided to dump me on the drive to his new place to drop off the remainder of his things and threatened to leave me on the side of a highway. All of my things were at his place and I didn’t even have my car keys. We also had a business intertwined together, and I got screwed out of money as well.
If you’ve ever been with a narcissist, there are signs that they suck from very early on. He’s one of those guys that claims all of his exes are crazy and loves to be the victim in any situation.
His ex-girlfriend of a couple of years lived in my same apartment complex, and we had a lot of mutual friends in common, so naturally I reached out to her because I needed to know the truth about him to validate my experiences and make sure I had the strength to never go back, as I knew he’d come back around.
It was worse than I thought. He cheated on her for five years, was physically and emotionally abusive, and screwed her out of close to $20,000 when she moved out. Whenever he was on vacation, she would have women from other states reaching out to her in her DM‘s saying that her boyfriend slept with their roommate. She is now one of my best friends.
For legal reasons, we still had to be in communication and I wanted to make sure that I got some of the money that I was owed. I played his game well enough to get some money.
After I went, no contact, things were okay for a couple of months. But after his roommates, ex-girlfriend reached out to me and told me more of the awful things that he did behind my back and the awful things that he was saying about me, I decided I didn’t want to keep quiet anymore.
The only thing men like him care about is his reputation, so I made it my personal responsibility to ruin that.
I put him on blast to a group of 50,000 women in this cities letting them know the kind of man that he is. That he is abusive, a cheater, a manipulative piece of shit, and that he’s had four STI‘s in less than six months.
I have him blocked on every platform imaginable, and he has been threatening to sue me through mutual friends for defamation for months lol
I had over two dozen women reach out to me after that post letting me know that they too also terrible experiences with him. Many of them dated him the same time that I did.
Every time I grab coffee or drinks with one of them, they post on their ig story and tag me in it to let him know that they know everything. After he freaks out and sends them some crazy message, they block him. I’ve been doing this for months so that way he knows that his reputation is still being slandered by me, simply telling the truth.
After I made that post, he decided to low-key stalk me. He appeared at the place that I worked out at at the exact same times I’d be there, and even showed up at the guy I was dating apartment complex the same time we were there.
So I told all my friends at the gym exactly what kind of man that he is and made the environment so uncomfortable for him that he no longer goes there. One of the girls that he dated when we were together is now a regular workout partner of mine.
At least he has great taste in women.
Another girl that I know came up to me crying at a bar because he SA’d her. I now have an army of women to support her case to make sure that she wins.
This man might have treated all of us horribly, but I have made amazing women friends in the process and none of us have to go through what he did to us all alone.
I ruined his reputation by telling the truth. Silence only protects men like him, so I decided to be as loud as possible about the kind of person that he is."
User: TermGeneral6456
Link: https://www.reddit.com/pettyrevenge/comments/1cliijt/i_slowly_ruined_my_exboyfriends_life/

Seiko shows herself to be an overprotective mother and then strangely becomes murderous as she pushes Shigure off a cliff, and then shows her pathological interest in Seiichi, going so far as to tear up his love letter and kiss him. Then she talks about her loneliness, which is strange. How can she feel lonely when she has a son and a family, especially since Cici is always by her side? She goes to the point of trying to strangle seiichi, why is that, and then she talks about being trapped, but by what exactly, and then she talks about wanting to disappear or most likely die, But why, don't you have a son that you were obsessed with, and she once said that she did not need him, which was the opposite of what appeared, and we see in later chapters that she is ready to confess to her crime? She confesses and is taken to prison, and then Seichi creates fake memories based on a lack of understanding of his mother’s personality, and I do not blame him, she is confusing. And then Seiichi kills Shigure, which is strange enough, so how did Shigure get there in the first place, and where were both of his parents? Seiichi becomes a murderer and is imprisoned for three months, during that time he becomes completely obsessed with his mother Seiko is released in a strange way. Why did no one try to understand why Seichi did this? It seems as if the author wanted to free Seiko in any way, even if it was outside logic. In court, we see seiichi and seichi's father, but there is no sign of either uncle or aunt Which is illogical, as the victim is their son and they are supposed to be present at the court session to hear the final ruling on their son’s killer. Seiko appears shortly afterward, and before she listens to the final judgment on her son, she immediately announces that she will abandon him, and says that she thought she would be saved by raising him and giving him love, but she was wrong. She describes him as a criminal and thanks him because he has become a criminal, and she is happy because she will start a new life. Which is the exact opposite of what was built before that. According to our knowledge, Seiko hates herself and wants to die and disappear, but what we see now is a person who wants to live, and also the smile that she gave to Seiichi is strange, as if she is happy to be rid of him, as if he was a burden on her shoulders. What exactly is she happy about? Is it by getting rid of her son or by being freed? If the first is strange, then she has shown a determination to keep him by her side and now she is getting rid of him as if it was nothing important from the beginning. If the second is the person who confessed his crime to the aunt and wanted to enter. the prison It doesn't make sense, and when Seichi pounced on her and tried to strangle her, her expression was cold, as if she didn't care? Which increases the confusion. Wasn't she happy with her new life? Alice should be afraid of death now, but no, her expression was cold She looks at her son very coldly, as if he is nothing We move to events twenty years later, which I do not understand why the author jumped forward all these years The police officer speaks and says that Seiko was holding on to the photo album as if it was something precious to her Which goes against everything we previously knew about her, Seichi is worthless to her and she made that clear to everyone so why the hell is she keeping the album? Why did you take him in the first place? What is the meaning of that? Does she not want to forget her son? Why did you leave him in the first place? Why did you not visit him again? You abandoned him for 20 whole years. They meet again and the first sentence that Seichi hears is that she says that she is childless. It is clear that all that time she has been telling everyone that she is unmarried and childless. If she is proud of that, then why does she keep an album with pictures of her husband and child? It doesn't make sense We then notice that Seiko describes Seiichi as a stranger, which shows that she does not remember him, and when she finally recognizes him, Seiichi feels angry, so she begins to regret it and tells him to kill her? Really, aren't you the same person who wanted to start his life again 20 years ago? Also, where were the cold expressions at that time? Why are you crying now? She keeps a white cat in her house, calls her Cici, and seems to enjoy playing with her When Seiichi and Seiko are asleep, Seiko tells Seiichi that she has not forgotten him and bans the photo album This is illogical, as she was telling everyone that she was childless and had completely forgotten about her son for 20 years without communication, and now she is telling him that she did not forget him? I don't understand, wasn't he worthless to you, isn't that why you abandoned him, why are you now interested in letting him know that you haven't forgotten him? And now you are trying to prove that you have not forgotten him by using the album? Why did you leave it if you did not want to forget him? What is this logic? She then starts talking about her past, which I was expecting something big to connect all these contradictions But I was wrong. Her past is like the past of any girl in a sad shoujo manga. No rape, no violence, no bullying, not even intense hatred on the part of her parents. I sympathized with her sick sister more. How could this past provide justification for criminal tendencies, the attempted murder of Seichi, extreme coldness and lack of care, and at the same time self-loathing, suicidal tendencies, and self-love because she described herself as beautiful? It seems that the author lost the passion for the story and did not plan for Siko's past from the beginning. The story ends after Seiko's death and Seichi's life until he becomes old The story is undoubtedly sad, but the characters are devoid of logic, especially the characters Seiko and Seiichi If you have a convincing explanation for Seiko's character, please explain it to me, because I didn't understand the character and Seichi either. To be honest, perhaps I will publish another post about Seichi.

