Hello, sorry for getting serious about the drama yesterday, it's time to move on. Next month's video will be regarding the Florida Aliens. As many of you know, Anthony posted this on twitter with the caption "next month's video bouta be crazy":
https://preview.redd.it/0d9qti2qtv1d1.jpg?width=675&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c17086d757c6a6590a9f3750612c4fea3dfb67fe
Many people were understandably laughing about the semblance to Pedro Pascal, while one user (shoutout @/Ibbyalzz on twitter) pointed out this man's presence in a tiktok by @/aliensinflorida69.
https://preview.redd.it/vzsk57n2uv1d1.png?width=647&format=png&auto=webp&s=2e91cd063c47f38daca6926069a694b954f2452c
This is already damning evidence, especially when one hears the faceless user's voice in other videos that sounds identical to Anthony's high pitched voice. But this was the nail in the coffin. According to another photo from the tiktok account, this meetup was happening in Tampa.
https://preview.redd.it/5ck6lefhuv1d1.png?width=658&format=png&auto=webp&s=d886563ab7ea839bbc7168394d4844fce4fa7abe
So, I looked at the background of the tweet and these two things could be vaguely made out- a general sense of the sign and this ATM.
https://preview.redd.it/bl3m12ytuv1d1.jpg?width=538&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8b90a2f4d795af38edd876f19f400111cc5c8305
So I looked on a few sites for Tampa chambers of commerce for business names, and one matched up with the initials and the font, MacDinton's Irish Pub.
https://preview.redd.it/4tt2c1l5vv1d1.png?width=614&format=png&auto=webp&s=533d80fdcabe5e8f91dc7096d36ff0ecc1335b58
Then, I looked at geotagged IG posts for this place and found a photo of this ATM perfectly matching this one in the original tweet.
https://preview.redd.it/lakdlbthvv1d1.png?width=380&format=png&auto=webp&s=9d1e9122a3bc38bd115152c011757c6bcf1cfce7
So that's it, the next anthpo video will be him pretending to be the Florida aliens in Tampa with a Pedro Pascal lookalike.
This sounds kind of interesting, but it also worries me about the quality of the content to come. We've already had the furry video, Anthony putting a mask on, becoming a niche internet microcelebrity, and doing something silly in person. Now this video will be Anthony putting a mask on, becoming a niche internet microcelebrity, and doing something silly in person. We've already figured out that he's the cheese ball man from Union Square, that video will be him putting a mask on, becoming a niche internet microcelebrity, and doing something silly in person. Is this was we can expect from the other 21 videos he's releasing? Should we be worrying about the quality and the originality of what he'll be putting out over the next 2 years?

God. My brother is an emotional trainwreck, constantly. I have plenty of emotional problems of my own (and they really suck, but it makes me funnier) but I'm usually calm and collected. He's just so dumb tho, like outright oblivious to everything and he never learns. He just started screaming at me b/c I was angry with him about our fast food orders. The way he goes about everything is just so over-the-top, it's ridiculous. We share a room atm, but he just barges in and starts talking to me, or changing his entire outfit like, "It's cool. we're both dudes." (mental process presumably) and I have told him to not do that. We were home alone today; He could've changed his clothes standing in the living room, for Christ's sake! But no, he came into the only room in the house that contained another person to change. Stupid! Anyways, he barges in, like always, asking "Mom wants to know what you want from Sonic. What do you want from Sonic?" over and over in his silly-sounding, immature voice. So, obviously, I'm mad, and I couldn't possibly have explained why in that moment, so to him, I'm just mad. He realizes and becomes practically belligerent, yelling "What do you want? What do you want!?" He just so jumpy and unstable and it pisses me off b/c I'm very go-with-the-flow and he's just go-. He calls our mom back and tells her, making it sound like I'm just an asshole, so I come in there to him and he gives me the phone (and note, it's my mom on the phone, so I'm now speaking directly to the person getting the food) and he keeps asking what I want, as if telling him will make a difference now! As soon as someone else has his phone, even if he gave it to them, he goes apeshit. So now he's acting like a meth-head, trying to get his next bump of internet. So I go back to my room to try to calmly tell my mom what I want, and he's basically trying to rip the door down so he can get his fix. She tells me to text it, so I do, and meanwhile lil bro's going bananas outside. I give him his phone, but he hits the door again, I suppose to make a statement. I walk outside our room, tell him to shut the hell up b/c he's being childish, he loses his marbles and starts screaming. I walk towards him and he hurriedly walks back to the couch, pretending not to be scared. I say "Yeah I thought so." and he comes back and yells again. At this point I'm pissed and I'm threatening him, blah blah blah. I walk towards him again, so now he is out of my sight, yelling. Just shut up! If you don't wanna get your ass beat don't talk like you won't! Idiot.

Does anyone here like lapsang souchong tea. Its a smoky tea kinda like earl grey thats kinda hard to get offline. Twinings in the UK used to have the best I tasted but its been discontinued.
Also do you guys want to have sex with androids if they become availiable in our lifetimes? Just been playing detroit: become human, and the androids featured there are so immensely cute, so its on my mind a lot atm.

This could be a long one. Or maybe it will be short, I don't know.
I am 24, turning 25 at the end of the year. Grew up in a dysfunctional, abusive household. Adoptee, orphaned at 11. I have now noticed that apart from depression and anxiety, I have been toxic and dysfunctional in my relationships (platonic and romantic). I have love bombed and put people on a pedestal without even knowing enough about them to categorize them as such important people in my life. I have had anger issues and had to apologize to my ex partners for outbursts that embarrassed them and was disrespectful. I have switched friend groups a lot because people have become distant towards me and after noticing it a few times, I just know when they are slowly removing themselves from my life and I do them a favor and isolate myself. No one has ever had a talk where they point things out and then proceeded to cut me off, but I think it is because they saw me as 1) cocky, arrogant, not teachable or 2) an adult that knows what they are doing - jokes on them, I did not. (Or third option, the mood swings that come with depression are not easy to handle for those around me. Everyone is pro mental health but also those struggling are often a menace. Anyways.) After leaving my abusive childhood home I felt “freedom” for the first time and went crazy! Too crazy, with no regards for others as I was feeding my inner child with all that she “missed” out on (attention, love, my own money etc.). I have created unnecessary drama by having two affairs with taken people. I did it out of insecurity and retrospectively, because I probably felt a high from them “choosing” me and did not understand that them choosing me was not a compliment. It’s not a case of having been outed on social media or so, more so, within my community I just notice people keeping me at an arm's length. When you post revealing pictures, dress a certain way, look for attention, post your partner (now ex) excessively (essentially trying to prove to the world how good the relationship is), at some point, people call your bs on how insecure you are and how much you base your self-worth on external validation and factors, how you have no sense of shame (not because you don’t care, but because you don’t know - low social awareness kind of thing). No one has come to me to call me out, but again, I am silently watching people be very careful with how they engage with me. And I myself have gone into isolation too. It’s frustrating as owning up to insecure, immature, toxic behavior does not mean it never happened. I have a severe fear of being seen/perceived now. "What if who they saw me as is who they'll ever believe me to be?" kind of thing. I am growing in self awareness at an age where I see many other people my age be further in their emotional maturity. I wish I was raised better. Good upbringing is such a privilege! I have been very childish in how I handled my reputation. Children don’t care for repercussions, I never did either. And yes I have found a therapist and psychiatrist on whose waiting lists I am on (but I am terrified to say the least as where I live I have to pay everything by myself and you guessed it - I don’t have good financial habits established yet and am scared to start therapy and possibly medication and not be able to continue treatment till I heal what is likely C-PTSD as these things are just highly expensive). Now that some enlightenment is happening, I am almost hopeless as if a potential partner did some searching, what they would find out could be problematic. These things did not happen at an age where I was a child, people actually expect me to be an adult. I am disgusted by myself and my former lack of integrity. I understand I find myself in a mess I single handedly created. This is a very short version of everything that has happened, that I did and so on.
How much hope is there really for me? I see a need to reparent myself, I would say I (obviously) was not raised very well under care and consistent love and have sought it in all the wrong places.
How do I undo life as I know it?
How do I come to terms with having to heal before I put myself back out there into the dating pool and even search for new friendships while I work on myself. I have been lonely for the majority of my life already and now that I know of my need to heal, I feel angry and sad that I may not be able to enjoy social connections for a while. Does that make sense? To protect others.
How do I accept that I can only heal from a place of self-love and self-compassion, not shame? I am currently in a severe depressive episode and already know that any doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist would probably focus on getting me to a stable mental state first. But I would prefer to go straight into learning new behavioral skills, healthy coping mechanisms and so on.. I feel like shaming myself into changing atm, which is funny as I want to stop pleasing people but am also changing amongst other reasons to be more likable by society?
How do I reparent myself joyfully? What can I do to enjoy this healing journey? Like seriously “re-raise” myself.
How do I forgive myself for the affairs (I’ve owned up to them to the women), the cringe oversharing, the skimpy outfits, the serial dating and so on? (without minimizing my home-wrecking)
How do I learn to trust myself, to trust that I don't f up any new relationship or friendship?
How do I measure when I am ready and healthy/healthier? What differentiates former red flags that turn into green flags from those that remain toxic, dysfunctional and so on?
Is it even possible to establish a sense of self and self-worth at my age? Should that not have happened by now?
What therapeutic modality would be best for me? Any therapists here by any chance? Can I even truly get rid of my baggage?
LOL: Men, would you date me based on what you heard lol? Given I have done “the work”. Please elaborate then what the “work” is. How do I redeem myself? I’d potentially also like to hear from the people that believe “people don’t change”. I’d like your view of things too if possible. Any comment and tip helps. Thank you so much.
Also: I newly found to Christ and would appreciate hearing from Christians too. From anyone really.
Please keep in mind that money is an issue unfortunately. I would love mentorship, therapy, to be surrounded by "elders" that can help me mature, are there any - idk- programs that are free?

