I am 18 (m) and my grandma is around 80 (f). I do not have a good relationship with her and she does not have a good relationship with my parents. Here’s the load down of the past. Either before I was born my parents went with no contact because she said something mean about my mom (well deserved). She’s my dad’s mom by the way. I have touch of the tism (I’m planning to get tested in college) and she would yell at me that I needed to unciated my words better I was around 7. She would constantly be angry with me as a child because of how much of a picky eater I am (I’m currently working on it and getting better). My parents were good at accommodating me and always brought food for me so I wouldn’t starve. She also called my brother a picky eater which isn’t true because he eats mostly everything like me. My last straw was when I was sixteen and visiting her for the weekend with my mom (my couldn’t be there because of his work). So…two narcissists and one kid wonderful! She was teaching me how to create a fire and got angry with me because she had to repeat instructions. I know I’m a slower learner than the normal person and need things taken at a slower pace after the campfire I was grabbing my phone from the room I was staying in and accidentally closed the doors. We were supposed to keep them open so the rooms wouldn’t get hot. After hanging out with my friends near her house and going back. She was in the dinning hall and screamed at me because I forgot to keep the door open and I was called selfish. I have a trigger for when people are yelling because of my home life. I was holding in my tears and my mom had to console me. I remember walking on eggshells during the rest of the weekend.
Now jump to the current situation. Earlier this year she and my dad spent a weekend together and she had given me 100 dollars that I used towards my dorm for college. She had also told my dad that she was going to fly out to come to my graduation party and my graduation ceremony. Which I wasn’t all excited for but it did make my dad happy which made me happy. I have a soft spot for my dad. The Monday before my grad party she texted my dad saying she wouldn’t be able to come because and now this is paraphrasing “I had such a life changing experience this weekend that I don’t think I can make it to your child’s graduation” The life changing experience her other grandkids birthday party. She gave me $200. Now I’m working towards writing thank you notes and this is what I want to write in hers…
Dear Grandma Margaret (fake name in my corner of the family we call her by her first name)
Thank for giving me around 300 dollars. However this does not forgive you for what you told my dad as an “excuse” for not showing up to my grad party. Because of this offense I will no longer be visiting you or talking to you. I have had enough of your bs and I don’t want you in my life anymore. You don’t have to send my money or make me apart of your will. You can go ahead and write me out of it. Your “apology money” doesn’t make up for the way you hurt my family especially my dad your son.
From,
MX
Would this be a good idea? Or will it cause issues in my family?

Book Your Free Consultation Today! > Discord @ shelbion

About Me

My name is Shelbion and I've been an avid League of Legends player for over a decade. In Season 4, I reached Challenger for the first time and even considered pursuing a professional career. However, after much reflection, I decided to pursue other challenges within the game.
Some of my notable achievements as a player include:

• Reaching Challenger on multiple positions.
• Participating and winning in numerous SR and 1v1 tournaments.
• Playing for various teams(Amateur and Semi-Professional).

Coaching

With over 7.000 hours of coaching experience, I fall into the category of one of the most experienced individuals in the field. My experience, passion, and ability to identify your flaws and tailor each session to your needs make me stand out as a Coach.
I've studied the techniques of renowned coaches, such as LS, MagiFelix, and others, and I've developed my unique coaching approach. So far, my approach has helped countless individuals, and over 20 teams advance their competitive play, across 5 different continents, including members of various College and University eSport Teams.
Some of my notable achievements include:

• Assisting a Diamond 2 player reach Challenger in just five weeks.
• Helping a Silver 2 player climb to Platinum in three weeks.
• Guiding a Diamond 3 player to Grandmaster in six weeks.

I am dedicated to continuously honing my skills and providing the best coaching experience possible to all of my clients, regardless of their rank or location.

Subscription Based Coaching

• One Individual Session (Monthly)
• Group Sessions (Weekly) x2
• Priority Coaching - Price: 99.99 > 49.99$.

Verifications & Certifications

• Certified IFOEC (International Federation of eSport Coaches) Educator & Coach.
• Certified EHPI (eSports Health & Performance) Professional.
• University of Irvine eSport Specialization
• Verified Coachify & Metafy Partner.

Community

In addition to my experience as a Player, I am also the Founder of Noxus Coaching - a rapidly growing, educational community on Discord. Our community is a great place to find new friends to play with, have a good time, and most importantly, improve your skills.
We hold various events on a weekly basis, including 1v1 & 5v5 tournaments, meme contests, and more. There are plenty of rewards to be won, including free coaching sessions with me. To join our community, visit https://discord.gg/RHW9BMxRd5 and message me upon joining to receive your role.

Podcast

• Podcast Appearance > https://youtu.be/4jn4FXOaOlE?si=98POLUJdJeSNnbiW

How Does it Work?

We will schedule an initial Interview during which we can discuss your goals and I can provide a more detailed explanation of my coaching services. This interview will typically last for 3-5 minutes.
The First Session is designed to assess your current level of gameplay and identify areas for improvement. After conducting an analysis, I will create a Personalized Coaching Plan tailored to your specific needs. This plan will outline a series of sessions designed to maximize your improvement.
The Coaching Plan may include various session types, such as:

• Theory sessions: These sessions will cover key concepts such as wave management, vision, decision making, and more.
• Practical sessions: These sessions will either be VOD reviews or live games, and will be used to put theoretical knowledge into practice and analyze gameplay.
• Reviews: These sessions will occur periodically and will be used as checkpoints to track your progress and identify any additional areas for improvement.

All sessions will be personalized and created specifically for each student's needs. By following this plan, you can feel confident that you are taking the most effective steps to achieve your goals.

Personalized Support (Available 24/7)

In addition to the structured coaching sessions, I offer personalized support to my clients on a 24/7 basis. Whether you have a specific question or just want to debrief after a tough game, I am always available to help. Simply message me and I will respond as quickly as possible.

AvailabilityPricesPayments

I am able to cover any server and any timezone! Rates for both Private and Team coaching are negotiable. We will easily get the sessions to fit your budget and your needs.
Payments are usually done through PayPal, however other forms of Payment such as Direct Transfer can be discussed.

Contact

Main form of contact is Discord on which you can find me at shelbion (Or Shelbion#8832)
Feel free to message me either on Discord or through a Direct Message on Reddit and I will come back to you as quickly as possible.

Book Your Free Consultation Today! > Discord @ shelbion

About Me

My name is Shelbion and I've been an avid League of Legends player for over a decade. In Season 4, I reached Challenger for the first time and even considered pursuing a professional career. However, after much reflection, I decided to pursue other challenges within the game.
Some of my notable achievements as a player include:

• Reaching Challenger on multiple positions.
• Participating and winning in numerous SR and 1v1 tournaments.
• Playing for various teams(Amateur and Semi-Professional).

Coaching

With over 7.000 hours of coaching experience, I fall into the category of one of the most experienced individuals in the field. My experience, passion, and ability to identify your flaws and tailor each session to your needs make me stand out as a Coach.
I've studied the techniques of renowned coaches, such as LS, MagiFelix, and others, and I've developed my unique coaching approach. So far, my approach has helped countless individuals, and over 20 teams advance their competitive play, across 5 different continents, including members of various College and University eSport Teams.
Some of my notable achievements include:

• Assisting a Diamond 2 player reach Challenger in just five weeks.
• Helping a Silver 2 player climb to Platinum in three weeks.
• Guiding a Diamond 3 player to Grandmaster in six weeks.

I am dedicated to continuously honing my skills and providing the best coaching experience possible to all of my clients, regardless of their rank or location.

Subscription Based Coaching

• One Individual Session (Monthly)
• Group Sessions (Weekly) x2
• Priority Coaching - Price: 99.99 > 49.99$.

