Hey yall! I’ve been following this thread a few months. I’m a 32 year old female and I have basic knowledge of cars. Let’s say below basic..: but I follow directions well lol. I drive a 2012 ct200h with 193k so I’m sure yall know what issue I’m having…. DEATH RATTLE 😣😣.
Started maybe 6 months ago, rattles at startup and sometimes on acceleration. I went to my local Midas they did a tune up. Charged me a crazy amount for a tune up. Changed plugs, temp sensor etc. my check engine and coolant sensor lights disappeared for a while but the rattle came back and the check engine light. I’ve recently changed the oil and it was thick but not unusually murky or milky. So I think I should start with cleaning the EGR system.
My question is… am I capable? Is there a YouTube or step by step guide out there? Maybe my brother could do it.. but basically where to start? My mom left me this car when she passed so I’m trying to preserve it if I can. Thanks for your advice in advance!!!

Just wanted to update and thank this subreddit for helping me through the past year and a few months, and give an update to anyone who might be in a 1st DUI situation.
Arrested for DUI in February 2023 in PA(0.12, no accident, just simply pulled over). Completed ARD (12 HR Course, 30 Day suspension, $700 in fines, 6 months unsupervised probation). Started ARD in May 2023, completed class, fines, and all requirements by end of May 2023). Released early from ARD in August of 2023.
Due to the completion of ARD everything from this was supposed to be expunged, however come May 2024 everything is still flagging on a background check. I am currently still working with my legal council to get this expunged, however they basically make it impossible to get a straight answer on how to get everything done and make you jump through lots of hoops and red tape.
My biggest concern through all of this was by far was the criminal record side of things, as I am 23 years old and a young professional in my field. In January 2024, I started a new sales role with an extremely large and well known corporation in my industry and was absolutely terrified about the background check. I ended up coming clean to my hiring manager before the background check, and they were completely understanding as well as never brought the incident up again!
Fast forward to May now, I receive a call from a director at quite literally my dream company asking me if I’d be interested in a new role opening up since they were looking for someone who had past experience using certain systems that I had with my old job I was at when the DUI occurred. This job was a massive pay bump, I would get to move back to my hometown near family and friends, benefits were better, overall just a huge upgrade from what I am doing now.
Then comes the EXTREMELY rigorous background check. I was absolutely terrified I was going to lose this opportunity, as well as I didn’t want to mess up the job I was at currently by telling them I was leaving and having the new job not work out. I always have thought about background checks as a “only give information if asked” situation. However, with them wanting me to start at the end of the month, I simply just couldn’t take it anymore and I brought it up to my hiring manager again. Thank god I did as they were so happy that I was proactive and told them, and informed me it wouldn’t be an issue, and that it might be a different story if I hadn’t been upfront with them!
The charge showed bright as day on my background check, and all I had to do was provide documentation to HR that I had completed the diversion program, as they still hadn’t updated my docket yet saying I have.
Starting my dream job at the end of the month and I couldn’t be happier and more relieved I was able to take this opportunity!!
In my personal opinion when it comes to job hunting and background checks, if it is just a simple DUI no extentuiting circumstances, I would guage the rapport you have with the hiring manager and make that judgement call if you disclose to them or not. I knew mine was going to show up and in my specific situation wanted to control and own up to the situation so there were no surprises later.
The last year and couple months have been the most stressful of my life being a recent college graduate, and I would say forced me to grow up so incredibly fast.
For someone out there like me who was constantly reading this Reddit and having major anxiety, depression, and other issues due to being arrested and charged with a DUI, I promise it gets better with time and getting through it is a hard but good lesson! You will get past this and overcome this, and down the line with it will just be a blip in your timeline. However, always remember how this situation made you feel (I wear a wristband on my wrist every day that I had grabbed from the DMV when I was dealing with my license issues) and use that to make sure whenever you think about making the choice to drive even after a few drinks, YOU DONT!!
Post year and a couple months, I still drink socially, however if I ever have a single drink my car is staying where it is or I won’t have a sip if I know I have my car out with me and need to get it home. Buy that uber!
You are human. You made a mistake. You will prevail and make it out on the other side a better person because of it!!

Hi guys! I've just started a restoration/rebuild project today on my dad's old (1994) GPX600 (it's a non-runner). I was trying to find some details about it (the vin etc) as it's an import. When I found the vin it had - C7 next to it (found it online as was forgot to look on the bike when working on it). What is this number, is it the model number? Would anyone also be able to recommend some websites, to find parts, that will no longer be for sale by Kawasaki?