So my cats groom each other and cuddle and generally hang out, but sometimes the older male one will just clamp onto her and not let go. She sometimes doesn't mind and other times will start hissing and fighting. He bites her neck but sometimes other areas as well, and there is no humping or anything sexual. Just the hanging on. Yes, they are both neutered/spayed.
It's becoming more of a problem now that he has started getting mouthfuls of her fur and eating them, so he's getting some crazy hairballs. I wake up in the morning and come out to tufts of hair all over the couch or similar. He seems to do it more often when frustrated (e.g. shooed away from my food), where he'll then turn to her and do the weird chomp and not let go.
I don't have a video of it atm but I can record when they inevitably do it again. Thank you!

i’m currently 9 months pregnant, set to give birth in about two/three weeks. this is my first pregnancy so everything & every symptom to completely new to me. my husband is the only one working atm since i was let go from my job at 7 months pregnant. recently his car got messed up so naturally he’s been taking my car to work everyday. so i LITERALLY can’t leave the house. i’m here 24/7.
we got this big two story house right before i got pregnant & now that im pregnant its hard to maintain it clean. it’s a lot on me & im literally so tired all the time. so the house has been slacking & yes it is my fault. i feel bad asking him for help since he’s out working everyday but tasks are just becoming harder & harder on me. especially this last trimester.
this morning he was in a bad mood because i hadn’t down the laundry. i asked him what was wrong & asked if he was feeling better after isolating himself. he responds with “you’re just so useless! you can’t do anything & it’s frustrating that nothing is done around the house. you’re home everyday.” & that really hurt my feelings. i apologized to him & told him that i can’t take the loads of laundry upstairs because they’re heavy, i can’t bend over or get on my knees etc. everything hurts & this big belly isn’t helping. we were supposed to go somewhere this morning since he’s off work but i told him to go alone because i didn’t wanna be near him. that id stay home & clean the house while he’s gone. he’s now mad at me because he has to go to my moms house alone & is worried about how it’ll look he went alone & doesn’t want anyone knowing we’re fighting but i just asked him to leave me alone.
i know he has a point & i feel guilty for asking him to help me around the house but idk. aitah for getting mad at him? or do i shut up & apologize? sorry im hella hormonal lol😅

I hope the mod or not won't delete this . Seriously, it's is now happening on me.need advice
TLDR: The buyer requested refund from the shop / me after 4 weeks from a consignment sale . And it is not the first time I heard these similar cases and now it happens to me .
Here is the story: I have too many lenses and decided to sell some of my collection. They aren't really expensive one but still worth some pennies.
The shop has helped me sold the lens, and later I have collected my money. After 4 week I was told the buyer was unhappy because the lens got haze.
I am very confident with the original condition. It is just a Canon FD 135/2.5. Crystal clear and almost like new. Not very expensive, I just asked for $60 with original caps.
Overall it sounds really hilarious. But my curiosity drives me to there and see what exactly happened.
The lens now has haze inside and I see the lens retaining rings seems opened poorly with marks. Lens body also have some scratches . Cleaning marks on the glass surface as well. Caps aren't the original. So eventually it is not the lens I know before sold, except the serial number is correct.
What triggered my nerves is the serial number ring's condition is surprisingly good, not quite matched with the overall looking. I seriously doubt what exactly happened to this lens.
The buyer wasn't here atm and the shop keeper reminds me think twice before to take any action.I trust this shop since it has been known to me for decays.
I don't know what to do now. Am I facing s cam as well? Previously I have heard similar stories elsewhere, like S/n swapped and asked for refund thing, or a good P&S become a doggy foggy stuff after weeks and asked for refund.

Messages between A and B

Context: A reaches out to B after B stopped talking to A for 2 years over a disagreement. A now wants to reconnect with B again. When discussing each other's plans, A mentions that they have been sober for 7 months and that they plan to drink again in the summer. A begins to notice a shift in B's energy towards them in text messages, and perceives this as B misinterpreting A's intentions for reaching out again. A pinpoints B's behaviour to the meme, subliminal messaging, and intentional misspelling of words.
B- Sends Meme which says “Me 5 mins into Alcoholics Anonymous trying to convince everyone to come to the pub”
A- “Listen man I’ve been getting the vibe that you may think me reaching out to you again wasn’t coming from a genuine place. My therapist has been telling me I need to communicate more, so I’m gonna try be as transparent as possible here. I thought there was no point in tryna reach out to you again as you wouldn’t respond, but then you liked my post back on New Year’s Eve, so I was happy and thought maybe there’s a chance we could still reconnect again, but I still wasn’t sure if you were gonna respond so I kept putting it off until I finally messaged you at the end of March. During my meetings we constantly discuss seeking healthy friendships as a pose to my old ones and I knew it just made sense to message you again, you’ve always been the realist out of all our old friendship group, so why not do it now I’m sober…
When I told you I’d been sober since the end of September, and that I will drink in the summer again I said that not because I was looking for drinking mates but because I wanted to be honest with you and myself about my sobriety, I mention it all the time at weekly group meetings. Right now I’m at a space where I don’t really wanna drink and I’m not really as keen as I was before on drinking in the summer like I said to you but the point is, I say I will drink again, because if I do end up drinking in the summer or whenever, I won’t feel as guilty about it, as a pose to me saying I’m staying sober…. If that makes sense? Also I know I wasn’t exactly the best mate to have when drinking so I just wanted to make it clear with where I may be headed, rather than surprise you down the line. If you don’t really like the sound of that, that’s fine I get it, maybe reconnecting again isn’t the best idea. But I just wanted to be as honest and direct as possible, man. I hope you can understand.”
B- “Honestly mate I haven’t given you messaging me again too much thought other than you tryna reconnect.
When we last spoke properly I was just annoyed as I felt like you handle things in a kinda selfish way and I’m ngl I did a thing I’m good at and just ignored you other than talk to you about it. But yeah even though ignored you I haven’t said a bad thing about you to anyone cause I honestly had no bad blood for ya at all.
I can’t promise I’m gonna be available to hang out all the time or anything as I’m working a lot atm plus having the mrs it does limit my time but I was honest when I said I am definitely up for us hanging out again at some point”
A- “I’ll hold myself accountable and admit I was acting selfishly, so I understand why you reacted they way you did looking back. Yh when I spoke to **** about it I got that same impression off him, and it was likewise for me, I spoke good of you and said it was a shame how things turned out.
That’s completely understandable you being busy with work and the Mrs, I never doubted that, and I don’t wanna come across as pushy. My messages earlier came from a place of wanting to address any misunderstandings that you may have had, as I know it can lead to unnecessary resentment or conflict. But from what you’re saying I can now see it’s not the case, so I’m just glad we communicated and are on the same page man ”
B- “Yeah man we’re cool if you’re free next week at some point lmk and we can hang out”
A- “Yh I’ll be real I still get the feeling you think I’m not being genuine. What you gotta understand is me reaching out comes from a place of wanting to find connection again- healthy connection anyways, the going out drinking and all that is only a by-product of it all, and I’d be lying if I said I don’t miss going out club or pub with you, but it’s bigger than that.
Idk if ***** maybe tried to tell you a different narrative (I’ll dis-prove anything if he has), but I cut off everyone at the end of September, I reached my lowest point. Since then I’ve been working on myself I don’t meet anyone I don’t have any social interactions other than when I’m at therapy/group meetings, or talking to people in the gym, and that way I’m able to stay focused and keep my peace. I only do streaks with **** on snap, and when he asked me to meet before I told him no I can’t at the moment, as i’m focused on myself. I don’t want sympathy btw, I’m letting you know how it is, so there isn’t any confusion. When I reached out, this was me coming out of hibernation, more healthy, taking the first step towards interacting with people again- the right people anyways.
I’m happy to meet next week but I have one condition. I’ve been played with enough times to know about that game where they pretend everything’s fine then they strike when you’re least expecting it, and I’m not saying you’re gonna do that but I have trust issues and I’m drained mentally, and I won’t be a part of any unnecessary conflict. So if we’re gonna meet I’m gonna need your word before please, that you’re not gonna try to be passive agressive with me in any shape or form? If you feel a type of way about me, you still don’t believe I’m genuine, I’m more than happy to have an open respectful discussion face to face about it.”
B- “Look mate I’m happy to see you again, it’s been a while but like I said I am really busy, try not to read too much into my replies. I mean what I’m saying”
A- “Apologies for not responding sooner. I’ve been reflecting on the whole situation, trying to be as honest as I can with myself about my intentions. I stand with most of what I said before. I swear I wasn’t lying when I saw you liking my picture in January I wanted to reach out, and I genuinely did keep putting off messaging you until March in fear you wouldn’t respond. When it reached the end of March I told myself I just had to do it as I said. But looking back now, I think I wasn’t being as honest as I thought with myself in regards to my intentions towards messaging you. I definitely wanted to reconnect but I also badly wanted to have a social life and meet people again, (NOT specifically drinking, but understandably the drinking would naturally become a part of it, that’s just how things go).
I feel this other reason became more pressing for me as I became ready to go back to normal life again. But obviously I shouldn’t have had the idea of desperately wanting a social life in mind when messaging you, and actually just messaging you specifically for the sake of reconnecting, to keep the intentions fully genuine. So for that I am sorry. Now I don’t want you to mistake this as me only messaging you again for that sole purpose of having a social life because it was not just that at all, and it genuinely made a big difference not having you as a mate in my life, like I said you were the most real mate I had out of all my mates, and I knew I messed that up, so seeing there was a chance we could be mates again made me real happy.
Obviously in regards to how you perceived my intentions I’ve gathered you are pretty annoyed with me, I can’t change your opinion but I can tell you my truth which I have just said. Unfortunately reconnecting hasn’t worked out so well which I guess I am to blame for with my approach. I think this is God’s sign that it’s not meant to be. I’m sorry I haven’t been as genuine as I thought I was being. I also respect how you never spoke bad of me before even when we weren’t on the best of terms, that demonstrates how real of a mate you were. I don’t have any ill feelings towards you, even if you might do now. I honestly wish you the best on your journey and I’ll always have ratings for you B ”
B- “You what mate good luck yo ya”

