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2024.05.21 16:20 ishsvdkuav Trying to get away?

My mother and I have a complicated relationship, she divorced my father when i was about 13/14 and for the next how many years she has been a burden to me. She was great when I was a child and I love thinking of the memories we shared before it all went down. My dad is for sure a narcissist or maybe even has ASPD, I’m not sure or eager to find out since we barely speak and I much prefer it this way. He abused the whole family and I remember being woken up from bed because they were fighting and having to go ‘break’ the fight or at least make sure he is not hurting my mom. The divorce was really hard on me, not because I missed having my dad around, he didn’t do much good when he was, but because of my mom. She is really emotionally imbalanced and constantly needs reassuring which at the time she was getting from her so called ‘friends’ which then too I told her were not good people and to keep our family business ours. She had an abusive relationship with her mother and then my father. I know life hasn’t been easy on her but God, I was only a child listening to the recap of all the messages between him and her, him and his mistresses, what happened at court that day, but it was not only that it was the emotional burden which I tolarated and still do to this day even tho we have made some progress over the years. I’m in my early 20s now and have managed to get my reactions under control. I was an angry child from an abusive home that no one thought needed help because I exceeded all expectations regarding my acedemic and work life. Now I’m just kinda empty, I have no need for people in my life because I find most overbearring, due to having to help my mother work through any negative emotion she’s having, be it through her yelling at me that I’m lazy, dirty and messy along with many other things that just weren’t and aren’t true or her coming to me with bad news of her own before I had my first sip of coffee when she knows I like my peace in the morning (always honestly) and how much i retain from other emotionally. I am just so tired of her and all the people in my life thinking that I would just put up with their shit. I like to hang out with people and I am an extrovert but I’ve been fairly introverted for the last year or two, really keeping my peace successfully and only letting good people in, but even in those relationships I am somehow always the one that has a bit more understanding for the other or ‘thougher skin’. I know it seems as though I do because that is the front I had been learning to put on for years, BECAUSE I HAD TO. It just feels kinda unfair that I’m always the one that will let stuff go because I see things hurt other people more than me, but that doesn’t mean I’m not hurt by other’s actions too. That’s about it, my first ever rant. It was kinda freeing I have to say.
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2024.05.21 16:17 Thejapanther Guidebook speculates that Black King is Red Kings older brother even through Red King is a species 🗿

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2024.05.21 16:12 ClimbOn2YourSeahorse Fleas Despite Treatment

We adopted a stray kitten and have treated her twice with Kitten Frontline. On the skin not the fur.
I have two other cats and a dog. Never have I had a pet resistant to treatment! We have bathed her twice, applied medication twice and the fleas persist. She went in for a spay on Saturday and aftter seeing her itchy I took a flea comb to her... and OMG never have I seen such an infestation. I have CapStar, is it too soon after her spay (4 days) to giver her a CapStar tablet?
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2024.05.21 16:10 MajesticDocument [Product Request] MAP Vitamin C serum with HA? Or does anyone know of any dupes for Glossier’s Super Glow?

Hi, I have been searching for a good vitamin C serum that won’t irritate my skin, and I found one in Glossier’s Super Glow but it is a bit more expensive than what I’d like to be paying!
I use tretinoin in my skincare routine and realized some months ago that anything with hyaluronic acid makes my skin all itchy and irritated if I’m using tretinoin. I previously used the HA + Vitamin C serum from timeless but had to stop. I then started using Super Glow. After I finished one bottle of that I decided to try out Prequel’s vitamin C. It irritated my skin immediately upon first use even though it doesn’t have HA in it - not sure what it was in that formulation that did it for me.
I also had found that products with sodium hyaluronate caused the same irritation. Does anyone have the same problem while on tret, and have you found a vit C serum that doesn’t make your skin go wild?? I have only tried MAP and ascorbic acid types of Vit C serum, I would be open to other ones as well but my understanding has been that other types may not be as potent or effective.
I’ve searched this question before on all different skincare subreddits but the products being recommended either contained HA or a derivative, were no longer available, or outside of my price range. I’d say my upper limit for how much I want to spend now is how much the Glossier Super Glow costs! (If I can’t find anything else I’m definitely going back to that product 🥲)
Thank you
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2024.05.21 16:03 ClimbOn2YourSeahorse Fleas despite Treatment

We adopted a stray kitten and have treated her twice with Kitten Frontline. On the skin not the fur.
I have two other cats and a dog. Never have I had a pet resistant to treatment! We have bathed her twice, applied medication twice and the fleas persist. She went in for a spay on Saturday and aftter seeing her itchy I took a flea comb to her... and OMG never have I seen such an infestation. I have CapStar, is it too soon after her spay (4 days) to giver her a CapStar tablet?
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2024.05.21 16:03 Nicebuthorrible Mistake in Twisted Hate?

So I’m reading twisted hate by Ana huang on Amazon kindle and I noticed this sentence. I’ve re read it a billion times and it still doesn’t seem right. Is this an actual mistake in the books or is it me not reading it correctly lol.
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2024.05.21 16:02 pancakeghostyy Fresh cut on past cellulitis site?

