I have come to realize some people find them trashy/slutty. But i personally love them. I love being full of hickeys, specially when my partners like to do it because he is marking his territory. I respect everyone’s opinions. But what do you think when you see someone with a neck full of hickeys? I am in school and people staring at my neck when they’re talking to me. I love the attention lol. I just wonder what they think. When i see someone with them i personally don’t think anything besides “they had fun”

Maybe this has been brought up already, but: there is a large literature in academic philosophy on the problem of personal identity, which is, roughly, this: given a person X at time t1, and a person Y at time t2, when are X and Y the same person? That literature is full of difficult cases *very* similar to Severance cases; it's kind of amazing to me that Dan Erickson isn't familiar with that literature (as far as I know). I think anyone who finds the Severance premise interesting is likely to find the philosophy literature interesting
Locke was one of the first people to raise this question, and his answer is directly relevant to Severance. To simplify a lot, his answer is: person X and person Y are identical iff person X remembers being person Y, or vice-versa. By that criterion, innies are definitely different people to the outies with which they share a body.
Nobody now thinks Locke's account can be exactly right. Here's one problem: it could happen that person X can remember being person Y, and person Y can remember being person Z, but person X can't remember being person Z. Does that mean Y is identical to both X and Z, but X is not identical to Z? Seems wrong.
But the majority opinion in philosophy is that some kind of elaboration of Locke's view must be right -- that personal identity is about psychological continuity, in some way (as opposed to physical continuity). Whether the right kind of psychological continuity exists between innies and outies that share a body is an interesting question, though the answer seems to me to be clearly "no".
A good place to start is Derek Parfit's 1971 paper "Personal Identity", which started a lot of the modern conversation in academia. https://www.uvm.edu/~lderosse/courses/metaph/Parfit%281971%29.pdf
David Lewis's 1976 reply, "Survival and Identity", is also good: https://home.sandiego.edu/~babemetaphysics/readings/Lewis.SurvivalAndIdentity.pdf
You'll see a lot of discussion about what are called "fission" and "fusion" cases. A fission case is when what was one person has psychological continuity with two future people -- think of a transporter accident on Star Trek that produces two copies of the one person. "Fusion" is when there are two people who have psychological continuity with one future person. If we accept that innies and outies are different people, then reintegration is, exactly, a fusion case -- Petey is a fusion case.

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Disclaimer: I am fully aware this is controversial and I understand there will be some negative feedback here…but I still need to know
I would like to perform a cord cutting ceremony. I have done a handful myself before…but it was between ME and another party.
This time, I am thinking to do a cord cutting between two other people. They are immediate, non romantic family members. Their relationship with each other isn’t ENTIRELY toxic, but they have been having ahem ‘problems’ for decades and some serious space/potential ‘no contact’ would be GREATLY beneficial to both parties and their healing.
This is the BIG problem. I don’t have consent. One party full stop does not believe witchcraft is real. The other is ‘open to the possibility’ but still quite skeptical. So I feel weird asking.
How much blowback will I potentially experience on myself for doing this? Also, if I DO go through with this, are there any different steps I need to take considering I am not personally one of the parties in the cord cutting?
Thank you in advance for any help or advice!

so i was vibing at school at a friday (female, 15 years old) when i got a call from my crush, whom I was obsessed with but had never talked to via phone because he was my cousins (17-year-old) best friend. So its a Friday and me and my closest friends get extremely excited and I answer, thinking I was about to have a nice, cute and funny conversation, but ho boy, I was wrong. So, when I answer my phone, this boy lets call him mateo (male 17), is having pretty much a full-on panik attack so I get concerned and try to calm him down. when I do so, he manages to tell him what is going on. So apparently my cousin fell very badly ontop of his knee and was crying non stop and getting red from the pain he was in. My cousin never cries so this was very concerning to me. i instantly called a cab and paid 20 euro to get to the futball (soccer) pitch they were practicing at to get the boy home. At this point, all of our other family had left for a month-long trip to Greece, and me and him had stayed behind because we had some very important exams and meetings for school we couldn't skip, and the trip our families went on was 100% paid for, so we were left alone at his house and told to figure it out. When I got this call, our families had left two days ago.
i get to his location and literally run to the pitch to see how he is. When I get there, Mateo is waiting for me at the door, looking very paniked. i nervously told him to take me to my cousin because I had to know what was wrong with the boy. when I tell you his knee was pretty much facing the wrong way, I'm telling you his knee was facing the wrong way. i looked at the 8 friends he was with and literally had to ask them to call 112 (911 in Europe). Apparently, they hadn't thought about it. i called my aunt to tell her her son was dying and she told me they were unable to come back because for some private reasons, the company they were with would not let them fly back. so. i am 15 years old and about to have to take care of a 17-year-old without adult help. when the ambulance arrived, I hopped in and told mateo to come with me to help me out a bit because my cousin was not going to be able to walk and I literally wouldn't be able to carry him in a wheelchair if he was going to need one. He is not fat. In fact, my cousin is ripped, and Mateo was also ripped, so that was what made more sense to me. We get to the hospital, and my auntie is answering all of his information via phone call until they take him away and leave me and Mateo alone in the waiting room.
as anyone would have done, we talked to each other for about an hour. (That's how long it took them to bring my cousin back.) We talked about the most random things but had some sort of connection and ended up exchanging numbers "just in case something was wrong with my cousin.". when my cousin got back, he was lukewarm, wearing crutches so the way back home would be easy and was in a lot of pain so he was also loaded up with pain killers. me and mateo got him back into his house and settled into his room. The doctor had told us not to let him use his phone or any electrical device for the next 48 hours, just in case, and we had to go back to the hospital in 2 days. Mateo stayed with him, talking about their stuff, while I made dinner and hid his phone in my room (just in case) I made dinner for the 4 of us and we ate it laying on the sofa while watching an F1 race. at about 1 am mateo went back home and I helped my cousin into bed. At this point, I was so adrenaline-full because, for the last 5 hours, I couldn't sleep. not only because I had to take care of a fully grown human being, but because I had spent the last 4 and a half hours with this guy I had the biggest crush on.