hi, i'm just writing this because i'm scared and i cant sleep. i need someone to talk to and i don't want to tell my friends about this. i haven't told anyone about any of this, i just keep it inside, so i thought i'd just come on here because i've seen other people post similar things while the comments help them feel better. i'd appreciate it if anyone maybe had similar stories they would like to share, or just help comfort me.
my older brother is 19, i am a 17 year old girl in high school, he struggled a lot in high school and definitely struggled with the idea of graduating, he didnt have a plan for college or going into the military, which my mother and whole family would have been supportive and accepted whatever he did. but he did nothing, just worked at his job at a local grocery store 3 days a week. he and i were close our whole lives, and from that may-august (2023) we had a great summer and he hadn't showed any signs of aggression to me. a lot of my memory gets blurry when i go through something traumatic like this, but i remember the first day so specifically because it was the day before my birthday. in september, i was driving him to the beach (he didnt have his license yet) and i needed gas so i asked him to lookup stations around us, he was hesitant to do so and i was getting frustrated because i was driving, and he full on screamed his head off at me and i honestly was just terrified so i drove home in tears and told my mom. she backed me up and got mad at him, and ever since that day he has just lost it.
i can give a brief overview of out background, my parents divorced when i was 5, him 7, and its just been me, my mom, my brother, and our cat. we've never lived in a place longer than 3 years and i personally have gone to 3 different elementary schools, and he'd been to 3 different high schools. so very unstable living situations. my mom makes enough alone for the 3 of us to get by, but we do live in a very expensive part of town so it's very hard to afford a house so we rent.
from february 2021-november 2023, we'd lived in an apartment and we now rent a house. i remember from september to november i just kinda avoided him, but he wouldn't be aggressive at all towards me, just my mom. she works from home, and since he wasn't in college or anything he was home all day long with her while i was at school, so they had a lot of time together. also he doesn't have like any friends, he's a wild card guy and he was popular at school but because he was loud and funny and talked to everyone, just no close friends. i think people thought he was too much to hang out with outside of school. but i remember i think in october him and my mom got in a really big physical fight and i stayed in my room with my door closed trying to drown out the yelling, until something hit my door and i was terrified for my mom because he is definitely a lot stronger than the two of us, and when i opened my door he was sitting on the floor and my mom was in the corner looking at her hands (as if she has some cuts or bruises) and my memory gets foggy from there. im pretty sure i stepped in and started yelling but i cant be too sure.
then we moved into the rental house that i live in now, and again, my memory is bad, but december 24th was the first time i called the police. we had all gotten into mental and physical fights before, but not like this, he had never actually, like really put his hands on me until this day, and i was so fed up with it i dialed 911, and my mom took over the call. the police did nothing, i didn't talk to them but im pretty sure it was because he hadn't actually done something illegal, again, i could be completely wrong abt that. but i think it warded him off a bit because i wouldn't hear his yelling or any fights with my mom for a while after.
i tried my hardest to stay out of whatever he was dealing with my mom, i would never initiate anything or instigate with him, but he would sleep until 4 pm. and obviously i was awake so i'd try to make food or watch t.v. but he would say things like "im gonna punch you in the face" or "im gonna kick you in the stomach" and at that point i'd put on my noise-cancelation headphones and go in my room. he never went in my room or opened my door when i was in it, which i was grateful for, as my room is my safe space. or just randomly put his hands on me even when he said he would. he sometime would just laugh at nothing or would talk to me but i'd have airpods or something in and couldn't hear him. i do have some vivid memories of him putting is hands on my mom though. i don't know much more information to give on him other than he has like a fascination with guns (i think) which freaks me out, as he's 19 and can buy what he wants. but since then, he's quit his job, living off of my mom's food and housing, and is aggressive.
flash-forward to now, may 2024, and tonight. yesterday, i came home from school and i was giving my cat treats and i went to the kitchen to throw something away, he walked in the kitchen, and pushed me into my room and i was fighting back because why the hell am i being assaulted right now, and he made me slip on my rug and i fell as he closed the door. my mom yelled at him asking why he did that and i didn't hear the rest because i was just in so much shock. then tonight, i now sleep with my door locked but unfortunately for my mom, she doesn't have a lock on her door, but it's 3:30 am. and he is throwing things on the floor and is knocking stuff everywhere yelling "where's the cat food?" and he barges in her room (this is what i've heard) and my mom said he pushed on her eyes, dragged her on the floor, and hit and punched her as he asked "where is it?". he pushed her into my door across the hall, kicked a hole in it, so i unlocked the door so he wouln't like kill her, and i told him where the cat food was as i stood back while he grabbed it. the cat came inside and came to my room, he was in his room doing idk what, and my mom was in shock so she grabbed her phone and cam in my room to call the police. i was trying my bast to just keep it together for the cat, i was scared of what he'd do to him, i really don't think he's hurt the cat ever, but he was in a very bad mood so i was't going to let him anywhere near him. so my mom gets the police here, and they arrest him, i don't know what else happened, i stayed in my room in shock and shaking with the cat, and i guess the cops took pictures of the house and my mom. it's now 4:45 am. and i have AP testing but i definitely can't sleep now. my mom and i are safe now but it's going to take a long time to feel safe again.
like i said in the beginning, i haven't told anyone about this, i don't even know how i would tell my friends, i haven't always been good at communication, i just had to write it all out. i don't know if this is the right community to share on as i don't use this site often, i just need someone to hear my story.
i know that's a lot to read, but i really appreciate any feedback.