My dad (Male, 58, 5"11, 252lbs, smoker) had very bad cellulitis 2 years ago on his right calf. He passed out, was hospitalised and put on IV antibiotics for 3 days. Within 1 week he was back home and continued on oral antibiotics. The redness never faded.
A year later the same thing happened and he was again hospitalised and put on IV antibiotics. Again the redness is still there and his entire lower calf is discoloured. It's been 1 year since then and he hasn't had any temperature spike and he feels generally fine.
Today he slipped in the garden and cut his calf in that area. It's bleeding and the skin is ripped, right where his cellulitis redness is. I can't provide a picture as he declined. My question is could this trigger his cellulitis again? He won't go to the doctor and said it's "just a cut" and that he will get some anti-septic powder from the pharmacy. He is not concerned however I am as the last 2 times he was hospitalised it was only by chance my mother checked on him before going to bed and he was in fact passed out from a high fever (40°C, 104°F) in front of the TV both times.
Is this fresh wound on his cellulitis site a cause for concern? The only medication he is taking is statins for his high cholesterol as he is overweight.
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2024.05.21 15:53 Brilliant-Thought610 Please help w/ skin

Please help w/ skin
Please help.. I have no idea what to do with this.. I’ve had it for about a month now and it does a cycle where it will break out in little pimples all in that area and then will be very itchy. I try not to itch it for obvious reasons but it will eventually dry up(stage it’s in rn) and sometimes crack my skin. I feel like I use a lot of moisturizer for my face and I just can’t figure it out at this point
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2024.05.21 15:51 Current_Iron_8357 27M [M4F] So Cal / Online / Wherever - Looking for that special someone!

Hi there! I’m from California looking to deep dive into a subject about anything and everything!Whether it’s something deep, or just what’s on your mind today! Im looking for someone who doesn’t mind texting throughout the day, or just sending snaps of funny stuff you come across. Im looking for a LTR.
I’m a big hiker, biker, gym going. I try to put my health in front but trying new foods will always hold me back from my abs goal 😭.
I enjoy gaming! It’s a bonus if you also game, maybe we can voice chat over discord as well! I enjoy watching a good series with someone! There are a lot of series I haven’t seen that you can show me! ( the office, IASIP, Parks and rec…etc ). I have also been enjoying Conspiracy theory / cryptid podcasts lately, I love listening to the wild stories people claim to have experienced or seen.
I’m willing to swap pictures so you can see what I look like, and we can move to a different platform as well if we click! I understand physical appearance is part of the attraction, I’m 5’ 10”, 175 lbs with brown skin and black hair. If you send a pic in your starter message I will happily send one back :)
Hope to hear from you soon!
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2024.05.21 15:49 Brilliant-Thought610 Please help w/skin

Please help w/skin
I can not get rid of this patch of my face.. it will break out in a bunch of little pimples, be itchy, and then will eventually dry up and skin will crack open sometimes. I’m not to sure what it is or how to handle it. Any advice ???
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2024.05.21 15:47 Fast_Ad764 Why do some cannabis strains make me sneeze and throat itchy?

Hi all, I sometimes smoke flower that makes me sneeze and my throat itchy. It doesn't happen often but enough for me to notice. I also sometime's get a red dry eye, not the eye ball, but the eye-lid skin. I assume it could be from the smoke itself? I smoke inside. I also do have season allergies, maybe that's something to factor in? I'm aware of "terps", are there terps that people are more allergic to than others...? Lol thanks for the comments!
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2024.05.21 15:46 needalldapokemanz I think my gaming chair triggers my eczema?

I’m from the UK and just went on a SEA travelling trip for 5 months, the longest I’ve been away from home. I have moderate to extreme eczema on my face neck arms and legs. Over a few months there in Thailand, 95% of it went away. This has always been the case with going abroad, but for this extensive time it really looked like I was fully cured. My skins never looked so good
I return back to the uk and suddenly after two weeks it’s back in full force. Weeping cracked skin all over my face, itchy as hell and I look terrible. There’s something here that triggers my skin that isn’t abroad and I’m trying to figure it out. I’m starting to think it’s my gaming chair?
I’m a pretty heavy gamer so I sit in that chair for extensive periods daily. It’s made of a fake leather I believe. After long periods the parts that connect where I get eczema like the backs of my legs get sweaty and itchy. As well as my back, face and other areas that do not connect.
Could it be the chair? It would make sense as I don’t sit in a chair abroad
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2024.05.21 15:46 wereheretobeus Rash on neck

Rash on neck
What could this neck rash be? It has appeared before in a different spot on the neck and gone away within a couple of days but seems to appear quite suddenly, not itchy or sore
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2024.05.21 15:44 morewinelipstick help! bug found on bed

For the last week or so I've been waking up with itchy, red bumps on my torso, legs, arms and neck. I haven’t seen any signs of bed bugs like blood/dark spots on my sheets, but I found this bug in my bed last night. I'd so appreciate any help identifying it - I know there's carpet beetles in the apartment as well, but am unsure if I'm looking at bed bugs (gulp), body lice, beetle nymph, or something else. I'm in Connecticut, if relevant. Thank you!!
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2024.05.21 15:40 morewinelipstick help! bug found on bed

help! bug found on bed
For the last week or so I've been waking up with itchy, red bumps on my torso, legs, arms and neck. I haven’t seen any signs of bed bugs like blood/dark spots on my sheets, but I found this bug in my bed last night. I'd so appreciate any help identifying it - I know there's carpet beetles in the apartment as well, but am unsure if I'm looking at bed bugs (gulp), body lice, or something else. I'm in Connecticut, if relevant. Thank you!!
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2024.05.21 15:26 dghujh Small, red scaly circles appearing on my body

Small, red scaly circles appearing on my body
Hello! For a few months now I (26/f) have been getting these small, scaly/dry looking dots on my body. Mainly on my chest, back and neck. They are not itchy. I haven't found any description online that quite matches what I have going on. Anyone know how to clear this up or what may be causing it? Haven't changed anything (detergent, body wash, etc. to expect a reaction.)
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2024.05.21 15:22 SubjectImpossible809 Level 2 bites. Risk/ rehoming? Please please help