I woke up to banging on my door. apparently my cousin had just realised he couldn't shower without help, and I was not going to help him so I had to call poor mateo at 9 am on a Saturday so he could help get his best friend showered. it took them a full hour and a half to shower my cousin and then he hugged me good-bye and left us both alone, not knowing what to do. at the end, we spent the hole day bonding over me telling him about how football games were playing out because we are both obsessed football freeks, his smart ass helping me study, me cooking for him, and me getting calls from all of his friends, which I answered and then had to level them to talk by closing my phone and going into a different room. after that, a routine was settled.
on his next doctors appointment, we were told he had to go to school and that he would have to get operated a week from then. For the next week, every day at six thirty am, mateo showed up to help him shower and we would all go together to school which got a lot of girls my age wondering what I was doing going to school every day with some of the most popular guys in our high school. So I started getting so many DM's from girls asking for why I was with them or asking for my number that I deleted Instagram on my phone (the main account) and of course all of this had to happen while "the ball" was going on at our school ( it is like a prom but a much bigger deal and much fancyer). You tell me how but apparently after spending so much time together, mateo asked me to be his date to the ball and I said yes. only problem. My overprotective cousin had banned them from asking or going out with me, so we couldn't tell anyone about it, so for the next week we only spoke at school about my cousin and only talked via text messages while having to study for all our exams.
then we went on our way to operate him. The operation took much longer than expected, so I had the pleasure to stay with him that night while he was talking his life away because of all the anti-pain drugs they had given him. At this point, there was only a week left for the ball and I didn't even have a dress picked out. Finally, mateo told my cousin we were going to the ball together as a date, which he did not like but there was really nothing he could do about it. as a good cousin and recovery helper, I made him come with me to help me pick out a dress and to get him a nice tux because there was no way he wasn't going. It took the asshole two and a half hours to pick a dress he deemed appropriate for me to wear in front of his friends and a simple all-black tux for himself.
during the week before the ball, I was basically living like a mother, taking care of a child who could not walk anywhere. i had to escort him to school and back, Not only this but he is a very social person and where I live, it's pretty easy to get into places with fake IDs. so I hang out with his friends minimum of four times a week. It was very weard to have the little cousin hanging around with all the friends. Luckyly I got very close to Mateo and two other guys (there where no girls in his group and he was in the popular group). I obviously didn't mind being with his friends and his friends didn't mind hanging out with me at all so I was basically part of the book witch at the beginning my cousin didn't love but it was his fault I had to be with them so he suked it up. i also had to attend with him his study sessions with his group in wich they surprisingly actually studied so I made some of his smart friends pretty much tutor me for free.
At this point we had been alone for 3 weeks and our family was supposed to come back in a week. But they had MORE problems and has to wait another two weeks to be able to fly back to our home. that week I hang out with his friends every single day (we had all just finished exams). The problem for my cousin was that every time we went partying some of his friends tried to talk more-than-friendily to me which I cut off immediately, well. everyone but mateo which I loved when he flirted with me, sadly my cousin didn't like it and tried his hardest to make it stop. it got to the point where he called another friend to help him shower in the morning. what took me by absolute surprise was that every champions (a soccer "tournament" that is very important in Europe) game that was played they had a watch party at my cousins house. it was the coincidence that there was a game the Friday before the ball night so my cousin practically begged me to let him throw a sleep over which I gladly agreed to. i made them a hell of a dinner which they devoured because they are guys and they are hungry. then I was included in the sleep over which I gladly appreciated but I left to sleep at the guest bedroom I took as my one. i was laying down reading a book at about 1 am when my door opened. obviously I hurried to the door thinking it was my cousin and not seeing a crutch but no. it was mateo. that night we spent the whole night together, had our first kiss and then he left to sleep with the boys so they wouldn't assume anything the next morning,
I thought that when they woke up they would all go to their respective homes, but no. they stayed there to get ready together for the ball (only mateo had a date). i had to make them breakfast, lunch and an early dinner. then I called up my best friend to get ready with me because you know, too much testosterone.
the ball was amazing but me and mateo didn't have nearly one moment alone because my cousin always needed something. the next few weeks I spent partying with my cousins group to the point where I was added to the group chat and was "the little sister". about 4 days before our families got back mateo officilay asked me to be his girlfriend to which I said yes. when our family came back there was a lot of crying and worrying and I packed and went back to my parents house. i was told mateo showed up to my cousins house asking about me. that made my cousin discover we where dating and then gave me and him the silent treatment for two days. we worked it out now.
At this moment I am best friends with all the guys from my cousins group and mateo proposed to me about a week ago. the day of my last ball at me 18 and him 20. all of my guy besties are groms men for mteo and my cousin is the best man. getting married this august!!! and its all thanks to my cousins stupidity braking his leg =).