Hi everyone, my wife and I have a 3 and a half years old daughter, we both work 8-9 hours 5 days a week, weekends are a planned rush, so we only have like 2 hours to spend with our daughter on a weekday, and I get to spend weekend mornings alone with my daughter. Before going to work, we drop her at my MIL's to take care of her along with my wife's newphews/nieces until we're done then we pick her up and go home.
Past month or two, our daughter's behavior started changing. She started disobeying both myself and my wife. She used to be very obedient and behaving with me, not with her mom though as she's easier with her, while I'm not as easy. I'll give and take but I'm more strict. My wife likes to take more of a diplomatic approach which I honestly don't approve of but can come in handy sometimes. Now she's the same with me. She almost always disobeys me now and I'd have to take harsh measures to get her in check. She's learning wrong/bad behavior while at my MIL's from the other kids and I can't do anything about it. My mom was sick when we had our daughter, she wasn't able to help with her, and she sadly passed away last year. I have no choice but my MIL's. Schools/nurseries/summer programs won't work either as they're a few hours then she's back to my MIL's until we're done with work. Regardless, she starts nursery in September.
I tried talking, and I try it a lot, I give her many chances, but it doesn't seem to work anymore. She just doesn't seem to care until I isolate and ground her. She's become very hard to communicate with as she gets angry and starts to yell and cry as soon as she senses me pushing back/doesn't get/do what she wants. She's copying this behavior from my wife's niece. She does this to basically get anything she wants from her mom, so our daughter expects me or her mom to give her what she wants but instead ends up in her room in her crib until she calms down and then we talk about it. A lot of the bad things she does, she says this or that said or did. So she's just learning and copying bad behavior and there's no one there to decipline her.
My wife thinks I'm being extreme with her. We did agree in the past that when one of us (myself and my wife) notices the other getting extreme we'd let the other know, and she spoke to me about it yesterday. However, this doesn't seem right. Am I just supposed to let her misbehave and disobey us? I don't think so. I like to think that I'm a deciplined person and so was my daughter until lately. I can't watch our daughter as her behavior and obedience turns bad and just be quiet about it- and there's a lot of it, from words that a 3 years old shouldn't be using, to actions no one should be doing, plus much more, and it's getting on my nerves. This is not how I want my children to behave.
We currently have construction going on at home so we're unable to keep her home and isolate her from the kids at my MIL's (we have a nanny/babysitter that takes care of her in our absence). I told my wife that this is something we must do to get her under control again, but she still thinks I'm overreacting. I was able to convince her and we should be able to isolate our daughter next week once the construction is completed.
But before we get there, am I overreacting or am I doing the right thing? I feel like I'm going nuts. This isn't my only issue in life, I have a lot going on in my life atm so I need to hear other opinions. I don't want to be a bad dad. I love our daughter so much, she's been great and I have a lot of fun spending my time with her and I hate that there's this tension between us. She was great this morning before I dropped her to my MIL's. Does anyone wanna guess what's she going to be like when I pick her up from there? 😵‍💫 Thanks and sorry for the long post.

For context we have a 5 month old male lab, I currently don't work and partner works full time but can take pup with him . Currently we dog share where some days I'll look after pup, other days he goes to work with my partner. For practice because I'm starting new job in August. In general he's doing really well, we're happy with his training and temperament (although dreading adolescence). My issue is that my puppy won't settle by himself, which I know is normal for ones his age, but it's only with me. He will settle by himself when he's at work with my partner, at home with my partner and he settled at home when we left him with our friend for the day. Getting a bit of a complex that it is me somehow causing it but I'm not sure if and how I'm training this/encouraging it! His schedule with me is:
7:00- 7:30 am Wake up, outside for wee, food in a knotted tea towel
7:30 - 8:00 am chills with me and partner til he leaves for work
At this point if he goes with my partner to work where he has a crate. He goes out at 10:30 for half an hour and sometimes plays with other dogs in the garden and comes home for lunch 12-1, then back in office til 5. Spends the rest of the day either playing by himself or with my partner or chewing on something (sanctioned chew toys only) then he will just take himself to his crate for a sleep whenever, never seems to get overtired and is good as gold the whole day. My partner will leave him sporadically from 5mins to an hour for meetings etc
8:00-8:30/9am I'll play with him for 10 mins max nothing too strenuous because he's still digesting and I stop when he starts getting a bit rambunctious / over excited, then give him something to chew to calm him down a bit and do some job life admin etc. During this time pup becomes naughtier and naughtier, jumping on sofa, counter surfing, stealing shoes to the point where I know he's overtired. I put him in the crate where he passes out almost immediately for like 1-2 hours
10/10:30 am he wakes up and I take him for a walk, loose lead for 5 mins and then 20 mins of off lead sniffing etc. Halfway into the walk I'll sit down and do some down stays, and throughout the walk we do sporadic recalls and 'find its' to get his nose working. Then it's a 5 min loose lead walk home. I know he's tired and it's been hot so I give him a frozen carrot to chill inside and then he just starts get naughty again. I think, well he's only been up for 40 mins at this point but don't want to overstimulate. Some days I leave him by himself in the morning some days in the afternoon so he's used to it. If I leave him at this point in his ex pen I give him a long lasting king/licki matt and he will fall asleep v quickly, if I don't, he ramps up the naughtiness again and I pop him back in crate and he's straight to napping.
12/12:30 pm He wakes up, partner is home for lunch so we eat and chill with dog, he's being fine
1pm Lunch where I do training with his food, atm it's place training and we're doing the relaxation protocol on the matt (the Karen one) and then some other training like heel, sit, touch, recall etc never shows signs of frustration or confusion so I don't think it's too challenging. Maximum takes 10 mins
1:15- 2pm Let him digest his food for a bit, has a few toys but again don't wanna do too much but he starts getting naughty again, all the usual but now with humping me and jumping up and nipping at my clothes. I try being a statue and covering my face but it hurts when his claws get me and he's ruining my clothes. Crate him again and he's out like a light or I give him licki matt/Kong if I'm leaving him in the afternoon.
3/4pm He wakes up so either had 1-2 hours sleep, btw i always make sure he's properly awake (dog cam) and give him some time by himself to make sure he doesn't just need a longer sleep. I'll usually give him a chew because he's teething hard, I'll play with him for a bit (max 10 mins) and do some loose training where I just kind of reward him for chilling or not jumping on sofa (because he gets a look in his eyes where I know he wants to). I try and leave him to it while I do other stuff but he ramps up again to the point of overtiredness and so he goes back into crate, and again he is out.
5pm - 7:30 partner home, wait for pup to wake up then walk with same structure as my morning one, chill, food at 7 sometimes with training but if he seems tired or done we just give it as a licki bowl. Then he's usually out til 9:30, where he wakes up, we chill for an hour and he sits there chewing on a pig ear and then final wee before bed and sleeps through the night.
If I'm doing something wrong please can you tell me what it is / how to rectify. If you haven't got any advice can I please just have some reassurance that it will improve as he leaves puppy hood, even if it's past adolescence idm I just can't cope with the idea that I can never have a dog I can just chill with. It gets really frustrating and I am getting some resentment towards him. I know it's not his fault but I can't help but feel so upset when I try and just relax with him and I end up with scratches all over my legs and holes in my clothes. I know I'm lucky that this is my only bug bearer because it's normal not to be able to settle but I need to know if I'm doing something wrong / causing it somehow.

