Hii so I’ve been kinda struggling with my feelings for the past few weeks about my best friend’s new situation. My best friend (20F) and I (21F) have been best friends since we were 11 and 12. She’s basically like a sister to me. When I was 16 after many years of hiding, struggling with internalized homophobia and coming to terms with my sexuality I told her I liked girls and maybe 2 months after that I said that I’m a lesbian. She had a great reaction and I was happy I could be myself with someone.
A year later so at this point we are 16 and 17, she came out to me as bisexual. I was so excited and it was really cool to have a best friend who also liked girls! It made us even closer. I was very happy but deep in my heart I wanted to meet more lesbians because I really wanted a community / friends who only liked girls. Obviously no hate or anything to bi/pan girls, I just wanted to also have a friend who exactly understood the experience of being a lesbian, and not liking men and how isolating that can be. But I didn’t dwell too much about it, I was just so happy to know more queer people and be able to express my feelings about girls.
Now a bit over a year later so she was 17 almost 18 and I was 18 almost 19 she told me that she’s been thinking about it for a while and actually she’s a lesbian. I was so so excited. I loved my best friend no matter what but this brought us even closer and I felt so much more secure and confident and not alone in my identity. It was really cool to be able to relate what’s it like being a lesbian and not liking men, especially since all of my friends who are queer still like men.
The next 2 years it’s „girls, girls, girls,” „I never want to be with a man”, „I love being a lesbian”kinda stuff from her. One day out of the blue (few weeks ago) my best friend called me and told me she has to tell me something cuz she likes someone. She says it’s a boy. She said she guesses she’s not a lesbian and never was but she genuinely did think she was when she identified like that. Suddenly she starts telling me all about this guy and it feels like not my best friend and all. Overnight she goes from hating the idea of being with a man to having this huge crush on him. Next week he became her boyfriend.
Quite honestly I feel heartbroken and so alone. I don’t have other lesbian friends and suddenly loosing this connection with her over being lesbian that has been so important to me disappears. I felt sad, angry, annoyed but obviously it’s not her fault. I feel so alone in my identity and have been feeling like the odd one out constantly. Almost all my queer female friends boyfriends and it makes me feel like the only one who doesn’t like men. I never cared before cuz I had my best friend and I could tell her all the things only she as a lesbian would understand. I just feel like the only one who wants to have a girlfriend and into women (currently because all my female queer friends have bfs so obviously they won’t be thinkinh of getting a gf or talk about women when they have bfs they love).
Ever since they started dating, it’s been weird between my best friend and me. It’s also been hard to hear about her boyfriend and most of the time when we finish calling I’m almost like annoyed and mad and sad and lonely. It makes me not wanna call her at all and I hate thacuz she is like a sister to me but rn I just can’t. I know it’s not her fault or anyhthing but it almost feels like betrayal or something but yk I know it’s not? Also ofc I understand that sexuality is fluid.I just feel really alone in my lesbian identity.
Am I crazy for feeling this way? How do I cope? Any advice is welcomed. I just needed to share this cuz it has been weighing on me the last few weeks.

30F, 46M - To be fair it was in the middle of a discussion about police (which he is very much against) to somehow turning into a heated argument degrading my family (who have a long history of being in the military and police force). Normally I just let him vent, don't say anything, and we go on with our day but it was in front of our three kids (elementary school ages) which irked me deeply. He has a long history of doing this and several cases involving the authorities, he told me he would no longer argue about how much he hates my family in front of the kids. I requested this because I feel like it's taking our kids innocence and they have every right to a great childhood, and honestly their amazing kids and deserve it. But he ignores anything I ask, even if it just benefits the kids.
He despises everyone in my family and has isolated me from all family and any friends I had to where I have no one left. We met when I was 20F and he was 36M, although originally he told me he was 27. I immediately got pregnant and had my first child when I was 21. That was 10 years ago.
I always get told I'm overreacting or crazy to the point I am constantly questioning my own sanity. Old throwaway account for a reason.
He ended this conversation by saying, we'll I'll take the kids back to Chicago (where he's from) to visit and I'll never see them again. He's been saying this for seven years a long with other threats that has made it difficult to trust him or to even leave.
He says I'm overreacting and in the past when he first threatened that 7 years ago, it's always "you know I would never really do that to you" but I don't believe him. I believe he absolutely would do it and more just to spite me and hurt me.
It's been a few years since he's said this (other than today), any feelings and concerns always get brushed under the table and I get told I'm crazy.
I just don't know how to handle him not respecting my feelings and I honestly don't know how to respond anymore when I know nothing is going to change, but I have this threat of losing my kids if we're not together.
Please, any outside advice is appreciated. I've lost all confidence and I'm just not sure what to do anymore. I've been restraining order route and no that would not stop him, just make him more mad.