Hi everyone! I'm graduating from Electrical Engineering at a good Canadian University this May. I've started the full-time job hunt and wanted your input on a couple of things:

1. This is my resume for software, electrical engineering and technical product management roles (I have a slight variant for each): resume - Do you have any suggestions to improve it? I was able to get some good internships using my old resume, but that was two pages; I've left off a bunch of stuff and tried to compress it to one here, so this format is relatively untested for me.
2. I realise this is a super general question, but how should I go about 'valuing' myself in the job market? Would appreciate any thoughts on what sorts of roles I'm actually competitive for and/or what sort of compensation I should be expecting (alternatively, any resources to learn about this and determine it for myself would also be really appreciated). I worked really hard in undergrad and do believe I would be an asset for at least entry-level roles based on my experience, but if I'm incorrect about that (i.e. there's a bunch of recent grads with the same sort of experience), then I would appreciate it if you could share that with me and what I could can do to improve and become competitive.

Thanks so much, appreciate your input!

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The 3 basic parameters of hashtag #Valzubiriagenda:

1. We artists and everyone else can write and self-publish art- and artist-related books: memoirs, biographies, art books and art catalogs. Books are forever. Pamphlets and brochures are not books.
2. We announce a schedule of increasing prices of our art pieces, which includes quantities (scarcity numbers) per price point and overall (the total quantity of art pieces we might ever make). This helps art traders, art investors and art collectors speculate or even stop speculating and instead join a community of investors working together to hopefully skyrocket to the higher announced prices in a shorter span of time.
3. We can use the NFT world, because NFTs provide the tracking (who owns what) and trading.

We can also not be involved with NFTs. Stores and individuals can help sell art using online presence and our catalogs in the stores. If this trends, or once this trends, even expensive art can be sold by neighboring businesses, without exclusivity. Commission systems do not have to be standardized. Art investors can produce their own catalogs to leave at the cafés. Even the cafés can produce their own catalogs.
Valzubiriagenda NFTs
NFTs only came about a few years ago. But I had been working on this since the 1990s. I wrote a book, Valzubiriagenda, along with fellow artist Silverio Perez, and released it in 2018 (Amazon and elsewhere), tackling everything related to #1 & #2. We'll come up with #3 in a later book/ memoi marketing book.
Any artist, including tangible artists can release 10,000 NFTs if the artist chooses to do so. For tangible artists, the NFT first becomes an Art Commission Contract for sight unseen, yet-to-be made art. Once the art is made, the NFT becomes proof of ownership that the actual, tangible art is theirs.
Warehousing our tangible art
Another related idea is that the tangible art may be warehoused by the artist so that the NFT traders continue to trade. This means that even 10-ton 10-foot tall sculptures can be owned and traded by anyone without worrying about shipping, reshipping, scratches, smudges, parts breaking off, etc. The newness of the pieces remain because they are stored by the artist, source, gallery, etc. The art piece gets shipped to the art collector, the ultimate owner.
An artist who makes ceramic coffee mugs - smaller art pieces, can release 10,000 NFTs with a schedule of increasing prices so that NFT traders can trade immediately. The 10,000 coffee mugs can get damaged, so as they are made, they continue to be stored by the artist, until the time when art collectors decide to have the art pieces shipped to them.
Why only now?
I decided to write as many book-length memoirs as I can before I came out to promote this.
I'm an artist and an author. Both need time to "master." I would not even fully use "master" on myself, because there's always something new, even to my own art, my own writing and publishing.

I am now claiming that I'm the visual artist who has produced the most artist memoirs in the world. I have 5 on Amazon. I count Valzubiriagenda as both a marketing book and a memoir-of-sorts, because it has a lot of my own life lessons on writing and publishing. I would not care to contest my claim of having the most memoirs. I will release 5 more over the next 3 years.

