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My dad got his right leg amputated a couple of months ago and he just got his left one done last week too (both above knee). He's 63, overweight, and has a comical amount of other health issues (on dialysis, 3 heart valves, ex diabetic, GERD, there's a tube i think in his arm but im not sure what that's related to). My mom and I help him but shes pretty old as well (53) with an existing back injury and i'm 16f + pretty short so im not very strong either. With his one leg it was pretty easy to get him in and out of the car and he could even go to the bathroom alone, but ever since his other leg got cut off life has just been bleak.
I should mention that after his second leg amputation, he spent maybe a day or so in the hospital then immediately left without any physical therapy. He still refuses to get physical therapy even after my mom and I repeatedly beg him to as it would make all of our lives easier. He says its because he doesn't want his job to fire him (he is the sole breadwinner in the house, works remotely, yes i feel horrible that he goes through so much and still works to support us so im working on getting money myself) but I feel like its more than that. He's the type of person that doesn't want to need help, and he got into an argument with my mom at the hospital over her wanting him to do the 10 days in therapy which included him saying she "just wants to send him to the old person home."
Even though its hard for us to move him around, we mostly have no problem helping him all day everyday. I do schooling online to stay at home to help and my mom quit her job when he health started to deteriorate at a concerning rate. I mostly stay in the house anyway since I moved away from all my friends like 2 years ago and I don't want anything to happen if i were to leave. The problem is that every day its an argument that just ends in me and my mom crying. My dad isn't abusive at all but he's very argumentative, and isn't really considerate to the people that care for him, even talking down and yelling at the nurses that care for him in the hospital. I just don't know what to do anymore when everyday I wake up feeling disappointed that there's another day I have to get through when my eyes still sting from the day before. I know I'm not the one suffering the most when my dad literally has no legs, but I guess its just difficult.
Is there anything we should do to help him make do until he can get a prosthetic for his right leg? I think him having at least one prosthetic would make a world of difference, but i know that you need physical therapy to even learn how to walk on them (plus im guessing it takes a long time to get one). Since he refuses therapy/treatment so much would it be possible for the prosthetic to just be something for him to stand on when transferring to the bed or toilet? Or would he still need therapy to even learn how to do that?
Any advice would make me happy and thanks for listening to my sob story :D

Hey everyone. I’m currently living in Spain working as a English teaching assistant. I have a student visa and a TIE card set to expire 6/30/2024. I have started the TIE renewal process but am leaving to return back to the US for a summer job before I can finish the process and get the physical TIE card. I got a regreso to indicate I’ve started the process but it expires August 7, 2024, and my summer job ends August 5. I don’t think it’s feasible to get back to Spain before the regreso expires. To complicate things, I will also be in Spain for the summer job (it’s a US hiking camp that has international trips) from June 22- August 3. I am trying to get another regreso appointment but it’s looking like I will be unable to get one before I leave on June 2. I was wondering if people have any advice/best course of action. Some things I am considering are… 1. Coming back on Aug 7, 2. Risking it and coming back sometime before September, 3. Flying into Portugal or France and then taking a bus into Spain after Aug 7…
any advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated, thank you!

