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2015.06.16 06:08 Fartweaver Age of Sigmar Warhammer

The Reddit community for Warhammer: Age of Sigmar and the Mortal Realms
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2013.01.02 00:52 Zaxnaaog Beat The Meatles

Revolution 9 sucks amirite??? Punchy, Granny, Who?, The Drummer. beatles has no sense of humor TheBeatles has a 65+ age requirement pinkfloydcirclejerk banned me radioheadcirclejerk who?
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2013.01.16 03:34 PornhubComments: Showcasing the wit of Pornhub commenters.

Showcasing the wit of Pornhub commenters. Who comments on Pornhub videos? These people.
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2024.05.19 13:47 Office-Scary "Work hard, put money in your 401k, and you'll retire comfortably some day too" šŸ™„

I don't tend to be a "generationalist", but it only takes a few charts to realize the baby boomers were born in a time with most of the benefits and were able to push the bulk of the problems off to the next generations. https://wtfhappenedin1971.com/ may be a bit outdated, but it shows the slow and steady decline of living standards for the majority of us blue and white collar workers and I'm sure if it showed after 2020, it would he accelerated on most of those metrics. We have all been put on a treadmill running faster and faster just to keep up. The ones starting out are finding it harder and harder to get ahead, and the only ones benefitting from this monetary system are the ones holding assets that are being inflated as fast as prices are increasing on everything else (food,energy,etc). We've all been handed over to a system designed to not only keep us poor, but slowly dissolve the wealth the older generations accumulated. It's a giant debt trap, and it will try to keep you on that treadmill until the day you die. NO better than serfs. Sure, we have our fancy peasant restaurants and chain stores, but it's modern day serfdom. Many well off individuals in the older retirement ages are completely disconnected from just how bad it has gotten. This sub is a light on that and why I decided to post this here. It's going to fall on the generations that will have to struggle with what has been left behind on our shoulders to figure out how the generational inequality became so bad. The answer is the money. Plain and simple. Fiat currency allows our government to spend as much as they want allowing them to print what they need to cover entitlements they simply have no reserves for. If you want to fix a completely broken system, fix the money. If a well off retired individual has a million dollars saved, and it is sitting in bonds, they are making 50k right now (minus taxes) to do absolutely nothing. That interest payment is coming from taxes and the rest not covered by taxes is coming directly from dollars made out of thin air. Idk about you, but considering I work my ass off for a little over that really pisses me off. People ignored the monetary system long enough because many don't have the time to learn how it works in their busy lives. Now I see the frustration mounting especially because of housing. I know many are looking for answers. Once you understand what our "money" is, it all starts to make alot of sense. It's the root of this problem. It's not red or blue, black or white, male or female. It's the central banking system vs all of us.
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2024.05.19 13:42 moveintheshadows AITA for getting mad at her for not apologising and comparing her to my ex?

Hi, I (20F) have been in a polyamorous relationship with a guy (21M) for 1 year. Polyamory is pretty nuanced but our agreement is that while we are in a committed relationship, we can still explore our sexualities since we are both bisexual. I can see girls, he can see guys.
This is quite unusual, I know and a lot of people judge the quality of my relationship immediately when I say Iā€™m polyamorous but it works for us and weā€™ve been really happy and hope to get married after we graduate.
In the beginning of our relationship, I was seeing a girl, weā€™ll call her Kelly who identifies as a lesbian. I absolutely adored her and she got on really well with my boyfriend. The three of us would watch movies together and fall asleep in the same bed without feeling uncomfortable. There was one problem, she would occasionally ghost me for 2-4 weeks due to health reasons. She is chronically ill and struggles with mental health. I have also struggled with mental illness and had to leave university for one year because of how bad it got. Nevertheless, I am on treatment now and mostly better. Because I can relate to having mental health issues, I tried to be as supportive as possible but her ghosting me for weeks at a time hurt very much especially because she would not communicate that she intended on having alone time. I would understand if it had been a few days. When she returned each time, she would not apologise until one day I started sobbing because she made me feel really confused and unwanted. She only ever apologised after I revealed that her actions hurt me but if I didnā€™t, she thought this behaviour was completely normal. It wasnā€™t the ghosting that hurt the most, it was the lack of communication about when she needed space and, the inability to recognise that her actions hurt me on her own, without any kind of prompt from me.
I eventually ended things with her which was extremely painful and hard to do because I truly loved her and my boyfriend and I enjoyed her company even if it was just sitting and chatting for hours.
Fast forward: I start seeing a new girl, weā€™ll call her Mary. Mary is a wonderful girl, but I was still hurting a lot from my experience with Kelly and I made her aware from the start that I am still processing a lot of the pain from my experience with my ex and that Iā€™m working on it but that unhealed part of me might cause distrust.
Months go by, Mary and I become a lot closer. Exams start approaching and weā€™re seeing each other a lot less. Itā€™s difficult to see each other because she doesnā€™t feel comfortable around my boyfriend and wouldnā€™t want to come over while he was there so he would have to leave every time we made plans and I hated doing that to him.
I need to give some context before we dive deeper. Over these few months, I spent time with her friends almost everyday at least for an hour and made an effort to get to know each and every single one of them and be on good terms with them. One of her friends called me pretentious to my face solely because I used the word, ā€œidiosyncraticā€ in a conversation. This caught me off guard and when it happened, all her friends laughed at me including Mary which really hurt me because I would never let that slide if one of my friends said something like that to her let alone laugh. Some of her friends made me uncomfortable and were kind of mean to me? But I sat with them frequently anyway because I cared about her and wanting to make that sacrifice to spend time with her. In contrast, I have few close friends but the person closest to me is my boyfriend, naturally. Mary made no effort to get to know him or even be nice to him and this hurt me because my boyfriend is genuinely a soft and sweet person and I couldnā€™t understand why she wouldnā€™t attempt to get to know him seeing as I made so much of an effort with her friends.
I would initiate all our dates, pay for her and essentially give her princess treatment, listen to her and give her advice when she was depressed late at night even if I had a test the next day. I went to my 10am lecture venue 20 minutes early everyday just so I could pass her and chat to her for a bit. I wasnā€™t perfect but I did give her a lot of my effort and time.
A few times, I vented to her about Kelly and I apologised, saying I hate being that person to talk about their ex. She reassured me that it was okay and she was there for me which brought me so much comfort.
Things go steadily until we got closer to exams and we could barely see each other because her friends are kind of rowdy and rambunctious and it was too hard to study around them so close to exams. In addition, she never wanted to come over unless the boyfriend wasnā€™t there. We made plans multiple times but something came up each time. I started to miss her a lot and asked my boyfriend if I could have the apartment some time during the week to see her and he was more than happy to stay at res that night. I got her roses, unwrapped and cut them, got rid of all the thorns, spray painted one black because she likes black, rewrapped them, got her chocolates and spent 4 hours cleaning my house.
She texts me asking to move the time we were supposed to meet up from 6pm to 9pm and this initially upsets me because I get anxiety when plans are changed last minute but I said it was fine.
9pm comes, no text. 9:20, nothing. I begin to freak out. She eventually texts me saying she lost her phone in an Uber and is texting from her pc and canā€™t make it. The exact message was, ā€œI lost my phone in an Uber, i canā€™t make it.ā€
I immediately started searching online for ways to track her phone. Tried helping her login to Uber on her laptop and place an enquiry for a lost item, then helped her track the phone using her google account and she found where it was. I googled a bunch of things about the safety of the area to make sure where she was going was safe and told her to take a friend. She gets her phone back and all is well. Then goes to sleep.
Now I donā€™t know if Iā€™m being dramatic but what stood out to me was the lack of, ā€œIā€™m sorry that I couldnā€™t make it, I know you really wanted to see me and probably made your boyfriend leave and put a lot of effort into this. It was a mistake but I am sorry for how it affected your day and feelings.ā€
This is what I would have said asap if it was me. Yes, she lost her phone by accident but that doesnā€™t mean that it had no consequences for anyone else. Iā€™ve lost things by accident before and still recognised that I should have been more aware/ responsible and apologise. I am always the first to apologise in situations and sometimes profusely even if itā€™s not a big deal because I feel really bad when I inconvenience/ upset people.
I messaged her saying it really bothered me that she did not apologise and disregarded how that affected my day, plans and feelings. She messaged back saying she meant to apologise but she was tired and forgot and a bunch of excuses. This didnā€™t make it better for me. A simple, ā€œYouā€™re right, I did mean to say sorry but it slipped my mind and I should have said that immediately. I appreciate all the effort you made and Iā€™m gonna make it up to you.ā€
I started to get more upset the more she made excuses and told her that it was resurfacing trauma from my ex because Kelly would only apologise after I said I was hurt and have a million reasons to justify it. I told her I was feeling triggered and I felt like I was reliving bad memories. She sent me a long paragraph saying itā€™s not okay for me to compare her all the time (Iā€™ve never compared her to Kelly other than this time) and said me talking about how Kelly hurt me put pressure on her to not do the same things. I said I was so sorry for comparing her and I didnā€™t mean to make her feel bad, I was just expressing that I was feeling triggered and wanted her to stop explaining herself because it was making bad memories resurface. Regardless, I was wrong and I promised that it would never ever happen again and while I was not aware that talking about Kelly pressured her, I am now and want to discuss it more in person BUT I felt like this was the wrong time for her to bring up everything I had done wrong and could do better when she had literally just done something that hurt me and we were discussing that and the conversation just shifted. I said I felt that she was deflecting and that while her points are valid, I wish she had asked to speak in person, apologised and then said she wants to address another issue with me and bring all of those concerns up. I feel like if something has been bothering someone for months in a friendship OR relationship, they shouldnā€™t choose to finally bring it up in the middle of being called out.
She got defensive then I got defensive, I said I was sorry and never wanted to make her feel that way again and will give her space and she should message me when she is ready to talk. I asked if she still wanted the flowers, she said yes and I brought them to her on Friday.
No text from her after that, nothing. I text on Sunday asking her whatā€™s wrong and she says and I quote, ā€œI've thought about it and I don't think we should keep hanging out or whatever. The way you reacted to me and made me feel really horrible about myself on Wednesday just made me think that that's not how I want to go about situations like those in the future and that I don't think we're suited for each other.ā€
This gutted me not only because she referred to our relation as ā€œhanging out or whateverā€ but because I thought we had resolved our problems and were going to work through them together. It also hurt me because she broke up with me via text knowing she would see me the next day on campus after her lecture. It also hurt because she had only said she doesnā€™t want to see me anymore when I messaged to ask what was going on knowing I had told her I am giving her space and she should message me when she is ready to talk. But this wasnā€™t talking, it was a definitive decision and instead of telling me, she left me hanging for days, freaking out while waiting for an update. Lack of communication, once again.
I also felt like while I had made a mistake, I gave her a genuine apology, promised not to do it again and wanted to discuss it more. How did I become the villain of the story all of a sudden?
I felt like I had been so good to her and this issue, while valid, wasnā€™t big enough to break up over and speak to me like I meant nothing. An in-person conversation with something approximating, ā€œYou were good to me and I appreciate the effort you made and enjoyed our time together but the way you handled our last argument made me realise that we are not suited for each other. I wish the best for you.ā€ would have been so much kinder and I reread her text over and over again asking myself what I did to deserve a breakup like that.
AITA for comparing her to my ex and saying that she should have brought up the issues she had with me and what I had been doing wrong separately after a genuine in-person apology.
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2024.05.19 13:41 Sweet-Count2557 Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda

Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda
Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda Are you ready to discover the ultimate luxury getaway?Join us as we take you on a journey to Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda. This five-star resort on the stunning Caribbean coast offers a plethora of amenities and activities for the perfect vacation.From its picturesque setting and inviting pool area to its range of outdoor activities and indulgent spa, this mega-resort has it all.Get ready to experience freedom and create unforgettable memories at Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda.Key TakeawaysParadisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda is a five-star resort located on the Caribbean.The resort offers a range of amenities and activities including pools, a water park, a fitness center, and a spa.The resort is located in Playa del Carmen, a great location for nature lovers and watersports enthusiasts.The resort is known for its spacious rooms, kid-friendly atmosphere, and upscale all-inclusive offerings.Overview and LocationParadisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda is a luxurious resort situated on the stunning Caribbean coastline. With its prime location, guests can enjoy breathtaking views of the crystal-clear waters and powdery white sand beaches. The resort features an array of impressive amenities that cater to the desires of freedom-seeking individuals. From the moment you arrive, you'll be captivated by the water features, reflection pools, and wooden walkways that lead you to the beach and pool areas.Not only does Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda provide a lavish experience within its grounds, but it also offers easy access to nearby attractions. Nature lovers will appreciate the proximity to the Riviera Maya, where they can explore the stunning natural beauty of the Yucatan Peninsula. For those seeking adventure, watersports activities are readily available, allowing you to dive into the Caribbean's vibrant underwater world.As we transition into the next section, you'll discover the abundance of amenities and activities that await you at Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda. From spacious suites with kitchenettes and swim-up access to a variety of engaging activities for both adults and children, this resort truly has something for everyone.Amenities and ActivitiesAs we continue our exploration of Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda, let's delve into the resort's impressive array of amenities and activities. Here are four highlights that are sure to thrill and entertain guests:Swim Up Access: Some suites at Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda offer the unique feature of swim-up access. Imagine stepping out of your room and directly into a refreshing pool. It's the ultimate convenience for those who love to take a dip whenever they please.Water Park: The resort boasts a fantastic water park that's perfect for families and adventure seekers. Get ready to zoom down thrilling slides, splash around in the pools, and enjoy a day of water-filled fun. The water park is sure to bring out the inner child in everyone.Tennis Court and Fitness Center: For those who want to stay active during their vacation, Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda has you covered. The resort offers a tennis court where you can engage in friendly matches with loved ones. Additionally, there's a fully-equipped fitness center with free classes to help you stay on top of your fitness goals.Kids Club and Workshops: The resort understands the importance of keeping the little ones entertained. With a dedicated kids club, children can enjoy a variety of activities supervised by trained staff. From arts and crafts to games, there's never a dull moment. Plus, the resort also offers workshops for adults, such as wine tastings, providing opportunities for relaxation and learning.With an array of amenities and activities, Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda ensures that guests have the freedom to choose how they spend their time. From swim-up access to a thrilling water park, there's something for everyone.Now, let's take a closer look at the pros and cons of this resort.Pros and ConsWe have identified several pros and cons of Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda that are worth considering before planning your stay at this resort.One of the pros of this upscale mega-resort is its array of upscale amenities. The spacious rooms offer stunning views of the Caribbean or lagoon, and some even come with kitchenettes, swim-up access, and hot tubs. The resort also boasts a nine-hole golf course, a tennis court, a fitness center, and a kids club, ensuring that guests of all ages have plenty to enjoy.However, it's important to note that there's a seaweed issue on the beautiful white sand beach. While this may detract from the overall beach experience, the resort does its best to keep the beach clean.Additionally, another con is that downtown Playa del Carmen is a 20-minute walk away, which may be inconvenient for those looking to explore the area.Despite these drawbacks, Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda offers a luxurious and family-friendly experience with its upscale amenities and kid-friendly activities. So, if you're looking for a resort that provides comfort, relaxation, and a wide range of activities, this could be the perfect choice for your next vacation.Booking TipsWhen planning your stay at Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda, it's important to consider some helpful booking tips. Here are four tips to ensure you have the best experience:Best time to visit:The best time to visit Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda is during the dry season, which runs from November to April. The weather is pleasant, with little to no rainfall, making it ideal for outdoor activities and enjoying the beach.Special promotions:Take advantage of special promotions offered by the resort. Booking directly through the resort's website may provide exclusive discounts or additional perks, such as free shuttle service or complimentary upgrades. Keep an eye out for these offers to make your stay even more affordable.Booking in advance:To secure the best deals and availability, consider booking your stay at Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda well in advance. By planning ahead, you can take advantage of early bird discounts and have more options when it comes to room selection.Join loyalty program:Joining the Melia Rewards loyalty program can provide you with extra perks and discounts. As a member, you may receive exclusive offers, earn points towards future stays, and enjoy additional benefits during your visit.Comparison With Paradisus CancunMoving on to the comparison with Paradisus Cancun, it's important to note the differences between the two resorts. While both offer luxurious accommodations and a range of amenities, there are some distinct features that set them apart. Let's take a closer look at the key differences between Paradisus Playa del Carmen La Esmeralda and Paradisus Cancun:Paradisus Playa del Carmen La EsmeraldaParadisus CancunDining optionsOffers a variety of dining options with a focus on international cuisine, including Mexican, Italian, and Asian flavors.Provides an array of dining experiences with a focus on international cuisine, including Mexican, Mediterranean, and Japanese flavors.Beachfront poolFeatures a beautiful beachfront pool with sun loungers and a swim-up bar, perfect for relaxing and enjoying the stunning views of the Caribbean.Offers a larger beachfront freeform pool with a swim-up bar and ample sun loungers, providing a spacious and inviting area for guests to unwind.These differences in dining options and beachfront pool highlight the unique experiences offered by each resort. Paradisus Playa del Carmen La Esmeralda stands out with its diverse culinary offerings, while Paradisus Cancun boasts a larger beachfront pool for guests to enjoy. Whether you prefer a wide range of dining choices or a spacious pool area, both resorts offer an exceptional stay with their own distinct features.Frequently Asked QuestionsWhat Is the Average Cost of a Stay at Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda?The average cost of a stay at Paradisus Playa del Carmen La Esmeralda varies depending on the season and the type of package you choose. During peak season, rates can be higher, while off-peak season rates may be more affordable.The resort offers all-inclusive packages which include amenities such as spacious rooms with beautiful views, access to pools and water park, fitness center, kids club, and complimentary Wi-Fi and parking.These amenities are included in the cost of your stay, providing a convenient and enjoyable experience.Are Pets Allowed at the Resort?Yes, pets are allowed at the resort. We offer pet-friendly accommodations and a variety of pet-friendly activities for our guests.You can enjoy your vacation with your furry friend by your side. Our resort understands the importance of including your pets in your travel plans, so we strive to provide a welcoming and comfortable environment for both you and your pet.From spacious rooms to designated pet areas, we ensure that your pet feels just as pampered as you do during your stay.Can Guests Use the Amenities at Paradisus Cancun if They Are Staying at Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda?Yes, guests staying at Paradisus Playa del Carmen La Esmeralda can access the amenities at Paradisus Cancun. There are no restrictions on using the facilities at the sister property.This allows guests to enjoy a larger beachfront pool with a swim-up bar and other offerings at Paradisus Cancun. It's a great opportunity to experience different dining options and explore the vibrant Hotel Zone of Cancun.Is There a Dress Code for the Restaurants at the Resort?There is a dress code for dinner at the resort's restaurants. While the specific attire may vary, it's generally recommended to dress in smart casual or resort casual attire.This means that guests can feel free to wear comfortable yet presentable clothing such as sundresses, collared shirts, and slacks.It's a great opportunity to showcase your personal style while enjoying a delicious meal in a relaxed and elegant atmosphere.Are There Any Nearby Attractions or Landmarks Worth Visiting During a Stay at Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda?Nearby attractions and landmarks worth visiting during your stay at Paradisus Playa del Carmen La Esmeralda include:The stunning Mayan ruins of Tulum, where you can explore ancient temples and enjoy breathtaking views of the Caribbean Sea.You can also visit the vibrant Fifth Avenue in downtown Playa del Carmen, filled with shops, restaurants, and nightlife.For nature lovers, a trip to the stunning cenotes, natural sinkholes with crystal-clear waters, is a must-do experience.ConclusionIn conclusion, Paradisus Playa Del Carmen La Esmeralda offers a luxurious and unforgettable experience on the stunning Caribbean coast.With its beautiful setting, abundance of amenities, and range of activities, guests are sure to be immersed in paradise.Whether relaxing by the pool, enjoying water sports, or indulging in the spa, there's something for everyone to enjoy.Don't miss out on creating timeless memories at this upscale all-inclusive mega-resort.It's like stepping into a dream.
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2024.05.19 13:39 ClaireDidNothinWrong Which character/s were you hyped to finally be able to play as in the series?