Verifications & Certifications

• Certified IFOEC (International Federation of eSport Coaches) Educator & Coach.
• Certified EHPI (eSports Health & Performance) Professional.
• University of Irvine eSport Specialization
• Verified Coachify & Metafy Partner.

Community

In addition to my experience as a Player, I am also the Founder of Noxus Coaching - a rapidly growing, educational community on Discord. Our community is a great place to find new friends to play with, have a good time, and most importantly, improve your skills.
We hold various events on a weekly basis, including 1v1 & 5v5 tournaments, meme contests, and more. There are plenty of rewards to be won, including free coaching sessions with me. To join our community, visit https://discord.gg/RHW9BMxRd5 and message me upon joining to receive your role.

Podcast

• Podcast Appearance > https://youtu.be/4jn4FXOaOlE?si=98POLUJdJeSNnbiW

How Does it Work?

We will schedule an initial Interview during which we can discuss your goals and I can provide a more detailed explanation of my coaching services. This interview will typically last for 3-5 minutes.
The First Session is designed to assess your current level of gameplay and identify areas for improvement. After conducting an analysis, I will create a Personalized Coaching Plan tailored to your specific needs. This plan will outline a series of sessions designed to maximize your improvement.
The Coaching Plan may include various session types, such as:

• Theory sessions: These sessions will cover key concepts such as wave management, vision, decision making, and more.
• Practical sessions: These sessions will either be VOD reviews or live games, and will be used to put theoretical knowledge into practice and analyze gameplay.
• Reviews: These sessions will occur periodically and will be used as checkpoints to track your progress and identify any additional areas for improvement.

All sessions will be personalized and created specifically for each student's needs. By following this plan, you can feel confident that you are taking the most effective steps to achieve your goals.

Personalized Support (Available 24/7)

In addition to the structured coaching sessions, I offer personalized support to my clients on a 24/7 basis. Whether you have a specific question or just want to debrief after a tough game, I am always available to help. Simply message me and I will respond as quickly as possible.

AvailabilityPricesPayments

I am able to cover any server and any timezone! Rates for both Private and Team coaching are negotiable. We will easily get the sessions to fit your budget and your needs.
Payments are usually done through PayPal, however other forms of Payment such as Direct Transfer can be discussed.

Contact

Main form of contact is Discord on which you can find me at shelbion (Or Shelbion#8832)
Feel free to message me either on Discord or through a Direct Message on Reddit and I will come back to you as quickly as possible.

Book Your Free Consultation Today! > Discord @ shelbion

About Me

My name is Shelbion and I've been an avid League of Legends player for over a decade. In Season 4, I reached Challenger for the first time and even considered pursuing a professional career. However, after much reflection, I decided to pursue other challenges within the game.
Some of my notable achievements as a player include:

• Reaching Challenger on multiple positions.
• Participating and winning in numerous SR and 1v1 tournaments.
• Playing for various teams(Amateur and Semi-Professional).

Coaching

With over 7.000 hours of coaching experience, I fall into the category of one of the most experienced individuals in the field. My experience, passion, and ability to identify your flaws and tailor each session to your needs make me stand out as a Coach.
I've studied the techniques of renowned coaches, such as LS, MagiFelix, and others, and I've developed my unique coaching approach. So far, my approach has helped countless individuals, and over 20 teams advance their competitive play, across 5 different continents, including members of various College and University eSport Teams.
Some of my notable achievements include:

• Assisting a Diamond 2 player reach Challenger in just five weeks.
• Helping a Silver 2 player climb to Platinum in three weeks.
• Guiding a Diamond 3 player to Grandmaster in six weeks.

I am dedicated to continuously honing my skills and providing the best coaching experience possible to all of my clients, regardless of their rank or location.

Subscription Based Coaching

• One Individual Session (Monthly)
• Group Sessions (Weekly) x2
• Priority Coaching - Price: 99.99 > 49.99$.

Verifications & Certifications

• Certified IFOEC (International Federation of eSport Coaches) Educator & Coach.
• Certified EHPI (eSports Health & Performance) Professional.
• University of Irvine eSport Specialization
• Verified Coachify & Metafy Partner.

Community

In addition to my experience as a Player, I am also the Founder of Noxus Coaching - a rapidly growing, educational community on Discord. Our community is a great place to find new friends to play with, have a good time, and most importantly, improve your skills.
We hold various events on a weekly basis, including 1v1 & 5v5 tournaments, meme contests, and more. There are plenty of rewards to be won, including free coaching sessions with me. To join our community, visit https://discord.gg/RHW9BMxRd5 and message me upon joining to receive your role.

Podcast

• Podcast Appearance > https://youtu.be/4jn4FXOaOlE?si=98POLUJdJeSNnbiW

How Does it Work?

We will schedule an initial Interview during which we can discuss your goals and I can provide a more detailed explanation of my coaching services. This interview will typically last for 3-5 minutes.
The First Session is designed to assess your current level of gameplay and identify areas for improvement. After conducting an analysis, I will create a Personalized Coaching Plan tailored to your specific needs. This plan will outline a series of sessions designed to maximize your improvement.
The Coaching Plan may include various session types, such as:

• Theory sessions: These sessions will cover key concepts such as wave management, vision, decision making, and more.
• Practical sessions: These sessions will either be VOD reviews or live games, and will be used to put theoretical knowledge into practice and analyze gameplay.
• Reviews: These sessions will occur periodically and will be used as checkpoints to track your progress and identify any additional areas for improvement.

All sessions will be personalized and created specifically for each student's needs. By following this plan, you can feel confident that you are taking the most effective steps to achieve your goals.

Personalized Support (Available 24/7)

In addition to the structured coaching sessions, I offer personalized support to my clients on a 24/7 basis. Whether you have a specific question or just want to debrief after a tough game, I am always available to help. Simply message me and I will respond as quickly as possible.

AvailabilityPricesPayments

I am able to cover any server and any timezone! Rates for both Private and Team coaching are negotiable. We will easily get the sessions to fit your budget and your needs.
Payments are usually done through PayPal, however other forms of Payment such as Direct Transfer can be discussed.

Contact

Main form of contact is Discord on which you can find me at shelbion (Or Shelbion#8832)
Feel free to message me either on Discord or through a Direct Message on Reddit and I will come back to you as quickly as possible.

TLDR: Can I do MS in chemistry/forensics if I have a BA in English? I want to eventually get a job in a lab/a crime lab. Or should I go for a second bachelor's in chemistry?
Background: I (26F, almost 27) graduated with a BA in English a few years ago. It was something I knew I could do but not necessarily a passion or anything. Had medical problems in high school so I just chose the easiest thing that wouldn't stress me more. I tried many jobs after that (teaching, tutoring, translation, editing, copywriting) but nothing really clicked. The only thing this English degree gave me was writing good reports, essays, papers, and general articulation, I guess.
I feel like I don't use my "talents" as I was always interested in science and investigating through my early school years. I want to go into chemistry/biochemistry and then move on to forensic science from there. With the BA I have now, I am scared that most schools won't accept me for a master's in chemistry or forensics because of how unrelated my bachelor's is.
It kind of scares me to go through the bachelor's again and be there with kids almost 10 years younger, though I would if I had to, I really wanna do this thing. Would there be any career paths for me to become that forensics science person with my background? Would I find a job when I graduate?
Thanks for the help