I (18)f and preparing my graduation soon and I feel lost right now.For context me and my mom had a good relationship when I was younger but after she left her ex husband things changed.She was more annoyed with me and distant for the most part she was there for me.She housed me and fed me but that was it I felt alone.I also have to younger siblings 8f and 9m. My brother and I are close and my sister and I aren't .Lately I noticed my mom tends to treat them very differently then how she did with me.She used the excuse that since my childhood wasn't the best she wanted to give them a good one.For reference they both have xboxs,switches,tablets.They also have all there school trips and other important things attended to while when I was younger I had none of that.I don't hate her for it yet I feel like even though she wanted them to have a good childhood she shouldn't forget about me her first born child. Lately me and my mother have gotten into fights over me not wanting to watch my siblings or not wanting to clean her house.Btw I don't live with her nor does she pay me or ask me if I can she demands it most of the time.Her reason is she just doesn't want to deal with them and as a sister its my job to watch them.I fell stressed and upset because when I do watch them I get yelled at and told I'm not doing it right and have never even gotten a thank you.She tells me constantly that I never do anything and get mad at me all the time and it frustrated me.The last straw thay broke everything is that her new bf came down to visit and her and the kids got to say goodbye to him.I had asked to come over and say goodbye as well and was told she would text me when she's not busy.I waited for hours and it was around 9pm at this point and I called her asking what was the deal and is things still happening.I was yelled at and told that I needed to be patient and that I was being annoying.I told her I just wanted to know what happened and what we were doing because I wanted to know.She yelled more and I got annoyed and hung up she has yelled at me more nothing multiple times and I was fed up with her treating me like a kid but then asking me to be an adult.I decided to message her and tell her that she isn't invited because I don't wanna fight on an important day to me and she was pissed and told my grandma.I live with her for the time being and she came to me pissed off telling me I had to invite her and I didn't have a choice.I explained to her that my mom has only ever been mean and rude towards me and things always end up fighting and she told me to get over it and my mom raised me.I got upset and yelled that she raised me and not my mom all my mom did was house me not raise me I spent more time with my friends or grandparents then her.Now my mom and grandma wont speak to me and some of my friends tell me i have a right to uninvite who ever i want to my graduation but now im second guessing letting her go to stop this bullshit.I just wanted to have a day to me and not stress so am i the ass here or am i over reacting ?

Gosh I don't even know where to begin. It's my first time posting here so please go easy on me, but I have to get this off my chest.apologies for the long post... I'm 21 years old and have been looking after my mom off and on my whole life. She has lupus and has had some pretty bad flares and comorbid conditions (epilepsy, arthritis & vision loss) because of it. She suffered most of her life with this condition and the last two years have been especiallyhard on her health. With that, at the ripe old age of 19, I became nearly her primary caregiver. Aside from going to work, she needs help doing nearly everything and her pain has gotten so unbearable that she won't even eat without my help (even then she's very underweight). To say it has been a struggle is an understatement.
Anyways, to get to the title, mom had an appointment today where she finally decided to see a new specialist. It was then that she received the news that not only had her previous specialist (whom she had all my life) do a poor job at managing her condition, but that she could have been put on a medication 20 years ago to help her thrive. The deterioration of her body that she struggles with now could have been entirely avoided had she been in the right hands. 20 years...just a hair short of my entire lifetime's worth of pain and especially recent years worth of suffering... it's so hard to wrap my brain around. My heart aches and I can't explain yhe amount of grief I feel, not only for her but for myself. The the struggles and heartache we've both faced, for the toll it's taken on my life and hers and the dream future i have for myself that feels so unattainable now. It all could've been avoided, and it's all due to a lazy doctor. The icing on the cake is that the one medication she had been taking played a big role in how bad her condition has gotten. And the reason she started taking that med in the first place was to give birth to me... you can see how it would be easy to spiral into the rabbit hole of self-blaming.
In day to day life, I try not to focus on myself and always put her first, but being young, disabled, broke and having little support, I can't deny the way it wears on me. I have a sister who's help starts with making sure food is provided for in the home, thankfully, but that's where it ends. It's just mom and I in the house
It feels selfish to write this all down. I guess I just hope that someone will listen. That somone will understand. Ive talked to my partner about it, but no one really gets it when they havent lived it. I know realistically that who knows what could have happened, but it's hard news to take. As much as she and I are grieving, we have hope that things will get better. Hopefully this new doctor will be better and she'll get to doing well.
TLDR: shitty doctors failed my mom and because of it she's lost 20 year of her life that could've been potentially thriving. I spent a huge majority of my life (21yr old) caring for my mother as she struggles with various conditions and with the news I've been grieving what her and my life could have been like. I kind of feel like it's all my fault :/