BARTER! Get help to write, photograph art and publish your books!
Anyone can hire 11 ghostwriters for 11 memoirs. If you can make art, but you cannot write, then barter your forever art with those who can help you produce forever books.
I don't feel the pressure of writing and publishing because I feel my focus should be on art students and art experts who would study my art and my books 100 years from now. Don't expect relatives and friends to read your books.
I call myself the Dollman
For my NFTs, I am proposing to make dioramas - my original, costumed, bejeweled porcelain dolls in backdrops that will also have precious metals and gemstones. This way I can incorporate precious metals and gemstones in my work, to make sure that people perceive my art as expensive, just in case I myself don't become "famous" - there's no need to get world famous. We are artists and all we need to do is to satisfy the art niche.
Use your laptop now!
I will encourage you to start writing your book-length memoir. Write, Edit and then Self-publish it. Get help. Why wait a hundred years for someone to write about you when all you need is a laptop and a nearby coffee shop.
Don't start counting chickens before the eggs hatch. I have encountered a lot of would-be writers who immediately see themselves as bestselling. world famous assets to society. Two even wanted me to sign NDAs (Nondisclosure agreements), because they did not want me to steal their book ideas.
Here's a suggestion. I would not personally do it. From one manuscript can come 2 books: The Original Draft (unedited, with misspellings, considered to be an art piece, scanned pages(?) of your handwritten original effort), and The Final Edition (edited).
PROVENANCE!
Another way to enhance our investability, tradability and collectability is PROVENANCE - how art ownership proceeds through time. The way this can be done is also through publishing books. Everyone can write their memoirs, biographies, art books and art catalogs, including traders, investors and art collectors. In effect, we artists can continue to be included or mentioned in even more books, without any additional effort by us.
You as an investor, reseller, trader, art collector should be able to publish a catalog with 250 works by 250 different artists, but they need to agree to this right from the start - it's your money, you should require them to follow your version of the hashtag #valzubiriagenda parameters, which preferably should include permission for you to publish their art. Why would you track down 250 artists later?
No exclusive contracts
If you're a café, you can call for artists, and come up with a book with for example, 30 artists, with a chapter devoted to each artist's profile and images of the artist's art.
You can distribute your catalogs to businesses and individuals near and far and online.
The book Valzubiriagenda even cites that funeral homes and janitors closets can sell art, with or without exclusivity. Airline catalogs can include million dollar art pieces. Car manufacturers, showrooms and even car repair shops can sell art as well. Everyone should be able to do this, anywhere in the world, especially not just because of the pandemic, but right now, we are in really bad economies.
What's with the name #Valzubiriagenda
I was into conspiracy theories in 2018, and this term, "The Mandela Effect," was popular. I had read many times that an artist coined the term, but I had to research online, for her name, many times, before remembering it. I'm not good at remembering names. It took me a year and a half to finally tell you that Fiona Broome coined "The Mandela Effect."
I also thought I might have to research trademarks and copyrights just to come up with a generic name. So I decided on "Valzubiriagenda." I was not really sure at first, but I decided to use it as the title for my book (with co-authoartist Silverio Perez) so that there would be no turning back and I can move on.
Am I a FUTURIST?
Someone I recently met this May 2022 just called me a futurist.
In the 1990s, I proposed to a pension fund that they can raise billions of dollars, especially for emergencies, or as needed, or out of desperation, if the pension fund purchases a quantity of art from an artist who not only has a current, reasonable price, but an announced future price that the artist wants to reach.
That future price would obviously be higher than the current price. The art commission contract for multiple art pieces can be taken to the fund's financial lender for a loan. The higher future price can be used for financing purposes.
The pension fund's treasurer, a publicly elected official, said this idea might work, but we had to keep this a secret and discuss this some more, because other pension funds might copy and do this prematurely. This idea had to come from the two of us. The treasurer needed his votes and I needed credentials.
Added into the pot was my idea that I, as the artist, will also write one book-length artist memoir. This was and still is a strong factor, because the leadership and marketing books I had read then mentioned a strong tip. If you want to advance in your field, write a full-length book that is related to the field.
Unfortunately, the elected official, the treasurer of the pension fund, who was also a friend, passed away - he was old and had ailments. At that point in time, I cannot just approach another pension fund treasurer to share this idea with.
I realized I had to write a few memoirs. I needed to set an example for other artists, so I needed to write more than one memoir. Then I felt I should also make ready another book - the how-to of what I'm up to. I wrote Valzubiriagenda, which was a memoir of sorts. I knew how long it would take me to write a book, so I had to make sure I can also consider this book a memoir.
In 2008, I imagined that someone like Bernie Madoff, or a fund like Lehman Brothers, would be desperate enough to use this to save themselves and their companies. I was not ready. I had only written 1 manuscript for a memoir.
In 2012, I released Dollman the Musical, A Memoir of an Artist as a Dollmaker. Once again, I was not ready because writing it depressed me a little, and I knew I had to write more.
In 2014, I released 3 memoirs, and re-released Dollman the Musical. Besides releasing regular books, I released special editions of the 4 books, which had a "Special Secret Insert for Bankers," which explains my ideas of an announced schedule of exponentially increasing prices, to satisfy investors, and the publication of artist memoirs, to satisfy art collectors.
In 2014, I also issued out a press release. Google "Can Billion Dollar Artist Save Investors and World Economy Valentino Zubiri PRWeb August 19 2014" and you will see the press release.
What I did was stake a claim on my ideas. I did not promote my books and the press release. I just wanted them to stay online, like a sleeping giant or a dormant volcano. I even designed 3 of the book covers to look like indie books from the 1980s. I was planting the seeds, thinking they will eventually grow and bear fruit in the future.