I’m a alternate looking Irish fella looking to talk to people and see where things go so here is a little bit about me!
About me: well I’m a massive film nerd, i studied it at university and hoping at some point to get into that industry. I love my music, mainly rock, emo, alt, indie and stuff like that. Bands and artists such as twenty one pilots, my chemical romance, movements, Joji, enter shikari, bad omens, bring me the horizon, korn, Crywank and spiritbox just to name a few. Along with that I love concerts/gig, be it a comedy gig or live music I’ll be there. I love anime and gaming to so I am a big nerd like that. I enjoy hiking, walks and nature in general and always make time for that. Lastly I love to travel and planning get aways.
Physical: I’m a tall (6’2) chubby white guy. I always say I’ve a dad bod without the kids. I’ve 18 tattoos all of my arms, a nose ring, brown hair and I wear glasses. Happy to share pictures of myself if you’d like that.
What I’m looking for is someone I can just connect with, someone kind and nice and all that type of stuff. Physical I tend to go for more alternative looking people but that’s not a dealbreaker, as long as you’ve a personality I can connect with all good. It would help If you could share a picture of yourself!
So yeah that’s me. Send me a message telling me a random fact about yourself or something you love

My baby is not a baby anymore. She is turning one next week and I've been crying every single night while looking at her newborn photo. How fast does the time flows is blowing my mind. I decide to have her as an only child and these bittersweet feelings knowing that i wouldn't be able to experience this the second time makes every single moment feels like a precious memories. Feels like yesterday holding her in my arm for the first time and now she's turning one next week broke me.
Feel free to share how does the night before first birthday for first/last born feels like to you guys. This post is just for fun sharing moment.

i’m approaching the one month mark of being on T and for about three and a half weeks i’ve been bleeding. i was just wondering if anyone else has/had a weird cycle or experienced anything like this, should i be concerned or will it work itself out?

I've seen a lot of posts and comments over the past month talking about people are annoyed that Colin has been turned into a rake like Anthony and Simon, and how Colin is supposed to be this sweet, sensitive guy and what not. But I submit to you that those very brothel scenes are important to drive home that very difference between Colin and the other MLs.
If someone had asked me yesterday, I would've probably agreed that the brothel scenes weren't that necessary, however hot I found Luke in them. But having rewatched quite a bit of Part 1, I see what they were trying to convey with them.
If you were to compare all the brothel scenes we've gotten in 3 seasons, Colin is the only one who interacts with the sex workers. We never got that with Simon or Anthony (I'm just going to preemptively remind people that Siena was an opera singer and didn't work in a brothel). The way Colin kisses them is kind of sweet, making sure they get equal attention, and even apologizes to them before leaving. And as he leaves, you can see that even the sex workers who meet, probably, multiple men everyday, are smitten with him. That scene talks about his character. Frankly, even the flirting montage! He's not just flirting for the sake of it. He's making these debutantes feel seen and desirable (the same as what Pen did with her paper in the first 2mins of E1), but also, making sure that he doesn't give them any false hope.
The second scene at the brothel was also important for the contrast and to show the aftereffects of his kiss with Pen - that the intimacy and distance he was able to enjoy before is not possible for him now that he's experienced intimacy without the distance (for lack of better words). I also saw a comment answering why he didn't just leave in that 2nd scene saying that that would've led to questions for the workers by the brothel owner, which makes a lot of sense.