Where I live the noise level can go from quiet and pleasant - think birds chirping - to insane within a matter of seconds. The summer is coming and the noise will become constant from 8am - at least 10pm.
It's delivered mostly by antisocial neighbour's kids kicking a football against or next to my living and sleeping space, screaming, banging (concrete block, noise travels and echoes).
I'll do my best to address the antisocial neighbour head-on but I don't always have the mental and physical strength to deal with it let alone get out of the flat for a moment of peace. Plus, it appears the entire neighbourhood loves these people for reasons I can't fathom and they seem to be 'protected' by my Housing Association from any reprimand.
Feeling kinda exhausted by it atm. I can't concentrate or do anything other than stew on it.
Where you can help:
I'd like to be able to do things or just be in some peace.

1. Will noise cancelling headphones work to drown out the repeated banging on my wall?
2. Would using noise cancelling earbuds and something over the ear work too?
3. What are some good over-ear headphones to help with this kind of noise?
4. Anything else I can do to try and live in peace?

Can everyone throw me their suggestions for a happier existence (aside from going for a walk!)!?

TL,DR: I feel trapped in current relationship, but don’t know if this is normal in most adult relationships, and don’t want to hurt someone who loves me.
My current partner and I have been together for about 2 years, and lived together for longer than half of that. She’s a great person, has great feelings, cares for her family, and is financially stable; I do believe she’ll be a great mothewife one day.
However, over the last few months I’ve come to doubt whether I’ll be at her side to see her become that. We have had a couple issues with stress, from work and life circumstances, and although we both want similar things out of life, I’m not sure we are on the same page atm:

• I want to see more of the world: I used to go out hiking, camping and exploring before we met, that along a physically active lifestyle brought fulfillment to me; she’s not the greatest fan of the outdoors, and we’ve gained quite a bit of weight due to our sedentary lifestyle. Also, I wish to dedicate time to build a successful career, I’ve been promoted recently and aim to become a director on my department or open my own company later on. She supports me in this, but sometimes implies that I’m working too hard when compared to peers.
• She is more focused on us getting married and having kids, while also being tied down to our city due to her taking care of her parents. I understand where she’s coming from, just don’t know if I’m ready for that life yet. Also, she’s had issues in past relationships breaking her trust, and tends to be controlling with frequency, which was endearing at first, but now bothersome and has led to some arguments.

To be fair, something deep down within is making me feel trapped, and tells me that we will not last too long, but I also feel guilty because she’s a genuinely good person and I know she loves me deeply, I do not wish to hurt her. Additionally, I can’t help but wonder if what I feel is totally normal and people just suck it up, or solve it, and keep things going. Is it time to move on, or am I overreacting and there’s a clear path forward I can’t yet see? I’d appreciate any advice that could provide clarity/guidance on this topic.

Hello all,
30M here, joining the good fight. I waited a day and a half to even post, even though I knew I was sure.
Starting a new job and moving 1200 miles at the end of the week, and I know that seems dumb. But I will be at 7 days by my departure.
I started chewing Cope wintergreen when I was 18, stayed with that for ten years nearly, noticed it was ripping up my mouth, gums and staining my teeth so I made the switch to Zyns.
I never really got too deep into 6s, they were too intense as I liked to double up to emulate the tobacco chew effect better, so I'd rip two 3mgs. Except, it was like an IV during workdays and days off chilling always in my mouth and often times substituted out with freshies with little times to stop.
Recently, I had been feeling a lot of what others have mentioned, the anxiety, rush, palpitations kind of, and had a panic attack most recently when combined with another stimulant, I know, I'm a genius.
This incident led me to quit both. I have medical marijuana and have been using that still but find myself lessening my volume as I had pair bonded smoking and dipping Zyns in my brain, so it causes more trouble than it's worth for the time being sometimes. I also feel hypersensitive ATM so things like carts are becoming intense anyway.
Today, I went to the gym to try to walk for a bit and blow off steam, but made it 0.6 miles before I found myself getting that anxious panic rush that I had felt on Saturday. My heart rate had only gotten up to 100, but I felt that was high for a brisk walk of less than a mile by that point. So I went to the urgent care they did my vitals and my BP was 135/82, pulse 73, and the doctor said unless i feel actual pain or true discomfort and not just anxiety tension, to avoid the ER and a situation that leads me to more anxiety.
I am very physically active and have been training in the gym for several years now, but noticed lately I had been getting winded easily from these things. I genuinely can't believe they are sold on shelves, and even though I know the worst is yet to come, the glimmer I've already felt from life without these things is too much to not continue on.
Keeping myself occupied with gum, sunflower seeds, snacks, water, ginger ale (caffeine free), and the occasional toke. Wish me luck although I think I have finally been pissed off by the effects of this stuff & reading other people's stories to say good night forever.

Ok so a couple days back I was talking to my friend about Broken Vessel/Lost Kin and theorized that it was a failed attempt at creating The Hollow Knight, and here's why. For one, its body is shown to have matured slightly when compared to Ghost, and it's believed that Vessels need some kind of assistance in order to grow I think (which was probably Pale King raising BV). Secondly, BV's corpse is located relatively close to the White Palace's ruins, still being in the Ancient Basin; and as well as we know there were no other exits from the Abyss at that location. Thirdly, I can't think of any other reason as to why BV's area in Ancient Basin was surrounded by the Infection except if maybe tests were being conducted related to the Infection/Radiance on BV; however, when Radiance was attempted to be sealed in BV, their body was simply too weak to contain her light and the Infection burst out like a bomb, causing BV to die, and that whole spot to become infected. Also, I was analyzing the game's soundtrack a little while ago and noticed that Broken Vessel and Sealed Vessel sounded oddly familiar to me (maybe that was just me going crazy from sleep deprivation though lol).
I know this theory definitely needs some more work but this was all the stuff I could think of off the top of my head atm, and I'm completely open to criticism. Let me know what you guys think! 😁

Context; I'm autistic, have been diagnosed for nearly 10 years (diagnosed roughly around when I turned 9). I'm seeing this therapist mainly due to PTSD. I've been working with him for a couple months now, and it's become a recurrent thing that he keeps bringing up autism, and specifically autistic people 'seeing things in black and white', and making comments about how that 'makes it easier' for me to cope with things, or about how it's good that I see things in black and white.
I don't think this is true?? At least not for me? A lot of my PTSD comes from my family members, but part of how I cope with that is recognising the trauma they themselves went through. Seeing the grey aspects is my sole way of rationalising what I went through, being able to recognise that they were victims of circumstance and it wasn't somehow 'my fault' for it.
He also brings up his autistic son every single session, talking about how he struggled a lot when he was younger, didn't learn to drive until he was 30 etc but oh look at him now living independently and thriving. I don't know if this is supposed to be motivational (I don't live independently atm, though it's mainly due to financial aspects) or what, but even if it was motivational, I've heard it enough times by now that I think the message would've sunk in.
Idk, he just keeps bringing autism up as 'a thing', when for me it really isn't one. I was diagnosed pretty young, and assumed to have had it even younger, and I attended autism only schools from the age of 12 onward. Autism and autistic people are very much the default for me, and I feel like he's only bringing it up so much because it ISN'T the default for him. Consistently relating it back to his primary experience with autism, his son, when I don't think the comparison is either apt or actually beneficial to me in any way.
I like him on the whole, he seems overall good at what he does, these definitely aren't issues worthy of finding a new therapist over, these comments are usually brief since I don't really say anything beyond "hm" in response and he moves on, but the consistency of how often he's doing it is beginning to nag at me.
At the same time though I don't feel its worth the stress of addressing it, especially since its only an hour long session and 10-15 mins are already regularly wasted on generic "what have you been up to" type discussion. It feels more time efficient to just let him make the comments and keep it brief, rather than waste time discussing it.
I'm also just generally against trying to limit the way another person talks unless it's actively offensive/harmful; the comments don't offend me, I wouldn't even say I find them annoying, but I do find them pointless, and the repeatedly bringing up 'pointless' things does annoy me.
He said off the bat in our first session that he would mention his personal life occasionally because counselling is a 2 way conversation, so I also feel like it'd be mean of me to go "you're doing that thing you gave me fair warning you would do!" now. Again, I don't specifically have an issue with him bringing up his son, I just don't feel like there's a point to it, yk?
So yeah, any advice appreciated. Is this worth addressing? If I were to address it, how would I go about it?