My relationship with my now ex was the best 3 years of my life. She was my best friend for 5 years before that, and I still care for her to this day, 3 months into a new relationship...
My relationship with my ex was always shakey due to external factors such as family, education, work, stress - just common human experiences. We still loved and supported eachother through it all. We weren't the best at communicating so our arguments were always pretty bad but we always made up eventually.
I made a friend earlier this year - you may have guessed, a female friend. Lets call her "Sarah". Despite certain stigmas, it really was platonic, a healthy friendship where we felt comfortable sharing everything and were able to offer eachother solid advice.
Here comes all the mistakes.
I never told my then partner about her. Why? Because I knew my partner wouldn't be comfortable with Sarah around, but I just didn't want to push away such a valuable friend. Some of you might ask why I would have to distance myself from Sarah, have I done something to betray my then partners trust? No, never. I just know the thought of me being alone with another woman was not something she could accept. Many people do terrible things with a post argument mindset, but not me, cheating is something I do not tolerate. Why didn't I just talk about my feelings with my partner? Well as I said earlier, we just weren't good communicators. Sarah was different, her words just always seemed like the right answers.
Another huge mistake I made was I also lied about where I was sometimes when I was in a bad head space because Sarah was the only good friend I had to talk to, and for above reasons, I had to keep her a secret.
It was more obvious that she was the only good friend I have after what happened next. I had told one friend about Sarah and they told my entire friend group, made a private chat with my then partner and told her she was being cheated on. Who knows what the first friend told the "friend" group, but they didn't even bother contacting me and finding out the truth.
You can imagine how messy that break up was. With only God as my witness, only he can tell my ex that I'd (previously) never seen Sarah as more than just friends. While I can admit that our outings looked like dates, it really was just two good friends chatting.
A month goes by and I get closer to Sarah and we eventually started dating. I made sure she was not a rebound and I've given my best in reflecting on my past mistakes. Sarah is everything I could every ask for, let's skip the cute specifics. I can see our relationship going far but recently, a few times throughout the day I'll think of my ex and miss her. It feels like Ive been hit by a truck and I just fall into a depression until something like work gets my mind off it. Its especially bad at at night whenI shut my eyes and just wish I could go back in time or that I won't wake up at all.
I know I can't have my ex back because I wouldn't be able to convincs her I neither physically or emotionally cheated. I also wouldn't be able to get over the shame of being branded a cheater by her family and friends. I even call myself a cheater nowadays.
Most importantly I know that this isnt right for Sarah so I continue giving my 100 every day. I tell Sarah everything, I'm just afraid of telling her about this because I know I'll lose her too, and I know this is just a feeling I can get over.
So I need your help Reddit. It's easy to get over a breakup when you can admit you aren't right for eachother, but ours was ended due to mostly a lie.
tldr; My ex broke up with me because she thinks I was cheating on her. Time passes and I ended up dating that girl but I still miss my ex and regret not handling things better. How do I overcome the feeling of missing her and the guilt of hurting her feelings?
Thank you.

This is a long one, but I felt it needed a lot of back story to get the full picture.
So, for the last few years I’ve been working with my dad and brother running a local roofing business. I was the office manager, so I took care of all office duties (answering the phones, emails, estimates, invoices, etc) and they run our 2 crews. I worked from home, unless I’m meeting up with customers to grab checks, paperwork, stuff like that. I am a 31F single mom to my son who is 4 and 1/2 years old. He’s never been in daycare or school, since I was blessed enough to be able to work from home and have him home with me. My mom also helps out when she’s not working, but she’s a full time nurse so she only gets a couple days a week off and she will help me out by watching him while I’m there to do my work without interruptions. So down to business, I’ve had a couple professional jobs before working with my family after college that I really loved. I worked at a law firm and helped build the company from scratch to opening offices all over Florida (where I live). I thrived in that company for years and worked my way up from the bottom to close to the top. When I found out I was pregnant, they shared in my joy, threw me a baby shower and everything. I worked the whole time I was pregnant until the day my water broke (I was working from home that day) and told them I’m going into labor and will start my maternity leave. It wasn’t 2 weeks postpartum that they called me to ask if I could start working from home. Then COVID hit, and we were all working from home. It was exhausting as I was freshly postpartum getting no sleep at night and then working all day while the baby slept. It was about a year of doing this, and they asked me if I could put my baby in daycare and come work in the office full time and they will give me a raise to do so. I thought about it long and hard, but my kids dad said he could just get a job making more so I could stay home for a while longer to take care of my son, and so we did that. There’s more back story but I think it’s irrelevant. Anyways, It wasn’t long after that that we decided to split up as we just didn’t get along anymore, but it was amicable and he moved back home to SC with his parents so he could still support me and my son until I was ready to go back to work. We both didn’t want him in daycare, that was just our preference. After a little bit doing that, my dad called me and asked if I wanted to work with them as the office manager again (I did this position straight after college to help them build the business and then found someone else to take over so I could start my career at the law firm).
Anyways, the office manager that took over found a job to make her career as she was still very young and had a bright future ahead of her. My father and brother and I worked well together in the past, and being able to work from home and keep my son home, I felt like this was perfect. I didn’t make very much money, $500 a week and then I would get an extra $250 for pulling a permit for reroofs, which was once every 2 weeks or more. I live in South Florida near the beach (I’ve lived here my whole life) and the cost of living is extremely high, like California prices these days. So, I made enough money for all my bills and groceries but not enough to buy myself or my son anything much extra. It’s been a couple years, and I wouldn’t say I’m struggling as I have my bills paid and food at home but I could’ve used a little extra money to be more comfortable. I spoke with my dad and brother about how I can make more money with the company because I’d like to take my son on vacations or at least a theme park but I don’t make enough with my salary to afford that. They all agreed, as they do very well themselves and have all these hobbies and vacations they do literally all the time. They don’t even think twice about spending money, and they have everything they could ever want - property, motorcycles, 4 wheelers, RVs, golf carts, brand new trucks, racing drift cars, they have it all. Me on the other hand, I’m renting my house and my car was an old POS car that broke down on me and couldn’t be fixed. I tried to get it fixed, they said the engine is screwed and I need to look for another car. This really stressed me out, as now I have a car payment that I have to budget into my expenses when I’m already close to struggling.
So last year after I told them I would like to find a way to make extra money, we went back and forth and came to an agreement that I will start advertising for pressure washing with our company, and I can take over that and make the profit for myself and they won’t be involved. I’ve had about 5 jobs come in since October, and I saved it all and that was what I used for my down payment on my car. Last week I had a couple people accept for pressure washing, I was excited because I decided I was going to use that extra money and save some of it but use the rest for a little vacation to Disney for my son and my mom and I. We haven’t done anything fun in years, and I feel like we all really needed a little break as we are all just constantly busy.
I get a text last week from my tech asking when I was going to do the pressure washing for one customer, so I said I was going to do it either Friday or Monday of this previous week, and then he replies never mind your brother said he’s giving the job to Madus. Immediately I was stumped, whaaaattt? My job?? So I called my dad and asked why they are doing that to me, and he said Madus needs the hours. I just put 3 weeks worth of work for Madus on the schedule that week, so I knew they were trying to pull a fast one on me. After arguing with my dad about it, he said call your brother. I ended up texting him and he started berating me about it and I decided I was going to let them win and they can keep the job since they are being greedy and wanted the money for themselves. Madus calls me later that day and said he doesn’t want the job and can I please take care of it. I said at that point after arguing with my family all day, I didn’t want it anymore, but he said just think about it and I said okay I’ll figure it out tomorrow. That next morning I woke up to 31 text messages between my brother and dad about how awful of a job I was doing, that I’ve been missing calls and emails and not doing my job properly.
Honestly, none of that is true. They came up with all these reasons that were just simply were not true! Bringing up mistakes that I didn’t even make in the first place, saying I don’t care enough about the company and blaming being slow on me. This is absolutely not true at all. They even accused me of taking money from them! I don’t know what I’ve done for them not to trust me, but I took my job VERY seriously. I cared so much about that company, and I did so much the last few weeks to keep us busy. I did everything I could to keep us busy, and I certainly did not miss anything. I stayed on top of everything always! I don’t know what I did to deserve this, they’ve all been trashing my name the last week and it hurts so fucking badly. I just can’t believe they actually think those things about me, they must not know who I truly am because I am a damn good and hard worker and I honestly cared more about that company than anyone else did it felt like. I would never do any of those things they accused me of, I took a lot of pride in my job, and I thought it showed to everyone.
I’m not sure if this was all for selfish reasons, they even blamed them not getting paid in a while on me, which I don’t know how that’s my fault when the customers were paying on time. They fired me, told me they needed someone who paid more attention to detail. I truly believe (and everyone else saw) that I did the best job I could do and more. I don’t know what I’m going to do now. My son starts school in August finally so I guess I can get a full time job then, but for right now idk what I’m going to do. I’m so hurt I cussed them all out and blocked them. My brother has always been the favorite, and a lot of childhood issues are surfacing and I just feel so angry. I don’t know why they would do this to me, they are believing things that aren’t true and despite me telling them they are wrong they just didn’t care or believe me.
Would I be the AH for blocking them out of my life for good? At this point, I never want to talk to them again and I told them all to fuck off for the rest of my life but was that the right move? AITAH?
Also, tips for coping with this anger and sadness. I’m not sure why it feels so horrible but it does and the gym only helps while I’m there.