I saw this post in the inferior subreddit and they really think this will somehow improve things, they are literally raped intellectually by western liberals. they somehow managed to see a girl almost naked and have zero sexual after thought, not even enticement of her thighs or anything.
Im just saying that everyone will look at those girl butts, thats just how eyesight works, you looked at her butt, its objectively what your eyes saw.
whoever married those women, im just saying that any football fan looked at his wife butt and thighs, her beauty is shared with everyone.
Algerian Liberals want to be Next Level Cucks they dont even know what success even means, they just want to be degenerate losers.

I respect opinions, but I don’t get why so many people like GrayXSlate better than GrayXTurtle. Let’s talk about both couples here… starting from the beginning. Were digging way back to the beginning of Gray Wing’s love life.
GrayXTurtle: So Gray Wing for some pointless reason had a crush on Bright Stream while he lived in the mountains. Why did this have to be a thing? Don’t ask me why. I’ll talk about this in another post so I don’t get off track. I do understand that turtle tail was friend zoned at this time, but she never did anything to go against Gray Wing’s wishes to be with someone else. She loved him but at least she had some respect. I don’t get why so many people dislike her… I love Turtle Tail because at least she helped Gray Wing save Storm and helped name Thunder in the end. Sure, she was tired of being ignored by the cat she loved but she never went out of her way to hurt him and she took the opportunity to live a new life to move on. Let’s talk about the monster Tom in another post, he’s awful. At least Turtle Tail tried to move on an not harm anyone. She came back when she was pregnant with Tom’s kits. This is where stuff gets important, now. First of all, I LOVE how Gray Wing adopted these kits as if they were his own. He was definitely their real father based on the way he treated them. Turtle Tail never forced Gray Wing to be her mate, she continued to support him even if he didn’t love her back but she had to emotionally distance herself which is fair to an extent.
Gray X Slate: First of all I will start off by saying that I completely understand the message of Gray Wing moving on and finding happiness after his Mate’s death. It’s very real and it’s sad because I’m sure that some older warriors fans (like me) understand this message. Sadly, as you get older you will lose loved ones. As much as you love someone who’s lost, there’s nothing you can do to bring them back so you need to find a way to move on with your life. Your lost loved ones are not replaceable, but you must find a way to mentally keep moving forward if you want to find happiness again. I love that message. I don’t like how this message has been portrayed with Gray X Slate. However, this type of message was much better portrayed when Graystripe became mates with Millie. I’ll explain that in another post because I don’t want to get off topic. I don’t hate Slate at all, but there was not much purpose to her character at all other than becoming Gray Wing’s new mate. As the two flirted together, I didn’t feel their romance. They maybe had like two moments together that I thought were cute but nothing else. I also don’t get why there was a message that forced Gray Wing to have kits. I loved the message on adoption. Also, at least Pebble Heart, Owl Eyes, and Sparrow Fur ended up becoming useful in the end, with their positions of power. Two became leaders and one became ShadowClan’s first medicine cat. Gray Wing and Slate’s biological kits were never confirmed to do anything special at all. One got kidnapped… and they just stay as ordinary windclan warriors. There was no point. Lame. Gray Wing X Slate is pointless. It could have been more likable if the authors put more purpose development into the characters. What do you guys think? Please be respectful, it’s okay if you disagree.