We all know that feeling of seeing a character being introduced and then waiting for them to finally be playable in one of the games. It's happened so many times across the 12 games and will continue to happen so I thought I'd ask this question... which character were you hyped to finally be able to play as? Here is a small list of mine and I've spoiler marked just in case:
I could include many more but these are just some of my favorites. So how about you guys? Any favorite characters that you were happy to finally be able to play as?
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2024.05.19 13:31 la_beluga Am I wrong for being mad at my friends for dissapearing during my birthday party?

For context, a friend of mine, lets call her Beth, had a messy breakup with her boyfriend a little less than a year ago. Since most of our friends are closer to her ex, she was kinda shunned from the friend group, but since I get along with her better than him, I'm the only one that has kept inviting her to hang out with us this past year. Last time I invited her to my house she drunkenly made out with one of my friends very early into the night and then both fell asleep. I was sort of bothered by the fact that they went to bed so early and left us alone the rest of the night, but i ignored it and just made fun of them a little the next morning. Today was my 18th birthday, so I invited all of my close friends over to my house; we made pizza and were drinking and having fun. At about eleven Beth and a different friend of mine, lets call him Alan (who is from another friend group), went into my room and we didn't hear from them the rest of the night. We sometimes heard them talking and laughing, and sometimes there were long silences coming from my room, but none of us dared to go there in fear of maybe interrupting something. Since, besides that, some people had to leave, and there's really not that many of us, the people that were left were bored and started going to sleep. I tried to do something and sugested stuff to do so the party wasn't so short, but everyone fell asleep. I was very much awake and was left to clean up, and after, write this at like 5am while everyone else sleeps soundly. The thing is, I was sort of expecting the party to go on for a little longer, and I'm frankly mad at both Beth and Alan for just dissapearing and basically not being at the party all night, especially at Beth; they're both kind of my female and male best friends respectively, but I've been getting out of my way to have her come to our hangouts, and two times already she has dissapeared in the middle of the party and barely interacted with me. I fell like maybe I should talk to them about it after they wake up. Am I wrong for being mad at them for dissapearing halfway through the night? Should I just let them be, be happy that they got along and stop making such a big deal out of my birthday party? Justo to clarify the legal drinking age in our country is 18.
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2024.05.19 13:30 CafeConChangos Everything I Knew About San Pedro When I Was 19

The Vagabond motel will NOT allow anyone under 21 years of age to check-in despite being in the military and traveling to your next duty station.
If youā€™re interested in meeting old friends from the past, go to Vons on Gaffey. I have no doubt youā€™ll run into someone from your past there.
Broasted chicken is not widely available. And Slavkoā€™s probably has the best.
Familiar places will come and go - change is inevitable. Tacos, chili dogs, and french fries will not always be available at one restaurant. RIP Pup nā€™ Taco.
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2024.05.19 13:30 Teach8870 15 year old dog is suddenly acting dizzy and wobbly

Dog, 15 years, Jack Russell Terrier, Male, 17 pounds
Has kidney issues and is on a prescription diet which seems to help. Takes gabapentin 25mg every 12 hours for leg shakiness and arthritis pain. It has sensed to work well for him. He had a Lyme disease diagnosis a couple years ago and took antibiotics for 28 days.
He has been acting normal lately with minimal issues up until yesterday. Before, he had a pretty good appetite and had no issues with walking or jumping. He does sleep a lot and have bad teeth, but the vet and I discussed the risk of anesthesia at his age and decided it was best not to worry about his teeth.
Yesterday, he was fairly normal in the morning, but things got worse as the day went on. He went out to use the bathroom in the morning and ate a little breakfast as usual. Later in the evening, I noticed he wouldnā€™t get up from where he was laying. I picked him up to carry him outside and he immediately sat down, which is very unusual. He wouldnā€™t budge. I brought him back inside to try to feed him, and he wouldnā€™t eat anything. This isnā€™t that unusual because his appetite isnā€™t always on schedule and he sometimes eats later in the evening. However, he wouldnā€™t eat anything at all when I tried, including his absolute favorite treats. I just assumed his stomach was hurting because that happens sometimes.
A little later I try to take him out again, and when I place him on the ground, he immediately falls forward. I pick him up and he is swaying and very wobbly. His eyes also look strange - kinda blank. For the rest of the evening he doesnā€™t eat and doesnā€™t move much. I forced the gabapentin and he did drink a bunch of water.
Into the night, he woke up and I took him outside. He walked some and was still very shaky and off balance, but he didnā€™t fall. He tried to poop and looked like he struggled because of his balance. I noticed he did manage a small amount and it was diarrhea. He would squat and strain and nothing would come out. Also, he would struggle to hold himself in the squat position for too long. His back legs seemed hard to bend. This happened again later in the night as well and he drank a bunch more water.
This morning he is still just laying in his bed. He wonā€™t eat. He isnā€™t panting or anything, and his head isnā€™t tilted down (I read about old dog syndrome online when checking symptoms).
I tried to think if anything weird had happened to cause a concussion. I remembered opening the bathroom cabinet and it hitting his head. He walked into it as I was swinging it open. This probably happened around 2 in the afternoon or so. I donā€™t think the impact was hard enough to cause a concussion, but Iā€™m unsure because he did shake his head after it happened.
So Iā€™m not sure if itā€™s a concussion or stroke or something different.
I know that it wonā€™t be long before I have to make the choice to euthanize. Iā€™ve known this for about a year now and have just been carefully watching his behavior and assessing his quality of life.
Is it time to do it now?
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2024.05.19 13:30 Afraid_Region_676 Digital Marketing Courses in Indore

Digital Marketing Courses in Indore
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Digital Marketing has been the new-age Tom Cruise of Marketing stunts. Even if youā€™re a newbie or a professional in the field, learning Digital Marketing can help you sharpen your skills and it is a field of knowledge that never ends and always has something new to teach. Your experience in the field and a good start with a course help you gain the confidence you want to pursue your career in digital marketing. Keeping this in mind I have taken the liberty to research digital marketing courses in Indore.
  1. IIDEā€™s Online Digital Marketing Course - IIDEā€™s Online Digital Marketing Course is a two-certification course that the learner can opt for, ACDM (Advanced Certification in Digital Marketing) and PCDMS (Professional Certification in Digital Marketing & Strategy).. They have AI-based mock interviews and also provide placement assistance. IIDE helps to master various next-gen AI-powered tools. They also have live case studies, 1:1 mentoring sessions, simulations and a lot more in their course syllabus. Their syllabus is curated by Industry Pros so you are definitely in good hands!
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2024.05.19 13:29 Rose_13255 My bff is becoming a 'im not like other' girls person

Okay so, This is more of a rant than anything and I need some advice* sorry its too long, I love my bff and she is my person first of all, I am not bitching about her, I have said all the stuff I'm going to say here to her multiple times. She is my bff no matter what and is an amazing person who always had my back and never left. I love her but her mindset is very very very Shitty. I have no hate or jealousy towards her or even a grudge and I am not going to leave her for anything ever. Now that this is outta the way My name is Rose and my bestie, let's call her Autumn have been BFFs for 6 years now. I won't tell you our age but we are still teens so I guess and I hope she will be outta this faze she has. I won't say we were very similar or shared any hobbies, but yk opposite attracted. So for the past 1-2 years, she has been in her im not like other girls faze and yesterday was like the last straw for me. Maybe she was always like that but I never noticed since we were kids. Mind you neither of us has any male friends or sought their validation or even dated in the past (She wants them but is a bit too introverted and I, who is an extrovert just don't wanna involve myself in them), Infact she is underconfident so we can't call her a pick me. I have seen her criticize other girls for multiple reasons even when it's not justifed and even saying she will never be a girl's girl (she knows what it means). I have seen her tell me how she wish she was as extroverted and pretty as me and wished she had the same grades even if I work my ass off for it. She was always good at maths and I was more of a science , English, music , history sort, basically every subject except math so because I only had math as my weak part I would score more in total. Like I swear my math is so bad and I could barely pass even after studying for 3-4 hours a day. She knows how hard I worked. I studied 8 hours a day except school just to score that for my parents. She always told me how she wished she could dance well. I have been a classical singer for 11 years now and I am pretty good at it, I also have a seniormost degree in music even though I'm just a minor because of which I go to competitions and get certificates and often get called for performances or skits in general even without singing as I dont have stage fear. She never liked being on stage as far as I know. I offered to recommend her to the teachers multiple times but she was too lazy to audition or write scripts, edit, etc saying she was not 'good enough' in English. I told her multiple times how she was better and prettier than me also math is not an easy subject. I live in an abusive family but she refuses to believe what I say or even listen because my parents seem nice. again she is not perfect and neither am I, she has done a lot for me and everyone has done grey things. She wished she had my life even though she is more privileged and also loved and I would rather be her and she knows it.
Often she has said that she hates girly stuff, pink and shitty movies for children. I have been assaulted in the past so I dont trust men, She says I'm being a bitch and not all men are the same. I get where she is coming from but it hurts to hear my person say that. I told her about my assault and she said I was lying and joking around. I am no saint tbh and we have both done shit in the past but I won't drop that low no matter what. She refuses to believe the shit men have done or hold them accountable or even consider the things they have said to us or on online platforms like Instagram in general. We recently had our classes shift and I got into a new class where I found many friends compared to my last one. It was my dream to have a friend group like the ones in my old class I was never in. Most of the kids in my old class were pretty bad humans so I never talked much but I was very happy to finally be in a class I like and study new subjects I like (no maths LOL), Autumn didn't seem happy for me and told me to stop flexing when I was just sharing how happy I was. She didn't really find many friends, the girl she sits with is quite boring to her. She accused me of having an attitude now that we are separate ways when she is the one who turns down plans and hangouts.
Yesterday I gave her my password to a movie platform (like Netflix thing) to watch Harry Potter as she loves that series. I recommended her to watch the Barbie movie after she finishes Harry Potter. autumn said 'Eww who watches that shit movie' and I asked her so 'You must hate pink, dolls , dresses, bows, and stuff' 'Makeup is too much for you' She said Yes it is. I asked her do you think girls are too much drama and she said yes. I swear my heart broke because I'm kind of girly girl and also a girls girl. Autumn says I shouldnt be that kind and even told me not to give a pad to our enemy when they got their period which I thought was rude. I still gave the girl the pad and Autumn wasnt happy about it.
That was it for me I had told her many times to not say this in front of me, I ignored it 3-4 times but then I bursted. Today I told her she can't say that and it's okay if she doesn't like it but its not stupid. She said I was overreacting and that hurt me even more. Idk if sounds very dominating or like an A-hole but idc. What I did was right and she needs to be education I and my friends hope it's just a faze and not her personality
OKAY THIS WAS LONG IM SO SORRY
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2024.05.19 13:27 SunflowerChick13 Almost 28 and never been in a relationship/done anything... Struggling mentally

Ever since I can remember, I've always wanted a boyfriend (I remember being at school and having a crushes on boys who I got on really well with, but boys just never liked me in that way). Then as I got older, I noticed parts of my body weren't developing as they should (female anatomy) and ever since I've been incredibly self conscious and uncomfortable (physically/mentally). Aside from the body issues, over the years, I've just never met anyone (which people find hard to understand) and now as a 27 year old, I've never felt more lonely and so alienated from society.
It's not only the fact that I've never done anything, but everything that comes with it- the not being able to join in with certain conversations, the wanting to run away everytime the subject of 'relationships' comes up incase the conversation turns to me and feeling constant shame and embarrassment at my situation. The constant judgement from society, or those around me. It's seeing everyone else my age, or those who I grew up with meet people, be in a long term relationships, feel confident in themselves or settle down and I'm stood thinking "I've never even held a guys hand". It's the knowing that it's going to be the likelihood that if I were ever able to be lucky enough to meet someone, that I'm going to be on such a different level (mentally- because my lack of experience) and that I'll never feel truly comfortable with someone.
Another thing, which I know isn't a normal way to think, but I think I'd feel too self-conscious to be with someone who has already been with somebody else (which I know is ridiculous, because by my age, most have been with multiple people). I think its the part of my brain which didn't have chance to mature and its so painful- I wish I didn't think that way, but I do. Not only because of me knowing they've seen what a normal body should look like, but because they've been intimate with someone/others and shared that experience and that's a normal thing, but for me it isn't and it doesn't compute. Its painful- because no one I know can truly put themselves in my shoes. And knowing that I have no experience, is in itself mortifying, but then to add on the body issues and the complete lack of confidence, I've got no chance.
I can't bare the thought that I'll live my life alone, or without ever having been in relationship etc. but I also can't see how I'll meet someone/be comfortable with someone or it be fair to whoever I might meet.
The worst thing is, it's such a normal thing for most people and I don't know why it never happened for me. My therapist can't understand either and therefore doesn't have any suggestions or ideas how to help me and so I'm stuck in this never ending loneliness that I can't see myself escaping from. It hurts.
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2024.05.19 13:26 Orange_Menace1 Randyll Tarly - Blackfyre Supporter (my first theory)

Randyll Tarly - Blackfyre Supporter (my first theory)
Note: I started writing this and it got away from me. Rather than fill in the unfinished points, I've just left them there for everyone to consider

Preface

Randyll Tarly on a first read through is a jerk. He tortures Sam, insults Brienne, implements draconian justice and downplays the golden company threat. Prima-Facie, he is a violent commander with little political cunning.
Except for his results. By the end of ADWD
Ā· He receives accolades for every battle fought (I hold fire on the term won)
Ā· He holds the queen in his custody.
Ā· He has a voice at council
Ā· He secured his chosen heir in defiance of westrosi customs
If we assume these things didnā€™t happen by chance, we can re-examine some of his older achievements, actions, and then try to sort out his motives.

