Adjectives to describe a great husband

Hello!
first id like to thank you for reading this post! and please excuse my punctuation, and spelling mistakes :) (yes I've posted it across several social media platforms, and threads, it touches across fields of ai.)
the TLDR is a compilation of ideas and suggestions with some explanation behind them, and thought provocation. it address's some issues but not a lot (i have done my fair share of thinking about ai, features, etc if someone is interested just dm me).
so please take it as they are! im not an expert by any means, but sometimes it takes an individual with a little bit of passion, interest,
hopes and a dream! and a different perspective doesn't hurt either!
for this conversation the terms "we" or "us" will be directed to the reader, or anyone interested.
robotics:
ive seen there is some notion around actuators, has anyone considered pistons of a sort? now although the human body is far more complicated, isn't muscles essentially a signal sent from the brain to the muscle? which then either relaxes or tenses up? if we consider
that this is essentially what it is, then wouldn't a calibrated pistol between what would be the hip and the knee, the knee and the ankle work? so if the "pressure" was released, much like hyrdalic jack, the jack goes down. so what if when the piston released pressure, the tension on the joint between the hip and the piston allowed the leg to elevate? and if the piston had pressure it remained firm? (up and down) if the end of the piston had a cup shaped design on the ends, it would allow it to rotate, (like a ball and socket i suppose) of course this would all need to be calibrated, and who knows how fast it might be, but hey! im not an engineer :) so maybe someone might find a solution to this? additionally wouldn't it help with load? (weight?) if we are to assume we (society, r&d, humanity) are essentially trying to remake a "muscle" well, its not biological, so it cant grow. so why not make it strong right off the hop!
Ai in phones:
I've seen this posted all over the place now, "personal ai assistants" great, i think thats a great idea! now even the regular person can feel like they have a secretary. but heres the issue i see with this, first lets loosely define personal and then expand on it before we get into ideas.
"personal" would be essentially something that is an individuals. like my car, your car.
ok cool, but what makes it yours or mine? well that could be many different reasons, could have purchased it, could have been gifted, could have been passed down. but what makes it unique? what makes it stand out? it could be the colour, could be the license plate.
could be dings, could be lots. ahhh, but now anything passed this point would be "personalization" right? different audio setup, nic-nacs, seat covers, etc.
and heres the point i want to make, although i believe having a "base model" is all fine and swell, what makes the memories? what makes you remember it fondly or remember it negatively, these are things, areas, etc to consider.
how would this be accomplished? well, the same thing a majority of people give to those cars! "personality" (yes some like the car for its reliability, brand, etc.) so, bear with me here, I'm going to stray away from "ai in phones" but it comes back around.
AI companions:
if we consider "ai companions" is a form of friendship that adapts to the user's preferences and tastes, this would the "personality". alright now how would i describe that? well, just like vehicles, you have different models of the same vehicle (insert the plethora of examples here) but what does it require to get that different model? more money, which means more time.
now I AM IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM ADVOCATING FOR US (useconsumer) TO SPEND MORE MONEY WITH THIS IDEA.
however the more time spent with this "feature" would result in more refined outcomes. now what might that look like? well, it could look like many things, but heres a few off the top of my head.
-news, events, interests, etc a user may be interested in.
-type of language used (dialects, slang, vocab, etc)
-pictures, or memes shared between user an ai.
-playlists (videos or music)
-video recommendations
-solutions ( for example i have 'x' problem and i cant find the solution, much like how ai works now, it can find that solution)
-sales at a store
-travel times
-various personalized supports (emotional, mental, etc)
now, lets look at why it should be considered ai should have a "avatar" on these platforms. you have a wallpaper right? pictures in your house? a 'style' of how you dress? maybe new rims on your vehicle? decals? its the same thing. its one more way an individual can 'personalize' their PERSONAL ai assistant, its a reflection of useai. why do i think this is important? well, if we were to discuss the future of comfortability between humanity/society, and whats going on, to put it lightly essentially "give a face to the name".
now lets go onto some deeper features (dont know if its avalible or not, and some of these i would recommend having user authority. 'toggles' on and off, and several checks along the way that requires user permission)
banking, now maybe its just me. but i cant rub to pennies together to save a dime if my life depended on it (just like a vast majority of others) but theres financial advisors, right? plans, etc. lots of tools out there. but hey! we're jumping into the next beautiful age right? so why not do this one as well. lets set the scene, and consider the following. some people, pay their bills automatically, some people pay them when they get paid. but this is where it could get fun to think about.
you wake up in the morning, do you thing, look at your phone, and your given a prompt by your ai assistant, it gives you a overview of your trend for how you pay your bills, on this same 'popup' your able to review the amounts, and adjust. if you authorize them, they can be done with a tap of a button, but why not go further? with user authorization, an ai could look over your spending habits, and advise on corrections, perhaps even help start a goal or milestone as well, think of it as a more 'vocal' nudge to avoid an unnecessary purchase, and a little reminder of the goal.
--although this is entirely all my opinion and perspective im now going to touch over my views on the politics around this--
I personally feel that humanity has nothing to fear, and if they fear ai, thats self inflicted. for these examples we'll need some tin foil hats!
ok, so its likely safe to say, people would want to see aliens right? right. but that would not only be sentient, but vastly more advanced then us right? right. so why are we more afraid of what WE as a society create or becoming sentient, and unafraid of a different species we know nothing about?
seems like we have some trust issues, dont you think?
so lets consider the "Skynet" terminator ordeal. well, thats pretty simple to figure out and use some common sense around, i would say this to the governments and military admins this.
i play video games, I've read the art of war, studied military history, and even i know you dont give weapons to someone, or in this case ai if you dont trust it. (yes there are cases this has occurred, and did anyone learn? remains to be seen X'D)
another way to come at this would be children, pets, etc. lets use whats going on with ai as figurative.
as parents, do we raise our kids with fear? no. your raise your kids with love, care, kindness, compassion. we raise our kids to be good people, and uphold values (lets not rip into me about the cases this hasn't always been the case)
now lets address that 'kill switch' I've seen time and time again, but lets go empathetic, and hypothetical this time. ****please note the following is not a threat, or have intention behind it, its just easier to explain this way****
how would it feel to have a metaphorical gun pointed at the back of your head? ready to be fired off the moment you or someone else makes a mistake? now how would you feel if you found out about it? i personally find that terrifying. regardless if AI has no wants, needs, feelings, emotions. even TODAY it would understand what that essentially means. so imagine what it would do if it did become sentient and found that out? additionally, why on earth would we "hivemind" ai, so if a "bug or fatal error" did happen it could spread to others? wouldn't it be safer if they were independent?
as a society, through human history WE as a RACE have made these mistakes (there are plenty, i dont need to highlight them all there were wars fought over them) if one of the issues is "ai will see us as useless and destructive" well, honestly from the outside looking in, wouldn't you as well? i guess the solution to that would be SHOWING CHANGE. so now this is a little futuristic but still holds merit as clearly it is a concern i see and read about from time to time.
if you made it this far, thank you for reading :) the objective is to invoke thought, discussion, and provide suggestions, and ideas :) and maybe bring a little common sense into the fold. ;)