Finished the First Law Trilogy 1.5 months ago, then finished listening to Best Served Cold a month ago, and then The Heroes a couple weeks ago (took me just 11 days to finish Red Country I was THAT invested in it). I gave my thoughts on all of them here, now I guess I’ll do the same for RC. Steven Pacey once again ACES every voice he does, what a legend.
Red Country has easily become my favourite standalone and perhaps my overall fav book too in the series alongside LAOK. Mainly because it had two of my top 3 fav characters in the series (Lamb and Cosca). I also loved the Western theme, even though it’s not like I’m a huge fan of Westerns. Joe Abercrombie absolutely nailed everything in this one, probably some of his best work yet imo. I thoroughly enjoyed the story overall, and liked the plot more than the previous two standalones. Even though we got just 2 main POVs and some minor ones, those minor POVs were brief, but very informative, like we got to know what’s going on inside each side’s character’s head and they all felt like real people. Joe wrote them all so good. Especially the Fellowship, most of them were so lovable and their relationship/bonding with each other was so wholesome. The characters were just AMAZING, not just the main ones but some the side ones too. I’ll rank and talk about some of them now (btw major SPOILERS regarding the characters’ fates [and Lamb’s actual identity so pls don’t read further if you don’t know]):
Major characters: 1-Lamb/Logen Ninefingers “The Bloody-Nine”. Say one thing for Logen Ninefingers, say he’s the GOAT. The main reason why I loved Red Country SO MUCH. He was already my 2nd fav in the entire series (by an extremely narrow margin), but after this I’ll have to put him at Number 1, tied with Glokta. Seeing the Bloody-Nine from different POVs was absolutely terrifying. Unlike in the original trilogy where we knew exactly when the personalities were switched, here at times I had had no clue whether it was Logen or it was the Bloody-Nine. He was soo unpredictable and unhinged here, and I absolutely loved it. He had so many memorable moments. The first one was that tavern scene: “The ends of your fcking legs”, I already made a post on it here, to summarise: I got CHILLS seeing the Bloody-Nine at work after 13 years. And then that moment where he attacks Sangeed and his ghosts was brutal. But perhaps my favourite Bloody-Nine moment was his fight against Glama Golden. The way he maniacally smiled at Golden, looking at him through his missing finger after eating some of his best shots/punches, and Golden recognising who “Lamb” actually was, and realising he’s totally screwed and that it was indeed gonna be his last fight ever… I was smiling throughout that chapter with GOOSEBUMPS all over my body. Another bone-chilling B9 moment was when he told Jubair: “God? Gone. But I’m here” from the shadows and Jubair feeling FEAR for the first time, wow. I loved his friendship with Savian, those two put up a great fight against Cosca and his men. Overall, I felt like Logen had finally come to terms with who he actually was, instead of giving himself false solace. Though I still think there is a lot of good in him, but that darkness inside him always ends up getting the better of him. By the end I felt like he had totally accepted who he was. He just couldn’t escape from his past, and left his new family in order to protect them. At the end he rides off into the sunset, which I consider to be the happiest possible ending for him and the perfect sendoff, I’m totally satisfied because, well, you have to be realistic about these things. Much better than killing him off. Still alive… he’s still alive, thankfully. I don’t think any human can kill the Bloody-Nine in combat, at this point he’s like some supernatural force. Also, I may sound stupid but whenever he spoke some of his iconic quotes I teared up for some reason because I missed them so much. “Once you've got a task to do, it's better to do it than live with the fear of it.” is still my fav quote from the series. I just absolutely love this guy. (Sht I’m sorry guys this got longer than expected. Used up all my energy for Logen, I’ll try to keep the rest shorter.)
2-Nicomo Cosca. The famed soldier of fortune. My 3rd fav character. Woah, he was a straight up villain in this one. Seeing him from a different POV as an antagonist was very interesting. His fall from grace as he got older was brilliantly executed imo. Even though he wasn’t a nice person before, his charm and good wits and humour made him extremely likeable. Here he’s just a washed up old man trying to relive his glory days, caring less and less about everything else. His mercenaries were worse than animals, and he didn’t do anything to stop them despite Temple’s objections. All he cared about was that gold, and he was willing to do anything necessary to get it, even if it meant killing children. That last scene where there’s a standoff between him/friendly and Logen’s group, my heart was in my mouth. Temple beautifully exposed Cosca on that whole gold business. He just wanted all the gold “just because”, even Cosca couldn’t answer why. And then his anticlimactic and tragic death at the hands of Sworbreck was shocking and well deserved. I remember almost tearing up when he was about to die for Monza back in BSC. But here I didn’t feel anything but pity. Hats off to Joe Abercrombie’s writing here, one of the best characters I’ve seen in all of fiction.
3-Temple. His character development throughout the book was some of the best in the entire series, 2nd best only to Jezal’s progression imo. His POV and inner monologues were awesome. Temple went from repeatedly failing trying to be a better man, always ending up taking the easy way, to finally succeeding and taking the hard way when he was ready to sacrifice himself to Cosca to save those children, was amazing, just like how his mentor Haddish Kahdia did. He’s definitely one of the nicest characters in the series, and had some very wholesome moments. Him happily building Abram Majud’s house was so wholesome. One of the most heartwarming scenes in the book was when the entire fellowship is reunited under the roof of the house built by Temple, and they’re all partying and drinking there. Then when him and Shy finally made out, was a satisfying moment. Lamb’s reaction to that was hilarious, and Temple’s reaction to finding out that everyone knew what was going on between the two was even funnier. Him and Shy had some amazing chemistry. I was rooting for them right from the start when Shy found him half-drowned. And was so glad when they ended up together. Joe finally giving our characters a happy ending? A surprise to be sure, but a welcome one.
4-Shy South. I really liked her POV too. Her changing dynamics with Lamb were very interesting. Going from thinking of him as a coward to fearing him, and then eventually accepting him as her father that she never had. I chuckled when she started calling Lamb “his majesty” after learning he was King of the Northmen. She’s now my 4th fav female character in the series after Monza, Ferro, and Ardee. Her banter with Temple was top-tier lol. Shy and Temple made a really cute couple. I’m glad they got a Happily Ever After.
Honourable Mentions: •Caul Shivers. For some reason I just had that feeling that he’ll be in this one for sure, and I got soo excited when he appeared, and got reunited with Cosca and Friendly. He’s now officially the main character of these standalones for me, appearing in each one. Such an intriguing character. I’ve already talked about him so much in my previous posts, but I still can’t prevent myself from going into some details here. That last chapter was phenomenal. That Wild West standoff between him and Logen, Shivers looking at Logen’s new family realising that Logen is trying to be a better man. He was fully prepared to fight the Bloody-Nine, but at that point he decided to drop it. I think this was because he himself was trying to be a better man too back during BSC. He proved it here by forgiving Logen in a way, because he stopped trying to avenge his brother, and became a better man. An interesting thing to note was when Shivers looked at Ro, he saw hatred in her eyes. But ironically, Ro had hatred for Lamb and wanted Shivers to kill him. Shivers probably took that as hate for him, like if he had killed Logen, the cycle of hatred wouldn’t have ended, he thought maybe she’ll come after him later for revenge. This is what I gathered from that scene (btw no way Shivers could’ve killed him lol, the Bloody-Nine obliterates him 10/10 times). Another interesting thing, both Shivers and Logen had the Maker’s swords. In a way it also felt like a passing of the torch too, especially since Shivers has Logen’s former sword. Shivers is such a fascinating character. I already said it in my previous post, and I’ll repeat it again: Joe is cooking up something special with Caul Shivers. I think I’ll definitely see more of him in the next trilogy.
•Dab Sweet. Cool old dude. Really enjoyed his character throughout the story. Though he did do some shady stuff such as teaming up with the Ghosts, and inadvertently causing the death of Leef (ik he specifically told the Ghosts not to kill anyone, but he should’ve expected it). At least he somewhat redeemed himself at the end. That grand entrance with all the released horses running straight at Cosca’s men was absolutely brilliant. The hero finally lived up to the legend.
•The MayoCarlot dan Eider. I don’t think it was ever confirmed it was her but I always got that feeling from the start that this Mayor lady had to be someone we’ve known before, and Eider was the only one that came to my mind. My suspicions were raised when it was mentioned she had marks around her neck (thanks to Shylo Vitari), and finally confirmed when she came face to face with her old frenemy Cosca and had that brief conversation. Whenever something crazy is about to go down this lady is always present there lmao. I wonder if we’ll ever see her again.
•Iosiv Lestek. The man, the myth, the LEGEND. I remember he played Bayaz literally in front of the actual Bayaz back in TBI, and the First of the Magi was so annoyed lmao. And in RC, he did always claim his best performance was ahead of him. He played the Imperial Legate Sarmis to perfection, casually slapped Temple, and then made fools out of inquisitor Lorsen and Nicomo freakin Cosca himself LMAO. Saved the town, and Temple in particular. I guess this was him repaying his debt to Temple, who brought him into his own tent to give him a place to sleep. Temple’s kind-heartedness paid off at the end. Also, his line about appreciating happy endings more and more as he got older was beautiful, and fitting since Red Country did have the happiest ending compared to all the previous books.
Dang it, my posts keep getting longer than I intend them to be. I apologise if I bored you again. Thanks for reading this far. Let me know your thoughts and your favourite characters in Red Country! Next up I’ll be starting Sharp Ends, and I think I read somewhere that it’s a collection of short stories, interesting…