The last 2 years has been a succession of unexpected blows financially/personally, and more and more I've been feeling backed into a corner with no alternatives. Without giving away personal details, the TLDR is 1. ended a long term relationship that included mental health disorde manipulation, 2. sold joint house and moved (broke even due to market conditions) 3. worked 3 jobs for a year to stay afloat personal and business debts from prior venture, 4. multiple high cost car and vet bills weighing into the thousands, 5. found out car is a lemon with a lot more issues than prior assessments revealed, now unusable and to be scrapped 6. working FT now and quit second job to focus on upskill studies in hopes to advance work and salary and digging into credit as a gamble
The thing with life is that it can suck. Simultaneous with it being also great in a lot of ways. Most of the time I can be nuanced enough to appreciate that the only way is through. Even admist tears I won't deny that.
I've considered OF before throughout the above unfolding but always stepped back for the various fears of being found out by your professional colleagues/friends (albeit that's the deal and no one can escape that), plus the personal fear that it won't compensate monetarily to be worthwhile and you'll suffer a private ego blow for exposing yourself only to find you aren't 'valued'. Feels like the last straw on the camel's back in that case. With my personality, if I decided to pursue OF, I'd want to give it my best and actually try to make valuable content (whatever that may mean). In some idyllic way, to cultivate a little more conversation and levity than banal sexualization - would that even be an option/appeal? Previously I've dallied briefly on sugar baby websites after hearing experiences from friends but backed out after meeting my current partner and never ended up engaging with anyone online.
Watching/reading interviews with other OF creators, and even witnessing personal connections promote their OF during the pandemic through social media was eye opening. It can be a side hustle or a full time job and the returns are dependent on your effort, your niche, and perhaps luck too. It's a saturated market as with anything else in this economy. The idea for me would be a part time hustle to alleviate bills and provide a little more financial security. The goal to study is to upgrade my financial situation and future opportunities of course. My current work being in a small company without advancement opportunities (I have found after various suggestions of new ideas that growth may not be in line with the founder's goals) . Also due to my current FT being occasionally on call, especially during summer season, it's hard to secure a secondary parttime, thus I quit in hopes to accelerate the studies online, but its a gamble as I lose the secondary income and so far have been blowing my budget due to various costs related to my car and pets.
The mental idea of interacting on OF appears to be a scary world for me and I'm uncertain how fragile my ability is to compartmentalize the interactions of how I feel (towards myself and others) online. I got off instagram over the new year for mental health reasons, recently returning for work, but have found it rather pleasant to have my world smaller. I'm well aware of how paradoxical my desires and personal outlook/lifestyle is to the pursuit of OF. Perhaps I'm in illusion and holding out hope for this option that I have not yet undertaken . Or I am skewed in my biased opinion of what OF work can be, as it may well surprise me for the better. At this point of the day, after several big cries, and fatefully processing things we cannot change, I suppose the dilemma is always going to be whether it will work/be worthwhile - though nothing is guaranteed in life - and potential future ramifications. I have delved into several rabbit holes of interviews/podcasts of select adult sex workers in the porn industry that I respect/am a fan of and they shared great insight into behind the scenes of sex work and things to consider. I really appreciated learning about their craft (with which they have obvious success) and their candor to articulate healthy sexualization and entrepreneurship but am uncertain how I might fair in this. In any case, if you read this far, thank you for reading. It calmed me down to focus on putting words on the screen than spiral loosely.
I hope this doesn't count as a rant or spam. I'd love to hear your thoughts as a general public, someone who is on OF as a creator or a fan, or just life tips/pov that I could consider. Using a throwaway account in case I regret this. Cheers everyone x

It’s that feeling that becomes your worse enemy. It’s very difficult to find happiness in life after going through so much trauma and life changing experiences. A relationship with someone you wouldn’t expect being the main cause and impact of your life and self worth. It’s crazy because this person caused a big part of my everyday life. Being falsely accused for domestic violence when it was self defense, was cheating sexting 9 others while accusing me of cheating when all I was doing was working 2 full time jobs but I lost that and my chances of employment, tried to seek professional help and that went airways for me cause of the shit talking I was receiving the fear to deal with aggressive behavior. I deal with social anxiety, depression and ptsd it’s a struggle everyday a battle im fighting in my head everyday hoping for better days and it’s just becoming less and less to believe. Having no one friends or family it defeats the purpose for life. I tried to hang on and hope things would change and improve with my relationship but it didn’t it was like if I was the one that did the damage and I had to deal with a lot more of aggression but also knowing that the cheating didn’t stop and it does hurt like no other cause they just ruined a person that was once about life and living with positivity. I’m just at end meets