In 2015, I was interviewed by Richard Syrett, about one of my memoirs, Hocus Pocus Lately. This book is my memoir with paranormal stories. I could have pursued promoting my paranormal stories, but I wanted to be known first as a visual artist and memoirist, so I allowed myself one interview related to Hocus Pocus Lately. Richard Syrett has(had?) his own syndicated radio show, The Conspiracy Show with Richard Syrett, about the paranormal. He also guest hosts on Coast to Coast AM, another internationally syndicated show about the paranormal.
In 2018, I released Valzubiriagenda (co-authored by artist Silverio Perez, a fellow artist). Finally, this book is "the how-to of what I'm to."
I'm going to end this with some strangeness. In 1986, a lady at a religious gathering went into a trance and left a good number of messages. Supposedly, anyone who got into a trance would have messages, but once the trance was over, the person would not remember what was said.
I was not part of the group, but the lady turned her head to face me. She "foretold" that whatever I would decide to do in the future, it will take time, but it will be the right thing. This is one of my stories in one of my memoirs, Hocus Pocus Lately.
The Tulipmania of 1634-37
I discovered that there was this incident of rare tulips becoming collectible during the Dutch Golden Age. There were tulips so rare and so well-desired that their prices equaled to that of a house. You can read more about this online (Wikipedia) or watch a few YouTube videos about it.
Here is the most useful idea that I gleaned from the Tulipmania. The tulip bulbs remained safe inside nurseries. The traders were carrying the deeds of ownership to the tulip bulbs.
Then NFTs came to the forefront
I started learning PHP, an HTML scripting language, and MySQL, the database that PHP can connect to in the background, in 1999, when there were only 3 books about PHP and MySQL at the bookstores.
By 2014, I was trying to figure out how to make the "ledger," or database that can be used to update ownership and who can be contacted. If we are trading art, then the art ownership should be updated.
Then NFTs came about. This can be used as our ledger. Everyone can immediately trade NFTs of future, yet-to-be made art pieces, especially because it takes time to make tangible art.
NFTs actually went a step ahead, by allowing digital art to be traded.
The only setback with NFTs, in my opinion, is that it still lacks a commission system for resellers and representatives.
For example, if a café wants to represent me, then they can promote me at their café and on their online pages. If I make one piece of art that will be exclusively represented by a gallery, then that commission will be different and more specific. As ownership is transferred, the subsequent owners should be able to reset the commission. We should also have the option of giving commissions to hundreds of representatives at one time with different percentages if need be.
The recent crypto crash
Lately, we have observed that NFTs and cryptocurrencies have been behaving like the stock market and other markets. They have been fluctuating.
I believe that it is time for a trend which discourages fluctuation of prices.
I have also seen YouTube videos where social influencers are encouraging us to be on the lookout for exponentially profitable ventures, because we have all seen this happen with the exponential increase of Bitcoin and Ethereum.
Let's see if #Valzubiriagenda trends
We can announce present and future art prices. The galleries won't do this (yet?) because they follow a more traditional approach to the business of art.
We have a choice of using incrementally or exponentially increasing prices. We still reserve the right to change things in the future, so everyone should know to follow the latest update.
If this trends, if you as an artist simply announces that you will write an artist memoir, or that you will include the future works in future art books, you might have more art traders, investors and collectors approaching you.
Get your pen, paper and calculator
Imagine yourself as an artist, where you are right now. Let's just say you still do not have a book about yourself and your art yet. Imagine now that you have a memoir out there. Don't you think it makes sense to charge more than what you are charging now? Writing and publishing books is just the beginning. I'm just standardizing this approach. The books also say to do other related projects. In my case, getting Dollman the Musical onstage is one idea. You will have other related projects, but the publication of memoirs, biographies, art books and art catalogs will help all of us.
You can also imagine that a law firm that has meeting rooms, with someone who wants to form a local #valzubiriagenda group, can have meetings. A local café can do the same. Local photographers for your art, writers, editors, book designers, proofreaders and others can join in.
I suggest have printed books to share. 15 copies of your memoir or art books will be better than an e-reader or laptop or your phone to show. These gadgets can be stolen, sabotaged, broken, have coffee spilled on them, etc. 15 printed books means simultaneously showing to 15 people. You can even give them away to potential resellers, investors, traders and collectors.
When it rains, it pours, as in the days of Noah
There's a saying, "When it rains, it pours." There is a negative interpretation and a positive interpretation.
Negative: When trouble comes, they cascade to even more.
Positive: When opportunity comes knocking, more follow suit. We can assume that if one gets our art because of #valzubiriagenda, more want to do it now, because of the rising prices, and FOMO - fear of missing out. What will they lose if they miss the boat?
As I have said earlier, if the #valzubiriagenda trends, if you announce a future memoir or art catalog, you might have an increase of investors, traders and art collectors who would want to check you out. You might encourage more sales. Just remember to write and publish that memoir and art catalog.
There's this saying, "As in the days of Noah." Imagine Noah, building his ark, with members of his own family, putting all his time and effort into it. Noah was a nice guy. I'm sure every once in a while a neighbor offered him coffee, or chai latte, or whatever refreshing drink they might have back then.
Here's the lesson to be learned. Just because they offered him some type of bubble tea drink, or coca cola, they still didn't make it to the ark. Rubbing shoulders with actors does not make you an actor. I have told my artist friends to write their memoirs. They told me that once they see me succeed, after all these many years of seeing my seemingly useless efforts, then they will write their memoirs and follow the road that I had paved for them.
Good luck to them, but if I were you, act now, get my art or make art. Support the 5-year old artist whose parent promised to release a comprehensive art catalog. If you get that 5-year old's art, and mine, I would be honored to be in the same art catalog that you will produce. I'm already successful at that point. You have gotten the mission just right.
I have already claimed to have written the most book-length artist memoirs in the world. Dethrone that claim. Barter. Use ghostwriters. Success to me means facing God one day and saying, I wrote my memoirs and left the world a legacy of books and art. I will not tell God, smiling and proudly, that I encouraged a run for my art by announcing a schedule of exponentially increasing prices that reached 9 figures. I'm sure God knows we had fun.