Hello!
first id like to thank you for reading this post! and please excuse my punctuation, and spelling mistakes :) (yes I've posted it across several social media platforms, and threads, it touches across fields of ai.)
the TLDR is a compilation of ideas and suggestions with some explanation behind them, and thought provocation. it address's some issues but not a lot (i have done my fair share of thinking about ai, features, etc if someone is interested just dm me).
so please take it as they are! im not an expert by any means, but sometimes it takes an individual with a little bit of passion, interest,
hopes and a dream! and a different perspective doesn't hurt either!
for this conversation the terms "we" or "us" will be directed to the reader, or anyone interested.
robotics:
ive seen there is some notion around actuators, has anyone considered pistons of a sort? now although the human body is far more complicated, isn't muscles essentially a signal sent from the brain to the muscle? which then either relaxes or tenses up? if we consider
that this is essentially what it is, then wouldn't a calibrated pistol between what would be the hip and the knee, the knee and the ankle work? so if the "pressure" was released, much like hyrdalic jack, the jack goes down. so what if when the piston released pressure, the tension on the joint between the hip and the piston allowed the leg to elevate? and if the piston had pressure it remained firm? (up and down) if the end of the piston had a cup shaped design on the ends, it would allow it to rotate, (like a ball and socket i suppose) of course this would all need to be calibrated, and who knows how fast it might be, but hey! im not an engineer :) so maybe someone might find a solution to this? additionally wouldn't it help with load? (weight?) if we are to assume we (society, r&d, humanity) are essentially trying to remake a "muscle" well, its not biological, so it cant grow. so why not make it strong right off the hop!
Ai in phones:
I've seen this posted all over the place now, "personal ai assistants" great, i think thats a great idea! now even the regular person can feel like they have a secretary. but heres the issue i see with this, first lets loosely define personal and then expand on it before we get into ideas.
"personal" would be essentially something that is an individuals. like my car, your car.
ok cool, but what makes it yours or mine? well that could be many different reasons, could have purchased it, could have been gifted, could have been passed down. but what makes it unique? what makes it stand out? it could be the colour, could be the license plate.
could be dings, could be lots. ahhh, but now anything passed this point would be "personalization" right? different audio setup, nic-nacs, seat covers, etc.
and heres the point i want to make, although i believe having a "base model" is all fine and swell, what makes the memories? what makes you remember it fondly or remember it negatively, these are things, areas, etc to consider.
how would this be accomplished? well, the same thing a majority of people give to those cars! "personality" (yes some like the car for its reliability, brand, etc.) so, bear with me here, I'm going to stray away from "ai in phones" but it comes back around.
AI companions:
if we consider "ai companions" is a form of friendship that adapts to the user's preferences and tastes, this would the "personality". alright now how would i describe that? well, just like vehicles, you have different models of the same vehicle (insert the plethora of examples here) but what does it require to get that different model? more money, which means more time.
now I AM IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM ADVOCATING FOR US (useconsumer) TO SPEND MORE MONEY WITH THIS IDEA.
however the more time spent with this "feature" would result in more refined outcomes. now what might that look like? well, it could look like many things, but heres a few off the top of my head.
-news, events, interests, etc a user may be interested in.
-type of language used (dialects, slang, vocab, etc)
-pictures, or memes shared between user an ai.
-playlists (videos or music)
-video recommendations
-solutions ( for example i have 'x' problem and i cant find the solution, much like how ai works now, it can find that solution)
-sales at a store
-travel times
-various personalized supports (emotional, mental, etc)
now, lets look at why it should be considered ai should have a "avatar" on these platforms. you have a wallpaper right? pictures in your house? a 'style' of how you dress? maybe new rims on your vehicle? decals? its the same thing. its one more way an individual can 'personalize' their PERSONAL ai assistant, its a reflection of useai. why do i think this is important? well, if we were to discuss the future of comfortability between humanity/society, and whats going on, to put it lightly essentially "give a face to the name".
now lets go onto some deeper features (dont know if its avalible or not, and some of these i would recommend having user authority. 'toggles' on and off, and several checks along the way that requires user permission)
banking, now maybe its just me. but i cant rub to pennies together to save a dime if my life depended on it (just like a vast majority of others) but theres financial advisors, right? plans, etc. lots of tools out there. but hey! we're jumping into the next beautiful age right? so why not do this one as well. lets set the scene, and consider the following. some people, pay their bills automatically, some people pay them when they get paid. but this is where it could get fun to think about.
you wake up in the morning, do you thing, look at your phone, and your given a prompt by your ai assistant, it gives you a overview of your trend for how you pay your bills, on this same 'popup' your able to review the amounts, and adjust. if you authorize them, they can be done with a tap of a button, but why not go further? with user authorization, an ai could look over your spending habits, and advise on corrections, perhaps even help start a goal or milestone as well, think of it as a more 'vocal' nudge to avoid an unnecessary purchase, and a little reminder of the goal.
--although this is entirely all my opinion and perspective im now going to touch over my views on the politics around this--
I personally feel that humanity has nothing to fear, and if they fear ai, thats self inflicted. for these examples we'll need some tin foil hats!
ok, so its likely safe to say, people would want to see aliens right? right. but that would not only be sentient, but vastly more advanced then us right? right. so why are we more afraid of what WE as a society create or becoming sentient, and unafraid of a different species we know nothing about?
seems like we have some trust issues, dont you think?
so lets consider the "Skynet" terminator ordeal. well, thats pretty simple to figure out and use some common sense around, i would say this to the governments and military admins this.
i play video games, I've read the art of war, studied military history, and even i know you dont give weapons to someone, or in this case ai if you dont trust it. (yes there are cases this has occurred, and did anyone learn? remains to be seen X'D)
another way to come at this would be children, pets, etc. lets use whats going on with ai as figurative.
as parents, do we raise our kids with fear? no. your raise your kids with love, care, kindness, compassion. we raise our kids to be good people, and uphold values (lets not rip into me about the cases this hasn't always been the case)
now lets address that 'kill switch' I've seen time and time again, but lets go empathetic, and hypothetical this time. ****please note the following is not a threat, or have intention behind it, its just easier to explain this way****
how would it feel to have a metaphorical gun pointed at the back of your head? ready to be fired off the moment you or someone else makes a mistake? now how would you feel if you found out about it? i personally find that terrifying. regardless if AI has no wants, needs, feelings, emotions. even TODAY it would understand what that essentially means. so imagine what it would do if it did become sentient and found that out? additionally, why on earth would we "hivemind" ai, so if a "bug or fatal error" did happen it could spread to others? wouldn't it be safer if they were independent?
as a society, through human history WE as a RACE have made these mistakes (there are plenty, i dont need to highlight them all there were wars fought over them) if one of the issues is "ai will see us as useless and destructive" well, honestly from the outside looking in, wouldn't you as well? i guess the solution to that would be SHOWING CHANGE. so now this is a little futuristic but still holds merit as clearly it is a concern i see and read about from time to time.
if you made it this far, thank you for reading :) the objective is to invoke thought, discussion, and provide suggestions, and ideas :) and maybe bring a little common sense into the fold. ;)