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So basically I am (13) M I just recently turned 13 and we went to do an escape room with my friends I have been friends with this girl (12) for 9 years now we are very close and tell each other stuff I don’t speak about with anyone including my therapist anyway she’s not the problem he is let’s call him John he is (12) M he has been a dickhead since the second week of meeting him John me and the girl let’s call her Ava we chilling out inside by our lockers and my locker is on the bottom so as I am going to grab my pet kit he puts a broken ruler to my neck and as I push him off me he punches me so since I’m not a pussy I punch him back and he threatened to tell out head of year and I’m fine with that cause as Ava agreed I’m not the nonce there so fast forward a couple months it’s his birthday and then he we went to a pool so it’s quite busy getting changed so we have to share a cubical he is mostly dressed when I come in so I’m putting on my boxers when he keeps trying to pull down my towel I feel him to stop repeatedly but he doesn’t and eventually it slips and I don’t flip out bc it’s his bday but a couple weeks later I was on a call and my mum comes in and tells me off before I can mute the call and then he records it and says my dad started call me the r slur and other stuff which didn’t happen but I was on a week long camp and he threatens to knock me out bc I said something about my weight and he said I was calling him fat but here’s the bit that gets me he calls me fat on a day to day basis which I don’t know if u have experienced similar but it ruins ur self esteem also I wasn’t popular in y7 but my popularity has grown in y8 having multiple large friend groups but he still decides to take shit about my behind my back I have proof of him calling me a fat shit ugly twat a lonely cunt with no friends and similar he also goes up to people such as Ava’s bf Jake and tells him he has no friends and is ugly where as John has 2 friends and Jake Ava’s bf is very popular and is a good looking blonde physically fit boy and he also keeps trying to fight Ava she is not strong and he would win in a fight also he keeps getting pressed whenever u say anything funny that he said months and months ago also I was hanging out with my 1 of my new friend groups when he said I couldn’t talk or associate with him because I don’t hang out with them for a day and they said they were going to a trampoline park and said I couldn’t come it was purely pud of spite and Ava didn’t even go tIt was recently half term and he came over purely so I didn’t have to go to holiday club he was the last person I asked any way also when we got back it had been muddy where we were so I asked him to take his shoes off and he said Yep in 1 min and then trampled mud through the house he roots through peoples bags and robs stuff as well also he was trying to break up Ava and get bf just for fun and he just forgot about my birthday like I get forgetting the present and getting like a week later but it has been a month so I don’t even care so I was planning on doing me Ava Jake my gf my other friend and his gf but my mum said I can’t drop John and I knew I couldn’t win that argument so I had to drop my gf who I later found out wasn’t able to come anyway was aitah for not wanting to invite him and cutting ties or not

I haven't edited this, but here it is, all 9 pages, for your reading pleasure. I am very excited to hear your opinions on my critique, and what you thought about it. I loved the book, and I'm very ready to watch the movie in a couple days. I had so much fun reading it. Thank you for reading! -Ari
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An Analysis of Turtles All the Way Down, in lieu of the movie*,* from a feminist and communist perspective
When talking about mental illness, especially with a book like Turtles All the Way Down, one has to acknowledge the sense of isolation and feelings of catastrophizing that come with the mental health crisis brings. The first time you have a mental health breakdown, especially when you’re not a seasoned veteran, dealing with the first hospitalizations and medication stabilizations, one doesn’t know what to expect.
From personal experience, the book talks about the situation in a couple of weeks, but in my personal experience, it took months to stabilize myself, get my meds right, to leave the hospital, and I wasn’t “myself” again for another six months after leaving the hospital because the medication they had put me on had inevitably turned me into a zombie. But, of course, mental health journeys are not all the same, and not everybody’s experiences are the same. Sometimes, it takes longer, sometimes less.
But, I think it is worth talking about Aza’s journey from a literary standpoint from a communistic and feminist perspective because it talks about the human experience that real people find themselves in in the real world, in real circumstances, especially when it comes to the value of the mentally ill in society, the roles we place on our care givers and support systems around us, and the dangers of turning everyone around us into a caregiver (such as “caregiver’s fatigue” or “codependency”).
“I felt my stomach begin to work on the sandwich, and even over everybody’s talking, I could hear it digesting, all the bacteria chewing the slime of peanut butter- the students inside of me eating at my internal cafeteria”. (Green 2) When Aza talks a lot about her OCD, she mentions the idea of C.Diff bacteria eating away at her, and depersonalizing (not feeling like a real person, or being a fiction). I think it’s important to talk about the nature of her mental illness, about the symbolism of the disease because, in the context of the book, she technically is a fictional character, and that her fears are not unfounded in the sense that we are reading about a fictional character afraid that they’re a fictional character. And that there’s a strangeness in that there’s an awareness that she’s experiencing that maybe the other people around her aren’t experiencing, on some level that is perceived as mental illness, but is hyper alertness or hyper awareness.
The sense of depersonalization is the fact that she is being controlled by the writer, John Green, who wrote the book about her, and the sense that she is not in control of her actions is also, not unfounded.
So, there’s a sense of irony when describing her mental illness because it should be given with care and compassion because the irony is that, she is a fictional character, and the things she’s experiencing are real, and they shouldn’t be understated or devalued in any meaningful way in the same way that for a lot of mentally ill people the experiences that they have have value to them and what they are experiencing are real to them and what they are experiencing feel real to them.
“You know how old people lose all shame about eating, and it makes you puke to watch them? (Burroughs 6)”
“They can consume us like parasites, eat us, drink us, and leave us lifelessly prostrate. And yet we are always inviting the parasite as if we are eager to be drained and eaten. (Bellow 62)”
The thing about her friend, Daisy, which I found fascinating in the book is that, from a feminist perspective, although Daisy calls her “Holmsey” which refers to Sherlock Holms, Daisy is slated as a main character type who is always chatting away and leading the show and being the person who is leading in situations. In fact, it’s to the point that Aza turns Daisy into a mother figure and has her, at several points throughout the novel, direct her actions like her own mother does.
“And we will improve your mood until you are able to say three or even four words in a row; sound good?”
“Sounds good.”
“And then you can take me to work, Sorry, but I need a ride.” (Green 8)
There are several references to Daisy even being about the same physical statue as her mom, to the point that Daisy has physically reduced all the women in her life to one role: caretaker and sees them as one overseeing entity.