JOIN THIS GROUP

If you want to try out #valzubiriagenda, in any capacity, join this group. Let others know about this group as well.
If you are an artist, you can let everyone know here that you will produce your memoir, art catalogs, etc. It's okay if you don't know how to go about publishing yet, I will discuss this. Please be honorable enough to produce what you promise to produce.
If you want to meet fellow artists, investors, resellers, etc., join us here.
If you are a book writer, editor, proofreader; if you can photograph art pieces; if you are a book designer, etc., join us here. Let us know if you charge, barter for art, or both.
If you have your own tips and knowledge to share, join us here.
If you have underaged artists you are managing (parents, etc.) join us here.
Join this group if you want to sell works. Post your works. You web links. I'm sure I will.
You can announce meetings in your area. You might have meeting rooms, a café, restaurant, etc. where people can meet. In the future, you can have the regular show and tell, where books can be shown and shared.
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Thanks for reading. Please let me know if I need to edit some parts. Please share and join this group. - Valentino Zubiri, Dollman, Artist, Memoirist
Underaged artists are welcome here, so please be mindful of your language. We cannot post your adult-oriented art pieces, but you can direct us to a separate page or community. There will be limits to your posts, and there will be adult-oriented art that we cannot allow to be posted.
Thanks for reading. Please let me know if I need to edit some parts. Please share and join this group. - Valentino Zubiri, Dollman, artist & memoirist

Hello! New here so sorry if I make any mistakes.
I drive a 2016 chevy sonic and I have been having an over heating problem with it for a while. It was leaking coolant and I thought that was the issue so I was just topping it off as needed. This worked for a a while but it started overheating even with coolant in it. I tried to replace the water pump and thermostat but it was still overheating. I took it to the dealer and they replaced the pump, thermostat, fixed the leak, replaced the coolant outlet, and flushed the system. It's still overheating. They said it was likely just a sensor that was misreading, but my AC cuts off when the alert goes off. I'm not sure if this is just something the car does, or if the AC fails because the engine is too hot. They also said it might be a piston issue, but the car drives 100% fine. These repairs cost me almost $2500 and I'm out of funds and I have got to get this car working. I have a 3 month old daughter and I can't put her in it because the AC stops working after 10 minutes. Any ideas would be helpful.