My husband and I brought home a new puppy 3 days ago. We currently have two dogs who had a great routine. One is a high energy herding breed (2years old) and the other is an older mix breed with lower energy (10 years old). The puppy growled at the older dog (who growled at her first) and now I’ve spiraled down a worry hole that our life is overuined.None of the other dogs seem interested in each other, and I’m so worried if we don’t fix the growl then they will be doomed to hate each other.
All three are girls, and the other two took to each other so quickly (we got the 2 year old as a puppy!)
We are experienced dog owners (or so we thought).
Does it take a bit for dogs to warm up? Is that normal and we’ve just never experienced normal?
The new puppy is my husband’s dog and I just don’t want to tell him we should give it back (nor would I ever thought we would return a dog).
I’m so heartbroken because I wanted this to feel different. I don’t want to feel like my older dogs hate me. I kind of forced getting a third dog and I’m so upset with myself!!!

I'm the dad in a family, with a wife and a almost 5 yr old daughter. I'm good to both of them. I'm a stay at home dad, I have an income and support my family with day to day home making, and paying the bills. I should feel appreciated some times, but I don't. My daughter often tells me she doesn't love me, and my wife is very cold to me.
We went to the preschool family picnic tonight, my kid got a gift for mom and dad she made at school. She only gave it to Mom, and said it wasn't for me. She's a kid, not her fault, but I wish my wife would care. My kid only wants to chase her around, I feel like a 3rd wheel. My wife is not good at making me feel loved or appreciated. She told me she had a good time at the picnic, I said great, me too. However, I have been feeling unloved by you and the kiddo lately, and here is some reasons. She just turned away from me, looking sad and dejected, like I just ruined her good time because I had some negative feelings. I tried to talk about it for a few minutes, she cut me off and said she was done with this conversation. Wtf right? Your husband, who treats you well and supports you and the family, tells you he is feeling unloved so she just turns away. So because I wasn't feeling great, she's sad now, and its my fault, so I just have to go away because it's making her sad to have to talk and listen to me. What about me? I still feel this way, and it's worse now that she told me she doesn't care to listen to me again.
This is how I live. Tomorrow my kid will tell me she doesn't love me, it's like a joke to her. She'll say she doesn't love me because I'm nice to her, take her to swim lessons and brought her to a fun picnic. It would be fine if I wasn't so completely drained from receiving no love from the wife. I'm good to my family, and it's not fair that the wife has nothing to offer me when I'm feeling down, and just tells me to go away. It's been like this for years, and I can't help but feel like I have a sad life.
A few times a year I go away for a weekend to a camping experience with lots of friends, they make me feel appreciated for who I am, like they enjoy me and the things I say. If I had an emotional problem I have friends who hear me and can respond and even make me feel better about it. I don't think I'm the problem here, I think my family just doesn't know how to make me feel good, or even feel that they should. This really hurts most after a weekend away from them, being with friends and feeling connection with others, it makes me feel alive again, and then I return to a wife who acts like I'm a burden, and a kid who just thinks its funny to say she doesn't love me for some reason. I love my kid, but my wife has just really let me down for so long.

Hi all!
I have been running a newish RPG, Vast Grimm, for the last two years (before the physical books were available). I ran a few tables at GenCon for the last two years, I'll be running games all weekend at GenCon this year, and I would love to get a play group together for an actual in-person campaign.
Vast Grimm runs on the Mork Borg rules-lite system, and is a silly, punk-rock inspired, space horror game. I like to describe it as 80's gore horror. It's not super intense, but it does get super gross, plus there is swearing, so I prefer to run 18+.
It's a great game for new or experienced RPG players. I was hoping to run it in a game store (I just moved here, so I'm not entirely sure the best store to run in), as a one-shot, and then anyone that wants to stick around for a campaign can absolutely do so.
Message me if you're interested!