“Daisy was about my mom’s size…”. (Green 20)
This serves a purpose in that she feels incapable of being autonomous to herself because her mental illness has depersonalized her and made her out-of-control of her actions. It’s very much like she is like Mychal, who is physically described as a baby by Daisy (and, at first, is physically repulsed by the idea of being in a relationship with, but still gets into a relationship with him). Daisy is constantly taking care of the people around her. Her mother is constantly taking care of Aza, even to the point of, during her breakdown, carrying her from her bed to the bathtub, and back again, much like a baby.
And this is because society thinks, through the communistic perspective that mental illness renders us useless and infantilizes us. And, we see that several times throughout the novel that Daisy vents her frustration for Aza in her fanfictions by calling Ayala, the character that represents Aza, as “useless” which embarrasses Aza.
Capitalistic society demands that we constantly prove our worth and value to the system every day by proving our fitness, lest we become infantilized and are deemed “useless”. Though we will receive love, care, and support from those around us, the people who deem us mental ill might never see us as “normal” or “functional” to the needs and wants of the system in a way that is useful to the system.
Which is where Davis comes in as a very interesting character as well as the symbolism of the White River.
“The White River is beautiful in the abstract- blue herons and geese and deer and all that stuff- but the actual water itself smells like human sewage. Actually, it doesn’t smell like human sewage; it smells of human sewage, because whenever it rains, the sewers overflow and the collective waste of Central Indiana dumps directly into the river.” (Green 19-20)
We learn that the reason for the smell is Pickett’s Engineering mishandling funds to set up a tunnel system would handling the Sewage Retention Systems for when it rained in Indianapolis. Pickett got the money twice, for contracts that were mishandled, making him very rich, and through bribery, but the tunnels were never finished.
At the end of the novel, his body was found in the tunnels, dead, which is a strange fitting end for someone who tried to escape through tunnels that he was never able to complete, but also sad, because he had explained that he would try to outlive death by trying to leave his money to his pet tuatara.
It is the use of wealth in the novel that is very interesting from a communistic perspective because the mishandling of funds got Pickett his wealth, and destroyed the natural resources of the White River’s natural beauty, thus alienating the natural resources enjoyed by the citizens. But, at the same time, the tunnels that were unfinished later became co-opted as a guerrilla effort to beautify an ugly space that was mishandled by the bourgeoisie and average citizen to create an art space, in which Mychal showcased the seemingly popular “Prisoner 101” piece.
Also, the wealth that Pickett received from the mishandling of funds was later redistributed after his disappearance in smaller amounts to his children, unsuspecting bystanders of the affected nature of his actions, as well as Aza and Daisy for their silence, active bystanders in the investigation in the form of $100,000.
“We are about to live the American Dream, which is, of course, to benefit from someone else’s misfortune. (Green 23)”
The misfortune that Daisy and Aza had profited from was the disappearance (and later death) of Pickett himself.
“He freely gave to charity/ He had the common touch /And they were grateful for his patronage /And they thanked him very much /So my mind was filled with wonder /When the evening headlines read/“Richard Cory went home last night/And put a bullet through his head.” (Simon, Garfunkel)
But, it supported their college fund, and continued future that would assure their ability to have a more sustainable future without worry or care, a redistribution of wealth in the circumstance.
“But maybe the money is just part of me. Maybe that’s who I am. A moment later he added: What’s the difference between who you are and what you have? Maybe nothing. (Green 78)”. The struggle that Davis had was that he felt as though he weren’t good enough for Aza because of his wealth, that it made him inferior because it made him pompous, that because he because he only had material things to give her, especially in the eyes of her mother, that he was pompous, egotistical, and arrogant.
“They say love flies out the window when poverty comes in the door, but people get the sense backwards. (Dazai 81)” From the feminist perspective about Davis, he was the poorest person in the group because he lacked a mother figure, which is something that everybody else had, and that what everybody else was rich in, experience, which can’t be exchanged for material possessions, are one of the inalienable things, like people.
It’s why have been proven, in communistic theory to be important, though they aren’t necessarily providing a working function to the system because they provide intrinsic value elsewhere.
“The capital given in exchange for labor power is converted into necessaries, by the consumption of which the muscles, nerves, bones, and brains of existing laborers are reproduced, and new laborers are begotten … the individual consumption of the laborer, whether it proceed within the workshop or outside it, whether it be part of the process of production or not, forms therefore a factor of the production and reproduction of capital; just as cleaning machinery does. (Rivkin, Ryan 903)”
That’s quoting Marx, which places inherent value on women, though lesser value and seeing them as wives, mothers, and cleaning machines, as part of the labor force, just unpaid labor force.
The whole point is that Davis saw her as normal because he himself seemed to be struggling with mental illness himself, and that his wealth deemed him privilege to be seen as normal. And, a lack of a support system didn’t get him always the adequate care he needed in order to be taken care of, that he had to be a “strong man” or “man up” and take care of his brother and be the support system (thus, from a feminist perspective, it seems as though the infantilization of mental illness only falls towards women because we often ignore the problems of men’s mental health struggles).
And, as well, it seems as though, through this normalization that Davis did for her, he allowed her to be seen in a way that provided her support, and as well as giving her financial support was able to provide for her in a meaningful way in her future that would change her life and make it so that she was able to provide for herself, despite the fact that, at the end of the novel, she would see many future struggles, but she would be able to gain the autonomy she needed to be a fully fledged, realized human being in order to take care of the next generation.