Randyll Tarly as a Commander

Roberts Rebellion

Battle of Ashford

Context: The battle of Ashford was Roberts one defeat in his rebellion. Tarlyā€™s van sailed forward and defeated Roberts host, but the battle was inconclusive. Robert retreated to the stony sept, recovered, regrouped, and when his allies arrived and consolidated forces, used this new army to win the war.

Relevant Sections ā€“ directly on point paragraphs:

A Storm of Swords - Tyrion III

Tyrion had to bite his tongue at that. Robb Stark had won more battles in a year than the Lord of Highgarden had in twenty. ~Tyrell's reputation rested on one indecisive victory over Robert Baratheon at Ashford, in a battle largely won by Lord Tarly's van before the main host had even arrived.~

A Storm of Swords - Davos V

"Edric, you ought not boast," Maester Pylos said. "King Robert suffered defeats like any other man. Lord Tyrell bested him at Ashford, and he lost many a tourney tilt as well."

A Storm of Swords - Samwell V

"Your father is an able soldier," King Stannis said. "He defeated my brother once, at Ashford. Mace Tyrell has been pleased to claim the honors for that victory, but Lord Randyll had decided matters before Tyrell ever found the battlefield. He slew Lord Cafferen with that great Valyrian sword of his and sent his head to Aerys." The king rubbed his jaw with a finger. "You are not the sort of son I would expect such a man to have."

A Dance with Dragons - The Griffin Reborn

~He had lost it all at Stoney Sept, in his arrogance.~
~Robert Baratheon had been hiding somewhere in the town, wounded and alone. Jon Connington had known that, and he had also known that Robert's head upon a spear would have put an end to the rebellion, then and there~. He was young and full of pride. How not? King Aerys had named him Hand and given him an army, and he meant to prove himself worthy of that trust, of Rhaegar's love. He would slay the rebel lord himself and carve a place out for himself in all the histories of the Seven Kingdoms.

Other information gleaned from context

Ā· Tarly did not inflict substantial casualties
Ā· Robert won the battle of the trident within a year ā€“ Ashford is 282AC and the trident is 283
Ā· Robert fled to and was sheltered in the stony sept, where Jon Connington failed to flush him out. The battle of the bells occurred in 283AC, as did the battle of the trident shortly after

Analysis

Randyll leads the van some distance ahead of the main force, gets into a battle with the rebels, and inflicts minor to moderate casualties before they escape. Tyrell takes the credit.
From a military point of view, if the battle had not been decided before the main force arrived, the war would have likely ended. A much larger force (with assumedly many more horsemen) would have won the battle both more conclusively, and been able to pursue. By all rights, the strategy enforced by Mace Tyrell should have won the war (this theme will come in later in this theory), but for the fact only a fraction of his army engaged far ahead of the main host.
As an aside and jumping ahead a little ā€“ Tarly avoids doing this after the blackwater, closing off escape routes and slaughtering everyone. This hints at the fact that Ashford was a tactical mistake.
The first three viewpoints we receive on the battle are of note.
Ā· Tyrion points out the battle was indecisive, and ~decided before the main host arrived~. He focuses on the victory in ā€˜battleā€™ as opposed to war.
Ā· Stannis points out how able Randyll is by defeating his brother once at Ashford. Although unable to ascribe any special military strategy to Randyll, he calls him ā€˜ableā€™ and decided matters before Tyrell arrived. He also flags that Mace Tyrell claimed the honours for the victory and he thinks this undeserved. Itā€™s interesting as itā€™s Maces host at Ashford, a host that by all rights should have crushed Roberts army in a single battle ā€“ given the van alone defeated him. He also ascribes the only kill of note as lord Cafferen
Ā· Maester Pylos points out that Robert lost battles at Ashford and flags it was Tyrell who bested him.
The battle by all appearances, was a farce. Ashford could have ended the war. Arguably, even with the van alone deciding the fight, it very nearly did. Instead, the battle is determined indecisive, there is no ā€˜impressive kill and capture listā€™ indicating the host was not captured or killed (as opposed to routed), and Mace has this massive potentially war-ending host not doing much because Robert is in retreat before it arrives.
Furthermore despite all this, Tarly very nearly won the day at Ashford. Robert suffered a serious ā€“ but nonfatal wound that seemingly took months (and at least weeks) to recover. The fact that a seriously wounded Robert was able to escape despite distinctive armour and weaponry raises questions of its own.
Finally, when Robert was wounded and hidden in the aftermath whilst he recovered, narratively it allowed JonCon to lay siege to the stony sept. As a parallel, one of the themes I will later touch on is how Tarly changes after this battle, and we know JonCon swears to kill more and become Tywin 2.0. as a direct result of the events at the sept. We see a similar change in Tarly.
Itā€™s also of note that Tarly and Tyrell at this point were on the Targaryen side. This crops up later when we look into other motivations and goals.
Aftermath
So we know that Robert suffers wounds and is somewhat detached from his host (be it they left him in the stoney sept or he scattered off from the main host). We know this as he ends up wounded in the Stoney Sept. After this, the battle of the bells and all the great victories that ended the war occur.
Notably, Tarly has no major military achievements after this battle. Since Mace Tyrell was invested in the siege of Storms end, it can be presumed Tarly was positioned with the main force. The next time we see him is in the battle of 5 kings ā€“

Discussion with Renly ā€“ The Siege of Stannis

  • Renly outright ignores Tarly when he says they'll be charging into the sun. In renlys conversation with stannis he points out how overwhelmingly strong his force is and how it will be heavy horse charging into boiled leather. He's not wrong, if the armies clash, stannis will be crushed and waiting is potentially disastrous, as stannis may not engage or slow the whole process down.

Battle of the Blackwater

A Clash of Kings - Sansa VII

They came up the roseroad and along the riverbank, through all the fields Stannis had burned, the ashes puffing up around their boots and turning all their armor grey, but oh! the banners must have been bright, the golden rose and golden lion and all the others, the Marbrand tree and the Rowan~, Tarly's huntsman~ and Redwyne's grapes and Lady Oakheart's leaf. All the westermen, all the power of Highgarden and Casterly Rock! ~Lord Tywin himself had their right wing~ on the north side of the river, with Randyll Tarly commanding the center and ~Mace Tyrell the left,~ but the vanguard won the fight. They plunged through Stannis like a lance through a pumpkin, every man of them howling like some demon in steel. And do you know who led the vanguard? Do you? Do you? Do you?"

A Storm of Swords - Catelyn II

"I told you to hold Riverrun," said Robb. "What part of that command did you fail to comprehend?"
"When you stopped Lord Tywin on the Red Fork," said the Blackfish, "you delayed him just long enough for riders out of Bitterbridge to reach him with word of what was happening to the east. ~Lord Tywin turned his host at once, joined up with Matthis Rowan and Randyll Tarly~ near the headwaters of the Blackwater, and made a forced march to Tumbler's Falls, ~where he found Mace Tyrell and two of his sons waiting with a huge host and a fleet of barges~. They floated down the river, disembarked half a day's ride from the city, and took Stannis in the rear."

We know tywin likes to put his strength on his flanks and in the reserve

Interestingly, Mace is there too, and itā€™s a tyrell van this time, not tarly
Lord Tywin himself had their right wing on the north side of the river, with Randyll Tarly commanding the center and Mace Tyrell the left, but the vanguard won the fight. They plunged through Stannis like a lance through a pumpkin, every man of them howling like some demon in steel.
ACOK 62: SANSA VII

Analysis

First the parallels. Mace Tyrell is paralleled to Tywin on the two flanks. It is a tyrell in the van who decides the day. Randyll commands the center.
Logistically, the battle is won by Mace Tyrell (whom I love as a character) with a fleet of barges and a huge host already in position (allowing the army to cross quickly enough to intercept the battle of the blackwater). Also the messenger that draws in Tywinā€™s host comes from Bitterbridge ā€“ Tyrell Lands. Given the van wins the battle, thereā€™s a fair argument that Mace could have won the battle alone, albeit with all the support he wins a crushing victory instead.
So Randyll is relegated to an important, but ultimately ancillary position. Whether the battle is won by Tywin or Mace (and by all logistical accounts, itā€™s Mace), is another question, but the ā€˜finest soldier in the seven kingdomsā€™ is once again, somewhat ineffectual. He still commands the center in such a battle, but he displays no logistical or battle prowess in this fight either, just being a renowned commander in the right place at the right time.

Battle of Duskendale

Ā· Lord Randyll defeats a northern army. The army is mostly foot and misplaced
Ā· This time, few excape ā€“ XXXX cuts off the retreat.
Ā· Some theories say he was tipped off by Roose Bolton.
Ā· This time he gets the commander
Ā· Figth occurs in FIELDS AND FARMS. Bad terrain for a retreat. Glover TRAPPED against blackwater bay
Ā· Note that Glover had to be captured lest bolton treachery be revealed. Cannot be allowed to send raven.
Ā· Strong implication of a trap and tipoff

A Storm of Swords - Catelyn IV

When they brought him word of the battle at Duskendale, where Lord Randyll Tarly had shattered Robett Glover and Ser Helman Tallhart, he might have been expected to rage.

A Storm of Swords - Tyrion VIII

But who would be mad enough to contest Joffrey's rule now, after what had befallen Stannis Baratheon and Robb Stark? There was still fighting in the riverlands, but everywhere the coils were tightening. Ser Gregor Clegane had crossed the Trident and seized the ruby ford, then captured Harrenhal almost effortlessly. Seagard had yielded to Black Walder Frey, ~Lord Randyll Tarly held Maidenpool, Duskendale, and the kingsroad.~

A Storm of Swords - Tyrion III

"No," their father said. "With the war. Varys."
The eunuch smiled a silken smile. "I have such delicious tidings for you all, my lords. Yesterday at dawn our ~brave Lord Randyll caught Robett Glover outside Duskendale and trapped him against the sea. Losses were heavy on both sides, but in the end our loyal men prevailed. Ser Helman Tallhart is reported dead, with a thousand others. Robett Glover leads the survivors back toward Harrenhal in bloody disarray, little dreaming he will find valiant Ser Gregor and his stalwarts athwart his path."~

A Storm of Swords - Tyrion I

"Until Lord Redwyne brings his fleet up, we lack the ships to assail Dragonstone. It makes no matter. Stannis Baratheon's sun set on the Blackwater. ~As for Stark, the boy is still in the west, but a large force of northmen under Helman Tallhart and Robett Glover are descending toward Duskendale. I've sent Lord Tarly to meet them, while Ser Gregor drives up the kingsroad to cut off their retreat.~ Tallhart and Glover will be caught between them, with a third of Stark's strength."

A Storm of Swords - Catelyn IV

When they brought him word of the battle at Duskendale, where ~Lord Randyll Tarly had shattered Robett Glover and Ser Helman Tallhart,~ he might have been expected to rage. Instead he'd stared in dumb disbelief and said, "Duskendale, on the narrow sea? Why would they go to Duskendale?" He'd shook his head, bewildered. "A third of my foot, lost for Duskendale?"
"The ironmen have my castle and now the Lannisters hold my brother," Galbart Glover said, in a voice thick with despair. Robett Glover had survived the battle, but had been captured near the kingsroad not long after.

A Feast for Crows - Brienne II

Lord Randyll Tarly had commanded Joffrey's army, made up of westermen and stormlanders and knights from the Reach. Those men of his who had died here had been carried back inside the walls, to rest in heroes' tombs beneath the septs of Duskendale. The northern dead, far more numerous, were buried in a common grave beside the sea. Above the cairn that marked their resting place, the victors had raised a rough-hewn wooden marker. HERE LIE THE WOLVES was all it said. Brienne stopped beside it and said a silent prayer for them, and for Catelyn Stark and her son Robb and all the men who'd died with them as well.



Analysis

Firstly we start with the obvious comparison. Tarly lets Robert escape when Mace otherwise very nearly won the war. Given another chance, Randyll pins his enemy against the sea and plans to not let a man escape. Having somewhat surrounded the opponent on known land, with reinforcements (Clegane) behind him, he still manages to suffer heavy casualties, and the target (XXXX) escapes.
What a colossal mistake. The only good news is he intercepted enough of the force that it seems no ravens got sent off showing exactly what happened, as if one message got back, the whole red wedding could have been undone.
Now prior posts have analyzed duskendale about allowing paths of retreat, and number of losses, but I think there are three key takeaways
1) The stark contrast between this and his tactics at Ashford
2) The fact that he failed to capture the host and Gregor Clegane had to clean up the mess
3) The fact he suffered heavy losses when by all rights he had every advantage (and still failed to capture the army)
Interestingly, the message that gets to Robb is that Tarly shattered glover. The actual message from Varys is only 1000 were killed, with Tallhart. Now its difficult to say how many foot there were, but itā€™s not unreasonable to assume that 1000 is less than to around half the force. Clegane captures Glover in the aftermath (thankfully), and Robb gets the report that Tarly shattered the force, when in actuality a good chunk of it was Clegane.
As a sidenote- this is indicative that Clegane actually isnā€™t a bad commander, and in turn this makes the fact that Edmure Tully threw him back more impressive.
We also donā€™t hear of any captives other than the ones taken by Clegane. It appears Tarly is putting men to the sword (SEE EARLIER).
Now before we get into conspiracy theories, we see Glover in ADWD conspiring with Madderly to help the starks and Stannis, so it seems this was not some cunning scheme where he secretly got himself captured.
Interestingly, the graves Brienne sees seem to indicate a crushing victory for Tarly, like the one described by Robb. This however is at odds with the report of Varys, and the fact Clegane had to mop up the leftover army. Now there are a few possibilities for this. Varys could be wrong/lying, heavy losses is being thrown around as a relative term (but that seems suspect), or the total of Tarly dead and Cleganeā€™s role is being hidden. The last seems the most likely, Robb hears of a crushing defeat led by Tarly not Clegane (which we know is at least partially false), the dead he kills donā€™t add up, and thereā€™s no mention of Clegane whom definitely did some of the work.
Also even assuming the whole situation is true and Tarly killed men at a 2/1 ratio, this assumes there are 500 heroes tombs under the septs at Duskendale. Simply put, there may not be that many. The whole aftermath stinks of a coverup. Tarly is getting Cleganes credit (and interestingly, itā€™s around now that Tywin decides not to give Clegane to oberyn).
Finally we get to the tinfoily bit. Helman garrisoned with Walder Frey to make sure he kept peace. Of the two lords, Helman is arguably more problematic, he knows more of Frey habits (when Tywin is scheming a betrayal) and his nephew is a possible hornwood claimant (cough Roose cough). If there was a conspiracy to kill one and ransom the other ā€“ I can see a world where Talhart is the one to be killed. In all reality though, this is a bit too ambitious, and in reality one just died and one escaped ā€“ without some super scheme that Tarly was involved in.
So in summary ā€“ once again Tarly fails his mission. At best, he bloodies an out of position army whilst taking heavy casualties, with his reinforcements on the way, and half the army breaks free (admittedly into Clegane). This is not a great display of prowess. We also know its possible to capture these men as hostages, as Clegane successfully does so ā€“ and Tarly fails to once again. Now itā€™s not catastrophic as the Northerners are bleeding men and trading troops tit for tat is beneficial, but the battle itself (the thing Randyll is in charge of) is highly unimpressive. The strategic victory goes to Tywin, whom in truth entrusts it as much to Gregor Clegane as to Tarly. As it so happens, Clegane delivers and Tarly doesnā€™t.