Hey,
I'm based west Essex, looking to find new connections with people. More free around weekday evenings plus the odd Sunday. Being local to me and meeting up to do something is optional but happy to have a good conversation over WhatsApp messaging once comfortable. Open to any gender, currently have a couple of females friends who I meet when time dictates.
My interests are slightly fluid as I can do something for a while and then not pick it up again for a while.
Enjoy TV, movies, museums, visiting places/day trips, cycling, walking, pc gaming (casual games like team fortress 2, city skylines, no man's sky). Open to trying new things depending if I'm comfortable with it. Music tastes are quite fluid too but more on the electronic styles which trance is my top genre.
Drop me a DM if you want a chat and see how things go from there.

so - ive been going down a rabbit hole of reading posts here. to some effect id like to tell my own story. but i think its not going to quite give me what im looking for or needing after reading through so many other stories, or questions, or whatever.
I think maybe, just maybe, a parent who is considering sending their child to a wilderness therapy or a "therapeutic" boarding school might come across this post and reconsider as it will irreparably damage your relationship with your child.
long story short (itll still be long) - I was admitted to a mental hospital after my parents found concerning things in a 1 year old journal when i was 17. they were not wrong to be concerned. it was dark. for a parent - i imagine it was really scary. I was in therapy already, but honestly didnt really have any sort of connection or like..... chemistry... with my therapist which lead to me saying things are fine blah blah.
anyhow - i was in a mental hospital for 5 or 6 days. i was prescribed medication (this was medication people were being paid to sell) that did not agree with me. the simplest way to explain - i was prescribed a medication for sleep, which i didnt need, i slept a lot already. This was prescribed because of the amount of medication they gave me for "daytime" which i didnt need either (stimulants) that i didnt need either. I ended up wired. unable to sleep. and they told me I was trying to get narcotics when i went to explain something didnt feel right and i couldnt sleep. pay to prescribe. other than that - met some cool people. staff told me things were confidential but since i was a minor they were not - not cool.
parents picked me up at the end of my "stay" - i was so ready to be home and sleep in my own bed. normal, right? at the end of vacation we all long for our own bed, our pets, the life we are accustomed to? we took a turn to the highway and my parents informed me we were going to stay with family 3 hours away for a while. i asked to go back to our house to get some stuff. my gameboy. clothes i wanted (id worn the same stuff for a week now) just a chance to touch base with my room. my computer. my bed. i got the "no" message - and after spending almost a week confined to a place where i was forced medication. forced schedule. forced bed time. i was obviously unhappy and voiced this. my parents decided i was going to jump out of the car on the highway, my mom jumped on me to hold me down. and they took me back to the hospital were i remained for another week.
2 days before the end of the 2nd "visit" to the hospital - my parents let me know, i would not be returning home. I would be going to a wilderness therapy program. we had family friends who were therapists, went to a voluntary 1 week program for adults, and said "yes - its perfect". I was told at 4am, two people would come for me and take me to montana (this is so much more than most parents give their children - so many are ripped from their beds unexpectedly) so anyhow - yeah, transported to montana (got my fking ipod, thankfully) so i go with these random dudes. and was sent to a wilderness therapy program (three rivers, montana. july 2009. its now closed)
everyone there was nice enough - but wilderness is a shock. id sum it up as complete disconnection from the world - i had no contact with anyone i knew and could only communicate with my parents through letters that were reviewed and only allowed through if the content was what the "program" wanted them to say. they were returned to me to rewrite if something i said was not acceptable. overall - wilderness was kinda cool, met some good people, learned some cool stuff, spent 49 days hiking basically. did not shower 1 time. pooped in a hole, no toilet paper - used sticks to wipe. so - i was obviously told, do wilderness therapy and you get to come home. time comes to leave, and when im told im "graduating" its with 2 options. mount bachelor in oregon? or the academy at swift river in massachusetts? both "therapeutic" boarding schools. both closed to this day.
I chose swift river. because mount bachelor was all boys and swift river was coed at least. what straight teen guy doesnt want to be around some girls? i later learned i picked well, you can just google more about the former option to learn why. so i end up at swift river in massachusetts after. my parents signed over 51% of their parental rights to these people they have never met because - hey, someone told them its a good idea.
so - my warning for parents - everyone who can "refer" you to another program works on commission. their interest is not in your child. its not in your family. their interest is in a good paycheck. they will "have the answers" and their program will "save your child" they play on your fears, to get paid. And not to say your fears are not 100% realistic or scary. youre here reading this for a reason. theres obviously a problem.
boarding school - youll hear horror stories. the one I was at wasnt as bad as others, but i do 100% believe what others say about the nightmares they experienced. at mine - i wasnt physically attacked or anything, but i was restricted from talking to friends. i was restricted from talking to anyone at some points. i was made to do manual labor on weekends if i was "bad" (for example, my bed wasnt made well enough). it was forced on me that being adopted was the root of my issues (i never have had any issues with being adopted, i never have made any attempt to find my "birth parents" its always been a solid 0 interest topic for me). when I would not say I have issues over it - it reflected negatively on my "therapy". This caused me to not be able to have normal things - my clothes had to be plain, solid colors. no individuality. no music.
my honest thoughts on "therapeutic" boarding school was the goal to break you down as a person. break who you were before. honestly - the staff i lived with day to day was 50/50.... some great, some terrible. the chefs were the best. dishes were punishment, i did them every meal of every day just to get the fk out of what i was living and be around some people who cared and had fun. and also to take some sort of control. if i was sentenced to do dishes? cool, id already be there anyways. i had a weekly phone call with my parents (if i was good) that was monitored by someone over my shoulder with notes being taken. this never happened to me, but i did witness other kids calls being disconnected and them being forcibly removed from the phone room for saying they were unhappy.
back to the point - i did break some rules. rebellious. i know. i woke up at 3am to multiple people surrounding me. they pulled my sheets off. yes, i sleep naked. and said to get out of bed, it was time to go. had no idea this was coming. so, what option do i have? get out of bed, naked, with multiple men and women who work there and some who i dont even know, watching me, to put on clothes. i then get led to an office where some lady named tanya (she ran the "therapeutic" side of things) goes over all the bad things ive done and says i have to go.
so wilderness therapy round 2 - went to SUWS idaho - 2nd time around is a lot easier, you know what to expect. got a shower every week. still pooped in a hole, but got toilet paper which was cool. loved the guys i was there with and honestly liked all of the "guides" or whatever theyre called.
after 42 days there - im allowed back to the academy at swift river. cool. get to see the people i knew, see the girl i liked. sleep inside, that kind of thing. anyhow - time comes to apply for college. so the boarding school works with an "educational consultant" and the boarding school was "college prep" (we were informed by more than 1 teacher that they were not teachers, private schools could hire anyone to teach). teachers were mostly cool. they truly did their best for us. i learned calculus from a guy who learned it the night before - one of the best teachers ive had.
so yeah. college. every parents goal for their kid - a good education. I lined up good schools i wanted to apply to. I go over them with the "educational consultant" who is fine until the end and he says "you can apply to any of these schools, and I will write them a letter telling them not to accept you because you arent ready. we have 'continued programs' you need to go to" so i miss all deadlines for applying to college. finished highschool 1 year early. all AP classes (before going to the academy at swift river, they didnt offer AP classes). i turn 18 there. have to "sign myself in" a voluntary agreement to stay at the school. whatever - i want my high school diploma at least
After that - suddenly, im ready for college (per this "educational consultant"). at this point, my options are places that will accept an application 2 months before the semester starts. options are .... very limited. whatever. i do what i can. its learned that I had a relationship with a girl 1 month before my "graduation" (again, my high school classes were done a loooong time before). they decide - i should be expelled. so, im told "hey, you need to leave". cool. whatever. they tried to withhold my high school diploma. despite all of my classes being done. until my parents paid for the rest of my "stay" there.
so basically. sending a child into this system extremely restricts them. in personal growth, the ability to figure out like, who you are... and also professional growth, open sabotage because hey, who will stop them. and for me at the end of the day - my parents had good intentions, but listened to the wrong people. it forever ruined that trust between us (hey what fun is it when your parents sign over their rights to strangers who get you out of bed naked to get on a plane at 3am?) to this day, 15 years later, i still worry every time i see my parents that there is some sort of weird plan. i am successful professionally, i support myself. they can do nothing to me. for the first year or 2, i vomited from stress when theyd come to visit me.
for a parent - if you read through this - i hope you understand sure, there are silver linings as you read in my post. you meet some cool people along the way. but you irreparably damage your relationship with your child. Its a business. and the goal is to make money, the goal is to scare you into giving them your money and trusting them. if you think your child is manipulative? wait until you meet these people who's paychecks rely on manipulating you. Maybe speak with your child. if they arent talking to you, give them some breathing room. let them find a therapist that they are comfortable with and like.