Hi! Please read
So, my friend started talking to this guy a month ago and things are a bit messed up. Let's call her A, the guy M and her best friend P.
She started talking to this guy M, he's from a neighbouring country, the same age. She's a really really sweet girl, but, she's a bit too naive. She'll trust you completely if you start talking. She has many online friends but M was the closest.
I never liked M, he was really weird and rude (and corny too). And she, never complained about it even though he'd say a lot weird stuff to her, fight with her, she'd apologise. We tried stopping her from talking to him but she didn't. P is really close to A, and she also talks to the same guy M.
So the scene is, that my friend A and the guy M had a fight, over a petty small issue. Nothing too big, but the thing was A didn't apologise. We didn't let her. Bc it was not at all her fault, M ditched her at times, then he's complain to her how she “uses” him bc she opened up about her trauma to him. Btw M himself asked her to share, he'd always try asking her and since they were good friends she did share.
M started becoming pathetic. P approached M since P is my friend's really close best friend.
M - the guy had a crsh on P, but she rejected him too. Things were heated up, so we finally got M blocked and things were completely fine for a week. M messaged P, backbitching about A btw.
Today, he put on many stories. Revealing both the girls photos and videos WO CONSENT ON HIS PUBLIC ACCOUNT. Now here's the real talk.
Most are videos of chat bw him and his some other friend (she's a fcking btch). So, firstly in their chat they share photos of P and he screenshotted from their highlights. They started laughing at P's face, then starting talking about how A was built like a brick wall.
A - she's really pretty but a bit chubby bc of a condition, she's a bit insecure of her looks BUT trust me she's the nicest girl ik.
They started making fun about how A - my friend is fcking ugly, is a brick wall, “cant even fit her in the a box” the girl says to which he replies “not even in a luggage box” and they made pretty messed up jokes about her appearance.
They start calling P Shrek, "she's so fcking ugly" loads of curses and slut shaming, posting their pics and simply laughing at them. Calling them weird names.
But the worst?
M says -
"I should rpe P and imprgnate her, then fill her up wt donuts, stuff her mouth with an apple, then tie an apple around her forehead and punch her hard, the feed her flesh to A.”
And he also says "I'm not joking, I'm being serious"
To which the bitch replies
"It'd be disgusting to touch her."
They continue with their body shaming, slut shaming contest and the girl ends it wt saying
"P looks so molestable. Yk girls sometimes get stalked and catcalled, if she has a stalker he'd take one look at her ugly ass moustache and puke. She so fcking ugly."
They've posted the girl photos wo their consent in all their stories, then M has the audacity to say
"If you want more of the brick wall's videos and the molester lesbian's vidoes(referring to P), let me know" with their pics in background.
The way they gives me an ick, they're the typical wannabe cool kids using the n word each and every time.
We don't want A to know about this, she finally got over rhim and we don't want to stir up problems for her. But I don't absolutely think it's alright for him to f/cking post pe jokes and pics and videos of the girls, boys so corny I can't even
What should I do? I don't see the guy stopping, what can I do? We have a group of friends.
Please let me know your opinions.
(Would've doxxed If I knew how)

British Nationality (Amendment) (Inviolability) Bill

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make British citizenship inviolable and for connected purposes.
BE IT ENACTED by the King’s Most Excellent Majesty, by and with the advice and consent of the Lords Temporal, and Commons, in this present Parliament assembled, and by the authority of the same, as follows:-
1. Amendment of the British Nationality Act 1981
(1) The British Nationality Act 1981 is amended as follows.
(2) After section 40(1) insert—
(1A) Citizenship status is inviolable and may not be deprived by the Crown nor the Secretary of State except to the extent permitted by this section.
(2) Omit section 40(2).
(3) In section 40(4), for "subsection (2)" substitute "subsection (3)".
(4) After section 40(6) insert—
(7) Before making an order under subsections (3) and (6), the Secretary of State must also be satisfied that the person intentionally acted dishonestly in order to gain the citizenship status.
(5) Omit section 40A(2)(b) and (c) section 40A(2).
2. Reinstatement of citizenship
(1) The citizenship status of any person (P) who has previously had their citizenship status deprived under any enactment or power has their citizenship status revived unless either subsection (2) or subsection (3) applies.
(1) The citizenship status of any person (P) who has previously had their citizenship status deprived under any enactment or power has their citizenship status revived unless either subsection (2), subsection (3) or subsection (4) applies.
(1) The citizenship status of any person (P) who has previously had their citizenship status deprived under any enactment or power has their citizenship status revived unless either subsection (2) or subsection (3) applies.
(2) This subsection applies if P's citizenship status was deprived for a reason that remains permitted under the British Nationality Act 1981 as amended by previous enactments and this Act.
(3) This subsection applies if the revival of the citizenship status would result in P losing citizenship of, or residency or other leave to remain in, any country other than the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland.
(4) The person having had their citizenship revoked for reasons of national security holds citizenship in a country that is a safe and viable alternative.
(5)(4) But if subsection (1) does not apply because of subsection (3) only, P may notify the Secretary of State that they wish to have their citizenship status revived and subsection (3) will not apply on the issuing of such notice.
(6)(5) The effect of revival is that P is treated as if their citizenship status was never deprived.
(7)(6) But this section does not prevent the Secretary of State from subsequently depriving a person of citizenship status that was revived under this Act in accordance with the British Nationality Act 1981.
3. Commencement, extent and short title
(1) This Act comes into force on the day on which it is passed.
(1) Section 1 and this section come into force on the day on which this Act is passed.
(2) Section 2 comes into force at the end of the period of three months beginning with the day on which this Act is passed.
(3) This Act extends to England, Wales, Scotland, and Northern Ireland.
(4) This Act may be cited as the British Nationality (Amendment) (Inviolability) Act 2024.
Referenced legislation