Do you think you have free will? Now about destiny:
Do you think these people in Hiroshima and Nagasaki expected such an end? Do you think so many Ukrainians were ready for war? 60% of young men have already died. Palestinian people are killed almost everyday, including children. So many “innocent” people in human history have met their end in unexpected ways. They had expectations, aspirations, marriage, travel, enjoying life, having pets, having children, helping others, etc. But many do not wake up the next morning. People go willingly or unwillingly from a very young age. It's happening right before our eyes, but we ignore it because this time it's not us. Let's not think about it. Death is very vulgar, very bad, only scoundrels talk about death.
Earthquake in Turkey, earthquake in Morocco. They slept. They had plans for tomorrow.
A 14-year-old teenager was hit by a drunk driver while returning home from school. What could he do? How can he control his destiny? If he had waited just a couple of seconds, this might not have happened.
Some rapists and child killers get married and have families, and some young people have no one in their lives. Example: (Chad Doerman) Google it if you want.
Okay, I understand that you're tired of your wife and child, but killing? ... the worst thing I could imagine in this situation was to leave. I can never understand why some people do such extreme things. Most people I know are asking for very, very small things, like getting a job and starting a family. They want to love and to be loved. But many remain alone.
Many scumbags have a wonderful life, and some good and hardworking people end up miserable. Taking advantage of poverty and slavery.
One guy in my country was killed by a politician's child and stabbed 26 times in the chest. And thanks to the power of his father, he escaped, left the country and lived his life somewhere else, got a girlfriend or girlfriends, etc.
It seems like all that matters is succeed and nobody bothers how he got what he got, rightly or wrongly. When a girl sees a rich guy, she doesn't really care finding out either he murdered someone or his father have sweatshop company. She believes all lies and sleeps with him.
Making money? There are a lot of people who are absolutely ignorant in all subjects, even making money, but they get a lot of money from idiots... called "chat". You can debate this, but I can show you two people who only have two brain cells active and they make money on twitch.
This was my personal experience. I was friends with one of my classmates. He had sooooo many dreams and aspirations. He wanted to leave the country and travel around the world because his family could afford it. At 22, he was in a car accident and lost some% of his brain. He could no longer recognize me or his parents...
Destiny? Or was it his free will to drive that day?
I know many will say he could drive carefully, etc... but some people end up dying while eating, drinking or just walking. This is not to say that it could have been done differently.
Some people are born disabled and experience severe pain. Why? If you believe in God, then your God must be a machochis, peace of shit. The cleaver man will say that we all get what we deserve, maybe his past life, etc bullshit.
The whole India accepted "you did something bad in your past life, now you have to suffer and the next one will be great" ....
How arrogant it is to think: “I have free will”
Do you remember where you came from? Do you remember how you were born to your parents? country, conditions?

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I'm a junior in highschool right now, and I had a test in chemistry, it was all stuff I knew pretty well, but other people in my class were having a good amount of trouble. This is my setup to my key problem, this girl next to me continued whispering to me trying to get help and, and on top of that she repeatedly would write notes like "how do I do this" on MY NOTE SHEET. Now here's where the real fuckups start. I tend to zone out, and today I was in a weird mood so it was happening a lot, in this case I zoned out listening to music and was whispering along, she then asked me again and I admittedly, pretty loudly whispered "Im not going to help you", because I was pretty aggravated at this point. The teacher came over and told me "you can't be talking to other students" and separated me from the table group, I didn't want to defend myself because it's a test and the room is quiet, so I just complied. The class ends and I leave for lunch, and that's when it dawned on me, I left that note sheet the girl wrote on. It's had me panicked all day because I feel like she's going to misunderstand all the things the girl asked me, combined with the fact I finished dramatically before the other people in the class and use it against me to say I cheated.
TL;DR: I told a girl I wasn't going to cheat and now the teacher has all the evidence she could ever need to say I did.

I work for a small company in IT department. I have joined here about 3 months ago. One of my colleagues is this nice trans lady named Sara. She has been working here about 4 years. She is a very kind and helpful person, everyone adores her in the office. She has been specially helpful to me in adjust in the new office.
A week ago, she came up to me and said she liked me asked if I would like to go on a date with her. She was really smooth and confident with it, it was actually cool. But I declined, I said I am not interested. She didn't seem to mind at all. She said ok, she's totally fine with it, this doesn't change anything so I don't need to feel awkward asking for her help in the future. And everything is fine with her and me since then.
Except my other colleagues are giving me crap about it, specially this one girl Jennifer. She is close to Sara. She is calling me a bigot. She is saying I should have at least taken her out on one date or made up some other excuses rather than saying not interested. She is behaving special rude with me, even when I try to avoid her. Others are also saying that I should go apologize to Sara and I should have said something other than not being interested, it's offensive. AITAH?

I’ve always been attracted to guys, but I’ve only been with girls. I took a leap of faith and changed my Tinder settings to both guys and girls. As a 22 year old dude who’s never done anything with another dude, this took a lot of courage. I matched with this European expat in my (kinda) conservative city, and this is my first ever match with a guy. He’s out, and is from a pretty progressive country in Europe. After chatting, turns out, he knows people I’m working with and is friends with them. I’m not “out” yet (I don’t even know what I “am”, sexually). What if he tells his circle, and it reaches my work mates? I don’t wanna be branded as anything by people, I want get to decide what I am and I don’t want anyone to treat me differently. Been really anxious about people at work knowing and treating me differently. He asked me out to get coffee, but I have no idea what to say. My anxiety isn’t helping me either folks.