“Merrick: Ladies and gentleman, thank you… for revealing yourselves tonight. I’ve always found that when I have had an audience, they learn nothing true of me.. But I see what’s real in them. And, if they are lucky, they go home a more honest version of themselves. (A beat.) Maybe that is only what I wish to believe… that my visage could bring some good… (a longer beat.) I’m tired. I’m so very tired. (Martin 50)”
I think there is a fine line of being seen with mental health struggles and being infantilized, and it’s so hard to walk it because most people are trying the best they can do to make people feel supported and loved. So, if you’re helping and supporting someone who has a mental illness, know that what you’re doing is the best you can, and it’s always appreciated. I know with my family they have made mistakes, but it’s what we all learn along the way.
I think my mom has said it best, “we are fragile, fallible creatures who are not perfect, we’re only trying our best with what we know at the time.” And nobody sees the value in you more than your support system. Though, turning everyone into your support system does have immediate benefits, there are problems with being infantilized and being resented, as shown in the book, and working through that to have healthy relationships that are more mature is the way that we work to undo those things in adulthood.
Works Cited
Bellow, Saul. Dangling Man. Penguin Classics. New York: 6 September 2006.a
Burroughs, William S. Naked Lunch. Grove Press. New York: 1959.
Dazai, Osamu. No Longer Human. New Directions Publishing. 1948. Green, John. Turtles All the Way Down. Kindle Edition. New York: 2017.
Martin, Del. The Elephant Man. Your Stage Partners. 2023.
Rivkin, J., Ryan, M. (20170123). Literary Theory: An Anthology, 3rd Edition. [[VitalSource Bookshelf version]]. Retrieved from vbk://9781118718384
Simon, Paul and Garfunkel, Art. “Richard Cory”. Sound of Silence. Columbia Records, 1966. Transcript of Lyrics.

hiya,
I'm a male (32) and recently went out with a girl a few times who was very forthcoming and upfront about having RA (rhuematoid arthritis). We've had fun and I do like her, but I've been questioning whether this is something I can manage. She caught it early and is undergoing treatment, so mostly issues of stiffness, soreness, and fatigue. Still unsure how well it will halt progression of symptoms, flare up frequency, etc.
Typically, some sort of medical issue wouldn't put me off. But the extreme nature of this one has had me conflicted. I wont pretend like part of it is selfish reasons, but a greater part of it is both a concern for both of our needs and mental/emotional health. So I guess this is both a cry for advice and for thoughts from anyone that suffers from RA.
On the selfish side, I do worry about how it'd effect my goals of traveling a fair bit throughout the foreseeable future. As my primary love language is physical, I worry how it would effect things on that side. Worried how it'd affect my goals of regularly traveling for the foreseeable future. Again, I know these are more selfish thoughts, but we all have personal goals and needs in our lives that I think are still valid to consider.
I'm aware that catching it early is a great start, but also aware of the crapshoot that is treatment (for any illness for that matter). It's terrifying to think of the possibility of things getting worse or treatment struggles, both mentally and financially. Having already experienced friends/family suffering or passing from debilitating illnesses, I'm struggling with the thought of knowingly and willingly put myself in a situation where I'd watch the same happen to an SO. A possible future of mobility issues. ETC ETC
If its not obvious already, my biggest conflict is if I can mentally and emotionally handle it all. Both in terms of managing my own mental and emotional health, but being able to be there for hers. I've always been the person my friends go to to talk about serious and personal topics, but I feel like as I get older I'm struggling to not let my loved ones emotional state effect my own. Even in these handful of dates, when she's expressed her own worries and anxieties about it all, I can already feel myself leeching off of her and causing a spike in my own anxiety and worries. I like to think I'd be able to overcome that kind of thing to be there for someone I care about, but I honestly don't know how I'd mentally handle watching someone I love suffer and gradually get worse.
Part of me says I'm answering my own question by being this worried and unsure, but the other part wonders if its all just unchecked anxiety. idk, but its been stressing me out like crazy
Also hopefully none of this came off as insensitive, definitely not my intention
-EDIT: Also I realize that this is thinking WAY ahead as we could maybe not even last a full year, but we're both dating with the purpose of it being the last so I do think its important to think about.

A friend of a friend just gave me 2 bins full of brand new clothes and toddler supplies that she bought and then wasn’t able to send it to the person it was for. It’s easily worth over $300. I’m not good at receiving gifts so I’m not sure what the protocol here is. I offered her money and she said no. I’m thinking of sending a thank you card with a gift card but how much should I put on the card??

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So, when I (25f) first started seeing my partner (39m), I made it clear that I didn’t feel comfortable committing to an official/serious relationship while I was completing my degree. The reason being that I did not have the time nor attention available to give.
As soon as I completed my degree late last year, things felt to go from zero to a hundred… He started booking trips for us, making plans, expecting me to stay with him most nights, etc. Basically, it felt like he now “owned” the time I had previously committed to school.
In the past few months, I’ve been working full time, and in addition to taking courses part-time, i’m now feeling a LOT of pressure to dedicate a significant amount of time to him. For instance, showing up during my workday (WFH), expecting me to spend my weekends/evenings with him, and planning trips where I’m required to take time off from work/school. I feel like a horrible person for growing so resentful over a relationship that another person might dream of.
I’ve spoken to him countless times about it, but I feel like I’m just not getting through - I know he isn’t intentionally trying to disregard the boundaries I’ve set, I honestly just don’t think he understands where I’m coming from.
I care about him a ton, but I honestly don’t think I have time for the relationship he wants or deserves. I’ve just accepted an incredible job offer, in addition to starting grad school in the new year - I’ve worked so hard to get where I am in my career and education, and can’t see myself sacrificing it at this point in time. We’re in totally different stages in life, and I just want what’s best for both of us…
Any advice? Thoughts?