• British Nationality Act 1981

This Bill was written by the Right Honourable Duke of the Fenlands OM GCMG KCT CB MVO, on behalf of the Labour and Co-operative Party.
Opening Speech
Deputy Speaker,
Citizenship is, I am sure, something that we all value in this House. It provides a foundation for our great nation. It establishes our duties to one another — to protect each other and to look out for each other. And it provides us with our identity.
Under the current law, it is possible for a citizenship to be deprived if the Secretary of State believes it is "conducive to the public good". There is no requirement other than that. It is only necessary for the Secretary of State to be satisfied of that fact. Therefore, challenging such a decision would be difficult under the traditional Wednesbury unreasonableness formulation.
We have a clear system for dealing with people who fail to meet their duties that citizenship entails. That is the criminal justice system. The aim is to rehabilitate someone so that they can slot back into society and further it rather than work against it.
Citizenship deprivation does not do that. It is the nuclear option. We turn our backs on the person and alienate them, and we encourage them to become even more hostile towards us. We assume that another country will take on the burden of bringing them to justice, to rehabilitate them. But this often doesn't happen, and then we have a dangerous criminal roaming free in the world who now despises us even more. Knowing that does not make me feel safe, Deputy Speaker. I would much rather us leave a door open for those who take a wrong in life to return back to society. To allow for terrorists to be deradicalised. To reduce the risk to every resident of the UK.
One final point, Deputy Speaker. We are also required to prevent people becoming stateless under international law. While the current law does provide some protection against this, the problem is that not every country has a respect for their own domestic law or international law. So while we may believe that a person subject to British citizenship deprivation is entitled to citizenship elsewhere, that country may in fact reject it and the person may not have a good right to appeal it. This would render them de facto stateless. We ought to do everything in our power to prevent that.
I commend this Bill to the House.
This debate will end on Tuesday 21st May at 10pm BST.

Heyo I’m a straight guy and I got a major crush on a girl at work and I’m trying to attract her. Are there any strong crush subliminals I can use? A lot of the ones I’ve seen seem to be targeted towards woman attracting women or WLW😭
Any recommendations for ones targeted form guys at women or unisex ones?

This is all internal. I work closely with, but not for, a director who is chronically unreliable and occasionally disrespectful. She wanted to hire me for a role I wouldn’t have normally taken. It’s a step backward into my old field, but it’s not even the aspect of the field I liked and was good at; it’s a different stage of the process. Right now I’m in a role between my old field and a new one I’m excited about, and I was training to move further that direction.
I offered to accept the role with the unreliable director for an egregious amount of money to help out my family, and she said she could agree to anything within the published salary range. She knew it would pull me off my preferred career path. Three weeks later, after my current boss already heard I’d be leaving, I received the official offer which was lower than discussed, but fair. I turned it down anyway because it’s further proof that she’s too unreliable and a little disrespectful. I don’t want to manage her massive team all on my own for a year. I didn’t want to say anything negative about her though, so I focused on it not being the right fit.
My old job had already gone to someone else so I’m scrambling to stay at this company to keep my unvested stocks. Interviews all start with, “I thought you were going to ___?” and I keep blowing it there before they can even consider me. I’m trying not to sound disagreeable, but I don’t want to look like I’m going be too picky to do the jobs they have available right now, or like I have unrealistic salary expectations either.
What do I say when interviewers ask why I didn’t accept the offer I had?