I've got a couple friends, let's call them G and S. We've been friends for a long time, about 10 years for S and 5 for G. I've had some growing resentment towards them for some time now, they've grown distant and very unresponsive and in turn I've been slowly backing off. I've always made time for them, meanwhile for me it seems they only ever "fit me in" when they've got nothing better going on, we spend maybe an hour together at a time max. This is how it has been for probably the past year+, anytime I've tried to make plans that go beyond just sitting on my couch and smoking it's been blown off. Worse, they're chronic flakers to the point that I assume they won't show so I just live my day as if they won't be over even when they say they will.
I don't feel particularly mad over it, but out of sheer curiosity I decided to completely back off a couple weeks ago because the friendship wasn't being reciprocated, and I selfishly wanted to test if they'd say anything. Well here I am, a couple weeks later, and radio silence. I'm not sure how to feel, G has said absolutely nothing while S and I sent a couple memes back and forth until he started ignoring me this last week. I'm not sure what's up and I honestly don't want to ask, the only thing I can really compare this to is when a girl is obviously losing interest just to ghost and any calling her out on it is just embarassing yourself. I want to like my friends so badly but the lack of reciprocation for so long has me almost feeling relieved that they seem to have f'ed off. I've tried the whole "be understanding, people are busy, got their own lives, going through stuff, etc., etc." but it only goes so far man. No matter how busy or hectic or crazy life is getting for you, that isn't a free pass to disrespect your friends by ignoring them, flaking on them, blowing them off, failing to put any effort into a relationship, and never providing so much as an explanation. And yeah, they don't owe me any of those but a good friend would do something.
So, yeah. Feeling pretty lonely and a little jaded over this because these dudes have been there for me many times before and vice versa, just the past year or two has me feeling like a two-bit friend, like that one family member you feel obligated to visit so you've just started ignoring their texts. And I want to call them out on it, but that just feels like I'm being dense and can't take a hint. It's also a bit of a hard hit because this is, like, half of my friends. So much for being basically brothers, being there for each other through thick and thin, and backing each other up no matter what. I don't know, I've been carrying this resentment for some time and I always felt so mad at myself for feeling that way about my friends and I just threw those feelings out for their sheer ridiculousness. Well, maybe I should've listened to my gut and maybe I should talk to them anyway and see what's up. Ugh, I hate feeling this way about people but frankly, it's been nice not wondering every day if I'm gonna get so much as a text back, not wondering if I'll get another half-hearted apology text the next day after they flake on me, not feeling shame for being upset with them, hell not even really thinking about them. As much as I want friends, I also want to feel like those friends actually care about me and respect me and my feelings.
Maybe I'm expecting too much, maybe I'm being the shit friend, but I'm not happy with these friends and I honestly don't feel keen on putting much effort back into these friendships even if they miraculously turn around and start wondering why I've been quiet lately.

So my boyfriend 28M of two years now, had cheated on me 24F at the start of the relationship and lied to me straight for the next six months. I’ve never looked through his phone, I found out when the other girl reached out to me. I forgave him and stayed with him for various reasons. Even though it was hard to trust him, I chose to give him his privacy, never looked through his phone for the next two years. But due to recent circumstances, I’ve felt an insane urge to look though his phone and wanted access to his Instagram account, which he had conveniently disabled for a month. So I tried logging in from his phone and there was an error and he didn’t try, just said he must’ve deleted the account. He said it was because of me being paranoid, Instagram comes between us with me doubting him and so he ‘deleted’ it. I was furious. Because that does not solve the origin of the problem, it’s him, not the platform. I expressed how upset I was that he didn’t understand me or even try to. (We’ve had this conversation multiple times).
That very same night when he was out of town, he miraculously recovered his account and sent me the password which was repeatedly the ‘incorrect’ password whenever I tried logging in. So I asked him for the login code which would be sent to his number to which he denied forwarding it. He started getting annoyed that I wanted his account. For three whole days, it went on. I wouldn’t push. But when we met up and I asked for the same thing again, he didn’t mind me looking through his phone with him but when I asked to access his account through my phone, he just blew up. We ended up not speaking, yelling, and he left me outside his place saying LEAVE to which I, I have no words left to express the pain I’ve felt. I’ve never imagined he’d treat me like this after all we’ve been through. He never tried calling or leaving a text message. I called him up that night, furious, asking why he couldn’t trust me with his account. After all that he’s put me through, dragged me though the dirt and disrespected our relationship and me, I still stood up for him. And all I ask of now, was his account for mere reassurance. I’ve never asked before nor have I checked but why couldn’t he give me this reassurance for our relationship we built? This one time in our whole time together? I am hurt and I feel betrayed of all things, like a waste of two whole years. He was my everything. And his reply to all of this was why do I have to push him when he denies something. Why can I not trust him by his words and why do I still think he is the man he was two years ago.
Oh for more context, I did trust him until a year back when I found out he deletes messages of women who text him, before he meets me in person in case I check because I’m ‘paranoid’ as he states. Found it out by accident when we were both watching a reel on his phone and even after that I didn’t check his phone, what’s the point, he has deleted all evidence anyway. But that one occurrence is ALWAYS on the back of my head. I try, I try really hard to trust him and I hate that I’m being this toxic woman I absolutely despise but I can’t help it. I hate what I’ve become and he’s not helping. He turned me into this. I’m against checking phones because one’s privacy is their own but why can’t he let me after cheating on me to save our trust?
After a heated conversation last night, he still didn’t even try understanding what I’m going through and I was honestly tired of explaining over and over again. He tried getting me back as it worked out multiple times before hitting me with “So you’re done with this relationship just because of this one thing, after all we’ve been through? And proceeded to express the depth of his love” to which I blocked him in all platforms right away but I think this is it. If I’m the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, what does he have to hide? If he’s treating me with such hostility for a ‘small thing’ as he states, who’s to say about the future? Am I overreacting as he states, am I being stupid and toxic and throwing something beautiful away due to me being paranoid? I adore him, he and me sync perfectly in life, we’ve dreamed of settling together and I love him. Do I make amends or is getting back together just delaying the process and making it more painful for the both of us to part? Am I in the wrong? I have so many questions and I am so confused. I feel embarrassed of all things. How do I tackle this life situation, sigh. I need advice.
TL;DR! Since my boyfriend of two years who previously cheated on me is denying me access to his Instagram account and not giving me the reassurance I need, I’ve left him. Am I in the wrong?

speaking as a passable 5’2 trans woman who lives in a mid-large size midwestern remotely progressive US city although in a red state, i just don’t feel the need to be “stealth” anymore and frankly i don’t think it exists.
for context, i’ve been working as a waitress in multiple establishments for the past 6 months and have never been misgendered or had to tell anyone im trans, but i still assume most of my coworkers and people who interact with me on a daily basis know and/or will eventually pick up on it. i know i pass as a woman but still very much have visible male secondary sex characteristics (gay boy voice, more strong jaw, bigger hands) which i feel are my most dead giveaways. but despite these characteristics im still treated just like a lady and nothing else.
i just started working at this job and as per usual i like asking about lore of previous employees. yesterday one girl told me about a crazy chick who prostituted herself on the job. she said nothing about her gender. i laughed and brushed it off. the next day i was talking with another girl coworker and she was telling me about the same girl except she added that the girl got fired for basically getting super fucked up on the job and soliciting herself very loudly and publicly and making guests uncomfortable. i was appalled and felt second hand embarrassment. but nothing like how i felt when my coworker added on “yeah she was taller, she was Trans I think”. my heart sank. i felt super empathetic to the girl bc i know what it’s like as a trans girl to be at your lowest, not knowing your limits, and just being entirely too much. but it also dawned on me that if this girl can clock us trans girls and still be respectful then who’s to say i’m not being clocked too?
on one hand i am super grateful to live in a city progressive enough to be accepting of my transness and still see me as a woman, but also kind of annoys me that trans ppl have so much visibility now that being stealth isn’t even needed nor is it really a thing. unless you transition before puberty someone’s always gonna be able to tell and that’s what still makes me feel disconnected from others.

