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Missing 411: For people who want to know more. Unexplained disappearances and other weirdness

2014.04.15 15:34 hyperactivelime Missing 411: For people who want to know more. Unexplained disappearances and other weirdness

Information and discussion about people who go missing in National Parks and forests, and rural and urban areas, as detailed in the Missing 411 media. This is an unofficial, independant subreddit with no ties to CanAm Missing Project.
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2011.08.05 19:02 Slashur_8 QuotesPorn

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2010.01.26 19:23 blisstonia 30 ROCK

Guess which subreddit thinks gesturing with one's thumbs is for poor people, is immortal, has TWO BAD KNEES, is beautiful but doesn't know it, and hasn't cried once today? THIS ONE. A sub-reddit for the fans and critics of the show 30 Rock. Discussion of the show, pictures from the show and anything else 30 Rock related.
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2024.05.02 15:55 Zealousideal_Plum533 When you ask questions to other people do they get annoyed?

Whenever I ask for help or more understanding of the question being asked? They insult me and tell me that is a stupid question. Mostly NT People aka Non-autistics or some bad apples of the normies as I like to call them are sometimes idiots. My reply is to put on my headphone and dance to annoy them. Or to reply You're the stupid one and idiot for being rude. I then sing the smurf song La La La to make them mad and enjoy the look of annoyance on their faces. Love messing with NT people mostly.

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2024.05.02 15:54 Contactunderground An Act of Flying Saucer Sabotage at the Department of Energy Laboratory in the Santa Susana Pass Contact Network History Project.

An Act of Flying Saucer Sabotage at the Department of Energy Laboratory in the Santa Susana Pass Contact Network History Project.
An Act of Flying Saucer Sabotage at the Department of Energy Laboratory in the Santa Susana Pass
Contact Network History Project.
Joseph Burkes MD 2019