Hello I turn to Reddit as I am getting a bit confused and don’t know where to turn to or how to proceed with this so if anyone can be kind enough to give me some advice/tips etc. anything helps 💕
I live in Texas and am trying to get started on getting full custody of my 4 year old daughter. There is not a pending case yet and I am not married to him. I think as it stands the custody is 50/50 and he is on child support. He currently owes $7,248.89 of current/retroactive. His last payment was on October 2023 for $20 and the payment before that was on May 2022 for $66.61. I only add this as reference that he really has not been there for her financially and physically. The last contact I had with him was in September 2022 where he sent me a message that him and his girlfriend were selling t-shirts and that he misses her but he’s busy. The time before that it was on February 2021 where I asked him if he wanted to cooperate on her first birthday party and was left on read and he has pretty much cut contact since then. Needless to say he is absent and not active. The last time he physically saw her was in December 2020 and has not tried to reach out or ask about her etc since then. I would like to get full custody and terminate his rights. I am not sure if just getting an affidavit of voluntary relinquishment and having him sign and notarized would be enough to do that.
I am sure he is willing to sign but would like to avoid contact with him since it was an abusive relationship but obviously at this point I just need to get it done so I am willing to do anything.
I did read somewhere that Involuntary Termination is a thing. Would this be able to fall into the “The parent abandoned or did not support the child and expressed no intent to return.” category? or would I have to go to court for this? It seems a bit redundant since he will not fight for her but I will do what is necessary as my daughter does not need this. I also believe he might have a geographical restriction (not sure) and I would like to move since my current partner is getting a federal job somewhere out of Texas so obviously no matter what we are moving. I did try speaking with a free attorney since truthfully I cannot afford to get one atm but obviously if it is necessary I will. I have yet heard back from them and it’s just eating me up that I should be doing something else and that I’m not well informed no matter how much I read up on it etc.
Thank you!

Okay this post is for advice/opinions because im kind of stuck right now. To preface I am (24F) (dont boot me my bday is in two months) and my GF is (31F) we will have been together a year in july. (We have been a LDR)
In august I am going to professional school and we are both moving to a new city/state where my school is..
Before we got together i was signed up for like egg donation websites bc i know you can make good money and also it is for a good cause.. and i got approved by 2 sites to donate.
Back in october i brought it up to her about potentially donating my eggs for the two reasons listed above and she didnt have much of an opinion on it but i said I would let her know like if there was ever a match (someone wanting my eggs)
So fast forward are to be moving soon and the egg bank reached our for me to move forward in the donating process so the other day i mentioned it to her and she kind of basically said she didnt want me to do it because we want to have kids together and basically what if something goes wrong etcetc.. and i was just like thats highley unlikely and basically we can still have kids if i donate a few eggs.
So basically she kind of gets me to agree on not doing it… lowkey guilt tripping but thats besides the point..
So back to now we are getting close to the moving date.. to preface my gf is a lot more financially established than me.. has a lot more work experience and also is now about to be a veteran..
Ive been working and saving as much as i can but not really that much and in terms of moving I was highkey banking on that egg donation money well before all of these other factors came to play..
So we were talking about finances.. and she mentioned that while im doing 30 hrs a week in school she still expected me to shovel half the bills even though shell have a FT job prob making 90k knowing the field she is going into..
AITA for thinking that thats crazy and unfair? Esp since you didnt want me to donate my eggs and for refrence if i did it like 4x w this company it would be around 50k that i would have in hand.
I think regardless expecting 50/50 and knowing the entire time that i will be going to school full time.. and if i did work I would basically be shoveling my whole check to bills while you get to save more money and fuck off with it.. just someone let me know if im tripping?
I genuinely want your honest opinions thanks