7 years ago. But I was just reminded of this story as she just got married.
I met this girl when I was about 11/12. We became pretty good friends to the point of saying we were best friends. Then when we were 16 she moved to a town 2 hours away but we remained friends over text & visited each other sometimes.
Then when I was 18 I decided to move to a different county. She came to visit me a few days before I left. We went to a house party with a few friends and towards the end of the night me and her were just sitting & talking on the street together, and this is when she suddenly confessed her love for me.
She told me she was in love with me and that she always had been. But though I'm bi, I genuinely viewed her completely platonically and thought she felt exactly the same. All throughout our friendship she had boyfriends and hook ups, and so did I, and we discussed these together.
I was in shook and kept saying stuff along the lines of "what? no you don't." But she kept insisting that she loved me. We were really drunk, so to this day I have no idea if she really meant it or not. She was being very serious about it, but it was totally unexpected and didn't feel right.
The next day she had to go home and she drove all 2 hours home. Then when she got home she texted me saying she was coming back as she couldn't not see me again, and she drove all the way back just to see me for another day before I left. I don't remember what happened after tbh.
But yeah. We've kept in touch but not that much, just once in a while we'll message. We're 25 now. Often when we message she'll say how she misses me and that I still hold a special place in her heart. But a few days ago she got married to her boyfriend of 3 years and now all these memories have resurfaced.

Watching Vi På Saltkråkan
The boy Pelle is petting his rabbit and the little girl Tjorven appears and interrupts him with questions. Pelle is a bit annoyed and says to Tjorven -
Man får inte en lugn stund för dig
I understand that he is basically saying that one can't get a peaceful/quiet moment with Tjorven around. But I don't understand the use of för in the sentence. It doesn't match any of the main usages I know if. Perhaps it is an older usage here.
Hoping some can explain.

speaking as a passable 5’2 trans woman who lives in a mid-large size midwestern remotely progressive US city although in a red state, i just don’t feel the need to be “stealth” anymore and frankly i don’t think it exists.
for context, i’ve been working as a waitress in multiple establishments for the past 6 months and have never been misgendered or had to tell anyone im trans, but i still assume most of my coworkers and people who interact with me on a daily basis know and/or will eventually pick up on it. i know i pass as a woman but still very much have visible male secondary sex characteristics (gay boy voice, more strong jaw, bigger hands) which i feel are my most dead giveaways. but despite these characteristics im still treated just like a lady and nothing else.
i just started working at this job and as per usual i like asking about lore of previous employees. yesterday one girl told me about a crazy chick who prostituted herself on the job. she said nothing about her gender. i laughed and brushed it off. the next day i was talking with another girl coworker and she was telling me about the same girl except she added that the girl got fired for basically getting super fucked up on the job and soliciting herself very loudly and publicly and making guests uncomfortable. i was appalled and felt second hand embarrassment. but nothing like how i felt when my coworker added on “yeah she was taller, she was Trans I think”. my heart sank. i felt super empathetic to the girl bc i know what it’s like as a trans girl to be at your lowest, not knowing your limits, and just being entirely too much. but it also dawned on me that if this girl can clock us trans girls and still be respectful then who’s to say i’m not being clocked too?
on one hand i am super grateful to live in a city progressive enough to be accepting of my transness and still see me as a woman, but also kind of annoys me that trans ppl have so much visibility now that being stealth isn’t even needed nor is it really a thing. unless you transition before puberty someone’s always gonna be able to tell and that’s what still makes me feel disconnected from others.

Hi! Me M26 her M18. Long story short met 3 months ago, it’s been absolutely amazing since the first day , we would see eachother at least 3 days a week if not more from dusk till dawn, went on trips together, events and we share the same passion and hobby.
3 days ago Friday she ended it. Main reason being she wants to be alone doesn’t want a relationship or anything right now with anyone. She has to much going on.
Can’t take her word but couldn’t of asked anymore times to confirm that there is no other man involved and that she wants no other guys and if things change she will come to me.
Met her the next day, tried to convince her different tried everything but didn’t work, shesadamant about the following thing
1: absolutely does not want me out of her life
2: I’m the right guy just wrong time
3: this is 100% what she wants and that’s not a relationship or being with anyone right now
She really wants to be in my life wether as a lover or freind. I made the mistake and seen her again Sunday as she had extra bullshit going on besides our breakup and I went to see her as it felt like the right thing to do, I didn’t want to but I tried again didn’t work, this whole time and Saturday would not stop crying. We chilled out for a bit had some chats about our life’s and left.
I rang her yesterday and told her not to contact me again untill I’m over her unless she changes her mind on how she feels about me other than that no contact.
I really did not want to do this , she text me after the call thanking me for everything saying she’s never met soemone like me and she absolutely wants me in her life. And then she asked me to send all the pics we had together and I did.
Now the problem. As hard as it for me as she is the first girl I’ve ever loved. I’m so not happy with the decision of NC I was advised by freinds to do so but this is just not me I don’t like it and I don’t want it. I want to talk to her and I know she will reply instantly .
Maybe I am making the wrong choice by wanting to break NC but I can’t help how I feel I want to talk to her even if it makes it harder to get over her.
Maybe she does need space and see what life is like without me and she might realise she wants me but I’m not clinging on to false hope !
I’m not trying to be a hero but she needs me and I want her to realise this. All her freinds that I spoke to said she’s never been this happy ever since they know her , she’s adamant she needs to be alone and doesn’t need anyone but how can I make her feel and realise this without it being forced.
Yea I love this girl , yes I’m accepting she doesn’t want me in that way right now but I refuse to not talk and see her and hang out it just feels like the right thing to do and what I want to do.
Someone please advise.