The Department of Energy Research Lab was just a few miles from our high desert CE5 research site.
SPRING 2006 PANORAMA CITY MEDICAL CENTER
It was a slow day in ambulance area. The patient and I were alone in an examining room. I was serving as “admitting officer.” I had been asked by the ER crew to evaluate a possible admission to the hospital.
The patient was an elderly African American man. The chart indicated that he was suffering from a kidney aliment. We were crammed into a tiny private exam room. There was barely enough space to squeeze a hospital stretcher on which the patient sat. Standard patient monitoring equipment covered two walls. A tall hospital swivel tray served as my desk for the evaluation. Decades before I had been an industrial toxicology medical consultant. As part of my special interest in occupational diseases I had acquired the habit of taking a detailed work history. I asked him what was his occupational status.
HE HAD WORKED FOR THE “GOVERNMENT.”
He told me that he was retired.
From what kind of occupation?” I asked.
“I worked for the government, “was his answer.
That somewhat vague reply got me interested. From countless evaluations. I had learned that people who worked for the postal office, the FAA or US Forrest Service almost never used the cryptic expression, “government work.” However, this is a designation sometimes used by those that worked in classified projects or for defense/intelligence agencies.
I asked him what specifically his job was. He replied that he had been a physical plant engineer at the Department of Energy (DOE) laboratory in Chatsworth, a high desert suburban town in the Northwest corner of LA County’s San Fernando Valley. The DOE has a wide range of responsibilities including developing nuclear weapons. The Chatsworth DOE facility understandably was kept under high security. It was originally constructed after World War Two and had carried out top secret research in space propulsion systems. It just so happened to be located a few miles away from the desolate high desert fieldwork site that my CE-5/HICE contact team had used when we started staging Human Initiated Contact Events (HICE) in 1992. Our field laboratory was just a few hundred yards south of the Santa Susana Pass which connects Los Angeles to Ventura County.
The DOE lab was rumored to be the place where an anti-ballistic missile defense system known back in the 1980s as “Star Wars” had been developed. The installation was built south of the Santa Susana Pass which separates the suburb of Chatsworth from another “bedroom” community called Simi Valley. Most of the people who live in the area commute to the San Fernando Valley and other parts of Los Angeles to find employment. Many of our Kaiser medical group’s patients came from these towns.
Back in the 1990s, one of the investigators on my UFO contact team was also a colleague from our med group’s Family Medicine Department. His name is Dr. David Gordon. He is a contact experiencer. Without knowing of one another’s interest in flying saucers, he and I joined both MUFON and CSETI within a month of one another in the spring of 1992. He was so well respected by his patients and colleagues alike that he had received permission from his Family Medicine Chief to do an informal survey of UFO sightings. His patients and the Woodland Hills Kaiser Medical Center staff served as the study population.
Having a much respected family practice physician on my team turned out to be a bonanza when it came to acquiring intelligence concerning ongoing UFO sightings in the area. Whenever patients of Dr. Gordon heard about local sightings, they checked out the information and then passed it on to their personal physician. He then dutifully gave the sighting reports to me, his contact team coordinator.
One of Dr. Gordon’s patients was a retired carpenter who reportedly had been employed building the DOE base in the early 1950s. His patient said that they had literally “emptied out the mountain” to construct the lab. Apparently, this was done to make it secure from aerial attack. So much dirt had to be moved, that for 3 months according to the retired carpenter, a line of dump trucks several miles long were filled with earth removed from inside the hillside. To convey how strategically important this base was during the Cold War, I share the following additional information.
BASE HAD BEEN TARGETED FOR SOVIET NUCLEAR ATTACK IN CASE OF ALL OUT WAR
During the 1980s, I was an activist in the Physicians anti-nuclear weapons group called “Physicians for Responsibility (PSR). Our mission was to raise public awareness about the medical consequences of nuclear war and the nuclear arms race. We were part of an umbrella organization called “International Physicians for the Prevention of Nuclear War” that won the Nobel Peace Prize in 1985 for bringing Soviet and Western physicians together in our educational peace campaign. When the Soviet Union fell apart in the 1990s, thus ending the Cold War, our Los Angeles PSR office held a photographic exhibition called “Nuclear Los Angeles.” We showed pictures of the nuclear artifacts in Southern California, such as missile bases and fallout shelters from the 1950s and 60s. One of the photos was an image a Soviet strategic map used to designate targets in Southern California for nuclear attack if war broke out. There was a target located in the northwest corner of Los Angeles County. In clear Cyrillic letters it phonetically spelled out the name “Santa Susana.” It was the DOE lab in Chatsworth.
Another story told to Dr. Gordon by the retired carpenter that helped build the base reflects the strategic nature of the laboratory. His patient told my colleague that he required a security clearance to work underground at the base. He reportedly was only allowed to build labs and offices down to the eight floor underground. Below that level, a higher clearance was required. He wasn’t sure how far down the base went. That information was secret, but he guessed that it was at least another ten levels down inside the mountain.
I WAS FAMILIAR WITH THIS BASE AS AN ENVIRONMENTAL HAZARD
The Department of Energy research facility was a dirty and dangerous place to work. Press reports in the 1980s identified this site as one where several serious environmental accidents had occurred. Back in the 1950s a nuclear reactor at the base had a partial meltdown and plutonium was leaked into the surrounding environment. One isotope of plutonium (Pu-239) has a half-life of over 24,000 years, thus making it one of the most feared environmental contaminants. Over the years, the DOE lab was cited for many safety violations with the release of other toxins. Our LA chapter of Physicians for Social Responsibility was very aware of these problems with DOE installation and worked in a coalition of environmental and anti-nuclear groups attempting to force the government to clean up the site.
Given this background information, when I evaluated the retired plant engineer from the base in 2006, I was eager to learn more about what went on there. He explained to me that his team of engineers kept the facility running properly by carrying out routine maintenance on the infrastructure at the facility. This included plumbing, electrical, and outdoor repairs.
AN AMAZING ENCOUNTER NEAR WHERE OUR TEAM OPERATED
Things were really slow in the ER that day so I thought there would be no harm if after my medical evaluation I told him about my special interest in UFOs. I asked him whether he had ever seen a UFO. His reaction was telling. With a concerned expression on his face, he turned his head from side to side to look around. I imagined that he was checking to see if anyone else besides me might be able might to hear what he was about to say.
“Yes I saw a UFO once,” was his answer. I asked him where the sighting had occurred. He replied, “It was at the base.”
We were totally alone in the tiny room, the glass sliding door was closed and a curtain allowed us privacy. Despite this, the patient had turned his head and looked around before he dared to the answer my question. I was eager to find out more about his sighting.
I mentioned to retired plant engineer that back in the 1990s I had been part of an investigative team that had a number of UFO sightings in the Santa Susana Pass. Our fieldwork site was about a few thousand yards from the DOE base perimeter. This information seemed to set him more at ease. He paused for a few moments and then I guess he decided it was safe to tell me his story.
ALARMS WENT OFF IN THE CONTROL ROOM
He wasn’t sure of the exact year that it happened. He knew that it was about fifteen years before our interview in 2006. It might have been in 1989 or 1990. He was on duty at the research lab when the alarms went off. It was late afternoon and the monitors indicated that there was a sudden loss of water pressure in the lines that supplied a several of the labs.
The facility had been built deep underground into the side of a mountain, but there were many structures on the surface as well. The retired engineer explained that on the top of the base enormous water towers supplied the entire complex. Pipes several feet across ran down from the storage towers along steep hillsides to the various labs. The mountain was composed of loose sedimentary rock, sandstone. Occasionally rockslides damaged one of these pipes. Given the distant history of a partial meltdown in a reactor with the release of plutonium, I surmised that keeping the labs supplied with coolant might be of great importance.
The plant engineer told me that a sudden loss of water pressure could only be addressed one way and he knew the drill. He and a co-worker grabbed machetes and a weed-whacker and went outside to check on the status of the water lines. Starting at the water towers, they followed the lines down the steep mountainside looking for a busted pipe. This was not an easy task. It was late afternoon, but it was still very hot outside. The water mains were partially covered with rocks and dirt. Desert plants with sharp nettles were everywhere and to top if off this was rattlesnake country.
SABOTAGE!
The maintenance engineers moved slowly because the loose sedimentary rock didn’t provide secure footing. Finally as the sun was setting, they found the busted pipe. Water was shooting upwards like a geyser. To their amazement the large conduit had been cleanly cut as if by a power tool! They had expected to see a jagged break in the water line, the kind that might come from simple corrosion or from falling rocks. The engineer stated that there was no doubt in his mind that damage had been done deliberately. It was sabotage!
As the engineers inspected the water main, they noted a strange soft humming sound. They looked up and not more than two hundred feet away was a rotating disc hovering close to the ground. It was metallic and about twenty-five feet across. My patient told me that he and his buddy were shocked. They stared at it in amazement.
They called security on the radio and explained the situation. They were told, “not to approach the UFO.” The retired engineer stated that getting any closer to the spinning saucer was the last thing he wanted to do. Armed security officers reportedly informed the men that they were coming down to check out the situation. However before they arrived, the saucer departed. I was told that from a hovering mode it pointed one side upwards and then started to climb slowly. After just a few seconds with a roar, the UFO accelerated at a tremendous speed and disappeared into the twilight.
The next day government security officials arrived and interviewed him at length. He could not recall what federal agency they said that they were from. Both men were required to make drawings of what they had seen. My patient and his co-worker were sworn to secrecy and were advised not to discuss the event.
When my interview with DOE engineer took place, he had been retired from the DOE for over a decade. He told me that his fellow witness had also retired and was living in Las Vegas. My patient said he was certain that his buddy would corroborate his sighting report. I thanked him and made final preparations for him to be admitted to the hospital.
DOE WAS LIKELY INVOLVED IN STAR WARS PROJECTS
Given the conflict-laden history of our planet’s military with UFOs, one can speculate why a flying saucer might penetrate a high security facility to carry out an act of sabotage. It should be remembered that in 1967, according to USAF missile personnel, over ten nuclear tipped rockets went “off line” (i.e. the missile could not be fired) while a red glowing UFO hovered over the front gate of the launch facility. In 2008 investigator Robert Hastings published the book “UFOs and Nukes.” In this detailed study he documents dozens of similar events from the testimony of service men that witnessed them. The event described to me in 2006 was not an isolated occurrence. It was one of many similar incidents in which UFOs penetrated secure US defense facilities.
The DOE lab in the Santa Susana Pass is known to have developed key technology in the US space program. Over four decades ago the space shuttle engines were reportedly tested at the Chatsworth DOE site. One of my patients told me that the rockets’ red glare could be seen across the entire San Fernando Valley when the tests were conducted at the crest of the Santa Susan Pass. The anti-ballistic missile program, rumored to have been developed at the DOE lab, theoretically could have been used to target and destroy flying saucers operating outside of the Earth’s atmosphere. A video taken by a US Space Shuttle mission suggests that this capability was more than just theoretical.
In his 1998 book “Confirmation”, author Whitley Strieber analyses the controversial NASA videotape made on space shuttle Discovery during mission STS-48. This video has been featured several times on national television. It displays what appears to be an unidentified flying object maneuvering outside of the Earth’s atmospheric envelope. Suddenly the UFO changes direction and few seconds later something dramatic occurs. What appears to be some sort of particle beam shoots up from below streaking by the exact location where the craft had been before it carried out its evasive maneuver. The incident transpired on September 15, 1991. The Space Shuttle Discovery was flying above Australia, approximately 1500 miles northwest from a secret US military base located at Pine Gap near Alice Springs. Strieber has provided a thorough analysis of the videotape by physicist Dr. Jack Kasher and imaging specialist Dr. Mark Carlotto. Their conclusion was that the prosaic explanation provided by NASA, that the UFO seen in the video was an ice chip, is simply not credible.
THE DISCLOSURE PROJECT WAS NOT TAKING NEW WITNESSES AT THAT TIME.
In 2006, I thought that the maintenance engineer’s account was of considerable value. I asked him if he would be willing to give public testimony about what he had observed. He told me that since he was retired and no longer worked for DOE, he thought that there should be no problem. I contacted Dan Willis of the Disclosure Project. I offered my help to bring forward what I believed was important new information from a witness that had encountered a UFO in the course of his work for the federal government. Dan informed me however that no new witnesses were being interviewed at that time.
I debated whether I could on my own videotape this retired engineer. In 2006, every two weeks I commuted between my ER job in LA and Northern California where my wife resided. Although I knew my patient’s narrative provided dramatic information concerning an act of sabotage allegedly done by a flying saucer, my personal situation didn’t allow me to produce a video of his testimony. I regret not being able to better document what I consider to be an important piece of UFO history. The incident had special significance for me. The flying saucer’s alleged act of sabotage occurred in the Santa Susana Pass approximately two years before our Los Angeles CE-5 team initiated contact work during the summer of 1992.
At that time, I was convinced that our fieldwork sightings in the Santa Susana Pass of red orbs, a golden globe, and other anomalous aerial phenomena, were all the results of using the CSETI protocols. The term Dr. Greer used was “primary vectoring.” However, I am now convinced that my assessment was mistaken. We didn’t attract flying saucers to Santa Susana Pass. This is because they had already been there in force for some time. The surveillance that our team experienced from men in civilian clothing with an obvious military bearing were likely triggered by a very reasonable security concern for the safety of the base. In addition, our team was buzzed by two powerful Blackhawk helicopters during a nighttime hike towards Rocky Peak that overlooked the DOE lab.
During the five years (1992-1997) of intensive field investigations involving staging HICE/CE5s, we repeatedly found ourselves in UFO hotspots adjacent to military instillations. Why did this happen? Were these merely coincidences, or was the intelligence behind flying saucers using us as part of some kind of larger plan? These are some of the questions I hope to address in further installments of “The Contact Network History Project.”
For additional Reports from the Contact Underground, the following links are provided:
Staging Human Initiated Contact Events adjacent to a high security research lab involved challenges of surveillance for my team. https://contactunderground.wordpress.com/2022/05/19/did-a-fateful-phone-call-trigger-the-appearance-of-blackhawk-helicopters-during-contact-work/
What if flying saucer intelligences had access to every witness’ full treasure chest of memories?
https://contactunderground.wordpress.com/2022/04/18/do-uap-intelligences-have-full-telepathic-access-to-every-witness-storehouse-of-memories/
My human initiated contact team had immediate results when we started fieldwork, but they were not what I expected.
https://contactunderground.wordpress.com/2022/10/15/mystery-lights-in-the-santa-susana-pass/
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2024.05.02 15:54 phazon0 So, what is the best personality and intelligence test for a cashier?