Guys, My Grandfather started the business of Plastic Injection Moulding alongside his Government Job majorly manufacturing Stationery Items like Scale, Protector, Set Squares, Stencils in 1982. At that point according to my father there were not much competition. In 1991, My Father graduated from his diploma. He took part in Business at the age of just 20. For few years, My Father worked with My grandfather. Till 1996, My Father started working solely. Grandfather just focused on his job till the 2007 or 2008 when he retired.
My father died in 2022. After that My grandfather started looking after business. I also started taking part in. But I don't know If I ever contributed significantly. I overtook the accounting part which I guess didn't do it properly due to my lack of knowledge.
Currently Our Family Business is in shambles. We are struggling to make ends meet. Paying rent, maintaining employees salary, electricity bills are getting difficult.
Reason I think:

1. Grandfather despite not accepting was just too out of the loop. Since the last time he intervened, Everything had changed incredibly. There are more challenges. And Honestly I doubt he ever actually looked into business day to day working. Back then as I had been told, Factory used to work at the ground floor of our residence while family lived at first floor. My grandmother used to look after employees and day to day working. My Grandfather probably just looked over the cash flow. So He was not accustomed to entirety of business and competition. Also he is 78. So that also goes in the factor.
   
2. I think I never actually put my 100% efforts. I guess I just was privileged asshole. My father always told me and my brother to put efforts in our education. He dreamt of us getting best education he could provide. Since that was the only thing I need to do in my childhood (apart from playing. Don't think that studying was the only thing I did. It was only in my JEE phase.), I was able to put my entire efforts in education and score good marks. But after my father death, I just wasn't able to give my 100% to either of business or studies. Due to which, I think both of them suffered.
   
3. My Father always discouraged us from getting into family business. Primary reason was my grandfather intervention in business and not letting my father do what he wished to do. He thought that argument within three generation in family which may be caused is not good and worth it. I think It does make sense. Secondary He thought that For the struggle in business, Money you earn is not worth it. After I took engineering, He also believed that job in IT is more worth it. This is also expansion why I just wasn't able to give my 100%. I was in very much dilemma since I feel that getting into family business is kinda betraying him.
   
4. Some client took the benefit of our father's death. They are not taking our calls and not paying the amount due.
   
5. I am not entirely sure about this but after DOMS IPO was released, Niche product line we used to work in majorly came crushing down. This is what my grandfather had been claiming.
   

Now, Tell me whether should I continue it or not? Should I just focus my efforts on just jobs? I am not entirely sure what I want to do. A part of me says business but part of me says IT job. But market for IT job does not look good. I am questioning whether or not I would be able to land job or not? My Grandfather doesn't wish to close the business. I cannot see my grandfather working. His body is clearly not in the state. If I get into job then burden on him would just increase. Currently I go with him via Activa. Sometimes he does go by public transport though whenever I am not available.
Even if I wish to go in business then there are these problem:

1. Grandfather intervention. If I would get into it, I would want the complete control where I could proceed the business the way I would want. I plan to stop the stationery products and instead focus on other plastic products like Fan Blades, Automotive parts etc.
   
2. Input Cost: I would like to replace our old machinery with new better and larger machinery. My grandfather looks kinda against it stating old machinery is working but I don't know. They break often. As I was able to see, Most people had started using modern machinery. I read that modern machinery would be more energy efficient and would break down less. But New Machinery even used would cost a lot.
   
3. I had deep interest in technology. I have fun while programming. This feels like betraying that too. This is just on the top of betraying my father.
   

Kindly help me. I am incredibly confused.

Hello Reddit users and friends, I am a 42-year-old male currently navigating a complex separation from my 36-year-old wife. We've been married for 14 years and together for 16. We have only one child, and I manage a business that I originally started over a decade ago and she joined as a helper 2 years ago.
Despite our plans to support each other as friends post-separation, I'm finding it increasingly difficult to cope with the situation, especially the idea of dating again.
Context for our situation:

• Relationship Foundation: We both had minimal dating experience prior to our marriage, which might have affected our relationship dynamics. We never cheated on each other.
• Career and Financial Support: I have financially supported her through three different career paths, including her current roles as an engineer and a teacher, without expecting financial contribution to our household. Contrary to her feelings and dis-approval of any of my support, I've always encouraged her career development and she saved every Penney she made into her own personal savings by working in both careers.
• Legal and Financial Arrangements: Our marriage included a pre-nup, which we later revised into a post-nup due to ongoing relationship issues, detailing the separation of our property and a 2-year promise to assist her with a lump-sum after divorce when / if it happens.
• Family Dynamics: There have been ongoing challenges with family acceptance on both sides. She has repeatedly criticized my racial and religious-sect and all of my roots and background, even my fatherhood (i am a good father as i get compliments from strangers and i feel content about my fatherhood abilities, often shown in my kid's sports, school, and character) and she pretty much criticizes everything about me which has caused further isolation.
• Mental Health: I suffered a serious depression about five years ago, which led me to seek therapy. Although the therapy was beneficial, she was dismissive and even ridiculed the process, which strained our relationship further.
• Social Isolation: My social life has been significantly isolated to a few friends, which includes a few straight friends and two gay friends. Total isolation from women friends (she is very jealous) This isolation was exacerbated by her jealousy and reluctance to engage socially with my acquaintances or partake in my planned activities.
• Exploration of Sexuality: In an attempt to cope with our marital issues, I explored my sexuality with a friend, with her initial and complete consent (started about 16 months ago and went on for a few weeks and had stopped since 14 months ago due to the added criticism and drama, i tested him for STDs before, and tested after-wards, and she saw all the tests before and after). This later became a point of contention and she punished me by isolating me from any intimacy with her or any other human being for 5 months which i agreed to in-order to avoid divorce. Again, i never cheated on her, she approved every thing and she had met my friend as well ! I did not mind having sex with him, was socially very rewarding and approving of my character as opposed to my distant wife's dis-approval, but i missed having sex with her, as we had a successful sex life (which she also criticizes the next day but feels satisfied in the moment with a positive feedback of "amazing" and the like) however, i am not socially happy with her ! She also met a guy back then, over a year ago, but she never became intimate with him, and i had approved.
• Physical Abuse: She had punched me very strongly once on the chest, which was very painful for 2 weeks and hindered my ability to exercise well, and had hit me another time before-hand but was not as painful, i never hit back, i am a muscular guy so i wouldn't dare out of fear of causing a serious harm.

Specific Challenges:

• Despite our separation, we are still living and working together but are physically and emotionally distant.
• I am grappling with feelings of loneliness and isolation, compounded by the emotional toll of our strained relationship. I am seeking therapy just so you know, i am fine.
• There is a lingering feeling of being misunderstood and unfairly judged, not just by her but also by her family, and i tend to be a sensitive person, had my own childhood trauma as well.
• The situation has left me questioning my readiness to date again, as my feelings for her wane daily, and i feel, well, just over-whelmed sometimes, i still do my fitness routine and i work hard.

Questions for the Community:

1. For those who have navigated a long-term relationship breakup, especially under complex circumstances, how did you manage the emotional fallout ?
2. When and how did you decide you were ready to start dating again? Were there specific signs or milestones that helped you realize it was time?

I’m looking for guidance, personal stories, or any advice that could help me understand how to move forward emotionally and socially. Thank you in advance for your support and insights.
I am usually social, have a good sense of humor, and respectful, and i love people. She tends to be reserved and she is also likeable by people. She does NOT take pride in being next to me out in public, but all my friends enjoy my company and i am known to be a respectful and fun to be around. Enough said about our characters, we are both average and never had any troubles with the law.

After 10+ years of just open world I think I finally have enough of an understanding to try something else. So, as the headline says, what are good, relatively easy to learn, and in demand support builds for fractals and good support builds for WvW? Is support more in demand than dps?
My profession preferences are mesmer, engineer, and revenant, but anything other than elementalist is still of interest (I'm not good at elemetnalist rotations). I also have all the expansions and living world episodes, so I can do ritualist if needed.
There is a plethora of builds on various sites as well as old outdated posts, so it is a bit difficult to figure out what is good and relevant.

Hello everyone..im in the market for a used car. Im looking to put around 7-8 thousand down and finance the additional 5-8 thousand. For reference I'm a single dad of a 13 yr old girl. She plays both travel hockey and travel lacrosse,so lugging around equipment is a mandatory. In this case...size matters a lil bit. I have a few cars that I'm looking at. Today I went to look at a 2018 BMW 430i Gran Coupe. I think this car looks great and was excited to go see it. The photos are here. It's a dark grey with black leather. Beautiful 1 owner car. When i got there i was shocked to see that it's substantially lower to the ground than I originally thought. This doesn't completely cross it off my list but it is definitely giving me some pause. Let me also point out that i understand these are all luxury brand vehicles that are substantialy more expensive to maintain. Theyre also relatively high mileage vehicles. In my price range i am somewhat confined to a higher mileage car....The others I'm considering are:
2015 BMW 535I X drive with 91,000 miles. It's white with black leather. Dealer is asking 14,941 + 995 dealer fee and 6% sales tax
2015 AUDI SQ5 3.0T Prestige with 153,000 miles. It's grey with black leather. Dealer is asking 10,278 + 995 dealer fee + 6% sales tax
2012 Range Rover Sport HSE with 104,000 miles. It's Navy blue with tan leather. Dealer is asking $11,559 + 995 and 6% sales tax
Lastly the BMW 430i Gran Coupe is a 2018 with X drive and 125,000 mile. The dealer is asking $13,299 plus 995 dealer fee and 6% sales tax.
After putting the 7-8 thousand down my payments would be between 125-175 per month over a 36 month lease.
Here are the pics and thanks in advance to anyone who read this far