Okay this post is for advice/opinions because im kind of stuck right now. To preface I am (24F) (dont boot me my bday is in two months) and my GF is (31F) we will have been together a year in july. (We have been a LDR)
In august I am going to professional school and we are both moving to a new city/state where my school is..
Before we got together i was signed up for like egg donation websites bc i know you can make good money and also it is for a good cause.. and i got approved by 2 sites to donate.
Back in october i brought it up to her about potentially donating my eggs for the two reasons listed above and she didnt have much of an opinion on it but i said I would let her know like if there was ever a match (someone wanting my eggs)
So fast forward are to be moving soon and the egg bank reached our for me to move forward in the donating process so the other day i mentioned it to her and she kind of basically said she didnt want me to do it because we want to have kids together and basically what if something goes wrong etcetc.. and i was just like thats highley unlikely and basically we can still have kids if i donate a few eggs.
So basically she kind of gets me to agree on not doing it… lowkey guilt tripping but thats besides the point..
So back to now we are getting close to the moving date.. to preface my gf is a lot more financially established than me.. has a lot more work experience and also is now about to be a veteran..
Ive been working and saving as much as i can but not really that much and in terms of moving I was highkey banking on that egg donation money well before all of these other factors came to play..
So we were talking about finances.. and she mentioned that while im doing 30 hrs a week in school she still expected me to shovel half the bills even though shell have a FT job prob making 90k knowing the field she is going into..
AITA for thinking that thats crazy and unfair? Esp since you didnt want me to donate my eggs and for refrence if i did it like 4x w this company it would be around 50k that i would have in hand.
I think regardless expecting 50/50 and knowing the entire time that i will be going to school full time.. and if i did work I would basically be shoveling my whole check to bills while you get to save more money and fuck off with it.. just someone let me know if im tripping?
I genuinely want your honest opinions thanks

Burner account for privacy.
Since 2018 I have been battling my Family, my city, and my own mind and I think I'm about to just give it all up and call it quits.
With little context becuz I could be here writing for hours, my own mother sent me to jail and basically ruined my life because it caused me to get a felony that stuck. My own family has basically disowned me because of this and refuse to hear my side of it because of her. Most of my friends just basically ghosted me to nonexistence randomly over the years to the point that I literally have zero friends anymore. I have been homeless since 2018 because no one will house a felon even if I made more than required to live in the apartment. Jobs have been hard to find because of this too. I either work for horrible paying jobs that work me like I'm a robot, or I don't even make it in the door because they see that one word and that's all they need.
Just recently I came back to my home city and got a job and was living with a relative that still treated me right. It was a nice change of pace but it didn't last long. My mother caught wind of it and basically told the relative to kick me out, which they did, and a couple months after that my job found out that I was recently homeless so they pretty much fired me. (Yes, they were legally allowed to..). So now I sleep outside where I can and raid dumpsters at night for food while I starve all day waiting. Some of you may ask why I don't get another job. I can't anymore, my license is expired. I was in the process of renewing my license when I got kicked out. So even if I wanted to, none of the jobs around me allow you to finish the paperwork for employment with an expired license.
I'm seriously stuck on what to do. I have asked everyone and everywhere I can for help and I either get met with laughs and ridicule or I get met with "Fake and scam, get a job loser." As if I could and haven't tried. I'm tired of for getting and I'm tired of trying. My own family wrote me off and everyone else I share a bloodline with, I haven't had a friend in years, and I can't help myself anymore. My state (KS) doesn't really have a homeless problem where I'm at so resources for my situation are scarce. I've tried food and homeless shelters and they don't give a fuck about Single White Kid-less men thanks to all the "Kevins" and "chads" out there putting holes in walls. I'm about to just go lay somewhere quiet and secluded and just wither away since that's what the world wants from me. I have also tried SSI and unemployment benefits to help me get back to at least rock bottom so I can start climbing back up but I don't qualify for any of it. I'm not fucked up enuff for SSI help and it's like a 4month process to sign up for Unemployment in my state.
I'm just really close to fully give up on the fight and just let it win. I've been battling high functioning depression for years but never has it ever gotten the Dark in my head before, nor this often. I contemplate atleast 5 times an hour now and I don't want to be like this anymore. I just want the pain to stop and to go back to how I was before all of this. The worst part is, the sleeping outside and being homeless isn't the bigger issue. What people think of me anymore doesn't bother me nor do I care. The worst part is sitting at random places all day for wifi and smelling their food or seeing people eat while I starve waiting for nightfall so I can roll the dice on the few dumpsters around hoping they have at least 1 thing I can eat to make the pains ago away so I can sleep.