Hey,
I am trying to get a summer job as a cashier in retail but I always get rejections. I am already having a two years of retail experience and I just wanna work a bit during the summer period. There are plenty of job ads for this matter and they all require a personality test, and sometimes an intelligence test. (I miss the time where I just got the job by going to the store and that's it). Anyway, I start to wonder whether one reason for the rejections might be the way I approach those tests. I always score well above average in the intelligence test since I assume recruiters think that high intelligence equals high performance. And in the personality test, I try to portray myself as highly conscientious and diligent, high emotional stability, highly adaptive, average to high passion, average leadership, less on creativity. At least, that's what I think is good for a cashier. Should I adjust my approach, for example pretending I am more stupid in the intelligence test since you don't need to be highly intelligent for filling in the shelves (but then, why even conduct this bullshit; it is a temporary job anyway)
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2024.05.02 15:54 Regnisyak1 The Amazing Race 23 - A Review!

Good morning everyone! Here is my TAR 22 review, if you want a reminder!
Also, polls! Here is TAR 23, the masterlist with the links to the polls, and the leaderboard.
I actually had a lot more fun with TAR 23 than I initially thought I would! It had some fun stories between the teams (Tim and Marie's entire existence, The Afghanimals slowly breaking, Amy and Jason's slow rise to the front, and some all-around solid teams at the end). There were some great downfalls, a satisfying winner, and some fun overreaching storylines (I have an EXPRESS PASS!). I wouldn't necessarily call the season perfect by any stretch of the word, and a lot of the characters do have evident flaws that I noticed, but with this season I was able to ignore them much easier, just because personalities showed through.
This season also seemed like a return to form with other seasons. There wasn't any toxic drama this season, but some of the relationships just straight-up hated each other, it wasn't uncomfortable by any means, but more fascinating. Further, conflict felt more real this season, but not as negative as, say TAR 20, which gave it props and made it captivating from the front to the end. Plus, there was an entire episode about airport drama! I didn't really think that I missed it that much, but boy was that episode a lot of fun, and a highlight of seasons.
The route and challenges were also really satisfying this season, albeit not very memorable, but they had a lot of fun with them. For some reason, Portugal's was really fun to me, even if it was just a puzzle and arrows. There was a lot of simplicity on that one, but we got to see culture, and I found the Magellan map to be really pretty, lol. But also Danny and Tim with the dancing and choir boy challenge, the rhino costume (I love it when anyone has to get into a two-person suit), the crazy challenge with the sugar cane, and the makeup challenge were hilarious. I loved how the guys didn't know how to wipe off the makeup, and they looked beautiful whenever they gave a confessional, lol.
So yes, overall, I am very positive about this season, and I think I can comfortably say that I find most of the cast to be top half of my rankings for the season. Refreshing overall, and while it was chaotic, I enjoyed it. Now it is time for character rankings!
  1. Brandon and Adam (1/10) - If you give me BJ and Tyler energy, I feel like I have to rank you kind of low. They were two weirdos on the race who had a free spirit, and every single second they were shown I had a feeling of being annoyed. Their boot was also kind of lame, just being the collateral u-turn with the Afghanimals. Overall they were annoying to me, and I just was glad they went home.
  2. Hoskote and Naina (1/10) - I think they might be one of the worst first boots on the show, simply because they did have a really strong story, and Naina needed to prove him wrong, but nothing really happened with that and they went home really fast. It was unfortunate because their relationship was halted and just circumstances that created an unfinished story.
  3. Rowan and Shane (6/10) - BINGO! Big gap between the two teams at 9 and 10. Rowan and Shane were so campy and it was a unique team in the race because of how vicious they were. The fact that Rowan stole a man's livelihood on the race just because he thought it was a roadblock has to be one of the funniest mistakes this season because it was so comical. Overall, they were really solid and a fun boot! Also when he called Marie the "diablo" I laughed so fucking hard. So dramatic for no reason, lmao.
  4. Ally and Ashley (6/10) - The racewives/ice queens were a solid and fun team in the race and were overall jovial. I don't really know them outside of Leo and Jamal's story, but they were a lot of fun, and I liked how they broke down at each other in the last leg after they knew they were going home.
  5. Leo and Jamal (6/10) - I am so mixed on the Afghanimals right now, I think I could rank them anywhere from an 8 to a 0, and it would make sense to me. At first, I didn't care for them because it really seemed like they were playing up their swarminess, messy party animals persona, but they were interesting in the fact that whenever they did screw up, like missing a pitstop after not paying a taxi, or the stress of the race causing them to argue with one another. I also liked how much innocent conflict they started this season with their compulsive lying and dirty tricks. At times, I would get annoyed with their antics, and then watching people get mad at them and dunk them in the next challenge was always really funny. Their downfall was good too because they were stuck at the challenge due to their carelessness during the robot challenge, which was teased all season.
  6. Nicky and Kim (7/10) - The bunnies were just a fun team on the side. It reminded me a lot of Jeff Kent and Dawson on Survivor: Philippines, with the baseball wives knowing who Tim was, and them keeping the secret. When I made that comparison it made me giggle. They were not big teams by any means, but they had a level of independence during the season and separated from other teams, and they had a really important role in the airport debacle episode.
  7. Tim and Danny (7/10) - THE OKIES! I loved their style of play this season, being cutthroat with little traveling experience, but needing the money for their season. They were not over the top at all, and I think you could just tell they were having fun, but it was also a business trip for them. The dichotomy was really fascinating, and their performances at some of the roadblocks/detours, as well as their harsh nature toward the Afghanimals, were really interesting on the season.
  8. Chester and Ephriam (7/10) - AIRPORT DRAMA! A chaotic episode of the season, every time they returned to these two, and heard that they missed flight after flight after flight, my heart broke more. Beyond that, they were really funny, clearly enjoying their time on the season, and watching Phil march into the airport was probably the best philimination that I have seen so far. Definitely a highlight of a 3rd boot on the season.
  9. Nicole and Travis (8/10) - OK, first thing is first - Travis is a terrible person, at least from what was edited on the season. However, I found the disintegration of their relationship to be almost fascinating, especially when given the context that they were a teachestudent relationship. It was incredible how much I disliked them over the season, and it just kept snowballing, from them being devout Christians out of the blue, to the hypocrisy with Leo and Jamal, to Travis berating Nicole constantly over the roadblocks. Travis' competitive nature came out on the island, and when I was doing research for this, I saw someone mention that "Nicole lost the race, but Travis lost the relationship" and I think there is something oddly poignant about that statement. It was a fascinating but icky conversation, so I completely understand why people like or hate them.
  10. Amy and Jason (8/10) - A fantastic mirror against the other two teams, these two were able to push each other and rarely fought with one another. Yes, we did get some snippy comments from Jason, but it felt more in place with frustration rather than wherever Nicole and Travis' insecurities came from. They were the most competent team, and I liked their willing approach to not be the fastest or winningest in the race, but to build relationships with others and be prepared to take the prize at the end. I think the whole roadblock situation with Nicole and Amy was also interesting, and showcased that no team is perfect in the race.
  11. Tim and Marie (10/10) - Icons, Marie was born to be on reality TV. Her fiery personality, ability to intimidate people on the season, and her general behavior and cutthroat nature in the game were fascinating. I loved how they made a competitive team more the villains of the season, and how they weren't afraid to show Tim and Marie's aggressive nature on the race. She was relentless in trashing the other racers, and was able to turn on a dime, but was also incredibly competent in the race. Also, I loved how Marie was competitive in the season, mainly because she wanted to win because Tim agreed to a 60/40 difference with the money. So comical, and I loved this team. The minute Tim said "Her violence kind of turns me on" I knew they were going to be 10/10s for me. They helped make the season stronger, added to the conflict, and made 23 a unique bright spot for what was about to come.
Season Ranking: 8/10 - I really did enjoy this season! Great conflict, interesting team dynamics, and a really interesting early game and after-game created some fun drama. Overall, it was a blast, and I am surprised I liked a season so much at this point.
Onto TAR 24 - all I can say is I am scared : ).
Season Rankings
  1. TAR 14 (10/10)
  2. TAR 5 (10/10)
  3. TAR 2 (10/10)
  4. TAR 3 (10/10)
  5. TAR 1 (9/10)
  6. TAR 11 (9/10)
  7. TAR 21 (9/10)
  8. TAR 10 (8/10)
  9. TAR 7 (8/10)
  10. TAR 23 (8/10)
  11. TAR 12 (8/10)
  12. TAR 19 (7/10)
  13. TAR 17 (7/10)
  14. TAR 18 (6/10)
  15. TAR 13 (5/10)
  16. TAR 16 (3/10)
  17. TAR 15 (2/10)
  18. TAR 4 (2/10)
  19. TAR 22 (2/10)
  20. TAR 9 (1/10)
  21. TAR 8 (1/10)
  22. TAR 20 (1/10)
  23. TAR 6 (0/10)
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2024.05.02 15:54 mothernatureisfickle Tree recommendation?