Hello! I am in a little bit of a tough situation. My dog is 3 years old and I have had him for almost two. I adopted him from a local rescue where he had no reported behavioral issues reported. For a while I generally noticed some anxiety and reactivity. I took him through quite a bit of training and made sure I maintained everything I learned in our home. I always had this..feeling that even though nothing had happened I worried there was an unpredictable side to him. I always proceeded with caution when having him around others (I would keep him leashed, close to me ect.).
First incident: we moved into a house with a fenced yard for him. He could get his front legs up on the fence we shared with some neighbors and would frequently say hi to them and it would always go well. But still made me nervous. The neighbors/ my husband always assured me he was fine. One day the neighbors landlord was over to fix a part of the fence and he jumped up and was letting them all say hi. I was holding onto him but then suddenly snapped at this landlord and bit his hand and tried to lunge up to his face I think. I immediately pulled him away. He did not break skin.
After this my anxiety around him interacting with others completely skyrocketed. Never had people over, rarely let others say hi. My husband is much more comfortable initiating those interactions and usually it would go well if he ever saw new people with him. I will also add he goes to a structured daycare twice a week and has a dog walker the rest of the days. So he is exposed to others. But anything outside of that always made me nervous.
Second incident: my husband’s friends invited us for a camping trip. He wanted to show me that the dog would be just fine. Everyone was able to assure me that incident 1 was somehow related to the fence (i.e., dogs can be wired about their fences/ property that’s probably what it was). Most of the trip had gone very well. He met lots of new people and had a lot of fun. Then, a family with two kids showed up. Everything was going well and I tried to maintain distance from the kids. Didn’t want to take any chances. However, when my husband had him on the leash he allowed a 4 year old to pet him. The child was petting him very appropriately and it seemed to be doing well for a minute. I noticed my dog just staring at the kid for a little longer than I would have liked/ looked a little stiff. When I noticed that it happened. He lunged towards the kid and bit. My husband and I immediately pulled him away Again, the bite didn’t break skin but it did rip a hole in the child’s shirt. I worry both of these instances could have been worse had we not been there to pull them away.
I am so so so crushed that this happened. It’s been my worst nightmare for the past two years. I worry our home is not equipped for this. We have a lot of children in our life. Plan to have kids in the next two years. And not to mention my husband is being deployed for a year starting this July. How do I handle this? Can I rehome a dog with this history? We need help.
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2024.05.21 15:10 luvbasil529 help <3

help <3
hi friends, this is far from my first tattoo but it is my largest. first time using second skin. i took it off after 1.5 days bc it was pooling really heaving and getting super itchy where it was pooling. top of leg is angry and bottom of leg seems just fine. i just want to know if anyone else has experience this? what did you do to manage the symptoms? and what did you do to prevent infections?
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2024.05.21 15:02 oooooooooooui Char dham 2024 experience