Hi Reddit,
I received the job opportunity of a lifetime that pays $6 more than I currently make across the country doing my dream job of gardening. I moved across the country seven years ago and would be returning to the state I grew up in. I would be moving from a quieter beachy town to DC.
Due to personal reasons, I can't see myself long-term in my current role, but I wouldn't say I'm super unhappy or miserable. I have a wonderful partner of seven months and an amazing sports community. I work three additional jobs to make ends meet. This city wouldn't be much cheaper, but it would be my foot in the door to a permanent government job and potentially moving away in the future.
My partner is more open to moving next year, but they can't move out with me for a year due to their personal situation.
I have always dreamt of a permanent gardening government job but fear giving up my wonderful life here. I moved cross country 7 years ago and did it once. But doing it again feels incredibly painful. At the same time, if I stay here, I might have roommates forever, and the cost of living will keep skyrocketing.
I've spent A LOT of my early 20s moving all over the place with temporary jobs, so it's not like I've never stepped out of my comfort zone. I've stayed at my current position for 4 years, and as I head into my 30s, I want to have some longevity on my resume. I worry about how much career growth I can have in this beach town. I'm not a big city person, but I LOVE museums and the outdoors. This company will not pay for my cross-country move, which is also a big stressor.
Thank you for any insight and advice.

Hello, I am looking for B.Sc. in Computer Science and 3 universities in Germany caught my eye - Technische Hochschule Ingolstadt (THI), Technische Hochschule Ulm (THU) and Universität des Saarlandes; their programs looks well structured but also are in English (my German is not better than B1). For now my favorite is Saarland Uni because of curriculum, fees and costs of living and the atmosphere at all. I am looking for CS because of the solid base it provides and I want to specialize in Cybersecurity later. As background I have STEM degree (C#, SQL, HTML, CSS and JS)
I have some questions about them. Firstly, if someone of you has attended any of these programs, what is your opinion of the quality of education - do the staff care about their subjects or they are doing the bare minimum teaching old techniques like the universities in my country (Bulgaria, EU) etc. Also what are the main advantages of that university?
Secondly, what is the atmosphere in these cities, do the people speak English, are they friendly. And can I find good job where I do not have to speak in German too much (mainly in English)? What is the average salary?
About about the living - how hard is to find not too much expensive apartment (below €1000 month rent) near the university and approximately what is the cost of living every month (how much should I spend for base needs like food, public transport, mobile operator etc. every month)?
Thank you a lot!

Heyo
I am a current junior, I go to a public Atlanta suburb high school (450 kids in my senior class)

• uva is my dream school and I’d love to go here

Demographics - high income 350k + per year
Major - finance/mechanical or biomedical engineering
Stats:
Current act - 27 (aiming for a 32+ in coming tests)(should get it up)
SAT - didn’t take
GPA - UW 3.81, W 4.1 (school does a weird weight system) W gpa shld be like 4.35
Class rank - school doesn’t rank, but I’d be top 15% of class.
Course work - AP us history, AP stats, AP pre calc, AP psych, AP human geography, AP lang, AP macro, AP environmental science, 3 dual enrollment classes online (all A’s)
Extracurriculars

1. Vice President of Foster care support club, raising around $1,500 per year for local foster cares around metro Atlanta area
2. Founder and co President of financial literacy club - teach students at our school the benefits of learning how to do taxes, and real life knowledge to help them in the future
3. JDRF Youth ambassador (I’m a type 1 diabetic) - raise and campaign money for diabetes research, and I did a hospital shadow with an endocrinologist.
4. Children’s hospital volunteering - I was diagnosed with T1D in January of 2024, so I’m doing some volunteering with new found diabetes patients in the hospital to give them a sense of calmness.
5. Held a job throughout senior year - working 20+ hours a week from fall semester, (really good recommendation from my manager)
6. Varsity lacrosse captain - 3 years varsity lacrosse player, promoted to captain this year
7. Student government involvement
8. National honor society 2 year member - bunch of volunteer hours and stuff from that

Essays - I used to live in Charlottesville, so I think I’m gonna write my why uva essay about how much I miss living there and display all my memories about living in Charlottesville as a child and how it’s made me who I am today as a person.