A summary as a commander

Talk about failing upwards
Ā· Charging ahead, he is able to turn a crushing win into an indecisive one which ultimately leads to Roberts Rebellion succeeding
Ā· He gives counsel to Renly about the sun when renly knows that the sheer strength of his cavalry makes the issue moot. Renly all but ignores him.
Ā· He doesnā€™t appear to do much during the battle of the blackwater
Ā· He manages to mess up essentially an ambush at Duskendale despite reinforcements being on the way
Ā· As a result of the 4 above points, he is given, lands, titles, honors and a position on the small council.
Upon actually reviewing his achievements and each individual battle, Iā€™ve 180ā€™d on Tarly. George RR Martin does a great job building him up, and having everyone describe him as a great commander, but actually unpacking his battles, he looks pretty underwhelming. The most important battle he won was Ashford, but that was a strategic catastrophe which otherwise could have potentially let Mace Tyrell win the war. Afterwards heā€™s carefully managed, with Renly outright dismissing him, Mace keeping the key positions of command in other peopleā€™s hands and Tywin going so far as to dispatch a trusted force behind him in the event he fails again ā€“ WHICH HE DOES.


Politicks, Loyalties and Conspiracies

Thereā€™s a lot to get through so Iā€™m not going to source everything here. Rather, Iā€™ll list dot points, and we will be collecting everything under theories. In time it may be worth sourcing this all, but for now, I want to get something out ā€“ so itā€™ll be shortform
Ā· Historically house is blackfyre
Ā· Renly Sworn NOT STANNIS
Ā· Joined at bitterbridge to Renly
Ā· Shadowbaby and killing others
Ā· VIEWS ON MAESTERS
Ā· Killing Stannis supporters at bitterbridge
Ā· Saving Brienne
Ā· Helping Brienne / Bewilderment
Ā· Views on Women and Strongmen
Ā· Sam, Maesters, the Marches and Strength
Ā· Maidenpool Rulership
Ā· Renown amonst common men
Ā· Downplaying the Golden Company
Ā· Bravosi Debts
Ā· Taking the QUEEN ahead of Mace Tyrell

Theoreis Stemming off Data

The Blackfyre Theory

Letā€™s assume that Randyll supported the Blackfyres because his house traditionally were Blackfyre Loyalists. This is a little thin on evidence, but quite a few of his actions also support this, lending some credence to the theory
1) He swore to Renly not Stannis.
a. Stannis was 17 or 18 when he held storms end. He is approximately 13 years older than Renly, making Renly 5 at the time. This means that during Roberts Rebellion, for all relevant purposes, Renly was a non-participant, whilst Stannis actively fought against the dragons. If Randyll is a dragon supporter, his repulsion at joining Stannis is apparent.
b. In fact, he goes as far as to kill stannis supporters at bitterbridge to consolidate the reach forces. This is interesting as it contrasts stannis whom takes pains to not kill the karstarks to a man once he realizes their treason.
2) He downplays the golden company
a. At the end of AFWC, Randyll is downplaying the golden company as much as he can. If we assume he is pro-dragon, this gives time for the blackfyre cause to swell, as he delays Kevan Lannister to the best of his ability
3) He hates the Maesters
a. Between the Grand Maester Conspiracy [LINK], lady Dustinā€™s general hatred of Maesters and Marwynā€™s comments about Maesters and Dragons, it seems credible that dragon supporters may have cause to mistrust Maesters. Indeed, we get hints of this from Doran, and a general mistrust of Maesters by some of the lesser lords.
i. "I would need a bucket, with this pain. Thank you, but no. I want my wits about me. I'll have no more need of you tonight."
b. This explains also why he is so determined Sam will not become a Maester and why he drives him to the nights watch. If he is a loyalist, heā€™s never going to let a member of his family into an enemy order. If Sam is given any sort of free reign in a role other than lord, heā€™s going to end up a Maester (indeed even at the nights watch he ends up there, despite his protests and fears of his fathers wroth).
4) Do we actually see any trouble in the marches. I donā€™t think we do and itā€™s only STANNIS who fears dorne through the marches, not Tarly or Tyrell. In fact, this area is left undefended when they march on the blackwater.
a. I have a sub-theory that despite complaining a lot, we donā€™t see any real antagonism between Dorne and the reach throughout the series, just some loud complaining that makes us think of antagonism. Oberyn hints at this to Tyrion.
5) Killing Florents
a. Florents have ties to Stannis
b. Florents are Tyrell rivals
c. Florents instantly defect to stannis. Note they were set aside by dragons over highgarden
d. Their protests were denied by King Aegon I, perhaps because the Florents had fought House Targaryen when the Tyrells did not.
e. https://www.reddit.com/asoiaf/comments/3tr6gx/spoilers_all_house_of_the_week_house_florent/
i. Theories florents Green
6) This is of course also consistent with him racing Ahead of Mace Tyrellā€™s army and having the Tyrell queen taken into his personal custody. Unfortunately, this bodes badly for our lovely doe-eyed Margery. Oh well.
7) ~If it were up to me, I would send them all to the Night's Watch, and Connington with them. The Wall is where such scum belong."~ Heā€™s setting it up so the only legitimate claimant of JonConā€™s lands is in fact, JonCon. Obviously a new lord can be appointed, but this suggested move adds legitimacy to the blackfyre cause, removing the heir apparent and putting JonCon back in his ancestral lands without a real challenger.

1) The ā€˜show of strength / toxic masculinity theoryā€™
a. This theory has to do with Tarly appearing competent millirarily rather than being competent. He doles harsh justice and havy discipline, which in some ways hides his lackluster results as a commander. I should note this is the weakest of the three theories, but it sort of feeds into the other two.
b. This would be indicative of his hatred for Sam. The moment the ā€˜veilā€™ of masculinity and strength is lifted, his actual achievements are lackluster
c. After ashford he appears much more brutal than before. We have no indication he was brutal pre Ashford, and post ashford heā€™s executing enemies, cornering and murdering northmen to a man (as best he can at least) and doling out harsher justice than his peers
d. Every character who speaks of Tarly speaks of his millirary accolades. I think his ā€˜larger than lifeā€™ persona has played at least a part in this, and Tarly looks the part as the veteran commander.
e. I ought to note this theory doesnā€™t stop Tarly from playing the game of thrones, it just suggests he isnā€™t an exceptional tactical commander. Logistically, he has always been with the winning side as a vassal, heā€™s been able to spin every battle to gain honors and accolades, and he has a knack for being in the right place at the right time (declaring for renly early, being in the van at ashford etc.)
f. All that aside, this theory also doesnā€™t stop Tarly from being a jerk. Given how he acts to Sam and both towards and around Brienne, we are naturally inclined to mislike him as a harsh leader.
2) Not as dumb as he looks theory
a. Heā€™s taken the queen into his personal Custody. We literally heard from Renly back in book 1 ā€“ he who holds the XXXX holds the crown. With all the chaos in the recent books, itā€™s easy to miss, but this is a huge move in the game of thrones. The Tyrells do not have the queen. Tarly does.
b. As far as I can tell, heā€™s never been at real risk in a battle since Ashford. He had backup and numbers at duskendale, a massive host at the blackwater, The Siege of Storms End was just a great big preservation of army by Mace whilst Roberts rebellion raged, and the Siege on Stannis was totally lopsided but for magic shadow-baby.
c. Dorne does not seem to have acted against him once nor demanded concessions. [CHECK]. For a lord in the Dornish Marches which have been tumultuous for years, this is somewhat of a big deal. He also seems to be unafraid of moving his forced forward ā€“ we have no indication he left levies to protect himself from Dorne, hinting that he wasnā€™t afraid of Dorne misbehaving (even if only to harry border towns, a bit like Bolton grabbing up the hornwood lands).
d. He sucks up to the bravosi Banker when all the debts are being called in. We have this picture of this strong, just, military man, but the banker scene shows heā€™s not just a sword arm, and he knows when to suck up. This is important as it shows he is at least considering the wider world and the future outside of the battles, as opposed to a certain dwarf whom never actually meets the bankers.
e. He has turned a bunch of mediocre achievements into being renowned as the greatest soldier in the realm. By all rights, Stannis and Robb are much better commanders (with the caveat that Robb was only good tactically). If we want to get nasty, Mace Tyrell has only won crushing victories ā€“ with the exception of ashford (messed up by Tarly) and storms end (where he lost no troops in a rebellion that depleted most of the realm).
i. The most competent appearing thing he said was to not charge into the sun, which was largely irrelevant when plated heavy cavalry is charging into boiled leather. As Renly said to Stannis, his force wouldnā€™t survive first impact, so this whole sun business is a bit silly.
ii. Arguably the most competent thing was executing all the soldiers considering going over to Stannis, but Iā€™m not sure if this is truly competent or just brutality ā€“ Stannis did not do the same with the Karstarks in a similar position.
f. Heā€™s bypassed succession laws. By getting rid of Sam he has set himself up with his chosen heir. Look at the thorny knot Tywin tied himself with Tyrion, whom still arguably is the rightful heir to Castelry Rock (which he made full use of with the Second Suns). We know Maesters can be kicked out of the order (see our favourite necromancer), and can be used to play with succession (Aemon is a good example, albeit he said no) and I donā€™t really see Sam as a priest.
i. Thereā€™s actually a good question as to whether he would have killed Sam. The gods hate kinslayers, and the threat sufficed. If we assume tarly isnā€™t an idiot, he would have realized the threat likely sufficient.
g. Given how he sets himself up at Maidenpool, its hinted that the Maidenpool land is part of his reward for the blackwater. We never hear of exactly ā€˜whatā€™ Tarlyā€™s reward is, except in the aftermath heā€™s patrolling Duskendale (still seemingly with house Rykker),, Maidenpool and the kings road, and seems to be setting himself up in Maidenpool for the long haul. In AFFC, Tarlyā€™s heir is married off to Eleanor Mooton (the seeming heiress to maidenpool) and Tommen pardons Moonton. Maidenpool is a major port in the world of Ice and Fire, which would make it a fine reward[[1]](#_ftn1).
1.

Other key takeaways

BRIENNE THING

A Feast for Crows - Brienne III

Randyll Tarly solved the mystery the day he sent two of his men-at-arms to summon her to his pavilion. His young son Dickon had overheard four knights laughing as they saddled up their horses, and had told his lord father what they said.

ā€¦ "The gods made men to fight, and women to bear children," said Randyll Tarly. "A woman's war is in the birthing bed."
Someone was coming down the cellar steps. Brienne pushed her wine aside as a ragged, scrawny, sharp-faced man with dirty brown hair stepped into the Goose. He gave the Tyroshi sailors a quick look and Brienne a longer one, then went up to the plank. "Wine," he said, "and none o' your horse piss in it, thank'e."

JUSTICE THING


Battle of the Blackwater ā€“ a step Sideways



In short
Randyll Tarly is a shrewd Blackfyre loyalist who now has custody of the queen, a position on the small council and whom is not considered a political threat. Heā€™s not half the commander heā€™s made out to be, probably has anti-maester sentiment and is possibly friendly with Doran Martell. And he has an army.
This has been quite a ride and Iā€™m sure I got many details wrong so letā€™s end on a high note. Given all this, I expect Randyll to sacrifice Margery and prove ser pounceā€™s lineage to the age of conquest. Tommen will blindly stamp a document marrying himself to the cat, the white walkers will be appeased (their problem is only humans), and everyone lives happily ever after except for Danerys who dies.
Maidenpool
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2024.05.19 13:20 Zealousideal_Rip6158 The Rise of E-Sports: How Competitive Gaming is Changing Entertainment

The Rise of E-Sports: How Competitive Gaming is Changing Entertainment

ESPORT
The word ā€œe-sports,ā€ which stands for electronic sports, means digital gaming where at least two teams or individual players compete with each other in already selected games. This movement originally started as a hobby of a small group has now expanded into the world of global industry, which is now also having enormous effects on the culture and economy. Hereā€™s an explanation of how competitive gaming is changing the entertainment landscape:Hereā€™s an explanation of how competitive gaming is changing the entertainment landscape:
  1. The real significance of YouTube and music today goes far beyond the initial status of music videos. In fact, the shift in how young people consume and form relationships with music could be described as a phenomenon that radically changed their world.
The acceptance of e-sports has been to the worldā€™s mainstream that currently attracts many viewers internationally. These days, major e-sport events like The International and the League of Legends World Championship are aired on sports networks like ESPN and live streaming platforms like Twitch and YouTube, with viewerships same big as traditional sports. This visibility has made competitive gaming (eSports) an accepted adversity which has integrated eSport into popular culture.
  1. Professionalization of Gaming
The development of electronic sports(E-sports), consequently, has brought about the professionalism of gaming. With the option to become professional gamers and earning real money by means of online tournaments winnings, sponsorships, and streaming revenues, players are nowadays choosing gaming as a professional job. Teams like these operate in the same way as teams in traditional sports, and are supported by trainers, analysts and other staff.
  1. Policy and Environment Effect on Economy and Industry Output
The e-sports sector is witnessing a tremendous economic level of development, which according to reports will snowball to millions and billions of dollars. These channels are revenue generating with the money coming from advertising, sponsorships, media rights, merchandise sales, and ticket sales live events. The sector has led to expansion that has also created jobs across different sectors such as event management, marketing, and game developers.
  1. Technological Advances and Innovations:
The e-sport steadfastness has given room for tech developments and growth in gadgets and broadcasting. It is the way that streaming technology, VR and AR materials make progress that e-sportsā€™ demands, partly incite them. The innovations being introduced here not only help make the games interesting but also make watching more exciting for the audiences
  1. Cultural and Social Impacts
E-sport has a huge cultural and social influence. Leading to the establishment of a community among players and fans, it gives rise to a common platform where social interaction and collaboration are possible. The e-sports inclusiveness, which has no boundaries of age or background, leads to diversity in the gaming community. In addition, e-sports has affected other entertainment forms, including movies, television shows, and music, which has resulted in a cross-pollination of gamersā€™ culture into mainstream entertainment.
  1. Educational and Development Resources
The educational and developmental values of e-sports are no longer being overlooked by many stakeholders. Some schools provide e-sports programs and scholarships in order to underline its potential to grow abilities like teamwork, strategic thinking, and digital literacy. Furthermore, e-sports can be a way that people enter into careers in technology, game design, and related fields.
  1. Difficulties and Prospects for the future
Whereas e-sports has witnessed steady increase, its growth is hinged on issues of player health and well-being, diversity, and unpredictability of game popularity. Nevertheless, the future perspective for e-sports is exciting where it can be combined with traditional sports, increased the global presence and upgraded with technologies.
Conclusion
The growth of e-sports shows a remarkable change in the entertainment business. It combines the fun of competition with the interactivity of video games, thus, resulting in a unique and exciting experience for the players as well as viewers. As e-sports is evolving, it probably will leave a permanent mark on what entertainment is being created, consumed, and experienced around the world.
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2024.05.19 13:18 pillowcase-of-eels [Music] Emilie Autumn's Asylum, pt. 6 ā€“ High-concept musician responds to online criticism by waging successful attrition war against her own fanbase

šŸŖž
Welcome back to the Asylum write-up, where we explore the decade-long slow-motion car crash that is the Emilie Autumn fandom.
Sorry this installment took so long to upload! Just a heads-up, I may take some time to deliver the last one too ā€“ these posts take forever to format on Reddit's finicky-ass editor, and my dumb real life is currently keeping me from precious Internet time. Thank you for your patience! You have my word that everyone who pre-ordered the final installment will receive a PERSONAL, HANDWRITTEN letter autographed and illustrated by me, a list of the snacks I consumed while composing this write-up, some exclusive behind-the-scenes secrets, and a pony.
Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4.1 ā€“ Part 4.2 Part 5
Places, everyone This is a test Throw your stones Do your damage Your worst, and your best (...) And if I had a dollar For every time I repented the sin And commit the same crime I'd be sitting on top of the world today (ā€œGod Help Meā€, 2006šŸŽµ)
Quick recap of where we left off. First, there were five to ten halcyon years of pleasant and meaningful interactions between EA and her blossoming fanbase, prominently by way of her official forum. Then, circa 2009-2010, EA's online presence shifted towards sudden anger outbursts, ban-hammering, and an increasingly top-down communication style.
This created a sort of primordial rift within the fanbase, between those who supported EA's right to speak her mind and regulate her own fan spaces however she pleased ā€“ and those who thought that her reactions were rude and inappropriate (at best), and that even fan spaces should allow for reasonable, non-abusive criticism of the artist.
Between a poorly-handled book release (see Part 3), the controversial (Part 2) or dubiously true (Part 4) contents of said book, and serious shade from various former collaborators (Part 5), more and more fans had pressing thoughts about EA's work ethic and choices. EA attempted damage control through drastic forum rules that made it virtually impossible to voice any ā€œseriousā€ critical opinion. It didn't work, of course: instead of squashing the mutiny, she created a schism.
Critical fans and active haters started congregating on unofficial platforms.