We just had four massive silver maples removed from our yard. These were 100 year old maple trees that were hollow on the inside and starting to lean. It killed me to have them removed, but they were starting to lean over our house and every time the wind starting to blow, limbs started to come crashing down and I knew it was only a matter of time. The arborist said it was time, so we had all four taken down.
We are in west Michigan and I would like to plant new trees in the fall. I want something that stays smaller and maybe adds some color. Right now we have a weeping cherry and a lilac in our front yard and two redbuds in our side yard towards our neighbor.
I'm open to suggestions. We live on a corner lot and I need a few different trees that will go both directly in front of our house and then on the side facing the opposite street. I would love to create a little haven in our yard with trees or small flowering trees that provide privacy and are lovely to look at.
One problem we do have is wildlife - we have a ton of deer, rabbits, woodchuck, some ducks, geese, and even turkey. They will eat anything that is not protected.
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2024.05.02 15:54 JoshDuder Reached Out

You can read my history to get some back story but to sum it up. I was with my ex for 14 months and we broke up in early March. For the first few weeks after the break up she was sending mixed messages to me (talking about us having sex again, wanting to make plans) and it really messed me up. To complicate matters I was helping pay for her internet bill and she was on my gym membership so her kids could go to the gym.
I loaned her a lot of money last fall (17k) and then gave her 3.5k more in March while we were broken up to help her out. A week after that she cut ties and said we were in different places. Since then I’ve tried to get my stuff back and she’s kept some of it back.
I emailed her Monday to let her know that I was cutting off the gym membership and also said I missed talking to her. She said she felt the same and asked to get a drink next week.
Yesterday I texted her and she minimally responded.
I’m torn up. I know there are tons of red flags but I love her so much. I went and saw a psychic and she said we have a soul tie which is insane but also exactly how I feel.
What should I do?
To further complicate matters there’s a lovely women who’s interested in me and wants to go on a date tonight.
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2024.05.02 15:53 Fun-8888 Cops will not arrest a person with all the proof I have of me being threatened and harmed. What can I do?

I was in a "partnership", through deception. It led to filling out applications for a home, 2 signed leases, joined bank accounts, trips, suicide attempts (theirs)...
A month after finding out I had no consent to be with my partner (after building and being so close/together for 3+ years), I disclosed the truth to everyone on their side. Their spouse asked me to give my ex-partner a home 3 times via text, the spouse demanded a divorce from my ex-partner via text (and posted it), engaged in over 20 hours of FaceTime calls to me with both of them...
We ended our togetherness-understandably. Sometimes you just have to stay married, I understand that, especially with kids. Moments before, my ex-partners spouse asked who my best friend is, I told them my ex-partner (that is how we started as friends), the spouse (this is the last Facetime interaction for all three of us which lasted 5.5 hours)told me that their best friend was a person of the opposite gender as well and how they will never ever give up their best friend.....the spouse then asked my ex-partner, who said while looking at me with their spouse standing right beside them: "my partner. I love (me)them, will always love them and will never give them up." My ex-partner's spouse disconnected the call immediately.
My ex-partner's spouse distributed slanderous/defamation fliers all over a 5 mile radius (work and home) blaming my ex for it, my ex's spouse, their friends and family, have doxed me, messaged/harassed me, run me off the road...My ex's spouse posted my address and phone number social media sites (my address is protected by State Executive Law as a result of domestic violence), my ex's spouse also tried to get me to hit their vehicle, I did not but I did need to be hit by a truck, the ex's spouse/family and friends call and drive by new places of employment of mine lying and hindering my ability to make money. The ex's spouse has hacked my ex partners emergency cell phone on my cell account, as well. Apple Store verified. And so much more.....
My ex's spouse, was not in a relationship with me, says the Sheriff's, therefore, they cannot help me, BUT, the Sheriff's have no problem telling me that it is not illegal for my ex-partner and or spouse to annoy the police to have the police harass me. However, it appears, my ex's spouse can make any allegation via phone call or email and claim I am harassing them and they need an order of protection from me.
My ex broke the lease and stopped paying their half (over the threshold of $20,000 to date and growing). Between that and their spouse costing me my jobs and hindering any future ones, thus far; I am/have been homeless and living in my car. I am being dragged into court time and time again to just be postponed and postponed.....I have no money, I have put over 20,000 miles on my car in six months to stay warm, to move from place to place to avoid being charged with loitering and to keep moving so the ex's spouse does not have her spies find me.
What can I do, I need my ex sued for the money owed but no money for a lawyer because of them; I need my ex's spouse arrested immediately (she is getting worse and this has been 18+ months)...
The ex-partner's spouse tried to take me to small claims but it got thrown out (again, I did not have a relationship with the spouse, therefore I did not have anything of the spouses)
The first case my ex tried with, I asked for and received a dismissal. The spouse did interfere with that case by emailing the judge to try to make it about themselves (it is about the cheating spouse), which got a stern talking to my ex-partners lawyer. When that failed, my ex-partner tried to change his request and that, too, was denied therefore the judge approved my motion to dismiss. The ex-partner's spouse did not like that... lied, provided proof of one telephone call from the first case timeframe (2022), a typed email without proof supporting the allegation in the email and then a phone call making allegations (no proof) and the ex-partners spouse was able to get a T O R, currently, with not even being ever in the same room with me or having a relationship with me or providing proof...It will be dismissed but during this time The ex-partner's spouse as of March 2024, was a passenger in their best friends (opposite gender)...the friend was driving, using their truck as a deadly weapon, head on to my car that I was driving with my daughter and grandson!!!!!
I need my ex's spouse to stop having access to hindering my rights to work; I have a right to provide for myself and to have a home; I have a right to sue my ex-partner who breached verbal/written/oral contracts.
I have texts/voicemails/emails/screen shots and photos of everything. Please advise!
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2024.05.02 15:53 Prestigious-Box8456 AITJ for going NC with my aunt?