we've been together for about a year now, and are both uni students. i work part time as a retail assistant and dont earn much, I am also the oldest daughter and have a lot of financial responsibilities at home. my partner isnt employed as such but makes a lot dealing with cars. initially when we were starting going out, he would offer to pay for food and probably has done about only a handful of times because i felt awkward and didnt wanna burden him. i would offer to pay in the beginning as a gesture and expected it to be a sort of 50/50 situation however since the beginning i have always been paying for food now and its getting a lot. its like paying for food and stuff in general is just my responsibility now. but its not direct as in if we're about to get food he'll say he cant because he has no money or because he'd rather save his money. this would result in us just not going anywhere or doing anything so i would just offer to pay and then we'd be able to go. even if its just greggs. now he will just ask me to buy food and if we're in a group setting he'll just say that i always buy him food and stuff, awkwardly giving that responsibility to me again. if it was a situation in which he was not able to i wouldnt mind at all because i love him. but he can, his family are financially stable unlike mine, he's saved up enough to buy a house himself and goes to fancy places out with his friends all the time. he has gotten comfortable asking me to buy him things too aside from food. i had bought him a lot of things for his birthday but he had complained that i didnt pay attention to him and that i dont pay attention to stuff he likes. he asked me to buy him a hoodie which was £200 and would make backhanded comments saying if i didnt think he was worth spending my money on it was fine. i felt so bad and bought it for him. he's now saying that if he doesn't get a ps5 for himself, if i could buy one for him. he already has a ps4 and has never touched it or mentioned it the whole time we've been together. as well as this things that i buy for myself he'll ask if he can have too, these are little things but they add up. for example power banks, i had one and he had asked if he could have one, so a. couple weeks later i bought anotehr one because i needed it. he asked if he could have the newer one cause it was better and gave me the old one back. i feel as though i am not respected, i know that he loves me but i feel a lot of pressure in our relationship. now uni has finished and he had been out somehwere and the conversation came up of him being hungry. i had told him he should go get food and said he wouldnt waste his money on that and had asked me if i could send him money for food, i tried to laugh it off and he had asked if i couldnt even send him enough for a meal deal, which sort of made me feel icky. i dont know what to do and what to say, i've told him im not his mum but that turned into me being the bad guy. i think im slowly losing interest due to this and other probelms in our relationship but i do love him a lot and he loves me a lot but i feel like im not respected? idk

I met a guy online, he was good and we matched vibe. So this escalated and in almost next 15 days we got very close as he was supposed to go abroad. Before he went we had sex. He taped some of our intimate scenes, I knew about it tho thought maybe he is going away so he might need it blah blah. But due to some stupid reasons we got into fight right after he went abroad. Post which I did tell him that we shouldn't have recorded and asked him to delete and he agreed to delete it. (this convo took place when he had gone) Cut short post a week or so I asked to break up with him. We no longer talk. It was some mutual fight. Now I am still overthinking this and almost everyday I sleep with this fear what if he misses the photos or videos, what if he had never deleted them? One part of brain says he would never do bad, my other fear always says never trust anyone and I curse myself a lot for doing stupid mistake. What should I do, I need to get out of this mindset. Any suggestions?

Key Aspects

Context: Daya is a life essence imbuing everything with magic, manifesting itself as supernatural biological traits. Individuals are able to cultivate their Daya to understand the nature of themselves and their Daya, which would make them stronger. By giving humans the ability to tinker with biology itself, they are able to extend the definition of their identity, able to step outside of the confinements of human nature, and manifest it in form of biological enhancements. They are also able to tame the beasts by taming their Daya, which results in a bond that is also able to be cultivated. A Dayite is a gem of condensed Daya found inside most organisms with high enough Daya concentration.
When taming a creature, several factors must be considered:
Cultivation of One's Own Daya: The more cultivated one's own Daya is, the easier the taming process becomes. Conversely, the more cultivated the Daya of the beast, the harder the process gets. Achieving harmony between the two Dayas is crucial for successful taming. If the Dayas are too different or incompatible, a master-slave bond may be introduced. In this bond, the slave loses some control and must grant access to their abilities, while the master can borrow and mimic these abilities. Taming incompatible Daya is more challenging, because the subject does not align with the desires of your own true self. Additionally, a beast with an advanced sense of self might increase the difficulty of taming.