period: april 28th to May 14th 2024.
Nights spent in: Tokyo - Sendai - Fukushima - Koriyama - Nagoya - Hakata ( Fukuoka ).
If it's really off the beaten path or not you'll decide, some destinations visited are really particular, other are way more popular even if usually not what you'll visit in your first trip to Japan. let's say i've been to japan last summer and did all the usual things one do the first time he's there, probably even something more: Tokyo - Kyoto - Osaka - Nara - Nikko, Fukuoka, Matsumoto, Himeji, Miyajima. pretty much what almost anyone does for their first time if they have the opportunity.
Given the weak Yen and having still some time ( and money ) i could spend i decided to come back less than a year later, this time at the end of April up until half may in order to explore less popular destinations. I'll avoid to provide the usual tips anyone provide, like how to move from narita, how to get a Suica or how to book a train seat, how to operate a toilet and such things.
SOME TIPS
Concerning Suica: contrary to what most people suggest, i didn't buy one neither last summer or this time and frankly i've never missed not having it. I use my mastercard credit card, most places in japan accept it with zero problems and for the rest you can get Yen at any ATM machine that you can find in any combini with it and pay cash wich japanese still very much use
Concerning the period of the year: last year i went in August. I can confirm that moving around in April/May is so incredibly much better. The heat in august is some day even unbearable. This time the weather was mostly fine, got only one day of rain even if the temperatures were still a bit on the cold side overall. Unfortunately this year Sakura came early and I missed it by a week or two. But still apart from the cherry trees all the plants were blossoming and it was so nice to see flowers everywhere compared to the pain of the humidity and the torment of cicadas you have during summer.
Concerning golden week: one of the two weeks i was there was the golden week. I didn't book anything in advance but, maybe because of the fact i was moving off the beaten path, i almost never had problems booking trains or hotels during golden week ( i said almost, more details later ). Cant tell what's the effect when trying to book hotels in places like Kyoto.
concerning planning: my usual planning method goes the following: i book the plane, obviously. I buy JRP ( yes i still bought it even after the price increase ) and i book two days of hotels. The rest of my trip i have an idea of what i want to do and where i want to go but i book hotels and such, while going along. This gives me the flexibility to change my itinerary or react to bad weather ( last summer i run away from a typhoon with this trick ) or unexpected problems ( last summer i got food poisoning and i had to delay my program booking an hotel for three more days than expected: had i booked all nights in advance it would have been a huge problem ). I only book hotels using the booking website app and i can only say good things about it. I travel alone, maybe for couples or families this isn't as easy as it was for me.
Warning: I like to walk and I walk a lot. So if you need tips to move around, I’m not probably the right person because what you might want to do using a bus or a taxi I would probably do by walking. I’ve walked on average of 20 km a day and probably more and if a place is like 3-4 km from where I am I walk there without even looking if there’s a better option with a bus or something else.
I will give a vote to the places I’ve visited according to two parameters:
How off the beaten path it really is, judging by how many foreign tourists I met there. And an overall vote telling how worthy I feel the place is to visit. To make it short I will call them “OTBP VOTE and OVERALL VOTE”