I’m 22 years old and autistic. Several months ago, I told my aunt about some bullying that he was experiencing at work. One of the managers called me a fool and a f**king idiot in front of the whole restaurant because he did something the assistant manager told him to do and she didn’t agree with it. I got very upset and stood up to her, and a few of his coworkers yelled at me and cussed me out. My coworkers had been treating me like shit for a while, and today was particularly bad. She told me she was sorry all that happened and knew it must’ve been upsetting. She wouldn’t have liked it either. If she could punch them all in the face, she would.
Later that day, on my lunch break, I called her and said they’re still mistreating him and that, after some thought, I told my boss everything that had happened. As a result, she put me on nearly opposite schedules and punished the manager by deducting her pay. Then I said I wondered if the two were connected and she said, “I’m pretty damn sure they are. That’s why you don’t tattle.”
I said that wasn’t tattling but she insisted it was, telling me I’m not gonna change the world and at the end of the day, your bosses don’t care that your coworkers are calling you names or whatever. All they care about is you doing your job and doing it well, they have enough things to worry about. Besides, it’s only natural for a bully to continue their behavior when they get into trouble. I asked her if she’d say that to a kid being bullied worse in school after telling a teacher. Her argument was that a child in school and an adult at work are two different things. Apparently, when you’re an adult and it’s your job, you have to weigh things out and ask yourself if this is really something the boss should know about or not. “I’ve been mistreated at jobs, but I was in a position where I couldn’t just leave, because I was single and divorced and had to support myself and my two kids. So I sucked it up and took it.”
I’ve had a few grievances with her in the past, but this really took the cake. How I took that was “that’s what you get” or “it’s your fault you got bullied.” I decided to go NC with her. This went on for a few months and then her husband called me. He gave the phone to her and immediately she confronted me about how she hadn’t heard from me in months. According to her, I can’t just cut people out of my life because they piss me off or I don’t agree with them, especially family. Apparently family is immune. If I do that, I’m gonna have a lonely life. I wasn’t being “mature”. She said that she was mad at me and her feelings were hurt. Additionally, her son almost died of a heart attack and spent weeks in the hospital and she used that against me by saying that I could’ve been there for her during that time.
After we got off the phone, she sent me a text saying that if she ever said or did anything to hurt my feelings that she was sorry, that it’s never her intent. Me and how other people treat me are her foremost worry and she loses sleep and cries over me many nights. She’s always loved me like one of her own.
I was confident going NC was the right thing, and it felt nice having that break from her, but now I’m starting to have second thoughts.
AITJ?
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2024.05.02 15:53 Thereturner2023 The mods on r/Israel are such lowly cowards .

They removed a comment I had which was a response to some post confronting their myths .
I am going to post here , so the world can see how absurd they are :
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Your author hasn't even stated the source for his growth rate , and he also deliberately concealed the fact that the 1922 census was an undercount . Such reasons cast doubt on the 100K figure in less than decade , especially seeing the late 1920s actually were a time of economic decline , even internationally.
Another article in 1937 from an actual Journal of time , rather than a Journalist from an amateur newspaper , has estimated that around 10%-20% of Palestinian-Arab growth from 1922 to the mid 1930s was due to immigration . (Population Growth in Palestine-1937) .
This hovers around 35k individuals when taking the difference between the 1931 and 1922 censuses (Again : assuming the 1922 census is an undercount) , and assuming the worst case of 20% . 35k out of a population of roughly 850k is 4% . When looking at sources that identify natives from immigrants , such as contemporary Sharia court records which register birth places , seem to confirm this scale . Around 10-20% of people who interacted with Haifa's Sharia court were born outside the country (Arab Immigration to Haifa 1933-1948: A Quantitative Analysis According to Arab Sources ... The article's in Hebrew ) .
Besides the raw numbers , if they don't have logic behind them : they are simply ink on paper .
Just look at Mexico near the US as an example . We still see most Hispanics in the US are native born through the decades , and in some cases : they were there before even the US annexed their areas before the treaty of Guadalupe Hidalgo . This popular Neo-liberal idea of "Wealth=population increase=Immigration" is just superficial thinking that projects the 21st century conditions into the past . Most Historical migrations were due to Instability , and Push factors . There isn't anything which suggests that Mandatory Palestine had such an essential component which nearby regions lacked that would cause hoards of "Arabush" to settle there permanently , especially when there was a revolt from 1936-1939 , and the Histadurt evicting Arab workers to make room for Jewish ones , and general insecurity .
The fact that you can't reconcile the thesis of "Those Arabush just came recently" , with the existence of a distinguishable Palestinian Arabic dialect , items of unique design like embroidery , and having a homogenous Islamic rite * already proves the opposite : that Palestinian Arab society was native to the country in 1948 . That's excluding some other genetic studies , and those "weird surnames" you love to point at as if proves your point , which actually imply the contrary : that people having names like "Kurd" , "Masri" (found elsewhere of course the in the Middle East) were a minority that assimilated into a predominant homogenous population .
*(The Sha'fi school . Its followers were estimated to have been around 70% according to the 1922 Handbook. Sources in our time confirm Palestinians are largely Sha'fi . See Constructing Nationalism in Iran , and The Santillana Codes . In contrast : Egypt is Hanfi , Arabian countries are Hanbali , North Africa is Maliki ..etc ) .
..OP , it's best that you be honest with yourself . You are just a politically-charged apologist looking for seemingly "acceptable" justifications for his government's wrong-doings , and not a person who wants to talk about the Palestinians' presence in the country .
You should be ashamed of yourself , but I guess Israeli-exceptionalism doesn't have limits anyway ... especially when I start quoting from Shlomo Zand and start shouting "Go back to Khazaria /Yemen".
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What exactly is wrong here ?
Only one thing , and it's that it kills their national mythology .
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2024.05.02 15:53 Affectionate-Sky7756 they was a love starved girl, he was a predator boy. tw/ r*pe, sh

they/them please. no advice needed, i am safe and in recovery from cptsd, vent only.
he and i shared class for six years, the latter half of primary and all of middle school. for the first 5.5 years he might've not existed for all i knew, he was just one of them f around boys with low grades, we never talked, he might've bullied me along with other classmates (i don't remember much from that time bc of the bullying trauma). the puberty hormones hit me real bad and for a while in my early teens i looked like a potato hiding behind long, oily, mousy hair. that changed once i started dying my hair and doing some minimal makeup, which gave me some confidence. which probably doomed me as it gave him space to seek me out as his prey.
within weeks of his first acknowledgement of my existence i was, uhh, "in love" with him. the flirting got to my head. it was more intense than just a crush, though maybe it was just limerence. once we first made out in a stairway it was official - i had a boyfriend! i wasn't worthless! bless the innocence of a 16 year old heart. i didn't know that the relationship wasn't anywhere near secure. he triggered me into behavior that was reminiscent of BPD symptoms, in turn he was avoidant, ignoring my distress and need for comfort unless we would be making out or doing anything increasingly more sexual.
we would make out in stairways, behind corners in school, in my bedroom. i remembered just last night he pressured me into giving him handjobs at least a few times. it escalated into him whining we have sex because his 16th birthday was coming up. desperate for love i wasn't getting at home, i agreed.
school ended early that day and we had about an hour to ourselves before his mom got home. this was the first time i was in his apt. he had condoms - he planned it.
i was out of my mind nervous, visibly shaking. he was rock hard. i was dry and the penetration was very painful, so we stopped after a few minutes and he laid on top of me and finished himself off into a glass.
i remember walking into the bathroom, wiping myself and being surprised there isn't any blood, it hurt so much. and then looking into the mirror and not recognizing myself. i had to leave swiftly as to not meet his mom. no cuddling, no comfort, no nothing.
he texted me afterwards asking when would we be doing it again. i said two weeks because it hurt and i need to recover.
the next day i get a text he's breaking up with me.
A F#CKING TEXT.
i broke down. i cried for hours loudly in my room. i self-harmed. family largerly ignored me. i was in the worst pain of my life and i had to deal with it alone. the world went black and white, desaturated with that one text. the windowsill looked so nice that day.
and then school came and i had to see him monday-friday for 8 hours for the next 3 months. the first three weeks are a blur, i remember only talking to him one last time - behind the school on a rainy afternoon, just to tell him i got my period so he doesn't have to worry about me being pregnant. there probably was lots of self-harm (fortunately left no scars) and punishment starving. anything i ate went through me like water anyway. and one day in class i was beating my head against the wall hoping i would get brain damage so i wouldn't feel any pain anymore, until the teacher noticed and asked if i was okay. (bih of course not, i was emotionally coerced into sex which makes it essentially rape. i wouldn't find out i was raped until LAST YEAR when i remembered i have sexual trauma and read the legal definitions. 13 f×cking years later.)
to make things worse, i felt everyone in school immediately knew about it. i didn't have much friends so i had no one to ask whether i was paranoid or not, but there is a slight chance he didn't do it on his own, but it was all instrumented by the clique of bullies in my class - to f the unpopular girl, maybe extort nudes to laugh at. it felt like i was being laughed at even more until everyone saw after a few weeks when i didn't get over it how much pain it caused me and then even the girl bullies were sympathetic. i won't ever know if he genuinely saw something in me, just wanted a fling or was i a victim of a cruel plot.
and now that i'm an adult, why the f did no one react? teachers, parents, family all saw my mental health decline. i was actively suicidal. how do you NOT help a SUICIDAL CHILD? my only escape was music. i listened to the same sad & angry albums over and over. some songs i played back then still trigger me immensely. i guess the adults just labeled me as emo (which i resembled visually - when you're suicidal you can't help but wear black all the time as if you're mourning yourself already) and my emotional state as emo shtick. i'm still distrustful of any figures of power - they really were against me when i needed help the most. i went through it all alone with my plushies, headphones and albums i still have an altar for.
after middle school ended i decided i was "over the heartbreak" and tried my best to forget about it. all i did was dissociate hard enough i forgot it was rape. waking up many years later to find the wound is still there oozing black hopelessness was a nightmare - and still is. i don't really tell this to people. i have, like, 3 friends and they don't deserve to carry my trauma, they have their own. how do you just casually mention to a work acquaintance your deflowering was rape and you still have ptsd? i don't have anyone safe enough to tell. (don't i though?)
please be gentle.
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2024.05.02 15:53 orthi09 Samsung Neo G7 (S43CG700NU) Game Mode and 4090