29 years old w/ a 3 month old and a SAH GF 1.3M in real estate w/ 325k mortgage debt 50k in Roth IRA 100+K in cash and stocks 49% interest in a company that does 2 million in sales a year 100% interest in a smoke shop/vape store that does 9k a month in sales. It cost 5.5k to stay open each month that’s employees, rent, and utilities. Merchandise cost 3,600 a month. I had a partner who left the business to me for $1 so he could go back to school. I spent all of the money to open the store and thought he would run it. After 4 years, he bounced. I had a job making 200k a year, but I can’t find a comparable one without moving and uprooting my family.
I’m burnt out and looking for some help to get to the next level. Im thinking about selling all of my properties and trying to sell my vape shop for whatever anyone will give me. If I could figure out how to get another million or two, i think I would be set.

Hey there! I am a 23 year old guy, and im looking for my special someone.
I am 190cm(6'3) tall, I have short black hair, hazel eyes. My hobbies are driving, working on my car, going to the gym, play video games, listen to music and watch YouTube videos, and also play with my dog too :D I go to university to be an IT Engineer and also work part time aswell.
I am a very cuddly person, very loyal, honest, and I like giving all of my attention to the person who's important for me. If we'd get closer, I'd love to spend all my freetime with you and chat/voice call a lot, and hopefully develop a long lasting relationship, and hopefully it'll turn to irl in the future.
I'm looking for a girl who's also cuddly, clingy, kind, sweet, and who'd also be a good Passenger Princess 😋
If you'd be interested in chatting and getting to know each other, send me a message :)

I (30M) have been a carrier for about a year and a half. Most of the time I carry the same route, especially if the regular on the route is sick or on vacation. I love that route. Almost every interaction I have is positive, and I just ride around slangin' mail, listening to podcasts, and smiling and waving at everyone I see.
My route is almost entirely regular mailboxes, with only one cluster box for the entire route. While at this cluster box as I'm finishing up, I see a car pull up and an old woman in the passenger seat. I smile and wave, and she does the same. Then I look up again and the driver is walking up to me. She is aggressive from the outset, asking if I'm the one that's been delivering mail lately. I say "yes ma'am." She launches into a tirade about how she's been getting all kinds of other people's mail (there's no way she's gotten more than one or two other people's letters), to which I immediately apologize. Not good enough. Then she tells me she's waiting on a very important letter, and that it better NOT end up in someone else's box.
By now I'm done, and I start to leave. I'm sitting in my truck, engine going. She's parked behind me, blocking the entire complex (it's one small parking lot with only one row). She starts lazily opening and reading her mail, still standing at the cluster box. I wait about a minute and politely ask her if she could park so I could get out. She says "I'm almost finished!" as if I had just broken some terrible rule of etiquette and she couldn't believe how impatient I was. After another minute or two, she finally leaves.
I'm absolutely fuming, and kind of caught off guard because I've never had anyone be so rude to me while carrying mail. Usually people are nice and look out for carriers. Unfortunately, I had an open can of soda that I had removed from it's secure area to grab something, and I was so frazzled it spilled as I pulled out of the complex, which led to me shouting "you fucking bitch!" as I'm delivering mail on the most dangerous road of my route with cars zooming past me.
I know I shouldn't let situations like that affect me so much, but I just have a hard time dealing with rude people. I'm nice to you, why can't you be nice to me? Couldn't stop thinking about it for the rest of the day. On a side note, I feel sorry for the old woman in the passenger seat. She seemed nice. Probably gets abused by that bully.

Hi everyone! I checked for a question similar to mine, but wasn't able to find much, so hopefully I could get some guidance please.
I'm a 39 year old man currently working as a Systems AdministratoNetwork EngineeDevOps in Cheyenne, Wyoming, U.S.. I don't have a degree and only have my A+ cert, but currently working on my Bachelors in Cybersecurity from WGU (which will also get me my Net+ and Sec+ certifications). I've been in IT for about 20 years in a variety of these roles as well. My Japanese language skills are low, but I'm studying daily and working towards conversational fluency at the minimum.
I'm not entirely sure how to phrase this question, but I've wanted to live in Japan since I was little and I'm wondering if it's going to be possible for me to work and live in Japan doing IT work this late in my life? Also, with my experience, is it still possible without a degree? I guess I'm not entirely sure what options I have or what I need to do to make this happen. Any advice is greatly appreciated, thank you all!