Short backstory; My (26m) ex (26f) and I have known each other since middle school. We got together after I joined the military and she was in college. She was my first “real” relationship, things were wonderful, we got married, we had a kid (6f) together, things turned toxic as we both just had our own struggles and couldn’t effectively communicate. She ended up having an affair with another married man while we were stationed overseas, which then had everyone and their mothers start telling me about how my ex was cheating on me with more than just him as well. This was all super traumatizing for me, and I have been in therapy since. She ended up leaving me for the guy since he left his wife too.
It has been 3 years since then, but because I’m a weak cowardly man, I still tried to get her back because I missed my family and my kid. Couple this with her finding out he had cheated on her prior to them getting married, there were a few times where she told me she would leave him and we would have a plan and then she’d back out. This culminates to now. My mom has harped on me that I have to be friends with her for my daughter’s sake. I just returned from a deployment and paid for a 3 day/3 night vacation and she got invited as I wanted to ensure my kid had a wonderful time, and I thought I was in a good spot to handle it. Turns out, I could not. Seeing her has always been tough, but being here pretending to be a family in front of my kid, it broke something inside of me. It has been absolutely miserable for me, and I have come to realize that I absolutely loathe my ex. I see her and I see every text message, I remember every lie. I am at a loss of what to do. I know I need more therapy for sure because I lack proper coping mechanisms for this, and clearly I’ve made little progress in moving past all of this, but I don’t want to be friends with my ex but I also don’t want to be a shitty father to my kid. I also refuse to be hateful to my ex but I’m being filled with so much hurt it’s hard to not twist that into hate and I feel like I’m going to pop.
I’m looking advice from anyone willing to provide it to help me navigate this situation. I don’t know what the best thing to do is. I hate that I feel this way but I also know I need to put myself first. I feel like a failure of a father. If any of you have been the child in a similar situation, or in my shoes, please share how I should go about handling communication or anything from here on out. This trip has really broken me and I just need some advice. Thank you very much, I appreciate any input.

I (21 F) live four hours away from all of my friends and family and I stay alone with my cat. I chose to move far away because I didn’t get along well with my immediate family and it was the only city with affordable apartments that actually looked good. A couple months ago I was in a state of severe depression due to my loneliness and the discouragement of my therapist ghosting me. My PMHNP also had quit the company she was working for and my healthcare got put under someone else’s management, which broke my heart because I found her to be a safe space. My depression got worse and I started smoking weed more often and when that didn’t suffice, I bought Xanax. Xanax made me feel soooo good & when I was sober I just felt 10x worse. One day at work, my assistant manager (32 M) whom I’ve been crushing on for the longest, upset me and I don’t even remember why, (probably because he said something insensitive and he doesn’t know Im madly in love with him) and everything else I was already sad about was weighing in on me very heavy, so in order to calm myself down, I took four Xanny bars. I was so high when the shift ended that I didn’t even remember driving home and I crashed into a car in front of me so hard that it hit two cars in front of them. The police got there very quickly and in my car I had marijuana and Xanax. Officer Forced me to do a breathalyzer and once he saw I blew triple zeros, he then searched my car and took the drugs I had. I spent a week in solitary confinement at the county jail until my mom bailed me out. When I was in jail, I realized that I actually wasn’t alone and that God was with me throughout the entire experience, and he reminded me how important I was to him and how he loved me very much. This brought me so much closer to him and I’ve noticed a dramatic change in my perspective on life. I’ve quit drugs completely and I’ve started to worship God a lot more. And although this sounds beautiful, I am still filled with despair about the situation.
The car accident caused my car to be totaled and it was sitting in a tow yard waiting for my insurance to send an adjuster.. & you can bet that my crappy insurance company never sent anyone. The tow yard lied to me twice saying that they did & when I confronted the tow yard one last time to let them know my insurance isn’t confirming the loss with the lien holder because they still haven’t seen this car and I want it to just get towed to my house, they said they never told me my insurance picked it up (which they did, it was the same person on the phone. She was lying about this) and she told me that she originally said my car was going on sale for auction, which is another lie. I now owe Carmax 12k for this car because the gap insurance won’t take care of anything since my own insurance didn’t confirm they saw the vehicle totaled..💔
Trying to distract myself from that nightmare itself, I have much bigger problems on my hand from that car accident, which happen to be the charges that the police put on me. I have 3 felonies and 3 misdemeanors, and I am still waiting to find out my court date. Each lawyer I consulted with agreed my charges are very serious and they want a rough 8-10,000$
Me being 21 with no college degree and high paying job, having to pay rent all alone and take care of my cat, and now pay off a car that was basically stolen from me, am not able to afford a 10,000$ lawyer. So I figured I’d just have to try my luck with a public defender which I know sucks because she won’t even answer my calls so that we can go over the case.
I feel very overwhelmed and I sincerely regret my choices of buying drugs in the first place. Everyday I go to work I feel so nauseous and I break down crying and it’s the worse because everyone is always asking what’s wrong, and I just go into our prayer room to be alone for a little. I’m so sad just wondering when my last days at my job will be because I have a great job and I’m so in love with seeing my boss, I just want to confess this to him before I lose all chances . My three felonies all have a maximum punishment of 5 years in prison EACH. And my misdemeanors just make the sentencing worse.
I am so scared just thinking about the charges and I just keep praying one day I will wake up and this will all be a nightmare. I wish I could go back in time and change my actions, and I feel like it’s very possible because with God, all things are possible.
But for right now, I’m taking it day by day, just sad asf because I don’t want to be separated from my cat. I registered her as an ESA when I first got her, and I rescued her after she was abandoned. She has a fear of being locked out of the door and she displays severe separation anxiety. If I get sentenced to prison, my cat will likely be taken to a shelter and it just breaks my heart so much to even think about puting her through that. I hate myself so much for putting my relationship with her in jeopardy and I’m so sad thinking of how she will feel to be abandoned all over again. I’m thinking about giving her away to a long distance friend and then KMS.
But I have a serious question and I’m wondering if i should confess my love to my manager since I don’t know when my last day to ever see him again will be. Maybe if I confess my love to him, he’ll take my cat in and keep in touch with me and one day marry me.. or do I sound so naive to think that way? I honestly feel like I have nothing to lose at this point. If I get sentenced to jail, I’m going to lose everything I own. I honestly wish I confessed my feelings to him long time ago because I probably wouldn’t have felt the need to take so much Xanax and be calm in the work environment :/