• I also am gonna write about my recent diabetes diagnosis and how hard it was to cope back into school and sports, but how the diagnosis was a blessing in disguise and help my build my character as a person.

Please lmk what you think my chances are for some of these other schools that are on my list!
Reaches - 1. UVA (dream school) 2. Tulane 3. Umich 4. UNC Chapel hill 5. Boston college (Super good rec for here)
Targets 1. Maryland college park 2. Wisconsin 3. Georgia (in state) 4. Georgia tech (in state) - should be a reach
Safety’s 1. Auburn 2. Virginia tech
Thank you!

Hi everyone! So glad I found this forum, it's been really helpful. So I started taking HRT a few months ago. Along with estrogen patch 0.05, I was started on micronized progesterone 100mg, but found myself to be really groggy and brain-foggy in the mornings. After about 3 weeks, I was switched to medroxy-progesterone 10mg (synthetic form). I felt better, but during my follow-up visit, the doctor mentioned that medroxy-progesterone may have pro-inflammatory responses over time, so we discussed possibly trialing the micronized progesterone again.
My question is: has anyone gotten less brain-foggy after taking the micronized progesterone for a few weeks or months? Are there any tips and tricks to this? Taking it at a certain time, with or without food, etc.. I work at a job where I need to very clear headed in the early morning.
Thank you for your comments, I appreciate you all.

Does anyone else who works corporate/office jobs from home enjoy having Funhaus on as their background noise?
I find I work with more focus when I can split my energy between working and listening to Funhaus (thanks ADHD), and a series near and dear to my heart is Dark Messiah - Might and Magic.
"OOH YESS! And you just FOUND the rope bow, and now you get to USE it!"
Huge thanks to the like of Armitage (and Not Armitage), as well as the countless others who have done the same, for their work archiving these shows for those of us who watched to relive them ♥️

Making this post to kind of find a community or similar people who I can talk to.
I M(36) started vyvanse about 3-4 months ago. I have type 2 diabetes and currently take ozempic, and or trulicity when available. I was just diagnosed this year, was very unaware of my adhd or symptoms until tiktok. I know tiktok is a great resource for diagnosing but a lot of the things people were posting made a lot of sense about my school/life. I started noticing my adhd was getting worse as I got better paying jobs lol. Went from hard labor jobs to desk jobs and getting diagnosed with diabetes for me to realize maybe there is something else going on. Anyways!
30mg: when I started at this dosage it was the best, the first day was crazy, no day dreaming, no randomly realizing I had been driving for an hour. When I would speak to co workers the background got blurry and I would hyperfocus on them. I stopped doom scrolling tiktok, I was off my phone for most of the work shift. I was getting shit done at home I was helping my wife around the house, I felt like I had more time to spend with my kid. The appetite suppressant was kind of intense too, stopped craving sugar, went from taking 4-5 energy drinks a week to nothing. I kind of forced my self to eat. The sleep was alot better as well, I felt tired at night but if I didn't sleep when I felt it, I would struggle to sleep til around 2 am. I would consistently wake up at 6 am. Life was good.
After 2-3 days on it i started feeling this big confidence boost, I didn't feel shy I was able to talk to people and not be stuck in my head. I also started to feel like manlier? My muscles felt bigger, my sex drive was out of control. The sex was better (with my wife) didn't lose focus. I also started having some hallucinations, i would see cats in the shadows, randomly see things moving in the corner of my eyes. Then about a week on it, everything was back to (normal) I was back having random day dreams again, doom scrolling tiktok. Then I just forgot to take it and didn't take it again till my Dr. Upped the dosage.
40mg: after not being on anything for about 2 weeks, due to lack of availability and just forgetting to take it. This dosage never really hit I started drinking coffee with it to wake up. Still had some random sugar cravings probably drank like 4 monsters while on the 40mg. Occasionally would get the weird sex drive boost. No day dreaming and i think I started developing some depression, feeling like I wasn't myself, empty. I did drop my sugar levels tremendously on this though. Went from average of 250-300 to under 100 but also constantly had the low blood sugar feelings, headaches, feeling like i was going to passout (probably from lack of eating). After 2 weeks or so I stopped feeling anything again and forgot to take them and eventually stopped.
60mg: currently at 60 for about a week now. First day had trouble sleeping. No intense hyper focus, daydreams gone, sleeping habits are improving will wake up at 6-630 no matter when I go to bed (earliest I feel sleepy is around 11) appetite is gone but I feel like I randomly munch on things out of habit, I feel full quicker during meals, stopped craving sugary drinks again. I did start having this neausus feeling about an hour before I take my pills, also getting thyroid pain and feel hungry, not sure if it has to do with sugar levels but I need to start monitoring my levels again. I am starting to feel some hyperfocus and if I space out i feel like I just npc mode.
Sorry for the bad grammar, and thank you if you read it all. I started feeling like I left a lot out but didn't want to make the post too long.

