Sister jerkoff brother

Like everybody else, I was hyped after seeing Claire’s vision of him thinking of a possibility he could’ve been the next big bad guy.
After his official appearance meeting with William, I hated his guts being another arrogant smug elite on everybody around him, including his brother-in-law. Blaming him for everything.
After he took up the investigation, Haley showed William some respect for putting his life on the line to save his sister, so I figured I could give him some respect back.
His first interaction was John still being a douche was more reactionary than anything else and if John had kept his school, then they could’ve possibly had a better chat.
Now he’s kind of hard to define I wouldn’t go as far as to say he’s an ally, but he’s definitely going to get involved with them so temporary alliance.
I am curious to see whatever everyone else is thoughts are.

My brother told me today his oldest son molested his little sister. He's 17 she's 11. I know nothing more beyond that statement.
I have just been staring at the walls all day since I found out. My nephew is from my brother's now ex-wife first relationship. She was no big winner either she ended up being evicted to drugs and abandoning him and the two kids she had with my brother years ago he's been raising them all by himself and even adopted his stepson. But he is not had an easy life like I said he had an addict to mother who abandoned him and his brother and sister, his biological father nearly beat him to death when he was 3 years old. He's been a good kid despite all of this yeah he's had his struggles and his behavior problems but even being part of our family hasn't been easy for him my mother but a very ugly side of herself show in the way she treated him, because he wasn't one of us. Honestly something I'm not sure I can really forgve her for. Because from the moment this little boy came into my life he has been my nephew. grew up with my sons can spend so much time with me I have never ever referred to him as my brother's stepson or my step nephew or step cousin he is always just been part of our family. I cannot reconcile that with what he did.
Everybody thinks that I should just cast him off but I can't compartmentalize like that he is still my nephew she is my niece. All I want is to understand why this has happened to our family.
I just want to take all of this pain that my niece is feeling and release her from it. I want my family to be okay again. I don't know if I can emotionally handle what's coming. How do we recover how we move on. At 17 my nephew is looking at going to jail to prison when this comes out and it will because secrets like this don't stay secret. My niece's life has been permanently changed for the worse. All of my mother sits there gloating I told you he was no good from the beginning. The indignation that she is giving my brother and I right now because she feels her racism towards her half black step grandson was finally justified. Honestly I'm not sure I'll ever be able to really look her in the face the same way again.
How do I tell my sons their 22 and 21 and their cousin has been stuck to the like glue since he was 5. Then I have a 7 year old who thinks the world took cousin and is on the autistic spectrum he will never understand.
The other thing is he leaves now on his own with nothing and no one in the world to lean on again. It's 17 leaving home with a bus pass and a few hundred dollars.
Or he takes matters into his own hands.
There's no good outcome for any of us.

I tried to post here before but my account was too new. Scroll bellow for previous post, as I ended up going back with my husband.
UPDATE: I ended up coming back. I knew right away it was a terrible decision, but I did it anyways. I ended up losing my father and my grandparents because of it. I contacted my mom this time to try and help me.
I haven’t seen my mom since the day I left, and not seeing her has been such a traumatic experience for me. He tells me I need to move on from my family, that they don’t love me, that everyone’s moved on from me, that I’m living in the past and in a fantasy world, that I’m obsessed with my family (despite me never seeing them), and that I STILL need to choose between them or us.
I planned this for multiple months. I saved up money on the side, got a plan made for when he left, even went as far as finding an apartment. I did everything I needed to do. I paid for my mom to rent a car and she drove 700 miles in 10 hours to come and get me, but right at the last second I got too afraid. I will never forget the image of seeing my mom outside the window and waving to her crying because I couldn’t go outside. There are security cameras all over the house. I unplugged the Wi-Fi and said to myself I at least want to hug my mom, but even with no cameras on I was too afraid to go outside.
I’m not allowed to go out on my own, anywhere, not even to walk on the sidewalk. My husband has told me I can leave if that’s what I want, but no matter how much I try, I can’t. I feel like a bird trapped with the door open. I keep contemplating between stay and go. I even told my husband my brother passed away and I wanted to go to his funeral, he was so emotionless and barely responded to me, telling me it was unfortunate but he sees no good in me going to his funeral. I tried to ask him for help in convincing his parents I was going to travel for work or something, since they’d never be happy about me going and traveling on my own. He didn’t agree to it, said he can’t do anything for me and ultimately told me to do what I want and I’m already making decisions on my own anyways, which I clearly haven’t..
I feel like I’m crazy and losing my mind, he tells me there’s something wrong with me and that I’m a terrible wife, that after marriage my priority is my new family and I need to move on from my own family, even though I’ve been here for so many years taking care and supporting his. In the end my mom had to turn back, bawling and screaming she won’t leave without me, looking at her daughter through a window trying everything to get me to come out, but I begged her to leave and said I don’t need help.
So many attempts to leave but ultimately failing, it’s as if he can do anything to me and I’d stay, my mom was saying she won’t be living long and she hasn’t gotten to see her daughter in so long, and I couldn’t go out of the house. His parents were gone to pickup his sister from school and he’s out of the state until Thursday. Someone please help me because I feel like I’m going insane
PREVIOUS POST: My situation is too complex for anyone to get all of the details, but to summarize some main points:

1. My husband and I have been married for 10+ years, I’m 29.
2. We have lived with his family this entire time. Two parents, and his little sister who was 1 when I married him.
3. We have had very very rough times over the years with his arguing and verbal abuse.
4. I have not been allowed to see my family this entire time. His parents don’t approve of women traveling alone and on top of that, don’t agree with it because they’re afraid of culture mixing (I am white American my husband is of another eastern culture).