Hello. First thing first i just want to make clear that my first language is not english so pls be forgiving of my grammar.
Okay so long story short: met this man online (he was 33 when i met him, while i was 21). I was looking for something serious with someone so i met this dude who wanted the same thing as me. The age gap we had was a lot i know, but i was pretty naive back then. We dated only "dated" for about a month then i decide to leave him because he was a very disturbed person (i suspect that he had NPD), did drugs and overall was very toxic and possessive. I also started to be very depressed around him, because when we were together he would always talk about his childhood trauma, his family issues and his previous failed relationship, oh and he also mentioned to me that he tried to kill himself once when he was younger. Just casually . All the red flags were there and clearly this man was very disturbed and needed serious help that i couldnt gave him. He was also pretty antisocial and hadnt a job.
So after i left him ( we diddnt end on good terms as you can imagine) i was feeling a lot of guilt for leaving him. So i still somehow wanted to remain in contact as friends. (I know bad decision, but i couldnt know at the time). So about two weeks after i left him, he stopped using social media (which was weird because this guy was always on social media) and didint recieve messages or calls. I had a weird feeling and later discovered that he tried to kill himself after a drug binge. He jumped from the window of his balcony. He survived the fall, but broke his spine and was left paralyzed from the waist down.
I was obviously shocked and devasted by the news. Its true that i just left him, but i still was attached to this person and hearing what happened to him made me very sad. I wanted to know more about what happened, because i was starting to have serious doubts about this person, and had a feeling that i was missing a piece of the story. And since i had no one to ask (i didint know anyone who knew this man) i started to search online his name on google.
What i found truly shocked me and made me think that i really dodged a big fucking bullet. I found old articles that talked about him and the homicide of his mother. Basically when he was 18 he murdered his mother who lived with him (his parents were divorced), they had a huge fight over school (he wanted to leave school and she didnt want him to do that) and he ended breaking a bottle of wine of her head and slit her troath with a knife. Truly terryfing. He then left his home, took a train and left to another town were he went to the police to turn himself in.
The articles wrote that he got 10 years in a psychiatric prison, but only did 7 years then got released, because he was able to reintegrate in society.
Im still shocked to this day that i hanged out and started to have feelings for a cold blooded murder, someone who killed with such atrocity his own other. Its truly terryfing. Also i still wonder how can some people go to that extent and if he was sane or not when he did what he did.

Today we begin the section Dedicating Our Lives to the Mystic Law, from Sensei's lecture on The Record of the Orally Transmitted Teachings.
Describing the concluding verse section of the “Encouraging Devotion” chapter, Sensei writes:

Kosen-rufu is a never-ending struggle between the Buddha and devilish functions. It is inevitable that the three powerful enemies will emerge to obstruct our gathering of great good dedicated to spreading the Mystic Law.
Mr. Makiguchi wrote: ”We must not dread the words 'As practice progresses and understanding grows, the three obstacles and four devils emerge in confusing form, vying with one another to interfere' (WND-1, 501).”

On this very note, we all want to wish Greta a happy and safe voyage today to Vienna to stay with Xi, Heinz, and Jürgen-Franz. Steve will join them as soon as the school year concludes. We can't imagine how hard it must be to have a beautiful grandchild living so far away! Is it an obstacle to not be able to hold and rock an infant, to not be able to transmit love skin to skin? I think so! It mudt have been a "never-ending struggle” to not get discouraged and to still bond from so far away!
Mr. Makiguchi continued:

"Those who are oblivious to the Daishonin’s vast compassion and fixated on immediate petty gain are ignorant people truly to be pitied."

Ladies, not a single one of us here is practicing for "immediate petty gain"! We all have profound awareness of our individual and collective missions. We all worry for the plight of the world and understand that a very small group of people can change the direction of the world just as a pilot can command a jumbo jet.
Sensei comments:

In other words, the difficulties and obstacles that arise in the course of our Buddhist practice… are actually manifestations of the Buddha’s great compassion. That is because they provide us with the perfect opportunity to attain the indestructible life state of Buddhahood. Mr. Makiguchi feels sorry for anyone who would miss such an opportunity. His words shine with the proud conviction that “Difficulties will arise, and these are to be looked on as ‘peaceful’ practices” (OTT, 115).

So we all will be chanting for you, Greta, to have a couple of months together with "Jiffy" 'n' Gang that can match the experience of any grandparent who lives right next door to a precious grandchild!
Sensei talks about the proud conviction that “Difficulties will arise, and these are to be looked on as ‘peaceful’ practices” (OTT, 115).
From this perspective, Greta, we Ladies are convinced that your family will become the very happiest and closest in the world! We will See You in September!