ā€œWITH MUFFINS LIKE THIS, WHO NEEDS ENEMIES?ā€: TROLL LIKE A GIRL

So here we were, the early 2010s. The official forum (which had about 700 members in 2006, if you recall) was now thousands-strong, reaching just over 12,000 registered users in 2012 ā€“ not all of them active, but still. In terms of sheer numbers and content creation, the party was POPPIN'... but increasingly in parts of the Asylum that escaped EA's jurisdiction, such as Tumblr, where they could speak their mind freely.
You play the victim very well You've built your self-indulgent hell You wanted someone to understand you Well, be careful what you wish for, because I do (ā€œI Know Where You Sleepā€, 2006šŸŽµ)
In one wing of Asylum Tumblr, a smattering of call-out blogs emerged, which laid out EA's various lies, faux pas, shitty takes, and general deep-seated terribleness in detailed timelines and screenshots (or, short of that, long-winded bullet points). While many such blogs framed it as ā€œseriousā€ whistleblowing and did their best to remain as fact-based and neutral as they could, there was some genuine disgust, animosity and creepiness towards EA on that side of Tumblr; for some ex-fans, ā€œexposing the truthā€ was mostly justify obsessive hatred, prying and verbal abuse. Some, for instance, felt the bizarre need to side with EA's mother in their estrangement. (One user, with the URL ā€œemilyautumnfischkopfā€, argued in a serious and down-to-earth tone - but with zero sources - that EA's upbringing had been nothing but peaceful and supportive until she ungratefully kicked her loving family to the curb for no reason at all. They were later revealed šŸ” to have an alternate handle as ā€œeaisalyingcuntā€.)
Either way, through these blogs, a number of potential drama bombs that had mostly flown under the radar were dredged up from over the years ā€“ some of which were hard to ignore, even for supportive fans. Where to begin?
There was that nonsense in-joke song, captured twice on camera during the 2009 tour (to very little outrage, at the time), crassly called ā€œManatee Retardā€šŸ“ŗ. Or EA's scathing response, in print, to a wheelchair user who found it insensitive that she used a bedazzled wheelchair as a prop to do sexy acrobatics on stage. (ā€œYour offence taken at my hard-won self-acceptance proves that I indeed have something to fight againstā€, she wrote). Spoken word tracks where she made trivializing knock-knock jokes about serious mental illnesses she didn't have, like schizophrenia and OCD. Multiple instances of calling Britney Spears a ā€œbimboā€ and a ā€œHollywood fucked-upā€, resentfully claiming that she only shaved her head because she was ā€œhopped up on drugsā€ and certainly not because she was ā€œbipolarā€, a word the press liked to wield as an insult anyway. (ā€œThat's almost like calling someone a retard!ā€ Yeah, heaven forbid.) The meanest, most distasteful paragraphs in the book. Basically everything problematic EA had ever said or written.šŸ“ In retrospect, it had been a long time coming, but it was a lot to take in ā€“ and certainly more off-putting, even to less emotionally invested fans, than silly lies about her age and last name.
In another wing of Asylum Tumblr, some fans had had it up to here and just wanted to have fun. šŸŽµ If Plague Rats had learned one valuable lesson from EA, it was how to crack a joke in the face of absurd tragedy ā€“ and the general state of the EA fandom certainly warranted a few.
In 2012, Fight Like a Girl was released. After six long years, three of which had been peaceful, the Opheliac era was officially over. The new album and ensuing tour confirmed that the Asylum had entered a process of glamorous Broadway-style militarization. šŸŽµšŸ“ŗ
The mood board was ā€œRoman general meets Vegas showgirl meets Victorian street urchinā€.šŸŖž The color palette was, to naysayers, ā€œmusty pink and rotten, stale piss yellowā€. šŸ€ The keyword was ā€œREVENGEā€ (through the power of... self-expression! sorority! brutal assault with rusty medical implements!). The chorus of the title song had an intriguing run-on line about getting ā€œrevenge on the world, or at least 49% of the people in itā€ šŸŽµ ā€“ which seemed like an awful lot, and was widely interpreted (to cheers, boos, or uncomfortable sighs) as a misandrist jab at literally all men on Earth.
The show was essentially a demo version of the musical, in that the setlist vaguely reflected the order of events in the story ā€“ but prior reading was essential in order to get what the hell was going on on stage. This one Broadway reviewer had not perused the literature before seeing the show šŸ”, and hated: the set, the choreography, the skits, the plot, the lyrics, the music, the concept. (Seriously, you should read the review. It's not even my show and I feel like quitting show business.)
Pre-show VIP encounters, now violin-free, were lorded over by EA's new manageršŸ€, whose official title was ā€œAsylum Headmistressā€. (Interesting choice ā€“ she sounds fun!) The swag bags were less substantial than before, and the ā€œgreetā€ part of the meet-and-greet was rarely more than a quick hug and photo op.
On Twitter, EA continued to embrace her ā€œI am very badassā€ fronting attitude...
Often wonder if cyberbullies r aware theyā€™re fucking w/ a girl whoā€™s BFs w/ maker of the SAW films & is marrying a knife-throwing scorpion. (šŸ€šŸ“)
...and her taste for needlessly inflammatory statements. About an aisle sign in a supermarket:
If this does not infuriate you, then you're a fucking potato.
(Again with the confounding crypto-ableism, EA! šŸ”) She also went through a phase of raging against Lady Gaga šŸ“, who had stolen her idea of using a wheelchair on stage as an able-bodied woman. šŸ” That failed to convince anyone that she wasn't the histrionic diva that haters made her out to be.
Spurred on by EA's rallying cries and ā€œus vs themā€ mentality, loyalists turned the white-knighting up to 11. On Twitter, some Plague Rats got into cat fights with Lady Gaga's Little Monsters (what a time to be alive). Others tried to balance out the Tumblr negativity with initiatives like ā€œSpreading a Plague of Loveā€ ā€“ a ā€œpositive-onlyā€ confession blog, whose extreme fangirling, comically drastic rules and hyper-defensive tonešŸ“ did not debunk the increasingly popular notion that ā€œtrue Plague Ratsā€ were a bunch of authoritarian and hopelessly brainwashed fanatics.
EA truthers and other anti-fans started lashing out at anyone who dared express any positive opinion of EA, solidifying claims that the backlash against EA was just a conspiracy of bitter, hysterical bullies.
All this to say: every passing day brought new reasons for fans to get mad at EA and each other, and everyone in the Asylum was in need of a laugh. It's not easy having a good time.šŸ¦ 
Leading up to Fight Like a Girl and in the years that followed, user-submission-based meme blogs took off, most notably ā€œSpreading a Plague of Lulz / Troll Like a Girlā€. A lot of the early submissions were absurdist humor and toothless, cheezburger-Impact memes (a style that was, oddly, already dated at the time). Those often originated in good fun, and from loyal fans, on the official forum. But there was also true snark, satirizing EA's questionable ethics, outrageous claims, and easily spoofed artistic gimmicks. A new slang of Asylumspeak emerged: Glittertits (slight NSFW), GAGA!!, EA Gusta and all its memeface variants, Get outta mah house!, Are You Suffering?, Fight Like A Goat, [Random celebrity] copied EA (a subgenre in its own right), ...
Most of the ā€œtrollingā€ was directed at unrepentant bootlickers and, to a lesser extent, red-in-the-face haters and creeps. Meme blogs would post joke comments under ā€œseriousā€ or gushing submissions on Wayward Victorian Confessions, and taunt loyalist accounts by tagging them in their posts. When a few people complained on WVC that almost all of the Bloody Crumpets to date had been thin white able-bodied women, and a few fans responded by sharing their dream-casts for a more diverse line-up, the blog was flooded for days with confessions that ā€œX should be a Crumpetā€ (candidates included RuPaul, Mitt Romney, Nicki Minaj, EA's therapist, and the WVC admins). Farcical shenanigans like that.
Ah, but some people will always cross the line, won't they. EA threads popped up on merciless, bully-friendly snark platforms like Lolcow, Pretty Ugly Little Liar, and Encyclopedia Dramatica. Snarkers with a mean streak and obsessive haters mingled in some of the more aggressive, 4-chan-spirited retaliation against EA ā€“ which would be called ā€œbrigadingā€ in modern parlance. This included flooding EA's Goodreads page with one-star reviews (see part 4), repeatedly editing her Wikipedia page to include her legal name and birth year, and ensuring that Googling said name would bring up current pictures of her.
All of this compounded agitation fragmented the once-united fandom beyond recognition.šŸ¦  Through substantial disagreements among fans, personal bickerings, layers upon layers of inscrutable in-jokes, and cross-platform telephone games, the Asylum morphed into a booby-trapped Escher room.
Satire blogs were taken in earnest. Earnest fan blogs scanned as satire. Memes would get called out as abuse. Appreciation without attached criticism would get mocked as bootlicking. Obvious jokes made by EA would be taken at face value. One divisive confession could trigger days and days of debate, to the point that WVC eventually banned confessions in response to other confessions. New waves of infighting created a confusing web of rival sub-factionsšŸ€, each accusing the others of being toxic, cliquish, and delusional.
The shared fantasy was broken, the collective vision had crumbled, no onez was speaking the same language anymore. Fans would jump down the throat of other fans who held almost identical views about EA, except for that one thing she said or did that one time. Everyone had differing thoughts on what should or shouldn't acceptable to discuss, question, excuse, make fun of.
War is hell.