Which is the main thing that led to the decision of me leaving. A few months back, I tried to put my foot down and say I want to see my family. It turned into a huge argument in the house and in the end he gave me an ultimatum that I either accept never seeing my family again or I can leave them.
It was such a traumatic experience, 10 years of your life given to a husband and family and all those years of sacrifice only to be told an ultimatum such as this. When I informed my family of my situation they were shocked and told me to leave immediately.
After a week of watching me cry and panic and him still not changing his mind, I pulled out a suitcase, changed my direct deposit and said “I guess I need to leave then.” My husband was shocked and started to guilt trip me saying he can’t believe I’d choose my family over them, and how it’s so messed up.
He even tried to convince me that my family doesn’t actually love or care about me. Saying that him and his family had always taken such good care of me (which they did), and that I’d be making a huuuge mistake.
Finally, he decided he would bend a bit and allow me to to visit my family. First, he wanted to come, until I told him my family will not even allow me to visit unless I was visiting alone. They didn’t want to see him or have anything to do with him.
So then he said I can go on my own, but, the only reason I’m even able to go is because he has a work trip scheduled for the same day and my flight and his flight would come back on the same day and time so his family would have no idea I went to see my family, they think I’m going with him.
All of this is a huge mess. In the last few weeks since he booked my flight, he has been saying all the right things, being sweet and kind and caring, but I feel like he’s just doing all this so that I don’t leave, as the entire situation in itself is so controlling.
We have bought a house and have been in the process as a family of fixing it up, decorating it, and literally planning an entire move and our whole future these last few months. Except in my head I’m wanting to just end things. When I visit my family this week, they do not want me to come back.
This will traumatize his family, especially his little sister who grew up with me around, and they also had two other sons leave home, and have been traumatized for years because of it. I feel so guilty that I will be adding to their trauma by leaving.
But no one cares about the trauma I have gone through over the years, and not being able to have any freedom to have friends or see my family, or even go out on my own, I’m completely isolated at home and have not known the real world in so long.
I have my families support to do this, but I am just so afraid that I’m going to feel guilt the rest of my life for ruining their entire plans and livelihood. Please, I need advice.

I tried to post here before but my account was too new. Scroll bellow for previous post, as I ended up going back with my husband.
UPDATE: I ended up coming back. I knew right away it was a terrible decision, but I did it anyways. I ended up losing my father and my grandparents because of it. I contacted my mom this time to try and help me.
I haven’t seen my mom since the day I left, and not seeing her has been such a traumatic experience for me. He tells me I need to move on from my family, that they don’t love me, that everyone’s moved on from me, that I’m living in the past and in a fantasy world, that I’m obsessed with my family (despite me never seeing them), and that I STILL need to choose between them or us.
I planned this for multiple months. I saved up money on the side, got a plan made for when he left, even went as far as finding an apartment. I did everything I needed to do. I paid for my mom to rent a car and she drove 700 miles in 10 hours to come and get me, but right at the last second I got too afraid. I will never forget the image of seeing my mom outside the window and waving to her crying because I couldn’t go outside. There are security cameras all over the house. I unplugged the Wi-Fi and said to myself I at least want to hug my mom, but even with no cameras on I was too afraid to go outside.
I’m not allowed to go out on my own, anywhere, not even to walk on the sidewalk. My husband has told me I can leave if that’s what I want, but no matter how much I try, I can’t. I feel like a bird trapped with the door open. I keep contemplating between stay and go. I even told my husband my brother passed away and I wanted to go to his funeral, he was so emotionless and barely responded to me, telling me it was unfortunate but he sees no good in me going to his funeral. I tried to ask him for help in convincing his parents I was going to travel for work or something, since they’d never be happy about me going and traveling on my own. He didn’t agree to it, said he can’t do anything for me and ultimately told me to do what I want and I’m already making decisions on my own anyways, which I clearly haven’t..
I feel like I’m crazy and losing my mind, he tells me there’s something wrong with me and that I’m a terrible wife, that after marriage my priority is my new family and I need to move on from my own family, even though I’ve been here for so many years taking care and supporting his. In the end my mom had to turn back, bawling and screaming she won’t leave without me, looking at her daughter through a window trying everything to get me to come out, but I begged her to leave and said I don’t need help.
So many attempts to leave but ultimately failing, it’s as if he can do anything to me and I’d stay, my mom was saying she won’t be living long and she hasn’t gotten to see her daughter in so long, and I couldn’t go out of the house. His parents were gone to pickup his sister from school and he’s out of the state until Thursday. Someone please help me because I feel like I’m going insane
PREVIOUS POST: My situation is too complex for anyone to get all of the details, but to summarize some main points:

1. My husband and I have been married for 10+ years, I’m 29.
2. We have lived with his family this entire time. Two parents, and his little sister who was 1 when I married him.
3. We have had very very rough times over the years with his arguing and verbal abuse.
4. I have not been allowed to see my family this entire time. His parents don’t approve of women traveling alone and on top of that, don’t agree with it because they’re afraid of culture mixing (I am white American my husband is of another eastern culture).