hi upper east siders, it’s gossip girl fan here! as a born and bred manhattanite myself (f24) i watched gossip girl for the first time in high school purely for shock and awe and to catch up on big girl stuff (i was 12 by the time it ended on TV) for anyone out there wondering - yes this show was BEYOND dramatic about a lot of things, but they never lied about the true opulence that lies unchecked in this city, and the kids who are left behind and forgotten about while their parents chase careers, affairs, the bottle, etc. except their version of “pizza money” is a fully stocked liquor cabinet and an empty luxury apartment in downtown manhattan. nothing as dreamy or devilish as Gossip Girl could convey in the end (but again, not that far off! who knows what people do behind closed doors and i went to public school so i really wouldn’t know) but all of that aside, i went on to study film and screen in college - i just finished rewatching the series in full and i want to outline some thoughts as to WHY Dan being GG makes total sense
*** I KNOW what people will say, that it was never originally planned like this, but until i see some backdated articles or interviews from the writers clarifying when exactly they started going in that direction, im just gonna use my imagination like we’re supposed to, and it’s fun! ******

• Dan’s own endgame was not JUST to be with Serena in the end, although it started out that way and inevitably returned back to it, but he proved it himself with writing inside/inside out that his true motives were the same of his sister - to become one of them and stop being outcasted for his class and his family status
  
• starting GG not only platforms Serena (weird, obsessed etc but it worked) but himself as well, and everything bad that he posted about her basically propelled her to either tell the truth or seek help which she Needed… evil yet effective
  
• his dad and lily made his access to the VDW family tea unlimited and therefore priceless - gossip girl became a completely different ballpark getting into these people family affairs and nobody stoped to think about how he knows all this from the background? ie befriending Nate and having access to Chuck with that esp once Nate moves into the Empire (i think s3 onwards), access to Blair via Serena etc. he said it himself in the finale that he learned enough gossip from being invisible to start the site in the first place
  
• similar to above, he also notes that Jenny KNEW he was gossip girl for some time (interesting…. my theory is by the time she used it to get out of new york for good and exposing C&B (who was with her? DAN!) same motive as himself, being in GG meant being talked about, and J can whine all she wants but she got what she wanted and just didn’t want it in the end…
  
• famous theory as to why it DOESNT make sense for Dan to be GG bc there are certain blasts that went out when he wasn’t blatantly on a computer ; even in early y2K blogging you could pre-set a post for publishing, and we see Serena do this with the post about Charlie being bribed by DR.VDW. makes you think about how many posts could have been pre-published on nights they were all together (parties, galas etc)
  

sidebar: horrible to think but i also think Dan benefitted from using GG to make Serena/honestly everyone more vulnerable and sympathetic towards him: after all, she was destroying both of their characters until you realize his true intention was to put himself on the map right beside her, and lets his emotion guide his judgements as to how he treated people. he would also use this power to knowingly cause and solve problems so he could be the hero

• again, everything posted was to “show them the worst of themselves” dan wanted to be them SO bad but just had to be an intellectual about it and prove some sort of point, but i guess he was right: there would be no website if THEY weren’t constantly looking to betray each other. most secrets were things only they would know, and they forgot dan was watching bc they always underestimated him.
  
• he never really wanted to hurt anyone which is why the site goes dark or stops writing about certain ppl (after Serena/Juliet gate or BlaiChuck car accident) and he consensually agreed to stop writing about Jenny once she left town. It’s also noticeable that the website falls into other people’s hands when he was off living his best life with Blair- unlike Serena, he didn’t have to mold her into any idealized version bc he knew he couldn’t, and what was first a muse became a roadblock. anyway in the peak of Dair’s relationship is when Georgina had GG and passed it to Serena - he knew it was her for a while, but only fought to get it back once things were on the fringes with Blair, and also because it was NEVER supposed to fall in her hands anyway, and we all saw how that worked out
  

TLDR, a fun viewing activity is rewatching the show with this perspective without feeling so tied to the technicality of choices made regarding the earlier plot ideas - it’s quite fun thinking about every tip, every post actually coming from his perspective, let alone what he had to gain from it… clearly a career in writing and his dream girl to say the least

I (24M) have been staying with a friend, Hamza, for the last few weeks. His future wife, Rachel does not like me, and trust me the feeling is mutual. Obviously, I know it's none of my business who my friend marries so I have kept this pretty low-key, only mentioning it when he asked. My friend's a bit of a workaholic, has been his entire life, even when we were kids he was studying in every class and almost passing out a couple times. So obviously I was pretty concerned when I found out this imbecile was working 12 hours a day than coming home to do a 2 hour run with his (admittedly adorable) husky. I offered to walk him for him and its been going pretty well. His fiance doesn't like this much, saying I'm gonna run off with the dog (tf?) But Hamza shut her down.
2 days ago, I came back from walking said dog to find Rachel telling Hamza to kick me out and calling me a mooch. So I told her she was the mooch. Hamza told me to go back to the guest room so he could handle his now screaming gf. I went up and let Hamza deal with it. Apparently they got in a huge fight and now Hamza is reconsidering his engagement. I got a text from Rachel that I shouldn't be interfering in their relationship like this. I told her its none of my business they're fighting and she could kindly fuck off. She tried to call me but I didn't answer. I have no interest in speaking to her. I told this story to some of my other friends and they mostly agreed with me but one girl said I could have tried being nicer and reassuring her that I have nothing against her relationship. But frankly, i don't think thats my job. Hamza seems stressed now though. So I might as well get some strangers opinions. AITAH?

I wanna preference by saying I fully support the lgbtq community but I'm not or have not ever been gay. I have been very overweight since highschool and have really struggled with depression and girls but have had the occasional girlfriend and dates but nothing to serioius. I also dealt with a lot of rejection and nonsense trying to date so I stopped for a very long time. Well due to some health issues I really went hard on taking care of myself and lost 130 pounds in the last year through a plan of diet and exercise with my doctor so I went from 367 down to 230 ish pounds. Well with a new look and attitude I put myself out there and started talking to a girl That I've had a crush on for a while which has gone really well and started going out. Well yesterday I'm telling my mom everything about it and she goes I'm so glad you are dating the opposite sex. I was like what the fuck are you talking about. She goes on this long speech about because I wasn't dating or actively trying to get a girl that a must be gay. I was absolutely shocked that my mom thought that of me and actually made we worry about who else she has told this too.