Benefits of Taming

Power Sharing: Taming allows you to tap into each other's powers, often resulting in physical enhancements. You can replicate other abilities if certain physiological traits are present or somewhat comparable. Able to replicate and adapt traits to ones needs.
Telepathic Communication: Taming enables telepathic communication, sharing a mind to some extent.
Animal Scrying: Taming allows for animal scrying, tapping into each other's senses.

Cultivation Aspect of Taming

Taming enables the cultivation of the bond between tamer and tamed, enhancing the individual's cultivation and making them stronger. The more refined this bond, the stronger each becomes in tandem. Instead of cultivating towards a singular true self, the two Dayas are cultivated to reach harmony. Harmony is represented by a collective self that is at least partially true to both identities. This collective self is an amalgamation of the values and instincts of both, forming a merged ideal from two true selves. The next step is to refine this new collective self to represent the most important aspects of the bond, creating a singularity that embodies the bond between the two.

Cultivation Methods

These are strictly for cultivating the bond.
Training and Stressing the Bond: Regularly exercising your bond and training with specific methods, progressively stressing the bond in real situations.
Sharing and Adapting Habits: Sharing and adapting each other's habits enhances the understanding of the two Dayas. This might involve activities such as eating, sleeping, preying, and social habits.
Spiritual Alchemy: An alternate form of spiritual alchemy which additionally involves learning, understanding, and trusting each other through scholarly and emotional efforts.

Cooperative Evolution Process

Three States of Evolution: To manifest the cultivation process, the tamed and tamer might enter a cooperative evolution process. In the cooperative evolution process, three states apply:

1. Metamorphosis: Perfect harmony between the two births a new body merged from two. Unites all aspects and achieves even greater heights. The collective self controls the body. Depending which of the original Dayas is more cultivated, the collective self might be inclined to share the consciousness to some degree with the one coming on top, preventing a complete psychological death. The other consciousness becomes a part of the unconciousness that needs to be reunified in the bigger cultivation process.
2. Symbiosis: The two Dayas do not fully cooperate, leading to a split body where both selves compete for control.
3. Corruption: Often results from a failed master-slave bond. Hateful emotions manifest as mutations, eroding the mind. Neither master nor slave has full control, with an ill third self occupying the body and mind.

Entering Cooperative Evolution

To enter cooperative evolution, one must physically integrate the other Daya into their own system. This can be achieved in two ways:

1. Gradually eating parts of each other, trending towards Metamorphosis. Successfully taming and cultivating the bond between the two allows the new self to see both entities as its own body, regenerating missing parts to gradually manifest itself.
2. Alternatively, one can integrate the other's Daya fully into their system by eating them alone, trending towards Symbiosis. This is often seen in master-slave bonds. Successfully cultivating the tamed Daya within oneself evolves the abilities of the consumed beast, manifesting in one of the three evolutionary states. Metamorphosis cannot be truly achieved since the master occupies the mind, and potential reaches a certain limit. Dayite consumption may be dangerous but is necessary to complete the feeding process, as it involves a highly dense concentration of Daya that might revolt, leading to Corruption. If one allows themselves to be eaten by the other voluntarily, taming and integrating their Daya becomes much easier, making Metamorphosis possible.

Feel free to share any feedback or ideas that I could brainstorm on!

Hi, this might be an annoyingly specific question, but I've hit the limits of my research, because I'm a total noob at this, so here we go:
I've been looking to get into CNC stuff for guitars and eventually maybe furniture. The problem is, LCD screens give my migraines very quickly (sometimes after more than a minute or so). I know not every machine has them, but some of the ones I've been recommended do.
Do you guys know of anything that is affordable AND big enough AND either doesn't have LCD components OR can use an external non lcd monitor?
Budget is 0-a few thousand bucks.
Basically I'm interested in what this guy is doing:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XrD1mI90m5c&t=1201s
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1deuipxQLg
But he seems maybe a bit better inclined to modify things after buying than I am.