SO LET'S START WITH THE ACTUAL TRIP REPORT:
Day 1: landing in Tokyo at midday in Narita. After finishing all the immigration process i moved to my hotel. This time i decided to book it for two nights in Omiya/Saitama. The place is less than half an hour from Tokyo Station and was the opportunity to see something different. I haven't seen much of the place but the area around the station was very lively, lots of restaurant and lots of people moving around. It was full of decoration with squirrells and a football team, i guess they were either promoting it or they won something cause decorations were everywhere, honestly didn't ask about. Well apart from checking in, recovering from the flight, looking for something to eat and checking a bit the areai didn't do much.
day 2: in the morning i took the train to Ashikaga Flower Park. I've seen picture of it online and according to the informations i gathered i might have been late for the sakura but the Wisteria were in full bloom and they had a lot of them in this park.
So i took the train, it was around an hour ride and Omiya was strategically on the way. I realized my trip plan was proably a good one when, once reached the Ashikaga flower park station ( there's a train station dedicated to this park ) all the people on the train got off. A little walk, ticket and i was in. The place, given the right time of the year, was AMAZING, UNBELIEVABLE. I can't begin to tell you how cool and how huge the wisteria plants were. they were in full bloom, and was something out of this world, it looked like something you see in the movie avatar. Like three or four wisterias as big as a basketball field if not even more, of different colours and kinds, plus a lot more of regular sized wisterias and a lot more flower plants of all kinds. Had to say, for some reason with all the flowers the air wasn’t at all full of their scent. I even got a wisteria flavoured ice cream, wich was probably a wisteria coloured ice cream cause it didn’t have any real particular taste. The place was packed with Japanese people and foreigners like me you could count them on the fingers of one hand. I arrived there early, so by early afternoon I was satisfied with my visit and moved away. A quick check on my train app and google maps and realized I could reach Kawagoe from there fairly easily.
ASHIKAGA FLOWER PARK OTBP: 9 OVERALL: 10
When I was on the train it stopped at the Tochigi station, it looked nice from the train so I decided to jump off and check the area a bit, because sometime I do that kind of things, and the idea wasn’t bad at all: the town itself doesn’t look anything special but there’s a canal wich was very picturesque, plus it was fully decorated with paper carps because of the time of the year and Japanese people were doing boat rides on the river on traditional little boats while singing songs. I won't say to go there specifically to see the place, but if you're on that train route or still around it, it might be worth a stop. So, once I finished checking the area I jump back on the train and finally reached Kawagoe.
TOCHIGI: OTBP: 10 OVERALL: 6 ½
Kawagoe is a small place north of Tokyo, not very far, wich is know for a small neighbourhood with old Edo houses. That neighbourhood is more far from the station that I expected, but still nice and worth a check. There’s a very cool bell tower there and one of the coolest Starbucks I’ve ever seen. I wouldn’t spend a whole day in Kawagoe if you ask me but If you’re in Tokyo and have an half day available that you don't know how to spend I’d say it’s totally worth a train ride. Had my dinner there and then moved back to Omiya where I would spend my last night.
KAWAGOE: OTBP: 7 OVERALL: 7
Day 3: woke up early, jumped on the train and moved to Sendai where I had planned to stay the next three nights. Once again Omiya was a good choice cause I could take the shinkansen right from there without having to move back to Tokyo.
Arrived in Sendai, left my luggage in the hotel where I couldn’t check in cause it was still to early and hopped on a local train in direction of Matsushima. By midday I was already in Matsushima. This is another very famous destination for Japanese people, one of the most known panoramas in japan. Have to say, the town is a typical sea town, definitely welcoming. I had one of the best Sushi I ever had in japan in a local restaurant ( check matsushima sushi kou if interested ). Visited Zuiganji temple and then walked a bit on the coast, crossed the Fukuurabashi bridge, the long red bridge that you probably have seen in some picture, and walked around Fukuurajima. Here you can have a walk around the island it’s not small but is small enough that you can walk it all fairly quickly and it has some nice spots to discover. You have to pay a small fee to cross the bridge. Then went back, checked the Godaido of Zuiganji and it’s worth mentioning that when walking along the coast I’ve stumbled across a couple of signs giving instructions on what to do in case of a tsunami and what happened back in 2011, wich I didn’t even think about up until that moment and suddenly the memories went back to what happened there more than 10 years ago. Last thing, my advice is to walk down to Oshima island. This little island is less crowded, you can reach it crossing a little red bridge and honestly to me it’s the best spot to admire Matsushima. I didn’t went for the ferry ride across the bay cause the weather wasn’t very good and I was starting to be a little short on time, so I moved back to Sendai.
MATSUSHIMA: OTBP: 9 OVERALL: 8 ½
Once back in Sendai, I went to see the sunset from the panoramic floor of the AER building near the station, wich is totally free even if finding the right elevator that takes you up might be a bit tricky, but the view is totally worth it, you can even see in the distance the big white shape of the dai-kannon and from the other side of the floor you can easily see the sea.
Talking about Sendai, I didn’t dedicate to the city the time that should have been necessary because I was always on day trips and I spend there mostly the late evenings, but my impression is that Sendai is a very nice city that should appear more often in peoples itineraries. The city is particularly vibrant and alive, lot of young people, lot of things to see and do, a covered shopping street that is almost endless full of restaurants and shops, way more green than many other Japanese cities. I’d recommend anyone who had the time and the opportunity to spend a little time here. Also it has a very distinctive identity and everything proudly revolves around the image of its founder Date Masamune who is everywhere in senday, even the penguin of the local DonQuishotte mall was dressed up as Date Masamune.
So after the panorama, I went in the hotel, finally checked in and then moved back to look for food. Walked down what I think is called ichibancho street, wich as I said before is an endless downtown road full of shops and restaurant and stopped to have a try at the most famous local dish, Gyutan, wich is grilled cow tongue. Never had tongue in my life and have to admit it, it’s not bad at all, I quite enjoyed it. Had a little more walk around then called it a day.
SENDAI: OTBP: 7 ½ OVERALL: 9
Day 4: today trip is to Hiraizumi, a UNESCO world heritage site, where you can admire some historically significant buddhist sites. You had to catch a coincidence in Ichinoseki but the whole ride is pretty straight forward and doesn’t really take much time. At 9 am I was already ready to explore. As I sad I’m a walker, so I walked the walk from the station to the Chuson Ji temple wich is around 2 km and I totally recommend it cause the town is quite nice to walk through, very small village, very cozy and intimate. Chuson Ji it’s a very beautiful complex to explore, it’s inside a forest, kinda reminds a bit of Nikko atmosphere if you’ve been there even if the buildings aren’t as spectacular. The whole wood was full of blossoming plants and here and there I was able to spot some late cherry tree still full of flowers, giving me an hint to what sakura must really be.
You stumble in the temple buildings one after another while you go deep into the wood. I reach the main building and there’s a ceremony in progress. I discovered later that the next day was planned the Fujiwara festival where all people dress up like in Edo period and do a parade in the city. The day I was there instead the children parade was planned, so it was full of kids dressed up and judging by how proud and elegant their parents were I tend to think it was a pretty big thing for them. I enjoy the situation for a while, then went back to exploring, till I reached the main attraction of the temple wich is the Konjikido, a golden pavilion that dates back to the XII century wich is amazing to see in person.
Once I finished exploring the whole Chuson Ji complex I went looking for a restaurant and had a nice ramen set, because the visit took the whole morning, then moved to the second stop wich was Motsuji Temple: as much as Chuson Ji impressed me, Motsu-ji disappointed me. The thing is, you pay to enter and in the end what you see is a place mostly empty, where the only building there are reconstructions and most places are just a bunch of rocks with signs saying “here once was this building” “here once was that building” and the main thing you’ll see there is a pond whose importance is that it dates back to the time when Japanese gardens were kinda dull compared to what they’ll become centuries later. So it’s kinda a pond that you would completely ignore in a different context. I mean, I totally get the historical importance of this place, but, honestly from the ignorant eyes of a tourist it’s really nothing you would invest your time visiting, according to my opinion.
Another place that would have been worth visiting was Takkoku-no Iwaya Bishamondo, but isn’t really that easy to reach, it’s a bit far to walk to and I was once again out of time, therefore I decided to skip it and went back to the station and to sendai where I again went to look for something to eat and had a little night stroll, nothing worth mentioning.
HIRAIZUMI: OTBP: 9 OVERALL: 8
Day 5: today I decided to go to Kakunodate. The town is a easily reachable by train from sendai but a bit far compared to the day before. Went off the station and once again started walking. The place is known mainly for its many samurai houses, all indications point to them so it’s not possible to miss them. The town itself for the little I’ve seen doesn’t really seem to offer much apart from that but the samurai distict it’s nice. Many of the houses have been converted into small museums, that you can visit paying a small fee. I entered one of them, there was a little tour showing the history of the city and the history of the family of samurai living there. Among the things you could do you had the chance even to hold a real katana ( it felt quite a clumsy and top heavy sword compared to what I had imagined ). In fairness, to my taste, there isn’t much to do apart from visiting the samurai district, yes you can visit the local museum, do some craft shopping ( I bought a very nice box made of cherry bark there wich is a typical local craft ) therefore after a late lunch I was back to Sendai. In my opinion if you want to see a Samurai district you can also go to Kanazawa and there’s much more to see there overall compared to Kakunodate, but if you like the atmosphere of a smaller village instead of a big city and you like something more “off the beaten path” then I’d say go to kakunodate.
KAKUNODATE: OTBP: 8 ½ OVERALL: 6 ½
Given i was back to sendai relatively early, that gave me the opportunity to walk ( yes I walked even there ) to see the dai-kannon. The walk was nice, it took me through some very quiet neighbourhood that you wouldn’t normally visit. When I reached the statue It was too late to go inside it but I still had a good view of it. That is a quite impressive sight, you almost have difficulty to grasp the actual size of it. The area around the statue has really nothing to offer, therefore my honest suggestion is take a ride with the sightseeing bus and use that to reach it and once you’re finished with the statue move to a more interesting spot.
And this was my last day in Sendai. My plan at this point was to book two nights at Koriyama but probably because of the golden week I wasn’t able to find a hotel to my liking there therefore I decided to book one night in Fukushima and the next night in Koriyama. These were the two more expensive nights of all my trip and still ended up spending only around 70 € a night.
Day 6: plan for the day: leave the luggage in the hotel, visit Yamadera, go back to sendai, pick up the luggage and move to fukushima to spend the night. Yamadera is truly easy to reach from Sendai and a very recommended destination if you happen to be in Sendai. The place is mostly known for a temple that is reachable walking an abundant number of steps up a hillside. You reach the town, wich Is a very little and cozy village in the mountains west from Sendai and the temple is very close to the station so it’s not possible to miss it. You can tell the whole village revolves around the temple but it still maintain an authentic spirit. Lots of restaurants and little shops to visit on the road that brings to the temple. The temple itself is very “vertical” : sets of stone stairs will lead you up the side of the hills, till you reach the main building and a couple of satellite building where you’ll be rewarded by an amazing view on the village below. If you don’t mind stairs you’ll be rewarded with a very relaxing atmosphere. Here too given the latitude and the altitude I’ve been able to enjoy a couple of late blossoming cherry trees. The weather was amazing that day and all the gardens where full of flowers, this made the whole trip particularly enjoyable. Luckly I’m an early bird because later in the day the place was really packed with visitors. Once I was finished I had a nice set of Yamagata Dashi Soba in a typical restaurant with Tatamis low tables and a beautiful view on the river that cuts in half the village.
YAMADERA: OTBP: 10 OVERALL 9
After a late lunch I jumped back to the train, went back to sendai to pickup the luggage and moved to the next stop, Fukushima. Here I had the first disappointment of my trip. As my usual I booked a hotel that was close to the main train station, wich is usally the place where you want to be. I had a walk around there and the impression I got from Fukushima was that the place was miserable, a place that has really nothing much to offer to a tourist and not even to a citizen because compared to all the other places I’ve been in japan the impression was that even the locals weren’t as lively and enjoying life that much. I hope I’m not offending anyone and for sure I can’t give a proper review of the place after just an evening spent there, but the impression I got was of one of those town, that you can find in every country you'll visit, where young people can’t wait to get old enough to run away from.
FUKUSHIMA: OTBP: 9 ½ OVERALL: 4
DAY 7: wake up in fukushima, move to Koriyama, leave the luggage at the hotel, and then visit Ouchi-Juku and Aizu Wakamatsu. If you’re wondering, the thing is doable but you need to move early. Once you reach Koriyama you take the local train for Aizu Wakamatsu. There you jump on another local train, wich isn’t entirely operated by JR so you’ll have to pay a ticket, to Yunokami Onsen station where you end up in one of the coolest train stations in japan because it’s built in the style of a traditional house with wooden interiors and a straw roof, and it has a feet onsen right outside where you can wait the train while bathing your feet in thermal water, how cool is that?
From here you take a bus and reach Ouchi Juku. On paper it sounds harder than it actually is but you have to plan your trip properly. Ouchi Juku is a post town all made of traditional houses that reminds you a bit of Shirakawa Go, I frankly don’t know how it isn’t more popular among foreigners cause it’s truly a one of a kind place. Most probably is because it’s so off the beaten path and hard to reach. Still it’s extremely popular among Japanese people because the place was crowded and, when I left, the car traffic was stuck by how many people where trying to reach the place by car. I have to tell you in all honestly the place is probably a bit too touristy because there’s not a single house that isn’t turned into a gift shop or a restaurant. But still the place is so charming and picturesque that is totally worth a visit, plus the surrounding woods, mountains and rice field really act like a frame around the most beautiful picture. So I spend the morning here and around 2 pm I move back to Aizu, because there are really not many bus runs in the evening taking you back to Yunokami Onsen and you better reach the place early.
OUCHI JUKU: OTBP: 10 OVERALL: 9
That gives me the opportunity to visit Aizu Wakamatsu. Ive heard about the city for its castle and for the legend of the Byakko Tai. I get off to Aizu Wakamatsu main station and walk across town till I reach the castle. Keep in mind it’s Saturday and along the whole walk I might have crossed three people. The city was deserted and one thing I’ve learned is, if people on a Saturday evening flee a city like that, then there isn’t much to do or see there, and that’s the impression I got, kinda like Fukushima, probably even worse. Still, I reached the castle: the park is very nice, the castle is a beautiful Japanese castle but, to my understanding it’s a modern reconstruction cause the original castle was lost during the Meiji restoration as Aizu was one of the spots that rised against the emperor. At least around the castle there were now many people. From the castle, wich I didn’t visit inside, I went back to the train station, this time I reached Nanukamachi station and I have to admit it the area there seemed more alive and interesting to stroll around than the area around main Aizu station, therefore maybe I just walked across the wrong part of the town, I honestly can’t tell.
AIZU: OTBP: 9 OVERALL: 6
From Aizu I finally moved by train to Koriyama. I really didn’t spend enough time there to have a proper opinion but the impression I got was of a laid back place, more relaxing than sendai and definitely more alive than fukushima. If I had more time I’d probably give it a shot for a day visit, it might be a surprise.