I have read Ulysses three times before and I have embarked on my forth read through.
The first time I read Ulysses, I didn't really understand the text. I had watched a YouTube video saying it was a challenging book. That made me aware of the book and its perceived difficulty, but it wasn't until I spied a battered copy at a University flea market that I seriously considered actually reading it. I am glad I read Ulysses at that stage of my life, but Ulysses was significantly outside of my level of reading comprehension. I think that put me on the right path in regards to having an interest in reading literature, but The Portrait of an Artist as a Young Man would have been more appropriate for me at that stage in life.
I subsequently lost my beaten up second-hand copy, and it wasn't until I saw another different version in a bookstore, when I finally started going to bookstores, that I got the desire to read Ulysses again. The second time I read Ulysses was in stops and starts. I don't think I read all the episodes in order. I definitely reread part I several times. I'd say I had a decent grasp on events up to the Lestrygonians episode. I got better at reading and read a lot of other fiction at that time. My eyesight got worse and I wasn't good at keeping up with glasses prescriptions which made the physical act of reading harder. Not that I was going blind like James Joyce, but reading got physically harder. I lot of stuff happened in life that it would be oversharing to say on Reddit. I would say this period of life was a lot like Odysseus/Leopold Bloom encountering and overcoming trials. I finished my reread, but it didn't end in one emphatic Yes.
Time passed. I had a degree and job. I had discovered Finnegans Wake via audiobook. I had a better glasses prescription, and I saw the riverrun edition in the same bookstore now renovated. I thought it was time to upgrade my rather ugly edition and reread Ulysses. I got through the first chunk of the book, getting up to the Wandering Rock. I was fairly familiar with the material up to there. Of course the riverrun edition had parts of the manuscript I hadn't seen before, but still... I stopped there, as I was in the habit of picking up books and reading the beginning, then stopping and picking something else up. The story would probably have stopped there and I wouldn't be making this post if I hadn't gotten sick and had to take time off work, and decided to begin skimming Ulysses from where I left off to kill time. Well anyway, I fell into the book. I felt the barriers I always felt for the last two thirds of Ulysses were removed. I began to get it, even when the language got difficult towards the end of the book. I took some addition holiday leave off to finish it quickly. And I got to the end for a third time, feeling triumphant. I felt like I got what the novel was about, although not after being appalled at Leopold's behaviour in some of the episodes. Still, I forgave Bloom by the end, especially after he keeps my boy Stephen out of trouble in Circe.
Anyway, Ulysses felt like a revelation. I didn't know a novel could be so affecting to my conciousness. I have began to see how Joyce intending the novel to be a vehicle to deliver a message of how to think. I am on my forth reread and I felt like I can follow the camera of Ulysses; when we see Leopold's thoughts or when we zoom out and hear characters talk about Bloom out of earshot. Moreover, I feel like my mind is more engaged with the world around me. I wanted to expound my feelings on Ulysses at this particular point somewhere online. I think I'll be revisiting the same day in Dublin over and over again throughout my life. I want to read Finnegans Wake too, but I feel that Ulysses at the moment is affecting me to a greater degree. I think Ulysses has entering my life was an unlikely event, as while it's not obscure, it's definitely outside of the realm books I would have engaged with, if not for coincidence, and a desire to challenge myself. To anyone reading this who hasn't gotten into Ulysses or is struggling with it: Ulysses is worth it. James Joyce was more that just an author, he was a teacher, and he was really good at teaching language. I fully believe that Finnegans Wake will be something else.

So I am meeting my online friend in a few weeks and ive come to realize i have a huge crush on her. Not like the "I am nervous and i hope she likes me crush" but a " she is my comfort person and i can tell her any and everything and i want to know her for the rest of my life crush".
At first i didnt realize i felt this way about her because for me crushes are usually superficial, like shes hot etc. But with her, i care deeply about her and want to know her for the rest of my life. So I thought we were friends, but i realized i dont feel like this about my other friends.
We met on a dating app and have been talking for a few years now. We share everything together. So i know she likes me as a person and was at some point attracted to me. But im not sure how she feels right now, maybe she sees me only as a good friend..
How do I proceed?

I just bought a laptop to encourage me to be more creative; I find after a long day of working at my desktop computer the last thing I want to do is do anything more there. So I bought a MacBook. I then realised - hang on - How am I going to write stuff without my keyboard? Wondered if you have found a good way or inexpensive keyboard for doing this on the go - I know Logic supports keyboard input - but you seem to lose a lot of touch sensitivity/expression

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}; // Cars Schema const carsSchema = new mongoose.Schema( { user: { type: mongoose.Schema.ObjectId, ref: "Client", }, admin: { type: mongoose.Schema.ObjectId, ref: "Admin", }, interiorImages: [String], interiorImagesPublicUrl: [String], exteriorImages: [String], exteriorImagesPublicUrl: [String], year: { type: Number, required: [true, "years is required"], min: [0, "years can not be less than 0"], }, model: { type: mongoose.Schema.ObjectId, ref: "Car_Model", required: [true, "model is required"], }, make: { type: mongoose.Schema.ObjectId, ref: "Make", required: [true, "make is required"], }, bodyType: { type: mongoose.Schema.ObjectId, ref: "Car-Body-Type", required: [true, "Car body type is required"], }, condition: { type: mongoose.Schema.ObjectId, ref: "Condition", }, color: { type: mongoose.Schema.ObjectId, ref: "CarColor", required: [true, "color is required"], }, transmission: { type: mongoose.Schema.ObjectId, ref: "Transmission", }, fuelType: { type: mongoose.Schema.ObjectId, ref: "FuelType", }, city: { type: mongoose.Schema.ObjectId, ref: "City", }, seating: { type: Number, required: [true, "Number of seatings is required"], min: [1, "Number of seatings can not be less than 0"], }, horsePower: { type: String, required: [true, "horse power is required"], }, mileage: { type: Number, required: [true, "mileage is required"], min: [0, "mileage can not be less than 0"], }, kmPl: { type: String, required: [true, "km/pl is required"], }, price: { type: Number, required: [true, "price is required"], min: [0, "price can not be less than 0"], }, ownerContact: { fullName: String, phoneNumber: String, }, description: { type: String, required: [true, "Car description is required"], maxlength: [1000, "Car description can not exceed 1000 characters"], minlength: [5, "Car description can not be less than 5 characters"], }, currentStatus: { type: String, enum: { values: ["Active", "Rented", "Sold", "Unpublished"], message: "Invalid or unknown current status", }, default: "Active", }, boughtOrRentedBy: { type: mongoose.Schema.ObjectId, ref: "Client", }, status: { type: String, enum: { values: ["Active", "Inactive"], message: "Invalid or unknown status", }, default: "Active", }, slug: { type: String, slug: "slugify", unique: true, lowercase: true }, }, { writeConcern: { w: "majority", j: true, }, timestamps: true, } ); // create a virtual property for slug generation carsSchema.virtual("slugify").get(async function () { try { // Ensure homeType is populated if (!this.populated("make")) { await this.populate({ path: "make", select: "name" }); } if (!this.populated("model")) { await this.populate({ path: "model", select: "name" }); } return `${this.make.name?.replace( " ", "-" )}-${this.model.name?.replace(" ", "-")}`; } catch (error) { console.error("Error getting car make and model name:", error); return null; } }); // Middleware to update the slug only for new documents carsSchema.pre("save", async function (next) { try { const newSlug = await this.slugify; // Generate the slug only for new documents if (this.isNew) { // Check if the new slug is unique const existingCar = await this.constructor.findOne({ slug: newSlug }); if (existingCar) { // If the slug is not unique, modify it to ensure uniqueness const uniqueSlug = `${newSlug}-${generateRandomString()}`; this.slug = uniqueSlug; } else { this.slug = newSlug; } } next(); } catch (error) { next(error); } }); // Middleware to update the slug only for updated documents carsSchema.pre("findOneAndUpdate", async function (next) { try { const updateFields = this.getUpdate(); if (updateFields.make updateFields.model) { // Check if the make or model fields are being updated if (!updateFields.make) { // If the model field is not being updated, retrieve the current make ID from the document being modified const car = await this.model.findOne(this.getQuery()); updateFields.make = car.make; // Set the make ID to the current value } if (!updateFields.model) { // If the model field is not being updated, retrieve the current model ID from the document being modified const carModel = await this.model.findOne(this.getQuery()); updateFields.model = carModel.model; // Set the model ID to the current value } // Retrieve the updated homeType ID from the updateFields object const newMakeId = updateFields.make; // Access the updated make ID directly const newModelId = updateFields.model; // Access the updated model ID directly // Retrieve the updated homeType document const newMake = await mongoose.model("Make").findById(newMakeId); const newModel = await mongoose.model("Car_Model").findById(newModelId); const car = await this.model.findOne(this.getQuery()); const newSlug = `${newMake.name?.replace( " ", "-" )}-${newModel.name?.replace(" ", "-")}`; const existingCar = await this.model.findOne({ slug: newSlug, _id: { $ne: this.getQuery()._id }, }); if (existingCar) { // If the slug is not unique, modify it to ensure uniqueness await this.model.updateOne( { _id: this.getQuery()._id }, { $set: { slug: `${newSlug}-${generateRandomString()}` } } ); } else { // Update the document being modified await this.model.updateOne( { _id: this.getQuery()._id }, { $set: { slug: newSlug } } ); } } next(); } catch (error) { next(error); } }); // Foreign fields carsSchema.pre(/^find/, function (next) { this.populate({ path: "user", select: "firstName lastName email phoneNumber role", }); this.populate({ path: "admin", select: "firstName lastName email phoneNumber role", }); this.populate({ path: "make", }); this.populate({ path: "model", }); this.populate({ path: "bodyType", }); this.populate({ path: "boughtOrRentedBy", select: "firstName lastName email phoneNumber", }); this.populate({ path: "fuelType", select: "name nameAm status", }); this.populate({ path: "color", select: "name nameAm status", }); this.populate({ path: "transmission", select: "name nameAm status", }); this.populate({ path: "condition", select: "name nameAm status", }); this.populate({ path: "city", select: "name nameAm status", }); next(); }); const changeUserFieldsToAuthor = (doc) => { if (doc?._doc) { if (doc._doc?.admin) { doc._doc.author = doc.admin; delete doc._doc.admin; } if (doc._doc?.user) { doc._doc.author = doc.user; delete doc._doc.user; } } }; carsSchema.post(/^find/, function (docs, next) { if (Array.isArray(docs)) { docs.forEach(changeUserFieldsToAuthor); } else { changeUserFieldsToAuthor(docs); } next(); }); // Create cars model const Cars = mongoose.model("Cars", carsSchema); 