I have the following setup:
a 4090 with 4 monitors
2 1920 x 1080 touch panels
a 4k Bravia TV
and replacing a 144hz 1440p monitor is now a
S43CG700NU Samsung 4k Monitor
I can get all 4 monitors to work when not in the "Game mode" of the samsung monitor. In that mode the monitor is locked to 60 Hz and no VRR. The 60hz is fine with me. But I'd really love to use VRR.
As soon as I activate the "game mode" the 144hz mode and VRR get unlocked but then I can only use 3 of my 4 monitors. When using the Nvidia Control Panel I can see all 4 but as soon as I try to activate the 4th one of the first three gets deactivated.
Is there any setting/ drive whatever I can do to get all 4 monitors to work with VRR on the Samsung monitor? I do not want to connect a screen to the iGPU as I use all 4 monitors for flightsim output.
BIOS on board/ drivers and everything is current.
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2024.05.02 15:53 katoxes Maybe I don't have ADHD, maybe I'm just run of the mill stupid?

Firstly, this tale of catastrophe may never have come to fruition, had I continued to forget that I was midway through making myself some lunch (all the ingredients were out on the side, I popped to the loo, decided to have a lie down and 45 minutes later...). However, I did finally remember (something about having a gurgling belly), so here we are...🙄
I was making myself some little sandwich thin sandwiches. Now for those who are not in the know (aka non British folks), they are kinda like square pitta breads but already pre-sliced (I love pitta but my God I always end up tearing them). I was following my husband's suggestion of having a little sliced cheddar on them, some chorizo and chutney, all toasted up, lovely.🤤
I assembled the sandwiches (quite possibly my first error), before popping them into the toaster. I was just about to slide the bread rack lever thing (?!) down when I had a brain wave. Ahah! 🧙
(Cue second error)
So that was exactly what I did, and very proud of myself I was too.
I slid the lever down. And almost immediately the greaseproof caught on fire. I blew the flames out. Then some more appeared. And more. Fire! Fire! 😮🔥🔥🔥
Now any sane person would remove the thins with said greaseproof as quickly as possible, but my brain was all, la de da de da! I'm not removing them, the cheese hasn't melted yet! And so I persevered until my fear brain kicked in and I actually realised at this rate I'm going to burn the kitchen down (third error?).
Of course, I didn't fling the singed remains into the sink, they were my lunch Goddamnit! So I carefully lifted them out, confetti-ing charred paper all over, picked the remaining stuck bits of paper off and put them on a plate.
I noticed whilst doing this that some pesky cheese had done what I first feared; the b*stard stuff had fallen out and was sitting prettily in the toaster slot.
It was winking at me, teasing me your sandwiches would taste so much better with me inside 😇 and like a complete imbecile, transfixed, I nodded in agreement. Fourth error. I stuck a knife in there to try and get it. Of course it was a metal one. Of course I never unplugged the toaster, do you think I'm stupid or something? Thankfully my husband was outside pottering as he would have had a heart attack much like the time I decided to wipe down (with a wet cloth) the plugged in kettle and sockets, managing to trip the whole house in the process. And yes, you guessed it, I never managed to get the cheese out and it's now all stuck to the heating element. 👍
I ate the thins. Tasted surprisingly alright. A bit chemically but I've had worse.☠️
Well done if you've read all this. I just needed to share and I hope it will bring some smiles to those having a crap day, or at least show you aren't alone in this hellscape. I'm off to clean up the mess in the kitchen now (if I don't get distracted). Mwah. 💋
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2024.05.02 15:53 Dnbhriain South America trip report at 500 hours