SCORCHED EARTH SHENANIGANS: HONEY, I SHRUNK THE ASYLUM

Would you tear my castle down Stone by stone And let the wind run through my windows Till there was nothing left But a battered rose? (ā€œCastle Downā€, 2003šŸŽµ)
Haters vs sycophants is not really the kind of conflict where one side can come out on top (if you're participating, you've already lost). But in the long tug-of-war between ā€œgrassrootsā€ and ā€œEA-sponsoredā€ fan spaces, the ultimate winner is obvious ā€“ in that the former is gasping in agony, a shriveled husk of its former glory, while the latter... is non-existent. This is due in no small part to EA's tendency, like the Czars of old, to settle conflicts by setting Moscow on fire.šŸ”)
That's not entirely fair: unlike EA, the czar only did it that once.
By early 2013, as EA was gearing up for her third Fight Like a Girl tour at the end of the year, the official forum was... not as lively as it once had been. Not just because of the stifling rules and disgruntlement towards EA, or because EA herself hadn't really posted anything on there in years; the Internet was also changing, and forums in general were fast becoming passƩ.
This made it difficult for EA to create a safe space where she could talk to fans, and fans could talk to and about her, in a way she deemed suitable (ie, a space she could gate-keep and regulate enough to keep it completely free from negative criticism). Social media was a minefield; she still posted regularly, but didn't interact very much. So EA and the Headmistress came up with a way to filter out the unbelievers: an official fan clubšŸ“, aptly called the ā€œAsylum Armyā€, with a $100 entry price.
Joining the AA came with a dog tag, a sew-on patch, and a lifetime membership certificate signed by EA and ā€“ for some reason ā€“ the Headmistress. (Unlike EA's best friend and sound engineer back in the forum's heyday, I don't think fans ever really embraced the FLAG-era manager as part of the Asylum in-group. She came across more as a coordinator / businessperson / adult chaperone, at best.šŸ€) So, slightly better goodies than you'd get by joining the other AA šŸ” ... but not by much. The main appeal was that members would have access to exclusive content, special merch, giveaways, early bird tickets for future shows, and regular video chats with EA.
The concept itself drew a fair amount of criticism, as you can imagine. Between the namešŸ€, the price, and the inherent gatekeeping of a pay-to-join fanclub, many balked at the monetizing of a concept that had once (like, three years back) been significantly more DIY, grassroots, and inclusive. šŸ“šŸ€
Then again, many also longed for a positive, drama-free space where fans could just be fans. And while the creation of the AA was generally recognized as a quick cashgrab, a lot of people were surprisingly cool with it. EA was trying to finance her dream musical, after all ā€“ although a number of fans wished she had gone about raising funds in a less sketchy way.
So around 400 fans shelled out (which, according to the HeadmistressšŸ“, ā€œbasically cover[ed] the cost of running the fanclub itself ā€“ keeping the database up, website, etc.ā€). Enough for a close-knit, but sizable community. But already, there was a conflict of interest: a high fanclub entry fee essentially demands that you pledge loyalty to the artist over loyalty to your fellow fans, who wish to join but can't afford to. Sharing, caring, and ensuring no one felt left out were some of the more positive values cultivated in the fandom... but leaking exclusive content would surely piss off other paying membersšŸ€, and make EA feel betrayed all over again. (And she had barely just started to mellow out on social media!)
...But then again, this is the internet. After the first month of secret AA drops (lyric sheets, some photoshoot outtakes ā€“ nothing too juicy, really), there were, yes, some leaks. EA was predictably miffed, and retaliated by... ghosting the fanclub for weeks at a time in its first few months of existence (great look!). She eventually found the ā€œsolutionā€ to her problem, by providing something you couldn't right-click-save (and which had been part of the promised perks to begin with): live interaction.
Over webcam, she was her usual in-person bubbly, charming, funny self. Everyone seemingly had a good time during the fanclub video chat, and this gave people faith and hope.
There were a few more events, giveaways, etc. As promised, ahead of the fall 2013 tour (the last one to date, it would turn out), AA members got priority access to show tickets and VIP bundles. The latter were much pricier than before, and only included soundcheck, a photo-op, and three goodies: a tin of loose-leaf tea, a signed printer-paper setlist, and a small flag that said ā€œF.L.A.G.ā€.šŸ” Some stuff continued to leak ā€“ but, as some of the outlaws pointed out (scroll down to the Disqus comments), they were mostly relaying information that was relevant to the entire fanbase, such as updates about ongoing projects (the dragged-out recording of the audiobook, for one).
In early 2014, lifetime memberships were closed, and replaced with monthly, quarterly and yearly subscription tiers. Bizarrely, you ended up paying $3 more per month if you bought a $99 yearly subscriptionšŸ“ ā€“ but it did include the patch, dog tag, and piece of paper!
Sometimes I kind of want to be part of the cool kids and register to the Asylum Army. Then I remember how it came about, what you could get for the same price a couple years ago, how the whole thing was and is handled, and that I wonā€™t support any of this bullshit. (And then I roll around naked in all the money Iā€™m saving.) (šŸ€)
Still, a number of fans rejoiced at the affordable monthly option, and joined ā€“ if not for the exclusive content and merch (which were... okay, but not much to write home about), then for the friendly, drama-free exchanges with an artist they actually did love, in spite of all the frustration.
For the still-too-poor or still-undecided, there was always the forum! It wasn't as active as it used to be, but a few die-hards still managed to keep the lights on... until, inevitably, Someone Did Something and Ruined Everything. (Once again: EA's wrath is spectacular, but rarely completely unprovoked.) The incident features one notable figure in the Asylum community. Let's call him the Collector.
OK, so maybe you remember the meme I linked to in Part 4, with Christian Grey and the ginormous EA hoard. Well, that's the Collector's collection. The ā€œViolinā€ promo that I called the "Holy Grail of the fandom" in the same paragraph? Also his. The handwritten lyrics that went for $940? Guess who won that auction. Over the years, the Collector had probably spent five figures on EA merch and shows, and although that fact was a little unsettling, he was a very active, easy-going, and generally well-liked fixture of the fandom.
One day in 2012, shortly after the Headmistress had replaced EA's old Chicago BFF as main forum admin, the Collector's account got banned or restricted over something dumb. When the ban wasn't lifted as quickly as he hoped, he took it... the way one takes things when one is unhealthily invested: he started spamming Headmistress and the mod team with increasingly rambling and abusive emails (lost to time, probably for the best). When that didn't work quickly enough, he tried a different route.
One of the many auctions that the Collector had won, some years prior, was EA's old iPod TouchšŸ“ ā€“ which contained all of her favorite tunes and, buried somewhere in the data cache... a phone number. Which the Collector tried calling. And wouldn't you know it: EA picked up. She congratulated him on his sleuthing skills, listened patiently as he made his case, apologized for any distress caused by the unfair account restriction, and then they got married.
Kidding! She freaked the fuck out, hung up, and banned him for life from the forum and all EA shows and events.
After his ban, the Collector allegedly still tried to attend at least one VIP pre-show (one source in the comments says he was allowed to buy some merch, refunded for his ticket, and escorted out). He joined the Reform forum to bitch about EA and try to rally people to his cause, possibly made revenge posts about her on darker snark forums, and continued to hound the Asylum mod team. So in June 2014, EA came up with a radical and unexpected fix to the Collector problem.
The official Asylum Fan Forum has been shut down permanently. I have personally paid thousands of dollars each year to keep the forum safe and secure for you ... Unfortunately, the forum has not been kept safe and secure for me, a truth which disappoints me greatly, instead becoming a place where people who have physically threatened myself and my staff prey upon forum members, pressuring them to contact me and my staff on their behalf. If the gullible wish to humor my stalkers (who live in their parentā€™s basement at age 30 something) and thus put me in danger, they may do it on their own dime. They may also fuck off, because stupidity can kill, and I wonā€™t be your victim. To those who enjoyed the forum, you know who to thank for its closure. (ā€œOn the closing of the Asylum Forumā€)
VoilƠ! This is how a decade-long archive of shared history ends: not with a bang, but with a dirty delete and a sod-off communiquƩ.
The obliteration of the forum took everyone by surprise...
I was actually on the forum when it was taken down. I was navigating between posts and when I went to click on a different board, an error message came up. I honestly cried a little, I'm not ashamed to say. (WVC admin on Reddit, 2024)
...and I do mean everyone:
Chicago BFF / ex-admin, the next morning: Whoa, EA forum shut down? Ex-mod: It turns out that if someone spends enough years actively ā€œwaging warā€ to destroy what they canā€™t have, eventually theyā€™ll be successful. * eye roll * Not even mods got prior warning. Just all the sudden, poof, gone. BFF: Really? She did not let the moderators know?! This is sounding worse and worse. Uggh. Iā€™m so sorry. Such a loss. (...) Ok, threats are serious, but why not just put it in archive mode so no one can post? (...) Sad. I shall light a candle in the forum's honor. (Facebook posts; scroll down for screenshots)
It was a gut punch, especially for people who had poured countless hours into the community, or could have used some prior warning to save years of their own writing from the role-playing threads. One last chance to take a look around the place that had meant so much to so many.
From the wording of the announcement of closing the forum and a number of other things, it sometimes seems like EA doesn't like her fans much. :/ (šŸ€)
Three months after the forum was nuked, Battered Rose (a venerable EA fansite, which had been around since the Enchant era and had one of the most complete EA galleries online) announced that it was shutting down too.šŸ“ The admin, who had also been a long-time forum mod, cited a lack of ā€œtime, energy, passion, or moneyā€ to keep the website going... and being upset at the sudden disappearance of the forum. It was, truly, the end of an era for the Asylum.
...Well, no point in living in the past. For those who could afford it, and still wanted to talk to/about EA after that (not everyone did šŸ€), there was always the Asylum Army fanclub!
Over the summer of 2014, EA held regular live chats and Q&A's, and... many attendees really enjoyed them, and thought the AA was well worth the money after all. She also quietly parted ways with the much poo-pooed Headmistress around that time.
Just spent over 4 hours giggling, drinking tea and playing guessing games in chat with EA and other Asylum Army members ... No griping, no downers, just lots of fun. I think I like the way the ā€˜new fandomā€™ is going and now Iā€™m really glad I finally decided to join the Army. (September 4, 2014šŸ€; Battered Rose had closed the day before)
The forum was lost forever, but perhaps that was a chance for a fresh start. Could this fanclub thing really be the Asylum Renaissance that fans had been longing for?
...I have come today to a very difficult but necessary decision, and that is to discontinue the Emilie Autumn Official Fanclub. The site itself, and the community chatroom, will remain open to you indefinitely, but I will no longer be making updates to the site. (Newsletter, September 8, 2014šŸ“)
...Never mind, then.
Turns out the fanclub had been the Headmistress' idea all along. EA had been reluctant from the start, and although she really enjoyed the live chats with a safe community of people ā€œwho are there for the right reasonsā€, she couldn't overcome her fundamental discomfort with the concept. Lifetime and regular members would receive a bunch of digital downloads and a -35% coupon on the Asylum Emporium for their troubles. EA said she would definitely pop back once in a while for live chats, for free, just for fun, but to my knowledge, she never did.
And so the most devoted fans were left standing in the rain...
She is happy, she made it. She is fulfilling her dreams, found love and happiness after all the pain. I understand that she now doesnā€™t need ā€œusā€ anymore ... That doesnā€™t change the fact she broke my heart with taking the Asylum Army and the forum from me. Yet, I am happy for her. (šŸ€)
...while naysayers pointed and laughed, Nelson-style.šŸ¦ 
I donā€™t feel sorry at all for the people that paid for the Asylum Army fan club. Most of them knew that EA is an atrocious business woman and has broken many promises before. In fact, I laugh at them. They seriously thought that EA would actually stay consistent with this? (šŸ€)

EVERYTHING MUST GO: THE ASYLUM WHOLESALE

EA fans were left without an ā€œofficialā€ home for about three years. This gave them plenty of time to be annoyed at EA for: not releasing the audiobook on time, not materializing any new project for a while... and the new sin of peddling random, ridiculously marked-up AliBaba jewelry as ā€œmerchā€ on her official store. Think faux-antique cameo pendants and $30 Big Ben rings (...because the Asylum story is set in London, get it?).
The whole accessories section looks like a tacky overpriced English souvenir shop. (šŸ€)
The fanbase lost a lost of steam in those in-between years, because there wasn't much to stick around for. As evidenced by the positive reception of the AA live chats, even in the midst of unresolved drama, out-loud interactions in a friendly environment have always been EA's saving grace. Considering the amount of online hate, there are shockingly few accounts of bad IRL encounters with EA: most people say that in live conversation, she comes across as a fun, warm, and genuinely sweet person. Some report that their negative opinion shifted after meeting her.
But there were no chats or live shows anymore. There was only social media, where she ignored questions and vague-posted about overdue projects ā€“ and the newsletteršŸ“, which was all saccharine love-bombing to promote bland dropshipped trinkets. For fans who remembered the handcrafted merch (and two-way communication) of the early years, it was a bitter pill to swallow.

CONTINUED IN COMMENTS


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2024.05.19 13:06 Bebo_Zorak I think my friend might be bi or gay

Iā€™ve had suspicions for a while. Being a gay guy, Iā€™ve got a pretty good reading on guys. All of my exes were straight before me, and closeted guys just naturally gravitate towards me.
My friend who is pretty shy and takes ages to open up to has said heā€™s straight to me (which Iā€™ve respected). I did develop feelings, but I just enjoy our relationship for what it is. If he were bi or gay and into me then I would be open to ideas, but until then weā€™re friends.
I did end up telling him how I felt and it was awkward between us for a while, but itā€™s made us closer than ever before. He opens up to me way more and it feels like weā€™ve gone from being friends to being close friends.
He doesnā€™t like talking about girls or guys, and Iā€™ve asked him a few times whatā€™s his type and he always avoids the question. When we go on nights out he chooses to go to gay bars and rejects any girls that come up to him.
When weā€™re drunk heā€™s extremely close, like joint to the hip. We stay together and heā€™s way more touchy feely. I try not to do anything, obviously itā€™s easier said than done when youā€™re drunk.
Lately Iā€™ve noticed weā€™ve almost developed this kind of attachment anxiety, which isnā€™t healthy I know. All of my exes Iā€™ve enjoyed my own space. For example when heā€™s with his friends (who are all straight) heā€™ll message me, even when they go on holidays together heā€™s reaching out to me (sometimes heā€™s messaging me every hour).
Iā€™m not bi and didnā€™t struggle coming out, none of my friends struggled to realise their sexuality either and Iā€™ve never been in this situation before, so could do with as much advice as possible please.
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2024.05.19 13:06 Capable-Chip8556 "I am so disappointed in you"

Story time! I have posted about my absolute nightmare of a narcissistic mother here before. I know this forum is typically for mother-in-laws, but my ex-mother-in-law is an absolute delight and one of my dearest friends.
My mother is a different story. My entire life she has intentionally set out to be dismissive, cruel, insulting, and judgmental. Here's the latest. About 5 weeks ago, I let her know that my partner and I were purchasing a house and finally moving to be full-time together after 3 and 1/2 years of living part-time together. The entire family was over the moon for us, especially as we are making plans to see everyone the same amount of time that we had before. It's a great move for us and we are all thrilled with how it's turned out.
Not my mom though! She called me up and after the big heavy dramatic sigh, let me know no less than 10 times (I stopped counting after 10 ) that she was very disappointed in me, that she expected higher of me. In fact, she started the whole thing with you want to explain to me why you're moving in with someone before getting married? To which I responded well, it's none of your business and how dare you come at me like this? How old do you think I am for Pete's sake?
She then went on to say that she had higher standards for me than other people, even though both my brothers lived with their significant others for several years before getting married. She basically said the quiet part out loud that she has been thinking for years, which is she has always thought I am up to no good, that my brothers can do no wrong, and I am basically some sort of idiot that has made it this far by doing Lord knows what.
In addition, good Lord. I am a middle-aged woman with a mortgage and full-time job, I have multiple degrees and a thriving career. I think I know what I'm doing with my life here. It is absolutely fucking ridiculous that she felt that she could say these things to me and I said so to her. At one point I did say who the hell do you think you're talking to right now?
I continue to put down some pretty heavy duty boundaries, and she continued to push against them. I mean at one point she practically called me a harlot LOL. It was sort of ridiculous. She ended the call with well. I guess I'm just going to have to get used to it and tolerate your lifestyle and I was like no you will absolutely not have to do that. And hung up.
Fairly ridiculous but this is what I have gotten from her for my entire life. I have gone pretty much no contact at this point. She did this right before mother's Day and I didn't do anything for her. And I will not be doing anything for her for her birthday. Enough is enough. My brother and I had a good laugh about it. I am sort of curious at what she thought she would accomplish with this smug church lady bullshit.
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2024.05.19 13:04 anonomusfem Iā€™m not sure if Iā€™m making the right choices in life.

I am a 32-year-old gay, chubby, feminine male. I've recently had family trouble: my father has gone missing on the Navajo reservation, which has taken a toll on my family. I was never close with my father due to being the oldest and seeing his alcoholic abuse cause domestic violence against my mother. My brother, the second child, who should have been named Junior but wasn't, worshiped our father and started taking up his career. Now that our father is missing, this sibling has taken up the alcoholic title. Though he may not be abusive, my mother and I think he might turn out to be soon. The baby of the family has had a love-hate relationship with our father. He also loves to blame everyone for his personal issues and bad choices. He has mother issues and is now copying our second brother by drinking every day. Both of them drinking has led to poor financial decisions, putting my mother and me in debt as we try to fix our finances and provide food and keep the house up to date. We rent the house we live in, so if we decide to move, the owner will likely charge us for the accumulated minor damages. I think I am the only one worried about this situation. Our mother is devastated by our father's disappearance. In my mind, they were soulmates and high school sweethearts. She was the cheerleader, and he was the sports jock. They loved each other, but my father's alcoholism was a huge problem, so she raised all three of us mostly on her own. There is evidence suggesting foul play in our father's disappearance, adding another layer of complexity to our family troubles. A bit about me: I struggled with coming out of the closet until I had my first boyfriend in 2011. My mother was very homophobic due to her religious upbringing but eventually learned to accept me. That first relationship only lasted a few months because his mother made a comment about my transportation to his home. At the time, I had no car, so I took the bus. When she asked how I got there, his response was "the bus," to which she said, "The bus? Isn't that for peasants?" This made me uncomfortable and led to our breakup. He was my first and only boyfriend, and I've never dated after him. At a young age, I was molested by a male cousin, which I believe influenced my sexuality and femininity. I have forgiven him and learned to move on with my life without blaming him. I've always wanted a job in Hollywood but have come to realize that's not going to happen. However, I landed the second best thing: working and traveling with Broadway shows. I took my first tour for ten months, back in 2022, came home, and took a season off. On this tour, I grew from my experiences and became an independent adult. I feel like I became the best version of myself. On tour, I had no one but myself, and I became independent. Now that I'm back home, I feel like I have to take care of everyone and make decisions for the long run. I'm not going to lie, I was sleeping with guys left and right and living life. When I came home, I reconnected with two guys: one a young African American guy and the other a Hispanic guy. The African American guy was younger than me, well-endowed, about my height, and very slender. We had known each other for the years I was on tour. He was living alone and had his own place. We were hooking up, and that's it. We connected less during my tour. I then reconnected with the Hispanic guy. He is about my age, shorter than me, and very masculine. He's a gentleman. When we first met, he came to my place. I thought that I had cleaned myself well, but when I pulled out my buttplug, I realized I hadn't. I excused myself and re-douched. He was very understanding and sweet about the whole situation, and I fell in love with his charm. When he left that night, I hoped I didn't scare him off, but he messaged me a few weeks later, this time inviting me to his place. He turned on his fireplace and laid blankets on the floor for us, being tender and romantic. After this encounter, I overthought the situation, building an idealized image of him, which made me sick with worry. He says he owns a company, which is why he doesn't reply quickly, but my social media feeds suggest otherwise. He never checks on me, but the African American guy did from time to time. A few weeks after visiting the Hispanic guy, I messaged the African American guy to see if he wanted to meet up. He told me he had become homeless and was looking for a bed at a homeless shelter. He asked if he could stay with me until he found a bed. Despite being undecided, I agreed. The worst part was that he showed me what a relationship with him could be like: affection, endless cuddles, and companionship. It was everything I wished for in a relationship, but I had to remind myself that I was only helping him temporarily. In this short time, he showed me love and what life could be like with a boyfriend. However, we eventually argued over something small, and he left, leaving me heartbroken. Songs from Ariana Grande's album became my anthems: "We Can't Be Friends," "I Wish I Hated You," and "Imperfect for You." I miss him, but he's too young to forgive me. I still see the Hispanic guy, but I fear I'm building him up to be something he's not. He still takes a while to reply to my messages, and I make excuses for his absence. I hope we'll become something, but I think that's unlikely, which also breaks my heart. A week ago, my siblings and mother and I had a huge argument, all of us under the influence. It started with me telling my mother that I wanted to move out. She, being overbearing, shut down and pushed me away from the idea, using my drunk siblings to turn against me. This brought out the worst in everyone, with all the built-up envy and jealousy coming out. Now, I'm indecisive about my future. Should I take a traveling job and leave my mother alone with my siblings, knowing they're not in the right state of mind? Is the person I'm seeing worth my emotional investment?
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2024.05.19 12:56 Asleep-Meeting6331 I (20F) have to stay at my parents for a week with an emotionally immature mother. I feel triggered.