We are 10 family members who booked this trip through a tour agency. My dadi(grandmother) is 76 years old with operation in both legs and a 3 year cancer patient. Our tour started at 11th May, 2024. We did the char dham in proper sequence (Yamnoutri -Gangotri- Kedarnath -Badrinath). We had a proper itinerary and online bookings done by the agency.
First we had a hotel booking in Barkot. The hotel was okay. they are extremely possessive about their towels with a rule- 1 towel per room??? I'm with my dadi and aunty in one room. They probably have a laundry problem or something but every single hotel has this nonsense rule. Anyways, next day 5am we left for Yamnoutri. Got stuck in a 5km long jam(Yamnoutri is 35km away) Me and my dad decided to walk it out. We covered 20km by 3pm however it started raining and couldn't continue ahead. We stayed in a tapri for 4 hours until the rain cleared. Our family was still stuck in traffic and hadn't reached even close to us. Now it's 8pm. We were supposed to be done with Yamnoutri and go back to our Barkot hotel. We had to cancel our Barkot bookings(and the hotel manager put all the bags of our 10 people in 1 room messing up everyones luggage). We booked another hotel at Sayanchatti were our family members reached at 11pm. Police management was utterly trash. I think even they were surprised with the amount of overcrowding. Next day we finally reached Yamnoutri. About the trek- the pathway/trail is full of shit. And I mean literally full of horse-poop. There are 700-1000 horses. Even after getting a horse, we had to wait 40mins for parchi and additional 1 hour(while on our horse) because of horse-jam. Yes there is a traffic jam of horses ON THE TREK. We wanted to walk but seeing the people who did walk, I was glad we didn't. The path is almost 3 meter wide with pithu, doly/palki, horses and people walking simultaneously. People who walked got continuously hit by horses and had to dirty their shoes in horse poop. We reached the temple finally, did Pooja, etc and managed to return Barkot where we had to re-book for another night. Our itinerary was already messed up at this point and money was wasted thrice (previous booking unattended in Barkot, the new booking in Sayanchatti and rebooking in Barkot). There is more like the incredibly risky horse route, etc but that's inevitable. I'm gonna continue with Gangotri.
We reached Maneri after struggling in jams for 7+ hours. We also did Uttarkashi before that. Ok so here the police had stopped us at checkpost and said cars are going in batches and if they let us go the jam ahead would only get worse. Now our hotel was 5 minutes(3km) by car from the checkpost. I went walking 3km and reached the hotel and there was absolutely no traffic like we told the police. We even showed them on Google maps. Traffic jams are understandable, but not letting us go after talking to the hotel owner, seeing proof that we won't contribute to traffic, that was a bit triggering. From police side it was just plain dumb. The commisioner there would keep talking his egoistical nonsense, not listening to anyone. Finally the rest of my family reached the hotel. Same issue with towels, rubbish beds, never ending insects and super unclean bathrooms with no pressure in water(flush, jets, bath, basin). Anyways, next day 12am we left for Gangotri with zero sleep because we are already behind our bookings and trying to avoid wasting more money. Got stuck in jam till 6am. [Also another note here, we had 2 private cars and one of the drivers was sleeping drunk and almost hit me and my mom. He hit a tempo traveller and we told him go back to sleep.] Finally reached Gangotri at 5:30pm, did our Pooja and then got in line for Darshan. My dadi and I got into the senior citizen line because she is 76 years old and can barely stand/walk in lines. Tilll now in the trip I don't completely blame the police for what was going on. But here in Gangotri, if anyone is going I am warning you, the police is rubbish. They are rude, tired with the crowd and very harsh and worst of all lazy. When u reach the main statue to go darshan, it's continuous pushing and almost a stampede, you cannot carry a baby or a old person there, they are garanteed to get hurt and the police won't care AT ALL. If you are lucky u might get to see the main statue of Ganga Mata for more than 4 seconds. After that we got back to our hotel in Maneri.
Next day we left for our hotel booking (adjusted by our agency) in Phata-Mankheda. Don't forget to go to Guptkashi before entering Phata. Here too same issues like 1 towel per room, charging points at the most unreachable locations in the room, etc. But this was still better than Maneri. Next morning 3am we left for Sonprayag. There is a line for your registration approval which goes on till Sitapur (2km from Sonprayag). People will continuously try to break and enter the line and there is almost a stampede and lot of heated crowd. After registration, you can go join 1km line for government taxi(50rs per head) from Sonprayag to Gaurikund. Anyways, after reaching Gaurikund there is a 1km inclined gali then the horses start.Remember this part. So here we again had to take a horse even tho we wanted to trek because at this point we were on 3-4hrs sleep everyday and our mental was very weak. We paid 6000rs per horse because it wasn't morning and the horse owner GARANTEED us all of my family members will be together, there will be one person per horse and that he already has the parchi. 5 of us had taken the horses and others went walking, palki and pithu. This path was again same as Yamnoutri or even worse. More horse-poop than ever, the sweepers there won't care and sweep the trash on you if u r in their way and continue doing so. People working there are literally illustrate and 'gouthi'. The horse owner didn't fulfil his promise either. There was 1 man handling 3 horses. The horses were going anywhere, hitting our legs on railings, other yatris,other horses etc. They told us to get down and walk 50m every time they saw police which is when we understood they didn't make a parchi. When we reached the top they demanded for the full money which they very very very obviously did not deserve for all their lies. When we said take 28k because anyways 2 of their men didn't come. They said give 30k else don't give anything at all. This childish, greedy attitude of theirs was again very triggering. We are not beggars and they are not doing us any favours so we still paid them the full amount. We are on a spiritual journey but since everything is about money from tourism, our spirit kept getting crushed. We had to spend the night at Kedarnath and our agency had booked us a dormitory. I warn anyone booking a dormitory, just don't. 30 unclean, continuously used beds, in one non- ventilation suffocating room with 1 Indian style toilet whose latch doesn't work shared with strangers. And the worst part is it is 1000rs per bed. I wouldn't pay 20rs for this rubbish service. At this point my spirit completely broke and I fell sick. I hadn't eaten anything and didn't want to. Next day my dad and I went down through horse at government rate (2300/). Others came in pithu and trek. Now came the worst part. The overcrord at the narrow 500m gali which i told u to remember above. Oh my God. After 22km Trek you are treated with this 0 management wild crowd. I had to take care of my dadi and fam from getting hurt. After reaching Gaurikund, again another 1.5km line with no special preference for senior citizens. Here people bribed the police 500rs to break and enter the line(happened right in front of me and my phone had no battery) When you reach the taxi finally, everyone tries to enter together and the police are just standing mutes. They are done with this💀. Finally got into the taxi, reached Sonprayag. Had to walk till Sitapur. Got a private taxi from there who demanded unreasonable price.We got mad and told him 4000rs till phata-mankheda(20km) which he then agreed to. Our hotel had changed to the worst possible hell of a hotel ever. I don't even want to talk about it. It has scarred me how people go about their business with 0 standards. At this point we just wanted to go home but Badrinath is left 😭
Ngl Badrinath tour was decent. Our hotel was in Piplakoti. Decent hotel called River view hotel. Roads are good. Only 4 hour line in Badrinath with heated crowd and 5 second darshan. At this point we are used to this so it's ok💀. Police was actually working and managing. Only issue we faced was directions from main road to the mandir and back. At night it gets very confusing.
Now I'd like to add, i haven't taken any names of hotels(except river view) or my tour agency because I don't mean any disrespect.
Uttrakhand is a beautiful beaitiful and amazing place with sceneries and memories I will carry with me forever. The sceneries while going to every dham are different and unique in their own way. Even just traveling from one dham to another by road is an amazing experience(excluding the jams).
I have some opinions- 1. Management is almost non-existent. Meet any Yatri and they will tell you the same. 2. Police are corrupt and lazy. Some try actively but that's like 10% of them. 3. The problem with hotels is that they are all on lease. I'll explain. The owner gives a person say Rahul their hotel on lease and asks for a certain amount per year. Rahul gets paid after that certain amount exceeds. Hotel bookings for char dham 6 months are always full. Rahul will always get this money and hence sees no need to maintain this hotel. So that's that. 4. Uttrakhand runs only and only on tourism and it is obvious. So as an individual tourist, you DO NOT matter. They don't care, they get people continuously. If your booking is cancelled there is always someone else to take it. You cannot talk sense to anyone running any type of service there. 5. Yamnoutri, Gangotri and Kedarnath roads for reaching there are narrow. Government should ban big buses permanently and is the best move they can make. These buses are 80% of the reasons for jams. They are improving roads but it's been 75+ years since independence so idk what they are doing. 6. Government should NOT take registrations when they cannot afford them. 27 Lakh registrations is not a joke. 2.8Lakh people in 4 days is not a joke. No one can manage this amount of people. Have a limit. People are spending lakhs of rupees coming from all over India for this and 90% of it is a bad experience. 7. Don't open all char dham together. This year's main issue was all 4 temples opened at the same date, 10th May. People were already ready and started rushing from 7-8th May.
Advice for Future Yatris- 1. Don't come in May. I had a compulsion so we had to. But everyone here says that the best months for char dham is September-October before Diwali. 2. If you do come in May, don't do online bookings. You need to be flexible with where you are gonna stay. 3. Carry a towel per person. Hotels are extremely possessive about their towels. 4. Leave early for every dham if you are committed to do all 4 of them. I've seen lot of people give up in jams. 5. Get warm clothes especially lot of socks and bring medicines, etc. Rain coats are ok but u need a poncho. Rain coats don't cover your bagpacks while trekking and even if they do, they will stretch and might tear. 6. Private cars/taxi yatri, spend a bit more and get a comfortable car. You will spend most of the time in your vehicle. Tempo travellers are extremely uncomfortable and avoid them. 7. Take cold water baths at colder places as warm water baths bring the blood vessels to skin level making it more sensitive later. You have to be mentally prepared before taking a cold water bath. 8. Weather changes like anything. Suncap and goggles are a must in day time. 9. If u get sick/stomach upset have black tea and biscuits. 10. Do private Pooja at Badrinath.
Good things- 1. The food is amazing. It's almost as good as homemade food. You can always tell the cook how you like your food. Do try the Vegetable Maggi at highecolder mountains. It's available everywhere. 2. Sceneries are amazing and don't forget to carry a proper camera. Phone tech these days is good too and will make photo-frame photos. 3. You will always find people to talk to. If you happen to find polite people, say the hotel cook or a homeguard or other yatris or anyone at all, you will have a good conversation. 4. The pandits are good and will only ask you to pay them if u want to for the Pooja. Always pay them. 5. No phone range. It's good so you live in the moment and can enjoy the amazing sceneries :)
I'm trying to be completely honest without involving any type of hate here and trying to paint a complete picture of what my journey was like. We had to go over budget(almost double) because we didn't know any of this even after research. Our tour agency didn't warn us about anything either. Only thing that matters is that you enter the holy grounds. You can expect amazing sceneries but not an amazing darshan in May. It's been a bittersweet journey and I am writing this while omw to home. I hope y'all find this helpful and plan accordingly only if you are going in May or peak season. Otherwise you might not face much issues in September. Thank you for reading.
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2024.05.21 15:01 wisdomperception The Six Elements Inquiring into the presupposition of 'I Am' (MN 140)