Which is the main thing that led to the decision of me leaving. A few months back, I tried to put my foot down and say I want to see my family. It turned into a huge argument in the house and in the end he gave me an ultimatum that I either accept never seeing my family again or I can leave them.
It was such a traumatic experience, 10 years of your life given to a husband and family and all those years of sacrifice only to be told an ultimatum such as this. When I informed my family of my situation they were shocked and told me to leave immediately.
After a week of watching me cry and panic and him still not changing his mind, I pulled out a suitcase, changed my direct deposit and said “I guess I need to leave then.” My husband was shocked and started to guilt trip me saying he can’t believe I’d choose my family over them, and how it’s so messed up.
He even tried to convince me that my family doesn’t actually love or care about me. Saying that him and his family had always taken such good care of me (which they did), and that I’d be making a huuuge mistake.
Finally, he decided he would bend a bit and allow me to to visit my family. First, he wanted to come, until I told him my family will not even allow me to visit unless I was visiting alone. They didn’t want to see him or have anything to do with him.
So then he said I can go on my own, but, the only reason I’m even able to go is because he has a work trip scheduled for the same day and my flight and his flight would come back on the same day and time so his family would have no idea I went to see my family, they think I’m going with him.
All of this is a huge mess. In the last few weeks since he booked my flight, he has been saying all the right things, being sweet and kind and caring, but I feel like he’s just doing all this so that I don’t leave, as the entire situation in itself is so controlling.
We have bought a house and have been in the process as a family of fixing it up, decorating it, and literally planning an entire move and our whole future these last few months. Except in my head I’m wanting to just end things. When I visit my family this week, they do not want me to come back.
This will traumatize his family, especially his little sister who grew up with me around, and they also had two other sons leave home, and have been traumatized for years because of it. I feel so guilty that I will be adding to their trauma by leaving.
But no one cares about the trauma I have gone through over the years, and not being able to have any freedom to have friends or see my family, or even go out on my own, I’m completely isolated at home and have not known the real world in so long.
I have my families support to do this, but I am just so afraid that I’m going to feel guilt the rest of my life for ruining their entire plans and livelihood. Please, I need advice.

Hi, brothers and sisters, i've come to ask prayers for my younger brother, Miguel, who is very ill at the moment.
He spent the last few weeks weak and sick, we didn't know why. After several medical tests we found that his rates were much lower than normal and that his immune system was weakened, and the new tests indicate that he some kind of autoimmune disease. At that moment he was urgently taken to the hospital to receive IV fluids, as he is very weak. I'm very worried for him, i would be very grateful for any prayers.

Hello! My name is Joesph! I’m 27 years young. I have a 11 month old daughter named Izabella she’s my world! I work 3rd shifts as an Operations Supervisor. A little about me, I’m a major fan of Star Wars LOTR and Harry Potter. I watch a little bit of anime but not a whole bunch. I’m a very outgoing person. I tend to shy away from people in real life as my anxiety tends to get the best of me but I’ve been working on it. I have a vast variety of interests. I love to go hiking or just being outside. I play some video games here and there. I’m a huge horror fan! I’m a big sports fan as well’ I also love muscle cars. I collect watches, embroidered patches, and playing cards. I’m the black sheep in my family that being said I have 2 sisters and a brother. I love to learn I’m always looking up a topic or listening to a podcast. In my opinion knowledge is power and the only dumb question is the one that’s not asked. I have zero interest in people who are rude and have zero morals. Respect is a huge thing for me. I’ll always respect your boundaries please do the same for me. I have a miniature schnauzer! Her name is Rosie! If I sound like someone you could be friends with please don’t hesitate to message me! No matter what you choose I hope you have an amazing day!

It was the guy, his brother in law, sister in law. His actual brother and sister were in the house playing ping pong. I was able to see them thru the window. Then a few minutes later, the dad came down to cook lunch on the grill. The mom was also outside. Why?

It was the guy, his brother in law, sister in law. His actual brother and sister were in the house playing ping pong. I was able to see them thru the window. Then a few minutes later, the dad came down to cook lunch on the grill. The mom was also outside. Why?

Idk what it is but I just know something big is coming and I can’t wait to be there with you brothers and sisters!

I am suspicious of the kindly empyrean. To assume that he acts beneficently is to have already concluded that he does not share the same ambition and drive as his siblings. Or that his goals are somehow better. But he may want his own dynasty or to devour the world in his own, uniquely selfish way.
And, he is close to achieving that goal. His competition has, thanks to our tarnished, largely been eliminated. His brother, The Impaler, is essentially the last remaining opponent in the competition to be Marika's successor. He needs our help to destroy him.
Miquella has enchanted us for the entire game. He has given us gifts in the forms of weapons, consumables, and even his trusty steed - all of which aid our tarnished in clearing out his competition. And, those gifts endear us to Miquella; they foster our loyalty to him.
The other rune-bearers have strength and might in magic and combat. They can hold back the stars and level battlefields. But what is the cursed, forever-child Miquella supposed to do? He endears. He invents spells for his father and gives needles to his sister. He moonlights as the much-loved St. Trina.
But these acts are not kindly - at least not 'kindly' as it's commonly understood. I think it is more meant ironically. The ancient Greeks were so terrified of The Furies (fearsome deities of fate and retribution) that they preferred not refer to them by name, but instead as 'the kindly ones.' He does not bloom: he blesses. He does not graft: he gifts.
In the DLC trailer, the narrator specifically mentions that they chose to follow Miquella. Did they? Why mention 'choice' at all? Are those whose affection is compelled aware of the compulsion? Has our tarnished choicelessly pursued a path methodically charted out by the Unalloyed?
Miquella is an empyrean. All empyrean who have ascended to godhood have had their champion, their Elden Lord. Miquella is no different than his mother or his sister, Ranni. Behind it all is one giant, selfish scheme to achieve godhood.