I am trying to calculate total revenue from sold cars and the total revenue can be filtered by this week's revenue, this month and this year. I have tried the above but it is not working correctly. Here is the cars model

There was this guy and girl in a high school tuition class both 16. This guy had a crush on the girl since the beginning of the classes, but he had kept it to himself. The guy was tall, dark, shy, and a bit socially awkward and the girl was a little introverted at the beginning but once you get to know her, she opens up and talks more with you.
Months passed and one day while playing truth and dare during breaks in class, that guy was given a dare to say “I like you” to any of the girls in the class and he chose her. The guy and girl were teased for a while and then it was just settled as a joke. After going home that day, the guy texted the girl saying, “I hope you understand I had no other choice…etc.” and those two started talking on texts often from that day onwards. But then as the next summer approached, one day during the breaks as those two were chatting, the guy all of a sudden texts that he wants to say something but then writes off “nvm”. After the girl asks him what is about, the guy confesses to her saying he really meant what he said during truth and dare that day followed by saying “fuck man, I think I like you”. The girl was quite flustered on this sudden confession and didn’t know what to reply. It took her a while to come up with an answer. She finally replied with a long paragraph but the gist of it was that she appreciated him for being honest and confessing to her and she didn’t want things to get awkward with him and she just didn’t know how to reply to such stuff tbh.
And then they mutually discussed about keeping it (this convo) a secret and days passed just like that. The girl knew deep inside that she hadn’t given a proper reply that the guy deserved tbh. One day suddenly the guy’s best friend texts the girl this huge ass text that he knows all about this confession and all (he got to know by seeing the ss of the confession accidentally on the guy’s phone). Some days later, the girl’s best friend knows about it too.
Vacations are over and couple of weeks into classes…the girl’s best friend one day texts her that she knows everything about 'whatever happened' and how could the girl not tell her about this and keep it from her when they are such good friends. When the girl asked about what exactly she said about what happened during summer vacation, on hearing the words summer vacation, the girl thought her best friend knew all about it. She immediately called her friend and told her all about it. They talked about it some more, but it turned out that her best friend was just guessing, and the girl fell into this classic trick and spilled the beans lol.
Few weeks after this incident…the girl’s best friend one day confessed to her that she actually knew about this thing before as she had talked with the guy’s best friend and asked the guy directly too. And the fact that the guy still thinks he has a chance with her and stuff…the girl was pretty mad at this…and did not know how to think about it…her best friend and she had a long convo on phone that day…the girl calmed down a bit…they talked about how she should give a proper answer to the guy…and other stuff about how it is so hard to give a reply to guys about this kinda stuff being afraid of the fact that they can ruin their friendship.
However, the girl then courageously said that she’d do it this week…she’d give the guy a proper reply…2 days later another friend of the guy…and that girl were texting when he tells her something along these words: “You know right you are being shipped with someone right? And half of our class knows about it etc.” The girl had a total internal freakout but tried to play it calm…and did not tell him anything else. The next day, the guy asks whether she had any talk with his other friend…and she told him all about it. The guy said that this other friend was texting him that day saying, “a very good first choice man” and on asking what it was about he said, “the girl is sweet innocent and has a brain so pretty good choice”. The guy agreed and said yeah, she is a good friend. The girl gets to know about this and is pretty blushed, but she nonetheless takes this chance slips in her proper answer to him in their conversation.
to be continued...upon demands

Ee madhyakalam lo graduation ayindhi. College lo I used to talk to this girl, mostly on chat because in person she was too shy and sariga hi kuda chepedi kadhu. We talked a lot and I confessed my feelings to her, she reciprocated and everything was going well kani friends valla pedha drama which led to us fighting and not talking. Mostly thappu nadhe, ah kopam lo I said some messed up shit to her.
She herself messaged me oka 6-7 months tharvatha asking if we can meet and we thought we could get coffee. We planned and spoke on messages kani I was seeing someone else at that time and my friends aithey ippudu avasarama anaru so I cancelled on her because I didn’t wanna cause any trust issues in my relationship. She sent me a long message after that basically explaining everything she wanted say in person (Said sorry for her actions, called me out on how my words hurt her, explained her problems and why she acted the way she did) and final ga goodbye chepesindhi. I told her I’m seeing someone and that was the reason I couldn’t come not because I hate her ani sorry chepenu. I saw her a few times after college lo but neither of us said anything. She fully acted like she didn’t even know who I was, even when I walked past her, she didn’t even turn her face.
Graduation ayindhi recent ga like I mentioned. I didn’t see her that day but yea we all left. She’s not from the same city so she probably went back. Endhuko telidhu but the thought that I might never ever see her again in my life is kinda unsettling to me. Eppudu it never hit me that she will one day leave for good. I should’ve gone and met her anipisthundi. We couldve at least been friends then. I opened our chat yesterday and realised that she unsent / deleted her messages like the long closure message, her asking to meet, planning, even wishing me on my bday - ani unsend chesindhi idk why
I mean we’re graduated now so it’s not like I’ll be embarrassed by her reply but should I text her? Like hello how’re you ani? She technically did say good bye kani idk. Lite theeskona? Just been thinking about her a lot these days

28 F. Last year I went through a series of traumas, including the end of a 5 year long relationship/1 year engagement. I bounced back pretty well from it due to the other events that coincided with the timing of my separation that I won’t go into, but let’s just say I had a huge awakening last year that really put things into perspective.
My ex and I are on good terms and we have since both moved on. But my issue is I feel nothing. I go on these dates with these guys and they’re all so nice, charming, good looking- but I sit there and I feel absolutely nothing. I can engage, laugh, relate etc and sometimes I’ll even see some a few times over. They’ve all been really keen and want more, but I just cannot bring myself to feel any emotion or attraction towards anyone. For context, I’ve been on maybe 10+ dates this year , all my usual type.
My therapist thinks it might have to do with my high IQ, but I don’t think that’s it. I just cannot connect with anyone on any level.
I want to move on with my life ,I want to feel connected to others, but I don’t know how to move past this.
I have always been able to connect with others , whether it be physically, emotionally, mentally…. But now I can’t.
Thoughts?