The Six Elements Inquiring into the presupposition of 'I Am' (MN 140)
Once, the Buddha had a chance encounter with a young bhikkhu Pukkusāti who had gone forth with faith in the Buddha but had never met him. Mistaking the Buddha for an ordinary bhikkhu, Pukkusāti welcomed him. This led to an intriguing exchange with the Buddha sharing a teaching focusing on the nature of the six elements, the six bases of contact, and the eighteen explorations of the mind.
Meditator in a tranquil landscape in an impressionist style
Thus have I heard — Once, the Blessed One was wandering in the land of the Magadhans and arrived at Rājagaha; he went to where Bhaggava the potter was. Having approached, the Blessed One said to Bhaggava the potter, "If it's not inconvenient for you, Bhaggava, may we stay in your workshop for one night?"
"It's not inconvenient for me, venerable sir. There is an ascetic who arrived first. If he permits it, then stay, venerable sir, as you like," Bhaggava replied.
At that time, a young man named Pukkusāti, out of faith in the Blessed One, had gone forth from home into homelessness. He was the one who had arrived first at the potter's workshop. Then, the Blessed One approached where Venerable Pukkusāti was; having approached, he said to Venerable Pukkusāti, "If it's not inconvenient for you, bhikkhu, may we stay in your workshop for one night?"
"The workshop is spacious, friend. Please stay, Venerable, as you like," replied Venerable Pukkusāti.
Then, the Blessed One entered the potter's workshop and, after preparing a seat of grass at one side, sat down, folding his legs crosswise, setting his body erect, and establishing mindfulness in front of him. The Blessed One spent much of the night seated in meditation. Venerable Pukkusāti too spent much of the night seated in meditation.
Then, it occurred to the Blessed One, "This young man conducts himself well. Perhaps I should question him."
So, the Blessed One asked Venerable Pukkusāti, "For whom, bhikkhu, have you gone forth? Who is your teacher? Whose Dhamma do you profess?"
"Friend, there is the ascetic Gotama, the son of the Sakyans, who went forth from the Sakyan clan. And about the Blessed One Gotama, such a splendid reputation has spread: 'Indeed, he is the Blessed One, an Arahant, a Fully Enlightened One, accomplished in knowledge and conduct, well-gone, a knower of the worlds, an unsurpassed trainer of persons to be tamed, a teacher of gods and humans, the Enlightened One, the Blessed One.' I have gone forth inspired by the Blessed One Gotama. He is my teacher, and it is his Dhamma that I profess."
"And where is that Blessed One, the Arahant, the Fully Enlightened One now residing?" the Blessed One asked.
"Friend, in the northern country there is a city named Sāvatthi. There the Blessed One, the Arahant, the Fully Enlightened One, is now residing," replied Venerable Pukkusāti.
"Have you ever seen that Blessed One before, bhikkhu? Would you recognize him if you saw him?" the Blessed One inquired.
"No, friend, I have not seen that Blessed One before; and I would not recognize him if I saw him," Venerable Pukkusāti replied.
Then, it occurred to the Blessed One, "This young man has gone forth out of faith in me. Perhaps I should teach him the Dhamma."
Then, the Blessed One addressed Venerable Pukkusāti, "I will teach you the Dhamma, bhikkhu. Listen and pay close attention; I will speak."
"As you say, friend," Venerable Pukkusāti responded to the Blessed One. The Blessed One said:
"This person, bhikkhu, is made of six elements, six bases of contact, eighteen explorations of mind, and is established in four ways; where standing, the notions of 'I am' do not proceed, and in whom, when these notions do not proceed, is called a sage at peace. One should not be negligent in wisdom, should guard the truth, should cultivate relinquishment, and should train for peace itself — this is the essence of the Analysis of the Elements.
'This person, bhikkhu, is made of six elements' — thus it has been said. Why has it been said? There are these six elements, bhikkhu: the earth element, the water element, the fire element, the air element, the space element, and the consciousness element. 'This person, bhikkhu, is made of six elements' — it has been said with reference to this.
'This person, bhikkhu, has six bases of contact' — thus it has been said. Why has it been said? The eye-contact base, the ear-contact base, the nose-contact base, the tongue-contact base, the body-contact base, the mind-contact base. 'This person, bhikkhu, has six bases of contact' — it has been said with reference to this.
'This person, bhikkhu, engages in eighteen explorations of mind' — thus it has been said. Why has it been said? On seeing a form with the eye, one explores a form that gives rise to pleasure, a form that gives rise to displeasure, and a form that gives rise to equanimity; on hearing a sound with the ear ... on smelling an odor with the nose ... on tasting a flavor with the tongue ...
on touching a tactile object with the body ... on cognizing a mental object (arisen from a mental quality) with the mind, one explores a mental object that gives rise to pleasure, a mental object that gives rise to displeasure, and a mental object that gives rise to equanimity. 'This person, bhikkhu, engages in eighteen explorations of mind' — it has been said with reference to this.
'This person, bhikkhu, is established in four ways' — thus it has been said. Why has it been said? The establishment of wisdom, the establishment of truth, the establishment of relinquishment, the establishment of peace. 'This person, bhikkhu, is established in four ways' — it has been said with reference to this.
'One should not be negligent in wisdom, should guard the truth, should cultivate relinquishment, and should train for peace itself'
— thus it has been said. Why has it been said?