(Sorry about the english, not my first language)
Ok, i’m trying to watch this anime again, cause I never actually ended It, but i really do not remember the name.
I think the title is the name of the 2 principal characters, a blond girl and a brunnet boy. It’s a 80’s anime set on the nazi europe, maybe Austria? Somewhere where a song called “Edelweiss” was important, that was a “shout” that the nation was against the nazis.
We follow a young girl. When she was a toddler she was on a plane accident with her parents (they were attacked by nazis). A farmer and his son found her and raised her, that sob will be her love interest in the future. When she was like 8 they sent her to a nurse school? To a convent?
Wathever, the time goes by and she’s 14 and she’s a nurse. And she has a talking parrot (since she was young) who is her companion. She receives a letrer from her “brother”, that was going to visit her, but everythun goes downhill from there.
There’s a nazi french blond guy who is osessed with her and have a gun and uses it a lot, he kidnapa her and the “brother” needs rescue her.
That was the first episode of the anime. Alomg the way we see the gitl saving herself and others. One other episode is the storie of a pianist who gave up playing but started playing again the “Edelweiss” muisc, that mean hope. Other episodie is the storie of 2 kids, brother and sister that the main character helped, just to have the brother to be killed by the french guy in the last minute.
If someone knows the name lf this anime, please let me know, i want to watch it again so bad!

i (19f) have 2 older sisters amy (28f) and steph (26f) i was recently laid off from my job at the end of march and have been struggling with trying to find a new one and one who will work with my school availability i’m a full time college student ever since my sisters found out about me being laid off they’ve been trying to get me to watch my nieces and nephews amy has 2 kids and steph also has 2 amy works 3 days a week night shift and steph works days she’s usually home by 4 so during the day amy will ask me to watch the kids because she either has made appointments to get her body contouring done or she’s getting fat dissolving and when i say no because i either have an interview or i have classes she catches and attitude with me and usually i can handle it whatever and then steph will ask me to watch the kids from 4- 8 so she can unwind after she gets home because work tires her out she sits at as a desk all day answering emails i also say no because my last class ends at 6 and i commute so it takes about 45- 1 hour to drive back home and she too catches an attitude
so over the past few weeks steph and amy have been asking me to watch their kids because they either made plans and have no child care or they bought tickets to a baseball game or they’re going to music festivals etc and they ask me the day of so i told them they can’t ask me to watch them the day off because they know i have school and im not out until 6 they stated yelling at me stating that im unemployed and it’s my duty as an aunt to step up and watch them because i don’t know how tiresome motherhood can be and im not doing my duty as their sister to help them out with my nieces and nephews i let them go on their 30 minute tangent before stating its not my job to drop everything im doing to watch them last minute as much as i love them i am not their parent and its not my fault they buy tickets to things or make plans without figuring out childcare first that should be the first thing they worry about before making any type of commit to things because they’re acting like irresponsible mothers.
And that did not go over well the minute that came out of my mouth they started screaming at me and i mean screaming at me saying how dare i say that to them that once again i don’t know what it’s like to raise a child and how i can take a toll on them and sometimes they just need time to unwind and relax and i stated they can do that they act like their children don’t have active fathers in their lives their dads can watch them while you guys relax or whatever you guys wants to do and they said they should be able to depend on me for everything regarding their kids because im their aunt and that i should i drop everything im doing to care for them
I said once again it is not my job to drop everything im doing to babysit because you guys want to go to a restaurant and drink margaritas they chose to have kids so they have to care for them and not depend on other people to watch them whenever they want they ended up storming out of the house and calling my parents and our other siblings telling me that i said i don’t care about my nieces and nephews and that i called them horrible mothers and that i said they shouldn’t have had children so now my mom is saying im an asshole for not my helping sisters out and that i wouldn’t know what it’s like because im not a mom my dad brother and younger sister are on my side saying im not in the wrong so AITA?