I currently have a Nextcloud instance hosted on Linode, and a Tutanota account. I use Tutanota for email, Nextcloud as an online backup for my files, photos, and notes, as well as a sync for my calendar.
Does it make sense to switch to being all proton? From a cost perspective it seems like a better deal. If I buy it a year at a time, I get a calendar, email, 500GB of storage, a password manager (which I probably wouldn't use since I have Bitwarden and the free version is good enough for me) for $10 a month. For my current setup I'm paying $10 a month just to host Nextcloud on Linode, and I only have 50 GB there. and then ~$40 a year for Tutanota.
I do like the way my current setup works, for the most part everything works well together between all my various devices (iphone, linux, windows), and I'm not sure how it would all work as seamlessly if I switched to proton.
In general I don't like the idea of everything being tied to one account from a security standpoint, but maybe that is not a big deal?
I'd consider self hosting the Nextcloud instance at some point, which would significantly reduce the cost of that (at least in the long term after I buy the hardware) but I want the data to be backed up somewhere else as an offsite backup.
I'm not sure which is more secure/private overall. I'm not tied to doing one wholly over the other. Like I'd be fine with keeping Tutanota as my email for example. Does anyone have any thoughts on which makes more sense from either a privacy, usability, security etc standpoint?

I’m a 29 year old male, live at home and I’m a residential care worker for young people. The job on the whole is fairly good, more pros and cons but the pros aren’t good enough to keep me here long term. Shifts’s are 9am-11pm usually but you’re at the behest of the young people whether you go bed at 11 or you’re up to 5am dealing with their shenanigans. You’re ’days off’ are also a bit iffy because if you sleep in that night you have to wake up and do 2-3 hours work until you leave for home. Sometimes you’re shattered and go home and sleep and your ‘day off’ is practically ruined.
I come out with 2000,-2400 a month after tax if I get in a decent number of sleeps and maybe take one or two extra shifts a month (top end).
Sleeping away from home so regularly takes its tole. Quite frankly I’ve got lucky with the young people in my house who I have a good relationship with and their behaviours are on the low end typically. But that can change whenever a young person moves and a new one comes in.
I just know the job isn’t for me long term and I want more money (don’t we all). When I move out I need to be on 2600-3000 a month to be even close to comfortable.
Is there anything anyone can think of that maybe I have transferable skills for? Hybrid work really interests me, so does a 4 day work week.
My main ambition in life is acting and writing but I realise I need something stable as well. Thanks guys

Of all of the trilogy's adaptation is it without doubt the best. Season one is rough (to put it mildly), but season two and especially three (Beihai best boy) is where it's shines. It strikes a perfect balance between Netflix and Tencent shows. It's not too rushy and different from the books, but it's also not a literal word-for-word adaptation.
Episodes, despite lasting around 20 minutes each, have it all: dialogues, action, views. I didn't know blocky minecraft people could be so expressive. Everybody should watch it. I'm looking forward to season four.

So despite the fact I desperately want to be pregnant and have a baby. I took some time today to think about the reality we would be facing.... We don't own our house yet as my dad bought it cash and we need to buy the mortgage from him. Our mortgage is going to be 3144$ a month. My partner hasn't done any of his EMT schooling . I just renewed my teaching job for next year and just got my initial license. We are renovating the basement so his co worker can move in you know to help with the astronomical bills and mortgage. I need to stop thinking about what I want and what's going to be best for my future baby. I want them to grow up and have the opportunities to join a sport, for us to go on family vacation etc and give them and my partner a good life where we aren't living on the brink of destitution. So... I've decided after we purchase the mortgage from my father in June I'm going to go back to school for my master's in special education so ill earn 10k more at my job and increase every year while at the same time we will work on making our house safe and updated for a baby to live in. I'm really sad but I know that this is the right thing to do... Right ? We are going to start trying after I get my master's in one year. I guess I'm hoping to hear from you guys , am I making the right move waiting one more year? Will it be less stressful with the salary raise and extra time to get the house ready?

Ok so the title says it all. I finally got accepted to a global financial company after literal recruitinghell recently. I left my current job which I have on my resume because it turned to hell and they laid a bunch of people off. I ended up quitting and taking another job similar title with a small company which I been at for almost two months because I was interviewing with other companies thinking I would end up where I wanted and I didnt. I omitted it from my resume which I felt looked bad and felt it would be used against me during the rigorous interview process becauseI just started it. Now this current place I interviewed at for a month actually offered me the job after 5 interviews!
Enter background check! Ive been getting mixed advice “leave the current job out” “be honest and put it in”. I have a feeling it will come up when I left the other job and took this one. I Left the other one in March and took this one late March. What should I do? I just dont want this causing a rescission in my employment when I made it this far. I have no criminal history and my other jobs i listed and dates on my resume are completely true as well as my school history.
Please let me know if I am overthinking it and what should I do. Thanks guys this group has been very helpful.