The Six Elements

And how, bhikkhu, does one not neglect wisdom? There are these six elements, bhikkhu: the earth element, the water element, the fire element, the air element, the space element, and the consciousness element.
And what, bhikkhu, is the earth element? The earth element may be internal or external. And what, bhikkhu, is the internal earth element? Whatever internally, belonging to oneself, is solid, solidified, and clung to, that is, hair of the head, hair of the body, nails, teeth, skin, flesh, sinews, bones, bone marrow, kidneys, heart, liver, diaphragm, spleen, lungs, intestines, mesentery, contents of the stomach, feces, or whatever else internally, belonging to oneself, is solid, solidified, and clung to — this is called the internal earth element. Both the internal earth element and the external earth element are simply earth elements. 'This is not mine, this I am not, this is not my self' — thus should it be seen with proper wisdom as it really is. Having seen it thus with proper wisdom, one becomes disenchanted with the earth element and makes the mind dispassionate towards the earth element.
And what, bhikkhu, is the water element? The water element may be internal or external. And what, bhikkhu, is the internal water element? Whatever internally, belonging to oneself, is liquid, liquefied, and clung to, that is, bile, phlegm, pus, blood, sweat, fat, tears, grease, spit, snot, oil of the joints, urine, or whatever else internally, belonging to oneself, is liquid, liquefied, and clung to — this is called the internal water element. Both the internal water element and the external water element are simply water elements. 'This is not mine, this I am not, this is not my self' — thus should it be seen with proper wisdom as it really is. Having seen it thus with proper wisdom, one becomes disenchanted with the water element and makes the mind dispassionate towards the water element.
And what, bhikkhu, is the fire element? The fire element may be internal or external. And what, bhikkhu, is the internal fire element? Whatever internally, belonging to oneself, is fire, fiery, and clung to, that is, by which one is warmed, ages, and is consumed, and by which what is eaten, drunk, chewed, and tasted gets fully digested, or whatever else internally, belonging to oneself, is fire, fiery, and clung to — this is called the internal fire element. Both the internal fire element and the external fire element are simply fire elements. 'This is not mine, this I am not, this is not my self' — thus should it be seen with proper wisdom as it really is. Having seen it thus with proper wisdom, one becomes disenchanted with the fire element and makes the mind dispassionate towards the fire element.
And what, bhikkhu, is the air element? The air element may be internal or external. And what, bhikkhu, is the internal air element? Whatever internally, belonging to oneself, is air, airy, and clung to, that is, up-going winds, down-going winds, winds in the belly, winds in the bowels, winds that course through the limbs, in-breathing and out-breathing, or whatever else internally, belonging to oneself, is air, airy, and clung to — this is called the internal air element. Both the internal air element and the external air element are simply air elements. 'This is not mine, this I am not, this is not my self' — thus should it be seen with proper wisdom as it really is. Having seen it thus with proper wisdom, one becomes disenchanted with the air element and makes the mind dispassionate towards the air element.
And what, bhikkhu, is the space element? The space element may be internal or external. And what, bhikkhu, is the internal space element? Whatever internally, belonging to oneself, is space, spatial, and clung to, that is, the holes of the ears, the nostrils, the door of the mouth, and where whatever is eaten, drunk, chewed, and tasted is swallowed, where it stands, where it is stored, and where it is excreted from below, or whatever else internally, belonging to oneself, is space, spatial, and clung to — this is called the internal space element. Both the internal space element and the external space element are simply space elements. 'This is not mine, this I am not, this is not my self' — thus should it be seen with proper wisdom as it really is. Having seen it thus with proper wisdom, one becomes disenchanted with the space element and makes the mind dispassionate towards the space element.
Then, only consciousness remains, pure and bright. And with that consciousness, what does one cognize? One cognizes 'pleasant', one cognizes 'painful', and one cognizes 'neither-painful-nor-pleasant'.