DAY 8: by this day I ended up with a terrible sore throath that I had to endure almost till my last day in japan. I never had a fever but there was definitely something going around, I kept hearing many Japanese people coughing on trains all around japan so there was definitely something going around, maybe it’s just the season changing, it happens during this season all the times to have some cold or cough. Anyway, the day I had to wake up early and move from Koriyama to Nagoya by Shinkansen, wich was a considerably long trip but at least it gave me the opportunity to take probably the best picture I’ve ever take of mount fuji, from the train. Once in Nagoya I left the luggage in the hotel ( wich, thanks probably to the fact that the golden week just ended, I happened to book for 4 nights for a whopping 25€ a night wich was a total steal even for current Japanese standard prices ). There I immediately jumped on another train and went to visit Inuyama.
The area around Nagoya is a bit tricky cause it’s full of railroads operated by a company that is not JR wich are not covered by the JR Pass but there’s a JR station a bit to the north of Inuyama that will do the job. The place is totally recommended for three reason: it’s overall nice, with the Kiso river cutting it, the castle is one of the few original ones and even if small is considered a national treasure and the whole area around the castle is very nice and worthy to spend some time on. So I visited the castle, the view from the top floor is awesome and in a clear day you can easily spot the skyline of Nagoya. Outside the castle there’s an edo style street full of shops, restaurants and street food that is nice to explore, totally recommended a walk there.
INUYAMA: OTBP: 8 ½ OVERALL: 10
Coming back to Nagoya I just had energy to look for food then I went back to my hotel for a good night of sleep.
DAY 9: a day trip from Nagoya to Ise. The trip isn’t that easy, you got to take a couple of trains if you move only by JR ( and a couple of stops of one of them aren’t even JR operated wich is a little confusing honestly ) and you end up in Iseshi station. From there I moved to Ise Jingu Geku, wich is the outer sanctuary and from there you can take a bus ( guess what, I walked instead ) to the main Ise sanctuary. If you don’t know Ise Jingu is the most sacred place in the Shinto religion and is regularly visited even by the emperor given his role in the Shinto religion. Inside the main temple one of the most sacred relics of Shinto religion is preserved.
Well, being totally honest here’s my impressions of Ise: it’s not simple to reach. The city itself, for what I’ve seen, looks like it has seen better days, meaning it looks like it’s falling apart. And the temples, there’s really not that much to see: they are in a forest, and the temples are not that spectacular, plus the most interesting parts are forbidden to visit. You can go to Atsuta Jingu without moving out from Nagoya and have a fairly realistic impression of what you would see in Ise without all the issues. I know people will attack me for what I’m saying, but that is what I’ve got from it. The most fun part was the edo style neighborhood that you can find right before entering the main Isu complex, wich looks almost like a theme park. I don’t say don’t go there, I say if you are, as you are probably, on borrowed time, with lots of places you want to visit and too few days to see them all, if Ise is in your list you might want to use the day to see something else.
ISE: OTBP: 6 ½ OVERALL: 6 ½
DAY 10: I decided to spend the day in Nagoya and take a look of the city, thanks also to the weather that was a bit rainy and really not inviting for another day trip. What I’ve seen in a day is the samurai exposition in Marunouchi. It’s free and it’s totally worth it, lots of beautiful samurai armours and swords. There’s another exposition that opened not many years ago that you can go nto too far but I didn’t visit so I can’t tell about that. From here I went to Nagoya castle. You pay to enter the complex but currently the Castle is under restoration and you can see it from outside ( it’s very impressive, Nagoya and Osaka castles are massive ) but not visit from inside. But the Honmaru Palace right beside it is open and totally worth a visit. From here took the subway ( yeah today I didn’t walk much so I got a subway day pass ) to the Osu Shotengai Shopping District, wich is the usual kind of covered shopping streets nest you can find in all the Japanese cities, and then moved again to Atsuta Jingu Shrine that, as I said, to me is a completely valid alternative to visiting Ise. The day went by without even noticing and I couldn’t see all the other places I had picked, like the Toyota museum, the tokugawa museum or the science museum, but that’s what you get when you only have one day dedicated to visit a city as big as Nagoya. Still I had time to get an impression of the city and I honestly don’t get the bad reputation it has among foreigners, the city looked to me quite interesting, nice, full of things to see and the people felt particularly laid back compared to cities like Tokyo or Osaka, it’s probably the place where I’ve seen the biggest number of tanned Japanese in all the country. To me Nagoya is totally worth at least two or three days dedicated only to visiting the city.
NAGOYA: OTBP: 5 OVERALL: 9
DAY 11: my original plan was to walk the Nakasendo from Magome to Tsumago. But the weather that day was kinda shit, I wasn’t feeling particularly In the mood of a walk because of my throath and I was starting to feel a bit tired, so I improvised and went for a day in Takayama and Gero Onsen. Takayama is pretty famous. I went there around 20 years ago and I remembered it as a very nice place. Getting back now, with all the Japanese places I’ve seen so far, I would say this: the train trip to Takayama is Spectacular, is a truly feast for the eyes. The town itself, it left me a little disappointed. The Edo style streets that its famous for, I’ve seen so many of them at that point around japan that it didn’t really leave a significant impression on me. And it was honestly smaller than I remembered it. Plus the weather, as I said, didn’t help. So overall the reality didn’t stand up to my memories and my expectations. Plus most of the houses there have now been turned in cheap souvenir shops with nothing giving you an authentic feeling. Don’t know, probably I wasn’t really in the mood that day.
TAKAYAMA: OTBP: 2 OVERALL: 6 ½
I took the opportunity on the way back to stop at Gero Onsen. Unfortunately I didn’t have the time to actually stop for an onsen cause overall the whole day wasn’t planned and I mainly improvised. Still the town is very nice and probably, having no expectations or no knowledge of it, even more worth visiting than Takayama. Had a nice walk around the town, and at least had the opportunity to “feel” the thermal water cause there’s plenty of fountains with hot spring water where you can rest your feet or your hands. It was enough to make me aware that a proper onsen there must be a very enjoyable experience.
GERO ONSENS: OTBP: 8 OVERALL: 8
And after this I went to Nagoya where I spent my last night in the city.

DAY 12: moving to Fukuoka ( Hakata ). I booked a hotel near Hakata station so I jumped on the shinkansen and moved there. The ride was as confortable as any shinkansen ride can be and I reached the place sooner than I imagined. First thing was a good look of the city from the panoramic floor in the station. Then had a walk to the Canal City mall wich is a very weirdly and interesting designed mall that is a very popular location in town. Had a walk from there to Nakasu island where I got a quick dinner considering it was already time, and had another walk around the area wich unfortunately will turn out to be my only experience of Fukuoka. I’ll spend here three nights but the following days will be so full that won’t give me any chance to visit the town more, so in the end I don’t really have an opinion on Fukuoka if not that I should probably have spent more time there, but unfortunately the days you have are numbered and there’s so much to see that you have to give up something here and there, so i won't even give a vote to the city.
DAY 13: Destination is Kagoshima that it’s easily reachable by train. I went there with no real expectation and I was totally blown away. Something clicked and I instantly liked the town, I must say that probably the fact that one of the most beautiful girls I’ve seen in japan out of the blue started a conversation with me on the train probably helped a lot in putting me in a good mood.
From the station I walked downtown till the coast. On the way I stopped shopping a bit, found a local market where local artisans that day were exposing their crafts wich I liked a lot and went to the top floor of the Centerrace Mall to get a panoramic view of the city with an amazing view on Sakurajima volcano. If you don’t know it’s the symbol of the city and it’s said to be almost always active, the whole day I’ve been there he kept puffing little clouds of smoke from time to time, it was very cool. So, once reached the cost I walked ( you should know it by now ) till I reached Sengan-En wich is the garden and the palace of a local lord and it’s very beautiful, totally worth a visit, also compared to many other places in japan, this is more modern and therefore more unique both in the architecture of the palace and the style of the garden. I’d say if you are in Kagoshima you won’t regret visiting it ( maybe don’t do like me and take a bus cause it’s more than 6 km from the station ). After visiting Sengan En I went back to the ferries and took a ferry to Sakurajima. The ferry is very cheap, 200 yen, and quick to reach it’s destination, but on Sakurajima there’s really not much to do if you don’t plan to use a bus or some other kind of transportation. Since it was already evening, I had nothing planned and I had to go back to Hakata, I just took the time to have a walk on the Lava Trail wich is a walk in a natural park that has grown over an old lava flow, wich is a quite unique thing that I enjoyed more than I expected. Then I went back to Kagoshima, had dinner and moved back to Hakata. I have to say I really enjoyed Kagoshima, the city has a unique vibe, very laid back, the people seemed to be relaxed and happy and were much more open toward foreigners than anywhere I’ve experienced. If I’ll ever be back in japan I’ll surely manage to spend some more time in Kagoshima. I took the train and I was back in hakata at around midnight so I went straight to bed in hotel
KAGOSHIMA: OTBP: 10 OVERALL: 10
Day 14: Nagasaki. Another fairly easy destination to reach from Fukuoka. The city itself is very narrow and develops around its river. As a tourist I was immediately attracted to its atomic bomb museum, wich is north from the station. I went there, you don’t say, by foot.
And later, once I’ve done with the atomic bomb part, the Nagasaki near the sea.
And here starts the tale of the two Nagasaki, because it feels like two different places in one. The north part, wich I didn’t enjoy much, felt a bit neglected and it’s mostly houses where people live. And it’s the part where you’ll see more tourists because as I said all the atomic spots are there.
On the other hand the south part near the city was to me much more alive and full of life, I’m no expert but that’s probably where the locals like to spend their free time and on the other hand you’ll see way less tourists here.
Back to the morning, I did what most tourists do, and visited the atomic bomb museum, the peace park, the ipocenter, and went also to see the half standing torii that is one of the few authentic places left as testament of the bombing, around the city. Talking about the museum, I’ve been to both thins and Hiroshima and, even if Hiroshima is bigger and with much more to see, I would suggest if one has the opportunity to visit also the Nagasaki one, it absolutely has its own legs to stand on. On a side note, out of 10 visitors, 9 were foreigners, I guess Japanese already know their history and don’t feel the need to visit such a place on a nice Sunday morning.
The peace park it’s a park, there you can see the famous statue wich is one of the main symbols of Nagasaki and that, if you ask me, is one of the ugliest statues you can find in the world, but still if you’re in Nagasaki you probably don’t want to miss it.
After lunch I moved to the sea side, here I’ve seen DeiJima wich is the former artificial island where the Portuguese were segregated centuries ago, very interesting place, kinda like a mix of an open air museum and a theme park, felt a little bit plastic but still worth some of your time.
Then had a walk to the near seaside park wich is a very nice and relaxing place where flocks of eagles fly so low over your head that if you rise your hand you can almost touch them, and pretty much ended the day there before having to go back to Fukuoka.
NAGASAKI: OTBP: 5 OVERALL: 7 ½