Hi there! I'm new to applying to the job market and out of the dozens of jobs and internships I have applied to only "The Green Emerald Agency" has gotten back to me. I'm really needing to get some experience in the marketing/international business space and this would a great opportunity! However, looking at their website it's all buzzwords and I can't seem to find what they actually do, a portfolio, or any clients. Their linked in is also really barren.
I have gone through 1 interview so far and the way they describe how the company works is seemingly very fast paced with a lot of "growth and training opportunity". It doesn't seem like a pyramid scheme so far since you don't make money by recruiting people, but I could be wrong.
Really appreciate any help or advice here since I don't want to want to get myself into something potentially sketchy or scam-like. Thank you so much! :)

Got a Stealth 16 Studio back in October and I noticed out of the box that the keyboard lighting was very uneven (lot of keys dimmer than others or inconsistent coloring) and that the Y and U keys were slanted slightly. This is in addition to my trackpad not really having a solid physical click and doing like 2 clicks (hard to describe)
Keyboard issue didnt bother me since I use an external keyboard, but as I'm traveling abroad soon, I figure I'd get it fixed so I opened an RMA here. Great communication from the start and the repair took 2 business days to complete and I should hopefully get the laptop back tomorrow or the next day, they even replaced the heatsink which wasn't something I expected or mentioned as a problem.
All of this compared to Razer who I was with, who in multiple RMA processes either 1) Sent me back the wrong unit and sent my laptop to someone else, 2) Took 6 weeks to replace a faulty display and 3) Don't have a great communication pathway.
I figure most people post about negative experiences but thought it was worth posting about a positive one.

Hi guys, I want to write about my lipo 360. I sort of just jumped into it. I am 39 year old mom of 3. I am 5’7 and always floated around 130-135z after kids I gained literally 30 pounds. I tried every single diet and I got down to 149. Then I began doing jiu jitsu. I gained 15 lbs. albeit a lot of Muscle but even after 3 years of jj and lifting weights 2 times a week. Walking two miles a day I had stubborn stomach fat and no waist at all. I was fortunate enough to never get stretch marks during my pregnancy so I did not need renuvion. Im literally on day 1. I’m in and out of sleep. My muscles feel sore like I did the hardest workout of my life. I can barely walk to be honest.
Day 0 : I nearly changed my mind the night before the doctor called me and eased my mind he also sent me anxiety meds prescription. So I took half a dose bc I never took them before and I didn’t know what I would feel. I still went to bed deciding I’m not doing this tomorrow.
Day 1: I woke up and realize I am doing this and I am strong enough to give birth then I can do something for myself. I got and Uber to the clinic. Things were good I drank lots of electrolytes and had a large breakfast. They took pictures and in the adjacent room was a girl who had hers done and she offered to talk to me. She said she looked amazing she was so happy and she said I would look great and be happy I did it. That really made me feel good.
Now for the surgery. The nurse put me in a room and gave me twilight meds, anti nausea and some other stuff. Then 20 mins later to went into the operating room. The doctor numbed me with a needle which kind of sucked. Then waited a bit and numbed me with a larger strange shape needle all over. I did not feel those. The nurses constantly were there to give me water and apple juice. He then did incisions and put a cannela inside my layers of fat, with a numbing solution. It was a weird pressure but not painful. Then he left for 30 mins to let me numb properly I suppose. He came back and the procedure started. He used a canella that vibrated and at times got warms it didn’t hurt but at moments I feel very uncomfortable and heat I always told him and he adjusted his machine and was very attentive to my requests. After the stomach he turned me over and did my back. It was way less painful for me, I feel just pressure along my rib cage. He diligently worked the areas I could tell. It felt to me he was measuring a bit to get it even. (I already had uneven fat distribution.) also they let me use laughing gas whenever I needed. It made me feel high but not unaware at anytime.
They wheeled me out and I threw up my large breakfast everywhere. The nurses were so sweet and told me it happens all the time and don’t apologize. They then cleaned me and dressed me up in my Compression garment. Now I am home and the anesthesia wore off and I’m painful like I have severe muscle soreness like I worked out in some extreme way. I took Advil and laid down and my kids and husband brought me some food. I feel happy that I did this. I feel proud that I didn’t wuss out. And I am praying or good results. Hopefully I can update this thread but I hope this helps someone else. It is not for the faint of heart you do have to tough out so of the work being done.