This is a trip report of my recent two month long visit to Peru, Bolivia, Chile and Argentina. I find these progress reports pretty motivating to read from other people so hoping this will be the same for someone else!
My Spanish journey before going on the trip: I did a few months of Spanish classes in 2017, then dropped it completely until starting with DS in July 2022. Before going on this trip in January I’d done 500 hours, pretty much exclusively on DS itself. I think important for context is that I have passed the C1 exam for French, and was raised pretty much bilingual in another language my whole life. I think French helps a huge amount with understanding Spanish vocabulary and grammar structure. I forgot everything I learned in 2017, but I’m sure that it was in the back of my head somewhere and helped with my DS journey as well. I also visited Spain for a week last year and had a few conversations there with native speakers. I’m just providing this context to help those who have a bad tendency to compare themselves to others, we all bring different things to learning Spanish that help us go faster or slower, but we will all get there in the end :)
How the trip went Spanish-wise:
Listening: I was so happy that I’d put in the time with DS before going on this trip. I was able to understand the vast majority of what I heard, to the extent that I was able to go on tours that were exclusively in Spanish and understand 90%. I had been worried about the Chilean and Argentinian accents, so had focused more on listening to those the month before I left. Thanks to Agustina, Tomás and Lorena I was pleasantly surprised that I didn’t have much problem with them, although of course it varied from person to person (and honestly Tomás requires me to concentrate a lot lol - although I do love how hilariously casual some of his videos are, like the ones where he lies on his bed).
Speaking: I was able to ask any questions I needed to, like ordering in restaurants or asking about bus times. It made the trip so much easier than it would have been otherwise.
I will now admit that I broke from DS orthodoxy by doing the Language Transfer podcast while I was in South America, to learn the building blocks of grammar. The reason I did this was that I knew I’d end up speaking to people in Spanish, and I thought it was better to know the grammar so that I wouldn’t end up making bad habits stick by speaking before I have enough input to speak correctly (I think Pablo mentions this in one of his videos as a reason that some people have bad grammar despite spending a long time learning languages). I think it was the correct decision given the circumstances, but it definitely does make me hesitate a bit now while speaking to think about conjugating verbs, and also sometimes now when I’m listening I get a little hung up on identifying grammar, which I’m trying to reduce. When I went to Spain last year I had no idea about grammar and just spoke, but honestly I have no idea if what I say now is more or less correct than then.
I made several friends who only spoke Spanish, so I spent a fair amount of time speaking. I was pretty comfortable speaking about most topics (including trying to explain my country’s war of independence, which my Chilean friend insisted he understood, although I’m not convinced I expressed it well tbh…). Of course there were some words I didn’t know, and also some words I knew from Spanish Spanish that weren’t understood in other countries. My accent isn’t good at all (but is comprehensible), but I do think it’s improving a little. I’d mainly focused on the Spanish accent before this, so started the trip doing the lispy z/c, but had dropped this by the end. The main things I had problems expressing were hypothetical things like would’ve/should’ve/could’ve, and using the subjunctive in all the right places, but other tenses were broadly ok. Overall I was able to have good conversations, with lots of room for improvement. Spanish speakers are very encouraging, with lots of them complimenting on me on my Spanish even though it’s definitely clear I’m still learning, so there’s definitely no reason to be afraid to speak if you want to.
Reading: I didn’t do any reading before going on this trip. I’m sure other people have had this, but I was so shocked by how some things were spelled! For example, ‘hoja’ starting with a ‘h’ blew my mind, as did ‘o sea’ and ‘ni siquiera’ being separate words rather than one word. I could read things in museums and understand at least the gist, but I found it very tiring to do. Since coming back I’ve started reading graded readers, and am looking forward to continuing that part of the journey.
Overall, I am so pleased that this trip went as well as it did Spanish wise, and the time I spent on Dreaming Spanish definitely enriched my experience of the trip hugely. I only wish I could’ve gone after spending more time getting input, but I could only get the time off work now. Comparing my Spanish to my French, I think my speaking and listening abilities are amazing in Spanish after two years when I think about how I spent like 8 years learning French to get to a level only a bit above this… it definitely gives me a lot of faith in this method! I personally agree with some comments I’ve seen that a lot of the people who are not feeling confident about their conversation skills at the 1500 mark probably overestimate how comfortable most people feel speaking a second language that they have haven’t spent thousands and thousands of hours with (and are better than they think they are) but again we all experience a language learning journey differently.
As a postscript, I recently met a handsome Colombian man who barely spoke English, and after spending hours speaking to him in Spanish we ended up kissing, so thank you to Dreaming Spanish for that haha. A true language learning milestone to be able to pull in another language …
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2024.05.02 15:52 Exact-Tank-6504 Realizing that I'll likely never find someone special (no one wants to understand this illness)

It's true that most people in the world don't really understand this illness. Disorders like ADHD, autism, depression, bipolar etc are becoming more recognized and understood. People tend to look the other way with schizophrenia though, because it's a much more volatile and complicated disease. People are terrified when they witness a psychotic episode, and on a surface level, would want to run as far as possible to get away from the psychotic person/s. When it's a loved one however, whether that be a family member, friend, or partner, they're still terrified, but there's a chance they might not run away and will stand by and support you.
No one really came to support me through this though. I live with my parents, but they kept their distance during my breaks from reality, and a lot of my friends who found out I was ill decided to run away. My remaining friends either don't know or were too preoccupied with their own busy lives to take a look, which is fair enough.
I'm on good medication now, but I'm not the same person anymore. It's like a part of my innocence or childlike optimism was violently ripped out of me. I come off as dull and borderline lifeless on the outside, but my mind is constantly all over the place with emotive thoughts and feelings. I draw and write a lot as a tool for expressing these thoughts, but it doesn't help the social aspect.
Coming back to the whole "most don't get schizophrenia" thing, it makes me realize that I probably won't find anyone who I'll be able to share affection with, as most don't even know what schizophrenia properly is without jumping to wild conclusions about it. I also don't want children due to not wanting to pass this disorder down, so that'd be a deal-breaker for many people. The truth is, nobody wants to see a psychotic episode, and being with a schizophrenic person romantically is basically signing up to witness one sooner or later.
For a short while, I experienced a voice that I almost fell in love with. Her voice was so soothing and kind to the ears, and it was more perfect than any other relationship I'd ever experienced or witnessed. I didn't hear her too often, but she always came when I needed her. I gave her a name too, I would call for "Cathy" in my head and Cathy would answer. The negatives of psychosis greatly outweighed Cathy's voice though, and so I had to leave her by taking the medication. Shortly after the medication started working, I felt so broken not just because Cathy was gone, but that nobody would understand who Cathy was to me. I know she was an illusion that my head created to cope with the overwhelming evil, but Cathy did more for me than any real person ever did in my darkest hour. Cathy is gone now, and I know that I'll never find someone as affectionate or wonderful as her because nobody will want to know who I am.
The pain of knowing what life will be like in the aftermath is just as bad, if not worse, than a break from reality itself.
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2024.05.02 15:52 throwaway36363623 AITAH for telling my cheating ex wife's parents that i don't give a fuck about her anymore and she is not my problem?

Me and my ex wife (Mary) have been together for 7 years and married for 2. We waited to have babies cause we wanted first to be financially stable and after 2 years we started trying to have a baby. So a few months passed by when i caught her cheating on me. I immediatly told her that i wanted divorce and she went crazy trying to suggest couple therapy, to forgive her, to think wisely cause "everyone make mistakes" (her words) and all this type of bs but i was adamant on my decision and never forgave anyone for cheating in my life and never would. Our divorce was quick (thanks to a prenup) but unfortunetly very drammatic cause during the separation and even in court Mary wouldn't stop crying and begging me to think back at my decision. Fortunetly like i said it was quick and i always thank god for the idea of the prenup cause it avoided a lot of other drama and discussion. I still have everything and since she cheated on me i didn't have to pay her anything. The thing is that after i caught her cheating i tried my best to cut all contacts with her and to talk with her only through my lawyer and when finally the divorce was finalized i changed my number and house to avoid any unnecesary and useless drama.
3 years passed by and i'm still trying to recover cause it really hurted me deep and cause i really loved her but unfortunetly cheating is one of the few things i never forgave anyone but thanks to my therapist i'm slowly recovering and getting better.
Now the issue is this: after my divorce i didn't heard news from Mary so i didn't knew anything about her, her life and anything else and a few days ago i found out, reluctantly, that she had a big accident in the car and was hospitalized in serious conditions. I know this only because 2 days ago i bumped into Mary's parents in the supermarket and they immediatly told me this. (Even if i don't understand why) Then they said that it would be nice if i go to visit her at the hospital cause despise what happened between us Mary was always an important part of my life and i told them that i would never go to "visit" her cause Mary wasn't my problem anymore and i don't have to do anything for her. We started arguing and i clealry told them that i don't give a fuck about Mary, her life and what she is doing cause she cheated on me breaking my trust and they always justified her cheating blaming me for what happened so she can go to hell and then i left.
They reached out to my parents and told them what happened and now my father and my sisters agrees with me while my mother is insting that i was a huge asshole cause Mary for how bad hurted me was always my ex-wife so a quick visit wouldn't change anything for me. My friends are divided on the issue so here i'm.
So folks of reddit AITAH?
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2024.05.02 15:51 nrholder Inaccurate and Misleading Email Promotion from Condé Nast: AIO to Demand They Honor the Offer in the Email?