The Eighteen Explorations of Mind

  • Pleasant feeling, bhikkhu, arises dependent on contact. Experiencing that pleasant feeling, one understands 'I experience a pleasant feeling'. 'With the cessation of that very contact that is pleasant to experience, the pleasant feeling that arose dependent on that pleasant contact ceases and subsides' — this one understands.
  • Painful feeling, bhikkhu, arises dependent on contact. Experiencing that painful feeling, one understands 'I experience a painful feeling'. 'With the cessation of that very contact that is painful to experience, the painful feeling that arose dependent on that painful contact ceases and subsides' — this one understands.
  • A neither-painful-nor-pleasant feeling, bhikkhu, arises dependent on contact. Experiencing that neither-painful-nor-pleasant feeling, one understands 'I experience a neither-painful-nor-pleasant feeling'. 'With the cessation of that very contact that is neither painful nor pleasant to experience, the neither-painful-nor-pleasant feeling that arose dependent on that contact ceases and subsides' — this one understands.
Just as, bhikkhu, with the friction of two pieces of wood, heat is generated and fire arises, and with the separation and scattering of those two pieces of wood, the heat generated by their contact ceases and subsides;
  • Similarly, bhikkhu, pleasant feeling arises dependent on contact. Experiencing that pleasant feeling, one understands 'I experience a pleasant feeling'. 'With the cessation of that very contact that is pleasant to experience, the pleasant feeling that arose dependent on that contact ceases and subsides' — this one understands.
  • Painful feeling, bhikkhu, arises dependent on contact. Experiencing that painful feeling, one understands 'I experience a painful feeling'. 'With the cessation of that very contact that is painful to experience, the painful feeling that arose dependent on that contact ceases and subsides' — this one understands.
  • A neither-painful-nor-pleasant feeling, bhikkhu, arises dependent on contact. Experiencing that neither-painful-nor-pleasant feeling, one understands 'I experience a neither-painful-nor-pleasant feeling'. 'With the cessation of that very contact that is neither painful nor pleasant to experience, the neither-painful-nor-pleasant feeling that arose dependent on that contact ceases and subsides' — this one understands.
Then, only equanimity remains, pure, bright, gentle, workable, and radiant. Just as, bhikkhu, a skilled goldsmith or goldsmith's apprentice might prepare a furnace, light the fire, and place gold in the crucible. By blowing on it from time to time, sprinkling water over it from time to time, and observing it from time to time, the gold becomes refined, well refined, thoroughly refined, faultless, pliable, workable, and radiant. It could be made into whatever form he wishes — whether a bracelet, earrings, a necklace, or a golden chain—and it would serve its purpose. Similarly, bhikkhu, then only equanimity remains, pure, bright, gentle, workable, and radiant.
One thus understands: 'If I were to direct this equanimity so pure and so bright towards the sphere of infinite space (dissolution of distinctions of form element) and develop my mind accordingly, this equanimity, relying on that, clinging (grasping) to that, would last for a long time. If I were to direct this equanimity so pure and so bright towards the sphere of infinite consciousness (boundless awareness)... towards the sphere of nothingness (emptiness and absence)... towards the sphere of neither perception nor non-perception and develop my mind accordingly, this equanimity, relying on that, clinging to that, would last for a long time.'
One thus understands: 'If I were to direct this equanimity, so pure and bright, towards the sphere of infinite space (dissolution of distinctions of form element) and develop my mind accordingly, this is conditioned. If I were to direct this equanimity, so pure and bright, towards the sphere of infinite consciousness... towards the sphere of nothingness... towards the sphere of neither perception nor non-perception and develop my mind accordingly, this is conditioned.'
Thus, one does not form any volitional formations for either existence or non-existence. Not forming any volitions for either, one does not cling to anything in the world. Not clinging, one does not worry. Without worry, one personally attains Nibbāna.
'Re-birth is exhausted, the holy life has been lived, what had to be done has been done, there is no more coming to any state of being,' one understands.
Whether experiencing a pleasant feeling, one understands 'it is impermanent', 'I am not involved with it', 'I do not delight in it'. Whether experiencing a painful feeling or a neither-painful-nor-pleasant feeling, one understands the same.
Experiencing a pleasant feeling, one experiences it unattached; experiencing a painful feeling, one experiences it unattached; experiencing a neither-painful-nor-pleasant feeling, one experiences it unattached. Experiencing a feeling limited to the body, one understands 'I experience a feeling limited to the body'; experiencing a feeling limited to life, one understands 'I experience a feeling limited to life', 'With the break-up of the body, following death, all that is felt, not being delighted in, will become cool right here.'
Just as, bhikkhu, an oil lamp burns dependent on oil and a wick, and with the exhaustion of the oil and wick, it is extinguished due to lack of fuel; similarly, experiencing a feeling limited to the body, one understands 'I experience a feeling limited to the body'; experiencing a feeling limited to life, one understands 'I experience a feeling limited to life', 'With the break-up of the body, following death, all that is felt, not being delighted in, will become cool right here.'