Day 15 – 16 - 17: my last full days in japan. I was in need of some rest at this point and I needed to move closer to Narita where I had booked my flight for day 18, so i spent more than half of day 15 to transfer from Hakata to Tokyo. I booked my last hotel for three nights near Otsuka station, wich if you ask me is a nice spot to stay in Tokyo. When I arrived in the evening there was a rose festival and all around the station there were roses bushes in flower and there were people singing and the whole station looked alive but also quiet, if you like a place to stay In Tokyo that it’s not chaotic like Shinjuku or Shibuya I’d recommend Otsuka.
The last days aren’t really worth mentioning, I’ve spent most of the time shopping for souvenirs, and recovering for all the travel i did the two weeks before. I explored a couple of places worth mentioning that not everyone ever goes to in Tokyo, like Nakano Broadway ( a weird shopping district that feels like a little Akiabara ), Nippori where there’s a little known street nice for shopping, or Chiba where there’s one of the biggest mall in japan but apart from that nothing much that you can read in the report of anyone who have been to Tokyo.
And with this, I think I can conclude my report. If you want me to upload some picture and you have a site to suggest me where it’s easy to upload and you don’t have to make an account let me know and if there’s enough interest I will oblige as soon as I’ve finished downloading all the pictures from my phone.

Welcome to Abyss RP - Where Immersion Meets Reality! * Dive into the ultimate serious RP experience where realism knows no bounds!
Abyss RP is your gateway to a virtual world teeming with thrilling activities, both lawful and illicit.
Calling all Heroes of Healing! Dive into the heart of Abyss RP and join our Emergency Medical Services (EMS) team! Whether you're stitching up wounds on the front lines or racing against time to save lives, Abyss RP needs dedicated individuals like you to ensure the safety and well-being of our citizens. Be a beacon of hope in our immersive world. Join the ranks of the courageous and make a difference today!
Calling all Enforcers and Citizens alike! Whether you're looking to uphold the law or navigate the shadows of the underground, Abyss RP has something for everyone. Join our ranks as a civilian, or step into the shoes of law enforcement to maintain order in the chaos. Police Duty Awaits! Answer the call of duty.
From illegal crafting to the precision of license forgery, Abyss RP offers a myriad of immersive activities such as: Lumberjack Job with Realistic Animations
Construction Work
Garbage Searching
Mining
Expeditions
Player Sabotage
Drug Crafting
9 Heart-Pounding Heists including ATMs, Big Banks, and even an Oil Rig! And that's just scratching the surface!
Choose Your Path! Forge your destiny as a daring criminal mastermind or a law-abiding citizen - the city is yours to conquer! With a plethora of activities and jobs, every moment is an opportunity for excitement.
Explore the Underworld! Delve into the depths of our criminal underworld, where lucrative deals and dangerous alliances await. From drug trafficking to gang warfare, the city is ripe for the taking.
A World of Endless Possibilities! Immerse yourself in our meticulously crafted environment, where every interaction feels real. With a balanced economy and dynamic gameplay, the stage is set for unforgettable adventures.
Join the Evolution! Abyss RP is constantly evolving, with new features and updates rolling out regularly. Be a part of our thriving community and help shape the future of our city!
Customization Galore! With over 400 cars and 3000 clothing options, express yourself like never before. Stand out in a city teeming with diversity and style.
Your Voice Matters! At Abyss, we value your input above all else. Share your ideas and suggestions to make our city even better. Together, we'll create an unforgettable experience for every player. What are you waiting for?
Join us today and embark on the adventure of a lifetime! Don't miss out on the excitement-join our Discord now and become a part of something extraordinary. We'll see you in the city!
Join Us Today! Discord: discord.gg/PMJb24MzcQ
Please Note: Abyss RP is an 18+ server. No exceptions.

Does anyone have some advice on this please?
My ROCD was triggered 2 years in to my current rship on a long trip away (had pockets of relationship anxiety now and then otherwise) - it’s jumped around a little since the end of Jan but the last few months I have been mainly obsessing over random things/jokes my partner says, my partners social interactions and the words he uses. The future has suddenly become so blurry and I constantly can only recall negative things about the relationship, I guess that’s what my brain is scanning for atm.
I’ve come along way in terms of reducing my intrusive thoughts, amplifying them when they appear, working with a therapist on ERP etc. It’s been slightly challenging as I have new content and thoughts every time we spend extended time together or see friends etc.
My question is what’s the next step without practising ERP and accepting uncertainty forever? I know I need to keep going with all of this without engaging in compulsions etc but what does the other side look like? I need to feel more positive about the relationship to take the next step with him - I had practically no or minimal doubts about this before but at the moment just feel stuck managing this and it's taken a bit of a toll on the rship too. Also is it ok to reflect on positive times and memories when it isn't in response to an intrusive thought or a compulsion?
In terms of getting to the root of this I’ve read about IFS therapy but also potentially considering solution focussed hypnotherapy. Has anyone tried either of these and found them helpful? Or on the flip side has anyone got through ROCD with just ERP/cutting out compulsions?
Thanks in advance!

Hey guys, trying to get some ideas for singed buffs and wanted to ask the community
I will be sending this thread to phroxzon as well, I'm trying really really hard to keep singed on Riot's radar atm
Obvious choices are:

• poison trail revert/buff to 90% ratio or more
• fling damage revert from season 11 nerf
• tenacity on ult like it's season 3 again (something small, 5/10/15% per level)
• mana cost/cooldown buffs

Some less obvious choices imo:

• poison trail shred 1 MR per second up to a cap (maybe 15 mr shred possible at level 9? Squishy champs have so much base MR nowadays and this would be not great vs top lane champs, meaning singed could kill squishies without become stupid OP in top lane)
• W missile speed increase - makes W harder to dodge essentially
  • Go missile is VFX only and has a fixed travel time, but I don't see a reason why the ability itself cannot be made fasteharder to dodge
• Fling range increased to 150 (125 currently)
• Singed auto range increased to 150 (125 currently)
• base movespeed to 350 (current list of 340, 345, and 350 base MS champs) - this one might make singed really OP since movespeed is the biggest buff you can give many champs, but given the amount of mobility creep in the game I could see if being usable
• perma ghosting/unitwalking effect similar to fizz to prevent minion blocking
• make fling an auto-attack reset
• W castable while moving (keep the cast time, prevents guaranteed fling into W, but just let me keep running)
• Bonus movement speed towards enemies inside of mega adhesive?
• Bonus poison damage or fling damage to jungle monsters (allows top singed to steal jg camps, enables singed jg potentially)
• attack speed on R? less useful than tenacity on R but might help in extreme niche cases (also used to have this like 12 years ago if i recall correctly)
• maybe on each level of ult you pick an augment, similar to gangplank ult, between tenacity, MR shred, or some other effect? idk just throwing stuff at the wall, not a huge fan of this one personally but i could see it being a cool way to give power while keeping singed less oppressive

Some advice on managing symptoms would be good. I (24f) have been dealing with constant ache, severe fatigue, numbness and needle-like pains for a few years now, and was diagnosed two weeks ago. I was just told to recover mental health cause my pain will go away if I make the link between the two, but if that’s the case I’m not gonna get better for another several months at least due to cptsd and severe depression that I’m in therapy for atm 🫤. I had to emphasize I haven’t been working for a year to get a referral to physical therapy 🙄.
My work history is spotty too, each time felt like I was physically at my limit, dissociating from the pain and fatigue, then left for reasons unrelated to that (but the pain and fatigue reduced my tolerance a ton). I’m afraid to work any job now cause I’m worried I won’t have a life like the times before + pain and fatigue. Unemployed I can barely take care of myself at home, even with support from my boyfriend and his mom. I currently feel like I can’t work and that I need to get on disability, but I hear it’s very difficult, plus all the medical advice I hear tells me I should still work any job. What does that mean? Should I ignore the pain and fatigue? Do I only work when I feel less pain and have more energy? Taking care of myself is already very exhausting, and I’m afraid of becoming suicidal like I was when I worked last.
What do you guys do to still go to work and enjoy life outside of work?