New home owner here. I do most things myself but I'm looking to have landscapers lay down my patio stones as they are quite heavy and I want things to be even/level. I have 29 stones that are 2 feet by 2 1/2 feet. They can make a 12x12 patio (or something near that, I havent done the math). What would landscapers charge? The stone are stacked up on my walkway and I want to put them down where there used to be a deck. There's no grass there now, just dirt. I'm looking to get a rough idea of what landscapers would charge to put them down so I don't end up getting ripped off. I'm completely clueless on the price of this job. Advice welcomed. Thank you. I'm in Canada (looking for price in CAD)

hi family, In the past two months, La Santisima has definitely made it known to me she is present. In no way have I denied this, and i have set a beautiful altar for her in my bedroom . I never heard of her, until a friend and i went to New Orleans and he was on a mission to find a statue of her but i started becoming more educated and resonated . Maybe i moved to quickly, but back home i went to a botanica and purchased a beautiful statue of her on her horse. I went home, and that evening my father’s brother, my uncle, passed, which made me very confused . I did what i could to work through this. I am white , and adopted and raised by a Hispanic lady, whom I call mom. She never associated with spirits though . She saw my altar and became very concerned , and a few days later her brother passed unexpectedly as well. This is all so confusing to me. My mom, i also reside with her, won’t let me light candles in my room anymore .
Thank you for reading this , I just need some clarification. I feel so non existent, not real, and La Santisima wants to be with me I truly do feel but I’m not sure what is happening for real. Does anyone have an explanation or similar experience any empathy? I need help :/ i feel so restricted now, like what do i even do ?
Thank you all again. I love this community. & ofc thank you God and La Santisima.

Does anyone know where second hand automated pill dispensers may be sold? I'm trying my best with my mom, but I have a young toddler and a job, and I'm struggling having to go to her place 3x/day for medication distribution.
She is on the waiting list to interview for caregiver qualifications.
There is just no way I can afford one of these devices new.
Thank you!

I’m hoping I can hear some other Redditor’s experiences with going through divorce/long-term break-up, but specifically where you were both in your mid to late thirties and didn’t involve fighting and still care for each other.
A bit of context. We are both turning 37 this year. We have been together for about 14 years. She moved far away from her home country for me, and has no family and no strong friendships here. We have always been indifferent about having kids. We always said if we were financially stable, then maybe. We more or less are now, but have been trying to address and fix large problems in our relationship, which have been ignored for far too long and have become more prevalent. I can’t even fathom having a child right now while having our relationship remain as is. It’s been over a year of me really trying to improve things and feeling like my effort was not being matched. We started couples counselling in March, but I’m worried things will not improve. I feel like I’m becoming a shell of myself and am constantly sad, and thoughts of leaving are becoming stronger.
When talking about what she would do if we ever broke up, she says she wouldn’t want to date. She’d be content to just being alone and having a cat. This really breaks my heart. She also says she wouldn’t move back to her home country, she likes it here and enjoys her job. Part of me is thankful about that, because I never want her out of my life.
When I think about leaving, one of the main things I struggle with is guilt.
Guilt of leaving someone at this time. If they do end up feeling stronger to have a child, the time to for them to potentially find someone special and form a relationship, then make a decision to have a child with someone, is more or less gone.
Guilt of not being around when we’re older. If they never end up finding another partner, the thought of them being alone every day and not having someone to be there for an emergency kills me.
Just an overwhelming feeling of guiltiness for them being by themselves, when we thought we would be together for ever.
I’d appreciate hearing some advice, what other’s experience of ending things was like, and how it sits with you, or how you deal with it today. Thanks.
tl:dr, How did you cope separating with your long-term partner in your mid/late thirties?