Hello :) I'm looking for advice as soon as possible. i feel like I'm about to burst into tears every five minutes. This is my first time posting on Reddit, so I might not get everything right, and I apologise in advance. Plus, I am a French speaker, sorry about the possible language mistakes. I (20F) have spent quite a bit of time reading testimonies from children of emotionally immature parents, but I don't think I've ever come across a story that highlights a particular aspect of this kind of relationship: the guilt and ambivalence one can feel towards their parents.
I grew up with two very loving and attentive parents who supported and cared for me when I was little. I was always spoiled and valued in my family. However, when I started having difficulties during adolescence (around the age of 13, I think), my mother couldn't handle it. She took my struggles as personal affronts and provided no psychological support. Sometimes she tried to talk to me, but she would get angry the moment I expressed my negative feelings. By "angry," I mean storming off crying and yelling, breaking objects, even if all I had said was that I felt ugly or uncomfortable in my own skin. Since then, Iā€™ve learned not to talk about my feelings, especially the negative ones, and to avoid discussing these topics with my parents.
When I turned 18 and left home to pursue a demanding training programme that I didn't handle well, my mother took my failure personally. One evening, I called her in tears because I wanted to quit (a rare occurrence, as I rarely expressed my feelings). She yelled at me, told me to pull myself together, minimised my feelings, and accused me of making her life difficult with my issues. Now, as an adult, I can't go home without feeling stressed, triggered, and emotionally on edge, constantly walking on eggshells. Every time she suggests a solution, it's to make herself feel better, and she gets angry when I refused her proposals that didnā€™t fit her idea of how to help me.
But these feelings, as the adult child of an emotionally immature parent, have already been described by others, so I won't go into further detail.
The part I want to focus on is the guilt. As soon as I realise I resent my mother, whether during an argument or when reflecting on everything, I feel guilty because she has always given me so much (financially supported my studies in Paris, given me gifts, let me make my own choices). I remind myself that being a parent is hard, that Iā€™m not perfect, and that both my parents always made our home welcoming and inclusive for my brother and me.
Then, I swing back to the conviction that Iā€™m not responsible for my parents' emotions and shouldn't feel guilty for resenting them. But then the guilt returns, and the cycle continues. It creates a very tense atmosphere in the household. Has anyone else ever felt this way? Do you have tips to cope with that and not create permanent conflict in the household ? I've only been home for a day and it's already very hard for me to handle.
PS : I study psychology and I've been going to therapy for more than a year now but it's too expensive for me to go often enough.
Edit : I've posted it on emotionalneglect but since I have to deal with that situation right now I thought it made sense to also post it here. Hope it's not a problem.
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2024.05.19 12:55 Stage-Piercing727 Best Carry Handle Scope

Best Carry Handle Scope

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Get ready to enhance your shooting experience with our top picks for carry handle scopes. These versatile devices not only provide excellent clarity and accuracy but also come with a convenient carry handle for easy transportation and handling. Explore our roundup of the best carry handle scopes on the market, sure to impress any outdoor enthusiast or professional marksman.

The Top 19 Best Carry Handle Scope

  1. Killer Instinct Lumix 4x32 Black Ir-E Crossbow Scope with LED Illumination - Experience ultimate clarity with Killer Instinct Lumix 4x32 IR-E Crossbow Scope Black, boasting a multicoated 1-inch mono tube construction and fast focus eyepiece - the perfect companion for your crossbow laser sight adventure.
  2. Mil-Spec Detachable AR-15 Carry Handle - Upgrade your AR-15 experience with the Luth-AR Detachable Carry Handle, featuring a durable Mil-Spec design for superior performance and unwavering precision.
  3. National Geographic Handheld Telescope - CF600, 50mm Aperture, Explore the Stars - Discover the wonders of the universe with the easy-to-use National Geographic CF600 Handheld Telescope, featuring a 50mm aperture, 600mm focal length, and carbon fiber styling, making it an ideal choice for beginners in the world of amateur astronomy.
  4. Versatile 50mm APO Astrograph Guide Scope with Finder Stalk and T-Threads - Capture stunning views of the night sky with the Sky-Watcher EvoGuide 50DX, a lightweight 50mm Guide Scope APO Doublet Refractor offering expertly matched ED glass and versatile mounting options, perfect for astrophotography enthusiasts.
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  6. Simmons Venture Black FMCWPTRIPODHARD/Soft Case Spotting Scope - Bright images in low-light conditions, versatile eyepieces, and multi-coated optics make the Simmons 15-45x60 Venture ideal for hunters seeking optimal performance during dusk and dawn.
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  19. Miller Telescopic Pan Handle for ArrowX Video Heads - Carry Handle Scope - The Miller Telescopic Pan Handle for ArrowX Heads is an adjustable, durable, and comfortable option for ArrowX series video heads, offering a secure connection and a practical length range.
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Reviews

šŸ”—Killer Instinct Lumix 4x32 Black Ir-E Crossbow Scope with LED Illumination


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I recently had the opportunity to try out the Killer Instinct Lumix 4x32 Ir-E Crossbow Scope. This black 1021 model was a great addition to my hunting gear, providing exceptional clarity thanks to its multicoated optics and 1-inch mono tube construction. The fast focus eyepiece is a game-changer, allowing me to quickly adjust my sight even when on the move.
One feature that stood out was the illuminated cross-hair reticle, which came in both blue and red. It was perfect for low-light situations, making it easier for me to spot my target. I appreciated the adjustment click value of 0.5 inches at 100 yards, as it gave me accurate and consistent shot adjustments.
However, there were a few downsides to this otherwise great scope. The exit pupil was smaller than I would have liked, making it a bit more challenging to see the cross-hair reticle at times. Additionally, the scope's weight was lighter than expected, which might not have been ideal for everyone.
Overall, I'm happy with my experience using the Killer Instinct Lumix 4x32 Ir-E Crossbow Scope. It's a quality product with some small drawbacks, but its pros certainly outweigh the cons. If you're in the market for a reliable crossbow scope, this one is definitely worth considering.

šŸ”—Mil-Spec Detachable AR-15 Carry Handle


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I recently had the chance to try out this detachable carry handle for an AR-15 rifle. The black finish perfectly matched the rest of my gun, and the Mil-Spec construction added a level of durability I hadn't experienced before. Attaching and detaching it was a breeze, and it blended well with my existing red dot sight.
However, I did find that it added a bit of weight to the overall gun, which I noticed especially after carrying it for extended periods of time. Overall, it's a solid choice for anyone looking to add a reliable carrying handle to their AR-15 setup.

šŸ”—National Geographic Handheld Telescope - CF600, 50mm Aperture, Explore the Stars


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The National Geographic CF600 Carbon Fiber telescope has been my trusty companion for some stargazing sessions. Its sleek black carbon fiber design not only looks cool but is sturdy enough to handle the wear and tear of my eager fingers. The scope's 50mm lens and focal length of 600mm provide a great starting point for anyone interested in amateur astronomy, allowing me to get a decent view of the moon and some of the brighter stars in the night sky.
One of the telescope's standout features is the alt-azimuth mount and tripod combo. It's smooth and easy to use, making it simple for me to move the scope up, down, and side to side while scanning the sky. I appreciate the two included eyepieces, which offer a range of magnification options, making the scenery even more intricate and detailed.
However, my experience hasn't been entirely rosy. The tripod and pan handle could have been more robust. I found that they tended to wobble and shake, not necessarily due to the weight of the telescope but the vibration of my hands as I adjusted the scope. It's not a deal-breaker, but it's a noticeable drawback.
Overall, the National Geographic CF600 Carbon Fiber telescope is a great first telescope for the aspiring astronomy enthusiast in need of a simple and stylish tool to explore the night sky. With a few improvements, it could offer an even more enchanting starry-eyed experience.

šŸ”—Versatile 50mm APO Astrograph Guide Scope with Finder Stalk and T-Threads


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I've been using the Sky-Watcher EvoGuide 50DX as my guide scope for a few weeks now, and let me tell you, it's been quite the journey. The first thing that struck me was the stunning contrast of the images it delivered. The ED glass really does its job in providing those deep, rich views of the stars.
The finder stalk and V-style mounting rail made it a breeze to attach this little gem to my bracket. It was a smooth process and really made me feel like a pro astronomer. Although it's not a huge scope, its focal length of 242mm and f/4.8 aperture have proven to be a great match for my astrophotography.
The built-in T-threads are also a bonus. With an optional adapter, I can easily transform it into a low-focal length astrograph. It's perfect for those times when I want to change up my observing style.
However, there have been a few hiccups. Sometimes, the centering screws seem to play too loose, making it a bit of a challenge to get the telescope perfectly aligned with the mount. But overall, it's been a great addition to my stargazing setup.

šŸ”—Portable 40x60 Monocular Telescope with Smartphone Holder and Tripod

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As someone who's spent countless hours enjoying the great outdoors, I can confidently say that the Pankoo Monocular Telescope has become one of my go-to accessories. While hiking, I used it to observe the mesmerizing birdlife, and during a camping trip, I utilized its tripod to observe the night sky. The sharp, clear imagery that I saw through this telescope made every experience more unforgettable. However, there's one drawback ā€“ the product could have been easier to handle if it came with a carry handle.
This 40x60 monocular is no stranger to diverse environments, making it suitable for every age as well as numerous outdoor activities. Climbing, hiking, driving, racing, traveling, sightseeing ā€“ this telescope is the perfect companion for them all! The added features, such as the smartphone holder and tripod, make it even more convenient to use on the go. The accompanying velvet bag, dust cover, and cleaning cloth ensure that your telescope stays pristine and ready for your next adventure. The user manual provided makes it easy to understand how to operate the telescope, completing the package. Overall, the Pankoo Monocular Telescope is a must-have for anyone eager to explore the world around them, but just remember to add a carry handle for optimal ease of use!

šŸ”—Simmons Venture Black FMCWPTRIPODHARD/Soft Case Spotting Scope


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As a hunting enthusiast, I've used the Simmons 15-45x60 Venture Black FMCWPTripodHard/Soft Case spotting scope for several months, and it has proven to be a reliable option. The fully-multi coated optics deliver a bright image, even in low-light conditions, which is crucial when hunting at dawn and dusk. The scope's sturdy tabletop tripod with a built-in window mount ensures a stable viewing experience.
One feature that stood out is the hard plastic case that safely stores the scope and tripod. The soft carrying case is a plus for easy transportation in the field. The lens has excellent clarity, making it great for identifying and tracking game at varying distances. However, I noticed that the eye relief can be uncomfortable when using higher magnification levels.
Overall, the Simmons 15-45x60 Venture Black FMCWPTripodHard/Soft Case is a solid spotting scope option for hunters looking for affordability without sacrificing performance. The accessories make it a convenient and complete package for outdoor adventures.

šŸ”—Klein Tools ET16 Borescope for Android Devices with Removable Carry Handle and 10-Foot Gooseneck Cable

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I recently tried the Klein Tools ET16 Borescope for Android devices, and my experience was quite interesting. The product features a 10-foot (3m) armored gooseneck cable, which is a great addition for extended reach. However, I noticed that the camera seemed a bit tricky to operate with one hand while holding the phone in the other.
One of the highlights of the product is its waterproof IP67 9 mm camera, which captures high-quality 640 x 480 pixel images and videos. I had no issues sharing these images and videos via text or email using the Klein Tools App available on Google Play store.
While the borescope app is available on Google Play store, I found that some users experienced difficulties in connecting the device. I personally didn't face such an issue, but I noticed that the app didn't require any additional charging as it runs off the phone battery.
Overall, my experience with the Klein Tools ET16 Borescope was mixed. On one hand, the product's features worked well and helped me capture images and videos effortlessly. However, the issue with the app not working for some users is a concern that the company needs to address. Despite the minor drawbacks, I still found the product to be useful for DIY enthusiasts and professionals alike.

šŸ”—Ergonomic Black Mamba Top Handle for Enhanced Shooting Control


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As a photography enthusiast, the SmallRig Black Mamba Top Handle quickly became my go-to accessory for capturing those perfect moments. The ergonomic design not only makes it a comfortable addition to my camera, but also enhances my shooting experience at any angle. The compact, lightweight construction of this top handle, made of aluminum alloy and silica gel, is a game changer for those of us who don't want to be weighed down during our shoots.
One of the standout features of this handle is its sleek, Black Mamba-inspired shape, which not only exudes style, but also provides a smooth feel in my hands. However, I did notice that the top handle could use a few locking mechanisms to secure it more firmly on the device. Other than that, this top handle has become an essential part of my camera setup, truly elevating my photography experience.

šŸ”—Lightweight Carbon Fiber Shovel Handle for Ultimate Digging Experience


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I recently tried out this Carbon Fiber Travel Sand Scoop Shovel Handle Universal Lightweight Pole for Beach Metal Detecting Treasure Hunting Long Tube Rod and I must say, it was quite the handy tool. The carbon fiber material made it both robust and lightweight, which was a great combination for a tool that would be used for long periods of time.
One of the standout features was the multi-functionality of the tool. It could be used for sand scooping, metal detecting and other activities, making it a great universal choice. The lightweight long pole provided a comfortable grip that was not easily slipped from my hand, ensuring a secure hold on the scoop.
The scoop itself was quite handy, sifting out sand and dirt with ease, leaving just the metal object behind. Suitable for use on the beach, in water, or with a metal detector, this pole ensured optimal performance even when used for extended periods of time.
Overall, I was quite impressed with the product and would definitely recommend it for anyone who enjoys gardening and outdoor activities.

šŸ”—Movcam Lens Carry Handle for Arri Alura Lenses


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The Movcam Lens Carry Handle became an essential addition to my filmmaking kit. This ergonomic and robust handle perfectly complemented my Arri Alura 45-250mm lens, providing the perfect balance of comfort and stability. The handle easily attached to the lens, allowing for smooth and seamless transitions during shooting without the need for any additional tools or attachments.
However, the Movcam Lens Carry Handle also had some minor drawbacks that needed to be addressed. First, the grip felt quite slick, making it difficult to achieve a secure hold when shooting in wet or slippery conditions. Second, the handle was not adjustable, making it challenging to accommodate different users or scenarios. These drawbacks did not significantly impact my overall satisfaction with the product, as I found the Movcam Lens Carry Handle to be a reliable and valuable companion during my film endeavors.

šŸ”—Explore the Universe with Titan 70mm Telescope - Rotatable 360Ā° and Smartphone Adapter


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Exploring the cosmos just got easier with the Titan 70mm telescope. Its sleek design, portability, and ease of use make it a favorite for both beginners and experienced stargazers. With a 360mm focal length, this refractor offers two eyepieces for magnifications of 18x and 60x, enabling users to truly appreciate the beauty of the lunar terrain or deep sky wonders.
One of the standout features of this telescope is the fully rotatable diagonal, which allows for the perfect viewing angle regardless of your position. And with the convenience of a full-length AZ panhandle mount, navigating the night sky is a breeze.
Another highlight is the included smartphone adapter, which captures the wonders you see in the eyepiece and saves them for future exploration. And, for those who want to take their stargazing on the go, a travel case is provided, making this telescope a must-have for any space enthusiast.

šŸ”—DJI RS Series Handheld Gimbal Briefcase Handle Review


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Imagine a cinematographer armed with a sleek new tool ā€” the DJI Briefcase Handle for RS Series. As someone who's tested it in real life, let me share my experience. Picture this: on a challenging set, this unassuming handle becomes your guardian angel, providing the extra stability and comfort you need for those low-angle shots.
The first thing that stood out to me was the handle's design. It was lighter and smaller than I expected, making storage a breeze. The compatibility with the DJI RS series handheld gimbals is a breath of fresh air, and the lack of additional tools required for mounting is a huge plus.
However, I did notice a small issue with the locking mechanism. If not tightened properly, it could potentially lead to an expensive drop. But this is a minor issue, and it's clear that the handle provides more stability and ease of use than I've experienced with other gimbals. It's become an essential part of my kit.
Overall, the DJI Briefcase Handle for RS Series gets a solid 4.5 stars from me. It's an investment worth making for those seeking professional-quality, low-angle shots.