At have triggers in this short story...My parents will be addressed as my abusers one of my two brothers will be called affect sex offender the other brother will be called a molester who molested me my sister is going to be called I take everything way too serious she's a b**** so she's bitch growing up we were in a very abusive home where we each got our own way of abuse from our deezers I have an older brother and another sister from my mother first married I am my first born to my father and the firstborn grandchild on my father's side I have another brother he followed me 18 months later and I was pretty mean to him I saw man digging it up dumpster and My dumb brother asked what he was doing I said he's probably looking for you because that's where we found you and my abusers would abuse me all the time I literally memorized my Pepe's phone number so I would pack my Barbie suitcase and I would sit on the curb by a sewer line where I wasn't supposed to sit but I would stay at my grandparents' house for days months I did private school through them I went to regular school through town I would be the one to call 911 on my grandfather when he went into the hospital that day plays everyday in my head and he makes me cookie and all he would say is Cookie get the elephant off my chest get the elephant off my chest I knew it wasn't going to be good and I was right he was roughly in the hospital a couple of weeks and he passed he passed in the middle of the night this is when I realized I was in bath at the age of 12 he came to me he said he loves me and he said that he will always be by my side and protect me and yes they just were the other person I miss in my family is the closest I had with my uncles and cousins due t my abusers they turn the family on me cuz apparently whatever my abuser says went down exactly how they say it but they never told them what they did to me there's one thing that goes in my head and it pis me off my abusers is things in front of my siblings and I I remember one of my siblings getting beat up I remember a sibling nail it kneeling in the kitchen on rice I remember another sibling getting away with absolutely everything the sex offender the molester was forced out of the home because I had a big mouth and I was telling everybody the state I came from was Massachusetts and they failed to me I moved to Florida with my other abuser to meet my other abuser you had one of my siblings with her all I have to say is a sex offender is held at a higher standard in my family then someone who committed robberies with no weapon I'm not saying I'm right and I'm not saying I'm wrong I'm saying I did my time no I didn't go find God in jail for prison that's not why I went to do my time my time was to do 27 months it wasn't to find God I was supposed to rehab and I didn't do that because they are idiot Florida correctional institution is insane and I am happy to say that me and a nurse closed Broward county institution for women due to the neglect the living conditions the rats the cockroaches the bed bugs the spider bites I have so many scars from them that it's insane as an intention in my leg where the brown recluse spider bite ate the muscle in my leg and when they would take the dressing off they would have to put a white cheek close by because the pus and the nasty muscle that turned into pus and turned into deteriorating muscles I thank her everyday and I wish wish I knew where she was so I could give her a great big hug and tell her thank you for sticking by me they transferred her because I made a mistake and gave her a hug out on compound and they transferred her to a different person but other inmates for telling me she was giving them messages to tell me she wasn't giving up on me and that she was still looking into it I owe her everything the little bit of time that I had with this nurse showed me love remorse didn't judge me and admired me for owning everything I did ruining my children to get life ruining my own life making my husband and my life difficult my stepson is never happy with me anymore there's nothing I can do and I'm not going to fight it no more I don't care I'm not going to let it bother me the past is the past I learned my lesson I got out in 2005 have not been in trouble with the loss jail and prison for hell and I'm never going back there's nothing that anybody could do to make me want to go back ever again and I'm withholding 2005 to present day 2024 clean off drugs sober off of I've been off drugs I haven't relapsed I'm a very proud of myself and I hope that I inspire somebody to tell their story of abuse and a correctional institution and I will look into it and I'll see what I can do to make the situation better Florida is not known for their wonderful persons in jails their roads infested their nasty they make the inmates live in unconditional situations I want to put my dog in the guards overstep their boundaries every which way we could insulted you made you feel like you were nobody you already took my freedom you're going to take myself to steam too then lock up the whole fat was just a trip and a half every time they could they would put me in the hole why I wasn't doing anything you know why because I found out that people were going around after they found out with my charges were I wonder who he told people that the person guards only knew what I did the inmates wanted to do them and every time something came up missing in a pot I was in it was my fault and didn't even matter it couldn't even be my and I would get in trouble because they said I stole and I never in a million years stole anything from anybody I had my own money coming in and I was buying my own things and my story will continue because it's not over yet......

i’m f17 and my little brother 8 and older sister 28. my older sister is a mandated reporter since she works with kids with autism 5 hours ago she told me she had to report us to dhr for “suspected drug use” their was a case open maybe 6 years ago for the same reason and we was removed from the parent. the parent gained custody of us and everything is FINE there is no drug use to my knowledge we all live in the same state (alabama older sister lives 4 hours away) and said “i don’t think anything will happen because the lady didn’t take me serious” what is the chances of something happening? everyone is telling me nothing will come of it but i need just a little more comfort and security.

Just wanted to share this here cause it’s a massive change in our life and very few people understand:
My partner and I have been together for 2 years, but we were friends for about a year before that, and even further back she was considered family by my brother and parents for a long time. I didn’t meet her until years after my family as I lived in a different state, but they all mentioned how well we would get along with each other. (If only they knew at the time how well we would get along, but that’s a different story 😂😂) Over the years, I’d only met her family once at a funeral. She was DF’d 6 years ago and her family treated her as expected during the time she was living with them. For the most part she lived like an unwanted house guest in her family home. They were not completely terrible but didn’t including her in “family” events or talk to her if not necessary. However, in the past month, I noticed that her sister was texting her a lot more, even asking about me (were lesbians so this was a shock to me), and mildly badmouthing the org. I mentioned that she may be on her way out but my partner didn’t want to get too hopeful. Fast forward to last week, she called us to tell us that her position as a pioneer was on the chopping block. She’d already put in most of her hours for the year and even got invited to the school. But that’s when everything went to shit. She liked a single post on Facebook that on the surface wasn’t bad, nothing explicit, magical, or apostate. But someone recognized the show and reported her to the elders. She was removed from her pioneer position and her invitation to the school was revoked. Over a single liked post. Overall, I’m glad she’s out. She’s obviously been questioning for a while but we let her figure it out on her own. But what’s bothering me is, I thought TV shows were a conscious decision. Like yes some are heavily discouraged but having all her work this year (600 f*cking hours!!) be completely invalidated over one like? That’s so controlling and unnecessary. They claim to let people live their own lives but cast someone out at the first sign of nonconformity. She was justifiably upset, and that opened her eyes to the truth of the org. She’s making her way out now and I’m so excited to get to know her outside of the cult. We told her that we are here for her and we are willing to help with the adjustment to the outside world. My partner is overjoyed to have her sister back and I’m so happy to see some of her life back.