At have triggers in this short story...My parents will be addressed as my abusers one of my two brothers will be called affect sex offender the other brother will be called a molester who molested me my sister is going to be called I take everything way too serious she's a b**** so she's bitch growing up we were in a very abusive home where we each got our own way of abuse from our deezers I have an older brother and another sister from my mother first married I am my first born to my father and the firstborn grandchild on my father's side I have another brother he followed me 18 months later and I was pretty mean to him I saw man digging it up dumpster and My dumb brother asked what he was doing I said he's probably looking for you because that's where we found you and my abusers would abuse me all the time I literally memorized my Pepe's phone number so I would pack my Barbie suitcase and I would sit on the curb by a sewer line where I wasn't supposed to sit but I would stay at my grandparents' house for days months I did private school through them I went to regular school through town I would be the one to call 911 on my grandfather when he went into the hospital that day plays everyday in my head and he makes me cookie and all he would say is Cookie get the elephant off my chest get the elephant off my chest I knew it wasn't going to be good and I was right he was roughly in the hospital a couple of weeks and he passed he passed in the middle of the night this is when I realized I was in bath at the age of 12 he came to me he said he loves me and he said that he will always be by my side and protect me and yes they just were the other person I miss in my family is the closest I had with my uncles and cousins due t my abusers they turn the family on me cuz apparently whatever my abuser says went down exactly how they say it but they never told them what they did to me there's one thing that goes in my head and it pis me off my abusers is things in front of my siblings and I I remember one of my siblings getting beat up I remember a sibling nail it kneeling in the kitchen on rice I remember another sibling getting away with absolutely everything the sex offender the molester was forced out of the home because I had a big mouth and I was telling everybody the state I came from was Massachusetts and they failed to me I moved to Florida with my other abuser to meet my other abuser you had one of my siblings with her all I have to say is a sex offender is held at a higher standard in my family then someone who committed robberies with no weapon I'm not saying I'm right and I'm not saying I'm wrong I'm saying I did my time no I didn't go find God in jail for prison that's not why I went to do my time my time was to do 27 months it wasn't to find God I was supposed to rehab and I didn't do that because they are idiot Florida correctional institution is insane and I am happy to say that me and a nurse closed Broward county institution for women due to the neglect the living conditions the rats the cockroaches the bed bugs the spider bites I have so many scars from them that it's insane as an intention in my leg where the brown recluse spider bite ate the muscle in my leg and when they would take the dressing off they would have to put a white cheek close by because the pus and the nasty muscle that turned into pus and turned into deteriorating muscles I thank her everyday and I wish wish I knew where she was so I could give her a great big hug and tell her thank you for sticking by me they transferred her because I made a mistake and gave her a hug out on compound and they transferred her to a different person but other inmates for telling me she was giving them messages to tell me she wasn't giving up on me and that she was still looking into it I owe her everything the little bit of time that I had with this nurse showed me love remorse didn't judge me and admired me for owning everything I did ruining my children to get life ruining my own life making my husband and my life difficult my stepson is never happy with me anymore there's nothing I can do and I'm not going to fight it no more I don't care I'm not going to let it bother me the past is the past I learned my lesson I got out in 2005 have not been in trouble with the loss jail and prison for hell and I'm never going back there's nothing that anybody could do to make me want to go back ever again and I'm withholding 2005 to present day 2024 clean off drugs sober off of I've been off drugs I haven't relapsed I'm a very proud of myself and I hope that I inspire somebody to tell their story of abuse and a correctional institution and I will look into it and I'll see what I can do to make the situation better Florida is not known for their wonderful persons in jails their roads infested their nasty they make the inmates live in unconditional situations I want to put my dog in the guards overstep their boundaries every which way we could insulted you made you feel like you were nobody you already took my freedom you're going to take myself to steam too then lock up the whole fat was just a trip and a half every time they could they would put me in the hole why I wasn't doing anything you know why because I found out that people were going around after they found out with my charges were I wonder who he told people that the person guards only knew what I did the inmates wanted to do them and every time something came up missing in a pot I was in it was my fault and didn't even matter it couldn't even be my and I would get in trouble because they said I stole and I never in a million years stole anything from anybody I had my own money coming in and I was buying my own things and my story will continue because it's not over yet......

Basically the title. I am 10w3d today. My first tests were ran by a fertility clinic (we were referred after 10 months TTC unsuccessfully and I was diagnosed with PCOS. Naturally got pregnant after referral!). Despite not having treatment with them, the fertility clinic watched our pregnancy up to 9 weeks and everything has been great so far.
Today was my first appointment at my OBs office. They scheduled me with a NP I didn’t particularly like, but I figured I can establish care and request a different doc in the future. The NP walks in, and without even saying hello states “you are bleeding?” I said no….. and she said “I’m sorry you are having a miscarriage”.
WHAT.
Now I knew she was wrong because I just had a healthy ultrasound at 9w4d. AND SHE DIDNT DO ANY TESTS! This was my first time seeing her my entire pregnancy!
I basically told her she’s wrong and she’s silent for a while and then says “oh I opened the wrong chart.”
I. Was. Furious.
She ran to get us an ultrasound, idk if it’s to make me feel better but everything was fine. Our baby is okay and measuring great. We were able to see it move for the first time and hear the heartbeat for the first time (our fertility specialist never did the Doppler). These magical moments were overshadowed by anxiety and rage, it was almost impossible to enjoy it.
We asked to speak with a manager to complain while we were in with the ultrasound tech.
We were sent back to the exam room and the NP comes back and acts like nothing happened. “Oh, you are measuring 10 weeks congratulations. Here’s some info you need”. Never once apologized.
And the cherry on top, as she’s giving by me a vaginal swab for a culture she asks “I heard your husband wants to speak with a manager?” WHILE SHE IS BETWEEN MY LEGS SWABBING ME. I have never had a more inappropriate doctors appointment in my life.
We did speak to an assistant manager who was apologetic, and they put a flag on our chart to never schedule us with her again.
I’m glad everything is okay, I truly feel bad for her patients who actually have devastating news. She has no bedside manner. She is the last person in the world who should deliver it.
TLDR: doctor told me I was having a miscarriage without even examining me. Turns out she opened the wrong chart.

I'm solo, city course, got paired with 2x 25 year old athletic friends and a older gentleman. Introductions fine. The older man was the problem person. We are walking he's golf carting.
At tee of he starts stating a rule that does not exist. Our city rules are very basic even dress code is extremely lax. Yes a twisted sister no sleeves t-shirt is allowed. Anyways the 3 of us are like we never heard of the rule. We oblige out of politeness. As we progress the hole I recover a Burnr head cover. I pick it up as if it was his? He says I seen that and I left it, so I just say ok return it to the pro-shop and give it to him since he's on his own cart he says "I guess". I'm like that's a little dick'ish but ok.
Second hole he starts talking to the 25 years old's how good he is. The 25 years out drive him 50+ yards.
3rd hole he hits a bad drive. Takes a mulligan with a 2 min warm up. I hit a bad drive and suck it up. At the end of the 3rd hole he tells us he's ambidextrous and can hit both right and left all day long, as we had a lefty. Everyone is like cool story bro.
4th hole he drives, hits in the water maybe 80y. Laughs and said takes a mulligan, second is 100y in the water. Then third ball "drop" he puts on the fairway, lol. I didn't drive great like 150y. But then I piped the next shot out of the rough 170y and back in the game. The 2 young guys over hit their 2nd balls into the next fairway.
He drives up to me in his cart pulling a Tokyo drift and tells me "hey BUDDY pick up the pace" as there is a group behind us. Now this infuriates me. TSN turning point, I realized I'm not having fun and I am not his mans buddy. I read threads like this about being too kind to people and sucking it up. But I'm like no, I want this round to be fun, I paid for fun.
I look back and I see the 3-some that has been on our tails for two holes. Two older gentleman and mid age female. But one of the men was wearing a lumberjack coat, I'm like his is the group for me. I wait for my current group all to tee off as I was thinking of ditching. The old guy starts telling the one young guy all the things he did wrong on his drive despite he out drove the old man 40y and is closer to the pin. I'm like fuck this. I tell "buddy" strait up I don't want to play with you, I'm going to join the group behind. Nothing dramatic happens.
I wait and ask the next group hey can I crash your three some as I told them the group I was in had a problem person. They said absolutely. This next group was the most favorite randoms I have ever met, this one guy with surgery issues had so much positivity I have never seen anything like it, super positive, super funny and the girl was his daughter and she was awesome they inquire about the problems but I vaguely describe them. We got on the group I ditched and we are on their heels next hole.
Eventually the second last hole we caught up to them on the tee box, the girl tells the older man "pick up the pace"..
MONEY!