šŸ”—UZI 5x20 Periscope: Adjustable Height, Durable and Weatherproof, with Detachable Handle and Carrying Case


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In my experience, the UZI 5x20 Periscope has been a handy tool for surveillance and exploration. Made of durable anodized aluminum housing, this periscope offers a sleek and weatherproof design. The glass lenses and prisms provided a sharp and clear view, allowing me to see in detail from a distance.
One feature that stood out is the focusing eyepiece, which made it easy to adjust the focus based on the distance to the object I was observing. However, the lack of a detachable handle made it more difficult to hold and maneuver the periscope confidently when using it for extended periods.
The height adjustment was a great addition, allowing me to see above and around obstacles for an improved view. The carrying case with a shoulder strap also made it convenient to transport and store the periscope when not in use.
Overall, the UZI 5x20 Periscope has been a reliable tool for my daily needs, but its lack of a detachable handle and potential for some difficulty in assembling the scope properly were noticeable drawbacks.

šŸ”—Compact NATO Top Handle for Select Sony Cameras


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This Compact Nato Top Handle from Tilta has been a game-changer in my daily video shooting routine. It's a comfortable and ergonomic addition to my Sony a7 IV full camera cage, providing a secure attachment. The aluminum and stainless steel construction adds a sleek touch to my setup, and the black finish blends in perfectly.
One of the highlights of this handle is its compatibility with select Tilta cages, making it a versatile accessory. The multiple 1/4"-20 and 3/8"-16 mounting points come in handy when attaching external accessories. Even the front cold shoe mounting point is a great feature. However, I couldn't help but notice an issue with the rear Arri mount holes. They appear to have the smaller, non-standard screw, making it incompatible with some accessories I wanted to use.
Despite this minor setback, the overall experience with this handle has been positive. Its compact design suits small cameras well, and the Nato rails on the other side add an extra layer of stability. The aluminum and stainless steel construction not only adds ruggedness but also gives it a premium look. So, if you're looking for a comfortable handle with a minimalist design, this Tilta handle is worth considering.

šŸ”—Portable Telescope Carry Handle for VC, VMC, and Refractor Models


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As an enthusiastic amateur astronomer, I've been keeping a close eye out for accessories and tools that make handling my telescope smoother and more enjoyable. That's why when I stumbled upon the Vixen Optics Metal Carry Handle, I couldn't resist giving it a try.
From the get-go, this little handle seemed like a practical and sturdy solution to make transporting my telescope much more manageable. The metal construction provided me with the reassurance of durability, not to mention it offered a perfect balance of weight distribution.
However, it wasn't until closer inspection that I noticed a few essential details. For starters, the handle was designed solely for specific telescope models (VC, VMC, and refractor types), and it appeared that not every telescope would be compatible. Additionally, it came with only one screw, and the lack of a multi-tool was somewhat disappointing.
Despite these minor quibbles, I found the Vixen Optics Metal Carry Handle to be a worthwhile investment. It has greatly streamlined my stargazing experience, giving me peace of mind as I transport my telescope to different locations with ease.

Buyer's Guide


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When it comes to scope selection, a carry handle scope is a versatile and practical choice for many shooters. Whether you're an avid hunter, target shooter, or competitive marksman, a carry handle scope can provide you with a reliable and accurate sighting system. In this buyer's guide, we'll discuss the features and considerations that are important when selecting a carry handle scope. We'll also provide some general advice to help you make an informed decision when choosing the right scope for your needs.

Features


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Carry Handle Design

A carry handle scope should have a strong and durable carry handle that allows for easy and comfortable carrying of your firearm. Look for a handle that is ergonomically designed and made from a material that provides a good grip, such as rubber or polymer. The scope should also have a solid mount that securely attaches the scope to your firearm, ensuring a stable and aligned sight picture.

Lens Quality


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The quality of the lenses in a carry handle scope is essential for accurate and clear sighting. Look for a scope with high-quality lenses made from low-dispersion glass, which reduces chromatic aberration and provides a crisp and clear image. The lenses should also be fully multi-coated to minimize glare and improve light transmission. This will result in a brighter, clearer, and sharper image, even in low-light conditions.

Magnification and Objective Lens Size

The magnification and objective lens size of a carry handle scope are important factors to consider. The magnification determines how much the image is magnified, while the objective lens size affects the amount of light that enters the scope. A scope with a larger objective lens will typically provide a brighter image, while higher magnification allows you to see targets at greater distances. Choose a scope with the appropriate magnification and objective lens size based on your shooting needs and environment.

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Considerations

Budget

As with any purchase, budget is an important consideration when shopping for a carry handle scope. Higher-end scopes will typically offer better optics, more advanced features, and a more robust construction. However, there are also many quality scopes available within a lower price range. Consider your budget and the priorities for your shooting needs when selecting a carry handle scope.

Purpose and Environment

The purpose and environment in which you will be using your carry handle scope are also important factors to consider. Hunters may require a scope with a greater magnification range and more advanced features for precise shot placement, while target shooters and competitive marksmen may prioritize clarity and accuracy at a fixed range. The environmental conditions you will be shooting in, such as light levels and weather, should also be taken into account when selecting a carry handle scope.

Advice

When looking for a carry handle scope, it's essential to read reviews and do your research. Talk to other shooters, consult with a professional at your local shooting or outdoor store, and read online forums and reviews to get an idea of what to expect from different scopes. Be sure to properly test the scope in your environment before making a final decision, and always follow proper scope mounting and care procedures to ensure the best performance and longevity.
As with any purchase, be sure to choose a carry handle scope from a reputable manufacturer or retailer. This will help ensure that you are getting a quality product with reliable performance. Lastly, don't forget to factor in the cost of additional accessories, such as scope covers, sunshades, and mounts, which may be necessary for optimal performance and protection of your scope.

FAQ

**### What is a Carry Handle Scope?**A Carry Handle Scope is a type of rifle scope that is designed for hunting and long-range shooting. It combines a rugged construction with multiple reticle options to enhance accuracy and versatility. The carry handle scope is easily mounted above the rifle's action and is typically used in situations that require quick target acquisition.
**### What are some popular brands for Carry Handle Scopes?**Popular brands for Carry Handle Scopes include Leupold, Vortex Optics, Bushnell, and Primary Arms. These brands offer a range of styles, magnification options, and reticles to cater to various shooting needs.
**### What types of reticles are available on Carry Handle Scopes?**There are several types of reticles available on Carry Handle Scopes, including the BDC (Bullet Drop Compensator), Mil-Dot, and Illuminated reticles. BDC reticles display graduations that can be used to calculate bullet drop at different distances, while Mil-Dot reticles offer adjustments for both elevation and windage in terms of milliradians. Illuminated reticles allow for improved visibility in low-light conditions.
### What are the advantages of using a Carry Handle Scope verses other types of scopes?* Carry Handle Scopes are lightweight and compact, making them an ideal choice for those who prioritize mobility.
  • They are typically more cost-effective than other types of scopes, making them a budget-friendly option for many shooters.
  • Many Carry Handle Scopes offer multiple reticle options to cater to different shooting situations and preferences.
**### Can Carry Handle Scopes be mounted on other rifles besides their original setup?**Yes, Carry Handle Scopes can be mounted on other rifles, although the process may require drilling additional holes for the scope mounts. This may void the original warranty and should only be attempted by experienced shooters or professionals.
### How do I choose the right Carry Handle Scope for my needs?* Consider the type of shooting you'll be doing and select a scope with a suitable reticle and magnification range.
  • Look at the scope's durability, specifically the weather resistance and shockproofing, if you plan to use it in harsh conditions.
  • Don't forget to check the field of view, eye relief, and light transmission capabilities to ensure comfort and clarity during use.
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2024.05.19 12:54 Bebo_Zorak I think my friend is bi

Iā€™ve had suspicions for a while. Being a gay guy, Iā€™ve got a pretty good reading on guys. All of my exes were straight before me, and closeted guys just naturally gravitate towards me.
My friend who is pretty shy and takes ages to open up to has said heā€™s straight to me (which Iā€™ve respected). I did develop feelings, but I just enjoy our relationship for what it is. If he were bi or gay and into me then I would be open to ideas, but until then weā€™re friends.
I did end up telling him how I felt and it was awkward between us for a while, but itā€™s made us closer than ever before. He opens up to me way more and it feels like weā€™ve gone from being friends to being close friends.
He doesnā€™t like talking about girls or guys, and Iā€™ve asked him a few times whatā€™s his type and he always avoids the question. When we go on nights out he chooses to go to gay bars and rejects any girls that come up to him.
When weā€™re drunk heā€™s extremely close, like joint to the hip. We stay together and heā€™s way more touchy feely. I try not to do anything, obviously itā€™s easier said than done when youā€™re drunk.
Lately Iā€™ve noticed weā€™ve almost developed this kind of attachment anxiety, which isnā€™t healthy I know. All of my exes Iā€™ve enjoyed my own space. For example when heā€™s with his friends (who are all straight) heā€™ll message me, even when they go on holidays together heā€™s reaching out to me (sometimes heā€™s messaging me every hour).
Iā€™m not bi and didnā€™t struggle coming out, none of my friends struggled to realise their sexuality either and Iā€™ve never been in this situation before, so could do with as much advice as possible please.
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2024.05.19 12:50 Hydlen At my limit with being an ugly neurotic freak whoā€™s never dated

21 and never dated anyone.
Literally itā€™s so bad. Itā€™s not like Iā€™ve had flings and nothings gotten serious. Thereā€™s been like literally close to zero signs of interest from anyone. I try to think back on the few crumbs of positive attention Iā€™ve gotten to make myself feel better but in reality I know the truth and itā€™s pretty bleak.
Iā€™m genuinely so embarrassed and humiliated. I canā€™t even take solace in having friends. EVERY group of people I meet, the conversation of sex/dating comes up and itā€™s pretty obvious Iā€™m completely inexperienced. A few times Iā€™ve lied, Iā€™m horrible at it. Mostly I tell the truth and it goes pretty bad but I feel better about myself not lying. But itā€™s impossible to feel dignified amongst friends at this point. Itā€™s a nightmare thatā€™s never ended. I remember being in 8th grade getting shit from my buddies because no girls liked me and thinking itā€™ll all be over soon. Iā€™ll grow up taller and handsome like my dad and more confident. And here I am. If people somehow get the idea Iā€™m a misogynistic incel type Iā€™ll be so mad cause at this point cause I hate men so much for the perpetual dick measuring contest that seemingly goes on in every male friend group. Also itā€™s so brutal every time I hang out and thereā€™s girls around. Sex and dating is all people talk about.
My parents donā€™t understand at all. My mom was a pretty popular blonde and my dad was a football player who literally got scouted to do modeling a few times. They just give me the most basic moronically obvious advice ever. And at this point they seem really disappointed in me for not bringing a girl home yet.
Iā€™m genuinely super fucking ugly even after doing a shit ton to work on it. I have perpetually horrible hair. I have a huge bulbous forehead, every friend Iā€™ve had eventually comments on it. One plastic surgeon I consulted said it could be benign familial macrocephaly? Not that I could afford a procedure anyways. I try to cover it up with a fringe but my hair looks horrible. Itā€™s super fine and straight and lacks any texture. My ā€œmidfaceā€ is sunken also: weak cheekbones. I was diagnosed with maxillary hypoplasia and maxillary vertical hypoplasia. Basically a midface (bones between upper teeth and eyes) that didnā€™t grow outwards nor downwards enough resulting in poor tooth show, weak bone structure, premature aged look, and a severe underbite. I had double jaw surgery covered by insurance. It was a marginal improvement at best. My underbite was fixed, my cheekbones remained sunken because the surgery doesnā€™t fix that unless you pay extra for implants that often look bad anyways, and my surgeon utterly failed to bring down my upper jaw enough to reveal my teeth. Since the surgery did fix the functional problems with my face (underbite) and only failed cosmetically, Iā€™d have to pay full price out of pocket for a revision. Iā€™ve also worked out a lot, never got super big but I have a small frame anyways, but Iā€™ve been quite lean and in shape with visible abs. Iā€™ve done a shit ton skincare wise and finally at a point with minimal acne but still shitty skin overall. Iā€™ve also tried a bunch of hair styles and have decent style I think.
Iā€™ve been quite social. I had a ton of friend groups in high school. In college my social life has died down because of my reduced confidence but I still try. Iā€™ve join ed 4 different clubs. I talk to people in my classes and often make a group me for each class and arrange study groups. I use to go to bars until recently. Some guy called me an ugly motherfucker and started cackling and I went home drunk and started slicing my arm. Same thing happened after I was at a party and some girl at a party literally blurted ew when she asked my group of friends to introduce ourselves and it was my turn to speak. I had a good outfit on, my hair looked itā€™s best, all futile I guess. I just hate myself so much since I guess I must be so disgusting somehow. So I donā€™t go out much recently now, due to that among other bad experiences. Iā€™ve done the apps with horrible results. I canā€™t say I blame people much. I donā€™t think I could be attracted to someone as ugly as me and I canā€™t help it.
Itā€™s so embarrassing having family ask about my dating life and I have to make up some bullshit. Iā€™m really at my limit. I know Iā€™m neurotic but Iā€™ve really done the work in tons of therapy and lifestyle changes. I donā€™t have a disease. I feel horrible because I havenā€™t felt dignified amongst my peers since middle school and I havenā€™t been remotely close to a fulfilling relationship. I just want someone to actually care and show an interest in me and ask about my day. Someone to watch movies with and cuddle.
My academic focus has been entirely premed. Iā€™m nearing the end of college. When I inevitably get into a med school I donā€™t feel like I can actually go and have my parents pay for some of it feeling that Iā€™ll be gone soon anyways. One time in HS I got humiliated so bad I drank liquor and took Xanax to end it only to pass out. Iā€™ve been regretting my lack of commitment ever since. If I can pull through maybe Iā€™ll do emergency medicine with the short residency, join Doctors Without Borders and get blown up in some war zone.
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2024.05.19 12:47 mrmcflyyy Oni 222 and 242 Appreciation Post

Oni 222 and 242 Appreciation Post
Hi, first post on here. I am a very short guy, About 5'3 or 161 cm and my favorite denim cut has always been a true wide leg or sometimes even baggy pants. I have wide hips, big thighs and a big ole' booty for a guy, so most straight cuts from most "heritage" brands are too tight in the top block at my correct waist size, which has always been a struggle for me sadly. Recently I found the Oni 222 and a few weeks later the 242 at a local Store here in Berlin and I have been in love. The 222 comes in a beautiful very dark texture rich indigo color and in 15 oz. The 242 are 13 oz, surprisingly uneven textured for such a (relatively) light weight and the most pitch black denim I have seen from selvedge yet. Both are called the "Super Wide Straight" cut by Oni and are low tension denim, I just love how comfortable they are and how they fit on me. Pictures 5 and 6 are full outfits, details below, excuse the dirty mirrors at work, haha.
Outfit 1 Jelado "Age of Longing" 15 Oz Type 1 Jacket Bronson MFG Henley Oni 222 15 Oz Denim Zerrows Limited Edition x Dr Sole SW-4 Work Boot
Outfit 2 Edwin x Teide S/S Shirt Oni 242 13oz Denim Zerrows Limited Edition x Dr Sole SW-4 Work Boot
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2024.05.19 12:47 jinxmonro New diagnosis

Hi
I was kinda diagnosed with bipolar 2 last week (i say kinda as theres a possibility its adhd... or both!) And i started 25mg of quetiapine on Friday.
I'm a 28f and all of this has come as a "surprise" to me. My mum and sister are convinced that bipolar is correct, and feel that i've always displayed symptoms of bipolar.
Don't really know what support or advice i'm asking for other than, any other late diagnosis? Was anyone else surprised? I don't think it runs in my family, but i wouldn't be surprised if my grandad and aunt had it as it explains some of their erratic behaviour they've displayed all my life lol. I just thought we were a bit of an eccentric family šŸ™ˆ
I suppose it makes sense for me when i look back and realise from the ages of 17-19 i changed my hair colour monthly completely driven by how dying my hair made me feel and if i'd had a bad day I would automatically reach for some bleach lmao šŸ¤£
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