I wasn’t really sure how to title this post. I guess I’m just here to vent. I don’t like to vent to my husband because I don’t want him to resent my family and pretty much the same with friends. But basically I feel like I am not a part of my dads life and I feel like it’s starting to impact the relationship between my sister and I. I’ll first mention that I am the oldest of 5. My dad had 3 daughters with my mother and 2 kids with my step mom, 1 boy and 1 girl. Growing up it was just my sister and I. My parents were “married” but never lived together, I lived with my moms family. My dad would visit but my parents would fight and then he would leave. I don’t have too many memories of my dad where he would take us to the park, movies, sit with us and watch a movie, sit with me and ask about my friends at school. I was SA at 8 1/2 and my both my parents partially blamed me. No one did anything about it, no one called the police.
My dad had me young at 21. Parents divorced when I was 8. Then when I was 11 came our 3rd sister. A year and a half later he had our other sister with my step mom and less than a year after that he had my brother. Very odd I know. But growing up my dad was more of a strict parent. We weren’t even allowed to go outside and the house needed to be clean 24/7. When he got with my stepmom, they didn’t even tell me that she was pregnant and I was never invited to her babyshower. Then we were to go to some party and they just showed up with my sister in the carseat, she was already born a week ago. When I mentioned this to him, he said he thought I would be smart enough to see that she is visibly pregnant. So 3 months later they told me that she is having my brother which probably only because I said something about my sister. I didn’t find out that they got married until 2 years after. Now that my sister is 16, things are coming up that make me realize that I don’t have the dad they her and my brother have. They see him everyday. They get the dad to take them to school. Be there at bedtime. My brother pointed at a shirt and said look let’s get this for dad, I said why and he said “because it has an eagle on it” i said yeah and? He said because dad likes eagles how do you not know that?! I had no idea. They know all about his likes and dislikes. I don’t really know much. My sister is learning how to drive and asked me how was dad with me when teaching me…but he didn’t teach me. So it’s things like that.
Sorry that this is all over the place. Just a lot to unpack. For the record, I don’t speak to both my parents. I don’t hate my half siblings. If anything, it’s all worth it if he was a crappy parent to me so he could be great for them.

So, just a group of friends from work were having a conversation at a party. And the silly "men vs. bear" question came up, and a woman said that this one sentence defines how much women hate and fear men, that almost all of them choose to go with the bear. Her boyfriend and I were also listening. All of the women laughed and agreed, so I asked her whom she would send her boyfriend to, a bear or a girl? She hesitantly said the bear. She started the lecture again on how men will always cheat, they go after other women, or assault her; they are cheaters, blah blah. So, I said, what if the girl was her sister. And she stopped for a moment and said she would still choose the bear because she didn't trust her boyfriend. I said what if the boy was her father or brother, and she tried to change the conversation. Her boyfriend was shocked and during the whole party, he remained silent. I know he will not feel the same. I felt so bad, why did I even get involved in the conversation?

Okay it's either a movie or a tv show (I'm almost positive it's a tv show, and there's also a movie that's similar to it) It's in a neighborhood, where there's been people going missing here and there, and I'm almost positive it's the brother of the main characters? The next door neighbor themselves is suspected by the best friend of the sister, and in one case she notices their truck missing, but then also dies? And then the mom (finds out?) but doesn't report him, and then shit goes bac to normal for some reason?
To try and visualize it more, the best friend is walking down the street near the MC's house, on the phone with the sister, they're talking about the missing people, somehow the male neighbor comes up after news of another person went missing just reported, the sister(?) asks the best friend to go check the driveway to see if their car is still there and it's not?
Post 2000's pre 2020's American/Canadian show/movie.
for the life of me can't think of the name of this ( But there's a small chance I have dreamt this show over the past few years on random occasions and have concocted it all in my braink