Established in Four Ways

  1. Therefore, a bhikkhu equipped in this way possesses the highest foundation of wisdom. For, bhikkhu, this is the highest noble wisdom, that is, the knowledge of the cessation of all suffering.
  2. His release, being founded on truth, is unshakeable. For that is false, bhikkhu, which is delusory, and that is true which is Nibbāna, the un-delusory. Therefore, a bhikkhu equipped in this way possesses the highest foundation of truth. For, bhikkhu, this is the ultimate noble truth, that is, Nibbāna, which is un-delusory.
  3. For him, previously not having wisdom, attachments (possessions, identification) were fully taken up and embraced. But for him, they are abandoned, cut off at the root, made like a palm stump, obliterated so that they are no more subject to future arising. Therefore, a bhikkhu equipped in this way possesses the highest foundation of relinquishment. For, bhikkhu, this is the supreme noble relinquishment, that is, the relinquishment of all attachments.
    1. For him, previously not having wisdom, there was craving, desire, passion. But for him, it is abandoned, cut off at the root, made like a palm stump, obliterated so that craving is no more subject to future arising.
    2. For him, previously not having wisdom, there was irritation, ill-will, fault-finding. But for him, it is abandoned, cut off at the root, made like a palm stump, obliterated so that irritation is no more subject to future arising.
  4. For him, previously not having wisdom, there was ignorance (misapprehension of true reality) and delusion (assumption making tendencies, absence of close examination and verification). But for him, it is abandoned, cut off at the root, made like a palm stump, obliterated so that it is no more subject to future arising. Therefore, a bhikkhu equipped in this way possesses the highest foundation of peace. For, bhikkhu, this is the supreme noble peace, that is, the pacification of lust, aversion, and confusion.
"One should not neglect wisdom, should protect the truth, should cultivate relinquishment, and should train for peace itself"
— thus has it been said. This has been said on account of this.

Notions of 'I am'

"Where standing, the notions of 'I am' do not proceed, and in whom, when these notions do not proceed, he is called a sage at peace" — thus indeed has it been said. What was this said on account of?
"It is 'I am,' bhikkhu, that is a presumption.
  • 'This I am' is a presumption.
  • 'I will be' is a presumption.
  • 'I will not be' is a presumption.
  • 'I will have form' is a presumption.
  • 'I will be formless' is a presumption.
  • 'I will be conscious' is a presumption.
  • 'I will be unconscious' is a presumption.
  • 'I will be neither conscious nor unconscious' is a presumption.
Presumption, bhikkhu, is a disease, presumption is a boil, presumption is a dart. Overcoming all presumptions, bhikkhu, one is called a sage at peace. Indeed, a sage at peace, bhikkhu, does not get born, does not age, does not die, does not get agitated, does not yearn. For him, bhikkhu, there is nothing by which he might be born; not being born, how could he age? Not aging, how could he die? Not dying, how could he get agitated? Not getting agitated, for what could he yearn?
"Where standing, the notions of 'I am' do not proceed, and in whom, when these notions do not proceed, he is called a sage at peace"
— thus has it been said. This has been said on account of this.
"You should remember this brief exposition of the six elements from me, bhikkhu."
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In this teaching, the Buddha gets mistaken for an ordinary bhikkhu by a young bhikkhu who had gone forth with faith in the Buddha. It is indicative that the Buddha conducted himself with an outward appearance indistinguishable from that of other bhikkhus that trained under him.
Seeing the young bhikkhu conducting himself well, the Buddha shares with him this teaching of the six elements of earth, water, fire, wind, space and consciousness - which when practiced allows for establishing oneself in mindfulness, freed from craving and grief for the world.
The Buddha further shares on the eighteen explorations of the mind through the three kinds of feelings: pleasant, painful and neither-painful-nor-pleasant born from the six sense contacts (form meeting the eye, along with arising of eye-consciousness, ... , mental object meeting the mind, along with arising of the mind-consciousness). He shares these as a way to understand the consciousness element and how it cognizes.
The Buddha then describes the gradual steps from there that lead to the realization of Nibbāna, leading to being established in the four ways of wisdom, truth, relinquishment, and peace.
The Buddha finally shares on the letting go of the 'I am' presumption and any subsequent presumptions that emerge from this, which form the core of what leads one to experience discontentment through worry, agitation, and dissatisfaction.
Closely examining the presumption of 'I am' inherent in René Descartes's "Cogito, ergo sum" ("I think, therefore I am"), which has underpinned modern philosophy, scientific and rational investigations, individualism, literature and pop culture, psychology, and technology (including debates on machine consciousness), reveals how deeply the world we find ourselves in today is influenced by this concept.
Realizing the truth of "I am" then individually opens up new possibilities and frontiers to be explored across all of these domains.
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