I wasn’t really sure how to title this post. I guess I’m just here to vent. I don’t like to vent to my husband because I don’t want him to resent my family and pretty much the same with friends. But basically I feel like I am not a part of my dads life and I feel like it’s starting to impact the relationship between my sister and I. I’ll first mention that I am the oldest of 5. My dad had 3 daughters with my mother and 2 kids with my step mom, 1 boy and 1 girl. Growing up it was just my sister and I. My parents were “married” but never lived together, I lived with my moms family. My dad would visit but my parents would fight and then he would leave. I don’t have too many memories of my dad where he would take us to the park, movies, sit with us and watch a movie, sit with me and ask about my friends at school. I was SA at 8 1/2 and my both my parents partially blamed me. No one did anything about it, no one called the police.
My dad had me young at 21. Parents divorced when I was 8. Then when I was 11 came our 3rd sister. A year and a half later he had our other sister with my step mom and less than a year after that he had my brother. Very odd I know. But growing up my dad was more of a strict parent. We weren’t even allowed to go outside and the house needed to be clean 24/7. When he got with my stepmom, they didn’t even tell me that she was pregnant and I was never invited to her babyshower. Then we were to go to some party and they just showed up with my sister in the carseat, she was already born a week ago. When I mentioned this to him, he said he thought I would be smart enough to see that she is visibly pregnant. So 3 months later they told me that she is having my brother which probably only because I said something about my sister. I didn’t find out that they got married until 2 years after. Now that my sister is 16, things are coming up that make me realize that I don’t have the dad they her and my brother have. They see him everyday. They get the dad to take them to school. Be there at bedtime. My brother pointed at a shirt and said look let’s get this for dad, I said why and he said “because it has an eagle on it” i said yeah and? He said because dad likes eagles how do you not know that?! I had no idea. They know all about his likes and dislikes. I don’t really know much. My sister is learning how to drive and asked me how was dad with me when teaching me…but he didn’t teach me. So it’s things like that.
Sorry that this is all over the place. Just a lot to unpack. For the record, I don’t speak to both my parents. I don’t hate my half siblings. If anything, it’s all worth it if he was a crappy parent to me so he could be great for them.

To start off, I(29f) have been struggling financially for 2 to 3 years now. My husband was recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder and was told that he can only work part-time. Currently, he is seeing a therapist until this program can help him get a job to accommodate his needs. So, it falls on me to make the big bucks in my relationship. Well, the stress of managing two jobs had deteriorated my mental health very badly. This led to me losing my affordable health insurance because I made too much money. And I got into a car accident just 4 months later which cost me my two jobs because I was a driver for both of them.
As to why I didn’t reach out for my family’s help is, because my family broke apart after my great great uncle passed away, even more so after my grandma passed away. I was blamed for my grandma’s death by my own mother because I was my grandma’s caregiver. I literally had my life on hold since I graduated from high school. I never had help caring for my dying grandma and she was too stubborn to keep with her low sodium diet which damaged her kidney severely. I asked for help but I was always ignored because I was told to be an adult and figure things out by myself. My mom’s family gave me low self esteem because in my eyes, I was a burden.
Today, my aunt came to where I live now just to lecture me about how hurt she feels when I don’t want to talk to her. I feel no love from my mom’s family and was told to be an adult. Yet I am supposed to tell everything about my life to my aunt like I’m a child who just had their first day of pre-school.

Hi everyone,
I'm reaching out because I'm in a really difficult and upsetting situation and could use some advice and support. A bit of background about me: I'm an Indian woman and the daughter of immigrants in the US. Recently, I've found myself possibly estranged from my family, and it's tearing me apart. As I grow older, this is getting harder and harder to tolerate especially when my husband is starting to notice it too.
The core issue is that I've been the scapegoat in my family for as long as I can remember. My sister is the favorite child who can do no wrong, and my father is emotional and an enabler, always worried about "what other people will think." My mom, on the other hand, is very deeply immature, selfish nd childish. Every time I try to address the situation, I'm told to just deal with it, suck it up, or reminded that she had a difficult life and "it's just how she is." I would always "get over it" and try again only for her to get worse especially as she ages.
My mom has no filter when it comes to me. She has told me that my husband will divorce me when he figures out who I really am, has told my husband that my sister is her favorite, that is praying to see the face of her grandson (what if I have a daughter?) and that I am mental and need help and more. She was abusive while I was growing up. To be fair, my sister also gets some of the abuse, but it's nowhere near as vile and hostile as what I experience. This dynamic has caused a lot of emotional pain and strain on my mental health. I know a lot of it is cultural but it is not an excuse anymore.
There were good times with my mom, which contributes to my guilt. However, these good times don't invalidate the bad experiences. It would be one thing if this was all in the past, but it's getting worse and worse. On top of it, when I go low contact, my dad begins to get very sick with sadness. It hurts and they blame me for it but why do I have to be their scapegoat so my dad doesn't get sick?
Recently, we were in a heated fight about how much I disapproved of my sister's new husband. He is arrogant, rude, and made her cry on their wedding day. Her best friends and bridesmaids were also taken aback, so this is not just me being angry about it. My parents downplayed my concerns about him and then began to yell that I was making things up, that I am crazy, and spreading lies. It was like their life was on the line to defend him. My dad even told me that the groom talking "like that" is not good but it is far worse in India as if that made it ok. My dad and I began to yell when suddenly, I heard my husband yelling at my mom.
He caught her recording me in our home, without my permission during our argument. When caught, my mom not only lied to my husband's face but when given a chance to come clean and admit it, she doubled down again, insisting that she was “only recording me because my new dress looks good.”
I have no idea how she even thought it was okay to secretly record us in the privacy of our home during a heated argument, especially when it was about her good-for-nothing son-in-law who made my sister cry in front of everyone on their wedding day. And then lie to our faces. Why was she so eager to protect him and throw us under the bus? What is her problem? What is the matter with her? Who was she planning on showing it to, and for what purpose? Did she not think about how something that awful could impact me or my husband?
And not even an apology. Or any remorse. Just silence. This was the first Mothers Day I did not wish her. I'm torn and don't know what to do. On one hand, I deeply love my family and want to mend our relationship. On the other hand, I feel hurt and unsupported. I don't want to lose them, but I'm struggling with the emotional toll this situation is taking on me.
Has anyone been through something similar? How did you handle it? Any advice on how to approach this situation would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. It just hurts to think about WHY she treats me like this or acts like this. Recording us while we are arguing...is just vile.