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I started the entire coaching thing during season 7 when one of my friends asked if I wanted to help him get out of that Diamond 4 hell. Ever since then, I was having a consistent number of sessions on a weekly basis, with my network of people slowly increasing(One of them actually gave me the idea to advertise on Reddit, which I did eventually accept!) I've coached more than 700 individuals ever since I started and I can proudly say I've had more than 500 sessions this year alone! So, if you are looking for someone who is around for more than 5 days actually add me.
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About me
Hello there, my name is Coach Chesster(Yes, an obvious Chess reference, which is, by far, my favorite game). I've been playing League of Legends since season one, I've experienced everything from full AP Yi one-shotting my entire team to Tryndamere mains spinning around with a needlessly large rod instead of a sword. You could say I've been there during all the important historical moments of the game. I've been at the top of the ladder in Season 6 (Going between high Diamond and Challenger, based on how much time I've had to invest). I've competed in various tournaments, even being able to win a number of them, before I decided to get myself into coaching.
Coaching
I started the entire coaching thing during season 7 when one of my friends asked if I wanted to help him get out of that Diamond 4 hell. Ever since then, I was having a consistent number of sessions on a weekly basis, with my network of people slowly increasing(One of them actually gave me the idea to advertise on Reddit, which I did eventually accept!) I've coached more than 700 individuals ever since I started and I can proudly say I've had more than 500 sessions this year alone! So, if you are looking for someone who is around for more than 5 days actually add me.
Some of my personal coaching achievements include
Getting a player from Silver 1 to Platinum in just 5 weeks
Getting D2 to Masters in 2 weeks
Bronze 1 to Diamond, yes, this one happened as well, though it took slightly more time
Helping Duo players on NA reach Gold(They were actually stuck in Bronze 2 prior!)
Creating a coach from hard-stuck D2 after he got GM
Community
In addition to my services, I am proud to present to you our Educational community, which is steadily growing on a daily basis. Aside from Coaching, it is an amazing place to connect with other people, find friends and talk about the game all of us love and enjoy. Various events are held on a weekly basis, from 1v1 tournaments to Team Contests, with nice rewards being given out! Hint, you might win a free session!
All of our coaches have been vetted and verified, being certain all of you guys get the best service available! Every single one has peaked at least Grandmaster, with a minimum of 250 Coaching Hours to their name.
Discord Community: CLICK HERE
- Upon joining, message me in order to have a Role assigned!
Prices?
Prices for my sessions are negotiable and I can guarantee, they fall onto the affordable part of the specter!
My coaching sessions are oriented and tailored to each student's specific needs, and they do cover everything from theory to live coaching, in-game mentality, etc.

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I've been tight with my little brother forever. Because we grew up in a dysfunctional home he exhibits some really poor behaviors but is not super toxic like his sister, who yells and screams at people when stressed, although he is a rage-aholic and I avoid when he gets agitated. He is also EXTREMELY entitled personality, not uncommon among some children in dysfunctional families.
That being said, we are CLOSE. We are actually the only 2 close in the entire family.. We can spend 4 or 5 hours on the phone together, and when together we talk and talk and laugh and laugh. Yes, he's very self centered, etc, but he's been generally not awful.
Our mother died in December. I put her funds in their joint account and he agreed to disperse them with me to him and her 3 other kids, myself included, after our trip to NZ to scatter her ashes. I don't care about the money. We came back from scattering her ashes abroad in February. I texted him that we should disperse the funds to the children, him and myself included. All the sudden, he's nowhere to be found.
He's now avoiding all phone msgs, calls, and texts for months. It's only 80K, so 20k each, i don't care about the 20k, but it's pretty toxic toxic form to abscond with money like that, for what? To steal 60k he doesn't care about our entire relationship? (And he doesn't have financial problems, he has 100k of his own in savings and has no expensive vices). I know b/c i had power of atty and saw their joint account for months, he never touched it.
I'm the middle child, the most helpful, the most honest, the most SANE, the most reliable (I did a lot of work to be this way). I do not expect that from him. But to throw away his only normal and closest sibling for that?! We were sooooo close. I am so full of sadness. I've changed countless diapers on that kid, took him to sports when he was a kid, helped him so much through life, and this is how much he cares about our relationship? :((((. I am so sad and trying to keep from crying. But it hurts.
I'm pretty sure I'll breaking off our relationship after this. I cannot deal with this level of toxicity and terribleness, even if he were to come back after 6 months and say, sorry, i took half or whatever.
(As an aside, it will be really interesting when i let the really angry toxic sister know he has absconded with 20k our mother left her, she doesn't even know about any money yet, lol, she won't just be sad like me, she'll go scorched earth. I'm just going to leave it alone for myself).
I am so sad. :((((((

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Once a place of extreme paradise, reduced to a toxic and radiation filled wasteland. Those who have adapted to live in this environment have established various groups, settlements or have lingered on their own. Vaults remain closed, some destroyed..
Will you survive?
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Hello! I am currently searching for someone who enjoys Fallout enough to create a storyline with me! I am hopefully looking for someone who does not mind writing as one of the main characters from the storyline! (preferably Preston, Hancock or - if the show- the ghoul or Maximus! etc!) Though, I’m fine with someone throwing their own oc in here and there as well! I will be writing as my own character who is from the vaults! I am fine with various themes! However, I ask to keep the rp as SFW. I do write to match my partners writing length, though I typically average about 2-3 paragraphs, as well as write in 3rd person! I typically can respond quickly and I do try to do so atleast 2x everyday. I am hoping that you will be able to do the same, though I do understand and am patient for my partner to reply as well- so do not be put off by such!