I have golfed avidly for the past 16 years now, hitting thousands of golf balls yearly. I've also never had any issues with pain that was caused by golfing up until a couple of years ago.
I couldn't put a finger on why I got the pain and what was causing it. I went to doctors with the pain and did multiple tests and everything always came back fine in regards to my heart and lungs or any other major organ. That said, I'm scheduled for a chest x-ray soon just to be sure that there isn't anything seriously wrong with me.
I do believe that the main issue for me is a combination of things: I started a new desk job 4 years ago where I'm constantly on my laptop, with a subpar (bad) posture—this is likely the main reason, but I'd say it's close to the second reason. The second reason, I believe, is due to me practicing by hitting golf balls off of artificial turf. I have a powerful swing and usually take divots when hitting shots on the golf course. The turf, however, never gives in and causes great resistance when I hit a golfball.
These things correlate perfectly with the timing of my pain. When I first receiving this pain, i was also trying to practice golf as much as I could, 100% of the time hitting off of golf mats. All along while working a full time desk job staring at a laptop all day.
The strongest evidence was recently when I tried to get a practice session in. I have been playing golf on the course quite a bit and never had any pain. In between rounds, I decided to hit up the driving range as I wanted to improve my golf game. It was fine at the start, but as soon as I transitioned to my heavier clubs (7 iron, 6 iron, and 5 iron), I started to get horrible left chest pain that hurt even worse with a deep breath. Once I started getting the pain, I reverted back to my lighter clubs and hit some chip shots—the pain slowly went away.
So if you're here and you're a golfer looking for answers and you hit off of golf mats for practice, I would try avoiding that. All this said, you should still rule everything else out and get a professional diagnosis ASAP. No need to risk such pain. But hopefully another fellow costo-golfer might find this useful. Thanks!

I’m hoping I can hear some other Redditor’s experiences with going through divorce/long-term break-up, but specifically where you were both in your mid to late thirties and didn’t involve fighting and still care for each other.
A bit of context. We are both turning 37 this year. We have been together for about 14 years. She moved far away from her home country for me, and has no family and no strong friendships here. We have always been indifferent about having kids. We always said if we were financially stable, then maybe. We more or less are now, but have been trying to address and fix large problems in our relationship, which have been ignored for far too long and have become more prevalent. I can’t even fathom having a child right now while having our relationship remain as is. It’s been over a year of me really trying to improve things and feeling like my effort was not being matched. We started couples counselling in March, but I’m worried things will not improve. I feel like I’m becoming a shell of myself and am constantly sad, and thoughts of leaving are becoming stronger.
When talking about what she would do if we ever broke up, she says she wouldn’t want to date. She’d be content to just being alone and having a cat. This really breaks my heart. She also says she wouldn’t move back to her home country, she likes it here and enjoys her job. Part of me is thankful about that, because I never want her out of my life.
When I think about leaving, one of the main things I struggle with is guilt.
Guilt of leaving someone at this time. If they do end up feeling stronger to have a child, the time to for them to potentially find someone special and form a relationship, then make a decision to have a child with someone, is more or less gone.
Guilt of not being around when we’re older. If they never end up finding another partner, the thought of them being alone every day and not having someone to be there for an emergency kills me.
Just an overwhelming feeling of guiltiness for them being by themselves, when we thought we would be together for ever.
I’d appreciate hearing some advice, what other’s experience of ending things was like, and how it sits with you, or how you deal with it today. Thanks.
tl:dr, How did you cope separating with your long-term partner in your mid/late thirties?