Hi everyone,
I'm reaching out because I'm in a really difficult and upsetting situation and could use some advice and support. A bit of background about me: I'm an Indian woman and the daughter of immigrants in the US. Recently, I've found myself possibly estranged from my family, and it's tearing me apart. As I grow older, this is getting harder and harder to tolerate especially when my husband is starting to notice it too.
The core issue is that I've been the scapegoat in my family for as long as I can remember. My sister is the favorite child who can do no wrong, and my father is emotional and an enabler, always worried about "what other people will think." My mom, on the other hand, is very deeply immature, selfish nd childish. Every time I try to address the situation, I'm told to just deal with it, suck it up, or reminded that she had a difficult life and "it's just how she is." I would always "get over it" and try again only for her to get worse especially as she ages.
My mom has no filter when it comes to me. She has told me that my husband will divorce me when he figures out who I really am, has told my husband that my sister is her favorite, that is praying to see the face of her grandson (what if I have a daughter?) and that I am mental and need help and more. She was abusive while I was growing up. To be fair, my sister also gets some of the abuse, but it's nowhere near as vile and hostile as what I experience. This dynamic has caused a lot of emotional pain and strain on my mental health. I know a lot of it is cultural but it is not an excuse anymore.
There were good times with my mom, which contributes to my guilt. However, these good times don't invalidate the bad experiences. It would be one thing if this was all in the past, but it's getting worse and worse. On top of it, when I go low contact, my dad begins to get very sick with sadness. It hurts and they blame me for it but why do I have to be their scapegoat so my dad doesn't get sick?
Recently, we were in a heated fight about how much I disapproved of my sister's new husband. He is arrogant, rude, and made her cry on their wedding day. Her best friends and bridesmaids were also taken aback, so this is not just me being angry about it. My parents downplayed my concerns about him and then began to yell that I was making things up, that I am crazy, and spreading lies. It was like their life was on the line to defend him. My dad even told me that the groom talking "like that" is not good but it is far worse in India as if that made it ok. My dad and I began to yell when suddenly, I heard my husband yelling at my mom.
He caught her recording me in our home, without my permission during our argument. When caught, my mom not only lied to my husband's face but when given a chance to come clean and admit it, she doubled down again, insisting that she was “only recording me because my new dress looks good.”
I have no idea how she even thought it was okay to secretly record us in the privacy of our home during a heated argument, especially when it was about her good-for-nothing son-in-law who made my sister cry in front of everyone on their wedding day. And then lie to our faces. Why was she so eager to protect him and throw us under the bus? What is her problem? What is the matter with her? Who was she planning on showing it to, and for what purpose? Did she not think about how something that awful could impact me or my husband?
And not even an apology. Or any remorse. Just silence. This was the first Mothers Day I did not wish her. I'm torn and don't know what to do. On one hand, I deeply love my family and want to mend our relationship. On the other hand, I feel hurt and unsupported. I don't want to lose them, but I'm struggling with the emotional toll this situation is taking on me.
Has anyone been through something similar? How did you handle it? Any advice on how to approach this situation would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. It just hurts to think about WHY she treats me like this or acts like this. Recording us while we are arguing...is just vile.

IHY isn't that much talked about, but the second part of it, the acoustic one is pretty much ignored. So, name your top 3 favorite songs from IYH acoustic side.
Here's mine:

• Still (beautiful so so simple on guitar yet so atmospheric)
• Over and Out (I don't know how to describe this one, but I fucking vibe with it)
• Razor (Great fingerpicking, amazing outro, a song like no other on the Foo's catalogue...at least from a guitar technique/style point of view)

Oh, and yes I know Cold day in the sun is a fan favorite but I actually prefer a live version. I feel with time, they perfected it

Husband says that it doesn't really work for most people because it's so hard to stay in a caloric deficit when strength training. You need calories to build up muscle, need to not eat as much to lose fat.
He was a body builder with a great physique when we met, so I'm inclined to follow his advice. However, I did body building/strength training with him and lost a ton of weight. The difference between then and now is that I was 21 and on a lot of stimulants lol.
I hear mixed opinions on it and the common demonator is really just mind of matter. People lose their nerve feeling the need to eat, instead of letting their muscles eat up their fat.
What so you think? I really prefer strength training and body building but also don't see the point if all my fat just covers up the hard work lol.. would you just stick to cardio if you were me?

My little one is 2.5 and will use potty at home for the most part. He was pretty hard set on not wearing underwear.. refused them until one day he decided to wear them and did great! I wanted to keep the momentum so I sent him to daycare in them. He had one accident and they sent him home in a diaper. I sent a few pairs of extra clothes, socks, shoes just in case.
His class is considered the potty training class and recently they sent out a message they really wanted to get back to focusing on potty training and for all parents to send pull ups and extra clothes/ underwear.
I asked them for a plan to work together since I recently sent him in underwear and he came home in a diaper. They informed me that they will be placing underwear over the pull-ups for training..
My husband made this mistake with our 4 year old and he completely regressed and refused to wear underwear alone. He wanted to be a big boy and wear underwear with the security of the pull up.
How do I address this? How do you handle potty training while in class and what can parents do to make it easier for everyone?