I will be writing on Discord, so I do ask that you have it as well! Send me a message if you are interested in making such a storyline with me! —-
Ideas:
Preston: The minutemen have encountered a unique new settler that’s name seems to ring a bell. Can the boy scout Preston keep up with a sassy spitfire?
Hancock (MOST DESIRED): A new face has arrived in Goodneighbor! However, her presence is a bit worrying- given a very legendary bounty hunter of the commonwealth has just stumbled in with the wounds to prove a surviving fight with nothing short of a death claw. Though- the person she has come for is a bit surprising.
The Ghoul (Cooper Howard): Bounty hunter meets another bounty hunter- this interaction will be full of deep intertwining storylines and entertaining jabs at one another!

It may just be bad timing, but I believe I was retaliated against and possibly wrongfully terminated from a job I desperately needed. Sorry for the long post and thank you for reading. I'm hoping to get another perspective on what I went through to see if maybe I'm wrong?
I worked for a local govt authority for 10 weeks. During that time my father fell ill and passed away. I took time off to see him and also received bereavement. I thought things were going well at work; other than the woman training me being somewhat critical (the way I dressed, the color ink I used, emailing the whole team about what they saw in my trashcan and how they thought it was unsanitary(it was 2 cups and granola wrappers) etc... minor things I felt could be moved past, but that seemed a bit weird. My longtime.friend was.one of two people working in HR and he told me I should tell his boss about my treatment. I did so and mentiomed how eager I was to learn my job and be a part of the team... he said not to worry because my trainer was going to retire soon, that she did not have a degree,.and was a bad trainer who was having personal problems at home?? Which seemed strange, but ok
But, upon returning from bereavement no one acknowledged my loss in my department (they don't have to, they're not required to nor are a therapist; it just felt "off"). When I returned from bereavement I received an email that stated I needed to hold off on my previously trained duties so we could review them again. My trainer was gone all week and so this left me without anything to work on. So I read as many training documents as possible and also prepared the work I'd be retrained on so it could be reviewed at least. I went to my director to ask for feedback since he wanted to talk to me about my training. He told me as far as my performance that "it was too soon to tell and I should find a way to stay busy and said I needed to look through older files in the filing cabinet and do my best to learn from them" so I did... The next day I was written up for making and receiving calls to the hospital when my father was dying even though they said it was important, understandable, and family comes first. It also stated I did not take any notes. However I asked why they thought I hadnt taken notes since I had many many notes on procedures written down, retyped, and also posted all over my desk. It also stated I took breaks too frequently (which most of the time I wasn't taking lunch or breaks other than phone calls to the hospital but since my dad had passed it wouldn't be an issue anymore)... I asked if they had any evidence for saying I wasn't taking enough notes? And they refused to elaborate and kept urging me to sign the write up which I politely said I felt I could not, but would take the feedback to heart and hit the ground running.
At my previous jobs I had reasonable accomodations(which weren't a problem) for additional breaks for PTSD/ADHD which I was afraid to ask for at this job but did so the following work day. I submitted the requested documents that my Dr filled out so I could receive two additional 10-minute breaks. In the document my Dr said I might be prone to mistakes because of my condition and additional breaks would help... suddenly it felt I was doing everything wrong.. I was told to never use staples again, to slow down, that I was working too slow also, and that it was inconvenient to retrain me. Also the breaks, the short time I had them, I only took as needed and not everyday... Each most time my director saw me up (checking my internal mailbox, restroom, etc) he would ask if I was on a break and said that we needed to discuss the accomodations, but we'd do it later...)... 4 days later I was terminated and told that the team didn't feel I was personally a good fit for the role. And that mistakes were made, but didn't give specifics. That's all they told me.... Not sure if it's wrong or just rough luck when I look at all the circumstances... I know for a fact I'm not perfect.
Ancillary: Right before I was fired my trainer who would confront me quite frequently said that there was an issue because I took time off for bereavement and needed to be retrained..which she did bring up a couple times. She also refused to show me processes and told me if I didn't like it that I could tell our director my training was insufficient which made me quite uncomfortable. Not sure if it's wrong or just rough luck when I look at all the circumstances...
They also presented me with a 10+ page document with a list of all my duties and said I needed to be proficient in them within 3 weeks, even the ones we hadnt gone over. And my trainer was only in 2 days a week. She would also ignore my emails when. Working from home after other coworkers would direct me to her... anyways They had me rate my.proficiency on each item and then had a meeting with me where they told me why I didn't need training on the items anymore. When upon being hired my director said he expected it would take me a full year to get up to speed. I just felt they had a personal problem with me, but that I would still try my best and was determined to move past it...it really made me feel like dirt about myself
There was was also a lot of gossip which I was warned about by the director. Which didn't bother me, I felt I was there to work and do my job... Until someone from accounting came into my office and said I was being fired and to becareful.... They let me go the very next day. For reference I worked in project management.
Also lastly, my director came into my office when I was.alone and shut the door and said that lgbtqa+ was against the Bible and a sign of the end times? I'm heterosexual but found this offensive so quickly changed the subject back to work. He also laughed, scoffed, and rolled his eyes about lgntqa+ which we target to receive 5% participation from that community when awarding construction projects.
Thanks for reading... I felt so uncomfortable there, but desperately needed that job and tried very hard.