Long post but please help!
I was very close with my in-laws for 8 years, until I got accepted into grad school and got engaged to her son in 2021. My fiancé and I had to move 4 hours away from home, and he’s financially supporting us while Im in my doctoral program. I’m paying for school and things for the apartment but he’s paying for everything else. He’s known about me going to grad school for our entire relationship and been aware of costs that would come with us living together before I graduate. He makes enough to support us both and says he’s happy to help support me so we can finally be together and so I won’t have to take out loans just to live.
When the moving process begun, shit hit the fan. In his family group text, we mentioned we’re planning a trip to Mexico next spring so we can decide if that’s where we want to married. My MIL stated it’s ridiculous to spend extra $ by going twice, and just use the internet to decide. She proceeded to remind me that trips are not cheap & called me a BrideZilla (you guessed it, with a “Just kidding” at the end of it). I ignored the statement and reminded her that my fiancé, me, and my parents aren’t dropping 30k on event where we’ve never seen. This $ was arbitrary, as we’re not sure how much it will actually be. She and my fiancé began a separate text between each other, where my fiancé called her out for calling me a BrideZilla. She then said I am actually exhibiting BrideZilla behavior, have no clue how much things cost, Im entitled and always wanting to go on vaca’s, and force him to spend $ that he earns on me. This was the only time I’ve ever talked about wedding to his family, I’ve waited tables for past 8 years through undergrad, and 2/3 of our vaca’s that year were paid for by other family members. His mom proceeded to tell her sisters (a separate family group chat that I was not in) about the destination wedding decision and stated “oh wait, it’s his money not hers lol”. He called her out on how rude she was and left the group chat.
I was shocked at the texts she sent to him, as it was if she never really go to know who I am as a person or noticed how hard I’ve worked through school. She asked me if I was upset about the group chat BrideZilla comment, and I told her I was actually upset about the separate convo between my fiancé and her. She then proceeded to talk shit about my fiancé, her own son, saying that he started drama by showing me the texts and saying that those were supposed to be private. She said sorry my feelings were hurt but she’s financially concerned because I’m not earning any money while in school and I’ve never had a “big girl job”.
We eventually got over her untrue comments and we moved. Fast forward one year later, and we decided it was just too much to come down for Father's Day. I wasn't feeling well and my fiancé said he didn't want to waste his weekend driving roundtrip for 12 hours. My fiancé calls his mother and tells her that its just too much and although he committed to going, he decided he was going to stay here and take care of me. MIL blew up and hung up on him (keep in mind we've been here for almost 2 years now and not once has anyone in the immediate family attempted to come see us). About a week later, his MIL commented on my Facebook posts with nasty comments thinking my posts were directed towards her (they were just general quotes, I didn't even realize she had an issue with me at the time). I delete her comment and my fiancé texts her to keep her problems off social media. She eventually blows up my fiancé's phone for hours talking about how we are selfish, about how I have no life experience that "it's laughable", nobody in the family likes me, apparently “everyone in this family thinks the same of me” and that “at this point nobody is going to your f*cking wedding”. That night, she deleted both me and him off of Facebook, but the next day she told my fiancé that I went on his fb and deleted her (why would I do this after 8 years? lol)
I was so hurt after all the memories we made together over the past 8 years, that I deleted all of the pics we had together on my social media. I finally knew what she truly thought of me. Was it immature to delete all the pics? Probably. But I also knew I could never have the same relationship with them again after all the things they said about me. Note: deleting the pics were not to intentionally hurt her, but more of something I felt like I needed to do for me to be emotionally “done”. It felt like all the previous times together were just fake. Over text, FMIL and I got into it. She stated to my fiancé “I want all the money you owe me NOW” (she gets like this when she doesn’t get her way to manipulate others- constantly using things she has paid for in the past to make us feel bad) and I straight up told her “there you go again using money against your own son”. Well that set her off and she threatened to talk with my parents and let them know they won’t be at the wedding due to my “nasty words” towards her. Not once have I ever cussed at her or attacked her character (like she has to me). Once she did this over FB messenger, My parents ignored her and said they weren’t getting involved. We went no contact for about 4 months until she realized we weren't backing down. During that time, she had the audacity to cut off my fiancé’s phone service in the middle of a work day (he paid his own but stayed on family plan to save them money).
She eventually apologized to me over text, telling me how she was just upset that she didn't feel important to us and took it out on me. She claims she recently gone through menopause during all of this. But, she still insists on telling my fiancé that I am not as innocent as I seem and keeps bringing up the deleting on FB because she wont admit she did it (she was probably drinking). I told her that I forgive her but it would take a long time for me feel comfortable and move on.
A few months later, they came down to visit us. We took them downtown and showed them where I went to school, our favorite restaurant, and then our apartment. FMIL threw a fit about us being out too long and started crying, saying that “this was my opportunity to relax from work and I wanted to go to the beach… I didn’t even want to go to lunch but I did for yall!” Just drama and drinking the entire time. No fun for my fiancé or me. Of course his step dad tells my fiancé “just go apologize to her, so we can all move on”. Fiancé stood his ground and said no, I did nothing wrong. I was civil the entire time and was actually the only one to console her upstairs when her and my fiance got into it about no time at the beach.
A couple of weeks later, I posted some recent pics of the past few months as a life update on FB. I didn’t post any photos of the trip except for one of us doing a cheers with our drinks (no faces involved). Keep in mind she had been posting pics of all of us all weekend, so some pics I was tagged in were already on my page. Of course FMIL got pissed and texted a bunch of screenshots of my fb page saying that I’m “holding a grudge” and “obviously have no intention of moving forward”. I told my fiance to tell her that I simply made a post and did not have a lot of time to go searching for the pics way up in the family group chat, so that it wouldn’t hurt anyone’s feelings. The truth is, I didn’t feel comfortable posting photos of her on my page after the things she has said about me. I thought she would understand this considering I told her it would take time to heal (just didn’t want to start drama especially when dealing with school at the time). FMIL did not buy the excuse and we ended up saying “it shouldn’t matter if I don’t post a picture of yall, it’s not a huge deal”. Why would I post pics of a trip that was mainly drama? Fiancé understands where I was coming from and respected that. FMIL texted fiancé saying “I’ll go ahead and take back the $ I offered to pay for your rehearsal dinner”. She then got to digging and eventually realized I had removed all of our pics (what I did months before this). Fiancé’s step dad got involved and to look at my FB page. She told him that I deleted all of the pics of them on my FB and was holding a grudge. He saw that and texted my fiancé saying he’s convinced I’m the problem and that “although your mom has said some things that she has apologized for, I’m convinced your fiance is the problem here and doesn’t want to forgive”. (If I didn’t forgive, I wouldn’t have spent time with them when they came to visit us…)
He then stated that “if we are not going to be in any photos or posted in any pics, you can go ahead and uninvite us from the wedding and we’ll relay to our side of the family that we don’t plan to attend”. Fiancé gave them exactly what they asked for and said “at this point I don’t want you there so you got it”. Fiancé has been no contact since last July. Did not come to Thanksgiving, Christmas, and did not wish his parents happy birthday. I have not received a happy birthday from the entire side of the family. They are also avoiding us on social media. Fiancé recently received a text from his grandma saying “you are evil for treating your own mother this way and none of us will be at your wedding if your own mother is not invited”. Basically, he found out that she had told everyone that we uninvited them all on our own. She’s saying that we “misunderstood them” when we clearly have the text with their request, and that they “of course want to be there for his special day”. Now our guest list is cut in half and he will have no family at the wedding~ not even his 22 y/o brother.
We are at a loss. It’s 6 months until wedding and nothing has happened besides her sending flying monkeys and my fiancé having to block even more of his family. She even texted his birth dad (they never speak) recently saying “I just want to share my side of the story”. He didn’t reply.
I understand I may have done some things out of pettiness (none as bad as the things she has said to us) but we believe them using OUR event against us/threatening to not be at the wedding because they may not be posted on my FB is terrible and extremely hurtful.