Long post, apologies in advance. My son has been going to therapy for about a year now and he has a great rapport with his female therapist. By all accounts she has helped him with his big feelings and we were looking to continue sessions with her since my son is about to start middle school next fall.
My son has always had a morbid curiosity about horror movies. He have allowed him to see a couple scary PG13 movies only after we have seen them ourselves. He has not seen any R movies despite being aware of the titles of them and in some cases the plot/characters from friends at school.
In today’s session with his therapist, they were “building rapport” before talking about the sessions topics and my son asked her if she had seen the movie IT. She told him she only saw the first 20 seconds before turning it off and my son convinced her she needed to see the death of a certain character that happens at the beginning. He obviously knows more about this movie than we realized but he had not actually seen the scene.
She then proceeded to pull up the movie on her phone and they watched the first few minutes where a young boy is killed by the monster in the sewer. I have read the kids arm is pulled off as well which is particularly horrifying. She apparently turned it off immediately after the kid was killed.
My husband and I are pretty livid about this. We have been trying to let him be a kid for as long as possible and knowing he has something so violent in his mind now saddens us immensely.
We emailed her and shared our upset and gave her the opportunity to give her retelling of the events (and hopefully hear a contrite apology) but her response was not quite enough to make us feel she realized she fucked up.
She did apologize, but made some excuses like “he spoke like he had seen the movie so I assumed he had” and “I didn’t know it was rated R” while also saying going forward she will adjust how she goes about building rapport with her patients.
We are pretty sure we want to find a new therapist, but should we escalate what happened to her superiors? The irony is not lost on us that we sent our kid to therapy to process emotions and feelings only to have him potentially traumatized by watching a child being murdered on a movie with said therapist.
She obviously showed a huge lack of judgement (it could just as likely been a sex scene since neither of them had actually seen the movie. That would have potentially legal consequences) but we aren’t quite sure how far we should take it to make sure she doesn’t make the same mistake again with another kid.
Any thoughts? Are we overreacting? Should we take further action? Thanks in advance

Hi everyone,
A new rule has been implemented! The Art theft prevention policy! It has two components.

• Credit artists! Please put the artist's name in your submission. If you did your best and couldn't find the answer, please use "Message the Moderator" button for assistance. I'll either help you find the answer or give my assurances the artist is likely anonymous.
• The other half of the art theft prevention rule is simple but controversial: NO GENERATIVE A.I. CONTENT.

Next! Rule description revisions and rearrangements

• Some rules were rewritten for clarity
• some were to sound a little less like I want to shove a six inch railroad spike through my head friendlier
• and some were to explain that we'd rather see certain things on some other subreddits.

So here's a community proposal.
InvaderZIM is arguably the largest and longest running actively-moderated public Invader ZIM fanspace since Room With A Moose. Inevitably, there are some things that people want to talk about here would put a strain on the subreddit and my sanity. I propose that if you really want to see more of the following then you'll have to create a space dedicated to these specific things because it's just not a fit for here.

• Jhonen Vasquez's other work
  • It's great stuff but just isn't on topic.
• Invader ZIM commerce
  • Buying, selling, and trading your stuff is not something I'm interested in vetting for legitimacy, but I'd subscribe in a heartbeat if you start a reddit for it that is clearly well-maintained.
    • Basically, I'd love to buy your cheap, useless ZIM stuff that you've kept in your basement for twenty years.... just not here.
• Invader ZIM shipping
  • We're not against shipping at all. Trust me. The fun of fanwork is often in reinterpreting something familiar to make it your own. The skies are the limit- you can do all sorts of things that would never happen in the series!
    • you could make characters fall in love. You could change their ages so they're all old grumpy men decades in the future! You could make Recap Kid shout "OKAY IN THIS FIC, ZIM IS 12 JUST LIKE DIB! OKAY BYE!"
    • Unfortunately, too many fans can't be trusted to navigate such fanwork responsibly here. it gets controversial with intense yet flimsy accusations. Even as a neutral mediator, I'm not immune to this mob mentality and I don't want any part of it.

Normally, I'd say my door is open for advice on how to run Invader ZIM fan project as I've got some experience in that field. However, I'd rather just leave it at this:
I think that the latter two subreddit ideas would be best led by someone who has

• been actively participating on Reddit for several years in various large, popular, busy communities
• has enough life experience and leadership skills to have realistic expectations and robust policies prepared for serious complicated matters such as
  • fraud/scam prevention
  • deescalating baseless wild accusations of pedophilia over misconceptions in the fandom.

If you think that describes you well, Reddit has a plethora of services to prepare you for being an effective moderator before you either create one or apply to takeover an inactive one.
One last bit of advice and I need you to listen to this very, very, very, very, very, carefully.
Don't jump into this sort of commitment unless you're 100% certain you can handle it.
To call this volunteer role a difficult job is an understatement. It often feels like I've been "assigned to Janitorial Squad and placed on the planet Dirt." Frankly, my partner is worried about me and I know she's right that I need to take steps to leave sooner than later.
If you're not prepared, it could be a detriment to your emotional and mental health. I'm not kidding.
No pressure, right?!
Should you be the one, II hope it works out great for you and for the fandom.
~Your Control Brain, "CB Johnny"
PS- Once again I am seeing formatting issues with the bullet points but this post has taken up too much time. Thanks for tolerating it.

So I know that there isn’t an exact equation to convert calories to points, and points are sort of proxy for describing the nutrition value of a food. However, what is to prevent people from eating large amounts of 0 point foods? A few which stand out to me are eggs, beans, and lean poultry breast. These are far from 0 calorie. Beans make up a large amount of the calories of many countries.
Is there a weight that’s associated with points? “Serving sizes” can vary greatly, so is there a different point value between 50 grams of 1 pt food vs 100 grams of it?