Inaccurate and Misleading Email Promotion from Condé Nast: AIO to Demand They Honor the Offer in the Email?
I received an email promotion on May 1st offering a bundle subscription to The New Yorker and Vanity Fair, but the webpage I’m directed to when I click Subscribe offers a different subscription deal. Instead of providing the offer from the email as stated, it offers only twelve weeks of The New Yorker and one year of Vanity Fair.
The promotion in the email states that if I subscribe now I would receive one year of both, The New Yorker and Vanity Fair, including the print magazines plus digital access for $24. Nowhere in the email is it mentioned The New Yorker would only be a twelve-week subscription and Vanity Fair, a one-year subscription. It simply states, “Don’t miss your opportunity to get 1 year of both The New Yorker and Vanity Fair for just $24.”
I called The New Yorker customer service line to explain the discrepancy between the offer in the email and the webpage, and request the email offer be honored. They could not provide a resolution or offer a satisfactory explanation.
I understand that each periodical has different publication and delivery terms (ie. Vanity Fair is monthly; The New Yorker is weekly); however, it seems misleading for the email to offer one year of both only to have the webpage change that to alternative terms.
I believe I should receive what the email is offering: one year of both The New Yorker and Vanity Fair for $24. Right?
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2024.05.02 15:51 Gray_Iris Never Ending Song- My Essay For School (edited)

I'd always liked Conan. His music was on a lot of my playlists, but a lot of it was written about things that I was too young to comprehend. I hadn't exposed myself to enough of his music to realise he and I had a lot in common.
It wasn't until Never Ending Song was released that I started to understand. I heard NES, loved it, and jumped back into all of his music, the lyrics finally connected to my life. Lines like 'I want a love like the movies,' 'I could give you all you want, the stars and the sun but still I'm not enough,' and 'I was a kid but I wasn't clueless' connected in ways that helped me to process my emotions. I hadn't done that before.
I also watched the NES music video a few times. I was initially in love with it because I thought Conan was hot. I never really felt much real emotion watching it, despite relating to the lyrics a little.
It was halfway through July that we got the news of my mother's cousin, but to me- closer than any of my uncles, therefore my favourite uncle- committed suicide by taking an excess amount of drugs and washing it all down with a deadly amount of liquor. This was much like the events the occurred in July of the previous year, except this time, it worked. I was so distraught. It was much like being thrown off a bridge. The past six years of my life I'd sworn that I'd make each year better, but it seemed like it got worse every year, and so did my mental health. His suicide awakened a lot of intentionally buried feelings. I didn't know how to cope. So when my family went for a walk to clear their minds right after we found out, I put in my headphones.
Music has always been and always will be my escape. Just ask any of my friends. They know that when I'm having a bad panic attack they just need to hold me and blast music through my headphones. But then Never Ending Song played, and I sobbed. I cried like I hadn't allowed myself to for the past three years. Conan's voice felt like therapy. I fell in love with him all over again through one song. I understood every line from the heart. And then I watched the music video. I related because I had painful chapters of my life (as we all do) that I wanted to close but wouldn't go away. But I was also scared to let them go. I didn't want to leave people behind even though they'd hurt me.
I have this one friendship that never died no matter how many times I tried to kill it. I've had feelings for the same person since I was eight. I lost another person close to me to suicide a few months after my uncle. My uncle hurt a lot of people, but I miss him. I just wanted the grief to end, for the random pain and tears to stop. But I also didn't because I hated how it seemed people had already moved on from him.
So eventually, I let the NES music video be my escape from everything. I know every detail of the music video inside and out, including the Easter eggs for future songs and videos. I know all the choreography and every tiny movement Conan makes. Watching him perform made me feel something beyond the numbness. Sometimes it was the only thing that could get me to cry when I had weeks of built-up emotions. I'd have my headphones, the room dark, music at full volume.
Despite the short performance time, Conan still perfectly nails conveying the feelings he's singing about. The anger, the pain, the love. This helped me to embrace that there was no one feeling that I should've felt. There were several, and they all were okay.
It feels like Never Ending Song is the perfect summary of my life. I 'sacrificed my adolescence' on a lot of people. I have a lot of chapters in my life that I'm learning to close, and others that I keep opening. I don't want to lose these people and these memories. Painful or not, they are still a part of me. But there's a difference between cutting someone out completely and moving on.
Whether or not I can make these changes within the next few days or the next few years, I am not unaware of how hard this task is. But I am so, incredibly grateful that I am now aware that I do have people who love me. Without them, I have no idea where I'd be. These are the people I hope to go on and on like a never ending song.
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2024.05.02 15:51 sol_aaire Help me understand the appeal…

Hey there, everyone.
I’ll try and keep this simple so I don’t take up too much of your time. This sub showed up in my feed last week and it’s showing up more and more often now, so I decided to look into it further.
The images I was seeing were interesting and the commentary was unique and somewhat confusing. At first, I had difficulty discerning what Balatro even was. It was a game of some kind, maybe, but it wasn’t clear. As I looked into it I found that Balatro is a deck building roguelike with heavy emphasis on strategic planning to achieve optimization in any given run.
Here’s where I’m having trouble. I really like the aesthetic of the game; the graphical design and music are both really enjoyable. The problem is that I haven’t historically enjoyed roguelikes. They just doesn’t align with my play style.
I’m a progress-tracking simoleon stacker - action/RPGs and soulsborne-style games are where I thrive. I like to see the caps/gold/souls stack up and disappear with awesome loot and powerful level increases. That type of progress is permanent, but with roguelikes it’s only temporary. I can’t help but feel like time I spend playing is simply wasted when I will inevitably have to completely restart from scratch at the end of a run with nothing to show for it. To be clear, I understand the argument that all time spent playing any game can be considered “wasted” because there aren’t actual, tangible rewards that exist as a consequence of having played, but I’m sure you can see the point I’m making.
So here’s my request: please help me understand the appeal of this game from your perspectives. Why is this fun for you? Is there a comparable sense of achievement with games like the ones I’ve described here that I’m missing, or is enjoyment derived in a totally different way I just don’t get? I’m considering buying and playing this, but don’t want to waste my money if I’m never going to play it.
Thank you so much in advance for your replies. Hope you all have a great rest of your week!
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2024.05.02 15:51 trevers17 overcoming my conservation mindset

bit of an odd question but something I’ve been struggling with recently.
while playing normal d&d, I developed a habit of conserving my resources for as long as possible. in the campaigns I play in, we tend to go several sessions and multiple combat encounters without long resting, so I hold on to my resources as long as I can and rely solely on my infinite resources from my class/basic attacks. this works well because I usually play martial classes or classes that rely on class feats not tied to resources rather than spells.
but in bg3, this actually seems to be a hinderance. I usually miss out on a lot of companion dialogue in camp purely because I hold my resources for so long that I don’t need to long rest. I end up empowering cantrips and basic attacks to the point where I can use only them and not need anything else from my class. my most-used spell tends to be misty step for repositioning.
I do mod, and many of the mods make the game easier, so I’ve considered removing some. one mod is the extended party mod, which I know is a huge reason I can hoard resources so easily. but even when I played unmodded or just with four characters, I had the same tendency. but I don’t know if I want to drop to 3 characters only just for the sake of challenge.
the other options I’ve considered are never using short rests and installing a mod that makes enemies way stronger so I have to burn my stronger abilities to have a chance. but that makes me worried that I’ll struggle with the combat, as it’s not something I’m always super adept at in d&d OR bg3.
I’m open to any suggestions that will help me overcone this conservation mindset!
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2024.05.02 15:50 OneCanSpeak Coping with Heartbreak: My Journey After Discovering My Wife's Affair

It's with a heavy heart that I find myself writing this post today. After 15 years of marriage and two beautiful boys, my world was turned upside down when I discovered that my wife had been unfaithful. The pain and anguish I've experienced since then have been overwhelming, to say the least.
Waking up each day without my boys by my side is a constant reminder of the chasm that now exists in my life. The betrayal I feel is indescribable, and the emotional toll it has taken on me is immeasurable.
I never imagined that I would find myself in this situation. We had built a life together, filled with love, laughter, and countless memories. But now, all of that feels like it's been shattered into a million pieces.
I'm struggling to come to terms with the reality of what has happened, and the road ahead seems daunting and uncertain. But amidst the pain and heartache, I'm trying to find the strength to pick up the pieces and rebuild my life.
To anyone who has gone through a similar experience, my heart goes out to you. It's a pain that no one should ever have to endure, and yet, here we are, trying to navigate our way through the darkness.
I don't have all the answers, and I know that healing will take time. But I'm hopeful that one day, I'll emerge from this darkness stronger and wiser than before.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story. Your support and understanding mean more to me than words can express.
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