Was looking into industry and I’ve seen some things about when you get onboarded and work at a bank, all immediate family members must invest through the bank you work at. I thought it was just your spouse and kids. Then I saw that it was like parents, fathemother in law, brothesister etc. can someone go more into detail on this and the rules and regulations on this.

I (24F) and my (27F) friend, let’s call her Chel (not her real name) for the sake of this post, was friends way back when I was still in high school and she’s in college. We met through her (25F) sister, Mel, which I was also friends with. During the covid lockdown, we would always go to each other’s houses to bake and chit-chat as they live few blocks away from us.
During these times, I don’t know when it happened but Chel ‘fell’ for my older brother. They were always together, until I found out that she was still in a relationship with her long time boyfriend that moved in another state. I was furious and felt so betrayed, because she told me they were done months back even before her boyfriend moved.
Ironically, Mel warned me to tell my brother to stay from Chel. I already did tell my brother the moment I knew but just to reality check Mel, I told her to tell that to Chel and not me because Chel’s the one who’s cheating. She got mad and left. After this, Chel took back the baking materials she gifted me on my birthday and I happily returned it including the box and the tore wrapper.
My brother broke up with her after confrontation, I did not know the details and I do not want to know the details. Afterall, it’s their privacy. After a year, Chel is single and expectedly came back to try and convince my brother. She begged and continuously messaging my brother. She didn’t stop even after I posted a story, which she saw and replied to, that contains my brother with a lady he’s been pursuing.
This is where I think I might be the AH, I meddled and I messaged to stop pestering him and my mom don’t see her the same as before because now all she is just the cheater who cheated on my brother. After that, I cut all contacts to her and Mel.

I can’t speak on details, there are some lawsuits in the works. It was sudden and unexpected. His life was finally going great. His job was great, great pay in his desired field, he told me he wanted to propose to his partner. He was recovering from an abusive relationship and we were growing close again (the abuser had separated him from me). We were only 15 months apart. Before he died I never knew a day on this on earth I remembered without him. We were each other’s first best friend. I feel guilty everyday I live, every time I have fun or enjoy myself. Part of me died with him. I no longer feel surreal and completely lost. I do however still feel completely lost in a void of despair. I cry at least 3x a week, other times I’m just as sad but no tears come. His birthday happened recently and I realized he will never be 30 like he should have been. He will never be a father or married like he wanted to be. We will never take the trips we had planned together. He will never attend my wedding or our little sister’s. I meet new people and they ask if I have siblings. I never know if I should trauma dump on them my brother is dead and my sister is alive or just pretend he never was there, which feels wrong. My younger sister and I are still pretty close, but I think our different grieving styles has created some space between us. She is 9.5 years younger in her early 20s so I think our ages and where we are in life makes it different for us. I think my parents are doing ok. I’m so glad they are, but I can’t help but feel I’m doing worse, and it’s dragging my whole family down. I have a very supportive partner, he used to be friends with my brother as children so it’s been hard on him too. I also have been unable to return to work. I’ve tried but I just couldn’t do it and my manager was terrible to me even though I tried my best. I think I need professional grief counseling, but due to the work situation I lost my health insurance. I will look into something free in the meantime. Has anyone else been through this? Does it ever get better? What should I do? I feel completely lost and I doubt my purpose in life now. Any advice or commiserating is welcome.